It only will lead to destruction. A family needs masculine father and a feminine mother. You can't reverse the role of the nature. It will only lead to destruction. You see how many family have no father, and the mother must work and be tough she lost all the femininity, because she have to live in a men's world. And men, prefer to be more feminine no longer interested in hard work, but only focusing on dress and make up. The nation will fall, because men are the builders of the world. What would a nation become when its men no longer put the hard labor work?
It's not even masculinity, it's what they called toxic masculinity. And the only men allowed to embrace those toxic traits are the Lia Thomas and Jeffrey Marshes of the world.
true, but lets not pretend like it was even remotely an even disagreement. she knows the conservative men are speaking facts, and the trans "men" are delusional. she's just being nice.
It is literally bias, that's the definition of the term, making your decisions based on your own beliefs. There is nothing inherently wrong with having biases but it's just important to understand how they affect your worldview, nobody is 100% objective and unlike what that little twink Shapiro says and gets parroted around, facts and feelings are not mutually exclusive.
Brett is what I would call a “reasonable” conservative. Extremism is an its forms is “bad” for lack of much better terms. I consider myself a conservative, but I agree with some “liberal” ideologies. Think for yourself, be reasonable. Many people see the world in “black and white” when 99% of life exists in the grey area. Be conservative, be liberal just 1. Listen to ideas you disagree with 2. Think for yourself. “Black and white” thinking or “extremism” rarely yields the correct answer.
I went through a tomboy phase from the ages of 6-10 myself. I'm so thankful that my family and teachers left it alone. No one suggested to me that I might've been gay or trans. I feel so bad for these kids that are being confused and manipulated all because they're trying to figure themselves out. Something we all went through.
Exactly. And maybe I would've turned out gay or trans. But that was up to me to figure out. Which, BTW, I ended up being a heterosexual married woman with a kid. And that only further proves that when kids are that young it's too hard to tell how they'll feel as adults.
yes! same here! i was such a tomboy refused to wear dresses just baggy pants and tshirts, hated the color pink, always wanted to hangout and play with the boys but not once did anyone say that i was actually a boy and im so thankful for that!!
@@DedRucktheDuck but the thing is more recently it actually has. People are walking around like they're these oppressed victims when they're really just getting their s*** called out once in a while while really most people are actually affirming everything that they're doing but it's the few that don't and it's the fact that they're so self-conscious about everything that they don't want to admit and so they hide behind the fact that they are these quote on quote victim minority groups who are oppressed and attacked by everyone that they see.
My mother was a single mother. Fortunately I had my grandfather, a tough as balls old school cop with a heart of gold. Thank god I had him. One person summed it up best. A lot of kids are raised in single parent homes by moms. Schools and councilor positions are predominantly female, even more so when nuns used to run the schools but they had fathers back then. Toxic masculinity isn't the problem in our youth it is a lack of masculinity.
I disagree. I was in a similar position as you, but for me, my grandfather is the reason why I stay in therapy now for all the PTSD caused by him. I think it is not the lack of a man figure in someone's life but men being too toxic now and the younger generation of women realising that and deciding they do not need a horrible person who disrespect them in their life.
@@sorinamarcu5357 there is always an exception. Like you said already a good person is what we need who is not horrible and disrespectful. We shouldn’t generalize men are toxic. My father was not ideal but I appreciate him doing his best raising me. Im the younger generation woman but fully aware of the lack of masculinity in our society with many single parents. Men are not toxic, that’s absurd to say it. I met tons of amazing and wonderful men. There are definitely toxic ‘people’ in our lives and your case is your father I believe. I had a toxic ppl in my life as well. We all did. I choose to harmonize with men and I do not want to be a toxic person in life to anyone. Men are important and certainly needed just like women are.
I was at work and there was a woman that worked in the building pulling a huge container and looked like she was struggling. My male co-worker was closest to her and she had something in her way, I nudged him and said help her. She stopped and said no very forcefully, moved items herself and looked at me and said it's called independence...... I was floored. Yes, I was raised that men should open doors and help when you're trying to carry things, but helping is also just human kindness. It was so weird, what a sad way to live.
Well that's not even about male/female, I'm sure if you were noticeably bigger and stronger than the man you'd have stepped up. But of course men on average are stronger.
it's the result of years having been told 'you can' t do it on your own' It's much more about proving everyone wrong, than necessarily being offended at help. It's a process, once you have stopped feeling the need to prove your own choices to yourself, you let go of that. It has to do with insecurity.
@@annamineer2521 It might be a reaction because of past experiences. It might be a misread of their intention. It might be bad manners. It might be the truth. It might be not wanting to be seen as less competent.
As a Nigerian woman and a tomboy, I have absolutely no problems acknowledging that men are physically stronger and more masculine. I have no issues running to men for help when I need it. It's such a freeing feeling to have someone stronger do some things for me and I'm always happy to express my gratitude with a genuine thank you. Even masculine women can need male energy and help. Its not a crime. Life is actually simple.
The male vulnerability thing is a really interesting idea to me because I feel that a lot of men nowadays are unwilling to be vulnerable because they understand that there are women who will use that vulnerability against them. I dated a girl once who told me I could be open and vulnerable with her and about ten months into our relationship I really opened up to her about my depression and my mental health issues and she broke up with me because I “Needed to work on myself.”. I think that this is a common experience shared by a lot of people though more often than not, specifically men.
The thing that frustrates me when they say that men are unwilling to be vulnerable is that I don't believe it to be true. I am a woman and I am an emotional bastard. I will constantly be very vulnerable with my friends and my boyfriend. Not everyone is like that my twin sister is not that way. My boyfriend took time before he was vulnerable with me probably due to issues in the past where that vulnerability was seen as weakness by other people in his life. At the end of the day if someone is not being vulnerable with you it might not be their personality to share all of that or they are just not in a place to trust whoever they are speaking with to be vulnerable. If that makes sense.
@@hermitabby Unfortunately society, including videos like this devalues any man who is emotionally vulnerable. Especially if it hurts their contribution to society or how "passionate" they seem about their career. So showing our vulnerability is the last thing we want to do. Nice guys are literally stigmatized as nothing but facades for creeps, and being a good person is expected to be baseline (even though it really, REALLY often isn't with successful "driven" men who find relationships and sexual partners) and not a valuable quality in and of itself. Society is terrifying as it currently is.
I think it’s a good way to weed out the wrong women from your life. You should keep being vulnerable because you don’t want to be with someone who won’t accept you in your weakest moments. That means they don’t really love or care about you. There’s nothing wrong with men being vulnerable. There are a LOT of things wrong with women who use it against you. They have the issues. Not you.
There are things you will never know nor understand if you are not born a man. I don't care what you think you are....just like I would never tell a woman about femininity...
Its only in a decadent weak ass society that a woman could "become" a man. Any other time period there would be too many real problems to overcome for that kind of BS to be a thing.
The woke crowd loves arguing using exceptions....ie. abortion is always argued for rape victims from the woke...but if you say"ok, raps victims can get abortions...but no others" they aren't happy, bc it's not about rape victims, it's about using them to push their agenda.
The exception cannot be the rule, nor does it invalidate the rule. If you attempt to change laws every time you have an exception, there would be no laws. Nor would you change the rule of " Students must walk in the hallways" because you have 3 students out of 9000 in wheelchairs. Yet further you would not force the other 8997 students into wheelchairs.
I actually have a lot of respect for Buck Angel. I don’t always agree with everything he says, but I appreciate that while being Trans himself, he still points out and is open and honest about the very problematic issues with the trans movement as it is today. The honesty with which he is willing to speak makes for very productive conversations.
I wish Buck would have gone further in telling the whole TRUTH on how being a trans person on hormones for the REST OF YOUR LIFE, will eventually and ultimately take it’s toll on your health.
I don't know who this girl is but will say this....her parents should be proud! They raised an outstanding girl in a world that's gone completely mad! BIG respects!
@@BlitzTheFoxi Why is it that people are so quick to conclude that children are only raised be the divorced mother rather than the fathers? I know a lot of men contending with deadbeat wives through an imbalanced and biased family court system in order to provide for their children through ex-wives who can't even lift their fat asses off the couch for fifteen minutes to a half hour to make a decent meal for their kids even after the men have forked over sufficient alimony AND child support to provide enough for TWO households, let alone one-- just more proof women want their bon bons and their cake and eat them, too, regardless of who has to slave away for them. Often times it's their children who do far more chores than the mother is even willing to do herself! I have nieces and nephews who've done far more chores than their FEM-BOT mothers have ever demonstrated for them!
LMAO... That dude is a clown... When I saw his reaction to white kids in blackface I realized he's is the embodiment of Uncle Ruckus... He's the type of dude white men call the N word & he smiles & says Thank You sir !!
I really resonate with what you said, Brett, about "not liking feminine traits" when you were younger; I was the same. I was a tomboy, hung out with the guys, and I took pride in that. But as I got older I also realised what femininity brings to the table, that it has a different role in life and I also appreciate men a lot more for what they have to offer. There's such a huge confusion regarding gender roles nowadays and too much focus on "what you should be" vs. "what you are". I feel like people have simply too much time on their hands and create drama in their life just so they have something going on. And the narcissism. Jesus.
a couple years ago when i was younger i was part of a work program on a farm alot of us who worked there had physical mental or neurological disabilties or varied from baseline the heads of staff were very polite and understanding no matter how severe or mild your differences were but i remember one day some women showed up to buy supplies from the mini shop unstead of our stand at the town market and she coulden't wait to waste our time ranting about how we should be or act and who we should support in terms of movements and politics now im a very non confrontational person confrontation makes my anxiety worse but i was very tempted to tell her to just get the hell out based on the fact she thought she could manipulate those working there who unlike me and a few others aren't as high functioning into voting or supporting the things she wanted it really made my blood boil. its like you said tho people have too much time an too much ego/far to narcististic i saw the same person spreading drama and gossip around the farm aswell i just find it offensive when people try and manipulate people who have the exact skills i do but their just abit slower upstairs and can't express themselfs it's really twisted how much people try and make you be what they think you should be compared to what you are and if you don't conform to their view they try and manipulate you so you do i think the real question is what went wrong with society that causing drama and problems for the sake of it is no longer called out as immoral and just wrong.
Fun fact: French has 2 words for what you describe as "masculinity": "masculinité" and "virilité". While "masculinité" relates to the physical/psychological/social characteristics of men, "virilité" is more about VALUES, it's masculinity transcended into an IDEAL. For example, a man may be super masculine, manly and macho, but if he doesn't care for his wife and kids or worse, abandons them, he's not a "viril" man.
Lately it feels like masculine men are being shamed for being masculine. I've seen it become more and more common to label masculinity as "toxic", but only when men are masculine. When a women is masculine it's "empowering". I just tend to ignore all this noise and focus on myself.
I always carried myself in a way that makes me proud of myself, if I can live with a decision and the consequences, then that's all that matters... as a man I don't need your approval, I really don't care how u feel about it, and if u have an issue I'll listen to clear and thought out opinions only. I can be abrasive at times, I can be obstinate, I've learned that weeds out the weak and soft minded ppl from my life.
The minute somebody starts a conversation or topic with "my opinion" or "my definition" I instantly start to take them less seriously unless I get where they're coming from. Cause it's not your thing to define as it has a definition already. People are just calling traditional masculine traits as toxic now.
i didnt want to be trans but the county were I live, you cant just be a g@y person and be respected, I didnt have jobs and I had to start taking hormones and look a little more feminine to just have a few jobs, still dressed as a man but a very feminine one
@@DarkAurora2002 in america g@y people are respected and get normal jobs, still the actual feminine still find it more difficult, and if they dont transition to live a normal g@y life, you are still alone, the only ones you see partnered are the tops and masculine g@ys who basically live heterosexual lives and jobs, the feminine ones barely get past 25 years old, in the past they would get aids and hiv+, now its not only that but a lot of auto immune disease derived from cancer and other new types of illnesses are what kill feminine g@ys, at least before the 1960s they would live long normal lives being fashion designers, artists, etc, thats not the case anymore, we are delicate beings and being transgender is one of the few things that can make us live at least a couple more decades, and being able to transition before puberty is such a plus !!! no voice dropping, jaw develop, masculine bodies, shoulders, beard, face, etc, none of that, so obviously effeminate 12 year olds will want this, did you know since 2010 pre-pubescent kids have been transtioning all over the world??? and with no need of recipes they can just get any hormonal pill like childbirth pills and menopausal stuff, not even that hard, kids who did it since 2010 and who look like women today, did it by themselves, no help from parents or doctors
As a teenager getting ready to turn 18 and go to college soon, this was a breath of fresh air. I don’t think I’ve ever seen healthy debate about this topic ever. So to know that it’s possible just makes me feel more confident in my thoughts and values and that we can come to an understanding about problems like this.
I can't tell you how many times I've been called "cold-hearted" or "unfeeling" because I'm generally stoic. I HATE that, I'm a very empathetic person and have been become even more so as I get older, I simply don't react to everything with an immediate emotional response. Men don't generally wear their emotions, or their pain, on their sleeves, but that doesn't make us toxic. I view that as part of being a strong man. I believe men are meant to be the "rock" for our families and friends. That's where stoicism is valuable and necessary, and anything but toxic. IMO
I recently discovered stoicism, and I agree with you. It's helped me massively. Yet I feel sad every time someone says its toxic. I think most people haven't taken the time to truly understand it
This is exactly my feeling and I'm a woman. I've been called names,people are scared or think I'm too serious to be a woman. Like I'm a freak. I have feelings, I just don't have these peaks of emotions. I don't even understand that
I'm a woman - born as such - and I get called "cold-hearted" because I'm also stoic. While my parents divorced when I was young and I was then raised by my mom, I didn't grow up with sisters in the house, it was my brothers and their friends. I've seen my brothers cry and be sad and be super excited and be angry, etc. I never looked at men and thought "wow these people are toxic and they need to be more emotional." I'm grateful for my brothers because I think how they approached struggles in turn led me to habitually approach struggles the same way. I always related to boys more, I didn't like dresses that much, I had Barbies but I would rather read than anything. I just don't see the point in freaking out when you could instead figure out how to solve the problem or take a break from the chaos. For a time, my mom had me convinced that men were all the same, and that may be true to a degree, just like women are pretty much all the same. But being able to look at things from the bigger picture makes you realize NOTHING in this world would have ever been accomplished (houses, school, hunting and butchering so people could eat, farming, defending the family or the country from an immediate enemy, chopping down trees, you name it) if men had acted on their emotions and just sat and cried about it. There would be no USA because every pioneer would have died when they realized there were no houses and wells already built, humans would have gone extinct because either cavemen would have starved or got eaten. Some other species would have evolved in place of humans.
