My Catholic grandmother once declared gay men to be unsafe parents, and this year I came out on FB to her and the rest of the family (including 2 nuns). Now, she has seen how LGBTQ+ individuals are treated (and how kind we can be, including a lesbian relative) and says I should be Bi/Agender and live life out with love and kindness, instead of hiding in shame. People can change
At first I thought she was telling you not to be gay and you should be bi/agender instead and I was really confused but then I realised you probably identify as bi/agender.
I dragged my dad to a store near where I live and I found a lot of belts and pins with pride flags on them. So ofc I asked my dad if he knew any of them, I was closeted to him both as trans and pan, and he said no but asked me to teach me all of them. He grew up with very christian parents who are not very accepting and I was so scared to tell him I was a part of lgbtq+. So that moment I decided I would come out to him, and I actually did later that day:) now he and my stepmom are helping me to find a therapist to start hormones and said they will help to pay for surgery.
Honestly, as a closeted trans person with a transphobic family, seeing the really cute and wholesome coming out stories makes me tear up. God bless every single person who is understanding, loving, and accepting of those who are a part of the LGBTQIA+ community.
If you're older than 18, I'm your supportive little bro now. Drink water, and remember that you are valid. If you are younger than 18, I'm your supportive big bro now. Drink water, and remember that you are valid.
As an ex closed trans, I know how difficult that is to live as everything is alright with your family. I cannot imagine how painfull it is to don't be supported by your family. I hope you can have the support from friends or other peoples who matter to you. Remember that you're valid whoever you are and whoever you want to be. Love on you ! ❤️
I bought a pride flag once and showed it to my parents, this was after I came out as pan although I prefer the term queer now, my dad asked me what country's flag it was and my mum said no it's the bi flag. Explaining it was actually the pan pride flag was quite funny..but I found it sweet that they both tried
Me: Hey, do you feel up to a semi-serious talk? Dad: Sure. What's up? Me: I've come out as non-binary and I'm asking people to call me Sam. Dad: I support you in this. Me: Thanks. Dad: Sam, right? As in Samuel or Samantha? Me: Just Sam. Dad: S-A-M? Me: Yes. Dad: Non-binary. Let me look that up. [reads] Okay. Does this resolve some conflict in your mind? Me: It feels more comfortable, more like me. Dad: Well, I'm happy for you, and I support you. Congratulations. Me: Thanks. Dad: Sam. Okay. Are you going to start eating green eggs and ham? XD The dad jokes are real.
AWWWWW ngl, this made me tear up, I'm non-binary as well and I'm too terrified to come out (I look like a cis girl and I'm comfy with that). Congrats on coming out friend :)
@@sarah_arndt this kinda sounded like me. I’m a cis female and identify as female but I am bi and most of my friends and my boyfriend and my brother know but my parents don’t because I’ve mostly had male partners and any females I’ve seen have been a secret. I have never wanted to come out to them and don’t know if I ever really will. I do have some solace knowing many other people know but my family is just something I’m not ready to deal with. Sorry I just replied and all I did was talk about myself but I do understand how you’re feeling at least a little. It’s easier for me to just let people assume than get into the semantics of it all.
@@sammyisanoctopus for the first part that’s so awesome! I love that for you and I wish you all the best in your Dr. Seuss puns! And as for the second part, I truly appreciate your kind words. It’s been a constant battle internally to figure out what I want and who I am. I don’t know if I’ll ever tell them but if I do I have a feeling they will be supportive but of course there is just that nagging feeling that something bad might happen or they might look at me differently. Both of my parents are good people at heart but are, to put it politely, not politically correct. As hard as it is to tell them it feels so easy to speak to complete strangers about it and typically get such sweet responses like yours. Thank you so much for your words. They mean a lot to me.
I came out as bisexual to my very Mormon mom and she told me, Rachel, everyone likes boobs… does my mom have something to tell me? It was a better reaction than I expected. My brother is bisexual too.
A female friend of mine came out to me as bisexual before I really understood what that meant, and that was my response! Figured out later that I am also bisexual...
My mom watches tiktok a lot and I can tell by being in the same room listening to the audios that she's slowing being pulled to gay tiktok and she shows me a few videos every while lmao
Whenever I watching coming out stuff I always remember my brother coming out to our parents as straight. To be fair he was the only straight person in our immediate family at the time. It was the most fantastic thing. He took it VERY seriously. We eventually asked why he did it; apparently watching our moms, our sister, and myself come out as some flavor of 'not straight' multiple times over the years made him angry because of some of the reactions we got. He decided that straight people should feel the pressure to come out, too, because equality, and led by example. He helped my daughter set up her coming out party (also straight) a couple of years ago. He is very, very serious about this needing to be a thing. Some people get mad at him for it but, honestly, he feels that equality means equal and if there's pressure on not straights to announce their sexuality for public judgement then the straights should have to do it too.
Hi Jamie!!! I’m getting a hysterectomy tomorrow (I’m non-binary)! I’m super excited and a lil nervous but I just want to thank you for being such a wonderful trans role model for me!
“Drop hints?” We started telling our kids outright when they were in elementary school, that they could marry anyone of any race or gender and we would be happy. And they were like, “Duh. We know. Why are you talking about marriage when I’m seven?” So then we changed it to “date or marry.”
just yesterday I had a conversation like that with my 7 year old sister and we were talking about her future and she told me that she wanted to marry a girl(she’s said this before but at the times I was still young and couldn’t discuss it properly with her) so I told her that in some countries she can actually do that and also have kids while being with a girl something she had never heard before,she didn’t even know what “gay” meant(I don’t blame her since I didn’t know either at that age) so she went and said this to my father who just ignored her and tried to take her mind off that without mentioning it again. honestly Idk what he’s trying to prevent since whatever’s gonna happen will happen but I really admire parents like you if I ever become a parent this will be the first things I explain to my children(since I’m a part of lgbtq as well)
I have these conversations with my kids regularly. They're young (elementary age), but kids understand more than people give them credit for. They're already at the age of getting crushes and trying to figure out who they are, so I wanted them to be comfortable with their feelings and identity no matter how that presents.
This. My kids have picked up on certain political parties saying homosexuals should not have equal rights to heterosexuals. So we talk about it and how you shouldn't be judged for whom you love, as long as no one is getting hurt.
I actually really enjoy the "I don't care" ones, because I feel like that should be the ultimate goal: that nobody cares about sexual orientation any more, because it isn't important or something anybody else has a say in either way.
I think those responses make sense in a society where being queer is already seen as normal and is validated in the same capacity as heterosexuality. But we don't live in that society, so saying you don't care can just come across as dismissive, because your kid may not be getting as much validation that their orientation is good and okay from many other places. Like if you're kid is struggling with feeling their queer identity is wrong, they might need validation, not apathy. It can also come across as slightly dismissive when you're kid put a ton of effort into their coming out. Like clearly THEY care, otherwise they wouldn't have baked cakes or filmed videos, so to me saying 'I don't care' comes across like you don't appreciate the effort they put in or how much they clearly care about coming out. I appreciate the parents who clarify that they don't care because they love them either way, or who say it in a way where it is clear that their kid knows that they're accepted. But a lot of these fell into ambiguous territory, so idk, it felt weird. It's also worth pointing out that 'I don't care' can mean a lot of things which is why this response can sometimes be such a weird thing, especially as a viewer who doesn't know these kids and their parents and has no context (for some parental apathy might be the norm lol). Like 'I don't care' can mean you ultimately accept your kid to the point where they don't even need to come out to you, and that you love and support them wholeheartedly. But it can _also_ mean 'I'm uncomfortable talking about this' or the classic homophobic trope of 'I don't need to know who you're having sex with'. Like some parents 'don't care' because queerness makes them uncomfortable and they want to dismiss that part of you. They view it as something negative to tolerate as opposed to something so normal they've already accepted it. That ambiguity to me is why 'I don't care' can be a weird response from an audience perspective. Unless you grow up in a progressive bubble where you can entirely take for granted that your parents are okay with gay people and love you unconditionally, 'I don't care' is so ambiguous it doesn't take the anxiety away. It adds a new anxiety of 'I have no idea what my parents mean by this exactly.'
