Wow! Such a similar story to mine, I did 30 years of solid alcohol abuse, its a miracle that I've survived. I'm on day 7 of crippling withdrawal. Probably the 100th time I've tried but for some reason this feels like 'the one'
If you end up failing again, don't beat yourself up over it. Please do yourself a huge favor and look at my 'Alcohol' playlist & watch at least the first 3 videos...especially the 1st one. Once you fix your biochemistry, alcohol cravings WILL go away. Rarely is any of this discussed. It is THE missing link. You got this! 🙏😉✌️
Stay strong friend, hope you’re on day 15 now. And if not you’ll get it next time lol. Day 4 for me right now and have pretty high anxiety but trying to ride through it
It's absolutely crazy how much punishment the mind, body and soul can take. I was a hopeless alcoholic / addict for 25+ yrs and towards the end i was living off chemicals and booze. At one point i was drinking strong white wine whilst ingesting valium, seroquel, morphine, meth, ghb, temazepam, tremadol and smoking pot all in the same day. I was so out of touch with reality that i once set fire to my own jacket to try and warm myself up. Addiction is complete and utter insanity.
@@LeahMoonbeam I think that’s the main problem, dealing with feelings. On the surface I have a pretty good life. I have a really nice flat, a mum who I love to bits, a beautiful dog who means the world to me, and am now completely out of debt. Yet still I drink, take lots of prescription drugs, but also benzodiazepines and morphine which I obtain elsewhere. I have been through a lot of traumatic experiences in the past. But I have also had lots of counselling and psychotherapy, but still I persist in these self destructive behaviours. Strange thing is, I never felt anything whilst these bad things were happening to me, it’s felt like I was completely detached from them and they were happening totally outside of me. But now I cannot even cope with normal reality, even though my life is ok now ( apart from the drink and drugs of course). Feel guilty because so many people are having a much harder time than me, yet I do this to myself.
@@terrysutton8452 I hope the guilt leaves you and you realize that the drink and drugs is not who you are, it’s what you do because being human and human being is a complex experience. The most beautiful flowers grow from bullshite and the trauma you experienced can bring some strengthening magic after it hurts. It does indeed hurt to be human, sometimes, so let’s forgive ourselves and hug ourselves. Let’s take a walk and look up at the sky. Everything is definitely going be. I hope you don’t let alcohol aka the devils pee steal too much of your soul because your true soul does deserve a chance to heal.
@@LeahMoonbeam Thank you for your kind words. My only wish is to love the world again. Not the world through a hazy bubble, but the world as it is, right here and now.
I've drank every day for around 21 years . 2 beers and half a bottle of vodka everynight with out fail .. it never got me drunk. I was just used to doing it . I'm 48 now . went to doctors 2 weeks ago for blood check-ups finally first time in 12 years decided to go to doctors after they kept texting me to come for a health check up . the nurse said your cholesterol is slightly high but not too high . but she said ur diabetic but the good news is you can reverse it. those words changed my life . I haven't drank for 2 weeks, hitting the gym drinking 6 pints of water per day. I feel absolutely amazing .... I wish I did it years ago ..
How did you have time & money to drink everyday? Didn’t your job require you to have at least a few days without if you had late meetings or strict deadlines? Provide more details please this is so interesting. Be very transparent and detailed. Answer now please
@paradigm5084 exactly the thought of the money I have spent is unbelievable, and that doesn't include the cigerrets to go with it .. I've blown a fortune, but still it didn't affect my lifestyle . since I stopped, the savings are massive .... I have not quit drinking for good, no. I don't think that's required . it about getting my health in check and drinking on occasionally instead of every night . every night is just not needed .
@paradigm5084 it started when I was 25 I went abroad, and the house we were staying in the man of the house would pull out drinks every night before dinner .. he turned out to be my father inlaw eventually, lol then when I came back home I felt that there was something missing when the evening came.. and that missing this was a few drinks before dinner .
In my case, definitely! It didn’t affect me in my teens so I drank like a fish. No hangovers, nothing. Then when I got to my early 20’s I became a nervous wreck without it. Still struggle with it now and I’m 39.
I feel like death until I've had a half bottle of vodka in the morning. Then I'm back to square one. I hated my job so it was a sedative then spiraled over years and became something I had to imbibe as daily medication. Waiting for a date when I can get some morning diazepam. This isn't fun drinking, it's like another job. Why is this legal, it's poison. Weed helps, it grows naturally but it's illegal in the UK. Ridiculous.
moderation doesnt exist for people like me, 1 drink is way too many and 21 drinks is never enough. Fascinating to hear a story so much like my own. only early days for me, but im committed.
It’s easier to not have the first than it is to resist the second one. It’s the only drug I’ve ever done that immediately causes a craving for more. You end up thinking about the second drink before you take a sip of the first drink. It’s insidious.
its funny how many times i got home from work and grabbed 2 beers, 1 for each hand. The more i think of it, the easier it lessens the temptation. @@mdemian1968
I totally feel you. No other substance does that to me either. I can spend months without, white knuckling it, thinking it will break that feeling. But as soon as I drink one, then it's right back at where I left it off; drinking back to back until the fridge is empty. Often waking up realizing I went back buying for more without even remembering it.@@mdemian1968
I'm 49, look like I'm 32, and drank a fifth, ate Lortab daily for over 30 years, cocaine, oxycontin, went to rehab, I'M DONE THANK GOD. please, whoever is out there, PLEASE LISTEN, YOU are NOT IN CONTROL until you STOP. You are loved we love you, God loves you, keep your chin up, things get better, I promise.
I have never heard a story so similar to mine. From drinking quickly, to having a few drinks and finishing at home, to drinking massive amounts of wine at home at least one of the huge bottles each night. Then I switched to Honey Jack Daniels and would finish a handle every night...sometimes there would be a little left over, I would smoke a pack of cigs each night with the booze. The drinking occurred between 4pm and midnight, every night, for years. Had at least 20 shops I would rotate through so nobody would see me buying it. Lived alone, isolated, but started and run a successful business. 10 years in I was driving one day which wasn't a problem (before 4p) and while i could drive, I could not walk. I had started internal bleeding because my veins to my cirrhotic liver had burst, and I had been pooping out blood for weeks. I didn't have enough blood to walk. I drove to the hospital and entered a coma for a month. That was 10 years ago. Haven't had a drink or a cigarette since, but I live daily with the effects of end stage cirrhosis, lung issues and the psychological aftereffects of it all. Not sure how I survived. I was 45 when I stopped. Doctors think I was young enough to get through it. Who knows?
I’m Most worried about morning. I hate mornings. I hate shakes in the wrists. I don’t have friends I don’t have people spurring me on. Stop talking about “mates” you have no mates when you are an alcoholic. Stop lying. Have me on this stupid podcast.
You are not alone in this. Facing it is what makes you stronger. One tiny step at a time. Go to a meeting. You will hear many stories, many will be similar@@sergedenovo2389
21yrs heavy drinker and Smoker, for the first time i am 6days clean, I look forward to a healthier, happier and successful me. Thanks for sharing this relatable podcast.
So many similarities to my alcohol story. I’m now sober for 10 mo, but I started drinking at home, bc I could drink more for less money, then I wanted to watch my weight to stay “healthy” so I researched online and found Vodka to be the lowest calorie liquor. Then I would hate myself in the mornings, and say no way am I drinking again… then 4p would roll around and I’d be out buying another bottle. Crazy how alcohol controls the mind if you “let it”.
I’m so glad I came across your videos Jesse! 7 years sober now but I still have to remind myself now and again of all the pain and suffering I was in when I was a hopeless drunk. My life has changed so much now.
My father is 67 years old and has been a heavy drinker for his whole life. He drinks everyday. My mother started drinking at 16 until 45 years old and it killed her in the end. As a child of alcoholics, the drink has always come first before me. It’s a very selfish drug.
