@@The-Real-Demokin Ah, you're an attentive type. I'm on a different part of the spectrum where I'll 'forget' other people exist unless they're around me, so if I miss a text or check it and don't reply because I'm busy, if too much time passes for my brain to be comfortable I'll panic and not reply ever while worrying.
Second last one was too accurate. Like man it’s like “mum can I watch tv” “no” *I should have said I’ll play piano if you let me*. I’ll prolly regret commenting this later too lol😂
"How can someone so clever be so stupid." Part of my unmasking is admitting I don't know things and asking for explanation and guidance. Often people are a bit surprised but then they tell me, and then I, an adult, get to learn foundational things for the first time. I have multiple degrees and I just learned last year I was brushing my teeth with 30x the amount of necessary pressure.
My partner finds the way I brush my teeth hilarious, its one of hus favorite quirks about me lol... I guess I brush really intense haha... This comment makes me realize, I am not the only vigorous brusher 😆
I know, right? Even though a person is actually smart, people will suddenly perceive them as not being very smart when they maybe take longer to do things, just from being more clumsy than the average person, or maybe just from OCD. And then all of a sudden, the degrees thar I obtained in college don't even matter to them anymore. Yes, I may not understand a lot of social interactions, but please don't let that entirely cancel out the credentials that I very successfully completed for myself. It's like, "Yes, you may know how to read social cues and I don't, but I ALSO know about a lot of things that you don't, so neither of us is actually better than the other." But the majority of people will probably continue to judge in this manner.
A good tip is to chose a kids toothbrush(6+) that is soft and has a tip that gets into harder places. According to several dentists medium and hard should be illegal.
@Laura Lane Yeah, I seem to do at least half of things in an awkward way or another. A person can start by observing my natural gait when I walk, as I cringe at the thought of my heals striking the ground before the front pads of my feet (I have people tell me that I remind them of a ballerina when I walk ☺️).
Pretty much when my friends told me there is a difference between school smart and street smart... I was so offended I quit school and started my life on the streets to catch up lmao
Once I was so focused on painting that I locked myself in my room the entire weekend painting. Didn’t sleep didn’t eat, didn’t drink water, just awake for 40 hours working. My mom was concerned and let me stay home on Monday but I honestly don’t get how everyone in my family didn’t realize it sooner. They only connected the dots when my brother in law saw how I took a minute to process questions (like “want to come to the store?”, “can you feed the dogs?”, etc) and suddenly everyone recognized it.
Yes! I can't answer questions that require a decision straight away. I've come to learn that i need to sleep on it at least one night to really be clear. Otherwise I get way too influenced or pressured by other peoples' energies in the moment.
"What do you want to eat tonight?" "I can't just answer that, I don't know, I haven't thought about it, how can I just know, don't force me to make a decision" *fricking runs away* (Legitimate dialogue from yesterday lol)
@@catchacobra4765 something I’ve found works is set silent alarms for every few hours that say to drink water and/or get a small snack. Not only do you stay in good condition but also taking a second away from the canvas can allow you to get a new perspective! :3
Smells. Laundry, dishwashing soaps, aftershave/cologne/perfume/shampoos/lotions - anything near or on my person has to be unscented or I develop raging headaches. Some smells like rosemary, sage, thyme are all acceptable. Pungent, sweet odors are not. Food textures. Cooked tomatoes have always bugged me, but I’m okay with tomato ketchup or sauce. Mushy foods often bug me, yet I love mashed potatoes. These are things that I’ve had all my life (80-plus) and have recently had diagnoses (ASD and ADD). Often wondered about me! Edited: Today, at the therapist’s office, I could hear a low pulsing hum somewhere in the ceiling. Apparently, the offices have a sound-proofing device in the ceiling, so no client’s words can be heard by anyone in another room or the hallways. My therapist doesn’t hear the sound of that device. Most of the time, when the old-fashioned TV’s we had for video information in our classes were in my room or the open class area, I would hear a high-pitched sound that no one else appeared to hear. (I asked.) I’ve used headphones, or special earplugs to allow me to sleep in my building when neighbors are noisy. They don’t work for me. I hear EVERYTHING! Yet, our building is on a street with lots of traffic and somehow my brain doesn’t acknowledge it. Go figure! Regarding light - I have my window blinds down most days, except for cloudy or rainy days. Too bright for me. I prefer soft fibers for furniture or accessories, and clothing. I also have challenges working with yarns that are pure wool. I am allergic to regular wool, yet can wear merino wool, because it’s soft, with none of the “prickliness” of regular wool. With my recent diagnoses, I recognize that I have many autistic symptoms that upset or bothered me earlier in my life (and now), that others told me to “get over it!” Not too many people from my generation were EVER diagnosed, unless their symptoms were severe and obvious. We “high-functioning” people just had to “suck it up and get on with life”! Unfortunately, many of us felt “broken”, because we didn’t seem to fit into “normal” situations. ****The diagnoses (ASD and unspecified ADD) help me to understand that my brain functions differently, that I am “neurodivergent”, not broken.
Sensitive to certain sounds being triggered,response back in huge attack or ignore and have what you have,is all autistic behavior,being attacked easily by others and replying harsh or ignoring- is all autistic behavior. I had these all my life. Anyway depends how brain is wired./
Teachers told me that I puzzle them because they don’t understand how I can understand extremely complex concepts but the little things that most people take for granted, go completely over my head.
I'm autistic and I want to clarify why your comment is stupid and makes you feel like a person trying to sound smart: being able to understand "complex ideas or topics" isn't necessarily an autistic trait. In fact, many autistic people don't realize this specific trait, nor do people tell them; since it's something unconscious, or a process that's been already taken before and you do without even noticing. I myself am autistic and can speak 4 languages, and as ironic as it may sound, there's one language that I'm not sure about how I'm able to understand. I haven't learned any of them, nor have happened to "spawn in my head" for no reason whatsoever, rather it became natural to understand it, and it's an unconscious process that doesn't necessarily mean I understand complex topics. To be fair, most things (as far as I remember), aren't renowned before. it's simply a filter in which I can understand. Noticing you can understand complex topics, while lacking any understanding of the most basic ones is probably a trait of your personality, or something you've been faced with frequently to the point you can do as usual. It could indicate a higher logical intelligence or an ability to understand complex topics, either not an autistic trait.
@ You clearly misunderstood me, if you read my comment as in anyway performative. I was told that comment REPEATEDLY, so I resent your implication that I somehow made that up to impress anybody. I never said it was any kind of proof I was autistic but you seemed to be under some misconception that all autistics are alike or something or perhaps I have misunderstood your comment but being told I’m “stupid” extremely triggers me, so I’m muting you. Next time, don’t insult another neurodivergent person based on what you misperceive wrt to their intelligence!
@NotInMYName_AntiZionistJew I should've probably hesitated to reply to a guy called "not in my name antizionistjew" besides, if your comment doesn't bring any interesting idea here why did you simply comment on it in an autistic video? quite interesting how you simply threw it away, without any reasons to, and especially considering your comment was pretty asinine and meaningless. if it's not any proof, nor an interesting thing that most autistic people have in common, you can simply not say anything and stop polluting the comment section.
@@NotInMYName_AntiZionistJew @NotInMYName_AntiZionistJew I should've probably hesitated to reply to a guy considering their nickname (funny how TH-cam deleted my comment since I was just writing your nickname, wonder why) besides, if your comment doesn't bring any interesting idea here why did you simply comment on it in an autistic video? quite interesting how you simply threw it away, without any reasons to, and especially considering your comment was pretty asinine and meaningless. if it's not any proof, nor an interesting thing that most autistic people have in common, you can simply not say anything and stop polluting the comment section. anyway, if you find my reply an insult, that's probably your problem. my opinion is that your comment is simply meaningless and doesn't have any interesting ideas behind. also: I didn't state at any point you made it up, I really don't care if you did or not; it doesn't change the fact your comment is simply stupid.
@@NotInMYName_AntiZionistJew I should've probably hesitated to reply to an edgy internet guy called "not in my name antizionistjew", sure not seeking for attention lmao besides, if your comment doesn't bring any interesting idea here why did you simply comment on it in an autistic video? quite interesting how you simply threw it away, without any reasons to, and especially considering your comment was pretty asinine and meaningless. if it's not any proof, nor an interesting thing that most autistic people have in common, you can simply not say anything and stop polluting the comment section. (I'm sending this again since youtube keeps deleting my comment. probably because of your nickname).
Add when you want to leave a comment you think too much about how what to say and think for a week decide well it's too late. I don't mind being alone. Thank you, I relate to most all.
