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  • How much do you really know about the history of the word "agender"? Find out on this episode of InQueery, hosted by artist and musician Shamir. InQueery is the series that takes a deeper look at the meaning, context, and history of LGBTQ+ vocabulary and culture. Powered by Google.
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  • @calciumis
    @calciumis 2 ปีที่แล้ว +301

    When you are agender, asexual and aromantic:
    " *I have the A.A.A. power...* "
    " *I REJECT ANY FORM OF EXISTENCE* "

  • @kumogate
    @kumogate 5 ปีที่แล้ว +740

    The term "agender" has helped me to pin down my feelings (or should I say 'lack' of feelings) surrounding my own gender identity. It has helped me to clarify things that confused me or caused me distress in the past. This clarity has been relieving and allowed me to put some things to rest in my head.

    • @tom-dahl1598
      @tom-dahl1598 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      and me. there wasn't a word for it 50 years ago.

    • @spaceboxpilot
      @spaceboxpilot 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Seeker of Light same ☺️

    • @Connorsedols2002
      @Connorsedols2002 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Yeah me too! It used to make me feel like I was "broken" or "wrong" for being Agender, but talking to a therapist about how I felt helped me realize that I'm not broken for being Agender :D

    • @azraelvivanco8113
      @azraelvivanco8113 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Same here

    • @Sarah-ls4pz
      @Sarah-ls4pz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What exactly does that mean? Sorry if I offended you :

  • @Mircalla
    @Mircalla 5 ปีที่แล้ว +581

    For all the confused people:
    Sex and gender are different things. Your sex is defined by what is between your legs and your chromosomes, and your gender exists in your mind. There is a correlation between the two, but they are definitely different things. So, your sex can be male but your gender can be female, for example. We would call that person a trans-woman. Gender exists on a spectrum, with male at one end and female at the other, and everything in the middle of that spectrum is known as "non-binary". "Agender" is a specific type of non-binary identity.

    • @chabileo
      @chabileo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@liljetgames7180 www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/gender

    • @annymus4502
      @annymus4502 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Great explanation
      Tho I thought agender was having no gender, not even non binary

    • @chabileo
      @chabileo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      @@annymus4502 being agender IS having no gender, howhever, some folks (including me) still put it under the NB umbrella

    • @annymus4502
      @annymus4502 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@chabileo
      Oh, I see
      Tbh, as a cis female, I don't understand agenderness much
      Could you maybe educate me a little further or tell me how you realised you were agender?

    • @chabileo
      @chabileo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@annymus4502 firstly, :mygenderisx.com/read/non-binary-gender-identity-flags

  • @StoneSaysHello
    @StoneSaysHello 2 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    I used to think about gender a LOT. I was obsessed with it. But since I found agender as my label I have almost completely stopped thinking about it. I just live my life.

  • @hads5279
    @hads5279 5 ปีที่แล้ว +765

    IMm happy to see a lot of positivity in the comments. I’m used to only seeing hurtful things with videos like these.

    • @doid4354
      @doid4354 4 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      @Sarbur Gideg Wow, I keep seeing you under videos about agenders. It must suck having so much insecurity that you go around hating people for living their best lives. Hope you can find peace one day.

    • @tom-dahl1598
      @tom-dahl1598 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @Sarbur Gideg the only freak is you. fancy being so delusional that you think you have insight into the very core of someone else's being. the only thing you know for certain 100% is your own gender feeling. if you're a man show us all the thing that you share with other men (physical bits aside) that women will never experience?? let's see these things. if they're objective reality you can show them to us.

    • @mrbrnz001
      @mrbrnz001 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank the CENSORS!

    • @tom-dahl1598
      @tom-dahl1598 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @Sarbur Gideg how would you know 'it's not possible to live without gender''?
      you've one unique experience and that's your own. you can't even say what anyone else feels or doesn't feel. you can't know and you'll never be able to know. you claim objective fact when all you've got is subjective experience.
      gtf. you don't know what you're talking about.

    • @fartchannelremoved8305
      @fartchannelremoved8305 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I came to see what difference is there in agender and non binary, can someone explain, I didn’t really get it

  • @fahimaidan5397
    @fahimaidan5397 3 ปีที่แล้ว +188

    I'm agender and this comment section literally made me cry.

    • @AlyxAesthetics
      @AlyxAesthetics 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ok

    • @eugene4144
      @eugene4144 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      AS YOU SHOULD🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

    • @munchedmuffin
      @munchedmuffin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Love you💜💜💜

    • @sniffypants5097
      @sniffypants5097 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      If a comment section on TH-cam makes you cry, you need help.
      A death of a friend or family member? I get it.
      Being physically accosted or assaulted? I get it.
      Having a serious argument or fight with a significant other, close friend or family member? I get it.
      Watching Awakenings? I get it.
      However reading comments on TH-cam and crying means that you’re mentally weak. You’re choosing to allow the statements someone else is making to offend you. That’s your fault. You don’t have to take anything to heart that you choose not to. You choose to allow to let statements hurt your feelings. Pure and simple.

