The INFJs ability to zoom out and always consider the big picture and introspective nature helps them understand concepts about humanity as a whole which I believe make it easier to lean into spirituality since it’s all about collective consciousness
It's a daily struggle to decide whether or not to be good or bad, because it is a choice. What aligns with my soul an what feeds the primal aspects of being "bad" as a sense of power or the relief to not care anymore an shut out.
It's like watching me as a male and at 50. Dude... am home. This...you are so INFJ... AM GLAD I FOUND MY EXACT KIND. INFJ is exhausting ... if only all knew
exaclty I felt the same way I got chills i felt like I was watching my own brain. His videos really have helped me find out that I am an INFJ it was so close to almost every detail and mannerism.
As a female INFJ I definitely can relate on so many levels. So refreshing to have someone like you authentic and raw👏🏽. So many times we get court up with helping people like Dorothy off the wizard of oz and all we ever wanted was to go home and relax and detox from the world. But nooo someone always needs us. Some for blessings and some for lessons 🤭😁😂
I have never watched you before, but I got to your question: 'Why do I CARE?" I answered it for you, "Because I am an INFJ." and then you said it. I had to laugh.
As an INFJ, I absolutely loved watching this. It was quite therapeutic and relieving watching you get triggered and easily calm. As a fellow teacher, I absolutely relate to not leaving one heart or mind behind -- we all matter! It just requires a time and patience to create lasting understanding. Thank you for making these!
My analogy being an INFJ (level of thought wise) is that I am a deep-ocean fish, such as an anglerfish, while it feels like everyone around me are reef fish, or open-ocean cruisers. Listening to you talk about the level of darkness you got to, and what it took to get somewhere brighter made perfect sense, as does the need to give context to the person. I also understood from a recent video of the invisible lack/loss of trust that it can become necessary to do so to feel genuine.
I've lost my way in all his videos, I've watched certain parts of different videos ten times, others just once, and I may have definitely missed something all together!! Where is the invisible lack/loss of trust video?? I can't remember that part and it's incredibly interesting to me.
I totally agree that the Cluster B, BP and MNP are the most important aspects of the human individuals to figure out for an INFJ. I agree with your introduction of malignancy as essential to view the whole spectrum of personality traits and get a hold of oneself and finally grow like never before as an INFJ.
Loved this video!!! Such honest communication!!! I'm jealous/in awe... one day i hope to be so 'open' with my feelings... i'm in my early 60's ... trust is something that i am learning... 2 steps forward and 1 backwards.... mostly i have started trusting myself and that is slowly starting to expand to include some/ more others!!! I agree... no point in talking about where you are now if we don't know where you have been!!! It leads to better understanding/ being able to trust.. in what you say and your authenticity. Loving the channel. Thankyou for all you do for all of us infj's.
Entire body vibrating with recognition and relief that I cannot watch but a couple minutes of this at a time. Yeah, now the tears...gulping that there is such a planet as INFJ and that I am hearing someone else from there describe home.
Really great videos.. Its damn hard being an INFJ and even harder to make people understand what you are and why you do what you do. I dont know why but I really feel we are magnets for M.N.P.s somehow... In one of your videos you told about your ex wife where she told u get a job and u told her that u will work so much better than ur superior that they will get threatened and ploy to fire you or make your life hell. I can serious relate to that. It has happened with me a couple of times. For us INFJs its really really dark before light. Thats our fodder for success, for becoming who we are. Really awesome content. Its good to finally find someone who actually does not sugar coat the INFJ personality.
This is not easy for people to see and feel since it is failure but to the INFJ it is called the path toward success: For us INFJs its really really dark before light." Well said. TYWC - Marty
We are magnets! There are some great videos about the human magnet syndrome! I've been thinking about making videos about this subject, and how we are evolving to learn how to make this magnetism an advantage instead of how it has so often been harmful in the past. Boundaries, compassionate communication, and looking at most people, as very hurt 3 or olds, even MNPs. You wouldnt argue with a 3 yrs old, there's no point. You would put them in time out, or somewhere safe if they continued to bully others tho. I have hope that everyone is on a path to healing. The website Pete-Walker.com gave me alot of hope, and insight, into what creates Narcs, and other coping mechanisms
The build-up on the journey to the destination end of the video was well worth it. I was thinking about getting my PhD in Psychology... For the same reasons, to understand. Buuuuut, i gotta say it makes so much more sense to just focus on the important ones for us to know and that's it. You've saved me years from getting a degree 🤙. Now I can harness these INFJ powers in more useful and applicable ways in a more timely organized way. Can't wait to see what your other videos have in store. I'm so happy to have found this and the comment section itself it so invigorating to see, too!
BOOM 💯💫 No I do not trust you because I know you. I just got here. What you state is clear in my inner knowing, because it is what has caused so much unhealthy pain in my heart... knowing something is off and wrong with someone else but insisting STILL to go in and "support/save" them. Afterwards, when the storm subsides and the wreckage is visible (and yes I use the dark as freely as you do since my early teens, even when I express burn it all... I am not filled with any hate or darkness -- though I havevbeen ANGRY)... Fact is, the wreckage inspection showed me who these people really were, and I def must learn this as part of my next season. So I protect my heart.
So interesting how I to within my videos...I am seen as angry or unhealthy or ? When it is just passion and strong boundaries. Well sometimes I am mad for sure. ;) TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn people see from their own perspective, and they also assess from their own viewpoint. So when you are seen a certain way by another... it really isn't your domain to begin with. Their perception comes from inside them. I say this, I know this intellectually, the art we are learning this life around is... to practice it when faced with external views by others. In general, I do believe INFJ feels "neautral"... Even with all the times I have felt suicidal or rage or depression... they don't surpass the percentage of time I think, not feel... and observe, not absorb. Thoughts are neutral until we attribute meaning to them... interpret. So... yeah 🤷🏻♀️ it's easy to write this neutrally... But how you are "seen" isn't really your business... just always be your best YOU.
@@marty_glenn also on my channel I have had the same problem, people who just waltz in and state you angry, you resentful, you bla bla bla... I have a different approach, although I also answered their comments in my next videos... such comments get removed. In my case this is because I already endured enough verbal abuse and verbal attacks in my life to be allowing it in. But my videos are of a whole other nature/topic. I just find it so curious that you would be doing a similar thing: basically conversing with the opposing hecklers... I chose to shift the direction because I started to feel like the people who felt helped or supported and said so were not getting my attention and you know what? I choose to honor them. That is just me.
You could be right about the darkness and the INFJ experience. I have experience with all the areas pointed out. The darkness is beyond everyone’s understanding and the others usually tell me they would have killed themselves or why didn’t I kill myself before they then see me or describe my being as an angel or such. Trusting the self is at the heart of it. Becoming your own best friend actively everyday knowing your love of life and self. I made a beautiful bracelet out of elk leather and beads which took over 4 weeks working 12-15 hours /day. I gave this one to myself when I married myself. I wear it daily as a reminder of the trust and love I embody in all that I do everyday. All that we do everyday of our lives is out of this love. The pain and all the darkness we witness everyday is great and overwhelming though our love and dedication to life is greater. We make a difference in all that we touch. Authenticity, dark to light, I do it the same way. From doctor to healer, a different kind of way that works every time. To know, understand and have compassion is the way. The wild way, I don’t control my hair either, it doesn’t matter. Don’t try to straighten up for others, anymore. Don’t have too.
Yes, everything wow, I even enjoy his intense expression where you can feel how deeply sincere and real to the core as anyone could ever be in every mention of every word, I so freaking relate and can even see myself explaining things precisely in this way, using diagrams pointing with absolute certainty and undeniable truth that is so precise and so clear to anyone with half a sound mind With only one percent amount of common sense stored in the memory bank of anyone watching would know could easily conclude that even the very fact I’m having to explain excruciatingly irritating and I have zero will left in me to go over again, so just to be sure the message really drives it all home. I’ll even go the extra mile and pronounce syllable and a slower tone just so audiences will know my intentions That if we have to go over this one more time, there will be no more talking, but there will be adverse action that would prove to be very unpleasant for them!! oh my God this is so damn refreshing to know I’m not alone in the quantum realm of “what the fuck” that is my entire existence! I can relate to almost every single thing man it’s crazy. It’s like where the fuck did I get lost in the cosmos and crash land here on this fucked up planet it’s like 👉😫✨💨
Holy crap! THANK YOU! My closest, very beloved INFP kept telling me I needed to forgive. I hated that advice and I LOVE your advice! Your advice feels correct. I don’t WANT to forgive because if the tables are ever turned and I ever do something that’s too far across someone else’s line, I would NOT simply be worthy of their forgiveness, nor would I expect it. It would be MY cross to bear, unless I busted my arse and genuinely EARNED that person’s forgiveness. Almost no person will ever try to earn the forgiveness of those they’ve violated. It’s one of the things I dislike most about the current human condition. That’s how MY heart and mind works. So, once again, THANK YOU.
I get both of you... my sense is that you are speaking from different places, but both of you are speaking as a speaker, or advisor. I think that stirs up a silent vibe of competition which can feel like conflict, something I can't stand, and ... INFJ trait wanting justice, clarity - hence "spinning," an experience I know too well also. TY Marty & Jerry E.
Psychology...Brene Browns research....Vulnerability is required before Trust can take shape. So you sharing your dark times and being vulnerable = the trust you are shooting for, BOOM! You are rocking it, Marty!
