To answer many, many questions: YES, that is Spencer (Troian Bellisario) from Pretty Little Liars, and yes, that is Malfoy (Tom Felton) from the Harry Potter series.
my mom used to force me to eat until i feel the spoon in my teeth and i just can't overthrow her 'cause in my religion (islam) it's considred unredeemable to do so then i'll throw up bc simply my body rejected everything. i'm happy to say that i'm recovering right now but it's really sad to see my people (religious people in general) choose to remain ignorant on such dangerous topic and brushed off as a lack of faith
i think they missed cassie’s most important scene in skins, the one where she teaches sid how not to eat and then breaksdown when he asks her about it. that scene is really powerful to me, one of the best in all of skins
I agree. This video was meant mostly to spread awareness and show how movies portray EDs differently, but just about anything can trigger someone with an ED. I could make a video of me literally just listing off the terrible effects of anorexia, and it would still trigger people.
my skinny sister is probably my favorite one. it didn’t dare romanticize the eating disorder. it made sure the viewer was disturbed, as shown with the scene where the sister refuses to even drink water. the constant passing out, like at the end when she was on the ice and looking deathly skinny. when her sister was yelling at her that she hated her, and then she passed out. my skinny sister was raw and definitely hit me like a truck. it felt more realistic and not some sort of “a pretty perfect young teenager suddenly stumbles upon a proana page and starts starving herself and she falls in love uwu”. huge props to the producers, writers, director, actors, etc... it was so genuine and real
yurochka plisetsky my skinny sister is the one where I can relate so much because I was also a figure skater and saw my reflection and cried because I was too fat
Exactly correct! That scene is the MOST powerful one, because it shows how important CONTROL is to the anorexic, who believes he/she has ZERO control in their lives.
and also literally every other movie glamorizes eating disorders because they are either from the perspective of the girl suffering from ed, played by a gorgeous actress, who sees herself standing up against the world, so young girls relate to this the ed makes her special pretty and important narrative or as we see in skins they are more or less from a male perspective where the girl with ed takes on a manic pixie dream girl kind of role. but my skinny sister is not about the skinny sister, it is about a family, it is from a family's perspective and that is why it highly stands out and it is the only ed movie that I do not find triggering, and thus would support showing young girls.
But I think that was the idea. The parents are trying to help but they don't know what to do other than get their starving daughter some food down her throat. As much as it is wrong, they are desperate.
I get what you mean, but imagine being a parent who is just trying to do everything they can to help their child and nothing giving a result. This is very realistic portrayal of how the mother would feel - 'What's so hard about eating this?'.
I absolutely love food, food is delicious I was never a picky eater, omg chocolate okay im going off topic. I dont eat in school, half my eating disorder and half eating anxiety, people assume I hate food when that isn't the case I love food and my mother makes the best meals. My (amazing might I add) boyfriend and a close friend of mine have both asked me this (alot of other people have asked me but ive never responded to them) I get so mad when people ask me this even if theyre someone as close and if I love them so much, I can't explain my fear of food. I don't even think its a fear, but its not anger or hate. I get so upset because they ask me like its easy to just talk about, like I know about whats happening to me its so infuriating!
the scene where the girl rejecting water probably seems so stupid to people without eds but i’ve spit water out of my mouth bc i would be afraid of gaining weight. (I’m recovering - april 7, 2020)
Bella yeah ok you comment on everyone’s post, stop harrasing people with actual problems, she never said it was bulimia so stop being so disrespectful to people with incredibly dangerous conditions
@@user-fg6hg7ds1v I'd like to add in that I am bulimic and still am terrified of water, I've had times when I was so dehydrated I just drank water and went to throw it up instantly. It's not only those with Anorexia that fear water:/
mediocre _ bee i’m recovering from two eating disorders buddy. just wish people understood more about eating disorders because no one does. just trying to educate people. sorry if that offended you
That’s not good. But me myself ( loving food) thinks I accidentally skipped breakfast and didn’t eat lunch. I will now be skinny and fit. It doesn’t work that way but I am healthy and that what matters
I once decided to see how long I could go without eating because I hadn't been hungry and was angry and depressed day 4 was when I got horrid hunger pains and day 5 was when I finally broke and forced myself to eat even though I was in a dark place I had convinced myself I deserved the pain and I just wanted to die
I hate that Binge Eating Disorder is the underdog of the eating disorders. It’s as valid and as scary as any other, but it’s not taken seriously. The binge and guilt can really fuck you up mentally and physically.
@@nightowl0286 Same here. Whenever I'm nervous, sad, or bored, my mind immediately goes to food and I start eating uncontrollably, and then I hate myself for it. I'm always uncomfortably full and bloated and I'm sick of it.
yup. every after binge I feel so worthless and angry at myself to the point that i cry so much. Every time I look at my body it gets bigger and bigger even though it's not, then it leads to me counting my calories. Then binging again. It's like a cycle :/
There's a bodybuilder that had experience with that, and she has tips on ways to help. Ironically, her channel name is my thoughts will probably offend you.
I know that made me so mad and when they did her to eat that made me mad too like even if that happened now when I'm removed they pinned her down and tried to open her mouth and dump it down her throat
Yeah, the little sister was treated too badly. The sister threatens her and the parents do such bad shit in front of her. The younger sister is pretty much the best person in the family and has to watch shit like that.
I think my problem with these portrayals is that they often glamorize eating disorders and those who suffer, while vilifying doctors and medical intervention.
Wren Requist I agree. I have been inpatient for mental illness and honestly the doctors and therapists for the most part mean well and really help. These movies tend to elaborate on the suffering of the illness and breeze over the recovery and treatment.
My Skinny Sister is still my favorite ED movie, there's other good ones out there but there's something about it that's more raw and authentic without glamorizing anything
Scandinavian movies are so good at portraying family dynamic and mental health issues, they just have such a calmness and intimacy about them that Hollywood have a hard time grasping. To the bone, as an example, tried too hard in my opinion. Great cast and production, but it was just too out there. Not to mention that Amy Diamond actually looks like an average teenage girl. Lily Collins looked like a model who had gone on a coke bender...
@Cynthia Rapp yeah, so did mine. but i think that's kind of inevitable when it comes to these movies. i think that a sick mind watching a thin body who pukes or starves will forever be a trigger. i would use anything that had anything to do with eating disorders to trigger myself further into it. no matter how raw it was, i'd still be able to glamorize it in my head.
I used to do that. Not because I didn’t wanna get fat, but because I didn’t wanna eat. I don’t know why but I would distract myself just because i didn’t wanna eat. Luckily, I don’t do that anymore
i do this a lot. there’s a clubhouse in my town where there’s outreach (i’ve never used it) and they have a kitchen and video games so i go there to bake but i don’t eat it. i tell the workers that i’ll eat at home and tell my parents i ate at the club
The swedish movie was really good but the part when the parents confronted her just made me LAUGH bc when I lost my first 15 pounds my parents just said I looked so amazing and it showed how well my "diet" was working!! (even though I was at, like, a 19 BMI before my disorder and was completely healthy before I started losing weight). Diet culture in america is fucking insane and I should be getting help right now but everyone is just complimenting me and I just want to go further and further
Please, please tell someone. It's really hard to recover, but it's so worth it. I've only started recovery about a month ago and I know you probably won't listen to this, but it feels so amazing to be able to try foods you haven't had in ages and have people finally understand how you feel. No matter what people say, this is a mental illness, not a blessing.
damn im really insecure about my weight and my body and ive been trying to lose weight in a healthy way but sometimes im really tempted to just not eat even though i know i really shouldn't
It's really hard to see the truth when ppl compliment you on ur "amazing" results but it's important to know that they aren't doctors who can tell u how to be healthy, nor are their beauty standards important. It's really hard but keep trying to get better, to ignore voices in your head, altho it might seem like a good idea to do these things, keep trying to fight it, i believe in you!
I had bulimia and my Mother didn't know and still doesn't. I'm out of it now but what really helped me was telling one friend. Find someone in your life that you know will be there for you and will understand. This may sound wrong but friends that have dealt with mental illnesses, I find are more understanding and know how hard it is. Do your research and know what could happen. See a professional if you need to and even a counsellor can help. I did it my way but I know that may not work for other people. It's a journey getting out of it but the biggest step that you can take is telling one person the full truth.
I don't like how shows/films often portray psychologists/therapists as unhelpful, uncaring and useless. It's very unlikely in real life that a psychologist would brush off Cassie like in this video.
Perhaps it's to put the viewer in Cassie's point of view? Maybe she sees them, or that one lady, as unhelpful and uncaring? You do have a point though, it is highly unlikely for psychologists to do that.
although it is a little exaggerated... it highlights the tone of a lot of those places. I mean they're getting paid for it, they see you as a problem that needs to be fixed, not a person with a problem... it's more unlikely that they actually care
i mean the first 2 i saw i was 14 and BEGGING for help before my ED was full blown and i was completely blown off and verbatim they said i was dramatic. i’ve had more mental health professionals be unhelpful and often hurtful than i have had ones be caring and professional. the two i have now are incredible but truth is soooo sooo many wind up in the profession who shouldn’t be because they don’t care at all
JC GG living in a phyc hospital for 4 years of my life. I can tell you they don’t give two shit unless maybe your Scott or Demi or Selena nope the average mental pen no one see’s you. Your lucky to see your doctor monthly for a 10 min. Clinical where they see if your meds needs to be changed or what not. That’s why you never get the fuck out.
My parents didn't realise I had a problem until I was hospitalised. Part of the reasons I stopped eating was their mean offhand comments. Maybe I took it too far
A lot of people are upset about the second one where the parents were trying to force the food into their daughter's mouth and kept asking why it was so hard, but that's actually pretty accurate to how some parents may act. They may not know what is going on, all they know is that they want the best for their child and they act wrongly with good intentions. I've had panic attacks around my family where they ignored my pleas and my father kept yelling at me to stop acting like a baby. Not saying that all parents may act this way, because some may recognize that their child is having a panic attack.
I remember my family would try and get me to eat when I was really young, they got me my favorite foods and snacks but my dad would try and force me to eat.
