I don't believe the infant would've been to many Michelin star restaurants because many fine dining places don't serve kids under a certain age, let alone a baby
How on earth does the barely legal neice know what OP's wife did in college? That's just bizarre. Absolutely NTA in the restaurant story. I would be furious if I was enjoying an expensive dinner and a crying baby was there. OP did not suggest this place and is fine going elsewhere. SIL is so rude! She'd get along perfectly with the guy who ruined his long overdue date with his wife by bringing his baby neice along. Changed the baby on the table 🤮 and got kicked out
I relate so much to the story about the affair parents. Over a long period of time, my dad cheated on my mom multiple times with a family friend of ours for whom I babysat. They literally did the cheating on the same couch I sat on when I was babysitting her kids. This entire thing wrecked not only my mom but also me and my siblings, and after almost ten years, we are still struggling with many aftereffects. Years later after the first cheat, my dad had another affair with another woman with whom he now has two children. I have ever met these children or his new wife (honestly, I don't even know if they're married, I couldn't care less). My brother and sister do hang around with them, because they feel sorry for my dad's new children, but I just never felt the urge to meet them, especially not the woman with whom he cheated on my mom, I mean, fuck that. I'm not gonna play happy family with them. I personally also have experienced severe trust issues with my boyfriend because of my dad's actions. Now that I'm in a relationship myself with the most loving guy who would never do such a terrible thing, I still often still ask him whether he would and am very scared of it to the point where I sometimes am so scared when he leaves the house. People that cheat are absolutely the most selfish people and are devoid of sympathy in my opinion. So long story short, the person in the story is definitely NOT the asshole hah!
In the former bully story I didn't even think about that. You are who you associate with. If you think this guy is so bad, why is he your friend? I stopped thinking he told the girl in good faith and now think he wants to date her
"You exclude yourself" as they actively exclude him from the group chat. I hate it when people say shit like that or complain how people stay in their room all day. From my experience, I only ever hear this stuff from the people who do the excluding and want to off load the responsibility of their actions onto the victim (Not saying that this is the only scenario this happens). People tend to isolate themselves after repeated events and trauma like this. I stay in my room all the time, people made fun of me for being so negative, I heard all of this stuff before. But I also have people say I'm such a fun person to be around and I always make them feel better. And when I look back on who told me what, the people who called me negative and what not, were the bullies that excluded me. So yea...they're the asshole.
I love all your takes in this and all the other reddit videos. You put your thoughts to words so well and are able to give very nuanced takes seemingly off the top of your head (since it seems like you're reacting in real time as you read the stories). I always love watching your content on this and your other channel because of how confident/charismatic/concise you are when speaking while also allowing your personality to shine through. Keep up the fantastic work 💖
Every adoptees experience is different. It sucks the aunt regrets it, but I would be like OP, I would have zero interest in finding my birth family. 15 YO story NuWife 1000% wants free babysitting. OP doesn't like any of them and she was around this child knowing she was having an affair with his father. They deserve each other they are both horrible. Your take on that last story is so good. Not everyone is extroverted. Siblings especially should be a safe space and not treat you like garbage cuz you need alone time
7:15 this one is a hard one, i completely agree that the OP did the right thing, but i also can empathise that regardless of money being paid, if she feels there is a lack of emotional care then that can be v difficult, still no excuse tho
Let me just say I love these!! ❤❤❤❤ I LOVE A PODCAST (aka S.O telling a story tht i can just listen to & don't have to watch. I've never actually listened to a podcast 😂😂) ( I'm 42 so i don't know the lingo) BUT I USUALLY LISTEN TO TRUE CRIME OR SCARY STORIES.. but sometimes I just want a little juicy gossip about AITA. 😂 I can't find many TH-camrs who do the stories and do them well.. PLZ KEEP IT UP SIS!!!
Yes you are being a the A for asking your SIL to leave her baby behind. You have the right to not go with her, you also have the right to say something to her if you feel this strong about it but ultimately that is her business and the restaurants business.
I get where you're coming from since I can see why the SIL doesn't want to leave her baby from a parental perspective but as Isabella said, fine dining experiences are not the place for young kids. The OP also mentioned in the post he'd be willing to go to a different restaurant if the SIL doesn't want to leave her baby with a sitter so I can't see how the OP would be the asshole in that situation when he is willing to compromise to accommodate the situation.
Not the A! It’s a fine dining restaurant!!! People are paying for the experience and they don’t want to hear an annoying child crying. It’s different than a family restaurant
No. Babies don’t belong in fine dining restaurants. They can disrupt the other guests who are paying a lot to be there. The OP said they were fine with going to a more family friendly restaurant with the baby. They’re in no way the AH. The SIL is.
Babies/children are humans too and deserve to take up space just as much as anyone. If being around them makes you uncomfortable, YOU don’t have to go out to public places.
if an adult was making noise and being obnoxious like kids tend to do, they also would not be welcome in a fine dining restaurant. Kids are not automatically entitled to go anywhere... no one is
I don't believe the infant would've been to many Michelin star restaurants because many fine dining places don't serve kids under a certain age, let alone a baby
How on earth does the barely legal neice know what OP's wife did in college? That's just bizarre.
