I hope you enjoy my chat with Devoreaux which we filmed last week. For more, visit my corresponding blogpost dailyconnoisseur.blogspot.com/2019/04/devoreaux-walton-jennifer-l-scott.html Thank you for watching! If you haven't already subscribed, please do so. We are almost at 50,000 subscribers! I am so grateful. Love, Jennifer
I was so disappointed when I showed up to my daughters field trip today and saw the other moms in stretchy yoga pants☹️ yes I see them every day in their yoga pants but tell myself “don’t judge” they are probably heading to the gym right after they drop the kids off at school, sadly they spent all day in the museum dressed this way :( I guess it the new normal. Even the teacher commented “everyone is in their pajamas!” She’s from Europe and I can tell it’s very strange to her. All we can do is be the change we wish to see.
Sometimes we need to be careful. I saw a man with his head in his newspaper, on a train, chastise a teen for being on her phone. Turns out they were reading the same article. My own father picked on a young man who was actually looking at his google maps app to help a neighbor. Yes, most of the time people are using phones mindlessly. But when phones are replacing maps, wallet photos, newspapers, etc.....it can be dicey to make snap judgements. Older relatives are always asking me to look facts up on my phone, which can get old. lol
Quite true! One of the strengths of my family is that we are all avid readers. But one of our weaknesses is that when we spend time together, we end up all reading our separate books! Pre-21st century issues ;)
Hi Courtney, I'm talking about the teen who is perpetually in his or her phone. It exists and I've seen it sadly on many occasions. Not just one off situations, every time. That's what I mean. Most of the time in these situations they are on social media. It's a problem and I feel the need to address it, even if it's not a popular stance. Thanks for watching!
the Daily Connoisseur oh, I didn’t communicate well! I couldn’t agree more! I was mentioning the rare exception. You are so right. And I think the topic needs more discussion...not less! So, thank you for your video!
Hi Jennifer and Devoreaux - you ladies are doing others a very big service by holding the line being neat, respectful and poised. We can agree that the entire culture has been dumbed down. The very basic thing is, I think, our understanding of where we came from and why we were created in the first place. A world that disrespects life in general will model that attitude in many different ways. An indifference and a "who cares?" attitude are prevalent. Most people seem to want to rush through work, social interactions and so on so that they can "relax" and be alone with their electronic pacifiers. Do you remember the TV show What Not To Wear? The hosts were constantly helping people who dressed poorly because it was so "comfortable." They would have them put on their yoga pants or whatever and then look at themselves in a 360 degree mirror. Many were horrified at how they really looked to others. Once they found out that they could be stylish AND comfortable, it was a life changing moment. They stood up straighter and had a more positive attitude. I am with you 100% and doing my best as a grandmother to model being presentable, elegant (as possible) kind and interested in others, and to SET A GOOD EXAMPLE for younger women. That's one of my jobs in this world! God bless your work and books!
I AGREE with allll of this!!! I felt so alone in this, like does anyone notice HOW bad it's getting? Even to weddings, church, funerals for God's sake.
What a nice lady! Just lovely. You have great people skills and can run any conersation, Jennifer. I enjoy your conversations with other authors and youtubers.
Thank you SO much for this lovely interview. I just have to comment on Devoreaux's mention of the idea that comfort is the first consideration when many people get dressed. I agree that comfort is key. At age 55, I don't wear anything that isn't comfortable. However, I also look presentable every day. Being comfortable and being presentable are not mutually exclusive. The best outfits achieve both simultaneously. I love you both!
This was awesome information! I’m in my late 60’s and I’m hungry to learn more about working on my character! This just makes me excited to grow and become someone better in all areas of my life!
Loved this video. In speaking of exercise clothes, I JUST had a debate with a friend last night. She was telling me about how she went out of town to visit a friend and her friend asked her if she'd brought any nice clothes with her. My friend said yes, and describe her outfit. Her friend in response said "But those are lulu lemon, did you bring something nice?" My friend then proceeded to tell me how she argued with her that those were nice clothes and perfectly acceptable for a fine dining restaurant. I could tell she was just trying to justify it to me when she was telling me the story. But, I agree with her friend. Lulu Lemon has it's place, in the gym, on a hike, a yoga studio. Not at a fine dining restaurant. I further though about my friend and realized that I don't think I have seen her in anything other than leggings. She even told me she doesn't own anything else. I am all for being comfortable, but there are plenty of "real" pants that are quite comfortable.
