"Mom betrayed you, not me, and left new dad actually cares and was there when she passed. Where were you??" With that in mind, I'm suprised she even bothered to think he'd wave to show up, much less be a participant in her wedding
Nah not you glossing over cheating wife. Keep in mind the favoritism didn't increase until op stayed friends with op's cheating mom. Then he staryed farther away from op. Im not saying the father is right but but i don't feel bad for op either. Not op saying step father is a good person while pursuing a married woman. Nah everyone sucks
OP's dad first lied to her about a "medical emergency" then revealed he wanted her to postpone her wedding for a camping trip. Nah f outta here. It's obvious her brother intentionally scheduled his return for that time to take their dad away from her. Dad got his second chance and blew it.
Well wife cheated and daughter says that she is cordial with her but is MOH at wife wedding with affair partner so how is her father supposed to believe that she is not taking side of her mother.
@@ShivamSingh-xr5ot normally I don't condone cheating, I don't condone it now. Divorce before you cheat. However, you are fully ignoring the fact that after the divorc the dad is full on playing favorites among his children while all the mom does is try to raise them as good as possible. This makes me believe that both the mom and dad have severe flaws, but the transgressions of the mom are against the dad, the transgressions of the dad are against his children. So you can't blame op for loving the parent that takes the best care of her.
@@MarokoJin but cheating is still wrong and daughter saying she was cordial but choosing to be MOH at there mother's wedding is still taking side and participating in union of cheating mother and home wrecker stepfather is still a betrayal.
@ShivamSingh-xr5ot no, not when your marriage is dead, it doesn't make any sense when you're not on speaking term and not intimate for years. For the kids, they have nothing to do with their parents decision to cheat, as long as that parent has always done their duty toward you, being present, didn't neglect you for an affair partner, they don't owe you anything. I'm against adultery but I do recognize a dead marriage as being single again, it becomes a simple legal paper, no more no less. Work on the marriage or get out.
I find it so hypocritical of the dad, deciding to tell OP to "postpone her wedding" while getting togethere with son being "the most important thing to do", but then, after OP sends him the image of the wedding, _THEN_ suddenly he can come and asks her for a re-do. So, he could always have gone to the wedding, but as always he decided to prioritize his son rather than at least once prioritize his daughter, and when "shit is done" he suddenly realizes he did wrong ubt it is too late to fix it. That is so disrespectful towards OP, he always had the capability to go to her wedding, he just didn't want to sacrifice one outing with his son for that.
I was cordial with my mother and I was MOH at her wedding are two contradictory statement she distroid her relationship with her father and then she got angry with her father for choosing her brother YTA not for the thing she done at her wedding but for what she did to her father.
Good on OP for giving him a second chance but still setting boundaries, yes it's ok to forgive people that have wronged you but don't let them back into your life so easily.
did op not invite their brother to the wedding? seeing how op's dad agreed to attend the wedding first but then later asked op to reschedule it, makes me believe that the camping trip was decided after the wedding date was announced. There's no way OP's brother didn't know about Op's wedding date and yet he specifically chose that day for the camping trip?!?! And yet he has the nerve to call op and say she is the jealous one OH GOD!
I wonder if OP´s brother deliberately planned this ´surprise´ camping trip on the same weekend as OP´s wedding? 🤔 As a way of showing that if the dad had to choose, he would always chose him.
Dear lord, some of the replies in this comments... Like, I've been cheated on, so I understand the pain, and even I am surprised by the way some commenters are trying to justify the dad's favoritism just because the cheating mother wasn't dead to OP after the divorce.
If the father overlooked OP all her life, why would she rearrange her schedule and put everyone else out to put him first? His only priority and care is for his son. OP's wedding reflected that.
First he lied. Then asked to postpone the wedding, like thats just a simple task. No matter how small the wedding, its not something simple to do in a week or so time. Then he is sad that his daughter chose the second man that could fill the father figure for her. And then has te balls to ask for a second wedding ceremony for the NEXT DAY. He is just delusional and lives on cloud 9. I’m empathetic enough to see why he would be sad and how he feels, but op is right to stand her ground and shouldn’t let her fathers opinion influence her.
I know this a small part of the story but how can op say her stepdad is a good person while at the same time this dude pursued a married women that action show a huge lack of morals
While I agree completely with you, I imagine it’s the idea that dad always put OP second for the brother but step dad didn’t treat her that way. Like, I hold my dad to a higher standard than I’d hold a step dad and if my dad pulled something like this I’d never be able to forgive it while I wouldn’t hold such standards for a step dad
People should not be judged fully by the worst action they have committed. Would you accept someone treating you that way? No. Because you know your character is made of more than just your failures.
If it was easy to reschedule the wedding it was even easier to change THE CAMPING TRIP wait...so he could get on a bus and see you AFTER the wedding..not be there FOR the wedding..jesus
THAT PART like I could really see the dad having a harder time if the trip was all the time with the brother that he had (I'd still obvi choose the wedding bc once in a lifetime but at least I could see the conflict better). But the fact that she had several days between the wedding and honeymoon, took the entire honeymoon, waited a couple days after she got back to go to her dad's house, and the brother was still there??? Oh yeah no, that camping trip could have happened literally any time smh
Op is nta but being a bridesmaid at your moms wedding with the guy she cheated on your dad with is crazy and I get why the dad reduced contract with her
If she refused, it could have made her life harder at her moms house. I can't blame a minor still living at home for trying to keep the peace. I do, however, suspect she was the moms favorite and isn't being honest about that.
honestly the Father showed where his priorities lie and the only reason he rushed back was to save face, the brother is a real piece of work to call OP up calling her selfish when he's the one who came back which with what I'm assuming was a very obvious "pay attention to me dad" move because I can't think of ANY reason why he chose that time frame to show his face.
I'm completely baffled at the father's reaction...Like what on earth did you expect?! Usually, you get married once-you can literally go camping any other day of the year?!? Want a second ceremony? Then get another daughter. Though, even if that was the case, I don't think he would be entitled to that role since clearly, he didn't care enough for the first.
@@glennadamreischdoesn’t have to be ai, it could be a human creative writing assignment or even if this is real, the oop is very biased and unable to narrate accurately. Given a lot of the notable talking points this story seems very fake and a rage bait/validation post.
That's one big brother 😳 30 meters As for the story, dad can go get bent He made his choice, OP brother will always come first and will always be more important, therefore dad becomes less important
Mom on other side of the green earth must be amused how her ex and son's favoritism blew up on themselves. That plus she and her AP / Op's stepdad winded up the winners of this whole mess and it truly is ex / dad's fault for picking the son for camping trip that could had been done the later in the day or next day, over OP's wedding that couldn't be rescheduled at all. That is including that OP was teen and under partial custody when the mom remarried - Dad messed up big time in not realizing 1) OP wasn't wrong to have cordial relationship with both bio-parents and 2) she still had relationship with stepdad all these years after the mom's death. Dad and brother should had see that one coming especially since stepdad was already invited to wedding from the getgo anyway, but didn't until OP & her husband went vindictive petty (Her with pics and stepdad with hubby backing up her decisions). Can't wait for the mess with the respective grandkids....