I (14, female) went through a trans phase last year and really am glad that I had the realisation that I'm not but a lot of my friends still use the they/them pronouns for me often and and they are also identifying as genderfluid and non binary and I think that is a real problem cause when I went through that phase I thought I was happy with my short hair and baggy t shirts and changing my birth name (my birth name is Tayla btw 😊 and I tried changing it to alex) but really it was just me trying to convince myself that I had to be like everyone else. What was also funny was that when I told my friends that I was non binary they immediately accepted me but when I told them I was detransitioning they were hesitant to accept me. The world is flipped up but oh well ( Just another edit I am now very much straight and into guys )
Good on you for realizing, its a shame what all is going on in school nowadays, i was class of 2019, and if i was going to school now, i feel like i would be a much different person.
I'm also 14, female, and I had a friend who said she was a trans man back when we were 11 years old. I just couldn't understand it. Why do people care so much about their gender? She also complained about her mom for not supporting her and said she was abusive etc. This was 3 years ago, when lgbtq content was at its peak. Everyone on the internet was identifying as something other than cis or straight. She obviously got influenced by these trends going around on social media and wanted to fit in. She had "gender dysphoria" for a couple of months. She kept saying stuff like "Idk, I feel like a girl but I feel like a boy", etc. I was always so confused on since when did genders become feelings? Genders are just...genders. I actually don't get why people are delusional. You either have this reproduction system or the other one. Masculine and feminine are mere styles. You can look masculine, which is stereotypically a male style, or vice versa. Anyway, I cut her off eventually because she kept acting like a spoiled brat. I was in my gacha phase back then and they made fun of it and hated on me. Then when I told her that she was being disrespectful to her mom, she just continued to act spoiled. They can hate on me for my interests but I can't criticize her thought process. Yes, this world is truly fricked up.
This was an actual productive debate and it was so refreshing. Both sides were actively listening and responding. No matter which side you more relate to, it felt like you were actually getting to watch things be thought out rationally.
Brandon Tatum came to speak at my University, and the student government tried to block it from happening, but the admin team had to step in and force the student government to allow it because their denial was based on politics instead of costing too much.
@@pieseldatches Our university was totally fine with anti-abortion media etc around campus. Some American universities don't focus entirely on the left :)
@@MsDani171 I haven't seen aggression (meaning trying to physically fight) on those panels, I'm pretty sure they heavily regulate that. I was talking about hysteria.
I really like this point that you made: "Validation and love are not synonymous". That is so true. We can love someone without agreeing with their decisions.
I appreciate that Brett sees beyond the mere physical portion of masculinity. Since the dawn of time there have been men who are sensitive, enjoy reading, studying, learning the arts (some of our best art through history was done by men) It is our values, comitment, integrity, honesty, compassion and love that defines us, As one of these less traditionally masculine men I appreciate this take.
The funny thing is for a long time reading, studying and arts were also associated with masculinity. Although it's a lie that women were universaly forbidden and didn't do these things, it was a typically masculine thing.
What grinds my gears is when trans people have the right to sit and "define" what it is to be a man when they know next to none of it. And when they say "I just feel like a man".... How do you feel something if you haven't been it or know how it feels?
Or to say that the definition of masculinity is changing. Masculinity is an inherent energetic force that women can never replicate no matter how much testosterone they take.
Yes it was always a bless that men tell women what a real women is what a good women is how women have to behave where there place is. Thanks for the sexism
Even though I personally do not agree with a minimal amount of Brett's views/opinions I find her so inspiring she actually inspired me to start working on myself mentally and physically and overall healthier. Thank you Brett❤
All of this gender blurring happens only in a society so rich it gives people the opportunity to do it. In poor countries,people are more concerned with eating.
Anecdotally I don’t think I’ve ever heard other guys talk about needing to feel validated, at least not in my circle of friends. Most of us have to develop our skills through hard work and that sense of accomplishment is what helps us give ourselves that sense of self worth and value. The only people I ever hear talk about validation are the women in my life and it is almost exclusively me validating what how they feel (sometimes) or them validating each other. Genuinely I think a man is someone who doesn’t freak out when things go south, knows when to be kind and when to be tough. A man should be looking to be a stabilizing force for those around him and for those he loves. Also great reaction Brett! Been meaning to watch this one and it did not disappoint. Have a great day everyone!
My cousin was the biggest Tom boy I’ve ever met and for years and years. Came out as a lesbian in her teens. And now she is 28 still tomboyish but more feminine with 2 children and a man. People go through phases. No child should transition.
Agreed. No CHILD even knows what trans REALLY is, even teens, it may feel true, it may feel fight, but it’s like asking someone to have their 12 yr old crush for life, and that’s it. Or favorite movie or outfit FOREVER and they can NEVER change their mind. They Will ABSOLUTELY change their mind just like we did. As a adult do your thing. These adults are forcing them to stay in a box that felt correct at the time..
But part of why personal anecdotal arguments don’t work and have largely failed in this arena is people can also point to Trans people that say they’re happy. The argument for this crowd needs to shift to science and the development of the brain and some of the irreversible traits of surgeries.
@@joebriggs5781 sure.. they’re Happy but threaten suicide anytime someone does not agree with them, or affirm them. That is NOT happy. And one person is not The Norm with this bunch. They do not know or accept themselves as they truly are. They played God and it failed.
@@あきら-v7h I feel so sorry for your experience. If you got proper mental health care and become others focused you will find more joy and stability in your life. Pretending to be someone else didn’t change anything in fact it will harm your future. You may not feel it today but you will. Do more for others. Think of how you can improve every person’s you see life in some way everyday. Eventually your world will become giver than just you. I’ll pray for you
My sisters husband is a transgender female. He has depression and is bipolar. After taking estrogen these issues which previously were extremely mild are now incredibly problematic.
I'm curious how many trans people are that way due to a slight hormonal imbalance mixed with depression. Imagine if a woman who thinks she's a man just adjusts her hormone levels more towards female levels and then she stops thinking she's a man.
A husband is a man. If he wears dresses he is a cross dressing man. If he thinks he is a woman he is mentally ill. Its called gender disphoria and its not a personality. Its a disease.
If showing your emotions by crying is seen as weakness z surely showing your emotions by getting angry or losing your temper should also be seen as weakness...
Showing emotion isn't the issue, having no control over it is. A man crying is repulsive outside of certain situations, a man losing his temper is pathetic but if he displays anger at the right moment it can be very impactful.
a man who is not in control of his emotions is weak. aggression is only useful and a virtue if it can be used in a controlled way. and only used to protect
One of the greatest lessons my parents taught me was that my worth came from being a bearer of God’s image. That no one’s opinion of me could take away the value God put into me and my life when I was created. So I was needlessly bullied in middle and high school, and it did affect me, but I always had that firm foundation that kept my feet planted.
Stoicism allows men to act when needed, to do the hard things. My dad was stoic for most of his life, as was my father in law. Yet when we announced our first child was on the way, it was both of our dads who teared up, not our moms. They showed appropriate tenderness. But this does remind me of one thing. Women need to use their unique strength during childbirth. Calmness in spite of pain wins the day!
Growing up without a father, I essentially had to figure out on my own how to be a man. As a kid, I thought being tougher than other boys made me more masculine, so I was a mean bastard child who was fighting a lot. I always pushed to be more athletic, etc.. However, as I got older, I realized it's not these things that define what being a man is. I have come to the understanding that being a man is being able to provide, protect, be strong (mainly emotionally), and to be truly deserving of respect. Is manliness a social construct? I don't think it is, because we are naturally inclined to be this way - which is why society is this way.
One thing out the many things I love about Brett is that she’s not only telling young men about masculinity and how they should treat people, the world, and the future women that they will be taking care of but also telling the young women (like me) that watch her what they should look for in a man and what they deserve and how they deserve to be treated by their partners.
Why was everything you said only about how men should take care of their women? And what women should look for in men? Don't women have responsibilities too?
I think it's so funny that Brett had to say "of course I had friends" when talking about being homeschooled. Because everyone thinks homeschoolers are isolated😂 HOMESCHOOLERS UNITE!
My husband grew up homeschooled and has lifelong friends that’s are super close. I went to public school I had tons of light friendships and don’t talk to any of them anymore
I adore Buck. As a older person. He literally helps me understand. Him and Blair white are my two favorite trans people to watch because they are against the trans agenda as far as children under 18 getting all the things that we see or talk about. I honestly don't care if anyone is trans I care about the children. This is a great debate. Keep up the wonderful work Brett.
I know 18 is what some people say but it shouldn’t even be 18. They say the brain doesn’t stop forming till mid 20s. It’s too bad it can’t be that. Even kids allowed to sign up to be in military at 18 is crazy. They’re just fodder after all and easily manipulated into joining for various reasons.
I adore him aswell, i saw 2 people transition the father of my former best friend, and one of my friends. They are against the bs agenda aswell. They just wanted acceptance (not talking about the leftist bs acceptance). Just about that transitioning is viewed as a taboo and such. Both and also buck knows they never can be the "real deal" asin a biologically born men, and they just accept that they can live like them, and look like them etc. The people that i know that transitioned were diagnosed with gender dysphoria, and in order to change their gender to a man on thier identity cards etc they had to talk to a psychologist and such. I would agree if you really feel like the other sex and have gender dysphoria then sure u can change ur gender. Let them have that. But not like today i identify as a man and tomorrow as a women. It has to be a well thought out thing. Socially sure, there needs to be acceptance, i feel like thats thier only issue that it still is "taboo".
@@365ral Its a he, he acts/looks etc like a man. If u didnt know he was trans u woudve thougt its a man. And he even agrees with some conservative agenda. And he even says he has gender dysphoria wich is a biological condition! Why do i feel some taboo here? All those not woke trans ppl want is acceptance. Thats thier only issue, and no im not talking about the woke left trans ppl.
A masculine man, is a vulnerable man at the right moments. I show my vulnerability to those who i am supposed to, a.k.a my wife. My wife understands my feelings and short comings, and i understand her's, which is how it is supposed to be. Be a man. Take care if your family, stay and raise your children, and work hard to lead and show them the way
Vulnerability for men is showing it to those you trust who don’t see it as a weakness, but as a way to strengthen each other. Never saw my dad cry until his father passed, that was when I knew it was something that is truly impactful, it reminded me of how much my father must have on his shoulder and how strong he is to keep the family cared for without cracking a bit.
Coming from a 33 years old male with autism. Gender dysphoria is very real and I'm glad I had the strength and insight to do the research which helped me deal with the dysphoria instead of listening to a whole slew of medical professionals telling me I should transition (age 16 - 22). I was months from getting on hormone blockers etc when I one day just said, no. I wanted to get mentally healthy (depression etc) before I did a MAJOR MEDICAL decision in my life. As the depression slowly got better I also realized that the dysphoria just went away...
Most people want to deny that its a mental health issue at all. They just wanna push this idea that gender is a social construct while absolute monsters in my mind sh*t on real trans people whove suffered
Im autistic as well Im sorry you were taken advantage of and put on GnHR meds. Due to our alexithymia we have much difficulties identifying and interpreting our own feelings. Much love brother❤
Totally relate to what you said about thinking femininity was weak when I was younger, but learning to embrace my softer more feminine traits has been the best change in my life.
I love just looking at the physicality of the group when the bio men are on one side and the transmen on the other - you can clearly see the difference in size and build.
@@dr-ozone the point is literally stated in the last line. "You can clearly see the difference in size and build" Did you even think before you asked your question? Common sense tells me, no.
“Men are empowered by women needing them.” No, men are empowered by having a sense of purpose. Men are empowered by feeling useful to the people that love them. The mind and the body and the spirit are intertwined this way. The male spirit seeks to put purpose into action and to be useful to the people he loves, so the male body reflects that by being strong and the male mind reflects that by being steadfast and stoic.
Women still need men for absolutely everything, though. The vast majority of every truly essential industry is male. Fire, water, police, transportation, construction, engineering, medical specializations, manufacturing, food production. They just get to pretend they do it themselves, now.
Even all of my uncles that don't have partners or children are extremely family oriented and are always being really reliable for each other and other family members, and for their close friends
This. You hit the bullseye, it's not about men taking the charge and overpowering the women. It's about men looking after the family and acting as a shield against everything that society throws at them.
When I was younger I was most definitely a tomboy. I always dressed in baggy clothes and I was a lot more masculine than the other girls. I was really and still am self conscious in my body as a girl but as I got older I have grown to like more girly stuff.
Honestly Brett is a very big role model for me I love her videos so much and they have made me feel so much better about myself I was also home schooled and when I went out with my friends they would make me feel weird for not being apart of the lgbtq+ community and I’m only a teen so thank you so much for making these videos ❤️😊
Happy to hear that you have a good mother and consider Brett a role model. Couldn't wish for better. And never feel pressured to join this LTbgq+IA community today. And puberty/teenage is difficult for everyone. The body changes, the mind changes, etc. Keep a good relationship with your mother and listen to her and talk about things if things get difficult in life. I hope all the best for you
I actually really like Buck. Buck is someone who helped me understand transgender people and Buck actually agrees with some of Republican standing points. I also love Officer Tantum.
Yeah I saw him on a video(never heard of bucks or Blair for that matter, all these people actually lol daily wire and all until this past month) with a trans woman named Blair and both have many conservative views.
when I was growing up in the 90s, the general mindset amongst us kids was "I'm gonna be myself in whatever way I want and if others don't like it they can kick rocks". We heavily rejected labels of any kind. I constantly wonder now, when and why did we flip the script so hard? Punk really is dead 😓
90’s kid here too, and same. Even had a classmate who would be considered “ female to male trans” these days, but nobody stuck labels on her back then, she was just being herself and we all went about our days. She’s exactly the same today, doesn’t use he/him pronouns, hasn’t started taking hormones, she’s just a masculine gay woman.
I grew up in the 2000s and I remember all this as well. It’s so weird. But I also remember seeing the transition into scene/emo stuff and some took it too serious and thought they had to be depressed(they seemed attention) to be an official cool emo boy or girl smh they felt so proud to have all these scars on their wrists.
@@triggeredlatina I remember that as well. I turned 18 in 2003 and I was on tumblr A LOT at that time. I remember noticing when, if you were just a "regular" person you'd get a lot of hate on tumblr. I can't believe how fast all of this has progressed
I was also a tomboy when I was younger, but I thought that being feminine at all was weakness. And that if I was feminine I would be deemed a “pick-me” or something like that. But I realize now that it is okay to be feminine and I’ve embraced that I can be a bit tomboy AND be feminine. It doesn’t need to be two separate things. I’m at a place now where I’m comfortable with the way I dress and look, but I always look for ways that I can improve without shaming myself.
