ARE WE STILL IN A RELATIONSHIP? | Q&A PART 1
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ค. 2024
- There's been a lot of confusion about the current state of our relationship and it's not without reason.. In this video, thanks to your questions we are finally shedding some light on this topic and being completely open and honest about where we stand.
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I honestly think you're both afraid of being alone...but, is that really a reason to continue being together? Sadie, explore urself, ur feelings, what u would like to do...u r so young, don't settle for something that doesn't make u completely happy for fear of the unknown. One door closes but many others start opening when u least expect it. Wish u both the best!
Sadie.. leave this relationship as soon as possible.
Your health and happiness will increase.
I agree %100
Sometimes we don't have to lable our relationship. Let it flow and be happy,take care of each other
labels are good , human relationships are COMPLEX as fuck and HAVING LABELS ACTUALLY HELPS YOU HAVE A CERTAIN ELEMENT OF PREDICTABILITY AND IT GIVES YOU SOMETHING TO WORK WITH . If you had a no labels relationship it would be very difficult to work with that since you have no idea what you are dealing with.
It is good to start with something established.
Like : this is an acquaintanceship , let's see where it goes , or this is a partnership , let's see where we take it ,or this ia a frienship : let's see what we do with it.
It GIVES YOU A DEFINED SHAPE TO WORK WITH AND TRANSFORM .
IT IS NOT SOME MESSY AND UNWORKABLE "I DON'T KNOW WHAT".
P should stop this game. You are playing with sadies emotions. Really. Just decide what you want and do that. You are confusing her. This makes me angry. To see how you play with her heart.
Please, say that again in capitals... It is important as that.
Don't judge people from few minutes of video u watch. We never know what they went through
cant wait for part 2, Sadie i love your honesty. you are so right about the stigma put on people who are wired differently. Embracing your uniqueness is the way to go. you are definitely good at editing and content.
Sadie looks miserable, P looks like she is trying to disappear. Maybe you’re together too much or maybe your relationship has reached its natural end. You’re both good people. Honestly it hurts watching you like this. ❤️
This is literally the first time i have seen Sadie break down. Sadie, u are not happy. You are lonely and sad and i have been there before. The people in the comments care about you, we arent hating on your relationship when we say that your relationship with P has expired, it has run its course. You really would be happier in due time after seperating. This is so sad to watch. I feel so bad for you Sadie. I dont think P is in love with you anymore. I think she has love for you but i dont think its anything intimate anymore.
Wow, it pretty much seems like Sadie is hurting a lot, because she’s more invested in this “relationship” than P, and P being so realistic and vocal about how she actually feels about the engagement, scares Sadie.
Honey, you might need to move on, with your head up high.
Judit Bódi agree !
The moment Sadie cry its make me so sad☹️
Brutal to watch. Brutally clear compassionate honesty from P. I see parts of myself in both of you. The complete picture lies in the conversations on the cutting room floor. I commend you for your bravery for throwing open your relationship, for all to see in all it's wonderful human interaction messiness.
It's kinda warning for those who say "age is just a number"
Eh, no matter the age in any relationship, this is always the risk. We take it anyways, because we love them.
I think marriage or engagement is what you make of it, it's not a promise for life or the necessity to be together all the time. My marriage is about two individuals with diferent interests who share a connection so strong we have to come back to each other at the end of the day... We have only one commitment, to talk about our fellings, to talk about our doubts, to talk about it if we think it might end... And we are growing together and married for 15 years. I think maybe you're putting to much pressure on the word "engagement". Be happy!
It spoke to me on such a deep level when P talked about focusing on the connection in a relationship rather engagement and everything that it brings with it. I feel the same way. Engagement, marriage, etc. are very external. They are markers not only for you but for other people and for society (and sadly, often more important to couples for these external reasons!) whereas that connection you have with your partner is something just the two of you share, it's unique and beautiful and exciting. You get to define everything yourself instead of being defined by others or being given definitions by them.
This sounds like a toxic relationship
@7:30..My heart sank deeper than the titanic..
Its just two people in love but scared of two different things...sadie is scared of opening up and P is scared of commitment...but be assured your love is way too stronger than these weaknesses and you will get over it..you guys have shown the courage to talk about it and that is all thats required..
You two love each other so much and it's apparent. Things will work out as they should in time. I hope that your love carries you through, wherever that may be. I've made a comment in the past that I regret (shame now..sorry)...something about ...Sadie grow up..and I'm so sorry for that. I am in the older age bracket and it's much easier to spout off but reflecting back to when I was Sadie's age things are processed so differently emotionally. I have continued to follow and am really a fan of your unfolding love story. Wishing you ladies only the best!