    • @juliwb6390
      @juliwb6390 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@sniffypants5097 Ehmm... They never said it was sad crying??

  • @plutoadsaturnspeil4186
    @plutoadsaturnspeil4186 3 ปีที่แล้ว +223

    i’m genderless but like- relate to being a girl at the same time? i’m not a girl but i’m not not a girl?? i’m like, 2% female, and the rest is *just me*
    being a girl doesn’t matter to me. it’s so watered down by nothing that it doesn’t matter.

    • @ChelseaKristie
      @ChelseaKristie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      same omg like I’m feminine, I love girly things and stuff and I know that I am a girl but like.. I’m also not. I just want to be known as my name.

    • @bonsey4088
      @bonsey4088 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      Yeah I'm feeling the same tbh. As a biological female, I like my current appearance and how I act toward society, speak, etc., but I don't necessarily feel female. I would much rather appear and act feminine rather than masculine but not identify as one. I'm trying out agender and They/Them pronouns to see if they fit, but I'm still not sure if this is valid.

    • @brawlstarsaspirant
      @brawlstarsaspirant 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Maybe you're a demigirl! :3

    • @salem-01
      @salem-01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Look up Demi girl! I am, personally, a Demi girl. Demigirl is when your in between agender and female, I’d recommend doing some research because, who knows! This could be your gender :)

    • @cyriswinters5233
      @cyriswinters5233 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      There's Librafemme I heard of and Demi-girl possibly look into those?

  • @iansysu1236
    @iansysu1236 5 ปีที่แล้ว +233

    I think I might be agender. I feel that physiologically I am a man, but I also feel like I have no gender identity at all.

    • @sexypotato8815
      @sexypotato8815 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      You May be inderfluid.

    • @scrubadubgrub
      @scrubadubgrub 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      You might be a demiboy

    • @mrloverandf9249
      @mrloverandf9249 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      You may need a mirror and look at your down parts. The answer is there.

    • @namelssssnake9466
      @namelssssnake9466 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Av-mu3dz *cricket sounds*

    • @tiandre6159
      @tiandre6159 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @@mrloverandf9249 bro what??

  • @axlien_gaxcha6247
    @axlien_gaxcha6247 4 ปีที่แล้ว +456

    yo im agender shout out to my fellow agenders!

    • @raisin589
      @raisin589 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      sah dude :))

    • @user-zk6ic2kt8e
      @user-zk6ic2kt8e 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Briavsp what happened

    • @user-zk6ic2kt8e
      @user-zk6ic2kt8e 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Briavsp oh thanks for telling me btw

    • @Jay13340
      @Jay13340 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I want to know more, so what is the difference between agender and nonbinary?

    • @blackzero9815
      @blackzero9815 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Disgusting

  • @starhutchison7110
    @starhutchison7110 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    i'm agender but prefer the term genderless. agender is accurate but I feel like it gets used as an identifier so often when the point for me is that i'm a fluid person and don't want to be boxed in by the ideas associated with a label

  • @rockabillymuffin
    @rockabillymuffin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +256

    The word I found that describes my experience with gender is agenderflux. I dont care about pronouns, I don't like being called a woman or man, and wether I feel more masculine or feminine or neither fluctuates :)

    • @munchedmuffin
      @munchedmuffin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      rockabillymuffin yes!! im agenderflux too! we out here! nd we beautiful!

    • @rockabillymuffin
      @rockabillymuffin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Di Di
      Wuhuu 🌈🌈🌈🌈

    • @frahhscloset3430
      @frahhscloset3430 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Then how shall I called you?help, I still confusing 😫

    • @Gee-xb7rt
      @Gee-xb7rt 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      i was in school in the 90s, i'm old, and we were already just replacing gendered pronouns. i learned the easiest thing to do is call people by their name, you don't need pronouns and other labels, a name works just fine.

    • @Gee-xb7rt
      @Gee-xb7rt 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Frahh's closet You call them by their name or you can also remove the subject most sentences, if they are the subject its going to be assumed. its not very difficult, it just takes some getting used to if you are used to using gendered speech. Maybe it takes a little brushing up on grammar skills, but think about what you are saying and when you can use names instead, and when you can just drop the gendered words and not replace them. They/them is a fine universal pronoun if you get stuck. Sean Hannity isn't even triggered over being called a them, so don't worry about it.

  • @kawaiireaper5474
    @kawaiireaper5474 4 ปีที่แล้ว +448

    I think I'm aromantic asexual agender
    OwO

  • @munchedmuffin
    @munchedmuffin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +317

    We love agender beauties!!💖✨

  • @AceHunter0407
    @AceHunter0407 5 ปีที่แล้ว +295

    This person's voice is absolutely the cutest ♥♥

    • @kumogate
      @kumogate 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      I could honestly listen to them talk about anything! Super cute!

