You need to do a lot more episodes with her, once again she is a different cloth and she will take your ratings through the roof. I'm not easily impressed but this is 2nd time I've seen her on your show and the show is 💥💥💥💥💥
“Women don’t hear anything anyone is saying once they feel like they’re being attacked” Finally one of them said it! Now with that being established, the problem is that women feel attacked more often than not when they’re being held accountable for their actions and behavior.
"...the problem is that women feel attacked more often than not when they’re being held accountable for their actions and behavior." Which is precisely why men never took them seriously in history, among other obvious reasons. As long as their freedom exists, society will continue to decay until it collapses, men either put their foot down and reverse the problem, or everyone will inevitably suffer.
As previously stated…WOW what an amazing dialogue! Literally a breath of fresh air to see a black man and black woman actually exchange thoughts and ideas via public forum in a cohesive, constructive, and non-disrespectful manner. This is the archetype…this is how we rebuild what is broken! Dare I say there is hope for us yet??!!!
Have we ever stopped to think, with all the evolution we've seen in humanity, the most basic interaction we understood which allowed out species to exist, has become so complex that we need conversations to fix the conversation.
I am glad you reiterated the things that men value Alan because she tried to minimize the peace and the fit, feminine, and friendly. Just because she might have an issue with those things does not mean that men really don't value them.
She's a real one. And I mean that in every sense of the word. Her answers are based on reflection. You can tell she really thinks about the questions before she answers. And her points are well taken. I really liked where the conversation was going towards the end regarding self-esteem based on achievement rather than character. I would argue that achievement is often largely based on an individual's character so the two are not so unrelated. However, I am extremely impressed that she even made it an issue because it is definitely something worth talking about. Yes a truly engaging conversation here. My only disappointment was that it ended too soon. Keep doing your thing brother.
This is the dopest conversation I've seen thus far. She speaks well, if Allen makes a great point she doesn't give unnecessary push back, dope conversation 🔥🔥🔥
I'm new to this channel and I'm glad I stumbled into it but I subscribed solely off this interview with this intelligent, beautiful,well spoken brown skinned goddess 😍
The man who ends up with this sista, lucks up! I love how she listens to understand and not listen to respond! She’s the full package to me, pretty, feminine, but also speaks with understanding and not out of feelings! 👌🏿
@ 26:47 is classic rebuttal piece articulated very well to modern world. The beautiful sister here is an example of a sheer woman with class, after receiving a man's raw analysis in things. Not once did she bulk up like a she-hulk against what was said to her. She's full of grace. Thanks for the video WeNeedToTalk. Champion discussion.
Whewww I’m ready for the next part. I always say the pookies and ray rays are successful many times because most men lack confidence and women Value confidence over most things. We may put other words to it but it boils down to confidence and trust. Trust in self…. Oh and she’s top notch
Interesting... But is confidence so great women get blinded or ignore some negative traits... Suppose an extremely confident man who is very wealthy is talking to a lady why would they overlook him being a drug dealer for example? 🤔
@@Chile_N I’m really referring to initial attraction and what may keep someone around in the beginning. It is just pure bad decision making to be in a full relationship with a drug dealer. However, 😃 you rarely come across these types that don’t at least come off sure of themselves. They may actually have low self esteem but in the beginning it’s all about presentation until you get to know the person. Women don’t naturally want to be with a man that is not even comfortable with himself does not make a woman feel secure
@@2madwithaj oh ok that's interesting the drug dealer part was me exaggerating lol but I meant some women can see that the man in question is bad for her but they seem to overlook it long term.. But I hear everything you said💪🏾
Good conversation. She's intelligent, thoughtful, accountable, and introspective. Rare. And power struggles kill relationships. Men don't want to go home and fight.