My dad was the same age, vodka, everyday. well, he was a couple years older, I was terrified of him for as long as that. The most selfish part? He only quit because of a serious health issue. Colon Cancer. We've had the most tragic death, to us but the most to him. It never stopped. So, how selfish is that? I'm so sorry because your still going through it. All I know is that I finally met who my Dad had figured out his fears & traumas, to a point, I mean he must have, but all I knew is after another year or so, he was amazing. I can't agree more about being selfish. Some wouldn't quit because of a health problem...he had more than 1! The last being the most serious. He did it with no ativan, which I couldn't believe but his temper tantrums were crazy! I wish the best for you, I really do.😢
I woke up one day and asked myself “who are you trying to impress? No one is impressed” and I stopped drinking finally wishing I had stopped 10 years ago because now I feel amazing.
I asked another question to myself, "Aren't you tired of this meaningless burden?" And I answered in the affirmative. I have been off alcohol and opiates for 7 years(23+ uninterrupted addiction). I was a functioning addict, i.e. It was not a certain case influenced me, but fatigue.
I was an alcoholic from 15-30 and I’ve been sober for over 4 months now. My story is very similar to yours and it’s very relatable….especially that I know what it’s like in the UK when you start young and you want to fit in. I can also relate to the 3 bottle of wine for £10 situation because that’s what I used to do. I think the worst I’ve ever been is when I was homeless, stealing alcohol from the shop. Imagine waking up in the morning with withdrawals, you’re cold and you didn’t eat properly the day before. Id also be very dehydrated. On top of that.. I developed asthma due to chain smoking, so in the mornings, I’d be withdrawing, standing there so out of breathe just thinking how I’m going to get at least 1 bottle of wine to sort myself out. My God, it was difficult but thankfully I gave it up when I made an idiot out of myself in front of my Thai family, and don’t even have the choice to go back to drinking now because I’d probably lose my son. Sorry about the way I’ve explained all of this, is a bit pathetic but it’s because I’m multitasking and I want to get back to listening to what you have to say! Thank you so much ❤
“A bit pathetic”. Dude the hardest and most honourable human action is being able to admit your faults, ask for help and be venerable. Anyone can look or sound hard. But what you did is actually hard. You’re not after ego. Infact you’re risking lowering your ego just to give people knowledge and information. You may see your past actions as pathetic, but you’re changing it into inspiration for others. And I hope you reshape your view of your past into the inspiration it is
I've been alcohol dependent from my early teens until well into retirement age. Despite my daily drinking I managed to have a clean driving record, a 25 year marriage, and 28 years with the same employer. But that's all gone now. I went from psychological dependence to full on physical dependence, requiring 8 in patient detoxes over the years. I gave AA a shot, but it had a negative impact on my psyche. I felt like drinking more after meetings than before I went in. I did work the steps with a sponsor and tried different meetings, but the urge to drink only grew stronger. I switched to the SMART Recovery Program and have been sober since Sept 2021.
AA sucks for people with anti authority. Issues. Ie father figures gone rotten...it extends to religeon and the groups and makes it useless. Not for everyone..to say the least.i do need answers desperately
It is the fantastic feeling I get for 15 minutes… and the 48 hours of recovery that kills me every time. Then the 48 hours recovery turns into a non stop recovery… self hatred… lies…repeat. One week into no more booze. Ever.
This might be a bit late but it sounds like a case of alexythima (very common with adhd/ aut/ food and substance disorders and men in general). Addictions change how we process emotions and deal with emotions. Alexythima aka emotional blindness is a learnt and unlearnt disorder. If you quit but don’t find the bit your body/ brain was running from (could be unable to deal with boredom, social and isolation issues. I know for me it was a mixture of a load of emotions). A textbook example of why this is important is the person who’s quit cold turkey, everything’s going fine for 3-6 months and then they relapse and say “I don’t know what happened”. The only way I managed to get clean was by lowering my doses rather then going cold turkey. I slowly exposed my numbed brain back to the world and gave it time to work out what I had been running from in my own time. Now I’m not one of those people who can remember the day they got clean. Have no idea how long it’s been other than the year (3 years now). But I no longer choose not to indulge, I genuinely just don’t want to. The first thought that comes to my head isn’t “I wish I could but I can’t” it’s “I don’t really like that stuff anymore or the culture around it”. I will be honest although I’ve managed to quit every addiction (H, coke, Xanax ect) I’ve never managed to quit cigarettes or nicotine. Probs because I can still respect myself after having a cig binge. The rest I can’t. Or maybe it’s just the most addicting substance on earth. But I hope this kind of exposes alexythima. It’s a hard disorder to explain and I hope I’ve explained it well. I hope this helps anyone reading it. 10 mins for me to write this. I hope this saves someone years of their lives! Quitting isn’t the end. When the urges fizzles out. That’s the end. It can happen. Every action can be learnt and unlearnt. Good luck
@@olliesells8856 yes… I had an old security guard. Tell me that sobriety comes in threes. Three days, three weeks, three months, three years. For some reason this has helped me to understand that after a certain amount of time the person thinks, “why not just have one.”
I would never wish a drinking problem on anyone else it is the absolutely worst horrible addiction that slowly kills you and takes everything away from you over time.
Being sober’s much harder than being drunk will all the associated problems for me. It’s like I’m addicted to an abusive relationship, it’s hectic and awful for me but exciting and escapism.
My wife and I are 591 days sober today, after 20+ years of hardcore weekend binge drinking that started like normal rite of passage teenage drinking and turned into full on alcoholism every single weekend, then being hungover/anxious/irritable/zero energy during the week and repeat the cycle from Friday 5pm after work. Sobriety is a super power, we love it and we're both thriving. No cravings, we just STOPPED because we were very very close to death...no exaggeration.
what do you consider weekend binge drinking? must have been a lot....i dont think most people who weekend drink end up close to death....can you elaborate?
@@fadacious WOW well done! Nearly a year but anything more than 1 day is amazing for some people. You know most 'normal drinkers' can't even go a few days without at least a beer at night or something. Go you! :)
@@bobloblaw6205 So it started Fridays when I would work from home, I'd start sipping a drink at 2pm and then log off work at 4pm. Then I'd drink for a few hours at home and then head out into the city to drink with friends, or even to drink alone, or just head to the local pub in my area then go for a bar crawl to near by venues. Then at around midnight/1am I'd head home and keep drinking watching music videos on youtube until the sun came up on Saturday morning. I'd still be drinking, haven't gone to bed. Then around midday I'd think "I have to do something with my day" and I'd wander to my local pub and drink there for a few hours (I would be legless and almost couldn't make it home) and would have burnt out by about Saturday evening. So I'd drink for 24 hours straight, no food, no water. I would probably have had maybe 30 drinks (beer, glasses of wine, bourbon and cokes). I needed 2 days to drink (Friday/Saturday). and needed Sunday to 'recover' but to be honest I wouldn't feel normal until 4 days later. My wife would start drinking when she got home from work Friday 5pm and would sip straight vodka all weekend, but would go to bed at a normal time, wake up and sit in bed drinking vodka looking at her phone. She'd go shopping with vodka in a water bottle, or get her hair done with her "water bottle" with her. She drank on Sunday's too. She would drink 3 bottles of vodka over the weekend.
amazing talk - 5 months sober here, I can relate to so much of what Dave is saying post-drinking - the past is the past - enjoy the reset and the new life without the booze!
Yes. Many use the excuse of a bad childhood to induldge in bad behaviour, then expect society to carry them. The wisest realise the most quickly, you have to take responsibility.
I always find these videos interesting. I also grew up in dysfunction and initially it played out, not in addiction, but in always settling for less and devaluing myself. I'm aware of it now and work on changing my life as much as I can. Good luck to all!
Alcohol and cigarettes addiction actually destroyed my life. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Thanks for sharing your story. That's rough I sympathize. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes. And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health. I will pray for you all.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
@@Mark-pp7jyShould be free since it works for less than 3% and that probably by coincidence. It's a stupid program that tells the sufferer that of your treatment doesn't work, it's your fault. Plus, you are powerless. Stupid cult full of 13th steppers.
