How I Found Out I Was Adopted.. (& how to tell your child they are adopted)
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In this video I share how I found out I was adopted! My Mom also shares some tips on how to tell your child they are adopted. We also share some stories of when I had questions about my adoption, and how my Mom handled it. I hope you enjoy this video, thank you so so much for watching! #Adoption #ChinaAdoption
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00:57 How I found out I was adopted
5:43 Personal stories
14:31 Tips on how to tell your child they are adopted
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This is actually so beautiful, my mom treated my adoption the same. Even tho we were the same race and she could have lied or withheld that info, she always made it my knowledge since I was an infant. About how I was such a gift that someone would have me and give me to her, how much love was involved, how much she loves me and how much my birth mom loved me to give me a life with her... never secretive about where I can from either 🥰 growing up I never understood the “you’re adopted secret” from tv and movies because I couldn’t imagine that being something shameful to share with the child
Thank you for sharing! I’m glad we had such a similar experience 👍🏼
I can understand where an adoption might be kept secret from the child if the adoption is being done to hide something which the family finds shameful (e.g., that's not your sister; that's your mother). However, I don't think it's the best thing for any child to be told a lie.
You have a wonderful mother
You all are so lucky to have each other, your Moms and you seem perfect for each other!
Aw yes they are made for each other! Haha Thank you so much for watching 💜
I love your adoption series! You and your mom are both adorable 😍
Thank you so much 💖
Sherrie was definitely meant to be your Mom! So glad you found each other
Aw Thank you! I think so too 💕
i died listening to your mom tell the story of how you said “you used to be chinese” 😂😂😂 hahaha such an adorable story!
Aw haha yes, I love that story too!
Omg my mom and I also had a "Is she your grandma?" moment when I was little and she was OUTRAGED. 😂😂 You're both adorable, btw. ❤️
Aw Thank you haha 🤍
People would say that a lot about my dad and my little sister.
Once, when I was 17, somebody thought my little sister was my daughter and that our dad was her grandfather. 🤦♀️
Hahahaha I’m adopted from china as well and this video was just soooo relatable 😂 thanks for sharing-makes all the difference to see chinese adoptee representation!
Aw Thank you so much!!
this is what my grandparents who adopted me did. so glad they did.
That y’all keep it simple with so much love is so wonderful to see.
Yes! I try to keep it simple haha! Thank you for watching 💖
I actually think you do look like your mum! 😃 I was cracking up at the pool story 😂 I love that kids don't have filters. Your mum did a great impression too 😂
Awww Thank you Tiffany! 💕✨
Thank you!
"this is Alex, she's Chinese but she can see" had me dying hahahhahaha, btw I really enjoyed this video :) I can imagine that you wouldn't think to say china when people ask you where you're from
Thanks it’s one of my favorite stories!
We have that book, too! Along with about 20 others I started reading to her right from the start. :)
That’s awesome!! 👍🏼 which one is your favorite??
@@alexjayne_ I can't remember all the names, although I kept them. One favorite was Horace, about a leopard adopted by a tiger family. I particularly liked it because it wasn't the typical white parents, they were just different. I feel like the variety of stories gave you different views and pieces for her to use in her own story.
Your mom is so loving and understanding 💜
Thank you so much 💖
Love the mother daughter relationship. They seems very friendly ❤️❤️❤️
You are so kind
You and your mom Sherrie are so alike personality wise like two peas in a pod. I love your relationship.
Yeah we are pretty similar! Thank you so much!
U two have get adoption stories I love this! So cute!
Thank you Gina 👍🏼
I’m loving these adoption videos! I was adopted from Vietnam when I was 2 and I can relate to forgetting I’m not white. 😂 I was raised in a small predominately white community and was the only Asian in my high school. So when someone asked me where I’m from I always say “Texas” and then realize they meant what country I’m from. 😂😅
Hahaha omg so relatable 👍🏼
You weren't wrong though 😉 this reminded me of something. I'm Norwegian, and we had a commercial a few years ago (for a telecom company - the ad was about communication) with a black man as a taxi driver and the white "typical Norwegian" passenger was trying to make small talk, and asked him "So.. Where are you from?" (As in what country), and he answered in the thickest northener accent "Æ e fra Harstad. Einn du? 😁" (I'm from Harstad. You?). Enter awkward silence 😜
I grew up knowing that I was adopted because I have a little sister and my adoptiv mom wanted me to have contact with her. Didn't change anything for me, my feelings or the knowing that the family I grew up with is my family. My mom is my mom, I'm 31 and when I'm sick I still cry for my mommy😅 although I have a pretty bad/ non existing relationship with my biological mother because of the things that happend between her and my sister, my sister and I have a good friendship like relationship.
I can tell your mom rocks because of the mature and well spoken young lady you are!
