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I'm a former cemetery caretaker and her using those chemicals is going to absolutely erode those stones so fast. We use a specific cleaner, usually D2, which removes biological pollutants from stone. She is doing massive damage. She also needs specific permission not only from the families but from the cemetery to do that cleaning (which she definitely wouldn't get, because cemeteries have caretakers for a damn reason, and families approach them to ask about cleaning, not some random Tiktok woman).
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When they revealed the last one where she clearly painted the stone, and painted over the text with black paint, I could not believe it.
Not only is it not cleaning or restoration in any way, but it's actually gonna wear down even faster.
@@kassemirand she defaced someone’s property
its fucked up that she can just walk in there and do actual harm to these sites. like she should be charged with trespassing or even destruction of private property.
I gasped when she started chainsawing the tree around the grave.
It’s a tradition in my family to plant a tree above/bury a loved one below a tree and let the land reclaim them as a symbol of them continuing on in this world in a different fashion.
The idea of a stranger cutting the growth back is horrifying to me - I’d be devastated if it were my/my family’s grave. Her disregard is appalling.
This is such a beautiful tradition!
it's not even an uncommon American tradition why in the world would you see a grave under a tree and not assume it was intentional??
@@ayahlinFor clout and money, obviously.
Ikr
@@I_barni_I thank you!
Her cutting down the tree made me so upset, my grandma wished to be buried with a decomposable casket and a sapling, so she could become a tree. She is now a lovely premature willow. Imagine if Doris had a similar story..
This sounds like a lovely wish.
That's a lovely story.
Right? She could be cutting down a memorial tree?!? I work in assisted living and we plant trees for all our deceased residents to pay our respects and keep their memories alive. This is extremely disrespectful
Even it was just something that took root randomly, my local cemetery actually has a sign that warns people to not remove any trees or bushes and leave it to professionals as they could accidentally erode the ground and cause the gravestones to fall.. and she's definitely not a professional in gardening and/or landscaping, that's something the family should request from the administration to take care of
Imagine if you got cut down O_O. That would be terrible. If I were the family of someone who did the tree thing and some TikTok chick cut the tree down I’d sue them hardcore.
I work in the funeral science field, and as blindingly angry as this makes me, the only thing I can think of is to either contact the cemeteries she’s defacing or local authorities. Turns out, you can’t just walk into a cemetery and destroy the headstones like that. She makes my stomach churn. Please respect the dead holy shit
Could you explain what funeral science is?
@@BuckarooBoya Of course! Funeral Science is an umbrella term usually used in college to cover the different, related disciplines. It covers embalming, cremating, ethics, funeral planning services, grief counseling- anything you would see in a funeral service pretty much!
@@PeppermintCactus Right on, thanks a bunch for explaining
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@@PeppermintCactus that's so interesting! I just learned the term for that and now I'm more interested to learn more omg sjcjfjfkf I'd imagine that human biology must be very important since the biological "functions" of a body after life is so different? And even the other things cmjcjcjfjf
Dead don't care only the Living do.
I just imagine Doris asking her family “please plant my favourite trees next to my grave so I can enjoy the shade”
And then some random woman cuts them completely away and sprays your grave with pepto bismol
Justice for doris
For real that made me so mad. I stg people treat nature like an invasive force. It’s *nature.* I hope she gets sued so she’s forced to stop. This can’t be legal
@@DeathnoteBB It is illegal. This counts as grave desecration which is fineable. This lady really needs to be sued if anything because she most likely has not had permission from the families.
I told my husband I want to be planted by a lilac bush if possible and if someone came and chopped it down, I would be so angry
@@lifeonthefranch4452you wouldn’t be alive to be angry 🤣
"Was she pretty?" I can't. People are upset about what killed her and Dorris in the forest, but this line? "Was she pretty?" THAT is the most disgusting question in my opinion.
Right? It comes across like "did she have value when she was alive because only looks matter in life?"
I think it was more or less out of curiosity. She really is a good person, and genuinely enjoys doing what she does. It doesn't matter what people do now days, especially on TH-cam because society seems to have turned into nothing but a bunch of miserable and judgemental individuals. Someone could post a video on here claiming to have found a cure for cancer, and there will always be those same miserable people commenting their negativity, or criticizing. There will always be people looking for shit to try and get offended over. Idk why that just don't ban all social media platforms. Nothing good or positive comes out of it ever.
@@m.jaquarius8365 Yikes…quit being a boot licker, not only is a majority of her content ragebait, but what she did was gross. I get your whole spiel about people being miserable but this goes too far. When it comes to a white firefighter she goes on about how respectful his work is, but the Dorris? “Did she like cupcakes?” “Was she PRETTY?!?” “Her sign is aeries!” What about Dorri’s story? Its the fact that she didn’t even bother to at least tell a story about the people she is doing service for. Not to mention how many people have commented that the way she’s scrubbing and material shes using can harm the graves. I want you to view the content of a lady who goes by “A Grave Attraction” she cleans graves and actually tells a story about the people, she respects them and is gentle with her washings, not only that but she cleans overgrown graves that ACTUALLY need cleaning. Whats overall sad is how you can’t see how she’s exploiting dead people, she does this because nobody is gonna stop her from it.
@@m.jaquarius8365 nice try, clean girl. we know it's you
@@m.jaquarius8365 Yeah, no. she is not a good person and it's not an over reaction for people to be upset about some asshole disrespecting gravesites. Please take your tounge out of her ass
It's crazy to compare this to another lady I've seen cleaning graves (edit: A Grave Attraction, I believe) She finds the ones that are completely overgrown and so coated in things that you can't read them. She cleans them carefully with soap safe for the plants and the stone, and does research on the people, telling us their life story and getting in contact with some of the family if she can. She leaves flowers on the graves and is super respectful the entire time. You really get the sense that she's doing this to share forgotten stories.
This....well, it's certainly not that
(Edit: like many of the replies, I was also really worried this vid was going to be about her and I was trying to figure out why Jarvis was against it. Glad to say they're different people! Also, I believe the channel name is "a Grave Attraction")
do you remember her name!!
i thought this video was gonna be about who you're talking bout and I was like "this is about to be a huge miss", thank you for putting my fears to rest lol
i love that woman. she feels very sweet
That is genuinely doing good, trying to make sure people aren't forgotten. This is just a shitty copy of that
@@_.mo._ might be manicpixiemom
lore about that lady: she has been arrested (or tickted i dunno) several times for illegally cleaning resteraunts with unsafe soaps
GOOD 🎊 👏 🎉
NATIONAL HOLIDAY????
Just because I’m uneducated - what are unsafe soaps? I’m assuming either they don’t disinfect the surface properly or they contain something toxic?
YAY
its also WAYYYY illegal to clean graves without a permit
"We found this puppy in an abandoned house!" and it's the most perfect, silky, plump little labrador puppy, a breed where puppies go for $1000
also im like 99% sure that the "crying puppy" sound is a stock sound effect. that exact sound is also used in the song Dogwalk by CreepP. i knew as soon as i heard it she hadnt found a dog but i thought she was at least gonna plant the dog there and pretend to find it or something lol
@@basiIoh wow, i'm not the only one who thought of that song
Also "it was too scared to even approach us" as the camera's on the dog IN HER ARMS
yeah my stepdad payed $1400 for our lab from a trusted breeder. you dont often see clean, purebred pups as strays
No way its a purebred lab, the puppy wouldn’t have white on its paws. Its still absurd because they definitely bought that puppy
I saw that walmart bathroom woman cleaning a baby's grave, that lived and died long before she was born. She was pretending to give a fuck whilst using industrial-strength cleaner and commentating about how she felt that the family just didn't care, and it just made me so upset, who do people think they are? Worse still, it was posted on r/mademesmile, which is meant to be a wholesome, 'look how good people are' subreddit.
