Dude they don’t care. I knew this woman who just casually told me that her daughter wasn’t her ex-husbands child & he thought it was. She just shrugged her shoulders and giggled when she said it. Coldest thing I’ve seen in my life.
In a lot of ways it's the men's fault for not doing their own due diligence. If some chick ever told me she was president I'm going to have to have certified papers saying I'm the dad before I ever sign my name on a birth certificate.
It’s crazy how WITHOUT FAIL whenever a man puts forth a unflattering reality that paints women in a bad light 99.9% of women will IMMEDIATELY bring up anything men do that they believe will be a rough equivalent to divert attention from just being on women. Vs just acknowledging the role that they play in that unflattering reality. As well as how casually women disregard the roles we have to pay because they see those things that they’re entitled to as a price of admission. Even tho we as men aren’t extended the same curtesy. Her overlooking the amount of initial effort that we put in as “work”. Mans really had to explain our work in like 3 different ways just to get it thru her head that we put the overwhelming majority of the INITIAL work! She doesn’t even believe in matching a man’s effort which speaks volumes.
I'll simplify it very quickly name one time and ex will list the great things you provided for her to their new partner. None not one. Because the bad is the good and good is the bad otherwise why bring another new partner to compare where you left off
It's crazy, if black men aint shit then once he becomes successful black women wanna take credit for "listening to his idea in the moddle of the night⁉️" Unbelievable🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️🤷♂️
This video is great evidence that the criticisms of Kevin Samuels about his tone was all nonsense. This man was clam, patient, and clear and was still met with one-way aggression, and SIGN language.
It amazes me that a brother this articulate can patiently explain a point that most can’t put into words..and he is still met with contempt😂 she was better off just saying she dgaf
This is the part that most people skip over. He is a literal outlier in the dating market as a black male that is that educated and articulate and doesnt have that much of a muddy past that its dug into and plastered to bring him down, and then on top of that, he is a lot more productive than most his age would even care to be…a literal embodiment of many of the outward expressions of the intrinsic traits women say they select for…and yet still he cant get the comprehension or depth of listening from them… Imagine guys that had less of all of what i mentioned above, or in other cases none of it at all….just imagine that
@@2011troya I agree wholeheartedly with you.. its forces you to ask the question “do they want what they say they want? Or is it all bullshit?” it’s almost as if their children and you have too make the best decisions for them because of their incompetence.
@@2011troya bro I'm like him Just from nigeria too Surrounded with lovig family and tons of supporters ❤️ I understand his pain cause I'm goig through similar situation Most women hate the fact that i know my worth and I'm not settling for a woman who is less than , because my family will disown for bringing a bad woman home
Man: I ❤️ oranges, but I saw a shiny apple today I wanted to bite. Woman: So what's wrong with oranges? Man: I ❤️ oranges. Always will. The apple looked good is all I'm saying. Woman: So you think apples are better than oranges now?!? Man: I drink oj every morning. I clean with orange scented Lysol. I get orange chicken from the take out. I'm dedicated to orange. Woman: I feel like you don't want oranges and also you're not taking my feelings seriously.....
Without those "puritan expectations" of women, it totally changes how men value women. Losing those expectations is like learning women can't really love men. Black pill
@@enough_is_enough5131 I think what the OP is saying is that those "puritan expectations" are what makes men as a whole want to deal with women. Women trade their youth and fertility for protection and provisioning from men. If you get rid of that to create a society where everyone is out for themselves then the grand losers of that type of society will be women.
Well I recommend not loving who can't even love you back,and don't care to,because love for the parasitic female is self defending,she gets ahead off a man she chooses,who she feels qualified,then she will welcome his love and resources with open arms.
In most cases those wives knew their husband stepped out but chose to ignore. But for sure in all cases the side piece knew she was and chose to bare children by him
@@enough_is_enough5131 the repercussions of the lack of integrity is the entire point. Consequences are often not equal. One side typically pays a heftier toll for the entirety of their lives...this is something few women recognize much less admit to.
@@davidjones4318 It’s not a lack of integrity at all, it’s in our original culture to have multiple wives and families. Even Shrazod Ali said this back in the 90s
I am a victim of partenity fraud. Six years of raising a child that I thought was mine. I am at the stage now where I am waiting for the department of Home Affairs ( I am South African) to get my name removed from the birth certificate. What I can tell you is women generally don’t care about a man’s pain. I have experienced this from women in my family, and what I thought was close female friends who could not understand why I want to remove myself from the situation. I have generally received support from men. Brothers do not be like me, get that DNA test no matter what
You can’t have a real conversation with people committed to misunderstanding your point of view even when it’s based on facts. These conversations are for people who want a healthy relationship, romantic or otherwise. Women gotta stop with the “but what about…” followed by something that has nothing to do with the original issue
No matter what you tell a black woman instead of listening she always has to confront compare contrast you name it they cannot simply be quiet and listen it is just something that are not capable of. And when you talk about paternity test and she says I don't think it's that much it's 30% and think about this as a man you have someone that you think is your child and later on you find out it isn't you talk about betrayal you looking at this woman who let another man enter her body and put a child inside of her and didn't even tell you and lied to you and you're worried about a man cheating on you ladies again be quiet and listen
100%....men are viewed as machines, like there is no pain we can't deal with. They simply can't imagine what it would feel like to raise a child, love that child and it not be theirs! NO CLUE!
It's amazing how often women are horrible 😢 listeners. It's clear that men have to seek out pro active social control of women or civilization as we understand will collapse.
I remember a movie back in the day about a baby being switched at birth in hospital and the parents finding out later. The woman had a conniption! It was a huge scandal. They (women) just can’t understand unless it happens to them and then it’s the worst thing in the world. This situation happens to men all the time and rarely happens to women because if a hospital is found out to be negligent, people would sued for a hefty amount, but men are supposed to just shut up and take it.
I believe she initially is there to bring the women prospective and not to agree with everything he is saying. Thats what the point of these conversations are to bring on a different point of view and understand of the genders based on the perspectives of both. If not he would just be interviewing men and obviously they would agree with everything said.
@@preciousmocha78 Exception she is interviewing the man this wasn't suppose to be a podcast. When you interview someone its to get and understand their perspective.
@ Butterfly Mage Thank you very much. Also love the artist and funny enough he has no South African roots which is the origin of the name. It means Blessings in my language (Setswana)
Those last 5 minutes had alot of gems that I think some people will miss. NO LONGER ATTACHING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM TO THE ABILITY TO CONQUER WOMEN is incredibly freeing. That, coupled with the ABILITY TO SEE WOMAN AS JUST PEOPLE without EXPECTATIONS or JUDGEMENT will put you in places and rooms both physically and mentally that most people don't even know exist.
