This was so helpful. We almost gave up (even though she had been doing so good inside!!) but realized going outside was killing us and we need to stay inside another day or two. Thank you!!!
I'm desperate! We are unfortunately trying to have a good handle on potty training before summer camp in a few days to set him up for starting school at the same center in a month. If he doesn't get a handle on this, I think he will miss an opportunity to start school early and not be put behind by a year. He does well with no clothes and pees after shouting I have to pee. After 2 days, we went to an event and he let me know twice that he had to pee. Now in block 2 he is wearing shorts and has peed 4 times today. We have been in commando for about 6 days off and on due to summer travel. I am not sure how to help with the transition from naked to wearing shorts (no diaper). I have explained it to him several times that he doesn't have a diaper on and should let me know or just go. He also has yet to poop outside of a diaper. Where should I focus in?
I don't have quite enough information to go on here, such as age just for one example, but a few things did stand out to me here. First, I don't understand why you're saying he has an opportunity to start school "early" and if he doesn't then he'll be "put behind by a year". Are we talking about a 2yo who will be starting a preschool-style daycare this August? I don't understand how that translates to being put "behind" by a year if he's not able to start preschool in August. Preschool is normally for 4/5 year olds. Second, it SOUNDS as if you're going back and forth between commando and a diaper. That's why you're having accidents. You need to ditch all daytime diapers completely. Third, you said "yet to poop outside of a diaper". Do you mean a nap/night diaper, or do you mean he's choosing to poop whenever you have a diaper on for whatever reason? Again, ditch all diapers in daytime. Consider also doing nap/night training so that you can tell whether he's intentionally waiting for the sleep-diaper, or if he's just relaxing and pooping while asleep. If he continues to poop in other places aside from the potty, you'll need to get the Pooping Solutions course. My OVERALL impression from what you've said is that it sounds like you're putting too much pressure on the process (summer camp starts in a few days, and you haven't put a pause on summer travel long enough to prioritize *nailing* potty training). So that would be my advice. Cancel all plans between now and summer camp, and if kiddo doesn't have it nailed by then (I assume kids must be potty trained to go to this summer camp), then I would skip the summer camp and get potty training solid before preschool starts.
@@ohcrapwithjamie Thank you so much for your reply! He is 2 years and 7months. I did spend the last 3 days just in the house doing nothing and watching him. We went commando and then towards the end with underwear and shorts. I have been stuck between him initiating and going to the potty with nothing on and him being in shorts and watching the pee come down. I now know his pee dance and if I ask him he says he doesn't have to go majority of the time. If I stick to my guns and take him in, he pees right away or sits or squirms and says I don't have to go and hops up. If I don't take him in, he has been peeing and watching it come out of his shorts then kind of freezing and maybe letting me know. I feel like it must be over prompting since he usually fights about going to the potty but I don't know where to stand here. The school opportunity would follow the two weeks of camp. Since his birthday is in November, he would start next year at most locations until he is 3. Here I feel he has a chance of staying ahead because they are allowing him to start this year in August. I have stopped diapers in the daytime and we have gone on trips out of the house with underwear, shorts, and a towel in the carseat. He has done pretty well unless he falls asleep and I sit him on the travel toilet in the car when we arrive at our stop or get ready to head out. Today he said he had to use the bathroom when we arrived to an event. Two other times I let him know we would use the bathroom when we got to our location and he peed. However, at a friends house he pooped and peed while standing. I think it was a better day but he didn't have much to drink as he would if we were home. He pooped in underwear the last 3 days. He hasn't pooped when in commando. One time he had a little and I sat him on the potty to finish which he did. He does not poop in his sleep. If he gets put out of summer camp, we will go back to solidifying at home to get ready for August. They have encouraged me to bring him to see how he does tomorrow.
@@mesiwalton1678 your description of what is going on is a bit disjointed so I'm still struggling to piece everything together. That said, I do have some feedback. - Ditch the underwear, he's not ready for those. Some kids stay Commando for MONTHS. There's no rush. - Stop ASKING if he needs to pee or poop - observe signals and patterns, and when you know he needs to go potty, TELL him it's time to go potty, and take him there. - Be aware that *consistent* self-initiation takes a minimum of 3-6 weeks. - Pooping in the pants cannot be allowed to continue, he's treating those like a diaper. Take the Pooping Solutions course. www.jamieglowacki.com/poopingsolutions - If camp doesn't go well, and solidifying at home doesn't improve things, consider a consult. The back and forth Q&A will be very helpful. www.jamieglowacki.com/certifiedconsultants
This was so helpful. We almost gave up (even though she had been doing so good inside!!) but realized going outside was killing us and we need to stay inside another day or two. Thank you!!!