The parents are still alive according the to Find A Grave, as clean as that grave was, you better bet they visit all the time. These are all in Puerto Rico so far that I have found.
Places like Reddit, along with yt shorts are the most infuriating platform for vids like this to get posted on. Just a bunch of people w no nuanced comprehension skills who will take the implications of something like this at surface level and get mad at everyone calling her out by saying some shit like “oh my god why can’t you all just be *happy* for once at a nice deed smh 🙄 this is why the internet is so miserable smh smh”. The exact kind of people that give her the “innocent” benefit of the doubt with no real thought as to why she may be banking on exactly that to get away with this bs
Yea, I saw that one too.
I hope someone in that subreddit pointed out how fake and destructive she's being.
@@firefoxnia9506 Most people did, thankfully.
Wild theory but maybe Doris WANTED to be buried in the forest and surrounded by nature and you just came by with your chainsaw and said "FCK THAT!"
This girl is so aggressively American it's wild 💀
it’s so sad 😭😭😭 it genuinely makes me so depressed i specifically want to be buried in a very thin wooden casket because i want my body to go back into the earth and create new life. (if this was my grave) to cut down a tree that was made from my body would be like killing me again. it’s so horrible to me 😢😢
@@LB_THE_NINJA as an american, we dont claim her
@@LB_THE_NINJA This stereotype that Americans don't care about respecting people and things around them is such a ridiculous and stupid stereotype. It's an issue with tourists abroad. Because tourists act shitty a lot of the time. But guess what? In America, foreign tourists are disrespectful and annoying all the time!
In the US, most people are normal, nice, and respectful. Domestically, America has a reputation among other nations for being extremely kind and welcoming to tourists within its borders.
@goldh2o543 Thank you for this, Americans are very kind and are genuinely interested in where people are from, their culture, etc. American culture is all grouped together to them even though it is different from region to region and even state to state. They also make fun of us for not being as "well travled" around other countries when our country is as big as several European countries, so it takes a while to even visit all of the states. People in other countries, especially European, are just like "yawn, Americans"
The cupcake thing made it abundantly clear that she’s doing this to appeal to kids.
Which is why My kids Will never Even touch a phone until 30
@@Ujulahipobaka121that's sad 😢
@@Ujulahipobaka121 Wow strict enough?
@@Ujulahipobaka121yeah that a bit much. 14-15 should be when they get one if you're gonna hold them out on getting one.
For me its the over abundance of colors her cleaning products has. Like it kinda reminds me of when i was 4 and me and my friends would just pour random colored liquids into the toilet pretending we were making "potions"
I watch a guy who gets permission, researches the story of the people, and does serious repairs (reattaching headstones, getting a jack to lift and reset sunken stones), and overall is extremely respectful of the people buried there. No neon colors, no children's show voice, no spooky scary setting, no fOr FrEe or mention of money, just respect
That is respectful and an amazing way of preserving someone's memory hundreds of years after their death, and long after their resting place started to disappear. He started because of his dad in his own family's graveyard
This is gross. Purely for money, ragebait, entertaining children in the most disrespectful way. These are very new graves, these people's friends and children are likely still alive. But instead their graves are having shitty amateur horror movies made on them, no respect or care about who these people actually were. There's so many people that hijack good deeds because they're becoming popular, she's justmore obvious
What is the guy's name that you watch that sounds interesting.
@@toxsicle9753I'm thinking Millennial Stone Cleaner
I hope one of these people who deface (including cleaning them improperly and without permission) newer graves with living family are sued. It probably wouldn't work with older graves unless the cemetery itself went after them unfortunately. Cleaning them wrong can cause damage to their property which is certainly legally actionable and the newer graves likely have close family still living to sue.
That sounds awesome!! What’s the channel name?
Please add his account name to your comment so we can get more visibility and support for people doing this the right way!!
me on my way to use arsenic, mercury, and battery acid to clean the playplace at the chucky cheese
For FREE tho?
Don't forget lead. Hahahaha
Diabolical 😂
I have so many questions. Will the employees mind if I clean the playplace? Who even uses a playplace? Why did Chuck E. Cheese let this playplace get so rundown?
Be sure to wear shorts & open-toed shoes! And don't rinse anything. ("What 'rinse'?! I just _cleaned_ it with the pretty foam spray!" - her, probably)
“The Dhar-Mannification of grave cleaning” is a BRAND new sentence
😂😂😂😂😂
it would cause a victorian child to evaporate
literally came here to see a comment about THIS LMAO
It's fake restoration for stay at home facebook moms. The snake was not just there. *Baby voice* "who could have put this snake here?"
None of these words are in the bible
This made me think of this tumblr (?) post i read a couple year ago. It was about someone cleaning up the grave next to their father's & buying fresh flowers for it bc it looked abandoned. And at the end it turned out the guy who was buried there was a child predator and thats why no one cared for the grave 💀
Well that escalated quickly💀
Damn, I felt the horror of it, and it wasn't my mistake
OOPS 💀
Yea no that's understandable 💀
This is why we should mind our own business instead
i feel like something stops being rage bait when you're activley doing a bad, harmful, immoral thing - you're not baiting shit youre just being a bad person LMAO
Oh my god yes, something being a joke or for clout does not exclude you from the consequences of your actions
Thank you im so tired of everyone getting away with using the rage bait defense
i’d say it’s still rage bait, but i’d also say that most rage bait is genuinely morally wrong, and involves being a bad person. just because you’re doing something bad to make people mad doesn’t change the fact that you’re still doing a bad thing. if anything it’s worse because you’re self aware.
The best rage bait is genuinely bad. Because then you feel vindicated in leaving a comment. The creator gets engagement from both sides. Soulless companies don’t see response. They only see impressions. So “rage bait” does what it needs to. Her content isn’t cleaning cause she wants to clean, it’s to get people to talk about her.
That's....the definition lol
My mouth dropped when she said “what killed her!?” like that is just disrespectful especially with that tone
Same! My jaw dropped I couldn't believe it
When she said "Who put Doris in the forest???" Wow. So disrespectful to the dead.
@@kab9706 Especially cause like… it’s nature. It probably grew around her grave, nobody purposefully “put her in the forest”
@DeathnoteBB or she wanted to be buried in a forest surrounded by nature but either way that statement is crazy to say
"Who killed her???😃🤪"
Personally speaking, if I came back to my grandma’s grave to replace some flowers and found it scrubbed and polished, and I knew neither I nor any of my family hired the cleaning,… I would feel VIOLATED. This girl is next level self-centered.
Sensitive much. If this happened to me, I just think someone clean the wrong grave. It happened all the time. My uncle so drunk that he repaint someone else’s grave instead of his brother.
@@nara_saya I think if someone REPAINTED MY LOVED ONE'S GRAVE to a random colour just because they were too lazy to wait until they weren't so drunk.. I'd be throwing hands. Graves are important to people, they literally represent dead people honestly. They're like the only place you can mourn your loved one's passing because typically they are buried at their grave.
@@nara_sayawell obviously you don’t care, it wasn’t your family’s grave being touched without permission
@@nara_saya "if this happened to me" this hasn't happened to you and you wouldn't care because it's not your family member nor is it your grave. the chemicals and products she used can erode the rocks and further more its just fucking disrespectful. but you don't care cause it's not you.
@@m11_m11Did this happen to you because the same argument can apply. I don’t think she should of done it if she didn’t get permission and she’s not a professional but you can still imagine what you would of done in that circumstance especially if someone died who you knew
my friend's cousin passed a few years ago and she posted a vid of cleaning his grave and stepping all over it. not a person i knew but its so surreal seeing his grave getting walked over and disrespected in front of millions of people
I'm so sorry. Respect for your friends cousin 😔
oh that’s rough. sorry for your cousin, and sorry that you had to watch that.