Imagine using your failed marriage to your ex-wife that cheated on you as an excuse to place your daughter on the back burner. And for all those years favoring your son just because he was old enough to understand and hate your ex.
The only thing I agree with in the words of OP’s brother is that OP betrayed her father by continuing to communicate with her mother (for me, cheating is an ultimate deal breaker and betraying my trust forever), but at the same time OP did this because of her father’s neglect.
To be honest, the marriage was dead long before the mom cheated. That doesn't negate the fact that she was wrong in doing so. She should've divorced before cheating. However, a kid doesn't betray their parent by staying in contact with the other parent. Especially if that parent is actually a better parent than the one who was cheated on.
I'd be really worried about marrying op. She forgave and justified her mother's affair, she now thinks it's okay to have an affair under the right circumstances. Her husband should be worried.
She didn’t justify anything. She was a child who decided to stay in touch with the only parent who didn’t play favourites. It ain’t that deep. And from experience, children who come from broken homes are often MORE careful about not repeating those mistakes.
Children are going to side with the better parent (in their eyes) and not the better spouse, and given the age of OP it makes sense why she chose her mom …… kinda sucks if the dad hadn’t shown any favoritism from the start things would be different
Everyone who is rational in this world would know that... unless someone in the bride/groom family died or having emergency medical surgery, a wedding could hardly be postponed/rescheduled.
So she didn't care that her dad got cheated on, even got close with the person mom cheated with. Was even a bridesmaid at their wedding. In that dad's situation I'd do my best but it'd be hard to not resent her for that. Even though she was a kid. Having the guy mom cheated with walk her down the aisle is wild.
She was a middle schooler. Have some sense. She was a kid. And the dad already prioritized his son. If dad didn't want his kids to be in contact with their mom, why agree to a shared custody? She was a kid who gravitated towards the person who gave her more love. Simple.
And asking your daughter to postpone her wedding insane the father favored the son way before op was born. Literally, they all could've gotten along if the father wasn't so resentful towards his own child
I understand what you are saying... but the dad was probably a type of dad who is misogynistic and prefer to spend most of his time with his son... and OP was a kid at the time where dad needs to be like a king to his princess. He failed as a man to two women in his family and so she chose to be near her mom. Stepdad was just there with the mom.
Theirs so much bad feeling here between so many people this was inevitable. The brother hates his sister for forgiving their mom The dad hates the mom for obvious reasons The sister hates the dad for perceived favoritism It’s a miracle they held any relationship for any length of time Also I agree with some commenters that it feels like OP is omitting a lot of her dad relationship like she says she cried but hid the fact from him so how would he know? You can’t be mad and not address it but hold it over his head years later. Also she states how much better her brother is than her and the relationship she has with their dad but says “she’s not jealous” when she clearly is jealous she downplays that she did abandon their dad during the divorce and chose her mom over him she refuses to see his side for a sec like I really want to know what age the divorce happened because depending on that would shape a lot of my judgement and assumptions also she ends the call with an insult thinking it’s some gotcha but it makes her look worse to me because she’s running from a conversation with her brother like again no sense of others perspective or feeling
Middle shool so 11-13 but at that point her parents werent even sleeping in the same room for a long time and barely talked. They were basically divorced without divorce papers and just coinhabiting the house. Im usually strongly against cheating but if even half of what was said is true i dont even know if id call it cheating.
@TheManu1307 It might have been considered cheating by her father. She didn't mention anything about how her dad took the divorce. It might have crushed him but he didn't want the kids to see it.
@@TheManu1307 be an adult and divorce before cheating. on the scummy side so it can’t be used against you and on the moral side so you don’t break up the family in such a decisive way. Like cheating is a serious event in any relationship loveless or not end it before being a POS and causing your kids to hate you which did happen with the brother
A middle schooler has no choice in most home lol smh the dad is immature af and the scumbag no wonder the mom cheated and I’m sure the dad did his dirt too smh fuck the dad he is trash
Dad has shown over the span of OPs lifetime that OP cannot trust him. OPs NOT equal to brother. Just when OP and dad finally had a little sapling of trust starting to grow dad goes and lies to try and manipulate OPs life so as not to inconvenience brothers.
10:18 No, no no no no no, He had his chance, HE HAD SO MANY CHANCES! He’s never going to change! The only time people change is if they grow up, something traumatic happens, or they see something wrong with themselves and take the time and energy to change. You will never be his number one priority, you will always come second to your brother. Stop wasting your time on him.
Tell your father there are no do overs. He blew it. This isn't about one mistake. It's a lifetime of mistakes. Now he can spend all his time with his golden boy and not need to waste his time with you. Your step-dad seems like a good guy.
What enraged me in this story is that the dad said he “wants the opportunity to walk her down the aisle”. HE HAD THE OPPORTUNITY AND CHOSE THE BROTHERS CAMPING TRIP.
op's parents are just a remainder why it is never a good idea to stay married "for the kids" or for appearances. normally I would say there was no excuse for cheating but it seems the relationship was dead anyway so meh, still should have divorced first though. the dad should never have ben playing favorites in the first place nor letting his feelings for his ex effect how he treated either kid because you know it dam well did.
Yeah Op isnt a Saint either but at the its OP's life and she can decide whatever she wants. But in my opinion i would have sided with the Dad from the very beginning of the divorce which would have probably avoided any of this problems...
she was a little kid, was she supposed to just hate her mom(the only parent to show her affection)? That’s a pretty difficult ask for adult children, let alone a kid
Wait Dad didn't took his only daughter wedding seriously? Really 😲 Wth Did he believed that his daughter getting married was just a feel of the moment thing?
I feel ike op wasn't being honest, if brother takes time to come back yearly, its probably the same time each year! I think she scheduled the wedding on their camping trip to test the dad. Also, she said she would change the date in the heat of the moment, so delusional dad thought it was in the clear!
1. Coming back once a year doesn’t mean coming back at the same time every year for everyone. It just means that they’ll come back every year. The difference between now and all the other times is that op didn’t have anything important going on with her dad. Plus, what makes you so sure that he didn’t purposefully schedule the trip on the day of the wedding? There’s no way he didn’t know considering she had been engaged for 5 months prior. 2. She didn’t even know about the camping trip until, like, a week before the wedding and he even tried to lie about where he was going which he wouldn’t have done if she knew about it. 3. Even if we’re going with the narrative of her testing him, what normal person would choose a camping trip over a wedding???