Yeah my mom always comments on my weight (I have a BMI of 20) but then does a 180 during meal times and screams and guilts me if I don’t eat everything and feeds me white rice every meal
My parents are always yelling at me and saying "stop acting, you're not even sick you're just acting. If you don't eat we'll bring you to the hospital and you'll be forced to eat everything they give you". I understand that they're caring for me and they want me to heal, but it's even worst to force someone who has an eating disorder to eat (for anorexia) or not to eat (for bulimia and binge eating). It's a very cruel way to make them heal. They don't understand that it's not only refusing to feed myself, but it's a milion voices in my head telling me that I'm fat, that I don't deserve to eat, that I've already eaten too much even though I only ate a fruit. Then after, you're just feeling guilty about it, you never feel like you're skinny enough. Everytime you go deeper and deeper, and you can't even stop.
That girl refusing to eat or even drink water was me . It got so bad that I even checked the nutrition facts on bottled water when shopping to see if it had calories . EDs are so consuming , of your life , your time , your sleep , your energy . It will drive you insane but at the time it makes sense. I never thought I was a good liar , but during that period I lied about everything . What I ate , when I ate , even woke up earlier than everyone else to dirty the dishes and leave them in the sink so it looked like I ate then use the energy from washing dishes to burn calories .
I used to be a figure-skater and refused to drink more than three sips of water for every hour of training (including off-ice). I trained six-hours a day, so that part in the movie really hit home. Looking back, it's laughable that I was so terrified of water, but believe me when I say, I was TERRIFIED of it. Amazing how manipulative eating-disorders are, and how awful one can become because of them.
Lucid Nomad I can relate so much, during skate camp I wouldn’t eat anything all day. Maybe take a sip of water during our lunches then go back to training on the ice.
Sometimes moving out and being in control of what you eat and how often is the best path to recovery. I was way worse when I lived at home. My family is a primary trigger. Living alone was the best thing for me mentally.
Joy Mechell I hope you are feeling much better now. You are worth it. I’m sorry you feel that your struggle has not been accurately portrayed. I hope you don’t feel alone. Please reach out if you need help or simply someone to talk to and stay strong. 🙏🏽❤️
i think my biggest issue with feed is that a 32 year old troian and a 30 year old tom were supposed to be in high school. Also not to mention the weird incestuous turn it took
Em Gee I don’t think the movie was unrealistic yeah the dancing in the rain Scene was unrealistic but when you look into what the movie was showing it’s deeper then two people dancing in the rain. I believe the movie show the effects the disease can have on everyone around you and coping with past mistakes that occurred which could have played a part in her mental health, there was a message in the movie and not all romanticised.
I want to know how every girl in this video can afford treatment ? Another thing no one touches on is the fact that not all insurances cover it and not all cities have treatment programs . I was supposed to go three times last year and was told I was on a waiting list , that the city that did have a bed for me didn't take my insurance , and that it was an hour away . In conclusion, I was too poor to get help . My cry fior help was ignored and I was force fed at home
Maybe it depends on the place... Treatment is free in Quebec. Otherwise, I admit it’s quite frustrating... I think their main goal is to show people that there’s a way out
My parents could only afford a therapist for a couple months. I didn't even see a specialist or a physician! Insurance most definitely did nothing to cover it, much less does my city have any type of treatment center.
And you'll never see a black girl 😬 not that I want us to suffer but it makes it harder for people to believe that girls my skin color suffer from eating disorders, anxiety, and depression . In movies and tv shows it's usually an already slim white girl struggling the sane struggles I have for years , just a bit less glamorous
Actually I appreciate your sense of humor,but I'm black and I've almost died from this all of these terrible experiences mirrored my haunted family life and present recovery.Everyone you know suffers especially the parents.To see what you created destroy it self is maddening
@@Ta1kativ True tho.Although I know a lot of k pop and Asian cultures market the waif look as well.It's up there in a media portrait in what type of people struggle with these kinds of things but not as bad as we Americans do.
@@b.bd00m77 I wasn't being humorous. I was being serious. I can't think of a single non-caucasian character in an ED movie, even in a supporting role (with maybe the exception of one movie)
Tbh it wasn't towards you it was towards the original commenter and yeah you right about the minority thing but like I said there some Asian movies with a main character who isn't white its rare when they branch out most ED movies to people who actually gone through this is pretty inaccurate.
Drinking water can make your body start an appetite when you haven't ate in a while, and can also bloat you a lot. That's why she probably didn't want to drink.
@@localgardener8726 not really. in the ed mind she probably thought it had calories in it or would make her gain weight. or her parents put something in the water. it’s all about control.
The skinny sister one looks pretty accurate Side note: It took me years to figure out that the biggest contribution to my eating disorder was that I unknowingly had CELIAC DISEASE. If I hadn't been eating gluten I would not have felt the gross feelings I had when eating food.
Has anyone else never passed out from not eating . I went months on a 500 cal or less diet and would get faint but never had a dramatic fainting episode that landed me in the hospital. I did start having seizures tho , way after I was forced to start eating normal after months of not eating . The moms in these stories are usually supportive . My mom thought it was stupid that ur go hungry when we had food
I went through heavy restricting and purging, and even within the span of multiple years, I never had the fainting thing. I'd stumble and have to hold on to something, or gather myself for a moment, but I've never actively fallen or anything... My mom wanted to support me, but she also had/has the "just eat, what's the big deal?" mindset
serial love same . My mom sucks at supporting but in all fairness she's not my bitty mom so maybe the maternal instinct to actually care isn't there . And yeah , I've walked around like a zombie for months , feeling close to fainting but not seeing spots all the time , stumbling if I wasn't careful but never actually collapsing . I have fainted 3 times in my entire life tho , but weirdly it wasn't during that era
I had a few fainting episodes when I was anorexic I was never caught though. Honestly, now that I think about it it's kind of scary. I could have died.
Too often ED's are portrayed as never eating or eating and then purging it, but for a lot of people its often less clear cut and often a mix of those two with other behaviors.
I feel like people really force people with eating disorders to do stuff they arent comfortable with, and that only makes the problem worse. People with eating disorder need to want to recover without feeling forced.
Cassie is my forever favorite character of all time. She’s so real and raw and you can tell she’s emotionally unstable and struggling but at the same time she’s trying her best to keep it all together and ughh I just relate with her more than anyone else!!!!
My problem with ED is that I’d either eat too much or not eat anything at all, there’s nothing in between. I had suffered and almost died because of the fear of gaining weight and endless calorie counting and also suffered being overweight and then being bulimic. Honestly, people would be shocked to see how I bounce back and fourth to being underweight and overweight.
I relate so much. After a binge I'll try to not eat for as long as I can bear it then become so hungry that I eat everything in sight and the cycle continues. I just want to be skinny so I can be loved again, I hate this, I wish I could find help.
Well, this made me anxious. To all the people with an ED watching this, remember that recovery IS posible, I was in the edge of dying, until my parents found out, and 6 years later I'm still here, I didn't think I was gonna live past 18, and I'm about to turn 22, doing what I love, met the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and maybe I still struggle with my relationship with food, but it is now a minimal problem in a whole life that's ahead of me. Don't be afraid to ask for help, believe me, it is worth it. If you have to starve in order to look some way, maybe your body isn't made to look that way. Honor your body, honor your hunger.
Kerri B I'm so glad I could help you. Just remember that just because you relapsed doesn't mean you're starting all over, it's just a little bump in the road. You got this girl ❤️
i think what's great about skins is that the problems faced by each member of the group (cassie with ED, jal with teen pregnancy, chris with drug addiction, etc) are all portrayed either very subtle or overly dramatic so that audience will instantly grasp the idea. I think that skins portray secondary characters like the doctor, parents to not give a damn about the primary characters, I think it's just their style like how the doctor doesn't seem to concern, the encounter of characters seem harsh but that is what it is
for a lot of people this will sound edgy but my adolescence was literally like skins, that's why I always liked that show, i could relate a lot and I felt represented but I know a lot of people think that it glorifies bad behaviours, sadly that is the real life for a lot of kids out there
i feel like most ED films actually isolate the real people suffering from the illness they depict. so many films have this beautiful (probably white and a teenager/young adult) girl who's at a healthy weight and has a fine relationship with food, then something abrupt happens and all of a sudden they are dropping weight like mad until they're tiny, then they faint and maybe get sent to the hospital. that's fine because that does happen, but i rarely see any other depictions. there are so many ways to suffer from an eating disorder and so many different people that do suffer, yet i don't see that diversity in film. i do understand though, as someone who suffers from some sort of ED or problem surrounding food, that it is a hard thing to depict because so much of the struggle is internal. it's just hard to see many people's only insight into the pain of having an ED is through these ever so repetitive films.
halifax verbeck i feel like they’re all kind of like things similar to 13 reasons why. more suitable for educating the general public but less suitable for those actually suffering for the issue in question
@@riley-zi1ju it's difficult to say if that's a good way to 'educate' though. mental illnesses depicted in film and television usually have to have some physical harm of some sort to make it valid which hurts sufferers (and can actually make them physically harm themselves to feel that validation), and almost gives the audience who don't the experience the issues that same impression. like depression is valid when someone cuts, or kills themselves, anorexia is valid if someone is actively losing a lot of weight. anyways, thanks for your point. i wish the people producing media could see it similarly.
Emily Quinn I struggled with bulimia from grade 9 all the way until my freshman year of college. There were times I used to purge daily, yet I was never hospitalized. I did faint about 3 times but my parents never once asked me If i had an eating disorder or if there was something wrong with me
I just want to take this moment to congratulate my parents. The minute they saw me lose weight and saw my habits change they questioned me and asked if I was ok. They right away saw the warning signs for eating disorders and took action. I of course hated them for it but I know it’s for my own good. They do sometimes use phrases and words they shouldn’t towards someone with food problems but if not for their worrying I might have never gotten help. So I thank you mama and papa
I know this is a year late, but I have the same caring parents. My best friend was diagnosed with anorexia and it fucked me up. But my mom especially went out of her way to make sure I was eating breakfast, questioned if I didn't finish dinner, etc. It wasn't forceful, but she just wanted to make sure I never went down the road my friend did. I am thankful for my parents everyday, even if I still want to lose weight. I'm just glad I'm not in a facility right now, because without them I 100% would.