If it helps here's a conspiracy theory to boost your confidence. Theory: most of the comments are bots programmed for a variety of purposes, from political views to just pure hatred. After all, Twitter would loose money if it was only sunshine and rainbows. A typical "debate" gets 100s of comments, much more than wholesome stuff. The more comments, the more views, the more ads would trust Twitter.
Symptoms overlap very often between different illnesses. And sometimes completely healthy people have some or many of the symptoms associated with certain conditions.
that is exactly what i’m like with my autism, i just sometimes find it so hard and wishing i never had it because it’s so tough to go through life knowing i’m different, but then i realise everyone is different and most people with autism have very successful lives and live on happy, i hope i’ll find happiness one day
My little granddaughter feels very much the same and I worry about her as she grows up. But I also see so many people who cope so well and have happy lives that it gives me hope. I wish you happiness and success in your life
I hate phone calls. I can't tell when I'm supposed to speak and I talk over and finish other people's sentences and I don't like chit-chat. I have zero phone contacts.
I hated phone calls until work forced me to get used to them. Those were the most nerve-wracking days of my life 😅 I got better, I'm still not the best but I no longer have a mental breakdown when I have to do it
100% I have these traits. Especially scripting conversations in advance. I'm so scared of social conversations that I spend hours thinking about possible replies to any possible questions they may have.
@@aster_11Watch out the introverted socially anxious people are gonna call you ableist! watch out when they tell you you're forcing them to mask! >_< /sarcasm
Oh yes!! I always think that I was more stupid than normal people even when I had been considered very normal and recognized as a examplary student. Sometimes I felt smarter than them in some ways, but I always felt that at some point... So I thought my understanding was not really good. I admit that and tried to dedicate more in order to compensate my lacks.
Thank you for summarizing my life experience! Having received a diagnosis a month or so ago makes this video have so much more sense, and gives me a whole new depth and perspective on things and even on myself after almost three decades.
@@stxrryxnxght5927 it does happen more often than not. Regarding the satiety feeling, my therapist advised me to eat slower. It seems to be helping a little. But unless I have a dry mouth, I can go for a while without water, too.
Also not realising you need to use the restroom...or puting off using it because you are doing something "important", and then forgetting you needed to go until it's almost too late. That's a thing, right? It's not -just- me?
When I work I forget to eat or drink. I rarely respond to texts, I usually prefer being alone and push myself into going and going even when I sometimes have a flag that says stop. I have a tendency to misplace things, I write a lot down because I'm afraid to forget things --and it helps me to organize the information until I can repeat it. I've never thought of any of this falling into the spectrum.
I did this all of my life. lol but I just chalked it up to being a loner, weird, introverted. I was always in my room or to myself because I found the most comfort in being alone and weird without the judgement of others . The times I was with others I masked it really well, but my quirks would still shine through. It never occurred to me that these were Autism traits. I only knew the stereotypes, but I never knew there was a spectrum until recent years. I felt different all of my life. & yet no one ever pieced it together.
That moment when our local violinist switches from an upstroke of his bow to a downstroke while playing a high note. Feels like sandpapering my eardrums! The coarse grit not fine grit sheets. The backup alarm on the facility bus ditto. The storm warning sirens of my town. Just 3 of the worst repeat offenders.
They all hit home, but the not realizing hunger, thinking about text messages until I finally reply, always finishing even when I should stop, and the scripting and ruminating on conversations... Hit a little deeper lol
I got diagnosed with autism today and my mom made my life hard because she didn’t really know anything about autism, so I have been living with autism 14 years almost 15. But my dad has ADHD and he’s brother had autism and he could see it on me that I have autism and he was right. I’m really happy now because now I can finally get help and my life will be a lot easier 🙃🥳
At work, I keep the office lights off. Loud noises feel extremely intrusive. I don’t like changes to my routines, and I become upset when people disrupt my flow. I have a terminal degree, I’m highly intelligent, and I’m also very kind and a good conversationalist. Most people generally find me to be insightful, patient, compassionate, and a very pleasant person to be around. However, I comfortably spend most of my time alone and I don’t have many friends. I’ve been jokingly telling people I’m on the low end of the spectrum for years. After watching this video, I’m pretty sure I have very mild, high -functioning autism.
Obviously I know I have autism as I was diagnosed as baby but literally I thought it was just me who acted like that as when I went to a special needs school everyone was sooo clingy apart from myself. I always loved my own space and used to not reply back even after looking at a message like I’m not intentionally ignoring people but I don’t know how to respond sometimes and she gets rude when I do that. I’ve never thought anything of it. My sister is ten years older than me and she acts like she knows everything. I enjoy my own space that when I was in school people thought I didn’t like them and some tried to pick on me due to that alone like when I first started school they rang my mum and told them I didn’t say nothing the whole day and the same thing happened when I started secondary school. All I’m gonna say is if you have a quiet autism child and there starting secondary school try to ease them in as much as possible because my heart sank to the floor when I first started, I was stiff as a rock and on the inside I crying cause I just wanted to be with my mum. I like having autism but I hate it at the same time as I’m multi talented and smart but sometimes I’ll be talking to people and they’ll be getting rude over the fact that I don’t know what a certain word means. It’s happened quite a few times.
started microdosing mushrooms in place of my prescriptions and the difference is night and day in my mental health and my anger i feel like ive become a better person best decision ive ever made wish it was more accessible to those that need
Psilocybin mushrooms saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction. Imagine carrying heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone, Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues,
Also not knowing when you need to pee until the last minute, and if you have ADHD too, it is a real battle between the struggling to finish something because of the ADHD and the anxiety about not finishing it from the ASD. And the ASD in you needs organisation around you, but the ADHD stops you from effectively being able to organise yourself. 🤯
Ah, maybe that's my problem. In my mind, I want things micro organised, neatly, specifically and perfect. In reality, I cannot be arsed to actually put things away if they are that specifically organised. Too hard!
I was 32 before I was diagnosed. It took years to figure out how to adjust life around my traits. It's not full proof but I'm less critical about myself now.
Tbh I also do script conversations and thinking about what I should've/could've said after the conversation but I think/feel like it's just because of my undiagnosed social anxiety lol
Thanks you Dr. Aboda today my niece who was born with autism is now a normal kid that does her home and school work herself and communicates, play with other kids in the neighborhood
i thought scripting conversations was just a really weird thing i did cause ive never met or seen anyone else do it, so its really interesting to learn that other people experience the need to do this as well
For me it's like sections of my brain switch off when I'm face to face with someone. I'm not necessarily panicking or scared, I just can't recall things or think properly. So I end up just repeating conversations I've already had before with myself, when my whole mind was accessible and working.
If those things don't just occur once a week, but in a such severe manner, that they effectively stop you from functioning in some fields, they are considered a symptom. There is also a huge overlap with other neurodevelopmental divergencies, that only a specialist should tell somebody else if they could be autistic or not.
Have you always had sleep problems? That's a huge symotom that is basically always present if you have autism. Paul could have included it in this short-vid:)
I love my autistic traits! For so long I wondered why I was so different but since my diagnoses almost 2 years ago everything about me makes sense and I understand myself soo much better 😊
Okay but how much did it cost you to get diagnosed? I’m almost afraid to get tested because whether I have it or not I think they’ll still diagnose me with it. You know how doctors are. I didn’t have any of the symptoms as a baby but I did notice my differences pretty much all throughout school and now as an adult. But if I actually do have it; that will help me to have this explanation of many reasons that I’m rather ‘peculiar’ to others. I do hold back a lot now as a security blanket because I was bullied for being myself.
@@SuperKvlogs I'm actually afraid that because I have such mild autistic traits, they may not even want to see me. And yes I agree about the price being an issue. Especially if the diagnosis or non diagnosis is wrong.
My son is autistic he get frustrated with loud noises and sways back and forth when he finds things overwhelming i know his tiks when hes about to get stressed and he said hes happy with me being with him hes the best thing to happen to me and i tell him everyday
The Covid-19 shutdown was a blessed relief, for about the first month. Then I found my mood spiralling down, for lack of more than 25 seconds daily seeing another human face. And that being split between three meal deliveries at my apartment door, which I had to back away from the door or they wouldn't set the food on table next to door. Felt like a prison.
Thank you for this video, I had already been curious to know if I have Autism due to having most of the symptoms, after I saw this, i found out that I had absence seizures.
@@lyrablack8621 I know it was only a few hours ago that I left my "congratulations" comment, but I already can't remember if I meant it encouragingly or sarcastically( I really should know better than to attempt to be sarcastic outside of face to face communication, especially without stating that it is a joke), but either way I don't understand how it can come across as being hurtful. Did it seem like I was gaslighting you? Can you help me to understand?