I understand P.'s viewpoints on marriage and engagement. Society puts expectations on couples. Like P. said, its dating, then marriage, then kids, and blah blah blah. I dont get that. Like i wouldnt mind being married one day but thats not my ultimate goal. And people always tell couples after a certain amount of time that they should get married or their partners are going to run away and find someone else. I dont think that should be a reason for marriage. I believe you should be secure enough in your relationship that you arent rushing to get married to legally bind someone to you. Im only 21 and i have friends from high school who are already married and having kids. Like why? Why not wait and just be in the moment and let your relationship run its own path? Theres always so much a rush to do things a certain way and its exhausting.
Sadie you're really depending on P to make you less lonely, to fill the void. You know it so well that your heart crave for more. You can see P doesnt have the thing that you want. It hurt.
I dont know what will help. But if you really want to save yourself. Go & find smthg else to do. Find a job, the legit one. 9-5 job or freelance, go out. Make you & p miss each other a little bit more. Make the excitement to see each other's face even more.
You know she felt smthg was not right when you went on tinder. It shows that she love you still.
All you need is time. Make yourself busy sadie. Its never ok to be sad alone. There are so much more out there for us to see.
Stay strong & i love you and p.
Love that you are willing to share the real life things that happen in a relationship
I do not get at all this "no label on our relationship" and breaking off an engagement.
Your relationship moved to a strange level.
Paola you're too afraid of relationships. Sadie needs something more romantic, I think, something she hasn't had to this level so far.
+1
This is sad but also beautiful. I hope you guys continue to find happiness in each other.
I’ve always loved you and admire you as a couple, but Sadie looks really sad and repressed... idk how to explain this, but i think the worst thing to do is triyng to convince ourselves that something makes us happy just because we are afraid of truth.
Is very important to have self respect and self love, nothing permanent in this world. Just be prepared for anything happens, especially in a relationship
I'm on youtube a lot and see a lot of couples but you 2 are the most open and honest people I have seen.
Sadie you are breaking my heart. I can see the pain on your face. Im sorry you are going through the pain...im always here to listen and talk!!!
It really breaks my heart seeing Sadie so sad and feeling lonely 😢 . I can be your friend if you want to. Don't let those emotions eat you. I know P didn't mean to feel you that way. I hope you both find what your looking for and be happy with each other. Please hold on to each other. I just love how you two connect with each other. 💚💚God speed...
I'm glad to be part of your journey until this far, Sadie and P. Whatever you both been decided we always support and love you! Good luck🏳️🌈
Sadie and P: Have you watched the School of Life videos on attachment styles, particularly attachments between anxious attachers and avoidant attachers? I see Sadie as the anxious attacher and P as the avoidant. The avoidant has more power in this kind of dynamic as it's them who says "yes" or "no" to the needs of the anxious attacher. Usually, the avoidant gets scared when the anxious attacher threatens to leave the relationship (due to the frustration of their needs not being met). The anxious attacher is then persuaded not to leave as the avoidant opens up. And so it goes on. But if you're clued up as to your attachment styles and each others triggers a little more, the relationship can survive a long time without being so toxic.
They need to read Walter Risso..
When I was younger I used to struggle with depression and anxiety all the time. I did get so much better over the years and I know many others who also got better with time. Don't think only because you struggle now this has to be like this for ever. But it is important that you continue to challenge yourself and go out of your comfort zone in order to learn new skills and get better.
Sadie it's time to move on, it's time for you to find a girl who gonna feel like you do. Sorry for bad English.
Waiting for part 2...
So happy that you guys are still together and in love!! Sadie please don't cry, it makes me sad. Love you two!
I don't believe that this is a healthy relationship. P is selfish to not release Sadie. It's obvious they need and desire different things. And Sadie isn't strong enough to leave her either. So they appear to cripple each other. It's sad, very sad. Don't miss understand me, they each are good people, I like both of them, but just don't see them as being a couple. Friends, always, but a loving couple, not. 😢😢😢
Love you both. Happy your still together. You really have gone deep. This relationship is truly wonderful for each other
First off..thanks for taking time answering my question, love you guys♥ Yah you dont need labels..and deciding to keep your relationship together is a product of so much love with each other that none of you cant afford to lose. And thats inspiring guys! Omg, seeing sadie in tears really breaks a heart. Her love for P was so genuine. Sadie be strong and just make the best of it, each day your in each others arms. ♥♥♥
Glad the fact that you two still together. Please do some *TV show reaction* I recommended to watch *Killing Eve* 😁
💛💛 Sadie, what if everything you ‘think’ is wrong about you is actually what is ‘Strong’ about you?