@KAREN KFOURY I'm so sorry. At least you know what is happening, on the bright side. I didn't know about my friend until she texted me after ~7 months of not really talking that she was diagnosed. Do her parents know? If you suspect something you should tell her parents or at least your parents. Compliment her personality and don't let her take the conversation to her/other's bodies. Let her know that she's more than her weight or appearance. Also try to not let the conversation go to things where appearance might matter, such as guys or popularity. Don't shun her, but remember that she is in a toxic cycle with herself and may try to pull you in. Above all else though, check on her. Text her when you're thinking about her. Remind her how much of an awesome person, daughter, friend etc. she is. I really hope this helps, and I'll be here for you if you need help or to talk :) best of luck to you and your friend.
@Artryg0 n this is a year late but i’ll tell u. it’s all about control when it comes to ED. u don’t want to gain weight, not even a single centimeter, so u do whatever u can to avoid food in all occasions. sorry if this sounds triggering but it’s true sadly 🥺. it is a very destructive disorder.
I feel like in movies is kind of unrealistic when someone is purging really loudly and stuff. When I used to purged (I’ve recovered) I did my best to not make a sound and after a while I actually became so good at it that I wouldn’t gag or make a sound. I’m not saying that everyone is like this but purging in public is something that we rarely do when someone is in the bathroom and if someone does come in we stop. And I’ve seen so many movie with the cliche scene of someone purging extremely loudly like they want to get caught.
@@andreakaps4101 Its quite the opposite, really--?? I actually agree with this statement, I used to purge and even in my own home i was fairly quiet about it. Its the fear of getting caught, and the fear of being judged. Im sure that they called the *movie* unrealistic, not the people purging in the movie.
As a swede I just love how raw our films can be, it's so far from Hollywood if you know what I mean. The movie En man som heter Ove is one of my favorites, they're even making an american version of it now apparently. In the Swedish film mentioned in this video I really wished they would have translated everything and properly, but they basically just translated the gist of what they were saying. As someone who speaks swedish I cried watching these scenes, I don't know if you would just by reading the subtitles.
i’ve been recovering from my ed for three months now. i have struggled for ten years. i hope those who suffer will soon join me and travel along this road.
That's great news! Don't give up and don't be afraid of all the bad days that could come, there'll be plenty of them but less and less as time goes. I'm also just a few months into recovery after a decade of an ed, the recovering road is also a self discovery road, I had forgotten what I like to do, what kind of people I want as friend and I'm finally starting to project myself into the future as a recovered person and not an endless lifetime sick one
June Novae it’s the best decision i’ve ever made. im so glad to hear you’re recovering as well. it can be challenging and scary sometimes, but it’s a part of the process. i’d rather be where i’m at now than where i was before.
We’re in this together! I’ve been recovering for about 3 months also and have struggled with my ed for 7 years. I wish you the best and many happy days.
Beansbeansbeans Perogy I was replying to comment from “ethereal bella”. She said that starting an eating disorder is hard when you are fat, because you always binge. And binging is also an eating disorder, that’s why I reacted the way I did. “Don’t be a jerk” and read comments before talking nonsense.
@@petrauhrakova i did??? Read the comments??? And telling you not to be a jerk doesn't make me one? Perhaps they can't speak english well, or they aren't educated on EDs. Gettin real tired of people smh
please remember that weight loss isnt always a sign of an ed. i suffered from an ed for a while ans i didnt lose any weight from it, instead i stayed at the same weight or even gained. this was due to a medication i was on but either way, nobody noticed my behaviors because i didnt lose weight
Apparently ADD can cause ED-esque behaviors that are normal, too. I have always been highly picky since I was born, having been born with seizures and needing to drink whole milk as a baby and then not liking certain food groups/foods/textures, etc. I had signs of Anorexia in high school, never really ever eating, being underweight, size 0 at 5'3", etc. But I never passed out or got medical help cause there was too many physical issues/mental illnesses my family and I were dealing with to properly deal with it. Even now, my psychologist and PCP all see it as somewhat normal for ADD. I now eat, but it took years of everyone reminding me and making sure I do since I started having surgeries. Now I just do a lot of intermittent fasting.
The swedish movie (the second one) really annoys me because of the subtitles. They always make them shorter by excluding words which in some cases takes away part of the story😐
Cornelia Eriksson No, i think its the way they say it their language..... For example, in an English sentence there could only be like two words but in a different language it could sound like it's really long..
i a m c o n f u s i o n Yeah sometimes that is the case but i am swedish so i know what is being said and the subtitles are not accuret to what is being said
@@ava-fx6ml In this case they really just translated the gist of what they were saying, which in my opinion took away quite a bit of what makes the scenes realistic and "powerful", if you know what I mean.
My mom was so mad that I was bulimic in middle school, but not in a good “I can’t believe you’re doing this to yourself” kind of way. She’d get mad that I was throwing up her food, because she’d throw tantrums about cooking for my dad and I all the time. Then she’d scream “If you want to lose weight, be anorexic. THAT gets results.” She was bulimic too.
I just read that with my own two eyes and every single cell in my body is in attack mode. And to top it all of, she's a hypocrite. I know this was posted 8 months ago, but good Lord, lady!
"My skinny sister"'s scene where they tried to feed her made me so sad... I hope you all can have an healthy relationship and never fall in this kind of shit. Don't make ed glamourous cause they aren't. Stay safe🌙
"You did this to yourself" this mad me so mad- Anorexia, binge eating disorder, etc. isn't something we do to ourselves. We are brought up in our world to be a certain way.
sometjmes it can be done “on purpose” like almost wanting it in the beginning and thinking you are in control and its just to lose a little weight but eventually it takes over everything and you realize you have no control
The second one hit me like a truck I relate a lot with it and if my baby sisters ever saw me at my low points in my life it would break my heart to pieces. I never want them to ever feel as horrible as I did and destroy themselves .
One of my favorite things about Feed was that Olivia's anorexia wasn't the typical need to be skinny or other things you see in most movies of the genre, it was a way for her to self-harm and was a manifestation of the guilt of not dying with her brother. That's why i appreciate that movie so much, because i had seen little of it as not being a means to an end where the end goal is to be skinny.
I've always speculated that ED's weren't always about wanting to weigh less or be pretty, but rather than the need to control something in an environment where a lot of things are beyond anyone's control. It depends on what the person went through to get an ED, but I think the main thing to take away from it is that an ED is a mental illness, so when you get into the habits of an ED, your brain becomes wired to believe that this is what you want, when it really isn't. Jaiden Animations is a great example of what an ED can do, and I'm sure there are plenty of others who went through the same struggles as she did. I believe that by simply talking about their problems instead of just panicking in desperation will make the person feel safer and more comfortable around them, as healing processes take time.
Just saying, there are different eating disorders than bulimia and anorexia. Such as orthorexia nervosa, or binge eating disorder. I’d like to see films on lower known, yet still hard to deal with eating disorders.
no one ever talks about how squidward refused to eat krabby patties because he was afraid of gaining weight but ended up binging on them and feeling disgusting :((
cassie really had the "best" eating disorder storyline. every thing she said / did felt so real i could literally see myself in her: from the kitchen cleaning ocds to distracting people while they're eating so they don't realize you're not. starving for days to look "prettier" for an event... for once, eating disorder was portrayed correctly.
This makes me so sad :( but it's so powerful because it displays the devastation of eating disorders so poignantly and accurately. Painful to watch but also so eye-opening and crucial for the non-ED community to see.
The whole video of My Skinny Sister was on TH-cam at one point but I believe its gone now. Haven't been able to find it anywhere else. The scene where the parents are trying to force the girl to drink but she refuses, and it gets Stella really upset... it breaks my heart. I don't want anybody to feel that way because of me, but I also think that when my eating disorder was bad, if anybody tried to force me to eat, I'd act the same way. It's all about control.
The my skinny sister short actually felt really scary. The way that she wouldn’t even take a sip of pure water at the end is scary. Very well portrayed.
21:03 This scene hits extremely hard when you know that Cassie has a way to avoid eating by talking, constantly changing the subject and playing with her food with a fork and knife, mixing it around to try to make it seem like she ate some of it when she's around people. She tries to do it here but Allan knows it, he sees through her. It's also worth mentioning that she also ate a burger before she attempted suicide as 'her last meal.' I don't know if this was on purpose though. I think these stuff just makes this scene much more effective. And, I also have to mention that, that "Love you too","So eat" part is so sad and so heartbreaking. Kudos to the writers and the actress playing Cassie for portraying it with such rawness.
I remember going to the cinema with my classmates here in Sweden when "Min lilla syster" had its premiere. The scene where the parents try to force her Katja to eat is still embedded in my memory. The movie certainly did its job of informing and showing the dangers of eating disorders and it's for sure a move that'll live with me.
the most unrealistic part in most of these movies is that the parents are mostly supportive and trying to understand what’s wrong and immediately try to seek professional help, but my parents just yelled at me for “being stupid” and made me eat soup. it didn’t help
It’s been 2 1/2 years I’ve been in recovery and I just wanted to pop in and tell anyone who feels hopeless that it is possible. It took so much longer than I wanted it to take but things like this are never predictable. And the ride was full of more lows than I could’ve imagined. But I believe in you ❤️
"Fun" fact: Min Lilla Syster is actually a play on words. In Swedish 'Lilla' means little and depending on the context, small. So you get the idea lilla=little/small and small=skinny *ThE mOrE yOu KnOw~✨*
The part where the parents were begging the daughter to drink water and eat in "My skinny sister" has happened to me almost in the same fashion. I was trying to watch a movie and my parents came with a fruit cream (the one they feed babies with) begging me to eat a spoonful and I refused. I'll never forgive myself for the pain I caused to my family even though I know it wasn't my fault.
I’ve suffered from Restrictive Food Intake Disorder and when my parents found out what I was doing it was horrible so thanks for making this video to outline the horror of eating disorders
@@andreakaps4101 no it’s just the media only really covers anorexia and bulimia, so it’s rlly hard for ppl with BED, EDNOS, and other eating disorders to be taken seriously and understood
damn these scandinavian movie clips brought me to tears instantly. I had never seen eating disorders being depicted so powerfully and truthfully before.