@@crweirdo8961 It didn't come across as hurtful at all!! I assumed you meant it jokingly, so i responded in kind (and looking back, i suppose just saying "FU-" without the context that i was leaving the rest of the word ["CK"] off in anticipation of the possibility that you could respond, "See, you finished another comment!"). I didn't anticipate you seeing it as F U, or "fuck you", which isn't what i meant at all, i assumed (wrongfully) that the "-" would denote the fact that i left it unfinished. Thank you very much for responding and asking for clarification! Communication is a two-way street after all, and neither of us were using our blinkers 'cause we were expecting the other person to be able to read our minds given our actions/words; which obviously leads to preventable misunderstandings. So, for the future of both of our Internet communications' needs, i'd like to introduce some lovely text-based-communication tools: tone indicators/tone tags! There are a lot of them, so i recommend looking it up on your own, but they look like this: _HA,_ i never finish anything! /j Congratulations you finished watching this short, and you finished writing a comment. /j (or maybe /s) FU- /j /lh … confused? Here's a key: /j = joking! (Could also be /jk for just kidding) /s = sarcastic/sarcasm /lh = lighthearted/playful (i don't know if there's a /p? But you can make up your own as long as you provide a key, ofc you can have fun, just make sure the priority of communication is met!) All of this would fall under /info or information! Emojis can also be used similarly but may be more inconvenient on desktop as opposed to mobile ☺️; and i prefer emoticons anyway for some things! :P Btw, tell me you're autistic without telling me you're autistic!! /lh /j Edit: wanted to add this real quick. Punctuation often also comes across as being more negatively over text, so it's something to be aware of; my current partner is autistic and he always puts periods and such, and one time when my BPD/borderline personality disorder was acting up, i interpreted it as being very aggressive and got defensive. Nothing wrong with using punctuation, but it's something of which to be aware! I wish more people would talk about the sort of "meta" of social skills etc, it would lead to way less miscommunications; but neurotypicals just assume everyone already understands their unwritten rules, and unfortunately i have a tendency to do the same. So i apologize also, because i also played a role in the miscommunication, and unfortunately my actions seem to have hurt you by accident Edit 2: grammar. I know i know, i used to be a grammar nazi and old habits die hard… 'specially when you keep reinforcing them like i do haha. Since i'm sure you're curious, i corrected a postposition to a preposition; "to be aware of" to "of which to be aware". Both are actually grammatically correct (language use should be descriptive rather than prescriptive imo), and on top of that, i'm sure you and whoever else reading understood either way; so it doesn't matter, except to me :p
@@lyrablack8621 Thank you so much for this clarification😍 and for making it extra long and over communicating to avoid any further miscommunication(I may not be nearly as much of a grammar nazi🧐 but the exhaustively long over communicating reply is very validating🙏 and makes me feel like maybe I really have found my tribe👽[I only just started suspecting that I'm autistic about 2 weeks ago]). I've seen "jk" used before(thought it was short for "joke" not "just kidding"), but never preceded by "/". I will definitely look into using those tags instead of abandoning the use of sarcasm online like I know I should. 🤦♂️🙊🤞🖖
That's all me. I love being seen and validated! I wish my parents had done that. They just assumed I was mentally ill, so I lived up to their expectations.
This makes so much sense now, I found out yesterday that I could be autistic and I've been wandering a lot why I find texting exhausting and would rather call or be in person. I meet all 7 traits listed.
That and strong convictions. A dentist told me when i was 12 that soda is bad for teeth, didnt touch it for 7 years. Decided to make a small step to healthier eating by cutting out red meat 2 years ago, not the slightest urge. I get told all the time how im able to stick to things super well, when in my mind its to be or not to be
Just to be clear bc people say that everyone does this: People with autism experience this to life-altering extents. - Autistic people can accidentally make themselves dehydrated, malnourished, sick, etc because they aren't able to recognize they need it. Many autistics set scheduled times for when they need to eat because they will starve themselves by accident otherwise. This would be an issue that occurs multiple times per day, not just occasionally. - part of the reason autistic people are stereotyped to have no friends is because they forget/put off responding to people so frequently that it does significant long term damage to relationships. - when he says feeling comfortable being alone, he means that autistic people struggle to fully relax and feel calm around others because they feel the need to perform a false version of themselves to be accepted and that isolation is the only truly safe place. - "always finishing what you start even if you should probably stop" is not just going above and beyond, but literally pushing yourself to the point of self-injury because you will have an anxiety attack if you stop. - autistics have to script EVERY conversation. Not just difficult ones. Even casual everyday small talk is something autistics cannot just improvise on the spot without non-autistic people reacting with confusion and discomfort. . Please stop saying "everyone does these things." Autistic people are human. Of course we share behaviors in common with non disabled people. But we experience these things at disabling levels.
Lol the texting bit... oh yah. I was diagnosed back in 1989. I tell folks to call me, I'd rather talk on the phone. It's far more efficient than meaningless banter back and forth being constantly interrupted instead of still being able to complete tasks while on the phone. No wonder people are so stressed out these days feeling like they can never get enough done. These phones waste an incredible amount of time especially when you add heaps of apps and social media on top of the texting. The average person could easily capture at least another 10+ hrs a week if they put the phone down more. I'd rather accomplish more meaningful things with my time. I'm also thankful to have a job that allows me to work when I want, as long as I want and more importantly... no customers or coworkers. I work in near total isolation for a month at a time before going home.
I have done the paint thing so many times. Sometime with paint. Usually when I'm cooking. I wear whatever I'm working on so often. And yeah I hate not finishing something. It drives me crazy. There are so many times I've pushed myself way past my limits because I started something that now I have to finish it. And yeah everything else too. Those were just my biggest ones.
"Always finishing what you start, even when you should probably stop." This one I kind of struggle with as an autistic. I procrastinate a lot, I'm disorganized, and my planning often fails. But eventually, you're right, I always have to finish what I consider important, meaningful, or am interested in, even when life screams for me to keep on moving. "How can someone so clever be so stupid?" Yeah, true. But I'm only clever on what I care about. Anything else that is intuitive for others, I have to learn it from the ground up.
Do not use this to diagnose yourself. The criteria is to have almost everything (which is much more in depth, the normal diagnosis requires 6+ hrs) and it must interfere with your day-to-day functioning! Be careful bc saying these sorts of things is very invalidating to people who really struggle with this
The last one really describes me. I am in a class and I know EXACLY what I’m doing.While the others usually are still trying to figure out the equations. But when I am given a simple direction,let’s say…give this paper to him!I over think..what do they mean by him?
NOTE TO PEOPLE USING THESE TO SELF DIAGNOSE: These 7 traits are all things humans experience, or experienced in the past, people who have autism have these traits more noticeably and more amplified. These are only 7 of the hundreds of tiny criteria you need to meet when you are evaluated by a psychologist, to be diagnosed with ASD. Lots of symptoms of autism also overlap with ADHD. Please don’t go around saying that you are autistic because you related to these 7 tiny criteria, which are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to diagnosis. If you think you are autistic, please research and then be evaluated by a psychologist, and if you can’t access a psychologist to evaluate you, wether you can’t afford it or your parents aren’t willing to take you, do lots of research online about the criteria, and think about these things: 1. Do I understand sarcasm? 2. Do I flap my hands or make funny vocal noises lots of the time? 3. Am I sensitive to loud noises and intense smells and or tastes? 4. Am I super picky? 5. Do you willingly start a conversation? 6. Do you cry over small things? 7. Do you get overwhelmed by yelling? 8. Do you wear the same shirt every day? 9. Are you emotionally attached to inanimate objects? 10. Do you imitate or repeat things people say? 11. Do you feel nervous when talking to friends? 12. Are you sensitive to sudden changes of plans or environment? If you said yes to half of these, maybe you should consider researching more, or getting a professional opinion and diagnosis. My diagnosis helped me get the accommodations that helped me succeed, so if you are diagnosed, you are entitled to certain accommodations, services, and treatment. Hopefully I could help you and help you think a bit deeper. Have a good day folks.
1. If my manual gears are turning. 2. I snap my fingers. 3. I hate large crowds and music loud enough to not be able to hold conversations. 4. I used to be super picky, still is a bit picky but improving. 5. About my special interests? Sure! Except for that, social conversations are very hard to start. 6. I cry when I have meltdowns, aka I have not noticed my stress building up and now the bucket is full. 7. This depends on my emotional state. If I am in problem solving mode it doesn't phase me at all as I am thinking analytically and not emotionally. When I am not in problem solving mode, my emotions are easily influenced. I would probably not cry in the moment, but I would probably cry afterwards. 8. That would be very stinky without washing it, and I don't use a drier. So no. 9. Old consoles have a lot of sentimental value to me. 10. If it's a compliment yes, I don't get them very often. 11. Nope 12. When I was as a child, yes. Parents getting divorced forced me to get used to it. Cannot recommend. I am diagnosed with "High Functioning Autism", which isn't used at all anymore. I also got ADHD.