My wife: feminine, agreeable, peaceful, submissive (willing to yield to my good leadership, NOT BE MY SLAVE), has self-respect, and she is my helper, aid, willing to assist me, and if possible, administer healing to me. In other words, words of encouragement, not the opposite. Also, she reassures me that I don't have to keep all of my emotions bottled up inside of me. She's says, "Go somewhere and relieve yourself of your negative emotions, and then come back to me level headed because I (the wife) need you to be emotionally stable because you're the leader." And I as a mature husband knows the difference between crying because of the pain and crying (all by myself) to relieve myself from all of my pain. (NEVER BE EMOTIONAL & VULNERABLE IN FRONT OF YOUR WIVES BROS; DOING THIS WILL CAUSE HER TO BECOME MUCH LESS SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO YOU!!!!) Or hit a pillow and/or do other rational things to relieve myself of all of my negative anger & emotions, while being away from her. And then compose myself and come back to my wife emotionally stable AT ALL TIMES!! And I reassure her that it's very okay for her to be logical, practical, rational, and reasonable. This is the perfect balance between masculinity and femininity in marriage. Men, educate yourselves & know what you truly want. It's completely working for me. 💪🏿
This is my favorite guest so far. I loved how she was patient, willing to listen and communicate well, a deep thinker, and most importantly, she didn't just sit there making excuses for women. All of those are beautiful traits in a woman (in my opinion). #Rare #Respect
She has a valid point in some men lacking Self Confidence, however, I firmly believe there are women who still prefer the rapper image archetype over the Russell Wilson archetype regardless of self confidence because 1 thing about Russell Wilson he doesn’t lack confidence, just like many other straitlaced men don’t, but because they don’t fit that aesthetic, they’ll still be overlooked anyway🤷🏿♂️
Love this episode. This lady is awesome. She ask great questions and she actually listens, her follow up questions show that. She doesn’t just pick out a part.
Agree. We want to fix what we probably cannot (just be his support) instead of focusing on fixing what we probably can within ourselves or around the house to make it a home LOL ☺️
I went celibate for two years...first months were difficult...but after I just start doing me, I produced some of my best artwork to date. I usually sketch in pencils but I picked up acrylic realism
This is probably the top interview in my opinion on this channel so far. She was on a role until she said we have a confidence issue. That's when I discovered she either wasn't listening or didn't understand everything he had been saying. It's not a confidence issue. It's what will give me the results I seek or what does my customer want from me right now in order to get the sell. Until you have confidence you want understand how to obtain your goal or the end result which is fucking for most.
Great content again my friend...you two compliment each other very well. Wanted to drop a word of encouragement to don't let up and go harder with what you doing. "Patience can make a King out of a slave"
Now this is a beautiful woman. She's pretty, highly intelligent, feminine, and she knows how to have a dialog. You can see her listening and processing to respond. Not just waiting to til you're finished to say what she was already thinking.
Most people don't think (intentionally/on purpose). They do without understanding. "Do as I say. Not as I do." That's conditioning. That's slave mentality. You see it in every area of our lives to a certain degree, given the individual. Smh. It's sad! I love this channel! Thank you! #TheConversation #HealThyMindHealThyBody
The difference with thus guest is that she actually understands that she doesn't know everything and is willing to ask questions to get clarity. This I s so unlike perhaps 95% of her sisters.
When she's considerate I mean she constantly thinks about others or the bigger picture just as much if not more than she thinks about herself. She genuinely wants to see her man and kids thrive because she knows him winning means she's winning. That's how I know she's the one. Her appreciation towards me makes me want to keep her happy.
Real answer to marriage material… The same way you want to feel beautiful, make me feel like I’m the man. Make me feel strong, like a protector, like you have the upmost respect for me at all times…even when you’re mad. Be agreeable, aka… stop the flow of things. Be a great helper and listen. Be sweet, be a nurturer, be soft.
This was a good one. It was stimulating from both parties & she asked great questions. I’d like to hear more answers from Allen in the future bc they were really insightful from man’s perspective. Overall, good talk.
I do have a few questions that I’d love to hear answered on the show if possible: Is a man able to discern the quality of a woman upon meeting her? Are men is general discerning? Or is this something a man develops over time? Do men are large believe more in traditional roles than modern roles? Meaning men who are looking for a woman still somewhat expects her to cook, clean, etc? What does it take for a man to truly commit to a woman? What sets a potential “wife” apart from a woman who man only sees a good time with? Are men more likely to leave a woman alone or not pursue her if he feels like she is looking for something he can’t really give?