I'm so glad that helped!!
I'm desperate! We are unfortunately trying to have a good handle on potty training before summer camp in a few days to set him up for starting school at the same center in a month. If he doesn't get a handle on this, I think he will miss an opportunity to start school early and not be put behind by a year. He does well with no clothes and pees after shouting I have to pee. After 2 days, we went to an event and he let me know twice that he had to pee. Now in block 2 he is wearing shorts and has peed 4 times today. We have been in commando for about 6 days off and on due to summer travel. I am not sure how to help with the transition from naked to wearing shorts (no diaper). I have explained it to him several times that he doesn't have a diaper on and should let me know or just go. He also has yet to poop outside of a diaper. Where should I focus in?
I don't have quite enough information to go on here, such as age just for one example, but a few things did stand out to me here.
First, I don't understand why you're saying he has an opportunity to start school "early" and if he doesn't then he'll be "put behind by a year". Are we talking about a 2yo who will be starting a preschool-style daycare this August? I don't understand how that translates to being put "behind" by a year if he's not able to start preschool in August. Preschool is normally for 4/5 year olds.
Second, it SOUNDS as if you're going back and forth between commando and a diaper. That's why you're having accidents. You need to ditch all daytime diapers completely.
Third, you said "yet to poop outside of a diaper". Do you mean a nap/night diaper, or do you mean he's choosing to poop whenever you have a diaper on for whatever reason? Again, ditch all diapers in daytime. Consider also doing nap/night training so that you can tell whether he's intentionally waiting for the sleep-diaper, or if he's just relaxing and pooping while asleep. If he continues to poop in other places aside from the potty, you'll need to get the Pooping Solutions course.
My OVERALL impression from what you've said is that it sounds like you're putting too much pressure on the process (summer camp starts in a few days, and you haven't put a pause on summer travel long enough to prioritize *nailing* potty training). So that would be my advice. Cancel all plans between now and summer camp, and if kiddo doesn't have it nailed by then (I assume kids must be potty trained to go to this summer camp), then I would skip the summer camp and get potty training solid before preschool starts.
@@ohcrapwithjamie Thank you so much for your reply! He is 2 years and 7months. I did spend the last 3 days just in the house doing nothing and watching him. We went commando and then towards the end with underwear and shorts.
I have been stuck between him initiating and going to the potty with nothing on and him being in shorts and watching the pee come down. I now know his pee dance and if I ask him he says he doesn't have to go majority of the time. If I stick to my guns and take him in, he pees right away or sits or squirms and says I don't have to go and hops up. If I don't take him in, he has been peeing and watching it come out of his shorts then kind of freezing and maybe letting me know. I feel like it must be over prompting since he usually fights about going to the potty but I don't know where to stand here.
The school opportunity would follow the two weeks of camp. Since his birthday is in November, he would start next year at most locations until he is 3. Here I feel he has a chance of staying ahead because they are allowing him to start this year in August.
I have stopped diapers in the daytime and we have gone on trips out of the house with underwear, shorts, and a towel in the carseat. He has done pretty well unless he falls asleep and I sit him on the travel toilet in the car when we arrive at our stop or get ready to head out. Today he said he had to use the bathroom when we arrived to an event. Two other times I let him know we would use the bathroom when we got to our location and he peed. However, at a friends house he pooped and peed while standing. I think it was a better day but he didn't have much to drink as he would if we were home.
He pooped in underwear the last 3 days. He hasn't pooped when in commando. One time he had a little and I sat him on the potty to finish which he did. He does not poop in his sleep.
If he gets put out of summer camp, we will go back to solidifying at home to get ready for August. They have encouraged me to bring him to see how he does tomorrow.
@@mesiwalton1678 your description of what is going on is a bit disjointed so I'm still struggling to piece everything together. That said, I do have some feedback.
- Ditch the underwear, he's not ready for those. Some kids stay Commando for MONTHS. There's no rush.
- Stop ASKING if he needs to pee or poop - observe signals and patterns, and when you know he needs to go potty, TELL him it's time to go potty, and take him there.
- Be aware that *consistent* self-initiation takes a minimum of 3-6 weeks.
- Pooping in the pants cannot be allowed to continue, he's treating those like a diaper. Take the Pooping Solutions course. www.jamieglowacki.com/poopingsolutions
- If camp doesn't go well, and solidifying at home doesn't improve things, consider a consult. The back and forth Q&A will be very helpful. www.jamieglowacki.com/certifiedconsultants