Right? I actually would have loved to see more than one ice breaker and for more than a fraction of a second! Oh well. The content in the rest of the video more than made up for it. Your videos are so helpful!
I really like the practicality of that attitude. As an American I always feel pressure to chat with people, and I'd always rather just sit in silence, but that gets construed as almost hostile in this culture.
We aren't afraid of silence and it is in no way a sign of unfriendlyness. Of course we can chat a little bit depending on where/when but it is not expected of you.
When I met my first group of Swedes, I made them happy because I knew they were Swedish and not German (as all others thought). When they introduced me to a girl they felt I'd get on with, she was so happy because I could pronounce her name properly (Gunnel). In reality, I'm a pretty good mimic and was able to perceive the difference in the way most Americans would pronounce it. I also was able to pronounce sju.
@@aliceberethart we can talk about anything. We live at the same country and we are at the same social class, we have much in common to relate. We just should have a bit of empathy 😁 Edit: I'm not saying the Swedes aren't empathetic, but I can say Brazilians like to be empathetic and extroverted
It's not about not wanting to socialize as such but more about not caring for the kind of shallow type of conversation that small talk tend to be. A more in depth conversion about a common interest is (almost) always welcome! Ofc, not every Swede is equal in what they want socially as well, so this is just in generally.
I'm Swedish-American. My patents were born and grew up in Sweden into early adulthood, then moved to the U.S. My personality is absolutely American. I love to chat with people and make new friends. I'd be a freaky weirdo in Sweden if I acted as myself there (i have to control myself every time I've visited!). 😆
Swedish peoples are so close to me they don't like talk for no reason just like me.I think I'll make good friends when I going to move there. Anyway I began to learn Svenska almost 2 weeks ago ( by the way I'm hungarian) and it is so much beautifuler lenguage than I though. XOXO from hungary🇭🇺🇸🇪💞
Funny thing here- I’ve moved to Sweden recently and knowing I better should not start unnecessary chats -like now 😁- I had plenty of casual situations of unknown swedes talking to me (in the bus, supermarket, etc). I never know how to react so but they were all very friendly little chats. Or maybe I live in the happiest neighbourhood of Sweden? 😆
Fr, I truly feel like I belong there. I always keep earbuds in even when I'm not listening to anything to avoid "cold talk" (perfect word). Also, I disagree with one thing. Hot weather is bad weather... There are no clothes to make hot weather tolerable 😄
I arrived in sweden yesterday with my girlfriend who is swedish. And we went to ica and i got to the cash and said hey how are you to the guys sitting there and he looks so thrown off and surprised i thought it was because i spoke english. But then when we left my girlfriend told me it was weird to say how are you. I went there again today and didn’t make small talk and it was super awkward just standing there cause im usually a really chatty person
Haha! We don't use "how are you" as a greeting and would be thrown off if asked that randomly. Sometimes I do crack a joke or mention something relevant (weather, commenting on something that just happened in the store, asking if it's a busy day if the store seems full of customers)
As a swede Yes, hate "cold talk", makes me so uncomfortable every time and as someone with ADHD/Asperger it's simply just a waste of my very limited energy. (Thanks person at the bus stop that I don't know and will probably never talk to again) Also side note; The horror of a stranger talking to you at places like that. Lol. I always think along the lines off; Wtf are you doing? We Don't Do That Here! But I was raised to be polite so I go along with it anyway. Still hate it though. -_- After for example 20 minutes of cold talk (yes I'm calling it that from now on. Thanks Jocke) I won't have energy to clean my apartment or have to choose between making dinner or cleaning because I only have energy for one of them. Which absolutely sucks.
As an American in Sweden, I feel the same way. When I moved into my flat, there were some people here that seemed excited to have an American here because it's someone to talk to, but I did my best to make it clear that I am not that sort of an American. Though it seems every time I go outside there is someone there with a question or something to say these days. Sometimes it is exhausting when I see the 3rd person walking toward me and in my head I am just going NO NO NO NO NO NO PLEASE NO NO NO awwwww crap... "hej jag ha lite fråga..."
@@sonkek.2321 Ich hab die erste Hälfte fertig übersetzt und mache mich jetzt an den zweiten Teil. Je nachdem wann Joakim Korrektur gelesen hat wird er wahrscheinlich morgen da sein :p
I hate the ‘Swedish silence’. People need to talk more. Talking helps people be at ease; it’s a social lubricant and it can also help build trust and unity. We need more people in the world that do small talk.
@@sayitinswedish I agree with you! I feel very comfortable with silence but will also happily have a conversation if there is an interesting topic on the table.