I’m so sorry for her loss that’s sounds so disgusting and horrible to experience
I am so sorry for your loss, it is super disturbing and disrespectful that she stepped on people's Graves
They should sue her for emotional distress and property damage.
When she not only chain sawed the tree, but also TOOK IT UPON HERSELF TO PLANT HER OWN PLANTS I was so pissed, like that goes beyond cleaning, she is taking it upon herself to make essentially permanent alterations to the decorations of the grave supposedly without permission. It's just so wrong.
She fucking gentrified a GRAVE
Even worse. Her plants are plastic.
Real like she pisses me off so badly, like it’s not her grave so why is she messing with it?..
Bruh I am so glad ppl are talking about her I saw her videos and lost my mind thinking how horrible what she is doing once I realized they were random graves. Everyone was super supportive so I thought maybe I am just crazy but so glad I am not!
@@Aekkkou you rather have your grave forgotten and abandoned or have your grave remembered and clean?
the stupid questions are just plain insulting like: "was she pretty?" or "did she like cupcakes" and then she proceeds to bite into a cupcake with that cake-eating grin like dude there is a DEAD person under you
i hope they haunt her jesus christ
Shes targeting children, especially with the kids TV voice. Just gross
@@SaintShionSeriously I hate that fake voice. It’s just to get kids to watch.
Oh my god her freaking “Hola I’m Dora” voice when she says “Her name was Bienvenida, that means welcome in español.” Like ew. You’re not a kid’s tv show. Stop enticing kids to watch you desecrate graves.
Edited cause apparently the comment I saw was corrected and it is a woman? Idk anymore
@@SaintShion Honestly it feels more like fetish content. Something about it is really weird. Remember when TH-cam was having those issues with like Elsa/Spiderman fetish content that was getting exposed to kids a few years ago? This feels similar.
I just want to add, cleaning graves without the proper cleaning supplies can actually damage them and make them worse. This person does not care and is incredibly disrespectful.
Edit: holy shit she uses untested cleaning spray not meant for tombstones she is 100% damaging those poor people’s graves.
I used to study conservation while studying museology and yeah, there's no way in hell that that's not going to damage the graves in the long run.... not to mention the environment
And she’s also using SO MUCH PRODUCT. She is lathering up the headstones when she could just use a little teeeeny tiiiiny amount of the proper soap and some water on a rag or something and then some polish or other surface protectant afterwards. Less is more! If you aren’t able to get all the spots with the small amount, then add a teeny bit more! You don’t need to use the whole damn bottle 😑
@SanityTV_Last_Sane_Man_Alive Yo that’s mad disrespectful… honoring loved ones that have passed on is an important part of almost every culture across the world. All cultures have rituals for preparing and honoring the dead. Many cultures have holidays honoring the dead, or shrines devoted to their ancestors. If honoring your ancestors isn’t important to you, that’s your business, but this is certainly not just a first world privilege problem.
@SanityTV_Last_Sane_Man_AliveJust admit you don’t know much about rocks… which is sad. 😂 Even kids can scuff up a rock with their fingernails 😂
@@lyricalbelleIt’s not even about that the dude thinks rocks aren’t easily damaged. 😅
She on e cleaned on of my friends uncles grave. Unfortunately, he died as a baby, I believe 2 weeks after he was born. She saw the video and began crying. Very disrespectful to the families.
I'm so sorry 😔
How is it disrespectful?
@@sweetypsycho4895the videos she make sound quite ridiculing and very disrespectful especially to people that loss a loved one. There’s always a reason why graves get like that, so to say it got really dirty without context is just disrespect. The family would feel insulted and was unaware of the chemicals she used. My family for one always pays for repairs for my brother graveyard but it always gets dirty due to the rain and the surrounding terrain, so if me and my family came back and saw someone make false information on it and the chemicals are strong then no your not helping us your just terrorizing the grave. I don’t know their reason, but it’s valid to cry hearing someone make context and insult their family for content. It’s okay with permission which she did not get.
@@Its_bunnychan thank you. 🙏🏼 also, his grave is half porcelain, so it might start to break ☹️
@@Weebiebeanierea I'm so sorry to hear that. Your family did not deserve this disrespect and damage on the gravesite. I wish you well and love.
There’s a word for this kind of thing in Japanese that I learned about recently, called ありがた迷惑. It means something like ‘unwanted favour’ in English, which is exactly as it sounds. Someone does something with good intentions, like cleaning ‘for free’, but it actually does more harm than good. People who think she’s just being nice don’t understand that this favour is unwanted
Japanese has the best words to describe things I swear
russian has something similar, it's called "медвежья услуга" and the name stems from a tale about a man getting hit in the head by a bear (of which you can prlly guess the consequences for yourself) because the bear wanted to smack off a fly
In Dutch we don’t say unwanted favor: we say: bemoei je met je eigen zaken.
And I just think that’s beautiful
Its the same as persian
@@xylophone_888Omg we have the same in croatian: medvjeđa usluga, idk how to read cyrillic but I think thats what you meant
That second grave is clearly not abandoned. Even without the obvious new fake flowers in the pot, the grave just looks like it rained recently and there was mud runoff covering the headstone.
@ReptarKingOfMeat And the death date is 2004! I feel uncomfortable taking photos of graves that have any death date above 1900, so I can’t understand how she thinks this is okay.
The poor family. She should be charged for damaging the graves and billed for the restoration costs. None of these viral grave cleaners seem to use the right cleaners, tools etc.
But that headstone looks rained on and the ground around it doesn’t.
I think she sprayed water or cleaner on it multiple times to get that shot.
Also, the dirt on the headstone is a completely different color from the surrounding dirt.
The surrounding dirt is reddish-brown, but the dirt on the grave is a cool brown.
I suspect that she put the dirt on there, patted it down, left it for a day or two and when no one cleaned it off, she felt like she could call it “abandoned”.
@@preciousmourning8310 If any of them touch my husbands grave I will sue them.
We leave cairn stones on our graves and the idea of someone taking them away because they look like "rubble" horrifies and haunts me.
“to show YOU the power of FLEX TAPE, I SAWED THIS TOMBSTONE IN HALF!”
Please God just no
"'Jarvis'?! WhAt A wEiRd nAmE!" 😅
With flex tape, the inside of the tomb is nice and dry; even when submerged in water!
Stooopp😭😭😂😂
I follow a couple grave cleaners and they tell the deceased story and are very respectful, get permission. This chick ain’t it, I hope a cemetery or family sues
My Granny wanted her ashes to be mixed in with the pebbles on her mother's grave, If someone did this to my great-grandmother's grave it would feel like someone had washed my Granny away
oh god that adds a whole new awful dimension to this
“I found a sacred Navajo burial site, and I’m going to clean it FOR FREE”
That's the motto of contract builders and landscapers! And the US government
Don't give her ideas! 😣
oh no
That’s just the us goverment at its finest. *like look at what they did to Hawaii :D*
There's two ways to look at it. On one hand they're dead not like they're using it anymore. But also it's still blatant disrespect to purposely disturb graves. I would like my corpse to decompose in peace.
Granted a lot of bodies are in concrete vaults now and can be moved around
This woman totally gives the vibes of a high school bully who will say the meanest shit to you with a big smile, then act all innocent when you call her out. "Why are you so sensitive?? I was just trying to be nice!" 🥺
Or "No offense !!!" then the most offensive stuff ever lol
So she is like Regina George😂
You pulled this out of your ass 💀
Aah so you've met my youngest sister 😩
or the one who acts like you're her "friend" and that she's doing you a huge favor by tolerating someone like you, like you're a charity case or a stray dog or something
The thing is, in so many hispanic countries cleaning a loved ones grave is a whole special thing, in my country its what you do on Dia de los Muertos. My grandma would have a meltdown if we showed up with our paint bucket and flower crowns and the grave was fucking scrubbed
I also think the simplicity of the grey stone is kind of beautiful too?? It's humble and the words on the stone should mean more than the fake, artificial "aesthetic".
