Her husband really disrespected her though🥹💔😭 The cheating.. Having a baby outside their marriage… Buying the side chick a house… Yoo🥹💔men are not good people.. Love&Light to this beautiful lady 🥹
The audacity of saying my husband didn’t marry the side chick behind her back meanwhile he had a child and house with the side chick behind her back.She didn’t have a choice but to accept the side chick.
especially saying she left and came back wen the contract ended she couldnt find any employment means she came back for financial reason not for love moreover even that the man has never bored to fight for their relationship he choose the other woman not her ,now she is trying with all wat she have to validate her relevance to that man by advocating for isethembu i believe that man doesnt care
My mom was right, no matter how smart you think you are, a man will show you flames🫢🤦🏾♀️ I’m sorry but it seems like gogo got tricked shamm👀that sangoma, the husband & his mom did things sham😖😂you can’t convince me otherwise
Thought the same. Going to see sangomas to confirm what's true was her first mistake. The devil can never tell you the truth. She opened up herself to also be control by these familiar spirit and she is now a sangoma herself in a polygamous marriage. Such trauma and a sad reality.
The husband is even in the studio . A true monitoring spirit of a husband.Poor lady , she'll write another book later ,when shes set free from this nonsense of a marriage
If she said she's unhappy, you would believe without question. Dont project your own feelings, this lady sounds happy, the most happy compared to other guests that have come here.
@@spm9130 Thats what I always say. If women were firm and had stubborn morals and values etc over half of the society issues with relationships wouldn't exist. WOMEN ARE ENABLERS!
It's too soon for her to be talking about her peace in polygamy. She is sadly married to a selfish man who covers his actions with polygamy. She is not ok, she is being emotionally abused and she is in denial. I wish her eyes get opened .
I think its fair for a man to be upfront he wants polygamy first so the women make decision to accept it or not and not base everything on sangomas and badluck
Some people in these comments just can’t take other peoples perspective… this lady sat here for an hour told us her journey, she wrote a book and some of you come here to say …..” she is not okay with it”!! Just say not for me and move on
Yooo, brokenness leads to broken decisions, leading to more brokenness. I pray she wakes up from the lies she has been fed by the devil through her husband, mother-in-law, and the sangomas she visited. I am okay in my singleness with Christ in it, that's my hard that I chose and I am fine.
She says when she accepted the sidechick she told her "I'm here to dignify you as a woman" lol no she was also dignifying her cheating husband & herself cause if she hadn't accepted she was always gonna be that wife whose husband has a sidechick & children outside of marriage cause the sidechick told her I ain't going nowhere.
They were going to continue vele. But being a side chick is only viable for a certain time. After 40 being a side chick starts to become embarrassing, and lonely even. Worse ke having a child with a married man khona it's worse worse. So nje I agree with her, she definitely dignified the side. There's a reason why sides are hidden. You are someones dirty secret.
@lungelolamula7075 where did she get the power or authority to dignify another human being as someone whose husband wanted someone else while married to her? Stop please!
The most annoying thing is that she has convinced herself and now she thinks she convince the whole world...this one thinks she is smart but niks kanjani
Who are you to tell the next women what she is or isn’t coping with? 😂😂😂 the woman is sitting there telling us her truth you are here in the comments telling us your projection and insecurity and calling her truth lies. Aowa you women have issues
She has the right to be okay being in a polygamy marriage, a African tradition is is very much acceptable, not everyone is conditioned to Western culture.
@@Vv-fl2rm Since you want me to go there, lets go...😏 Men are polygamous by nature, there's noan that doesnt cheat. Bofebe bo padile le baruti. Most woman marry to be happy, you dont marry to be happy, realistically, you marry to make living easier. Let me break it down: Marriage is a business contract. When you are single, u pay 100% of your household bills, its more challenging when you are a single parent. When you marry, you each pay 50% towards household bills, you reproduce, children are raised in a stable home, husband is provider, protector and wife is helper and nurturer. Two incomes are better than one or none. Thats the reality of marriage. If you thought you'll have me triggered by my cheating husband, you are wrong. I got into it knowing exactly what Ill be dealing with. 😏
Not you in a previous comment, saying people mustn't project how they feel onto others? And now you're here telling this lady's husband is cheating! Weee klibhi MASIMBA! @Vv-fl2rm
@@rosegold6209you were supposed to say, not every man cheat, and it's true. Again, I'm not saying you must do it, but they're people who know how to manipulate a man to be yours alone, period, it's also true.
this is book worth reading.. she’s very articulate…shes a very assertive and dominant person naturally. It’s a difficult experience from the sound of it.. 😌
Even if the mother in law says she loves you 🙄, I’ve seen how my own mother protects my brother when he’s done wrong. Ngimbuze would you be happy if I went through that. Ay ngeke. Ngithi but you say you love the girl as if she’s your own daughter meanwhile you allow her to got through such.
@@ThokozaniSithole-cu7tbthere’s quite a couple of broken things like accepting your man is cheating, bringing a child and accepting polygamy against your will, she clearly fought against this fight and lost to the man.
@@ThokozaniSithole-cu7tb sorry, where does she start talking about a happy marriage with a side chick involved? She described it as driving her crazy hey,8 hour hunt, truck.