Well most people do schedule periodic trips like that around the same time frame, it just works out easier, considering this wasn't a big event for him, since he wasn't going to the wedding, also she would have presumably asked her montto walk her down the aisle long before the wedding. Dad immediately tried to get her to reschedule wedding, so the camping trip wasn't a surprise, that means that would have been scheduled first
And camping trips are usually a thing you do every year, so it makes it suspicious that she didn't know about a possible camping trip her dad and brother take
@@thomaslang7432cap the dad literally lied and said he had a medical emergency sooooo she didn’t know about the trip she doesn’t talk to the brother so how would she know his schedule regardless a camping trip and NEVER more important than the wedding so regardless your wrong and sound slow
Doesn't matter that Mommy destroyed the marriage because Mommy was off screwing around with God knows how many people. All that matters is that Mommy gave OP a little bit of attention and so that justifies everything. 😂
The Dad messed up yep. But thr daughter was a huge b after the fact and really drug it out. She chose to support her cheatign mom and doesn't understand her brother
I think she does understand her brother. But I think she chose the parent who didn't push her to the side for her pos brother. Not that she sided with her cheating mother. She sided with her mother, who was an actual parent to her and not just a babysitter who brought his own kid. (How the dad seems to treat op vs. her brother)
Guys, cheating is never good, but if their marriage has been cold ever since she can remember, with both avoiding eachother, the "cheating" could have been breaking their deal of keeping up appearances until the kids were 18. The way she describes her parents relationship with the kids seems like the father bonded with the boy over typical boyish stuff and didn't giver her any attention, while the mom kept the discipline in the house and gave them similar attention. I say this because the boy didn't like the rules at their mom's house and acted as if he was being mistreated. I kept expecting a conversation with the mom over how the marriage ended, after the father's request to the daughter, to prove or disprove my assumptions, but it never came, for obvious reasons. Nevertheless, if my father neglected me to the point of viewing a (hopefully) once in a lifetime event as something less important than camping, I wouldn't feel bad for being close to my mom (who's a cheater). I don't know about having the stepdad walk me down the isle, but I would have never changed the date and lost money over camping.
@@Bear38-u7lyeah maybe dont like your own comment then, he gives a valid reason. Also what did the cheating break here, if they were in separate beds by the time of it, it might as well just be divorced with benefits. Ie, they get government benefits of being married, but aren't married. Also I can overlook the cheating here, the dad sounds like a mass Pain in the a**. Especially with the favoritism and undermining of parenting.
@ so you’re ok with cheating is what your saying Better to have cause then be an adult and divorce amicably better set your kids against each other than divorce and then start a new relationship the comment here assumes they’re 18 at time of divorce but OP never says what age this occurred clearly not 18 if their was a visitation schedule. He could very well be an ass as much as the mom very well could’ve resented her son OP says she was fair but if she perceived her brother as favored and accepted her cheating mothers affair partner she would obviously be looked upon more favorably by her mom. To justify her cheating your building up a past that we have no way to confirm because we have a less than reliable narrator. who by the way is a hypocrite she didn’t have her step father walk her down the isle because she cared about him she came up with it to spite her dad only after redditor’s called her out did she change her tune on that going forward. So no it reads as excuses for a cheater who couldn’t cowboy on up and divorce her husband like an adult and only deepened the rift in her family.
@@Bear38-u7l they understand the concept of nuance, something you clearly don't. And her mother cheating does not suddenly negate the neglect she received from her father who, again, decided a camping trip with his son was more important than his daughter's wedding.
No matter what the reason, affairs should never be tolerated, even if the other person cheated, just get a divorce and move on to another relationship. So Op decision to support her mom and even think highly of the step dad, imo is wrong. But of course that does not excuse dad prioritizing camping trip with the son over the daughter's wedding.
Parents need to understand that they should not take their children for granted. If you continuously mistreat and ignore your kid, don't be surprised when they move on from you. You reap what you sow. A second ceremony was not going to fix the hurt. It would only be for his ego. It wasn't sincere.
OP should have responded when dad asked for it to be rescheduled, sure I'll reschedule the wedding, if you agree to compensate anyone who had to book time off work for the original date who will then book time off work for the new date after all why should any of them have to suffer and lose out on money they spent because of your golden child and favouritism. OP's mom and stepdad are disgusting for cheating.
I can't even every time when the bride tries to "explain" to ANYONE why she won't move the weeding to accommodate someone's whim... Like HOW DARE YOU EVEN ASK?!
Am i the only one who sees that both of them is wrong ? The dad is more wrong but even her when her dad told her to reschedule she didn’t till him that she can’t she just work it out behind his back to make him the villain- if he insisted after she till him the truth then she has no mistake
Who in their right mind thinks its normal to ask someone to reschedule their wedding for as small as a camping trip? Using common sense would let you know whether that wedding was gonna be rescheduled or not. He made his bed.
Dude everyone sucks here. The mom for cheating. The dad for his favoritism. The brother for doing the camping trip and not telling dad to go to the wedding. And OP for siding with a cheater over the person cheated on. Tbh if I was the future partner I’d call off the wedding.
Nah OP is upset that her father enjoys father son bonding time. I mean who really wants to prioritize someone who took up an important role in their own cheating mother's wedding. That is crazy how fast she glossed over her role in that wedding, only to blame her brother for being in solidarity with the father. If I was her father I would see the son as the only child at that point. What daughter, my wife has a daughter with her cheating self, I have a son who actually cares about me. The worst part is how she was all willing to put her father's dirty laundry on blast but excuse her mother's infidelity. All I gotta say is OPs husband is in for a rude awakening with such logic
The stupidest thing is the dad could have just asked for the brother to go to the wedding and they could have gone camping after. Instead, dad tries to lie before deciding he's just gonna go camping. He could have some all kinds of things to make sure he was still at that wedding. He could have used that time to foster a better relationship between his children but nope.
This wouldnt even be an issue if that smug ass brother would have just cancelled his camping trip or reschedule it after the marriage and attend his sister's wedding just to be present as a family
confronting people like this accomplishes nothing. I really think some rudimentary psychology needs to be taught in schools. not a whole course, but snippets..
1:40 "brother comes back home for only a couple of weeks", the father isn't perfect I agree, but based on op's actions I can see why the dad is baised...
2:18 - Well, there's the reason. Who wouldn't want to hangout with someone that's 30 metres tall. That's only 10 metres shorter than Ultraman! Who wouldn't want to see a literal giant every chance they could. But in all seriousness, I'm gonna go ahead and put some very big air quotes over that "surprised" at 1:33. Because knowing how golden child stories usually go, I highly doubt the timing was mere "coincidence". "There is no coincidence. Only the illusion of coincidence." - V, V for Vendetta. Issue 3, Nov 1988.
I gotta be honest…i could be completely off here but MAYBE the reason Op’s father seemed to care about her brother more is that he wasn’t involved with his mothers wedding to her affair partner… Like dad wanted to redo the ceremony IS an asshole move…but Op isnt a saint in this story either
Yata 1) If your brother comes back once a year every year and it's always during his vacation days and you know that your dad always spends at least a week with him then maybe you shouldn't have scheduled your wedding to be at a tough point for your dad . He already agreed to go with your brother and your sudden wedding plans out of nowhere were made just to spite your brother, be honest. 2) You agreed that you would change the day of the wedding then acted like he is an ah when he didn't show up? Maybe you should have just told him directly that family already booked tickets and hotels for that day and you couldn't reschedule so if he doesn't come then you will have to find someone else to walk you down the aisle Based on the fact that when he saw the picture he arrived from the camping trip within a few hours and even dragged your brother with him, he would have probably chosen that it's more important to walk you then the trip. You did this on purpose. Yata However if your wedding plans where made without knowledge of your yearly brothers visits and they where made before your father already agreed to go on a trip with his son and he chose to abandon you for your brother then yeah he is the ah not you
SO you allowed the man who finally broke up your family to walk you down the aisle? and you wonder why your dad favoured you brother. The brother is correct, OP wasn't there for her father but her brother was, and she is moaning about favouritism. Something is fishy with OP's side of events.