My wife is the most traditional woman I know. Conservative, catholic, wants to be a housewife when we can afford it. She has done an amazing job mixing the feminine and "Tom boy". The day I fell in love with her I watcher her elbows deep helping me gut the deer we hit in a pencil skirt and stilletos. You can do both, and be a true trad woman while doing it without being a pick me.
@@FemFantastic2.0 men don't tell women what women are because we're all too scared to get red haired bitches screaming at us for the rest of our lives 🤣
Good point that Brett made about the balance of stoicism and vulnerability. My husband is a manly man, and extremely stoic, which really helps me in a lot of situations. Yet he opens up to me and is kind and warm and never harsh. When we were first together, we'd talk for hours, we still do, he said that it's all new to him because he's never had anyone to talk to in this way. Perhaps that's it, men don't want to open up to any woman because let's face it, she'll most likely use it against him one day after a nasty break up.
A man only chooses to become vulnerable to those they trust and to those whom they can learn from. A woman who can understand and tend to his emotional needs is important and in turn he will care for and sacrifice so much for her. I like to keep in mind that behind every strong woman is a strong woman.
I feel like this video is a wake up call for me. I felt like nobody wanted me to be masculine anymore so I just gave up on it. I really need to work on myself more.
I think theres a kind of "great leveling" happening. Where being on either side of something, like masculine or feminine, is seen as a harmful extreme that must be brought down to the middle somewhere. We're neutralizing everything we can. Its like a gardener walking down the street, trimming the hedges to a certain height, then decides to cut the trees down to that same height and allow the weeds to grow up to that height.
This needs....WAAAAY more likes. Its like the best Analogy I've EVER seen😭👏👏👏👏 Tbh however, I'll add that I think this is happening cause humans tend to have no concept of "balance". The "neutralizing" isn't even neutral because its just the opposite extreme. Too much to Too little, because people don't want to be left out of a group or category. Rather than meeting in the middle and understanding that feminine and masculine traits each have their own spectrum because people are individuals at the end of the day. Meaning that you are NOT gonna completely meld with anyone or anything because you exact situation is unique to you So in layman's terms...people just need to pearn to come to terms with their own existence and realise its unique to them and that they don't NEED to fit in with any extreme of the spectrum. Just be themselves whoever that may be🤷♂️
Small personal story for you guys (probably gonna rant beyond a "small" story). I was working at a coffee shop for some time and one of my co workers and I were closing. I don't remember how the conversation started, but she ended up telling me that she thought I was intimidating and I didn't like her when we first met. When I asked her why, she fumbled about a few different ideas. How I am very direct and to the point, objectively driven, my serious RBF, then she said something. You are probably the most masculine guy I know. I felt bad for her. While I am secure in my own masculinity, I do not view myself as a very masculine guy. While my behavior and the way I carry myself is very masculine, my hobbies and interests are very feminine. I paint, sew, cook, dance, read poetry and a handful of other things. I have friends who will come to me and ask me to go clothes shopping with them and I simply say, "I got you, girl," and we go to the mall and have a good time while I help them find some new clothes (sometimes I will even make them new clothes if they want something specific that they want that isn't normally sold on the shelf). I even have have been asked to supervise dates from afar or do a vibe check on a guy they are interested in. So when she told me that I am probably the most masculine guy she knows, it warmed my heart but I felt bad because that told me she does not have a strong man in her life to take care of her, protect her, etc. It just makes me sad and it probably explains why a lot of my friends are women; not just because our interests align, but because I do provide them with the support and protection the desire from a man.
The thing is, you're shamed for being masculine and women are shamed for wanting security which is basic femininity. They expect us to fight our way through danger against someone twice our size. This world is just fcked up. Btw your hobbies are lovely and they don't make u any less masculine.
It's awesome that you like those things and are capable to execute them well. I'd love to sew, but I'm horrible and I feel for my husband, cause if a button is off, I don't know where to begin with. 😅😅 But, yeah, I really got what is "the most masculine man I ever knew" thought, cause, even though I grew up with a father at home, he was horrible with my mom and I couldn't see for many years how man could be good. So I met my husband and my perspectives of what a good man and what masculinity are really are good and not arrogant or destructive. Even though I am a Christian and I grew up with that value, I couldn't see the truth of in my own home. Learn that God is good and that are men who are good where very hard and a long process. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. ❤️❤️
Crying in front of people is not vulnerability, it is a sign of strength in the right moments. If someone you love dies, thats a time to be emotional and even cry. Crying because someone said something mean to you is not one of those instances. Being emotionally healthy is a great thing.
I don't live in America, I'm in Ireland but to see what's going on is really scary cause I'm seeing it bleed over here and as a mother to a boy and a girl I am terrified of what this world is going to do to my children
You should not be worried if your child does not feel fit with their gender. What you should be more worried about are actual problems, such as genocide, discrimination, war, etc. trans people are not going to end the world. We all have faced much more terrible things
@@ysrr4259 what you clearly don't understand is those who are promoting child mutilation, adult entertainers interacting with with children and female spaces being taken away are all avenue's to harm children and make it seem normal and "ok". Just to be clear I'm not talking about trans people who are just getting on with life
@@ysrr4259 who is we all? and when was the last time YOU singed up to join ANY war? and why would i want my child to think its the wrong gender? Also there are millions of things i could do for my kid but I have very little control over what happens in wars XD
Middle child of 3 here. I grew up feeling like the 3rd wheel, an add on, and often chose as last. My mom and sister were, and are to this day, close; my dad and my brother were and are close. I thought I had to fight to get my parents' attention growing up. That thought lead me to do some dark stuff as a teenager because I wasn't feeling the love and validation from my parents. It got so dark that I almost took my life in my sophomore year. I did one last reach out praying someone would hear me, and God did. My parents, through a good friend, became aware of my intention and took me to the hospital. I was admitted into a stress center and placed on medication. It helped. I still have scars on my arms from my actions, and my relationship with my parents is still rocky. It's better, but through my whole life I was told and came to believe that my validation doesn't need to come from another human when it was God who created me. If it's validation, love, support, a shoulder to cry on, it is Him who I'm turning to because He will never leave me. I don't agree that validation should be sought out by other humans, merely because they will let you down or disappoint you.
I hope you’re doing better and also hope things get better with you and your parents. That scenario is something I’ve seen made fun of a lot in shows and movies when I was little. Dysfunction with a child where there are 3 kids in the family. I’ve know people who also felt the same and it perhaps wasn’t taken serious by society but most importantly as a parent. I know this is NOT the same thing but I’ve had many pets over my lifetime and it stressed me out but I made it a big deal to treat them equally and not show favoritism(idk if they noticed anyways lol) but I didn’t have it in my heart to treat other pets less and so on. For me this would carry on over with kids. I mean I don’t like kids like but let’s say I had 3 kids, I would be so conscious about always making them each feel loved. Equally. Not more or less than the others.
My sister felt the same way and the reality was she was the "favored" and everyone saw it not just me and my brother. Friends of the family and our relatives all knew my sister was the obvious favorite but my sister just couldn't see the reality of it so she still "whines" thirty years later. Case and point my sister could break any rule and my mom would in a heartbeat say this same mantra to my father: "Well she's not the youngest or the oldest and she's the only girl" and like magic she got away with everything and got what she wanted. They spent way more time with her and on her. Often times, most the time, the reality is people just don't see reality because they are stuck on themselves.
21:54 - Buck is the first person to argue against "the death of the tomboy" though! I'm assuming you haven't seen him speak before (you should check him out). But he definitely doesn't think that being a tomboy means a girl should transition, and I'm pretty sure he has discussed ROGD and is critical about the rise of FtM transition in young girls quite a bit, which is really interesting from his perspective!!!
Yes, I love Buck! He strongly discourages people from transitioning, saying how his transition was painful, how he genuinely feels his gender identity was a mental illness and the only cure was to fully transition. He wants people to be a hundred percent informed and self-aware before taking potentially irreversible steps forward in transitioning.
Reminds me of a recent incident at my bank. I held the door for a young lady and she literally snarled at me, "fuck off you old bastard, I can do that for myself." So I let the door go and very quickly learned that "Fine, careful it doesn't slap you in the ass." was probably not the most accepted reply. LMAO though.
My parents taught me respect, part of that is holding the dot for anyone that is coming in/out right after you. It’s you putting another above yourself; I may have gotten to the door moments before another, but I will gladly hold the door for those who are right behind me.
Don’t let that affect you. We have met plenty of scumbag men and I definitely don’t view all men as scumbag because of a few idiots. Holding doors for others is simply decent behavior. I hold doors for people all the time as a woman
I'm a straight dude, and my family never affirmed the majority of the shit that I experienced, whether it be bullying, addressing being morbidly obese, or a single emotion. The Trans man who's aggressively saying that you have to have that couldn't be anymore ignorant and incorrect if they tried. As an adult, I took responsbility for what shortcomings my family had. I decided for myself that I like who I am and I'd take control of my weight. As an adult I learned to handle my emotions, how to fix things, how to change a tire, etc. We have quite literally hundreds of videos to access from people all over the world to learn from...You have no excuse on this whole narrative of "Where am I supposed to go to get support". Girl, you go to the internet. You learn. You read a book by someone on the topic you struggle with. Take control of your life, buddy....Seriously.
They claim to be Men, but still have the biological traits of a woman. So they are more emotional. Not getting validation is heartbreaking for most women. For most Men, it's really not that big of a deal. They can sit their and hide behind their manly blanket. Deep down inside biologically and emotionally. They are still women. I swear we have bigger shit to be worried about than this childish bullshit. Gender disphoria is a problem.
For me personally, one of the most attractive and masculine things a man could do, is to not be scared to cry. For men to show emotions and cry is stigmatized for some reason, and its not their fault to be scared of looking "weak" because of that. However, because it is considered a "weak" trait, accepting your emotions and not being scared of what society might think, makes you brave and attractive.
There is definetly nothing wrong with a man showing emotion, but there is a time and place for everything, for both genders. For example showing emotion to your loved ones is perfectly fine, but bursting out crying in public over small reasons is inappropriate for both men and women, and means you are emotionally unintelligent.
@@theduckytaco7602 of course crying for small things like a spoiled person is just embarrassing and immature. But I mean crying in general. For example my boyfriend grew up with his parents telling him "don't cry, you're a man" so now he's even ashamed to cry about his grandpa's health issues... I always support him and it breaks me to see what he and other men have to go through, just because for society, a man crying is not a real man...
It's not OK for men to cry though. Men need to be resilient in order to fulfill the most masculine role, which is to serve others. Peak masculinity is having ones self under complete control and utilize that discipline to improve the lives of those they love and those who simply need help. This does not mean that crying is inherently immoral per say, but that it should not be encouraged but rather controlled just like the emotions from which it stems. I'm saying this having cried behind closed doors when my daughter died, it was incredibly difficult to not cry when I watched her casket be lowered into the ground, however I want and need to be there for my son and wife who are also suffering. Men most often derive their value from their ability to do great things, specifically for others, not just to lift the most, but to lift for a purpose. Men and women both have the same major trials, to overcome ourselves for the sake of ourselves and those we love. To deal with whatever baggage we have in order to love fully and deeply.
@@Okunniger_Volker i understand what you say and I'm really sorry for your loss. But saying "it's not okay for men to cry" is almost the same as saying "I don't see men as human beings". I'm not saying that no one should control their emotions, but it depends on the circumstances. Not crying is not human. A properly functioning human brain feels emotions, and if they're too strong it causes a physical reaction to relieve the stress. So it's not a shame to cry, even in front of those we love. It's just being human.
@Rainy_Maeve I agree with your general sentiment but at the same time it is a given that all men will cry, there's simply no way around it. But we shouldn't either encourage it, I would say it is a slightly nuance topic because while I will say it is not OK to cry, I understand that it is the inevitable. It shouldn't be "bottled up" but instead worked through in order to find healing and a way out of that place in order to be strong for those who you love, which is the primary source of a man's value, his ability to help those he loves. Of course he needs to be in a position to do this especially on a mental and emotional level, and in order to be on that level he must properly deal with his emotions, crying is inevitable, not shameful per say, but also shouldn't be encouraged but instead should be controlled and worked through in a healthy way, of which crying is not a way to deal with those things, but simply a expression. Crying dosent heal or help a man, it dosent solve his problems or bring him peace and most often it brings the opposite, so he needs to find a way through those feelings and a way to find peace before he has those outbursts. I hope that clarifies what I mean.
I had no idea Buck was a huge trans “corn” star. Which is interesting when you do a deep dive on how connected that is to the… phenomenon… of young people’s sudden obsession with “transing.”
Yes! I’m so happy that more and more LGB conservatives are standing up against this nonsense. I’ve been wanting the LGB to be separated from the T for so long, and it’s finally happening! Hopefully, more and more gay people realize that monsters are living amongst them, and start to distance themselves from the T community.
I'm a gay man from Egypt and from a foreigner's point of view of America it always seemed that the republicans are just completely homophobic ( in the past that was true but not now in the present ) and the left is just freeing and liberating everyone...little did i know that republicans ( now ) just have common sense and that there are people like me who are conservative and gay at the same time ( conservative in America because here in Egypt conservative means stoning gays to death )...i really love seeing that i'm not alone who is against this ( born in the wrong body ) notion let alone indoctrinating kids about it...LGB with out the TQ+ !!!
I love Officer Tatum! I also grew up as a tomboy, but I also had my girly moments. My parents let me be whoever, let me pick what I wanted to wear, etc. If I were a child today, my parents would be told that I would have to be "affirmed" as a boy, even though I never saw myself as a boy. I agree also with your later point - the most freeing thing I learned is that what other people think about me is none of my business. My self worth comes from within, from MYSELF, otherwise it would be called something else.
22:09 my sister was a Tomboy growing up.. she’s a year younger than me and did all the things I did.. played baseball, football, basketball, wrestling, and just hung around me constantly doing what my friends and I did.. but she never thought she was a dude.. she just liked and still does like all of the traditionally masculine things but now she is married with a 5 year old boy.. She’s a bit more feminine acting as she’s gotten older but she still isn’t like a traditionally feminine woman.. I feel like if this stuff was going on when we were younger she probably would’ve been infected with this social contagion and ended up having a really bad life or even ending herself.. so I’m extremely grateful that this wasn’t going on back then..
Yes! I totally agree on what you said about masculine features! My husband is only 5’7. He has a beard but that’s the only thing physically masculine about him lol BUT he is a manly man! He can fix cars, fix things around the house, he is the hardest worker I know! His boss’ love him cause he’s so dependable and hard working. The most important thing in his life is his family and providing for us. I can go on and on. I am so honored to be his wife 😊❤
I love this! I also really relate to what you said about being a more “masculine” woman. Growing up, most of my close friends were men or other masculine women. As I grew older, I saw the value in embracing my softer, more “feminine” qualities and allowing men to pursue their traditional roles as it involved me. Thank God I learned this before I met my husband!