I've never struggled with alchohol, I'd be dead by now I'm sure, but weed was always what I'd use in similar ways and this conversation is so wonderful to hear and this applies across many aspects and types of addiction. Thanks for this
As someone who’s the same. Never liked drinking. But I’ve had addictions to H, coke, benzos, speed, mdma and I can keep listing. All the addictions are similar. Thank god I got my ADD diagnosis and the ADHD meds. They 180’ed my life in 15 mins (although it was 1-2 months until the beneficial effects became clear). I’m still on the weed but that’s going down as well. But I’d rather weed be the drug I relapse on rather then the others. At least weed won’t destroy your life on a slip and once you damage your support network it’s such a quick downward spiral.
I meet a painter doing construction work. He drank a quart on weekdays and half gallons on weekends. His hands were so big and deformed from arthritis he could not get them in his pockets. I am sure this is how he dealt with his pain.
@@lourdesecheverria6209 oh really? And what medical or physiological training brings you to that conclusion? Have you ever met me or diagnosed me or seen my medical records?
@@lourdesecheverria6209 still waiting on your response since you know how I’m wired. You’re just another internet troll who think they know better than everyone else. Get honest with yourself get a job and get out of your moms basement where you googling advice for others you know nothing about.
I am a man in my 50s who has just been moved to tears watching this. Had problems with alcohol all my life. Two years sober for a while, rehabs etc but I became aware by going to AA meetings that I did not fit the usual alki model. I could go for months just having one or two drinks then suddenly I was doing a bottle of vodka a night and drinking myself into a place where I could not stop. It’s dawned on me that I fit the ADHD model big time. Explains problems at school. And yet I’ve had quite a bit of success as a scriptwriter. Can read my stuff but books are hard. I put this vid in my watch later file about a month ago. I think I avoided it because Dave and I look very similar…tattoos etc. for some reason tonight I just clicked on it knowing I was ready to hear it. Thank you so very much for this. Love to you both.
similar to me, not usually a bottle of vodka, but a couple of bottles of red. I average around 20 units a week, but now im stopping for good. had enough, there is no benefit ive decided
Your mind is so powerful, if it wants to it can screw up alcohol into a ball, throw it in the bin and never be troubled by it again. You need to realize how powerful your mind is. The wolf you feed us the wolf that grows stronger. The more you face it down, the stronger you get and the weaker it gets.
You clearly don't understand alcoholism, and what it takes to achieve sobriety. Being "dry" is not the goal, because as soon as something emotionally upsetting comes along, like "life", our insides scream, "I need some phucking relief". If we don't grow up from an emotional maturity standpoint, our "minds" will NOT save us! "Willpower", for the chronic drinker is a phucking illusion! Who the hell wants to engage in a mental and physical tug of war with alcohol every day of your life? It's NOT SUSTAINABLE!
Thank for is podcast. It almost echoes my own life. I suffer severely with procrastination and every day, just before I take my first drink, I say, well this is my last day drinking and tomorrow will be my first day sober. Then the next day I am straight across to the off-licence buying my first bottle of whiskey, saying well I have to deal with today first, but I will do it tomorrow. And on it goes. Wish I could break that cycle of saying ‘ I will do it tomorrow’
Great podcast, I can relate to what he’s saying as someone who had a big problem with binge drinking and low self esteem. I lost all trust in myself, life is so much better without alcohol, I don’t feel embarrassed/ashamed about my life anymore.
Great to hear, wish you well on your sobriety. I grew up in an alcoholic family, my dad probably drank the same amount for a similar period of time. He went sober when I was about 25 years so i lost my childhood to it - but he never touched a drop again, so i got to know him then but its hell for the family. He went sober after his GP gave him 6 months to live, in those days the old mental hospitals were still around (it was just before they all closed down) and he was admitted as an inpatient and 6 months later came out and stayed sober until he died.
I won’t my other comments because it’s my journey you can see it 25 years I decided today I’ll make a change You can see me fighting it Really I get it, don’t have a choice it’s my time Thank you guys Was obviously meant to be, that’s why I’m here Thank you again I really do! Let’s go I’ve got your strength I’m doing it!!!!
I was sat down in the living room at eleven years old with my younger brother and out of the blue clear sky my mother said your father and l are separating you need to except it and deal with it and that is that '. I went temporary blind from shock for about five mins then started drinking at 12 years old to escape the pain and betrayal I haven't been the same ever since that day .
My mother woke me out of a sleep at 9 years old to tell me she was divorcing my dad. She was probably drunk, but I’m 56 now, and never healed from that day.
Bad things happen to lots of people. Take responsibility instead of using it as an excuse to indulge in destructive behaviour. The truth is you love a drink. We all do. Just some of us choose the harder, better path than you.
One of the best shares I have ever heard on here and I appreciate Sobe Dave for being so open with us. My story is so similar to his, especially the part about starting so young and alcohol shaping your approach to life. I am 35 years old now and I have allowed this thing to consume. So many poor decisions and regrets but you know what, I'm realising that it isn't over for me. I'm deciding to make a change - I am powerless against alcohol and no amount of excuses I tell myself is going to change that. I will overcome this!
I was a bar hopper in NYC, after work. I finally admitted, that I had a drinking problem. I went to a rehab.in Kent, CT at 45. I was there for 3 wks. We went to dozens of AA meetings in the facility. When I came out, I went ,to many more AS meetings I finally understood the steps, and I have been sober, over 30 yrs..
Great work Alex finding Dave as a guest. It's such an important opening question you asked " what started it ? " and Alex is a pro interviewer , he actively listens and let's the guest answer. I think when I drank it was a blocker for the pain of childhood trauma, rejection and low self worth
Just coming up for 2 years sober off the back of 20 years using alcohol. The part that rings true for me is the hundreds of times saying to yourself "I've got to do something about this". Thanks for sharing.
Congratulations, 2 years is a great accomplishment. It rings true for me, too. It's crazy how one can be so consciously aware, but still make the bad choices. I've been down this road many times, it never ends well for me. I'm trying to choose to stop myself, before someone has to make me. It's incredibly difficult.
I relate to this story, for me I never really got drink, I outdrink everyone. For 12 years I drank before work and during work, 7 am through til 10pm absolutely horendous, i was a lost cause
I’m so grateful this found itself way to my you tube feed. I feel the same as Dave about AA . I found the constant “I’m an alcoholic” to be so negative , more self bashing. What I need is to focus on my positive potential and self acceptance, not repeat and lament negative. I now feel hopeful about finding a different support community.
They'll never be seeing me standing on town centres shouting "I'm a sober alco!". Might be for them, not me. Cognitive lessons and the usage of them is my method.
Totally agree unresolved past struggles, heavy thinkers, deep thinkers, perhaps even neurodivergence can certainly trigger the alcohol coping for many, especially drinking alone at home.
i sell alcohol for a living for 24 years... 1) lost alot of good people. 2) broke up marriages. 3) domestic violence 4) cheating on each other 5) hospital visits 6) killing alcohol is horrible and i drink it.... some people have huge issues.
When you said Eastbourne it brought it all back 21 September 2021 cut a long story short drank all my life from when I was 19 years old no self esteem but alcohol turned me into the funniest person.Spent my whole life suffering from anxiety worked all my life still now still drinking tried to commit suicide after a nervous breakdown ( own my house and car no debts why me is that not enough for anyone) left the house parked my car about 2 miles from the house got a train from Liverpool lime st at 2pm 6 o’clock was in the spoons Eastbourne total breakdown drank about six pints went the shop bought a bottle of brandy and got a taxi to beachhead head light house went to the e edge of the cliff slipped fell backwards hit my head woke up 7.30 and drank the rest of the brandy don’t know how I survived but your story has got me crying now never cry I need to go back to beachy head to see how bad I was but what about my partner can’t put her through this again
I like what he said regarding going back to these places and re-experiencing times, but processing in a healthy way. I like this man and feel for his sensitivity very much
a 1/2 gal. of vodka would last me 3 days w my 30 pack of beer which lasted two days,, so about 15 beers and a bottle a day when i was at my worst. i had to take meds to come off it, about 4 days later i started to feel better, no shakes
I used to make rhubarb wine and it was so toxic no one would drink it apart from me! (Desperate) thank god been relieved of my obsession. So many different stories but I’d like to say even non drinkers often feel this way too. Just they don’t drink in it. Thanks for sharing both
Such a great interview. ADHD - this would explain a lot for me. I've often wondered if those (like myself) who have struggled with addiction, tend to be the more sensitive among us. I have been and continue to be a loner, an outlier. This world is very difficult for sensitive children who, of course, become sensitive adults. You don't grow out of sensitivity. Children need to know that their parents are totally there for them while they're are growing into adults. For me, alcohol felt like a friend. I also had no close family to turn to. That would have made all the difference. Pychoanalyst, Alice Miller, states in one of her books, "The Drama of the Gifted Child," that each and every child needs at least ONE loving, trusted adult to turn to throughout childhood.