I'm not starting this until somebody confirm this isn’t about Incest or something like that. at this point I'm just afraid that I'll come across something like that again. it traumatizes me. Father Brother? oh god!
OP told the Dad she would reschedule but didn't, IDK how the dad was supposed to know she didn't as he would just assume. OP is as selfish & vindictive as her mother towards her father which is clearly seen in her words 8:02 to 8:11 . anyway just for the situationality she is in the right but she isn't a saint either.
Brother works in London, but only gets two weeks' holiday in a year? Sounds odd, even if it's an American company, as they still have to follow British employment standards.
"My brothers a daddy's boy because he was angry that my mum cheated on out dad, I'm not a mummy's girl though because mummy always sides with me and that means im always right, being the bridesmaid in the wedding to her AP was an entirely neutral position." And she wonders why she has a shit relationship with her dad
@@HardcorePuckhead Well however if you are favored you always have the bias to think you werent, i have seen >10 stories with people saying they werent the favourite, NEVER EVER saw one that the op said they were the favourite
What the Dad did was such sucky behaviour, and obviously OP is fully in her right to be upset and express so.. but I'm kinda glad she gave him one last chance but with boundaries too because quite frankly he doesn't deserve her as a daughter after all that shit but he needs to know that her being in his life is a privledge, not a right. I feel like she should have said something to the dad about the son because he really shouldn't get away with that behaviour but the brother is a man child and probably wont take accountability.
Yeah, I call BS on OP's backstory and "mom don't have favorites" Her brother was her father's favorite, while she was her mother's favorite. (Partially due to her acceptance to mother's infidelity) Probably her mother's relation to the brother was as bad as her with the father.
But dudeee. Why marrige at first place and having kids if you will not be together. I get OP's side of the story but the only thing was cheating by her mother. Just get divorce and don't cheat. That's what I ate me the whole video. Wish you all the best
i mean ur wife cheats on you and ur own child sides with the cheater? i wouldn’t be all over them showering them with gifts and everything either the hell?
I love how the brother says, "No matter what, he is your dad and you're hurting him," when he actively ignored his mother and barely acknowledged her when she was about to die
I was cordial with my mother and I was MOH at her wedding are two contradictory statement you distroid your relationship with your father and then your got angry with you father for choosing your brother YTA not for the thing you done at you wedding but for what you did to you father.
Let op dad cry he pick his son and lost the opportunity to walk his only daughter down the aisle his lost not op And differently op dad was jealous that op ask her step dad to walk her down the aisle nothing more
The only thing that does not sit right to me is the fact that OP agreed to postpone the wedding, only to immediately call the stepdad to replace the dad,if you want to make a point, just stand your ground
I think the main issue should that her step dad actually was the AP who cheated with his wife and married her don’t get me wrong OP’s dad is still an AH but the OP made a d!ck move too by choosing the AP
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Dad wants a second ceremony? Should get a second daughter, then.
This fake story
This is a beautiful comment
Sht like this happens
Good one. 🤣👍
Or... he should build a time machine.
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Imagine showing such blatant favoritism towards one child that the other one sides with the cheating spouse...
"Mom betrayed you, not me, and left new dad actually cares and was there when she passed. Where were you??" With that in mind, I'm suprised she even bothered to think he'd wave to show up, much less be a participant in her wedding
I mean, I would he very upset if my kids chose my cheating spouse over me, in a way
@@CalmEditss Well sure, but he definitely treated her bad before the affair so the kid had every right to have an open mind.
Nah not you glossing over cheating wife. Keep in mind the favoritism didn't increase until op stayed friends with op's cheating mom. Then he staryed farther away from op. Im not saying the father is right but but i don't feel bad for op either. Not op saying step father is a good person while pursuing a married woman. Nah everyone sucks
@@jamainegardner4193or the op could be glosong over how much she hurt her dad by being supportive of her cheater mother.
OP's dad first lied to her about a "medical emergency" then revealed he wanted her to postpone her wedding for a camping trip. Nah f outta here. It's obvious her brother intentionally scheduled his return for that time to take their dad away from her. Dad got his second chance and blew it.
Hopefully later on the dad realizes who the real problem is
A thirty meter golden child, sounds like a statue in the center of some creazily wealthy town to me.
AI reading 30M instead of 30 years old male.
Worshiping at the alter of the golden calf, er, child.
FR BRO😂
@@dementesf I know, i'm just kidding.
Divorced people who can't keep their child out of their conflict are just horrible people no matter the reason for the divorce.
Well wife cheated and daughter says that she is cordial with her but is MOH at wife wedding with affair partner so how is her father supposed to believe that she is not taking side of her mother.
@@ShivamSingh-xr5ot normally I don't condone cheating, I don't condone it now. Divorce before you cheat.
However, you are fully ignoring the fact that after the divorc the dad is full on playing favorites among his children while all the mom does is try to raise them as good as possible.
This makes me believe that both the mom and dad have severe flaws, but the transgressions of the mom are against the dad, the transgressions of the dad are against his children. So you can't blame op for loving the parent that takes the best care of her.
@@ShivamSingh-xr5ot look at their marriage, it was dead a long time ago... there's no cheating, only a final legal ending to that endless separation.
@@MarokoJin but cheating is still wrong and daughter saying she was cordial but choosing to be MOH at there mother's wedding is still taking side and participating in union of cheating mother and home wrecker stepfather is still a betrayal.
@ShivamSingh-xr5ot no, not when your marriage is dead, it doesn't make any sense when you're not on speaking term and not intimate for years. For the kids, they have nothing to do with their parents decision to cheat, as long as that parent has always done their duty toward you, being present, didn't neglect you for an affair partner, they don't owe you anything.
I'm against adultery but I do recognize a dead marriage as being single again, it becomes a simple legal paper, no more no less. Work on the marriage or get out.
I find it so hypocritical of the dad, deciding to tell OP to "postpone her wedding" while getting togethere with son being "the most important thing to do", but then, after OP sends him the image of the wedding, _THEN_ suddenly he can come and asks her for a re-do.
So, he could always have gone to the wedding, but as always he decided to prioritize his son rather than at least once prioritize his daughter, and when "shit is done" he suddenly realizes he did wrong ubt it is too late to fix it.
That is so disrespectful towards OP, he always had the capability to go to her wedding, he just didn't want to sacrifice one outing with his son for that.
I was cordial with my mother and I was MOH at her wedding are two contradictory statement she distroid her relationship with her father and then she got angry with her father for choosing her brother YTA not for the thing she done at her wedding but for what she did to her father.
