Cheating is not a mistake. It's a conscious choice. If you cheated just leave the person you cheated on because you certainly didn't care about him let alone love him.
@@camilotorres8262 I have forgiven my exes who have cheated on me, but after that trust is dead, those choices show that they don't care about the feeling of her/his significant other and that they are just full of themselves (me, me and me)
A cheater must do these 3 things flawlessly if you want to save your marriage. 1. Repentance - show remorse, regret, and be sorry for your terrible decision and betrayal 2. Rehabilitation - you as the cheater must make appropriate changes cutting off all affair ties, be open, accept you may receive hurtful words from your victim and that you have a duty to rebuild trust with your spouse with constant reassurance 3. Restitution - the cheat must go above and beyond to compensate for the damage they caused, change job more chores, more affectionate, more reassurance, more encouraging and supportive. This is extremely difficult which is why infidelity is the main cause of divorce, but if the cheat can accomplish these 3 things over time then things will eventually level out as the victim forgives you more and more gradually over time. A cheater cannot expect full forgiveness immediately or in the short term, it is earnt as you earn back trust
Excellent Video clip! Forgive me for butting in, I would love your thoughts. Have you tried - Millawdon Closeness Knowledge Trick (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is a good exclusive product for getting to know your partner and improve your relationship without the headache. Ive heard some super things about it and my m8 at last got cool results with it.
Due respect cheating is a Spirit once someone leaves a crack on the marriage the devil kicking so my suggestion is to go to God and repent and confess. What make you think the next so call perfect gentleman or woman didn't do the same thing (cheating) just give the situation to God and read 1 Corinthians 7:14. Stay blessed stay focused and be blessed
@@respectfulwhatsup8117 im not sure where you got the term "perfect" from my comment. The cheater used their free will to cheat and betray the spouse. They knew what they were doing, regardless if a door was opened or not they knew very well what they were doing. Cheating is a choice whether people like it or not, its a decision they have chosen to make.
@@tablesidewithfirebride7927 It isn't just one choice, it is many choices. Choices to engage in flirting, choices to pursue the relationship, choices to see the other person, choices to take off your clothes, choices, choices, choices! These choices make a very long chain where each link leads to the cheating. They could have broken any one of the links, but like you said they freely chose. Another thing I'm sure you agree with... If anyone asks "Why did you cheat" the ONLY acceptable answer is "Because I chose to cheat."
@@tablesidewithfirebride7927 it's also a choice to neglect your partner and their needs. It's ridiculous to believe that this is all one person's fault. Yes the cheater has to cut ties with the lover and apologize and pray for forgiveness. But if the reason behind the cheating isn't address then their is no hope and no reason to be "for" the marriage. If the other party isn't willing to do the work that was originally asked for before the cheating what difference would it make? Why stay with someone who your unhappy with year after year because it's the supposed "right" thing to do?
Can't believe this woman is saying things like "I know how hard it's going to be to break off the affair and tell that other person. ," Screw his feelings..think about what the cheated on is feeling. Ending the affair SHOULD BE a given
Good speech according to 1 Corinthians 7:14 some pastors don't teach people about this subject because they don't want to offend people in my opinion I rather offen someone with God's words instead offend my Jesus. The best is fight for the marriage according to 1 Corinthians 7:14. Stay blessed
And there is no reason to ask yourself why i cheated it's so simple because you don't have a tiny bit of integrity and certainly don't have respect or care for your partner.
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ive done something bad like that might as well have been an affair online ive told her ive been more or less thinking of myself ive become distant and angry im a christian we both are and i know its me thats the problem because ive betrayed her trust and seeking after myself in stead of her its been going on for too long to be honest
If you are truly for saving your marriage and rebuilding your integrity that shouldn’t matter. Your lucky you haven’t been exposed by your actions in the first place. A person with Integrity can fully admit his wrongs.