It is crazy you are the only person who can really make me laugh and I relate to everything you say and the way you say it. I too was abused by my stepdad and till this day I think of hurting him and I try to tell myself to forgive forget but then I am like f*ck I am not forgiving this man I don't have to but then I will switch later on. Also thank you for the note to self-recognize I will use that to stop myself when my mood shifts. One more thing I was also getting triggered to understanding it from your point. This really resonated with me. Thank you
Hi Marty, it is really frustrating when people would not understand you but I have learnt from my experience that other personality will never understand INFJ because we are so different and always in our heads, more than in the real world. Watching your videos is really relaxing. By the way, msg in this video is absolutely right and vital for our mental health.
I've stumbled on to your channel by sheer accident about a week ago and holy cow every video resonates deeply with me. About 3 years back I had an emotionally catastrophic breakup and it made me obsessed with what was wrong with me. I got blamed for things, gaslit, told I was an extreme psychopathic narcissistic monster. I believed it at the time but as I've come out of isolation and got input from other people and really dug deep into my own head, yeah I'm an INFJ. Full blown. My life has been a complete nightmare... in my own head. I love how real you are, so many INFJ videos are trash. Wankfests (for a lack of a better term) on how special, unique, and blessed they are. I've met a lot of people professing to be them. They are awkward socially, but like people, are highly emotional, wear weird clothes, blah blah blah. I call BS on that. It suuuuucks so bad. I've spent 3 years working on figuring out this brain minefield and I've finally started embracing it this last year. It's miserable and awful but at least I'm aware of it now. By the time I discovered your channel, most of your videos are confirming what I've come to know already but it's comforting knowing I'm not alone. I'm 34 but most of my years I was alone, in a fog, lost, terrified of everyone. I thought something was horribly wrong with me, maybe I was an alien, maybe I was possessed or had my soul devoured by demons? I had no answer other than just isolate, avoid everyone, especially very emotionally charged people. I just really appreciate how raw and brutal your videos are. It's real and honest and I really really appreciate it. Thanks!
You are welcome and please loo at the Mental health videos and I think they can also clear something up on the abuse of gas lighting and all that. For the INFJ that is very bad news and I am speaking from experience. I have been there. TYWC - Marty
I hadn't seen this video. Honestly, thank you for helping me make sense of my own INFJness. There has been so much challenging me and finally clearing it up by your articulation is a huge relief for me. You guided me understand what all this in my head is. I am nothing but grateful and humbled. You are doing more than you know. Big hug Marty!
It's important to make the videos you make!! I am totally captivated and your videos brought me to the light. It's like a hand holding mine through the infj perils to realize it's all part of the process. You have given hope with all your experiences. If I saw you walk by me, or listened to you talk ordering a coffee i would have never guessed you went through anything like you have. If you can emerge victorious....I can to...thank you friend VINDICATED
Even people who have known me for 30 plus years are amazed, if they watch my videos. You would think it would make them feel closer or better with me but in fact it makes, sometimes, them feel even more distant. We are all unique and have many secrets and skeletons. But I guess My story, as you say, is just a little different. Thank you for the supportive and kind words. TYWC - Marty
You're the most frankly INFJ i ever know in the public(such as a content)so far, even we're had age gap i still get it bcs we're INFJ(right?)😂 and u done pretty good job to describe how our feeling, how we work into a word that sometimes i struggle with(idk if this just bcs i still too young or whatever). Thank u so much to sharing this video btw 👍
Hi Rania. So my content is spot on you think for the INFJ personality type? Well that is great. Age gap does not matter except for experience. The feelings I think will be the same and the struggles will be the same. I am always doing my best. Thank You for Watching and the Comment. (TYWC) - Marty
Keep up the good work! This is the stuff INFJs have been needing to hear. Im noticing people who get triggered or question our process are actually not INFJ. And I hate to be the captain of whats obvious, but im going to assume you are trying to reach INFJ who are lost and need guidance. So you need to reveal the process and the cold hard painful truth of what we have and have to experience. I know you know this 🤦♀️ of course. That was for Jerry E or anyone else who feels and thinks the way he does. I personally have felt ashamed that I have needed to dip into the dark, in the past, bc society told me this was bad, that this path was wrong, shameful. No, the bad and the wrong in any of this is that I would share it with idiots that wouldn't understand. I just recently realized that life is like a math problem, why do you care how I get to the answer as long as I finally get to the answer. If you ask me how I get there and you start to disagree with my process, then I'm done. Walk away. And let them come back to me when they are emotionally or mentally ready to hear me. Otherwise, I am wasting both of our times. Sadly I still fall for it, but get better every day 😁
It is the light before the dark and Jerry E gets that and so do many others as well as myself. Do we really need to talk about what is going right? There are plenty of channels that do that and they have 10x's the views and the subs. I wonder why that is? ;) TYWC - Marty
Marty, I have to say, you have become one of my favorite youtuber / personalities. Someone I can relate to, and has helped guide me in many ways. I just wanted to say I appreciate you, and the effort you're putting forward to make these videos.
.. I do wish you had finished with what specifically becoming an expert on cluster B means or what value is given to the INFJ for having that expertise. I do see some hints to that from the couple videos I’ve watched not knowing what “cluster B” was yet since I hadn’t gone to google it yet. Maybe I’ll stumble upon a video where you deep dive on that soon. Love your videos and realness. I prefer authenticity to acting like we don’t have dark or go dark.
In my case I was born in the light. Sadly to say as an adult. I’ve had to and also willingly taken small vacations in the dark knowing that it was trouble. Because people don’t realize how lonely the light is. Especially when you have no light allies there with you. Your alone in the world and everybody around you is hungry. 😕
Marty you are so friggin right on. All of your videos fit me like a customized glove. I've been seeing a shrink for 3 years and you provided the information I needed to put 2+2 together. Thank you...
You're a true INFJ. I'm the same and this content fully resonates. & btw, 😊 I dont think your hair is crazy. It's a contradiction to your passion & grace. Best to you..☀️
The most dangerous people to INFJ's are narcissists/Cluster B's, especially family. I wish there was a course in high school on this. I'm almost 50 myself, and I just started learning this first hand in the past 2 years. I'm gonna say I guess I've been pretty blessed, comparatively. Managed to instinctively push people away who I got on my radar, including family. One always slips through though. The financial hit has been exhausting. God I hate Narcs. This video is absolutely, unequivocably, 100% correct.
Narc cult family, flying monkeys... I broke down at 29, because I could no longer play along. I had no clue what the problem was per se. But am I glad I cut off so many ties.
Your comment I relate to 1000%, thank you for reminding me I am not alone. I also wish I had learned this much earlier and completely understand you on the family & financial. May we win the lottery lol
Thank you for that advice! Most of your videos is what I'm going through rn. I'm a young INFJ-T who are under recovery from anxiety. Your vids helps me to accept, understand and survive for what I was and who I am. It was never too easy but atleast I am surviving.
Great. TYWC - Marty From your other comment: "Very good. I am not sure about the academic you are speaking with but your comments are very positive and no matter what: That is awesome. TYWC - Marty"
@@marty_glenn Hehehe, I post something about this one. It was really funny having loops around your head but when you survived on that part. You will be laughing while recalling those things and its an achievement that you won the loop. 😅✊🏻
Just keep it positive and dig deep and maybe just maybe limit SSSniperWolf LOL You know I watched her when she had under 1M subscribers. She is entertaining for sure but I only watched maybe 2 - 3 videos way back when. - Marty
It's funny down here in my dark place bpd was the first thing i found when i was looking for answers. Infj came to my attention later but you made me believe in my abilities more than anything. Time is slow though.
Very nice compliment. Thank you. Not sure it fits 100% but this I can tell you: You will be hard pressed to find another channel that digs deeper or is more transparent. You know as I wrote that I know it’s true and so sad that it is. Thank you again. At least I know why I am single and full of “Fuck You”. So my life goes. I’ll see my mom on Sunday and Tuesday for her Birthday and with that said, “ Happiest I have ever been”. My life. Lol TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn I'll be 44 in January. I'm just figuring things out that make some sense. I think that's why I was brought to your channel. I'm staying. Ha! You're awesomely sarcastic & funny as hell. Deep, too; like me. I'm diggin it! 😎 Instead of my nightly podcast, I'm catching up on your videos. Thank you!
This is insane, I’m an INFJ and I’ve taken a liking to Dr.Ramani on TH-cam she is an expert on narcissistic personality but also talks about other personality disorders.Somehow intuitively I felt the need to study up and intrigue on this subject!!
This is insane...in a good way or bad? Well, I do not have a single ounce of respect for Dr. Ramani. Did you know that she was on Wall Street and then decided to become a therapist. I am not saying that is a bad path. Not at all. The issue is when you combine that path with what she does and what she says. This will help: th-cam.com/play/PLWwz-SEwaeuTsGFXREgNRHeAV5evtB1zf.html My play list on what she covers. TYWC - Marty
I will take that advice thank you. I've suffered alot with narcs and toxic family, of course I'm the scapegoat 😂😂😂but it is what it is! I will look into these other mind states as well!
Marty thanks for sharing, the relateability is pretty strong for me and is helping me feel less alone. I dont think Jerry's comment was as pointed as it may have seemed, but I do think you've been persecuted to be like everyone else and fall in line to have a positive mentality all the time...if you're anything like me Haha. I think it's a gift to have the courage to be so honest and if other people cant handle it than they dont know how to wield a knife in a paper world. Wishing you a good one man hope you make more content soon.
Thank you for sharing all the info....I AM searching myself, I’ve suffered emotionally all my life. (Im 48 years old).Cant take anymore bullshit of doctors/psychiatrists. No one gets me!!!Lately, I’ve been reading, listening for signs/ clues. This video helps.