Sim. We do that in Portugal too. November 1st
Nah this gave has not been touched for more than a year. No way sometimes attends here yearly
@@Learntarottwhat makes you say that??
I am also Mexican / Hispanic and as you mention cleaning a loved one’s grave is special. However, that’s YOUR loved one and you know what to do.
Anyone who ever even saw a video of a rescued dog or puppy knows that there is absolutely no way that they "found" that clean fluffy healthy pup in a random abandoned house.
Exactly. It would be, malnourished, dirty, and probably not trust humans
I mean, I know you can restore gravestones, but I know it's also SUPER easy to damage them if you don't know what you're doing. Even taking a rubbing of a grave can damage older stones.
Yeah, I know that there's specific products youre supposed to use when cleaning graves so seeing her just spray "aesthetic" home cleaning products on the grave of a stranger is horrific.
That was my thought as well. Her cleaning products probably did more damage to the headstone than the dirt and the elements. Gah!
to clean a grave stone, you’re only supposed to use water or non ionic cleaner. also, using the scrub daddy could most definitely do severe damage because you’re only supposed to use soft brushes, so yeah she’s an idiot😭
@@jedipingit's probably why she painted over the names to make it 'legible' like bruh she probably scrubbed their name off with the amount of scrubbing she did
I managed to scrub away some of the letter paint on my moms grave stone when I tried to clean it 🫠 Her grave spot is the first grave spot I'm responsible for.. I'm trying 😶
Honestly the grossest thing abotu this is that she is doing it to graves because no one is there to stop her. The dead cannot speak, so instead of doing an albeit dumb, but kind gesture of cleaning the graves without recording it, she uses the dead to bait people into interacting with her content. It just feels so gross.
What’s even grosser is that she isn’t even cleaning them properly! In fact she’s probably making it worse by using the same cleaners she would use in her house.
Exactly. She's using the dead for views and to help her get that sponorship $$$. Gross.
And when she says stupid things like "who put Doris in the forest??" So disrespectful. This should be banned.
abotu
When I was younger, I would go and try and clear grass growing on graves. What is the beet way to clean graves
I don't see how cleaning graves is stupid if the person is coming from a genuine place of respecting the dead and wanting their graves to be legible again? Especially in the case of really old graves for people who no longer have living relatives to take care of the graves, it allows others who pass the grave later to see/read it and perhaps take a genuine interest in learning more about the deceased.
But I fully agree, she's not only disrespecting the deceased and using them for content, but also doing permanent damage to the graves and turning that "kind gesture" into actual antagonistic destruction.
Her cutting all the plants around the grave and then putting crappy plastic ones there actually made me upset. That's so insulting and disrespectful to me, those plants could have been placed there by the family. They could have been growing for decades. Even if they werent, the plants would actually provide protection and shelter from the elements.
I genuinely hope this woman gets in legal trouble and has to shut down her brand.
Holy shit those were plastic?
Now I’m even more pissed.
Same! She is like a Batman villain.
one day it's gonna be found that microplastic can turn corpses into reanimated zombies
Cutting down excess plants that are in the way if the grave I get but cutting down whole things? Hell no! Get her ass fined and make her replant and take care of new trees or bushes around
Yeah! I hope she gets in trouble too for that
Me and my parents clean our family’s grave site every year. We do this with permission, we have to tell the owners of the grave yard that we are coming, and they tell us the correct materials to use to make sure the graves stay in good condition. That is how you should clean graves, not what this lady is doing.
hey Jarvis, my name is Luke Chambers and I’m the son of a former Cemetery owner. my dad used to own Grandview cemetery in Tennessee and everything that she is doing is not allowed. painting on the gravestone especially could be considered defiling the grave and legal actions could be pursued, you are somewhat right about that the property is owned privately in a sense. The Cemetery owns the land, The families own the plots. that being said it is the cemeteries job to take care of the graves and the grounds work around the graves as she could be liable for an injury on our property, which is not okay obviously. also the flowers that were placed on the Marker that was on the ground, they are supposed to be either placed by the family, the grounds team for the cemetery, or an associated flower shop worker with that cemetery. it could be seen as disrespectful if someone were to put unwanted decorations on the Graveston/Marker. I hope this was helpful!!
If you also look up this person now, you only get her tictok videos as the first like 4 results and the first result to a cemetery site uses the picture of her "cleaning job" as the main marker of the burial... sucks so much that she took over.
That is all really good to know, because I had been thinking about the idea of cleaning headstones or leaving flowers at a cemetery. Not record it at all, but do something positive at a cemetery as a way to help get over my fear of cemeteries. Now I know that it would not be a good idea at all. I am content to keep avoiding cemeteries.
@@bryciebee9651It's still ok to spend time in cemeteries/ graveyards. I like to bring a book and find a bench or walk around reading the gravestones and noticing the different birds, trees and flowers through the seasons. They are full of history but also new life!
So we legally can report her to the cemeteries she goes to?
@@bryciebee9651they would appreciate the help! Find out who governs the cemetery you're interested in and offer to help. They'll teach you the correct ways to do things (and they probably already have the buckets!) Or get involved in local cemetery preservation (usually cities or counties have organizations). They truly need ALL the help they can get and they will be so excited someone young is interested in helping.
She 100% damaged every single grave she "cleaned"
@@CatPawLover yeah, to make money.
@@mutationsensation1179how is that wrong? is mr beast a bad person? he gets paid millions. you can do a good thing and still get paid for it.
edit: fixed my point. i didnt mean what she was doing was right, just that earning money from it wasnt wrong.
@@_the_bedrock_miner_3696 grave keepers have permission from the deceased's family, that's the difference
@@_the_bedrock_miner_3696grave keepers have permission and don’t make weird content about it with kids channel commentary
@@_the_bedrock_miner_3696it’s their job? and they have permission and they have training this random chick doesn’t.
what bothers me the most is when she encourages the commenters to hate on the family of the deceased. whenever she says something like “this grave is abandoned and it’s been neglected” it always prompts the commenters to be like “the family should be ashamed of themselves 😡” which is just so disrespectful to the living relatives
Right. And it only takes a storm to make a grave look messy. Like... It could've been pristine 2 days ago.
Yeah And the comments i saw on her videos are like "your so kind for doing this" like she's not.
Heres the thing… if what commenters are saying is right, and she lives in Puerto Rico, that makes this situation so much worse.
We have hurricanes and floods alot, and we never fully recovered from Hurricane Maria. Most locals are elderly now, she can’t expect the family of the deceased to travel all the way to the forrest to clean it all the time either. They’re not that safe and cleaned up all the time…. It’s not right. Who knows what the circumstances are?
It’s also really shitty that she lives in Puerto Rico, but that’s another topic…
I randomly saw one of her grave videos on Insta, and that part immediately made me feel icky. She has no idea what the family's situation is, if they live close enough to visit often, what their relationship with the deceased person was like (e.g. maybe they lost contact years ago and don't even know where the grave is, maybe it's too painful or emotional for them to visit), if the deceased person even still HAS living relatives. So unbelievably disrespectful.
There's a victorian/Edwardian era graveyard in my neighborhood and there are now notices posted asking people not to "clean" the stones as they are being damaged
someone report her for desecration of a grave! this is EVIL. she is not using stone-safe cleaners NOR is she being respectful to the dead. absolutely evil.
evil!! there is no other word for this extreme level of disrespect and desecration
Unfortunately I don’t think that would do much. The justice system in PR is shit :(
@@Aros4:(
The difference in reverence that she gives to the non-Hispanic male firefighter versus the Hispanic women feels racist and misogynistic. Daniel gets a eulogy about being a well-respected family man who is missed by many while Bienvenida and Doris get "Did she like chocolate cupcakes?" "Was she pretty?" "Does her family even care about her anymore?"