That last question deserves a part 2. I realize that these are filmed over one day. I HOPE that you explained that men ARE what they do. That women wouldn't care if his character was great but he was broke. They wouldn't date Jesus.
Most women have trouble just fitting into the basics of F F F....So a lot of women want to move away from or deflect... that because most know they are not fit, alot of women act masculine so even though those three things seem so simple a lot of women are not even close to 2 if the things let alone 3 which is a really sad state of affairs. 3F... this is just the basics of what a good average man wants... Women will still think yeah but I want to do it my way... we are telling them what we want! But a lot of women don't want to hear it!
The CEO-Secratary analogy was excellent.
That's an actual "power" couple. Damn.
Underrated comment 👆🏾
She runs intellectual circles around most of the chicks you have on here. 👏👏
You need to do a lot more episodes with her, once again she is a different cloth and she will take your ratings through the roof. I'm not easily impressed but this is 2nd time I've seen her on your show and the show is 💥💥💥💥💥
YEP!!
She’s a relationship coach I would hope she has perspective
Definitely has deep perspective relationship coach or not
Agreed
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
“Women don’t hear anything anyone is saying once they feel like they’re being attacked”
Finally one of them said it! Now with that being established, the problem is that women feel attacked more often than not when they’re being held accountable for their actions and behavior.
They don't seperate their actions from their personal self worth. That's why they fight correction so hard.
"...the problem is that women feel attacked more often than not when they’re being held accountable for their actions and behavior."
Which is precisely why men never took them seriously in history, among other obvious reasons.
As long as their freedom exists, society will continue to decay until it collapses, men either put their foot down and reverse the problem, or everyone will inevitably suffer.
its all about them avoiding accountability - if they bore consequences - that behaviour would stop
As previously stated…WOW what an amazing dialogue! Literally a breath of fresh air to see a black man and black woman actually exchange thoughts and ideas via public forum in a cohesive, constructive, and non-disrespectful manner. This is the archetype…this is how we rebuild what is broken!
Dare I say there is hope for us yet??!!!
Great interview.. keep these type coming
FACTS!!!
She’s good at articulating her point. Keep her on the short list for a return
I like her, she is articulate, she listens to understand and not to just respond.
"Most men don't marry the woman they love." That's a truth that more men need to tell their daughters.
Kiana is cute, listens and responds intelligently, never interrupted and asked meaningful questions. 👏🏿
She, by far, is your best guest. You two have a great rapport.
I saw Kiana on here a couple episodes ago and she was really good! She’s coming back for more?! Excited to see round two!
Yes!!!
She’s very beautiful, intelligent. She thinks before she speaks. She also knows how to use supported facts to support her opinions.
A few things I look for in a woman:
1) Good manners
2) Good hygiene
3) Not broke/Budgets money
4) Has self-esteem
All the above. I got one more.... Just listen to me when i talk. Don't just respond . Actually listen...
I agree...all the above but me for #1 and #2 , above anything else is RESPECT n LOYALTY !
Have we ever stopped to think, with all the evolution we've seen in humanity, the most basic interaction we understood which allowed out species to exist, has become so complex that we need conversations to fix the conversation.
Amazing interview!
Thank you so much💯🙏🏿
This Lady is pure golden balance. She can carry a logical conversation regarding both sides. Looking forward to more with her.
You and Kiana are perfect for these discussions! She needs to be a regular lol
Props to you WNTT for vurnerably opening up and saying: ask me questions! Easier said than done.
I am glad you reiterated the things that men value Alan because she tried to minimize the peace and the fit, feminine, and friendly. Just because she might have an issue with those things does not mean that men really don't value them.
Please bring her back for ANY topic.
So grounded, lady like, respectful, & really willing to LISTEN.
GREAT SMILE!!!!!!
