Thank you Mia for a lovely video. I struggle with the permanent and debilitating consequences of a long term eating disorder. My spine and hips are 4x their biological age and my organs have paid a high price for my illness. I have been in recovery for 3 years, but waking up in excruciating pain everyday in a body that can no longer support the life I want to live, makes it so hard to want to stay well. And I’m only 30. I no longer shame myself for this but I can’t imagine going on if it doesn’t get better.
I'm so sorry and totally relate. It's so hard and debilitating. Also absolutely terrifying to be told once past 30ish new bone cannot be built. Although there are so many things I know I won't be able to do due to my severe osteoporosis (carrying my nieces, certain sports, even going in certain modes of transport (my back fractured due to a bus jolting from a pothole last year), I try to focus on what will be better. Less distress mentally about food. Maybe not feeling so worthless and guilty about giving myself anything. The time I spend with those I love so much being more connected and less polluted by the noise/restrictions/numbness of an ED. People have said, too that when our bodies become stronger- more muscle and padding between joints etc these elements will help reduce pain from osteoporosis. There's muscle and other things to support our bones not just bone on bone so they are less stressed? I hope that helps. Sending you so much love. I am by no means able to call myself recovered, and i def get hopeless and petrified of the next fracture that may occur, but i try to remind myself of these other things and it can help a bit. Lxxxx
P.s. I've just seen you're age- I've heard some say that there's still a lot of bone that can restore in your 30s. A lady in her 50s who'd suffered most of her life from an ED like me said she recovered in her mid 50s and her bone density still improved. There's hope . Life can be so much richer, more flexible and less distressing I hope xxx
“you’ve already been judged”…by yourself!!! brilliant. i’ve always been scared of being ridiculed and having my worth diminished by other ppl bc of how i look. but i don’t even realize that the only one judging me-louder than anyone has ever judged me-is myself.
It is really hard not to blame yourself for a long and enduring eating disorder when the very people who are meant to protect and love you no matter what do blame you!!!!!
Absolutely! It is all too common and shouldn't happen. That is part of the compassion piece; not setting your internal standard by what you receive from others, but what you would do to others. If you would not blame others, that's evidence that it could be possible for that to be the standard you hold for yourself too.
As someone who has been stagnant in recovery for over a year and currently waiting for a referral to go through for a new treatment team, this was so so comforting to hear my fears voiced outloud and having you give such eloquent compassionate responses coming from your own experiences. It can be difficult to voice these fears to those who haven't experienced it themselves ♥
after i suddenly became T1D feb 2020, i also came to the realisation that i have probably been navigating ARFID for my entire life... my diabetes coach & endocrinologist were always really happy with my 'numbers' but finally yesterday my coach finally clicked that rather than a positive, it might be unhealthy, and said 'hey we have diet psychologists on staff, i think you should speak with them' 0_o (they are obvi diabetes focused but can at least be a start and point me in the right direction) ha! i used to be a snowboard instructor and i'm always super supportive and helpful with my students and friends i'd help out, but was notorious for being overheard just flatout berating myself while alone (on the hill in challenging spots) to just 'do better!' :P (so i know thats a bad character trait, self excoriation - on many levels)
Mia’s videos. Honestly so many resources here - I recovered from my ED soley by watching Mia’s videos, putting the methods in place and then actively choosing to recover every single day. YOU CAN DO THIS!
www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Disordered-Eating There's a whole workbook on here that you can go through. It contains many of the same things a Therapist would use
It's so hard when one can't afford therapy. That's me. Besides Mia I also watch Kati Morton. She specializes in Eating disorders. I also was on Mia's online community, if she still has it, while I was still recovering. I also did a 12-step program Eating Disorders Anonymous (EDA) they stress balance not obstinance and their materials can be downloaded from their website. Also, the library should have the "8 keys to Recovery of an Eating Disorder" by Carolyn Costin. All the best to you. It's frustrating but not impossible.
How can we be expected to be neutral about our bodies if our body discomfort and eating issues stem from gender dysphoria. Ive expressed this to my dietician and she doesnt seem to understand.
I think that's a good question. I deal with gender dysphoria myself, so I get that (I also have body dysmorphia and a restrictive ED). I'm sorry to hear that your dietitian isn't getting it. I struggled with finding the proper support as well. Eventually I found a couple of therapists that were understanding about the gender stuff. I also found out that my new doctor used to work at the gender clinic here, and I eventually went there as well. I hope that you're able to find something that works for you. 🥺
Thank you Mia for a lovely video. I struggle with the permanent and debilitating consequences of a long term eating disorder. My spine and hips are 4x their biological age and my organs have paid a high price for my illness. I have been in recovery for 3 years, but waking up in excruciating pain everyday in a body that can no longer support the life I want to live, makes it so hard to want to stay well. And I’m only 30. I no longer shame myself for this but I can’t imagine going on if it doesn’t get better.