We need to let people live their truth and stop projecting...God has a tailored journey for each and everyone us....lets show love and respect as Africans❤
@ngelemuofhe that is why ppl are staying with cheating husband they acome and tell us that single parenting is a sin, what does she know about a sin, I'm sure she's God's assistance that why she come and tell us about a sin that is not on 10 commandment
Agreed... I think Promise made an irresponsible comment there... sometimes it's not by choice... sometimes it's the best choice... rather than a toxic marriage or fighting to be mamkhulu even though you don't want isithembu
No woman can convince me she's okay with being in a polygamous relationship ESPECIALLY if she was the 1st wife and she truly loved that man unless if it benefits her somehow. That's why today we see women who were 1st wives divorcing to be number 2 or 3 in other people's marriages😂. This lady is uGogo and I've seen on TV people who've gone this route having polygamous relationships sooo🤷♀️ it could be part her calling or she's just an exception
She has the right to be okay being in a polygamy marriage, a African tradition is is very much acceptable, not everyone is conditioned to Western culture and Hollywood movies like you are!
THIS LADY HAS BEAUTIFUL LEGS, izitho...❤ Shes CLEAN and well put togther...UGEZILE❤ No bonnet, sleepers, gowns and pyjamas in public, uyazithanda lo, akagezi ngo 4pm, ugeza ngo 4am lo
So indoda didn't want isthembu, but there was already another woman in the picture as he & his mom pitched the sthembu idea, and he even impregnated her?? Yah, that really sounds like a husband that didn't want isthembu😂. Gogo wa lona got tricked. Seems like she choose her "hard" & made peace with it.
All of this drama in a marriage that's not even 10 years old. This woman needs therapy. Acting tough, like all is well but she is not okay at all. If anything, she should understand why he moved fast to marry her
I also realised that somewhere somehow she's just trying to fool herself. Men are clever guys, he planned it so well Nd he knew the day the aunt came to tell his wife
I think that the most important thing is for women to be able to make a choice. For some women, staying in polygamy is ok for them, for some, divorcing and going alone is ok. Let all live their truth. We are all just answerable to God, not other human beings. Basically, each to their own.
@@sibongilenkwana8835 No, women must never allow themselves to be their own prisoners. No man can trap you. How does having a ring and a baby trap you? You can remove the ring and bring up your kid. Women trap themselves sometimes because they fear social judgement and feel they need a man to complete them. Men know this and some use it to abuse women. Women are very powerful if they decide to use their power. That is why you find many professionals today who were actually raised by women. How many graduates were raised by informal trader mothers? No, men cannot trap women indefinitely. The mind is a very powerful thing. Contraception any one? As for a ring! So you want to live in hell for a small metal! Imagine!!!
Not most of ya'll out here judging Kgothatso for picking her battles and accepting a polygamous marriage when you're 'bekezeling' your serial-cheating husbands/boyfriends 👀👀👀.
The man can have 2 wives, 3, or 4! They will never stop cheating if they have no self-control and no boundaries! No commitment. They lead with their feelings! They are just a male, not a man. Therefore, accepting a 2nd wife or 3rd will not stop him from cheating. Once a cheater will always be a cheater.
So sad to read so many bad comments about a lady who is very inspirational, her story was raw and real, like her book you could feel the emotions. So sad to read the horrible comments. I praise this lady this mom this builder for building herself and building others through her life experiences, it has not been and it will not be easy but you are loved , honoured and appreciated by us who believe in you and your journey, please always inspire and never tire doing so. No one can and should tell you how to determine your purpose.
She was gaslight into the situation and accepting the marriage. She got told about her gift after she found out about the side chick?! And went to thwasa after the scandal?! Its such a frustrating situation. So sad to see she gave into the isithembu dynamic.
She wanted sthembu to fall into place. 🤣😅😃😃😇 I like it when women say "I am a strong woman, I am stubborn, I am controlling, I dont take nonsense, nywerenywere....but men have a way of humbling them😀😃😁😆😅🤣 "I AM HERE TO DIGNIFY YOU"
It can never be me, I do not have such shoulders. If it's about kids, I can even buy or rent near their house for kids to see their dad frequently. A man can never have so much power on me.
lol "You carry the spirit of a sister wife"? Bathong lona, ausi o hana di chomi or something? As mojita, I can tell this was a heist, this was a dribble and even worse, the whole plan was designed by his mother nna keo bullelle. There is a very big reason why his mother and him did the most so that the lady can join the family. Im also gifted and this is what I see now, via wifi.
Oh ok, so shap shap all you need is to say a sangoma told you so and then you can do anything you want ne... even cheating I can just say ke madlozi mos. Financial over spending...madlozi. Not sleeping at home ka weekend.. madlozi. 1 minute round... madlozi. Yoh thanks for the plug my leader. This is how we gonna win this sthepu battle. Bribe sangomas.
If her husband didn't legally divorce his first wife through the court system (because lobola is a legal marriage),they are still married ( yes guys you have to divorce in court even when you just paid lobola) , that would make this sangoma lady technically a second wife and his sidechick the third😅
The man and his mother have been cooking this for long time like oxtail. They bribed sangomas. The mother like the 2nd wife more, this lady needs to go back and look at things properly, she’s under the delusion that she’s in control
So your ancestor was a sidechick, and she came through you to come to become a first wife.Our husband's who making babies outside marriage are the ones perpetuating single motherhood.My question is why is it always men who put us through this "trials and tribulations in marriage"?I am also eager to hear the husband understanding with regards to how things unfolded.🤔 Hope everything you did and sacrificed brings you ✌️
True that! She's gonna find that it wasn't that deep for the husband but of cause he had to make up something! lol He was bored, wanted to F around, found a worth woman and that's it, that's all! 😂 But keh here she is saying the side was just a casualty in her bigger story
Lol U r soooo me , 😃 😀 😄 ayivalwe le purpose 🤣 I bet you the purpose is running as far away as possible to being unmarried and single life... That's what I get from this...
