It is like yin and yang symbol of the nature. Which means you can balance your life and others by shining light through darkness and dark through light, those are struggles and achievements.
@@kziila0244 So you think that everyone should think exactly like you do, because your idea of a perfect world is to make everyone think like you do? At least she was honest.
@@SCARRIOR I don’t consider her comment of recommending plastic surgery, among other things, as brutal honesty. Some of her comments were indeed brutal honesty. The rest were just plain tactless. At least she went ahead and said she meant no offense. A for effort, I guess. 🙄
The girl that compared her to snow white and said her eyebrow looked like snow is SO SO kind. The way she described her features was so beautiful and kind
Dude, this isn't even remotely unattractive, in fact it just makes her even more attractive in my opinion. She is a beautiful woman, with a unique kind of beauty.
Some of these things I agree, but Vitiligo always looks bad to me, especially if the person has darker skin color to begin with. In her case, it's not that bad @@azecece1
Just admit you're lonely and would take any woman lol...besides, it's easy to say online that "ah yes I'm so accepting and have so much tolerance for anyone!", but in reality most people like you have a LOT of things you aren't really that accepting of
The older man who said “I forget most people, but I won’t forget you- that is your strength” What a beautiful compliment!! I hope that puts this woman’s soul at rest. And she’s so sweet, that along with the memory of her face, people will remember her character.
thought the same. some comments from these people were dumb / not well thought about. like the guy in the jeans shirt saying "makeup should solve the problem" - what problem? people who judge her are a problem, its just a look thing thats it. i dont care about looks, the most important thing is someones behaviour and i dont know her but she gives a sympathic feeling. and i do indeed think shes beautiful and doesnt need any makeup. i would totaly date her.
The older man was so wise and sweet, telling her how pretty and unique she is and it gave me fatherly vibes. He seems like a very genuine and kind person with love in his heart.
No one said this to her and she mostly opened up to the man about her dream job and how her self-confidence and condition affected her. SO even if it wasn’t said in the moment of the shoot I hope it reaches her that if you don’t know anyone with vertigo that works as a flight attendant be the first. Then you’ll be the inspiration you needed to the girls like you in world. making everyone and you feel less alone. ❤❤❤
@@Knight0wI It is okay, even necessary, to recognize and compliment strong, kind men. We are pressured to only respect fighters, but without good fathers where would we be?
No. Just one the surface. The first thing he said when he saw her was "Can't you even out it with Makeup?" Like what the hell. And yes the old ladys said that tho. And even suggested a sugery. But because she did focus only on her eyebrows ar first. Not on the whole face. She though the girl had only one eyebrow. She only later recognized that the eyebrow is actually just there but white and that half of the girls face has no pigmentation. So that's different. But the male did recognize it at first glance. But still, he said such bullshit. Also the part where he tells her "Oh I dye my hair too because of that! So I can totaly feel what you are goint through." No. You can't. Seriously dude. Did you loose your hair color and half of your faces pigmentation during YOUR teen years, too??? And did your supposed to be friends gave you nicknames like granny and zebra??? Telling someone you can relate to their pain and feelings, when you clearly can not, is insulting! Cause you will never know how they feel or must have felt. And even later on he lied and said "It's not about the looks." Yeah. Sure. Tell yourself that. But not us or her.
“In the winter when it snows, it’s like there is snow on top of it.” That was poetic. She really is a beautiful young woman. My daughter was born with poliosis, which means she had a lock of pure white hair in her dark brown hair. Oddly, she grew out it. I was sad to see it go.
i love how the older woman talks about parents like theyre the ones that struggle. like im sure it isnt easy breezy, but _youre_ not the one that has to deal with constant judgement and bullying for the rest of your life. _she_ does. its not about you.
you obviously have zero idea how family structure works in asian countries and the affects it could have on your life, as well as every single family member's life if this happens. stop pretending to understand, when you know nothing about koreans
@@nefariouspersephone9447 since when did i say absolutely anything about koreans? i was speaking generally, because ive seen a lot of old non-korean people say this stupid shit too. i am not going to excuse talking to people like this for anything. doesnt matter your race, your nationality, your age, your culture, nothing. you dont get to make someone elses struggles about you.
As a wheelchair user myself I was appalled by this lady's comments. I actually said out loud "How dare you!" I wasn't emotionally prepared for this, gonna need to hug my dog now.
Perfect example of the type of person who doesn't care about their child's happiness, she only cares about a perfect image and what others would say. Anyone can develop vitiligo at any age, or start using a wheelchair for millions of reasons. She thinks she's perfect because she doesn't happen to have such issues. A.k.a a jerk.
She has the coolest Vitiligo patterning I have ever seen. The difference in skin pigmentation is minimal but the pure white eye brow and eye lashes contrasted to her natural dark ones looks stunningly beautiful. The picture of her hair with the white in it. I really can't get over how nice that looks. I personally think that people with Vitiligo are really beautiful in general, it's such a unique appearance, I really don't understand how someone could find it ugly.
@RandomDragon the reason is because it is an autoimmune disease where the body is attacking itself (in this case it’s attack melanin). Animals can also get it it and it’s completely different than black and white spotted animals. It’s the most noticeable in solid black animals like black labs or solid black cats. People can also be spotted or stripped to some degree, but it’s usually barely noticeable because the skin colours are usually very close. But I grew up with a mix race girl who looked white but had brown spots all over her whole body. It’s very unique and that’s not a disease. But this is a disease because it’s actually your body attacking itself.
The older lady shocks me, I would be honoured to have kind, respectful girl like her in my family! She is absolutely lovely but also the vitiligo looks unique and beautiful. If you will ever read this older doesn’t mean wiser! My family would absolutely adore you! ❤️❤️❤️
While I'm sure your intentions are good by saying that, to say you'd be honored is concerning. Blowing a person's differences out of proportion in a 'positive' way generally isn't positive. I can assure you most would not want it. Just treat them like normal, that is true acceptance.
The older lady reminded me of the Korean mom of my sister's ex. No matter how beautiful, smart, and successful she is, her race (Filipino) and her skin color (tan) was something her ex's mom could not get over. Everytime they meet the mom always nags that her son could not find a pretty Korean girl instead. The lady also worried that their future kids might look not Korean and she might not stomach being related to them. We're still not over how open they are to telling that to my sister point blank. Even their mixed group of Asian-american friends points out how gross that behavior is. I'm glad she broke it off with her ex eventually. She knew marrying him would mean having that lady for family.
Just because his mother was awful it does not means that she has to give up and break up with him. After all she will spend her life with a man, not his mother. If my mother would behave like that toward my woman, I would be furious at her and probably never visit her again…
@@siska_yuliantiAs a native Korean, i surely say Koreans have generally shared one ethnic group, religion, language, etc. for a long time, and it is relatively recent that they are becoming international. They are also still very conservative in their policies toward refugees and other migrants. There is a vast majority of Koreans in Korean society and many lack the capacity to embrace multiracial and multiculturalism. This is due to closed-mindedness, which is caused by the majority of Koreans living in a small society and lacking external (foreign) experience, not because they consider themselves superior to other peoples. Anyway, I apologize for the bad impression of Korea that you guys experienced😥
What's even more beautiful than Yumi's face is her ability to remain elegant while talking with immature and disrespectful people. It's sad when people don't know when they are being insensitive and they truly believe it's ok to say what they want without processing it and thinking if their words will hurt someone. It's not a question about honesty, it's about empathy.
FYI: I have several chronic mental illnesses I've personally always felt that being truthful and precise with words is more important to me than empathy. I feel strong discomfort f.e. when experiencing other people fake-complimenting others, even if it makes them feel good. All that makes me feel is disgust.
@@misantrope6267 I’m sorry you’re going through something tough. I hope you heal. But I believe you can be honest and empathetic at the same time. You are entitled to think/feel what you want, but you don’t necessary have to say something if it’s unkind or unhelpful. It’s like the saying that words should go through 3 filters..”Is it kind, is it truthful, is it helpful?” It was neither kind nor helpful. Grandma lacks self awareness. With Yumi, I believe she was trying to be “civil and elegant” in her response. She wasn’t being fake. What she said was truthful that the grandmas was being honest. She never said she was being kind etc. Although we don’t know how Yumi really felt, it shows someone not triggered by opinions which means she must have gone trough some healing around her appearance/self-worth before meeting grandma. Some people can’t even fake being civil bc they are so easily triggered.
You just can not say the girl's face is beautiful when she literally looks like an evil character from a child show. Your denial of reality is the one thing that is really ugly. The old lady is the one kind being extremely honest and proposing a real solution with make up.
@@misantrope6267100%! People with their fake empathy and their fake words are just wanting to feel better about themselves! They are literally profiting off from the situation (without knowing as they are usually stupid). The best is not denial but is joking about it to kill all the boundaries and make things light. I used to laugh at my grandma because she didn't have any teeth and was so ashamed about it and she would be laughing so hard as I was making it very light hearted. Same with a friend that was about to die of a cancer. A bit before he passed away, I joked with him about how it was "shocking" he lost all his hair because of his treatment (he was already bald before the disease) offering us a last good laugh. Because at the end of the day disease and aging is part of life.
@@legion1791 Nah my reality is fine. Our perceptions of beauty is culturally conditioned. And we tend to dislike or fear what is different. So Yumi’s appearance doesn’t fit the typical and accepted beauty standards of that culture…this is probably why you think she looks like a “villain”. Some people have limited thinking 🤷♀️
@@jasminschmalzl9734 completely right. They cover it up more because they don't want to look bad to outsiders, but the same ones praising her looks in this video would not consider seriously marrying her. The desire to please their parents, aka the older generation, is too high
This girl looks so special and beautiful. Her vitiligo takes nothing away from that. What the elderly lady said is actually quite sad. If my child loves someone I would be happy no matter who it is or how the person looks. Tells a lot about her and the society she lives in.
in Japan people don't try to stand out so a daughter in law with the same disease would not easily work in favor of the societies values, i don't know about south Korea though.
I think it is very much a cultural thing. Some cultures are more 'strict' when it comes to everything being and looking normal. They don't like standing out because it could mean negative attention on not just the individual being different, but the entire family. But of course there are cultures where being different is considered a good thing and is encouraged, sometimes perhaps a little too much.
It's Korea. They're very much into family and making everything look perfect to those around them. They are very quick to point out something about another family in an effort to shame or ridicule them. I'm half Korean and it's one thing I really dislike about Koreans in general. They're so technical and very much into making things look and sound perfect, even small differences such as how you eat or how you go out in public. No one wants to be unique or try to stand out that much, and everyone wants to live in this perfect bubble.
@@arthurpendragon8192 what rock have you been living under? i'm japanese & we're definitely waaaay more accepting than that korean elderly woman. & you're taking "not trying to stand out" so out of context. what that means (by our standards) is for instance, to not dress a certain way, have extreme tattoos, pick fights, talk loudly on a train/bus, breastfeed in public, etc. basically to avoid conflicts & to be considerate of others in general. discriminating against someone with disabilties & diseases is the last thing we would do, so stop spreading false information, arthur.
As an Asian, I do understand why people would get mad about what she said but I also understand why she said what she said. She said after looking at her the first thing that she thought of was whether it was genetic related. In the case that this was genetically related disease that could effect her own grandchildren and even her own son who has to raise them. My own Asian parents have told me to be alert about the possible diseases and sickness within the girls family before actually committing into the relationship. Possible genetic sicknesses and diseases would cause detrimental harm to the future generation. I am at no means saying that we should judge people based on their genetic disabilities, but I am trying to make sense of as to why the woman here would have said what she said. Her intention wasn’t to demean her looks nor her disease but she was standing from the standpoint of a parent of her own son.
I like that they didn't just have accepting/polite people meet her. The older woman represents a sizeable portion of the Korean population, especially in her age range and higher. Many older people still have very conservative views and the way she only talked about how she would feel if her _son_ had an unconventional-looking _wife_ says a lot. Sons were favoured over daughters until very recently in Korea and many older people still value sons, grandsons, etc. in particular. My boyfriend has told me how he (an eldest son) has always been the apple of his grandmother's eye. It's very shocking to hear someone say such blatantly discriminatory things without shame, but it's a cultural reality for better or worst.
The girl looks like a monster. The elder lady is the only one honest. All the other are fake!! Dare to ask if the men on this video would really want to have a child with this girl and they would ALL think "hell, no". Because nobody would want or should want to pass down a disease as you owe your children good health. Truth is hard, the old lady is a better person than everybody else in this video.
This is an important perspective to acknowledge, instead of just writing off the older woman because she’s being mean. She is a symptom of a long-running issue in Korean culture, and a great example. She was raised to be this way, her parents were probably even stricter than she is. She still tried to be nice, in spite of all of the harsh, judgmental things she was saying. You could tell she felt bad, and just kept talking to somehow seem less mean, but almost made it worse. It’s like she can’t help but do it, even though she feels bad about it
I was thinking the same... I'm glad I don't have a Korean mother in law... and I've always thought about what I would do if I had the 'traditional' sense of a mother in law and I always worried because I have a temper and I don't think I could just let someone say those kind of things to me.. so i'm kinda so glad I didn't marry a korean guy LOL.. cuz my father in law is so nice and chill..
not that strange in asian culture for the older members to be very closeminded. Ppl have such a romanticized view of asian culture it's so weird. Edit: basically I’m saying “it’s not just her sadly. A lot more widespread than you think. So prepare to feel sorry for a lot more people. The more you know 🌈 “
@@1marieleathem was talking in general. wasn’t even talking to you. If you get it, you’ll get it. It seems like you don’t, so good for you. You haven’t seen how bad it gets.
