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Is Love All You Need?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ก.พ. 2015
- What's the key to happiness and life satisfaction? One study followed a group of people for more than 70 years to find out.
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References:
(A must read) Vaillant, G. E. (2012). Triumphs of experience: The men of the Harvard Grant Study. Harvard University Press. www.hup.harvard...
Vaillant, G. E. (2008). Aging well: Surprising guideposts to a happier life from the landmark study of adult development. Little, Brown. books.google.c...
Vaillant, G. E., & Mukamal, K. (2001). Successful aging. American Journal of Psychiatry, 158(6), 839-847. www.massgeneral...
Gottman, J. M., & Krokoff, L. J. (1989). Marital interaction and satisfaction: a longitudinal view. Journal of consulting and clinical psychology, 57(1), 47. gruberpeplab.co...
Gottman, J. M. (2014). What predicts divorce?: The relationship between marital processes and marital outcomes. Psychology Press. books.google.c...
Really impressed with your research, script, presentation and the awesome location shots. BrainStuff and BrainCraft should totally team up!
Thanks so much! And yes, great idea :)
+Ryan Whitstone You need to caaalmmm dooownnnnnn, buddy. I already saw a reply to a comment you made before that was pretty simular to this one and was also very
creepy. I bet she might enjoy the jester, but you don't need to get weird about it. Just slow down a little, k?
Brainstuff looks cool
I think I love you... in a completely platonic, non-idolized, but highly respected and appreciated sort of way. :) Not only does the average female tend to not do much except annoy me (especially TH-camrs), but seemingly interesting videos are so VERY hit and miss (often miss). Your series, however, is refreshingly informational AND enjoyable, and your personality is unexpectedly likable. So I would just like to Thank You for being an asset to the digital age and actually having something of value to offer humanity. Please keep doing what you do, and may you have nothing but good luck and blessings in all your endeavors.
balancingthedark Thanks so much :)
+balancingthedark Lol. As if your words carry weight or authority over who is contributing to humanity and who isn't. Your opinion is only that, an opinion. The proper comment would've been. "Your series, however, is refreshingly informational AND enjoyable, and your personality is unexpectedly likable. So I would just like to Thank You!" The rest of what you wrote is just you trying to hold on to some sort of self-acceptance or validation that your opinion matters (which it doesn't) because I'm almost willing to bet that you haven't done anything to be an asset to humanity. But that is just my observation.
+Tony Bravo WOW, you told him. The lady in the video is speaking of what it really takes to sustain a lasting relationship and to build upon it. One of the main points she makes is that of showing kindness. If one has kindness in their heart they will automatically show it to people other than their partner too, it flows out from the heart and is visible in one's actions towards all of humanity. I hope you didn't miss all of what she is saying because there is a lot of truth in it and she put it forth very nicely and with some humor thrown in.
+balancingthedark Don't give up hope, us women are here and we are intelligent, humorous, and interesting. However, I fully understand what you are expressing here but it sounds to me like you are exposed to the wrong kind of women. Open your horizons and you will find us
Aww, haha. You'd think I called people out by name. Try to compliment a woman for being exceptional... *sigh*.
Still, I suppose I could apologize to those who decided to take personal offense at what I mistakenly assumed were blatant observations about the current state of so-called humanity on our Sick Sad World... but I'm really just sorry that you have to live with that kind of sensitivity.
I love these videos in which you show your face in the camera. They are somewhat more relatable than the crafty-only ones.
Thank you! I really enjoy making both crafty and on-camera videos.
Please. tacos and harry potter are all i need
XD
I think that even if you aren't in a romantic relationship, just having close friends and family that love you would make you happy throughout your lifetime. :)
money... that was 1st thing that came to my mind... because money gives freedom.
Absolutely. Money is the basis of everything.
If you say you don't need money, it's probably because you already have a lot.
qorilla Or you are trying to convince yourself that because you are poor.
Jack Freeman No. Rich people in general don't even notice money, so they say it's not important. Because it's there by default. You have a home, a car, money to eat out, travel around, pay the bills etc. But money is sooo unimportant...
Oh I wouldn't exactly say money makes us "free" given how it can make people susceptible to being enslaved to materialistic and ultimately less fulfilling aspirations. But yes, I agree that we do need money up to a certain extent. As it stands, money is simply the means that allows us to pursue to "better things in life" (e,g. art, travel). Let's just try not to make our happiness rely too heavily on money because there are still beautiful things that come with little to no cost: a beautiful sunset, a bright full moon, a walk in the park, and as the video pointed out, "[being open to] love" (although whether or not love is really free is debatable). Even something simple as a pen and paper can do wonders. "Appreciating the little things," I'd say.
applewitheveryone Absolutely ;)
"Except for last Thursday"
That comment just earned my like XD
I agree with you, I'm 17 and I haven't had the desire for a pertner relationship for some time since I kind of feel like my parents give me the love I need. So far it has definitely had a positive effect on my personality and I can definitely say that I am proud of who I've become. I feel extremely confident to move on in life and tackle bigger life goals like finishing university with flying colours, getting a job, moving out etc. An extremely good video! :D Love ya!