The way you guys talk is so similar! People always tell me that me and my brother talk the same. I think I understand now lol
Haha yeah I think we do too!
You and your mom are so well spoken! I learn so much from you guys!!
Aw Thank you melody! I try to make things easy for everyone to understand and positive 💜
This is gold. Another amazing video Alex! I hope you will do one with your mom about the process and how she prepared! It seems complex and it would be eye opening to learn the process!
Yes neat idea
Great idea! I think it was just a lot of paper work tbh, it’s been awhile 😂
Alex Jayne true! I shoulda just cut to the point I was curious about cost...I know that would be personal to talk about but I do think it would be interesting to see how she prepared for adoption financially. As I’m sure she didn’t start a GoFundMe 😂😂😂 kidding.
Thank you for sharing! It is so amazing to hear your adoption story and having your mom also share :)
Thank you! I love having her in my videos too!
I think what’s great about kids is 1. at least they’re honest about their curiosity and 2. they accept a good answer :) x
Yep!! Totally agree
Alex, this was a wonderful vlog! Sherri is so lovely. I am so pleased that both of your mums have been included in your storytelling and hope to see more of them. I understand how you identify as an American. I have been here for the Disney content but you have also done a great job presenting these other stories! Thank you for sharing and a big thank you to your parents!
Thank you so much! I'm hoping more Disney will be coming soon! lol
Aww that little boy. 😂 I get that it's super rude but that's just classic childhood innocence.
Alex, really enjoy your videos & love your moms.... especially Sherrie
Aw Thank you Kara!! 💕
Thanks for sharing this Alex! Love all of your adoption videos! You and your mom are so cute!
Thank you Bri! I love sharing my story with you guys 💕
Aww, we have a book too but it’s more of a picture book for young kids and my family mainly reinforced it into me by celebrating our gotcha day annually. I also know many (if not all) of my China sisters also see themselves as white/the same as everyone else. Almost all of their families have kept them very tied down to American culture and hardly any Chinese (except me obviously lol) but I guess I’m lucky since my family always tried to have me learn about my culture since it’s where I’m from and makes up my literal dna. When I was little, I also saw myself as the same/white (and often also forgot I’m Chinese too) but as time went on I kind of learned to see my differences as more uniqueness and wanted to embrace my Chinese-ness more-now I consider it a huge part of me. My school also offers Chinese as a language and I absolutely love that there’s finally someone who actually looks like me, she has probably had some similar “struggles” living in such a white-populated area and I have someone to look up to/be my role model.
Awe I love you two! Idk how I got here but I am glad I did 🥰
Thank you !
Your guy's relationship is lovely!
Idk why TH-cam is pushing all your videos to me rn but I'm really glad they are! Your moms seem super rad!
Aww yay I’m so happy they are pushing me in the algorithm 💖💖
Thank you for your adoption series! It's great for people who want to adopt to look at this video for reference!
I love your relationship with your mom.
Thank you so much!
Alex has been loved as a child of her parents, it has noting to do she is bio or adopted. Alex has a great family, she is very lucky.
Thank you
Thank you. So much
WOW 🥺 your mother is AWESOME 😍 I'M SURE you know that lol. Thank you so much for sharing your story and your mum's journey through adoption in China. You go Chicky, your dreams are coming true, your TH-cam business is ALREADY highly successful. Keep being you, you are a great inspiration for other's out here. Take care during this Pandemic.
Thank you so much
You are both incredibly intelligent women so happy for you both
Thank you so much!!
Your mother seems so genuinely kind and loving. I’m so happy that there are people like your mom who not only make amazing parents in general, but who also are open and honest about all that went into becoming your mother 💕 You guys are so sweet and I love watching videos of you guys together!
Thank you so much for watching! I’m glad my mom is comfortable with being on camera and sharing 😊
You and your mother are such a beautiful match! 😍
I love schitt's creek omgg
I know your content is fitness related but I'd love to see you do a video where you dress like Alexis Rose for a week👀♥️
Omg omg!! That is such a good idea!!!!
I'm adopted. I found my birth mum on Facebook. Now I know my medical history and it isn't that nice 😬 Not knowing was much more blissful 😅
I wanna see a moms tag video 😊
Ahh yay!
You and your mom are so lovely! Love the video :)
Thank you so much!!
Hi Alex, thank you for sharing your story about being adopted. I am also adopted from China, but in June 2001. I would love to chat with you about this topic.
Thanks for sharing the beginning seemed so fun cool
You guys are so lovely to watch 💓
Thank you! xo
Loved this video!!
Thank you so much!!
I love your family! Thank you for sharing! You are wonderful!
Thank you for watching! 💕
Yes medical history wud be good to know but yes might be scary
Love you guys , I can understand your feelings and point of views....
So glad you liked the video!!