As someone who has food addiction and bed with on and off purging, i told my mom and she told me that she would be concerned about an eating disorder if i looked like i had one 😬
The part of My Skinny Sister where her parents try to make her eat or drink is just terribly real... And just to add, the guy in To the Bone is great, even if he struggles he tries to comfort everyone
I hate how glamorized it still seems, though it does portray quite a bit. Where are the areas where they avoid going out because of the presence of food. The fear of someone commenting. The obsession in numbers. The effects of the disorder.
Not showing every single aspect of every symptom of every person’s eating disorder is not glamorization. People LOVE to say that everything they don’t personally relate to is over romanticized or glamorized. Many other people relate to it perfectly. When you say this isn’t a “real” depiction of a disorder, you are completely disregarding those of us who do relate to it. You are claiming my trauma isn’t valid because it doesn’t look like yours and that I don’t deserve representation, because my trauma is too “glamorous”
you don’t need to show every single symptom for it to be accurate. your experiences aren’t universal, everyone does different things when having an ED. and it’s not glamourised for not showing every fucking symptom.
Skins has girls in the institution that worry about going out into the world because of food being out there. They panic over food. One girl is Anorexic and then goes on a huge binge out in the world and ends up purging at the end of the night from guilt. Cassie also studies the labels a lot throughout the series and sees food as stuff to play with instead of eating. There's a lot more this video doesn't show.
I literally cried while watching these. I really appreciate how hard directors work to portray anorexia and how hard it is to take the smallest bite of food - someone in recovery
Ah, I remember watching skinny sister at the VEERY beginning of my ED. It was the first eating disorder video I had ever watched and I wondered if it would really work. Now look where we are. That was... 3-4 years ago. Wow.
The “are you on something ? “ damn near made me cry cause that’s been asked of me so many times and I got to be 112 pounds it was my ED not drugs, sucks when nobody believes you. ED changes your wholeeeee life 🙏
I get that my whole life cause of my ADD that has created me to have such a happy and bubbly personality. Despite being disabled and sick throughout my life, other than seizure meds when I was little, I was never truly on drugs yet people felt I was. I gained an ED even more outside picky eating when I was in highschool and people legit asked me for drugs or if I had a dealer. Even coworkers occasionally did as I was growing up. Now people know I have mental illness. Before then, people felt maybe I did but we focused too much on my physical stuff to care about the mental so we never had a diagnosis. Now we do and now it almost never happens.
When the guy said to cassie he loves her and she said I love you back made me cry so hard. And then when she goes in for a bite, it was beautiful. Something about that was so heart wrenching and impeccable.
I’ve never seen my skinny sister but just watching these few scenes made me absolutely devastated and I started sobbing. It hit so close to home, seeing my sister suffering through bulimia while I was overweight made me feel disgusting and useless. I was young and she was my role model. We shared one bathroom and sometimes I had to wait for almost an hour for her to come out of the bathroom. It made her cruel and sickly. And i ignored it all because she was my sister, I began starving myself in the 6th grade. The water scene in particular hurt me so much. I remember my parents sitting her down and telling her if she didn’t stop she would die. It hurts it really fucking hurts.
I’ve never understood how people can cry on videos, but when i saw My Skinny Sister and how she begged to recover at home, I couldn’t stop from getting emotional, that really struck me.
Since I had been trying to lose weight, I too have started falling in this hole of eating disorder. I hate the feeling of food in my stomach at times. But I have started eating while watching my favorite shows, that distracts me and slowly I've started getting used to that feeling of being full again.
that scene in the hospital really freaked me out. i’m currently recovering and they say that if i don’t take action they’ll do the same to me. this has inspired me to take action before something like that has to happen.
why the fuck are you guys replying to them encouraging this. what the actual fuck. literally what is wrong with you? dont tell them about how fear can be your motivation dont tell them when you throw up dont like this comment. seriously what is wrong with you do you understand how triggering that can be if you cant throw up stop fucking trying. stop.it isnt sad that you cant purge. you dont want that. stop trying to have an eating disorder stop telling people things you know are triggering stop attention seeking stop stop stop stop stop stop. you dont want this you dont want to fall into that you really dont if you are looking for help on how to yak you arent in deep and you need to stop trying to learn. get help before you actually get sick. i cannot fucking believe you guys and the way you replied to this.
They didn't talk about allergies. I had food allergies as a kid and so avoided food but people just thought I had an eating disorder. It was very traumatic to go through therapy to something you didn't have and everyone but you thinking you're broken until you believed it.
My mom found out that I was throwing up and made fun of it instead of getting me to professional help, so whenever I watch the parents take their kids to a doctor, it makes me cry
To answer many, many questions: YES, that is Spencer (Troian Bellisario) from Pretty Little Liars, and yes, that is Malfoy (Tom Felton) from the Harry Potter series.
Thank you, my brain was hurting and in confusion😂
And Emma from the red band Society to
and to answer YES that movie is terrible xD haha
And Broke of Popular
Katniss' mum is in it too
if my parents started shoving food in my face while i was having a panic attack I'd start throwing hands
I think that's why its realistic. parents are not professionals. they're just trying to help their starving daughter
Same even now when im recovered that would give me anxiety and make me scared
RIGHT! My mom and grandma would start offering me food,and that made me anxious and angry. They don't know that I know that they know I have an ED.
my mom used to force me to eat until i feel the spoon in my teeth and i just can't overthrow her 'cause in my religion (islam) it's considred unredeemable to do so then i'll throw up bc simply my body rejected everything. i'm happy to say that i'm recovering right now but it's really sad to see my people (religious people in general) choose to remain ignorant on such dangerous topic and brushed off as a lack of faith
Yessss! 3:14 I think my ptsd is triggered
i think they missed cassie’s most important scene in skins, the one where she teaches sid how not to eat and then breaksdown when he asks her about it. that scene is really powerful to me, one of the best in all of skins
Riley Mahoney agreed
AGREED
We all felt connected in that skins scene and to he character
i was waiting for this scene!
That’s exactly how I got into the show in the first place
I would not suggest anyone who’s in a bad place right now to watch this. It surely wasn’t a good idea for me
I agree. This video was meant mostly to spread awareness and show how movies portray EDs differently, but just about anything can trigger someone with an ED. I could make a video of me literally just listing off the terrible effects of anorexia, and it would still trigger people.
Veeraah 😔✌️
Veeraah same, I had to weigh myself after watching this...
Veeraah so why did you?
Yeah, I'm regretting life choices now.
my skinny sister is probably my favorite one. it didn’t dare romanticize the eating disorder. it made sure the viewer was disturbed, as shown with the scene where the sister refuses to even drink water. the constant passing out, like at the end when she was on the ice and looking deathly skinny. when her sister was yelling at her that she hated her, and then she passed out. my skinny sister was raw and definitely hit me like a truck. it felt more realistic and not some sort of “a pretty perfect young teenager suddenly stumbles upon a proana page and starts starving herself and she falls in love uwu”. huge props to the producers, writers, director, actors, etc... it was so genuine and real
yurochka plisetsky my skinny sister is the one where I can relate so much because I was also a figure skater and saw my reflection and cried because I was too fat
Exactly correct! That scene is the MOST powerful one, because it shows how important CONTROL is to the anorexic, who believes he/she has ZERO control in their lives.
and also literally every other movie glamorizes eating disorders because they are either from the perspective of the girl suffering from ed, played by a gorgeous actress, who sees herself standing up against the world, so young girls relate to this the ed makes her special pretty and important narrative or as we see in skins they are more or less from a male perspective where the girl with ed takes on a manic pixie dream girl kind of role. but my skinny sister is not about the skinny sister, it is about a family, it is from a family's perspective and that is why it highly stands out and it is the only ed movie that I do not find triggering, and thus would support showing young girls.
Yeah it's the one I saw myself most in. I'm better now, but it really struck me how similar it was to what I did...
Do you know where can I watch it?
“What’s hard about eating this?”
That line made me SO mad.
But I think that was the idea. The parents are trying to help but they don't know what to do other than get their starving daughter some food down her throat. As much as it is wrong, they are desperate.
Right, because it has NOTHING to do with the actual food, but the CONTROL over the food!
I get what you mean, but imagine being a parent who is just trying to do everything they can to help their child and nothing giving a result. This is very realistic portrayal of how the mother would feel - 'What's so hard about eating this?'.
Me too 😭
I absolutely love food, food is delicious I was never a picky eater, omg chocolate okay im going off topic.
I dont eat in school, half my eating disorder and half eating anxiety, people assume I hate food when that isn't the case I love food and my mother makes the best meals.
My (amazing might I add) boyfriend and a close friend of mine have both asked me this (alot of other people have asked me but ive never responded to them)
I get so mad when people ask me this even if theyre someone as close and if I love them so much, I can't explain my fear of food. I don't even think its a fear, but its not anger or hate. I get so upset because they ask me like its easy to just talk about, like I know about whats happening to me its so infuriating!
the scene where the girl rejecting water probably seems so stupid to people without eds but i’ve spit water out of my mouth bc i would be afraid of gaining weight. (I’m recovering - april 7, 2020)
yeah i know.... i was just commenting on that
Bella yeah ok you comment on everyone’s post, stop harrasing people with actual problems, she never said it was bulimia so stop being so disrespectful to people with incredibly dangerous conditions
hope you're doing better now sweetie
@@user-fg6hg7ds1v I'd like to add in that I am bulimic and still am terrified of water, I've had times when I was so dehydrated I just drank water and went to throw it up instantly. It's not only those with Anorexia that fear water:/
mediocre _ bee i’m recovering from two eating disorders buddy. just wish people understood more about eating disorders because no one does. just trying to educate people. sorry if that offended you
the swedish movie where the girl was crying and her mother was force feeding her gave me so much anxiety
Same
i’m still shaking from that scene
same oxnjahsuahd
What is this movie called? It looks so good.
@@oldone7587 thanks:)
No one:
Me at 14 unknowingly romanticizing eating disorders: _I didn't eat for 3 days so I could be lovely_
That’s not good. But me myself ( loving food) thinks I accidentally skipped breakfast and didn’t eat lunch. I will now be skinny and fit. It doesn’t work that way but I am healthy and that what matters
we love a good skins ref
It is a tv show reference guys. Although for this person there might be truth to that statement idk.