Good manners would seem to dictate that one does not ask the brand of someone else's clothes, or ask did you bring something "nice". Being non-judgemental is more important to me than being seen with a friend dressed to my "standards".
J N well that’s exactly what she asked...if she brought something nice to wear. It wasn’t so much about the brand but about the appropriateness of athletic apparel
This seems like a book of true substance so thank you ladies for igniting my interest! Implementing the personal excellence standard is the key to reverse the slipping away we are seeing happening in our society. Just because a lot of people are doing something doesn’t mean that THAT is the right thing to do. Just because people are wearing tight fitting leggings and bralettes everywhere these days doesn’t mean that it is the right thing to do.Or that the idea of being comfortable by all means erases any standard of conduct, whether at home or outside of it.
Keeping us active and involved, that is what your new monthly Chic Assignments are about to me, besides introducing new things to check out that I wouldn’t have come across in my normal circle of friends. So much appreciation and joy from Devoreaux beautiful smile.
I think people attacked the Notre Dame mom because she was saying leggings are inappropriate because they entice men and not just because they’re overall inappropriate for daily wear. Loved this interview. I can’t wait to read the book!
Oh how our country needs to hear and heed this great message! Things have gotten so bad they are very seriously considering setting a dress code for visiting your children at school in our city. It is sad. Thanks to both of you !
Hi Jennifer, my children graduated in 2006, 2008, and 2010. When they would ask me permission for different things and I said no and they didn’t understand why, here is what I would tell them. “You just wait. When you grow up and have kids, they’re probably going to ask you if they can go to school naked because EVERYONE else is. They won’t understand why you are saying no.” 😂😂😂. Had to laugh when you brought that up. Hope it never happens, but as time has gone by, I can actually kind of see how it could happen now! I still keep reminding them I said that. I now have a 4 month old grandson. I sure hope we see a turn around from Generation Z. I keep hearing rumblings of that.
Such a lovely and engaging video. Lovely to meet your friend Jennifer and I shall be looking up Devoreaux’s Blog and Channel. Love you both. Thank you. Pauline xx
I’m glad I have stumbled across your channel! There are other channels that discuss etiquette/manners; however, the hostess spends more he bulk of the time chastising women of a certain race for being so oppositional towards her platform. Anyway, I am enjoying your videos and I look forward to watching others regarding wardrobe essentials. As for the initial topic of this video, I try to reflect back on a very insightful scene from the movie “Picture Perfect” starring Jennifer Aniston; where she confronts the senior manager on why she wasn’t promoted. He tells her due to how she presents herself to the world - her character dressed very casual for a marketing firm. He goes on to say because of her lack of appropriateness he could not hand over a highly important account to someone that appears to be a flight risk, noncommittal and simply flaky. He ends with “do you want to dress to get the janitor’s job or dress for the position you want?” Wise words...
Wow! I was so intrigued by this interview and really look forward to reading her books! The part that really stuck out to me was about taking action. I agree that it seems as if we are ever learning but not always applying and if we would just take the time to do that, our lives would improve greatly. Thank you both for this lovely chat between two kindred spirits 🌹
I’m a teacher and my work place has become extremely casual. I’ve also noticed this when we go out. Where I disagree with you is at home. I wear leggings/yoga pants at home. One summer I followed your advice and wore street clothes at home all day. I ended up changing clothes several times a day, especially if I went out because my clothes became stretched out, felt sweaty, dirty etc. I felt “wilted” and didn’t enjoy what I was doing. I follow what my parents did, who were raised during the depression where clothes were a hard commodity to come by. There were three types of clothes, home clothes, street clothes and dress clothes. As I child I would get in so much trouble for not changing my clothes when I came home from school. My parents also changed immediately when they came home, kind of like Mr. Rodgers would change his shoes and sweater. I read he did this to signify the transition form the outside world to our home space. This habit has stayed with me. You can wear yoga pants at home and look nice. My husband and I were going to dinner the other night and he said “ Oh, you’re already to go” I wasn’t I needed to change clothes but because my hair and makeup were neat it gave the impression I was already dressed. I always do hair and makeup, that way if I need to go out I can be ready in a matter of minutes.
