It’s Finally Here! - Wedding Q&A / Squirmy and Grubs
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ก.ย. 2024
- Use code SQUIRMYANDGRUBS14 to get up to 14 FREE MEALS across your first 5 HelloFresh boxes, plus free shipping at bit.ly/3pXOxTh
Our Vendors:
Venue: To Be Revealed After The Big Day!
Caterer: Mintahoe Catering - www.mintahoe.com/
Photographers: Studio Twelve:52 - studiotwelve52...
Wedding Planner/Decor/Florals: Revel & Flourish - www.revelandfl...
Desserts: Farina Baking Company - www.farinabaki...
S’mores: North Mallow - northmallow.com/
Celebrity Bartender: Erick Castro - www.possessedb...
Dress: Annika Bridal Boutique - www.annikabrid...
Engagement Ring: Continental Diamond - www.continenta...
Wedding Bands: New Gild Jewelers - newgild.com/
Hannah and I absolutely love making videos for you. If you would like to support our work so that we can continue sharing our life and relationship with you for years to come, you can do so on our Patreon: / squirmyandgrubs
Thank you to our Advocacy Partners on Patreon:
Dillon C.
Juli M.
Roger B.
Antonio M.
Jeffrey M.
Jason B.
Malissa H.
JT
Janet G.
Jonathan K.
Poki
Diana
Ellen C.
Craig S.
Connor D.
David O.
Emily L.
Gavin W.
Ragnar V.
Shannon D.
Pedro C.
MORE INFO ABOUT US AND OUR CHANNEL:
Follow us on Instagram at:
Shane: / shaneburcaw
Hannah: / hannahayl
Chloe: / chloesayspetme
Our address:
Squirmy and Grubs
PO Box 16411
Minneapolis, MN 55416
GRAB A COPY of Shane’s latest memoir, STRANGERS ASSUME MY GIRLFRIEND IS MY NURSE, featuring many never-before-told stories about Shane and Hannah’s relationship, right here: us.macmillan.c....
OFFICIAL Squirmy and Grubs Merch: teespring.com/stores/squirmy-and-grubs
SUBSCRIBE for more! 👉 / squirmyandg. .
Intro animation made by Pinkietoons! Check out her Instagram page to see more of her awesome work: / pinkietoons
Intro jingle made by Caitlin Kalafus! Check out her Instagram page to see more of her awesome work: / caitlinkalafus
Shane Burcaw (he/him) is the author of several award-winning books about disability. He is the President of a nonprofit organization called Laughing At My Nightmare, and a renowned public speaker who has performed across the country at places such as Harvard University, The University of Florida, The University of Connecticut, Princeton University, and many more.
Hannah Burcaw (she/her) graduated from Carleton College, where she studied Sociology and Anthropology. She films and edits the “Squirmy and Grubs” vlog, which has over 800,000 subscribers on TH-cam. Hannah has spoken at prestigious universities and Fortune 500 companies alike about the realities of ableism. On her popular Instagram account, she advocates for acceptance of all people and works to improve the way society thinks about disability.
Shane and Hannah have been together for over four years. They got married in September of 2020 in the midst of a global pandemic in their backyard, with their officiant conducting the ceremony via Zoom. Their interabled relationship often confuses people, because much of society still cannot fathom people with disabilities being involved in loving, intimate relationships. Anyone who watches these episodes will quickly see their relationship is just as “normal” as any other. Sure, Hannah helps Shane use the bathroom and brush his teeth, but those activities do not detract from the emotional, intellectual, and physical connection they experience together.
So amazing guys. Do you have a wedding registry for your internet family to give you wedding gifts?
Thank you! We’re going to pin this since many are asking the same thing :) We appreciate you so much for asking, but we do not have a public registry. Your support of this channel by subscribing and liking our videos is more than enough! Thanks!
Exactly what I was thinking !!
@@tinabell947 they answered this above as well as in the video
@@taytay1030 exactly what I was thinking. If people just listened, they'd know. I hate to sound rude but, man it drives me nuts when people could answer their own questions if they just paid attention for once 🤦♀️
@@kels0jade6 What are you, a school teacher ?
