Give yourself at least 6-month "emotional" holiday. You think you are over it but you really don't, especially when your late wife had a major impact on your life. After 6 months, you will be able to better handle your emotional side and make better decisions/choices.
I say before you try to find someone, make sure your pain for your wife is gone first. That way that new person is a chance of a new start and bot just a pain killer
Take it slow, if it happens it happens. I personally wouldn’t be actively seeking, but if someone right comes along I would give it a chance. But I would be very selective, at that age I would value my peace more than anything else. I rather be alone than deal with unnecessary drama.
What you're saying is so true and I agree. No need to hurry and just live your life happily. Take your time, but also don't miss out when something good comes along.
You will be fine Kirk. The journey on Planet Earth is interesting and always a challenge. If another special lady comes along you will know. Sometimes one doesn't need to look it will be dropped into your lap. Stay focused on everything good as you are. People come into our lives for a reason, bringing happiness, joy, sadness, and grief whether we like it or not. Earth the learning Planet. xo
Kirk you have to find an ideal mate for yourself. Definitely the word “replacement” is never an appropriate word. No one can replace anyone!! I’m sure Wei Fong wants to see you to be happy lover and continue having a fruitful life, not a dull lost soul. No 2 persons are alike. Not a single soul in the world will ever be the same as Wei Fong. Go for it! You are not an unfaithful husband. She knows!
There is nothing wrong with moving on in your life. The most important thing I think is communication and seeing that your Chinese language skills are limited then I think your future partner most likely will need to be able to speak English. Take it from a long term veteran, you need to be able to totally understand each other, without English skills both you and your future partner will be lost in communication. Don't worry, plenty will say you can learn Chinese as you go along but that will take a lot of time and patience. Using google translate will get frustrating and it isn't correct sometimes. I need to re-translate sometimes to double check and then it is so wrong and need to start over. You choose your own path and what fits you, all good, I wish you luck.
I think you are right Kirk. When my wife Chin-Ni passed away a few years ago I had exactly the same things going through my mind, but then I was thinking: what if the shoe had been on the other foot? What if I had passed first? I loved my wife, would I have wanted her to live like a nun for the next 20 -30 years? Off course not !!! So go ahead, put some distance between you and recent events and then find another nice new partner. Think of it that way, with what you're doing, you can give another beautiful, middle aged lady an amazing, interesting lifestyle.
Good to see Gweilo you’re getting back and you’re gonna be OK, you’re doing it at your own pace, and you’re on the right track. Hang in there. Things are looking good for you.
Being open to a new relationship is fine, but just put your guard up a bit against jumping into something too soon, even if it looks like the real deal, out of a desire to end your loneliness. At the same time steer around much-younger women who have a "daddy" complex, and be on the alert for widows closer to your age who are needy and desperate to find a nice man, such as yourself, to lean on. Weifang seems to have been an independent woman - maybe look for someone like that, who has her own life but at the same time is open to romance.
Your health is your wealth . I am 8 years your senior and when I turn 66 cancer struck NHL and survived that ordeal . The sh*t really hit in Dec. 2021 when my Chinese wife died[in her sleep] and Covid almost got me . I sure would like to meet that special someone but with three more bouts of Covid recently . Well, I hope for the best for you. Be wise as a serpent because there are lot of snakes around . . Find a lady friend to show you how to cook ,its fun and easy . Take care and keep cool .
Yes you are right, take your time in finding your next partner. You are in no hurry you just need to find someone who is right for you. Just keep away from the gold diggers eh!
I just got married in Nanning last tuesday, feb. 20th 😁. I'm back in Norway right now, but will be back soon. I like Nanning better than where I live now 😌 and by the way, I'm 5 years younger than you, there's allways hope for love, what happens, happens. Your wife will allways be in your hearth, she would want you to be happy 😊
I think in Chinese tradition, the greatest respect and responsibility for your passed wife is to take good care of her parents and children (if her parents are still alive). Likewise, your passed wife would want you to remarry and take care of yourself.
My condolences. i know your wife struggled and you even went back to canada to get better. i watched you and your wife for years. stay strong and continue to live your life.