Absolutely NTA in the restaurant story. I would be furious if I was enjoying an expensive dinner and a crying baby was there. OP did not suggest this place and is fine going elsewhere. SIL is so rude! She'd get along perfectly with the guy who ruined his long overdue date with his wife by bringing his baby neice along. Changed the baby on the table 🤮 and got kicked out
I relate so much to the story about the affair parents. Over a long period of time, my dad cheated on my mom multiple times with a family friend of ours for whom I babysat. They literally did the cheating on the same couch I sat on when I was babysitting her kids. This entire thing wrecked not only my mom but also me and my siblings, and after almost ten years, we are still struggling with many aftereffects. Years later after the first cheat, my dad had another affair with another woman with whom he now has two children. I have ever met these children or his new wife (honestly, I don't even know if they're married, I couldn't care less). My brother and sister do hang around with them, because they feel sorry for my dad's new children, but I just never felt the urge to meet them, especially not the woman with whom he cheated on my mom, I mean, fuck that. I'm not gonna play happy family with them. I personally also have experienced severe trust issues with my boyfriend because of my dad's actions. Now that I'm in a relationship myself with the most loving guy who would never do such a terrible thing, I still often still ask him whether he would and am very scared of it to the point where I sometimes am so scared when he leaves the house. People that cheat are absolutely the most selfish people and are devoid of sympathy in my opinion. So long story short, the person in the story is definitely NOT the asshole hah!
In the former bully story I didn't even think about that. You are who you associate with. If you think this guy is so bad, why is he your friend? I stopped thinking he told the girl in good faith and now think he wants to date her
I think she still doesn't like the girlfriend and wants to break them up.
"You exclude yourself" as they actively exclude him from the group chat. I hate it when people say shit like that or complain how people stay in their room all day. From my experience, I only ever hear this stuff from the people who do the excluding and want to off load the responsibility of their actions onto the victim (Not saying that this is the only scenario this happens). People tend to isolate themselves after repeated events and trauma like this.
I stay in my room all the time, people made fun of me for being so negative, I heard all of this stuff before. But I also have people say I'm such a fun person to be around and I always make them feel better. And when I look back on who told me what, the people who called me negative and what not, were the bullies that excluded me. So yea...they're the asshole.
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definitely getting more common but growing up everyone thought my name was crazy and so different
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I love all your takes in this and all the other reddit videos. You put your thoughts to words so well and are able to give very nuanced takes seemingly off the top of your head (since it seems like you're reacting in real time as you read the stories). I always love watching your content on this and your other channel because of how confident/charismatic/concise you are when speaking while also allowing your personality to shine through.
Keep up the fantastic work 💖
Every adoptees experience is different. It sucks the aunt regrets it, but I would be like OP, I would have zero interest in finding my birth family.
15 YO story NuWife 1000% wants free babysitting. OP doesn't like any of them and she was around this child knowing she was having an affair with his father. They deserve each other they are both horrible.
Your take on that last story is so good. Not everyone is extroverted. Siblings especially should be a safe space and not treat you like garbage cuz you need alone time
what iffff the aunt in the adoption story is the op's bio parent? and they are trying to get them to find out
Super excited for this episode!
Yassss🥰 I look forward to these!❤🥳💃🏼
7:15 this one is a hard one, i completely agree that the OP did the right thing, but i also can empathise that regardless of money being paid, if she feels there is a lack of emotional care then that can be v difficult, still no excuse tho
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Let me just say I love these!! ❤❤❤❤ I LOVE A PODCAST (aka S.O telling a story tht i can just listen to & don't have to watch. I've never actually listened to a podcast 😂😂) ( I'm 42 so i don't know the lingo) BUT I USUALLY LISTEN TO TRUE CRIME OR SCARY STORIES.. but sometimes I just want a little juicy gossip about AITA. 😂 I can't find many TH-camrs who do the stories and do them well.. PLZ KEEP IT UP SIS!!!
Can you check the stories you read to see if they have updates or added context in the comments
Yes you are being a the A for asking your SIL to leave her baby behind. You have the right to not go with her, you also have the right to say something to her if you feel this strong about it but ultimately that is her business and the restaurants business.
I get where you're coming from since I can see why the SIL doesn't want to leave her baby from a parental perspective but as Isabella said, fine dining experiences are not the place for young kids. The OP also mentioned in the post he'd be willing to go to a different restaurant if the SIL doesn't want to leave her baby with a sitter so I can't see how the OP would be the asshole in that situation when he is willing to compromise to accommodate the situation.
Not the A! It’s a fine dining restaurant!!! People are paying for the experience and they don’t want to hear an annoying child crying. It’s different than a family restaurant
No. Babies don’t belong in fine dining restaurants. They can disrupt the other guests who are paying a lot to be there. The OP said they were fine with going to a more family friendly restaurant with the baby. They’re in no way the AH. The SIL is.
Babies/children are humans too and deserve to take up space just as much as anyone. If being around them makes you uncomfortable, YOU don’t have to go out to public places.
if an adult was making noise and being obnoxious like kids tend to do, they also would not be welcome in a fine dining restaurant. Kids are not automatically entitled to go anywhere... no one is
Yea no
Are you being serious? What a bizarre take