The interviewer isn't trying to listen to understand rather only listening to respond. She is demonstrating a big lack of accountability of some women. We, as a people will never get it together until there is fairness on both sides. Everything is not on the man. This one sidedness needs to stop.
9:18 "well..." the telltale sign of the most elusive technique in the woman's arsenal, the "I don't understand it, I can't relate, so it can't be relevant" technique. If not relating was a reason to not care then women would have a very different experience here in the west.
This chick does not understand anything you are saying! There is a small population of women that can be applied but, the majority of successful men didn’t ask a women for their opinion for their success.
Listening to this conversation and the mindset and the attitude of the woman establishes the standard why so many men like myself are single by choice... Who wants to deal with this every day for the rest of their life... ijs..
Women suffer from a condition , I call selective amnesia! What you have done for them, time, money and protection is not appreciated in the present. It’s never enough.
KS started the conversation is just the title of the series since it was most people's introduction to the entire genre but he was saying the same things about 85%
I was just about to say.. why do they keep saying that.. whats funny is I'm pretty sure he wouldn't have called himself red pill.. even though it's obvious.. i dont even think its most people introduction just because its been around for a while
@@keithpass it's definitely been around for decades it was just called something else. But this is the TH-cam generation where everything is categorized
THE CONVERSATION STARTED AT 14:53 IS IMPORTANT - WOMEN THINK THEY HAVE A MONOPOLY ON EMOTIONAL SUPPORT BUT FORGET THAT WE ALSO HAVE TO LISTEN TO THEM VENT ABOUT WORK (EVEN WHEN THEY ARE IN THE WRONG), GIVE THEM SPACE TO EXPRESS THEIR EMOTIONS (TYPICALLY SADNESS - WHEN UR GIRLS STARTS CRYING ABOUT SOMETHING MINOR YOU CAN NOT TELL HER THAT IT IS INSIGNIFICANT), SUPPORT THEIR DECISIONS GOOD OR BAD (AND THEN ALSO DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES) ETC
I've always agreed with some of the red pill idealogy but thought some of the content creators were a bit extreme and a little insensitive. The way you articulate on the subject makes it to where woman can not only digest but empathize and that is the ultimate goal. Understanding! Great video!!
Regardless of whatever tolls we as women (wives) are putting into our marriages, we aren’t the ones expected to protect or die (sacrifice their lives) for our protection!
I'm not convinced that most modern women believe that they need protection from Men. Civilized behavior, male restraint, and free protection from men has given women a false sense of security. Unfortunately the moment a woman is in a vulnerable position by herself it's too late. Cops can't teleport to the scene of a crime in real time. They respond after call for help is made.
@@shaylagortman2322 I do realize that we women put our lives on the line to CARRY and delivery OURs as well as their (our husband’s) child…so that’s a mutual “toll”, which still isn’t as a high a toll as being EXPECTED to sacrifice your LIFE for your wife!
@@shaylagortman2322 husbands sacrifice their lives for their wives everyday, and that’s the expectation from them, their wives, society especially from a biblical perspective. That’s the understanding as our protectors! I don’t run to danger when something goes bump in the night, that’s part of husbae’s protection and provision as the head of our household, and most husbands proudly accept this duty! Us wives don’t have that charge. Besides, having children is for BOTH parents, where as dying for your wife only benefits the wife…
It’s so frustrating because no matter how often men tell us it’s not personal when they cheat or want another woman, that it’s natural and doesn’t mean they don’t love us. It still feels to (most of) us like we are not good enough in some way. Insecurity sets in , comparison, etc etc. I really wish the creator made us not feel threatened and hurt by it so it would match men’s nature. That would be beautiful. Even my friends who are from cultures and religions who totally accept it, most the of them still don’t like it, they just deal with it.
bm put up with more bs from you bw. after all it is a bw!!! and secondly this interviewer is a pander to you bw. bm say it way more harshly than this simp does 😉😌
A lot of of men would argue that the reason why it makes women feel bad is because of the pride that women have. Many women aren't capable or willing to fully satisfy their man for the long haul because it takes a lot of energy that's outside of just instantly being turned on. Women allow all sorts of distractions and mental blockages when it comes to relations with their man. The pride comes in when a woman knows she can't really fulfill that role, because let's be honest - it's not taught in modern society - but she doesn't want another woman to fulfil it, because she knows that sexual fulfilment is at the top of a man's list. So she doesn't want another woman fulfilling the #1 thing he wants, even though she isn't fully capable or fully willing to maintain it. Again, I'm talking the long haul too. Every couple has peaks where the sexual part is flawless, but it's the valleys that men hate.
Well the Creator gave you everything that you wanted especially for a woman you guys won an abortion you got it you guys wanted Plan B you got it you guys want an alimony you got it after anything else from the Disney Fantasy you got it what exactly else could you complain about if you already manifested so to speak car a house fashionable clothes and in some way he gave you all that but where's the internal work if a man decides to share his testimony about what one specific woman does there's always a woman that has that guilty conscience because she knows that she's either thinking of doing something like that or already done it
The minimizing of the trauma a man goes through when experiencing raising or even almost raising a child that is not yours because of the deceit of your female counterpart is wild She continued to go tit for tat try ing to equate traumas or disregard it by saying it doesn't happen often. Smh
It happens often… I remember when a family member of mine discovered his dad wasn’t his dad… and that the mother knew yet it was her mother who exposed the whole thing… that hurt is unreal
I was wit a x for 5 years I treated like a queen we had our second child on the way turns out it wasn’t mine and she wasn’t gunna tell me protect yourself men and don’t be bitter find better
When he said, "The Magic Is Gone" that hit me in the chest hard. Because that's exactly how I've felt for a few years and it's interesting to hear other men say it. We've been to OZ and finally accepted who the Wizard truly was. And the magic is gone.
I agree as well. There is a psychiatrist that describes taking the red pill at your peril if you are not prepared to complete the treatment. If handled properly, men have the knowledge to move appropriately.
Most of what he's saying is what you hear from traditional families. Only difference is that it's normal to those raised in it. It's unfair to those not raised in it.
GENTLEMEN!!!! THE GREAT KS has left us BUT welcome to the heir apparent. Bro Obi is KS 2.0. Pay attn!!!! Low key he will prove (and has) that no matter the “tone” no matter the intention you have to better help women in some (if not most) instances it does not matter notice even the women conducting his interview almost short circuited trying to deflect back to “well men” rather than focusing on the subject at hand @weneedtotalk keep going KING!!!!