G60, you been through a lot. Looking after a terminal ill love one is both physically and mentally draining. It is time to do what's best for yourself. Nobody is going judge you for it, least of all the Chinese
Good luck Kirk. We visited my in-laws in Southern China for the first time in 5 years (covid and school exams) over NY., back on Sunday. Was brilliant. Reinforced everything I remembered and more. Daughter loved it. ✅ I'm sure in time u will meet someone who can be your partner again. Keep the head up.💪👈Thanks
I'd just take it slow and try to be get closer with women who really seem compatible. You can certainly meet some lovely people who respect each other's freedom.
I won't repeat what others have already said. I think your main barrier of making a connect with someone is language. If you put some effort into learning Mandarin, it would make things much easier. In the event you do meet someone soon, I wouldn't compare her to Wei Fang because it wouldn't be fair to her. Imagine the new woman compares you to her ex-husband? Everyone is unique. Hope you will find the right person soon!
In a nutshell, you cant be alone as you are not used to it. Just take it slow and steady and dont rush it as its not easy to find a new life partner after your recent great loss. Generally I agree when in China, like others say, wait a year. All the best, Kirk!
There is no right or wrong in this, so do it at your own pace, when YOU feel good about it. If you don't want to move on, then that's fine. If you ever decide that you finally do want to move on, that's also fine. Only YOU can decide the correct path for yourself. We will support you!
Like your honest and frank talk about what and how you feel in the absence of Wei Fong. Yes, hangon and don't rush. Lots of Chinese women who are in same situation as you, have their telescope zoom at you as I write this comment.❤
What I can say is, for anyone, if you feel miserable just because you are alone, then that means you got some homework to do. Being alone is just fine. Being with someone is just fine too.
We hear you. Loosing a love one is tough. But finding another right person is even tougher. Take your time. When the right one comes along you would know it. There is no quilt in remarrying. Like my late wife said our Union ended when one of us passed. She made me promise her to marry again under one condition. That person has to be good to her two children. A few years later I did meet up with my new love, but we were not married for the children’s sake. She agreed.
I understand what your saying completely .I lost my wife last spring. A little too soon for me but like you anyone I meet at some point wouldn't be the person I lost. Wouldn't be fair to compare.
Your profound love for your late wife is much admired！A man of 60 Something is still young. But I wish and hope you will find another suitable partner！ Good luck.😍🙏🏼
Hi Kirk, I met my Chinese wife when I was the spritely age of 67, and am now 70. Jenny is a Spring Chicken of 51yrs. There is hope for you yet even if you are Canadian. And she has a sister slightly younger. Way to go.
You're 100% right to get yourself back in the game. Much the same as your good self I lost my wife, the mother of my kids. We'd been married for 23 years, 15 of which I'd spent looking after her full time as a carer due to her disabilities. Yes it's true not everyone agrees with "moving on", I wouldn't think of it as moving on, love is an energy, and like energy it can neither be created or destroyed. You'll always have that love but you'll also have so much more to give. I tried explaining to people it's not the hours without Pauline I found hard, it was the minutes. Go out an live life, because the last thing your wife would have ever wanted was for you to become ostrisied from life, take it at your own pace and I wish you all the best in your future. BTW 63?? Lad you look half my age and I'm 51! If I can meet someone, anyone can 😂
The chinese sages of the old saying goes: life is birth, growing old, sickness , death, lost love one, can't get what we want in life, and get things that we don't want. Encounter things and situations are worrisome, this is our life that we have to go through.. soon we all die, everyone has to die, people born from the past die, people born die and people born in the future die. we all have to go through, accept or not. I say , try not to be alone , your job and duty is not stuck in the past, it is totally 1000000% gone, we grief as it is human goodness.. but then we have to let go and just get on with it. your job is to do thing that you enjoy and it is good for you and also a little bit good for society or others. true love is unconditional, not physical. Just get another one and your previous partner has moved on, they don't wait for you in heaven as they say.. they want you to move. stop crying and victimized yourself. good luck old boy. thanks for helping to promote chinese culture to the world, so people can enjoy it.