According to another comment, Fallecio Bienvenida isn’t a name, it means “happy welcome”. The actual person there is a man named Lugo Velez. So she couldn’t even get the person correct.
@@DeathnoteBB If you check the responses to that comment, there's a native speaker pointing out that Bienvenida is also a woman's name, and it grammatically wouldn't make sense for the headstone to say "Bienvenida" to a man instead of "Bienvenido." So most likely, the person buried there is a woman named Bienvenida.
This is something we wouldn't have to sort out for ourselves if Clean Girl had bothered to do her research.
@@FlorSilvestre12 Yeah I saw the correction like 5 minutes ago, sorry 😅
@DeathnoteBB i'm sorry to report that falleció actually means that someone died.
Yeah...
She absolutely targets graves with Spanish names because it'll be easier for her to get away with the disrespect. She suddenly knows how to treat the deceased when they're a "true American hero." She's damaging the stone and surrounding soil/foliage. She's disgusting.
I’ve actually looked into some of this girls longform TH-cam content, and im pretty sure she’s based in Puerto Rico. Not America, so the Spanish names are likely just a result of the local language and population. But I could be wrong here.
@@ysodora8030if shes based in PR then the desecration of a native’s grave would still be ignored over a white person’s, lmao
pr is a settler state, its the same as anywhere else in the US, except we also have the fun caveat of no voting rights
She doesn’t just target them lets be clear she moved to Puerto Rico so she is actively choosing to belittle the people of the place she has decided to move in. I personally see her at the same level as Jake Paul. I have very strong feelings against the Pauls and her because I am Puerto Rican lol
@@Aros4 Oh my God she's an act 22? That's both worse than I expected and exactly the type of person to do this
@@ysodora8030 That probably means she had to really look for a grave "worthy" of respect in that English name firefighter though
Can we arrest her? For like lying or disrespect or being obnoxious? There has to be something we can arrest her for.
destruction of private property... trespassing...
No not for being obnoxious, but for vandalizing
@@IzzyLovesArtDesecration of the dead?
Unauthorized chemicals.😊😅
One can only hope and pray
My grandfather requested to be buried inside his favorite type of bush and they were able to fulfill that wish. I was heartbroken to see her cut the trees that the person might of requested before passing
Right?! When my grandpa was buried, he had chosen a cemetery plot near a tree, as it was shady and nice. Eventually, the cemetery removed the tree, and my family was disappointed, but at least that was the cemetery, not some rando who wanted content!
I doubt my dad will ever get his wish fulfilled, witch makes this a little more sad. The person might have been lucky enough to be buried there and then gotten it demolished. Also my dad wants to be buried in a vat of black eyed peas.
"Cleaning an abandoned grave" WHAT THE FUCK ARE THOSE FRESH FLOWERS THEN???
She put them in dawg dont scream.
You tried. You tried...
Did you watch the same video as everyone else?
Well... You got the right idea maybe...
Bruh... pay attention next time
WITHOUT permission she, cut down the plants at the grave and added her own plants and flowers, painted their grave, and saying stuff like "was she pretty?🤔" " who put Doris in the forest!!" She couldn't be more disrespectful.
Right? She is disgusting.
and "did she have a dog?? 😋😋" seriously disrespectful.
How is that disrespectful? Shows she’s not scared of going to a cemetery. That’s not disrespectful people can be curious when someone dies . It’s just human compassion . Idk wtf you saying here
@@taddictiontv_You are dumb.
@@taddictiontv_i really wish I could give you a pin of shame
Here is one horrible thought I had when I saw her say that she tested her product for nine months:
She was making videos with that product in places she didn’t have permission to during that time. So she wasn’t even using fully tested and standardized products with instructions for where it is appropriate to use to clean public bathrooms and graves, she might not even know what those chemicals can do
I'm a geologist and looking at the graves, they appear to be limestone based on some erosion differences at the bottom and such, but basically, using whatever spray shes using (I have NO clue what's in there because I can't find any ingredients list lmao) but assuming there is some acid to use as a cleaning agent, this would ABSOLUTLY be horrible for the gravestones as acids speed up the erosion rates and if the grave is made out of enough carbonate material it will fizz and destroy the grave.
I wonder how many graves she’s straight-up broken because of that and just never posted them
@@knuckleteethi was literally just thinking that
I was a housekeeper for years & I would never use these kinds of chemicals on unsealed stone of any kind. That's wild to me.
I wanna be a geologist too
I'm an architectural historian who's worked in the restoration of both historic and non-historic gravesites. A few clarifying things:
- We use extremely specific, biodegradable compounds to clean graves. Because they are far gentler to the many kinds of stone we see in cemeteries, they sometimes require several rounds of application and careful scrubbing with a variety of brushes. Clean Girl using an untested spray on headstones is absolutely doing irreparable damage to the headstones, further eroding the stone or paint and making them more susceptible to deterioration.
- The headstones she is cleaning are not white marble, as being dirty for this long would have stained it. They are most likely cast cement and then painted white. The names look like they were written into cement with a scribing tool before the cement set.
- The painted headstones are a very common practice, especially in coastal areas. Many headstones in cemeteries in coastal areas are painted white for a couple purposes: 1.) to act as a protective barrier to the stone or cement (which requires reapplication as the paint wears away, and you have to keep applying it forever because removing paint removes the protective layer on the stone or cement, again making it more porous), and 2.) to look "cleaner."
- The headstones all bearing the surname "Lugo" tell me that she's essentially cleaning a family plot in a larger cemetery that has become overgrown, as small, private family cemeteries are less likely to have the white paint treatment. Could be wrong here though.
- Clean Girl talks about how these cemeteries are "lost" or "abandoned," and that she couldn't find more information online. While that's certainly common (I come across abandoned cemeteries regularly in my work), if you're U.S.-based you can actually find most "abandoned" cemeteries on the FindAGrave website! You can search by area or name. Often, these listings contain the names of most or all of those interred, and will specify whether the cemeteries are public, private, family, churchyard, or other community-oriented cemetery types.
Anyway. Her videos make me upset as someone who works in material conservation. 🙃
I use Find A Grave for work! I tried to find the first tombstone but I was traveling so I couldn’t look closely and didn’t find it. I think she probably looked the second guy up before posting her video. Thank you for all the info. This girl is super disrespectful and irritating! I hope she loses her sponsors so she can’t keep destroying gravesites.
Thank you! for typing all this. As a person interested in grave restoration, I was thinking of these things when I watch it.
This is really upsetting to watch. I hope she gets reported and arrested
is there any way to report this to anyone???? like ??
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I respect your work so much as someone with a passing interest.
I generally sometimes clean graves other than mine but avoid touching the stone, for instance an upturned vase or false flowers / objects turned over--I will clean those off for the family who is clearly still visiting
There is no reason to do more unless you are paid imo
As a nanny to a 7 year old, I can confirm that this woman puts a spell on kids. Said 7 y.o. watched three of her shorts in a row before I was like, "No more. She's doing something nice but only because people are watching and is not getting permission and that is not a good thing. Plus you've already seen what she does for every video."
I hate that young children see so much "altruism" for views.
Why is a 7 year old on TH-cam
@@extracleverearthboundspiritMany different reasons. But mostly because that’s the modern equivalent to watching television.
And some of that altruism is FAKE. Wether it be staged videos between human beings or staged videos of abused or mistreated animals being rescued, it’s so harmful to children. They are easily manipulated by things, I’d never let my kid watch TH-cam let ALONE TH-cam Shorts, which is just like utter brain rot. I’ve been collecting model kit and collectibles magazines and Ranger Rick not only for myself and nostalgia, but also kind of for my future kids. I want them to be able to be entertained by media other than TH-cam or TV, get em to play outside. 7 is just SO EARLY to be exposed to internet content and videos.
@@extracleverearthboundspirit this is an interesting question considering the a majority of youtube is catered to children. fork found in kitchen.