People will not remember your décor, but food and entertainment/fun will be what people remember. We put a bunch of money into the photographer as well, and have gorgeous photos to remember the day. Our venue wasn't particularly attractive but people still tell us what a fun wedding we had (13 years later).
I agree. Don't ever try and save on a photographer and videographer. Get the best, because if they're not the best, it will show in the photos and video. People also remember the food. I know people who were wedding guests 20 years ago who will say "remember how big those shrimp were? Do you remember the midnight buffet?"
The best wedding was at a neighborhood bar that had awesome food and a kick ass DJ & the funniest people to gather for a major party!🙌❤️✌️
As a young adult in a wheelchair, I plan to zip line down the aisle at my wedding. I want my dress to be flowing behind me as I zoom down and my husband to catch me at the alter!
How COOL!!
Best of everything to you!💞💕
That’s amazing
Sounds like the only reasonable choice, honestly!
That made me smile...! 🙂
That sounds so fun! 😄
I would DEFINITELY do pictures with Chloe . Our dog has lots of anxiety so we did pictures with her right off the bat and in a private session not near people
The first picture my photographer sent us was our “family portrait” with our good boy and it is so precious 💜
My mom did my hair and makeup, my dress was $300 off the David's bridal discount rack, and got married for free in the rose garden at Pointe Defiance in WA. It was beautiful and I loved it!
You got a good deal. Did they charge for alterations?
Pt Defiance is my FAVORITE PARK!!! Congrats!!!
I love that place! Congrats!
Hannah, you don't need a makeup artist. You are so naturally beautiful. No matter what you do that day, you will look great!
I just got married in July! We had an outdoor wedding and the rain stopped 5 minutes before the ceremony.
It was a magical day 💜 but definitely a stressful lead up.
I hope you enjoy yours!
No matter what happens with the weather or Covid , your wedding will be beautiful and memorable, if only to you. We eloped when we were 17 and 18, got married by a justice officer the peace with a juvenile delinquent and his mother as witnesses. We remember that day 50 years ago just as fondly as if we’d had a big wedding.
Aaw that's so cute! True love doesn't need a fancy wedding! My husband and I got married in Gibraltar! We are in our 50s but we still say we 'eloped'! Just the two of us- perfect!❤
Vacillate, verb: alternate or waver between different opinions or actions; be indecisive. You are right Shane.
I looked it up to and was shocked!
I've definitely shared your videos (the ones that are age-appropriate) with the youth from our Yo! Disabled and Proud group. Every Friday we have Be About It meetings (Don't just talk about it! Be About It!), and the first 20 minutes has evolved into "What's the latest Squirmy & Grubs video?" discussion.
Hey Squirmy and Grubs, I really love your show. I watch it constantly when I’m not working. I have cerebral palsy from birth. My joke is, cerebral palsy is better than a credit card... you can’t lose it! No matter how you try. I’m from San Francisco and I’m a real life rights advocate. You guys make me believe in love. I just love you guys so much. I would love to talk with you and maybe one day meet you guys in person. And Shane, maybe one day we’ll be able to go off-roading with our wheelchairs! I’m kind of a dare devil. Sincerely, Elizabeth
I love that you are so considerate of Chloe,😀
This is what I called love knows no boundaries. Congrats!
I laughed for most of this video!! Shane, your sense of humor is priceless and I love how you can keep a straight face during your made-up stories and comments. And I vote for including Chloe in your photos...even if it's just a few. You'll regret not having her in them. Enjoy your special day. Best wishes to you both!
You two are so cute! I understand not wanting to be the center of attention! My husband and I got married in Las Vegas to solve that problem. Twenty Seven years later and still extremely happy. Best wishes for a life time of love and happiness!
I think Shane’s signature drink should be called “Moon Bounce” !!!
YES! Then he gets his Moon Bounce!!
YES!!!
Or something about a pumpkin patch. 😂
haha perfect!!