Almost. Being open to love and BrainCraft is all you need.
$87,000 more a year? does that seem way to high to anyone else?
painandsorrowcards Hell yeah! My mother loved the freaking hell out of me I don't even make anywhere near eighty seven thousand a year
I think this finding is 100,000x more important than the number of views suggests!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (I realize I need to work on being a kinder person!! Thank You Lady of BrainCraft!!! You managed to add meaning to my life in a deeply personal way in less than four minutes!
I love that you included your references. All TH-cam videos that make claims should follow your example.
love can sustain one's happiness many years but also makes one suffers for thousand years, but with money is everything!!!
The connection to this and depression is uncanny. Although you cant say love is an intrinsic property, id have the hypothosis that it is a preliminary. Not to happiness in the immediate, but in the sustaining.
all i need is the quenching of curiosity feeling.
theres a word for it but im lazy
Due to my family, religion and the culture of the people i usually interact with, i've always felt love is the way to go, however seen in this perspective makes me like a bit more the study of human behavior and get more passionate about science, just like every one of your vids. i dont know how PBS works but keep up the good work! :)
You makes me feel smarter, and this is all i need) Thanks, Vanessa!)
I love your channel Vanessa. I just recently found it & it's so informative and well-presented!
I'm answering your question before I start the video on "things that would make me happy." ;) Interesting enough, I find personal achievements and goals I set for myself to be amazingly rewarding. This can mean being the top ranked student or setting small goals like "I'm going to ____ by ____." Nothing's better than achieving this goal before the actual due date & going on to the next one. Seriously, this "rewarding" feeling is my kryptonite!
I had and continue to have a difficult relationship with my mother but I have been happily married for 48 years. Am I an oddball?
I just watched another video that stated over 80% of us grow up in a dysfunctional family, so fortunately, you're the majority.
the study was about men. but how does love affect women? i'd really appreciate an answer/ reference
I noticed I am less likely to make better grades when perceiving no sense of community. I am more depressed and don't feel as willing to work.
Money. Because I'm sick of struggling to get by. I'm sick of seeing my family drown in dept and i'm sick of being poor.
Money would make me happy, screw love.
Or maybe kittens. Lots and lots of adorable kittens.
If you payed attention...she explained that love, in fact, = money.
Money does not make you happy. It's an absence of money what makes you sad. Please don't confuse the cause and effect. ;)
i am absolutely amazed at how you are able to design and portray such perfect scientific results to your audience, iam very impressed with your work keep up the good work;)
I'm not really opened to love and I'm happy. I mean, if we're talking about people.
There is a paradox with being open to love. The other person becomes so overzealous of you that anything you do that dissatisfies them causes them to start getting in the way of everything you attempt. This severely weighs down your life.
Love might sustain my happiness for several years, but if you ask whether it is all you need, you have to consider how the government pretty much makes it so that you won't make it very far without a bit of cash, and I don't think people who live on disabilities tend to get enough cash to live on love, considering how love makes you want to be charitable, and if you're too charitable while you're disabled you're broke, and then you aren't happy.
I wish I could travel this much.
=> money , beauty , love and having a job that people admire you for ( lawyers , doctors/nurses , engineers..)
Wow thanks for making these videos :) So much to think about!
"Ill Tempered Sea Bass?" Delightful.
I don't need love , I just want you to make videos so I can keep watching you :")
Yes. Love is all you need.
I want to establish a meaningful relationship with Vanessa Hill!!
3:32 "Except for last thursday". Hahahaha Smartass!
So if I have an uncaring mother, what can I do to avoid dementia. Honestly, being told that a bad relationship to my mother can have long term consequences for me concerns me a lot.
From France with Love!! 🇫🇷
My answer is Nessy Hill. 💙
Well, it seems that John Lennon was right when he wrote "All You Need Is Love" with Paul McCartney
"Except for last thursday" lol i wasnt sure if i heard that or just thought it
nice video :), cool that you pointed out the correlation thing once again i guess it avoided many missunderstandings. I may suggest a new microphone or recoring the audio in another location it sounded a bit weird.
keep it up :).
So, if correlation doesn't equal causation, why even mention those things?
The answer is 42, the life the universe and everything.
This Channel is pretty cool. I like it.
I love your vids & all the neat interesting stuff in them!! Btw u should become a news reporter lol!!! Keep up the great vids :D
why its hard to accept the relationship failure, is it brain or the surroundings ...
Great video!
3:00 Scientific fact: Fluttershy and Rarity are soulmates.
+M.G.L. Hutton i think in the same...
ironicaly thats the least used ship in the fandom
Raptec Clawtooth Badillo
Sounds like that spells opportunity! Run with it Raptec!
XD maybe... just maybe
loving your work
Everyone has their own life to live and should live it freely. Bullying someone or discriminating someone for being different than you while they are not harming anyone is harmful.
Most people desire to kiss someone they are attracted to. If it is willing to both people that is the only thing that matters. Not the judgmental views of others. As you do to others so shall it be done to you. Who here lacks so much empathy that they would need to experience an entire lifetime of what it feels like to be victimize or be what they don't understand and hate?