As a woman, I'm forced to be in my masculine energy because a majority of men around me are in their feminine energy. I'm sick of it! I want to be back in my feminine energy, being led, cared for by and protected by a masculine man.
Just another reminder that it is okay to question yourself and struggle with identity. That's growth. What isn't okay is making a permanent life and physical decisions based on your current emotional distress. Things do get better. Be patient with yourself.
@D B let’s be real, there’s no way if you saw buck on the street you’d have the balls to call them a ‘she’ or a woman. you’d be looking like the weird one. buck completely passes lmao, imo when someone completely passes it’s just weird not to address them how they appear.
@@owliria_sage Gender doesn't depend on respect, it depends on your biology. You can treat a trans person with respect without having to forgo biological facts.
@@user-hb2ws3pd2r gender is also largely social. nobody is going to block buck from using the men’s restroom and likewise people would be terrified if buck were trying to enter a women’s restroom.
@@user-hb2ws3pd2r buck doesn't claim he is not a biological woman. He is a trans man, pronouns are used depending on what a person looks like. My gay friend has long hair and he gets referred to as a girl all the time.
When you depend on others and their actions, opinions, education, experiences, roles, gender or personality to validate you, you’ve already lost yourself.
Im a 16 year old girl and I sometimes dress like a boy, but I don’t see anyone asking me if I’m trans they just assume I’m a tomboy which is true. It’s seems weird to me that people don’t like the word “ tomboy” it’s just a word at the end of the day with not a massive meaning behind it. Also lots of people dress themselves differently and that’s not a problem the problem is that people think they should change themselves to please other people. The only person you have to please is yourself.
As Matt Walsh always says, you can't say you're "redefining" something when you're not giving it a new definition. They say they're redefining what it means to be a man, but can't tell you what a man is. So they're not redefining it, they're just tearing it down and replacing it with nothing.
Oh, as someone who doesn’t take sex to be synonymous with gender, I can tell you how I use the word “man”. An adult who prefers to be treated as, referred to as and have the body of a male (male being defined as someone with XY chromosomes) Happy? It’s being replaced with another non circular def. Sorry if I sound like a douchebag with this comment btw.
@@pinetree2289 except how does one treat a male? Trans women are male, should trans men be treated the same as trans women? How does one refer to a male? According to you, Sex and gender are separated so to say “referred to as a male” could mean anything Unless of course you aren’t talking about pronouns but instead mean we should literally use the word “male” when describing them? If that’s the case then you’re hijacking what “male” means in the first place, as the person in this example wouldn’t be a biological male, and yet we would use the word “male” to describe them
@@lukasthedark8478 ooh I change it then, please don’t think I’m dodging Man is someone who prefers to be be referred to as the PROTOTYPICAL male. So then excluding trans women. The prototypical male prefers to be referred to as “he”. When I’m saying refers to, I am talking about pronouns.
@@pinetree2289 your definition still presumes the existence of a “typical male”, which would indicate gender and sex are connected and your sex typically dictates your gender. Or what you’re saying is the “prototypical male” is simply what males are socialized to act like, in which case your definition makes sense to me, although it won’t make sense if the so called “gender roles” become null and void, as there will be no prototypical male, or to be more accurate, there’d be no distinction between prototypical males and females.
I also gotta say that one of the trans guys is sitting there and asking this guy "Do you know how it feels to have your family put against you because they're against who you are." He's literally saying this to the only gay conservative guy there.
after watching half of this, I think the BEST part of being in Boy Scouts was just seeing all the iterations and variations of masculine expression, specifically from the other boys fathers. There was such a broad range, yet clearly a singular focus. More boys need to see that. 1 dad is not enough. You need at least 10 to become a man.
I grew up as a tomboy and still am. My greatest influence growing up was from my brothers. They helped me become the person I am today in place of my father. I've been called Trans and completely shut that down. Just because I wear male clothes since I'm not comfortable in female clothes because of my weight doesn't ever mean I see myself as a man. I'm not. I'm simply a 25 year old that loves video games, male clothes, and many other things that people would stereotypically see as male interests. I live the way I do, that doesn't mean I'm something I was not born as. This world is fucking insane.
@Taryn Huber what do you think of all the conservatives who massively demonize your way of living? Who shame their their daughters for living the way you are living? Who push their kids to be a certain way? The right is a HUGE contributer into this gender issue and create this problem TOGETHER with the left. The right has strict expectations of what men and woman should be like and shames homosexuality and people who don't conform to their gender expectations which creates confusion into these peoples heads from a young age. An extreme flamboyant gay kid is made to believe that there is something wrong with him by conservatives (his family and community etc.) and that his essence and way of being is only meant for girls and women, so he then starts to think that he then might jus be a girl stuck in a boys body. He sees from the left that it's possible to go from one to the other and now subcontiously sees a transition as a possibility to escape his homosexuality and gender non comformity to just blend into the rest of society. He goes from a flamboyant gay man who likes makeup, long beautiful hair and wearing fake nails to a heterosexual feminine woman who just blends into society. If you talk to detransitioners, a lot of them had internalised homophobia (created by conservatives) that pushed them into transition to escape homosexuality.
Being a tomboy and a transgender man is completely two different things. Gender is a social construct and not everyone sees it in the same way. Believe it or not, not all trans men dress masculine! As you believe, the stereotypic man things such as video games don’t define gender! That’s true I agree with you on that. Base on your point of view, if a man wears a skirt or more feminine makeup, they’re still a man! But people would call that man gay or a women. But when an actual transwomen wears makeup and presents more feminine, all of a sudden they’re a man. All of this proves gender is a social construct and just made up.
If my 9 year old came and told me she "needed to transition", there would be no conversation. That would never happen. I'd make her wait till she was 21.
Tried and true method, shame them. Saw a post a daughter said she wanted to transition. Next day dad dressed up as a woman and took her to school. It never came up again.
I'd want to ask why they feel ashamed of the gender they were born? What is that makes them feel that being a female (or male) isn't worth it? Or what it is they think the other gender offers them? If you can get the child to confront their fears and concerns they'll have the logic to take with them to others and to keep them steadfast against peer pressure, influencers and charlatans offering them false solutions.
You don't need to be ripped to be masculine. I haven't worked out for about 17 years, but I take walks, go on hikes, play on a volleyball team every year, and generally have a "dad bod". Still masculine ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
As an Eagle scout through the Boy Scout of America, I hold the Scout Law very close. A Scout is trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean, and reverent. This describes a truely masculine man.
Masculine men being friendly and being cultured took me a long time to wrap my head around. My priest explained it really well. The difference between the dangerous man and the psychopath is that the dangerous man is capable of terrible acts, but doesn't unless necessary. The psychopath doesn't restrain themselves. Warrior poet talks about the same thing. A true man is capable of great atrocities but doesn't do them unless it's necessary. That's what makes you a good man. Meekness is the most masculine trait. TLDR be a real man. Capable of terrible atrocities, but restrained and not doing them unless necessary.
About "Vulnerability": Yes, everyone has feelings and everyone, no matter how stoic, cries. What masculinity in this matter means is not burdening your surroundings with your misery. A pretty hardcore example for this are funerals. Do you want to be the pillar where all the suffering can lean against or pull everyone around you further down by sobbing and crying? That's a choice of masculinity, a choice where if you decide to be a pillar, will take a lot of strength to get through.
Buck Angel was one of the transmen on this and I would be interested in you digging more into his content. He's one of the main trans people pushing back on the trans community and has a lot of great content.
She calls herself a biological male, blows her top at someone calling her a she, grooms minors into transition when she thinks they have "true dysphoria", and directs her young fans to her website which sells d*ldos. Yes, what a great role model. Long term drug abused Roider.
Love me some Buck Angel his channel has helped me see the light and I appreciate him a lot. He understands the importance of showing the good the bad and ugly when It comes to choosing to transition. Very grateful.
As a person with borderline personality disorder i understand how much of a problem victimizing yourself and always caring what people think actually is. It gets in the way of everything and any kind of success in the future.
When it comes to vulnerability, I was definitely one that thought "yes get it all off your chest and express!" But now that I'm married I'm so thankful that my husband is able to be stoic during trying times, because I am not and I am able to feel secure when I see him lead with an attitude of we'll be okay. He will tell me how he feels, after thinking it through, but he is still pretty reserved. I respect him so much for his ability to be strong.
But that was the point of the debate. Everyone giving their personal experiences and opinions and trying to find a common ground. For the most part it seemed like they did a great job respecting each other
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Masculinity is being shamed in men but promoted in women and its wild to me
Women need to be men, men need to be women. So women can have their turn. Or something crazy like that.
@@redmagelala Except they can’t. Man will always be physically and mentally stronger.
It only will lead to destruction. A family needs masculine father and a feminine mother. You can't reverse the role of the nature. It will only lead to destruction. You see how many family have no father, and the mother must work and be tough she lost all the femininity, because she have to live in a men's world. And men, prefer to be more feminine no longer interested in hard work, but only focusing on dress and make up. The nation will fall, because men are the builders of the world. What would a nation become when its men no longer put the hard labor work?
thats it you summed it up buddy
It's not even masculinity, it's what they called toxic masculinity. And the only men allowed to embrace those toxic traits are the Lia Thomas and Jeffrey Marshes of the world.
i like how brett can disagree with both political sides. she isn’t sucking up to either one and thinks for herself.
@@EthanHernandezz thats called critical thinking not "biased"
true, but lets not pretend like it was even remotely an even disagreement. she knows the conservative men are speaking facts, and the trans "men" are delusional. she's just being nice.
It is literally bias, that's the definition of the term, making your decisions based on your own beliefs. There is nothing inherently wrong with having biases but it's just important to understand how they affect your worldview, nobody is 100% objective and unlike what that little twink Shapiro says and gets parroted around, facts and feelings are not mutually exclusive.
where did brett disagree with "conservative men" here?
Brett is what I would call a “reasonable” conservative. Extremism is an its forms is “bad” for lack of much better terms. I consider myself a conservative, but I agree with some “liberal” ideologies. Think for yourself, be reasonable. Many people see the world in “black and white” when 99% of life exists in the grey area.
Be conservative, be liberal just 1. Listen to ideas you disagree with 2. Think for yourself. “Black and white” thinking or “extremism” rarely yields the correct answer.
I went through a tomboy phase from the ages of 6-10 myself. I'm so thankful that my family and teachers left it alone. No one suggested to me that I might've been gay or trans. I feel so bad for these kids that are being confused and manipulated all because they're trying to figure themselves out. Something we all went through.
Same here, but I was always a tomboy till maybe 11. I’m happy being a woman and I’m so happy for my parents leaving my alone.
Exactly. And maybe I would've turned out gay or trans. But that was up to me to figure out. Which, BTW, I ended up being a heterosexual married woman with a kid. And that only further proves that when kids are that young it's too hard to tell how they'll feel as adults.
Deez nuts
@@Ihavpickle heh, nice
yes! same here! i was such a tomboy refused to wear dresses just baggy pants and tshirts, hated the color pink, always wanted to hangout and play with the boys but not once did anyone say that i was actually a boy and im so thankful for that!!
" I'm not a victim, i'm not oppressed. That's a mindset" 💯% correct. Thank you for that
We need more people to spread the same word.
oppression is not a mindset 😂
It has become now😢
Ah, so a rape victim isn’t oppressed, it’s just a mentality
@@DedRucktheDuck but the thing is more recently it actually has. People are walking around like they're these oppressed victims when they're really just getting their s*** called out once in a while while really most people are actually affirming everything that they're doing but it's the few that don't and it's the fact that they're so self-conscious about everything that they don't want to admit and so they hide behind the fact that they are these quote on quote victim minority groups who are oppressed and attacked by everyone that they see.
My mother was a single mother. Fortunately I had my grandfather, a tough as balls old school cop with a heart of gold. Thank god I had him.
One person summed it up best. A lot of kids are raised in single parent homes by moms. Schools and councilor positions are predominantly female, even more so when nuns used to run the schools but they had fathers back then. Toxic masculinity isn't the problem in our youth it is a lack of masculinity.
You're right... toxic masculinity isn't the problem with the youth, as you say ,it's in the older generations...
No, I said a lack of masculinity in our youth is the problem, the older generations had masculinity.
I disagree. I was in a similar position as you, but for me, my grandfather is the reason why I stay in therapy now for all the PTSD caused by him.
I think it is not the lack of a man figure in someone's life but men being too toxic now and the younger generation of women realising that and deciding they do not need a horrible person who disrespect them in their life.
@@sorinamarcu5357 there is always an exception. Like you said already a good person is what we need who is not horrible and disrespectful. We shouldn’t generalize men are toxic. My father was not ideal but I appreciate him doing his best raising me. Im the younger generation woman but fully aware of the lack of masculinity in our society with many single parents. Men are not toxic, that’s absurd to say it. I met tons of amazing and wonderful men. There are definitely toxic ‘people’ in our lives and your case is your father I believe. I had a toxic ppl in my life as well. We all did. I choose to harmonize with men and I do not want to be a toxic person in life to anyone. Men are important and certainly needed just like women are.
My mom wasn't a single mother
This society is so “me me me” it’s horrific. This is where a lot of these issues stem from.
yup selfishness and egotistical weirdos who think theyre entitled to how the rest of the world sees and treats them
Identifying with the ego rather the what we REALLY ARE, who we were before we were born.
Not you of course through 😉
It's been that way since the Baby Boomers.
Right. Every man is the artisan of his own fortune...that is right. But improving others people life really makes you a man.
I was at work and there was a woman that worked in the building pulling a huge container and looked like she was struggling. My male co-worker was closest to her and she had something in her way, I nudged him and said help her. She stopped and said no very forcefully, moved items herself and looked at me and said it's called independence......
I was floored. Yes, I was raised that men should open doors and help when you're trying to carry things, but helping is also just human kindness. It was so weird, what a sad way to live.
Well that's not even about male/female, I'm sure if you were noticeably bigger and stronger than the man you'd have stepped up. But of course men on average are stronger.
it's the result of years having been told 'you can' t do it on your own'
It's much more about proving everyone wrong, than necessarily being offended at help.
It's a process, once you have stopped feeling the need to prove your own choices to yourself, you let go of that.
It has to do with insecurity.
@@lynnm6413 no. It's toxic feminism.
@@annamineer2521 It might be a reaction because of past experiences. It might be a misread of their intention. It might be bad manners. It might be the truth. It might be not wanting to be seen as less competent.