The second video says: "I told my mom I am bisexual. I found it really difficult to bring it up on a regular conversation. So I tought about doing it this way" I hope it helps 🥰
as someone who is pan and genderfluid but isnt able to be their true selves as there parents will disown them, seeing so many people be accepted for who they are was both heartwarming and painful at the same time. these people are so lucky to have such supportive families
that’s it, i’m your new sibling or parent, although i might be younger than you! what name can i call you and what are your pronouns right now? my name is august and i use they/them pronouns.
to everyone who has a transphobic and/or homophobic family i wish my bisexual mom and her gf could adopt you all they would aggressively support you guys💖💖
hi guys. I just wanted to thank y’all for having such a lovely community. I’m cis and straight so I don’t really understand most of the jokes, but Jamie’s voice is just so calming and the community in general is so kind and gentle that I spend a lot of time here. you all feel so safe. thanks.
Seeing these are so cute. Being aroace and nonbinary, coming out to my family really isn't an option lol but these are so sweet and everyone deserves acceptance
Before me and my bf got together, he would make this joke where he said "when you get your own house in the future, one day you're gonna come home and see rose petals leading to your room and when you get to the bed there will be a pan there, and me and the rest of the friend group will watch as you stare in shock about why it's there" God I love him
are they her moms? damn im such a cishet i thought they were sisters. or roommates. r/sapphoandherfriend much lol i'll go stand in a corner for a while
@@yee-raplantar-maximoff4318 oh good haha I thought the "you're so bizarre" from the mom on the left was a bit ambiguous but that gives some context :D
@@Ruby-yn5fp they probably are very close friends who share a bed and ha e a kid together but i dont think theyre together or anything i mean that would be ridiculous right? :D
The italian dad at 3:33... he sounded like my dad, at least enough for dumb pattern-recognition brain. He passed a year ago, I was too early in figuring things out to say anything. Hearing that dad's reaction, the combination of that much acceptance and that accent, it just clicked that he never got a chance to know me as me. He never got to meet his eldest daughter. 😭
I look forward to the day when 'coming out' is no longer a thing at all, like, I don't want young people (or even adults, considering I came out at 35) to have to come out to their families, I just want them to be who they are and bring home whoever they love without any justification or explanation required.
I'm raising my 3 kids like this, they are still little so we talk about acceptance and respect of others , not dating/marriage sex yet. I dont want any of them to have to come out, rather just being true to themselves from the get go
That's honestly what I want. I know my family would be supportive of me, but coming out is very daunting to me. I wish I could just say, "I have a girlfriend!", without having to say I'm pan and explain it.
That's how it was for my sisters and I. It was always just kind of known. None of us ever had to tell our mom we were bi. Because she's bi. I can't remember any of us having a coming out moment. I love my family and I hope that everyone else can have the love and support I have.
I had a friend tell me when they came out as Bi to their dad, he said "I don't care, it' ain't a big deal, it's not like you're killing children" then after a brief pause he said "...you're not killing children, are you?" They responded "...No?" and he said "phew"
I came out to my teacher as agender just to tell her about the harassment I’ve been receiving on my bus because of it and she only cared that people were harassing me, rather than my identity😭❤️
I love watching these.. especially seeing the support. I came out as non-binary to my parents and didn't get a hug, a "I'm proud of you", or any type of support.. Instead, I got a talk about how they refuse to pay for anything (hormones or binder) for me and how my mom thinks I'm wrong and it's a phase.. They didn't even ask about a name or pronouns. My dad said "I call you she and *deadname* because you ARE *deadname* and my DAUGHTER." I'm so thankful for my supportive friends, they're my home and I wouldn't be here without them!
My dad's response (not to a coming out, but when I talked about my mental health issues for the first time) was, "You're mine no matter what." Still a bit awkward, but so nice I am so not ready to come out to him as transgender, though. It's scary to try if this "mine" meant "my daughter", and will end if I'm not, you know?
You problably translated it already, but the captions in spanish say: "I told my mom I'm bisexual. But it was hard for me to do it in a conversation... I thought for a long time how I would tell her And I thought I'd do it like this" (She misspelled "así" as "haci", I'm that kind of guy) Edit: Man, now I realize I've been beaten to it after looking farther in the comments
Ty!! That’s what I got, roughly, but I just know Spanish from like…living in Texas and being around Hispanics. I legit cried! I’m glad it was a good ending. It would hurt my heart if anyone was afraid to come out to me. My kid was like ‘hey, I’m enby’ and I was like ‘ok cool’. I try to radiate acceptance. Accepting mom hugs for anyone who needs them.
When I came out to my parents as bisexual, they just replied "ok 😐" and that was it. They don't really pay much attention to me anyways so it didn't really surprise me, but seeing all these supportive parents telling their kids how much they love them, makes me think my parents don't support me at all. At least they didn't throw me out so.. could've gone worse, I guess 🤷♀️
Thanks. Now I'm crying. Honestly though, as a mother, I'm so happy to hear good coming out stories. Nothing makes me angrier than bad coming out stories. Like, love your kids for being their true selves.
I don't have a particularly interesting coming out story, but the funniest thing is when I came out to my (rather homophobic) mom. All I told her was that I was part of the LGBT+ group (I didn't/don't think she could understand split attraction and me being asexual/biromantic; heck I dont think she'd understand asexuality at all). But I told her this and her only response was, "Yeah. I'll be honest, I was surprised when you brought home a guy." And I was just so dumbfounded like???? No, I'm the one thats supposed to be surprising you, not the other way around lol. Any way, found out a year and a half later that my boyfriend is actually gender fluid, so I sometimes I have a boyfriend, sometimes I have a girlfriend, and sometimes they're just my partner.
I am asexual demipanromantic and I came out to my dad while he was still homophobic because of Christianity. Luckily, I was able to explain to him that the homophobic verses in the Bible were mistranslated pedophilia verses and he is supportive-ish now. He doesn’t understand that how I can be sex-repulsed and has said numerous times that he “feels bad for” me. The demi and pan parts of my romantic orientation were also difficult to explain to him, but a little easier.
@@shaniastuart349 My mom says the same thing--"feels bad" about me being aroace. And totally doesn't get the agender thing at all. Just imagine what it's like, recognizing these things in yourself after you're 40 and trying to explain it to parents who are literally boomers. At least she isn't a hater, right? And my dad's got dementia, so every time the topic comes up, it's like coming out all over again, so we just say "Never mind" when he asks what we said and move on. I think those of us who have boring non-stories or no stories are definitely the lucky ones, and I am also hopeful like others said that eventually it won't be a thing anyone does anymore. Gender IDs and sex will all just be boring facts that no one will care about until it's truly relevant, like in medical situations or sexual/romantic relationships.
@@VeganAtheistWeirdo I am so sorry that your mom says it too and I can’t even imagine what it’s like to have your dad forget each time you come out. You sound like such a strong and amazing individual and I hope you have surrounded yourself with friends who love you for who you are because you deserve that. I also hope that one day gender identity, romantic orientation, and sexuality will just be boring facts because right now it’s honestly a little scary in the world if you aren’t cis and straight.
@@jimslim268 "well, I don't think you are my mom. Wow, see that? I had an opinion about something that isn't a choice or something that can be argued. Amazing how that is." All in all, if you believe you are trans, you are and valid! ❤❤❤ dont let anyone tell you differently
I have a very wholesome coming-out story, one day while I was driving with my grandpa I pointed out a pride parade sigh and he said something that I don't quite remember but I responded by basically saying that I was pansexual, and I got worried because he got really quiet and the year after we were getting ready for my graduation ceremony and my grandpa say "hey check out my suspenders." so I looked and they had rainbows on them. he followed it up by saying he will always love me.
I’m pan but have only ever dated guys and I’ve never come out to my mother… recently my upstairs neighbour asked me out and when I told my mam she said ‘oh that’s lovely! The boy or the girl?’ She was only briefly confused when I told her the boy because I’ve been complaining about his piano playing for the last two years…
Came out to my mom in the end of june after stalling a lot 'umm... so I'm bi'. And all she said was 'oh, okay... when did you find out?'. Not 'are you sure', no erasure, just curiosity I guess. She's literally one of my best friends, so I'm glad this doesn't change anything. 😄💗💜💙
I will always be proud of you all, keep going and fighting. Nothing stays bad forever and life will improve. I believe in you all and know you can do it. You are all amazing, strong valid people. If you ever wish to vent feel free to comment below, I will always be there for you no matter what. 🙂
When I was 21 or something, I told my mum and sister I was asexual. My sister rolled her eyes so hard, I'm surprised they didn't fall out. My mum, once it was explained, shook her head and said, "You'll find someone and want to have sex eventually, oh my god." Now at 32, I like to regularly send pictures of my cats to my mom and be like, "Aren't your grandkittens so adorable?" just to remind her that she thought I'd get older, become a horn dog, start a family, and provide her with human grandchildren to fawn over. :)
I’m out a bit online, but mostly closeted offline. I didn’t figure out that there’s a name for what I am (aro/ace) until I was 47. At this point (49), I’m not sure coming out matters anymore.