Wat reality thus her reality ... Live your own uhlukane nabantu if you have everything figured out why care about other people and their reality .. Surely you the who jump ships
Another thing that's working against her is that she thinks because she has a strong personality it gives her some sort of leverage...mxm not when it comes to indonda, they'll fool you those people strong or not 😂😂😂
@@naledindlovu976 She has the right to be okay being in a polygamy marriage, a African tradition is is very much acceptable, not everyone is conditioned to Western culture like you
@briellagab key board warriors who become so rude and condescending uncessarily so, thinking they know the person on the other end and even make conclusions and judgements about who they are and what they believe in 😩 follow the story not me, I'm not the one up there, where do you know my belief system from
Nothing about what she had done is strong, she isn’t a strong woman. If she was strong she wouldn’t have been gaslit into going to twasa and accepting this kind of nonsense.
@@puseletsohlongwane845 Ditto, so you were pretty much projecting. Go heal Oprah's child, miss strong & independent wothuvi. She would have been strong if she did what you think she should have done.
Not her saying we are not going to perpetuate single parenting as if it's something nice, but same opinion can't be said about her sthembu, its still not nice too 😂😂😂
Let’s just be honest, no one is okay with sharing a partner - they just settle. Infact, I find it be the worse form of lack of self love. …& as Khanyi Mbau said, when you’re depressed you’ll think you have an ancestral calling.
Shew!!! I loved this. I found it sooo enlightening and you gave me the lexicon of better understanding polygamy. As a Coloured South African, I have never considered being in a polygamist relationship, but through hearing this interview I can hear how it’s possible once accepted, done openly, fairly etc
There is a certain spec of married women who bekezela infidelity and all sorts of rubbish men put them through (which is fine cos it's their choice and they can do what they want in their marriage) but my irritation with them is decorating it and pretending it's coming from a place of wisdom 🤣🤣🤣 no please just say my husband cheated, made a baby and I decided to accept it. Which one is "I decided to run towards the storm????" 🤣🤣🤣 It's really not that deep. You chose to stay with your cheating husband, congratulations.
I completely agree with you, but then again I think a curse and a blessing is literally the same thing, it just depends on which side you focus on. For example Africa is blessed with abundant natural resources, but the same blessing has literally caused poverty and conflict in Africa… it’s not the best example but I hope you get what I am trying to say
@@lethiwesithole a cheating husband can never be a blessing. Infidelity is a sin even biblically. But I get that for some people, it is not a deal breaker, my only issue is decorating it to look like something beyond what it is. A cheating husband is a cheating husband. Qha. She had to make do with the cards she was dealt with, and she did. She seems happy, but there's nothing spiritual or deep about infidelity.
@@Lungelo911 if the husband did not have any sidechick with child when he came to ask for a 2nd wife it would have sounded better. The man was unfaithful from the get go it seems. Anyways I'm not one who supports polygamy and I wish her all the best. But she shouldn't try to decorate cheating. It's just cheating, nothing beyond that!
From leaving the relationship, 7 hours looking for a side chick😮 and later she comes back allow isithembu she wasn't aware of before marriage, now to becoming a sangoma!! Kuningi sana and someone is delulu here 😂 her husband's muti/nyanga is working overtime I'm telling you
Yah neh! Ku tuff, ku ruff, go sepagetse! LOL So moGuy says it is part of his path to be polygamous cause he was having accident after accident and now it is also part of her path cause she carries the sister wife spirit in her, yah no men will kill us shem! I guess after 3 months she was ready to accept defeat and go back but of cause we all gotta tell ourselves a believable story that we can stomach in order to do so, hers are that : she is the one in control, side was a casualty of HER calling she couldn't escapte this destiny, it is her portion to have a cheater of a hubby she got a taste of how cold her streets are and she cut her spiritual journey short and hitched it back to his deceitful path, but if she loves it, we like it!
I feel she was manipulated very much so...I wasn't sure if I should watch this because I don't follow sangoma discussions but I'm glad I did...my conviction in the Lord is even stronger after this...muhle yena u sisi I wish life could have turned out differently for her but it can only be a wish ...all of the best Mrs ✌️
She is a matured woman who knows how to love herself enough to heal . Loved the interview and i am a married woman who doesn't believe in polygamy but she opened my eyes
You know this woman is delusional.The sangoma that the husband is using on her is really strong 💪.No one in their right mind can tolerate such bullshit.Its sad to watch.They say never say never but in this case Never!!!
Yoh but did her hubby not feel the slightest of guilt for seeing her going through all that for so many years🥲even after the 7 hours situation he still continued but I guess we don’t see “true love” the same way
You'll lost it when you spoke about single parents....some of us did not choose...death defined our path so please be a little sensitive. Absolutely speak your truth but don't generalize.
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She could have continued to be a Christian and let the man do his shenanigans so sad
Lady you strong shame... Marriage and hubby humbled you.
I long for the day where I see/hear men speaking soo poetic about pain and abuse.
This right here 🥺😒, that day won’t come because men love themselves
Men are not emotional but egostistical
Her husband really disrespected her though🥹💔😭
The cheating..
Having a baby outside their marriage…
Buying the side chick a house…
Yoo🥹💔men are not good people..
Love&Light to this beautiful lady 🥹
Agree 100 %total disrespect.. Angenge, I love myself first before I love someone else
Yet she brags about 8 yrs of marriage, like seriously 🙄
The audacity of saying my husband didn’t marry the side chick behind her back meanwhile he had a child and house with the side chick behind her back.She didn’t have a choice but to accept the side chick.