You are welcome and good for you. Just an FYI - My therapist who I spent 3 years with hung up on me. That was the last time I spoke to her. You should dive into my earlier videos. You do not need those academics unless you need a script. You need to work on your inner self and dive deep. I think you would be the happiest ever and very quickly. TYWC - Marty
Marty Glenn thank you Marty( watched other videos and wouldn’t wanna be rude to not call you Marty.....your name is Marty...got it!) so....thank you MARTY😁....my name is really Marie-Lou. I....am a true person😊 I will take your advice
Wow, no one wants to go through the process of establishing trust. I understand what it feels like to over share, and it is like there is build up when someone asks a question and it floods out. You want to be understood that much. You want to help that much. It can be a world of trouble without boundaries or knowing who is worth your time to share with. Most people do not want to go into a in depth conversation. Explaining your thought processes helps someone understand how you came to your conclusion, and people do not take that kind of time or want to know or do not understand how to backtrack their thoughts in that kind of way. To me I have to agree with how you got to there for trust, it has to be logical and make sense for trust to happen explaining alone doesn't build trust. People also think this explaining is egotistical, but it is deductive reasoning and we want that back so we understand others. This doesn't always happen the way we want or the people we want it with. Thx for putting yourself out there!
Mind you- I just started watching you so I’m digging into my experiences. You care because someone misjudged your character. Every thing you suffered and you still want to save the world from suffering. If you were not a true infj You would have become a narcissist for the childhood suffering and never broke the generational pattens of abuse. Applause use for that. People pleasers are the mirror of narcissists, just as manipulating for their own survival. Heal to go from dark to light. I think about 50 years old w/o help like these videos is a marker for a infj to to be a professional at it. What about the dark and light experience simultaneously? Going to watch that video now. I think it’s possible narcissistic neglect and abuse mixed with a wonderful happy relationship with say another parent or an incredibly special animal that you trust (a hero) is what is the different between a narc cluster b etc. and the codependent or healthy infj Forgiveness of abusers is important, but only after you have dissected them enough to feel sorry for them because of what you find there. I know that painful root of JUDGEMENT is ON TOP OF A DEEP PAIN OR WRONG like a trash can lid, a tombstone or better yet monolith. It’s been judged! How do we forgive what has been righteously judge in order to be happy when judgement is who we are and what saved us from becoming a narcissist ourselves? Well, digging up the dead as many times as you need to re judge and judge again and finally you’ve figured them out to know that how they became the monster they are was maybe even worse than your experience and they did not have the mental tools of an infj to be their own comfort and healer. There really is a possibility to forgive but it does involves healing and no contact learning everything you need to know about the narcissist, cluster b etc I order to build your own safety in the world. If you don’t have that safety of knowing your enemy and recognizing them you can not forgive. You are still unsafe because they are still threatening you. They always spot you first. You need to be able to recognize them and have your wooden stake on you always. Buffy the vampire slayer, killing the monsters but still eh be sleeping with a few. They want us, we fall for some... but Hey Buffy, those guys are still monsters, it’s not love -they desperately need your light for a spot of peace. Be aware of wolves I sheep’s clothing, wise as serpents but gentle as doves 🕊. But keep your silver bullets and wooden stakes in your pocket... Jesus was all about infjs and His mysteries to unravel are things of the Christian Mystic. Look at Einstein’s views on religion. Googled: Soul comes from the Greek word Psyche. Hmm
I think I already mentioned this but if not... Interesting comment and its ending. Maybe up and coming videos will touch on these important topics. My playlist on mental health is one I think you will enjoy. TYWC - Marty
So true so me all my life. We have to address BS fluff and the deeper darkness all the hurts all the root causes to get to the fulfillment and the light and the happiness. Like i get how you read so much behind Jerry's comment. He gives a one liner you read the depth behind his words and the analysis that went into your comment. I don't even know if he will fully appreciate it but i did it explained so much about how i think. Thank you another explanation of my own mind i appreciate it.
Wow. Really? I wold never have thought about my voice in that way but I think I have received that compliment a couple of other times. Thank you. TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn i love voices and as a vocal coach used to be i think im just prone to appreciating it and i am sensitive to sound. So i have binged your videos all day and your voice helps so much. I have a question though could you sometime make a video that goes in on calming the hyperanalysis of an infj mind and how to get to the nothingness happiness when an infj mind goes into overthink mode? If you have time and it makes sense to do it?
I’ve been in and out of relationships with cluster B personalities. I did become an expert, after 5 times through the ringer.. Wish I would have had this advice when I was young. The only problem is that they are the only people who generally want to be in relationships with me. I’m too much for normal people to handle..
😂😂😂😂😂 I loved this video and your explanation. Love people who know and have an understanding maybe even mastery of their darkness. Ah! Thank you for the recommendation on things to learn about. I’m obsessed with personality. Inspiring!
Takes an open mind and trust me being this honest and open and created some serious issues for me but that is just life. Thank you for the compliment and watching. I appreciate it and hope it is worthy of the time you spent and beyond. ;)
And this is the thing, people who you choose to help or empower by sharing any dark chapters to show them how and empower or inspire... Often, not all. Will think you just want them to feel for you, see your problem, or help you. Frustrated me to no end in the past with friends I was always listening to and hoping to nudge them into their own solution, cause it was RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF THEM. But, didn't seem possible to reach them so finally I gave up. But this is how I communicate. If I do not explain with a life example something I know first hand, my point is moot in my book. Theoretical, just ignore it. If you need input from me, I will share examples. Been working on curbing that, but it's not nature and it's also not workable for me or how I process the world.
I don't normally comment and I feel I need to say that as a warning. I find you hilarious and I don't know if you intended to be that way. I often find things funny and then people don't mean them to be funny. So I will apologize if that is what is happening now. But I do think you are intentionally being funny which is why I'm taking the risk to comment. Because a laugh so hard almost peed my pants and that's a compliment at how funny you were being. I rarely find people that funny and I've never found someone who can explain things like you can, that's also a compliment. Please don't feel the need to comment back, I probably wouldn't respond. nothing against you I just don't like talking to people I've very strong boundaries against it. I don't like to develop the friendship thing that you've talked about in another one of your videos that was also funny and informational. Thanks for making your videos. This seemef awkward for me I don't think I'll do this again.
You are so best at getting my life! I need you to do this for all infj to understand. I am dark, i move on IF i ger the answer. Like whats the meaning of life i asked myself at age 8 in my head (Sophies secret world) arter like a year i got it!! The meaning of life is to wunder about it lol! Of i got the anser i Move on! Jerry E haha i love how defensive this is in a bissare way that i love! Please tell me all day how dark shit is and then shine abut the sun outside. OUR RIGHT TO EXPRESS ALL EMOTIONS FOR ONCE.
It seems like he’s describing his INFJ journey. Went from bark to the light. I understand what “ the light “ is and means. But I had to learn the hard way. To turn it off like a light switch when you leave a room. I had to stop people pleasing. Because most people are never happy. They just want more and more.🙂
Marty it would be awesome to sit down with you and have some intellectual conversation. West lake village is such a good area I’m sure you are loving it. Goodluck on the channel
I’m an INFJ - I wanted to ask you a question on How do you deal with being in a room of people and where to look without getting anxious & hearing everyone’s comments but your own….
Infj here..This is what happens to me when in a room of people. My bf is extroverted so he'll start conversations. I'm already anxious. I immediately and on auto repeat think to myself, ".ok..just add one thing to say..god, say something at least..." I'll inevitably say something awkward. Then, I nod a few times. Then, I give up and hide in the bathroom, or walk outside, or find a pet. This repeats until I can leave. Fun times..yup.
It is like math....teachers want the simplified answer, but you only get half credit if they do not see the work. Most people do the work in their head and it is hard to map it back out that brain function. Half credit is good enough. We map out things and can explain them, most people are at a loss at this ability or do not want to take the time. I believe you have to understand how to use this skill and with people who appreciate it.
Oh then I think this is what you want to know: " If I do not want to do it will not. If I hate the topic, I will not study it." I don't like math and I certainly do give a shit when a plane leaves with another plane who is traveling at a different speed and which plain is going to land first given distance and wind resistance. They will land when they do and I hope safely. Other than that? I could care less. LOL ;) TYWC - Marty
OMG 😀😀😀😀😀 exactlyyyy... That is my entire problem with my bf that i dont know how to explain it to him.... But i thank you so so so much for this delicate and deep and important move❤❤❤i am so amazed and so sad that i cant talk to you in face😢🌹
I don'"t forgive people either. People always tell me that bullshit. I always reply: I think if you forgive someone who never apologized to you, you are actually betraying yourself.
Sorry to all the "non-INFJ's", that made perfect sense. Why else would you talk of the dark stuff? And yes that is indeed what you must do.... Heed this young extroverted feelers, as thoroughly and promptly as possible. Unfortunately it took me many many moons. Because, as luck would have it, I was born to a "Covert Narcissist" mother that had a marked interest in my not developing an interest in this way. She was not BPD, not malignant narcissist, something morbidly in between, but akin to both. All the actions of a borderline, but with the awareness and intent of a malignant narcissist. I never broke from the cycle of trying to fix my mothers issues in all of the like women I could "get close to".... yeah right! How naive/arrogant I have been most of my life.... Why would they try to "fix" what they see as their superpower over the dummies. If only I had've developed a healthy level of self interest a lot earlier in life, I may have avoided some of the torture from those I chose to have in my life....