In Korea people are even more obsessed with appeareance than western countries. Being beautiful in korea can help you get a good job for example, skills are important but so does your look. It is just an example, there are more... there used to be a tv show called "hello counselor" where people would come on the show to talk about their struggles in society. Many of these people struggled to live a normal life because they were overweight or looked different in some way
@@sunflower_petals Disgusting!!But also they are so close minded in general even in beauty, if you not fit in their standards of beauty, ( small face, certain weight for girls, etc...) you are directly ugly , they see beauty as something uniform for that you only see the same type of actors and acresses on kdramas, like they are clones of each other. They don't accept diversity of any type.
@@Riviere8281 its a sad reality... i will never get over it is normal to call someone a pig even if they are slightly overweight. I am the type of person that really doesnt care about makeup, beauty stuff or clothing. I have my own style and i really like how i look naturally so i really am the opposite of this side of the korean culture
Her vitiligo really is so beautiful, not in a pitying way but genuinely just lovely and striking, i hope she's able to see that for herself one day. it's a shame that she felt that she had to agree with the older woman's comments and feels so down about her looks.
damn, that older man was so sweet, when he said "I hope it's not a sad story" and then that he won't forget her. I wish human interactions were more often wholesome like this.
Was he really? I don't think you got the full meaning. He said "I don't think your are unique. But I for sure won't forget you." That's an insult. Of course she is unique. Every person on this planet ist UNIQUE. Nobody is the same, so we are ALL special. So translated he said "I don't think you are special. But I won't forget you." So his reasons he won't forget her, might be only because the situation/circumstances they met. On a TV Show. But not because of her or her charakter. If that isn't insulting, I don't know.
Korea baffles me. Both her and the boy that talked about getting bullied for their looks are absolutely beautiful. She looks ethereal, and he looks like a future idol, they could both easily be models. I seriously don't understand what it is they see that I don't that is worthy of ridicule. It must be so, so scary to live in a society that hates uniqueness if you're born with a non-generic feature. It's like they want everyone to look like clones, and if they don't they are bullied as children, and shunned and looked down on as adults. I can't stress enough how beautiful they both are in my eyes, it truly is crazy to me that they're to feel any different.
The boy said he was teased when he was younger, not now. And she said that she was teased by friends, not strangers. There are many more people who are accepting of others in Korea.
@@sarahalviz979 yeah true but at the same time, not really. Most Korean ppl I know aren't OBSESSED with looks but they love to point out flaws in others... but they don't rly do anything to improve their own uggo asses, so idk i think it's just a culture of pointing out flaws thinking that's a good, helpful gesture when it's not lol................
@@SAIVSS There's a reason why bullying is a huge problem there and the suicide rate is so high, many people (especially young) can't handle this kind of inhuman treatment they get. Most of it is related to either not looking the way they "should" or not acting the way they "should", it's weird out there for sure. Foreigners who go there and understand Korean say it's normal that people would discuss your appearance literally next to you like it's nothing , it's a normal behavior for them :D This is bizarre to say the least.
Yeah!! 😢.. I find koreans Super conservative when it comes to beauty... Like when we see someone different, we look at them as someone amazing and valued them highly fr that cuz they dont blend in with the crowd...if i see someone different, i would get attracted and fall in love😅 immediately and want to be friends with them r8 away...but koreans they r complete opposite.. I am saying it in general, not everyone..... Overall,, they judge people with beauty and that sucks..🙄
I think this girl is gorgeous. I loved the point the man made, saying that this is actually a positive trait because it will make her more memorable. She said she was comforted by that, and it just warmed my heart. She was very classy about receiving the older lady’s opinion, but still made her side known. She seems like such a modest, balanced girl. It’s so sad that she lets her insecurity about this stop her from pursuing her dream of being a flight attendant
I lived in Korea for over 8 years and love and miss a lot from being there, but how the older woman talked honestly and harshly was a big reason why I left. There is a constant concern about how others see you and your status. Being different is seen as a problem many times. The girl is beautiful and unique and we should help those that are struggling in life instead of beating them down and making their lives harder than it already is. I saw this first hand even starting at a young age at school. This is also the reason for the high amount of plastic surgery. There are many things we could learn in all countries, but I wish Korea could move more towards this accept and helping others that are weak and need help.
You're pointing out that its a negative aspect of korean culture for people to be overly sensitive to others opinions and suggesting that it should change. But arent you also highly aware of what others think? After all, you left Korea precisely because you were concerned about how others would judge you. Isnt it right? Work on building your self-confidence man. If you did, what that old lady said shouldnt have affected you in any way. And also the end, it bothered you because what she said was actually true right? Successful people appreciate such feedback and strive to improve themselves to become better individuals. On the other hand, losers are easily swayed by others words, just like you, without making any effort to change, resorting instead to "emotionally appealing" tactics. Lets be honest. significance do the words of that old lady hold? Isnt it true? It was just a fxxing old lady man. Suck it up. Its truly disheartening to think that you had to leave Korea for such a reason. Do you realize that? You may have simply wanted to leave Korea, but in my case, when I come across emotionally fragile individuals like you on the internet these days, I feel like leaving not just a country, but the entire planet.
I'm glad you brought on an older panelist. Most of these types of videos feature only young people or open minded people, but a lot of Koreans are conservative and closed minded too. You're giving a better expectation of Korean society this way. ♥
Conservative doesn’t necessarily mean closed minded. Just as liberal doesn’t necessarily mean open minded. These days I find young woke liberals far more intolerant of people with different beliefs and ideas and far more likely cancel people for disagreeing.
@@JohnLee-db9zt ironic 🤣🤣Bud the OP said "and" meaning a specific group were conservative and also closed-minded. you need to not take things so seriously.
As a younger person from a very different part of the world, it’s astonishingly difficult to understand where this older lady is coming from…the idea of being that absorbed into thinking about what other people think instead of considering how you could help change things for the better by not being all weird about it yourself…I really can’t wrap my head around it. I’m a parent of three. I simply hope my children are happy in their adult lives and that any relationships they have are with people who build them up and where I can be proud to see them building their partner up too. If I had peers/friends who were judgmental on the basis of something so stupidly superficial, it’s the “friends” who would go from my life. Why be so desperate for approval from others? Are the options for friends really so slim? I just feel sorry for HER. This beautiful young lady has such an attractive look and manner about her. Just gorgeous. I thank her for sharing her life experience with us.
She reminds me of my grandmother. She's almost 90, lived all her life in rural Finland. The time and place where she's from were harsh. You'd better be "normal", straight and god fearing citizen. So, what ever makes you too different, physical or otherwise, you cover, you don't need the attention and/or the judgement of the neighbours and the community. So I bet she'd liked to cover that girl in makeup if they'd go out to the village together, not because she would think that the girl is not pretty or that she would inferior in anyway, but getting the attention and evil eye from the others would be the end of the world. I don't feel sorry for my grandmother though, she is what she is and I think that in the context of her entire life she didn't miss out on anything by not being particulary progressive in her thinking :) All that judgement coming from my friends though, now that would be a totally different story.
As a dude with vitiligo (on the back of my neck, into my hair), this lady has my solidarity and support! Vitiligo is awesome, and it's something that affirms your individuality and uniqueness. I know that fitting in is especially important in Korean society, but some of us came into this world to defy societal norms. Sometimes, just sometimes, it's your birthrught to do that. More power to you, lady! :D
"some of us came into this world to defy societal norms" 💯🔥👏 yass, I live for this. There's nothing more interesting than what's unusual. Trying to "fit in" where everyone is the same, is boring
The old lady talking about women she sees on wheelchair together with an abled man and saying how she feels bad for the guy’s parents. Like why do we live in this kind of society? As a woman in a wheelchair myself, that pierced me badly. And it just crashed the remaining hope in me. Thank you so much!
Don't mind people like her toxic people are everywhere but people who accept others and love em no matter what are there so just be confident and try not to let this bring you down
Bro trust me it's got nothing to do with you. This old lady is just horribly ugly on the inside and I would hate my son having a wife like her. Wheelchair or not, you're twice the woman this old lady has ever been.
She is a old Korean ahjumma all she cares is to look good so that she can speak and praise her so call perfect daughter in law and grandchildren, just look at her unhappy face we can see how she grows up with full of unhappiness, don’t mind her words not all of old people are like this.
People in wheelchairs often remind me of Christopher Reeves. Kind, brave, honest, the true form of Superman. Please don't let people like her get you down for too long, so many more want to lift you up.
bless the guy who said looks are just temporary and what matter the most is the inside of the person. I wish there were more ppl like him. And if he’s a father, bless his children who were raised with such a open minded person
sure, but at the same time isn't he then conceding that she is ugly on the outside if he's saying that? i think the chick is gorgeous. Sure her discoloration looks odd but its not gross or unattractive. You'd have to be pretty fuckin bland to find that ugly
Her condition is just unusual, but that doesn't mean it looks bad. She's incredibly beautiful. It's like how coats of fur can have patterns that aren't symmetrical.
I'm shocked how rude the elderly woman was. I thought the lady looked great with her vitigligo skin. It's brave she shows her difference. It shows pride
I don't think she was really intentionally being "rude" but in her eyes she was being brutally honest, and at least the lady with Vitiligo accepted what she thought really responsibly
@@hehsomeone7071nope. She is obviously being rude. It's not that hard to distinguish what nice and bad things to say to people. She's not a kid for her not to think and choose the right words to say. Brutally honest my ass, this grandma has obviously been tolerated by people around her, because in korea, it's not easy for them to call out people older than you. So they usually just ignore them but bottle up their feelings from the hurtful words they've got (i think one of the very reasons as well why suicide rate of younger generation in korea has been increasing over the time) That grandma is being tolerated to the point where she just don't give a fuck what others will feel about her words anymore, cause she knows that no younger people will call her out since it's always called as disrespect whatever situation it is. She already lives long and has more than enough time to know how you would may hurt people by words. She's just plain rude. Those words are haunting for the girl. I just hope she just have a strong emotional and mental health and never get carried away by those painful words
@@hehsomeone7071Just because something is "honest" doesn't mean it should be said. There's a thing called tact and the elderly woman needs a class in it.
@hehsomeone7071 There's a term for this old lady's "honest opinions": She's ableist. She views people in wheelchairs negatively for the impact their disability has on 'normal' people. Sadly, Korea has some of the worst treatment and lack of accessibility for disabled people in a developed country. This is a woman who's actually bothered by vitiligo and thinking more about her boyfriend's parents and what strangers might think than the human being sitting across from her. A person can be honest AND prejudiced bigot. She made me feel sick just listening to her small minded opinions. I'm glad everyone else showed more humanity than that.
@@SMiles.21 Koreans have a different culture to Western culture, and because we have something they don't it doesnt mean we have to automatically criticise them about it.
"can't you do plastic surgery?" I love how THAT'S the first thing that comes to her mind. This is singlehandedly telling of how bad the situation is in korea that instead of telling you it's completely fine to be who you are or to not worry about things like appearances so much, they belittle you until you actually BECOME superficial like that yourself. Fucking brutal place to live in
So freaking true. I love Korea and my friends there, but the more I’m in their culture, the more my rose colored glasses fall off and now I almost detest specific parts of it. I can’t help it, it’s messed up to tell people they’re not good enough unless they meet society’s standards
'i love how' was probably not the right words then lol. i do understand, i obviously can't speak on behalf of Korea but that's a bit harsh don't u think? this video, that elderly woman, does not represent all of Korea. i know many kind korean ppl that are how u described. so please don't belittle korea as 'f-ing brutal place to live in'.
@@daniellepark6890 that was sarcasm 😭 also the last words really was just me not believing the state of modern society and beauty standards in general (with reference to Korea of course). I wasn't trying to label anything.
She looks beautiful. I always remember seeing my wife (Chinese) walking during heavy snow falls in Montreal, Canada. the snowflakes were a huge contrast with her dark black hairs. Up to today, it's the most beautiful thing I ever witness. She looks just like this picture of my wife from 30 years ago.. The last tough I will have before I die will be the one of my wife covered with white snowflakes..
That high school boy is the absolute sweetest and gentle with the words he chose! And that one girl who described her look as snow on a tree and Princess Snow White! It’s the younger ones that have the most empathy
I was so badly hoping Yumi asks the older woman "Would you think the same if your child had vitiligo? Would you be okay with your child's spouse's parents rejecting them for this?" but she didn't:')
@@anisah8546 From the way she spoke about people in wheelchairs I'm wondering how she'll feel if she ever needs one. Korea has terrible disabled accessibility.
K ya obviously...generational respect...but again, this channel is about exposure of ideas and people. Within that framework ALL people who appear on the show are to be exposed. In order for the most basic function of the TH-cam channel to work-ALL people as guests must take hard knowledge and softer knowledge. NOT just the old people giving it to the younger people. We give older people the figurative microphone and we listen under simple premise- they know more then us. Except when they don't. Except when the older person in question has ZERO first-hand experience in a specific life experience. Such as vitiligo or a wheelchair in young age. That's why we wanted the young woman to speak and share her experience in a more direct way. And I hope older people or people who are just more secure in some way understand that that's why many of us are watching this channel. l@@nefariouspersephone9447
As a Vitiligo person myself, I know what she is going through. Gaining that level confidence is really hard to come by. Specially everyone around you become specialist in Vitiligo. I was in depression for 6 years when Dr told me you have to go through surgery to recover. I was scared and left my house to live alone. I even thought about getting tattoos. I used to wear full cloths where people can only see my head to cover all my vitiligo. I started to accept myself recently when I found foreign friends who are not embarrassed being out with me. As that grandma said, people around me are same. It's the truth hard to swallow. Yes, I still get stopped in the middle of road to ask, "what is wrong with you?", and my relatives are "Who's going to marry you?". But you know what, I don't give damn about them now. To the people who have Vitiligo as me I would say just be yourself. You are unique coz not all vitiligo patterns are same. Be out there and this nothing you should Hide.😍
The guy who said he also gets bullied is SO HANDSOME!! He has such a pretty face- if he gets bullied for his LOOKS, then I have zero hope left for humanity :(
he probably experienced it when he was younger. There are a lot of cases of Koreans putting a lot of effort on having a good body/face after experiencing the bullying when they were young :(
@@gamlash95 If that is the case, then that’s extremely sad- he’s a beautiful person as well, his friends and the people around him should’ve seen that. He was very respectful and understanding towards her, so I don’t understand why people can’t be kind to kind people :(
It appears that the elder lady's perspective is solely on how she would be viewed if she had a daughter-in-law with vitiligo. I wouldn't be surprised if the first thing she thought of was how would her grandchildren look. She couldn't brag to her friends or family members about her perfect, beautiful daughter-in-law and her cute and pretty grandchildren. Her reaction tells us more about her than anything else. It's totally fine for other people to have a daughter-in-law in law like that but not her. Yumi is beautiful.