As a Nigerian woman and a tomboy, I have absolutely no problems acknowledging that men are physically stronger and more masculine. I have no issues running to men for help when I need it. It's such a freeing feeling to have someone stronger do some things for me and I'm always happy to express my gratitude with a genuine thank you. Even masculine women can need male energy and help. Its not a crime. Life is actually simple.
The male vulnerability thing is a really interesting idea to me because I feel that a lot of men nowadays are unwilling to be vulnerable because they understand that there are women who will use that vulnerability against them. I dated a girl once who told me I could be open and vulnerable with her and about ten months into our relationship I really opened up to her about my depression and my mental health issues and she broke up with me because I “Needed to work on myself.”. I think that this is a common experience shared by a lot of people though more often than not, specifically men.
It's true. Men who are struggling are not seen as "real men" and given how society was breaking down first, it seems wrong to treat men that way
The thing that frustrates me when they say that men are unwilling to be vulnerable is that I don't believe it to be true. I am a woman and I am an emotional bastard. I will constantly be very vulnerable with my friends and my boyfriend. Not everyone is like that my twin sister is not that way. My boyfriend took time before he was vulnerable with me probably due to issues in the past where that vulnerability was seen as weakness by other people in his life. At the end of the day if someone is not being vulnerable with you it might not be their personality to share all of that or they are just not in a place to trust whoever they are speaking with to be vulnerable. If that makes sense.
@@hermitabby Unfortunately society, including videos like this devalues any man who is emotionally vulnerable. Especially if it hurts their contribution to society or how "passionate" they seem about their career. So showing our vulnerability is the last thing we want to do.
Nice guys are literally stigmatized as nothing but facades for creeps, and being a good person is expected to be baseline (even though it really, REALLY often isn't with successful "driven" men who find relationships and sexual partners) and not a valuable quality in and of itself. Society is terrifying as it currently is.
I think it’s a good way to weed out the wrong women from your life. You should keep being vulnerable because you don’t want to be with someone who won’t accept you in your weakest moments. That means they don’t really love or care about you. There’s nothing wrong with men being vulnerable. There are a LOT of things wrong with women who use it against you. They have the issues. Not you.
@@becca53444 Except that forces us to be alone.
I’m a guy and the thought of a fake man telling me I’m wrong is hilarious 😂
Hey imagine what the women feel like having trannies lecture them about feminist issues.
i was like ok bitch pullup then
There are things you will never know nor understand if you are not born a man. I don't care what you think you are....just like I would never tell a woman about femininity...
Its only in a decadent weak ass society that a woman could "become" a man. Any other time period there would be too many real problems to overcome for that kind of BS to be a thing.
Yeah
“The exception cannot be the rule” that’s an amazing statement
Based
People don’t understand statistics
True😊
The woke crowd loves arguing using exceptions....ie. abortion is always argued for rape victims from the woke...but if you say"ok, raps victims can get abortions...but no others" they aren't happy, bc it's not about rape victims, it's about using them to push their agenda.
The exception cannot be the rule, nor does it invalidate the rule.
If you attempt to change laws every time you have an exception, there would be no laws. Nor would you change the rule of " Students must walk in the hallways" because you have 3 students out of 9000 in wheelchairs. Yet further you would not force the other 8997 students into wheelchairs.
That was a better interaction than 99.9% of twitter interactions between both groups. This is a W honestly
That's face-to-face conversations for ya
@@wonderror9546 yup and also sad that we are only willing listen to each other when there is a chance of getting punched in the face
I actually have a lot of respect for Buck Angel. I don’t always agree with everything he says, but I appreciate that while being Trans himself, he still points out and is open and honest about the very problematic issues with the trans movement as it is today. The honesty with which he is willing to speak makes for very productive conversations.
I wish Buck would have gone further in telling the whole TRUTH on how being a trans person on hormones for the REST OF YOUR LIFE, will eventually and ultimately take it’s toll on your health.
SHE*
@@TheNephilim101It’s possible it was cut out.
I agree. I like Buck and Blaire. They may be trans, but they also acknowledge their biological sex and tho k children need to be left alone.
@@BlueDauntless Totally! I love Buck and Blaire!
I don't know who this girl is but will say this....her parents should be proud! They raised an outstanding girl in a world that's gone completely mad! BIG respects!
Brett Cooper? Yep, she's pretty awesome.
Her parents are divorced too so it was mostly her mom from what I've heard
😅
@@BlitzTheFoxi Why is it that people are so quick to conclude that children are only raised be the divorced mother rather than the fathers? I know a lot of men contending with deadbeat wives through an imbalanced and biased family court system in order to provide for their children through ex-wives who can't even lift their fat asses off the couch for fifteen minutes to a half hour to make a decent meal for their kids even after the men have forked over sufficient alimony AND child support to provide enough for TWO households, let alone one-- just more proof women want their bon bons and their cake and eat them, too, regardless of who has to slave away for them. Often times it's their children who do far more chores than the mother is even willing to do herself! I have nieces and nephews who've done far more chores than their FEM-BOT mothers have ever demonstrated for them!
@Nomoskar Ramin cuz she has a different opinion
We need more men like Officer Tantum who aren't afraid to speak the truth
@NMCC Tutankhamun*
Buy his blasphemous “merch.”😆🥱
LMAO... That dude is a clown... When I saw his reaction to white kids in blackface I realized he's is the embodiment of Uncle Ruckus... He's the type of dude white men call the N word & he smiles & says Thank You sir !!
Agreed
@@floridasoldat *Ambatukum
I really resonate with what you said, Brett, about "not liking feminine traits" when you were younger; I was the same. I was a tomboy, hung out with the guys, and I took pride in that. But as I got older I also realised what femininity brings to the table, that it has a different role in life and I also appreciate men a lot more for what they have to offer. There's such a huge confusion regarding gender roles nowadays and too much focus on "what you should be" vs. "what you are".
I feel like people have simply too much time on their hands and create drama in their life just so they have something going on. And the narcissism. Jesus.
a couple years ago when i was younger i was part of a work program on a farm alot of us who worked there had physical mental or neurological disabilties or varied from baseline the heads of staff were very polite and understanding no matter how severe or mild your differences were but i remember one day some women showed up to buy supplies from the mini shop unstead of our stand at the town market and she coulden't wait to waste our time ranting about how we should be or act and who we should support in terms of movements and politics now im a very non confrontational person confrontation makes my anxiety worse but i was very tempted to tell her to just get the hell out based on the fact she thought she could manipulate those working there who unlike me and a few others aren't as high functioning into voting or supporting the things she wanted it really made my blood boil. its like you said tho people have too much time an too much ego/far to narcististic i saw the same person spreading drama and gossip around the farm aswell i just find it offensive when people try and manipulate people who have the exact skills i do but their just abit slower upstairs and can't express themselfs it's really twisted how much people try and make you be what they think you should be compared to what you are and if you don't conform to their view they try and manipulate you so you do i think the real question is what went wrong with society that causing drama and problems for the sake of it is no longer called out as immoral and just wrong.
This isn’t about not letting people do what they want to do, this is about FORCING IT DOWN OUR THROATS.
define forcing down throats
@@DedRucktheDuck lgbtq members
@@mnng446 didn’t answer my question
how tf is it forced buddy, we just exist
@@slightlysillyartcause they’re pushing it to kids in school… that’s being forced lmao
Fun fact: French has 2 words for what you describe as "masculinity": "masculinité" and "virilité". While "masculinité" relates to the physical/psychological/social characteristics of men, "virilité" is more about VALUES, it's masculinity transcended into an IDEAL. For example, a man may be super masculine, manly and macho, but if he doesn't care for his wife and kids or worse, abandons them, he's not a "viril" man.
Fax
The French are big into the family structure
In my language we call a non-viril man "ehrenlos" which means something like dishonorable
Can I get a phonetic check? I’m not native French
@@Midway2RealityASMR vee ree lee tay
Lately it feels like masculine men are being shamed for being masculine. I've seen it become more and more common to label masculinity as "toxic", but only when men are masculine. When a women is masculine it's "empowering". I just tend to ignore all this noise and focus on myself.
Because masculinity has a lot of toxic traits
this is so true that makes me mad- wokes are a bunch of whiny hypocrites
Ikr?? Bizarre.
Calling masculinity toxic is only to keep men from speaking up or taking charge. It's a fear that we'll take things over.
I always carried myself in a way that makes me proud of myself, if I can live with a decision and the consequences, then that's all that matters... as a man I don't need your approval, I really don't care how u feel about it, and if u have an issue I'll listen to clear and thought out opinions only. I can be abrasive at times, I can be obstinate, I've learned that weeds out the weak and soft minded ppl from my life.
It doesn’t matter who it is. Gay, straight, normal, or trans. If you derive value based of others thoughts and feelings, you won’t get very far.
The minute somebody starts a conversation or topic with "my opinion" or "my definition" I instantly start to take them less seriously unless I get where they're coming from. Cause it's not your thing to define as it has a definition already. People are just calling traditional masculine traits as toxic now.
i didnt want to be trans but the county were I live, you cant just be a g@y person and be respected, I didnt have jobs and I had to start taking hormones and look a little more feminine to just have a few jobs, still dressed as a man but a very feminine one
Yes! Feelings are fleeting and don’t last. They change, if you derive validation from feelings you will never be satisfied!
@@ReginaTrans_ I suspect that has a lot to do with young kids wanting to transition
@@DarkAurora2002 in america g@y people are respected and get normal jobs, still the actual feminine still find it more difficult, and if they dont transition to live a normal g@y life, you are still alone, the only ones you see partnered are the tops and masculine g@ys who basically live heterosexual lives and jobs, the feminine ones barely get past 25 years old, in the past they would get aids and hiv+, now its not only that but a lot of auto immune disease derived from cancer and other new types of illnesses are what kill feminine g@ys, at least before the 1960s they would live long normal lives being fashion designers, artists, etc, thats not the case anymore, we are delicate beings and being transgender is one of the few things that can make us live at least a couple more decades, and being able to transition before puberty is such a plus !!! no voice dropping, jaw develop, masculine bodies, shoulders, beard, face, etc, none of that, so obviously effeminate 12 year olds will want this, did you know since 2010 pre-pubescent kids have been transtioning all over the world??? and with no need of recipes they can just get any hormonal pill like childbirth pills and menopausal stuff, not even that hard, kids who did it since 2010 and who look like women today, did it by themselves, no help from parents or doctors
As a teenager getting ready to turn 18 and go to college soon, this was a breath of fresh air. I don’t think I’ve ever seen healthy debate about this topic ever. So to know that it’s possible just makes me feel more confident in my thoughts and values and that we can come to an understanding about problems like this.
I can't tell you how many times I've been called "cold-hearted" or "unfeeling" because I'm generally stoic. I HATE that, I'm a very empathetic person and have been become even more so as I get older, I simply don't react to everything with an immediate emotional response. Men don't generally wear their emotions, or their pain, on their sleeves, but that doesn't make us toxic. I view that as part of being a strong man. I believe men are meant to be the "rock" for our families and friends. That's where stoicism is valuable and necessary, and anything but toxic. IMO
I recently discovered stoicism, and I agree with you. It's helped me massively. Yet I feel sad every time someone says its toxic. I think most people haven't taken the time to truly understand it
This is exactly my feeling and I'm a woman. I've been called names,people are scared or think I'm too serious to be a woman. Like I'm a freak. I have feelings, I just don't have these peaks of emotions. I don't even understand that
I'm a woman - born as such - and I get called "cold-hearted" because I'm also stoic. While my parents divorced when I was young and I was then raised by my mom, I didn't grow up with sisters in the house, it was my brothers and their friends. I've seen my brothers cry and be sad and be super excited and be angry, etc. I never looked at men and thought "wow these people are toxic and they need to be more emotional." I'm grateful for my brothers because I think how they approached struggles in turn led me to habitually approach struggles the same way. I always related to boys more, I didn't like dresses that much, I had Barbies but I would rather read than anything. I just don't see the point in freaking out when you could instead figure out how to solve the problem or take a break from the chaos. For a time, my mom had me convinced that men were all the same, and that may be true to a degree, just like women are pretty much all the same. But being able to look at things from the bigger picture makes you realize NOTHING in this world would have ever been accomplished (houses, school, hunting and butchering so people could eat, farming, defending the family or the country from an immediate enemy, chopping down trees, you name it) if men had acted on their emotions and just sat and cried about it. There would be no USA because every pioneer would have died when they realized there were no houses and wells already built, humans would have gone extinct because either cavemen would have starved or got eaten. Some other species would have evolved in place of humans.
Well said!
Yes! And this is the perfect balance for most women because we can be so reactive and emotional
I (14, female) went through a trans phase last year and really am glad that I had the realisation that I'm not but a lot of my friends still use the they/them pronouns for me often and and they are also identifying as genderfluid and non binary and I think that is a real problem cause when I went through that phase I thought I was happy with my short hair and baggy t shirts and changing my birth name (my birth name is Tayla btw 😊 and I tried changing it to alex) but really it was just me trying to convince myself that I had to be like everyone else. What was also funny was that when I told my friends that I was non binary they immediately accepted me but when I told them I was detransitioning they were hesitant to accept me. The world is flipped up but oh well ( Just another edit I am now very much straight and into guys )
Good on you for realizing, its a shame what all is going on in school nowadays, i was class of 2019, and if i was going to school now, i feel like i would be a much different person.
@@lordparrthurnax5502 did you kill delphine
I have a lot of students in the same boat. I'm glad you realized the truth.
I'm also 14, female, and I had a friend who said she was a trans man back when we were 11 years old. I just couldn't understand it. Why do people care so much about their gender? She also complained about her mom for not supporting her and said she was abusive etc. This was 3 years ago, when lgbtq content was at its peak. Everyone on the internet was identifying as something other than cis or straight. She obviously got influenced by these trends going around on social media and wanted to fit in. She had "gender dysphoria" for a couple of months. She kept saying stuff like "Idk, I feel like a girl but I feel like a boy", etc. I was always so confused on since when did genders become feelings? Genders are just...genders. I actually don't get why people are delusional. You either have this reproduction system or the other one. Masculine and feminine are mere styles. You can look masculine, which is stereotypically a male style, or vice versa. Anyway, I cut her off eventually because she kept acting like a spoiled brat. I was in my gacha phase back then and they made fun of it and hated on me. Then when I told her that she was being disrespectful to her mom, she just continued to act spoiled. They can hate on me for my interests but I can't criticize her thought process. Yes, this world is truly fricked up.
Good for you girl! Stay resilient and stay true to yourself ❤️ I'm proud of you
I am a woman and I feel enpowered by having a husband who loves me for 23 years. We work together do what is best for our family.
What a blessing♥️♥️
This was an actual productive debate and it was so refreshing. Both sides were actively listening and responding. No matter which side you more relate to, it felt like you were actually getting to watch things be thought out rationally.