I'm ace too and it took my awhile to figure it out, if coming out matters to you then don't be afraid of living your truth. If you feel like it doesn't really matter to you then of course there's no absolute requirement for you to come out 🤷♀️ its all in what you feel is right for you 🙂 good luck and don't feel pressured!
Maybe if people misunderstand you and your way of thinking, coming out would be a good thing. But if no one really cares about your romantic or sexual life it's maybe not that important. Maybe the people you are close with are just accepting the way you are without knowing that you are aro/ace or even knowing what that is, but you still got some years to live, maybe more than you think
I had come out technically ( I asked my mum how she'd react if I ended up dating a girl: I identified only as a girl back then, and she just gave a whole lot of biblical crap. ) I later on excused the question to be plain curiosity. Then I decided to not come out, and just date who I want. That didn't work out when my mum found our texts. I don't live with my parents anymore, and I've gotten past the whole coming out thing. I just let people figure it out for themselves.
The second one says (roughly): I told my mommy I am bisexual. It was hard for me to do so with a conversation... I thought about how would I tell her (that she's bi) for a long time. And I ended up doing it like this.
this video makes me so happy. i love to see all these people with their accepting parents, because when i came out my dad wasn't. i really really want there to be a world where everyone can look back at them coming out and remember it as a great moment, because that's something everyone deserves
I'm Cis, but these bring tears to my eyes. The only thing that makes me sad is thinking about TikToks that didn't get posted because the response was negative, and feeling so sad for the people who didn't get a loving and accepting response.
Maybe someone should make a tiktok just for such an occasion. Its heartbreaking to know that there are still so many parents unable to accept their child for who they really are. Unfortunately, I know what that's like too, but I can handle that, she doesnt accept me for my 'flaws' in general tbh.
My gender fluid sib literally yelled with happiness and wrapped me in the biggest hug. I was Mormon so realizing that I'm queer was really hard for me, and their response made it so much easier.
These make me sad about my own experience but so happy for those people and the kids growing up who were able to have their parents not care. It’s restores my faith in humanity a little bit.
I’m a guy who’s mostly identified as straight. Recently, I’ve been starting to question myself, and I’m starting to think I might be bi. I’m still not sure though, since I still have a preference for women and I still don’t fully know to what extent I’m attracted to men or any other gender. So I might be bi or heteroflexible (roughly, “mostly straight”) or somewhere in between, and I don’t want to be the straight guy who’s forcing himself into LGBT+ spaces by saying that he’s bi when he’s not. If I do eventually decide that I’m bi, I want to come out to my friends and sister first, since I know they’d be fully accepting of me. They’re all cishet (I think) but full allies of the LGBT+ community. After that I’ll want to come out to my parents with my sister’s help. They’re fully accepting of gay people but I don’t know if they understand what bisexuality is, so I’d be a bit more nervous about them. Anyway, I love this channel and it’s wholesomeness and positivity, and it’s really helping me come to terms with my questioning. Anyone there reading this, you are valid and loved regardless of who you love and what gender you are and I want to give you all a hug 🤗
I'd also like to give you a hug! There is no rush in figuring yourself out and it is also okay to kind of bounce around a few different labels to find something that fits, you might find out that nothing fits and that is so so valid :D I prefer men but can be attracted to any gender and the body doesn't matter to me. If they are good people and make me happy then nothing else matters!
I used to think I was "forcing myself into the LGBTQ+ community" because I am bisexual but have never had a sexual encounter/relationship with another women. I have since learned that I am valid as I am (:
Bisexuality means any degree of attraction to two(or more) genders. It can be that you like 30% women and 70% men, 50/50, 1/99, 34.66/66.44, etc. Just look around for more terms, if bisexuality doesn't quite feel right! There are plenty of labels, finding the one that fits you best usually feels great, the most important thing is that you're comfortable. Even if that means you'd rather not have a label! Perfectly valid. Sexuality and gender are hard to figure out, just give yourself some time and patience, and research at a pace that isn't overwhelming.
I really feel this since I was definitely questioning myself and my attraction for other men for quite awhile. I wish you all the best with figuring yourself out and hope you stay very happy and I approve of all the hugs and sweetness. ^^
I came out to my parents last week and I FEEL SO HAPPY finally being able to accept who I am! My parents are super supportive too! 😭😭😭 My dad was like: "Well now your options have doubled!"
Came out to my mum last week and it went really well! For anyone reading this; you can do it!! And if you're not in a position where you can, I'm sending love
Im honestly never planning to come out to my family, and watching these make me cry. I wrote something close to a coming out note on this website will self-destruct. It was the best thing I've ever done. You don't have to come out if your unsafe or you just don't want to. It's A ok.
1:38 really reminds me of my own coming out, told my mum i was trans and just couldnt stop crying so we just stood in the kitchen hugging for 20 minutes
You're so lucky, when I came out (not to long ago) my mom basically said that it was a phase and that my school was confusing me. I am glad your mom is supportive of you
That’s how my coming out as pan and trans went as well. My parents and I were all emotional and hugging. I was bawling, but so incredibly relieved! ❤️🏳️⚧️
@@kovu_nonexistent3750 ill tell you this since you're mom probably didnt. im so, so, SO proud of you for having the courage to tell your mother! you are very brave and please know that you are valid and i appreciate you so much! because when you're happy, im happy! i love you💗
My coming out to my friends was the best day of my life!! My best friend happy stimmed so much and hugged me and literally screamed “you’re gay!!” And my other friends were like OMFG WE KNEW IT YEsSsS
When I came out I freaked out right before and I ran upstairs to where my parents were, I yelled “I like boys and girls, I’m bi” then ran back down the steps. Needless to say it could have been smoother but my dad was super happy for me, my mom not so much but it’s okay cause I’m besties with my dad
we love a good father child relationship! i hope you're mother learns how to be more open minded at some point, but i feel that you're valid and you deserve the worlds acceptance💗💜💙
It's always nice to watch these💛 Apparently rant coming up: I had the 'classical' bi coming out (I wasn't kicked out or disowned but they told me they were disappointed with me and it's a phase and they cried (you probably heard that before)) But that was only with my parents. The rest was really accepting (aunts and uncles don't know yet). At first it hurt, but then I got over it and now it's a bummer for them that they feel this way. I'm gonna try to love someone one day and I hopefully won't run away this time because of my trust issues (I was ghosted by 2 seperate best friends overnight at different times) and trauma (first kiss was sxual harassment, but that is NOT the reason I'm also into girls mom). It is hard to think my mom will never be at my wedding and things like that (she's terminally ill from a brain tumor) because if I meet the right woman, maybe she could've changed her mind.
I just came out to my grandma and (step)grandpa yesterday and they couldn’t have been more nice about it! I showed them a picture of me and my girlfriend and they were so happy for me! So this video came at the perfect time :)
On one hand it's really heartwarming, on the other hand I really wish coming out like that didn't need to be a thing anymore, not sure about how others will react :(
I have a mother that does believe teenagers should label themselves because “hormones effect your sexuality”? Which obviously doesn’t make sense because hormones don’t go away- But that means I can’t come out without being told I’m wrong and I’m not that sexuality :D Your videos make me feel accepted, I appreciate your content you’re a good person! Thank You ❤️
My sister told me something similar, that people under 25 shouldn't use labels because they don't know who they are yet and you're just experimenting at a young age so it might not be real.
I came out to my mom and she told me I wasn't old enough to know who I like, luckily everyone else was very supportive, I'm thankful to have those friends...
Oh that "we knew, but we were waiting for you to be ready to tell us" thing is wonderful. It's a bit of a mindfork in the moment, but it's beautiful all the same.
I came out to my good friend from work who I’d only known for about a year and a half, and she was like, “yeah. I know. I’ve known since we’ve met and I’ve just been waiting for you to tell me” and I’m was shocked. I told her, “And you couldn’t have told me?! I’ve been in identity crisis for YEARS and you just…knew???” Basically the same thing with my uncles. They were like, “I’m not surprised. I’ve had the thought since you were 12 (I came out at 24 to them)”
@@stareyedwitch one of my friends literally complains about big coming outs and one is going to canada for four months. my other close friends are either just not as close or have homophobic parents
To be honest, its hard to know how to react to people coming out. Especially when the parents are like “yeah and?” XD Like when you are queer affirming and you aren’t surprised. Its almost like “oh cool.” Moves on. Its nice to see that we are at a point where saying “I’m queer” would have the same reaction as someone saying “I’m heterosexual.”