I'm so sorry and totally relate. It's so hard and debilitating. Also absolutely terrifying to be told once past 30ish new bone cannot be built. Although there are so many things I know I won't be able to do due to my severe osteoporosis (carrying my nieces, certain sports, even going in certain modes of transport (my back fractured due to a bus jolting from a pothole last year), I try to focus on what will be better. Less distress mentally about food. Maybe not feeling so worthless and guilty about giving myself anything. The time I spend with those I love so much being more connected and less polluted by the noise/restrictions/numbness of an ED. People have said, too that when our bodies become stronger- more muscle and padding between joints etc these elements will help reduce pain from osteoporosis. There's muscle and other things to support our bones not just bone on bone so they are less stressed? I hope that helps. Sending you so much love. I am by no means able to call myself recovered, and i def get hopeless and petrified of the next fracture that may occur, but i try to remind myself of these other things and it can help a bit. Lxxxx
P.s. I've just seen you're age- I've heard some say that there's still a lot of bone that can restore in your 30s. A lady in her 50s who'd suffered most of her life from an ED like me said she recovered in her mid 50s and her bone density still improved. There's hope . Life can be so much richer, more flexible and less distressing I hope xxx
“you’ve already been judged”…by yourself!!! brilliant. i’ve always been scared of being ridiculed and having my worth diminished by other ppl bc of how i look. but i don’t even realize that the only one judging me-louder than anyone has ever judged me-is myself.
judging myself is not gonna “protect” me from the judgement of other people. that was so profound. thank you
It is really hard not to blame yourself for a long and enduring eating disorder when the very people who are meant to protect and love you no matter what do blame you!!!!!
Absolutely! It is all too common and shouldn't happen. That is part of the compassion piece; not setting your internal standard by what you receive from others, but what you would do to others. If you would not blame others, that's evidence that it could be possible for that to be the standard you hold for yourself too.
This video is very informative describes so well what is scary pre recovery. I am 9 months into recovery and yes, recovery is real. Recovery works❤️
As someone who has been stagnant in recovery for over a year and currently waiting for a referral to go through for a new treatment team, this was so so comforting to hear my fears voiced outloud and having you give such eloquent compassionate responses coming from your own experiences. It can be difficult to voice these fears to those who haven't experienced it themselves ♥
This has given me hope again. I have been losing it. thank you
the trouble is I don't want to re over
after i suddenly became T1D feb 2020, i also came to the realisation that i have probably been navigating ARFID for my entire life... my diabetes coach & endocrinologist were always really happy with my 'numbers' but finally yesterday my coach finally clicked that rather than a positive, it might be unhealthy, and said 'hey we have diet psychologists on staff, i think you should speak with them' 0_o (they are obvi diabetes focused but can at least be a start and point me in the right direction)
ha! i used to be a snowboard instructor and i'm always super supportive and helpful with my students and friends i'd help out, but was notorious for being overheard just flatout berating myself while alone (on the hill in challenging spots) to just 'do better!' :P (so i know thats a bad character trait, self excoriation - on many levels)
Any advice on how recover when I don’t have the money to see a therapist and/or purchase access to recovery materials/support?
Mia’s videos. Honestly so many resources here - I recovered from my ED soley by watching Mia’s videos, putting the methods in place and then actively choosing to recover every single day. YOU CAN DO THIS!
www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Disordered-Eating
There's a whole workbook on here that you can go through. It contains many of the same things a Therapist would use
It's so hard when one can't afford therapy. That's me. Besides Mia I also watch Kati Morton. She specializes in Eating disorders. I also was on Mia's online community, if she still has it, while I was still recovering. I also did a 12-step program Eating Disorders Anonymous (EDA) they stress balance not obstinance and their materials can be downloaded from their website. Also, the library should have the "8 keys to Recovery of an Eating Disorder" by Carolyn Costin. All the best to you. It's frustrating but not impossible.
@@eloisemarie5219 great advice xx
@@abigailsalt8846 so helpful!
How can we be expected to be neutral about our bodies if our body discomfort and eating issues stem from gender dysphoria. Ive expressed this to my dietician and she doesnt seem to understand.
I think that's a good question. I deal with gender dysphoria myself, so I get that (I also have body dysmorphia and a restrictive ED). I'm sorry to hear that your dietitian isn't getting it. I struggled with finding the proper support as well. Eventually I found a couple of therapists that were understanding about the gender stuff. I also found out that my new doctor used to work at the gender clinic here, and I eventually went there as well. I hope that you're able to find something that works for you. 🥺