Brandon Tatum came to speak at my University, and the student government tried to block it from happening, but the admin team had to step in and force the student government to allow it because their denial was based on politics instead of costing too much.
This comment makes me proud of not getting into an American university. I don't think I can stand such toxic students near me.
@@pieseldatches Our university was totally fine with anti-abortion media etc around campus. Some American universities don't focus entirely on the left :)
@@pieseldatches my university didn’t focus entirely on left either. But I agree though they are the loudest and annoying.
Did you go see him talk? How was it? I’ve never heard of him but his views are quite interesting.
This was a productive conversation I think. This shows people you can have a conversation without yelling over each other.
Unlike women's panels 🤣🤣 (and I am female)
@@homesteadgamer1257 did they pick you yet or are you a 4chan incel pretending to be a woman?
@homesteadgamer1257 From what I've seen the Trans women are the ones that are aggressive on the women's panels.
@@MsDani171 I haven't seen aggression (meaning trying to physically fight) on those panels, I'm pretty sure they heavily regulate that. I was talking about hysteria.
Pretty manly. No need for shouting. Only calm, direct communication
"'validation' is not the same as 'love and care'".... ugh... I broke down when she said this...
I really like this point that you made: "Validation and love are not synonymous". That is so true. We can love someone without agreeing with their decisions.
I appreciate that Brett sees beyond the mere physical portion of masculinity. Since the dawn of time there have been men who are sensitive, enjoy reading, studying, learning the arts (some of our best art through history was done by men) It is our values, comitment, integrity, honesty, compassion and love that defines us, As one of these less traditionally masculine men I appreciate this take.
thats why we love taking care of men
Why do you think you're less masculine?
The funny thing is for a long time reading, studying and arts were also associated with masculinity. Although it's a lie that women were universaly forbidden and didn't do these things, it was a typically masculine thing.
@@LudmilaT. women built the world, they created computers but scientists hate to admit it and men take the credit
@@LudmilaT. Absolutely. Most people don't realize how things really were outside the last couple decades.
What grinds my gears is when trans people have the right to sit and "define" what it is to be a man when they know next to none of it. And when they say "I just feel like a man".... How do you feel something if you haven't been it or know how it feels?
Or to say that the definition of masculinity is changing. Masculinity is an inherent energetic force that women can never replicate no matter how much testosterone they take.
Too add insult to injury, they transition and go shoot up schools because they think being a man = being violent and toxic.
You can ""redefine" a turd to be a rose - will not change the SMELL though. 😏
"Women don't need men"...
...says the woman who became a man. 😄
Yes it was always a bless that men tell women what a real women is what a good women is how women have to behave where there place is. Thanks for the sexism
"Validation is not the same as love and care" 👏👏👏
Even though I personally do not agree with a minimal amount of Brett's views/opinions I find her so inspiring she actually inspired me to start working on myself mentally and physically and overall healthier. Thank you Brett❤
All of this gender blurring happens only in a society so rich it gives people the opportunity to do it. In poor countries,people are more concerned with eating.
Exactly. Darwinism disappearing from technologically advanced societies leads to a massive drop in intelligence and even decency
Hey, look, this floor is made of floor.
@@variaxi935 We’re about to find out that it hasn’t in fact disappeared, just been delayed.
Remember when we used to say "first world problems" i.e "this thing I'm complaining about isn't that big a deal!"
Yep, luxury beliefs…
My hats off to those men who got on this panel. I could not have sat there and be told about masculinity by a woman.
Trans men*
@@ayoidek6571 In other words, women.
@@ayoidek6571 So women? Ok
@@ayoidek6571 Women pretending to be men.
@@ayoidek6571 women pretending to be men
Tatum and buck angel in the same debate. 😮 Both are awesome to watch.
Anecdotally I don’t think I’ve ever heard other guys talk about needing to feel validated, at least not in my circle of friends. Most of us have to develop our skills through hard work and that sense of accomplishment is what helps us give ourselves that sense of self worth and value. The only people I ever hear talk about validation are the women in my life and it is almost exclusively me validating what how they feel (sometimes) or them validating each other. Genuinely I think a man is someone who doesn’t freak out when things go south, knows when to be kind and when to be tough. A man should be looking to be a stabilizing force for those around him and for those he loves. Also great reaction Brett! Been meaning to watch this one and it did not disappoint. Have a great day everyone!
My cousin was the biggest Tom boy I’ve ever met and for years and years. Came out as a lesbian in her teens. And now she is 28 still tomboyish but more feminine with 2 children and a man. People go through phases. No child should transition.
Agreed. No CHILD even knows what trans REALLY is, even teens, it may feel true, it may feel fight, but it’s like asking someone to have their 12 yr old crush for life, and that’s it. Or favorite movie or outfit FOREVER and they can NEVER change their mind. They Will ABSOLUTELY change their mind just like we did. As a adult do your thing.
These adults are forcing them to stay in a box that felt correct at the time..
But part of why personal anecdotal arguments don’t work and have largely failed in this arena is people can also point to Trans people that say they’re happy.
The argument for this crowd needs to shift to science and the development of the brain and some of the irreversible traits of surgeries.
@@joebriggs5781 sure.. they’re Happy but threaten suicide anytime someone does not agree with them, or affirm them. That is NOT happy.
And one person is not The Norm with this bunch.
They do not know or accept themselves as they truly are. They played God and it failed.
@@Mrs.CGraves I’m literally still a trans man and felt the gender dysphoria kicking in at full throttle when I was 10 years old
@@あきら-v7h I feel so sorry for your experience. If you got proper mental health care and become others focused you will find more joy and stability in your life. Pretending to be someone else didn’t change anything in fact it will harm your future. You may not feel it today but you will.
Do more for others. Think of how you can improve every person’s you see life in some way everyday. Eventually your world will become giver than just you.
I’ll pray for you
My sisters husband is a transgender female. He has depression and is bipolar. After taking estrogen these issues which previously were extremely mild are now incredibly problematic.
So sorry to hear that. Hope they seek help
This is what happens when a girl tries to live like a boy and a boy tries to live like a girl.
I know someone same thing but has 2 girls that want their dad back not this thing he has turned into sad
I'm curious how many trans people are that way due to a slight hormonal imbalance mixed with depression.
Imagine if a woman who thinks she's a man just adjusts her hormone levels more towards female levels and then she stops thinking she's a man.
A husband is a man. If he wears dresses he is a cross dressing man. If he thinks he is a woman he is mentally ill. Its called gender disphoria and its not a personality. Its a disease.
If showing your emotions by crying is seen as weakness z surely showing your emotions by getting angry or losing your temper should also be seen as weakness...
it is a weakness
Showing emotion isn't the issue, having no control over it is. A man crying is repulsive outside of certain situations, a man losing his temper is pathetic but if he displays anger at the right moment it can be very impactful.
that IS also considered weakness. fool...
a man who is not in control of his emotions is weak. aggression is only useful and a virtue if it can be used in a controlled way. and only used to protect
Definitely
"The exception cannot be the rule" is a phrase a lot of people need to hear and accept.
One of the greatest lessons my parents taught me was that my worth came from being a bearer of God’s image. That no one’s opinion of me could take away the value God put into me and my life when I was created. So I was needlessly bullied in middle and high school, and it did affect me, but I always had that firm foundation that kept my feet planted.
Praise God Sister!!!
Or Brother!!
Yes!
Stoicism allows men to act when needed, to do the hard things. My dad was stoic for most of his life, as was my father in law. Yet when we announced our first child was on the way, it was both of our dads who teared up, not our moms. They showed appropriate tenderness. But this does remind me of one thing. Women need to use their unique strength during childbirth. Calmness in spite of pain wins the day!
That’s a beautiful distinction. Great point!
they probably teared up because they knew they'd be pullin double shifts. thats enough to wet any eyes
@@jaymantisgaming lmao why you spoiling the moment
@@jaymantisgaming haha! No, we lived 300 miles away, so the chances for baby sitting were few and far between!
Growing up without a father, I essentially had to figure out on my own how to be a man. As a kid, I thought being tougher than other boys made me more masculine, so I was a mean bastard child who was fighting a lot. I always pushed to be more athletic, etc.. However, as I got older, I realized it's not these things that define what being a man is. I have come to the understanding that being a man is being able to provide, protect, be strong (mainly emotionally), and to be truly deserving of respect. Is manliness a social construct? I don't think it is, because we are naturally inclined to be this way - which is why society is this way.
One thing out the many things I love about Brett is that she’s not only telling young men about masculinity and how they should treat people, the world, and the future women that they will be taking care of but also telling the young women (like me) that watch her what they should look for in a man and what they deserve and how they deserve to be treated by their partners.
Why was everything you said only about how men should take care of their women? And what women should look for in men? Don't women have responsibilities too?
I think it's so funny that Brett had to say "of course I had friends" when talking about being homeschooled. Because everyone thinks homeschoolers are isolated😂 HOMESCHOOLERS UNITE!
Homeschooled kid here ✊
My husband grew up homeschooled and has lifelong friends that’s are super close. I went to public school I had tons of light friendships and don’t talk to any of them anymore
Yea they are alone
@@Alibadbad actually I managed to talk with the local school to participate in after school activities
@@neohelios4776 yea like 3 of them.
Where in regular schools, you will have 90 friends at least.
I adore Buck. As a older person. He literally helps me understand. Him and Blair white are my two favorite trans people to watch because they are against the trans agenda as far as children under 18 getting all the things that we see or talk about.
I honestly don't care if anyone is trans I care about the children.
This is a great debate.
Keep up the wonderful work Brett.
I know 18 is what some people say but it shouldn’t even be 18. They say the brain doesn’t stop forming till mid 20s. It’s too bad it can’t be that. Even kids allowed to sign up to be in military at 18 is crazy. They’re just fodder after all and easily manipulated into joining for various reasons.
I adore him aswell, i saw 2 people transition the father of my former best friend, and one of my friends. They are against the bs agenda aswell. They just wanted acceptance (not talking about the leftist bs acceptance).
Just about that transitioning is viewed as a taboo and such.
Both and also buck knows they never can be the "real deal" asin a biologically born men, and they just accept that they can live like them, and look like them etc.
The people that i know that transitioned were diagnosed with gender dysphoria, and in order to change their gender to a man on thier identity cards etc they had to talk to a psychologist and such.
I would agree if you really feel like the other sex and have gender dysphoria then sure u can change ur gender. Let them have that.
But not like today i identify as a man and tomorrow as a women. It has to be a well thought out thing.
Socially sure, there needs to be acceptance, i feel like thats thier only issue that it still is "taboo".
plus blair and buck both had actual gender dysphoria. and they stress how rare that actually is.
*she *her
@@365ral Its a he, he acts/looks etc like a man. If u didnt know he was trans u woudve thougt its a man. And he even agrees with some conservative agenda. And he even says he has gender dysphoria wich is a biological condition! Why do i feel some taboo here?
All those not woke trans ppl want is acceptance. Thats thier only issue, and no im not talking about the woke left trans ppl.
A masculine man, is a vulnerable man at the right moments. I show my vulnerability to those who i am supposed to, a.k.a my wife. My wife understands my feelings and short comings, and i understand her's, which is how it is supposed to be. Be a man. Take care if your family, stay and raise your children, and work hard to lead and show them the way
Vulnerability for men is showing it to those you trust who don’t see it as a weakness, but as a way to strengthen each other. Never saw my dad cry until his father passed, that was when I knew it was something that is truly impactful, it reminded me of how much my father must have on his shoulder and how strong he is to keep the family cared for without cracking a bit.
You can ""redefine" a turd to be a rose - will not change the SMELL though.
@@chazzitz-wh4ly Very true!
Very true, Spencer.
"Women don't need men"...
...says the woman who became a man. 😄
Coming from a 33 years old male with autism. Gender dysphoria is very real and I'm glad I had the strength and insight to do the research which helped me deal with the dysphoria instead of listening to a whole slew of medical professionals telling me I should transition (age 16 - 22).
I was months from getting on hormone blockers etc when I one day just said, no. I wanted to get mentally healthy (depression etc) before I did a MAJOR MEDICAL decision in my life. As the depression slowly got better I also realized that the dysphoria just went away...
Most people want to deny that its a mental health issue at all. They just wanna push this idea that gender is a social construct while absolute monsters in my mind sh*t on real trans people whove suffered
Im autistic as well Im sorry you were taken advantage of and put on GnHR meds. Due to our alexithymia we have much difficulties identifying and interpreting our own feelings. Much love brother❤
Totally relate to what you said about thinking femininity was weak when I was younger, but learning to embrace my softer more feminine traits has been the best change in my life.
I love just looking at the physicality of the group when the bio men are on one side and the transmen on the other - you can clearly see the difference in size and build.
Yeah, but that big black "dude" I can't imagine "him" being a woman. had me fooled!
But if you saw any of the trans men on the street you probably wouldn't think they are really women. So what exactly is your point?
@@dr-ozone The original poster Tanya said "you can clearly see the difference in size and build." Not in the case of the person I mentioned.
@@dr-ozone id think the one who said 'we are all men' is a woman. shes literally a stereotypical trans
@@dr-ozone the point is literally stated in the last line.
"You can clearly see the difference in size and build"
Did you even think before you asked your question? Common sense tells me, no.
“Men are empowered by women needing them.”
No, men are empowered by having a sense of purpose. Men are empowered by feeling useful to the people that love them. The mind and the body and the spirit are intertwined this way.
The male spirit seeks to put purpose into action and to be useful to the people he loves, so the male body reflects that by being strong and the male mind reflects that by being steadfast and stoic.
Women still need men for absolutely everything, though. The vast majority of every truly essential industry is male. Fire, water, police, transportation, construction, engineering, medical specializations, manufacturing, food production. They just get to pretend they do it themselves, now.
Even all of my uncles that don't have partners or children are extremely family oriented and are always being really reliable for each other and other family members, and for their close friends
This. You hit the bullseye, it's not about men taking the charge and overpowering the women. It's about men looking after the family and acting as a shield against everything that society throws at them.
Plus, men can't cope with 'needy' females.
When I was younger I was most definitely a tomboy. I always dressed in baggy clothes and I was a lot more masculine than the other girls. I was really and still am self conscious in my body as a girl but as I got older I have grown to like more girly stuff.
Same with me
Honestly Brett is a very big role model for me I love her videos so much and they have made me feel so much better about myself I was also home schooled and when I went out with my friends they would make me feel weird for not being apart of the lgbtq+ community and I’m only a teen so thank you so much for making these videos ❤️😊
I’m so glad I have a mom that is very similar to you in many ways.