If I can suggest one thing if no one else has already. Get a bunch of disposable cameras and put them around for people to take random pictures for you to add to your memories. Also you can get someone to get people to record personal messages to you two and any suggestion on marriage trust me they can be awesome for a good laugh. However make sure you know how many cameras you put out and you collect them at the end of the night. Blessings! Sherry
I did the camera thing when i married my late husband. They are some of the best and some of the worst photos of the day. Top of advice, cameras with auto flash, very few people used flash and it made the photos dark and grainy
We did the disposable cameras at our wedding. Best shots are from the children at the reception.
@@rockmisfit30Yes kids know how to work a camera better than anyone nowadays.
@@missionquestthing Sorry about your husband. I'm a widow myself.
@@dreamingmusicgal thank you, I am sorry for your loss as well.
So I think Shane’s drink should be “Drink Rising Onto Next Elevation”. The Shane D.R.O.N.E. I mean, you do love your drone shots for videos. 😄 This was fun. Have the best day
❤❤❤Honorary flower girl here! Even if it's in my mind😂 The love you two share is very inspirational to couple all over the world! Stay happy❤
You two are adorable! 🌞I think the last question was perfect because the sound of Shane's laughter was so unexpected and it just made me start laughing too. I think this is going to be the most wonderful reception and I can't wait for you to share some pictures with us. Sincerely, Carly ☺💐
Congratulations on finally having your wedding party! I wish you a beautiful day full of wonderful memories x
Where is it written that you have to be traditional in what you do. It is your party so no explanations are necessary. Do It all the way you want to and be happy with the whole thing. Enjoy your reception. It is a once in a life time event. What you guys have planned sounds absolutely fabulous and great fun.
I'm currently planning a wedding too, and I'm so anxious! I love how chill you guys are about it. I have to believe everything will go well and just enjoy the moment.
Do you like to be in a relationship with an Indian boy?
Love or love is a feeling. Which is not from the mind but from the heart, love is from many feelings, in which different thoughts are involved!, Love moves slowly from affection to happiness. It's a strong attraction and a sense of personal connection that drives her to forget everything and go with her.
Love can happen to anyone at any time. Gina Victoria
Your wedding sounds absolutely amazing!! Wishing you all a blessed and memorable day 🥰
Can't wait to see photos, the wedding vlog and descriptions of the food! I hope your day is joyful!
Have they announced the day? Watching is hit and miss for me at times, so I feel sure I’ve just missed hearing it somewhere along the way.
@@kenzierocks1240 I think they are keeping the actual day private for now.
My favorite part of your videos is Shane's jokes and Hannah's response to them.
Put Shane in a comfy stretchy off the rack outfit for the sit down dinner😂
With dinosaurs eating pizza 🤣
You two are professional videographers so I'm really excited to see a wedding video that's in your style. I think that's why we all watch, because we love your lifestyle and set up.
After all these years watching your channel I am surprised how this video just tickled me to see how you two are just so in tune with each other. Your so comfortable and fearless in your love. You "fit" together like El Daunte spaghetti and a killer marinara sauce. Like Vanille ice cream and designer hot fudge. Like tee shirts and blue jeans.
You are perfect just the two you are.
I’m so happy the two of you found each other. You’re only perfect together. I have an awesome marriage and I can see when others are meant to be together. That’s you guys. I’m sending lots of love and patience (lol) as you walk your last days as single. I hope you have an amazing honeymoon. Love you guys and can’t wait to see more of your videos around this magical time. 🥰🥰🥰
The way she looks at you is something special! I wish I had what you have I struggle with mental health issues and talking to people 😔
Sorry. Remember there are people who are looking for friends too. The best tip I’ve heard about talking to others is to ask questions about them. I heard the suggestion that the next time you are in a social situation to make it a goal to not talk about yourself at all and see how it goes.
This sounds wonderful. In keeping with "our style" we also opted to not have videographer but we did decide what would be fun (and 💯 was) is buy a go-pro with backup batteries. We had hats, masks and tiaras all with strong Velcro to pass around to affix the go-pro to. Best wedding choice for us. 💚 Congratulations.