Jennifer, I tend to agree pretty much with everything you say in your videos. This video is no exception. The only thing I would like to comment on is that not all countries in the world stopped caring about the way they dress. Russian women, for example, make a lot of effort and always look thoroughly kempt.
Women in the 80s wearing their leotards and leg warmers to the grocery store! Haha I laughed out loud. What a great comparison and hilarious picture. The phone thing is so hard. Like another commenter said, they have replaced so many thing, it’s hard to know and not jump to conclusions. Maybe they are looking at a map or something ‘important’ etc. Believe me, I know that most people are being mindless, but we need to have grace too. I don’t have a smartphone, it is a flip phone, but even I feel like someone is going to judge me negatively if I pull out my phone in public to send a quick text, especially if I’m with my children. My MIL is actually one of the worst offenders, and it really bugs me at times. She will play a game on her phone while watching tv or talking to her grandkids. I was at a small, intimate piano concert once, and a few older adults in their 50s-60s were doing the usual rant about youth and their phones. Imagine my surprise when they were on their phones during the break instead of talking to each other, and one man even stayed on his phone a while after the pianist started talking again. I think being self-aware is huge.
I used to dress a lot better, but I work in the medical field and I'm working 60 hours a week. I wish I could work 8 hours a day so that I could actually have the time to actually "live."
Jennifer, I am reminded of something I would love to hear you discuss. Recently, I saw an online discussion between Christian women about their appearance. They were talking about how they know who they are in Christ, and they don’t need to dress up to impress anyone. They are fine in their xyz (too casual) clothes and no makeup etc. why dress up for church, you want people to feel welcome... This was not discussed in a manner of humility and knowing that you’re created in God’s image, it was a prideful rejection of ‘dressing up’ for any day. I would love to hear your thoughts on this. It seems different than just not caring or knowing, not following what everybody else is doing. This is deliberately choosing to not look nice, all under the guise of being comfortable in your own skin.
Think of the Kardashians and others that are wearing lace see through dresses. They are walking around naked at formal events. Shock value is so huge and a motivating factor.
I really don't understand the comfort thing. It takes the same amount of time to put on a dress as a pair of leggings and t shirt. Dressed made of Jersey are so comfortable. Good looking shoes are all around these days that are also comfortable.
Part of the issue with the way people dress these days is related to the fact that a few years or so ago there was a big deal about men dressing so casual and women were still expected to still dress nice. Instead of raising expectations for men it was lowered for women.
Great interview. I'll have to check her channel out. I saw the worst casual dresser ever. A guy, probably in his early twenties, wearing a bathrobe and slippers at the grocery store. It was around eleven in the morning!
Something I find interesting is that people we hold to a higher standard, we'd be shocked, angry even , if they dressed the way people are insisting is fine. Can you imagine the uproar if Kate Middleton showed up to a state funeral in yoga pants,?? I mean thats almost funny to imagine. Or if an ambassador got off a plane to an official visit in ripped sweat pants or pjs? Well, I want to hold myself to a higher standard too.
Huge fan here, and I dress presentably, but unfortunately most people in my world live in t-shirts, leggings, jeans etc. There aren’t a lot of settings anymore that you dress up to attend. I just went to a memorial for a 80 year old former hula instructor-dress was Hawaii themed. I’ve been to country themed weddings, lots of jeans -- don’t know what the future will hold.
I am continually shocked by how people dress now. I recently attended two funerals and was shocked that so many people showed up wearing t-shirts and jeans. When did this become acceptable???
My sister showed up to our fathers funeral in skin tight micro shorts and a black sports bra. Seriously. I almost died of embarrassment, I could barely figure out how to graciously stand with her and greet people etc as the immediate family.
@@theDuchessQ Oh my. I guess at least she wore black? I would have died too. I think we need to bring back decorum and dressing appropriately. Maybe if enough of us do it others will follow?