@@victoryamartin9773 try and consult a physician or a physiologist, as they can typically issue you with certain accommodations, or recommend a doctor who may be able to help you. Good day!
As an individual like myself who is on the autism spectrum, I have some of these traits plus anxiety and sometimes depression. It is sometimes hard but that's alright I learned to deal with it as a young adult.
Do not use this to diagnose yourself. The criteria is to have almost everything (which is much more in depth, the normal diagnosis requires 6+ hrs) and it must interfere with your day-to-day functioning! Be careful bc saying these sorts of things is very invalidating to people who really struggle with this!
I relate to all of these way too much! I am entirely too comfortable being alone. I am very intelligent, yet so stupid. I will never reply to your text. I script conversations that will jever happen non stop in my head. I am constantly thinking about all the things I coulda shoulda woulda said if only I'd thought of it in the moment. I will easily get busy and go all day long without eating, forget to drink water and wait way too long to use the restroom. All of the things on this list, every last one. 😊🖤
I wonder if obsessively reading TH-cam comments could be considered a trait? I probably spend more time reading and writing TH-cam comments than I actually do texting my friends and family😂
Do not use this to diagnose yourself. The criteria is to have almost everything (which is much more in depth, the normal diagnosis requires 6+ hrs) and it must interfere with your day-to-day functioning! Be careful bc saying these sorts of things is very invalidating to people who really struggle with this!
Not really "austistic traits" but side effects of the kind of social anxiety that is common in autism. These same things are true for many neurodivergent minds.
Not everyone, not even close. I just did not realize it before age 40 because I grew up among 16 first cousins plus all the older relatives who almost all have at least some neurodivergent traits.
@@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023 sorry for the late reply, TH-cam notifications and all that. But really? And if you don't mind me asking such a personal question on an incredibly public forum - is it worth a diagnosis after 40?
Well, people can certainly have these traits personally without being neurodivergent... but they are pretty recognizable to people who have Autism, if you relate to all of them there is a possibility that you are Autistic... which doesn't have to be that big of a deal. AND YES, OH GOD IS A DIAGNOSIS WORTH IT. That is the first step in both discovering and accepting who you truly are, some people go through their whole lives masking... and it just breaks them apart inside without them even realising, it's hard to figure out how to adjust to everything that Autism makes so difficult when you don't even know what it is that makes you the way you are.
1. It's rather the oppossite 2. YESSSS!!!!!!! THAT'S ME!!! (I was searching why I did that before but never found the answer. It might also be a social anxiety symptom though) 3. Yes, but might be social anxiety as well 4. Didn't understand 5. Probably not, it's maybe the opposite but idk 6. Yes, but again, social anxiety lol 7. No one has told me but that's what I really think of myself I think most of those symptoms might be due to social anxiety (though I've never been diagnosed)
You just described me in a few seconds, except for the texting part and hunger/thirsty stuff, I don’t tend to not respond to texts too often and I know when I’m feeling hungry or thirsty half the time.
Having all these characteristics, once a long time ago in connection with a company party (which I felt obliged to attend) I planned my presence down to the smallest detail. arrive and the barrage of lights and sounds that greeted me became too much to handle. Stayed there long enough for me to leave, and that relief there and then outside the restaurant was like balm for the un calm mind.
Evolving, from all that in youth, I joined the work-world where you must behave differently. I bought things of aesthetic beauty, to be happier, but then I began returning to my autistic roots, during retirement. Possessions have less meaning. So, that's my truth of a lifetime. ❤
One of my mom's favourite insults to me as a child was "How could you be so stupid?!" I had always assumed that she was just intolerant of mistakes, but now knowing that i am autistic adds another dimension of understanding.
So I have all of them in a way, but one: my problem is I start so many things all the time but, without a deadline and sometimes even still, I struggle to finish anything and everything, as if I'm allergic to completing anything at all. I think it's the same reason why I've always struggled with CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy): I cannot convince myself to believe (and act upon, enjoy, think and, obviously, finish) anything that I don't believe or isn't true objectively. For example (an outlandish example that has never happened, just to make my point) it's like someone saying "the sky is grey, because that's how someone who is colourblind sees it". I would just be like "No, the sky is colourless and looks blue to the vast majority if the world", to which they'd respond "well just pretend then so little Jimmy is colourblind and we don't want to make him seem abnormal or unwelcome," and try as I might I'll never see the sky's colour as little Jimmy, so see absolutely NO reason as to why I should pretend such as the reality as logically we both have.
With the joint power of my ADHD and autism, I shall not only never reply to you, but will think about it constantly for the rest of my life.
the trick is to have a bunch of neurodivergent friends who don't think anything of there being months between messages
Me who is autistic but responds instantly: wdym?
@@The-Real-Demokin Ah, you're an attentive type.
I'm on a different part of the spectrum where I'll 'forget' other people exist unless they're around me, so if I miss a text or check it and don't reply because I'm busy, if too much time passes for my brain to be comfortable I'll panic and not reply ever while worrying.
@@Skeleton_Lyth I’m a night owl too, I text my friends at like, midnight
And also never finish a project because a new one comes along. I have so many unfinished projects
Second last one was too accurate. Like man it’s like “mum can I watch tv” “no” *I should have said I’ll play piano if you let me*. I’ll prolly regret commenting this later too lol😂
so true i always overanylize the first line ill say and regret what i said at random times weeks later
^
I regret commenting that
@@Wanna-be-painless lol tbh i think my reply was cringe
@@nitrofueled505 not really my comment was cribge
@@Wanna-be-painlessyour comment isn't cringe trust me I have seen wrose
"How can someone so clever be so stupid."
Part of my unmasking is admitting I don't know things and asking for explanation and guidance. Often people are a bit surprised but then they tell me, and then I, an adult, get to learn foundational things for the first time. I have multiple degrees and I just learned last year I was brushing my teeth with 30x the amount of necessary pressure.
My partner finds the way I brush my teeth hilarious, its one of hus favorite quirks about me lol... I guess I brush really intense haha... This comment makes me realize, I am not the only vigorous brusher 😆
I know, right? Even though a person is actually smart, people will suddenly perceive them as not being very smart when they maybe take longer to do things, just from being more clumsy than the average person, or maybe just from OCD. And then all of a sudden, the degrees thar I obtained in college don't even matter to them anymore. Yes, I may not understand a lot of social interactions, but please don't let that entirely cancel out the credentials that I very successfully completed for myself. It's like, "Yes, you may know how to read social cues and I don't, but I ALSO know about a lot of things that you don't, so neither of us is actually better than the other." But the majority of people will probably continue to judge in this manner.
A good tip is to chose a kids toothbrush(6+) that is soft and has a tip that gets into harder places. According to several dentists medium and hard should be illegal.
@Laura Lane Yeah, I seem to do at least half of things in an awkward way or another. A person can start by observing my natural gait when I walk, as I cringe at the thought of my heals striking the ground before the front pads of my feet (I have people tell me that I remind them of a ballerina when I walk ☺️).
Pretty much when my friends told me there is a difference between school smart and street smart... I was so offended I quit school and started my life on the streets to catch up lmao
Once I was so focused on painting that I locked myself in my room the entire weekend painting. Didn’t sleep didn’t eat, didn’t drink water, just awake for 40 hours working. My mom was concerned and let me stay home on Monday but I honestly don’t get how everyone in my family didn’t realize it sooner.
They only connected the dots when my brother in law saw how I took a minute to process questions (like “want to come to the store?”, “can you feed the dogs?”, etc) and suddenly everyone recognized it.
Yes! I can't answer questions that require a decision straight away. I've come to learn that i need to sleep on it at least one night to really be clear. Otherwise I get way too influenced or pressured by other peoples' energies in the moment.
"What do you want to eat tonight?"
"I can't just answer that, I don't know, I haven't thought about it, how can I just know, don't force me to make a decision" *fricking runs away*
(Legitimate dialogue from yesterday lol)
@@ShipperTrash why do i relqte so much lmaoo 😂
Not me reading this having spent at least 7 hours in my room painting...😐
@@catchacobra4765 something I’ve found works is set silent alarms for every few hours that say to drink water and/or get a small snack. Not only do you stay in good condition but also taking a second away from the canvas can allow you to get a new perspective! :3
Sensory problem ( clothes annoy, sounds irritate, lights overwhelm ).
Bras, possibly with sport bra exception need to be banned!
Smells. Laundry, dishwashing soaps, aftershave/cologne/perfume/shampoos/lotions - anything near or on my person has to be unscented or I develop raging headaches. Some smells like rosemary, sage, thyme are all acceptable. Pungent, sweet odors are not.