Not to mention her brother being like "family comes first" and then most likely intentionally makes the trip during her wedding
Good on OP for giving him a second chance but still setting boundaries, yes it's ok to forgive people that have wronged you but don't let them back into your life so easily.
You should wait at least a year for things like this.
Make sure they have time to genuinely reform.
highly agree with this approach
did op not invite their brother to the wedding? seeing how op's dad agreed to attend the wedding first but then later asked op to reschedule it, makes me believe that the camping trip was decided after the wedding date was announced. There's no way OP's brother didn't know about Op's wedding date and yet he specifically chose that day for the camping trip?!?! And yet he has the nerve to call op and say she is the jealous one OH GOD!
They're probably estranged. I even understand why she sided with the stepdad if this was how neglectful her father was
@@geosustento8894 He also probably hates her stepdad who would be attending.
I wonder if OP´s brother deliberately planned this ´surprise´ camping trip on the same weekend as OP´s wedding? 🤔
As a way of showing that if the dad had to choose, he would always chose him.
Dear lord, some of the replies in this comments... Like, I've been cheated on, so I understand the pain, and even I am surprised by the way some commenters are trying to justify the dad's favoritism just because the cheating mother wasn't dead to OP after the divorce.
If the father overlooked OP all her life, why would she rearrange her schedule and put everyone else out to put him first?
His only priority and care is for his son. OP's wedding reflected that.
She never explained how much of a “golden child” the brother was. Just randomly dropped it with no examples
@@sinistersaiyan7531 then yall complain that AI takes too long to get to the point lol. Her story was short and to the point. As it should be.
@ I definitely wouldn’t complain. The more details the better
@@sinistersaiyan7531 same. But people keep screaming AI in the comments when they get into too much info smh💀
@ that’s them lol
First he lied. Then asked to postpone the wedding, like thats just a simple task. No matter how small the wedding, its not something simple to do in a week or so time. Then he is sad that his daughter chose the second man that could fill the father figure for her. And then has te balls to ask for a second wedding ceremony for the NEXT DAY. He is just delusional and lives on cloud 9. I’m empathetic enough to see why he would be sad and how he feels, but op is right to stand her ground and shouldn’t let her fathers opinion influence her.
2:20 age is 30 meters😂😂
I know this a small part of the story but how can op say her stepdad is a good person while at the same time this dude pursued a married women that action show a huge lack of morals
While I agree completely with you, I imagine it’s the idea that dad always put OP second for the brother but step dad didn’t treat her that way. Like, I hold my dad to a higher standard than I’d hold a step dad and if my dad pulled something like this I’d never be able to forgive it while I wouldn’t hold such standards for a step dad
People should not be judged fully by the worst action they have committed. Would you accept someone treating you that way? No. Because you know your character is made of more than just your failures.
@@anthonyhopcraft3421
So u shouldn't just judge pedos murder or rapist because those people might have some good quality 😂
Perhaps the step-dad was a better father to OP.
Tbf, the first marriage sounded dead on its feet already. They just didn't wait for the inevitable divorce.
If it was easy to reschedule the wedding it was even easier to change THE CAMPING TRIP
wait...so he could get on a bus and see you AFTER the wedding..not be there FOR the wedding..jesus
THAT PART like I could really see the dad having a harder time if the trip was all the time with the brother that he had (I'd still obvi choose the wedding bc once in a lifetime but at least I could see the conflict better). But the fact that she had several days between the wedding and honeymoon, took the entire honeymoon, waited a couple days after she got back to go to her dad's house, and the brother was still there??? Oh yeah no, that camping trip could have happened literally any time smh
Op is nta but being a bridesmaid at your moms wedding with the guy she cheated on your dad with is crazy and I get why the dad reduced contract with her
Yeah. OP’s not nearly the saint she makes herself out to be.
If she refused, it could have made her life harder at her moms house. I can't blame a minor still living at home for trying to keep the peace. I do, however, suspect she was the moms favorite and isn't being honest about that.
Exactly for that is not an NTA, its an everyone is the asshole
Why the first thing people like to do is blaming kids for being kids??
How dare OP side with the one parent who didn't play favorites, right?
honestly the Father showed where his priorities lie and the only reason he rushed back was to save face, the brother is a real piece of work to call OP up calling her selfish when he's the one who came back which with what I'm assuming was a very obvious "pay attention to me dad" move because I can't think of ANY reason why he chose that time frame to show his face.
So the bro and the dad showed up, so they could've been there the entire time, flark them nta they couldve been there the WHOLE TIME!!!
I'm completely baffled at the father's reaction...Like what on earth did you expect?! Usually, you get married once-you can literally go camping any other day of the year?!? Want a second ceremony? Then get another daughter. Though, even if that was the case, I don't think he would be entitled to that role since clearly, he didn't care enough for the first.
Read the whole story she lied to her Father about the date
"30 meters"
(Attack on Titan music starts playing)
these kinds of stories need to be verified by two or more people, feels like OP is omitting a lot.
This is the problem when AI writes these stories: it can sort out the basics, but it has trouble filling in the details.
@@glennadamreischdoesn’t have to be ai, it could be a human creative writing assignment or even if this is real, the oop is very biased and unable to narrate accurately. Given a lot of the notable talking points this story seems very fake and a rage bait/validation post.
The story sounds so one sided
Its reddit, all stories are fake until proven otherwise.
OP doesn’t give context on anything. And saying it’s ok that her mom cheated is insane.
There are times it's understandable
A shit ton of a family. And yes, that includes the OP too.
Exactly. OP is, of course leaving out more of the crap that would trend, that would suggest she had her insufferable traits as well.
My brother.... 30 meters 😂😂😂
That's one big brother 😳
30 meters
As for the story, dad can go get bent
He made his choice, OP brother will always come first and will always be more important, therefore dad becomes less important
"my brother, 30 meters" the laugh i laught lmao
Mom on other side of the green earth must be amused how her ex and son's favoritism blew up on themselves. That plus she and her AP / Op's stepdad winded up the winners of this whole mess and it truly is ex / dad's fault for picking the son for camping trip that could had been done the later in the day or next day, over OP's wedding that couldn't be rescheduled at all.
That is including that OP was teen and under partial custody when the mom remarried - Dad messed up big time in not realizing 1) OP wasn't wrong to have cordial relationship with both bio-parents and 2) she still had relationship with stepdad all these years after the mom's death. Dad and brother should had see that one coming especially since stepdad was already invited to wedding from the getgo anyway, but didn't until OP & her husband went vindictive petty (Her with pics and stepdad with hubby backing up her decisions).
Can't wait for the mess with the respective grandkids....
This is so stupid. Normal people don’t schedule trips during weddings.
a spiteful brother who doesn’t have a good relationship with their sister might. and even if it were a coincidence, its on the dad to say no.
I want to hear the other side of the story!
Damn the brother is a whole giant
A 30 meter long brother, no wonder he is golden child
Wow! Everyone in this family just sucks
Imagine using your failed marriage to your ex-wife that cheated on you as an excuse to place your daughter on the back burner. And for all those years favoring your son just because he was old enough to understand and hate your ex.