@@donh1572 Yes, but I see Robert's position, also. For one, there's a vulnerability including a third party. And if they reveal your secret to others, it makes it more difficult to move forward when you know others are talking about y'all.
Agreed. But that pain does not even come close to the pain of the partner you cheated on. Not to say one “pain” outweighs the other. But true growth comes from the pain both parties experience
@@donh1572 You're missing Jennifer's point, having an affair go viral causes pain to both the person who cheated and the person being cheated on. Therefore, the one trying to atone for their wrongdoing might not want to cause additional pain to their partner by publicizing the affair
Marriage and relationships are a two way street, it takes two to make it work. Just because rings are exchanged doesn't mean love, intimacy, connecting, dating, warmth and romance need to end. You know very well your part in the break down of the relationship before the affair ever happened. Nobody is a victim.
This is an extremely stupid take…adulterers have admitted to committing adultery for the mere thrill of it…and god has never said “nobody is a victim”…there is clearly a victim and an offender in god’s laws. Are you even using your head? People commit adultery because they are extremely immoral….is there “no victim” in rape too?
If you are a cheater the most honorable is to walk . Stay single because you are not able to respect a relayionship.
Cheating is not a mistake. It's a conscious choice. If you cheated just leave the person you cheated on because you certainly didn't care about him let alone love him.
We cheat on God daily yet he forgives us.
@@camilotorres8262 NO ONE CAN CHEAT ON GOD,
You are deluded,,,,.
@@camilotorres8262 I have forgiven my exes who have cheated on me, but after that trust is dead, those choices show that they don't care about the feeling of her/his significant other and that they are just full of themselves (me, me and me)
@@camilotorres8262 you cannot commit adultery against god…are you stupid??? Wat kind of stupid logic is that??
A cheater must do these 3 things flawlessly if you want to save your marriage.
1. Repentance - show remorse, regret, and be sorry for your terrible decision and betrayal
2. Rehabilitation - you as the cheater must make appropriate changes cutting off all affair ties, be open, accept you may receive hurtful words from your victim and that you have a duty to rebuild trust with your spouse with constant reassurance
3. Restitution - the cheat must go above and beyond to compensate for the damage they caused, change job more chores, more affectionate, more reassurance, more encouraging and supportive.
This is extremely difficult which is why infidelity is the main cause of divorce, but if the cheat can accomplish these 3 things over time then things will eventually level out as the victim forgives you more and more gradually over time. A cheater cannot expect full forgiveness immediately or in the short term, it is earnt as you earn back trust
Nowadays it's sad to see people moralizing cheating.
Excellent Video clip! Forgive me for butting in, I would love your thoughts. Have you tried - Millawdon Closeness Knowledge Trick (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is a good exclusive product for getting to know your partner and improve your relationship without the headache. Ive heard some super things about it and my m8 at last got cool results with it.
Cheating is a choice not a mistake, the offender chose to have sex. They chose the action
Due respect cheating is a Spirit once someone leaves a crack on the marriage the devil kicking so my suggestion is to go to God and repent and confess. What make you think the next so call perfect gentleman or woman didn't do the same thing (cheating) just give the situation to God and read 1 Corinthians 7:14. Stay blessed stay focused and be blessed
@@respectfulwhatsup8117 im not sure where you got the term "perfect" from my comment. The cheater used their free will to cheat and betray the spouse. They knew what they were doing, regardless if a door was opened or not they knew very well what they were doing. Cheating is a choice whether people like it or not, its a decision they have chosen to make.
@@tablesidewithfirebride7927 It isn't just one choice, it is many choices. Choices to engage in flirting, choices to pursue the relationship, choices to see the other person, choices to take off your clothes, choices, choices, choices! These choices make a very long chain where each link leads to the cheating. They could have broken any one of the links, but like you said they freely chose.
Another thing I'm sure you agree with... If anyone asks "Why did you cheat" the ONLY acceptable answer is "Because I chose to cheat."
@@wm7929 I got the answer: "I was faithful to you".