@@nangaeboko6710 the fact that they don’t agree proves the point…QUESTION: who is more articulate, more thoughtful, able to do mental jujitsu in real time interviews and effectively short circuit the rational of the ladies he is interviewing AND either convince them OR show US the viewers, the utter delusion of some of our sisters? Who I ask can do THESE THINGS AS EFFECTIVELY???
@@lhbnlb Obi is arguably at the top of the game regarding interviewing women and exposing delusions. The problem though is there are now numerous channels where you can also see this phenomenon. In fact the trend right now is real time, in person panel sessions. Also the reason some don't agree is his channel actually is a infomercial for a movement that he wants no part of.
I think every grown man knows at least 3 dudes that thought a child was their child and eventually found out it wasn't theirs. This shit happens to military men all the time.
Exactly. But the truth is, she is talking about the men that she actually wants who are not doing the things that she wants. The guys who are doing those things are not the guys that she wants. That’s where the disconnect always is with these conversations.
The obsession of women wanting to own men's success continues... What in the world⁉️ "Women listen to men's ideas in the middle of the night." And⁉️ It was his idea 💡💡💡💡😒😒😒😒🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
At 23:50 he masterfully articulates what most men are dealing with. Women are not who we thought they were. Over the past few years with social media and dating apps we have gotten quite the education. With knowledge comes a loss of the majesty and mystique women often have. It's like finding out your favorite athlete is not a great person. Men have to adjust to this new reality. Ultimately there will be fewer committed relationships and a restructuring of society.
"I dont believe in matching energy, I'm gonna be who I am, and if I cant be that with you, then I'd rather be without you..." SPOKEN BY ANY WOMAN THAT NEEDS MAXIMUM VALIDATION. She'll expect you to put in 200% effort to cover the 100% she wont put in. Aint nobody payin your cover charge to start a relationship.
Then goes on to say that women treat you how they want to be treated and later treat you how you treat them when those are will require matching of energies.
Its a GOTT DAMN SHAME! This young man had to explain himself to a FEMALE who understood everything he said; but she wanted to win the argument so bad. She act like she didn't making her self sound like a complete idiot! A 10yr old could get what this brother was saying.
It's amazing how little women have to know about men to be a part of a relationship In the crazy part is they have no interest in learning anything All they want to talk about is how they feel and what benefits them
True. Women learn so little about their men to the point that a lot of them try to have their guy give up his hobbies too. It stretches even to the kids not know what their dad's like. I say it's part of why men on fathers day get a mug or a neck tie and women for mothers day get cards, flowers, meals, jewelery, outfits, favorite perfume and trips. We know a woman's favorite flower but don't even know what cut of underwear of man likes.
Omg I’m 42 and I had to ask my doctor a few questions. I was like I think about relations ALL day and it just started around 40🤦🏽♀️. She laughed and she said that’s normal after 40. The libido increases like crazy.
The level of patience and clarity needed to fight through her consistent attempts to interrupt and invalidate his arguments is LEGENDARY! Our differences aren’t points of competition to prove “who has it worse.” These differences are biological imperatives that shape our morals, values, and worldviews. Trying to reverse that order is where we have a lot of our problems in society…
Echo chamber she’s copping answers out to refute the slightest accountability, she feels personally attacked in every rebuttal. sad reality that she thinks she’s most black women when the truth is she is most likely a minority
You got down on this one. F#@k around and get men to stop believing in wholesome women and that will be the day you witness true EQUAL treatment between the sexes.
Alimony, lawyer fees, child support, custody, death, protection, half value/wealth, no say in abortion, expected to pay every outing, vacation, trip, war draft, me too. We now live in a society that screams equality, but women don't want equality, they want all of the good with none of the bad. If both are working adults those advantages women split in half. I've seen it with my own eye's in several different marriages where I've lived with family members and friends. The dynamics are never equal and the man is always left holding the bag (when the market falls out). To all men, you get a goddamn Pre-Nup or you don't marry. Has nothing to do with trust b/c when you marry you're given a Pre-Nup it's just been drafted by the state to favor the state and incentives your spouse to divorce you.
I like him. Intelligent man. Great conversation, these conversations are a must have and the dialogue that should take place on dates. They essentially had a date in this interview. In the sense of understanding how each other think, purposes of seeing how far apart they are on things and what things are in common. From that realization, if they can work on something to be. This dialogue is needed for all of us to succeed in successful relationships. I don't agree with 22:12. You always show up with great energy, yes we don't match energy if it is negative. Point, just show up to be the best you everyday, you cannot worry about the other person's attitude or disdain. Staying positive is exactly that, stay purposeful and focused.
Great convo…she represents most women’s flawed talking points, impeccably. This is why the marriage rate in our community is low, and 1 out of 4 black women will see marriage in their lifetime. 🤦🏽♂️
Finding out he had another family that you didn't know about means whatever he was doing with them didn't effect you or your life... His second family didn't cost you anything so it's not the same.
I agree once you learn women that magic, purity and innocence u thought women were ceases to exist. Sometimes to a point where u cant really trust any of them 100%. Any woman i deal with no matter if shes my wife i will be getting a paternity test for all my future children as well as a prenup for the marriage.
This and many other interviews reveal how women are biologically dispositioned to not take accountability...for every scenario he mentioned, she rebutts with "but men"....someone else's negative behavior does not permiss yours...smh..
The interviewer's stile is too personal. It's too defensive. She should be more focused on extracting information and understanding and less on debating. UNLESS the point of the show is to debate the topic.
In the last quarter of the video where you said the "magic is gone", I imagine you were feeling like King Solomon in his latter years while writing Ecclesiastes. Everything is vanity and vexation of spirit lol.
She dont give a dang about what your talking about....she dismissed paternity fraud. When in the black community in 2012 it was 41%, and it's probably worst now.
Women can't seem to understand a man's s3xual directive is quantity while a women's is quality! I find it best to use the shoes/bag analogy! Women will have a favourite pair of shoes/bag but have no trouble buying 10x more shoes/bags because they think it goes well with a particular outfit! This drives men crazy as men tends to have ONE wallet for ALL outfits/occasions!!