It was really hard to hear :/ If she wants to feel that way, that's fine, but why can't she try to put that aside and lift up a stranger who's literally never going to be in her family/ be her daughter in law.
@@KristenLB the thing is brutal honest people don't care about people's feelings and don't bother themselves with lifting people up For example, once I was late to one important event and was really nervous. I made a taxi driver wait for me and when I said to him something like "let's go, I'm late", he answered "you should come out earlier" in unpleasant tone. I just needed little comforting and He, quote, "liked the truth". But in fact he was just a tactless person Being straightforward is good but sometimes it's better to keep quite
@@KristenLB You say it with the right words😉 As I see and hear her talk in the video, she is a good and nice woman. I would be very happy if she joins the family and when not she still is a beautiful woman. Unfortunately it is still difficult for many people to accept someone's looking😩
This is true. My sister broke up with her Korean ex because his mother wanted a perfect and pretty Korean daughter in law. She even told my sister she can't stomach having half-Filipino grandkids and them having dark skin because "Filipinos aren't beautiful people". The son never defended my sister and begged her to tolerate it because it was normal in Korea. I'm glad she dumped him.
when she said "the people who were hurt don't usually forget" i felt that , loved this video , this girl is actually so pretty with or without vitiligo
Im Korean and I have vitiligo in exactly the same place as this girl. I also got it when I was 16. Imagine being 16 and your face changes. I already had self esteem issues and the vitiligo made it worse. My korean family tried to "fix" it with drs, creams, makeup etc and all of that didnt help, it actually made it worse. Now after dealing with all the crap that comes with it for so long I have learned to accept it and then eventually embrace it. Im not sure if im just not noticing it as much now but I dont come across as many people who give me weird looks. I like to think its because they notice my confidence and/or personality first 😊 I hope everyone else with vitiligo knows that your not alone and youre so much more than what you look like ❤
I think she is absolutely stunning! It doesn’t take anything away from her face, it only adds to her beauty! It did make me sad to hear the older woman focus more about genetics and what other people would say but it’s not entirely her fault. She was born and raised during a time where image and what other people think mattered greatly and could ruin family reputations.
As a Korean myself, I am also perplexed at how judgmental Koreans can be especially when it comes to appearance. But at the same time, I understand where it comes from, we’ve formed a culture of normalizing shame as if shaming someone is almost in a way a positive corrective action for people to “improve” on themselves. And since the outer appearance is the first and easiest thing to judge someone for, a lot of Koreans are obsessed with wanting to look beautiful so they won’t be shamed for how they appear, no matter how beautiful their soul is. It’s as if their physical beauty equates to the beauty of their soul for them. They ironically don’t see judgment as a bad thing when they themselves judge others, but don’t want to be judged themselves so they cover up anything that may be seen as a flaw. I believe the elder lady didn’t mean to say what she said to hurt the girl, I think she was just brutally honest with how she feels about how it would bring shame to not only to the girl but anyone she’s involved with. Shame culture is deeply rooted in Korea, because sadly they don’t see it as a bad thing. I hope my people learn the negative effects of judgment and shame and that it’s not okay to freely do that whenever we may please and instead become more open-minded and not judge others so quickly.
@@AndytlpNo. Shaming is an ignorant tool used when someone isn’t similar to us. That’s not how we’re going to be able to live as a society in the future.
Well said! Koreans have it rough. It seems to be the tool used most by asian parenting. Shaming is primitive, does the opposite to motivate someone to change and that only satisfies the emotions of the person shaming. “I’m doing this to you for your own good.” No you’re not, it is only to feed your own ego and wants.
No-one on thus earth should be judging anyone no ones perfect idc who you are plus I feel when you judge someone it only makes you less than a person 🤷♂️
I think this young lady is more than capable of being the flight attendant that she wants to be. I hope she pursues it and dont let a little difference in pigmentation stop her.
She's beautiful! The skin pigmentation is minimal as someone else mentioned. The change in her hair color looks so cool ! I have vitiligo too and its spreading very fast (especially on my face) and even the hair on my face is staring to change very slowly. I know it must be hard for her at times with the change in her pigment, but she is absoulutely beautiful. I used to cry at the sight of my skin changing, but I'm ok with it now.
The elderly lady is harsh but she is the most accurate representation of a Korean I’ve seen on this show. Speak to anybody that looks a little different that had stayed in Korea long term. Life is harder because its less acceptable to be different . Korea is wonderful to visit, the people are kind and polite, but it’s not USA, society is more conservative
The elder lady was so awful that my blood boiled a bit. I realise that Korean beauty standards are strict and she was honest, but she expressed her thoughts in a very blunt way, which was really unnecessary. Courtesy costs nothing. The girl is truly beautiful. Her “flaw” makes her uniquely beautiful. Not just beautiful.
Agree. Many people claim it's a cultural difference, and I can understand how she's completely free to express her own opinion...but I think the wheelchair comment DEFINITELY set me off. People often cannot control their circumstances, but that does not mean they don't deserve love, respect, and happiness.
lmao i know im 6 months late but this is very typical for elderly people in korea.. to be honest ive never disliked an eldery population more. They are treated with the utmost respect and are kinda assholes in every way they can be.
Something I've noticed is that a lot of people looking at strangers who have unique conditions are not always looking at them from a place of judgement or malice, but from a place of curiosity. I haven't seen anyone with vitiligo in real life, so if I did see someone it would be hard not to look, but that's not because I find it wrong in any way, it's just new to me. But how it feels to be the person being looked at is different, you don't know the thoughts in their heads, and having experienced judgement from others in the past, suddenly you fear that everyone looking at you is judging you and the world can feel very harsh.
AWWW THE ABSOLUTE PROOF THAT AGE DOES NOT ALWAYS MEAN WISDOM!!! I would have been like, " I wouldn't want to be your daughter in law with that type of judgy attitude." Also, can we talk about how beautiful and unique she is. She is gorgeous, and I hope she learns to own it.
You could also say the lady was being honest.... This girl will be forced to think about the disappointments she WILL face in her life and this prepares her for that.... The older lady is wise and knows what this girl will face...getting though to deal with it is what it is about....
@@ruppert5134I don't think the Lady was even honest. The others we're just dishonest and acting for the camera and the people who see them. And the old lady was just her own natural self. And yes. Beeing honest is good in my opinion. Even If it hurts sometimes. But you also have TO KNOW when better not to say. For example, If someone has already depression, or feels insecure about something, you have to cheer them up and encourage them in the right ways, rather then putting them down even more with unnessessary comments. Cause those people already feel bad about the situation they are in. Only If those honest advices will improve their situation, then it's acceptable beeing harsh. Also: cheering someone up, doesn't mean telling someone to "Cheer Up!" Better: giving them positive vibes and transfer your happiness right to them with your voice and body demeanor alone, and by distracting them from their thoughs by talking and doing stuff they like. But also accept If they aren't in the mood for it and say "no" to your suggestions. Cause their feelings, like your own, are always valid and have to be respected.
@@ruppert5134Exactly. Wisdom is not about being nice. Wisdom can be about being realistic. Apparently most people have not reached that level of maturity to comprehend this in humanity I feel.
@@jasminschmalzl9734You are wrong. Being "nice" to someone is making them weak by not "growing up". These people will not learn to strengthen their mindset that it's not about others perspective but about their own self-worth issues. She might feel emotionally affected by it but it is a lesson for her to strengthen her mind. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
The old woman was very foolish. She thinks her opinion will be shared by everyone. Everyone has their own opinions and it it won't be the same as others.
@@ToonMageChannel Being honest is good but sometimes is better to just not say anything if it's not good especially when she said about people on wheelchairs it's not like they can control what is going on with their body.
The elderly panelist is a very good representation of how I was looked at by my ex's family. It's a long story, but to shorten it down: I had already received criticism from a handful of older persons when we lived in Mapo for being a white guy with a beautiful Korean woman. None of them knew I was fluent in Korean as I spent most of my youth growing up in Korea, so it was hurtful to hear some comments that my ex had to endure (She knew I spoke Korean fluently, but told me to never get involved with bigots and to let things like that go). When it came time for me to be introduced to her parents they both loved me and even looked past the massive amount of tattoos I have (two full sleeves) because of how successful I was (I like to think, also in addition to my ex's dad being a very progressive guy). On my second time meeting them they asked me about my family and heritage and when I told them I was half white and half Asian they became intrigued, wondering if my other side was Korean because of my fluency and mannerisms. I had been reluctant at first to tell them because my other half was Japanese, but a thought had occurred to me that if they accepted me for my tattoos then they couldn't be that old school. I told them about my family history and I could see my ex's mom shut down and then in turn my ex's father because of how bothered the mom was by it. I was unable to marry my soulmate because of old ideologies that are still present in a good portion of the population and the way her parents influenced her to break things off with me. I was left with a final comment from the mother: "I could tell something was off about you from the moment we met and I wondered if it was just me or if you were hiding something important from a parent. You would have made a good son-in-law and father to my grandchildren if it you were born differently."
wow, that's awful, I'm sorry you experienced that 😕 but don't worry, there's more than one soulmate out there! & she wasn't the one if she let her racist parents ruin your relationship.
It's unbelievable how strong Korean animosity towards the Japanese is even today. About 10 years back my family hosted two Korean Methodist ministers visiting the USA. They were looking through our calendar and asking what the different holidays were. One of them was V-J Day (of course, celebrating America's victory over Japan in WW2). They were overjoyed when they found out what that meant and were basically like "That's great! We hate Japanese people too!" I couldn't believe Christian ministers could harbor such prejudice. I hope one day Korea can let go of the past and move on from this.
@@Trip_Fontaine fortunately MANY Koreans don’t have animosity toward Japanese, but I have to wonder that the ones who do, why they paint them all with a brush? Do they not realize that it’s the old Japanese GOVERNMENT, NOT the regular Japanese citizens who are to blame? By the way, did you tell those people that Americans actually don’t hate Japanese at all? I hope you did. I also hope you told them it’s wrong to blame the people when it was their government who did wrong.
I’ve never understood why some Koreans treat Japanese people that way, when it’s the GOVERNMENT who did wrong, not the regular citizens who had nothing to do with past atrocities.
the old woman literally said that she judges at people in wheelchairs what the fuck??? so rude. if anything someone in a relationship with her son should feel sorry for themselves having to deal with that.
My korean boyfriend's grandparents had a very difficult time accepting that he fell in love with me because i am a foreigner. In Korea the older son takes over and becomes the head of the enalarged family and they couldnt accept the future head of the family would have mixed genes
I think the older lady's reaction is not surprising given that in Korea the social norm is to fit in and not stand out. It's very sad though, that she could not see past her difference, and thought it was ok to tell her "yes, I would hate you." :'( I hope this girl finds better friends. The other people were very sweet. The description of looking like trees with fallen snow almost made me tear up!
This girl is impressive. Most people that are public about their insecurities have already overcome them and find them as a way of self expression. You can tell this time though that the hurting and the insecurities she faces are still fresh but she is brave enough to take criticism and compliments alike. She is beautiful and is beginning to realize it!
I can appreciate the older ladies honesty because it’s a more accurate representation of how she is treated and viewed by a large portion of society. It’s upsetting but the reality, so let’s send Yumi compassion and celebrate her beauty, it’s everyone’s uniqueness that makes society beautiful.
but that doesnt justify her being harshly rude on camera to millions of ppl to see, if shes truly been through sht and knows the pain she wouldnt have made that poor girl hurt even more; i hate her and ppl like her
@@Eviekaii i guess that's just the way the older generation were raised and so they've never really seen anything like this, whereas we see the guy in the uniform is more accepting and understanding of it, probably because the younger generation now is more accepting and so they have a different perspective on it
Yumi should not give up on her dream of becoming a flight attendant!! I bet there are countries where people would be happy to welcome such a kind and elegant young Lady! I hope someday she will follow her dream and maybe move into another country to fulfill it!
That elderly lady was cold as ice! Shes a very pretty girl and here in the USA her vitiligo would make her stand out as uniquely beautiful and attractive.
I'd be more concerned if my childs partner had a parent like the elderly lady in this video than my child having a partner with vitiligo. She's so harsh and judgemental about something that is only superficial. Let's not even begin to mention how she views people with actual disabilities, disgraceful.