    • @gingerdaan7657
      @gingerdaan7657 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Really...

    • @pink8306
      @pink8306 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Ginger daan yeah. really. its cute.

    • @mrloverandf9249
      @mrloverandf9249 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      His voice is funnier than cute. And yes it's a HE with painted nail and dressed like a kid....

    • @Carol75221
      @Carol75221 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Tryhard

  • @bendk9946
    @bendk9946 5 ปีที่แล้ว +358

    I really like their hair . It's really cute 😊

    • @trajanledesma
      @trajanledesma 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      His*

    • @gingerdaan7657
      @gingerdaan7657 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Mmmkkkk

    • @itz_felix8863
      @itz_felix8863 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@trajanledesma that's kinda rude

    • @dylfanone
      @dylfanone 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Its not rude, its real. He is a he.

    • @itz_felix8863
      @itz_felix8863 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      @@dylfanone it's rude when this person wants to be called a '' them''

  • @donel7315
    @donel7315 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I finally figured out I'm Agender, and I feel so much better knowing who I am now and proud

    • @lufa7886
      @lufa7886 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      i hope they find a cure for you

    • @lucki_charmz6603
      @lucki_charmz6603 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Congrats!!

    • @Ahria256
      @Ahria256 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@lufa7886 smfh, likewise pal you prob need it more smh

  • @lol-qg6rz
    @lol-qg6rz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I pretty sure im agender, and now that i know what it means i feel like it fits how i feel well and it makes me feel happy that there was something for me and im just so happy rn

  • @user-fz9op6ki9f
    @user-fz9op6ki9f 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I came out as agender to my cousin a couple weeks ago before I saw this video, after watching this I feel it’s actually very educational and could be helpful to others questioning their gender!

  • @alder6717
    @alder6717 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Thank you so much for explaining! I’ve been doing research to educate myself in terms of the LGBTQIA+ community and this was very helpful, though it’s a shame I’m so late.

    • @onesourlemon8
      @onesourlemon8 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      This comment makes me so happy. I’m so glad more people are trying to educate themselves and learn about our community instead of being close minded

    • @lovelyjanuary
      @lovelyjanuary 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@onesourlemon8 oh my gosh I am loving this series for the same reason as Because Me? too and I agree that it is so great to see many more people wanting to learn and be more actively supportive of the LGBTQ+ community! Even though I don’t identify as a member of it, I am close to and have had loved ones in the past who were a part of that vibrant, brilliant and lovingly full of life beautiful community of people and I am always loving and excited for more information that I can learn and be a more well rounded and educated person when it comes to other people and how I can respect and interact with them in the happiest and most openly accepting way possible!!!!! Plus, I just love words to be honest lolololol. My “amateur expert etymologist” habits are very ingrained in my personal identity Hahahah and I can’t help but love this series especially for that reason even without everything else extraordinarily great about it too!!!! 💕💕💕💕💕💕

  • @Swenglish
    @Swenglish 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    The use of the word "decide" throws me off. I can't speak for anyone else, but I never decided to be agender, I discovered that I always had been, and no matter how hard I've tried, I've never been able to be anything else.

    • @Swenglish
      @Swenglish 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I guess I "decided" to embrace the word after learning it, but I had been looking for it my whole life.

    • @melodicatyto
      @melodicatyto 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah I think it depends on the person but I agree. I personally never decided i just always have been you know!

  • @mac4192
    @mac4192 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Well now I got the three As. Asexual Aromantic and Agender

    • @lauvayed
      @lauvayed 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      They call them...
      *THE BIG THREE*

    • @veeayala4664
      @veeayala4664 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Aaayyyyyyy

    • @emmahollow8898
      @emmahollow8898 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      these people are so dense it hurts

    • @justamikee
      @justamikee 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's kinda funny, congrats though! :D

  • @tom-dahl1598
    @tom-dahl1598 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    i've never had a inner feeling of being gendered. just always felt human/alive. i've got all the male bits and i've asked plenty of other men to show me what we have, emotionally, spiritually, psychologically and objectively in common (physical bits aside of course) that women will never have and never be able to experience.the question goes unanswered. 51 years (quite a long phase i'm sure you'll agree) and i'm still waiting to experience this 'feeling' of gender.

  • @namiip
    @namiip 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I’ve seen the word “agender” be used as “gender apathetic,” so that’s what I thought it was. Though, now I do wonder if there’s a word for gender apathetic. I don’t really care what pronouns people use for me. I’m cis by default I suppose? I wouldn’t even mind if someone just called me “you.” I’m just very apathetic to identity itself- don’t really care to be anything or anyone

    • @uhuhno6441
      @uhuhno6441 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think you don't belong here. Those people don't want to admit it but they are 100% group identity. In that regard they're no different than all the other randos.