Well said but please do not discount the Borderline Female with the Malignant Narcissistic Wrapper. It is a unique female to encounter and very devastating to the people around no matter the MBTI type. TYWC - Marty
What are some things I can do to aid in wrapping my head around the fact the no matter how much I show that even I've never shown a reason to trust me but absolutely no reason to not trust me, that others cant see that? I've tried multiple ways to word this hoping you understand. I'm finding it very difficult to walk away from someone I know to be rational and intelligent but because life jaded him is unable to see that difference, no reason to trust but no reason not to. 5 years of personally witnessing me be emotional but always focused on helping my inner circle, why cant people shift their mindset. I get becoming an expert in the things you said but I'm having a hard time creating boundaries or letting go of my stupid hope
My pleasure. I am in the middle of a couple of tasks (keeping me away from recording) but normally I upload daily. I try to at least do 3-5 a week. I have too much content and each day new ideas come to me but I do not want to just toss things up either. I do it for me but there is always a creator responsibility angle to it as well. Delicate balance. Appreciate the comments.
Marty Glenn We are the same age and look similar. You even talk like me. You hinted upon INFJ intelligence. We are incredibly smart but we mostly are not arrogant about it. I don’t think, we have better brains in general, but rather that the unique way we see the world allows us to skip all the nonsense that the other types mentally struggle. It is Ironic that about half the personality types think we INFJs are morons. We do struggle with that much, when we are younger.
Yes. you are right and can you imagine being called ' Stupid Kid ' by a malignant narcissist (my step father) from the age of 7 - 15? What a childhood I had and what an unfortunate event for me and what is more tragic is that I did not know what foundation I stood on as it relates to who I am until 48 years old.
Marty Glenn I was severely mentally and physically abused by a narcissist ISTP father. I would ask him questions such as is this “real” because life feels like I’m dreaming. He’d punch me in the face and tell me I’m an idiot. I left home at 17. I’ve had a shit life, but now that I understand, I’ve never been happier. Sounds like we both are figuring things out at the same time in life. Peace to you brother.
If you have the time, go back to the beginning of my channel and watch. I think you might be surprised at the content and what I talk about. The more disconnected and alone people feel, the more they need to open up and share - thus smashing the self inflicted mental isolation. That is one thing that is becoming very clear to me as I do videos and talk with others about the reality of life's journey.
Hi.. (I'm making this comment after listening to your introduction).. You're doing something that I would do.. then I'd look back and think, "why did I do/say that?"!! You're explaining yourself .. You don't need to explain yourself to a bunch of people who either aren't knowledgeable on the subject and do little to no research, before airing their negative opinion, or throw stones at others to reaffirm or elevate their own selfworth.
Well don't you have a lot to say... ;) I am trying to be gentle. I rarely lose debates and I have a strong self esteem. Sorta like this... Try having a conversation with a man who is so in tune with his sexuality that there is nothing he cannot discuss with anybody. Rarely will I end up on the short side of the argument with tail between the legs. TYWC - Marty
I think my dad might be an infj but he seems very extroverted but he has a lot of traits like narcissism (healthy one) hes emotionally intuitive he is very intelligent at first i thought he might be little bipolar becz his moods are always extreme But when u talk about childhood trauma he goes insane on some trigger s when i see u i feel like u r sooo much like him helps understand him better i dont know it yet but i feel like he is
@@marty_glenn Thank You Marty, I appreciate, your reply. Even though it is so..hard forgiving, it allows you to move on, and removes the chaos, that holding a grudge brings, but yeah sometimes, it seems impossible, to forgive, (we have all been there, without exception,) I agree, but I've found personally, with Gods Help 💔 ✝️ it is possible and extremely freeing 👋 God Bless You in you'n'yours on your journey Sherril L.Carss
I feel like I’d be making more progress with regulating if I thought the future was going to be good. Is it codependent to have a psychological paralysis because the paths and patterns of current human behavior and the whole system are not heading in a good direction?
Yes and I know exactly what you are saying... Why try when the direction cannot be changed? Here is your answer: Happiness is for you to find. You are trying very hard to find it. Do not let go of that dream for others who have. Make sense? TYWC - Marty
No it's not codependent to see the path that most of humanity is on isnt good. You have a choice tho, and even if we were to all die tomorrow, choosing to live life for today, for good, for hope and love, for your Self, and your relationship with your Higher Power, you are able to recognize the path and patterns that are not working or leading to a better life, and also able to choose a different path....the hardest part, and most worth it, is getting off of the path that most of humanity is on, and moving into Nature. I'd love to see, and maybe join, a living community of INFJs...I think it would be mind blowing the solutions we would come up with! A survivors community for healing. Check out the Ringing Cedars/Anastasia books....they have given me more hope than anything else ever, and inspired me to create A Space of Love. She says we have a marvelous future ahead, and I believe her. Hopi prophecy says the same, for those who choose Nature
How do you break this habit of overexplaining oneself ? I do it because it matters to me, but I also know others can see it as ingratiating and potentially 'weak and needy'.
A lot of people mistake being real for being “negative”. I get it all the time
...and the reverse. ;) TYWC - Marty
Whoa this video and especially this exchange just may make me stop questioning if I'm an infj
@@marty_glenn thank you for doin ya best marty💙
The INFJs ability to zoom out and always consider the big picture and introspective nature helps them understand concepts about humanity as a whole which I believe make it easier to lean into spirituality since it’s all about collective consciousness
I would agree. Well said. TYWC - Marty
It's a daily struggle to decide whether or not to be good or bad, because it is a choice. What aligns with my soul an what feeds the primal aspects of being "bad" as a sense of power or the relief to not care anymore an shut out.
Boundaries - Key. - M
It's like watching me as a male and at 50. Dude... am home. This...you are so INFJ... AM GLAD I FOUND MY EXACT KIND. INFJ is exhausting ... if only all knew
Hi Kirabo. Maybe it is time I stop wondering if I am an INFJ? TYWC - Marty
Whoa then I see these comments 🤣🤣🤣 TuuhHuuh!
exaclty I felt the same way I got chills i felt like I was watching my own brain. His videos really have helped me find out that I am an INFJ it was so close to almost every detail and mannerism.
I so relate to you. I am the happiest, most productive and in the same sense I am extremely anguished about this zombie forsaken world.
Exactly. But then do so many hate on you for this view? Right?!? I do not. I get it. TYWC - Marty
As a female INFJ I definitely can relate on so many levels. So refreshing to have someone like you authentic and raw👏🏽. So many times we get court up with helping people like Dorothy off the wizard of oz and all we ever wanted was to go home and relax and detox from the world. But nooo someone always needs us. Some for blessings and some for lessons 🤭😁😂
...and some to take their abuse. Thank you for the support. TYWC - Marty
I have never watched you before, but I got to your question: 'Why do I CARE?" I answered it for you, "Because I am an INFJ." and then you said it. I had to laugh.
Hi Jaroslava. Funny how that works. Right? TYWC - Marty
I’m literally at that part!!! 😂😂😂 yes!!!!
As an INFJ, I absolutely loved watching this. It was quite therapeutic and relieving watching you get triggered and easily calm. As a fellow teacher, I absolutely relate to not leaving one heart or mind behind -- we all matter! It just requires a time and patience to create lasting understanding. Thank you for making these!
Thank you for the supportive words; you are welcome. TYWC - Marty
My analogy being an INFJ (level of thought wise) is that I am a deep-ocean fish, such as an anglerfish, while it feels like everyone around me are reef fish, or open-ocean cruisers. Listening to you talk about the level of darkness you got to, and what it took to get somewhere brighter made perfect sense, as does the need to give context to the person. I also understood from a recent video of the invisible lack/loss of trust that it can become necessary to do so to feel genuine.
Great analogy. Perfect. Well said. I like that Maddy. ;) TYWC - Marty
I've lost my way in all his videos, I've watched certain parts of different videos ten times, others just once, and I may have definitely missed something all together!! Where is the invisible lack/loss of trust video?? I can't remember that part and it's incredibly interesting to me.
I totally agree that the Cluster B, BP and MNP are the most important aspects of the human individuals to figure out for an INFJ. I agree with your introduction of malignancy as essential to view the whole spectrum of personality traits and get a hold of oneself and finally grow like never before as an INFJ.
Hey Michael. I think we are standing exactly on the same page. TYWC - Marty
Loved this video!!! Such honest communication!!! I'm jealous/in awe... one day i hope to be so 'open' with my feelings... i'm in my early 60's ... trust is something that i am learning... 2 steps forward and 1 backwards.... mostly i have started trusting myself and that is slowly starting to expand to include some/ more others!!! I agree... no point in talking about where you are now if we don't know where you have been!!! It leads to better understanding/ being able to trust.. in what you say and your authenticity. Loving the channel. Thankyou for all you do for all of us infj's.
Always doing my best. Thank you. TYWC - Marty
Entire body vibrating with recognition and relief that I cannot watch but a couple minutes of this at a time. Yeah, now the tears...gulping that there is such a planet as INFJ and that I am hearing someone else from there describe home.
Thank you for the kind words and glad in some way it helps. TYWC- Marty
Really great videos..
Its damn hard being an INFJ and even harder to make people understand what you are and why you do what you do.
I dont know why but I really feel we are magnets for M.N.P.s somehow...
In one of your videos you told about your ex wife where she told u get a job and u told her that u will work so much better than ur superior that they will get threatened and ploy to fire you or make your life hell. I can serious relate to that. It has happened with me a couple of times.
For us INFJs its really really dark before light. Thats our fodder for success, for becoming who we are.
Really awesome content. Its good to finally find someone who actually does not sugar coat the INFJ personality.