This isn't entirely accurate. Women enforce male standard through hypergamy. Men enforce women standards through polygamy. We both want quality. We just use different sexual strategies to get there
What she needs to be explained is that for men to have the quantity of sex that they innately want, they must become quality. All the women he has sex with but aren't his main concern, those are quantity women. Although they will have various levels of attractiveness. For a woman to be a main girl for a man, she needs to be quality. She's needs something over the women he would have sex with in the quantity category. But if she cheats on him, she puts herself into the quantity category. And usually ends up being dumped. Because the woman who has sex with multiple men doesn't need any quality to her. Her only aspect and dynamic is quantity. The least attractive woman can have as much sex as the most attractive woman. And it happens that way in real life as proof. The women in real life having the most sex are out on the street, making money from it, and they are some of the least attractive. And she's wrong about men aren't trying to wine and dine. They are. The difference now is that women are listing those men in their phones as "food date"
What is with the incessant need to "equalize" things whenever certain topics are discussed? It's always "well men to it too"...but we're talking about what YOU'RE doing right now. Geez
Damn this is rough lol. I've paid for every date I've ever had my whole life because my Black mother who I love told me that a Man pays for the date and therefore I do. The work to get that woman or women in some case when dating casually cost quite a bit. I remember reinventing myself (thank you Kevin Samuals 2019) and getting back on the market after a devorce at 35 yrs old and dating 3 women at the same time. After 3 months I had spent 9,000 on these 3 women and I knew I had to make a choice lol and I did but had I more money to put towards these dates over a longer period I may have enjoyed more variety of women over a longer period of time which is something I wasn't planning on doing I just had more money than I had in the past to try it this way. A man operating out of Scarcity vs a man operating out of Abundance is wildly different.
He had a whole family and raised them without you (the wife) knowing from his own bank account 🤔🤔 How is that worse than raising a family of kids where none are biologically his and he does not know for 18 or more years? (419/Fraud) Make that make sense🤯🤯🤯 Interviewer on the defensive for the sistahood, put your weapons down, sis. When she was the interviewee sheb sounded so reasonable, but now that she is the interviewer heavy hints of SIGN language are coming through.
The men I know understand the requirement to put in the work early. However, I have seen so many damaged women self-sabotage this kind of effort. That "treat you how they want to be treated" thing is straight 🧢!! This lady is not being realistic about the present environment we operate in.
My thing is, she says women do too much without commitment.... What would make a woman think she will get my ring, without me knowing what I'm actually getting... Sex might be terrible, her family might be crazy, she may have some emotional instability, etc. Etc. Nah, we gotta get to know each other deeply. Oh, and she probably can't cook, and or keep the house clean.
Your logic would be widely accepted if people married the first person they dated. Meaning, when you see a woman you like, approaching her would automatically mean you are interested in marriage (not just casual sex/casual dating). Because men seek purity, expecting a woman to give herself away before marriage is unwise unless you can guarantee that you are the first person she’s dated. ❤
7:55 The difference Is the woman lost her concept of trust, while the man lost his physical resources, emotional investment, time, and energy. The fact that she didn't find out until he died might be a testament to the fact that her needs were still being met while he had an whole entire other family
I find it most interesting that the bare minimum expectation entrained into the mentality of the women that are like the speaker is that we’re expected to commit our life to becoming successful, both financially but as a man as well, and make the same depth of commitment to the woman as well. In that I mean the expectation of time that she explained as going above and beyond for a man is equal to the same bare minimum expectation from a man that predicated her even hypothetically being in a relationship with them to begin with.
Wow! I’m throughly impressed with how you articulated these points. It sucks - but it makes sense.
Ooooweeeee! I can’t wait to pick your brain 🧠 😅
Dude they don’t care. I knew this woman who just casually told me that her daughter wasn’t her ex-husbands child & he thought it was. She just shrugged her shoulders and giggled when she said it. Coldest thing I’ve seen in my life.
Tough. Accept them & love them as they are, but be SHARP out there!
Facts
In a lot of ways it's the men's fault for not doing their own due diligence. If some chick ever told me she was president I'm going to have to have certified papers saying I'm the dad before I ever sign my name on a birth certificate.
What you mean coldest thing, 20m babies bruh and that's just BW in the US.
@@sircharles820 I can see what you’re saying but it’s not the man’s fault 😂
It’s crazy how WITHOUT FAIL whenever a man puts forth a unflattering reality that paints women in a bad light 99.9% of women will IMMEDIATELY bring up anything men do that they believe will be a rough equivalent to divert attention from just being on women. Vs just acknowledging the role that they play in that unflattering reality. As well as how casually women disregard the roles we have to pay because they see those things that they’re entitled to as a price of admission. Even tho we as men aren’t extended the same curtesy. Her overlooking the amount of initial effort that we put in as “work”. Mans really had to explain our work in like 3 different ways just to get it thru her head that we put the overwhelming majority of the INITIAL work! She doesn’t even believe in matching a man’s effort which speaks volumes.
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I'll simplify it very quickly name one time and ex will list the great things you provided for her to their new partner. None not one. Because the bad is the good and good is the bad otherwise why bring another new partner to compare where you left off
We are supposed to be there slaves
It's crazy, if black men aint shit then once he becomes successful black women wanna take credit for "listening to his idea in the moddle of the night⁉️" Unbelievable🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️🤷♂️
@@KevinSmith-xt8xrsoooo true, wow: the bad is the good, the good is the bad
She tried to turn EVERY point into being men's fault.
Every fucking point. As a rational, critical thinking man listening to her is exhausting.
Every single one
Selective listening
We are witnessing “the need to be right” live and in color….AND IN GENERAL NO ACCOUNTABILITY
Yeah the SIGN language is strong with this one.
This video is great evidence that the criticisms of Kevin Samuels about his tone was all nonsense. This man was clam, patient, and clear and was still met with one-way aggression, and SIGN language.
It amazes me that a brother this articulate can patiently explain a point that most can’t put into words..and he is still met with contempt😂 she was better off just saying she dgaf
Bro facts!!!!!
This is the part that most people skip over. He is a literal outlier in the dating market as a black male that is that educated and articulate and doesnt have that much of a muddy past that its dug into and plastered to bring him down, and then on top of that, he is a lot more productive than most his age would even care to be…a literal embodiment of many of the outward expressions of the intrinsic traits women say they select for…and yet still he cant get the comprehension or depth of listening from them…
Imagine guys that had less of all of what i mentioned above, or in other cases none of it at all….just imagine that
@@2011troya I agree wholeheartedly with you.. its forces you to ask the question “do they want what they say they want? Or is it all bullshit?” it’s almost as if their children and you have too make the best decisions for them because of their incompetence.