That is so much true....I had no support when I was a kid, only pure criticism from my parents. Well. Guess how it turned out? I started drinking 20 years ago and haven't stopped till now.
Yep I can drink a liter per day and I do if I have no place to be for the day…I never interact with people nor drive while intoxicated!! My golden rule! But as I’m typing this I’m on my 4th orange juice and vodka! I really need to quit drinking….Im 62
4 yrs 8 months since my last drink/drug life has never been better thanks for sharing mate funny how you sit thousands of miles from me but your story is mine Alcoholism is insidious i work on it one day at a time Keep sharing your story
Alcohol has ruined my life from 14-30. I recently had 6 months sober then had a bad relapse. 3 days sober today and I want this so badly to be the last one. I won’t survive if I drink again.
If you drink a litre of wodka every day. You wernt drunk for 40 years. You just were staying clear headed. It stops working....i can drink 3 bottles of malt n cant get drunk anymore...how did you get drunk on one bottle,?...... Im an old opiate opiod addict now whiskey for sleep ..i cant get drunk so i stopped trying....why drink to no effect....it was my stabilizing moment.....my realization moment...
Wow, same ending for me- I was in a bar, looked at my beer and decided it was the last. Just like that. Drank too much but never had withdrawals. Sobriety is a great thing. 10 years in December!
Talking about why we drink. It’s already well documented and really quite simple. It’s trauma in the slightest form! There we go still watching the letter his mother abandoned him. I mean really for most of us it’s literally first page A level psychology! I’m watching this at rock bottom it’s crazy how easy it is to understand but so difficult to implement change! Hey to all us victims of circumstance let’s move forward ❤❤❤❤
This is amazing content. From someone who is trying to quit drinking it’s priceless. England is such an alcohol orientated society and it’s weirder and harder to be clean everyone wants an excuse to drink. I’m moving to Spain to get away for th English system hope it helps. Good luck everyone
Just stop now. It'll be the best decision you'll ever make. I've stopped for 1 month now. My skin started going yellow. I've lost 1st already and am feeling so much better. I would even wake up in the middle of the night and neck a can. I was drink driving everyday. I will never touch another drop.
@@sergedenovo2389what do you get out of saying that? That person found the 12 steps helpful. You trying to label it something it wasn't FOR THEM is rather judgemental in itself, don't ya think?
Great interview. Both of you are so intelligent and gave a great insight in the destruction alcohol does to a larger amount of consumers. Clarity happiness and beter physical and mental health. Sounds like a plan. Than you.
Staying with your memories hit hard, I am going to hold that, I’ve just got funding for rehab thanks to CGL. But I’m still drinking and holding tight, 4 weeks minimum but it’s going to be ok, trying to hold it down, big heart attack 2021, can’t do the cold turkey incase of a fit, so 20 days hospital detox, I just want it now, can’t happen quick enough, the shame, the stigma, this is vital for me, this is positive support and gives me a kick in the back, that it’s doable!
Started drinking in 1970, stopped 8/1/15 a lot of misery,im 67 Native American male full blood and i have watch alcohol destroy my people for decades,native people are 510 x more likely to die from alcohol related death,NA men have the 2nd lowest life expectancy in the Americas behind Haiti,highest suicide and type 2 diabetes rates in the world
I have been Sober for 3yrs and feel great if anyone can't stop see your doctor or Drug and Alchohol services and ask for Antibuse it does not stop the craving for a drink but is dangerous to drink with,I tried Naltrexon and Campral it did not work for me😢I went into detox 11 times 11th time got Sober,I still miss having a drink but can't go back.good luck to you all you can do this if I did love from Australia❤
Wow! Such a similar story to mine, I did 30 years of solid alcohol abuse, its a miracle that I've survived. I'm on day 7 of crippling withdrawal. Probably the 100th time I've tried but for some reason this feels like 'the one'
I hope this is the one for you, too!
Rooting for you, boo ❣️
If you end up failing again, don't beat yourself up over it. Please do yourself a huge favor and look at my 'Alcohol' playlist & watch at least the first 3 videos...especially the 1st one. Once you fix your biochemistry, alcohol cravings WILL go away. Rarely is any of this discussed. It is THE missing link. You got this! 🙏😉✌️
Look up the 1st 3 videos under my 'Alcohol' playlist. It makes a HUGE difference. 🙏😉✌️
Stay strong friend, hope you’re on day 15 now. And if not you’ll get it next time lol. Day 4 for me right now and have pretty high anxiety but trying to ride through it
It's absolutely crazy how much punishment the mind, body and soul can take.
I was a hopeless alcoholic / addict for 25+ yrs and towards the end i was living off chemicals and booze.
At one point i was drinking strong white wine whilst ingesting valium, seroquel, morphine, meth, ghb, temazepam, tremadol and smoking pot all in the same day.
I was so out of touch with reality that i once set fire to my own jacket to try and warm myself up.
Addiction is complete and utter insanity.
Wow… our human minds seem so wanting to be “out of it” out of reality. Feelings are so hard to deal with…
@@LeahMoonbeam I think that’s the main problem, dealing with feelings. On the surface I have a pretty good life. I have a really nice flat, a mum who I love to bits, a beautiful dog who means the world to me, and am now completely out of debt. Yet still I drink, take lots of prescription drugs, but also benzodiazepines and morphine which I obtain elsewhere. I have been through a lot of traumatic experiences in the past. But I have also had lots of counselling and psychotherapy, but still I persist in these self destructive behaviours. Strange thing is, I never felt anything whilst these bad things were happening to me, it’s felt like I was completely detached from them and they were happening totally outside of me. But now I cannot even cope with normal reality, even though my life is ok now ( apart from the drink and drugs of course). Feel guilty because so many people are having a much harder time than me, yet I do this to myself.
@@terrysutton8452 I hope the guilt leaves you and you realize that the drink and drugs is not who you are, it’s what you do because being human and human being is a complex experience.
The most beautiful flowers grow from bullshite and the trauma you experienced can bring some strengthening magic after it hurts.
It does indeed hurt to be human, sometimes, so let’s forgive ourselves and hug ourselves. Let’s take a walk and look up at the sky. Everything is definitely going be. I hope you don’t let alcohol aka the devils pee steal too much of your soul because your true soul does deserve a chance to heal.
@@LeahMoonbeam Thank you for your kind words. My only wish is to love the world again. Not the world through a hazy bubble, but the world as it is, right here and now.
I've drank every day for around 21 years . 2 beers and half a bottle of vodka everynight with out fail .. it never got me drunk. I was just used to doing it . I'm 48 now . went to doctors 2 weeks ago for blood check-ups finally first time in 12 years decided to go to doctors after they kept texting me to come for a health check up . the nurse said your cholesterol is slightly high but not too high . but she said ur diabetic but the good news is you can reverse it. those words changed my life . I haven't drank for 2 weeks, hitting the gym drinking 6 pints of water per day. I feel absolutely amazing .... I wish I did it years ago ..
good job sir!
@@randomcomputer7248 thankyou
How did you have time & money to drink everyday? Didn’t your job require you to have at least a few days without if you had late meetings or strict deadlines? Provide more details please this is so interesting. Be very transparent and detailed. Answer now please
@paradigm5084 exactly the thought of the money I have spent is unbelievable, and that doesn't include the cigerrets to go with it .. I've blown a fortune, but still it didn't affect my lifestyle . since I stopped, the savings are massive .... I have not quit drinking for good, no. I don't think that's required . it about getting my health in check and drinking on occasionally instead of every night . every night is just not needed .