This is not easy for people to see and feel since it is failure but to the INFJ it is called the path toward success: For us INFJs its really really dark before light." Well said. TYWC - Marty
We are magnets! There are some great videos about the human magnet syndrome! I've been thinking about making videos about this subject, and how we are evolving to learn how to make this magnetism an advantage instead of how it has so often been harmful in the past. Boundaries, compassionate communication, and looking at most people, as very hurt 3 or olds, even MNPs. You wouldnt argue with a 3 yrs old, there's no point. You would put them in time out, or somewhere safe if they continued to bully others tho. I have hope that everyone is on a path to healing. The website Pete-Walker.com gave me alot of hope, and insight, into what creates Narcs, and other coping mechanisms
The build-up on the journey to the destination end of the video was well worth it. I was thinking about getting my PhD in Psychology... For the same reasons, to understand. Buuuuut, i gotta say it makes so much more sense to just focus on the important ones for us to know and that's it. You've saved me years from getting a degree 🤙. Now I can harness these INFJ powers in more useful and applicable ways in a more timely organized way. Can't wait to see what your other videos have in store. I'm so happy to have found this and the comment section itself it so invigorating to see, too!
Thank you* TYWC - Marty
* The less I say to a comment the more impact it had on me and the more impact I hope it has on other readers.
I just love the way you talk 👌
Thank you. But want to know the truth? I have no idea what ‘ way ‘ that is but thank for the kind words. TYWC - Marty
Same. There's just something about the way you talk and are that clicks with me so much.
BOOM 💯💫
No I do not trust you because I know you. I just got here. What you state is clear in my inner knowing, because it is what has caused so much unhealthy pain in my heart... knowing something is off and wrong with someone else but insisting STILL to go in and "support/save" them.
Afterwards, when the storm subsides and the wreckage is visible
(and yes I use the dark as freely as you do since my early teens, even when I express burn it all... I am not filled with any hate or darkness -- though I havevbeen ANGRY)...
Fact is, the wreckage inspection showed me who these people really were, and I def must learn this as part of my next season. So I protect my heart.
So interesting how I to within my videos...I am seen as angry or unhealthy or ? When it is just passion and strong boundaries. Well sometimes I am mad for sure. ;) TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn people see from their own perspective, and they also assess from their own viewpoint.
So when you are seen a certain way by another... it really isn't your domain to begin with. Their perception comes from inside them.
I say this, I know this intellectually, the art we are learning this life around is... to practice it when faced with external views by others.
In general, I do believe INFJ feels "neautral"...
Even with all the times I have felt suicidal or rage or depression... they don't surpass the percentage of time I think, not feel... and observe, not absorb.
Thoughts are neutral until we attribute meaning to them... interpret.
So... yeah 🤷🏻♀️ it's easy to write this neutrally...
But how you are "seen" isn't really your business... just always be your best YOU.
@@marty_glenn also on my channel I have had the same problem, people who just waltz in and state you angry, you resentful, you bla bla bla... I have a different approach, although I also answered their comments in my next videos... such comments get removed.
In my case this is because I already endured enough verbal abuse and verbal attacks in my life to be allowing it in.
But my videos are of a whole other nature/topic.
I just find it so curious that you would be doing a similar thing: basically conversing with the opposing hecklers...
I chose to shift the direction because I started to feel like the people who felt helped or supported and said so were not getting my attention and you know what? I choose to honor them.
That is just me.
You could be right about the darkness and the INFJ experience. I have experience with all the areas pointed out. The darkness is beyond everyone’s understanding and the others usually tell me they would have killed themselves or why didn’t I kill myself before they then see me or describe my being as an angel or such. Trusting the self is at the heart of it. Becoming your own best friend actively everyday knowing your love of life and self. I made a beautiful bracelet out of elk leather and beads which took over 4 weeks working 12-15 hours /day. I gave this one to myself when I married myself. I wear it daily as a reminder of the trust and love I embody in all that I do everyday. All that we do everyday of our lives is out of this love. The pain and all the darkness we witness everyday is great and overwhelming though our love and dedication to life is greater. We make a difference in all that we touch. Authenticity, dark to light, I do it the same way. From doctor to healer, a different kind of way that works every time. To know, understand and have compassion is the way. The wild way, I don’t control my hair either, it doesn’t matter. Don’t try to straighten up for others, anymore. Don’t have too.
Hi Robbi. Reads like you found the right place for you to stand on and that is great. Well said. TYWC- Marty
Yes, everything wow, I even enjoy his intense expression where you can feel how deeply sincere and real to the core as anyone could ever be in every mention of every word, I so freaking relate and can even see myself explaining things precisely in this way, using diagrams pointing with absolute certainty and undeniable truth that is so precise and so clear to anyone with half a sound mind With only one percent amount of common sense stored in the memory bank of anyone watching would know could easily conclude that even the very fact I’m having to explain excruciatingly irritating and I have zero will left in me to go over again, so just to be sure the message really drives it all home. I’ll even go the extra mile and pronounce syllable and a slower tone just so audiences will know my intentions That if we have to go over this one more time, there will be no more talking, but there will be adverse action that would prove to be very unpleasant for them!! oh my God this is so damn refreshing to know I’m not alone in the quantum realm of “what the fuck” that is my entire existence! I can relate to almost every single thing man it’s crazy. It’s like where the fuck did I get lost in the cosmos and crash land here on this fucked up planet it’s like 👉😫✨💨
Holy crap! THANK YOU! My closest, very beloved INFP kept telling me I needed to forgive. I hated that advice and I LOVE your advice! Your advice feels correct. I don’t WANT to forgive because if the tables are ever turned and I ever do something that’s too far across someone else’s line, I would NOT simply be worthy of their forgiveness, nor would I expect it. It would be MY cross to bear, unless I busted my arse and genuinely EARNED that person’s forgiveness. Almost no person will ever try to earn the forgiveness of those they’ve violated. It’s one of the things I dislike most about the current human condition. That’s how MY heart and mind works. So, once again, THANK YOU.
I am glad you got the video and its message. So many people, I think have it wrong. TYWC - Marty
I get both of you... my sense is that you are speaking from different places, but both of you are speaking as a speaker, or advisor. I think that stirs up a silent vibe of competition which can feel like conflict, something I can't stand, and ... INFJ trait wanting justice, clarity - hence "spinning," an experience I know too well also. TY Marty & Jerry E.
Nice comment Jalex. ;) TYWC - Marty
Love your straight talking.
Love it or hate it, Thank you for loving it, at least you know me and know my place. TYWC - Marty
I discovered your channel last night. For the first time in my life I feel understood. Thank you.
You are welcome. Surfing the comments. TYWC - Marty
Psychology...Brene Browns research....Vulnerability is required before Trust can take shape. So you sharing your dark times and being vulnerable = the trust you are shooting for, BOOM! You are rocking it, Marty!
Thank you. Most do not get it and glad you do. I cannot fake me. Some see it and some do not. You do and that is great. TYWC - Marty
If only someone gave me that advice 31 years ago. I am so glad that I stumbled across your content. You are an inspiration.
My pleasure. I am 51 and it is no easier to admit the truth. I wish too. TYWC - Marty
I never forget. I only understand!
Only and Forever. I love this video so much i look at it like 1 once s week!!!!!
It is crazy you are the only person who can really make me laugh and I relate to everything you say and the way you say it. I too was abused by my stepdad and till this day I think of hurting him and I try to tell myself to forgive forget but then I am like f*ck I am not forgiving this man I don't have to but then I will switch later on. Also thank you for the note to self-recognize I will use that to stop myself when my mood shifts. One more thing I was also getting triggered to understanding it from your point. This really resonated with me. Thank you
Thank you and you are welcome. TYWC - Marty
Hi Marty, it is really frustrating when people would not understand you but I have learnt from my experience that other personality will never understand INFJ because we are so different and always in our heads, more than in the real world. Watching your videos is really relaxing. By the way, msg in this video is absolutely right and vital for our mental health.
Thank you and yes, always working on the outside view of self. Always doing my best. TYWC - Marty
I've stumbled on to your channel by sheer accident about a week ago and holy cow every video resonates deeply with me. About 3 years back I had an emotionally catastrophic breakup and it made me obsessed with what was wrong with me. I got blamed for things, gaslit, told I was an extreme psychopathic narcissistic monster. I believed it at the time but as I've come out of isolation and got input from other people and really dug deep into my own head, yeah I'm an INFJ. Full blown.
My life has been a complete nightmare... in my own head. I love how real you are, so many INFJ videos are trash. Wankfests (for a lack of a better term) on how special, unique, and blessed they are. I've met a lot of people professing to be them. They are awkward socially, but like people, are highly emotional, wear weird clothes, blah blah blah. I call BS on that.
It suuuuucks so bad. I've spent 3 years working on figuring out this brain minefield and I've finally started embracing it this last year. It's miserable and awful but at least I'm aware of it now.
By the time I discovered your channel, most of your videos are confirming what I've come to know already but it's comforting knowing I'm not alone. I'm 34 but most of my years I was alone, in a fog, lost, terrified of everyone. I thought something was horribly wrong with me, maybe I was an alien, maybe I was possessed or had my soul devoured by demons? I had no answer other than just isolate, avoid everyone, especially very emotionally charged people.
I just really appreciate how raw and brutal your videos are. It's real and honest and I really really appreciate it. Thanks!