Food textures. Cooked tomatoes have always bugged me, but I’m okay with tomato ketchup or sauce. Mushy foods often bug me, yet I love mashed potatoes.
These are things that I’ve had all my life (80-plus) and have recently had diagnoses (ASD and ADD). Often wondered about me!
Edited:
Today, at the therapist’s office, I could hear a low pulsing hum somewhere in the ceiling. Apparently, the offices have a sound-proofing device in the ceiling, so no client’s words can be heard by anyone in another room or the hallways. My therapist doesn’t hear the sound of that device.
Most of the time, when the old-fashioned TV’s we had for video information in our classes were in my room or the open class area, I would hear a high-pitched sound that no one else appeared to hear. (I asked.) I’ve used headphones, or special earplugs to allow me to sleep in my building when neighbors are noisy. They don’t work for me. I hear EVERYTHING! Yet, our building is on a street with lots of traffic and somehow my brain doesn’t acknowledge it. Go figure!
Regarding light - I have my window blinds down most days, except for cloudy or rainy days. Too bright for me.
I prefer soft fibers for furniture or accessories, and clothing. I also have challenges working with yarns that are pure wool. I am allergic to regular wool, yet can wear merino wool, because it’s soft, with none of the “prickliness” of regular wool.
With my recent diagnoses, I recognize that I have many autistic symptoms that upset or bothered me earlier in my life (and now), that others told me to “get over it!”
Not too many people from my generation were EVER diagnosed, unless their symptoms were severe and obvious. We “high-functioning” people just had to “suck it up and get on with life”! Unfortunately, many of us felt “broken”, because we didn’t seem to fit into “normal” situations.
****The diagnoses (ASD and unspecified ADD) help me to understand that my brain functions differently, that I am “neurodivergent”, not broken.
Exactly!
Sensitive to certain sounds being triggered,response back in huge attack or ignore and have what you have,is all autistic behavior,being attacked easily by others and replying harsh or ignoring- is all autistic behavior. I had these all my life. Anyway depends how brain is wired./
This is my everything overwhelms me
Teachers told me that I puzzle them because they don’t understand how I can understand extremely complex concepts but the little things that most people take for granted, go completely over my head.
I'm autistic and I want to clarify why your comment is stupid and makes you feel like a person trying to sound smart:
being able to understand "complex ideas or topics" isn't necessarily an autistic trait. In fact, many autistic people don't realize this specific trait, nor do people tell them; since it's something unconscious, or a process that's been already taken before and you do without even noticing. I myself am autistic and can speak 4 languages, and as ironic as it may sound, there's one language that I'm not sure about how I'm able to understand. I haven't learned any of them, nor have happened to "spawn in my head" for no reason whatsoever, rather it became natural to understand it, and it's an unconscious process that doesn't necessarily mean I understand complex topics. To be fair, most things (as far as I remember), aren't renowned before. it's simply a filter in which I can understand.
Noticing you can understand complex topics, while lacking any understanding of the most basic ones is probably a trait of your personality, or something you've been faced with frequently to the point you can do as usual. It could indicate a higher logical intelligence or an ability to understand complex topics, either not an autistic trait.
@ You clearly misunderstood me, if you read my comment as in anyway performative. I was told that comment REPEATEDLY, so I resent your implication that I somehow made that up to impress anybody. I never said it was any kind of proof I was autistic but you seemed to be under some misconception that all autistics are alike or something or perhaps I have misunderstood your comment but being told I’m “stupid” extremely triggers me, so I’m muting you. Next time, don’t insult another neurodivergent person based on what you misperceive wrt to their intelligence!
@NotInMYName_AntiZionistJew I should've probably hesitated to reply to a guy called "not in my name antizionistjew"
besides, if your comment doesn't bring any interesting idea here why did you simply comment on it in an autistic video? quite interesting how you simply threw it away, without any reasons to, and especially considering your comment was pretty asinine and meaningless.
if it's not any proof, nor an interesting thing that most autistic people have in common, you can simply not say anything and stop polluting the comment section.
@@NotInMYName_AntiZionistJew @NotInMYName_AntiZionistJew I should've probably hesitated to reply to a guy considering their nickname (funny how TH-cam deleted my comment since I was just writing your nickname, wonder why)
besides, if your comment doesn't bring any interesting idea here why did you simply comment on it in an autistic video? quite interesting how you simply threw it away, without any reasons to, and especially considering your comment was pretty asinine and meaningless.
if it's not any proof, nor an interesting thing that most autistic people have in common, you can simply not say anything and stop polluting the comment section.
anyway, if you find my reply an insult, that's probably your problem. my opinion is that your comment is simply meaningless and doesn't have any interesting ideas behind.
also: I didn't state at any point you made it up, I really don't care if you did or not; it doesn't change the fact your comment is simply stupid.
@@NotInMYName_AntiZionistJew I should've probably hesitated to reply to an edgy internet guy called "not in my name antizionistjew", sure not seeking for attention lmao
besides, if your comment doesn't bring any interesting idea here why did you simply comment on it in an autistic video? quite interesting how you simply threw it away, without any reasons to, and especially considering your comment was pretty asinine and meaningless.
if it's not any proof, nor an interesting thing that most autistic people have in common, you can simply not say anything and stop polluting the comment section.
(I'm sending this again since youtube keeps deleting my comment. probably because of your nickname).
Add when you want to leave a comment you think too much about how what to say and think for a week decide well it's too late. I don't mind being alone. Thank you, I relate to most all.
I’ve been accused of being rude for saying that I like my own company, but I do! ❤
@@minkeekat 👍
If it helps here's a conspiracy theory to boost your confidence.
Theory: most of the comments are bots programmed for a variety of purposes, from political views to just pure hatred. After all, Twitter would loose money if it was only sunshine and rainbows. A typical "debate" gets 100s of comments, much more than wholesome stuff. The more comments, the more views, the more ads would trust Twitter.
@@minkeekatdon't let anyone make you feel like enjoying being alone is bad or selfish
Symptoms overlap very often between different illnesses. And sometimes completely healthy people have some or many of the symptoms associated with certain conditions.
that is exactly what i’m like with my autism, i just sometimes find it so hard and wishing i never had it because it’s so tough to go through life knowing i’m different, but then i realise everyone is different and most people with autism have very successful lives and live on happy, i hope i’ll find happiness one day
I hope you find your happiness as well. 💓 I hope we both do.
My little granddaughter feels very much the same and I worry about her as she grows up. But I also see so many people who cope so well and have happy lives that it gives me hope. I wish you happiness and success in your life
I hate phone calls. I can't tell when I'm supposed to speak and I talk over and finish other people's sentences and I don't like chit-chat. I have zero phone contacts.
FOR REAL but my friends are used to me having this issue so i feel more comfortable talking on the phone with them
I hated phone calls until work forced me to get used to them. Those were the most nerve-wracking days of my life 😅
I got better, I'm still not the best but I no longer have a mental breakdown when I have to do it
You don't message people?
I'm like that 100%, and I don't have autism. I have pretty high anxiety. The kicker: My job is mostly on the phone. 😅
Many introvert's have this issue.
100% I have these traits. Especially scripting conversations in advance. I'm so scared of social conversations that I spend hours thinking about possible replies to any possible questions they may have.
You might have social anxiety. Autism isn't only just the social aspect, it has to show in many other parts of life
Congratulations, you're just like everybody else.
ayo fr? thats us
@@aster_11Watch out the introverted socially anxious people are gonna call you ableist! watch out when they tell you you're forcing them to mask! >_< /sarcasm
I have all, does that mean I have undiagnosed autism.. I'm32yrs old.. But I'm all fine,, i went to regular school..
"How can someone so clever be so stupid."
People get intimidated, until they realize that I'm a ditz.
😁😁😁💯 me too.
And they said I'm already old enough not to do stupid things
Thats me, both irl and online somehow
Oh yes!! I always think that I was more stupid than normal people even when I had been considered very normal and recognized as a examplary student. Sometimes I felt smarter than them in some ways, but I always felt that at some point... So I thought my understanding was not really good. I admit that and tried to dedicate more in order to compensate my lacks.
my siblings just go “why are you so smart that you’re an idiot” and that stuck with me for a long time 😀
"How could someone so clever be so stupid" 😂😂😂😂 story pf my life
Thank you for summarizing my life experience! Having received a diagnosis a month or so ago makes this video have so much more sense, and gives me a whole new depth and perspective on things and even on myself after almost three decades.
Do you get the not recognising hunger and thirst? I’m autistic and I don’t know when I need a drink or when I’m full
@@stxrryxnxght5927 it does happen more often than not. Regarding the satiety feeling, my therapist advised me to eat slower. It seems to be helping a little. But unless I have a dry mouth, I can go for a while without water, too.