@paradigm5084 it started when I was 25 I went abroad, and the house we were staying in the man of the house would pull out drinks every night before dinner .. he turned out to be my father inlaw eventually, lol then when I came back home I felt that there was something missing when the evening came.. and that missing this was a few drinks before dinner .
448 days strong here after almost 30 years.
Strong, my friend.
Keep going brother
Well done. Thats a massive achievement.
458 now?
Good for you! Never go back.
People use alcohol as anti-anxiety medication. To temporarily forget their past, their present, their problems, their fears, etc.
Yeh but that's a good aspect
That is so true.
@@jakkritphanomchit
It’s good until it isn’t.
In my case, definitely! It didn’t affect me in my teens so I drank like a fish. No hangovers, nothing. Then when I got to my early 20’s I became a nervous wreck without it. Still struggle with it now and I’m 39.
I feel like death until I've had a half bottle of vodka in the morning. Then I'm back to square one. I hated my job so it was a sedative then spiraled over years and became something I had to imbibe as daily medication. Waiting for a date when I can get some morning diazepam. This isn't fun drinking, it's like another job. Why is this legal, it's poison. Weed helps, it grows naturally but it's illegal in the UK. Ridiculous.
4 years sober fantastic. I am an alcoholic and ypu inspire me to continue my sobriery
moderation doesnt exist for people like me, 1 drink is way too many and 21 drinks is never enough. Fascinating to hear a story so much like my own. only early days for me, but im committed.
It’s easier to not have the first than it is to resist the second one. It’s the only drug I’ve ever done that immediately causes a craving for more. You end up thinking about the second drink before you take a sip of the first drink. It’s insidious.
Alcohol is not worth it it destroyed my whole social life.
its funny how many times i got home from work and grabbed 2 beers, 1 for each hand. The more i think of it, the easier it lessens the temptation.
@@mdemian1968
it was my WHOLE social life, it was almost my whole professional life too@@Jaapst
I totally feel you. No other substance does that to me either. I can spend months without, white knuckling it, thinking it will break that feeling. But as soon as I drink one, then it's right back at where I left it off; drinking back to back until the fridge is empty. Often waking up realizing I went back buying for more without even remembering it.@@mdemian1968
I'm 49, look like I'm 32, and drank a fifth, ate Lortab daily for over 30 years, cocaine, oxycontin, went to rehab, I'M DONE THANK GOD. please, whoever is out there, PLEASE LISTEN, YOU are NOT IN CONTROL until you STOP. You are loved we love you, God loves you, keep your chin up, things get better, I promise.
"look like im 32". Prove it
@@Amir_Nassir there ya go sport! Keep up the good work!
im 55 and i look like 26@@Amir_Nassir
@@wind.del.changeyou're lying, as usual.
ok. i look 28 then@@puddles5501
I have never heard a story so similar to mine. From drinking quickly, to having a few drinks and finishing at home, to drinking massive amounts of wine at home at least one of the huge bottles each night. Then I switched to Honey Jack Daniels and would finish a handle every night...sometimes there would be a little left over, I would smoke a pack of cigs each night with the booze. The drinking occurred between 4pm and midnight, every night, for years. Had at least 20 shops I would rotate through so nobody would see me buying it. Lived alone, isolated, but started and run a successful business. 10 years in I was driving one day which wasn't a problem (before 4p) and while i could drive, I could not walk. I had started internal bleeding because my veins to my cirrhotic liver had burst, and I had been pooping out blood for weeks. I didn't have enough blood to walk. I drove to the hospital and entered a coma for a month. That was 10 years ago. Haven't had a drink or a cigarette since, but I live daily with the effects of end stage cirrhosis, lung issues and the psychological aftereffects of it all. Not sure how I survived. I was 45 when I stopped. Doctors think I was young enough to get through it. Who knows?
rough. i never drank hardcore like you, but i still have problems. 2 years sober.
I’m Most worried about morning. I hate mornings. I hate shakes in the wrists. I don’t have friends I don’t have people spurring me on. Stop talking about “mates” you have no mates when you are an alcoholic. Stop lying. Have me on this stupid podcast.
You are not alone in this. Facing it is what makes you stronger. One tiny step at a time. Go to a meeting. You will hear many stories, many will be similar@@sergedenovo2389
Holy crap you really messed yourself up.
God bless you & I hope you are😮 doing ok.take care.
21yrs heavy drinker and Smoker, for the first time i am 6days clean,
I look forward to a healthier, happier and successful me.
Thanks for sharing this relatable podcast.
Waaoo it is 21 days since i last kissed Maryjane.
Cant believe i dont miss her.
👏👏👏 18yrs, and still learning why I drank... but I suppose that will be a life long process. Best Wishes. 👏👏❤️
Awesome bro!! Proud of you @FreddyTams
So many similarities to my alcohol story. I’m now sober for 10 mo, but I started drinking at home, bc I could drink more for less money, then I wanted to watch my weight to stay “healthy” so I researched online and found Vodka to be the lowest calorie liquor. Then I would hate myself in the mornings, and say no way am I drinking again… then 4p would roll around and I’d be out buying another bottle. Crazy how alcohol controls the mind if you “let it”.
Same
I’m so glad I came across your videos Jesse!
7 years sober now but I still have to remind myself now and again of all the pain and suffering I was in when I was a hopeless drunk.
My life has changed so much now.
My father is 67 years old and has been a heavy drinker for his whole life. He drinks everyday. My mother started drinking at 16 until 45 years old and it killed her in the end. As a child of alcoholics, the drink has always come first before me. It’s a very selfish drug.
callum bests book called second best brilliant but tragic
Well lets hope we end up more like your dad than your mom, seems he's doing pretty well, I doubt I could keep up with him and I'm a lot younger
Al anon could help
My dad was the same age, vodka, everyday. well, he was a couple years older, I was terrified of him for as long as that.
The most selfish part? He only quit because of a serious health issue. Colon Cancer.
We've had the most tragic death, to us but the most to him. It never stopped.
So, how selfish is that?
I'm so sorry because your still going through it.
All I know is that I finally met who my Dad had figured out his fears & traumas, to a point, I mean he must have, but all I knew is after another year or so, he was amazing.
I can't agree more about being selfish. Some wouldn't quit because of a health problem...he had more than 1! The last being the most serious.
He did it with no ativan, which I couldn't believe but his temper tantrums were crazy!
I wish the best for you, I really do.😢
My heart feels for ya. My mom said Nobody likes a drunk even another drunk ITS HARD
I woke up one day and asked myself “who are you trying to impress? No one is impressed” and I stopped drinking finally wishing I had stopped 10 years ago because now I feel amazing.
I asked another question to myself, "Aren't you tired of this meaningless burden?" And I answered in the affirmative. I have been off alcohol and opiates for 7 years(23+ uninterrupted addiction). I was a functioning addict, i.e. It was not a certain case influenced me, but fatigue.
I was an alcoholic from 15-30 and I’ve been sober for over 4 months now. My story is very similar to yours and it’s very relatable….especially that I know what it’s like in the UK when you start young and you want to fit in. I can also relate to the 3 bottle of wine for £10 situation because that’s what I used to do. I think the worst I’ve ever been is when I was homeless, stealing alcohol from the shop. Imagine waking up in the morning with withdrawals, you’re cold and you didn’t eat properly the day before. Id also be very dehydrated. On top of that.. I developed asthma due to chain smoking, so in the mornings, I’d be withdrawing, standing there so out of breathe just thinking how I’m going to get at least 1 bottle of wine to sort myself out. My God, it was difficult but thankfully I gave it up when I made an idiot out of myself in front of my Thai family, and don’t even have the choice to go back to drinking now because I’d probably lose my son. Sorry about the way I’ve explained all of this, is a bit pathetic but it’s because I’m multitasking and I want to get back to listening to what you have to say!
Thank you so much ❤
Wish you the best of luck
All the best mate,I am starting today..no more alcohol for me.