@@2011troya bro I'm like him
Just from nigeria too
Surrounded with lovig family and tons of supporters ❤️
I understand his pain cause I'm goig through similar situation
Most women hate the fact that i know my worth and I'm not settling for a woman who is less than , because my family will disown for bringing a bad woman home
Man: I ❤️ oranges, but I saw a shiny apple today I wanted to bite.
Woman: So what's wrong with oranges?
Man: I ❤️ oranges. Always will. The apple looked good is all I'm saying.
Woman: So you think apples are better than oranges now?!?
Man: I drink oj every morning. I clean with orange scented Lysol. I get orange chicken from the take out. I'm dedicated to orange.
Woman: I feel like you don't want oranges and also you're not taking my feelings seriously.....
Sir: Your comment was excellent. #SYSBM#PASSPORTBROS
This is every conversation with a female ever; platonic, family, long/short term partner, spouse all the exact same 😂🤣😂
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Without those "puritan expectations" of women, it totally changes how men value women. Losing those expectations is like learning women can't really love men. Black pill
Huh??
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I think what the OP is saying is that those "puritan expectations" are what makes men as a whole want to deal with women. Women trade their youth and fertility for protection and provisioning from men. If you get rid of that to create a society where everyone is out for themselves then the grand losers of that type of society will be women.
@@enough_is_enough5131 read it again, it makes complete sense.
Well I recommend not loving who can't even love you back,and don't care to,because love for the parasitic female is self defending,she gets ahead off a man she chooses,who she feels qualified,then she will welcome his love and resources with open arms.
@@enough_is_enough5131 women don't have love to give facts
Man, dude is a G. I've watched tons of his videos and the level of thought and care into this life is high level.
It is worse when a man is taking care of a family that isn’t even his, than a woman finding out about a family that she didn’t even know existed
In most cases those wives knew their husband stepped out but chose to ignore. But for sure in all cases the side piece knew she was and chose to bare children by him
My head hurts how people turn into a pretzel with these unending excuses all to say they lack character and integrity. JUST SAY THAT!
@@enough_is_enough5131 neither instance is an excuse. Or the what-is-worse Olympics. But they are not the same..plain and simple
@@enough_is_enough5131 the repercussions of the lack of integrity is the entire point. Consequences are often not equal. One side typically pays a heftier toll for the entirety of their lives...this is something few women recognize much less admit to.
@@davidjones4318 It’s not a lack of integrity at all, it’s in our original culture to have multiple wives and families. Even Shrazod Ali said this back in the 90s
I am a victim of partenity fraud. Six years of raising a child that I thought was mine. I am at the stage now where I am waiting for the department of Home Affairs ( I am South African) to get my name removed from the birth certificate.
What I can tell you is women generally don’t care about a man’s pain. I have experienced this from women in my family, and what I thought was close female friends who could not understand why I want to remove myself from the situation. I have generally received support from men.
Brothers do not be like me, get that DNA test no matter what
Very sorry to hear this brother.
Was your woman South African? And what prompted you to eventually test if the child was yours 6 years on?
Sorry that happened to you bro
They should be mandatory. Sorry that you went through this brother.
They would care more about their DOG than their man?
The fact it took her so long to understand what he was saying is exhausting. Like how much more clear and direct can he be.
You can’t have a real conversation with people committed to misunderstanding your point of view even when it’s based on facts. These conversations are for people who want a healthy relationship, romantic or otherwise. Women gotta stop with the “but what about…” followed by something that has nothing to do with the original issue
Facts baby
Thank you.
No matter what you tell a black woman instead of listening she always has to confront compare contrast you name it they cannot simply be quiet and listen it is just something that are not capable of. And when you talk about paternity test and she says I don't think it's that much it's 30% and think about this as a man you have someone that you think is your child and later on you find out it isn't you talk about betrayal you looking at this woman who let another man enter her body and put a child inside of her and didn't even tell you and lied to you and you're worried about a man cheating on you ladies again be quiet and listen
100%....men are viewed as machines, like there is no pain we can't deal with. They simply can't imagine what it would feel like to raise a child, love that child and it not be theirs! NO CLUE!
Exactl3jist date and marry out
It's amazing how often women are horrible 😢 listeners. It's clear that men have to seek out pro active social control of women or civilization as we understand will collapse.
I remember a movie back in the day about a baby being switched at birth in hospital and the parents finding out later. The woman had a conniption! It was a huge scandal. They (women) just can’t understand unless it happens to them and then it’s the worst thing in the world. This situation happens to men all the time and rarely happens to women because if a hospital is found out to be negligent, people would sued for a hefty amount, but men are supposed to just shut up and take it.
Man… your patience is UNMATCHED! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
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Seriously bro,I couldn't take talking them brawds he be interviewing.
As a woman, this woman is just combative and is turning everything into men’s fault. Keep an open mind and try to be empathetic.
I believe she initially is there to bring the women prospective and not to agree with everything he is saying. Thats what the point of these conversations are to bring on a different point of view and understand of the genders based on the perspectives of both. If not he would just be interviewing men and obviously they would agree with everything said.
Love the name, great artist
@@preciousmocha78 Exception she is interviewing the man this wasn't suppose to be a podcast. When you interview someone its to get and understand their perspective.
@ Butterfly Mage Thank you very much. Also love the artist and funny enough he has no South African roots which is the origin of the name. It means Blessings in my language (Setswana)
@@masego3152 cool to know
Those last 5 minutes had alot of gems that I think some people will miss. NO LONGER ATTACHING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM TO THE ABILITY TO CONQUER WOMEN is incredibly freeing. That, coupled with the ABILITY TO SEE WOMAN AS JUST PEOPLE without EXPECTATIONS or JUDGEMENT will put you in places and rooms both physically and mentally that most people don't even know exist.
*conquer
WHY ARE OUR WOMEN THE ONLY WOMEN FIGHTING NATURE AND BIOLOGY ON PLATFORMS EVERYDAY??
Quincylingard3731 y’all stopped loving us black women
The interviewer isn't trying to listen to understand rather only listening to respond. She is demonstrating a big lack of accountability of some women. We, as a people will never get it together until there is fairness on both sides. Everything is not on the man. This one sidedness needs to stop.
9:18 "well..." the telltale sign of the most elusive technique in the woman's arsenal, the "I don't understand it, I can't relate, so it can't be relevant" technique. If not relating was a reason to not care then women would have a very different experience here in the west.
💯 "If not relating was a reason to not care, then women would have a very different experience in the west." Bars!!!!
Kudos…To WeNeedToTalk for trying to explain the concept of water to the wind. LMAO.
You do a very good job at continuing to make good points with people who don’t acknowledge the good points you make
lmaooo
Also, don't you love how she is so confident in telling him what men actually want.