    • @Hollieanaaa
      @Hollieanaaa ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Cassgender?

    • @sveps8883
      @sveps8883 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah, you can perhaps be Gender Apathetic, Cassgender or Gendervoid, those are terms under the agender umbrella

  • @sanchisan6997
    @sanchisan6997 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Omg, those butterfly clips! 💀💀💀 They were SO POPULAR when I was in middle school 🤣😂

  • @littlefemme4957
    @littlefemme4957 5 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    I love this video! I came out as agender a years back and it really changed my life for the better. I'm happy to see more and more education being brought out about it and more agender people feeling at home with their identity. 🖤💚🖤💚

    • @mrloverandf9249
      @mrloverandf9249 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      To my eyes (and most likely your mirror) you are a woman. We need genders for legal purposes. ✌👌

    • @oopomgseesteehee3374
      @oopomgseesteehee3374 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@mrloverandf9249 i know this is a year old but no we dont, since did we ever, let people live their lives and their a they/them

  • @rayduit8466
    @rayduit8466 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    i wanna say i'm agender (i dont like being called girl or boy unless medically) and i use all pronouns, is that ok?

    • @lovelyjanuary
      @lovelyjanuary 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      It’s totally ok!!!!! It’s *your* identity and you can define it however you feel and think is right and perfect for you 💕💕 No one else has the authority or knowledge about you that you do yourself, so no one else has the right to tell you what you should/should not be, either! I am happy that you are starting to know how you identify and I hope the best for you too!!!!! These videos are so helpful and educational as well, even if I don’t identify as an LGBTQ+ individual, I appreciate the ability to be more informed and learn the lexicology :)

    • @salem-01
      @salem-01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes! It’s totally ok, pronouns don’t equal gender, and plenty of agender people do it!

  • @finniantylermorey8843
    @finniantylermorey8843 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I've been trying to figure out my gender for so long. I'm not a boy or a girl, im not non binary or genderfluid and I think, maybe I am agender. it seems to be the most accurate one.

    • @rxpunzi
      @rxpunzi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Agender still comes under non binary!

    • @agen7m0thman
      @agen7m0thman 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@rxpunzi doesn't mean it's non binary. Bisexual is also a umbrella term but that doesn't mean pansexual is bisexual

    • @rxpunzi
      @rxpunzi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@agen7m0thman thats just .. not what i said?

  • @frostcupissailing2920
    @frostcupissailing2920 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I am agender and it's so good to know that there are people supporting us!

  • @hermitswag
    @hermitswag 4 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    shamir uses he/him, not all nonbinary people use they/them pronouns

    • @acdeeiprrt
      @acdeeiprrt 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      But as the default even before the trans rights movement became mainstream, they is always the safe choice

    • @selenophile410
      @selenophile410 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Huh how

    • @wahooilovewomen
      @wahooilovewomen 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@selenophile410 Pronouns dont equal gender

    • @adelinepickral7518
      @adelinepickral7518 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @Sarbur Gideg no, someone who is non-binary or agender can still use she/her or he/him pronouns

    • @adelinepickral7518
      @adelinepickral7518 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Sarbur Gideg Well, I guess I don't exist-

  • @SparrowTeaDragon
    @SparrowTeaDragon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    My sibling is having a gender dysphoria crisis right now and I’m trying my best to help them. They know they don’t identify with a gender, and just wanted to be referred to as their name. I really hope they can feel comfortable one day and I hope I can help them make sure our parents can understand how they feel. It’s still a learning process with us but I really appreciate videos like these because I hope they can help to effectively communicate to our parents how they feel. I really love them and hope they can feel comfortable with themselves as soon as possible :)
    Update: They have come out as non binary! I’m so happy for them and because of it their self confidence has improved so much. Our parents still slip up every now and then with their pronouns but my sister and I are there to correct them for our sibling, and they don’t get angry about us correcting them anymore either which is great! Our friends use their pronouns too! We love them so much.

    • @Yusuketh443
      @Yusuketh443 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      i feel bad for you to have sibling cringy like that 😞

    • @SparrowTeaDragon
      @SparrowTeaDragon ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Yusuketh443 my sibling isn’t cringey at all. After months they were FINALLY able to tell us that they’ve figured out that they are non-binary and we love them very much. Since them coming out as non-binary, it has completely changed how they are, they feel more confident in themselves and their mental health has gotten way better and we are so happy for them for that. Them being non binary isn’t cringey at all. Them being happy isn’t cringey at all. What’s cringey is that your comment and lack of understanding. Don’t say sorry to me. Say sorry to my amazing sibling who is one of the best people in this world. Please understand that love triumphs perception.