The answer is quite simple. I think they both want to have an "arrangement" where there is "no responsibility". They are definitely "not" confused. But, Sadie's observation on P not wanting an engagement is very pertinent. They are a very odd couple. If they spend so much time questioning each other...obviously, they won't have the time to "build a relationship". Both Sadie and P are looking for "escapism" - hence, this "arrangement" suits them.
My heart melt with Sadie 😭
I would love to be a friend with a person like Sadie
I can’t help but feel sad for Sadie. She’s confused :(
As a person who also suffers from depression, I can totally relate to what sadie says.Depression is a ILLNESS.And it could make you not being able to do the work no matter it is work at a job or even even just work stuff in life like brushing your teeth can be a heavy burden in some bad days.And I don't think it is a bad relationship. On the contrary, I think it is strong and unbreakable.You guy love each other so much that you mean the world to each other.
I AM SO GLAD YOU GUYS STILL TOGETHER!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is very enlightening. My wife and I are married but I believe one person always wants marriage more than the other. It also depends on how much marriage is discussed before engagement actually happens that determines the gap. Love is love though and a ring is only an optional symbol. You two obviously never fell out of love but I’m still confused about ending an engagement and remaining in love like that.
Alright we've heard,thank you.
Greetings from Africa.
P doesen't know what she wants ... i think she changes her mind a lot about the relationship but it's not okay at all cause ur two people ... i feel bad for Sadie cause she really wants this to work but i think she deserves someone who doesen't play with her feelings ...
THANK GOD🙌🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
just an assumption bc I care a lot but Sadie looks kinda sad, hope you don‘t ignore your own feelings/thoughts in this situation❤️
Don't you dare break up again guys!! I love you both. 🙃
No label relationship. Perfect bonding in couples stay like this u both are connected 💕
Videoyu izledikçe bizim kıza üzülüyorum, kalbim kırılıo onu üzdüğü için karşı tarafa çok kızgınım her ağzını açtığında bizim güzellik duygusallaşıo ve ağzından çıkacak her lafa üzülüo 😓😡
I love you guys thanks for answering my question
It's bad that Sadie has this mood, i mean she wants her "happily ever after" maybe it is naive but she really wants it and p can't give her that. I think it is like a failure for Sadie, she feels like she's failed, she wants a real family and she is young and it's her big failure at starting a happy family.
Maybe P should visit a therapist to get rid of her past negative associations about marriage, i mean Sadie is not guilty at it, she hadn't participated in it. She wants her Happily ever after and P's scepticism hurts her feelings like P doesn't believe she can be happy in marriage with Sadie.
On the other hand P can be understood. She doesn't want this precious thing for her to be ruined by what she associates with "marriage". She refuses it in order to make good relationship.
Difficult situation but, anyway, i wish they were fine
I hope you realize you contribute enough just by being yourself, and being brave enough by being vulnerable and real to your audience. It creates a safe space for them to be open and vulnerable too. I've dealt with a lot of depression in my life and at the risk of sounding redundant with how much other people I'm sure give advice to you, Breaking the habit of being yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza changed my life. And now I actually do contribute, and actually can feel like I am. Not because of the words I read, but because of the practice and commitment this book, and others, initiated me into. An actual template for growth. No theories.
Sadie I think you should make this clear. Does P love you the type what you want? Because she is reacting like just a your friend. I understand that she has got more experience about relationships because of her age. And this makes her experienced but sorry I can’t see “love” or “connection” in her eyes. I hope I’m wrong. I hope everything will be great for both of you
Sometimes is not so good idea that we see each other too much. My suggestionis maybe u both should find a job(it's just a suggestion,not try to be rude. its my own experience)
Agree especially sadie...shes so young she needs to do something for herself like study or work♡
oh? i thought they at least had jobs. are they rich? how to they sustain themselves?
@@gustavolasso236 p quit her job a while ago and they have savings as far as i know but i think for sadie its super important to be active
maybe do somethin creative shes rly talented. I hope she will figure something out♥
Yup you are totally right.
True, too focus on one thing is bad. In this case I guess they need little bit of distance, that's how the feeling of *miss each other* grow again. (Been there before😁)
Sadie, I just feel like saying that I think you’re an interesting person and if circumstances were different, I would love nothing more than to be a friend to you. I’ve been a viewer for a long time and sometimes I think about how it would be to have actually met you while you still hadn’t left Turkey and to be a friendly face and not just a viewer. I feel like when both of us were younger we could have found ways to relate to each other and connect to each other on a personal level, what with growing up as an lgbt person here and so on. I feel for you, but in many ways I think you could benefit from talking to a friend, someone who is not P, when things get confusing or difficult. Talking to someone outside of that relationship will be an instant fresh of air both to keep your relationship still healthy and to maintain your lives as individuals. Not that I see it as my place to give you any sort of advice, I’d like to still voice my wish for you to not give up on connecting with other people just yet, and I want to remind you that that friend could totally be understanding of your depression and the times where it might be difficult for you to communicate with other people and still be your friend. I’m far away as it is now, maybe in a place that holds bad memories for you but my heart is far away from judgement. I’d like to be your friend. I’m sending you all my love.