This chick does not understand anything you are saying! There is a small population of women that can be applied but, the majority of successful men didn’t ask a women for their opinion for their success.
Boy!! She was trying so hard to disagree with men even initiating
Listening to this conversation and the mindset and the attitude of the woman establishes the standard why so many men like myself are single by choice... Who wants to deal with this every day for the rest of their life... ijs..
Women suffer from a condition , I call selective amnesia! What you have done for them, time, money and protection is not appreciated in the present. It’s never enough.
You nailed this conversation brother 👏
Great interview sir! Articulate points as always in a much needed conversation.
KS started the conversation is just the title of the series since it was most people's introduction to the entire genre but he was saying the same things about 85%
I was just about to say.. why do they keep saying that.. whats funny is I'm pretty sure he wouldn't have called himself red pill.. even though it's obvious.. i dont even think its most people introduction just because its been around for a while
@@keithpass it's definitely been around for decades it was just called something else. But this is the TH-cam generation where everything is categorized
KS didn’t start the conversation. This conversation of the red pill has been on going for decades.
THE CONVERSATION STARTED AT 14:53 IS IMPORTANT - WOMEN THINK THEY HAVE A MONOPOLY ON EMOTIONAL SUPPORT BUT FORGET THAT WE ALSO HAVE TO LISTEN TO THEM VENT ABOUT WORK (EVEN WHEN THEY ARE IN THE WRONG), GIVE THEM SPACE TO EXPRESS THEIR EMOTIONS (TYPICALLY SADNESS - WHEN UR GIRLS STARTS CRYING ABOUT SOMETHING MINOR YOU CAN NOT TELL HER THAT IT IS INSIGNIFICANT), SUPPORT THEIR DECISIONS GOOD OR BAD (AND THEN ALSO DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES) ETC
Yea exactly. That was actually what I thought his rebuttal to her statement was going to be.
He did say that measuring on both side. But she shut it down by changing the topic.
I've always agreed with some of the red pill idealogy but thought some of the content creators were a bit extreme and a little insensitive. The way you articulate on the subject makes it to where woman can not only digest but empathize and that is the ultimate goal. Understanding! Great video!!
Regardless of whatever tolls we as women (wives) are putting into our marriages, we aren’t the ones expected to protect or die (sacrifice their lives) for our protection!
I'm not convinced that most modern women believe that they need protection from Men. Civilized behavior, male restraint, and free protection from men has given women a false sense of security.
Unfortunately the moment a woman is in a vulnerable position by herself it's too late. Cops can't teleport to the scene of a crime in real time. They respond after call for help is made.
You do realize that women put their lives on the line to produce their child...I haven't heard of any men dying from child birth.
@@shaylagortman2322 I do realize that we women put our lives on the line to CARRY and delivery OURs as well as their (our husband’s) child…so that’s a mutual “toll”, which still isn’t as a high a toll as being EXPECTED to sacrifice your LIFE for your wife!
@@jochebed3675 It is EXTREMELY rare that a man would even have to do that instead of the norm of women having children.
@@shaylagortman2322 husbands sacrifice their lives for their wives everyday, and that’s the expectation from them, their wives, society especially from a biblical perspective. That’s the understanding as our protectors! I don’t run to danger when something goes bump in the night, that’s part of husbae’s protection and provision as the head of our household, and most husbands proudly accept this duty! Us wives don’t have that charge. Besides, having children is for BOTH parents, where as dying for your wife only benefits the wife…
Loving the interviewer and guest. Strong, clear, respectful discourse.
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It’s so frustrating because no matter how often men tell us it’s not personal when they cheat or want another woman, that it’s natural and doesn’t mean they don’t love us. It still feels to (most of) us like we are not good enough in some way. Insecurity sets in , comparison, etc etc.
I really wish the creator made us not feel threatened and hurt by it so it would match men’s nature. That would be beautiful. Even my friends who are from cultures and religions who totally accept it, most the of them still don’t like it, they just deal with it.
bm put up with more bs from you bw.
after all it is a bw!!!
and secondly this interviewer is a pander to you bw. bm say it way more harshly than this simp does 😉😌
A lot of of men would argue that the reason why it makes women feel bad is because of the pride that women have. Many women aren't capable or willing to fully satisfy their man for the long haul because it takes a lot of energy that's outside of just instantly being turned on. Women allow all sorts of distractions and mental blockages when it comes to relations with their man. The pride comes in when a woman knows she can't really fulfill that role, because let's be honest - it's not taught in modern society - but she doesn't want another woman to fulfil it, because she knows that sexual fulfilment is at the top of a man's list. So she doesn't want another woman fulfilling the #1 thing he wants, even though she isn't fully capable or fully willing to maintain it. Again, I'm talking the long haul too. Every couple has peaks where the sexual part is flawless, but it's the valleys that men hate.
@@TheRealMusic4Life Damn .. Well said
@@TheRealMusic4Life yooo this soo perfectly worded man
Well the Creator gave you everything that you wanted especially for a woman you guys won an abortion you got it you guys wanted Plan B you got it you guys want an alimony you got it after anything else from the Disney Fantasy you got it what exactly else could you complain about if you already manifested so to speak car a house fashionable clothes and in some way he gave you all that but where's the internal work if a man decides to share his testimony about what one specific woman does there's always a woman that has that guilty conscience because she knows that she's either thinking of doing something like that or already done it
The minimizing of the trauma a man goes through when experiencing raising or even almost raising a child that is not yours because of the deceit of your female counterpart is wild
She continued to go tit for tat try ing to equate traumas or disregard it by saying it doesn't happen often. Smh
30% of men are stepdads and don’t even know it.
I’ve got a 3 year old niece who is stronger than the arguments the woman tried to prop up here
It happens often… I remember when a family member of mine discovered his dad wasn’t his dad… and that the mother knew yet it was her mother who exposed the whole thing… that hurt is unreal
my dawg said, "The pedestal was perpetual." BARS!!!
He had me until he said until women are skeeting in us 🤣😂🤣😂😅. On a serious note this channel is very underrated.
She isn’t listening to understand. She is being defensive.
I was wit a x for 5 years I treated like a queen we had our second child on the way turns out it wasn’t mine and she wasn’t gunna tell me protect yourself men and don’t be bitter find better
How did you find out the child wasn't yours.??
I was getting betraying vibes checked her phone turns out she knew it might not be mine and didn’t plan on telling me so I got a dna test once born
“Ignorance is bliss”, the greatest truth ever uttered 🤦🏾♂️
When he said, "The Magic Is Gone" that hit me in the chest hard. Because that's exactly how I've felt for a few years and it's interesting to hear other men say it.
