Typical narcissist behavior. Jonathan, I wish I had had a parent or significant adult like you, in my life when I was a child having to live with a a covert narcissist mom. To know and internalize the lessons that her and stepdad’s emotional regulation is not my job, would have made such a difference in my experience of childhood. Your son is so fortunate to have an understanding parent like you. As far as any physical harm coming to you, I think you’re too smart to fall into that trap. You have and use the greatest weapon of all: your brain. Thank for sharing your experience with narcissists. It’s definitely helpful to be reminded of proactive and efficient ways to manage them when we must encounter them.
There needs to be a 5 minute youtube video explaining narcissistic abuse to children. They are fed all this nonsense from the abusive parent and I'm sure the level of confusion is through the roof. Kids don't need to deal with ridiculous and unnecessary drama so giving them a tool to understand can only help.
I hope she wasn't off with your son through jealousy or feeling last in line. Stuff her childish feelings, your son is so precious. I take it that your daughters are not her children. Lovely the children are more than happy with each other. You describe difficult situations so good.
Because it’s not that easy where we live. It is a myth that children get to decide where they live once they’re a certain age. So what Ive done is bought a house in the neighborhood next to his mother. My house is walking distance from hers. He comes over here frequently. If we wanted to change his primary residence, it requires a trip to court, we have to prove there’s a “material and substantial change” to our lives, and get the court’s permission to modify the decree. At that point, we go to mediation, which means nothing gets changed without her agreement on everything. Good luck getting her to give up child support - she cant afford her house without the child support, which means she would have to move. As vindictive as she is, she would move to the opposite corner of the county - something she’s already done once before. And once we go through that entire circus, the result would STILL be shared custody, and she would STILL get him 50% of the time, so, the only real change for him would be different days for different homes, and a lot more bitterness swirling around in the adult realm of his life. So, It is because big-picture-wise, it fails to improve his life. The only way it could improve his life is if she were do something so egregious the court decides to strip her of her custody rights, which can only happen in cases of clear and dangerous neglect and/or abuse, and at that point, he will have had to endure a higher level of abuse, so that’s also not good.
@@narcissistectomy5134 that's a shame, the courts put parental rights above the welfare of the child, in most cases it works but there's little consideration for cases with people like narcissists where the damage they do is often not physically seen, little consideration for mental and emotional abuse, I understand where you are coming from but he has you to keep him grounded so that is positive and if things get too difficult he can come see you
my ex drove a wedge between his bio child and his new supply's bio child that they got into an actual fist fight. and now he is no longer with the new supply...or, ex supply i suppose you would have to call her and she and her bio child are still divided because her bio child tried to show her the truth about him that she refused to see.
For a brief moment there weren’t you so glad you weren’t that other guy who is now the one who gets the car because she says so? Let someone else drive Miss Daisy
Typical narcissist behavior. Jonathan, I wish I had had a parent or significant adult like you, in my life when I was a child having to live with a a covert narcissist mom. To know and internalize the lessons that her and stepdad’s emotional regulation is not my job, would have made such a difference in my experience of childhood.
Your son is so fortunate to have an understanding parent like you.
As far as any physical harm coming to you, I think you’re too smart to fall into that trap.
You have and use the greatest weapon of all:
your brain.
Thank for sharing your experience with narcissists. It’s definitely helpful to be reminded of proactive and efficient ways to manage them when we must encounter them.
You role-model wholesome behavior and your son reflected it back by being in the present moment with you and your family. Nicely done ✅.
Hey there stranger!
Well done. You're an awesome dad.
There needs to be a 5 minute youtube video explaining narcissistic abuse to children. They are fed all this nonsense from the abusive parent and I'm sure the level of confusion is through the roof. Kids don't need to deal with ridiculous and unnecessary drama so giving them a tool to understand can only help.
I hope she wasn't off with your son through jealousy or feeling last in line. Stuff her childish feelings, your son is so precious. I take it that your daughters are not her children. Lovely the children are more than happy with each other. You describe difficult situations so good.
Great story. Dude, you crack me up 😂🤩
You could feel the 'F#$% you waves' , haha!
I wonder why his son doesn't come live with him instead of staying with the narcissist
Because it’s not that easy where we live. It is a myth that children get to decide where they live once they’re a certain age. So what Ive done is bought a house in the neighborhood next to his mother. My house is walking distance from hers. He comes over here frequently.
If we wanted to change his primary residence, it requires a trip to court, we have to prove there’s a “material and substantial change” to our lives, and get the court’s permission to modify the decree. At that point, we go to mediation, which means nothing gets changed without her agreement on everything. Good luck getting her to give up child support - she cant afford her house without the child support, which means she would have to move. As vindictive as she is, she would move to the opposite corner of the county - something she’s already done once before.
And once we go through that entire circus, the result would STILL be shared custody, and she would STILL get him 50% of the time, so, the only real change for him would be different days for different homes, and a lot more bitterness swirling around in the adult realm of his life.
So, It is because big-picture-wise, it fails to improve his life. The only way it could improve his life is if she were do something so egregious the court decides to strip her of her custody rights, which can only happen in cases of clear and dangerous neglect and/or abuse, and at that point, he will have had to endure a higher level of abuse, so that’s also not good.
@@narcissistectomy5134 that's a shame, the courts put parental rights above the welfare of the child, in most cases it works but there's little consideration for cases with people like narcissists where the damage they do is often not physically seen, little consideration for mental and emotional abuse, I understand where you are coming from but he has you to keep him grounded so that is positive and if things get too difficult he can come see you
Children at a certain age CAN decide for themselves where they would rather live..
Do you have a way i can contact you
You seem very knowledgeable about narcissistic people and how to deal with them.
justleaveher@gmail.com
my ex drove a wedge between his bio child and his new supply's bio child that they got into an actual fist fight. and now he is no longer with the new supply...or, ex supply i suppose you would have to call her and she and her bio child are still divided because her bio child tried to show her the truth about him that she refused to see.
For a brief moment there weren’t you so glad you weren’t that other guy who is now the one who gets the car because she says so?
Let someone else drive Miss Daisy
more than a brief moment