Stop, drop and ignore. Your silence is loud 🙂. Whether they come back or not, you 'win'. If they don't come back, you've maintained your dignity and self-respect 💪🏆
They didn't care about what you thought when they left you. Now they want to hear from you. They can't have it both ways. Save your words for someone who wants to build something with you.
If you don’t have children with this person, guys seriously just move on.. count your blessings and move on! You don’t know how lucky you are not to have to see them weekly & that they can actually miss you.
My ex unblocked me three days ago and its still up and i can see it now but three months ago i fully committed myself to go ghost and i went off the grid on the internet. No posting no sharing what im doing. Just working and self improving in silence. So she unblocked me but I ain't reaching out but ill let my silence speak for itself
Christine is right, once you’ve been dumped - chances are when they come back you will get dumped again. Very rarely does it work out a second or third time around. Good luck! Stay strong. The only way is through it!
Depends what you're dealing with,but you really gotta put hard line boundaries and you need to tell her in her face from eye to eye. The moment she goes passing your boundaries, it's the moment you'll cut her out of your life. Also,she better not be using you as REBOUND because many of these women are secretive and we're involved with someone else like in a "situationship". They'll miss you,but 4-6 months down the line she'll be missing a Chad or Pookie or another EX- BF that she hasn't mentioned to you. Any funny businesses and she's OUT!!
I am just starting this process also, let's actually see is she reaches back out again. All going well and boom, let's pull back. I am certain there is another in the background. Thanks for the video
Loved this video! Very down to earth. Been one month since we broke up. and staying in contact is emotional draining and indeed devalues my self worth. thanks for this. My priorities shifted you're more than a relationship. it hurts but regain focus on yourself since you walk away.
im learning to be so busy with other things im not focused on trying to be silent its happening naturally due to the fact im busy. also i came off all social media so am not as available and cant be looked up. i wouldnt want any of my exs back in the same way i wouldnt want any of my toys back from when younger. im done with them the are old and used up and i can get shiny new things to play with.
I wrnt silent to let her work through her anger and malice, so she would feel satisfied about dumping me. I was afraid of what her reaction would be if I was the one to dump her.
It was a eureka moment when I stood up and said goodbye. She thought that I was saying "Goodbye".....HA Ha....I have never looked back in the last ten months!!!!
Regardless is works remember the art of detachment they’ll come back there was once that attraction it can come back. Walking away reminds u of who u where and who I can become without them attracting af ❤
It's a wonderful great point of truth but so easier said than done. Yes if dumped the ultimate checkmate move would be silence no response complete stoic indifference but Lord is it ever easier said than done. Great video
And if she comes back and you haven’t done anything to improve. Then she will just leave again. No contact is to make yourself better. And let them regret. Only after so much effort and dedication will make her think differently. Sometimes you lose the one you love. But it’s either because 1 she wasn’t that committed or 2 you haven’t got any better as a person. So use no contact for yourself. And if there’s a chance. 70% of the time she will come back around if she doesn’t. Find a better woman even if she was the best. Make sure the new woman has the same or better qualities for you.
@@RealFinalCionideI think the percentage for women to come back is FAR lower than 70%, more like 10%. I'm convinced female dumpers very rarely actually come back
Well maybe the fact that I don't have any rights and that my living situation sucks living in a group home nut farm. And how my life is very controlled not only am I not in a position to date but I don't want bring a woman into my screwed up situation.
They also didn’t care about you when they stayed the night with someone else!!!!!! Don’t ever be desperate enough to wanna have someone like that back in your life!!!!!!👎 Staying out is a BIG WIN😁🥂
i am in strange spot with this because ive been so busy working in me for years i dont have any women i can focus on not texting and it seems strange to go and get a number of women for the purpose of not messaging them. i guess if the goal is to be so busy with other stuff ya aint got time for textig women then ive reached that goal. i choose not to get with any girls at work and at the martial arts i do so as to not interfere and when i meet a girl i like out i only see her in passing so dont wanna date just based on looks.