She's a real one. And I mean that in every sense of the word. Her answers are based on reflection. You can tell she really thinks about the questions before she answers. And her points are well taken. I really liked where the conversation was going towards the end regarding self-esteem based on achievement rather than character. I would argue that achievement is often largely based on an individual's character so the two are not so unrelated. However, I am extremely impressed that she even made it an issue because it is definitely something worth talking about. Yes a truly engaging conversation here. My only disappointment was that it ended too soon. Keep doing your thing brother.
This is the dopest conversation I've seen thus far. She speaks well, if Allen makes a great point she doesn't give unnecessary push back, dope conversation 🔥🔥🔥
From the interview, she's dope. She has the Claire Huxtable aura, in terms of poise and demeanor. That's the best example that came to mind right now.
Great convo. And dude usually answer the questions the right way 👍🏽
I like this woman!!! 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
I'm new to this channel and I'm glad I stumbled into it but I subscribed solely off this interview with this intelligent, beautiful,well spoken brown skinned goddess 😍
Welcome brother ✊🏿
Wow. Better questions is the way to go! She so needs to come back. Thank you sir for your work.
RIP Kevin Samuels, the Godfather.
Wow, a damn good episode. Thanks for sharing the insights. Kiana & Allan this was very much appreciated!
Make her a regular 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾 Dope conversations 💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿 Beautiful, articulate and most importantly doesn’t dodge accountability!
Intelligent, articulate, logical, beautiful. Somebody better hurry and put a ring on it before I do. She's definitely a keeper.
The man who ends up with this sista, lucks up! I love how she listens to understand and not listen to respond! She’s the full package to me, pretty, feminine, but also speaks with understanding and not out of feelings! 👌🏿
Where you find her bro. I disagree with her on so much, but her grace is so clean I can’t even be mad.
@ 26:47 is classic rebuttal piece articulated very well to modern world. The beautiful sister here is an example of a sheer woman with class, after receiving a man's raw analysis in things. Not once did she bulk up like a she-hulk against what was said to her. She's full of grace. Thanks for the video WeNeedToTalk. Champion discussion.
I liked her. She's seems like she's learning instead of combating it
she is very engaging, she is trying to learn and asking the right questions.
Whewww I’m ready for the next part. I always say the pookies and ray rays are successful many times because most men lack confidence and women Value confidence over most things. We may put other words to it but it boils down to confidence and trust. Trust in self…. Oh and she’s top notch
Preach
Interesting...
But is confidence so great women get blinded or ignore some negative traits...
Suppose an extremely confident man who is very wealthy is talking to a lady why would they overlook him being a drug dealer for example? 🤔
@@Chile_N I’m really referring to initial attraction and what may keep someone around in the beginning. It is just pure bad decision making to be in a full relationship with a drug dealer. However, 😃 you rarely come across these types that don’t at least come off sure of themselves. They may actually have low self esteem but in the beginning it’s all about presentation until you get to know the person. Women don’t naturally want to be with a man that is not even comfortable with himself does not make a woman feel secure
@@2madwithaj oh ok that's interesting the drug dealer part was me exaggerating lol but I meant some women can see that the man in question is bad for her but they seem to overlook it long term..
But I hear everything you said💪🏾
Confidence will make a Wyman overlook someone she isn't physically attracted to as well?
Good conversation. She's intelligent, thoughtful, accountable, and introspective. Rare. And power struggles kill relationships. Men don't want to go home and fight.
We telling them and they STILL DONT GET IT🤣🤣🤣🤣
Intrigued to hear part two. She seems to dialogue really well. Great convo.
This is part 2 lol
NO Cap, this women got it. she need to be a REGULAR Obi, fa real. She is oddly introspective, which is extremely rare.
She is the best guest I've seen on any relationship based channel. Keep bringing her back or ones like her
Thanks!
