172 [Healing Series] Estrangement Part 1

Pam Cordano, MFT returns to guide us through some thoughts on estrangement. Why does it ever get to the point that we’d consider going no-contact with our adoptive parents? Are adoptees just “too sensitive” and take everything personally? Even through challenging topics such as this one, Pam leads us with thoughtfulness, compassion, and helps us discover what’s most important.
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[@tusarita22]

So thankful for the internet right now. Having a really hard day going through my estrangement with my parents. I'm months in and it's extremely painful. Thank you so much for the content.

[@CoreyGoldwaves]

I REALLY needed this.

[@bored64]

thank you haley ! i am so so thankful for you & for pamela cordano (( & all other guests ))
i'm ALL over the place within this Realm of being relinquished ... & all of the psychic material it raises within.
that you have created this radio-space is so unbelievably useful. there are WAY TOO MANY words to describe how this ongoing magnus opus of yours that is continually expanding affects me in the most positive ways.
on this subject of estrangement ... i was in a psychotic state of mania in a state hospital when my dad died. .. so a psychiatrist ( that i didn't know ) was the messenger & all i could say was good ! good riddance ! ( & more that i will leave unsaid ) this was over a decade & a half ago. i can't believe i'm actually writing this online. my anger & grief etc are & were FAR more nuanced than this.

[@katebetancourtclc8527]

I am estranged from my Adoptive Mom and have limited contact with my Adoptive Dad. It was a good decision. I did it to save myself and my children.

[@Col-T-Invest]

I'm really happy for you. I am just initiating the process of estrangement from both adoptive parents at he moment. Still quite a new concept for me, but has been really helpful to connect with the experience of other adoptees. I actually made the decision to separate from them before having much awareness of how many other adoptees were doing this, so was amazing to find out how many of us were experiencing similar challenges. Now I'm more connected with the adoptee community I feel even more empowered and confident to work through this process in a healthy way.
Find it interesting you maintained contact with your adoptive dad. I have considered maintaining contact with my adoptive mom as i have always been closer to her. However, given they are both still together and close, I believe it will be easier to separate from both for at least a period of time. I think every situation is different and its helpful to take time to work through different choices to find the best overall solution. Anyway, appreciate your post, and wishing you all the best. .

[@lisawenzinger7866]

I'm an adoptive mom w an estranged daughter. This view is very hurtful. I'd help my daughter through any issues if she'd give a chance but this is so one sided. I'm not perfect but gee.. neither are these adoptees. It is an excuse to blame others instead of self. This fad of estrangement has gone epidemic