Mine has moved on. I thought that her friends or co-workers ( we work in the same building and floor) would say SOMETHING to me for her; but nope It's been 16 months now. She has now got a BF. During the past year her and her friends/co-workers have giggled as I passed them or talked loudly as I passed and they all give me looks. But no one ever said anything and now she's hooked up with another co-worker.
@@kv999o41 Yeah I watch a lot of these relationship videos trying to hold out hope that she did love me but just got tired of the garbage we let get in the way. I comment hoping to hear hope from someone.
Come on man you're still keeping tabs on her after 16 months?? You should have accepted and move on after the first 30 days. This is obsessive behavior and you might need therapy
My silence is driving me mad as well🤣
Lol.. 🤣🤣 is very crazy because even your Ex is here on TH-cam learning from Christine.
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Stop, drop and ignore. Your silence is loud 🙂. Whether they come back or not, you 'win'.
If they don't come back, you've maintained your dignity and self-respect 💪🏆
Don't be the first one to blink lest you lose by blinking first.
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It is not about control, it is about complete acceptance and moving on.
They didn't care about what you thought when they left you. Now they want to hear from you. They can't have it both ways. Save your words for someone who wants to build something with you.
"Save your words for someone who wants to build something with you" #Foreal
If you don’t have children with this person, guys seriously just move on.. count your blessings and move on! You don’t know how lucky you are not to have to see them weekly & that they can actually miss you.
I don't think they actually miss you though, especially female dumpers. Women typically move on extremely fast after they leave a man
Silence is Golden
My ex unblocked me three days ago and its still up and i can see it now but three months ago i fully committed myself to go ghost and i went off the grid on the internet. No posting no sharing what im doing. Just working and self improving in silence. So she unblocked me but I ain't reaching out but ill let my silence speak for itself
Update??
How long did she have you blocked for?
@@LeeEverett1 6 months
@@CxGameLol She ever reach out?
@@LeeEverett1 he is pretty good at no contact after all 😅
Christine is right, once you’ve been dumped - chances are when they come back you will get dumped again. Very rarely does it work out a second or third time around. Good luck! Stay strong. The only way is through it!
Depends what you're dealing with,but you really gotta put hard line boundaries and you need to tell her in her face from eye to eye. The moment she goes passing your boundaries, it's the moment you'll cut her out of your life.
Also,she better not be using you as REBOUND because many of these women are secretive and we're involved with someone else like in a "situationship". They'll miss you,but 4-6 months down the line she'll be missing a Chad or Pookie or another EX- BF that she hasn't mentioned to you.
Any funny businesses and she's OUT!!
I caught her lying again, confronted her with proof and made it clear that this was the last time. I then went silent and I keep my dignity.
Time seems to heal most things.
Silence is an atomic bomb
I am just starting this process also, let's actually see is she reaches back out again. All going well and boom, let's pull back. I am certain there is another in the background. Thanks for the video
Loved this video! Very down to earth. Been one month since we broke up. and staying in contact is emotional draining and indeed devalues my self worth. thanks for this. My priorities shifted you're more than a relationship. it hurts but regain focus on yourself since you walk away.
you are a wise woman love the advice wish I could find a woman like you your videos are great
im learning to be so busy with other things im not focused on trying to be silent its happening naturally due to the fact im busy. also i came off all social media so am not as available and cant be looked up. i wouldnt want any of my exs back in the same way i wouldnt want any of my toys back from when younger. im done with them the are old and used up and i can get shiny new things to play with.
Just found u today I’ve been watching religiously 🎉❤
you are a wise woman love the advice wish I could find a woman like you
I wrnt silent to let her work through her anger and malice, so she would feel satisfied about dumping me. I was afraid of what her reaction would be if I was the one to dump her.
It's like Shawshank Redemption all over again.