Why do you call them side chick…?????the minute a guy cheats no one is a side chick or wife …you are both his woman finish and clararrrrr
@@teeslife2408pila pila
😂😂😂
😂Am on de floor n she is justifying the man's rubbish
especially saying she left and came back wen the contract ended she couldnt find any employment means she came back for financial reason not for love moreover even that the man has never bored to fight for their relationship he choose the other woman not her ,now she is trying with all wat she have to validate her relevance to that man by advocating for isethembu i believe that man doesnt care
My mom was right, no matter how smart you think you are, a man will show you flames🫢🤦🏾♀️ I’m sorry but it seems like gogo got tricked shamm👀that sangoma, the husband & his mom did things sham😖😂you can’t convince me otherwise
Exactly my thought
the husband bribed the Sangoma to tell her she must be a sister wife
Wena weee 😹🤣😂😂
The husband had a side chick all along and went to the sangoma to validate his infidelity and taking a second wife because she was pregnant
It is not for me shem, I rather be alone and my Christ.
scared of how this lady condones the BS her husband put her through. women...!! i dnt even have better words
its not meant for you
Lenna, it’s too much. Thwasa, sangomas, side chicks and all that trauma!? Nope I’d leave
Thought the same. Going to see sangomas to confirm what's true was her first mistake. The devil can never tell you the truth. She opened up herself to also be control by these familiar spirit and she is now a sangoma herself in a polygamous marriage. Such trauma and a sad reality.
I couldn't I gree more dear
She was manipulated by that man and she’s not even aware 😢
for me its the fact that he is sitting there listening to her relay the story with so much pride . i feel sorry for her.
True
Yhooo sana he played her and he played her very well, sozeeee☹️
@user-tf4ji7gt5j here I am thinking ad well, this men will finish us I'm telling you.
But she is happy
May i allow Jesus to continue to be the author of my life. 😢
Amen..sister wife spirit ijo..She must give me those qualifications
Amen.
You can say that again.
Amen, this is deception to it's core. The devil truly has a grip on some people and sadly they allow it.
The husband is even in the studio . A true monitoring spirit of a husband.Poor lady , she'll write another book later ,when shes set free from this nonsense of a marriage
Fix your eyes on Christ. Don’t let familiar spirits control your life to this point.
Why always force people to follow what you think is right🙄
You are very right.
But let's not judge anyone ❤
Christ Loves us all
Shes not okay with it...she just didnt want to be unmarried with kids
If she said she's unhappy, you would believe without question. Dont project your own feelings, this lady sounds happy, the most happy compared to other guests that have come here.
So so true
I definitely agree, like she's trying to justify this whole thing. She is a strong and very intelligent woman. I feel for her, deeply.
Lol okay
Ooh yes she will never pretend this much
Side note: both your outfits are gorgeous in this episode 🤭
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True very smart and elegant
I think she's trying her best to convince herself that she's okay with this. I think.
100%
shes not okay at all
How’s going against nature working out for most women?
I think a lot of women don’t want to except reality.
True
Men really win in this life thing...
Yeyi, they do. 😢
I think it's because we allow them! Most of us are enablers!
@@spm9130 Thats what I always say. If women were firm and had stubborn morals and values etc over half of the society issues with relationships wouldn't exist. WOMEN ARE ENABLERS!
@@spm9130 Agreed
😂😂😂
True, we choose our hard. I made a deal with my God that I'd rather be single forever than be with a cheating husband or be in a polygamous marriage.
Exactly I would rather be single forever shame hayi God forgive me for disrupting his plans but not heart ache like that hey
It's too soon for her to be talking about her peace in polygamy. She is sadly married to a selfish man who covers his actions with polygamy. She is not ok, she is being emotionally abused and she is in denial. I wish her eyes get opened .
I think its fair for a man to be upfront he wants polygamy first so the women make decision to accept it or not and not base everything on sangomas and badluck
Some people in these comments just can’t take other peoples perspective… this lady sat here for an hour told us her journey, she wrote a book and some of you come here to say …..” she is not okay with it”!!
Just say not for me and move on
This commment❤
@@dumisanindlovu4396100 % truth in her comment. We need to show respect, even if we dnt agree.
We want people to live our truth, not theirs. This lady is living her truth, and doing it proudly.
Thank you 💯
I'm going to follow her, interested in her journey.
All I can say is that the husband is a liar it was all in his plans to have a second wife. Shame this woman is broken its said 😢
Your man if you even have one also has a sidechick darling, whether you know them or not. Relax
@@Vv-fl2rm No one comes out alive here 🤣🤣 Pasop!!
And the first wife left because she knew he was polygamist,29 and 41 was the red flag and hid it by naming it
Honestly we must learn to respect people's choices, religion and traditional ways of doing things. She's a beautiful lady I must say. 👌
I agree, unlike going on displaying how colonized you are.
Yooo, brokenness leads to broken decisions, leading to more brokenness. I pray she wakes up from the lies she has been fed by the devil through her husband, mother-in-law, and the sangomas she visited. I am okay in my singleness with Christ in it, that's my hard that I chose and I am fine.
Ey you and I both girl❤❤❤
Lol she thinks she did the side chick a favour by accepting her...Delulu ya basadi. They would have stayed together with or without her approval
She says when she accepted the sidechick she told her "I'm here to dignify you as a woman" lol no she was also dignifying her cheating husband & herself cause if she hadn't accepted she was always gonna be that wife whose husband has a sidechick & children outside of marriage cause the sidechick told her I ain't going nowhere.
They were going to continue vele. But being a side chick is only viable for a certain time. After 40 being a side chick starts to become embarrassing, and lonely even. Worse ke having a child with a married man khona it's worse worse. So nje I agree with her, she definitely dignified the side. There's a reason why sides are hidden. You are someones dirty secret.
@@RayOfLetsatsi Imagine the nerve to think she held the key to the other woman's dignity 😂😂
@lungelolamula7075 where did she get the power or authority to dignify another human being as someone whose husband wanted someone else while married to her? Stop please!