You are welcome and please loo at the Mental health videos and I think they can also clear something up on the abuse of gas lighting and all that. For the INFJ that is very bad news and I am speaking from experience. I have been there. TYWC - Marty
The fact that you replying to everyone, and not ask for subscribe,,,, what makes me believe you are a true INFJ
Good call. Thank you for noticing. TYWC - Marty
I hadn't seen this video. Honestly, thank you for helping me make sense of my own INFJness. There has been so much challenging me and finally clearing it up by your articulation is a huge relief for me. You guided me understand what all this in my head is. I am nothing but grateful and humbled. You are doing more than you know. Big hug Marty!
Thank you and glad that it helps. Always doing my best, not always right, but hopefully in the game. TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn You have no idea how helpful you have been!
It's important to make the videos you make!! I am totally captivated and your videos brought me to the light. It's like a hand holding mine through the infj perils to realize it's all part of the process. You have given hope with all your experiences.
If I saw you walk by me, or listened to you talk ordering a coffee i would have never guessed you went through anything like you have.
If you can emerge victorious....I can to...thank you friend
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Even people who have known me for 30 plus years are amazed, if they watch my videos. You would think it would make them feel closer or better with me but in fact it makes, sometimes, them feel even more distant. We are all unique and have many secrets and skeletons. But I guess My story, as you say, is just a little different. Thank you for the supportive and kind words. TYWC - Marty
I totally agree! Light makes no sense without darkness in every sense.
Once again, thank you from the heart for your work and this video, Marty!
Thank you for the positive words. TYWC - Marty
You're the most frankly INFJ i ever know in the public(such as a content)so far, even we're had age gap i still get it bcs we're INFJ(right?)😂 and u done pretty good job to describe how our feeling, how we work into a word that sometimes i struggle with(idk if this just bcs i still too young or whatever). Thank u so much to sharing this video btw 👍
Hi Rania. So my content is spot on you think for the INFJ personality type? Well that is great. Age gap does not matter except for experience. The feelings I think will be the same and the struggles will be the same. I am always doing my best. Thank You for Watching and the Comment. (TYWC) - Marty
Keep up the good work! This is the stuff INFJs have been needing to hear. Im noticing people who get triggered or question our process are actually not INFJ. And I hate to be the captain of whats obvious, but im going to assume you are trying to reach INFJ who are lost and need guidance. So you need to reveal the process and the cold hard painful truth of what we have and have to experience.
I know you know this 🤦♀️ of course. That was for Jerry E or anyone else who feels and thinks the way he does.
I personally have felt ashamed that I have needed to dip into the dark, in the past, bc society told me this was bad, that this path was wrong, shameful.
No, the bad and the wrong in any of this is that I would share it with idiots that wouldn't understand.
I just recently realized that life is like a math problem, why do you care how I get to the answer as long as I finally get to the answer. If you ask me how I get there and you start to disagree with my process, then I'm done. Walk away. And let them come back to me when they are emotionally or mentally ready to hear me. Otherwise, I am wasting both of our times.
Sadly I still fall for it, but get better every day 😁
It is the light before the dark and Jerry E gets that and so do many others as well as myself. Do we really need to talk about what is going right? There are plenty of channels that do that and they have 10x's the views and the subs. I wonder why that is? ;) TYWC - Marty
Marty, you just said exactly what I needed to hear.
Very cool and hope it helps in any way toward lots of better days and smiles. TYWC - Marty
Your honesty is so uncommon
Not as common as those who like to be lied too. ;) TYWC - Marty
I guess irony is our catch-22s 😂. I get you and can relate. Love from a Virgo INFJ-T.
Enter the Tiger. Exit the Dragon. :) TYWC - Marty
Thank you so much Marty , you are such a light to me in your advice. Always a pleasure to hear from you. ♥️
You are welcome and thanks for the comment and watching. - Marty
Marty, I have to say, you have become one of my favorite youtuber / personalities. Someone I can relate to, and has helped guide me in many ways. I just wanted to say I appreciate you, and the effort you're putting forward to make these videos.
Thank you and I appreciate that. Good thing I am not serving cool aid... right? Just being me and that is it. Glad you like. TYWC - Marty
Marty Glenn yes, agreed, haha 👍🏼
.. I do wish you had finished with what specifically becoming an expert on cluster B means or what value is given to the INFJ for having that expertise. I do see some hints to that from the couple videos I’ve watched not knowing what “cluster B” was yet since I hadn’t gone to google it yet. Maybe I’ll stumble upon a video where you deep dive on that soon. Love your videos and realness. I prefer authenticity to acting like we don’t have dark or go dark.
Thank you and I will and check out my play lists. They are there and many of them. - Marty
In my case I was born in the light. Sadly to say as an adult. I’ve had to and also willingly taken small vacations in the dark knowing that it was trouble. Because people don’t realize how lonely the light is. Especially when you have no light allies there with you. Your alone in the world and everybody around you is hungry. 😕
Hungry? how about starving! TYWC - Marty
Marty Glenn 👍🏻
I so know what u mean
Marty you are so friggin right on. All of your videos fit me like a customized glove. I've been seeing a shrink for 3 years and you provided the information I needed to put 2+2 together. Thank you...
You are welcome. You might also want to watch the others on Cluster B and other mental things I speak about. Might be good for you. ;) TYWC - Marty
You're a true INFJ. I'm the same and this content fully resonates. & btw, 😊 I dont think your hair is crazy. It's a contradiction to your passion & grace. Best to you..☀️
Thank you. ;)) TYWC - Marty
The most dangerous people to INFJ's are narcissists/Cluster B's, especially family. I wish there was a course in high school on this. I'm almost 50 myself, and I just started learning this first hand in the past 2 years. I'm gonna say I guess I've been pretty blessed, comparatively. Managed to instinctively push people away who I got on my radar, including family. One always slips through though. The financial hit has been exhausting. God I hate Narcs. This video is absolutely, unequivocably, 100% correct.
You will enjoy my earlier videos on the subject. Take a look at playlist. TYWC - Marty
Narc cult family, flying monkeys... I broke down at 29, because I could no longer play along. I had no clue what the problem was per se. But am I glad I cut off so many ties.
That is good. Solid boundaries. TYWC - Marty
Your comment I relate to 1000%, thank you for reminding me I am not alone. I also wish I had learned this much earlier and completely understand you on the family & financial. May we win the lottery lol
"I know my hair is out of control, I just don't care anymore." Hahahaha
2020 got us all like that lol
Karol! It is growing long again and I am going crazy! lol - M
I so relate! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!
You are welcome. ;) TYWC - Marty
TRUTH. And always establish and maintain boundaries
Always. If you do not set boundaries for yourself someone else is going to set them for you. TYWC - Marty
Thank you for that advice! Most of your videos is what I'm going through rn. I'm a young INFJ-T who are under recovery from anxiety. Your vids helps me to accept, understand and survive for what I was and who I am. It was never too easy but atleast I am surviving.
Great. TYWC - Marty
From your other comment: "Very good. I am not sure about the academic you are speaking with but your comments are very positive and no matter what: That is awesome. TYWC - Marty"
@@marty_glenn thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
;) - M
@@marty_glenn Hehehe, I post something about this one. It was really funny having loops around your head but when you survived on that part. You will be laughing while recalling those things and its an achievement that you won the loop. 😅✊🏻
Just keep it positive and dig deep and maybe just maybe limit SSSniperWolf LOL You know I watched her when she had under 1M subscribers. She is entertaining for sure but I only watched maybe 2 - 3 videos way back when. - Marty
It's funny down here in my dark place bpd was the first thing i found when i was looking for answers. Infj came to my attention later but you made me believe in my abilities more than anything. Time is slow though.
Borderline and the Cluster B and the INFJ. Take it slow and talk to your inner self. Listen to the inner self; heal it. TYWC - Marty
It’s like If all my feelings and thoughts were a person it would be Marty💪🥹
❤ Negativity about my negative experience!
Thank God I found this channel
Very nice compliment. Thank you. Not sure it fits 100% but this I can tell you:
You will be hard pressed to find another channel that digs deeper or is more transparent.
You know as I wrote that I know it’s true and so sad that it is. Thank you again.
At least I know why I am single and full of “Fuck You”. So my life goes. I’ll see my mom on Sunday and Tuesday for her Birthday and with that said, “ Happiest I have ever been”.
My life. Lol TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn I'll be 44 in January. I'm just figuring things out that make some sense. I think that's why I was brought to your channel. I'm staying. Ha! You're awesomely sarcastic & funny as hell. Deep, too; like me. I'm diggin it! 😎 Instead of my nightly podcast, I'm catching up on your videos. Thank you!
As an INFJ, I appreciate your videos. I can relate. Thanks for sharing!
You are welcome. TYWC - Marty
This is insane, I’m an INFJ and I’ve taken a liking to Dr.Ramani on TH-cam she is an expert on narcissistic personality but also talks about other personality disorders.Somehow intuitively I felt the need to study up and intrigue on this subject!!
This is insane...in a good way or bad? Well, I do not have a single ounce of respect for Dr. Ramani. Did you know that she was on Wall Street and then decided to become a therapist. I am not saying that is a bad path. Not at all. The issue is when you combine that path with what she does and what she says.
This will help: th-cam.com/play/PLWwz-SEwaeuTsGFXREgNRHeAV5evtB1zf.html
My play list on what she covers. TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn in the best way! Thank you I’ll get to watching those :)
I absolutely 100% and totally agree with this advice. It's crucial!.
Ye! TYWC - Marty
One word wins the day.. AUTHENTIC , agree disagree. ,right wrong,it's Marty true to himself...
That would be correct and never an easy day. TYWC - Marty
I will take that advice thank you. I've suffered alot with narcs and toxic family, of course I'm the scapegoat 😂😂😂but it is what it is! I will look into these other mind states as well!