@@aispryn I was raised a certain way, too and I fell far from the tree with my beliefs and core values. Once I was old enough to start understanding that I am my own person and can have my own thoughts and opinions and not just emulate my parents, well...that's just what I did. So, for me at least, saying that's just her generation is, although I get it, is a cop out. This is her belief system. It's all hers. As she was growing up and experiencing life and the world and other viewpoints she could develop more of her own opinions. If things resonated with her, it was OK to change but this thought that she said to this young lady is all on her. Cultural and generational are excuses even though I understand how it can happen. Maybe she was never around opposing views. Anyhow, it made me sad and it made me sadder, still, that her bluntness was being excused as "generational". I'm an old lady, too. I'm 62 and I couldn't imagine saying these things.
I feel like in my country (France) and probably other places in europe people wouldn't really pay attention or act differently around someone with small physical differences like this disease. I have a friend who has Vitiligo and sometimes people ask what it is but mostly he's just treated like anybody else, and he even says it makes him kinda unique. I've never been to korea but I'm surprised this deserved a "reaction" video. I hope she blooms to love herself the way she is and have friends that respect her
Ca dépend, je fais 1M50 (même pas atteinte de nanisme ou quoi) et parfois on me regarde comme une bête de foire ou on me dit "t'es petite quand même" "combien tu mesure" comme si c'était la première chose qu'on demande à quelqu'un...Alors bon..tu sais les idiot sont partout ^^"
@@ElfenMisa Ah oui, pour le coup la taille ça fait quelque chose de bizarre dans l'esprit des gens, mon ex fait 1m49 et elle me disait la même chose, mais pour le coup je pense qu'ils sont surtout maladroits à part quelques cons qui vont te parler comme si t'étais une gosse Par contre étonnamment ça dérange pas les très grands qu'on leur demande quelle taille ils font 🤔
It looks great in my opinion ❤ shines trough her strong own personality, and I love to see that. There isn't even really anything "wrong" with her, she just looks different. Unfortunately lots of people have trouble with that.
I hope Yumi and the highscooler realize how beautiful they are and learn to love and embrace themselves. They seem like sweet genuine people. I hope they also stop letting people walk all over them and stand up for themselves as well as get better friends. Nobody should be allowed to insult them, especially their friends, good friends would not insult you and make you feel bad about yourself.
So true! There isn't even ONE reason to insult her. Cause she really is beautifull. And I mean not in her uniqueness (which she is too), but her outer apperances. On beauty standards alone she is really prettier than most people. So the only reason people would make such rude comments, especially her so called "friends", would be because they are jealous as fuck about it and NEEDED to find something ugly about her. I also did that with someone, so I can tell.
I am Italian and I also have vitiligo, but honestly I have never had any problems. In summer I go to the beach and no one has ever said anything to me and no one ever gives me strange looks. I am happy to live in a society that does not pay so much attention to my condition. A child also told me once that I have beautiful hands, full of colours haha ❤ I am so sorry to hear that some people with vitiligo suffer from low self-esteem or do not see themselves as beautiful. In my opinion, it is unique. Just put on some strong sunscreen and you're fine!
I'm also Italian and very, very pale. I get many strange looks, and strangers speak behind my back, "guarda quant'è bianca !!", things like that. But my friends call me "mozzarella di bufala" and that's ok hahaha.
I'm also Italian with vitiligo, but I live in Sweden and it's normal to be this white. But when I visit my family in Italy I get comments that I'm too white, need to get some sun, that I'm a ghost lol. No matter how many times I explain that I have vitiligo they just don't get it and say I just need more sun xD
Korea has a culture of an extreme pressure to conform to the norm in every single way. anything that does not conform to the norm is looked down upon and shunned by the part of society that is more conservative. there is a part of society that isnt like this but at least half is.
The ajumma does not deserve someone like Yumi as her daughter-in-law...Yumi is beautiful, both inside and out. She is so respectful, graceful, mature, sincere...and choosing not to cover the vitiligo with makeup shows how brave, strong, and authentic she is.
@izzy sparks yes that's the case with the elderly people I general even the girl is healthy they will care about her age , her family, etc they judge everything not only I. Korea
@@Kookiepookie2025 she literally told "i would feel bad for her parents" like not even for the person on the fkin wheelchair who most probably suffers everyday both phisically and mentally (unless the legs are completely numb, but still there's the grief knowing you'll never stand and walk again you know). like tell me you never used your brain and that's the only thing ever you said that will make sense in you life mannaggiallabibbia.
not to mention the surgery and stuff, why would I go under therapy and stuff for a literal aestethic purpose it's not like the clearer spot hurts or needs to be cured so you can easily spare yourself from the stress of a surgery
Wow, the girl with vitiligo is so gracious and patient with all the questions and such, I hope that she is surrounded in life by big hearted people who see her real beauty
Wow, the elderly can be as vicious as children. The only thing that matters is that she's found how to accept and love herself. I am happy that her boyfriend likes her for who she is. As a parent what you think means absolutely nothing to your kid and who they date. I look at people like the elderly woman who say such harsh things and feel sorry for her kids having such a harsh mother.
Basically there is this mindset of parents that treat the children like investment for future. They want to brag about every single detail of their children to everyone. I personally am experiencing this even now and can't really say anything because the parents take out the parent card and since I still can't earn my keep gotta tolerate as much as possible. It is what it is. In Asia parenting in general is really weird tbh.
@@AliveSpark Same with Conservative African parents too they always want to dictate who their children marry whether appearance,money or race its annoying especially for me as well like its not your relationship its your child's its their choice you have to accept it
dude it's this kind of "mothers" that care so much about what kind of people their sons are dating... their sons are fkn nightmares LOL... like they don't know how to do ANYTHING and if you try to marry them they think you're trying to steal their son away from them and they will make your life a fkn hell. If you're going out with a Korean boy, always meet their mothers and run the fk away if you meet people like that grandma cuz you are not marrying that guy. you're marrying HER.
My son has vitiligo and it affects the back of his leg and his forehead one side, he has a streak of white through one eyebrow and the front of his hair. He looks fabulous. Im so proud of him 😊
I'm pale and have vitiligo! Its starting move along my face and chest so it's more noticeable when im not wearing make up. My eyelashes are white at the bottom of my right eye. She's so uniquely beautiful 😍 I hope to gain more confidence and not wear so much make up & long sleeves.
Go out one day with out makeup. People will only look for a minute. If it’s longer so what. Try it most people don’t ask what you have the are to scare to say something.
The girl who said it looks like snowflakes fall on her eyelashes, thats a beautiful words to say. Everyone who suffered any unique genetics, i hope you know that you are beautiful in ur own way. Just lets say you all look unique rather than different from others! xoxo
She's so beautiful! My partner is Korean and I've found it's really common with the older generations that they want their children to marry what they perceive as normal and healthy so not to pass on genetic issues (No, I'm not condoning it). To draw attention is frowned upon. It's sad the older lady thought that and said what she did. You could see it hurt. As someone with poliosis that effects my hair and a few patches on my body, it can really hurt when people feel the need to say you shouldn't be with people or shouldn't have children. She is gorgeous and I hope she comes to realise that you can never please everyone. Her 'flaw' makes her magical.
yumi is so beautiful! seriously her physical beauty is amazing but her personality after being through everything and still smiling so beautifully is inspiring :D
People talking shit about the grandma. I respect her honesty. It might not align with what my opinion but at the least she is honest what she thinks. Do people just expect her to lie about her opinion so that sensitive people wouldn't get upset?
I’m 27 now and I got this condition last year suddenly after laser hair removal. I have it on my elbows and thighs. Honestly when I got it and learned that there is no cure for that, I just said “whatever” and moved on with my life. I think it’s really unique and I actually quite like it, seeing this girl’s spots made me think that she is even more beautiful. As for the dating life, I have a boyfriend and nothing changed since I got it. He said that as long as it doesn’t affect my health, it doesn’t matter if I have it or not. I haven’t met his parents but I think that this condition is none of their business.
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The old woman was not being awful, she's just straightforward and you need these kind of people. It's not because you don't like it that it's bad. She actually gave something important to consider for anyone, vitiligo or not... If anything, it's you guys who are being petty and closeminded.
my mom has vitiligo on her neck and i remember when i was very little she always tried finding a way to stop it from spreading or getting rid of it completely. it made me sad that it was an insecurity of hers. i’m the type of person who gets easily fascinated by people’s unique looks and quirks, and i think my mom’s vitiligo makes her so cool and beautiful.
Bless the girl who compared it to snow on a tree in winter and saying her eyelashes look like they have snowflakes on them - so sweet
It is like yin and yang symbol of the nature. Which means you can balance your life and others by shining light through darkness and dark through light, those are struggles and achievements.
yaahh
i automatically fell in love
I actually thought of snow ❄️ too when I saw the girls face.😅
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And Snow White! That was a beautiful way to describe her!
The older lady is the perfect example that one doesn't necessarily become wiser with age.
If anything, their views can get more cemented if not changed earlier on.
@@kziila0244 So you think that everyone should think exactly like you do, because your idea of a perfect world is to make everyone think like you do? At least she was honest.
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I don’t consider her comment of recommending plastic surgery, among other things, as brutal honesty. Some of her comments were indeed brutal honesty. The rest were just plain tactless. At least she went ahead and said she meant no offense. A for effort, I guess. 🙄
@@SCARRIOR yeah they didn't say that...
at least she's blunt? I guess a consolation.
The girl that compared her to snow white and said her eyebrow looked like snow is SO SO kind. The way she described her features was so beautiful and kind
I thought the same thing. My heart melted a bit when she made that remark. ❣❤🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
I wouldn't call it kindness. I call it genuine bc what she said was the truth rather than just trying to be nice 😊
Dude, this isn't even remotely unattractive, in fact it just makes her even more attractive in my opinion. She is a beautiful woman, with a unique kind of beauty.
I find that these kinds of "flaws" make a person unique and attractive.
Freckles, odd eyes, birthmarks, that kind of thing that makes us not identical
Some of these things I agree, but Vitiligo always looks bad to me, especially if the person has darker skin color to begin with. In her case, it's not that bad @@azecece1
My brain immediately went to Elsa from Frozen. She's beautiful
Just admit you're lonely and would take any woman lol...besides, it's easy to say online that "ah yes I'm so accepting and have so much tolerance for anyone!", but in reality most people like you have a LOT of things you aren't really that accepting of
@@ChristoffRevan lol what. You talking to us or yourself? I was being genuine.
The older man who said “I forget most people, but I won’t forget you- that is your strength”
What a beautiful compliment!! I hope that puts this woman’s soul at rest. And she’s so sweet, that along with the memory of her face, people will remember her character.
Honestly same! I don't have vitiligo but I'm one of those people with red wine stain birthmark on my face so hearing that brought me joy 😭
fr 😭 If I met a girl as sweet as her, I don't think I'd forget her either, she's so pretty too ^^
He has a very kind and loving heart.
thought the same. some comments from these people were dumb / not well thought about. like the guy in the jeans shirt saying "makeup should solve the problem" - what problem? people who judge her are a problem, its just a look thing thats it. i dont care about looks, the most important thing is someones behaviour and i dont know her but she gives a sympathic feeling. and i do indeed think shes beautiful and doesnt need any makeup. i would totaly date her.
also the comment about her eyelashes and eyebrows looking like tree leaves when it's snowing was really nice too
The older man was so wise and sweet, telling her how pretty and unique she is and it gave me fatherly vibes. He seems like a very genuine and kind person with love in his heart.
He was the complete opposite of the old woman lol
No one said this to her and she mostly opened up to the man about her dream job and how her self-confidence and condition affected her. SO even if it wasn’t said in the moment of the shoot I hope it reaches her that if you don’t know anyone with vertigo that works as a flight attendant be the first. Then you’ll be the inspiration you needed to the girls like you in world. making everyone and you feel less alone. ❤❤❤
As a man I dont usually compliment another man like this, he is one of the sweetest guy I have seen. No flattery words but sincere compliment.
@@Knight0wI It is okay, even necessary, to recognize and compliment strong, kind men. We are pressured to only respect fighters, but without good fathers where would we be?
No. Just one the surface. The first thing he said when he saw her was "Can't you even out it with Makeup?" Like what the hell.
And yes the old ladys said that tho. And even suggested a sugery. But because she did focus only on her eyebrows ar first. Not on the whole face. She though the girl had only one eyebrow. She only later recognized that the eyebrow is actually just there but white and that half of the girls face has no pigmentation. So that's different. But the male did recognize it at first glance. But still, he said such bullshit.
Also the part where he tells her "Oh I dye my hair too because of that! So I can totaly feel what you are goint through." No. You can't. Seriously dude. Did you loose your hair color and half of your faces pigmentation during YOUR teen years, too??? And did your supposed to be friends gave you nicknames like granny and zebra??? Telling someone you can relate to their pain and feelings, when you clearly can not, is insulting! Cause you will never know how they feel or must have felt.
And even later on he lied and said "It's not about the looks." Yeah. Sure. Tell yourself that. But not us or her.
“In the winter when it snows, it’s like there is snow on top of it.” That was poetic. She really is a beautiful young woman.
My daughter was born with poliosis, which means she had a lock of pure white hair in her dark brown hair. Oddly, she grew out it. I was sad to see it go.
i love how the older woman talks about parents like theyre the ones that struggle. like im sure it isnt easy breezy, but _youre_ not the one that has to deal with constant judgement and bullying for the rest of your life. _she_ does. its not about you.
you obviously have zero idea how family structure works in asian countries and the affects it could have on your life, as well as every single family member's life if this happens. stop pretending to understand, when you know nothing about koreans
@@nefariouspersephone9447 oop looks like someone's getting defensive
@@nefariouspersephone9447 since when did i say absolutely anything about koreans? i was speaking generally, because ive seen a lot of old non-korean people say this stupid shit too. i am not going to excuse talking to people like this for anything. doesnt matter your race, your nationality, your age, your culture, nothing. you dont get to make someone elses struggles about you.