    • @Yusuketh443
      @Yusuketh443 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@SparrowTeaDragon non binary is cringe

  • @Tired_Nerd2006
    @Tired_Nerd2006 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I think i may be agender. I dont really care is people call me boy or male but its mostly cuz i dont really care about my gender most of the time and other times i do care and i dont wanna be reffered to as a male. I dont really want to wear clothes that are considered masculine or feminine and i feel a bit uncomfortable when i grow hair or if my voice sounds too deep

    • @sandygonsalves4646
      @sandygonsalves4646 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What you want to wear has nothing to do with your gender identity

    • @Tired_Nerd2006
      @Tired_Nerd2006 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sandygonsalves4646 iam aware of that now. In the past few months i have been thinking about myself and thinking about how i feel and i have fully figured out that iam agender as well as being both asexual and aromantic

    • @piccolofan24
      @piccolofan24 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Tired_Nerd2006 Congratulations! Fellow triple A battery here. 🔋

  • @DangerousKaos
    @DangerousKaos 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This is awesome ❤Thanks for making this! We need more videos explaining so people understand

  • @harperlynn1440
    @harperlynn1440 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’ve been questioning my gender for a while now. I’m afab and haven’t really questioned things till a couple months ago. The way I feel is I just don’t want to be like anything at all. But at the same time you could call me a girl, demigirl, nonbinary, genderfluid and I really wouldn’t care. I just wanna exist and feel like gender identity drags me down. My bestie told me to look up agender and I like it a ton. I wish we lived in a world where there were not labels and conformity although I understand why others find comfort in labels

  • @salamii_jpg
    @salamii_jpg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Wow- I have been looking into it for a while, as in i dont like my Feminine body but i dont feel right going by He/him pronouns. I have read many articles and Watched many videos.I think I found what fits how I feel the most.

  • @Evgencia
    @Evgencia ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Never let anyone, not your parents, not your friends, not your family, not sociaty, not ANYONE in this world force you to pretend to be someone your not. Be yourself 🙃. It might be weird or imperfect but it's you.

  • @SilverHairSimmer
    @SilverHairSimmer ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m so glad you made this video! One of my kids was explaining a-gender to me and I wasn’t understanding it differently than nonbinary. I am so glad they were able to send me this video, as well as a few other sources, so I can better understand and advocate.

  • @Vojtechovskq
    @Vojtechovskq 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for this video :) I love to see the positive comments! I didn't know about agender before but I'm happy I got to understand what it means and is. I hope everyone reading this has a nice day
    - non bianary person

  • @DivineDemonStudios
    @DivineDemonStudios 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Such a sweet voice and cute presence! It's so nice to see other agender people living life and being cute QwQ

    • @emmahollow8898
      @emmahollow8898 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      This is weird not cute. Very disturbing at that.

    • @kavyabanka4482
      @kavyabanka4482 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@emmahollow8898 what is agender

  • @frenchdeer
    @frenchdeer ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I know for sure that I'm an aromantic asexual. But still trying to figure out my gender identity. I've wondered if I'm agender. I have no attachment to a certain gender. Nor do I feel like it fluctuates through the day. It feels almost nonexistent to my everyday life. I'm comfortable if people use "she/her" pronouns. If someone mistook me for a guy at any time (which has happened b4) I'm comfortable with he/him pronouns as well. I'm not fond of "them" pronouns used for me. I'm trying to figure out if this still applies as agender or something else?

  • @ruthcousins3110
    @ruthcousins3110 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Love the video so educational, respectful and simple to understand. Inqueery is a great series, I would really love them to do a video exploring the word 'transvestite' it's had such a mixed history in our community and has had a massive negative affect on this new generation and I think it's very important not to forget the past and look into those words and the great folk associated with it. If it's done by them I think it would be a really good video and very respectfully done

  • @kaden587
    @kaden587 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    i love their voice, i could literally listen to it all day.

    • @justice4all352
      @justice4all352 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Does he sound male female or Androgynous (mix of both simultaneously)?

    • @kaden587
      @kaden587 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@justice4all352 they*
      and i'd say that their voice is androgynous but is high enough that it could pass as a female.

    • @darrianmcneil3481
      @darrianmcneil3481 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Naw that doesn't pass for female he sound like he faking

    • @emmahollow8898
      @emmahollow8898 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wtf how can you like that voice. It sounds painful for him to even speak. He sounds like he’s been stomped in the nuts and is being forced by gun point to talk about a gender people.

  • @moche2303
    @moche2303 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Yay!! Amazing video. Shamir is super dope!!