Yeah god forbid you like the person more who didn't side with your cheating ex.
she was the least favorite before the affair though, his favoritism only intensified after shit hit the fan
The only thing I agree with in the words of OP’s brother is that OP betrayed her father by continuing to communicate with her mother (for me, cheating is an ultimate deal breaker and betraying my trust forever), but at the same time OP did this because of her father’s neglect.
She was a kid lol. She is allowed to have a relationship with her mom. If dad had problems with that he shouldn't have agreed to shared custody
I think that op only was so close with her cheating mom because her dad has always been a knobheaded for her brother.
Yet she walks down the aisle with a homewrecker. Way to make a joke of the ceremony. This is a scorched earth level of insult to the dad.
To be honest, the marriage was dead long before the mom cheated. That doesn't negate the fact that she was wrong in doing so. She should've divorced before cheating.
However, a kid doesn't betray their parent by staying in contact with the other parent. Especially if that parent is actually a better parent than the one who was cheated on.
I'd be really worried about marrying op. She forgave and justified her mother's affair, she now thinks it's okay to have an affair under the right circumstances. Her husband should be worried.
Yeah that's a red flag
She didn’t justify anything. She was a child who decided to stay in touch with the only parent who didn’t play favourites. It ain’t that deep. And from experience, children who come from broken homes are often MORE careful about not repeating those mistakes.
@@udntneedtoknow She isn't still a child. She showed she condoned it by having the AP walk her down the aisle.
Children are going to side with the better parent (in their eyes) and not the better spouse, and given the age of OP it makes sense why she chose her mom …… kinda sucks if the dad hadn’t shown any favoritism from the start things would be different
Everyone who is rational in this world would know that... unless someone in the bride/groom family died or having emergency medical surgery, a wedding could hardly be postponed/rescheduled.
So she didn't care that her dad got cheated on, even got close with the person mom cheated with. Was even a bridesmaid at their wedding. In that dad's situation I'd do my best but it'd be hard to not resent her for that. Even though she was a kid.
Having the guy mom cheated with walk her down the aisle is wild.
She was a middle schooler. Have some sense. She was a kid. And the dad already prioritized his son. If dad didn't want his kids to be in contact with their mom, why agree to a shared custody? She was a kid who gravitated towards the person who gave her more love. Simple.
And asking your daughter to postpone her wedding insane the father favored the son way before op was born. Literally, they all could've gotten along if the father wasn't so resentful towards his own child
I understand what you are saying... but the dad was probably a type of dad who is misogynistic and prefer to spend most of his time with his son... and OP was a kid at the time where dad needs to be like a king to his princess.
He failed as a man to two women in his family and so she chose to be near her mom. Stepdad was just there with the mom.
Theirs so much bad feeling here between so many people this was inevitable.
The brother hates his sister for forgiving their mom
The dad hates the mom for obvious reasons
The sister hates the dad for perceived favoritism
It’s a miracle they held any relationship for any length of time
Also I agree with some commenters that it feels like OP is omitting a lot of her dad relationship like she says she cried but hid the fact from him so how would he know? You can’t be mad and not address it but hold it over his head years later.
Also she states how much better her brother is than her and the relationship she has with their dad but says “she’s not jealous” when she clearly is jealous she downplays that she did abandon their dad during the divorce and chose her mom over him she refuses to see his side for a sec like I really want to know what age the divorce happened because depending on that would shape a lot of my judgement and assumptions also she ends the call with an insult thinking it’s some gotcha but it makes her look worse to me because she’s running from a conversation with her brother like again no sense of others perspective or feeling
Middle shool so 11-13 but at that point her parents werent even sleeping in the same room for a long time and barely talked. They were basically divorced without divorce papers and just coinhabiting the house. Im usually strongly against cheating but if even half of what was said is true i dont even know if id call it cheating.
@TheManu1307 It might have been considered cheating by her father. She didn't mention anything about how her dad took the divorce. It might have crushed him but he didn't want the kids to see it.
@@TheManu1307 be an adult and divorce before cheating. on the scummy side so it can’t be used against you and on the moral side so you don’t break up the family in such a decisive way. Like cheating is a serious event in any relationship loveless or not end it before being a POS and causing your kids to hate you which did happen with the brother
She was a kid. As a kid, you would naturally gravitate towards the person who gives you more love.
A middle schooler has no choice in most home lol smh the dad is immature af and the scumbag no wonder the mom cheated and I’m sure the dad did his dirt too smh fuck the dad he is trash
Dad has shown over the span of OPs lifetime that OP cannot trust him. OPs NOT equal to brother. Just when OP and dad finally had a little sapling of trust starting to grow dad goes and lies to try and manipulate OPs life so as not to inconvenience brothers.
10:18 No, no no no no no, He had his chance, HE HAD SO MANY CHANCES! He’s never going to change! The only time people change is if they grow up, something traumatic happens, or they see something wrong with themselves and take the time and energy to change. You will never be his number one priority, you will always come second to your brother. Stop wasting your time on him.
Tell your father there are no do overs. He blew it. This isn't about one mistake. It's a lifetime of mistakes. Now he can spend all his time with his golden boy and not need to waste his time with you. Your step-dad seems like a good guy.
This is one screwed up family. Everyone is Toxic including her!
So she supports cheating,if i was her partner id be kinda sus
Lmao, the mom is at fault for cheating
What enraged me in this story is that the dad said he “wants the opportunity to walk her down the aisle”. HE HAD THE OPPORTUNITY AND CHOSE THE BROTHERS CAMPING TRIP.
op's parents are just a remainder why it is never a good idea to stay married "for the kids" or for appearances. normally I would say there was no excuse for cheating but it seems the relationship was dead anyway so meh, still should have divorced first though. the dad should never have ben playing favorites in the first place nor letting his feelings for his ex effect how he treated either kid because you know it dam well did.
Yeah Op isnt a Saint either but at the its OP's life and she can decide whatever she wants.
But in my opinion i would have sided with the Dad from the very beginning of the divorce which would have probably avoided any of this problems...
she was a little kid, was she supposed to just hate her mom(the only parent to show her affection)? That’s a pretty difficult ask for adult children, let alone a kid
Wait
Dad didn't took his only daughter wedding seriously?
Really 😲
Wth
Did he believed that his daughter getting married was just a feel of the moment thing?
I feel ike op wasn't being honest, if brother takes time to come back yearly, its probably the same time each year! I think she scheduled the wedding on their camping trip to test the dad. Also, she said she would change the date in the heat of the moment, so delusional dad thought it was in the clear!
1. Coming back once a year doesn’t mean coming back at the same time every year for everyone. It just means that they’ll come back every year. The difference between now and all the other times is that op didn’t have anything important going on with her dad. Plus, what makes you so sure that he didn’t purposefully schedule the trip on the day of the wedding? There’s no way he didn’t know considering she had been engaged for 5 months prior.
2. She didn’t even know about the camping trip until, like, a week before the wedding and he even tried to lie about where he was going which he wouldn’t have done if she knew about it.