I love your relationship with your mother. You are just so cute❤️💕
Love your moms hair style
Thanks
@@sherryblankenship3042 welcome
I have an adopted brother, and what I’m asking myself is whether we need to have a “your father is adopted” conversation with his son. My family hasn’t really thought too much about it, but I wonder if it’s going to be a shock to my nephew to find out 😅
I found out when I was 14 that my dad was adopted by his dad (my grandmother remarried, and her new husband adopted my dad), and wow was it a shock!! I was even named after my grandpa (which I'm so happy about because I loved him so so much), the deception wasn't intentional - it had just happened so long ago that nobody really brought it up. So like...yeah, definitely recommend making sure that your brother remembers to tell his son, haha!
Hi :) I have a question. At what age did you decide to call your moms by their names and how did they react ?
I was probably like 10 lol, they were fine 😊
Alex Jayne Thank you :)
Love these types of videos. My story is pretty similar, except I was adopted at 2 months, and both myself and my adoptive family is white, so it was slightly easier. I always knew I was adopted too.
Just perfect!!
❤️
Thank you so much!!
Bruh are you from Cele, FL?? I grew up there!
I love you and your mums ❤️❤️
Thanks Sarah! XO 💜
I absolutely love your family. I came across your story, when the unfortunate event of Huxley BEING "rehomed"🤬. I've watched 2 videos since and every one impressed me more. You're such a beautiful young lady and I adore your mum's. I'm bisexual, do o love hearing about your mum's story. Subscribing now 💯❤️
Thank you so much! Yes it was a horrible thing that happened to him!
Thank you so much
God bless you and your parents 💖
I haven't watched the video yet but I wanted to ask a question before I forgot haha. Was your other mom there when you were adopted? I know that legally Sheri adopted you as a single mom but she wasn't actually single haha.
You can use your imagination on this one 😊
Hear just stories where parents dont tell kids till teens adopted crazy not to tell kid age 7+
I can relate on not feeling Asian. I was born in US. Bio parents are Chinese and only spoke Chinese.
I went back and forth countries, until I settled down in US around 13. My siblings remained Chinese culture where as I ‘chose’ western culture and lifestyle.
Yet somehow when I am with Americans, I feel like an outcast but I’m really just more like them than my own people. You’re judged based on just your skin.
When I’m with Chinese people, I feel like an American cause I prefer my new found culture vs what I was given.
You don’t really fit in anywhere it feels like. But good thing I live in LA where it’s more diverse.
This was a pretty good video
Thank you so much 🌟
Great video great story
Thank you Natasha!
You two are so cuteee
Thank you xo
You are wonderful mother
Thank you
Ahhhh thank you
When you have something different you have to do some explanation sometimes.
I wasn't adopted but I have 3 citizenship. We were supposed to live in Italy so my Italian father named me with his dead beloved brother name. Then my French mother missed her country so we went in France. From my name people assume I'm Italian (it's true) but they also assume I'm not french. French also love to dis England, the country where I was born... So I usually mention that I'm also a Brit.
I never had any identity crisis. Ever consider myself as 100% citizen of each of my countries.
I lived in all my countries and a few others, I met some ignorant people but nothing that couldn't be remedied with some explanation...
Oh wow! That’s cool! Thank you for sharing 💖
I think if somebody grew up in a country for their entire life that person is from that country, doesn't matter where that person was actually born.
Its must be very weird for her to be realted to a country that she never experienced just because she was born there, in a place she doesn't even remember!
I think your country is wherever you lived.
If I see somebody who looks african or indian from anywhere, but they say they are from lets say England, I never ask more because I assume that person grew up there or simply comes from immigrant parents, but that person absorved the culture of the place she or he lived in, so that person is from that place!
I think soon diferent ethnic groups wont be related anymore to diferent countries because it will all get mixed up.
Must be tiring for adopted people or people with immigrant parents to get asked where are they actually from, in my country thats kind of rude to ask.
She and her mom and sooo adorable, motherhood is definetly not about genetics but about love!
Ahhh thanks!
Yeah I was born in Lithuania but I’ve lived in Ireland since I was 1 so I’m always conflicted on what to label myself 😭
Which Mom were you actually adopted by since they were not married at the time. Or were they both able to adopt you?
Sherry
Love your videos, maybe you can start a GoFund me for people to donate to help you if you ever wanted to find your biological parents! 😄 your mom is awesome too btw you both make me laugh haha
I wonder if Alex would want to find them. It must be intriguing but also a bit scary as a prospect.
Sherry ?
I see ,Nice fam here,
Thank you xo
Ahhh thanks
You're a year younger than me??? Wtf.....
You can do a DNA test with ancestry
Yours eye looks so different.I know you are not related.Just joking don't be angry.
lol
Not cool or funny