  • @user-kl5xj1xy3x
    @user-kl5xj1xy3x 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thx I just saw agender tiktoks but I don't know what agender was :D
    Edit : I just realized I made a spelling mistake I meant I didn't know at first thank you again for explaining

  • @cronicales
    @cronicales 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im Agender and this video made my DAY wayyy better ❤️😊

  • @YOUsamisan
    @YOUsamisan 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I like this person’s Hairbuns

  • @Anonymous_Gambito
    @Anonymous_Gambito 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    What an amazing style! I should try this look sometime :D

  • @ebonyblack4563
    @ebonyblack4563 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Distracted by trying to figure out how to make that little pompom hairstyle so cute, every time I've ever tried it something like that failed, and it's been way too long since I saw it look so right on a person.

  • @mangiehorsie3754
    @mangiehorsie3754 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    THIS WORD RIGHT HERE EXPLAINS ALL MY FEELINGS RN IM SO RELIEVED IM CRYING OMG THIS FEELS SO WEIRD SO FCKING WEIRD

  • @AK-df3lh
    @AK-df3lh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    (Alyssa Edwards style) Alriggggght.
    I just wish they weren’t wearing the white shirt with the overall dress. Love the dress, wish it was pair with a fun 90’s inspired striped situation. But overall, I’ve learned a lot today. Thanks.

  • @spu-get-ee
    @spu-get-ee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m going through a gender identity crisis, and I was wondering if someone could tell me the difference between agender and non-binary?

    • @salem-01
      @salem-01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Non binary is an umbrella term for Agender, Demigender, Bigender, and any other gender that isn’t apart of the gender binary. Sometimes it’s just easier to say your non binary, rather than trying to explain it like a video game slider.

  • @ryliesolomon2018
    @ryliesolomon2018 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel weird calling myself a girl and feel weird calling me a boy and feel weird calling myself non binary. I feel weird using the girls bathroom and feeling weird using any gender neutral bathrooms. So this really helped:

  • @sienna6340
    @sienna6340 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was really helpful thank you 💗💗

  • @mineola_
    @mineola_ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    This is such a cool series, it's interesting to learn where words came from and what they mean to different people.

  • @TheCaliforniaboy1
    @TheCaliforniaboy1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I've on a roll with watching all of these videos about identity but I have a question: Is Agender and Non-binary the same thing? If not, what's the difference between the two?

    • @lapain4
      @lapain4 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Agender people are non-binary but all non-binary people are not agender

    • @lapain4
      @lapain4 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Do you understand what I said by that? (I may be mistaken I'm French)

    • @TheCaliforniaboy1
      @TheCaliforniaboy1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@lapain4 I do thank you!

    • @lapain4
      @lapain4 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@TheCaliforniaboy1 No problem !

  • @thecocksaysmoo
    @thecocksaysmoo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    SHAMIR OUT HERE EDUCATING PEOPLE, WHAT YOU DOIN WITH YOUR LIFE?!?

  • @EllieMcHale1
    @EllieMcHale1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I love Shamir!! Shamir is one of my favorite humans.

  • @justamikee
    @justamikee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you actually for this! I'm non-binary, and have been curious about a gender, and if it's the same as non-binary, very informative! Also your voice is really cute!

  • @michaellivingston8881
    @michaellivingston8881 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this is what i have been looking for. thank u

  • @Harry-vx1et
    @Harry-vx1et ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm agender but I love ice cream :(

  • @CoryBeeson
    @CoryBeeson 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I love Shamir! Their music has always been a top fav of mine! ❤️ Thank you for the lesson

    • @itz_felix8863
      @itz_felix8863 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@dy_physics9183 no one cares

    • @mrloverandf9249
      @mrloverandf9249 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@itz_felix8863 Let's be grammatical correct: This person is a he.

    • @iamgaz8585
      @iamgaz8585 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mrloverandf9249 stop

    • @mrloverandf9249
      @mrloverandf9249 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@iamgaz8585 Too late to reply to an old comment. Do you have a job? If not, I can help you to get one. Enjoy your day as I am not going yo engage in a back and forth.

    • @iamgaz8585
      @iamgaz8585 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mrloverandf9249 bro, I'm 14

  • @urielalves72
    @urielalves72 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I DIDN'T KNOW THEY WERE AGENDER 😭❤️ OH MY GOOOOOD

  • @imkrisyoung
    @imkrisyoung 5 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    I’m agender. I don’t identify as either a man or a woman.

    • @synonymous_
      @synonymous_ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Great comment.

    • @lisalegato0109
      @lisalegato0109 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      So then what do you do about doctor's appointment and dating?

    • @discobassgroove
      @discobassgroove 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      LisV :3 why is that anyone’s business but their business?

    • @THEwolfKiana
      @THEwolfKiana 5 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @@lisalegato0109 Doctors only care about your sex. Sex is important because they have to keep an eye out for diseases that only effect people with certain sexual organs. Doctors don't care about your gender.

    • @ycazawilliams2535
      @ycazawilliams2535 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Not possible

  • @satomizukutomekitoari6144
    @satomizukutomekitoari6144 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I’m neutrois which is similar to agender!