@@Queendollar83so ridiculous!!
This has to be the silliest thing I have ever heard and her conviction 😢😢😂this man is in the studio probably with a smug thinking look at my popeye 😂
Exactly my thought 🤦🏾♀️
😂😂😂😂I totally agree
"My money-making Popeye!" 😅😅😅😅😅
🤣🤣🤣🤣@ "My popeye"🤣🤣
The most annoying thing is that she has convinced herself and now she thinks she convince the whole world...this one thinks she is smart but niks kanjani
Hyooo why pretend marra , she’s not coping with whatever she’s normalising 😢…
Who are you to tell the next women what she is or isn’t coping with? 😂😂😂 the woman is sitting there telling us her truth you are here in the comments telling us your projection and insecurity and calling her truth lies. Aowa you women have issues
She has the right to be okay being in a polygamy marriage, a African tradition is is very much acceptable, not everyone is conditioned to Western culture.
Im married, but Im not for polygamy however I must applaud her for being brave.
Your man is definitely cheating either way
@@Vv-fl2rm Since you want me to go there, lets go...😏
Men are polygamous by nature, there's noan that doesnt cheat. Bofebe bo padile le baruti.
Most woman marry to be happy, you dont marry to be happy, realistically, you marry to make living easier. Let me break it down:
Marriage is a business contract. When you are single, u pay 100% of your household bills, its more challenging when you are a single parent. When you marry, you each pay 50% towards household bills, you reproduce, children are raised in a stable home, husband is provider, protector and wife is helper and nurturer. Two incomes are better than one or none.
Thats the reality of marriage. If you thought you'll have me triggered by my cheating husband, you are wrong. I got into it knowing exactly what Ill be dealing with. 😏
Not you in a previous comment, saying people mustn't project how they feel onto others? And now you're here telling this lady's husband is cheating! Weee klibhi MASIMBA! @Vv-fl2rm
@@Vv-fl2rm bathong sisi, are u ok?
@@rosegold6209you were supposed to say, not every man cheat, and it's true. Again, I'm not saying you must do it, but they're people who know how to manipulate a man to be yours alone, period, it's also true.
this is book worth reading.. she’s very articulate…shes a very assertive and dominant person naturally. It’s a difficult experience from the sound of it.. 😌
I love Promise way of asking questions and allowing her guests to speak... she's a real digger & not all over. My best & fav podcaster.
This episode gives ama side chicks hope that one day they too will get the ring if they stay long enough😅😂😂
Not with me shame
This is all messed up
Before side chicks kills you, the mother in laws will finish you 😢
But it's really not the mom's in-law's fault hey, she is in the middle. 😢
Even if the mother in law says she loves you 🙄, I’ve seen how my own mother protects my brother when he’s done wrong. Ngimbuze would you be happy if I went through that. Ay ngeke. Ngithi but you say you love the girl as if she’s your own daughter meanwhile you allow her to got through such.
When she left, she came back to her own accord, the husband didnt even fight to get her back! WOW.
Sad part
"We can't continue to perpetuate broken families" kutsho a broken woman in a broken marriage. Just because she doesn't believe you can be whole alone.
What is broken in her marriage? You want her to be happy in your own terms? You want her to define a happy marriage according to you?
@@ThokozaniSithole-cu7tbthere’s quite a couple of broken things like accepting your man is cheating, bringing a child and accepting polygamy against your will, she clearly fought against this fight and lost to the man.
@@Live_More_Love_More Thats your version of her story. Maybe you should watch again only this time listen to what she says not your feelings.
@@ThokozaniSithole-cu7tb sorry, where does she start talking about a happy marriage with a side chick involved? She described it as driving her crazy hey,8 hour hunt, truck.
@@Live_More_Love_More like i said watch again & dont invole your feelings.
We need to let people live their truth and stop projecting...God has a tailored journey for each and everyone us....lets show love and respect as Africans❤
True lala
She is so well spoken, Love her
"I'm here to dignify you." Hay no delulu is the solulu!🤣🤣🤣
That sent me 😂😂😂. Like ma’am?
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Promise, single parenting is not a sin I refuse to believe that.....
People will choose to stay in toxic marriage because they fear single parenting. it takes a lot to stand your ground and leave
@ngelemuofhe that is why ppl are staying with cheating husband they acome and tell us that single parenting is a sin, what does she know about a sin, I'm sure she's God's assistance that why she come and tell us about a sin that is not on 10 commandment
True, promise must correct that
Agreed... I think Promise made an irresponsible comment there... sometimes it's not by choice... sometimes it's the best choice... rather than a toxic marriage or fighting to be mamkhulu even though you don't want isithembu
it is
Nice Interview….I can’t judge Gogo, she’s living in her truth right or wrong. Thanks Ous Promise for the lovely interview.🔥🔥
No woman can convince me she's okay with being in a polygamous relationship ESPECIALLY if she was the 1st wife and she truly loved that man unless if it benefits her somehow. That's why today we see women who were 1st wives divorcing to be number 2 or 3 in other people's marriages😂. This lady is uGogo and I've seen on TV people who've gone this route having polygamous relationships sooo🤷♀️ it could be part her calling or she's just an exception
She dsnt want to be a single Mom thts all.A banthu ba zothini
Ur a coward
You can say that again, moving out your own marriage and ernt to another being number 3 side chick aaa
She has the right to be okay being in a polygamy marriage, a African tradition is is very much acceptable, not everyone is conditioned to Western culture and Hollywood movies like you are!
Ijo how does one come to this. Men are the prize, I can’t there is nothing wrong with being alone and being at peace
Yeah, how did we come to men being the prize? Times are tough. The woman is the prize, he who finds a wife finds a good thing.