Because: It says- 1. I don't care what I look like 2. I don care that other people have to look at me and what they see. 3. I don't have respect for basic decency in what I look like and maybe/probably what my home/car look like inside!!!!! MAKE THE WORLD BEAUTIFUL STARTING WITH YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!! 😁👍
Sad thing is they don’t think they look inappropriate-because so many are doing the same. Athleisure wear has become the norm at Starbucks, the park or a grocery store, and even work. I have to admit I wear a long tunic top over thick jeggings most of the winter. I wear jewelry or a scarf my hair is done, light makeup, but I live in a semi rural lake resort area, and silks and stockings don’t work here. I used to work in insurance in Los Angeles, so skirted suits were the norm for many years, I’d feel ridiculous in that now unless I was attending a funeral.
It's awful when relatives visit and you try to talk to them and every few minutes they sort of check out. They constantly check texts, emails, Facebook and other social media.
Is there a way to get this message across without putting down or shaming others who hold to a different set of "standards"? We really don't know the circumstances of those around us. I really enjoy your books and TH-cam channel, but I felt the first part of this interview was very "snobby" for lack of a better word. One can promote the advantages and benefits of dressing well, having good manners and showing poise without commenting on "those" people around us who don't share our affection for living a "connoisseur " life. (Just food for thought). :)
I agree. I enjoy dressing up every day...usually in an appropriate way but I like to show off my figure in a fairly tasteful way. It’s fun to dress up. However, it’s absolutely none of my business what anyone else wears! I just don’t care. Think of Ellen Brockovich...who would want to be one of those awful, judgmental women in the office when she first arrived?!
J N I agree . This was a complete downer . Negative examples all around Let’s focus on the strategies in the book . Lift us up . I could watch the news to feel bad . Not a troll but found this negative 👎
I'm sorry you were disappointed. Whenever someone has an opinion inevitably others will be offended. I think it's important as a society to critique what is going on around us. If we never questioned anything then anything would go... which may be OK for some, but not for others. I appreciate you watching!
Me too! “Your house is so clean, organized etc...” I have four young children, I don’t slave over the house. But because of their ages etc, it’s like it makes people feel self-conscious about their own house? I don’t know, but I admit it makes me feel bad. I don’t want them uncomfortable or to feel like they can’t have me to their house, etc. it’s strange.
I mean, because of the ages of my children, it is assumed there will be some mess. And there is! I think the main thing is that there isn’t clutter, so that’s why it seems so different to people.
Yes! And then I feel like I have to apologize or say something about how I *just* cleaned. I’m not a snob haha and won’t be offended by mess around me!
I grew up when Nirvana was popular and grunge baggy clothes were in. I laugh and tell my mom at least and didn't dress revealing 🙄. I will admit though I don't wear leggings but I live in jeans and comfort is my priority. I do agree with all points made, I just may not follow them.....yet!
I hope you enjoy my chat with Devoreaux which we filmed last week. For more, visit my corresponding blogpost dailyconnoisseur.blogspot.com/2019/04/devoreaux-walton-jennifer-l-scott.html Thank you for watching! If you haven't already subscribed, please do so. We are almost at 50,000 subscribers! I am so grateful. Love, Jennifer
I love how she talked about integrity. Two beautiful ladies.
Thank you both. I still believe in modesty, and elegance no matter what your income level, and looking feminine.
I was so disappointed when I showed up to my daughters field trip today and saw the other moms in stretchy yoga pants☹️ yes I see them every day in their yoga pants but tell myself “don’t judge” they are probably heading to the gym right after they drop the kids off at school, sadly they spent all day in the museum dressed this way :( I guess it the new normal. Even the teacher commented “everyone is in their pajamas!” She’s from Europe and I can tell it’s very strange to her. All we can do is be the change we wish to see.
Lovely interview! Devoreaux is very poised and well spoken! Looking forward to reading her book!