I think that the best way is to say "thank you for sharing this with me, it means a lot, I see that you trust me!" and offer a hug. It shows that you care and the event of coming out is important (it is, if the person desided to do that) It seems not so indifferent like "ok so what... I don't care..." or "I already knew, duh".
@@firasjemil213 when people are more accepting to each other it would be actually good propaganda but propaganda is not good at all. So I guess it's not propaganda
I came out to my dad on the way back from swimming lessons, i played girls from girl in red. he was super chill about it. 💗 And i came out to my mom (who already had and idea) a couple days later. She was also super chill about it. 💗
at like 8:50 jammi was like "i cant wait for the point kids dont have to worry about not being loved when coming out", and tbh, yes but also, i cant wait for the point we dont have to come out anymore. And its just casual conversation stuff. With many of these parents in this video it would have already been like that. And that is just awesome to see.
My coming out wasn't positive but my family still loves me. Even so, not having their immediate support took a toll on me and I'm still trying to figure out who I am because of it. I can't imagine how horrible it is for people who ask, "do you still love me?" and the answer is no....
I'm teaching my parents all the lgbtq+ terms and why it's important to treat them all with respect. I'm pansexual and only my sister knows (she's very open minded) I hope that I can slowly teach my parents to be more accepting so I can feel comfortable coming out. I'm also questioning my gender so that'll be fun
this wholesomeness, positivity, and softness is all I need in life. I’m forever longing for a supportive hug in response to me coming out to my family… unfortunately for me, my parents would actually disown me if they ever knew😔 Jamie, thank you so much for accepting all of us. It means so so much, especially to those of us that aren’t accepted by our own families. So so proud to be part of this little potato family… much love to all of the spuds♥️ To anyone that may need to hear it, I love and accept each and every one of you just as you are, and I wish you all the acceptance in the world🤗
2:36 When that mom suddenly went "Não chora! Por que tá chorando?" my brain got confused for a second, cause that's Brazilian Portuguese, my native language, and I wasn't expecting that, haha! That's means "Don't cry! What are you crying for?", btw
I'm crying rn cause having that must be amazing huh? having a supporting family and having someone that only wants you to be happy no matter what must be so amazing
I'm in tears!! I never ever cry. If anyone ever needs to come out to a parent and can't come out their own, well this parent is sending you acceptance, love and hugs. Love your life and be you. Sending you a very big scrunchy hug. Xxx
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My favorite one I’ve seen is a girl coming out to her parents by saying “I like girls,” and the dad just responds with “Cool! I like girls too!”
I know someone who came out to his dad and he just said, "You must've got that from your mother." XD
Timestamp?
same but with my brother
Aw I loved that one
@@dukedetain7566 They have seen it elsewhere
Ally mom/grandma here. To any who need to hear this: you are lovable, you are worthy, and we just want you to be happy.
thank you so much
I really wish all families felt that way. Thank you.
Dang I wish my parents reacted this way 🥲
oml adopt me pls
Thanks, I needed that
My Catholic grandmother once declared gay men to be unsafe parents, and this year I came out on FB to her and the rest of the family (including 2 nuns).
Now, she has seen how LGBTQ+ individuals are treated (and how kind we can be, including a lesbian relative) and says I should be Bi/Agender and live life out with love and kindness, instead of hiding in shame. People can change
At first I thought she was telling you not to be gay and you should be bi/agender instead and I was really confused but then I realised you probably identify as bi/agender.
I'm so glad for you, and so proud of your grandmother for learning and opening her mind to other ways of life/love.
I dragged my dad to a store near where I live and I found a lot of belts and pins with pride flags on them. So ofc I asked my dad if he knew any of them, I was closeted to him both as trans and pan, and he said no but asked me to teach me all of them. He grew up with very christian parents who are not very accepting and I was so scared to tell him I was a part of lgbtq+. So that moment I decided I would come out to him, and I actually did later that day:) now he and my stepmom are helping me to find a therapist to start hormones and said they will help to pay for surgery.
good luck!!! that is such a cute story!!!
I cried reading this cause while I was living with my parents, I wasn't even allowed to buy a binder and I was miserable ( I'm genderfluid)
Honestly, as a closeted trans person with a transphobic family, seeing the really cute and wholesome coming out stories makes me tear up. God bless every single person who is understanding, loving, and accepting of those who are a part of the LGBTQIA+ community.
Same
If you're older than 18, I'm your supportive little bro now. Drink water, and remember that you are valid.
If you are younger than 18, I'm your supportive big bro now. Drink water, and remember that you are valid.
Just sending you some 💛 from your trans family in Canada, I hope you have some supportive folks in your life
As an ex closed trans, I know how difficult that is to live as everything is alright with your family. I cannot imagine how painfull it is to don't be supported by your family. I hope you can have the support from friends or other peoples who matter to you.
Remember that you're valid whoever you are and whoever you want to be.
Love on you ! ❤️
When I came out as trans I got deadnamed and misgender and prayed for and they blamed it on hormones called it a phase
Jamie is such a dad.
He’d really make a great dad.
very much so :)
Imagine being blessed with having Jamie as a dad...
Maybe someday he and Shaaba will
wish he was my dad
I bet he's got a few belter dad jokes
The Italian dad is so aggresively supportive and I love it.
Ikr!!
I bought a pride flag once and showed it to my parents, this was after I came out as pan although I prefer the term queer now, my dad asked me what country's flag it was and my mum said no it's the bi flag. Explaining it was actually the pan pride flag was quite funny..but I found it sweet that they both tried
Jamie: I'll probably translate it later.
Me: TRANSlate
:) love it
Trans Late
Yrsss
Me: UGH
@@EJtheEJsEJ me when I’m late
Random but I once heard someone that made a joke that went like
" Aces don't come out of the closet, they come out of the deck"
Y E E
just like how pans come out of the cabinet :D
@@hi-lj8uu
LOL
@@hi-lj8uu I was just gonna say that!!
Or, I just made up this one, Aro s don’t come out of the closet, they come out of the quiver :)
Well, yeah, we come out of the deck because that’s where the aces are 🤣
I'm panromantic, I'm exclusively attracted to terrifying horned nature gods
Huzzah, a being of culture! Long live the Great Horned One!
Yes
YES, THAT, THANK YOU =D
I don't understand lol
@@MBZ901 Pan was a terrifying horned nature god in Greek myth
Me: Hey, do you feel up to a semi-serious talk?
Dad: Sure. What's up?
Me: I've come out as non-binary and I'm asking people to call me Sam.
Dad: I support you in this.
Me: Thanks.
Dad: Sam, right? As in Samuel or Samantha?
Me: Just Sam.
Dad: S-A-M?
Me: Yes.
Dad: Non-binary. Let me look that up. [reads] Okay. Does this resolve some conflict in your mind?
Me: It feels more comfortable, more like me.
Dad: Well, I'm happy for you, and I support you. Congratulations.
Me: Thanks.
Dad: Sam. Okay. Are you going to start eating green eggs and ham?
XD The dad jokes are real.
AWWWWW
ngl, this made me tear up, I'm non-binary as well and I'm too terrified to come out (I look like a cis girl and I'm comfy with that).
Congrats on coming out friend :)
@@sarah_arndt When you're ready, you'll know. And it's scary, but you've got this.
@@sarah_arndt this kinda sounded like me. I’m a cis female and identify as female but I am bi and most of my friends and my boyfriend and my brother know but my parents don’t because I’ve mostly had male partners and any females I’ve seen have been a secret. I have never wanted to come out to them and don’t know if I ever really will. I do have some solace knowing many other people know but my family is just something I’m not ready to deal with. Sorry I just replied and all I did was talk about myself but I do understand how you’re feeling at least a little. It’s easier for me to just let people assume than get into the semantics of it all.
Also this is a top tier dad joke but I do think you missed your opportunity to say “Sam I am”
@@sammyisanoctopus for the first part that’s so awesome! I love that for you and I wish you all the best in your Dr. Seuss puns! And as for the second part, I truly appreciate your kind words. It’s been a constant battle internally to figure out what I want and who I am. I don’t know if I’ll ever tell them but if I do I have a feeling they will be supportive but of course there is just that nagging feeling that something bad might happen or they might look at me differently. Both of my parents are good people at heart but are, to put it politely, not politically correct. As hard as it is to tell them it feels so easy to speak to complete strangers about it and typically get such sweet responses like yours. Thank you so much for your words. They mean a lot to me.