THIS LADY HAS BEAUTIFUL LEGS, izitho...❤
Shes CLEAN and well put togther...UGEZILE❤
No bonnet, sleepers, gowns and pyjamas in public, uyazithanda lo, akagezi ngo 4pm, ugeza ngo 4am lo
Indeed hey❤
She's so gorgeous, men are never satisfied.
Her legs
Her aura
Her beauty
Ai maan
I adore her legs wish she could even stand😂😂😂😂
Fresh fit and beautiful
So indoda didn't want isthembu, but there was already another woman in the picture as he & his mom pitched the sthembu idea, and he even impregnated her??
Yah, that really sounds like a husband that didn't want isthembu😂.
Gogo wa lona got tricked. Seems like she choose her "hard" & made peace with it.
All of this drama in a marriage that's not even 10 years old. This woman needs therapy. Acting tough, like all is well but she is not okay at all. If anything, she should understand why he moved fast to marry her
Lol the old man played his cards very well
It was a set up. And it worked.
I also realised that somewhere somehow she's just trying to fool herself. Men are clever guys, he planned it so well Nd he knew the day the aunt came to tell his wife
The level of delulu going on here.....shem ugogo it's so Sad......likhehla played his cards right
I think that the most important thing is for women to be able to make a choice. For some women, staying in polygamy is ok for them, for some, divorcing and going alone is ok. Let all live their truth. We are all just answerable to God, not other human beings. Basically, each to their own.
Yep❤️
sadly, most times they trap you with a ring and baby before they introduce to you their dream of polygamy, now your options are limited
@@sibongilenkwana8835 No, women must never allow themselves to be their own prisoners. No man can trap you. How does having a ring and a baby trap you? You can remove the ring and bring up your kid. Women trap themselves sometimes because they fear social judgement and feel they need a man to complete them. Men know this and some use it to abuse women. Women are very powerful if they decide to use their power. That is why you find many professionals today who were actually raised by women. How many graduates were raised by informal trader mothers? No, men cannot trap women indefinitely. The mind is a very powerful thing. Contraception any one? As for a ring! So you want to live in hell for a small metal! Imagine!!!
@@sibongilenkwana8835😢pure evil
Not most of ya'll out here judging Kgothatso for picking her battles and accepting a polygamous marriage when you're 'bekezeling' your serial-cheating husbands/boyfriends 👀👀👀.
Listen her husband was married before her. She is not admitting his infidelity and giving excuses.
The man can have 2 wives, 3, or 4! They will never stop cheating if they have no self-control and no boundaries! No commitment. They lead with their feelings! They are just a male, not a man. Therefore, accepting a 2nd wife or 3rd will not stop him from cheating. Once a cheater will always be a cheater.
Not always the case
Word!
She's a very good person. And her honesty touch me
So sad to read so many bad comments about a lady who is very inspirational, her story was raw and real, like her book you could feel the emotions. So sad to read the horrible comments. I praise this lady this mom this builder for building herself and building others through her life experiences, it has not been and it will not be easy but you are loved , honoured and appreciated by us who believe in you and your journey, please always inspire and never tire doing so. No one can and should tell you how to determine your purpose.
She was gaslight into the situation and accepting the marriage. She got told about her gift after she found out about the side chick?! And went to thwasa after the scandal?! Its such a frustrating situation. So sad to see she gave into the isithembu dynamic.
Did she really have to twasa or she was depressed? 🤔
She wanted sthembu to fall into place. 🤣😅😃😃😇 I like it when women say "I am a strong woman, I am stubborn, I am controlling, I dont take nonsense, nywerenywere....but men have a way of humbling them😀😃😁😆😅🤣 "I AM HERE TO DIGNIFY YOU"
@@thelmaseaka1567the same way they have humbled you too but you are here pretending to be a know it all on other peoples stories
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Depression
Definitely depressed
To each its own but she didn’t even enjoy her marriage nyana 😭. He didn’t even give her 5 years nyana even after giving birth.
I really enjoyed this interview, Khothatso is very articulate. Her voice commands attention ❤
Very
It can never be me, I do not have such shoulders. If it's about kids, I can even buy or rent near their house for kids to see their dad frequently. A man can never have so much power on me.
Neva.
True
lol "You carry the spirit of a sister wife"? Bathong lona, ausi o hana di chomi or something? As mojita, I can tell this was a heist, this was a dribble and even worse, the whole plan was designed by his mother nna keo bullelle. There is a very big reason why his mother and him did the most so that the lady can join the family.
Im also gifted and this is what I see now, via wifi.
Kopo😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂funny.
Wena😂😂😂😂😂,stop it.
True wena WIFI has seen all, they cooked
🤣🤣🤣🤣😂nje! But they let her believe she is the one who carries the spirit so she has no choice!
Yoh😮,the way you guys protect these cheating men 😮💔🤦🏾♀️😔,women are going through the most jeez
Oh ok, so shap shap all you need is to say a sangoma told you so and then you can do anything you want ne... even cheating I can just say ke madlozi mos. Financial over spending...madlozi. Not sleeping at home ka weekend.. madlozi. 1 minute round... madlozi.
Yoh thanks for the plug my leader. This is how we gonna win this sthepu battle. Bribe sangomas.
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😂😂😂😂 not me reading this in your voice😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 aish
If her husband didn't legally divorce his first wife through the court system (because lobola is a legal marriage),they are still married ( yes guys you have to divorce in court even when you just paid lobola) , that would make this sangoma lady technically a second wife and his sidechick the third😅
Exactly my thought she is not a baby mama but a wife as well, and prolly left the guy for the same reasons
marriage is very hard😢. I applaud this women
It sounds like everything was cooked because this man has already had a side chick ,
Exactly.. & the dreams of the calling started when she started dating this man
The man and his mother have been cooking this for long time like oxtail. They bribed sangomas. The mother like the 2nd wife more, this lady needs to go back and look at things properly, she’s under the delusion that she’s in control
exactly, they brainwashed her
Akere, it sounds like a set up nyana
Spiritually dreams can be tampered with.Esp if you are not Prayerful.