The thing is, there are lots of people who do this same thing, but carefully and also research the people's genealogy, even getting in contact with any relatives who may still be alive. This could be a great avenue to get this little kid interested in genealogy and history if you point them towards better examples. Lady Taphos and A Grave Attraction are two such examples, but there are many more.
7:02 Bro, as a biologist, I would be sooooo annoyed if someone came along and removed all the wonderful life growing on my gravestone. The worst is when you see people power washing lichens off of stones. Good god the atrocity.
17:24 Case and fvcking point.
Yes! People are promoting other TikTok cleaners, for being more respectful, when really no one should be doing this unless they have the deceased’ previous consent or their family’s consent to do so.
As someone who wants a natural burial with a small headstone just to mark it but to be overgrown eventually, this girl is my worst nightmare
Yeah for real. Like crap if it was one of those nice people who get permission, I’d be chill as a ghost. But I do prefer the look of an overgrown gravestone so I’d be so mad if this jerk came in and destroyed the headstone with unsafe chemicals.
Not to mention her cutting down TREES around someone’s grave! Ma’am those were most likely FOR THE GRAVE.
I choose to believe that the shovel did move and it was Bienvenida attempting to defend herself
Bienvenida was about to whack some sense into her, but then realized it wouldn't be worth it since clean girl would just use it a more view-fodder and probably become a "paranormal investigator" and disturb more people's spirits.
Bienvenida actually wasn't her name. Some other commenters who speak Spanish have pointed this out, but that was actually the first half of a saying meaning basically "welcome to the afterlife". She didn't even bother to find out her real name, and just assumed it would be the first word like American graves. So fucking disrespectful.
@@spongecakes1986 someone on another comment mentioned that the word is feminine and the other name is masculine so it doesn't make sense, so there's a likelihood her name was Bienvenida and Lugo Velez is one of her's last names.
@@myspleenisbursting4825 I don't know man. I took like a year and a half of Spanish. I was just trusting the Spanish speakers in the comments.
there’s a girl on tiktok who gets permission to clean graves and does an AMAZING job, is super respectful, and even tells the person’s life story while she cleans! i forget her name but it’s def worth looking into!
she's manicpixiemom!
@@Cervidaei LOVE manicpixiemom. i was scared that this video was about her 😭😭😭
@@doriangrayapologist I thought the video was about her until he showed clips and I wsa so relieved, I always enjoy listening to her videos and I was worried she was doing something wrong 😭😭
@@RoseyVamp yup! i didn’t catch it when i first wrote the comment lol
jarvis showed a clip of her
I am SO GLAD someone is finally talking about this. I’ve genuinely always found it insensitive that she does this, especially that she never once (to my knowledge) mentions getting consent from the deceased’s family.
Why she was suddenly more respectful in the firefighter man grave than in the two latin people one's? That's so messed up
it's straight up racism. this women sucks so much!!!
The questions too. “Was she pretty?” why does it matter. ☠️ It reeks of misogyny and racism
Her saying out loud "FOR FREE" as if the deceased could reach out of the ground and tip her for her work if they wanted to💀
this comment is top tier istg😭😭
not like they would if they could
I keep picturing a zombie hand coming out to grab her hand angrily when she cleans the stone...this is so utterly disrespectful.
@@aporue5893 i hope that actually happens 🤧 im so sick of her FOR FREE behavior
Eating a chocolate cupcake while in the middle of *CLEANING A GRAVE* is wild
Edit: also yeah those chemicals from the cleaning products will definately go into the soil and could mess up the plants and grass around it
Bro fr, not only disrespect but just gross in general, who tf eats while cleaning let alone cleaning A GRAVE that's OUTSIDE
Since it's scripted, she probably ate the cupcake later. Notice how it's angled upwards and you can't see anything behind her? She filmed that separate for sure, and it barely looks like she ate it.
I buy soapmaking chemicals for a living and research the environmental impact and hazards so I can be better at my job.
So much of what we use is so nasty. If there's antibacterial stuff in that bottle, it can just kill the ecosystem.
If her shady cleaning spray is legal at all, it'll have to have a sign on it with dying animals and plants that tells you to never fucking use it outdoors... I wonder if she ignores it on purpose for her videos, or doesn't put it on her products at all?
@@jellifygirl I think the label is so she doesn't accidentally give free advertising. It's almost definitely not made for outdoor use
16:55 This shit is actually so disrespectful, my beliefs include letting nature freely grow around your tomb, for the foliage holds your essence
If this shit happened to my grave I would be furious, why are you destroying me?
She needs to face legal repercussions
I srsly don't understand how that didn't already happen since her breaking several laws is all on video out there
online content needs to be used in legal matters far more often than they are used
Yes
"Bienvenidos is welcome in Español!" is the most mind blowing micro aggression to say over someones resting place. But hey, if its an American firefighter, speak above the grave with the utmost respect. Sure, okay, cool.
Then she had the gall to use that to say "then I should be welcome here!" Wtf
Micro aggressions are not a thing and you're chronically online as fuck. Get a job, a hobby, a life.
I am crazy or is the name Lugo Velez?
It literally means "good morning" I swear to God :/
it also means welcome... but like why did she feel the need to be so dora about it 🫠@@alextheferret5674
For my Eagle Scout project, I restored a veteran portion of a cemetery.
1 - the caretaker NEEDS to give permission to clean the graves
2 - i had to use a specific cleaning product, because a lot of cleaning products erode the graves
Hi! I'm a life scout working for eagle, do you have any advice or tips for me?
@@AnimationEvihi!!! I did my girlscout gold and have two brothers who are eagles, so I’m not exactly an authority on the subject but do you have any questions? I’d be willing to answer! My main tip though is make sure you have a schedule and stick to it :)
@@AnimationEviDon't procrastinate on anything. You need to find a few ideas, get them going, and make sure of which one is the best for the community you're supporting but is also possible in the way you want to do it.
Get your paperwork going as soon as you can. The paperwork is the worst part.
Take advice from your leaders, they want to help, and even if your troop is new or they're inexperienced, it's comparable to other projects they've done at work.
Like OC said, don't just assume you can go somewhere and do exactly what you wanted. My project changed multiple times from my idea to running it through my leader to taking it to the community I wanted to help to finalizing the details. The point is to help them with what they need.
And I'll say it again, don't procrastinate.
You got this!
"her name's Bienvenida. wow! that means welcome in espanyoul" MA'AM YOU ARE CLEANING A HEADSTONE
your moustache looks like 2 capybaras kissing
Can’t unsee
Haha yeah I reminds me of Post Malone’s one
Yea I saw that post Malone meme too
This is my favorite comment EVER and i can't unsee it now
this comment threw me off-
18:07 I hate how she was STANDING on the grave.
I thought I was the only one who noticed that so disrespectful
@@crazycakemonster right
there's fs no way that wasn't on purpose
It's a telltale sign she's not doing it out of the goodness of her heart.
Being someone who worked at a cemetery. People like this are so annoying. Some families will ask us to chase away these kind of people. It is terrifying to think someone would use someone's loved one to try to get some clout. Also. Regarding the chemicals, YES. IT WILL MAKE THINGS WORSE. If she is using something very strong, might as well buy a new headstone because the cemetery will not replace it when it's dissolving.
genuinely these people deserve to sue, and she deserves to get caught and ordered to replace the things she’s damaged
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How often are people bored enough to wash a strangers grave? You're talking as if it's a daily issue.
@@Idi.tidk if op is talking about specifically unwelcome grave cleaners or just ignorant fuckheads but I remember as a tween Id hang out in the cemetery next to my school and a keeper told me to keep off the graves and keep to the benches or stone fence if I wanted to sit down or he'd kick me out because it was a Thing with people treating the graveyard like a park and would like, sunbathe and have picknicks and stuff atop graves. Like, the place is peaceful, there's a reason I was hanging out there, but I was still aware that Those Marked Dead People, You Dont Know these Dead People, Keep Off! Thats basic grave visit ettiquette!