I came out as bisexual to my very Mormon mom and she told me, Rachel, everyone likes boobs… does my mom have something to tell me? It was a better reaction than I expected. My brother is bisexual too.
My mom is also very Mormon and sadly does not support me being biromatic and trans. I’m glad you have a loving mom :D
I would guess my mom would hate me if I came out to her
A female friend of mine came out to me as bisexual before I really understood what that meant, and that was my response! Figured out later that I am also bisexual...
@@mikaylawebster9856 this happened to me too
Bi people are everywhere
My mom watches tiktok a lot and I can tell by being in the same room listening to the audios that she's slowing being pulled to gay tiktok and she shows me a few videos every while lmao
Omg, that’s amazing, haha
omg i love that so much
Whenever my mother found gay tiktoks on her fyp, she immediately skips it
@@junkbatkid Her loss.
Same, and my mum is pan!
Whenever I watching coming out stuff I always remember my brother coming out to our parents as straight. To be fair he was the only straight person in our immediate family at the time. It was the most fantastic thing. He took it VERY seriously. We eventually asked why he did it; apparently watching our moms, our sister, and myself come out as some flavor of 'not straight' multiple times over the years made him angry because of some of the reactions we got. He decided that straight people should feel the pressure to come out, too, because equality, and led by example. He helped my daughter set up her coming out party (also straight) a couple of years ago. He is very, very serious about this needing to be a thing. Some people get mad at him for it but, honestly, he feels that equality means equal and if there's pressure on not straights to announce their sexuality for public judgement then the straights should have to do it too.
W brother
That's so sweet :)
I already have an amazing brother, but... would you guys adopt us?
I need someone help me organise my coming out as cis and hetero too.
That rocks
Honestly, Jamie in black is stunning.
Everyone always thinks pansexual is with pans but one time I saw someone say, "so you're in love with pancakes?"
Ahaha idk why but that great 😂
Well, yes, but that’s beside the point…
Well isn't anyone in love with pancakes. I should habe some for breakfast tomorrow.
Maybe I am a pan
Pancakes. That would be so perfect for panromantic asexuals
Okay, let’s talk about Jamie’s outfit, it is stunning. HE LOOKS SO DAM HANDSOME AND PRETTY AT THE SAME TIME!! HOW?!?!
I know right it suits him :)
He looks so freakin cool and handsome and honestly i want the outfit
I KNOW
He is snazzy
i have sooo much gender envy from him
Hi Jamie!!! I’m getting a hysterectomy tomorrow (I’m non-binary)! I’m super excited and a lil nervous but I just want to thank you for being such a wonderful trans role model for me!
good for you!
from when I'm seeing this, you'll probably have recovered from surgery, but I hope it went well
Year later but hope it went well!!
"Is it a cake?"
"It's a cake"
"It sparkles!"
Me: ah, yes. The most important thing: GLITTER!
cake + coming out = ultimate combo
Y e s and its actually what i did to come out :D
Yes and if it goes wrong you can eat it all to you self
@@---zf7bz beautiful
@@aroacehauntedplace4721 y e s
100%
“Drop hints?” We started telling our kids outright when they were in elementary school, that they could marry anyone of any race or gender and we would be happy. And they were like, “Duh. We know. Why are you talking about marriage when I’m seven?” So then we changed it to “date or marry.”
This!! This is how I wish all kids were raised! Thank you!
Good parent alert, your kids are lucky
just yesterday I had a conversation like that with my 7 year old sister and we were talking about her future and she told me that she wanted to marry a girl(she’s said this before but at the times I was still young and couldn’t discuss it properly with her) so I told her that in some countries she can actually do that and also have kids while being with a girl something she had never heard before,she didn’t even know what “gay” meant(I don’t blame her since I didn’t know either at that age) so she went and said this to my father who just ignored her and tried to take her mind off that without mentioning it again.
honestly Idk what he’s trying to prevent since whatever’s gonna happen will happen but I really admire parents like you if I ever become a parent this will be the first things I explain to my children(since I’m a part of lgbtq as well)
I have these conversations with my kids regularly. They're young (elementary age), but kids understand more than people give them credit for. They're already at the age of getting crushes and trying to figure out who they are, so I wanted them to be comfortable with their feelings and identity no matter how that presents.
This. My kids have picked up on certain political parties saying homosexuals should not have equal rights to heterosexuals. So we talk about it and how you shouldn't be judged for whom you love, as long as no one is getting hurt.
I actually really enjoy the "I don't care" ones, because I feel like that should be the ultimate goal: that nobody cares about sexual orientation any more, because it isn't important or something anybody else has a say in either way.
I think those responses make sense in a society where being queer is already seen as normal and is validated in the same capacity as heterosexuality. But we don't live in that society, so saying you don't care can just come across as dismissive, because your kid may not be getting as much validation that their orientation is good and okay from many other places. Like if you're kid is struggling with feeling their queer identity is wrong, they might need validation, not apathy.
It can also come across as slightly dismissive when you're kid put a ton of effort into their coming out. Like clearly THEY care, otherwise they wouldn't have baked cakes or filmed videos, so to me saying 'I don't care' comes across like you don't appreciate the effort they put in or how much they clearly care about coming out. I appreciate the parents who clarify that they don't care because they love them either way, or who say it in a way where it is clear that their kid knows that they're accepted. But a lot of these fell into ambiguous territory, so idk, it felt weird.
It's also worth pointing out that 'I don't care' can mean a lot of things which is why this response can sometimes be such a weird thing, especially as a viewer who doesn't know these kids and their parents and has no context (for some parental apathy might be the norm lol).
Like 'I don't care' can mean you ultimately accept your kid to the point where they don't even need to come out to you, and that you love and support them wholeheartedly. But it can _also_ mean 'I'm uncomfortable talking about this' or the classic homophobic trope of 'I don't need to know who you're having sex with'. Like some parents 'don't care' because queerness makes them uncomfortable and they want to dismiss that part of you. They view it as something negative to tolerate as opposed to something so normal they've already accepted it.
That ambiguity to me is why 'I don't care' can be a weird response from an audience perspective. Unless you grow up in a progressive bubble where you can entirely take for granted that your parents are okay with gay people and love you unconditionally, 'I don't care' is so ambiguous it doesn't take the anxiety away. It adds a new anxiety of 'I have no idea what my parents mean by this exactly.'
The second video says: "I told my mom I am bisexual. I found it really difficult to bring it up on a regular conversation. So I tought about doing it this way" I hope it helps 🥰
as someone who is pan and genderfluid but isnt able to be their true selves as there parents will disown them, seeing so many people be accepted for who they are was both heartwarming and painful at the same time. these people are so lucky to have such supportive families
Hello pan cousin :> I'm omni and genderfluid
I did come out and it went...not great. So I feel this so hard.
that’s it, i’m your new sibling or parent, although i might be younger than you! what name can i call you and what are your pronouns right now? my name is august and i use they/them pronouns.
@@kyebrunson6536 what happened?
@@user-hello2 hello august. I LOVE THE POSITIVITY
to everyone who has a transphobic and/or homophobic family i wish my bisexual mom and her gf could adopt you all they would aggressively support you guys💖💖
Aw yessss ❤ lots of love to you and your family from this bi girl :)
Awww
@@bsweeting1481 lots of love to you as well!!💗💗💗
I would love to have a bisexual mother, that sounds wonderful omg
Wish you the best to your family
hi guys. I just wanted to thank y’all for having such a lovely community. I’m cis and straight so I don’t really understand most of the jokes, but Jamie’s voice is just so calming and the community in general is so kind and gentle that I spend a lot of time here. you all feel so safe. thanks.
Yw
Seeing these are so cute. Being aroace and nonbinary, coming out to my family really isn't an option lol but these are so sweet and everyone deserves acceptance
PLZ I LOVE THE PANSEXUAL JOKES😭 FOR MY SISTERS BIRTHDAY THEIR FRIEND GOT THEM A PAN BECAUSE THEY ARE PANSEXUAL💀
Amazing
Really appreciate people who give practical gifts
Wonderful
Before me and my bf got together, he would make this joke where he said "when you get your own house in the future, one day you're gonna come home and see rose petals leading to your room and when you get to the bed there will be a pan there, and me and the rest of the friend group will watch as you stare in shock about why it's there" God I love him
@Aurora Ewalt ty😩☝️
I love the Pansexual girl with the two moms.