So your ancestor was a sidechick, and she came through you to come to become a first wife.Our husband's who making babies outside marriage are the ones perpetuating single motherhood.My question is why is it always men who put us through this "trials and tribulations in marriage"?I am also eager to hear the husband understanding with regards to how things unfolded.🤔
Hope everything you did and sacrificed brings you ✌️
True that! She's gonna find that it wasn't that deep for the husband but of cause he had to make up something! lol
He was bored, wanted to F around, found a worth woman and that's it, that's all! 😂 But keh here she is saying the side was just a casualty in her bigger story
Women always have to go through pain ? For a purpose. Can I not be purposeful🎉
😂🤣 Oh haaike!
Leave men alone entirely if that’s your wish.
Because they are suppose to hurt us?
Lol U r soooo me , 😃 😀 😄 ayivalwe le purpose 🤣 I bet you the purpose is running as far away as possible to being unmarried
and single life... That's what I get from this...
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Promise you are getting more and more comfortable ❤ Your growth is inspirational. Start Start Start!! Anything you wish to accomplish. It's possible
Thank you so much!!
Amen!
So the Side was right when she said: "I am not going anywhere." I 😂😂😂😂😂
She stood on her business 😂
Lmaooo
😂😂😂😂😂😂 yhoooo
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Yidela kufa
What i like about Promise is that she's a digger😂😂😂😂😂, her questions are always intrigue, re a leboga kgoshigadi 😊😊..
I may not agree with polygamy but I’ve enjoyed listening to her - definitely a different perspective.
What a beautiful woman, she lost herself in this marriage, i wonder gore when she confronts reality with herself what comes out.
Wat reality thus her reality ... Live your own uhlukane nabantu if you have everything figured out why care about other people and their reality .. Surely you the who jump ships
Another thing that's working against her is that she thinks because she has a strong personality it gives her some sort of leverage...mxm not when it comes to indonda, they'll fool you those people strong or not 😂😂😂
@@naledindlovu976 She has the right to be okay being in a polygamy marriage, a African tradition is is very much acceptable, not everyone is conditioned to Western culture like you
@briellagab key board warriors who become so rude and condescending uncessarily so, thinking they know the person on the other end and even make conclusions and judgements about who they are and what they believe in 😩 follow the story not me, I'm not the one up there, where do you know my belief system from
Yhuuuuu😮😢 this is seriously disturbing.....and she is so convinced 😭
Men are the prize yho,looking for a side chick for 7 whole hours.Hayi guys😭
Ayyy men will be the end of us. Mina I wish I could pursue my career like that maybe I'd be a CFO or something
@@_molebogeng6281 🤣🤣Listen, I would have a PHD
@@_molebogeng6281Lalela I'd be a millionaire spending baller money in Dubai sana, driving a ferrari
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One thing men will do is get a sidechick darling even the one you are with, it’s certainly not just you.
Waitsi they even made her think gore ke sangoma
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Eish wena
Serious 😂😂😂
Depression is a calling nowadays, almost driving into trucks, she was depressed
😂😂😂😂😂 haaike!
Nothing about what she had done is strong, she isn’t a strong woman. If she was strong she wouldn’t have been gaslit into going to twasa and accepting this kind of nonsense.
Your definition of strong is her doing what you think is right??
@@ThokozaniSithole-cu7tb my definition of strong is leaving a man who has broken me🙃🙃
@@puseletsohlongwane845 Ditto, so you were pretty much projecting. Go heal Oprah's child, miss strong & independent wothuvi. She would have been strong if she did what you think she should have done.
@@ThokozaniSithole-cu7tb lmao projecting?😂😭 I- you know what you are right no need to engage you
Not her saying we are not going to perpetuate single parenting as if it's something nice, but same opinion can't be said about her sthembu, its still not nice too 😂😂😂
Gogo is so beautiful 😍. Both ladies are so gorgeous ❤!! I love how she’s owning her story.
She is very beautiful, smart and glowing. One can tell she is a true healer.
Siyamfanela isithembu ❤
A lot ❤
She is depressed…chronically
😂😂😂 you are projecting your own feelings. Rest
Fr🤞💔
Let’s just be honest, no one is okay with sharing a partner - they just settle. Infact, I find it be the worse form of lack of self love.
…& as Khanyi Mbau said, when you’re depressed you’ll think you have an ancestral calling.
Once you understand that polygamy is not just what you see but it’s actually more spiritual when done right, you’ll have a different opinion .
🤣🤣🤣🤣 O worse , when you depressed you will confused it to ancestral calling🙆♀️
@@pfulu again read what said to understand not to reply fast
She was definitely depressed
😂😂Khanyi said wat OMG
She still sounds like she's angry, I pray you find your peace. Internal peace.
Indeed she sounds like she is still bitter
It's sad to watch
Shew!!! I loved this. I found it sooo enlightening and you gave me the lexicon of better understanding polygamy. As a Coloured South African, I have never considered being in a polygamist relationship, but through hearing this interview I can hear how it’s possible once accepted, done openly, fairly etc
So why didn't this ancestor make his own kids why come and want someone to do something you couldn't do....hay kudlaliwe ngabantu emhlabeni
All of us are in a constant journey of dying and being reborn. We only get to choose whether we are happy with the new version of us. 🤞🏽
There is a certain spec of married women who bekezela infidelity and all sorts of rubbish men put them through (which is fine cos it's their choice and they can do what they want in their marriage) but my irritation with them is decorating it and pretending it's coming from a place of wisdom 🤣🤣🤣 no please just say my husband cheated, made a baby and I decided to accept it.