  • @Lucy-rb1ol
    @Lucy-rb1ol 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I don’t like ice cream and I’m agender....hmmmm o^o

  • @rafora_
    @rafora_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    reject gender, join the a-team

  • @-_selenitepaw_-
    @-_selenitepaw_- ปีที่แล้ว

    Ok I’m like so confused about what gender I am. Like I’m absolutely fine when someone refers to me as she, he, or they, but I don’t like being considered a boy, girl, or non-binary. Like sometimes I feel feminine, but I don’t feel extremely feminine, and theirs still a bit of masculine feeling at the same time if that makes sense? Like i never feel a strong connection to any certain gender, just I sometimes lean a lil but more towards one gender than the others. But even when I’m feeling masculine, I don’t really feel offended or anything like that if someone calls me she. Idk I’m just super confused-

  • @lisanelson302
    @lisanelson302 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I was raised up in a Christian household. Our belief starts with how God took a rib out of Adam and created wo-man with his rib. Man and woman share many similar features and feelings. I'm a woman somedays I feel more like a man somedays more feminine. I think this is just normal. Why does it need to be more complicated than that? I'm just learning about this never heard of agender before. But I think the need to classify things sometimes complicates a very normal human experience. We all feel like this sometimes in my opinion. Or am I misunderstanding?

  • @maddkidd
    @maddkidd 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yo- This video is so helpful. I'm trying o figure out my gender identity and im like 99 percent sure im agender..

  • @honeysugar2046
    @honeysugar2046 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That's my cousin!! Ilysm Mir keep going!

  • @xem_ity
    @xem_ity ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i personally identify as agender because i feel like theres always some sort of bias or prejudice when you state your gender, sexism is ingrained into our society and our brains and it’s just not possible for someone to have _no_ subconscious stereotypes guiding their interaction with someone of a certain gender.
    i consider myself transmasc because i enjoy he/him pronouns and like the subconscious perception of being masculine or even some of the stereotypes (the subtle subconscious stereotypes that add up not the “boys don’t cry” or something) but i identify as agender.

  • @extrovertedintrovert22
    @extrovertedintrovert22 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I don’t care what gender I have... like... floating in between or something... is it this now or... do I still gotta try to find out? (•-•;)

    • @madisongrace7675
      @madisongrace7675 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You don't have to do anything. Whatever makes you comfortable is fine. :)

  • @voxicwaste
    @voxicwaste 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm still so confused, so I just decided to ignore my identity for a bit and it worked, and then I thought I was non-binary. But I don't think thats what I am. I don't know what I am, can I just not care about my gender without having any labels? Sorry if I seem rude

    • @madisongrace7675
      @madisongrace7675 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sure you can! Whatever makes you comfortable. You don't need labels if you don't want them. Labels are totally optional. :)

    • @NoxAtlas
      @NoxAtlas 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know this problem too well. I have a female body but don't really feel like a woman, yet I could never tell what identity actually fits me. Everything sounded so confusing and abstract. At first I thought I was a demigirl, then believed I am simply non-binary but now I finally came to the realization that agender fits me the most. But not everyone needs a label and they don't really care about their gender identity. And that's fine too. That doesn't make you less valid

  • @tokioteleiras
    @tokioteleiras ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Is it possible to be an agender woman?
    I feel agender but my gender expression is more yin/feminine and I was born female...

    • @Ahria256
      @Ahria256 ปีที่แล้ว

      no, that means you are gender fluid :)

    • @gooner3681
      @gooner3681 ปีที่แล้ว

      sounds like you’re…a woman

    • @Ahria256
      @Ahria256 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@gooner3681 what's it to you, gooner?

    • @gooner3681
      @gooner3681 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Ahria256 i’m answering her question

    • @spice0467
      @spice0467 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yep, agender just means YOU dont connect to gender, it's not important to you or at least not a significant part of your identity. You can alsow lookinto demise genders, where you only feal partly this and that.

  • @trippywolfgamer2873
    @trippywolfgamer2873 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’ve honestly been really confused and I actually somewhat figured it out I actually feel more like a she/they I think I’m agender but get confused because it means gender less I believe? I really honestly want to change myself to match myself cause honestly I just don’t feel like myself? I’m kinda struggling with understanding what she/they would lie under but people tell me that it lies under agender. But if anyone can help me understand in the comments if it’s true or not? It’s be quite helpful :3

  • @pityhasnoshame
    @pityhasnoshame 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Im androgynous,asexual and agender,which means Im.... AAA

  • @cr4cked146
    @cr4cked146 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    ...
    My mind throughout the whole video: I am confusion :/

    • @madisongrace7675
      @madisongrace7675 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Lol, it is hard to jump right into gender without looking things up beforehand. It would be so much more helpful if we learned about things younger so we'd have more time to be confused and then understand, but...What can you do. I could answer any questions you have, though!

  • @cactushotsauce362
    @cactushotsauce362 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I like hearing about other identities, I'm a agender demigirl.