They were like "did we raise a crackhead kid??" 😂😂😂
are they her moms? damn im such a cishet i thought they were sisters. or roommates. r/sapphoandherfriend much lol i'll go stand in a corner for a while
@@Ruby-yn5fp I read the caption in the TikTok and yeah, they're her moms
@@yee-raplantar-maximoff4318 oh good haha I thought the "you're so bizarre" from the mom on the left was a bit ambiguous but that gives some context :D
@@Ruby-yn5fp they probably are very close friends who share a bed and ha e a kid together but i dont think theyre together or anything i mean that would be ridiculous right? :D
this was so cute!! i'm planning on coming out to my parents as nonbinary in a few days, i'm gonna bake a cake for it and hopefully it goes well!
How did it go? I hope it went well. ❤
^how did it go? sending lots of support💓
The italian dad at 3:33... he sounded like my dad, at least enough for dumb pattern-recognition brain.
He passed a year ago, I was too early in figuring things out to say anything.
Hearing that dad's reaction, the combination of that much acceptance and that accent, it just clicked that he never got a chance to know me as me.
He never got to meet his eldest daughter. 😭
I look forward to the day when 'coming out' is no longer a thing at all, like, I don't want young people (or even adults, considering I came out at 35) to have to come out to their families, I just want them to be who they are and bring home whoever they love without any justification or explanation required.
I'm raising my 3 kids like this, they are still little so we talk about acceptance and respect of others , not dating/marriage sex yet. I dont want any of them to have to come out, rather just being true to themselves from the get go
That's honestly what I want. I know my family would be supportive of me, but coming out is very daunting to me. I wish I could just say, "I have a girlfriend!", without having to say I'm pan and explain it.
@@asher692 You are a good parent.
That's how it was for my sisters and I. It was always just kind of known. None of us ever had to tell our mom we were bi. Because she's bi. I can't remember any of us having a coming out moment. I love my family and I hope that everyone else can have the love and support I have.
exactly i can’t wait for the day when straight isn’t the default so children won’t have to be scared or anxious to come out
I had a friend tell me when they came out as Bi to their dad, he said "I don't care, it' ain't a big deal, it's not like you're killing children" then after a brief pause he said "...you're not killing children, are you?"
They responded "...No?" and he said "phew"
I came out to my teacher as agender just to tell her about the harassment I’ve been receiving on my bus because of it and she only cared that people were harassing me, rather than my identity😭❤️
I love watching these.. especially seeing the support. I came out as non-binary to my parents and didn't get a hug, a "I'm proud of you", or any type of support.. Instead, I got a talk about how they refuse to pay for anything (hormones or binder) for me and how my mom thinks I'm wrong and it's a phase.. They didn't even ask about a name or pronouns. My dad said "I call you she and *deadname* because you ARE *deadname* and my DAUGHTER." I'm so thankful for my supportive friends, they're my home and I wouldn't be here without them!
Send lots of love your way and I hope that one day in the future your parents become supportive of you being non-binary I hope your doing well 😊
“I don’t care” seems to be the way a certain generation of dads express the you’re still my kid feeling.
Those are the dads who were never taught how to deal with talks about feelings but who are trying anyway.
I love the "I don't care" automatic response and then the explanation right after so you don't mistake his response for indifference
@@crouton3455 Yes that's wholesome but sad at the same time (sad for generations of men who have been taught to repress feelings, of course)
My dad's response (not to a coming out, but when I talked about my mental health issues for the first time) was, "You're mine no matter what." Still a bit awkward, but so nice
I am so not ready to come out to him as transgender, though. It's scary to try if this "mine" meant "my daughter", and will end if I'm not, you know?
@@alsy6813 so are you FtM?
You problably translated it already, but the captions in spanish say:
"I told my mom I'm bisexual.
But it was hard for me to do it in a conversation...
I thought for a long time how I would tell her
And I thought I'd do it like this"
(She misspelled "así" as "haci", I'm that kind of guy)
Edit: Man, now I realize I've been beaten to it after looking farther in the comments
Lol you were the first person I saw so thank you
I just realised she was in the closet, too. Or bi the closet, if you will
@@sunnyqueen5685 no words for this pun
I was about to translate it xD and yes, she misspelled "así", I saw it too
Ty!! That’s what I got, roughly, but I just know Spanish from like…living in Texas and being around Hispanics. I legit cried! I’m glad it was a good ending. It would hurt my heart if anyone was afraid to come out to me. My kid was like ‘hey, I’m enby’ and I was like ‘ok cool’. I try to radiate acceptance. Accepting mom hugs for anyone who needs them.
When I came out to my parents as bisexual, they just replied "ok 😐" and that was it. They don't really pay much attention to me anyways so it didn't really surprise me, but seeing all these supportive parents telling their kids how much they love them, makes me think my parents don't support me at all.
At least they didn't throw me out so.. could've gone worse, I guess 🤷♀️
Thanks. Now I'm crying. Honestly though, as a mother, I'm so happy to hear good coming out stories. Nothing makes me angrier than bad coming out stories. Like, love your kids for being their true selves.
I don't have a particularly interesting coming out story, but the funniest thing is when I came out to my (rather homophobic) mom. All I told her was that I was part of the LGBT+ group (I didn't/don't think she could understand split attraction and me being asexual/biromantic; heck I dont think she'd understand asexuality at all). But I told her this and her only response was, "Yeah. I'll be honest, I was surprised when you brought home a guy." And I was just so dumbfounded like???? No, I'm the one thats supposed to be surprising you, not the other way around lol. Any way, found out a year and a half later that my boyfriend is actually gender fluid, so I sometimes I have a boyfriend, sometimes I have a girlfriend, and sometimes they're just my partner.
That actually sounds very convenient! 💜
I am asexual demipanromantic and I came out to my dad while he was still homophobic because of Christianity. Luckily, I was able to explain to him that the homophobic verses in the Bible were mistranslated pedophilia verses and he is supportive-ish now. He doesn’t understand that how I can be sex-repulsed and has said numerous times that he “feels bad for” me. The demi and pan parts of my romantic orientation were also difficult to explain to him, but a little easier.
@@shaniastuart349 My mom says the same thing--"feels bad" about me being aroace. And totally doesn't get the agender thing at all. Just imagine what it's like, recognizing these things in yourself after you're 40 and trying to explain it to parents who are literally boomers. At least she isn't a hater, right? And my dad's got dementia, so every time the topic comes up, it's like coming out all over again, so we just say "Never mind" when he asks what we said and move on. I think those of us who have boring non-stories or no stories are definitely the lucky ones, and I am also hopeful like others said that eventually it won't be a thing anyone does anymore. Gender IDs and sex will all just be boring facts that no one will care about until it's truly relevant, like in medical situations or sexual/romantic relationships.
@@shaniastuart349 can you explain to me what demipanromantic means? my brain has exploded from adjectives
@@VeganAtheistWeirdo I am so sorry that your mom says it too and I can’t even imagine what it’s like to have your dad forget each time you come out. You sound like such a strong and amazing individual and I hope you have surrounded yourself with friends who love you for who you are because you deserve that. I also hope that one day gender identity, romantic orientation, and sexuality will just be boring facts because right now it’s honestly a little scary in the world if you aren’t cis and straight.
JAMMI IS WEARING A BLACK SHIRT WHY DOES THAT FEELS WRONG???
IKR😂
IKR LMAO
Cuz he went from uwu to Zaddy
@@HobieInTheBox You ain't lying tho.......
he's in his goth phase now
Lol "pan" is "bread" in Spanish, so the tired jokes we get are all bakery-related 🙄🤣
"Do you want me to pretend I didn't know?"