I believe that it would be best to wait a little longer, but overall, I think this is a wise move Gweilo. Dont sweat the small stuff and have a beer for all of us stuck on this side of the pond!!
My cousin is perfect for u! She is only in her fifties, she has an education and her parent were teachers in China from south east Asia! When I am back, most of our family are in america and in Canada. I think you a great for her.
Gweilo, you are so real, down to earth, and speak in paced and ease way. that's what attracts me that no others, just pleasant to hear you talking something or nothing.
Remember you are perfect as you are. You do not need a new partner for the future. It is now time to get spiritual as mankind's expiry date is near. Prepare for your leaving to join the loved ones over yonder. Good luck and best wishes for the future. 🤫
Kirk, it's good that your bigger brain is working instead of the little brother. I met so many dudes who were taken to the cleaners. Raging teenage hormone brings lots of problems. Being much lower on male hormone actually allows one to think properly. Life is happier when you can filter out all those potential red flags out there.
It is not easy to live alone after you have a partner for so many years, but life goes on .. i have been doing it since i was 45 years old and now i am 59 still alone and retired for 4 years... now I just started feel lonely after retirement. Take care yourself and maybe you will find a suitable person to keep you company.. just moved back from The U.S and living in Jakarta metropolitan city, doing very well here.. watching you and I understand how you feel Gweilo..
Reminds me of a pop song from more than 30 years ago. "We all need love. All god, children, me, and you. We all need love. I swear it's true. All god, children, me, and you." 🎶🎵
It is heartbreaking for anyone to lose a loved one, but life goes on for us. My best wishes to you.
Give yourself at least 6-month "emotional" holiday.
You think you are over it but you really don't, especially when your late wife had a major impact on your life.
After 6 months, you will be able to better handle your emotional side and make better decisions/choices.
Do what makes you happy, Gweilo! 🤗
I say before you try to find someone, make sure your pain for your wife is gone first. That way that new person is a chance of a new start and bot just a pain killer
Take it slow, if it happens it happens. I personally wouldn’t be actively seeking, but if someone right comes along I would give it a chance. But I would be very selective, at that age I would value my peace more than anything else. I rather be alone than deal with unnecessary drama.
Well said
Do whatever you want, Gweilo. Just make sure you not taken advantage of.
Thanks for sharing your life story!
Just let life takes its natural course. If you meet someone, then great. If not, then so be it. But one thing - beware of gold diggers
Life goes on, Kirk. Take your time and go forward.
What you're saying is so true and I agree. No need to hurry and just live your life happily. Take your time, but also don't miss out when something good comes along.
Its hard adapting to loss of loved ones and the sense of sudden loneliness and rushing into a relations at this moment may definitely a big mistake.
You will be fine Kirk. The journey on Planet Earth is interesting and always a challenge. If another special lady comes along you will know. Sometimes one doesn't need to look it will be dropped into your lap. Stay focused on everything good as you are. People come into our lives for a reason, bringing happiness, joy, sadness, and grief whether we like it or not. Earth the learning Planet. xo
Kirk you have to find an ideal mate for yourself. Definitely the word “replacement” is never an appropriate word. No one can replace anyone!! I’m sure Wei Fong wants to see you to be happy lover and continue having a fruitful life, not a dull lost soul. No 2 persons are alike. Not a single soul in the world will ever be the same as Wei Fong. Go for it! You are not an unfaithful husband. She knows!
good reply. Yes replacement not a good word for a human.
There is nothing wrong with moving on in your life. The most important thing I think is communication and seeing that your Chinese language skills are limited then I think your future partner most likely will need to be able to speak English. Take it from a long term veteran, you need to be able to totally understand each other, without English skills both you and your future partner will be lost in communication. Don't worry, plenty will say you can learn Chinese as you go along but that will take a lot of time and patience. Using google translate will get frustrating and it isn't correct sometimes. I need to re-translate sometimes to double check and then it is so wrong and need to start over. You choose your own path and what fits you, all good, I wish you luck.
Great to see a video this morning
Hey, Alex, you are his pal. Advise Kirk to lay off the grog. His excessive consumption of beer will lead to liver diseases.