I had evidences that she was laying at that time. Divorced and every day more happy.
@@tablesidewithfirebride7927 it's also a choice to neglect your partner and their needs. It's ridiculous to believe that this is all one person's fault. Yes the cheater has to cut ties with the lover and apologize and pray for forgiveness. But if the reason behind the cheating isn't address then their is no hope and no reason to be "for" the marriage. If the other party isn't willing to do the work that was originally asked for before the cheating what difference would it make? Why stay with someone who your unhappy with year after year because it's the supposed "right" thing to do?
Its all over, no-one can ever recover from an affair.
Be honest with your partner and just leave.
You have already betrayed them.
Can't believe this woman is saying things like "I know how hard it's going to be to break off the affair and tell that other person. ," Screw his feelings..think about what the cheated on is feeling. Ending the affair SHOULD BE a given
Who cares if you hurt the other person by cutting off all ties. Their emotional health was never your responsibility.
sometimes they didn't do anything or know the person was married.
@@AgentXaos not a married person's reasonsibility. The spouse comes first
@@missNCW sometimes the Ap is more important to them than the annoying spouse
Good speech according to 1 Corinthians 7:14 some pastors don't teach people about this subject because they don't want to offend people in my opinion I rather offen someone with God's words instead offend my Jesus. The best is fight for the marriage according to 1 Corinthians 7:14. Stay blessed
And there is no reason to ask yourself why i cheated it's so simple because you don't have a tiny bit of integrity and certainly don't have respect or care for your partner.
#1. Check, and then again recheck, the maximum coverage you have on your life insurance policies.
#2. Next, check your coverage for permanent disability.
#3. Make certain that your will and power of attorney is up to date.
#4. Invest in a bullet proof vest.
#5. Consider moving to a new address ASAP.
I love how she insists that the cheater is confessing lol.
ive done something bad like that might as well have been an affair online ive told her ive been more or less thinking of myself ive become distant and angry im a christian we both are and i know its me thats the problem because ive betrayed her trust and seeking after myself in stead of her its been going on for too long to be honest
Forgiveness is freedom.
Good counsel. Downside, however, of engaging the help of human counsellor, is: the "confessed" mistakes disclosed in secrecy goes viral.
If you are truly for saving your marriage and rebuilding your integrity that shouldn’t matter. Your lucky you haven’t been exposed by your actions in the first place. A person with Integrity can fully admit his wrongs.
@@donh1572 Yes, but I see Robert's position, also. For one, there's a vulnerability including a third party. And if they reveal your secret to others, it makes it more difficult to move forward when you know others are talking about y'all.
Agreed. But that pain does not even come close to the pain of the partner you cheated on. Not to say one “pain” outweighs the other. But true growth comes from the pain both parties experience
@@donh1572 You're missing Jennifer's point, having an affair go viral causes pain to both the person who cheated and the person being cheated on. Therefore, the one trying to atone for their wrongdoing might not want to cause additional pain to their partner by publicizing the affair
Cheaters rarely atone, unless they are exposed
Guess I'm hooped from the get-go because my husband isn't the one who believes in God :(
you need to adjust the content
No mention of what to do if you're a victim of your partners affair .
Yeah this video isn't about that dummbasss
A pastor is a bad place to start. A professional counselor is the place to go.
Samson was a judge, no fool
Marriage and relationships are a two way street, it takes two to make it work. Just because rings are exchanged doesn't mean love, intimacy, connecting, dating, warmth and romance need to end. You know very well your part in the break down of the relationship before the affair ever happened. Nobody is a victim.
This is an extremely stupid take…adulterers have admitted to committing adultery for the mere thrill of it…and god has never said “nobody is a victim”…there is clearly a victim and an offender in god’s laws.
Are you even using your head? People commit adultery because they are extremely immoral….is there “no victim” in rape too?
She could be happy in her marriage, till someone swiped her off her feet and she couldn't resist.