As a wheelchair user myself I was appalled by this lady's comments. I actually said out loud "How dare you!" I wasn't emotionally prepared for this, gonna need to hug my dog now.
Perfect example of the type of person who doesn't care about their child's happiness, she only cares about a perfect image and what others would say. Anyone can develop vitiligo at any age, or start using a wheelchair for millions of reasons. She thinks she's perfect because she doesn't happen to have such issues. A.k.a a jerk.
She has the coolest Vitiligo patterning I have ever seen. The difference in skin pigmentation is minimal but the pure white eye brow and eye lashes contrasted to her natural dark ones looks stunningly beautiful.
The picture of her hair with the white in it. I really can't get over how nice that looks.
I personally think that people with Vitiligo are really beautiful in general, it's such a unique appearance, I really don't understand how someone could find it ugly.
It is beautiful and will still be beautiful as it progresses. The patterns usually get bigger with time
@RandomDragon cause we eat animal not human
@RandomDragon the reason is because it is an autoimmune disease where the body is attacking itself (in this case it’s attack melanin). Animals can also get it it and it’s completely different than black and white spotted animals. It’s the most noticeable in solid black animals like black labs or solid black cats. People can also be spotted or stripped to some degree, but it’s usually barely noticeable because the skin colours are usually very close. But I grew up with a mix race girl who looked white but had brown spots all over her whole body. It’s very unique and that’s not a disease. But this is a disease because it’s actually your body attacking itself.
I’ve always thought thiiiiissssss!👏👏👏
i agree! it's so unique and is a beautiful contrast
The older lady shocks me, I would be honoured to have kind, respectful girl like her in my family! She is absolutely lovely but also the vitiligo looks unique and beautiful. If you will ever read this older doesn’t mean wiser! My family would absolutely adore you! ❤️❤️❤️
While I'm sure your intentions are good by saying that, to say you'd be honored is concerning. Blowing a person's differences out of proportion in a 'positive' way generally isn't positive. I can assure you most would not want it. Just treat them like normal, that is true acceptance.
@@chocobro3198a girl like this doesn't just mean how she looks
@@chocobro3198 I'm pretty sure OC meant the girl's personality., not her looks ^^
한국에 저런 할머니 할아버지 많지... 시대가 달라져서 더 저런 것에 대해 어떻게 대해야하는지 생각하는법과 말하는 법을 교육받지 못한... 안타깝다. 그래도 바뀌길 바래봅니다.
@jkrisawesome5763 How do you know OC's gender? But no they didn't.
The older lady reminded me of the Korean mom of my sister's ex. No matter how beautiful, smart, and successful she is, her race (Filipino) and her skin color (tan) was something her ex's mom could not get over. Everytime they meet the mom always nags that her son could not find a pretty Korean girl instead. The lady also worried that their future kids might look not Korean and she might not stomach being related to them. We're still not over how open they are to telling that to my sister point blank. Even their mixed group of Asian-american friends points out how gross that behavior is.
I'm glad she broke it off with her ex eventually. She knew marrying him would mean having that lady for family.
It sucks they just can't no contact that rude old lady because of traditions.
Just because his mother was awful it does not means that she has to give up and break up with him. After all she will spend her life with a man, not his mother. If my mother would behave like that toward my woman, I would be furious at her and probably never visit her again…
The country itself lack diversity or some people is not exposed to more culture. So they only think their race is better?
@@siska_yuliantiAs a native Korean, i surely say Koreans have generally shared one ethnic group, religion, language, etc. for a long time, and it is relatively recent that they are becoming international. They are also still very conservative in their policies toward refugees and other migrants. There is a vast majority of Koreans in Korean society and many lack the capacity to embrace multiracial and multiculturalism. This is due to closed-mindedness, which is caused by the majority of Koreans living in a small society and lacking external (foreign) experience, not because they consider themselves superior to other peoples. Anyway, I apologize for the bad impression of Korea that you guys experienced😥
@@GabriellaJthis behaviour is not only see in Korea even if the country is multicultural since a long time.
What's even more beautiful than Yumi's face is her ability to remain elegant while talking with immature and disrespectful people. It's sad when people don't know when they are being insensitive and they truly believe it's ok to say what they want without processing it and thinking if their words will hurt someone. It's not a question about honesty, it's about empathy.
FYI: I have several chronic mental illnesses
I've personally always felt that being truthful and precise with words is more important to me than empathy. I feel strong discomfort f.e. when experiencing other people fake-complimenting others, even if it makes them feel good. All that makes me feel is disgust.
@@misantrope6267 I’m sorry you’re going through something tough. I hope you heal. But I believe you can be honest and empathetic at the same time. You are entitled to think/feel what you want, but you don’t necessary have to say something if it’s unkind or unhelpful. It’s like the saying that words should go through 3 filters..”Is it kind, is it truthful, is it helpful?” It was neither kind nor helpful. Grandma lacks self awareness.
With Yumi, I believe she was trying to be “civil and elegant” in her response. She wasn’t being fake. What she said was truthful that the grandmas was being honest. She never said she was being kind etc. Although we don’t know how Yumi really felt, it shows someone not triggered by opinions which means she must have gone trough some healing around her appearance/self-worth before meeting grandma. Some people can’t even fake being civil bc they are so easily triggered.
You just can not say the girl's face is beautiful when she literally looks like an evil character from a child show. Your denial of reality is the one thing that is really ugly. The old lady is the one kind being extremely honest and proposing a real solution with make up.
@@misantrope6267100%! People with their fake empathy and their fake words are just wanting to feel better about themselves! They are literally profiting off from the situation (without knowing as they are usually stupid). The best is not denial but is joking about it to kill all the boundaries and make things light. I used to laugh at my grandma because she didn't have any teeth and was so ashamed about it and she would be laughing so hard as I was making it very light hearted. Same with a friend that was about to die of a cancer. A bit before he passed away, I joked with him about how it was "shocking" he lost all his hair because of his treatment (he was already bald before the disease) offering us a last good laugh. Because at the end of the day disease and aging is part of life.
@@legion1791 Nah my reality is fine. Our perceptions of beauty is culturally conditioned. And we tend to dislike or fear what is different. So Yumi’s appearance doesn’t fit the typical and accepted beauty standards of that culture…this is probably why you think she looks like a “villain”. Some people have limited thinking 🤷♀️
While the older lady may respresend korean older society, i love how accepting and supporting the younger generation is becoming
Yeah
Yes love it
No. They aren't. They just cover it more. At least, thats the vibe I get in the video.
@@jasminschmalzl9734 seek help
@@jasminschmalzl9734 completely right. They cover it up more because they don't want to look bad to outsiders, but the same ones praising her looks in this video would not consider seriously marrying her. The desire to please their parents, aka the older generation, is too high
This girl looks so special and beautiful. Her vitiligo takes nothing away from that. What the elderly lady said is actually quite sad. If my child loves someone I would be happy no matter who it is or how the person looks. Tells a lot about her and the society she lives in.
in Japan people don't try to stand out so a daughter in law with the same disease would not easily work in favor of the societies values, i don't know about south Korea though.
I think it is very much a cultural thing. Some cultures are more 'strict' when it comes to everything being and looking normal. They don't like standing out because it could mean negative attention on not just the individual being different, but the entire family.
But of course there are cultures where being different is considered a good thing and is encouraged, sometimes perhaps a little too much.
It's Korea. They're very much into family and making everything look perfect to those around them. They are very quick to point out something about another family in an effort to shame or ridicule them. I'm half Korean and it's one thing I really dislike about Koreans in general. They're so technical and very much into making things look and sound perfect, even small differences such as how you eat or how you go out in public. No one wants to be unique or try to stand out that much, and everyone wants to live in this perfect bubble.
@@arthurpendragon8192 what rock have you been living under? i'm japanese & we're definitely waaaay more accepting than that korean elderly woman. & you're taking "not trying to stand out" so out of context. what that means (by our standards) is for instance, to not dress a certain way, have extreme tattoos, pick fights, talk loudly on a train/bus, breastfeed in public, etc. basically to avoid conflicts & to be considerate of others in general. discriminating against someone with disabilties & diseases is the last thing we would do, so stop spreading false information, arthur.
As an Asian, I do understand why people would get mad about what she said but I also understand why she said what she said. She said after looking at her the first thing that she thought of was whether it was genetic related. In the case that this was genetically related disease that could effect her own grandchildren and even her own son who has to raise them. My own Asian parents have told me to be alert about the possible diseases and sickness within the girls family before actually committing into the relationship. Possible genetic sicknesses and diseases would cause detrimental harm to the future generation. I am at no means saying that we should judge people based on their genetic disabilities, but I am trying to make sense of as to why the woman here would have said what she said. Her intention wasn’t to demean her looks nor her disease but she was standing from the standpoint of a parent of her own son.
I like that they didn't just have accepting/polite people meet her. The older woman represents a sizeable portion of the Korean population, especially in her age range and higher. Many older people still have very conservative views and the way she only talked about how she would feel if her _son_ had an unconventional-looking _wife_ says a lot. Sons were favoured over daughters until very recently in Korea and many older people still value sons, grandsons, etc. in particular. My boyfriend has told me how he (an eldest son) has always been the apple of his grandmother's eye. It's very shocking to hear someone say such blatantly discriminatory things without shame, but it's a cultural reality for better or worst.
Yep!!!
The girl looks like a monster. The elder lady is the only one honest. All the other are fake!!
Dare to ask if the men on this video would really want to have a child with this girl and they would ALL think "hell, no". Because nobody would want or should want to pass down a disease as you owe your children good health.
Truth is hard, the old lady is a better person than everybody else in this video.
This is an important perspective to acknowledge, instead of just writing off the older woman because she’s being mean. She is a symptom of a long-running issue in Korean culture, and a great example. She was raised to be this way, her parents were probably even stricter than she is. She still tried to be nice, in spite of all of the harsh, judgmental things she was saying. You could tell she felt bad, and just kept talking to somehow seem less mean, but almost made it worse. It’s like she can’t help but do it, even though she feels bad about it
@@SierraLovesEvery1 She tried to be nice. But she failed.
as a Korean, I can confirm that Korean grandmas can be very rude. But not all grandmas. Some are kind and some make your blood boil.
2:31 I love her description. It is so poetic and beautiful. I feel like this is an underrated moment.💖
A moment of silence for the daughter-in-laws and son-in-laws with a mother-in-law like that. R.I.P.
So sad. However the young man and young lady...so lovely.
I was thinking the same... I'm glad I don't have a Korean mother in law... and I've always thought about what I would do if I had the 'traditional' sense of a mother in law and I always worried because I have a temper and I don't think I could just let someone say those kind of things to me.. so i'm kinda so glad I didn't marry a korean guy LOL.. cuz my father in law is so nice and chill..
not that strange in asian culture for the older members to be very closeminded. Ppl have such a romanticized view of asian culture it's so weird.
Edit: basically I’m saying “it’s not just her sadly. A lot more widespread than you think. So prepare to feel sorry for a lot more people. The more you know 🌈 “
@@lila9349 How is being kind and sensitive to others' feelings romanticizing Asian culture or any culture?
@@1marieleathem was talking in general. wasn’t even talking to you. If you get it, you’ll get it. It seems like you don’t, so good for you. You haven’t seen how bad it gets.
I can't believe how a society can be this obsessed about apparence. This young lady is beautiful. It seems things is worse with elder people
it blows my mind cuz it's the uggo ppl that are the judgy ones.. like... do something about yourself man e_e
In Korea people are even more obsessed with appeareance than western countries. Being beautiful in korea can help you get a good job for example, skills are important but so does your look. It is just an example, there are more... there used to be a tv show called "hello counselor" where people would come on the show to talk about their struggles in society. Many of these people struggled to live a normal life because they were overweight or looked different in some way
it’s probably tied with the staggering number of people with untreated mental illnesses and poor mental health services there
@@sunflower_petals Disgusting!!But also they are so close minded in general even in beauty, if you not fit in their standards of beauty, ( small face, certain weight for girls, etc...) you are directly ugly , they see beauty as something uniform for that you only see the same type of actors and acresses on kdramas, like they are clones of each other. They don't accept diversity of any type.
@@Riviere8281 its a sad reality... i will never get over it is normal to call someone a pig even if they are slightly overweight. I am the type of person that really doesnt care about makeup, beauty stuff or clothing. I have my own style and i really like how i look naturally so i really am the opposite of this side of the korean culture
Her vitiligo really is so beautiful, not in a pitying way but genuinely just lovely and striking, i hope she's able to see that for herself one day. it's a shame that she felt that she had to agree with the older woman's comments and feels so down about her looks.
damn, that older man was so sweet, when he said "I hope it's not a sad story" and then that he won't forget her. I wish human interactions were more often wholesome like this.
Was he really? I don't think you got the full meaning. He said "I don't think your are unique. But I for sure won't forget you."
That's an insult.
Of course she is unique. Every person on this planet ist UNIQUE. Nobody is the same, so we are ALL special.
So translated he said "I don't think you are special. But I won't forget you."
So his reasons he won't forget her, might be only because the situation/circumstances they met. On a TV Show. But not because of her or her charakter.
If that isn't insulting, I don't know.
Korea baffles me. Both her and the boy that talked about getting bullied for their looks are absolutely beautiful. She looks ethereal, and he looks like a future idol, they could both easily be models. I seriously don't understand what it is they see that I don't that is worthy of ridicule. It must be so, so scary to live in a society that hates uniqueness if you're born with a non-generic feature. It's like they want everyone to look like clones, and if they don't they are bullied as children, and shunned and looked down on as adults. I can't stress enough how beautiful they both are in my eyes, it truly is crazy to me that they're to feel any different.