Happy to hear that you have a good mother and consider Brett a role model. Couldn't wish for better. And never feel pressured to join this LTbgq+IA community today. And puberty/teenage is difficult for everyone. The body changes, the mind changes, etc. Keep a good relationship with your mother and listen to her and talk about things if things get difficult in life. I hope all the best for you
@@railasvuooh god there's a plus and an IA after it now?
America is fucked up as a society
@@Steve-xb7dn It's easier to just say alphabet mafia
I actually really like Buck. Buck is someone who helped me understand transgender people and Buck actually agrees with some of Republican standing points. I also love Officer Tantum.
Conservative ideologies are more in line with reality and actual truthful facts in comparison to majority of liberal ideologies.
I love buck!! He has head head screwed on right!
Yeah I saw him on a video(never heard of bucks or Blair for that matter, all these people actually lol daily wire and all until this past month) with a trans woman named Blair and both have many conservative views.
Yes Buck is so great!!
I was going to say the same thing I really like buck!
when I was growing up in the 90s, the general mindset amongst us kids was "I'm gonna be myself in whatever way I want and if others don't like it they can kick rocks". We heavily rejected labels of any kind. I constantly wonder now, when and why did we flip the script so hard? Punk really is dead 😓
90’s kid here too, and same. Even had a classmate who would be considered “ female to male trans” these days, but nobody stuck labels on her back then, she was just being herself and we all went about our days. She’s exactly the same today, doesn’t use he/him pronouns, hasn’t started taking hormones, she’s just a masculine gay woman.
I grew up in the 2000s and I remember all this as well. It’s so weird. But I also remember seeing the transition into scene/emo stuff and some took it too serious and thought they had to be depressed(they seemed attention) to be an official cool emo boy or girl smh they felt so proud to have all these scars on their wrists.
@@triggeredlatina I remember that as well. I turned 18 in 2003 and I was on tumblr A LOT at that time. I remember noticing when, if you were just a "regular" person you'd get a lot of hate on tumblr. I can't believe how fast all of this has progressed
I was also a tomboy when I was younger, but I thought that being feminine at all was weakness. And that if I was feminine I would be deemed a “pick-me” or something like that. But I realize now that it is okay to be feminine and I’ve embraced that I can be a bit tomboy AND be feminine. It doesn’t need to be two separate things. I’m at a place now where I’m comfortable with the way I dress and look, but I always look for ways that I can improve without shaming myself.
My wife is the most traditional woman I know. Conservative, catholic, wants to be a housewife when we can afford it. She has done an amazing job mixing the feminine and "Tom boy". The day I fell in love with her I watcher her elbows deep helping me gut the deer we hit in a pencil skirt and stilletos. You can do both, and be a true trad woman while doing it without being a pick me.
"women debate men on masculinity"
We have come to these times
Its crazy to me how Andrew Tate is the most logical man on the Internet, and he openly says he would slap a bitch 🤣
Well men like to tell women about what is a woman with as much authority.
Trans men*
@@FemFantastic2.0 men don't tell women what women are because we're all too scared to get red haired bitches screaming at us for the rest of our lives 🤣
Good point that Brett made about the balance of stoicism and vulnerability. My husband is a manly man, and extremely stoic, which really helps me in a lot of situations. Yet he opens up to me and is kind and warm and never harsh. When we were first together, we'd talk for hours, we still do, he said that it's all new to him because he's never had anyone to talk to in this way. Perhaps that's it, men don't want to open up to any woman because let's face it, she'll most likely use it against him one day after a nasty break up.
A man only chooses to become vulnerable to those they trust and to those whom they can learn from. A woman who can understand and tend to his emotional needs is important and in turn he will care for and sacrifice so much for her. I like to keep in mind that behind every strong woman is a strong woman.
The most freeing thing is to acknowledge that not everyone will like you or you can’t please everybody. This is amazing ❤
I feel like this video is a wake up call for me. I felt like nobody wanted me to be masculine anymore so I just gave up on it. I really need to work on myself more.
I think theres a kind of "great leveling" happening. Where being on either side of something, like masculine or feminine, is seen as a harmful extreme that must be brought down to the middle somewhere. We're neutralizing everything we can. Its like a gardener walking down the street, trimming the hedges to a certain height, then decides to cut the trees down to that same height and allow the weeds to grow up to that height.
This needs....WAAAAY more likes. Its like the best Analogy I've EVER seen😭👏👏👏👏
Tbh however, I'll add that I think this is happening cause humans tend to have no concept of "balance". The "neutralizing" isn't even neutral because its just the opposite extreme. Too much to Too little, because people don't want to be left out of a group or category.
Rather than meeting in the middle and understanding that feminine and masculine traits each have their own spectrum because people are individuals at the end of the day. Meaning that you are NOT gonna completely meld with anyone or anything because you exact situation is unique to you
So in layman's terms...people just need to pearn to come to terms with their own existence and realise its unique to them and that they don't NEED to fit in with any extreme of the spectrum. Just be themselves whoever that may be🤷♂️
Small personal story for you guys (probably gonna rant beyond a "small" story). I was working at a coffee shop for some time and one of my co workers and I were closing. I don't remember how the conversation started, but she ended up telling me that she thought I was intimidating and I didn't like her when we first met. When I asked her why, she fumbled about a few different ideas. How I am very direct and to the point, objectively driven, my serious RBF, then she said something. You are probably the most masculine guy I know. I felt bad for her. While I am secure in my own masculinity, I do not view myself as a very masculine guy. While my behavior and the way I carry myself is very masculine, my hobbies and interests are very feminine. I paint, sew, cook, dance, read poetry and a handful of other things. I have friends who will come to me and ask me to go clothes shopping with them and I simply say, "I got you, girl," and we go to the mall and have a good time while I help them find some new clothes (sometimes I will even make them new clothes if they want something specific that they want that isn't normally sold on the shelf). I even have have been asked to supervise dates from afar or do a vibe check on a guy they are interested in. So when she told me that I am probably the most masculine guy she knows, it warmed my heart but I felt bad because that told me she does not have a strong man in her life to take care of her, protect her, etc. It just makes me sad and it probably explains why a lot of my friends are women; not just because our interests align, but because I do provide them with the support and protection the desire from a man.
The thing is, you're shamed for being masculine and women are shamed for wanting security which is basic femininity. They expect us to fight our way through danger against someone twice our size. This world is just fcked up. Btw your hobbies are lovely and they don't make u any less masculine.
It's awesome that you like those things and are capable to execute them well. I'd love to sew, but I'm horrible and I feel for my husband, cause if a button is off, I don't know where to begin with. 😅😅
But, yeah, I really got what is "the most masculine man I ever knew" thought, cause, even though I grew up with a father at home, he was horrible with my mom and I couldn't see for many years how man could be good. So I met my husband and my perspectives of what a good man and what masculinity are really are good and not arrogant or destructive.
Even though I am a Christian and I grew up with that value, I couldn't see the truth of in my own home. Learn that God is good and that are men who are good where very hard and a long process.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. ❤️❤️
Hey Brett. You should watch Transitioners VS Detransitioners. It was a good conversation between them.
I second this!
Correct I would love to see that!
"Women don't need men"...
...says the woman who became a man. 😄
@@RCLIM-yx8gv Easy for her to say that so easily, because she'll get special treatment regardless of their real or fake gender...
Crying in front of people is not vulnerability, it is a sign of strength in the right moments. If someone you love dies, thats a time to be emotional and even cry. Crying because someone said something mean to you is not one of those instances. Being emotionally healthy is a great thing.
I don't live in America, I'm in Ireland but to see what's going on is really scary cause I'm seeing it bleed over here and as a mother to a boy and a girl I am terrified of what this world is going to do to my children
You should not be worried if your child does not feel fit with their gender. What you should be more worried about are actual problems, such as genocide, discrimination, war, etc. trans people are not going to end the world. We all have faced much more terrible things
@@ysrr4259 what you clearly don't understand is those who are promoting child mutilation, adult entertainers interacting with with children and female spaces being taken away are all avenue's to harm children and make it seem normal and "ok". Just to be clear I'm not talking about trans people who are just getting on with life
It’s honestly a real concern to have though nobody want their child to have to deal with this it’s honestly sad
@@ysrr4259 who is we all? and when was the last time YOU singed up to join ANY war? and why would i want my child to think its the wrong gender? Also there are millions of things i could do for my kid but I have very little control over what happens in wars XD
its already been there for a while. have you heard of barbie kardashian or mermaids the trans organization?
Middle child of 3 here. I grew up feeling like the 3rd wheel, an add on, and often chose as last. My mom and sister were, and are to this day, close; my dad and my brother were and are close. I thought I had to fight to get my parents' attention growing up. That thought lead me to do some dark stuff as a teenager because I wasn't feeling the love and validation from my parents. It got so dark that I almost took my life in my sophomore year. I did one last reach out praying someone would hear me, and God did. My parents, through a good friend, became aware of my intention and took me to the hospital. I was admitted into a stress center and placed on medication. It helped. I still have scars on my arms from my actions, and my relationship with my parents is still rocky. It's better, but through my whole life I was told and came to believe that my validation doesn't need to come from another human when it was God who created me. If it's validation, love, support, a shoulder to cry on, it is Him who I'm turning to because He will never leave me. I don't agree that validation should be sought out by other humans, merely because they will let you down or disappoint you.
I hope you’re doing better and also hope things get better with you and your parents. That scenario is something I’ve seen made fun of a lot in shows and movies when I was little. Dysfunction with a child where there are 3 kids in the family. I’ve know people who also felt the same and it perhaps wasn’t taken serious by society but most importantly as a parent. I know this is NOT the same thing but I’ve had many pets over my lifetime and it stressed me out but I made it a big deal to treat them equally and not show favoritism(idk if they noticed anyways lol) but I didn’t have it in my heart to treat other pets less and so on. For me this would carry on over with kids. I mean I don’t like kids like but let’s say I had 3 kids, I would be so conscious about always making them each feel loved. Equally. Not more or less than the others.
So you're kinda like Alex from Modern family irl😕
Beautifully said! This needs to be said to everyone.
My sister felt the same way and the reality was she was the "favored" and everyone saw it not just me and my brother. Friends of the family and our relatives all knew my sister was the obvious favorite but my sister just couldn't see the reality of it so she still "whines" thirty years later.
Case and point my sister could break any rule and my mom would in a heartbeat say this same mantra to my father: "Well she's not the youngest or the oldest and she's the only girl" and like magic she got away with everything and got what she wanted. They spent way more time with her and on her. Often times, most the time, the reality is people just don't see reality because they are stuck on themselves.
Middle Child Syndrome is real
21:54 - Buck is the first person to argue against "the death of the tomboy" though! I'm assuming you haven't seen him speak before (you should check him out). But he definitely doesn't think that being a tomboy means a girl should transition, and I'm pretty sure he has discussed ROGD and is critical about the rise of FtM transition in young girls quite a bit, which is really interesting from his perspective!!!
Yes, I love Buck! He strongly discourages people from transitioning, saying how his transition was painful, how he genuinely feels his gender identity was a mental illness and the only cure was to fully transition. He wants people to be a hundred percent informed and self-aware before taking potentially irreversible steps forward in transitioning.
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@@jenniferljubicich6113 What?
She
Reminds me of a recent incident at my bank. I held the door for a young lady and she literally snarled at me, "fuck off you old bastard, I can do that for myself." So I let the door go and very quickly learned that "Fine, careful it doesn't slap you in the ass." was probably not the most accepted reply. LMAO though.
I love a gentleman. It's swoon worthy.
My parents taught me respect, part of that is holding the dot for anyone that is coming in/out right after you. It’s you putting another above yourself; I may have gotten to the door moments before another, but I will gladly hold the door for those who are right behind me.
Geez Louise
Since when can't you be polite?!
Don’t let that affect you. We have met plenty of scumbag men and I definitely don’t view all men as scumbag because of a few idiots. Holding doors for others is simply decent behavior. I hold doors for people all the time as a woman
I'm a straight dude, and my family never affirmed the majority of the shit that I experienced, whether it be bullying, addressing being morbidly obese, or a single emotion. The Trans man who's aggressively saying that you have to have that couldn't be anymore ignorant and incorrect if they tried. As an adult, I took responsbility for what shortcomings my family had. I decided for myself that I like who I am and I'd take control of my weight. As an adult I learned to handle my emotions, how to fix things, how to change a tire, etc. We have quite literally hundreds of videos to access from people all over the world to learn from...You have no excuse on this whole narrative of "Where am I supposed to go to get support". Girl, you go to the internet. You learn. You read a book by someone on the topic you struggle with. Take control of your life, buddy....Seriously.
They claim to be Men, but still have the biological traits of a woman. So they are more emotional. Not getting validation is heartbreaking for most women. For most Men, it's really not that big of a deal. They can sit their and hide behind their manly blanket. Deep down inside biologically and emotionally. They are still women. I swear we have bigger shit to be worried about than this childish bullshit. Gender disphoria is a problem.
For me personally, one of the most attractive and masculine things a man could do, is to not be scared to cry. For men to show emotions and cry is stigmatized for some reason, and its not their fault to be scared of looking "weak" because of that. However, because it is considered a "weak" trait, accepting your emotions and not being scared of what society might think, makes you brave and attractive.
There is definetly nothing wrong with a man showing emotion, but there is a time and place for everything, for both genders. For example showing emotion to your loved ones is perfectly fine, but bursting out crying in public over small reasons is inappropriate for both men and women, and means you are emotionally unintelligent.
@@theduckytaco7602 of course crying for small things like a spoiled person is just embarrassing and immature. But I mean crying in general. For example my boyfriend grew up with his parents telling him "don't cry, you're a man" so now he's even ashamed to cry about his grandpa's health issues... I always support him and it breaks me to see what he and other men have to go through, just because for society, a man crying is not a real man...
It's not OK for men to cry though.
Men need to be resilient in order to fulfill the most masculine role, which is to serve others.
Peak masculinity is having ones self under complete control and utilize that discipline to improve the lives of those they love and those who simply need help.
This does not mean that crying is inherently immoral per say, but that it should not be encouraged but rather controlled just like the emotions from which it stems.
I'm saying this having cried behind closed doors when my daughter died, it was incredibly difficult to not cry when I watched her casket be lowered into the ground, however I want and need to be there for my son and wife who are also suffering.
Men most often derive their value from their ability to do great things, specifically for others, not just to lift the most, but to lift for a purpose.
Men and women both have the same major trials, to overcome ourselves for the sake of ourselves and those we love. To deal with whatever baggage we have in order to love fully and deeply.
@@Okunniger_Volker i understand what you say and I'm really sorry for your loss. But saying "it's not okay for men to cry" is almost the same as saying "I don't see men as human beings". I'm not saying that no one should control their emotions, but it depends on the circumstances. Not crying is not human. A properly functioning human brain feels emotions, and if they're too strong it causes a physical reaction to relieve the stress. So it's not a shame to cry, even in front of those we love. It's just being human.
