How I Realised I Was Non Binary
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 31 ม.ค. 2021
- How I Realised I Was Non Binary! Arlo and I talk about how they realised they were non binary over a number of years and what that process was like.
Hey! We're Arlo (they/them) and Rosie (she/her) a queer couple living in the UK. On this channel you'll find feminist, queer, non-binary, and couples content through our sit-down vlogs. As well as educational queer video essays and personal stories. Check out our store for queer apparel and follow us on social for queer and trans content xx
Head to our store!
splodge.bigcartel.com
Follow us on social!
/ splodgestore
/ splodgestore
Subscribe to our channel!
bit.ly/3cvxbbA
I remember the first time I got a present from my mom and it was a bra.
And my first response to that was "Should I wear that?" and she was like "yeah of course! you're a girl! every other girls wear it around your age!"
But for some reason I didn't want to? so I asked her "Maybe...later? like..years later?" and of course, she was like "no?.. you have to wear it now"
And I knew what non-binary was but I didn't know I would be a non-binary person.
so I thought to myself...'maybe I'm thinking this way because I'm immature than others mentally.'
'Maybe it's because I think of myself as a kid still'
I heard other girls talking about how wearing bra is uncomfortable some time to time so I thought to myself "maybe what I'm feeling is exactly that, just uncomfortable of wearing"
But what I didn't know is..no girls would want a binder to actually bind their chest or get a surgery for it just because wearing bra is uncomfortable.
If only you two could have made this video 40 years ago and put it somewhere my 8-year old self would then find it…then the past 40+ years would have made SO much more sense to me as a non-binary person (age 51 today)! I only finally discovered the non-binary identity a few years ago after 40 years of never feeling like I really fit in anywhere, that is how seemingly set in stone the gender binary feels like until you finally learn it is also a spectrum, just like sexuality. The interesting thing, to me at least, is that I have long felt particularly drawn towards the transgender/MTF community (and often felt aesthetic and romantic attraction towards both transgender and cisgender women; sexual attraction is far more complicated by considerable past religious and sexual trauma, so I have never experienced such towards an actual flesh and blood person) but never understood why since I could never quite identify as MTF myself. I was born a boy, but I never fit in with nor understood other boys, yet I was not a girl either, though I was far more comfortable among the girls, whom I could at least understand and identify with in other respects - I was every bit as comfortable playing with the girls and engaging in typical girl’s play, if not more so, as when playing with other boys and my interests as an adult are also somewhat a split. Now, I understand the “why” was because they were the closest (known) available binary choice to my identity. Unfortunately, I fear it is going to take quite a bit of time for the rest of society and the world at large to finally catch up to that same realization as we seem so compelled by social gender norms to gender absolutely *everything* boy/girl, man/woman, male/female in our society that we are darn near blind to any other possibility. I wish you both long, happy, and healthy lives!
What an amazing video. I'm so proud that you are living your own truth and have found it as a couple. Beautiful video and inspiring. Thank you for sharing.
i had shiny blue docs for years and now i have silver holo ones :)
this is so sweet and meaningful thank you so much :)))
What a beautiful video. Thank you.
I'm so pleased you're happy now. Can see the difference in your confidence and general body language. Really really proud of you Arlo, you are amazing! X
Arlo: Being a lesbian was.. okay.
And Rosie took that personally
Narcissistic kids