    • @sandygonsalves4646
      @sandygonsalves4646 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Isnt that contradicting? You're saying you have no gender but half a gender at the same time

    • @cactushotsauce362
      @cactushotsauce362 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@sandygonsalves4646 it changes for me depending on how I feel. Pretty much like genderfluid. I say these two because that's what I feel like at times. I can understand why you would be confused about it though.

    • @sandygonsalves4646
      @sandygonsalves4646 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@cactushotsauce362 how can you tell when your agender vs demigirl?

    • @cactushotsauce362
      @cactushotsauce362 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sandygonsalves4646 I'm not sure how to explain this to someone who might not be genderfluid because they wouldn't understand unless they were, but I have times where I just see myself as agender because it can feel weird to describe myself as a certain gender and other times when I don't feel completely genderless.

    • @sandygonsalves4646
      @sandygonsalves4646 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@cactushotsauce362 what does it mean to be a certain gender though?

  • @juliwb6390
    @juliwb6390 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Uhm... I have a question
    If person A is hetero atracted to male/female, and person B is agender, but person A likes B, would that make A bisexual? Or is still heterosexual?
    Im trying to make an asexual oc, but I couldnt answer this question
    Thankss

  • @RWAsur
    @RWAsur ปีที่แล้ว +1

    presently losing my mind that agender was coined around the same time I was writing fanfiction and saying "I am gender indifferent" about how I view and feel about gender

  • @manhathaway
    @manhathaway 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    YESSSSSS I have a good video to show people for reference now /uglysobbing

  • @sallyw8684
    @sallyw8684 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Please add captions that are not auto-generated to this video

  • @EvTheVeg
    @EvTheVeg 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    💖💖💖

  • @runaxtdoesstuff2993
    @runaxtdoesstuff2993 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I’m asexual biromantic agender.

  • @WhenTheMothersTalk84
    @WhenTheMothersTalk84 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I think i actually found my people
    I'm so happy

  • @tool9316
    @tool9316 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Agender fam!!!

  • @negar006
    @negar006 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I really don't bother about gender I just exist ✋🏻

  • @crimes2004
    @crimes2004 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    When it comes to gender ice cream, I’m not hungry. Lol I do want to have a small taste of that male flavor tho... ok it’s decent I’m good tho uwu
    Yeah that about explains it lol I refuse to really label my gender and I’m a bit confused when it comes to labeling my sexuality? Right now I feel like I might be pan but idk lol I just like people :)

  • @im19ice3
    @im19ice3 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    but when will it finally be standard in all documentation to allow recognition of gender outside the binary

    • @emmahollow8898
      @emmahollow8898 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I hope that it will never become a standard. Why can’t we just go back to being male and females

    • @im19ice3
      @im19ice3 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@emmahollow8898 we were never males and females tho. its like going back to being kings and peasants. its all made-up and the only thing keeping it going is mass conformity, not the magical power of truth or whtvr it is u believ in

  • @coralwaters4024
    @coralwaters4024 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    YES! Love this!

  • @pixelpink9194
    @pixelpink9194 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Needed this.

  • @Gremlin_lord
    @Gremlin_lord ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm agender thank you

  • @Duck_Allen
    @Duck_Allen 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Sorry but who doesn't like ice cream?

    • @dake5388
      @dake5388 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      vEgAnS
      No but seriously, it’s just a metaphor.

  • @memethingz6004
    @memethingz6004 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Their voice is cute

  • @no-2929
    @no-2929 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    THIS... THIS IS ME.

  • @u.sagent5091
    @u.sagent5091 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If I’m being honest I’m really confused by this but I’m not the type of person to judge people

  • @deadbl0nd3
    @deadbl0nd3 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I am agender and acesexual and I'm really happy that I found myselfe ❤👽

  • @Himewna
    @Himewna 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I LOOOOOVE THIS 👌💖

  • @Ezra_they-he
    @Ezra_they-he ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hello people, I recently discovered Agender and think it is what I would like to identify as. My only problem is that I am unsure what the pronouns linked to it are, can anyone help?

    • @dudhrfjfdasg
      @dudhrfjfdasg 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      well, most agender people feel more comfortable using gender neutral pronouns like they/them. but you can use anything that you feel comfortable with! Im fine with any pronouns being used on me, and some people arent. it just depends on the person

    • @Ezra_they-he
      @Ezra_they-he 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@dudhrfjfdasgThat makes sense. Thanks for explaining :D

  • @softsunlightnaiad
    @softsunlightnaiad 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I dont know what's going on with me
    Idk if in nonbi or agen

  • @ezradelgado2964
    @ezradelgado2964 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    i love shamir’s voice idk it’s really nice it’s makes me feel happy

    • @blink182lives100
      @blink182lives100 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ezra delgado because it sounds like Micke Mouse