You guys are helping me get through my last 2 weeks of grad school. I’m working 24/7 and want nothing more than to take a break/give up. But you two are giving me something to look forward to and motivate me to get up and do my work. Thank you for all your videos ❤
Hannah: “I’ll let Shane take it away”
Also Hannah: *proceeds to say the entire menu*
Love you guys😂😂😂
Everything will be lovely. Best wishes to you ♥️!
Took me 10 minutes of sitting here and thinking but I think I finally got a good name for Shane’s drink: Shane’s Simple Boy Sipper😂😂
Huge longtime fan of the channel. So happy for you guys. Funniest, most genuine TH-camrs out there. So deserving of all the success that y’all have gotten! Congrats, guys!
When you guys do long videos it's literally my favorite thing in life! 😭🤗
You don't get out much, do you?
@@mybonneval be a better person.
@@maggiepb4 LOL!
Thanks Hannah for normalizing clothes changing fit over time. This happens to lots of us but it feels like no one talks about it, or if they do, it's comes off like a shameful secret. This is a normal part of life and I'm so glad to hear that you found a dress that feels good on your body!!
Niki
Changing
Hahpsts
I've been regularly watching your videos, daily, and I think you both are awesome! So it is with an amount of sadness 😔 that in my own conscience I cannot support your videos anymore, as I don't support mandating vaccinations.
I truly wish the best for you!😊💕
Shane,,,,,, you should have a "Groom's Cake". This 'IS' traditional.
You both make me smile EVERY TIME I watch your videos! I’ll probably cry when I see your wedding video as I feel like your journey to this day has been what’s entertained me during some of my toughest days. Watching you both reinstates my hope in the meaning of love. Aroha nui mai - love and blessings !
A forty five min video of my favourite you tube couple!! 🥳 Got my drink and snacks.. let’s do this!
Can’t get the image of Hannah holding Shane in her arms like a baby out of my mind for the wedding. You guys are like Abbot and Costello or George and Gracie
Drink name: Shane's Short Sleeve Slurp.
Shane's drink: garnish it with some leaves (mint, basil, ... - whatever goes with the ingredients) and call it "Croctail with Vegetation"
Not getting wedding photos with my dogs is one of my biggest regrets. Maybe you could do a first look with her beforehand?
Have fun and enjoy the moment. You will thank yourselves later. ❤️
I wish you the best . I wish everything turned out the way you planned it.
Congratulations!
Shane: This video is going to be like four hours long.
Me: I'D WATCH IT!! 😜🙌🏼
😂😂😂😂😂
If a video is more than about 5 minutes long I rarely watch the whole thing, but I love Shane and Hannah's videos so I almost always watch the whole thing, including this video!
Your happy hearts and joyous support from family and friends will be what makes your day spectacular and memorable for all. Cheers you two!
Can’t wait to see your photos. BUT please, please can you start using subtitles again? I can’t follow you very well as I’m deaf. Love to both of you. X🤗
Came here to add this. I dunno why they stopped using them. I’m HOH AND can’t follow this video..I’m disappointed since they promote accessibility so heavily. It’s one click on TH-cam to put the Auto subs on. They aren’t perfect but better than nothing.
I saw them reply to another comment and they said the subtitles should be up soon!
the subtitles always come a few moments (idk how long?) later, they always comment that subtitles should be up soon. So they are not on when it uploads, but if you come back a day or a few days later they always have subtitles (you have to turn them on on youtube)
I wear hearing aids and voices are loud enough but not clear enough so I need cc also. Thank you.
@@susanne5803 I am watching two hours later and cc is not up yet. I will wait a bit
Hannah, you don't need a make-up artist. Your makeup you do yourself is always impeccable. Someone you've never met before could think shiny blue eye shadow and red lips would be a good look for you! As you would say: "Nope". And I'm with Shane on mashed potatoes being the best dessert ever. 😋
No wedding make up artist would just put sone random blue and red make up on you.