🤣🤣🤣 Comedic gold
I didn't even come out properly, me and my mom were at a thrift store and she guessed right that I was trans lol
We can thrift anything, even support 👏
So buying clothes was not the only TRANSaction that occurred :)
There's no right or wrong way to come out. 💙💗🤍💗💙
Bruh I was at a thrift store when I came out to my mum and she went “well I don’t think you are”
@@jimslim268 "well, I don't think you are my mom. Wow, see that? I had an opinion about something that isn't a choice or something that can be argued. Amazing how that is." All in all, if you believe you are trans, you are and valid! ❤❤❤ dont let anyone tell you differently
"Drop hints that you'd be accepting"
My dad: *buys a giant ally pride flag and hangs it up in our backyard*
aww that's so nice
But does he support the LGBTQ+ community there's just no way of knowing for sure
@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214 He does, and I don't think people would get an ally pride flag if they didn't support them lol
Aw that's so great! Btw, love your profile picture- Catradora is everything
@@antanimates2788 it was a joke
I have a very wholesome coming-out story, one day while I was driving with my grandpa I pointed out a pride parade sigh and he said something that I don't quite remember but I responded by basically saying that I was pansexual, and I got worried because he got really quiet and the year after we were getting ready for my graduation ceremony and my grandpa say "hey check out my suspenders." so I looked and they had rainbows on them. he followed it up by saying he will always love me.
I’m pan but have only ever dated guys and I’ve never come out to my mother… recently my upstairs neighbour asked me out and when I told my mam she said ‘oh that’s lovely! The boy or the girl?’ She was only briefly confused when I told her the boy because I’ve been complaining about his piano playing for the last two years…
Yoooo got my first T shot two days ago! 🕺🏻
Thank you guys for all your kindness!! ✨
congratulations!!!! i’m so happy for u!!!!
YAYYY GOOD FOR YOU :DDD
YOOOO CONGRATS
Eyyyy good job bro!!
Congrats man! So happy for you :)
if you come out as ace with a cake, you're a literal god.
if only i knew how to bake
@@laurajensen8896 Same 😂 my family would probably be more shocked I baked something than that I'm ace
Ok is it bad I just thought acing like icing 😂
Kinda reminds me of the the ace meme “I’d rather have cake”
I'll do that
Came out to my mom in the end of june after stalling a lot 'umm... so I'm bi'. And all she said was 'oh, okay... when did you find out?'.
Not 'are you sure', no erasure, just curiosity I guess.
She's literally one of my best friends, so I'm glad this doesn't change anything. 😄💗💜💙
i hadn't had great coming out experiences but watching these really made me tear up i'm so happy for them 🥺🥺
I will always be proud of you all, keep going and fighting. Nothing stays bad forever and life will improve. I believe in you all and know you can do it. You are all amazing, strong valid people. If you ever wish to vent feel free to comment below, I will always be there for you no matter what. 🙂
Thank you 😊💓☺
ty! u too!!
You are such a nice person, thank you :)
tysm cactus!
you’re amazing :)
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The dad saying “okay” made me smile. We stan supportive parents.
Jamie’s speech at the end made me cry so hard! Thank you Jamie
When I was 21 or something, I told my mum and sister I was asexual. My sister rolled her eyes so hard, I'm surprised they didn't fall out. My mum, once it was explained, shook her head and said, "You'll find someone and want to have sex eventually, oh my god."
Now at 32, I like to regularly send pictures of my cats to my mom and be like, "Aren't your grandkittens so adorable?" just to remind her that she thought I'd get older, become a horn dog, start a family, and provide her with human grandchildren to fawn over. :)
* happy pan noises *
Based comment.
I’m out a bit online, but mostly closeted offline. I didn’t figure out that there’s a name for what I am (aro/ace) until I was 47. At this point (49), I’m not sure coming out matters anymore.
I'm ace too and it took my awhile to figure it out, if coming out matters to you then don't be afraid of living your truth. If you feel like it doesn't really matter to you then of course there's no absolute requirement for you to come out 🤷♀️ its all in what you feel is right for you 🙂 good luck and don't feel pressured!
Maybe if people misunderstand you and your way of thinking, coming out would be a good thing. But if no one really cares about your romantic or sexual life it's maybe not that important. Maybe the people you are close with are just accepting the way you are without knowing that you are aro/ace or even knowing what that is, but you still got some years to live, maybe more than you think
I had come out technically ( I asked my mum how she'd react if I ended up dating a girl: I identified only as a girl back then, and she just gave a whole lot of biblical crap. ) I later on excused the question to be plain curiosity. Then I decided to not come out, and just date who I want. That didn't work out when my mum found our texts. I don't live with my parents anymore, and I've gotten past the whole coming out thing. I just let people figure it out for themselves.
The second one says (roughly):
I told my mommy I am bisexual.
It was hard for me to do so with a conversation...
I thought about how would I tell her (that she's bi) for a long time.
And I ended up doing it like this.
this video makes me so happy. i love to see all these people with their accepting parents, because when i came out my dad wasn't. i really really want there to be a world where everyone can look back at them coming out and remember it as a great moment, because that's something everyone deserves
"I just want you to be happy" was the reaction I got. Seeing these just makes me want to fight harder for the people who don't get that reaction.
I'm Cis, but these bring tears to my eyes. The only thing that makes me sad is thinking about TikToks that didn't get posted because the response was negative, and feeling so sad for the people who didn't get a loving and accepting response.
Maybe someone should make a tiktok just for such an occasion. Its heartbreaking to know that there are still so many parents unable to accept their child for who they really are. Unfortunately, I know what that's like too, but I can handle that, she doesnt accept me for my 'flaws' in general tbh.
@@sianclarke3169 Good idea. I've never done Tiktok myself. I limit myself to FB and TH-cam.
@@tdhunterselbrede me too, everything else just gets a bit much
The most wholesome coming out tiktoks are coming out to lgbt siblings bc they’re so supportive :)
My gender fluid sib literally yelled with happiness and wrapped me in the biggest hug. I was Mormon so realizing that I'm queer was really hard for me, and their response made it so much easier.
When I came out it didn’t end very well, so seeing when others get met with respect is very nice!❤️Stay safe, okay?💞💞💞
CinnamonRollKitten? You are a true Chad. :)
These make me sad about my own experience but so happy for those people and the kids growing up who were able to have their parents not care. It’s restores my faith in humanity a little bit.
I’m a guy who’s mostly identified as straight. Recently, I’ve been starting to question myself, and I’m starting to think I might be bi. I’m still not sure though, since I still have a preference for women and I still don’t fully know to what extent I’m attracted to men or any other gender. So I might be bi or heteroflexible (roughly, “mostly straight”) or somewhere in between, and I don’t want to be the straight guy who’s forcing himself into LGBT+ spaces by saying that he’s bi when he’s not.
If I do eventually decide that I’m bi, I want to come out to my friends and sister first, since I know they’d be fully accepting of me. They’re all cishet (I think) but full allies of the LGBT+ community. After that I’ll want to come out to my parents with my sister’s help. They’re fully accepting of gay people but I don’t know if they understand what bisexuality is, so I’d be a bit more nervous about them.
Anyway, I love this channel and it’s wholesomeness and positivity, and it’s really helping me come to terms with my questioning. Anyone there reading this, you are valid and loved regardless of who you love and what gender you are and I want to give you all a hug 🤗
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I'd also like to give you a hug! There is no rush in figuring yourself out and it is also okay to kind of bounce around a few different labels to find something that fits, you might find out that nothing fits and that is so so valid :D I prefer men but can be attracted to any gender and the body doesn't matter to me. If they are good people and make me happy then nothing else matters!
I used to think I was "forcing myself into the LGBTQ+ community" because I am bisexual but have never had a sexual encounter/relationship with another women. I have since learned that I am valid as I am (:
Bisexuality means any degree of attraction to two(or more) genders. It can be that you like 30% women and 70% men, 50/50, 1/99, 34.66/66.44, etc. Just look around for more terms, if bisexuality doesn't quite feel right! There are plenty of labels, finding the one that fits you best usually feels great, the most important thing is that you're comfortable. Even if that means you'd rather not have a label! Perfectly valid. Sexuality and gender are hard to figure out, just give yourself some time and patience, and research at a pace that isn't overwhelming.
I really feel this since I was definitely questioning myself and my attraction for other men for quite awhile. I wish you all the best with figuring yourself out and hope you stay very happy and I approve of all the hugs and sweetness. ^^
The guy coming out to his Italian parents was so wholesome😭🥰
I came out to my parents last week and I FEEL SO HAPPY finally being able to accept who I am! My parents are super supportive too! 😭😭😭
My dad was like: "Well now your options have doubled!"
Came out to my mum last week and it went really well!
For anyone reading this; you can do it!! And if you're not in a position where you can, I'm sending love
Im honestly never planning to come out to my family, and watching these make me cry. I wrote something close to a coming out note on this website will self-destruct. It was the best thing I've ever done. You don't have to come out if your unsafe or you just don't want to. It's A ok.