@Rainy_Maeve I agree with your general sentiment but at the same time it is a given that all men will cry, there's simply no way around it.
But we shouldn't either encourage it, I would say it is a slightly nuance topic because while I will say it is not OK to cry, I understand that it is the inevitable.
It shouldn't be "bottled up" but instead worked through in order to find healing and a way out of that place in order to be strong for those who you love, which is the primary source of a man's value, his ability to help those he loves. Of course he needs to be in a position to do this especially on a mental and emotional level, and in order to be on that level he must properly deal with his emotions, crying is inevitable, not shameful per say, but also shouldn't be encouraged but instead should be controlled and worked through in a healthy way, of which crying is not a way to deal with those things, but simply a expression.
Crying dosent heal or help a man, it dosent solve his problems or bring him peace and most often it brings the opposite, so he needs to find a way through those feelings and a way to find peace before he has those outbursts. I hope that clarifies what I mean.
I love Buck because he has commonsense and cares about the children. I love his channel
I had no idea Buck was a huge trans “corn” star. Which is interesting when you do a deep dive on how connected that is to the… phenomenon… of young people’s sudden obsession with “transing.”
Love to see more of my LBG Conservative Community in these videos and standing up!
Yes! I’m so happy that more and more LGB conservatives are standing up against this nonsense. I’ve been wanting the LGB to be separated from the T for so long, and it’s finally happening! Hopefully, more and more gay people realize that monsters are living amongst them, and start to distance themselves from the T community.
👏🏻 👏🏻
I agree
I'm a gay man from Egypt and from a foreigner's point of view of America it always seemed that the republicans are just completely homophobic ( in the past that was true but not now in the present ) and the left is just freeing and liberating everyone...little did i know that republicans ( now ) just have common sense and that there are people like me who are conservative and gay at the same time ( conservative in America because here in Egypt conservative means stoning gays to death )...i really love seeing that i'm not alone who is against this ( born in the wrong body ) notion let alone indoctrinating kids about it...LGB with out the TQ+ !!!
@@hazemkhaled4248 you have it 100% correct my friend. Stay safe ❤️ praying for your safety and freedom to expression and love.
I’m so honored that my question on all access was brought up in a video! Thanks for all you do!! Keep up the great work!!
I love Officer Tatum! I also grew up as a tomboy, but I also had my girly moments. My parents let me be whoever, let me pick what I wanted to wear, etc. If I were a child today, my parents would be told that I would have to be "affirmed" as a boy, even though I never saw myself as a boy.
I agree also with your later point - the most freeing thing I learned is that what other people think about me is none of my business. My self worth comes from within, from MYSELF, otherwise it would be called something else.
22:09 my sister was a Tomboy growing up.. she’s a year younger than me and did all the things I did.. played baseball, football, basketball, wrestling, and just hung around me constantly doing what my friends and I did.. but she never thought she was a dude.. she just liked and still does like all of the traditionally masculine things but now she is married with a 5 year old boy..
She’s a bit more feminine acting as she’s gotten older but she still isn’t like a traditionally feminine woman..
I feel like if this stuff was going on when we were younger she probably would’ve been infected with this social contagion and ended up having a really bad life or even ending herself.. so I’m extremely grateful that this wasn’t going on back then..
The wording on this comment made my head explode it sounds like you said to me your sister married a five year old 😂
The world has gone INSANE.
wasn't that always the case through history
Buck is actually super smart and very good at getting his points across effectively. He covers a lot of de transitioners on his channel, it’s great.
Buck is a woman cosplaying as a man… she can be super smart, kind etc, but she is still a woman..
Yes! I totally agree on what you said about masculine features!
My husband is only 5’7. He has a beard but that’s the only thing physically masculine about him lol
BUT he is a manly man! He can fix cars, fix things around the house, he is the hardest worker I know! His boss’ love him cause he’s so dependable and hard working. The most important thing in his life is his family and providing for us. I can go on and on. I am so honored to be his wife 😊❤
Brett acts with such wisdom and authority I forget how young she is for a while, then I get a good chuckle when she mixes things up like "mute point."
I love this! I also really relate to what you said about being a more “masculine” woman. Growing up, most of my close friends were men or other masculine women. As I grew older, I saw the value in embracing my softer, more “feminine” qualities and allowing men to pursue their traditional roles as it involved me. Thank God I learned this before I met my husband!
As a woman, I'm forced to be in my masculine energy because a majority of men around me are in their feminine energy. I'm sick of it! I want to be back in my feminine energy, being led, cared for by and protected by a masculine man.
Nobody forced you, you chose to be in a masculine energy. Why do other ppl make you dictate what kind of energy you have. Just be you.
@@tonyillman9510100% agree
I've had great male colleagues. I think it is a great balance and we keep each other in check.
Just another reminder that it is okay to question yourself and struggle with identity. That's growth. What isn't okay is making a permanent life and physical decisions based on your current emotional distress.
Things do get better. Be patient with yourself.
I love Buck, he is the middle ground people need.
@@DB-od5bx been living like a man for 30 years, he deserves respect to be referred to as the gender he presents as.
@D B let’s be real, there’s no way if you saw buck on the street you’d have the balls to call them a ‘she’ or a woman. you’d be looking like the weird one. buck completely passes lmao, imo when someone completely passes it’s just weird not to address them how they appear.
@@owliria_sage Gender doesn't depend on respect, it depends on your biology. You can treat a trans person with respect without having to forgo biological facts.
@@user-hb2ws3pd2r gender is also largely social. nobody is going to block buck from using the men’s restroom and likewise people would be terrified if buck were trying to enter a women’s restroom.
@@user-hb2ws3pd2r buck doesn't claim he is not a biological woman. He is a trans man, pronouns are used depending on what a person looks like. My gay friend has long hair and he gets referred to as a girl all the time.
When you depend on others and their actions, opinions, education, experiences, roles, gender or personality to validate you, you’ve already lost yourself.
That's most of the monolithic uber-political people. Right or left, it doesn't matter.
Im a 16 year old girl and I sometimes dress like a boy, but I don’t see anyone asking me if I’m trans they just assume I’m a tomboy which is true. It’s seems weird to me that people don’t like the word “ tomboy” it’s just a word at the end of the day with not a massive meaning behind it. Also lots of people dress themselves differently and that’s not a problem the problem is that people think they should change themselves to please other people. The only person you have to please is yourself.
As Matt Walsh always says, you can't say you're "redefining" something when you're not giving it a new definition. They say they're redefining what it means to be a man, but can't tell you what a man is. So they're not redefining it, they're just tearing it down and replacing it with nothing.
Oh, as someone who doesn’t take sex to be synonymous with gender, I can tell you how I use the word “man”. An adult who prefers to be treated as, referred to as and have the body of a male (male being defined as someone with XY chromosomes) Happy? It’s being replaced with another non circular def. Sorry if I sound like a douchebag with this comment btw.
@@pinetree2289 except how does one treat a male? Trans women are male, should trans men be treated the same as trans women?
How does one refer to a male? According to you, Sex and gender are separated so to say “referred to as a male” could mean anything
Unless of course you aren’t talking about pronouns but instead mean we should literally use the word “male” when describing them? If that’s the case then you’re hijacking what “male” means in the first place, as the person in this example wouldn’t be a biological male, and yet we would use the word “male” to describe them
@@lukasthedark8478 ooh I change it then, please don’t think I’m dodging
Man is someone who prefers to be be referred to as the PROTOTYPICAL male. So then excluding trans women. The prototypical male prefers to be referred to as “he”. When I’m saying refers to, I am talking about pronouns.
When you say “unless you weren’t talking about pronouns etc” I was btw
@@pinetree2289 your definition still presumes the existence of a “typical male”, which would indicate gender and sex are connected and your sex typically dictates your gender.
Or what you’re saying is the “prototypical male” is simply what males are socialized to act like, in which case your definition makes sense to me, although it won’t make sense if the so called “gender roles” become null and void, as there will be no prototypical male, or to be more accurate, there’d be no distinction between prototypical males and females.
I also gotta say that one of the trans guys is sitting there and asking this guy "Do you know how it feels to have your family put against you because they're against who you are." He's literally saying this to the only gay conservative guy there.
after watching half of this, I think the BEST part of being in Boy Scouts was just seeing all the iterations and variations of masculine expression, specifically from the other boys fathers. There was such a broad range, yet clearly a singular focus. More boys need to see that. 1 dad is not enough. You need at least 10 to become a man.
And unfortunately Boy Scouts is not just scouts and girls can join… taking away from the male experience.
What are your thoughts now that it has become open to everyone?
@@KhorneBrzrkr they should make a boy and a girl one separate but have the 2 work together in some projects
@@Winter-soldierfrom46 Not a bad idea. But far too complicated for most people to wrap their heads around, unfortunately.
I think it's better way to put it is that boys need male role models.
I smoke 5 cigars, you smoke 1. I am more masculine.
😂how's them headaches hitting ya after 5 stogies?
I spent $10 on a cigar and invested $40, you spent $50 on 5 cigars and invested $0. Over indulgence is a wealth killer, have more discipline.
Personally, I find self-control and discipline to be incredibly masculine.
I grew up as a tomboy and still am. My greatest influence growing up was from my brothers. They helped me become the person I am today in place of my father. I've been called Trans and completely shut that down. Just because I wear male clothes since I'm not comfortable in female clothes because of my weight doesn't ever mean I see myself as a man. I'm not. I'm simply a 25 year old that loves video games, male clothes, and many other things that people would stereotypically see as male interests. I live the way I do, that doesn't mean I'm something I was not born as. This world is fucking insane.
As a male, I too, love male clothing... Especially the hoodies :)
@Taryn Huber what do you think of all the conservatives who massively demonize your way of living? Who shame their their daughters for living the way you are living? Who push their kids to be a certain way? The right is a HUGE contributer into this gender issue and create this problem TOGETHER with the left. The right has strict expectations of what men and woman should be like and shames homosexuality and people who don't conform to their gender expectations which creates confusion into these peoples heads from a young age. An extreme flamboyant gay kid is made to believe that there is something wrong with him by conservatives (his family and community etc.) and that his essence and way of being is only meant for girls and women, so he then starts to think that he then might jus be a girl stuck in a boys body. He sees from the left that it's possible to go from one to the other and now subcontiously sees a transition as a possibility to escape his homosexuality and gender non comformity to just blend into the rest of society. He goes from a flamboyant gay man who likes makeup, long beautiful hair and wearing fake nails to a heterosexual feminine woman who just blends into society. If you talk to detransitioners, a lot of them had internalised homophobia (created by conservatives) that pushed them into transition to escape homosexuality.
Same for me but the other way around. I like stuff that is "girly" as a man, doesn't mean I'm a woman lmao.
Being a tomboy and a transgender man is completely two different things. Gender is a social construct and not everyone sees it in the same way. Believe it or not, not all trans men dress masculine! As you believe, the stereotypic man things such as video games don’t define gender! That’s true I agree with you on that. Base on your point of view, if a man wears a skirt or more feminine makeup, they’re still a man! But people would call that man gay or a women. But when an actual transwomen wears makeup and presents more feminine, all of a sudden they’re a man. All of this proves gender is a social construct and just made up.
If my 9 year old came and told me she "needed to transition", there would be no conversation. That would never happen. I'd make her wait till she was 21.
Tried and true method, shame them. Saw a post a daughter said she wanted to transition. Next day dad dressed up as a woman and took her to school. It never came up again.
@@jasonmajere2165 🤣😂
I'd want to ask why they feel ashamed of the gender they were born? What is that makes them feel that being a female (or male) isn't worth it? Or what it is they think the other gender offers them? If you can get the child to confront their fears and concerns they'll have the logic to take with them to others and to keep them steadfast against peer pressure, influencers and charlatans offering them false solutions.
Not even at 21. Never.
The only conversation I would have is to ask my child where they got that idea from. Then swiftly hunt down the perpetrator.
@@jasonmajere2165, 👏❤️🤣
You don't need to be ripped to be masculine. I haven't worked out for about 17 years, but I take walks, go on hikes, play on a volleyball team every year, and generally have a "dad bod". Still masculine ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
As an Eagle scout through the Boy Scout of America, I hold the Scout Law very close. A Scout is trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean, and reverent. This describes a truely masculine man.
Masculine men being friendly and being cultured took me a long time to wrap my head around. My priest explained it really well. The difference between the dangerous man and the psychopath is that the dangerous man is capable of terrible acts, but doesn't unless necessary. The psychopath doesn't restrain themselves. Warrior poet talks about the same thing. A true man is capable of great atrocities but doesn't do them unless it's necessary. That's what makes you a good man. Meekness is the most masculine trait.
TLDR be a real man. Capable of terrible atrocities, but restrained and not doing them unless necessary.
About "Vulnerability": Yes, everyone has feelings and everyone, no matter how stoic, cries. What masculinity in this matter means is not burdening your surroundings with your misery.
A pretty hardcore example for this are funerals. Do you want to be the pillar where all the suffering can lean against or pull everyone around you further down by sobbing and crying? That's a choice of masculinity, a choice where if you decide to be a pillar, will take a lot of strength to get through.
Buck Angel was one of the transmen on this and I would be interested in you digging more into his content. He's one of the main trans people pushing back on the trans community and has a lot of great content.
Um, not so sure about that.
no, that's just like the blind leading the blind i'm good
She calls herself a biological male, blows her top at someone calling her a she, grooms minors into transition when she thinks they have "true dysphoria", and directs her young fans to her website which sells d*ldos. Yes, what a great role model. Long term drug abused Roider.
Yeah I used to think that too, but Buck came off pretty woke in this…
@@brittei yeah he really did but he’s not woke
Love me some Buck Angel his channel has helped me see the light and I appreciate him a lot. He understands the importance of showing the good the bad and ugly when It comes to choosing to transition. Very grateful.
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As a person with borderline personality disorder i understand how much of a problem victimizing yourself and always caring what people think actually is. It gets in the way of everything and any kind of success in the future.
I think Brandon is awesome too! Thank you Brett & team as always for sharing wonderful impactful content! Hope y’all are having a blessed weekend!
When it comes to vulnerability, I was definitely one that thought "yes get it all off your chest and express!" But now that I'm married I'm so thankful that my husband is able to be stoic during trying times, because I am not and I am able to feel secure when I see him lead with an attitude of we'll be okay. He will tell me how he feels, after thinking it through, but he is still pretty reserved. I respect him so much for his ability to be strong.
It's Amazing to see not one person focus on another person. It's all about me and how I feel and how I want to be treated
But that was the point of the debate. Everyone giving their personal experiences and opinions and trying to find a common ground. For the most part it seemed like they did a great job respecting each other