Good. Best to you. TYWC - Marty
Marty thanks for sharing, the relateability is pretty strong for me and is helping me feel less alone. I dont think Jerry's comment was as pointed as it may have seemed, but I do think you've been persecuted to be like everyone else and fall in line to have a positive mentality all the time...if you're anything like me Haha. I think it's a gift to have the courage to be so honest and if other people cant handle it than they dont know how to wield a knife in a paper world. Wishing you a good one man hope you make more content soon.
Well said. TYWC - Marty
Thank you for sharing all the info....I AM searching myself, I’ve suffered emotionally all my life. (Im 48 years old).Cant take anymore bullshit of doctors/psychiatrists. No one gets me!!!Lately, I’ve been reading, listening for signs/ clues. This video helps.
You are welcome and good for you. Just an FYI - My therapist who I spent 3 years with hung up on me. That was the last time I spoke to her. You should dive into my earlier videos. You do not need those academics unless you need a script. You need to work on your inner self and dive deep. I think you would be the happiest ever and very quickly. TYWC - Marty
Marty Glenn thank you Marty( watched other videos and wouldn’t wanna be rude to not call you Marty.....your name is Marty...got it!) so....thank you MARTY😁....my name is really Marie-Lou. I....am a true person😊 I will take your advice
Great. When you are done please come back if you want and let me know what you think or comments. - M
Wow, no one wants to go through the process of establishing trust. I understand what it feels like to over share, and it is like there is build up when someone asks a question and it floods out. You want to be understood that much. You want to help that much. It can be a world of trouble without boundaries or knowing who is worth your time to share with. Most people do not want to go into a in depth conversation. Explaining your thought processes helps someone understand how you came to your conclusion, and people do not take that kind of time or want to know or do not understand how to backtrack their thoughts in that kind of way. To me I have to agree with how you got to there for trust, it has to be logical and make sense for trust to happen explaining alone doesn't build trust. People also think this explaining is egotistical, but it is deductive reasoning and we want that back so we understand others. This doesn't always happen the way we want or the people we want it with. Thx for putting yourself out there!
You are welcome. Thank you for the nice comment. - Marty
Mind you- I just started watching you so I’m digging into my experiences. You care because someone misjudged your character. Every thing you suffered and you still want to save the world from suffering. If you were not a true infj You would have become a narcissist for the childhood suffering and never broke the generational pattens of abuse. Applause use for that.
People pleasers are the mirror of narcissists, just as manipulating for their own survival. Heal to go from dark to light.
I think about 50 years old w/o help like these videos is a marker for a infj to to be a professional at it. What about the dark and light experience simultaneously? Going to watch that video now.
I think it’s possible narcissistic neglect and abuse mixed with a wonderful happy relationship with say another parent or an incredibly special animal that you trust (a hero) is what is the different between a narc cluster b etc. and the codependent or healthy infj
Forgiveness of abusers is important, but only after you have dissected them enough to feel sorry for them because of what you find there. I know that painful root of JUDGEMENT is ON TOP OF A DEEP PAIN OR WRONG like a trash can lid, a tombstone or better yet monolith. It’s been judged! How do we forgive what has been righteously judge in order to be happy when judgement is who we are and what saved us from becoming a narcissist ourselves?
Well, digging up the dead as many times as you need to re judge and judge again and finally you’ve figured them out to know that how they became the monster they are was maybe even worse than your experience and they did not have the mental tools of an infj to be their own comfort and healer.
There really is a possibility to forgive but it does involves healing and no contact learning everything you need to know about the narcissist, cluster b etc I order to build your own safety in the world. If you don’t have that safety of knowing your enemy and recognizing them you can not forgive. You are still unsafe because they are still threatening you. They always spot you first. You need to be able to recognize them and have your wooden stake on you always. Buffy the vampire slayer, killing the monsters but still eh be sleeping with a few. They want us, we fall for some... but Hey Buffy, those guys are still monsters, it’s not love -they desperately need your light for a spot of peace.
Be aware of wolves I sheep’s clothing, wise as serpents but gentle as doves 🕊. But keep your silver bullets and wooden stakes in your pocket... Jesus was all about infjs and His mysteries to unravel are things of the Christian Mystic. Look at Einstein’s views on religion. Googled: Soul comes from the Greek word Psyche. Hmm
I think I already mentioned this but if not...
Interesting comment and its ending. Maybe up and coming videos will touch on these important topics.
My playlist on mental health is one I think you will enjoy. TYWC - Marty
So true so me all my life. We have to address BS fluff and the deeper darkness all the hurts all the root causes to get to the fulfillment and the light and the happiness. Like i get how you read so much behind Jerry's comment. He gives a one liner you read the depth behind his words and the analysis that went into your comment. I don't even know if he will fully appreciate it but i did it explained so much about how i think. Thank you another explanation of my own mind i appreciate it.
Btw your voice is so calming it makes it me so calm and the logic makes my brain calm thank you
Wow. Really? I wold never have thought about my voice in that way but I think I have received that compliment a couple of other times. Thank you. TYWC - Marty
You are welcome. TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn i love voices and as a vocal coach used to be i think im just prone to appreciating it and i am sensitive to sound. So i have binged your videos all day and your voice helps so much. I have a question though could you sometime make a video that goes in on calming the hyperanalysis of an infj mind and how to get to the nothingness happiness when an infj mind goes into overthink mode? If you have time and it makes sense to do it?
For you, yes. - Marty
I’ve been in and out of relationships with cluster B personalities. I did become an expert, after 5 times through the ringer.. Wish I would have had this advice when I was young. The only problem is that they are the only people who generally want to be in relationships with me. I’m too much for normal people to handle..
😂😂😂😂😂 I loved this video and your explanation. Love people who know and have an understanding maybe even mastery of their darkness. Ah! Thank you for the recommendation on things to learn about. I’m obsessed with personality. Inspiring!
Takes an open mind and trust me being this honest and open and created some serious issues for me but that is just life. Thank you for the compliment and watching. I appreciate it and hope it is worthy of the time you spent and beyond. ;)
the lost feeling. I was always alone. I thought I had a problem lol.
And this is the thing, people who you choose to help or empower by sharing any dark chapters to show them how and empower or inspire...
Often, not all.
Will think you just want them to feel for you, see your problem, or help you.
Frustrated me to no end in the past with friends I was always listening to and hoping to nudge them into their own solution, cause it was RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF THEM.
But, didn't seem possible to reach them so finally I gave up.
But this is how I communicate.
If I do not explain with a life example something I know first hand, my point is moot in my book. Theoretical, just ignore it. If you need input from me, I will share examples. Been working on curbing that, but it's not nature and it's also not workable for me or how I process the world.
Good point. Explaining and backing up advice with life. That is what I do and often I am shocked that even that does not help. TYWC - Marty
Thank you for your insights into things. It helps me so very much to understand myself.
Perfect. TYWC - Marty
I'm sorry if it's random but I really like the harrison wells (from the flash) vibe of you lol ,an infj right here 🙂
Random compliments such as this are always welcome. Good for the ego. ;)) Thank you. TYWC - Marty
I don't normally comment and I feel I need to say that as a warning.
I find you hilarious and I don't know if you intended to be that way. I often find things funny and then people don't mean them to be funny. So I will apologize if that is what is happening now. But I do think you are intentionally being funny which is why I'm taking the risk to comment. Because a laugh so hard almost peed my pants and that's a compliment at how funny you were being. I rarely find people that funny and I've never found someone who can explain things like you can, that's also a compliment.
Please don't feel the need to comment back, I probably wouldn't respond. nothing against you I just don't like talking to people I've very strong boundaries against it. I don't like to develop the friendship thing that you've talked about in another one of your videos that was also funny and informational.
Thanks for making your videos. This seemef awkward for me I don't think I'll do this again.
Keep laughing. It is a good thing. Ears are open when laughing closed when yelling. TYWC - Marty
You are so best at getting my life! I need you to do this for all infj to understand. I am dark, i move on IF i ger the answer.
Like whats the meaning of life i asked myself at age 8 in my head (Sophies secret world) arter like a year i got it!!
The meaning of life is to wunder about it lol!
Of i got the anser i Move on!
Jerry E haha i love how defensive this is in a bissare way that i love!
Please tell me all day how dark shit is and then shine abut the sun outside.
OUR RIGHT TO EXPRESS ALL EMOTIONS FOR ONCE.
Wow . Thanks for the advice. Intj female here.
;) TYWC - Marty
Marty:”I’m going to make you watch till the end.”
Me: fast forward towards the end lol
Jordan not funny but clever. OK you win on this one but I will get you back. - M
I understand more about myself now and why so many people have and will not even understand me
That is great and I hope it is all positive. Well more than 90%. TYWC - Marty
Positively positive thanks for the great info🏅
;) TYWC - Marty
It seems like he’s describing his INFJ journey. Went from bark to the light. I understand what “ the light “ is and means. But I had to learn the hard way. To turn it off like a light switch when you leave a room. I had to stop people pleasing. Because most people are never happy. They just want more and more.🙂
They do and the boundaries are the key. Set them for you or someone else will set them for you. TYWC - Marty
Marty Glenn 👍🏻
Marty it would be awesome to sit down with you and have some intellectual conversation. West lake village is such a good area I’m sure you are loving it. Goodluck on the channel
Thank you and WLV is nice but do not raise children here and forget about dating. It is a shit show. Thanks for the luck; I need it. ;) TYWC - Marty
I’m an INFJ - I wanted to ask you a question on How do you deal with being in a room of people and where to look without getting anxious & hearing everyone’s comments but your own….