The boy said he was teased when he was younger, not now. And she said that she was teased by friends, not strangers. There are many more people who are accepting of others in Korea.
@@jiminswriter4209 Yeah but a lot of Koreans are obsessed with appearance. ☹️
@@sarahalviz979 yeah true but at the same time, not really. Most Korean ppl I know aren't OBSESSED with looks but they love to point out flaws in others... but they don't rly do anything to improve their own uggo asses, so idk i think it's just a culture of pointing out flaws thinking that's a good, helpful gesture when it's not lol................
@@SAIVSS There's a reason why bullying is a huge problem there and the suicide rate is so high, many people (especially young) can't handle this kind of inhuman treatment they get. Most of it is related to either not looking the way they "should" or not acting the way they "should", it's weird out there for sure. Foreigners who go there and understand Korean say it's normal that people would discuss your appearance literally next to you like it's nothing , it's a normal behavior for them :D This is bizarre to say the least.
Yeah!! 😢.. I find koreans Super conservative when it comes to beauty... Like when we see someone different, we look at them as someone amazing and valued them highly fr that cuz they dont blend in with the crowd...if i see someone different, i would get attracted and fall in love😅 immediately and want to be friends with them r8 away...but koreans they r complete opposite.. I am saying it in general, not everyone..... Overall,, they judge people with beauty and that sucks..🙄
I think this girl is gorgeous. I loved the point the man made, saying that this is actually a positive trait because it will make her more memorable. She said she was comforted by that, and it just warmed my heart. She was very classy about receiving the older lady’s opinion, but still made her side known. She seems like such a modest, balanced girl. It’s so sad that she lets her insecurity about this stop her from pursuing her dream of being a flight attendant
The girl has such a calm and comforting aura, I could feel it through the screen ❤️😭
I lived in Korea for over 8 years and love and miss a lot from being there, but how the older woman talked honestly and harshly was a big reason why I left. There is a constant concern about how others see you and your status. Being different is seen as a problem many times. The girl is beautiful and unique and we should help those that are struggling in life instead of beating them down and making their lives harder than it already is. I saw this first hand even starting at a young age at school. This is also the reason for the high amount of plastic surgery. There are many things we could learn in all countries, but I wish Korea could move more towards this accept and helping others that are weak and need help.
Owkey but the girl just has virtiligo, nobody said shes weak 😅
@@distracted5767 You gotta be that guy huh? It's obvious they implied people who are different and don't quite fit the "normal" category
@@distracted5767 I guess what he/she meant is "vulnerable".
@@mariamerigold The comment says "helping others that are weak"
You're pointing out that its a negative aspect of korean culture for people to be overly sensitive to others opinions and suggesting that it should change. But arent you also highly aware of what others think? After all, you left Korea precisely because you were concerned about how others would judge you. Isnt it right?
Work on building your self-confidence man. If you did, what that old lady said shouldnt have affected you in any way.
And also the end, it bothered you because what she said was actually true right?
Successful people appreciate such feedback and strive to improve themselves to become better individuals. On the other hand, losers are easily swayed by others words, just like you, without making any effort to change, resorting instead to "emotionally appealing" tactics.
Lets be honest. significance do the words of that old lady hold? Isnt it true? It was just a fxxing old lady man. Suck it up.
Its truly disheartening to think that you had to leave Korea for such a reason. Do you realize that? You may have simply wanted to leave Korea, but in my case, when I come across emotionally fragile individuals like you on the internet these days, I feel like leaving not just a country, but the entire planet.
I'm glad you brought on an older panelist. Most of these types of videos feature only young people or open minded people, but a lot of Koreans are conservative and closed minded too. You're giving a better expectation of Korean society this way. ♥
Conservative doesn’t necessarily mean closed minded. Just as liberal doesn’t necessarily mean open minded. These days I find young woke liberals far more intolerant of people with different beliefs and ideas and far more likely cancel people for disagreeing.
@@JohnLee-db9zt ironic 🤣🤣Bud the OP said "and" meaning a specific group were conservative and also closed-minded. you need to not take things so seriously.
@JohnLee-db9zt your reading comprehension is lacking
@@JohnLee-db9zt learn how to read
@@JohnLee-db9zt define woke
As a younger person from a very different part of the world, it’s astonishingly difficult to understand where this older lady is coming from…the idea of being that absorbed into thinking about what other people think instead of considering how you could help change things for the better by not being all weird about it yourself…I really can’t wrap my head around it. I’m a parent of three. I simply hope my children are happy in their adult lives and that any relationships they have are with people who build them up and where I can be proud to see them building their partner up too. If I had peers/friends who were judgmental on the basis of something so stupidly superficial, it’s the “friends” who would go from my life. Why be so desperate for approval from others? Are the options for friends really so slim? I just feel sorry for HER.
This beautiful young lady has such an attractive look and manner about her. Just gorgeous. I thank her for sharing her life experience with us.
She reminds me of my grandmother. She's almost 90, lived all her life in rural Finland. The time and place where she's from were harsh. You'd better be "normal", straight and god fearing citizen. So, what ever makes you too different, physical or otherwise, you cover, you don't need the attention and/or the judgement of the neighbours and the community. So I bet she'd liked to cover that girl in makeup if they'd go out to the village together, not because she would think that the girl is not pretty or that she would inferior in anyway, but getting the attention and evil eye from the others would be the end of the world. I don't feel sorry for my grandmother though, she is what she is and I think that in the context of her entire life she didn't miss out on anything by not being particulary progressive in her thinking :)
All that judgement coming from my friends though, now that would be a totally different story.
As a dude with vitiligo (on the back of my neck, into my hair), this lady has my solidarity and support! Vitiligo is awesome, and it's something that affirms your individuality and uniqueness. I know that fitting in is especially important in Korean society, but some of us came into this world to defy societal norms. Sometimes, just sometimes, it's your birthrught to do that. More power to you, lady! :D
"some of us came into this world to defy societal norms" 💯🔥👏 yass, I live for this. There's nothing more interesting than what's unusual. Trying to "fit in" where everyone is the same, is boring
Love this comment! 🤌
The old lady talking about women she sees on wheelchair together with an abled man and saying how she feels bad for the guy’s parents. Like why do we live in this kind of society? As a woman in a wheelchair myself, that pierced me badly. And it just crashed the remaining hope in me. Thank you so much!
Don't mind people like her toxic people are everywhere but people who accept others and love em no matter what are there so just be confident and try not to let this bring you down
@@mayakkari exactly!
Bro trust me it's got nothing to do with you. This old lady is just horribly ugly on the inside and I would hate my son having a wife like her. Wheelchair or not, you're twice the woman this old lady has ever been.
She is a old Korean ahjumma all she cares is to look good so that she can speak and praise her so call perfect daughter in law and grandchildren, just look at her unhappy face we can see how she grows up with full of unhappiness, don’t mind her words not all of old people are like this.
People in wheelchairs often remind me of Christopher Reeves. Kind, brave, honest, the true form of Superman. Please don't let people like her get you down for too long, so many more want to lift you up.
bless the guy who said looks are just temporary and what matter the most is the inside of the person. I wish there were more ppl like him. And if he’s a father, bless his children who were raised with such a open minded person
He has major dad energy, so calming and safe
sure, but at the same time isn't he then conceding that she is ugly on the outside if he's saying that? i think the chick is gorgeous. Sure her discoloration looks odd but its not gross or unattractive. You'd have to be pretty fuckin bland to find that ugly
He basically said she was not good looking with that.
I found it quite tactless.
@@Celisar1you read too far into that one statement, he also literally called her beautiful
와 저 할머니 가족들 진짜 쪽팔리겠다......ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 인성하며...수준하며.....촬영인데도 저렇게 까지 말하는거 보면 정말 남눈치를 못보는 스타일이신듯 ^^
Her condition is just unusual, but that doesn't mean it looks bad. She's incredibly beautiful. It's like how coats of fur can have patterns that aren't symmetrical.
I'm shocked how rude the elderly woman was. I thought the lady looked great with her vitigligo skin. It's brave she shows her difference. It shows pride
I don't think she was really intentionally being "rude" but in her eyes she was being brutally honest, and at least the lady with Vitiligo accepted what she thought really responsibly
@@hehsomeone7071nope. She is obviously being rude. It's not that hard to distinguish what nice and bad things to say to people. She's not a kid for her not to think and choose the right words to say. Brutally honest my ass, this grandma has obviously been tolerated by people around her, because in korea, it's not easy for them to call out people older than you. So they usually just ignore them but bottle up their feelings from the hurtful words they've got (i think one of the very reasons as well why suicide rate of younger generation in korea has been increasing over the time) That grandma is being tolerated to the point where she just don't give a fuck what others will feel about her words anymore, cause she knows that no younger people will call her out since it's always called as disrespect whatever situation it is. She already lives long and has more than enough time to know how you would may hurt people by words. She's just plain rude. Those words are haunting for the girl. I just hope she just have a strong emotional and mental health and never get carried away by those painful words
@@hehsomeone7071Just because something is "honest" doesn't mean it should be said. There's a thing called tact and the elderly woman needs a class in it.
@hehsomeone7071 There's a term for this old lady's "honest opinions": She's ableist. She views people in wheelchairs negatively for the impact their disability has on 'normal' people. Sadly, Korea has some of the worst treatment and lack of accessibility for disabled people in a developed country. This is a woman who's actually bothered by vitiligo and thinking more about her boyfriend's parents and what strangers might think than the human being sitting across from her.
A person can be honest AND prejudiced bigot. She made me feel sick just listening to her small minded opinions. I'm glad everyone else showed more humanity than that.
@@SMiles.21 Koreans have a different culture to Western culture, and because we have something they don't it doesnt mean we have to automatically criticise them about it.
"can't you do plastic surgery?" I love how THAT'S the first thing that comes to her mind. This is singlehandedly telling of how bad the situation is in korea that instead of telling you it's completely fine to be who you are or to not worry about things like appearances so much, they belittle you until you actually BECOME superficial like that yourself. Fucking brutal place to live in
And then see how ps faces age 😮
So freaking true. I love Korea and my friends there, but the more I’m in their culture, the more my rose colored glasses fall off and now I almost detest specific parts of it. I can’t help it, it’s messed up to tell people they’re not good enough unless they meet society’s standards
'i love how' was probably not the right words then lol. i do understand, i obviously can't speak on behalf of Korea but that's a bit harsh don't u think? this video, that elderly woman, does not represent all of Korea. i know many kind korean ppl that are how u described. so please don't belittle korea as 'f-ing brutal place to live in'.
@@daniellepark6890 that was sarcasm 😭 also the last words really was just me not believing the state of modern society and beauty standards in general (with reference to Korea of course). I wasn't trying to label anything.
Korea has a major issue with elitism even among middle class people. They see anything unusual? It has to be fixed or else you're not normal lol
She looks beautiful. I always remember seeing my wife (Chinese) walking during heavy snow falls in Montreal, Canada. the snowflakes were a huge contrast with her dark black hairs. Up to today, it's the most beautiful thing I ever witness. She looks just like this picture of my wife from 30 years ago.. The last tough I will have before I die will be the one of my wife covered with white snowflakes..
The blue shirt guy was so genuine and awesome.
That high school boy is the absolute sweetest and gentle with the words he chose!
And that one girl who described her look as snow on a tree and Princess Snow White! It’s the younger ones that have the most empathy
I was so badly hoping Yumi asks the older woman "Would you think the same if your child had vitiligo? Would you be okay with your child's spouse's parents rejecting them for this?" but she didn't:')
Ahh if only! Also, (although I think this would be going too far) imagine she asked how the lady would react if she herself got vitiligo
@@anisah8546 From the way she spoke about people in wheelchairs I'm wondering how she'll feel if she ever needs one. Korea has terrible disabled accessibility.
Same. I was waiting for Yumi to be just as raw and honest back. I understand why she chose to stay silent.. but apart of me was screaming....
no shit, the young girl isnt going to ask a rude question like that. especially to an older person. its very disrespectful as koreans
K ya obviously...generational respect...but again, this channel is about exposure of ideas and people. Within that framework ALL people who appear on the show are to be exposed. In order for the most basic function of the TH-cam channel to work-ALL people as guests must take hard knowledge and softer knowledge. NOT just the old people giving it to the younger people.
We give older people the figurative microphone and we listen under simple premise- they know more then us. Except when they don't. Except when the older person in question has ZERO first-hand experience in a specific life experience. Such as vitiligo or a wheelchair in young age.
That's why we wanted the young woman to speak and share her experience in a more direct way.
And I hope older people or people who are just more secure in some way understand that that's why many of us are watching this channel.
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As a Vitiligo person myself, I know what she is going through. Gaining that level confidence is really hard to come by. Specially everyone around you become specialist in Vitiligo. I was in depression for 6 years when Dr told me you have to go through surgery to recover. I was scared and left my house to live alone. I even thought about getting tattoos. I used to wear full cloths where people can only see my head to cover all my vitiligo. I started to accept myself recently when I found foreign friends who are not embarrassed being out with me. As that grandma said, people around me are same. It's the truth hard to swallow. Yes, I still get stopped in the middle of road to ask, "what is wrong with you?", and my relatives are "Who's going to marry you?". But you know what, I don't give damn about them now.