My wife: feminine, agreeable, peaceful, submissive (willing to yield to my good leadership, NOT BE MY SLAVE), has self-respect, and she is my helper, aid, willing to assist me, and if possible, administer healing to me. In other words, words of encouragement, not the opposite. Also, she reassures me that I don't have to keep all of my emotions bottled up inside of me. She's says, "Go somewhere and relieve yourself of your negative emotions, and then come back to me level headed because I (the wife) need you to be emotionally stable because you're the leader." And I as a mature husband knows the difference between crying because of the pain and crying (all by myself) to relieve myself from all of my pain. (NEVER BE EMOTIONAL & VULNERABLE IN FRONT OF YOUR WIVES BROS; DOING THIS WILL CAUSE HER TO BECOME MUCH LESS SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO YOU!!!!) Or hit a pillow and/or do other rational things to relieve myself of all of my negative anger & emotions, while being away from her. And then compose myself and come back to my wife emotionally stable AT ALL TIMES!! And I reassure her that it's very okay for her to be logical, practical, rational, and reasonable. This is the perfect balance between masculinity and femininity in marriage. Men, educate yourselves & know what you truly want. It's completely working for me. 💪🏿
I like her train of thought, how she listens and responds we should get her views more 👍
This was a phenomenal conversation, my wife and I appreciated this dialogue!
The comparison of the "power couple" and the "Boss-secretary" couple is genius. Well done.
This is my favorite guest so far. I loved how she was patient, willing to listen and communicate well, a deep thinker, and most importantly, she didn't just sit there making excuses for women. All of those are beautiful traits in a woman (in my opinion). #Rare #Respect
This is the best interview I have seen on this channel. Wish it was longer.
You make some good points brother. Balance is good word.
10,000 hour rule, which was popularized by Malcolm Gladwell’s blockbuster book “Outliers.”
This lady is so smart and I like her interviews am sure am not alone. She listens she thinks she speaks
She has a valid point in some men lacking Self Confidence, however, I firmly believe there are women who still prefer the rapper image archetype over the Russell Wilson archetype regardless of self confidence because 1 thing about Russell Wilson he doesn’t lack confidence, just like many other straitlaced men don’t, but because they don’t fit that aesthetic, they’ll still be overlooked anyway🤷🏿♂️
💯💯
That’s definitely true. Wayyyyy more often than men that “lack confidence “
@@joewill9967 u get me💯💯
21:45 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥, perfectly articulated. Also this Queen is Dope. She got her opinion but the willingness to converse to a common ground 🏁.
Love this episode. This lady is awesome. She ask great questions and she actually listens, her follow up questions show that. She doesn’t just pick out a part.
That wisdom line was from beyond another galaxy
I love these conversations!!
Women get SUPER persistent when you’re locked in and focused. They wanna get extremely helpful when you need to be alone to get shit done
Agree. We want to fix what we probably cannot (just be his support) instead of focusing on fixing what we probably can within ourselves or around the house to make it a home LOL ☺️
I went celibate for two years...first months were difficult...but after I just start doing me, I produced some of my best artwork to date. I usually sketch in pencils but I picked up acrylic realism
Both of your energies and vibe is spectacular!!! This was great and your communication with each other was seem less. KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK BROTHER!
She asked all the right questions.
Great exchange.
This was a very productive conversation
This is probably the top interview in my opinion on this channel so far. She was on a role until she said we have a confidence issue. That's when I discovered she either wasn't listening or didn't understand everything he had been saying.
It's not a confidence issue. It's what will give me the results I seek or what does my customer want from me right now in order to get the sell.
Until you have confidence you want understand how to obtain your goal or the end result which is fucking for most.
Immaculate Convo
Another fan favorite. Well received
She was throwing some great questions
great conversation
Another great Episode. This woman is AWESOME. Get those likes up people.
Men can definitely be alone after 2 back to back toxic relationships I’m enjoying dealing with nobody and working on me 💯
Real talk here and truth👍🏿👍🏿
I love how she listens and is not just ready to voice her opinion
She's a winner!😊
I think there should be a panel of men and women on the show just asking questions about themselves..
Great content again my friend...you two compliment each other very well. Wanted to drop a word of encouragement to don't let up and go harder with what you doing. "Patience can make a King out of a slave"
This has to be the best dialogue between a man & woman I've seen in the past couple years. She was great guest on every level.
I like this lady. She is ready.
Now this is a beautiful woman. She's pretty, highly intelligent, feminine, and she knows how to have a dialog. You can see her listening and processing to respond. Not just waiting to til you're finished to say what she was already thinking.