“A bit pathetic”. Dude the hardest and most honourable human action is being able to admit your faults, ask for help and be venerable. Anyone can look or sound hard. But what you did is actually hard. You’re not after ego. Infact you’re risking lowering your ego just to give people knowledge and information. You may see your past actions as pathetic, but you’re changing it into inspiration for others. And I hope you reshape your view of your past into the inspiration it is
I've been alcohol dependent from my early teens until well into retirement age. Despite my daily drinking I managed to have a clean driving record, a 25 year marriage, and 28 years with the same employer. But that's all gone now. I went from psychological dependence to full on physical dependence, requiring 8 in patient detoxes over the years.
I gave AA a shot, but it had a negative impact on my psyche. I felt like drinking more after meetings than before I went in. I did work the steps with a sponsor and tried different meetings, but the urge to drink only grew stronger. I switched to the SMART Recovery Program and have been sober since Sept 2021.
Good for you, carry on, stay blessed.
@jasonwilcox6637 Thank You!
Well done and have a fab life! ❤️👍
SMART recovery works better for me too.
AA sucks for people with anti authority. Issues. Ie father figures gone rotten...it extends to religeon and the groups and makes it useless. Not for everyone..to say the least.i do need answers desperately
This is what I need to help me stay focused and motivated. Dave, your descent into alcoholism mirrors my own.
It is the fantastic feeling I get for 15 minutes… and the 48 hours of recovery that kills me every time. Then the 48 hours recovery turns into a non stop recovery… self hatred… lies…repeat. One week into no more booze. Ever.
Lol. You'll go back as soon as you feel good.
“I have never, ever seen an alcoholic who was not hypoglycemic.
It just doesn’t occur; it’s the same problem.”
-Dr. Douglas M. Baird
I don't feel the Glow
This might be a bit late but it sounds like a case of alexythima (very common with adhd/ aut/ food and substance disorders and men in general). Addictions change how we process emotions and deal with emotions. Alexythima aka emotional blindness is a learnt and unlearnt disorder. If you quit but don’t find the bit your body/ brain was running from (could be unable to deal with boredom, social and isolation issues. I know for me it was a mixture of a load of emotions). A textbook example of why this is important is the person who’s quit cold turkey, everything’s going fine for 3-6 months and then they relapse and say “I don’t know what happened”.
The only way I managed to get clean was by lowering my doses rather then going cold turkey. I slowly exposed my numbed brain back to the world and gave it time to work out what I had been running from in my own time.
Now I’m not one of those people who can remember the day they got clean. Have no idea how long it’s been other than the year (3 years now). But I no longer choose not to indulge, I genuinely just don’t want to. The first thought that comes to my head isn’t “I wish I could but I can’t” it’s “I don’t really like that stuff anymore or the culture around it”.
I will be honest although I’ve managed to quit every addiction (H, coke, Xanax ect) I’ve never managed to quit cigarettes or nicotine. Probs because I can still respect myself after having a cig binge. The rest I can’t. Or maybe it’s just the most addicting substance on earth.
But I hope this kind of exposes alexythima. It’s a hard disorder to explain and I hope I’ve explained it well. I hope this helps anyone reading it.
10 mins for me to write this. I hope this saves someone years of their lives! Quitting isn’t the end. When the urges fizzles out. That’s the end. It can happen. Every action can be learnt and unlearnt. Good luck
@@olliesells8856 yes… I had an old security guard. Tell me that sobriety comes in threes. Three days, three weeks, three months, three years. For some reason this has helped me to understand that after a certain amount of time the person thinks, “why not just have one.”
I would never wish a drinking problem on anyone else it is the absolutely worst horrible addiction that slowly kills you and takes everything away from you over time.
so true
Being sober’s much harder than being drunk will all the associated problems for me. It’s like I’m addicted to an abusive relationship, it’s hectic and awful for me but exciting and escapism.
My wife and I are 591 days sober today, after 20+ years of hardcore weekend binge drinking that started like normal rite of passage teenage drinking and turned into full on alcoholism every single weekend, then being hungover/anxious/irritable/zero energy during the week and repeat the cycle from Friday 5pm after work. Sobriety is a super power, we love it and we're both thriving. No cravings, we just STOPPED because we were very very close to death...no exaggeration.
" Sobriety is a superpower." I love this! Congratulations. I'm at 328 days. Never thought I could stop. I'm so done and happy. We are winning!
what do you consider weekend binge drinking? must have been a lot....i dont think most people who weekend drink end up close to death....can you elaborate?
@@fadacious WOW well done! Nearly a year but anything more than 1 day is amazing for some people. You know most 'normal drinkers' can't even go a few days without at least a beer at night or something. Go you! :)
@@bobloblaw6205 So it started Fridays when I would work from home, I'd start sipping a drink at 2pm and then log off work at 4pm. Then I'd drink for a few hours at home and then head out into the city to drink with friends, or even to drink alone, or just head to the local pub in my area then go for a bar crawl to near by venues. Then at around midnight/1am I'd head home and keep drinking watching music videos on youtube until the sun came up on Saturday morning. I'd still be drinking, haven't gone to bed. Then around midday I'd think "I have to do something with my day" and I'd wander to my local pub and drink there for a few hours (I would be legless and almost couldn't make it home) and would have burnt out by about Saturday evening. So I'd drink for 24 hours straight, no food, no water. I would probably have had maybe 30 drinks (beer, glasses of wine, bourbon and cokes). I needed 2 days to drink (Friday/Saturday). and needed Sunday to 'recover' but to be honest I wouldn't feel normal until 4 days later. My wife would start drinking when she got home from work Friday 5pm and would sip straight vodka all weekend, but would go to bed at a normal time, wake up and sit in bed drinking vodka looking at her phone. She'd go shopping with vodka in a water bottle, or get her hair done with her "water bottle" with her. She drank on Sunday's too. She would drink 3 bottles of vodka over the weekend.
@@bobloblaw6205may be they drank from Friday night to sunday evening... 😳
amazing talk - 5 months sober here, I can relate to so much of what Dave is saying post-drinking - the past is the past - enjoy the reset and the new life without the booze!
Thanks lads ,these childhood situations really land us into adult nightmares,loved the chat
I remember the first time I felt alcohol buzz. I was a child in the 80s drinking champagne.
Yes. Many use the excuse of a bad childhood to induldge in bad behaviour, then expect society to carry them. The wisest realise the most quickly, you have to take responsibility.
I always find these videos interesting. I also grew up in dysfunction and initially it played out, not in addiction, but in always settling for less and devaluing myself. I'm aware of it now and work on changing my life as much as I can. Good luck to all!
David Wilson looks healthy, his skin looks clear and his eyes bright which tells me he is healing . Many blessing for his future ❤
Alcohol and cigarettes addiction actually destroyed my life. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Thanks for sharing your story. That's rough I sympathize. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes. And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health. I will pray for you all.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them
Yes Mr.medmushies
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
Amazing he has gone from 40 years of heavy drinking to actually making a good living from sobriety eg top podcast, courses, book.
"Our 12 Step work is never to be paid for".
@@Mark-pp7jyShould be free since it works for less than 3% and that probably by coincidence. It's a stupid program that tells the sufferer that of your treatment doesn't work, it's your fault. Plus, you are powerless. Stupid cult full of 13th steppers.
This episode is amazing and spoke to me on SO many levels. And your production quality is top notch. Thanks for posting!
I've never struggled with alchohol, I'd be dead by now I'm sure, but weed was always what I'd use in similar ways and this conversation is so wonderful to hear and this applies across many aspects and types of addiction. Thanks for this
As someone who’s the same. Never liked drinking. But I’ve had addictions to H, coke, benzos, speed, mdma and I can keep listing. All the addictions are similar. Thank god I got my ADD diagnosis and the ADHD meds. They 180’ed my life in 15 mins (although it was 1-2 months until the beneficial effects became clear). I’m still on the weed but that’s going down as well. But I’d rather weed be the drug I relapse on rather then the others. At least weed won’t destroy your life on a slip and once you damage your support network it’s such a quick downward spiral.
That was fantastic. Thank you both SO much.