“Am I really gonna defile this grave for content?…”
“Of course I am!”
I haven’t even seen the video yet and I can already say THANK YOU for covering these. They always made me feel so icky, especially when the people cleaning the graves would talk about how “their relatives must not care about them because the grave is dirty”
My great grandparents’ graves are over an hour away because they wanted to be buried in their home town. It’s too far to visit more than once or twice a year
The fact they always insult the family members of a DEAD PERSON without any real information on the situation is disgusting
Also there’s specific ways and products they have to be cleaned with to cause the least damage and I guaranty she’s not doing that
My grandfather is buried states away. How would I even get there to do that. His is newer but his parents and my grandmother's parents are not. And they don't want you touching the older ones
Some people might also want their graves to get broken down and covered in wild flora.
@@dogandcat3672 i would definitely want that. I will put in my will to make sure my headstone always has flowers growing around, idk if I can enforce that but it will be written
Are people supposed to _clean_ gravestones when visiting them? Like what are they trying to imply with the "their relatives must not care since the grave is dirty" thing
21:52 That IS definitely written over. Most of these people appear to be from a Spanish-speaking cultural background (like me) and we don't use "RIP" in tombstones since it's clearly an English thing. If anything, we use "QEPD" (Que en paz descanse, which means the same). But seems like she didn't even bother respecting that.
I mean, I've seen Puerto Ricans do that though, and a quick glance at her profile lead me to assess that she was in Puerto Rico for those cleaning videos so
That's an interesting point, i hadn't thought about that
I don't know which countries or cultures RIP is used in; just wanted to clarify that it's from Latin: Requiescat in Pace, so it's not immediately clear that it's an English thing.
nah RIP is also use din spanish speaking backgrounds, specially religious ones as it means the same thing in Latin
Depending on the area they are from it can be DEP (descansa en paz)
She's finna get haunted by the ghosts of all these people for the rest of her natural life.
I hope so
Hope haunting ghosts are real for the sole reason to get revenge on that girl
My thoughts when she started cutting down the tree too. I was like “Oh boy, now You did it. You’re doomed girl-“
That’s a one way ticket to having some spirit get back on you for revenge. Literally any sane person in this world,
Religious or not, knows not to tamper with anything on top of or next to a grave!
Also she went AT NIGHT. WHO THE F*CK GOES AT NIGHT?? I have nyctophobia myself, it is not severe but i am still scared of the dark. Also literally every horror setting is at night so i really hope she got a ghost attached to her..
Good 😂
PUT THIS WOMAN IN JAIL RIGHT NOW 💀 genuinely
Someone said she was arrested but unfortunately not for all the disrespect for the dead
Imagine defacing graves in the most coquette way possible
Coquette?
@@axemaster8331 flirtatious
HUH?
@axemaster8331 it means cutesie
@@axemaster8331it's a style. 😭
I'm a grad student in art conservation, and these chemicals are absolutely affecting the stone. Your comment about porosity was absolutely correct. It depends on the type of stone, but generally, the more porous it is, the more likely the cleaning products will stay in the stone for years. In conservation, we generally try not to use chemicals unless it's ABSOLUTELY necessary- and when we do, years of research is conducted to make sure it's safe for the object. It's best to leave the cleaning- especially of historic graves, to the professionals.
At the end of my first year of Uni, we had to do archaeological field-work. One day of it was focused on excavating and recording tombstones in a Jewish cemetery (one of the first times this stuff was allowed to be done in the UK)
We not only had permission to be there, but we were also respectful. I spent the day excavating 1 specific (very much buried) tomb stone that had previously been hung up somewhere on some wall (it was later moved to the cemetery, so no actual burial was near it) - I then cleaned it thoroughly and respectively, first with a dry brush, and then with water and a sponge. Then I recorded what was written on the face of it, as well as its dimensions. Finally I photographed it numerous times for photogrammetry and then we left
the tone, work ethic, and process was completely different to how this woman operates, and so it really is sad to see, especially since these are recent and are connected directly to a burial (and not relocated like in my case)
If someone cleaned my grandmothers grave without my family’s consent-I’d be TERRIBLY angry. Me and my family drive up to her gravesite and brush it off, look at her gravestone, etc, etc. every 6 months. It’s a time to see and “bond” with my grandmother. Afterwards, we go to her favorite restaurant and her old house.
Very fun to do, and I 100% recommend to relive happy memories. :)
Aw, that sounds cool.😊 I do genealogy & wander thru graves looking for family from way back. IF I EVER SAW A PERSON DOING THIS… I can’t really say what I would do because it might “get messy” with said person, understand? You just don’t go & do BS like this!!! 😤 ✌🏻
@@cynsi7604 for real!!
I actually follow a grave cleaner on IG, and she always gets permission from the cemetery and goes during the day, she uses a low pressure power washer, you can tell she knows what shes doing to preserve the grave. She then talks about and makes the caption about the person, everything she can find. Its respectful and kind.
This shit??? Using scrubbing bubbles AND A SPONGE CALLED DADDY is so insensitive i might actually cry.
do you know the channel? i think i followed one too and i forgot who she was but i ws hoping it wasnt her when i clicked this video haha
@@tatarashi it's definitely not this lady in this video. I follow ladytaphos.
Ahh yes I really like her content! It's always heartwarming to see the research going into these people
AH! i think i know her too! she’s so respectful talking about the deceased person’s grave she’s cleaning. 🥹🥹
“A sponge called daddy” lmao
As a kid I spent an unusually large portion of my childhood in graveyards. We used to visit a few times a week, as we had relatives buried there, but I used to love looking at the really old headstones from the 1700s. One time, we went up to the old section and one of them had been restored (properly). It was magnificent, it had been raised out of the ground where it was sinking and the lettering was visible again. Apparently someone visiting from out of town found out that the person buried there was a distant relative of theirs, and they payed to have the grave professionally restored even though they didn’t live in the area. I thought it was so sweet, and hoped that the graves of my relatives that we spent so much time caring for never get forgotten like that, even though it really is inevitable. Headstone restoration can be an amazing thing, truly, but this woman isn’t only being very disrespectful, but damaging the headstones. It makes me really sad to see.
im SO glad other people are grossed out about this. whenever i saw people comment how weird her behavior was with the graves, her supporters jumped down their throats saying she was doing good work. but its so disrespectful. no one is safe from being used for content, not even in death
We all know that not only she caused disrespect, but also the graves will decay with the chemicals.
Ikr? And her literally basically sponsoring products WHILE she’s cleaning a dead persons tomb is so disgusting.. then the fact that she asks these dumbass questions like, “Was she pretty?”, like what the fuck? Or “who left Doris in the forest?” Like I don’t know maybe Doris WANTED to be around nature not your fake plants.. 💀
seriously, i’ve been complaining about that woman for a hot minute and i’m SO glad someone finally addressed it. the damn “for FREE” makes me so angry 😭😭
Working for free at a corporation is wild to me. Soup kitchens, homeless shelters, habitat for humanity....
I hate this type of content because if you say anything against it all the comments are "she's doing something good leave her alone!!" when she's really not. She's pretending it's charity so no one can criticise her.
It's bait for children because they can't see the nefarious nature of this.
"For Free" so I'm doing a good thing can't get mad tee hee 👉👈
yes!! Exactly, well said
I honestly thought she asked for permission, she pops up a few times on my yt shorts, the bathroom thing I thought she did as a prank once or twice and while her way of speaking is odd when handling graves I don't see her that often but now I feel bad for the likes I know I gave her. Also the Dora the explorer voice as she cleaned killed me, safe to say I'm not watching her anymore like damn
THIS is a good example of charity baiting. However, there are times where the creator actually is doing good. Like the woman who makes food for poor villages? that actually makes an impact and helps people LIVE. the graveyard tiktoks are absolutely terrible and calculated, the girl who makes food for villages? even if SHE was doing it for “the views”, at least SHE is showing all these people who are benefiting from her efforts.