The so clever so stupid part is actually me 😭
Also not realising you need to use the restroom...or puting off using it because you are doing something "important", and then forgetting you needed to go until it's almost too late. That's a thing, right? It's not -just- me?
Oooh it's unfortunately not *almost*.
🙋♀️
Definitely not just you!
Nope, not just you!
Yeah not just you.
When I work I forget to eat or drink. I rarely respond to texts, I usually prefer being alone and push myself into going and going even when I sometimes have a flag that says stop. I have a tendency to misplace things, I write a lot down because I'm afraid to forget things --and it helps me to organize the information until I can repeat it. I've never thought of any of this falling into the spectrum.
I did this all of my life. lol but I just chalked it up to being a loner, weird, introverted. I was always in my room or to myself because I found the most comfort in being alone and weird without the judgement of others . The times I was with others I masked it really well, but my quirks would still shine through. It never occurred to me that these were Autism traits. I only knew the stereotypes, but I never knew there was a spectrum until recent years. I felt different all of my life. & yet no one ever pieced it together.
Certain noises, drive me nuts, can bring on anxiety, & the jitters...weird feelings in my body, so odd...I hate it.
That moment when our local violinist switches from an upstroke of his bow to a downstroke while playing a high note. Feels like sandpapering my eardrums! The coarse grit not fine grit sheets. The backup alarm on the facility bus ditto. The storm warning sirens of my town. Just 3 of the worst repeat offenders.
@@joycebrewer4150And the 🎺!
You have to starve that feeling
@@ACE-777. How does starving help auditory distress?
@@ACE-777.i didn’t knowe you could starve a thing
especially the thinking about what you said for hours
Or years
They all hit home, but the not realizing hunger, thinking about text messages until I finally reply, always finishing even when I should stop, and the scripting and ruminating on conversations... Hit a little deeper lol
Kinda wish that applied to sugar addiction. I'll forget to eat breakfast or dinner, but the lust for sugar? Ever present.
@@Ozzianmanmight need to check that glucose level too...
I got diagnosed with autism today and my mom made my life hard because she didn’t really know anything about autism, so I have been living with autism 14 years almost 15. But my dad has ADHD and he’s brother had autism and he could see it on me that I have autism and he was right. I’m really happy now because now I can finally get help and my life will be a lot easier 🙃🥳
Congrats
At work, I keep the office lights off. Loud noises feel extremely intrusive. I don’t like changes to my routines, and I become upset when people disrupt my flow. I have a terminal degree, I’m highly intelligent, and I’m also very kind and a good conversationalist. Most people generally find me to be insightful, patient, compassionate, and a very pleasant person to be around. However, I comfortably spend most of my time alone and I don’t have many friends. I’ve been jokingly telling people I’m on the low end of the spectrum for years. After watching this video, I’m pretty sure I have very mild, high
-functioning autism.
Same me too
Same
I was stunned when my psychologist said I was on the spectrum, but the more I learn about it, the more sure I am that she was correct.
Obviously I know I have autism as I was diagnosed as baby but literally I thought it was just me who acted like that as when I went to a special needs school everyone was sooo clingy apart from myself. I always loved my own space and used to not reply back even after looking at a message like I’m not intentionally ignoring people but I don’t know how to respond sometimes and she gets rude when I do that. I’ve never thought anything of it. My sister is ten years older than me and she acts like she knows everything. I enjoy my own space that when I was in school people thought I didn’t like them and some tried to pick on me due to that alone like when I first started school they rang my mum and told them I didn’t say nothing the whole day and the same thing happened when I started secondary school. All I’m gonna say is if you have a quiet autism child and there starting secondary school try to ease them in as much as possible because my heart sank to the floor when I first started, I was stiff as a rock and on the inside I crying cause I just wanted to be with my mum.
I like having autism but I hate it at the same time as I’m multi talented and smart but sometimes I’ll be talking to people and they’ll be getting rude over the fact that I don’t know what a certain word means. It’s happened quite a few times.
I've self described as "I'm the stupidest smart person or the smartest stupid person you've ever met." :/
i was diagnosed as the stupidest person you've ever met
imagine having autism 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Relatable 😂👌
I get it 💗
same
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Also not knowing when you need to pee until the last minute, and if you have ADHD too, it is a real battle between the struggling to finish something because of the ADHD and the anxiety about not finishing it from the ASD. And the ASD in you needs organisation around you, but the ADHD stops you from effectively being able to organise yourself. 🤯
Ty. U just described me too. I guess I must look up more on asd. This is so me as well. Lol
Yup!
Ah, maybe that's my problem. In my mind, I want things micro organised, neatly, specifically and perfect. In reality, I cannot be arsed to actually put things away if they are that specifically organised. Too hard!
ADHD meds also make you drink more water so theres that too
Ditto!
The conversation one is the most relatable for me
I was 32 before I was diagnosed. It took years to figure out how to adjust life around my traits. It's not full proof but I'm less critical about myself now.
Lol
You're not autistic; no more than everyone else anyway.
Tbh I also do script conversations and thinking about what I should've/could've said after the conversation but I think/feel like it's just because of my undiagnosed social anxiety lol
Staying up way too late..resisting sleep.
Definitely, is 4:30 am as I type this, have not been to bed yet tonight. Common for me to be up until 1:30 am, tonight just worse.
It’s totally not 5:17 am as I’m typing this having literally only slept from 11:30 roughly to 2:45 (and that’s being generous)
Oh absolut ely
@@renegadesofanarchy289yes yes 😊😊
It’s totally not 5:30am for me!!!!
Thanks you Dr. Aboda today my niece who was born with autism is now a normal kid that does her home and school work herself and communicates, play with other kids in the neighborhood
i thought scripting conversations was just a really weird thing i did cause ive never met or seen anyone else do it, so its really interesting to learn that other people experience the need to do this as well
You could just have social anxiety. People forget that autism isn't just in the social aspects of life, that's one small section of the diagnosis
For me it's like sections of my brain switch off when I'm face to face with someone. I'm not necessarily panicking or scared, I just can't recall things or think properly. So I end up just repeating conversations I've already had before with myself, when my whole mind was accessible and working.
@@horacethecheese1009this!!
@@aster_11this!!
This revelation, that I must be autistic. Definitely on that spectrum. Explains so much.
I’m constantly repeating to myself something I said to someone else, only when I’m on my own though
Aren't those just traits of someone socially awkward? I have all of those.
You may want to talk to a qualified professional or at least consider the idea of being on the spectrum, if only to rule it out.
If those things don't just occur once a week, but in a such severe manner, that they effectively stop you from functioning in some fields, they are considered a symptom. There is also a huge overlap with other neurodevelopmental divergencies, that only a specialist should tell somebody else if they could be autistic or not.
The autism symptoms start in early childhood.
Have you always had sleep problems? That's a huge symotom that is basically always present if you have autism. Paul could have included it in this short-vid:)
@@s.b200 Yes, but I always assumed that was because I don't exhaust myself daily.
Not realizing when you are hungry or thirty got me
I love my autistic traits! For so long I wondered why I was so different but since my diagnoses almost 2 years ago everything about me makes sense and I understand myself soo much better 😊
Okay but how much did it cost you to get diagnosed? I’m almost afraid to get tested because whether I have it or not I think they’ll still diagnose me with it. You know how doctors are. I didn’t have any of the symptoms as a baby but I did notice my differences pretty much all throughout school and now as an adult. But if I actually do have it; that will help me to have this explanation of many reasons that I’m rather ‘peculiar’ to others. I do hold back a lot now as a security blanket because I was bullied for being myself.
@@SuperKvlogs I'm actually afraid that because I have such mild autistic traits, they may not even want to see me. And yes I agree about the price being an issue. Especially if the diagnosis or non diagnosis is wrong.
@@WallflowerCat7 FACTS!
My son is autistic he get frustrated with loud noises and sways back and forth when he finds things overwhelming i know his tiks when hes about to get stressed and he said hes happy with me being with him hes the best thing to happen to me and i tell him everyday
He's so lucky to be your child, and I appreciate that you try to understand him
I was diagnosed recently but I don't tick all the boxes at all times. We're not stereotypes but all have our individual quirks I guess
The last one didn’t have to hit me so hard
I have asd I don’t think the being fine alone thing is incorrect, some of us get lonely are suffer depression from lack of socializing or intimacy.😢
The Covid-19 shutdown was a blessed relief, for about the first month. Then I found my mood spiralling down, for lack of more than 25 seconds daily seeing another human face. And that being split between three meal deliveries at my apartment door, which I had to back away from the door or they wouldn't set the food on table next to door. Felt like a prison.
@@joycebrewer4150 i feel ya man RESPECT ✊
Relatable
Thank you for this video, I had already been curious to know if I have Autism due to having most of the symptoms, after I saw this, i found out that I had absence seizures.