Infj here..This is what happens to me when in a room of people. My bf is extroverted so he'll start conversations. I'm already anxious. I immediately and on auto repeat think to myself, ".ok..just add one thing to say..god, say something at least..." I'll inevitably say something awkward. Then, I nod a few times. Then, I give up and hide in the bathroom, or walk outside, or find a pet. This repeats until I can leave. Fun times..yup.
It is like math....teachers want the simplified answer, but you only get half credit if they do not see the work. Most people do the work in their head and it is hard to map it back out that brain function. Half credit is good enough. We map out things and can explain them, most people are at a loss at this ability or do not want to take the time. I believe you have to understand how to use this skill and with people who appreciate it.
How about this...
I did not make it past Algebra 1 and I never took Geometry. Why? I hate showing my work. TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn but you are explaining in these videos. You are mapping your thought process for everyone to see.
Oh then I think this is what you want to know: " If I do not want to do it will not. If I hate the topic, I will not study it."
I don't like math and I certainly do give a shit when a plane leaves with another plane who is traveling at a different speed and which plain is going to land first given distance and wind resistance. They will land when they do and I hope safely. Other than that? I could care less. LOL ;) TYWC - Marty
OMG 😀😀😀😀😀 exactlyyyy... That is my entire problem with my bf that i dont know how to explain it to him.... But i thank you so so so much for this delicate and deep and important move❤❤❤i am so amazed and so sad that i cant talk to you in face😢🌹
;) Maybe one day. Wait for it... TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn i will😊😀
glad I found your channel but I wish I knew this years ago.. :} my boundaries would have been set... catching up on all your channels now..
That is great Trasey and sorry I was not around. I was too busy doing god only knows lol TYWC - Marty
I don'"t forgive people either. People always tell me that bullshit. I always reply: I think if you forgive someone who never apologized to you, you are actually betraying yourself.
Well put. Many will differ; I am not one of them. TYWC - Marty
Wow. This was eye-opening. Thank you
Hi Nicole. You are welcome. Always doing my best. I am glad it was worthy of your time. TYWC - Marty
I appreciate you so much.
Thank you. Means a lot. - Marty
Eyyy, looked up the personalities, and found out I’m a cluster C. 👍🏻 I’m an avoidant personality.
The more you know... :) - Marty
Sorry to all the "non-INFJ's", that made perfect sense. Why else would you talk of the dark stuff?
And yes that is indeed what you must do.... Heed this young extroverted feelers, as thoroughly and promptly as possible.
Unfortunately it took me many many moons. Because, as luck would have it, I was born to a "Covert Narcissist" mother that had a marked interest in my not developing an interest in this way. She was not BPD, not malignant narcissist, something morbidly in between, but akin to both. All the actions of a borderline, but with the awareness and intent of a malignant narcissist. I never broke from the cycle of trying to fix my mothers issues in all of the like women I could "get close to".... yeah right! How naive/arrogant I have been most of my life.... Why would they try to "fix" what they see as their superpower over the dummies.
If only I had've developed a healthy level of self interest a lot earlier in life, I may have avoided some of the torture from those I chose to have in my life....
Well said but please do not discount the Borderline Female with the Malignant Narcissistic Wrapper. It is a unique female to encounter and very devastating to the people around no matter the MBTI type. TYWC - Marty
What are some things I can do to aid in wrapping my head around the fact the no matter how much I show that even I've never shown a reason to trust me but absolutely no reason to not trust me, that others cant see that? I've tried multiple ways to word this hoping you understand. I'm finding it very difficult to walk away from someone I know to be rational and intelligent but because life jaded him is unable to see that difference, no reason to trust but no reason not to. 5 years of personally witnessing me be emotional but always focused on helping my inner circle, why cant people shift their mindset. I get becoming an expert in the things you said but I'm having a hard time creating boundaries or letting go of my stupid hope
I just did a video on that. here is the link: th-cam.com/video/Mzrxs-pUxYI/w-d-xo.html
TYWC- Marty
You are reading my mind
Well not sure about that but maybe lucky guesses. TYWC - Marty
Thank you for your videos.
My pleasure. I am in the middle of a couple of tasks (keeping me away from recording) but normally I upload daily. I try to at least do 3-5 a week. I have too much content and each day new ideas come to me but I do not want to just toss things up either. I do it for me but there is always a creator responsibility angle to it as well. Delicate balance. Appreciate the comments.
Marty Glenn We are the same age and look similar. You even talk like me. You hinted upon INFJ intelligence. We are incredibly smart but we mostly are not arrogant about it. I don’t think, we have better brains in general, but rather that the unique way we see the world allows us to skip all the nonsense that the other types mentally struggle. It is Ironic that about half the personality types think we INFJs are morons. We do struggle with that much, when we are younger.
Yes. you are right and can you imagine being called ' Stupid Kid ' by a malignant narcissist (my step father) from the age of 7 - 15? What a childhood I had and what an unfortunate event for me and what is more tragic is that I did not know what foundation I stood on as it relates to who I am until 48 years old.
Marty Glenn I was severely mentally and physically abused by a narcissist ISTP father. I would ask him questions such as is this “real” because life feels like I’m dreaming. He’d punch me in the face and tell me I’m an idiot. I left home at 17. I’ve had a shit life, but now that I understand, I’ve never been happier. Sounds like we both are figuring things out at the same time in life. Peace to you brother.
If you have the time, go back to the beginning of my channel and watch. I think you might be surprised at the content and what I talk about. The more disconnected and alone people feel, the more they need to open up and share - thus smashing the self inflicted mental isolation.
That is one thing that is becoming very clear to me as I do videos and talk with others about the reality of life's journey.
Self regulating is the bridge to self control perhaps
Self Regulating vs Self Control? Hmmmm. I need to think about that. Good one. TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn why thank you Mr Glenn I appreciate your time and energy🌟
Aha makes so much sence,thk you,thk u,thk u so much...
Glad you found the video worthy of your time. You are welcome. TYWC - Marty
Hi.. (I'm making this comment after listening to your introduction)..
You're doing something that I would do.. then I'd look back and think, "why did I do/say that?"!! You're explaining yourself .. You don't need to explain yourself to a bunch of people who either aren't knowledgeable on the subject and do little to no research, before airing their negative opinion, or throw stones at others to reaffirm or elevate their own selfworth.
Well don't you have a lot to say... ;) I am trying to be gentle. I rarely lose debates and I have a strong self esteem. Sorta like this...
Try having a conversation with a man who is so in tune with his sexuality that there is nothing he cannot discuss with anybody. Rarely will I end up on the short side of the argument with tail between the legs. TYWC - Marty
👏👏👏great video 🙏
Thank you. :) TYWC - Marty
I think my dad might be an infj but he seems very extroverted but he has a lot of traits like narcissism (healthy one) hes emotionally intuitive he is very intelligent at first i thought he might be little bipolar becz his moods are always extreme
But when u talk about childhood trauma he goes insane on some trigger s when i see u i feel like u r sooo much like him helps understand him better i dont know it yet but i feel like he is
That is great. He might actually like watching me too; maybe. TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn he does not understand English 😅
You must move to New Testament. You must forgive for your sake, freedom and peace. Remember, hurting people hurt people.
... - M
👍 Marty
but one thing Marty I do believe we all need to forgive not for those who hurt us be for ourselves
You are correct just as much as you are wrong. I hear you for sure. Your thoughts and comment is valid. ;) TYWC - Marty
@@marty_glenn
Thank You Marty,
I appreciate, your reply. Even though it is so..hard forgiving, it allows you to move on, and removes the chaos, that holding a grudge brings, but yeah sometimes, it seems impossible, to forgive, (we have all been there, without exception,) I agree, but I've found personally, with Gods Help 💔 ✝️ it is possible and extremely freeing 👋 God Bless You in you'n'yours on your journey Sherril L.Carss
Thank you so much
You are welcome. TYWC - Marty
I feel like I’d be making more progress with regulating if I thought the future was going to be good. Is it codependent to have a psychological paralysis because the paths and patterns of current human behavior and the whole system are not heading in a good direction?
Yes and I know exactly what you are saying... Why try when the direction cannot be changed? Here is your answer: Happiness is for you to find. You are trying very hard to find it. Do not let go of that dream for others who have. Make sense? TYWC - Marty
No it's not codependent to see the path that most of humanity is on isnt good. You have a choice tho, and even if we were to all die tomorrow, choosing to live life for today, for good, for hope and love, for your Self, and your relationship with your Higher Power, you are able to recognize the path and patterns that are not working or leading to a better life, and also able to choose a different path....the hardest part, and most worth it, is getting off of the path that most of humanity is on, and moving into Nature. I'd love to see, and maybe join, a living community of INFJs...I think it would be mind blowing the solutions we would come up with! A survivors community for healing.
Check out the Ringing Cedars/Anastasia books....they have given me more hope than anything else ever, and inspired me to create A Space of Love. She says we have a marvelous future ahead, and I believe her. Hopi prophecy says the same, for those who choose Nature
@@Listen1111 Love this, TFS.
What a great question 👍
I trust you
At your own... ;) Thank you. TYWC -Marty
Great video.
Thank you. Thanks for commenting. It is nice to see them and always a pleasure.
How do you break this habit of overexplaining oneself ? I do it because it matters to me, but I also know others can see it as ingratiating and potentially 'weak and needy'.
Learn to see their eyes and face glaze over in disinterest. Stop talking. That is pretty much the answer. That is what I do. TYWC - Marty