I hope you find a really lovely lady, Kirk. You’re a good man and deserve someone to spend your days with. So sorry for the loss of your wife.
I think you are right Kirk. When my wife Chin-Ni passed away a few years ago I had exactly the same things going through
my mind, but then I was thinking: what if the shoe had been on the other foot? What if I had passed first? I loved my wife,
would I have wanted her to live like a nun for the next 20 -30 years? Off course not !!! So go ahead, put some distance
between you and recent events and then find another nice new partner. Think of it that way, with what you're doing,
you can give another beautiful, middle aged lady an amazing, interesting lifestyle.
Don't rush into another relationship. Take your time to grieve and come to terms with your loss.
Glad to see you in great spirits! I'm sure weifang would want you to be happy as well! All the best!
Congratulations on your 100k subscribers. Take your time Kirk. Enjoy what you have without any stress added.
Good to see Gweilo you’re getting back and you’re gonna be OK, you’re doing it at your own pace, and you’re on the right track. Hang in there. Things are looking good for you.
You're a good guy gweilo just be happy.
Being open to a new relationship is fine, but just put your guard up a bit against jumping into something too soon, even if it looks like the real deal, out of a desire to end your loneliness. At the same time steer around much-younger women who have a "daddy" complex, and be on the alert for widows closer to your age who are needy and desperate to find a nice man, such as yourself, to lean on. Weifang seems to have been an independent woman - maybe look for someone like that, who has her own life but at the same time is open to romance.
Life goes on, I’ll support any decision you make!
People will gossip behind you if you mess around here in China. Its better to wait for another year in order to keep your hard-earned reputation.
Take your time Gweilo.
Good luck, take your time, their are plenty nice. Ladies out there.
Your health is your wealth . I am 8 years your senior and when I turn 66 cancer struck NHL and survived that ordeal . The sh*t really hit in Dec. 2021 when my Chinese wife died[in her sleep] and Covid almost got me . I sure would like to meet that special someone but with three more bouts of Covid recently . Well, I hope for the best for you. Be wise as a serpent because there are lot of snakes around . . Find a lady friend to show you how to cook ,its fun and easy . Take care and keep cool .
Yes you are right, take your time in finding your next partner. You are in no hurry you just need to find someone who is right for you. Just keep away from the gold diggers eh!
Don't rush things, you'll live to regret, one step at a time. Cheers!🍺🍺🍺
Take your time and go at a gentle pace...Friendship is No1
*All the best to you*
I just got married in Nanning last tuesday, feb. 20th 😁. I'm back in Norway right now, but will be back soon. I like Nanning better than where I live now 😌 and by the way, I'm 5 years younger than you, there's allways hope for love, what happens, happens. Your wife will allways be in your hearth, she would want you to be happy 😊
luck man i knew a brit had fake marriage just come to china meet his young bird, he just had his 60 years old birthday last week in yunnan
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Will you reside in china or Norway?
It is tough to start a new relationship after mid age. A partner relationship might be better rather than another marriage.
Agree
I think in Chinese tradition, the greatest respect and responsibility for your passed wife is to take good care of her parents and children (if her parents are still alive). Likewise, your passed wife would want you to remarry and take care of yourself.
His late wife's parents passed away. She had a surviving unmarried brother who is in his 50s.
It's possible for men and women to be just friends (good friends). It's ok to be alone/single - you are not lonely if you have good friends.....
Go for it Gweilo. You only live once.
support you on whatever your desition
My condolences. i know your wife struggled and you even went back to canada to get better. i watched you and your wife for years. stay strong and continue to live your life.
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As always, life goes on naturally stay healthy and be happy ,Jayoe
G60, you been through a lot. Looking after a terminal ill love one is both physically and mentally draining. It is time to do what's best for yourself. Nobody is going judge you for it, least of all the Chinese
The universe will make that decision for you Gweilo!