I’m fine with not too many “material comforts” but… I want ALL the things branded with my “special interest” 😅🤣
HAHA pretty much.
“How can someone so clever be so stupid”
My life in a nutshell 😭
_HA,_ i never finish anything!
Congratulations you finished watching this short, and you finished writing a comment.
@@crweirdo8961 FU-
@@lyrablack8621 I know it was only a few hours ago that I left my "congratulations" comment, but I already can't remember if I meant it encouragingly or sarcastically( I really should know better than to attempt to be sarcastic outside of face to face communication, especially without stating that it is a joke), but either way I don't understand how it can come across as being hurtful. Did it seem like I was gaslighting you? Can you help me to understand?
@@crweirdo8961 It didn't come across as hurtful at all!! I assumed you meant it jokingly, so i responded in kind (and looking back, i suppose just saying "FU-" without the context that i was leaving the rest of the word ["CK"] off in anticipation of the possibility that you could respond, "See, you finished another comment!"). I didn't anticipate you seeing it as F U, or "fuck you", which isn't what i meant at all, i assumed (wrongfully) that the "-" would denote the fact that i left it unfinished.
Thank you very much for responding and asking for clarification! Communication is a two-way street after all, and neither of us were using our blinkers 'cause we were expecting the other person to be able to read our minds given our actions/words; which obviously leads to preventable misunderstandings.
So, for the future of both of our Internet communications' needs, i'd like to introduce some lovely text-based-communication tools: tone indicators/tone tags! There are a lot of them, so i recommend looking it up on your own, but they look like this:
_HA,_ i never finish anything! /j
Congratulations you finished watching this short, and you finished writing a comment. /j (or maybe /s)
FU- /j /lh
… confused? Here's a key:
/j = joking! (Could also be /jk for just kidding)
/s = sarcastic/sarcasm
/lh = lighthearted/playful (i don't know if there's a /p? But you can make up your own as long as you provide a key, ofc you can have fun, just make sure the priority of communication is met!)
All of this would fall under /info or information! Emojis can also be used similarly but may be more inconvenient on desktop as opposed to mobile ☺️; and i prefer emoticons anyway for some things! :P
Btw, tell me you're autistic without telling me you're autistic!! /lh /j
Edit: wanted to add this real quick. Punctuation often also comes across as being more negatively over text, so it's something to be aware of; my current partner is autistic and he always puts periods and such, and one time when my BPD/borderline personality disorder was acting up, i interpreted it as being very aggressive and got defensive. Nothing wrong with using punctuation, but it's something of which to be aware!
I wish more people would talk about the sort of "meta" of social skills etc, it would lead to way less miscommunications; but neurotypicals just assume everyone already understands their unwritten rules, and unfortunately i have a tendency to do the same. So i apologize also, because i also played a role in the miscommunication, and unfortunately my actions seem to have hurt you by accident
Edit 2: grammar. I know i know, i used to be a grammar nazi and old habits die hard… 'specially when you keep reinforcing them like i do haha. Since i'm sure you're curious, i corrected a postposition to a preposition; "to be aware of" to "of which to be aware". Both are actually grammatically correct (language use should be descriptive rather than prescriptive imo), and on top of that, i'm sure you and whoever else reading understood either way; so it doesn't matter, except to me :p
@@lyrablack8621 Thank you so much for this clarification😍 and for making it extra long and over communicating to avoid any further miscommunication(I may not be nearly as much of a grammar nazi🧐 but the exhaustively long over communicating reply is very validating🙏 and makes me feel like maybe I really have found my tribe👽[I only just started suspecting that I'm autistic about 2 weeks ago]).
I've seen "jk" used before(thought it was short for "joke" not "just kidding"), but never preceded by "/". I will definitely look into using those tags instead of abandoning the use of sarcasm online like I know I should. 🤦♂️🙊🤞🖖
Makes sense for me, my psychiatrist said in showing signs of autism and I've always had these traits.
Alternatively... being so sensitive to outside stimuli that you need specific material comforts to just exist
The first one is literally me. I can never decide whether I’m hungry or thirsty or not.
I didn't drink for the entire day yesterday and was wondering why i felt dizzy 😅
That's all me. I love being seen and validated! I wish my parents had done that. They just assumed I was mentally ill, so I lived up to their expectations.
This makes so much sense now, I found out yesterday that I could be autistic and I've been wandering a lot why I find texting exhausting and would rather call or be in person. I meet all 7 traits listed.
Texting is exhausting cause I’m thinking too long about my response
Hmm. Most asd criteria think taking on the phone or meeting in person is the worst
That and strong convictions. A dentist told me when i was 12 that soda is bad for teeth, didnt touch it for 7 years. Decided to make a small step to healthier eating by cutting out red meat 2 years ago, not the slightest urge. I get told all the time how im able to stick to things super well, when in my mind its to be or not to be
Just to be clear bc people say that everyone does this:
People with autism experience this to life-altering extents.
- Autistic people can accidentally make themselves dehydrated, malnourished, sick, etc because they aren't able to recognize they need it. Many autistics set scheduled times for when they need to eat because they will starve themselves by accident otherwise. This would be an issue that occurs multiple times per day, not just occasionally.
- part of the reason autistic people are stereotyped to have no friends is because they forget/put off responding to people so frequently that it does significant long term damage to relationships.
- when he says feeling comfortable being alone, he means that autistic people struggle to fully relax and feel calm around others because they feel the need to perform a false version of themselves to be accepted and that isolation is the only truly safe place.
- "always finishing what you start even if you should probably stop" is not just going above and beyond, but literally pushing yourself to the point of self-injury because you will have an anxiety attack if you stop.
- autistics have to script EVERY conversation. Not just difficult ones. Even casual everyday small talk is something autistics cannot just improvise on the spot without non-autistic people reacting with confusion and discomfort.
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Please stop saying "everyone does these things." Autistic people are human. Of course we share behaviors in common with non disabled people. But we experience these things at disabling levels.
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Lol the texting bit... oh yah. I was diagnosed back in 1989. I tell folks to call me, I'd rather talk on the phone. It's far more efficient than meaningless banter back and forth being constantly interrupted instead of still being able to complete tasks while on the phone. No wonder people are so stressed out these days feeling like they can never get enough done. These phones waste an incredible amount of time especially when you add heaps of apps and social media on top of the texting. The average person could easily capture at least another 10+ hrs a week if they put the phone down more. I'd rather accomplish more meaningful things with my time. I'm also thankful to have a job that allows me to work when I want, as long as I want and more importantly... no customers or coworkers. I work in near total isolation for a month at a time before going home.
I have done the paint thing so many times. Sometime with paint. Usually when I'm cooking. I wear whatever I'm working on so often. And yeah I hate not finishing something. It drives me crazy. There are so many times I've pushed myself way past my limits because I started something that now I have to finish it. And yeah everything else too. Those were just my biggest ones.
"Not realizing you're hungry or thirsty," story of my life, man, story of my life. I need to gain weight and forgetting to eat isn't helping.
I’m not autistic but I think I’m acoustic
"Always finishing what you start, even when you should probably stop."
This one I kind of struggle with as an autistic. I procrastinate a lot, I'm disorganized, and my planning often fails. But eventually, you're right, I always have to finish what I consider important, meaningful, or am interested in, even when life screams for me to keep on moving.
"How can someone so clever be so stupid?"
Yeah, true. But I'm only clever on what I care about. Anything else that is intuitive for others, I have to learn it from the ground up.
Auhd
Have you thought about looking into ADHD?
Sounds like you are having issues with executive functioning.
I should really get diagnosed...
The conversation one got me
That last one is me to a T. I am an incredibly intelligent person but sometimes I'm a complete dumbass
Do not use this to diagnose yourself. The criteria is to have almost everything (which is much more in depth, the normal diagnosis requires 6+ hrs) and it must interfere with your day-to-day functioning! Be careful bc saying these sorts of things is very invalidating to people who really struggle with this
The last one really describes me.
I am in a class and I know EXACLY what I’m doing.While the others usually are still trying to figure out the equations.
But when I am given a simple direction,let’s say…give this paper to him!I over think..what do they mean by him?