To the people who have Vitiligo as me I would say just be yourself. You are unique coz not all vitiligo patterns are same. Be out there and this nothing you should Hide.😍
Hi , Thank you for sharing your story.
she looks like an angel
The guy who said he also gets bullied is SO HANDSOME!! He has such a pretty face- if he gets bullied for his LOOKS, then I have zero hope left for humanity :(
he probably experienced it when he was younger. There are a lot of cases of Koreans putting a lot of effort on having a good body/face after experiencing the bullying when they were young :(
I want his IG so baddddd 😭
As he said, when he was young. Maybe he was fat when young and he tried to change so thats how he became like this nowadays
@@gamlash95 If that is the case, then that’s extremely sad- he’s a beautiful person as well, his friends and the people around him should’ve seen that. He was very respectful and understanding towards her, so I don’t understand why people can’t be kind to kind people :(
@@akio1489 bro no one should get bullied even if they are fat
It appears that the elder lady's perspective is solely on how she would be viewed if she had a daughter-in-law with vitiligo. I wouldn't be surprised if the first thing she thought of was how would her grandchildren look. She couldn't brag to her friends or family members about her perfect, beautiful daughter-in-law and her cute and pretty grandchildren. Her reaction tells us more about her than anything else. It's totally fine for other people to have a daughter-in-law in law like that but not her. Yumi is beautiful.
It was really hard to hear :/ If she wants to feel that way, that's fine, but why can't she try to put that aside and lift up a stranger who's literally never going to be in her family/ be her daughter in law.
@@KristenLB the thing is brutal honest people don't care about people's feelings and don't bother themselves with lifting people up
For example, once I was late to one important event and was really nervous. I made a taxi driver wait for me and when I said to him something like "let's go, I'm late", he answered "you should come out earlier" in unpleasant tone. I just needed little comforting and He, quote, "liked the truth". But in fact he was just a tactless person
Being straightforward is good but sometimes it's better to keep quite
@@KristenLB You say it with the right words😉 As I see and hear her talk in the video, she is a good and nice woman. I would be very happy if she joins the family and when not she still is a beautiful woman. Unfortunately it is still difficult for many people to accept someone's looking😩
in korean she kept saying disease instead of vitiligo... so rude
This is true. My sister broke up with her Korean ex because his mother wanted a perfect and pretty Korean daughter in law. She even told my sister she can't stomach having half-Filipino grandkids and them having dark skin because "Filipinos aren't beautiful people". The son never defended my sister and begged her to tolerate it because it was normal in Korea. I'm glad she dumped him.
The old lady is very confident that her son will be healthy until he dies. His own son may also be disabled. Anything can happen to us in life.
She's gorgeous I can't stop gazing into her eyes. Her face just glows when she smiles, and that laughter.. 😍
when she said "the people who were hurt don't usually forget" i felt that , loved this video , this girl is actually so pretty with or without vitiligo
She has a gentle nature and great disposition for sure.
Im Korean and I have vitiligo in exactly the same place as this girl. I also got it when I was 16. Imagine being 16 and your face changes. I already had self esteem issues and the vitiligo made it worse. My korean family tried to "fix" it with drs, creams, makeup etc and all of that didnt help, it actually made it worse. Now after dealing with all the crap that comes with it for so long I have learned to accept it and then eventually embrace it. Im not sure if im just not noticing it as much now but I dont come across as many people who give me weird looks. I like to think its because they notice my confidence and/or personality first 😊 I hope everyone else with vitiligo knows that your not alone and youre so much more than what you look like ❤
You are perfectly fine the way you are. Wish you only the best in life. 🌼
@@seraphinerose thank you!
@@leeceefromvegas Glad you have this mindset. Keep the positive attitude :)
@@DoctorStrange01 thanks! and I will 😁 (btw I like your movies)
Though I haven't seen you I'm sure you are pretty.
I think she is absolutely stunning! It doesn’t take anything away from her face, it only adds to her beauty! It did make me sad to hear the older woman focus more about genetics and what other people would say but it’s not entirely her fault. She was born and raised during a time where image and what other people think mattered greatly and could ruin family reputations.
I know they're all saying it but I think it's SO PRETTY she could easily be a model. Very ethereal
As a Korean myself, I am also perplexed at how judgmental Koreans can be especially when it comes to appearance. But at the same time, I understand where it comes from, we’ve formed a culture of normalizing shame as if shaming someone is almost in a way a positive corrective action for people to “improve” on themselves. And since the outer appearance is the first and easiest thing to judge someone for, a lot of Koreans are obsessed with wanting to look beautiful so they won’t be shamed for how they appear, no matter how beautiful their soul is. It’s as if their physical beauty equates to the beauty of their soul for them. They ironically don’t see judgment as a bad thing when they themselves judge others, but don’t want to be judged themselves so they cover up anything that may be seen as a flaw. I believe the elder lady didn’t mean to say what she said to hurt the girl, I think she was just brutally honest with how she feels about how it would bring shame to not only to the girl but anyone she’s involved with. Shame culture is deeply rooted in Korea, because sadly they don’t see it as a bad thing. I hope my people learn the negative effects of judgment and shame and that it’s not okay to freely do that whenever we may please and instead become more open-minded and not judge others so quickly.
Well said Andrew
Shaming is fine its the way people corrected themselves since dawn of time. The other way is punishment.
@@AndytlpNo. Shaming is an ignorant tool used when someone isn’t similar to us. That’s not how we’re going to be able to live as a society in the future.
Well said! Koreans have it rough. It seems to be the tool used most by asian parenting. Shaming is primitive, does the opposite to motivate someone to change and that only satisfies the emotions of the person shaming.
“I’m doing this to you for your own good.” No you’re not, it is only to feed your own ego and wants.
No-one on thus earth should be judging anyone no ones perfect idc who you are plus I feel when you judge someone it only makes you less than a person 🤷♂️
She would make a great flight attendend, as she has a calming presence, is well spoken and treats people with respect. You go, girl! 🙏
Sadly she won’t pass the Korean flight attendant interview standards.
I think this young lady is more than capable of being the flight attendant that she wants to be. I hope she pursues it and dont let a little difference in pigmentation stop her.
She's beautiful! The skin pigmentation is minimal as someone else mentioned. The change in her hair color looks so cool ! I have vitiligo too and its spreading very fast (especially on my face) and even the hair on my face is staring to change very slowly. I know it must be hard for her at times with the change in her pigment, but she is absoulutely beautiful. I used to cry at the sight of my skin changing, but I'm ok with it now.
The elderly lady is harsh but she is the most accurate representation of a Korean I’ve seen on this show. Speak to anybody that looks a little different that had stayed in Korea long term. Life is harder because its less acceptable to be different . Korea is wonderful to visit, the people are kind and polite, but it’s not USA, society is more conservative
The elder lady was so awful that my blood boiled a bit. I realise that Korean beauty standards are strict and she was honest, but she expressed her thoughts in a very blunt way, which was really unnecessary. Courtesy costs nothing. The girl is truly beautiful. Her “flaw” makes her uniquely beautiful. Not just beautiful.
That's Korean boomers for ya
God! She is beautiful and her skin is so light that I can barely see her „spot” only brows and lashes are white as snow and this is pretty cool 🫶
Agree. Many people claim it's a cultural difference, and I can understand how she's completely free to express her own opinion...but I think the wheelchair comment DEFINITELY set me off. People often cannot control their circumstances, but that does not mean they don't deserve love, respect, and happiness.
lmao i know im 6 months late but this is very typical for elderly people in korea.. to be honest ive never disliked an eldery population more. They are treated with the utmost respect and are kinda assholes in every way they can be.
Many people around the world would have the same response as the elderly lady. It doesn’t mean its only about “korean beauty standards”.
Something I've noticed is that a lot of people looking at strangers who have unique conditions are not always looking at them from a place of judgement or malice, but from a place of curiosity. I haven't seen anyone with vitiligo in real life, so if I did see someone it would be hard not to look, but that's not because I find it wrong in any way, it's just new to me. But how it feels to be the person being looked at is different, you don't know the thoughts in their heads, and having experienced judgement from others in the past, suddenly you fear that everyone looking at you is judging you and the world can feel very harsh.
4:10 The man was really nice. If I was her and someone said that to mr, I think I'd cry on the spot
AWWW THE ABSOLUTE PROOF THAT AGE DOES NOT ALWAYS MEAN WISDOM!!! I would have been like, " I wouldn't want to be your daughter in law with that type of judgy attitude." Also, can we talk about how beautiful and unique she is. She is gorgeous, and I hope she learns to own it.
You could also say the lady was being honest.... This girl will be forced to think about the disappointments she WILL face in her life and this prepares her for that.... The older lady is wise and knows what this girl will face...getting though to deal with it is what it is about....
@@ruppert5134I don't think the Lady was even honest. The others we're just dishonest and acting for the camera and the people who see them.
And the old lady was just her own natural self.
And yes. Beeing honest is good in my opinion. Even If it hurts sometimes. But you also have TO KNOW when better not to say.
For example, If someone has already depression, or feels insecure about something, you have to cheer them up and encourage them in the right ways, rather then putting them down even more with unnessessary comments.
Cause those people already feel bad about the situation they are in.
Only If those honest advices will improve their situation, then it's acceptable beeing harsh.
Also: cheering someone up, doesn't mean telling someone to "Cheer Up!"
Better: giving them positive vibes and transfer your happiness right to them with your voice and body demeanor alone, and by distracting them from their thoughs by talking and doing stuff they like.
But also accept If they aren't in the mood for it and say "no" to your suggestions. Cause their feelings, like your own, are always valid and have to be respected.
@@ruppert5134Exactly. Wisdom is not about being nice. Wisdom can be about being realistic. Apparently most people have not reached that level of maturity to comprehend this in humanity I feel.
@@jasminschmalzl9734You are wrong. Being "nice" to someone is making them weak by not "growing up". These people will not learn to strengthen their mindset that it's not about others perspective but about their own self-worth issues.
She might feel emotionally affected by it but it is a lesson for her to strengthen her mind. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
The old woman was very foolish. She thinks her opinion will be shared by everyone. Everyone has their own opinions and it it won't be the same as others.
I feel really bad for this girl that elder woman was being so rude, i could feel the girl's emotions from the screen:(
Yes, that saddens me too. When you're that age one expects she's seen a lot in life and knows what hurt can another.
But at least, she's being honest with what she thinks. Isn't that what the purpose of the video is, as well?
what she says about people in wheelchairs is even worse...😭
@@ToonMageChannel Being honest is good but sometimes is better to just not say anything if it's not good especially when she said about people on wheelchairs it's not like they can control what is going on with their body.
@@cloudsefi_drawing Ikrrr
I find people with unique characteristics so beautiful.
She is just so beautiful and so kind and heartwarming, natural beauty and uniquely beautiful.
The elderly panelist is a very good representation of how I was looked at by my ex's family. It's a long story, but to shorten it down: I had already received criticism from a handful of older persons when we lived in Mapo for being a white guy with a beautiful Korean woman. None of them knew I was fluent in Korean as I spent most of my youth growing up in Korea, so it was hurtful to hear some comments that my ex had to endure (She knew I spoke Korean fluently, but told me to never get involved with bigots and to let things like that go). When it came time for me to be introduced to her parents they both loved me and even looked past the massive amount of tattoos I have (two full sleeves) because of how successful I was (I like to think, also in addition to my ex's dad being a very progressive guy).
On my second time meeting them they asked me about my family and heritage and when I told them I was half white and half Asian they became intrigued, wondering if my other side was Korean because of my fluency and mannerisms. I had been reluctant at first to tell them because my other half was Japanese, but a thought had occurred to me that if they accepted me for my tattoos then they couldn't be that old school. I told them about my family history and I could see my ex's mom shut down and then in turn my ex's father because of how bothered the mom was by it. I was unable to marry my soulmate because of old ideologies that are still present in a good portion of the population and the way her parents influenced her to break things off with me. I was left with a final comment from the mother: "I could tell something was off about you from the moment we met and I wondered if it was just me or if you were hiding something important from a parent. You would have made a good son-in-law and father to my grandchildren if it you were born differently."
wow, that's awful, I'm sorry you experienced that 😕 but don't worry, there's more than one soulmate out there! & she wasn't the one if she let her racist parents ruin your relationship.
wow how highly they look to themselves such a shame.
It's unbelievable how strong Korean animosity towards the Japanese is even today. About 10 years back my family hosted two Korean Methodist ministers visiting the USA. They were looking through our calendar and asking what the different holidays were. One of them was V-J Day (of course, celebrating America's victory over Japan in WW2). They were overjoyed when they found out what that meant and were basically like "That's great! We hate Japanese people too!" I couldn't believe Christian ministers could harbor such prejudice. I hope one day Korea can let go of the past and move on from this.
@@Trip_Fontaine fortunately MANY Koreans don’t have animosity toward Japanese, but I have to wonder that the ones who do, why they paint them all with a brush? Do they not realize that it’s the old Japanese GOVERNMENT, NOT the regular Japanese citizens who are to blame? By the way, did you tell those people that Americans actually don’t hate Japanese at all? I hope you did. I also hope you told them it’s wrong to blame the people when it was their government who did wrong.
I’ve never understood why some Koreans treat Japanese people that way, when it’s the GOVERNMENT who did wrong, not the regular citizens who had nothing to do with past atrocities.
the old woman literally said that she judges at people in wheelchairs what the fuck??? so rude. if anything someone in a relationship with her son should feel sorry for themselves having to deal with that.
thats a typical korean elders...so judgemental and rude
Yes, when in fact ANYONE can end up in a wheelchair at ANY POINT in their life. This halmoni included.
It's crazy cus she doesn't look far away from being in a wheelchair herself 💀💀
Live in Korea and you'd realize she's dime in a dozen.