I once decided to see how long I could go without eating because I hadn't been hungry and was angry and depressed day 4 was when I got horrid hunger pains and day 5 was when I finally broke and forced myself to eat even though I was in a dark place I had convinced myself I deserved the pain and I just wanted to die
skins got us all...
I hate that Binge Eating Disorder is the underdog of the eating disorders. It’s as valid and as scary as any other, but it’s not taken seriously. The binge and guilt can really fuck you up mentally and physically.
Omg yes I hate myself when I binge eat but I can’t help it especially when I’m sad
@@nightowl0286 Same here. Whenever I'm nervous, sad, or bored, my mind immediately goes to food and I start eating uncontrollably, and then I hate myself for it. I'm always uncomfortably full and bloated and I'm sick of it.
yup. every after binge I feel so worthless and angry at myself to the point that i cry so much. Every time I look at my body it gets bigger and bigger even though it's not, then it leads to me counting my calories. Then binging again. It's like a cycle :/
There's a bodybuilder that had experience with that, and she has tips on ways to help. Ironically, her channel name is my thoughts will probably offend you.
seriously… my throat is messed up bc of all the stomach acid being regurgitated
They shouldn’t have confronted her in front of her sister
They shouldn't force her to eat, you know
Or, yunno, made a spectacle of her not eating
C that scene is really thought thru. Really portrays how family is affected by EDs.
I know that made me so mad and when they did her to eat that made me mad too like even if that happened now when I'm removed they pinned her down and tried to open her mouth and dump it down her throat
Yeah, the little sister was treated too badly. The sister threatens her and the parents do such bad shit in front of her. The younger sister is pretty much the best person in the family and has to watch shit like that.
That one with the girl named Katja made me cry.
Britty kitty max it’s also called my skinny sister
Min lilla syster In swedish
I'm gettin walking dead vibes just from the name "Katja"
Do you know where can I watch it?
@@zach4 it's a really common Scandinavian name
I think my problem with these portrayals is that they often glamorize eating disorders and those who suffer, while vilifying doctors and medical intervention.
I don't feel like that clip of the girl refusing to take water was romantic at all
Wren Requist I agree. I have been inpatient for mental illness and honestly the doctors and therapists for the most part mean well and really help. These movies tend to elaborate on the suffering of the illness and breeze over the recovery and treatment.
Wren Requist Because that’s how you see things when you have an eating disorder.
How are they glamorizing? What about this makes you feel warm inside? It's like 13 reasons why...people being overly critical crybabies.
watch "My skinny sister" ( the second movie) there is no glamorizing in that one, trust me
My Skinny Sister is still my favorite ED movie, there's other good ones out there but there's something about it that's more raw and authentic without glamorizing anything
Do you know where I could watch it? I remember watching it like 2 years ago and I want to see it again but I can't find it anywhere
@@spencer621 I think I saw it on TH-cam at some point but it might have been taken down
it really shows how it's affecting the family as well, which is so important
Scandinavian movies are so good at portraying family dynamic and mental health issues, they just have such a calmness and intimacy about them that Hollywood have a hard time grasping. To the bone, as an example, tried too hard in my opinion. Great cast and production, but it was just too out there. Not to mention that Amy Diamond actually looks like an average teenage girl. Lily Collins looked like a model who had gone on a coke bender...
@Cynthia Rapp yeah, so did mine. but i think that's kind of inevitable when it comes to these movies. i think that a sick mind watching a thin body who pukes or starves will forever be a trigger. i would use anything that had anything to do with eating disorders to trigger myself further into it. no matter how raw it was, i'd still be able to glamorize it in my head.
“I’ll eat at home” *doesn’t*
Sk8ing Theatre Nerd14 why is this me tho
I used to do that. Not because I didn’t wanna get fat, but because I didn’t wanna eat. I don’t know why but I would distract myself just because i didn’t wanna eat. Luckily, I don’t do that anymore
Me for three years of middle school
Me now
i do this a lot. there’s a clubhouse in my town where there’s outreach (i’ve never used it) and they have a kitchen and video games so i go there to bake but i don’t eat it. i tell the workers that i’ll eat at home and tell my parents i ate at the club
The swedish movie was really good but the part when the parents confronted her just made me LAUGH bc when I lost my first 15 pounds my parents just said I looked so amazing and it showed how well my "diet" was working!! (even though I was at, like, a 19 BMI before my disorder and was completely healthy before I started losing weight). Diet culture in america is fucking insane and I should be getting help right now but everyone is just complimenting me and I just want to go further and further
Please, please tell someone. It's really hard to recover, but it's so worth it. I've only started recovery about a month ago and I know you probably won't listen to this, but it feels so amazing to be able to try foods you haven't had in ages and have people finally understand how you feel. No matter what people say, this is a mental illness, not a blessing.
damn im really insecure about my weight and my body and ive been trying to lose weight in a healthy way but sometimes im really tempted to just not eat even though i know i really shouldn't
It's really hard to see the truth when ppl compliment you on ur "amazing" results but it's important to know that they aren't doctors who can tell u how to be healthy, nor are their beauty standards important. It's really hard but keep trying to get better, to ignore voices in your head, altho it might seem like a good idea to do these things, keep trying to fight it, i believe in you!
I had bulimia and my Mother didn't know and still doesn't. I'm out of it now but what really helped me was telling one friend. Find someone in your life that you know will be there for you and will understand. This may sound wrong but friends that have dealt with mental illnesses, I find are more understanding and know how hard it is. Do your research and know what could happen. See a professional if you need to and even a counsellor can help. I did it my way but I know that may not work for other people. It's a journey getting out of it but the biggest step that you can take is telling one person the full truth.
No please get help, you need it. If youre not doing it for yourself do it for me so at least ill know if ur okay
I don't like how shows/films often portray psychologists/therapists as unhelpful, uncaring and useless. It's very unlikely in real life that a psychologist would brush off Cassie like in this video.
Perhaps it's to put the viewer in Cassie's point of view? Maybe she sees them, or that one lady, as unhelpful and uncaring? You do have a point though, it is highly unlikely for psychologists to do that.
What would you know, you haven't been to the thousands of doctors who miss-treat people with mental illness
although it is a little exaggerated... it highlights the tone of a lot of those places. I mean they're getting paid for it, they see you as a problem that needs to be fixed, not a person with a problem... it's more unlikely that they actually care
i mean the first 2 i saw i was 14 and BEGGING for help before my ED was full blown and i was completely blown off and verbatim they said i was dramatic. i’ve had more mental health professionals be unhelpful and often hurtful than i have had ones be caring and professional. the two i have now are incredible but truth is soooo sooo many wind up in the profession who shouldn’t be because they don’t care at all
JC GG living in a phyc hospital for 4 years of my life. I can tell you they don’t give two shit unless maybe your Scott or Demi or Selena nope the average mental pen no one see’s you. Your lucky to see your doctor monthly for a 10 min. Clinical where they see if your meds needs to be changed or what not. That’s why you never get the fuck out.
In the foreign one I started crying cuz her parents were trying so hard to help her when I just got yelled at and punished which made me worse
Hope you're feeling better ❤
Some parents dont deserve kids, call me rude but that's the truth
yeah it really made me realize how some parents actually are caring.
My parents didn't realise I had a problem until I was hospitalised. Part of the reasons I stopped eating was their mean offhand comments. Maybe I took it too far
@@SK-db8hw no that was all them
the actress in My Skinny Sister is so underrated, miss seeing her in film
Julia Vikstrom Amy Deasismont gave me her autograph when I was five 💁🏼♀️
A lot of people are upset about the second one where the parents were trying to force the food into their daughter's mouth and kept asking why it was so hard, but that's actually pretty accurate to how some parents may act. They may not know what is going on, all they know is that they want the best for their child and they act wrongly with good intentions. I've had panic attacks around my family where they ignored my pleas and my father kept yelling at me to stop acting like a baby. Not saying that all parents may act this way, because some may recognize that their child is having a panic attack.
I remember my family would try and get me to eat when I was really young, they got me my favorite foods and snacks but my dad would try and force me to eat.
My parents are like that..
Yeah my mom always comments on my weight (I have a BMI of 20) but then does a 180 during meal times and screams and guilts me if I don’t eat everything and feeds me white rice every meal
U fortunetly my parents are the same
My parents are always yelling at me and saying "stop acting, you're not even sick you're just acting. If you don't eat we'll bring you to the hospital and you'll be forced to eat everything they give you". I understand that they're caring for me and they want me to heal, but it's even worst to force someone who has an eating disorder to eat (for anorexia) or not to eat (for bulimia and binge eating). It's a very cruel way to make them heal. They don't understand that it's not only refusing to feed myself, but it's a milion voices in my head telling me that I'm fat, that I don't deserve to eat, that I've already eaten too much even though I only ate a fruit. Then after, you're just feeling guilty about it, you never feel like you're skinny enough. Everytime you go deeper and deeper, and you can't even stop.
That girl refusing to eat or even drink water was me . It got so bad that I even checked the nutrition facts on bottled water when shopping to see if it had calories . EDs are so consuming , of your life , your time , your sleep , your energy . It will drive you insane but at the time it makes sense. I never thought I was a good liar , but during that period I lied about everything . What I ate , when I ate , even woke up earlier than everyone else to dirty the dishes and leave them in the sink so it looked like I ate then use the energy from washing dishes to burn calories .
im glad thats not you anymore
I used to be a figure-skater and refused to drink more than three sips of water for every hour of training (including off-ice). I trained six-hours a day, so that part in the movie really hit home. Looking back, it's laughable that I was so terrified of water, but believe me when I say, I was TERRIFIED of it. Amazing how manipulative eating-disorders are, and how awful one can become because of them.
Lucid Nomad I can relate so much, during skate camp I wouldn’t eat anything all day. Maybe take a sip of water during our lunches then go back to training on the ice.
Sometimes moving out and being in control of what you eat and how often is the best path to recovery. I was way worse when I lived at home. My family is a primary trigger. Living alone was the best thing for me mentally.