Sometimes we need to be careful. I saw a man with his head in his newspaper, on a train, chastise a teen for being on her phone. Turns out they were reading the same article. My own father picked on a young man who was actually looking at his google maps app to help a neighbor. Yes, most of the time people are using phones mindlessly. But when phones are replacing maps, wallet photos, newspapers, etc.....it can be dicey to make snap judgements. Older relatives are always asking me to look facts up on my phone, which can get old. lol
Quite true! One of the strengths of my family is that we are all avid readers. But one of our weaknesses is that when we spend time together, we end up all reading our separate books! Pre-21st century issues ;)
Hi Courtney, I'm talking about the teen who is perpetually in his or her phone. It exists and I've seen it sadly on many occasions. Not just one off situations, every time. That's what I mean. Most of the time in these situations they are on social media. It's a problem and I feel the need to address it, even if it's not a popular stance. Thanks for watching!
the Daily Connoisseur oh, I didn’t communicate well! I couldn’t agree more! I was mentioning the rare exception. You are so right. And I think the topic needs more discussion...not less! So, thank you for your video!
Hi Jennifer and Devoreaux - you ladies are doing others a very big service by holding the line being neat, respectful and poised. We can agree that the entire culture has been dumbed down. The very basic thing is, I think, our understanding of where we came from and why we were created in the first place. A world that disrespects life in general will model that attitude in many different ways. An indifference and a "who cares?" attitude are prevalent. Most people seem to want to rush through work, social interactions and so on so that they can "relax" and be alone with their electronic pacifiers. Do you remember the TV show What Not To Wear? The hosts were constantly helping people who dressed poorly because it was so "comfortable." They would have them put on their yoga pants or whatever and then look at themselves in a 360 degree mirror. Many were horrified at how they really looked to others. Once they found out that they could be stylish AND comfortable, it was a life changing moment. They stood up straighter and had a more positive attitude. I am with you 100% and doing my best as a grandmother to model being presentable, elegant (as possible) kind and interested in others, and to SET A GOOD EXAMPLE for younger women. That's one of my jobs in this world! God bless your work and books!
This has me thinking of a similar faux pas. When people keep the TV on, even with company over! A huge pet peeve for sure.
I AGREE with allll of this!!! I felt so alone in this, like does anyone notice HOW bad it's getting? Even to weddings, church, funerals for God's sake.
What a nice lady! Just lovely. You have great people skills and can run any conersation, Jennifer. I enjoy your conversations with other authors and youtubers.
Thank you SO much for this lovely interview. I just have to comment on Devoreaux's mention of the idea that comfort is the first consideration when many people get dressed. I agree that comfort is key. At age 55, I don't wear anything that isn't comfortable. However, I also look presentable every day. Being comfortable and being presentable are not mutually exclusive. The best outfits achieve both simultaneously.
I love you both!
This was awesome information! I’m in my late 60’s and I’m hungry to learn more about working on my character! This just makes me excited to grow and become someone better in all areas of my life!
Loved this video. In speaking of exercise clothes, I JUST had a debate with a friend last night. She was telling me about how she went out of town to visit a friend and her friend asked her if she'd brought any nice clothes with her. My friend said yes, and describe her outfit. Her friend in response said "But those are lulu lemon, did you bring something nice?" My friend then proceeded to tell me how she argued with her that those were nice clothes and perfectly acceptable for a fine dining restaurant. I could tell she was just trying to justify it to me when she was telling me the story. But, I agree with her friend. Lulu Lemon has it's place, in the gym, on a hike, a yoga studio. Not at a fine dining restaurant. I further though about my friend and realized that I don't think I have seen her in anything other than leggings. She even told me she doesn't own anything else. I am all for being comfortable, but there are plenty of "real" pants that are quite comfortable.
I agree--Lululemon is nice for the gym, but it should stay there
Good manners would seem to dictate that one does not ask the brand of someone else's clothes, or ask did you bring something "nice". Being non-judgemental is more important to me than being seen with a friend dressed to my "standards".
J N well that’s exactly what she asked...if she brought something nice to wear. It wasn’t so much about the brand but about the appropriateness of athletic apparel
This seems like a book of true substance so thank you ladies for igniting my interest! Implementing the personal excellence standard is the key to reverse the slipping away we are seeing happening in our society. Just because a lot of people are doing something doesn’t mean that THAT is the right thing to do. Just because people are wearing tight fitting leggings and bralettes everywhere these days doesn’t mean that it is the right thing to do.Or that the idea of being comfortable by all means erases any standard of conduct, whether at home or outside of it.