1:38 really reminds me of my own coming out, told my mum i was trans and just couldnt stop crying so we just stood in the kitchen hugging for 20 minutes
You're so lucky, when I came out (not to long ago) my mom basically said that it was a phase and that my school was confusing me.
I am glad your mom is supportive of you
That’s how my coming out as pan and trans went as well. My parents and I were all emotional and hugging. I was bawling, but so incredibly relieved! ❤️🏳️⚧️
@@kovu_nonexistent3750 ill tell you this since you're mom probably didnt. im so, so, SO proud of you for having the courage to tell your mother! you are very brave and please know that you are valid and i appreciate you so much! because when you're happy, im happy! i love you💗
2:04 Someone came out the same way in another TikTok and tagged this person in it. She was so proud of the person that tagged her.
My coming out to my friends was the best day of my life!! My best friend happy stimmed so much and hugged me and literally screamed “you’re gay!!” And my other friends were like OMFG WE KNEW IT YEsSsS
When I came out I freaked out right before and I ran upstairs to where my parents were, I yelled “I like boys and girls, I’m bi” then ran back down the steps. Needless to say it could have been smoother but my dad was super happy for me, my mom not so much but it’s okay cause I’m besties with my dad
we love a good father child relationship! i hope you're mother learns how to be more open minded at some point, but i feel that you're valid and you deserve the worlds acceptance💗💜💙
@@d0wnf4ll96 this made me smile sm, thank you for your kind words they mean so much!
I wish my coming out was like this. I'm so happy that kids these days are getting the love they deserve.
It's always nice to watch these💛
Apparently rant coming up:
I had the 'classical' bi coming out (I wasn't kicked out or disowned but they told me they were disappointed with me and it's a phase and they cried (you probably heard that before))
But that was only with my parents. The rest was really accepting (aunts and uncles don't know yet).
At first it hurt, but then I got over it and now it's a bummer for them that they feel this way.
I'm gonna try to love someone one day and I hopefully won't run away this time because of my trust issues (I was ghosted by 2 seperate best friends overnight at different times) and trauma (first kiss was sxual harassment, but that is NOT the reason I'm also into girls mom).
It is hard to think my mom will never be at my wedding and things like that (she's terminally ill from a brain tumor) because if I meet the right woman, maybe she could've changed her mind.
I just came out to my grandma and (step)grandpa yesterday and they couldn’t have been more nice about it! I showed them a picture of me and my girlfriend and they were so happy for me! So this video came at the perfect time :)
On one hand it's really heartwarming, on the other hand I really wish coming out like that didn't need to be a thing anymore, not sure about how others will react :(
I have a mother that does believe teenagers should label themselves because “hormones effect your sexuality”? Which obviously doesn’t make sense because hormones don’t go away- But that means I can’t come out without being told I’m wrong and I’m not that sexuality :D
Your videos make me feel accepted, I appreciate your content you’re a good person! Thank You ❤️
It's such a weird excuse. My mom was talking about people my age feeling gay attraction because of changing hormones.
I'm 22.
My sister told me something similar, that people under 25 shouldn't use labels because they don't know who they are yet and you're just experimenting at a young age so it might not be real.
@@anonymousgreenbean6825 Really? I think a 20 years old person knows what their sexuality is
When her logic doesn't change like the hormones of teenagers(according to her), she will have to accept your sexuality when you are an adult
@@turtellok4964 I'm literally 19 and she still gives me the undet 25 bs
I finally came out to my parents yesterday and they said they will always support me no matter what, Im so happy and was so scared.
I came out to my mom and she told me I wasn't old enough to know who I like, luckily everyone else was very supportive, I'm thankful to have those friends...
Jammi: "omg this video is gonna make me cry"
Me, already profusely leaking salty liquid from my eyes: "How are you not yet?"
Oh that "we knew, but we were waiting for you to be ready to tell us" thing is wonderful. It's a bit of a mindfork in the moment, but it's beautiful all the same.
The Italian dad really got me. So much emotion.
I came out to my good friend from work who I’d only known for about a year and a half, and she was like, “yeah. I know. I’ve known since we’ve met and I’ve just been waiting for you to tell me” and I’m was shocked. I told her, “And you couldn’t have told me?! I’ve been in identity crisis for YEARS and you just…knew???” Basically the same thing with my uncles. They were like, “I’m not surprised. I’ve had the thought since you were 12 (I came out at 24 to them)”
i wanted to make a coming out cake but
1. i can't be arsed
2. i can't do it as a surprise
3. idk anymore what my mom thinks about the lgbt+ community
ruh roh I’m sorry buddy
Same
You could make a cake for friends you've told.
@@stareyedwitch one of my friends literally complains about big coming outs and one is going to canada for four months. my other close friends are either just not as close or have homophobic parents
@@uncannyvalley2113 Make smol coming out cake for yourself?
I came out to my dad and he was just like "ok, what's that got to do with me"
Most anticlimactic reveal ever 😅
as an asexual person, i cannot imagine a more perfect way to come out than to bake an ace cake 💜
ACE GARLIC BREAD
As a raging pansexual...
I WILL NEVER STOP MAKING PAN JOKESSSSSS
FRYING PAANNNNSSSSSS
To be honest, its hard to know how to react to people coming out. Especially when the parents are like “yeah and?” XD Like when you are queer affirming and you aren’t surprised. Its almost like “oh cool.” Moves on. Its nice to see that we are at a point where saying “I’m queer” would have the same reaction as someone saying “I’m heterosexual.”
lol my friend came out to me and I was like yeah, cool, now keep spilling the tea I’m impatient
That's the power of propaganda.
I think that the best way is to say "thank you for sharing this with me, it means a lot, I see that you trust me!" and offer a hug.
It shows that you care and the event of coming out is important (it is, if the person desided to do that)
It seems not so indifferent like "ok so what... I don't care..." or "I already knew, duh".
@@firasjemil213 when people are more accepting to each other it would be actually good propaganda but propaganda is not good at all. So I guess it's not propaganda
I came out to my dad on the way back from swimming lessons, i played girls from girl in red. he was super chill about it. 💗
And i came out to my mom (who already had and idea) a couple days later. She was also super chill about it. 💗
All of these coming outs are so emotional!
at like 8:50 jammi was like "i cant wait for the point kids dont have to worry about not being loved when coming out", and tbh, yes but also, i cant wait for the point we dont have to come out anymore. And its just casual conversation stuff. With many of these parents in this video it would have already been like that. And that is just awesome to see.
My coming out wasn't positive but my family still loves me. Even so, not having their immediate support took a toll on me and I'm still trying to figure out who I am because of it. I can't imagine how horrible it is for people who ask, "do you still love me?" and the answer is no....
I'm teaching my parents all the lgbtq+ terms and why it's important to treat them all with respect. I'm pansexual and only my sister knows (she's very open minded) I hope that I can slowly teach my parents to be more accepting so I can feel comfortable coming out. I'm also questioning my gender so that'll be fun
Same but when you have abusive parents its not that easy
@@mollyslypen6176 I'm really sorry to hear that. Remember that you're loved and deserving of great things!
this wholesomeness, positivity, and softness is all I need in life. I’m forever longing for a supportive hug in response to me coming out to my family… unfortunately for me, my parents would actually disown me if they ever knew😔
Jamie, thank you so much for accepting all of us. It means so so much, especially to those of us that aren’t accepted by our own families. So so proud to be part of this little potato family… much love to all of the spuds♥️ To anyone that may need to hear it, I love and accept each and every one of you just as you are, and I wish you all the acceptance in the world🤗
I had a though day today, dysphoria and sh*t...
I needed this, I'm crying so hard. Happy tears, happy tears.
I am a Trans boy with transphobic parents, I just wanted to let you all know you are valid and we love you! 💙
you too dude! sorry your parents are transphobic, i wish you the best of luck :)
💙💖🤍💖💙
2:36 When that mom suddenly went "Não chora! Por que tá chorando?" my brain got confused for a second, cause that's Brazilian Portuguese, my native language, and I wasn't expecting that, haha! That's means "Don't cry! What are you crying for?", btw
Siim eu fiquei mto surpresa tbm
I'm crying rn cause having that must be amazing huh? having a supporting family and having someone that only wants you to be happy no matter what must be so amazing
I'm in tears!! I never ever cry. If anyone ever needs to come out to a parent and can't come out their own, well this parent is sending you acceptance, love and hugs.
Love your life and be you. Sending you a very big scrunchy hug. Xxx