It was a eureka moment when I stood up and said goodbye. She thought that I was saying "Goodbye".....HA Ha....I have never looked back in the last ten months!!!!
Regardless is works remember the art of detachment they’ll come back there was once that attraction it can come back. Walking away reminds u of who u where and who I can become without them attracting af ❤
My ex blocked me, so that's the end of my relationship! I can't connect with her, even if I wanted to! Time to move forward with my life..
It's a wonderful great point of truth but so easier said than done.
Yes if dumped the ultimate checkmate move would be silence no response complete stoic indifference but Lord is it ever easier said than done.
Great video
It's definitely a lot easier said than done. It's hard to give a stoic response to an emotional situation... But it is possible.
I like your videos Christine, thank you ❤
No contact is a redemy for youself. Whether it could bring her back, it depends on if she still have enough interest and feeling for you
And if she comes back and you haven’t done anything to improve. Then she will just leave again. No contact is to make yourself better. And let them regret. Only after so much effort and dedication will make her think differently. Sometimes you lose the one you love. But it’s either because 1 she wasn’t that committed or 2 you haven’t got any better as a person. So use no contact for yourself. And if there’s a chance. 70% of the time she will come back around if she doesn’t. Find a better woman even if she was the best. Make sure the new woman has the same or better qualities for you.
@@RealFinalCionideI think the percentage for women to come back is FAR lower than 70%, more like 10%. I'm convinced female dumpers very rarely actually come back
Well maybe the fact that I don't have any rights and that my living situation sucks living in a group home nut farm. And how my life is very controlled not only am I not in a position to date but I don't want bring a woman into my screwed up situation.
Let's talk Christine!!!❤
They also didn’t care about you when they stayed the night with someone else!!!!!! Don’t ever be desperate enough to wanna have someone like that back in your life!!!!!!👎 Staying out is a BIG WIN😁🥂
My ex is reaching out dayin day out do I care'Nope! I'm still silence, busy improving my self and doing Me?
There is nothing that the rejected one would want more in the world than to drive the rejector MAD.
Leave her on read
Thank you for this❤
If they still watch your stories on instagram does that effect no contact rules? As it’s not you reaching out/looking etc
They get some reassurance from that, I wouldn't post anything!
I accidentally watched her post ;(
Nothing but good ass advice
No more talking. The only thing that counts now is action. Your silence in tandem with your positive actions would be the way forward.
Every sentence ends with “right” 🤯
So?
Right?*
i am in strange spot with this because ive been so busy working in me for years i dont have any women i can focus on not texting and it seems strange to go and get a number of women for the purpose of not messaging them. i guess if the goal is to be so busy with other stuff ya aint got time for textig women then ive reached that goal. i choose not to get with any girls at work and at the martial arts i do so as to not interfere and when i meet a girl i like out i only see her in passing so dont wanna date just based on looks.
Mine has moved on. I thought that her friends or co-workers ( we work in the same building and floor) would say SOMETHING to me for her; but nope It's been 16 months now. She has now got a BF. During the past year her and her friends/co-workers have giggled as I passed them or talked loudly as I passed and they all give me looks. But no one ever said anything and now she's hooked up with another co-worker.
I'm sorry man
You are everywhere
@@kv999o41 Yeah I watch a lot of these relationship videos trying to hold out hope that she did love me but just got tired of the garbage we let get in the way. I comment hoping to hear hope from someone.
Come on man you're still keeping tabs on her after 16 months?? You should have accepted and move on after the first 30 days. This is obsessive behavior and you might need therapy
Maybe you can switch departments or floors? Seeing an ex on a regular basis is not fun.
My ex just text after i do no contact for 10day she want me to delete all her pictures
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Talk grey rock
LOL playing games like kids still.
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Christine marry me...😊😊❤
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They call it the "dumpee" because the rejected one gets peed on in the face as he/she gets rejected.