Great interview Jennifer and thank you for introducing me to someone new. I'll be getting 2 of her books, one for me and one for my teenage daughters.
Keeping us active and involved, that is what your new monthly Chic Assignments are about to me, besides introducing new things to check out that I wouldn’t have come across in my normal circle of friends. So much appreciation and joy from Devoreaux beautiful smile.
I think people attacked the Notre Dame mom because she was saying leggings are inappropriate because they entice men and not just because they’re overall inappropriate for daily wear. Loved this interview. I can’t wait to read the book!
Oh how our country needs to hear and heed this great message! Things have gotten so bad they are very seriously considering setting a dress code for visiting your children at school in our city. It is sad. Thanks to both of you !
Thank you! This message isn't popular, so I appreciate your positive feedback!
I feel very comfortable in the dresses I wear every day, so yes, using comfort is definitely a cop out for not dressing appropriately.
Hi Jennifer, my children graduated in 2006, 2008, and 2010. When they would ask me permission for different things and I said no and they didn’t understand why, here is what I would tell them. “You just wait. When you grow up and have kids, they’re probably going to ask you if they can go to school naked because EVERYONE else is. They won’t understand why you are saying no.” 😂😂😂. Had to laugh when you brought that up. Hope it never happens, but as time has gone by, I can actually kind of see how it could happen now! I still keep reminding them I said that. I now have a 4 month old grandson. I sure hope we see a turn around from Generation Z. I keep hearing rumblings of that.
Such a lovely and engaging video. Lovely to meet your friend Jennifer and I shall be looking up Devoreaux’s Blog and Channel. Love you both. Thank you. Pauline xx
Thank you, Pauline! xx
Inspiring conversation ladies! I was going the way of culture but love being feminine and chosing my clothing more carefully with your inspiration.
Just lovely! I’m definitely checking out Devoreaux’s book. Thanks for sharing.
Fabulous interview. See, you are not alone, Jennifer.
I’m glad I have stumbled across your channel! There are other channels that discuss etiquette/manners; however, the hostess spends more he bulk of the time chastising women of a certain race for being so oppositional towards her platform.
Anyway, I am enjoying your videos and I look forward to watching others regarding wardrobe essentials.
As for the initial topic of this video, I try to reflect back on a very insightful scene from the movie “Picture Perfect” starring Jennifer Aniston; where she confronts the senior manager on why she wasn’t promoted. He tells her due to how she presents herself to the world - her character dressed very casual for a marketing firm. He goes on to say because of her lack of appropriateness he could not hand over a highly important account to someone that appears to be a flight risk, noncommittal and simply flaky. He ends with “do you want to dress to get the janitor’s job or dress for the position you want?” Wise words...
Thank you for introducing Devoreaux to us! I subscribed to her TH-cam channel, and look forward to watching her videos. 😊
Wow! I was so intrigued by this interview and really look forward to reading her books! The part that really stuck out to me was about taking action. I agree that it seems as if we are ever learning but not always applying and if we would just take the time to do that, our lives would improve greatly. Thank you both for this lovely chat between two kindred spirits 🌹
Excited to get a copy of this book..TY
Dear Jennifer, loved this, but would've loved to hear more from the author.
I’m a teacher and my work place has become extremely casual. I’ve also noticed this when we go out. Where I disagree with you is at home. I wear leggings/yoga pants at home. One summer I followed your advice and wore street clothes at home all day. I ended up changing clothes several times a day, especially if I went out because my clothes became stretched out, felt sweaty, dirty etc. I felt “wilted” and didn’t enjoy what I was doing. I follow what my parents did, who were raised during the depression where clothes were a hard commodity to come by. There were three types of clothes, home clothes, street clothes and dress clothes. As I child I would get in so much trouble for not changing my clothes when I came home from school. My parents also changed immediately when they came home, kind of like Mr. Rodgers would change his shoes and sweater. I read he did this to signify the transition form the outside world to our home space. This habit has stayed with me. You can wear yoga pants at home and look nice. My husband and I were going to dinner the other night and he said “ Oh, you’re already to go” I wasn’t I needed to change clothes but because my hair and makeup were neat it gave the impression I was already dressed. I always do hair and makeup, that way if I need to go out I can be ready in a matter of minutes.