NOTE TO PEOPLE USING THESE TO SELF DIAGNOSE: These 7 traits are all things humans experience, or experienced in the past, people who have autism have these traits more noticeably and more amplified. These are only 7 of the hundreds of tiny criteria you need to meet when you are evaluated by a psychologist, to be diagnosed with ASD. Lots of symptoms of autism also overlap with ADHD. Please don’t go around saying that you are autistic because you related to these 7 tiny criteria, which are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to diagnosis. If you think you are autistic, please research and then be evaluated by a psychologist, and if you can’t access a psychologist to evaluate you, wether you can’t afford it or your parents aren’t willing to take you, do lots of research online about the criteria, and think about these things:
1. Do I understand sarcasm?
2. Do I flap my hands or make funny vocal noises lots of the time?
3. Am I sensitive to loud noises and intense smells and or tastes?
4. Am I super picky?
5. Do you willingly start a conversation?
6. Do you cry over small things?
7. Do you get overwhelmed by yelling?
8. Do you wear the same shirt every day?
9. Are you emotionally attached to inanimate objects?
10. Do you imitate or repeat things people say?
11. Do you feel nervous when talking to friends?
12. Are you sensitive to sudden changes of plans or environment?
If you said yes to half of these, maybe you should consider researching more, or getting a professional opinion and diagnosis. My diagnosis helped me get the accommodations that helped me succeed, so if you are diagnosed, you are entitled to certain accommodations, services, and treatment.
Hopefully I could help you and help you think a bit deeper. Have a good day folks.
1. If my manual gears are turning.
2. I snap my fingers.
3. I hate large crowds and music loud enough to not be able to hold conversations.
4. I used to be super picky, still is a bit picky but improving.
5. About my special interests? Sure! Except for that, social conversations are very hard to start.
6. I cry when I have meltdowns, aka I have not noticed my stress building up and now the bucket is full.
7. This depends on my emotional state. If I am in problem solving mode it doesn't phase me at all as I am thinking analytically and not emotionally. When I am not in problem solving mode, my emotions are easily influenced. I would probably not cry in the moment, but I would probably cry afterwards.
8. That would be very stinky without washing it, and I don't use a drier. So no.
9. Old consoles have a lot of sentimental value to me.
10. If it's a compliment yes, I don't get them very often.
11. Nope
12. When I was as a child, yes. Parents getting divorced forced me to get used to it. Cannot recommend.
I am diagnosed with "High Functioning Autism", which isn't used at all anymore. I also got ADHD.
Interested in learning about accommodations, services, and treatment for adults with ASD. Been asking around. No one seems to know.
@@victoryamartin9773 try and consult a physician or a physiologist, as they can typically issue you with certain accommodations, or recommend a doctor who may be able to help you. Good day!
I struggle with all of this. For me Im focused on the truth of the world and i struggle seeing differences when i can see how it all relates...1 love
We've never met before. But you already know me so very well!
I totally script conversations in advance and then think about them for weeks, sometimes months and even years
how do you know these are traits of autism and not anxiety disorders like OCD?
As a person with autism, I’m happy that you were accurate here
So you're telling me that all these stuff does not happen to normal people?
Not all the time and to an extent that makes life difficult. BTW, it's called neurotypical nowadays, normal is such a loaded word.
@@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023 that's a good insight.
As an individual like myself who is on the autism spectrum, I have some of these traits plus anxiety and sometimes depression. It is sometimes hard but that's alright I learned to deal with it as a young adult.
All of them are me 🤭
i got diagnosed with autism when i was 9 and these are so accruate
WTF i'm autistic as shit.
It's okay dude just end blood line 🤫
Do not use this to diagnose yourself. The criteria is to have almost everything (which is much more in depth, the normal diagnosis requires 6+ hrs) and it must interfere with your day-to-day functioning! Be careful bc saying these sorts of things is very invalidating to people who really struggle with this!
@@aster_11nah, im still autistic as shit.
I relate to all of these way too much! I am entirely too comfortable being alone. I am very intelligent, yet so stupid. I will never reply to your text. I script conversations that will jever happen non stop in my head. I am constantly thinking about all the things I coulda shoulda woulda said if only I'd thought of it in the moment. I will easily get busy and go all day long without eating, forget to drink water and wait way too long to use the restroom. All of the things on this list, every last one. 😊🖤
I wonder if obsessively reading TH-cam comments could be considered a trait? I probably spend more time reading and writing TH-cam comments than I actually do texting my friends and family😂
Yea same😅
Same 💀
Do not use this to diagnose yourself. The criteria is to have almost everything (which is much more in depth, the normal diagnosis requires 6+ hrs) and it must interfere with your day-to-day functioning! Be careful bc saying these sorts of things is very invalidating to people who really struggle with this!
That last one was personal ahaha
Not really "austistic traits" but side effects of the kind of social anxiety that is common in autism. These same things are true for many neurodivergent minds.
Yes, this comment should be higher. Autism can manifest in many ways but a lot of traits that people see as "dumb" are the result of anxiety.
"For someone so intelligent, you sure suck at communication!" Thanks dad!
That’s not fair… surely that’s everyone… right?
I thought so but looking back.... Kindness sometimes is the hard truth ..I lived this..
Not everyone, not even close. I just did not realize it before age 40 because I grew up among 16 first cousins plus all the older relatives who almost all have at least some neurodivergent traits.
@@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023 sorry for the late reply, TH-cam notifications and all that. But really? And if you don't mind me asking such a personal question on an incredibly public forum - is it worth a diagnosis after 40?
Well, people can certainly have these traits personally without being neurodivergent... but they are pretty recognizable to people who have Autism, if you relate to all of them there is a possibility that you are Autistic... which doesn't have to be that big of a deal.
AND YES, OH GOD IS A DIAGNOSIS WORTH IT. That is the first step in both discovering and accepting who you truly are, some people go through their whole lives masking... and it just breaks them apart inside without them even realising, it's hard to figure out how to adjust to everything that Autism makes so difficult when you don't even know what it is that makes you the way you are.
Bro just described me better then my mom could and I’m not even autistic (I don’t think so at least)
If you need a yt video to tell you that youre autistic then you're not autistic
YOU JUST SAID THIS PERFECTLY!
As an autistic person, I now think I am not autistic.
bro described every social award traits
I was diagnosed with Autism, but I looked at the traits, and it seems I have very few or none of them.
1. It's rather the oppossite
2. YESSSS!!!!!!! THAT'S ME!!! (I was searching why I did that before but never found the answer. It might also be a social anxiety symptom though)
3. Yes, but might be social anxiety as well
4. Didn't understand
5. Probably not, it's maybe the opposite but idk
6. Yes, but again, social anxiety lol
7. No one has told me but that's what I really think of myself
I think most of those symptoms might be due to social anxiety (though I've never been diagnosed)
You just described me in a few seconds, except for the texting part and hunger/thirsty stuff, I don’t tend to not respond to texts too often and I know when I’m feeling hungry or thirsty half the time.
I’m autistic, but i reply to my messages the second i see i’ve got one
Having all these characteristics, once a long time ago in connection with a company party (which I felt obliged to attend) I planned my presence down to the smallest detail. arrive and the barrage of lights and sounds that greeted me became too much to handle. Stayed there long enough for me to leave, and that relief there and then outside the restaurant was like balm for the un calm mind.
Evolving, from all that in youth, I joined the work-world where you must behave differently. I bought things of aesthetic beauty, to be happier, but then I began returning to my autistic roots, during retirement. Possessions have less meaning. So, that's my truth of a lifetime. ❤
I’m not autistic but yes to all of them except the last one - unless they just don’t say it to my face.
Are you still sure you’re not autistic?
i thought everybody overthinks past conversations
why do i do every single one of these especially answering texts, like being alone, and scripting out conversations in my head
I was diagnosed with autism 5 years ago and all of these relate to me. Especially the last one
“you’re autistic” -han jisung, diagnosing all of us😍
The two last are TOTALLY ME!
TH-cam is reading our minds, everyone...
I just got officially diagnosed with level 1 ASD as an adult. I have every single one of those symptoms except for the first one.
Everything but the finishing what you started
I can never finish anything
One of my mom's favourite insults to me as a child was "How could you be so stupid?!" I had always assumed that she was just intolerant of mistakes, but now knowing that i am autistic adds another dimension of understanding.
Don’t forget to add, hates small talk. Although that could be an ADHD trait too.
I’m autistic and now I know why I keep forgetting to drink water for hrs 😅
So I have all of them in a way, but one: my problem is I start so many things all the time but, without a deadline and sometimes even still, I struggle to finish anything and everything, as if I'm allergic to completing anything at all. I think it's the same reason why I've always struggled with CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy): I cannot convince myself to believe (and act upon, enjoy, think and, obviously, finish) anything that I don't believe or isn't true objectively.
For example (an outlandish example that has never happened, just to make my point) it's like someone saying "the sky is grey, because that's how someone who is colourblind sees it". I would just be like "No, the sky is colourless and looks blue to the vast majority if the world", to which they'd respond "well just pretend then so little Jimmy is colourblind and we don't want to make him seem abnormal or unwelcome," and try as I might I'll never see the sky's colour as little Jimmy, so see absolutely NO reason as to why I should pretend such as the reality as logically we both have.