Most Women arent self aware so they will often say "i never thought about that". Women think what they are taught to think
Most people don't think (intentionally/on purpose). They do without understanding. "Do as I say. Not as I do." That's conditioning. That's slave mentality. You see it in every area of our lives to a certain degree, given the individual. Smh. It's sad! I love this channel! Thank you! #TheConversation #HealThyMindHealThyBody
Best episode that I've watched so far. He seems to enjoy the conversation. Her questions are very good!
The difference with thus guest is that she actually understands that she doesn't know everything and is willing to ask questions to get clarity. This I s so unlike perhaps 95% of her sisters.
When she's considerate I mean she constantly thinks about others or the bigger picture just as much if not more than she thinks about herself. She genuinely wants to see her man and kids thrive because she knows him winning means she's winning. That's how I know she's the one. Her appreciation towards me makes me want to keep her happy.
Start a show/podcast with her. You both need to be on camera on a set and go in deep on divisive issues in our community
Hey Fam' great work as always.
Question and request, can you break down the questions asked in time stamps ?
Trying to listen and review both answers.
Excellent speaking points and this was a great segment. The guest was quite beautiful as well
This is a genuine cool conversation
One of the best women ever on here
Real answer to marriage material…
The same way you want to feel beautiful, make me feel like I’m the man. Make me feel strong, like a protector, like you have the upmost respect for me at all times…even when you’re mad. Be agreeable, aka… stop the flow of things. Be a great helper and listen. Be sweet, be a nurturer, be soft.
Helpmeet vs modern feminist....
@MenTRAVELtoo: Women: Nigga that's too much work!
@@terrenceliburd8655 lmaooo
The late great Patrice O'Neal - "Men Want To Be Alone But Not by
Ourselves"
She’s smart, unlike many of the rest!
She switches from laughter to serious face so abruptly.
After all that... "men have a confidence issue"?!?!??!! What In the HELL MAN🤨
This was a good one. It was stimulating from both parties & she asked great questions. I’d like to hear more answers from Allen in the future bc they were really insightful from man’s perspective. Overall, good talk.
I do have a few questions that I’d love to hear answered on the show if possible:
Is a man able to discern the quality of a woman upon meeting her? Are men is general discerning? Or is this something a man develops over time?
Do men are large believe more in traditional roles than modern roles? Meaning men who are looking for a woman still somewhat expects her to cook, clean, etc?
What does it take for a man to truly commit to a woman? What sets a potential “wife” apart from a woman who man only sees a good time with?
Are men more likely to leave a woman alone or not pursue her if he feels like she is looking for something he can’t really give?
That last question deserves a part 2. I realize that these are filmed over one day. I HOPE that you explained that men ARE what they do. That women wouldn't care if his character was great but he was broke. They wouldn't date Jesus.
YOU HIT IT RIGHT ON THE HEAD
Amen
Best interview/conversation yet!
She knows WHAT men want but dismissed it AND flipped it into a question ……seeking a new response?
Absolutely 🙃
Well no duh she doesn't wanna give you what you want so shes saying pick again
She needs her own channel. I love a smart, intelligent, and feminine black woman.
Men: “we want feminine, fit, friendly women”
Her: “but what do they really want?”
🥴🥴🥴
Rite!🤣🤣🤣
That was when I knew she was going to say a bunch of nothing. Next. (SMH)
Thank you please read my comment as I know it's long but it is in there where I address this.
Most women have trouble just fitting into the basics of F F F....So a lot of women want to move away from or deflect... that because most know they are not fit, alot of women act masculine so even though those three things seem so simple a lot of women are not even close to 2 if the things let alone 3 which is a really sad state of affairs.
3F... this is just the basics of what a good average man wants...
Women will still think yeah but I want to do it my way... we are telling them what we want!
But a lot of women don't want to hear it!
Translation: She's not willing to give you that, so pick from what she's already willing to give, because that's all you are worth.
She's such a great guest. I would love to see her on a future panel discussion when you host them. Your work is great BTW.