Thank you ❤️ I really appreciate this and if you ever wanna get in touch with me you can do so here: sadieandp@gmail.com
Ur really a beautiful couple n i can see love btw u too n i guess everyone of u have a different perspective for life n for future hope u can both meet in middle point so both can be happy . much love n respect for u two ❤😘
I just want to give Sandy a hug!!! I hope they make it. No relationship is easy and with age differences come different challenges. My own husband is older than I am and we have had to work things out.
~Rachel Ann
💙Love is love💙
My heart still states they are together and happy. Missing you guys. My family Sadie and P
I'm so sorry to see u sad Sadie... Love from Turkey (your country) En iyi dileklerimle Sedef (best wishes) 💐
I am happy you're still together sending hugs to you both
Hello ladies, been watching your videos since you started , I'm a bit nervous about this video, My personal opinion is I believe that you do love each other, but I worry that maybe you should learn to love yourself. Because you are both beautiful women. It is really hard to love someone if you don't love yourself, just my opinion, been with my wife for 19 yrs and we love each other more and more as yrs go by. Good luck and love you both.
I love you alot P and Sadie😍
Lots of hugs for you two. I think you need and really love each other. Is not easy to be a couple sometimes.
Sadie. Love is clear. Once you are feeling bad. Its not love any more.
Sedef aglamana cok uzuldum, sen mutlu olmayi hak ediyorsun herkez gibi, ama P nin seni kulandigini dusunuyorum bu iliski nereye kadar gidecek boyle, kadin seviyorum diyor onsuz yapamam diyor ama hic bir baglanma hisi istemiyor, bu cok dusundurucu, ben yapamazdim hic bir gelecegim olmicak biriylen beraber olmazdim, ama bu senin kararin ve saygi duyarim
Only God know where your relationship is going. I’m a 57 yrs old straight male and I been watching your videos. This is sad that your not engaged no more. You to look so happy together and who care what people say. I hope you stay together for a long time. I see the love Sadie has for P. For a young girl Sadie is very mature for age. So I will pray for you to have a happy and blessed life together. Alway follow your heart ❤️.
Actually we are now married!! 😅
Omg 3:00 to 3:40 Sadie is holding her tears so hard this breaks my heart 😔
While I'm watching them i think Sadie she really loves P
Sadie love yourself first you need time space 4 yourself first your so too young at your age now life is too short open your heart and mind there's a lot of things that you should know to do especially to yourself situation like this it's being part of maturity in relationship YOUR SO LONELY AND DEPRESSED NOW SOMEDAY YOU CAN PASSED ALL OF THIS STRUGGLES LITTLE BY LITTLE SLOWLY BUT SURELY FOR YOUR OWN GOOD
My heart goes out to Sadie hugs.
As I have been following you for a long time, I think I got to know you a bit, obviously in cam only. What I can make out from your body language is Sadie you are needy and P you are a free spirit! personally, I have nothing against the age gap relationships, but in your case you both have to search for people your own age or a bit older or younger etc. At the moment Sadie cant be alone due to being depressed, anti social and a deep thinker, in a way this suits you P, yes P you love her but like a mum in a caring way not as a lover because you can fend for yourself and got the experience of life... sorry to say that unfortunately this will not last, it will come to an end unexpectedly. When two people are in love they wouldn't dream of meeting other people:)) so think carefully and rewise this relationship again guys. Hope to see you both happy soon xxx
Çünkü ne hissettiğini sadece sen bilebilirsin. Ve onu sadece sen iyileştirebilirsin🌹 eğer hergün kendini sevip kendine sarılırsan aynada kendine tarağı mikrofon yapıp şarkı söylersen iyileşirsin🥰 hayat çok kısa
Sadie maybe u need someone who wants those phases of a relationship, if p doesn’t want it!,
I'm happy you ladies are still together!!!😚😚.. I love watching your video's, your a beautiful couple..
Sadie and Paola are one my favorite couple. Sweet and down to earth power couple. God bless Sadie and Paola.
still watching
I had been watching some of your videos before, i'm beginning to loves you guys so keep it up... though it's only now that i subscribe😊...