Speaking for myself. I found my soulmate when I wasn’t intentionally looking - all the best! 👍🏼
Good luck Kirk. We visited my in-laws in Southern China for the first time in 5 years (covid and school exams) over NY., back on Sunday. Was brilliant. Reinforced everything I remembered and more. Daughter loved it. ✅ I'm sure in time u will meet someone who can be your partner again. Keep the head up.💪👈Thanks
I'd just take it slow and try to be get closer with women who really seem compatible. You can certainly meet some lovely people who respect each other's freedom.
You're a grown man. Do what you think is right. You've done pretty well without our advice. 😅
Live your life, please enjoy.. I came across your channel, thank you for posting videos about China and your life...
I really think over all you are clear and seem in the right direction.I pray for you!😊
I think everyone wants you to just be happy, Kirk ❤ so whatever makes you happy
Good on you Gweilo, trust there is someone for you as you are a man with a good heart.
I won't repeat what others have already said. I think your main barrier of making a connect with someone is language. If you put some effort into learning Mandarin, it would make things much easier. In the event you do meet someone soon, I wouldn't compare her to Wei Fang because it wouldn't be fair to her. Imagine the new woman compares you to her ex-husband? Everyone is unique. Hope you will find the right person soon!
In a nutshell, you cant be alone as you are not used to it. Just take it slow and steady and dont rush it as its not easy to find a new life partner after your recent great loss. Generally I agree when in China, like others say, wait a year. All the best, Kirk!
For me I would wait a while. I feel my wife and I have been together a long time.
There is no right or wrong in this, so do it at your own pace, when YOU feel good about it. If you don't want to move on, then that's fine. If you ever decide that you finally do want to move on, that's also fine. Only YOU can decide the correct path for yourself. We will support you!
Not only "life is short". Too many examples show that two people living together do make people live longer.
Take your time Gweilo. You will find love again
Like your honest and frank talk about what and how you feel in the absence of Wei Fong. Yes, hangon and don't rush. Lots of Chinese women who are in same situation as you, have their telescope zoom at you as I write this comment.❤
What I can say is, for anyone, if you feel miserable just because you are alone, then that means you got some homework to do. Being alone is just fine. Being with someone is just fine too.
We hear you. Loosing a love one is tough. But finding another right person is even tougher. Take your time. When the right one comes along you would know it. There is no quilt in remarrying. Like my late wife said our Union ended when one of us passed. She made me promise her to marry again under one condition. That person has to be good to her two children. A few years later I did meet up with my new love, but we were not married for the children’s sake. She agreed.
Take your time! When you're ready and meet someone special you know is the right time!
Gweilo very important don't get into a bad relationship like many men facing
Nowadays people in their 60s are considered young seniors (still got some oomph). If someone suitable comes along, why not?
oomph 😂😂
Time will heal all wounds is the saying. I think that a newfound love will be natural and wish You all the best for the future!
I understand what your saying completely .I lost my wife last spring. A little too soon for me but like you anyone I meet at some point wouldn't be the person I lost. Wouldn't be fair to compare.
Your profound love for your late wife is much admired！A man of 60 Something is still young. But I wish and hope you will find another suitable partner！ Good luck.😍🙏🏼
Hi Kirk, I met my Chinese wife when I was the spritely age of 67, and am now 70. Jenny is a Spring Chicken of 51yrs. There is hope for you yet even if you are Canadian. And she has a sister slightly younger. Way to go.
Kirk erectile dysfunctional 😭
nice weather over there，thank you
I think it is best to keep an opened mind. All the best. :)
You're 100% right to get yourself back in the game. Much the same as your good self I lost my wife, the mother of my kids. We'd been married for 23 years, 15 of which I'd spent looking after her full time as a carer due to her disabilities. Yes it's true not everyone agrees with "moving on", I wouldn't think of it as moving on, love is an energy, and like energy it can neither be created or destroyed. You'll always have that love but you'll also have so much more to give. I tried explaining to people it's not the hours without Pauline I found hard, it was the minutes. Go out an live life, because the last thing your wife would have ever wanted was for you to become ostrisied from life, take it at your own pace and I wish you all the best in your future. BTW 63?? Lad you look half my age and I'm 51! If I can meet someone, anyone can 😂
Difficult to take decision at this age. But we wish you to be happily married with a appropriate lady ❤.