Joy Mechell I hope you are feeling much better now. You are worth it. I’m sorry you feel that your struggle has not been accurately portrayed. I hope you don’t feel alone. Please reach out if you need help or simply someone to talk to and stay strong. 🙏🏽❤️
i think my biggest issue with feed is that a 32 year old troian and a 30 year old tom were supposed to be in high school. Also not to mention the weird incestuous turn it took
were they really meant to be in high school omg what. i assumed they must have been in collage bc of how old they are omg
no they're in high school!! the parents ask troians characters about applying for college a few times
@@PaigePizza omg that's so funny. why do movies always make high school students like 47 years old
pamela wait incest??? im confused
Agreed, but it’s honestly my favorite ED movie
That little girl from "My skinny sister" has some serious acting skills.
which sister? tbh i think both are great
@@imtrying2335 i think they meant the younger one since she was probably only like 8-10 irl.
I really hate to the bone, it's such a romanticisation of a crippling illness like anorexia. That's not even mentioning how unrealistic it is.
Charlotte H yeah I was younger when I saw to the bone and I thought if I got deathly skinny I’d be able to go to a house like that 🤦🏽♀️
Charlotte H My skinny sister on the other hand feels really raw. Not that I have an ED but from what I’ve heard it’s really accurate
Christi Greenard Haha and we’d all dance in the rain. So unrealistic!
Em Gee I don’t think the movie was unrealistic yeah the dancing in the rain Scene was unrealistic but when you look into what the movie was showing it’s deeper then two people dancing in the rain. I believe the movie show the effects the disease can have on everyone around you and coping with past mistakes that occurred which could have played a part in her mental health, there was a message in the movie and not all romanticised.
Jenna I mean maybe you’ve been in an inpatient like that but I sure never have. 🧐
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I mean it said the video had intense depictions of bulimia wouldn’t that be a given
Thomas Megeath I mean, yes. But I feel like it’s important to know when things happen so that people can skip it.
I want to know how every girl in this video can afford treatment ? Another thing no one touches on is the fact that not all insurances cover it and not all cities have treatment programs . I was supposed to go three times last year and was told I was on a waiting list , that the city that did have a bed for me didn't take my insurance , and that it was an hour away . In conclusion, I was too poor to get help . My cry fior help was ignored and I was force fed at home
Maybe it depends on the place... Treatment is free in Quebec. Otherwise, I admit it’s quite frustrating... I think their main goal is to show people that there’s a way out
Thank god, I’m living in Canada, we have free healthcare...
Thank god i live in Finland. Free healthcare.
in some countries treatment is free / not expensive ...
My parents could only afford a therapist for a couple months. I didn't even see a specialist or a physician! Insurance most definitely did nothing to cover it, much less does my city have any type of treatment center.
And you'll never see a black girl 😬 not that I want us to suffer but it makes it harder for people to believe that girls my skin color suffer from eating disorders, anxiety, and depression . In movies and tv shows it's usually an already slim white girl struggling the sane struggles I have for years , just a bit less glamorous
You actually have a point. I didn't even think about that... I almost never see any race other than Caucasian in ED movies
Actually I appreciate your sense of humor,but I'm black and I've almost died from this all of these terrible experiences mirrored my haunted family life and present recovery.Everyone you know suffers especially the parents.To see what you created destroy it self is maddening
@@Ta1kativ True tho.Although I know a lot of k pop and Asian cultures market the waif look as well.It's up there in a media portrait in what type of people struggle with these kinds of things but not as bad as we Americans do.
@@b.bd00m77 I wasn't being humorous. I was being serious. I can't think of a single non-caucasian character in an ED movie, even in a supporting role (with maybe the exception of one movie)
Tbh it wasn't towards you it was towards the original commenter and yeah you right about the minority thing but like I said there some Asian movies with a main character who isn't white its rare when they branch out most ED movies to people who actually gone through this is pretty inaccurate.
"I can't take this, it's meaningless." That sentence really hit home.
If my daughter was that scared to take a sip of water, I would take her to a hospital immediately
Drinking water can make your body start an appetite when you haven't ate in a while, and can also bloat you a lot. That's why she probably didn't want to drink.
@@localgardener8726 not really. in the ed mind she probably thought it had calories in it or would make her gain weight. or her parents put something in the water. it’s all about control.
@@localgardener8726 she was probably scared of literal water weight. Even water can increase the number on the scale even if it's only temporary.
The skinny sister one looks pretty accurate
Side note: It took me years to figure out that the biggest contribution to my eating disorder was that I unknowingly had CELIAC DISEASE. If I hadn't been eating gluten I would not have felt the gross feelings I had when eating food.
Ali Merritt I have celiacs too, and I would get sick from eating gluten
Ali Merritt i have celiac disease too
I have celiac as well
There's a scientific study that shows people with anorexia are mostly celiac sufferers
Omg me too! I have encountered tons of people with diabetes and other more popular disease and they all told me it's all in my head
Has anyone else never passed out from not eating . I went months on a 500 cal or less diet and would get faint but never had a dramatic fainting episode that landed me in the hospital. I did start having seizures tho , way after I was forced to start eating normal after months of not eating . The moms in these stories are usually supportive . My mom thought it was stupid that ur go hungry when we had food
I went through heavy restricting and purging, and even within the span of multiple years, I never had the fainting thing. I'd stumble and have to hold on to something, or gather myself for a moment, but I've never actively fallen or anything... My mom wanted to support me, but she also had/has the "just eat, what's the big deal?" mindset
serial love same . My mom sucks at supporting but in all fairness she's not my bitty mom so maybe the maternal instinct to actually care isn't there . And yeah , I've walked around like a zombie for months , feeling close to fainting but not seeing spots all the time , stumbling if I wasn't careful but never actually collapsing . I have fainted 3 times in my entire life tho , but weirdly it wasn't during that era
I had a few fainting episodes when I was anorexic I was never caught though. Honestly, now that I think about it it's kind of scary. I could have died.
People that don’t live with the problem usually struggle to understand the behavior... It’s really intense
Too often ED's are portrayed as never eating or eating and then purging it, but for a lot of people its often less clear cut and often a mix of those two with other behaviors.
I feel like people really force people with eating disorders to do stuff they arent comfortable with, and that only makes the problem worse. People with eating disorder need to want to recover without feeling forced.
@Lin Dead Many want to recover.But they also want to be skinny. Some people even recover by only themselfes.I can't imagine how hard it is for them :(
Lin Dead sometimes that’s the only way the person could die before they even realize they have a problem
Alex Blue if it comes to where they have to be forced then yes it needs to be done
Sometimes people are unfit to make their own decisions in recovery
Why do they never talk about EDNOS or binge eating??
Maddy Krebs 100% and EDNOS is super dangerous because it can morph and change when you try to catch and destroy it
There’s a series called BINGE that’s on TH-cam and it’s really great!!
Frrr!
Dumb question and I apologize but what is EDNOS?
Zed Holley eating disorder not otherwise specified !
“i didn’t eat for three days so i could be lovely” wow that hit close to home
Cassie is my forever favorite character of all time. She’s so real and raw and you can tell she’s emotionally unstable and struggling but at the same time she’s trying her best to keep it all together and ughh I just relate with her more than anyone else!!!!
My problem with ED is that I’d either eat too much or not eat anything at all, there’s nothing in between. I had suffered and almost died because of the fear of gaining weight and endless calorie counting and also suffered being overweight and then being bulimic. Honestly, people would be shocked to see how I bounce back and fourth to being underweight and overweight.
SAME !!!!
Sharlita Valarie me too
Same
Nao because thats me id eat nothing and then eat again and fiel guilty so tiene i purge and stop esting again
I relate so much. After a binge I'll try to not eat for as long as I can bear it then become so hungry that I eat everything in sight and the cycle continues. I just want to be skinny so I can be loved again, I hate this, I wish I could find help.
Well, this made me anxious.
To all the people with an ED watching this, remember that recovery IS posible, I was in the edge of dying, until my parents found out, and 6 years later I'm still here, I didn't think I was gonna live past 18, and I'm about to turn 22, doing what I love, met the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and maybe I still struggle with my relationship with food, but it is now a minimal problem in a whole life that's ahead of me. Don't be afraid to ask for help, believe me, it is worth it. If you have to starve in order to look some way, maybe your body isn't made to look that way. Honor your body, honor your hunger.
I'm so glad you're doing better! I'm 24 and recently just relapsed.
Daniela Renee thanks for the advice and I hope you are doing better
I'm so proud of you!
Im working on recovery and im doing good but it’ll definitely take a while 🙂
@@theshookavocado6142 I'm proud that you're working on recovery. You can do this, I believe in you!! Stay strong ❤️❤️
To everyone struggling, you're enough, you're worthy of love, and you're allowed to get help
I can't be fixed I refuse to be fixed because peopled want me to be normal I never was and I'm never gonna be
PhiaGirl cute guinea pig :3
Michelle Morrison sounds like a qoute from a show lmao
Thank you, honestly. I just relapsed and this comment means a lot ❤
Kerri B I'm so glad I could help you. Just remember that just because you relapsed doesn't mean you're starting all over, it's just a little bump in the road. You got this girl ❤️
i think what's great about skins is that the problems faced by each member of the group (cassie with ED, jal with teen pregnancy, chris with drug addiction, etc) are all portrayed either very subtle or overly dramatic so that audience will instantly grasp the idea. I think that skins portray secondary characters like the doctor, parents to not give a damn about the primary characters, I think it's just their style like how the doctor doesn't seem to concern, the encounter of characters seem harsh but that is what it is
for a lot of people this will sound edgy but my adolescence was literally like skins, that's why I always liked that show, i could relate a lot and I felt represented but I know a lot of people think that it glorifies bad behaviours, sadly that is the real life for a lot of kids out there
hearing 1500 at 15:12 made my heart jump too, people going through recovery are so strong
Same 😳
i feel like most ED films actually isolate the real people suffering from the illness they depict. so many films have this beautiful (probably white and a teenager/young adult) girl who's at a healthy weight and has a fine relationship with food, then something abrupt happens and all of a sudden they are dropping weight like mad until they're tiny, then they faint and maybe get sent to the hospital. that's fine because that does happen, but i rarely see any other depictions. there are so many ways to suffer from an eating disorder and so many different people that do suffer, yet i don't see that diversity in film. i do understand though, as someone who suffers from some sort of ED or problem surrounding food, that it is a hard thing to depict because so much of the struggle is internal. it's just hard to see many people's only insight into the pain of having an ED is through these ever so repetitive films.
its wild like its always *has an ED for 3 months* *faints* *inpatient hospital* in movies.
halifax verbeck i feel like they’re all kind of like things similar to 13 reasons why. more suitable for educating the general public but less suitable for those actually suffering for the issue in question
halifax verbeck not saying that’s a good thing, just noticing
@@riley-zi1ju it's difficult to say if that's a good way to 'educate' though. mental illnesses depicted in film and television usually have to have some physical harm of some sort to make it valid which hurts sufferers (and can actually make them physically harm themselves to feel that validation), and almost gives the audience who don't the experience the issues that same impression. like depression is valid when someone cuts, or kills themselves, anorexia is valid if someone is actively losing a lot of weight. anyways, thanks for your point. i wish the people producing media could see it similarly.