We've been to OZ and finally accepted who the Wizard truly was. And the magic is gone.
I agree as well. There is a psychiatrist that describes taking the red pill at your peril if you are not prepared to complete the treatment. If handled properly, men have the knowledge to move appropriately.
Most of what he's saying is what you hear from traditional families. Only difference is that it's normal to those raised in it. It's unfair to those not raised in it.
Whew...that was alot. She argued him on every single point 😂.
GENTLEMEN!!!! THE GREAT KS has left us BUT welcome to the heir apparent. Bro Obi is KS 2.0. Pay attn!!!! Low key he will prove (and has) that no matter the “tone” no matter the intention you have to better help women in some (if not most) instances it does not matter notice even the women conducting his interview almost short circuited trying to deflect back to “well men” rather than focusing on the subject at hand @weneedtotalk keep going KING!!!!
Obi is very successful but he isn't the heir apparent simply because there are too many brothers who don't agree with his ministry.
@@nangaeboko6710 the fact that they don’t agree proves the point…QUESTION: who is more articulate, more thoughtful, able to do mental jujitsu in real time interviews and effectively short circuit the rational of the ladies he is interviewing AND either convince them OR show US the viewers, the utter delusion of some of our sisters? Who I ask can do THESE THINGS AS EFFECTIVELY???
@@lhbnlb Obi is arguably at the top of the game regarding interviewing women and exposing delusions. The problem though is there are now numerous channels where you can also see this phenomenon. In fact the trend right now is real time, in person panel sessions. Also the reason some don't agree is his channel actually is a infomercial for a movement that he wants no part of.
Nice to see the host! Great interview.
Alan is so refreshing. Talk to me for who I am not what you fantasize.
I think every grown man knows at least 3 dudes that thought a child was their child and eventually found out it wasn't theirs. This shit happens to military men all the time.
This was a great interview.
This woman is trying to offer as a substitute any and everything other than what the man asks for and needs.
Exactly. But the truth is, she is talking about the men that she actually wants who are not doing the things that she wants. The guys who are doing those things are not the guys that she wants. That’s where the disconnect always is with these conversations.
Women spend far too much time trying to not give too much and watching the types of women we want instead of trying to be the women we want.
The obsession of women wanting to own men's success continues... What in the world⁉️ "Women listen to men's ideas in the middle of the night." And⁉️ It was his idea 💡💡💡💡😒😒😒😒🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
If black men aint shit then why this obsession⁉️⁉️🤷♂️ When he's successful its bc of BW, if he is not then you had nothing to do with it⁉️
"But that's how we feel." Said it all!
At 23:50 he masterfully articulates what most men are dealing with. Women are not who we thought they were. Over the past few years with social media and dating apps we have gotten quite the education. With knowledge comes a loss of the majesty and mystique women often have. It's like finding out your favorite athlete is not a great person. Men have to adjust to this new reality. Ultimately there will be fewer committed relationships and a restructuring of society.
"I dont believe in matching energy, I'm gonna be who I am, and if I cant be that with you, then I'd rather be without you..."
SPOKEN BY ANY WOMAN THAT NEEDS MAXIMUM VALIDATION. She'll expect you to put in 200% effort to cover the 100% she wont put in. Aint nobody payin your cover charge to start a relationship.
Then goes on to say that women treat you how they want to be treated and later treat you how you treat them when those are will require matching of energies.
Its a GOTT DAMN SHAME! This young man had to explain himself to a FEMALE who understood everything he said; but she wanted to win the argument so bad. She act like she didn't making her self sound like a complete idiot! A 10yr old could get what this brother was saying.
Damn she's argumentative
“PERIOD” I seent the cringe 🤣
It's amazing how little women have to know about men to be a part of a relationship
In the crazy part is they have no interest in learning anything All they want to talk about is how they feel and what benefits them
True. Women learn so little about their men to the point that a lot of them try to have their guy give up his hobbies too. It stretches even to the kids not know what their dad's like. I say it's part of why men on fathers day get a mug or a neck tie and women for mothers day get cards, flowers, meals, jewelery, outfits, favorite perfume and trips. We know a woman's favorite flower but don't even know what cut of underwear of man likes.
Omg I’m 42 and I had to ask my doctor a few questions. I was like I think about relations ALL day and it just started around 40🤦🏽♀️. She laughed and she said that’s normal after 40. The libido increases like crazy.
As a woman. It's the direct opposite as a man.
True, testosterone increases as estrogen declines.
@@Ricocase estrogen isnt the female hormone. progesterone is. estrogen is what has westernized women's minds and bodies out of whack.
The level of patience and clarity needed to fight through her consistent attempts to interrupt and invalidate his arguments is LEGENDARY!
Our differences aren’t points of competition to prove “who has it worse.” These differences are biological imperatives that shape our morals, values, and worldviews. Trying to reverse that order is where we have a lot of our problems in society…
I don’t know if she is trying to play devil’s advocate this episode or if she actually believe the counter arguments that she is presenting
Echo chamber she’s copping answers out to refute the slightest accountability, she feels personally attacked in every rebuttal. sad reality that she thinks she’s most black women when the truth is she is most likely a minority
You got down on this one. F#@k around and get men to stop believing in wholesome women and that will be the day you witness true EQUAL treatment between the sexes.
So her main critique of women is that they aren’t get the most of men, initially?
Brother, she ain’t trying to hear you!!!
She interviewed you while trying to be heard!
Alimony, lawyer fees, child support, custody, death, protection, half value/wealth, no say in abortion, expected to pay every outing, vacation, trip, war draft, me too.
We now live in a society that screams equality, but women don't want equality, they want all of the good with none of the bad.
If both are working adults those advantages women split in half. I've seen it with my own eye's in several different marriages where I've lived with family members and friends. The dynamics are never equal and the man is always left holding the bag (when the market falls out).
To all men, you get a goddamn Pre-Nup or you don't marry. Has nothing to do with trust b/c when you marry you're given a Pre-Nup it's just been drafted by the state to favor the state and incentives your spouse to divorce you.
Despite the interviewer being very intelligent personable and rational, women’s logic tends to be non existent when debating these topics.