Aaaugh so excited for this!
Jennifer, I tend to agree pretty much with everything you say in your videos. This video is no exception. The only thing I would like to comment on is that not all countries in the world stopped caring about the way they dress. Russian women, for example, make a lot of effort and always look thoroughly kempt.
I hope it will be available in either audible or kindle soon.... ?
I enjoy you both so much!
Women in the 80s wearing their leotards and leg warmers to the grocery store! Haha I laughed out loud. What a great comparison and hilarious picture. The phone thing is so hard. Like another commenter said, they have replaced so many thing, it’s hard to know and not jump to conclusions. Maybe they are looking at a map or something ‘important’ etc. Believe me, I know that most people are being mindless, but we need to have grace too. I don’t have a smartphone, it is a flip phone, but even I feel like someone is going to judge me negatively if I pull out my phone in public to send a quick text, especially if I’m with my children. My MIL is actually one of the worst offenders, and it really bugs me at times. She will play a game on her phone while watching tv or talking to her grandkids. I was at a small, intimate piano concert once, and a few older adults in their 50s-60s were doing the usual rant about youth and their phones. Imagine my surprise when they were on their phones during the break instead of talking to each other, and one man even stayed on his phone a while after the pianist started talking again. I think being self-aware is huge.
I used to dress a lot better, but I work in the medical field and I'm working 60 hours a week. I wish I could work 8 hours a day so that I could actually have the time to actually "live."
Great video - thank you!
My very favorite TH-camrs 💕
Jennifer, I am reminded of something I would love to hear you discuss. Recently, I saw an online discussion between Christian women about their appearance. They were talking about how they know who they are in Christ, and they don’t need to dress up to impress anyone. They are fine in their xyz (too casual) clothes and no makeup etc. why dress up for church, you want people to feel welcome... This was not discussed in a manner of humility and knowing that you’re created in God’s image, it was a prideful rejection of ‘dressing up’ for any day. I would love to hear your thoughts on this. It seems different than just not caring or knowing, not following what everybody else is doing. This is deliberately choosing to not look nice, all under the guise of being comfortable in your own skin.
Just wondering if this lovely book will be coming out on Audible?
Hi :) I checked out her channel, and I love it.
I love these ladies! :)
Think of the Kardashians and others that are wearing lace see through dresses. They are walking around naked at formal events. Shock value is so huge and a motivating factor.
I really don't understand the comfort thing. It takes the same amount of time to put on a dress as a pair of leggings and t shirt. Dressed made of Jersey are so comfortable. Good looking shoes are all around these days that are also comfortable.
Part of the issue with the way people dress these days is related to the fact that a few years or so ago there was a big deal about men dressing so casual and women were still expected to still dress nice. Instead of raising expectations for men it was lowered for women.
I just read an article today that made my jaw drop-Girls at Coachella Wearing nothing but duck tape! 😳🙄🤦🏼♀️ Can’t get much worse than that!
The Travel Blocks but Mom, Everyone..........🤦♀️
Oh dear!
Great interview. I'll have to check her channel out. I saw the worst casual dresser ever. A guy, probably in his early twenties, wearing a bathrobe and slippers at the grocery store. It was around eleven in the morning!
That takes the cake! I hope no one calls you judgmental for calling him out haha. If they do I'll defend you :)
Something I find interesting is that people we hold to a higher standard, we'd be shocked, angry even , if they dressed the way people are insisting is fine. Can you imagine the uproar if Kate Middleton showed up to a state funeral in yoga pants,?? I mean thats almost funny to imagine. Or if an ambassador got off a plane to an official visit in ripped sweat pants or pjs?
Well, I want to hold myself to a higher standard too.