Love soberdave, so open and honest but so strong simultaneously to let the world in on his story and example to all of us of how you can change things
I meet a painter doing construction work. He drank a quart on weekdays and half gallons on weekends. His hands were so big and deformed from arthritis he could not get them in his pockets. I am sure this is how he dealt with his pain.
Exactly right! I’m not an alcoholic, I’m a human who made mistakes just like anyone else. Need to loose the stigma and move on.
Get Honest with yourself or you will drink again or replace alcohol with ANOTHER addiction. Is your life. Do as you wish.
@@lourdesecheverria6209 oh really? And what medical or physiological training brings you to that conclusion? Have you ever met me or diagnosed me or seen my medical records?
@@lourdesecheverria6209 still waiting on your response since you know how I’m wired. You’re just another internet troll who think they know better than everyone else.
Get honest with yourself get a job and get out of your moms basement where you googling advice for others you know nothing about.
Drinking buddies are not friends.
Then i have no friends
Then what are buddies who won't even drink with you? None of this makes sense.
@@BigBadJerryRogers hes talking about himself
@@richjones7313 that doesn't answer my question
They are boozing not bosom buddies.
I am a man in my 50s who has just been moved to tears watching this. Had problems with alcohol all my life. Two years sober for a while, rehabs etc but I became aware by going to AA meetings that I did not fit the usual alki model. I could go for months just having one or two drinks then suddenly I was doing a bottle of vodka a night and drinking myself into a place where I could not stop. It’s dawned on me that I fit the ADHD model big time. Explains problems at school. And yet I’ve had quite a bit of success as a scriptwriter. Can read my stuff but books are hard. I put this vid in my watch later file about a month ago. I think I avoided it because Dave and I look very similar…tattoos etc. for some reason tonight I just clicked on it knowing I was ready to hear it. Thank you so very much for this. Love to you both.
similar to me, not usually a bottle of vodka, but a couple of bottles of red. I average around 20 units a week, but now im stopping for good. had enough, there is no benefit ive decided
A litre of Vodka a day? this seemed incomprehensible to me .... then I got married, it's all made sense....
😮😅
Your mind is so powerful, if it wants to it can screw up alcohol into a ball, throw it in the bin and never be troubled by it again. You need to realize how powerful your mind is. The wolf you feed us the wolf that grows stronger. The more you face it down, the stronger you get and the weaker it gets.
You clearly don't understand alcoholism, and what it takes to achieve sobriety. Being "dry" is not the goal, because as soon as something emotionally upsetting comes along, like "life", our insides scream, "I need some phucking relief". If we don't grow up from an emotional maturity standpoint, our "minds" will NOT save us! "Willpower", for the chronic drinker is a phucking illusion! Who the hell wants to engage in a mental and physical tug of war with alcohol every day of your life? It's NOT SUSTAINABLE!
Thank for is podcast. It almost echoes my own life. I suffer severely with procrastination and every day, just before I take my first drink, I say, well this is my last day drinking and tomorrow will be my first day sober. Then the next day I am straight across to the off-licence buying my first bottle of whiskey, saying well I have to deal with today first, but I will do it tomorrow. And on it goes. Wish I could break that cycle of saying ‘ I will do it tomorrow’
Great podcast, I can relate to what he’s saying as someone who had a big problem with binge drinking and low self esteem. I lost all trust in myself, life is so much better without alcohol, I don’t feel embarrassed/ashamed about my life anymore.
Low self esteem is the result of never taking the hard path and confronting life. You are the sum of every decision you have made.
An incredibly moving and inspirational story, and lesson on how to begin to really love and live again... thank you so much ❤
Great to hear, wish you well on your sobriety. I grew up in an alcoholic family, my dad probably drank the same amount for a similar period of time. He went sober when I was about 25 years so i lost my childhood to it - but he never touched a drop again, so i got to know him then but its hell for the family. He went sober after his GP gave him 6 months to live, in those days the old mental hospitals were still around (it was just before they all closed down) and he was admitted as an inpatient and 6 months later came out and stayed sober until he died.
I won’t my other comments because it’s my journey you can see it
25 years I decided today I’ll make a change
You can see me fighting it
Really I get it, don’t have a choice it’s my time
Thank you guys
Was obviously meant to be, that’s why I’m here
Thank you again I really do!
Let’s go I’ve got your strength I’m doing it!!!!
How did it go mate?
We're here to learn, not for a holiday. Well done. Keep moving forward.
Thank you, this helped me understand a lot, clean for 15 years this month.
congratulations
Fantastic bet it's changed your life for the better. Hope you've got a hobby or interest.😊
i really like that you don't seem to judge people
I was sat down in the living room at eleven years old with my younger brother and out of the blue clear sky my mother said your father and l are separating you need to except it and deal with it and that is that '. I went temporary blind from shock for about five mins then started drinking at 12 years old to escape the pain and betrayal I haven't been the same ever since that day .
Heartbreaking. Sounds like you have a kind of PTSD. Your life is yours to live. I wish you all the best.
My mother woke me out of a sleep at 9 years old to tell me she was divorcing my dad. She was probably drunk, but I’m 56 now, and never healed from that day.
Bad things happen to lots of people. Take responsibility instead of using it as an excuse to indulge in destructive behaviour. The truth is you love a drink. We all do. Just some of us choose the harder, better path than you.
@@jb9433how motivating 🙄
its time to let go of the past and get help and forgive
One of the best shares I have ever heard on here and I appreciate Sobe Dave for being so open with us. My story is so similar to his, especially the part about starting so young and alcohol shaping your approach to life. I am 35 years old now and I have allowed this thing to consume. So many poor decisions and regrets but you know what, I'm realising that it isn't over for me. I'm deciding to make a change - I am powerless against alcohol and no amount of excuses I tell myself is going to change that. I will overcome this!
I’ve been sober for 42 years sept 12th and I quite smoking 1999 but I used to drink a bottle a day and many beers too
I was a bar hopper in NYC, after work. I finally admitted, that I had a drinking problem. I went to a rehab.in Kent, CT at 45. I was there for 3 wks. We went to dozens of AA meetings in the facility. When I came out, I went ,to many more AS meetings I finally understood the steps, and I have been sober, over 30 yrs..
Wow! A lot of great stuff in this! Found this really insightful. Tha k you both❤
Great work Alex finding Dave as a guest. It's such an important opening question you asked " what started it ? " and Alex is a pro interviewer , he actively listens and let's the guest answer. I think when I drank it was a blocker for the pain of childhood trauma, rejection and low self worth
Such a great podcast. Thank you
Just coming up for 2 years sober off the back of 20 years using alcohol. The part that rings true for me is the hundreds of times saying to yourself "I've got to do something about this". Thanks for sharing.
Congratulations, 2 years is a great accomplishment. It rings true for me, too. It's crazy how one can be so consciously aware, but still make the bad choices. I've been down this road many times, it never ends well for me. I'm trying to choose to stop myself, before someone has to make me. It's incredibly difficult.
I relate to this story, for me I never really got drink, I outdrink everyone. For 12 years I drank before work and during work, 7 am through til 10pm absolutely horendous, i was a lost cause
My drinking alone was a huge turning point. I remember it clearly
I’m so grateful this found itself way to my you tube feed. I feel the same as Dave about AA . I found the constant “I’m an alcoholic” to be so negative , more self bashing. What I need is to focus on my positive potential and self acceptance, not repeat and lament negative. I now feel hopeful about finding a different support community.
They'll never be seeing me standing on town centres shouting "I'm a sober alco!". Might be for them, not me. Cognitive lessons and the usage of them is my method.
Totally agree unresolved past struggles, heavy thinkers, deep thinkers, perhaps even neurodivergence can certainly trigger the alcohol coping for many, especially drinking alone at home.
Yeah my brain definitely doesn't appreciate life until I've tied a few on. Deadly cycle behavior I'm trying to work on.
As well egoistic. At one point there is a time to grow up
I bet you are fun at parties.
Overthinking and self consciousness with anxiety and low self esteem are the main factors in my case
i sell alcohol for a living for 24 years...