Emily Quinn I struggled with bulimia from grade 9 all the way until my freshman year of college. There were times I used to purge daily, yet I was never hospitalized. I did faint about 3 times but my parents never once asked me If i had an eating disorder or if there was something wrong with me
"And this is the torture chamber, also known as the dining room." PFFFT
I just want to take this moment to congratulate my parents. The minute they saw me lose weight and saw my habits change they questioned me and asked if I was ok. They right away saw the warning signs for eating disorders and took action. I of course hated them for it but I know it’s for my own good. They do sometimes use phrases and words they shouldn’t towards someone with food problems but if not for their worrying I might have never gotten help. So I thank you mama and papa
I know this is a year late, but I have the same caring parents. My best friend was diagnosed with anorexia and it fucked me up. But my mom especially went out of her way to make sure I was eating breakfast, questioned if I didn't finish dinner, etc. It wasn't forceful, but she just wanted to make sure I never went down the road my friend did. I am thankful for my parents everyday, even if I still want to lose weight. I'm just glad I'm not in a facility right now, because without them I 100% would.
@KAREN KFOURY I'm so sorry. At least you know what is happening, on the bright side. I didn't know about my friend until she texted me after ~7 months of not really talking that she was diagnosed. Do her parents know? If you suspect something you should tell her parents or at least your parents. Compliment her personality and don't let her take the conversation to her/other's bodies. Let her know that she's more than her weight or appearance. Also try to not let the conversation go to things where appearance might matter, such as guys or popularity. Don't shun her, but remember that she is in a toxic cycle with herself and may try to pull you in. Above all else though, check on her. Text her when you're thinking about her. Remind her how much of an awesome person, daughter, friend etc. she is. I really hope this helps, and I'll be here for you if you need help or to talk :) best of luck to you and your friend.
@Artryg0 n this is a year late but i’ll tell u. it’s all about control when it comes to ED. u don’t want to gain weight, not even a single centimeter, so u do whatever u can to avoid food in all occasions. sorry if this sounds triggering but it’s true sadly 🥺. it is a very destructive disorder.
I feel like in movies is kind of unrealistic when someone is purging really loudly and stuff. When I used to purged (I’ve recovered) I did my best to not make a sound and after a while I actually became so good at it that I wouldn’t gag or make a sound. I’m not saying that everyone is like this but purging in public is something that we rarely do when someone is in the bathroom and if someone does come in we stop. And I’ve seen so many movie with the cliche scene of someone purging extremely loudly like they want to get caught.
I hate this comment. You made it seem like everyone has to be a professional purger to have a real eating disorder.
@@andreakaps4101 Its quite the opposite, really--?? I actually agree with this statement, I used to purge and even in my own home i was fairly quiet about it. Its the fear of getting caught, and the fear of being judged. Im sure that they called the *movie* unrealistic, not the people purging in the movie.
Katja's parents were so supportive, it was hard to watch them force her to eat, but they really wanted to help her.
As a swede I just love how raw our films can be, it's so far from Hollywood if you know what I mean. The movie En man som heter Ove is one of my favorites, they're even making an american version of it now apparently. In the Swedish film mentioned in this video I really wished they would have translated everything and properly, but they basically just translated the gist of what they were saying. As someone who speaks swedish I cried watching these scenes, I don't know if you would just by reading the subtitles.
I like låt den rätte komma in i the best but the worst is ofc the Sune movies
@@agnes8460 Lmao the Sune movies caught me off guard 😂 Men ooh, Låt den rätte komma in har jag aldrig sett! Ska se till att titta på den någon gång!
is that movie a man called ove? the book is really good
@@paige3944 It is, yes! I've actually never read the book, I really should do that!
I really liked Fredrik Backman’s books. I’ve never read nor watched Ove, but I did like his other ones (especially ‘Anxious People’)
i’ve been recovering from my ed for three months now. i have struggled for ten years. i hope those who suffer will soon join me and travel along this road.
That's great news! Don't give up and don't be afraid of all the bad days that could come, there'll be plenty of them but less and less as time goes. I'm also just a few months into recovery after a decade of an ed, the recovering road is also a self discovery road, I had forgotten what I like to do, what kind of people I want as friend and I'm finally starting to project myself into the future as a recovered person and not an endless lifetime sick one
June Novae it’s the best decision i’ve ever made. im so glad to hear you’re recovering as well. it can be challenging and scary sometimes, but it’s a part of the process. i’d rather be where i’m at now than where i was before.
We’re in this together! I’ve been recovering for about 3 months also and have struggled with my ed for 7 years. I wish you the best and many happy days.
Brittany Vankirk you got this! i hope you have a wonderful recovery and learn to enjoy food! happy holidays!!
good luck ❤❤ I've been recovering for 2 months and I'm so much better. I'm proud of you and everyone else recovering
Why is it always a beautiful skinny white girl right from the beginning instead of an overweight one?
TRUE!!!
Bella C binging is an eating disorder, duh.
@@petrauhrakova if it was duh, she would've known. Don't be a jerk
Beansbeansbeans Perogy I was replying to comment from “ethereal bella”. She said that starting an eating disorder is hard when you are fat, because you always binge. And binging is also an eating disorder, that’s why I reacted the way I did. “Don’t be a jerk” and read comments before talking nonsense.
@@petrauhrakova i did??? Read the comments??? And telling you not to be a jerk doesn't make me one? Perhaps they can't speak english well, or they aren't educated on EDs. Gettin real tired of people smh
This made me realize there's practically no representation for men with eds
there was a main male character in to the bone
Theres a male character in pretty little things
Well it’s pretty common for women
More common in women but men still deal with this,, there should be more representation for the men
@@meowpng men suffer too.
The teacher looks like Lil Dicky lol @1:05
Glad I’m not the only one lol
please remember that weight loss isnt always a sign of an ed. i suffered from an ed for a while ans i didnt lose any weight from it, instead i stayed at the same weight or even gained. this was due to a medication i was on but either way, nobody noticed my behaviors because i didnt lose weight
What medication was it?
Apparently ADD can cause ED-esque behaviors that are normal, too. I have always been highly picky since I was born, having been born with seizures and needing to drink whole milk as a baby and then not liking certain food groups/foods/textures, etc. I had signs of Anorexia in high school, never really ever eating, being underweight, size 0 at 5'3", etc. But I never passed out or got medical help cause there was too many physical issues/mental illnesses my family and I were dealing with to properly deal with it. Even now, my psychologist and PCP all see it as somewhat normal for ADD. I now eat, but it took years of everyone reminding me and making sure I do since I started having surgeries. Now I just do a lot of intermittent fasting.
I really really hate myself for being jealous of people in treatment
최아스펜 don’t if you need it get it before it is too late.
Seek treatment it will be hard but in the end it will be worth it. You are worth it!
The swedish movie (the second one) really annoys me because of the subtitles. They always make them shorter by excluding words which in some cases takes away part of the story😐
Cornelia Eriksson jag vet, det är riktigt irriterande :(
Cornelia Eriksson No, i think its the way they say it their language..... For example, in an English sentence there could only be like two words but in a different language it could sound like it's really long..
i a m c o n f u s i o n Yeah sometimes that is the case but i am swedish so i know what is being said and the subtitles are not accuret to what is being said
@@ava-fx6ml In this case they really just translated the gist of what they were saying, which in my opinion took away quite a bit of what makes the scenes realistic and "powerful", if you know what I mean.
@@corneliaeriksson9077 Like what?
My mom was so mad that I was bulimic in middle school, but not in a good “I can’t believe you’re doing this to yourself” kind of way. She’d get mad that I was throwing up her food, because she’d throw tantrums about cooking for my dad and I all the time. Then she’d scream “If you want to lose weight, be anorexic. THAT gets results.” She was bulimic too.
wtf
I just read that with my own two eyes and every single cell in my body is in attack mode. And to top it all of, she's a hypocrite. I know this was posted 8 months ago, but good Lord, lady!
I’m so sorry you went through that. You are worthy and you are loved💗
The first one is horrifying Jesus
"My skinny sister"'s scene where they tried to feed her made me so sad...
I hope you all can have an healthy relationship and never fall in this kind of shit.
Don't make ed glamourous cause they aren't.
Stay safe🌙
"You did this to yourself"
this mad me so mad-
Anorexia, binge eating disorder, etc. isn't something we do to ourselves. We are brought up in our world to be a certain way.
Milk that was the voice in her head i think
Or Abuse can have an effect too.
sometjmes it can be done “on purpose” like almost wanting it in the beginning and thinking you are in control and its just to lose a little weight but eventually it takes over everything and you realize you have no control
“You’re a beautiful unicorn” why can’t I have sweet boys like this as friends ;-;
The second one hit me like a truck I relate a lot with it and if my baby sisters ever saw me at my low points in my life it would break my heart to pieces.
I never want them to ever feel as horrible as I did and destroy themselves .
One of my favorite things about Feed was that Olivia's anorexia wasn't the typical need to be skinny or other things you see in most movies of the genre, it was a way for her to self-harm and was a manifestation of the guilt of not dying with her brother. That's why i appreciate that movie so much, because i had seen little of it as not being a means to an end where the end goal is to be skinny.
I've always speculated that ED's weren't always about wanting to weigh less or be pretty, but rather than the need to control something in an environment where a lot of things are beyond anyone's control. It depends on what the person went through to get an ED, but I think the main thing to take away from it is that an ED is a mental illness, so when you get into the habits of an ED, your brain becomes wired to believe that this is what you want, when it really isn't.