Hope you guys have an amazing wedding day. It sounds perfect.
So happy for you both on your upcoming wedding reception. Thank you for sharing and looking forward to seeing glimpses of your happy day. Beautiful couple!
Re-enact a movie scene. Lol When people ask if there will be a re-enactment, you can say, "Yes, The courtroom scene from Legally Blonde."
I feel for you guys. I married my husband on 8/22/20 legally because we had to move our wedding to this year on July 30th. We just had our wedding day and it turned out amazing but was so stressful to plan (twice)! We did a ceremony but modified it since we were already legally married. Best of luck guys! Xx 💕
How about Shane's superlatively scintillating special sassy sauce? 😆
I like that!!!
I can feel the LOVE between you two. Blessings..........................
Do your own makeup and you will look like yourself 😊 You won't regret it. I am a hairstylist and did my own hair and makeup 15 years ago. I am so happy because it looks like me.
Such good advice. I had my makeup done professionally for my first wedding and even I find it hard to believe it's me in the photos.
That's why a trial is important! So you can make changes before the big day.
I’m in a very similar situation.. had an intimate ceremony a few months ago & literally JUST had our wedding reception “love party” with 100 loved ones last weekend. We wrote on the invite “we kindly ask that all adults who attend are vaccinated”. We had an outdoor event, but wanted to be extra cautious with the vaccines so we thought we were good. 2 days ago, we got a call from our vaccinated friend who attended the party informing us that he just tested positive for Covid. We’re now in the process of informing all our guests of their potential exposure & waiting for test results. We thought we were doing the right thing by having an outdoor event with vaccinated guests, but are quickly realizing that this virus is something that needs to be taken very seriously. My point of this story is that I highly recommend masks & good ventilation as I now personally know 3 people who tested positive for Covid despite having a vaccine. Just sharing my experience hoping you may take extra precautions. P.S. I re-wore my wedding dress too & I’m so glad I did! Good choice!
You really don't get it all. Most don't.
Thanks for sharing your story. Yes, people definitely should think less of the vaccine as avoiding the virus and more of having the best chance at avoiding the hospital.
18:11 - Actually, no. "Off the rack" means some item of clothing you purchase and wear "as is," with no alteration. You could literally take it directly off the rack, put it on, and wear it for the event. A "sample," "demo," "floor model," or "store use" item (different terms in different places and for different types of things) is one which has been used in the store, and is later sold at a discounted price.
(My years in retail management FINALLY come in handy.)
I like how you're making the wedding what you want it to be, and not giving into traditions that are meaningless to you! Have a wonderful day!
"This video is going to be 4 hours long.."
*Hannah rolls eyes like he's being dramatic*
"Let's go back to my childhood..."
*me thinking, oh God Shane was right 🤣🤣"
So happy for you two!! OMG, you two are such a good example to all of us. Thx for sharing you lives with us. ❤️
"Do we have to make the bowl?" 🤣🤣
Shane kills me man. I need someone with his sense of humor in my life ASAP.
Shane-nanagins! Great drink name! Cheers to you on this special occasion!
I totally agree with the moon bounce at the wedding. That would be so cool. Shane's ideas really should be taken more seriously
I don’t know of any drink name suggestions but thank you for being so considerate of Clhoe so often people drag their pets to events that they won’t be comfortable at and it is so clear that you are putting her first :)
Never clicked on a video faster!!! ❤️ So excited for you guys!! :)
Your picture in the commercial for "fire" just makes me happy. Hugs to you on your special day!
I just thought I would let you know my invitation must have gotten lost in the mail, but I can’t wait to be there. 😂
Mine too 😂
The two of you are such special individuals and so inspirational. May your wedding festivities be everything you want them to be and a glorious celebration of your love ❤️ and commitment to each other.