Which one is "I decided to run towards the storm????" 🤣🤣🤣
It's really not that deep. You chose to stay with your cheating husband, congratulations.
Not her trying to sound wise for tolerating infidelity
I completely agree with you, but then again I think a curse and a blessing is literally the same thing, it just depends on which side you focus on. For example Africa is blessed with abundant natural resources, but the same blessing has literally caused poverty and conflict in Africa… it’s not the best example but I hope you get what I am trying to say
@@lethiwesithole a cheating husband can never be a blessing. Infidelity is a sin even biblically. But I get that for some people, it is not a deal breaker, my only issue is decorating it to look like something beyond what it is. A cheating husband is a cheating husband. Qha.
She had to make do with the cards she was dealt with, and she did. She seems happy, but there's nothing spiritual or deep about infidelity.
@@slindoZ yazi! She's acting like there's something deep 😂
He's just a cheating husband. That's it. I do wish her well though.
@@Lungelo911 if the husband did not have any sidechick with child when he came to ask for a 2nd wife it would have sounded better. The man was unfaithful from the get go it seems.
Anyways I'm not one who supports polygamy and I wish her all the best.
But she shouldn't try to decorate cheating. It's just cheating, nothing beyond that!
Becoming a Sangoma, because of your husbands infidelity is deep. Men can really break us. Anyway, this her journey....as long as she's happy.
Shadani asinamona ladies🫢
Eish is not nice but re tlareng as long as she is fine,i love her❤
From leaving the relationship, 7 hours looking for a side chick😮 and later she comes back allow isithembu she wasn't aware of before marriage, now to becoming a sangoma!! Kuningi sana and someone is delulu here 😂 her husband's muti/nyanga is working overtime I'm telling you
Delulu😂😂😂
Mzwandile... Umuzi wandile. 😂😂 Badlalile ngo gogo shame 😮😂
🤣🤣Isn't that the meaning?
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My thoughts exactly, listening to her kuyadabukisa.
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Badlala ngawe nawe maybe even worse because you think you know but you don’t know.
sudika 😂😂😂
This is polygamy, its not oxygen😅
😂😂what does that mean
Think it means she can live without it.
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😂 True
This lady needs true friends nje and she will wake up from the years of manipulation and gaslighting
Delulu is the only solulu sana.
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Hai Sana..
Delulu is also wanting to misconstrue and undermine people who are telling their own life stories
Yah neh! Ku tuff, ku ruff, go sepagetse! LOL
So moGuy says it is part of his path to be polygamous cause he was having accident after accident and now it is also part of her path cause she carries the sister wife spirit in her, yah no men will kill us shem! I guess after 3 months she was ready to accept defeat and go back but of cause we all gotta tell ourselves a believable story that we can stomach in order to do so, hers are that :
she is the one in control, side was a casualty of HER calling
she couldn't escapte this destiny, it is her portion to have a cheater of a hubby
she got a taste of how cold her streets are and she cut her spiritual journey short and hitched it back to his deceitful path, but if she loves it, we like it!
I feel she was manipulated very much so...I wasn't sure if I should watch this because I don't follow sangoma discussions but I'm glad I did...my conviction in the Lord is even stronger after this...muhle yena u sisi I wish life could have turned out differently for her but it can only be a wish ...all of the best Mrs ✌️
Not her trying to justify polygamy. That man is promiscuous.
She is a matured woman who knows how to love herself enough to heal . Loved the interview and i am a married woman who doesn't believe in polygamy but she opened my eyes
So very true.
Yhaaa it's tough maan that's all I can say. It's true when they say u choose your hard.
Of all tribes why would any woman want to marry a zulu man? 😢
There is nothing wrong with zulu men im tswana but want to be married into a zulu family.
@@palesasefurutshe6832 go ahead 😂😂😂 you will be on a podcast later venting about how that went.
@palesasefurutshe6832 oh, but there's definitely something wrong with Zulu men.😅
@@Vv-fl2rm😂😂😂😂😂 mara
Iyoh i dealt with 2 Zulu men in my life.... ke sharp
You know this woman is delusional.The sangoma that the husband is using on her is really strong 💪.No one in their right mind can tolerate such bullshit.Its sad to watch.They say never say never but in this case Never!!!
She did say she left and came back fearing being a second best or side chick
She end up being a sangoma herself
😅😅😅😅😅
She's really delulu💔
Neveeeer
What an articulate Mama! Beautiful ladies
Wait, not me thinking Moguy compromised the cupboard door to scare the bajezas out of her into polygamy!!!😂🤣🤭
Re phela le di tsotsi thle!
Beautiful story, love her growth mindset and she's fallen in love with her husband all over again😍😍😍😍can't wait to get her book!
May this kind of desperation for a man never locate me
Amen😂😂
Desperate times calls for Desperate measures. Yoh there's so much here. May the good Lord help us.
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Please stop fighting guys men make decisions
If they have molla
Yoh but did her hubby not feel the slightest of guilt for seeing her going through all that for so many years🥲even after the 7 hours situation he still continued but I guess we don’t see “true love” the same way
Fr fr💯
I read it differently too, he didn't care, he doesn't care
Yoh that was a tough one, I'm even shaking 😮
You'll lost it when you spoke about single parents....some of us did not choose...death defined our path so please be a little sensitive. Absolutely speak your truth but don't generalize.
Not into isthembu but i really enjoyed the interview, really nice how gogo owned her narrative.