Can you suggest good dating app if you don't mind😊😁👍
Praying for u both,just b honest with each other like always ok,take care🌹🎵🎶🌷
I love P but I know how she feels also, Sadie needs someone that can meet her needs mentally and physically and I think P is on another level and that's ok. . ❤️🏳️🌈
Hi again!
To Sadie
When you feel rejected you have to say it to your partner, that's very important, don't keep it to yourself.
To P.
The breaking of that kind of bond has repercussions, it hurts, if feels like rejection. If you have a trauma with compromise, go slowly but be careful 'cause there's a limited amount of rejection each one of us can take before leaving. Don't let your fears threaten a love you cherish.
Hi p and sadie..i always watching your vlog..I'm the one your subscribers from Philippines..stay strong your relation
Sadie, I feel terrible for you for I know exactly what's happening but no amount of words will convince you to end the relationship until you figure it out yourself. I'm so sorry your heart is so broken and you're so confused, and I'm sorry for the heartbreaks to come. You do not deserve this.
Please back together.. please.. please.. please 🙏🏻🙏🏻 you’re both great ❤️❤️
Why was P looking at Tinder if it wan't for fresh connection?
10susan10 waaaaaaaaa when did this happen
@@myaholmes4286 @6:45 --"when Sadie was on Tinder, I saw her" SO both on Tinder --- so BOTH were on Tinder looking for????? but yet romantic?? looking for hook-ups? Seems P is not into a real full commitment. Wants to say I love you until I find something else that firs my lifestyle better.
10susan10 you’re 109% right Sadie was at least honest about her answer p just beated around the bush, it seems that p is only still in this relationship because she is scared that Sadie might do something to harm herself if she walked out, they’re before abusing each other mentally and emotionally and yet they don’t recognize it, sad to see
@@myaholmes4286 Co- dependent and not willing to realize it. Older videos Sadie has problems being open & honest about her emotional needs probably from her Turkish home. P has been playing her all along in my opinion - maybe not realizing it. P found someone who fills HER needs. Sadie was going back to Toronto on her own a while back and I don't know what stopped it. Seemed P held on to her with promises of ?????? Their into it for whatever feeds their needs at the moment. All I see is a lot of hurt coming.
Hang in there Sadie. I really felt your sadness in this video. I'm hoping that you will find your true worth and embrace that wholeheartedly. You are a very sensitive person and l actually no nothing of the true status of your relationship with P, so I try not to judge, but one observation that i will mention is that you seem sad most of the time. That is not good for you. You need friends of your own. People who you can relate to and form true friendships with them.Where you are now seems very unhealthy to me. Absolutely no judgement, I just would like to see true happiness for you. If that is with P, that's fine, but don't ever think you aren't worthy of happiness and love with someone else. You deserve to be happy. I wish you the very best in life. CORRECTION: I ACTUALLY KNOW NOTHING OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP........
I love you both. 😍
we just sometimes dont know how to take care of our needs, and we want to somebody else do it...
Hello, Sadie? I'm Matt from NY. I don't have friends too. But I have some friends in fb or ig. It okay and keep faith and you will have one in future. If you're my friend and welcome anytime.
I think your needs of love are different ....Sadie seems like she really needs P. more than P. Needs her . Maybe P. feel to much pressure cause of Sadie sadness and depression . I guess it’s even the the difference of age I mean the difference of experience in life . ....your kind of relationship it’s like addiction, I experienced that relationship...I can understand very well...but I think the best way is to live far apart for a while to find the perfect way to be friends.
Sadie when we look at you from out of you look unhappy please realize that🙏🏻
I just hope that this odd "arrangement" does not scar/ adversely impact Sadie in her future relationships.
I WISH THE BEST FOR YOU TWO
Same wish💙💙
I do not know but I feel bad for you I hope your relationship is still great
me too i don’t have much friends...same like you sadie ...i have girlfriend but no body knows for almost 4 years hiding in the closet...it’s so hard i want to show to them our relationship and my girlfriend don’t want..she afraid what people say her friends and family ...so hard
love you both！my favourite couple，best wish from China❤️
P grew up during a time where gay marriage wasn't accepted. Plus she already got married a long time ago. So it's totally understandable that she doesn't want a "label" or whatever.
I hope sadie tk be loyal forever...😘
If youre not engage anymore, but u still live together?
Hi sadie love you life is short and it break my heart to see you cry if p don't love you the way you love her then let she tell you
Sadie please l really love you but need to be happy in your relationship 😭
Hayatınızda başarılar dilerim hersey gönlünüzce olsun.
What were you doing on tinder P? Sadie explained it..... But you?