Your wedding sounds and will be amazing! Food sounds really good and I love the idea of a second dress. Would love to watch a wedding video if you choose to share some of the highlights with us. So, off topic question. Do you two ever do meet-ups with followers who travel to MSP? :)
Shane's signature drink could be "drinking my nightmare"
You two are awesome. I always feel that weddings can be a bit awkward for some. People just standing around or horrible seating placement. So it’s nice that you two are thinking about moments that can be a bit awkward for the guests. Your wedding to be sounds amazing, food sounds scrumptious. Have fun and good luck!
My daughter did the same thing. Married in her back yard 5/2020. Had her reception this past May.
I'm with you Hannah on the cake choice. Dessert is the highlight of the meal for me too. Can't wait to hear about what you decide on.
That raspberry with buttercream cake sample sounded and looked amazing.
Best wishes for your beautiful day to celebrate your love with your family and friends. You two are so cute and so fun, looking forward to seeing the video.
I'm so excited for you two! Looking forward to seeing photos! Hannah, you are so pretty, I know you will be breathtaking in your dress! Shane, you will look really handsome in a blue tux, can't wait to see you dressed up! Have fun guys!!
Sounds like it will be a fun day. I hope you guys have a great time! All I remember about our wedding day (well, not *all*) is that I didn't eat a single thing. But I heard the food was good!
I love how much you both bring the best out of each other. You guys are amazing and super cute!
I cannot wait for pictures. 💖
This is so exciting and i am sure the celebration of your wedding will be beautiful and perfect in every way❤❤
This is almost exactly have my wedding went. Pandemic postponed and then not as many people came as I wished but still wonderful!
thank you so much for adding manual captions again! I needed it and was hoping i could watch your videos again!
Can I come just to eat. Dine & Dash! 😅 Your menu is amazing. Made my mouth water! Congrats on it all!
Can't wait to see the photos/video from your special day!
How exciting!! Can't wait to see photos ☺️❤️☺️
Wedding is in less than two months and people have booked flights for it, I just want to have the wedding day I've planned for two years so I'm glad to hear you guys are moving forward too.
My Grandaughter is doing the samething having a small wedding. She has wedding insurance just in case.
What is wedding insurance? Never heard of it
@@marymccowan6629 oh im not getting married probably ever lol but thanks..was just curious bc i never knew u could insure a wedding😊thanks for answering!!
My daughter did exactly like you … wedding cancelled twice they went and got married and now the wedding is next April and like you it’s paid for !! Xx congratulations guys xx
Love you guys! ❤❤❤
I really like the height the chair gives Shane next to Hannah it just is very becoming looking
Thanks for sharing all these fun wedding details. Your menu and day sound absolutely fabulous!
Sounds like my sort of wedding. Well done for sticking to what you want and how you want the day to be. I hope you have a wonderful day and I’m looking forward to seeing the video x
Wow the trolls are really coming in. These people have completely lost touch with reality clearly. It must be a sad life having nothing better to do than harass people on TH-cam whose videos they obviously don’t even actually watch. What a shame.
Part of masses that screwed up a good thing the United States had going, and they will gaslight to deflect any guilt they carry for the state of our country.
You do know that Shane has done this before with previous beautiful women right
@@moonbeam178 dude get a hobby this is sad
@@probably_notbob5794 do your homework....
@@moonbeam178 your ableism is loud and clear.
Is it really such an insane thought that more than one woman would have been attracted enough to a disabled man to date him? Most adults have had more than one relationship, It’s normal. Plenty of adults have also had more than one serious long term relationship as well.
Quit looking for conspiracy shit that is not there. All you are doing is making yourself look like a dumb bully.
Thanks for sharing all those guys! I miss being able to be on Patreon you’re such an inspiration, I hope you have just absolutely wonderful time! ❤️
I just feel she doesn't love him really and it's a act I'm sorry
It really is. But prepare for this comment to get deleted!
@@namelessgrace6319 so u think so too
This is real love please, be happy for them
What a fantastic wedding!! Clear you have kept the guests in mind… from not only the food… but the dessert selection. What a wonderful day this must have been from start to finish 🙏🏼♥️♥️♥️
Special announcement: Coming Soon; 1M subs.