1) lost alot of good people.
2) broke up marriages.
3) domestic violence
4) cheating on each other
5) hospital visits
6) killing
alcohol is horrible and i drink it.... some people have huge issues.
Poision
Any one can give it up,but the secret is staying sober😮
So true
Exactly!! I did 10yrs sober. Picked up again, can't get any sobriety up, its day 2 again. 😢
Sorry to hear that.keep it simple, one thought one breath one action. Stay strong in this beautiful world but sick society.....
When you said Eastbourne it brought it all back 21 September 2021 cut a long story short drank all my life from when I was 19 years old no self esteem but alcohol turned me into the funniest person.Spent my whole life suffering from anxiety worked all my life still now still drinking tried to commit suicide after a nervous breakdown ( own my house and car no debts why me is that not enough for anyone) left the house parked my car about 2 miles from the house got a train from Liverpool lime st at 2pm 6 o’clock was in the spoons Eastbourne total breakdown drank about six pints went the shop bought a bottle of brandy and got a taxi to beachhead head light house went to the e edge of the cliff slipped fell backwards hit my head woke up 7.30 and drank the rest of the brandy don’t know how I survived but your story has got me crying now never cry I need to go back to beachy head to see how bad I was but what about my partner can’t put her through this again
I like what he said regarding going back to these places and re-experiencing times, but processing in a healthy way. I like this man and feel for his sensitivity very much
a 1/2 gal. of vodka would last me 3 days w my 30 pack of beer which lasted two days,, so about 15 beers and a bottle a day when i was at my worst. i had to take meds to come off it, about 4 days later i started to feel better, no shakes
I used to make rhubarb wine and it was so toxic no one would drink it apart from me! (Desperate) thank god been relieved of my obsession. So many different stories but I’d like to say even non drinkers often feel this way too. Just they don’t drink in it. Thanks for sharing both
Such a great interview. ADHD - this would explain a lot for me. I've often wondered if those (like myself) who have struggled with addiction, tend to be the more sensitive among us. I have been and continue to be a loner, an outlier. This world is very difficult for sensitive children who, of course, become sensitive adults. You don't grow out of sensitivity. Children need to know that their parents are totally there for them while they're are growing into adults. For me, alcohol felt like a friend. I also had no close family to turn to. That would have made all the difference. Pychoanalyst, Alice Miller, states in one of her books, "The Drama of the Gifted Child," that each and every child needs at least ONE loving, trusted adult to turn to throughout childhood.
That is so much true....I had no support when I was a kid, only pure criticism from my parents. Well. Guess how it turned out? I started drinking 20 years ago and haven't stopped till now.
thanks ... this interview is helping me ...alot ..very honest
The best and most interesting video I have seen this week. Recommended to all.
Yep I can drink a liter per day and I do if I have no place to be for the day…I never interact with people nor drive while intoxicated!! My golden rule! But as I’m typing this I’m on my 4th orange juice and vodka! I really need to quit drinking….Im 62
Well you've made it this far, maybe you're one of those who will make it to a hundred despite your best efforts!
I'm surprised you're still alive, congratulations, I only drink once a year
4 yrs 8 months since my last drink/drug life has never been better thanks for sharing mate funny how you sit thousands of miles from me but your story is mine
Alcoholism is insidious i work on it one day at a time
Keep sharing your story
TH-cam watching has replaced drinking...
Me 2 😂
Yep
Fur reelz lmao
Alcohol has ruined my life from 14-30. I recently had 6 months sober then had a bad relapse. 3 days sober today and I want this so badly to be the last one. I won’t survive if I drink again.
Thank you for sharing! Ive never heard of gray drinking before but when it was communicated, it totally made sense! I can relate.
Wow. I relate to this guy more than I can explain.
If you drink a litre of wodka every day. You wernt drunk for 40 years. You just were staying clear headed. It stops working....i can drink 3 bottles of malt n cant get drunk anymore...how did you get drunk on one bottle,?...... Im an old opiate opiod addict now whiskey for sleep ..i cant get drunk so i stopped trying....why drink to no effect....it was my stabilizing moment.....my realization moment...
I’m often amazed at how healthy so
many people look even after years of heavy drinking. This man looks healthier than many his age.
It’s rough having family problems And bullying violence at school
So what? It's life. Man up and deal with it.
@@jb9433 lol we’re talking about school aged kids.. they aren’t men yet.. you might have some unresolved trauma to work on
Get bully at work to
Wow, same ending for me- I was in a bar, looked at my beer and decided it was the last. Just like that. Drank too much but never had withdrawals. Sobriety is a great thing. 10 years in December!
Talking about why we drink. It’s already well documented and really quite simple. It’s trauma in the slightest form!
There we go still watching the letter his mother abandoned him. I mean really for most of us it’s literally first page A level psychology!
I’m watching this at rock bottom it’s crazy how easy it is to understand but so difficult to implement change!
Hey to all us victims of circumstance let’s move forward ❤❤❤❤
Excellent episode. Great to see Dave is doing fantastic
This is amazing content. From someone who is trying to quit drinking it’s priceless. England is such an alcohol orientated society and it’s weirder and harder to be clean everyone wants an excuse to drink. I’m moving to Spain to get away for th English system hope it helps. Good luck everyone
Great video...ive been a hardcore alcoholic for over 20yrs...and so desperate to get the courage to pull the trigger to quit
Just stop now. It'll be the best decision you'll ever make. I've stopped for 1 month now. My skin started going yellow. I've lost 1st already and am feeling so much better. I would even wake up in the middle of the night and neck a can. I was drink driving everyday. I will never touch another drop.
I use to turn up for work with a hangover most days . I was a health professional too. 😢
This was such an inspirational testimony, thank you for sharing your experience Sober Dave!!
2/5/84 using the 12 step model. ❤️❤️
They’re judgmental.
@@sergedenovo2389 it’s been working for me for 40 years but it certainly isn’t the only way to get sober.
@@sergedenovo2389what do you get out of saying that? That person found the 12 steps helpful. You trying to label it something it wasn't FOR THEM is rather judgemental in itself, don't ya think?
I'm quitting completely it's poison. Great pod cast thankyou for sharing your story x
30 years on and now 6 years off. drank to block out sadness and learned that coping mechanism from my alcoholic dad. finally free from it.
I can honestly say I had my last drink last night. I'm over it.
😀😃😃lol
21:09 that’s me when it comes with food. I hate the effects but love the taste and experience
Great interview.
Both of you are so intelligent and gave a great insight in the destruction alcohol does to a larger amount of consumers.
Clarity happiness and beter physical and mental health. Sounds like a plan.
Than you.
Phenomenal interview. Thank you.
Staying with your memories hit hard, I am going to hold that, I’ve just got funding for rehab thanks to CGL. But I’m still drinking and holding tight, 4 weeks minimum but it’s going to be ok, trying to hold it down, big heart attack 2021, can’t do the cold turkey incase of a fit, so 20 days hospital detox, I just want it now, can’t happen quick enough, the shame, the stigma, this is vital for me, this is positive support and gives me a kick in the back, that it’s doable!
Started drinking in 1970, stopped 8/1/15 a lot of misery,im 67 Native American male full blood and i have watch alcohol destroy my people for decades,native people are 510 x more likely to die from alcohol related death,NA men have the 2nd lowest life expectancy in the Americas behind Haiti,highest suicide and type 2 diabetes rates in the world
953 days from 34 years here. Just had second sober birthday.
God bless you, you are an inspiration.
🤗☘️
We all fall for one addiction or another, life has to be conquered to live in the way you want
What an amazing account - thank you for sharing.
Very familiar story, can completely relate to this tale.
For someone who drank for 40 years, he’s aging pretty well 👍
Great video ❤
I have been Sober for 3yrs and feel great if anyone can't stop see your doctor or Drug and Alchohol services and ask for Antibuse it does not stop the craving for a drink but is dangerous to drink with,I tried Naltrexon and Campral it did not work for me😢I went into detox 11 times 11th time got Sober,I still miss having a drink but can't go back.good luck to you all you can do this if I did love from Australia❤
How is he still alive?