I am happy & like to see you live in Mainland China. I support Gweilo60. 👍
People are crazy on how they express 😂😂I'm happy for you! And life will provide ❤
The chinese sages of the old saying goes: life is birth, growing old, sickness , death, lost love one, can't get what we want in life, and get things that we don't want. Encounter things and situations are worrisome, this is our life that we have to go through.. soon we all die, everyone has to die, people born from the past die, people born die and people born in the future die. we all have to go through, accept or not.
I say , try not to be alone , your job and duty is not stuck in the past, it is totally 1000000% gone, we grief as it is human goodness.. but then we have to let go and just get on with it.
your job is to do thing that you enjoy and it is good for you and also a little bit good for society or others. true love is unconditional, not physical. Just get another one and your previous partner has moved on, they don't wait for you in heaven as they say.. they want you to move. stop crying and victimized yourself.
good luck old boy. thanks for helping to promote chinese culture to the world, so people can enjoy it.
Wow, what a topic for a new widower .
I believe that it would be best to wait a little longer, but overall, I think this is a wise move Gweilo. Dont sweat the small stuff and have a beer for all of us stuck on this side of the pond!!
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It’s not just you G60. Many do the same. People are afraid to be alone. It’s set in their way too.
You decide how long you need to greive. Don't rush it. I wish you all the best.
Take your time. Enjoy when your daughter visits. Being single offers all kinds of opportunities.
My cousin is perfect for u! She is only in her fifties, she has an education and her parent were teachers in China from south east Asia! When I am back, most of our family are in america and in Canada. I think you a great for her.
You never know....go with the flow that is it
Mate go for it be happy. You deserve it. But do it only when you're ready. Age is of no consequence. Cheers mate.
Look after yourself
It's your choice bro
Gweilo, you are so real, down to earth, and speak in paced and ease way. that's what attracts me that no others, just pleasant to hear you talking something or nothing.
Remember you are perfect as you are. You do not need a new partner for the future. It is now time to get spiritual as mankind's expiry date is near. Prepare for your leaving to join the loved ones over yonder. Good luck and best wishes for the future. 🤫
Time will heal. It takes time Kirk. I am older than you. True you only live once but you want to live fullest…with a partner.
Go for it. Your life will always be with your lovely wife and if you find a new friend she will always be with you.
Let us the audience decide if the lady suits you or not, put her on your videos, if she refuses then that's the end of that for her. 😂
😆 haha Kirk needs a wife
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We will decide who his new wife will be. 😀
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Not joke, this is for real.
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Love your video
Liked before watch. Go get that girl :D
With good intentions and an honest heart, you do what's right for you. Nobody need judge.
Advertise in the chinese social media that Geilou 60 is looking for life partner again!!
Live your best life as you see it. I like your attitude about life (your life) all the best to you.
Kirk, it's good that your bigger brain is working instead of the little brother. I met so many dudes who were taken to the cleaners. Raging teenage hormone brings lots of problems. Being much lower on male hormone actually allows one to think properly. Life is happier when you can filter out all those potential red flags out there.
Yes find a live -in partner as long as the other partner agrees . That's the best choice.
👍👍👍
Living together is not the thing in China, unlike the West.
we only live once and do whatever you believe is the best for yourself.... others will always have their opinions but so what
Let nature take its course 👍 if it happens it happens. If it doesn’t then let it be!🙏
Exactly
You are one sweet prey out there. Good luck!
Prey, feiji piao?
It is not easy to live alone after you have a partner for so many years, but life goes on .. i have been doing it since i was 45 years old and now i am 59 still alone and retired for 4 years... now I just started feel lonely after retirement. Take care yourself and maybe you will find a suitable person to keep you company.. just moved back from The U.S and living in Jakarta metropolitan city, doing very well here.. watching you and I understand how you feel Gweilo..
Thanks I think a lot of people go through what we are going through and it is just part of life.
Reminds me of a pop song from more than 30 years ago.
"We all need love. All god, children, me, and you. We all need love. I swear it's true. All god, children, me, and you." 🎶🎵
I would say you do what you feel is right, and ignore what other people say.