@@sayitinswedish I think it is changing though. When I first came to visit in 2005, I said hej to a few people and people reacted like I was a crazy person. Now, every morning walking kids to school someone will say hej or hej hej and I don't know any of these people (I don't think anyway - haaa).
@@wombatsauce definitely, I still think it's about context though but I've noticed this during the last couple of weeks and especially if you have a child with you, people will smile and show that they can't relate, chit Chay about it or even help by talking to the child if it's being difficult so here we help each other when it comes to that. Saying hello to the bus driver is also common or to the person in the supermarket. Not so much chit chat but it happens.
Maybe among the culture, I’ve met a lot of Swedes traveling escaping the cold and they love a beer and talking crap. They also feel like prisoners in Sweden with Socialist prices/tax rates and drink a lot of vodka at home... When they buy a $10 bottle, $10 giant grilled bar burger and a $2 t-shirt they love America.
Ok, the joke wasn't just bad, there is also graphics missing. Good job, Joakim. You're fired.
Right? I actually would have loved to see more than one ice breaker and for more than a fraction of a second! Oh well. The content in the rest of the video more than made up for it. Your videos are so helpful!
@@OaktownGirl first I was going to explain myself, then I saw what you did there. Slept too little last night 😬
I really like the practicality of that attitude. As an American I always feel pressure to chat with people, and I'd always rather just sit in silence, but that gets construed as almost hostile in this culture.
I actually yelled thank god. I completely agree with that.
We aren't afraid of silence and it is in no way a sign of unfriendlyness. Of course we can chat a little bit depending on where/when but it is not expected of you.
“For starters... just agree with us” Hahahahahaha
Everyone sitting quietly in an underground bunker amidst certain nuclear annihilation...
my brain: *Vilket väder vi har!*
When I met my first group of Swedes, I made them happy because I knew they were Swedish and not German (as all others thought). When they introduced me to a girl they felt I'd get on with, she was so happy because I could pronounce her name properly (Gunnel). In reality, I'm a pretty good mimic and was able to perceive the difference in the way most Americans would pronounce it. I also was able to pronounce sju.
Nice story!
Nice video! The Greeks are at the totally opposite side! We talk so much about everything! Even when it doesn't necessary! 😄
I guess that helps explain that whole "philosophy" thing 🙃
I'm brazilian and we like to talk with the people. So it's weird to see a society that don't like to socialize. I liked it 🙂
Yes, it's interesting how differen cultures can be.
@@sayitinswedish hell yeah!
@@aliceberethart we can talk about anything. We live at the same country and we are at the same social class, we have much in common to relate. We just should have a bit of empathy 😁
Edit: I'm not saying the Swedes aren't empathetic, but I can say Brazilians like to be empathetic and extroverted
It's not about not wanting to socialize as such but more about not caring for the kind of shallow type of conversation that small talk tend to be. A more in depth conversion about a common interest is (almost) always welcome! Ofc, not every Swede is equal in what they want socially as well, so this is just in generally.
I'm Swedish-American. My patents were born and grew up in Sweden into early adulthood, then moved to the U.S. My personality is absolutely American. I love to chat with people and make new friends. I'd be a freaky weirdo in Sweden if I acted as myself there (i have to control myself every time I've visited!). 😆
I fit in so well when I was in Sweden because I hate conflict and "cold talk" as much as Swedes! LOL
Tack
LadyLucidity me too!
Swedish ice breakers are armored ships that literally break ice. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_icebreakers#Sweden
Thanx to your videos! It's very funny and interesting! And I am able saying something in swedish after your videos)))
Thanks for watching!
Swedish peoples are so close to me they don't like talk for no reason just like me.I think I'll make good friends when I going to move there. Anyway I began to learn Svenska almost 2 weeks ago ( by the way I'm hungarian) and it is so much beautifuler lenguage than I though. XOXO from hungary🇭🇺🇸🇪💞
I can't even do small talk in english i don't know why i'm watching this
Because you my voice makes you feel cradled and safe.
Haha! Same for me.
Funny thing here- I’ve moved to Sweden recently and knowing I better should not start unnecessary chats -like now 😁- I had plenty of casual situations of unknown swedes talking to me (in the bus, supermarket, etc). I never know how to react so but they were all very friendly little chats.
Or maybe I live in the happiest neighbourhood of Sweden? 😆
Haha, that's a possibility! It depends on the situations and the size of the town, I guess.
Do you have a music channel by chance?
I love your videos, they are always so helpful. Thank you!