3. Even if we’re going with the narrative of her testing him, what normal person would choose a camping trip over a wedding???
Well most people do schedule periodic trips like that around the same time frame, it just works out easier, considering this wasn't a big event for him, since he wasn't going to the wedding, also she would have presumably asked her montto walk her down the aisle long before the wedding. Dad immediately tried to get her to reschedule wedding, so the camping trip wasn't a surprise, that means that would have been scheduled first
And if she asked her dad long before the wedding to walk down the aisle, and he asked to reschedule, she didn't find out a week before the wedding
And camping trips are usually a thing you do every year, so it makes it suspicious that she didn't know about a possible camping trip her dad and brother take
@@thomaslang7432cap the dad literally lied and said he had a medical emergency sooooo she didn’t know about the trip she doesn’t talk to the brother so how would she know his schedule regardless a camping trip and NEVER more important than the wedding so regardless your wrong and sound slow
Doesn't matter that Mommy destroyed the marriage because Mommy was off screwing around with God knows how many people. All that matters is that Mommy gave OP a little bit of attention and so that justifies everything. 😂
ya 30 meter
The Dad messed up yep. But thr daughter was a huge b after the fact and really drug it out. She chose to support her cheatign mom and doesn't understand her brother
I think she does understand her brother. But I think she chose the parent who didn't push her to the side for her pos brother. Not that she sided with her cheating mother. She sided with her mother, who was an actual parent to her and not just a babysitter who brought his own kid. (How the dad seems to treat op vs. her brother)
@@brianaschmidt910 ahh yes, the lack of accountability and excuse making. Perfect.
Guys, cheating is never good, but if their marriage has been cold ever since she can remember, with both avoiding eachother, the "cheating" could have been breaking their deal of keeping up appearances until the kids were 18.
The way she describes her parents relationship with the kids seems like the father bonded with the boy over typical boyish stuff and didn't giver her any attention, while the mom kept the discipline in the house and gave them similar attention. I say this because the boy didn't like the rules at their mom's house and acted as if he was being mistreated.
I kept expecting a conversation with the mom over how the marriage ended, after the father's request to the daughter, to prove or disprove my assumptions, but it never came, for obvious reasons. Nevertheless, if my father neglected me to the point of viewing a (hopefully) once in a lifetime event as something less important than camping, I wouldn't feel bad for being close to my mom (who's a cheater). I don't know about having the stepdad walk me down the isle, but I would have never changed the date and lost money over camping.
Lot of words for what boils down to excuses excuses excuses
@@Bear38-u7lyeah maybe dont like your own comment then, he gives a valid reason. Also what did the cheating break here, if they were in separate beds by the time of it, it might as well just be divorced with benefits. Ie, they get government benefits of being married, but aren't married.
Also I can overlook the cheating here, the dad sounds like a mass Pain in the a**. Especially with the favoritism and undermining of parenting.
@ so you’re ok with cheating is what your saying
Better to have cause then be an adult and divorce amicably better set your kids against each other than divorce and then start a new relationship the comment here assumes they’re 18 at time of divorce but OP never says what age this occurred clearly not 18 if their was a visitation schedule. He could very well be an ass as much as the mom very well could’ve resented her son OP says she was fair but if she perceived her brother as favored and accepted her cheating mothers affair partner she would obviously be looked upon more favorably by her mom. To justify her cheating your building up a past that we have no way to confirm because we have a less than reliable narrator. who by the way is a hypocrite she didn’t have her step father walk her down the isle because she cared about him she came up with it to spite her dad only after redditor’s called her out did she change her tune on that going forward. So no it reads as excuses for a cheater who couldn’t cowboy on up and divorce her husband like an adult and only deepened the rift in her family.
@@C.G.Gasteri hope u never marry if u can excuse cheating
@@Bear38-u7l they understand the concept of nuance, something you clearly don't. And her mother cheating does not suddenly negate the neglect she received from her father who, again, decided a camping trip with his son was more important than his daughter's wedding.
No matter what the reason, affairs should never be tolerated, even if the other person cheated, just get a divorce and move on to another relationship. So Op decision to support her mom and even think highly of the step dad, imo is wrong. But of course that does not excuse dad prioritizing camping trip with the son over the daughter's wedding.
Parents need to understand that they should not take their children for granted. If you continuously mistreat and ignore your kid, don't be surprised when they move on from you. You reap what you sow. A second ceremony was not going to fix the hurt. It would only be for his ego. It wasn't sincere.
Your dad made you cry all your life, you made him cry once. He made his priorities clear.
OP should have responded when dad asked for it to be rescheduled, sure I'll reschedule the wedding, if you agree to compensate anyone who had to book time off work for the original date who will then book time off work for the new date after all why should any of them have to suffer and lose out on money they spent because of your golden child and favouritism.
OP's mom and stepdad are disgusting for cheating.
Man these stories get more and more unbelievable.
Brother must’ve known she was getting married? They BOTH planned to skip!
Op never told if she even invited the brother. He probably refused… but it’s shitty he planed the camping trip at the same time as her wedding..
Or she didn't invite him. Seeing as how he acted towards her when he did interact with her, I might be no-contact too.
I can't even every time when the bride tries to "explain" to ANYONE why she won't move the weeding to accommodate someone's whim...
Like HOW DARE YOU EVEN ASK?!
Am i the only one who sees that both of them is wrong ? The dad is more wrong but even her when her dad told her to reschedule she didn’t till him that she can’t she just work it out behind his back to make him the villain- if he insisted after she till him the truth then she has no mistake
Who in their right mind thinks its normal to ask someone to reschedule their wedding for as small as a camping trip? Using common sense would let you know whether that wedding was gonna be rescheduled or not. He made his bed.
Dude everyone sucks here. The mom for cheating. The dad for his favoritism. The brother for doing the camping trip and not telling dad to go to the wedding. And OP for siding with a cheater over the person cheated on.
Tbh if I was the future partner I’d call off the wedding.
Op was a child wtf is wrong with you OP is NOT the asshole
These guys have a messed-up family.
That's usually true for every reddit story.
Neglect, blatant favoritism, alcoholism, and toxic broken relationships that end in divorce have a tendency to result in those.
Nah OP is upset that her father enjoys father son bonding time. I mean who really wants to prioritize someone who took up an important role in their own cheating mother's wedding. That is crazy how fast she glossed over her role in that wedding, only to blame her brother for being in solidarity with the father. If I was her father I would see the son as the only child at that point. What daughter, my wife has a daughter with her cheating self, I have a son who actually cares about me. The worst part is how she was all willing to put her father's dirty laundry on blast but excuse her mother's infidelity. All I gotta say is OPs husband is in for a rude awakening with such logic
The stupidest thing is the dad could have just asked for the brother to go to the wedding and they could have gone camping after. Instead, dad tries to lie before deciding he's just gonna go camping. He could have some all kinds of things to make sure he was still at that wedding. He could have used that time to foster a better relationship between his children but nope.
This wouldnt even be an issue if that smug ass brother would have just cancelled his camping trip or reschedule it after the marriage and attend his sister's wedding just to be present as a family
confronting people like this accomplishes nothing. I really think some rudimentary psychology needs to be taught in schools. not a whole course, but snippets..