My grandmum cleans graves, but she never posts about it. Shes only posted one text of it on her facebook that just talked about her being asked by some workers if she really lifted the heavy tombstone by herself since shes is quite old and frail. Her work is really appreciated in the town community since shes also cleaning graves of war veterans. She also has permission from the workers at the graveyards.
yeah, it's TOTALLY different to clean something with permission as a way to actually honor people because you care about them or the town. it shows too, your grandma isn't just looking for internet clout at the expense of dead people's families😂 she sounds awesome!
the thing also is that a lot of people want their graves to be allowed to become natural again. if i end up buried in a graveyard, i'd like my grave to be eventually overgrown and to give just a little bit back to the natural world. if my body was resting peacefully in a spot covered with vines and dirt, and someone cleared it all away with harmful cleaning products while (incorrectly) chatting about my star sign, i would come back specifically to haunt that person
Natural burials in easily degrading caskets are a thing. Entombing yourself in stone might not be the best idea then.
Idk where you are from but graveyards are quite packed and many places just rent out graves. If you don't pay for it, they usually get cleared after a decade or so for a new body. Getting a grave near the edge were trees are and foliage flourishes is also more expensive and usually occupied by generational graves of wealthy families.
At least were I am from
@@ononono7016 yep, i know! i'm not totally sure what i want, and i'm probably going to mostly leave it up to family and stuff. i'm just saying in the context of these more typical graves. not everyone wants the place they were buried to be kept pristine forever
That would be a good thing to put in your will. A smart person might be able to find it one day and then they'll know not to clean it.
in that case, i would avoid a public cemetery and find a privately owned one. i don’t know if she’s at a public or private one in the videos, but public ones are free for people to explore, and sometimes get cleaned by members of the community for the sake of historical preservation
@@ononono7016Where did they say they were gonna be entombed in stone
I remember watching a video if a respectful grave cleaner who cleans graves, possibly for clout, with permission from the families. Not only does she do that, but she tells the stories of their lives / messages from loved ones that they consented to share ofc. I loved it. It was respectful, neat, consented, and it sends a good message with all the stories she tells as she does the cleaning.
AND BOY WAS I GLAD she wasnt the topic of this video. That was painful to wattch compared to what ive seen
Edit: nvm you mentioned manicpixiemom here as one of the good ones. Yass
i’ve seen videos where they clean graves for free but their super respectful. like this one girl will find graves and look up their life and tell their story. she doesn’t blame anyone for the dirty grave and she always puts flowers there after.
Even the ones who try to be respectful often do not have direct permission or use the correct cleaners and tools, so they can still cause damage. At least actually researching the person buried there is moving in the right direction.
@@preciousmourning8310I wtch her videos often, she usually clarifies she has permission
There is a man who cleans old Graves and repairs the broken ones. He is quiet, amazing, and very respectful.
@@preciousmourning8310this person is incredibly respectful, the person they’re mentioning never uses harsh chemicals and uses the proper tools. She also gets permission from the families
@@preciousmourning8310 I'm pretty sure I follow the creator this person is talking about and I can assure you they are incredibly respectful! They always get permission from the families, they use the right cleaners and tools, they do loads of research about the person, give them fresh flowers, take care of the surrounding foliage etc. They're genuinely super respectful
17:21 .....did she really cut down plants around a grave.....? WTAF Those plants could have been put there by the family, "to bring new life from death" and she just ripped it all out without knowing what it could mean.
Imagine dying, asking your family to plant your favorite tree where you are buried, maybe you want nature to reclame you, maybe you love the shade of the tree, whatever, and some random woman cuts it down, sprays her toxic pink concoction on you grave to "clean it" then puts her own plants and the only question in that empty head if hers is "were they pretty?"
and then makes a few dollars on you to probably buy more cleaning supplies to damage more innocent peoples graves
dying wishes are probably the most beautiful thing I can think of. Th idea of your resting place being of your preference is amazing. Completely desecrating something like that is so infuriating
She's like the generic evil cheerleader in cringe high school settings
The graveyard where my Grandparents are buried has a few running water taps to fill up flower vases. Not sure if that's the case in the graveyard she's in, but still. If I went to visit my Grandparents and found some stranger there filming themselves cleaning their headstone and stuffing their face with cupcakes I would be livid.
20:50
“Who put Doris in the forest-“
a GRIEVING family.
FR
Exactly
I take part in volunteer work cleaning up and documenting a group of 1000s of previously lost gravestones, all about 200-300 years old. We have to be so careful with what we use to clean them - only water to avoid damage and also because the stones are on a working farm so we can't contaminate.
The products and equipment she's using without even thinking about it is making me wince 😬
that's lovely that you're contributing to that ❤
You are awesome! Thank you for your work!
This is horrifying. Watching her scrubbing at the gravestones with like, wire brushes is so distressing. She's 100% damaging the engravings.
“hey, her name means welcome in ess pan yol!” honestly pissed me off too much😭 HOW DID SHE MANAGE TO FUCK UP THE PRONUNCIATION *THAT* BADLY. *HOW.*
S pan yol! 💀
That jackass, put a puppy somewhere. Waited for it to be scared enough to cry and started recording. That is disgusting. A no way a homeless puppy looks that clean
Yes!!
huh
It could’ve still just been an edited sound, but still, she is a terrible, HORRIBLE person
@@tobyandahalfhUH
also such bad misinfo to spread to just take home a baby animal you see without checking for more, for mom, getting them help too etc
her doing this without permission was a Grave mistake
I see what you did there! 😉
Badum tsss
this joke had me dead
BAD DAYUHM TISSED
Great pun
Also some people have reasons why they don't clean their family member's grave. For my grandmother's grave for example, we buried her with her husband who died decades before her because this is what she wanted, but we never visit her grave because we know she isn't there. If souls exist, my grandma's soul would not rest in a graveyard, she would be living in the plants of the garden of our family house. My mother takes great care of our garden for that reason, but her grave has no meaning for us. If someone wants to clean my grandma's grave, they can, but it wouldn't mean anything. It would be a waste of time. And we would hate for that to end up on the internet
Who tf goes to an old grave and thinks "I wonder if they were ugly?"
Nah fr like?? Aint no way ur cleaning someones grave WITHOUT permissions and just start saying random stuff like "Were they ugly?"
A dark part of me wants someone to find the grave of one of her family members and film a video "cleaning" it with the same tone that she uses, and then post it online or send it to her. She deserves to know what it feels like to have a deceased loved one's grave disrespected for views.
Of course, this would hurt all of the deceased person's loved ones, not just this creator, so I don't actually want someone to do that.
Yes
But would she care?
I like the way you think
From one repressed dark part of mind to another, HOLY SHIT that would be so perfect.
From one “sane” brain to another, glad you acknowledge that it’s just an impulse and not actually something you REALLY want to happen. More like “it would be kinda funny if it happened” and not “it should happen”
Unless her parents are dead, I don't think there are many people in your life which can die, and you'd actually care enough to moroun them. I mean maybe if you have a sibling or lover that died an early age, but otherwise? Not really.
So good luck with your lil revenge journey.
“ when I die I’m haunting her “ same man same.
that second grave was definitely not abandoned: those perfectly-clean fake flowers mean either the family visited recently and put that there, or they had the graveyard workers put them there, often part of a package that includes general maintenance of the graves (that occurs cyclically every few weeks or so). I used to do that job. Also she may not be allowed to be there at all at night
18:16 I had the same question. Aren't there Tree Laws to prevent people cutting down trees. I remembered a Stadium (or was it a Park?)being sued just for cutting the branches.