Jaiden Animations is a great example of what an ED can do, and I'm sure there are plenty of others who went through the same struggles as she did. I believe that by simply talking about their problems instead of just panicking in desperation will make the person feel safer and more comfortable around them, as healing processes take time.
Just saying, there are different eating disorders than bulimia and anorexia. Such as orthorexia nervosa, or binge eating disorder. I’d like to see films on lower known, yet still hard to deal with eating disorders.
no one ever talks about how squidward refused to eat krabby patties because he was afraid of gaining weight but ended up binging on them and feeling disgusting :((
cassie really had the "best" eating disorder storyline. every thing she said / did felt so real i could literally see myself in her: from the kitchen cleaning ocds to distracting people while they're eating so they don't realize you're not. starving for days to look "prettier" for an event... for once, eating disorder was portrayed correctly.
This makes me so sad :( but it's so powerful because it displays the devastation of eating disorders so poignantly and accurately. Painful to watch but also so eye-opening and crucial for the non-ED community to see.
Yea the first two really did a good job at taking away the glamourization of it
The whole video of My Skinny Sister was on TH-cam at one point but I believe its gone now. Haven't been able to find it anywhere else. The scene where the parents are trying to force the girl to drink but she refuses, and it gets Stella really upset... it breaks my heart. I don't want anybody to feel that way because of me, but I also think that when my eating disorder was bad, if anybody tried to force me to eat, I'd act the same way. It's all about control.
I watched ”My skinny sister” the other day. I was alone, sensitive and sick, so I cried a lot. 😐
Embla Bexell i can’t find it online anywhere! How did you watch it?
When her mom said they have a unit for her, I started to ball my eyes out that’s so sad.
The my skinny sister short actually felt really scary. The way that she wouldn’t even take a sip of pure water at the end is scary. Very well portrayed.
21:03
This scene hits extremely hard when you know that Cassie has a way to avoid eating by talking, constantly changing the subject and playing with her food with a fork and knife, mixing it around to try to make it seem like she ate some of it when she's around people. She tries to do it here but Allan knows it, he sees through her.
It's also worth mentioning that she also ate a burger before she attempted suicide as 'her last meal.' I don't know if this was on purpose though.
I think these stuff just makes this scene much more effective.
And, I also have to mention that, that "Love you too","So eat" part is so sad and so heartbreaking. Kudos to the writers and the actress playing Cassie for portraying it with such rawness.
I remember going to the cinema with my classmates here in Sweden when "Min lilla syster" had its premiere. The scene where the parents try to force her Katja to eat is still embedded in my memory.
The movie certainly did its job of informing and showing the dangers of eating disorders and it's for sure a move that'll live with me.
the most unrealistic part in most of these movies is that the parents are mostly supportive and trying to understand what’s wrong and immediately try to seek professional help, but my parents just yelled at me for “being stupid” and made me eat soup. it didn’t help
Honestly, that's so true in most cases. Parents usually don't understand what's going on, so they just get angry and expect you to eat
It’s been 2 1/2 years I’ve been in recovery and I just wanted to pop in and tell anyone who feels hopeless that it is possible. It took so much longer than I wanted it to take but things like this are never predictable. And the ride was full of more lows than I could’ve imagined. But I believe in you ❤️
i’m a figure skater and one of my friends has anorexia and its heart breaking to see how it affects her ability to skate or do anything :(
you know it's getting bad again when you're back at these videos
"Fun" fact: Min Lilla Syster is actually a play on words. In Swedish 'Lilla' means little and depending on the context, small. So you get the idea lilla=little/small and small=skinny
*ThE mOrE yOu KnOw~✨*
I felt so smart for knowing that after 4 years of studying swedish as a finn
honestly it's obvious even if you only know English
The scene when they're trying to feed her is just so sad and psychically painful
The part where the parents were begging the daughter to drink water and eat in "My skinny sister" has happened to me almost in the same fashion. I was trying to watch a movie and my parents came with a fruit cream (the one they feed babies with) begging me to eat a spoonful and I refused. I'll never forgive myself for the pain I caused to my family even though I know it wasn't my fault.
That tube just aagggghhh. Scaryyyyyy, and makes me want to eat more to stay away from it, the gags bleh.
I’ve suffered from Restrictive Food Intake Disorder and when my parents found out what I was doing it was horrible so thanks for making this video to outline the horror of eating disorders
woah what else happens in skinny sister that was intriguing
Ah yes the only two eating disorders there is.. anorexia and bulimia. /s
It makes me sad thattheir isnt more talk of the whole spectrum including binge eating, ednos and all the others
They've mentioned in the bio that they chose to focus on restrictive ed's (especially ana and mia) and they they are very aware they other ed's exist
@@honeypiebadger they were talking abt films not the created dw :) /nm
Who said that.
@@andreakaps4101 no it’s just the media only really covers anorexia and bulimia, so it’s rlly hard for ppl with BED, EDNOS, and other eating disorders to be taken seriously and understood
damn these scandinavian movie clips brought me to tears instantly. I had never seen eating disorders being depicted so powerfully and truthfully before.
As someone who has food addiction and bed with on and off purging, i told my mom and she told me that she would be concerned about an eating disorder if i looked like i had one 😬
The part of My Skinny Sister where her parents try to make her eat or drink is just terribly real...
And just to add, the guy in To the Bone is great, even if he struggles he tries to comfort everyone
I hate how glamorized it still seems, though it does portray quite a bit. Where are the areas where they avoid going out because of the presence of food. The fear of someone commenting. The obsession in numbers. The effects of the disorder.
Onyx Everlasting these are just clips of the movies, this doesn’t show the entire movies.
there's actually a lot of that in an old gymnast movie i watched, and also the skinny sister
Not showing every single aspect of every symptom of every person’s eating disorder is not glamorization. People LOVE to say that everything they don’t personally relate to is over romanticized or glamorized. Many other people relate to it perfectly. When you say this isn’t a “real” depiction of a disorder, you are completely disregarding those of us who do relate to it. You are claiming my trauma isn’t valid because it doesn’t look like yours and that I don’t deserve representation, because my trauma is too “glamorous”
you don’t need to show every single symptom for it to be accurate. your experiences aren’t universal, everyone does different things when having an ED. and it’s not glamourised for not showing every fucking symptom.
Skins has girls in the institution that worry about going out into the world because of food being out there. They panic over food. One girl is Anorexic and then goes on a huge binge out in the world and ends up purging at the end of the night from guilt. Cassie also studies the labels a lot throughout the series and sees food as stuff to play with instead of eating. There's a lot more this video doesn't show.
Maybe no one says it but teachers that reach out to their students when they notice something is going wrong are life savers.
I literally cried while watching these. I really appreciate how hard directors work to portray anorexia and how hard it is to take the smallest bite of food - someone in recovery
Ah, I remember watching skinny sister at the VEERY beginning of my ED. It was the first eating disorder video I had ever watched and I wondered if it would really work. Now look where we are. That was... 3-4 years ago. Wow.
The “are you on something ? “ damn near made me cry cause that’s been asked of me so many times and I got to be 112 pounds it was my ED not drugs, sucks when nobody believes you. ED changes your wholeeeee life 🙏
I get that my whole life cause of my ADD that has created me to have such a happy and bubbly personality. Despite being disabled and sick throughout my life, other than seizure meds when I was little, I was never truly on drugs yet people felt I was. I gained an ED even more outside picky eating when I was in highschool and people legit asked me for drugs or if I had a dealer. Even coworkers occasionally did as I was growing up. Now people know I have mental illness. Before then, people felt maybe I did but we focused too much on my physical stuff to care about the mental so we never had a diagnosis. Now we do and now it almost never happens.
When the guy said to cassie he loves her and she said I love you back made me cry so hard. And then when she goes in for a bite, it was beautiful. Something about that was so heart wrenching and impeccable.
I’ve never seen my skinny sister but just watching these few scenes made me absolutely devastated and I started sobbing. It hit so close to home, seeing my sister suffering through bulimia while I was overweight made me feel disgusting and useless. I was young and she was my role model. We shared one bathroom and sometimes I had to wait for almost an hour for her to come out of the bathroom. It made her cruel and sickly. And i ignored it all because she was my sister, I began starving myself in the 6th grade. The water scene in particular hurt me so much. I remember my parents sitting her down and telling her if she didn’t stop she would die. It hurts it really fucking hurts.
The cab driver has always been my favorite character from Cassies story arc ngl
I’ve never understood how people can cry on videos, but when i saw My Skinny Sister and how she begged to recover at home, I couldn’t stop from getting emotional, that really struck me.
You know it’s getting bad again when I’m coming back to these videos
I feel called out 😅
Since I had been trying to lose weight, I too have started falling in this hole of eating disorder. I hate the feeling of food in my stomach at times. But I have started eating while watching my favorite shows, that distracts me and slowly I've started getting used to that feeling of being full again.
Me too
that scene in the hospital really freaked me out. i’m currently recovering and they say that if i don’t take action they’ll do the same to me. this has inspired me to take action before something like that has to happen.
The sad part is I can't make myself throw up. And I'm struggling also with depression and self harm so if I can't throw up I hurt myself..
I always throw up after I binge because I'm scared of getting fat it's like fear is my motivation
why the fuck are you guys replying to them encouraging this. what the actual fuck. literally what is wrong with you? dont tell them about how fear can be your motivation dont tell them when you throw up dont like this comment. seriously what is wrong with you do you understand how triggering that can be
if you cant throw up stop fucking trying. stop.it isnt sad that you cant purge. you dont want that. stop trying to have an eating disorder stop telling people things you know are triggering stop attention seeking stop stop stop stop stop stop. you dont want this you dont want to fall into that you really dont if you are looking for help on how to yak you arent in deep and you need to stop trying to learn. get help before you actually get sick. i cannot fucking believe you guys and the way you replied to this.
They didn't talk about allergies. I had food allergies as a kid and so avoided food but people just thought I had an eating disorder. It was very traumatic to go through therapy to something you didn't have and everyone but you thinking you're broken until you believed it.
me : in a revocering center
youtube : puts this in my recommendations
Hope you are better 🙏🏾 remember you're a strong girl.
My mom found out that I was throwing up and made fun of it instead of getting me to professional help, so whenever I watch the parents take their kids to a doctor, it makes me cry