Dad doesnt get to have it both ways.
1:40 "brother comes back home for only a couple of weeks", the father isn't perfect I agree, but based on op's actions I can see why the dad is baised...
2:18 - Well, there's the reason. Who wouldn't want to hangout with someone that's 30 metres tall. That's only 10 metres shorter than Ultraman! Who wouldn't want to see a literal giant every chance they could.
But in all seriousness, I'm gonna go ahead and put some very big air quotes over that "surprised" at 1:33. Because knowing how golden child stories usually go, I highly doubt the timing was mere "coincidence".
"There is no coincidence. Only the illusion of coincidence." - V, V for Vendetta. Issue 3, Nov 1988.
I gotta be honest…i could be completely off here but MAYBE the reason Op’s father seemed to care about her brother more is that he wasn’t involved with his mothers wedding to her affair partner…
Like dad wanted to redo the ceremony IS an asshole move…but Op isnt a saint in this story either
Yata
1)
If your brother comes back once a year every year and it's always during his vacation days and you know that your dad always spends at least a week with him then maybe you shouldn't have scheduled your wedding to be at a tough point for your dad .
He already agreed to go with your brother and your sudden wedding plans out of nowhere were made just to spite your brother, be honest.
2)
You agreed that you would change the day of the wedding then acted like he is an ah when he didn't show up?
Maybe you should have just told him directly that family already booked tickets and hotels for that day and you couldn't reschedule so if he doesn't come then you will have to find someone else to walk you down the aisle
Based on the fact that when he saw the picture he arrived from the camping trip within a few hours and even dragged your brother with him, he would have probably chosen that it's more important to walk you then the trip.
You did this on purpose. Yata
However if your wedding plans where made without knowledge of your yearly brothers visits and they where made before your father already agreed to go on a trip with his son and he chose to abandon you for your brother then yeah he is the ah not you
It’s seems like you didn’t hear the part where op said that the wedding was scheduled on her 4th dating anniversary with her husband
@@kadijaconteh3681They are hearing what they want to hear his response is as selfish and dense as the father I can’t stand men and people like this
Toxic family all around. I can understand the brother more but I do believe he scheduled that trip intentionally on OPs wedding and is an AH for it!
SO you allowed the man who finally broke up your family to walk you down the aisle? and you wonder why your dad favoured you brother. The brother is correct, OP wasn't there for her father but her brother was, and she is moaning about favouritism.
Something is fishy with OP's side of events.
Did you listen to the story? Dad favoured her brother way before the affair as well
I'm not starting this until somebody confirm this isn’t about Incest or something like that. at this point I'm just afraid that I'll come across something like that again. it traumatizes me. Father Brother? oh god!
Nah, op should've told him: You failed as a parent. By creating a man-child that hijacked my wedding with a stupid camping trip.
OP told the Dad she would reschedule but didn't, IDK how the dad was supposed to know she didn't as he would just assume. OP is as selfish & vindictive as her mother towards her father which is clearly seen in her words 8:02 to 8:11 . anyway just for the situationality she is in the right but she isn't a saint either.
Sometimes revenge is good to have
Like if you thinks like me
Brother works in London, but only gets two weeks' holiday in a year? Sounds odd, even if it's an American company, as they still have to follow British employment standards.
He made a choice, now he has to live with the consequences. OP doesn't owe him anything.
Op an idiot for taking the dad back. The next post will be. I forgave my father, but he went back on me. So I did this, am I the butthole?
Jeez this entire family needs therapy. There's something wrong with all of their minds.
"My brothers a daddy's boy because he was angry that my mum cheated on out dad, I'm not a mummy's girl though because mummy always sides with me and that means im always right, being the bridesmaid in the wedding to her AP was an entirely neutral position."
And she wonders why she has a shit relationship with her dad
Way to victim-shame and not read the room. Mom wasn't biased towards OP, she raised her kids equally. In fact, OP says so
@@HardcorePuckhead Well however if you are favored you always have the bias to think you werent, i have seen >10 stories with people saying they werent the favourite, NEVER EVER saw one that the op said they were the favourite
@@me6664 yes exactly
@@HardcorePuckhead and Op was biases towards her mother . She ain't ish neither
Nah, the favoritism went way back before the affair. You must not be listening. LMAO
I can understand how and why the divorce and affair happened to the dad holy shit
Did OP ever invite her brother to her wedding?
What the Dad did was such sucky behaviour, and obviously OP is fully in her right to be upset and express so.. but I'm kinda glad she gave him one last chance but with boundaries too because quite frankly he doesn't deserve her as a daughter after all that shit but he needs to know that her being in his life is a privledge, not a right.
I feel like she should have said something to the dad about the son because he really shouldn't get away with that behaviour but the brother is a man child and probably wont take accountability.
Yeah, I call BS on OP's backstory and "mom don't have favorites" Her brother was her father's favorite, while she was her mother's favorite. (Partially due to her acceptance to mother's infidelity)
Probably her mother's relation to the brother was as bad as her with the father.
But dudeee. Why marrige at first place and having kids if you will not be together. I get OP's side of the story but the only thing was cheating by her mother. Just get divorce and don't cheat. That's what I ate me the whole video. Wish you all the best
i mean ur wife cheats on you and ur own child sides with the cheater? i wouldn’t be all over them showering them with gifts and everything either the hell?
The dad already favoured the son. Way before the affair as well
They were a kid. It would be another thing if the child was an adult siding with the cheater.
@ a teenager still knows what they’re doing lmao it’s not like she was 8 or 10 she was in her teens
@JacksonPicklebottom middle school is 10-11, correct?
@@iamjustagirlintheworldd 10-14 range generally depending on birthdate.
Both TA, you said that you would reschedule the wedding in the spur of the moment
If he could take a bus to go be upset about it, he could've taken a bus to walk you down the aisle
OP trying to act like she’s a saint yet she’s the A for doing something like that out of spite
This is one messed up family.
Shame this isn't a real story. Would've been an interesting comment section.
I love how the brother says, "No matter what, he is your dad and you're hurting him," when he actively ignored his mother and barely acknowledged her when she was about to die
Not vindictive, that's pragmatic. Your life won't wait for those who don't want to be there.
I was cordial with my mother and I was MOH at her wedding are two contradictory statement you distroid your relationship with your father and then your got angry with you father for choosing your brother YTA not for the thing you done at you wedding but for what you did to you father.
Let op dad cry he pick his son and lost the opportunity to walk his only daughter down the aisle his lost not op
And differently op dad was jealous that op ask her step dad to walk her down the aisle nothing more
The only thing that does not sit right to me is the fact that OP agreed to postpone the wedding, only to immediately call the stepdad to replace the dad,if you want to make a point, just stand your ground
I think the main issue should that her step dad actually was the AP who cheated with his wife and married her don’t get me wrong OP’s dad is still an AH but the OP made a d!ck move too by choosing the AP
You forget the step dad is her moms AP? That is all kinds of messed up.