Skews things in my mind when you say something like men who have a positive relationship with their mother make on average $87,000 more. If you don't like your parents either it's your fault (and you are going to make many other mistakes b/c of it) or it's their fault (and your life will be much more difficult b/c of it) no matter what you do, both your parents (or lack thereof) are a huge part of your life, and a statement this broad basically demands clarification.
Open to love :) never give up
Allons, enfants de la patrie, Le jour de gloire est arrivé. Like if you noticed it
All needed is only Love cause it can give everything.
can't give money tho.
+Robert Think harder...
Ethan Carpenter Imma shit my pants,if I think any harder.
Robert Hahaha!
Robert It's ok than, just don't do that plz xD!
Has anyone noticed that the codes used in the URLs for some youtube videos sometimes sort-of look like the Enochian used in the "Opening by Watchtower" used by various occult groups? I am not saying that they are in any way connected, this is meant as a humourous observation only.
Somebody is in love
What about those great scientists and those billionaires that haven't had good relationships or life filled with love and still succeded...
people say money can't buy love wrong. money can buy puppies so hahahahaha
I hope so...
Nice video.
Would be interesting to see the size of the effects
can you do some specials about fear and what triggers fear?
Huh, sea bass? Didn't see that one coming.
It's like these videos are made for just me.
All you need is lovee tanananana all you need is love! Love. Love is all you ned
Sabra sauce would make me happy its made with love.
One thing that makes me happy is my Jeep Wrangler. It's true love.
i loved this video therefore that is all i needed :)
I ain't got nothin, but love for you baby!
Why did this end with the meraillaise? Is this a reference to Casablanca?
It's always an ill-tempered sea bass
They should do a "Harvard study" version with females.
This is 6 months late... But you know.... How complicated a woman is? Even a woman doesn't want to observe other woman for a long long time.
Lol, jk, but I believe it will be hard on the interview, since a lot of women tend to sugarcoat what they say
+kintokisa Most people sugarcoat what they say. It's not exclusive to women.
kintokisa have you met any women?
nice scenes...
Awesome..... Just awesome..... :)
where you at Greenland?
You're exactly like Matt O'Dowd
I like the coat
Just confirms i am doomed.
Well - I'm fucked on all angles.
The only problem is that you still don't know what love is.
+Jonathan Tash And I really don't want and infant to harm me.
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I love that I love this,
Phew, I'm glad I'm vaping, nobody's got cancer yet and we just have that weird booger-formation problem.
I love you Vanessa :D does'it count if you love back a stranger
Hold on, so I have to pick something that'll make me happy forever, but it can't be tacos or Harry Potter? That doesn't leave much. Can I pick ice cream?
shes gorgeous, shes the only love i need
The ever dangerous Sea Bass returns lol.
Your accent kept me interested... Jk very interesting facts and awesome location for a video.
First! Love your videos!
No bitch i was first
Luis Zamora You have to write "first" to be first.
***** Idk, maybe because It annoys people.
The study is selective and heavily biased, which is especially relevant if you wanted to extrapolate its findings to our current state of society. For example, participants are affluent to the degree or supported enough (which brings another class of experiences) to become undergrads. Any early adversarial experience (which source is likely your family or extended family!) seems to have no effect on this. And the umwelt is such a one that you marry sooner, and have less choice on the matter (literally, and figuratively!). This leaves open the possibility that *through* love you could turn to a path that will leave you even more unhappy (toxic relationships enabled by traumata, forfeit professional opportunities for love which prematurely ends…).
The cross.
I don't know. If I myself had to chose between "love" and "money and power" for example, I'd without a flinch opt for the latter. I believe it could make me happy for the lifetime, whereas the love, more so romantic one, would not really do much for me. Personally.
More so when I consider that this "romantic love" is pretty much a fictional concept minted by middle-age era poets, intoxicated with absinthe, bored to death, who constantly sought justification for their bohemia n lifestyle.
That does not mean, though, that I don't believe that a romantic love has a physiological impact on most of the people. As any form of behavioral conditioning, it certainly does. I simply think that the romantic love is a fake notion, perpetuated by phenomenons such a trending, peer pressure, identification and compensation.
Considering all that, it could not make me happy personally. I would feel like I'm on drugs, which would eventually make me question, what will happen If I run out of the drug? What have I really accomplished to be proud and / or happy of? Money on the other hand, can literately buy anything but physical immortality, on this Earth, just as long as You have enough of it. Happiness included, of course :)
That's my take on this, anyway :) Maybe we are not all uniform when it comes to effect of love
Wrong Harry Potter can keep me happy eternally!
Awsome vid😚. Family =$$$.
Well there is Netflix.....
Morphine drip is all you need...and some stool softeners.
Amazingd
anybody with your physiognomy would do just fine...and it is good to know your mind apparently meets the same standards.
or maybe it is the british accent...maybe that's what really "crafts" my brain.
According to this I'll die homeless. Thanks :)
I love you girl.
But how the heck do you open yourself up for love?
Good question...
+catwoman4juli It must depend on what you want to love.
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good point sir