I have a personal channel where I do a bit of everything, mostly music experiments and language talk: th-cam.com/users/joakimbertil
Fr, I truly feel like I belong there. I always keep earbuds in even when I'm not listening to anything to avoid "cold talk" (perfect word). Also, I disagree with one thing. Hot weather is bad weather... There are no clothes to make hot weather tolerable 😄
Truer words have never been spoken.
There is no clothing but you have cold drinks, shade and A.C.
Wow, after reading your comment, I actually had a glance to make sure I wasn't the author. So relatable ❤
I arrived in sweden yesterday with my girlfriend who is swedish. And we went to ica and i got to the cash and said hey how are you to the guys sitting there and he looks so thrown off and surprised i thought it was because i spoke english. But then when we left my girlfriend told me it was weird to say how are you. I went there again today and didn’t make small talk and it was super awkward just standing there cause im usually a really chatty person
Haha! We don't use "how are you" as a greeting and would be thrown off if asked that randomly. Sometimes I do crack a joke or mention something relevant (weather, commenting on something that just happened in the store, asking if it's a busy day if the store seems full of customers)
"Swedes don't like conflict" oh, TIL I'm a Swede
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That's it, did you really think they'll continue talking? HAHAHAHA nope!
Media Offline happens to the best of us lol
That was really weird though, I have no idea why it got offline during export.
As a swede Yes, hate "cold talk", makes me so uncomfortable every time and as someone with ADHD/Asperger it's simply just a waste of my very limited energy. (Thanks person at the bus stop that I don't know and will probably never talk to again)
Also side note; The horror of a stranger talking to you at places like that. Lol. I always think along the lines off; Wtf are you doing? We Don't Do That Here! But I was raised to be polite so I go along with it anyway. Still hate it though. -_-
After for example 20 minutes of cold talk (yes I'm calling it that from now on. Thanks Jocke) I won't have energy to clean my apartment or have to choose between making dinner or cleaning because I only have energy for one of them. Which absolutely sucks.
As an American in Sweden, I feel the same way. When I moved into my flat, there were some people here that seemed excited to have an American here because it's someone to talk to, but I did my best to make it clear that I am not that sort of an American. Though it seems every time I go outside there is someone there with a question or something to say these days. Sometimes it is exhausting when I see the 3rd person walking toward me and in my head I am just going NO NO NO NO NO NO PLEASE NO NO NO awwwww crap... "hej jag ha lite fråga..."
Hur kan man vara personen som säger introduktionen? Jag vill ansöka!
Jättekul! Kolla i beskrivningen! Det finns en video om det.
Gibt es deutsche Untertitel?
Hier leider noch nicht.
Ich arbeite schon dran :)
OK es kann ja nicht immer sofort eine Übersetzung geben
@@sonkek.2321 Ich hab die erste Hälfte fertig übersetzt und mache mich jetzt an den zweiten Teil. Je nachdem wann Joakim Korrektur gelesen hat wird er wahrscheinlich morgen da sein :p
@@diesteffi2253 lass dir Zeit
I hate the ‘Swedish silence’. People need to talk more. Talking helps people be at ease; it’s a social lubricant and it can also help build trust and unity. We need more people in the world that do small talk.
It's healthy to be able to be silent with people without feeling uneasy ;) THAT builds trust and unity.
@@sayitinswedish I agree with you! I feel very comfortable with silence but will also happily have a conversation if there is an interesting topic on the table.
Is just saying "hej" to strangers okay without going into more coldtalk?
It's not common to greet strangers if there is no reason to do so.
@@sayitinswedish Tack så mycket, Joakim!
@@sayitinswedish I think it is changing though. When I first came to visit in 2005, I said hej to a few people and people reacted like I was a crazy person. Now, every morning walking kids to school someone will say hej or hej hej and I don't know any of these people (I don't think anyway - haaa).
@@wombatsauce definitely, I still think it's about context though but I've noticed this during the last couple of weeks and especially if you have a child with you, people will smile and show that they can't relate, chit Chay about it or even help by talking to the child if it's being difficult so here we help each other when it comes to that. Saying hello to the bus driver is also common or to the person in the supermarket. Not so much chit chat but it happens.
Maybe among the culture, I’ve met a lot of Swedes traveling escaping the cold and they love a beer and talking crap.
They also feel like prisoners in Sweden with Socialist prices/tax rates and drink a lot of vodka at home... When they buy a $10 bottle, $10 giant grilled bar burger and a $2 t-shirt they love America.
True, people abroad are probably going to be more open to interaction but it can still be tricky. Depends totally on the person.