Huge fan here, and I dress presentably, but unfortunately most people in my world live in t-shirts, leggings, jeans etc. There aren’t a lot of settings anymore that you dress up to attend. I just went to a memorial for a 80 year old former hula instructor-dress was Hawaii themed. I’ve been to country themed weddings, lots of jeans -- don’t know what the future will hold.
I am continually shocked by how people dress now. I recently attended two funerals and was shocked that so many people showed up wearing t-shirts and jeans. When did this become acceptable???
My sister showed up to our fathers funeral in skin tight micro shorts and a black sports bra. Seriously. I almost died of embarrassment, I could barely figure out how to graciously stand with her and greet people etc as the immediate family.
@@theDuchessQ Oh my. I guess at least she wore black? I would have died too. I think we need to bring back decorum and dressing appropriately. Maybe if enough of us do it others will follow?
Why is it disrespectful? That's the question I often get
Because: It says- 1. I don't care what I look like 2. I don care that other people have to look at me and what they see. 3. I don't have respect for basic decency in what I look like and maybe/probably what my home/car look like inside!!!!!
MAKE THE WORLD BEAUTIFUL STARTING WITH YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!! 😁👍
Sad thing is they don’t think they look inappropriate-because so many are doing the same. Athleisure wear has become the norm at Starbucks, the park or a grocery store, and even work. I have to admit I wear a long tunic top over thick jeggings most of the winter. I wear jewelry or a scarf my hair is done, light makeup, but I live in a semi rural lake resort area, and silks and stockings don’t work here. I used to work in insurance in Los Angeles, so skirted suits were the norm for many years, I’d feel ridiculous in that now unless I was attending a funeral.
It's awful when relatives visit and you try to talk to them and every few minutes they sort of check out. They constantly check texts, emails, Facebook and other social media.
So many people work from home and it has made them lazy. I hate it.
Is there a way to get this message across without putting down or shaming others who hold to a different set of "standards"? We really don't know the circumstances of those around us. I really enjoy your books and TH-cam channel, but I felt the first part of this interview was very "snobby" for lack of a better word. One can promote the advantages and benefits of dressing well, having good manners and showing poise without commenting on "those" people around us who don't share our affection for living a "connoisseur " life. (Just food for thought). :)
I agree. I enjoy dressing up every day...usually in an appropriate way but I like to show off my figure in a fairly tasteful way. It’s fun to dress up. However, it’s absolutely none of my business what anyone else wears! I just don’t care. Think of Ellen Brockovich...who would want to be one of those awful, judgmental women in the office when she first arrived?!
Also, some of those kids in restaurants have autism....
J N I agree . This was a complete downer . Negative examples all around Let’s focus on the strategies in the book . Lift us up . I could watch the news to feel bad . Not a troll but found this negative 👎
I'm sorry you were disappointed. Whenever someone has an opinion inevitably others will be offended. I think it's important as a society to critique what is going on around us. If we never questioned anything then anything would go... which may be OK for some, but not for others. I appreciate you watching!
the Daily Connoisseur thx Jennifer . I appreciate your point of view and hadn’t considered that. Have a nice evening 😀
I get picked on a little by friends for having a tidy home. Odd, huh? I'm not talking spotless. Just semi-orderly.
Me too! “Your house is so clean, organized etc...” I have four young children, I don’t slave over the house. But because of their ages etc, it’s like it makes people feel self-conscious about their own house? I don’t know, but I admit it makes me feel bad. I don’t want them uncomfortable or to feel like they can’t have me to their house, etc. it’s strange.
I mean, because of the ages of my children, it is assumed there will be some mess. And there is! I think the main thing is that there isn’t clutter, so that’s why it seems so different to people.
Right?! They say, “oh, I’d be embarrassed now for you to see my house...”🤷🏼♀️
Yes! And then I feel like I have to apologize or say something about how I *just* cleaned. I’m not a snob haha and won’t be offended by mess around me!
I grew up when Nirvana was popular and grunge baggy clothes were in. I laugh and tell my mom at least and didn't dress revealing 🙄. I will admit though I don't wear leggings but I live in jeans and comfort is my priority. I do agree with all points made, I just may not follow them.....yet!
So, as predicted by these ladies, it has gotten worse...