I like him. Intelligent man. Great conversation, these conversations are a must have and the dialogue that should take place on dates. They essentially had a date in this interview. In the sense of understanding how each other think, purposes of seeing how far apart they are on things and what things are in common. From that realization, if they can work on something to be. This dialogue is needed for all of us to succeed in successful relationships. I don't agree with 22:12. You always show up with great energy, yes we don't match energy if it is negative. Point, just show up to be the best you everyday, you cannot worry about the other person's attitude or disdain. Staying positive is exactly that, stay purposeful and focused.
The university analogy was amazing but you left out “THE DEBT” women bring guaranteed debt just like college & no promised future 😅
You doing intangible things and helping me become more successful is a toll? Wow
This was a good conversation. I know she doesn’t get his perspective but she did come to an understanding.
Great convo…she represents most women’s flawed talking points, impeccably. This is why the marriage rate in our community is low, and 1 out of 4 black women will see marriage in their lifetime. 🤦🏽♂️
When we are together we spend the same amount of time.
Finding out he had another family that you didn't know about means whatever he was doing with them didn't effect you or your life... His second family didn't cost you anything so it's not the same.
I agree once you learn women that magic, purity and innocence u thought women were ceases to exist. Sometimes to a point where u cant really trust any of them 100%. Any woman i deal with no matter if shes my wife i will be getting a paternity test for all my future children as well as a prenup for the marriage.
This and many other interviews reveal how women are biologically dispositioned to not take accountability...for every scenario he mentioned, she rebutts with "but men"....someone else's negative behavior does not permiss yours...smh..
I love the way this brother debates without being disagreeable even when he’s countering some absolute bullshit!! Lol
This interviewer lady is reaching hard😂😂
If men stopped looking at women as meat they would be able to control their urges
The interviewer's stile is too personal.
It's too defensive.
She should be more focused on extracting information and understanding and less on debating. UNLESS the point of the show is to debate the topic.
Disagreement with the purpose of extracting information. This interview just seemed like she wanted to assert her own beliefs
In the last quarter of the video where you said the "magic is gone", I imagine you were feeling like King Solomon in his latter years while writing Ecclesiastes. Everything is vanity and vexation of spirit lol.
She dont give a dang about what your talking about....she dismissed paternity fraud. When in the black community in 2012 it was 41%, and it's probably worst now.
It’s extremely rampant, especially in the black community.
Time get Pearl on she'll do the samething
Women can't seem to understand a man's s3xual directive is quantity while a women's is quality!
I find it best to use the shoes/bag analogy! Women will have a favourite pair of shoes/bag but have no trouble buying 10x more shoes/bags because they think it goes well with a particular outfit! This drives men crazy as men tends to have ONE wallet for ALL outfits/occasions!!
This isn't entirely accurate. Women enforce male standard through hypergamy. Men enforce women standards through polygamy. We both want quality. We just use different sexual strategies to get there
I made it 11min and 30 seconds in... Lol... I'm curious if this is supposed to be an actual conversation or jus entertainment purposes... 🤷🏿♂️
What she needs to be explained is that for men to have the quantity of sex that they innately want, they must become quality. All the women he has sex with but aren't his main concern, those are quantity women. Although they will have various levels of attractiveness.
For a woman to be a main girl for a man, she needs to be quality. She's needs something over the women he would have sex with in the quantity category.
But if she cheats on him, she puts herself into the quantity category. And usually ends up being dumped.
Because the woman who has sex with multiple men doesn't need any quality to her. Her only aspect and dynamic is quantity.
The least attractive woman can have as much sex as the most attractive woman. And it happens that way in real life as proof. The women in real life having the most sex are out on the street, making money from it, and they are some of the least attractive.
And she's wrong about men aren't trying to wine and dine. They are. The difference now is that women are listing those men in their phones as "food date"
The "N" in S.I.G.N. language drug this conversation out for over 20 minutes before she agreed with you! The NEED to be right! SMH
Man, idk how you made it thru this cause it’s going one ear and out the other
What is with the incessant need to "equalize" things whenever certain topics are discussed? It's always "well men to it too"...but we're talking about what YOU'RE doing right now. Geez
Damn this is rough lol. I've paid for every date I've ever had my whole life because my Black mother who I love told me that a Man pays for the date and therefore I do. The work to get that woman or women in some case when dating casually cost quite a bit. I remember reinventing myself (thank you Kevin Samuals 2019) and getting back on the market after a devorce at 35 yrs old and dating 3 women at the same time. After 3 months I had spent 9,000 on these 3 women and I knew I had to make a choice lol and I did but had I more money to put towards these dates over a longer period I may have enjoyed more variety of women over a longer period of time which is something I wasn't planning on doing I just had more money than I had in the past to try it this way. A man operating out of Scarcity vs a man operating out of Abundance is wildly different.
He had a whole family and raised them without you (the wife) knowing from his own bank account 🤔🤔
How is that worse than raising a family of kids where none are biologically his and he does not know for 18 or more years? (419/Fraud)
Make that make sense🤯🤯🤯
Interviewer on the defensive for the sistahood, put your weapons down, sis.
When she was the interviewee sheb sounded so reasonable, but now that she is the interviewer heavy hints of SIGN language are coming through.
Why? Why? Why? They are choosing not to GAF.
The men I know understand the requirement to put in the work early. However, I have seen so many damaged women self-sabotage this kind of effort.
That "treat you how they want to be treated" thing is straight 🧢!! This lady is not being realistic about the present environment we operate in.
There’s no way she’s off camera and STILL not just listening lmao
"I don't know if I agree with that." 🤦🏾♂️
My thing is, she says women do too much without commitment.... What would make a woman think she will get my ring, without me knowing what I'm actually getting...
Sex might be terrible, her family might be crazy, she may have some emotional instability, etc. Etc. Nah, we gotta get to know each other deeply.
Oh, and she probably can't cook, and or keep the house clean.
And we pay for it all.
Your logic would be widely accepted if people married the first person they dated. Meaning, when you see a woman you like, approaching her would automatically mean you are interested in marriage (not just casual sex/casual dating). Because men seek purity, expecting a woman to give herself away before marriage is unwise unless you can guarantee that you are the first person she’s dated. ❤
7:55 The difference Is the woman lost her concept of trust, while the man lost his physical resources, emotional investment, time, and energy.
The fact that she didn't find out until he died might be a testament to the fact that her needs were still being met while he had an whole entire other family
I find it most interesting that the bare minimum expectation entrained into the mentality of the women that are like the speaker is that we’re expected to commit our life to becoming successful, both financially but as a man as well, and make the same depth of commitment to the woman as well. In that I mean the expectation of time that she explained as going above and beyond for a man is equal to the same bare minimum expectation from a man that predicated her even hypothetically being in a relationship with them to begin with.