My korean boyfriend's grandparents had a very difficult time accepting that he fell in love with me because i am a foreigner. In Korea the older son takes over and becomes the head of the enalarged family and they couldnt accept the future head of the family would have mixed genes
I think the older lady's reaction is not surprising given that in Korea the social norm is to fit in and not stand out. It's very sad though, that she could not see past her difference, and thought it was ok to tell her "yes, I would hate you." :'( I hope this girl finds better friends. The other people were very sweet. The description of looking like trees with fallen snow almost made me tear up!
The older woman 😂😂😂… SOO MEAAN… I would be embarrassed hard if that was my grandma!!!….
This girl is impressive. Most people that are public about their insecurities have already overcome them and find them as a way of self expression. You can tell this time though that the hurting and the insecurities she faces are still fresh but she is brave enough to take criticism and compliments alike. She is beautiful and is beginning to realize it!
I can appreciate the older ladies honesty because it’s a more accurate representation of how she is treated and viewed by a large portion of society. It’s upsetting but the reality, so let’s send Yumi compassion and celebrate her beauty, it’s everyone’s uniqueness that makes society beautiful.
but that doesnt justify her being harshly rude on camera to millions of ppl to see, if shes truly been through sht and knows the pain she wouldnt have made that poor girl hurt even more; i hate her and ppl like her
@@Eviekaii yup, people let her get away with her rude comments because she’s "honest", I also hate people like her, she’s just being disrespectful
@@Eviekaii i guess that's just the way the older generation were raised and so they've never really seen anything like this, whereas we see the guy in the uniform is more accepting and understanding of it, probably because the younger generation now is more accepting and so they have a different perspective on it
AND she associates the husband cheating with her niece hiding her legs from the in-laws?!?
@@Eviekaii she doesnt do it for the camera. She is being herself and this is good for the world to see from her view.
Yumi should not give up on her dream of becoming a flight attendant!! I bet there are countries where people would be happy to welcome such a kind and elegant young Lady! I hope someday she will follow her dream and maybe move into another country to fulfill it!
"You remind me of princess snow white" that is so cute
That elderly lady was cold as ice! Shes a very pretty girl and here in the USA her vitiligo would make her stand out as uniquely beautiful and attractive.
She is literally one of the prettiest women I have ever seen. Periodt.
Such a beautiful woman. A human that doesn't meet adversity develop no character
The young boy was HANDSOME😍 He was so nice!!!!
I'd be more concerned if my childs partner had a parent like the elderly lady in this video than my child having a partner with vitiligo. She's so harsh and judgemental about something that is only superficial. Let's not even begin to mention how she views people with actual disabilities, disgraceful.
Well, we have to understand she was raised liked that as a generation that is now more open minded
@@aispryn Being raised like that does not absolve her of any responsibility over her own views and actions.
Preach!!
@@aispryn I was raised a certain way, too and I fell far from the tree with my beliefs and core values. Once I was old enough to start understanding that I am my own person and can have my own thoughts and opinions and not just emulate my parents, well...that's just what I did. So, for me at least, saying that's just her generation is, although I get it, is a cop out. This is her belief system. It's all hers. As she was growing up and experiencing life and the world and other viewpoints she could develop more of her own opinions. If things resonated with her, it was OK to change but this thought that she said to this young lady is all on her. Cultural and generational are excuses even though I understand how it can happen. Maybe she was never around opposing views. Anyhow, it made me sad and it made me sadder, still, that her bluntness was being excused as "generational". I'm an old lady, too. I'm 62 and I couldn't imagine saying these things.
@@1marieleathem very well said. 👏
I feel like in my country (France) and probably other places in europe people wouldn't really pay attention or act differently around someone with small physical differences like this disease. I have a friend who has Vitiligo and sometimes people ask what it is but mostly he's just treated like anybody else, and he even says it makes him kinda unique. I've never been to korea but I'm surprised this deserved a "reaction" video. I hope she blooms to love herself the way she is and have friends that respect her
Ca dépend, je fais 1M50 (même pas atteinte de nanisme ou quoi) et parfois on me regarde comme une bête de foire ou on me dit "t'es petite quand même" "combien tu mesure" comme si c'était la première chose qu'on demande à quelqu'un...Alors bon..tu sais les idiot sont partout ^^"
@@ElfenMisa Ah oui, pour le coup la taille ça fait quelque chose de bizarre dans l'esprit des gens, mon ex fait 1m49 et elle me disait la même chose, mais pour le coup je pense qu'ils sont surtout maladroits à part quelques cons qui vont te parler comme si t'étais une gosse
Par contre étonnamment ça dérange pas les très grands qu'on leur demande quelle taille ils font 🤔
That's what I saw thinking. Like doing a mole reveal lol
It looks great in my opinion ❤ shines trough her strong own personality, and I love to see that. There isn't even really anything "wrong" with her, she just looks different. Unfortunately lots of people have trouble with that.
She is the princess from the moon, she is so beautiful.
I hope Yumi and the highscooler realize how beautiful they are and learn to love and embrace themselves. They seem like sweet genuine people. I hope they also stop letting people walk all over them and stand up for themselves as well as get better friends. Nobody should be allowed to insult them, especially their friends, good friends would not insult you and make you feel bad about yourself.
So true! There isn't even ONE reason to insult her. Cause she really is beautifull. And I mean not in her uniqueness (which she is too), but her outer apperances. On beauty standards alone she is really prettier than most people.
So the only reason people would make such rude comments, especially her so called "friends", would be because they are jealous as fuck about it and NEEDED to find something ugly about her.
I also did that with someone, so I can tell.
I am Italian and I also have vitiligo, but honestly I have never had any problems. In summer I go to the beach and no one has ever said anything to me and no one ever gives me strange looks. I am happy to live in a society that does not pay so much attention to my condition. A child also told me once that I have beautiful hands, full of colours haha ❤
I am so sorry to hear that some people with vitiligo suffer from low self-esteem or do not see themselves as beautiful. In my opinion, it is unique. Just put on some strong sunscreen and you're fine!
I'm also Italian and very, very pale. I get many strange looks, and strangers speak behind my back, "guarda quant'è bianca !!", things like that. But my friends call me "mozzarella di bufala" and that's ok hahaha.
I was shocked when she said that job is for beautiful people 😅 like.. come fly over Italy and you'll see 😂
I'm also Italian with vitiligo, but I live in Sweden and it's normal to be this white. But when I visit my family in Italy I get comments that I'm too white, need to get some sun, that I'm a ghost lol. No matter how many times I explain that I have vitiligo they just don't get it and say I just need more sun xD
Korea has a culture of an extreme pressure to conform to the norm in every single way. anything that does not conform to the norm is looked down upon and shunned by the part of society that is more conservative. there is a part of society that isnt like this but at least half is.
@@clem.arisyst Mozzarella is kinda cute as a nickname
The ajumma does not deserve someone like Yumi as her daughter-in-law...Yumi is beautiful, both inside and out. She is so respectful, graceful, mature, sincere...and choosing not to cover the vitiligo with makeup shows how brave, strong, and authentic she is.
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder," and in my eyes, you're beautiful.
That elderly woman.... I have no words.
It’s mainly due to how the elderly women have been raised. That generation is very closed minded. Not saying for everyone but generally speaking.
@izzy sparks yes that's the case with the elderly people I general even the girl is healthy they will care about her age , her family, etc they judge everything not only I. Korea
@@Kookiepookie2025 she literally told "i would feel bad for her parents" like not even for the person on the fkin wheelchair who most probably suffers everyday both phisically and mentally (unless the legs are completely numb, but still there's the grief knowing you'll never stand and walk again you know). like tell me you never used your brain and that's the only thing ever you said that will make sense in you life mannaggiallabibbia.
not to mention the surgery and stuff, why would I go under therapy and stuff for a literal aestethic purpose
it's not like the clearer spot hurts or needs to be cured so you can easily spare yourself from the stress of a surgery
She really is like a Snow White and I’m glad she embraces the real her instead of covering it up. It’s inspiring. ❤
this is so flipping amazing, it's something you can brag about and it's so pretty
Wow, the girl with vitiligo is so gracious and patient with all the questions and such, I hope that she is surrounded in life by big hearted people who see her real beauty
Wow, the elderly can be as vicious as children.
The only thing that matters is that she's found how to accept and love herself.
I am happy that her boyfriend likes her for who she is.
As a parent what you think means absolutely nothing to your kid and who they date. I look at people like the elderly woman who say such harsh things and feel sorry for her kids having such a harsh mother.
I agree with you.
Basically there is this mindset of parents that treat the children like investment for future. They want to brag about every single detail of their children to everyone. I personally am experiencing this even now and can't really say anything because the parents take out the parent card and since I still can't earn my keep gotta tolerate as much as possible. It is what it is. In Asia parenting in general is really weird tbh.
@@AliveSpark Same with Conservative African parents too they always want to dictate who their children marry whether appearance,money or race its annoying especially for me as well like its not your relationship its your child's its their choice you have to accept it
The narcissistic mindset
dude it's this kind of "mothers" that care so much about what kind of people their sons are dating... their sons are fkn nightmares LOL... like they don't know how to do ANYTHING and if you try to marry them they think you're trying to steal their son away from them and they will make your life a fkn hell. If you're going out with a Korean boy, always meet their mothers and run the fk away if you meet people like that grandma cuz you are not marrying that guy. you're marrying HER.
진짜 이쁘다. 특히 하얀 속눈썹은 너무 신비롭고 아름답다. 정말 눈꽃처럼 아름다워
저 할머니는 너무 무례했다.
저 할머니의 아들과 며느리가 불쌍하다
My son has vitiligo and it affects the back of his leg and his forehead one side, he has a streak of white through one eyebrow and the front of his hair. He looks fabulous. Im so proud of him 😊
I'm pale and have vitiligo! Its starting move along my face and chest so it's more noticeable when im not wearing make up. My eyelashes are white at the bottom of my right eye. She's so uniquely beautiful 😍 I hope to gain more confidence and not wear so much make up & long sleeves.
You are really beautiful❤
you're beautiful just the way you are
Go out one day with out makeup. People will only look for a minute. If it’s longer so what. Try it most people don’t ask what you have the are to scare to say something.
The girl who said it looks like snowflakes fall on her eyelashes, thats a beautiful words to say. Everyone who suffered any unique genetics, i hope you know that you are beautiful in ur own way. Just lets say you all look unique rather than different from others! xoxo
She's so beautiful! My partner is Korean and I've found it's really common with the older generations that they want their children to marry what they perceive as normal and healthy so not to pass on genetic issues (No, I'm not condoning it). To draw attention is frowned upon. It's sad the older lady thought that and said what she did. You could see it hurt. As someone with poliosis that effects my hair and a few patches on my body, it can really hurt when people feel the need to say you shouldn't be with people or shouldn't have children.
She is gorgeous and I hope she comes to realise that you can never please everyone. Her 'flaw' makes her magical.
she is beautiful and gentle
yumi is so beautiful! seriously her physical beauty is amazing but her personality after being through everything and still smiling so beautifully is inspiring :D
1:56 The silence afterwards 😭😭
That old lady has a classic case of "everyone's always thinking about me"
People talking shit about the grandma. I respect her honesty. It might not align with what my opinion but at the least she is honest what she thinks. Do people just expect her to lie about her opinion so that sensitive people wouldn't get upset?
she's so strong omg if i'm in her position with someone saying something that rude and forward i definitely would cry. keep fighting girl!
i almost wish she would have cuz then maybe that lady would have thought twice about her shame culture
I would not be able to hold back my anger to slap the sh*t out of that blue grandma 😅
@@ariwoodwardshe wouldnt
I’m 27 now and I got this condition last year suddenly after laser hair removal. I have it on my elbows and thighs. Honestly when I got it and learned that there is no cure for that, I just said “whatever” and moved on with my life.
I think it’s really unique and I actually quite like it, seeing this girl’s spots made me think that she is even more beautiful.
As for the dating life, I have a boyfriend and nothing changed since I got it. He said that as long as it doesn’t affect my health, it doesn’t matter if I have it or not. I haven’t met his parents but I think that this condition is none of their business.
LOUDERRR
댓글을 보실지는 모르겠지만 정말 빈말이 아니고 너무 너무 예뻐요. 백반증이 본인의 특색이고 아름다움이고 누군가는 가지고싶어도 못가지는걸요! 꼭 원하시는 승무원 도전하셨으면 좋겠어요. 승무원이라는 직업을 수행 하는데에 백반증이 제약이 될 이유가 없어요. 그리고 저 할머니 얘기는 한귀로 듣고 한귀로 흘리셨으면 좋겠어요. 듣고 너무 황당했어요. 저렇게 생각하는 사람은 소수이고 이전세대 사람들이에요. 저들의 세상에 갇혀서 살다가 떠나갈거고, 곁에 둘 필요 없는 사람들이에요... 어쩌면 그래서 오히려 주변에 좋은사람들 올바른 생각을 가진 사람들이 더 모이실지도요!! 상처받으셨다고 하셨는데 마음깊이 두지않았으면 좋겠어요. 당황하셨을텐데 말씀도 조곤조곤 잘 하시고, 차분히 대처하시는 모습이 마음이 단단하다고 생각했어요. 그리고 다시한번 말하지만 진심으로 지금 이 모습이 너무나도 예쁘세요!❤
The old woman was not being awful, she's just straightforward and you need these kind of people. It's not because you don't like it that it's bad. She actually gave something important to consider for anyone, vitiligo or not... If anything, it's you guys who are being petty and closeminded.
나는 저 할머니처럼 늙지 말아야지 하는 교훈을 얻었습니다.
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my mom has vitiligo on her neck and i remember when i was very little she always tried finding a way to stop it from spreading or getting rid of it completely. it made me sad that it was an insecurity of hers. i’m the type of person who gets easily fascinated by people’s unique looks and quirks, and i think my mom’s vitiligo makes her so cool and beautiful.