The fact that, despite everything, you tell your daughters to remain respectful to their aunty & grandma says alot about your character, loyalty, & integrity 👏🏾
I would cut my mom AND my sister off FOREVER! Them girls know them two birds ain’t right. That’s why Tocha solo career never went anywhere…ole basic hussy
So true she said that as the little girl still wanting love and acceptance. And knowing Deaconness Wig she would’ve thrown that 2 jobs etc in her face as being a “good” mom.
@@ZonDAmour1 nah the other is just as beautiful you only said that because she lighter and have the colored eyes and that social media look. Both are equally beautiful
I love how you’ve taught your girls, in spite of all that’s going on, to still respect your mom and sister. Those girls LOVE you and don’t want ANYONE mistreating their mom.. ❤️
I really appreciate Tameka for sharing this. Parents always have a golden child that they enable to do bad things to their siblings and other family members. In some families it’s the oldest others it’s the youngest. It just depends. Latocha is at it with all the members and the group is sick of her ish. She needs to humble herself no one likes a narcissist. As an older sibling I’m not leaving first when there is danger. I need to protect my younger siblings.
I have so much respect for you, Tamika! Tears fell from my eyes because my heart ached for you. I’m happy you found your voice. God will truly prosper you.
I've known Tamika since I was a child, and she's not a mean person, and I'm shocked. I pray that all this comes together for them. I'm so sorry for all of this that they're going through. Nedrea (Bee) Scott; Washington D.C.
Yes, her Mom is a textbook toxic narcissist parent. One child is the golden child and the other is the ScapeGoat. Sometimes going NO CONTACT with toxic family members is the only way, sad when it be your own people.
I just really have developed such a loyal admiration and love for Tamika. She is my favorite member now. I don’t have any brothers or sisters I wish Tamika was my sister. She is so cool.
Tamika did an amazing job singing LaTocha's parts at their concert! Although it was only three of them, their show did not miss a beat! Keep growing and glowing!!! (I saw Xscape in November 2022 on the Monica and Friends tour)
Your daughter is an intelligent young queen. She is absolutely correct. Parental favoritism can be a form of psychological abuse if the parent subjects the child to behavior that can result in mental trauma such as depression, anxiety or self-esteem issues.
As the only girl in a household of three brothers I know what it’s like when your mother has favorites. Everytime the boys spoke she fawned and listened but whenever it came time I spoke my mind she’d throw a fit and always say “here she go” When I have my own kids I’m gunna do what you did and not show favoritism because it was definitely discouraging. Funny thing is when my mom gets too old to look after herself it’ll 9/10 be myself that will look after her, for many reasons
We are on your side Tamika. I could tell by your sisters body language that she was lying and same with your mother. I could see the guilt all over their faces. It’s very unfortunate and sad how your sister is behaving. Your sister is going to need you before you need her.
WE BELIEVE YOU, TAMIKA! I hope you find peace, and even if you never get an apology, just know: WHAT’S DONE IN THE DARK, WILL ALWAYS COME TO THE LIGHT! ❤ Protect your mental well-being!
Tamika this is how generational curses are broken!!! You are amazing!!! Your girls are right there in the thick of this situation with you!!! Keep shining for them. I hated the way they made you look like the bad guy. Anybody with common sense could see there were so many layers to this thing. My heart goes out to you all! May God step in and completely turn this whole thing around❤️🙏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽❤️ #TouchAndAgreeWithMe
Honestly, unhealthy family dynamics need to be exposed. Blood is no reason to have to accept mistreatment. I love the fact that your daughter was honest. I don’t care how much we love ppl doesn’t mean their behavior is always ok and I teach my daughter that you can respectfully let even elders know when they are wrong.
Your mom and sister thought that they can treat you any type of way all these years because you're not going to say anything you're not going to air out their business you've been protecting their business for this long so they feel like they can be shiesty and do whatever the f*** they want because they feel like you're not going to say anything but I am so glad that you stood up to them and said something I'm going through the same thing with my family not my sisters but other people in my family
It was so hard to watch your mom whisper "She's jealous" to your sister when you were trying to explain your feelings and for them to minimize your feelings by saying you were just acting. You deserve support. Glad you have your daughters.
Yeah that was really horrible. I’ve only heard of this with some of our men, but wow I would’ve never thought. Now we see why Tocha act the way she does. She’s like a big kid! It’s sad.
I feel the hurt and burden that you have been carrying for the love and loyalty that you’ve shown to your family and to witness the favoritism,(not because you told us, we saw it) is heartbreaking. I just pray that your mother can rewatch this and see herself and correct her behavior towards you. Sometimes parents don’t like what they see in their children because it reminds them of themselves. I know that you’re hurting and you still want to do right by them but also understand that this is your breakthrough and victory is the result. Introducing the full fledged Tamika Scott that we have always loved and was waiting on! Do your thing Sis!❤❤❤
I felt everything in those scenes with your mom. These scenarios are real. In many families. Your mom has two daughters and they should be treated and respected equally. It’s that simple
I just did not want to believe all of the things that even the public had been saying about your sister, but now it's very easy to believe it all. I'm so sorry you all have to be subjected to loved ones that are literal blood and treat you this way. My heart truly goes out to you. I pray for you, your children, your mom, and even your sister to get through this test and see the error of their ways and come to change 🙏🏼 Much love from Newark, NJ
It’s just a sad situation. There’s 3 sides to every story, but I truly believe you. I pray that you all are able to get through this, but I understand that sometimes you gotta leave people where they are.
I have a new respect for Tamika. She is not speaking with any malice in her heart. Also, though she is speaking and standing strong this has to be hurtful.
This sometimes happens when you find your voice and start making decisions for yourself and your family needs (children, husband). Sometimes family can’t stand to see you grow!!! Stay strong Tamika!!!
It's really dope to see you model how you are processing this for your daughter's, although this is something you are still dealing with emotionally your still ensuring you are teaching them as young women the importance of processing with respect I hope they also know or learn that there are safe ways to do that and sometimes it means you have to love folks from a distance depending on how toxic the relationship is because they lived through a lot of these moments with you and it hurts them to see you hurt in the past and present. This looks like it was therapeutic for your family, wish you the best
You are so strong Tamika. I love that you are speaking out and standing up for yourself. Mental abuse is never okay. It's worse than physical abuse because those wounds take much longer to heal. I relate to you a lot. Just remember sometimes it's best to cut the toxic people out of your life and love them from afar. Your daughters are so beautiful and intelligent. You are being the mom you deserved to have. 🖤
Agreed!!! That hurt MYYY feelings to see her act like that towards Tamika. Like WTF was that?!!😟 But as soon as I heard her mama on the phone say, you need to hear Tosha side of it, I was like WOWWW ohhhkkk...🙄not yall need to sit down and hear each other or tell me what happened from your side so I can hear both counts of what happened.... It's really sad! They really need an Iyanla sit down for real!!! I pray that they heal from all this lifelong family dynamic trauma.
When she whispered to Tomika, "she's jealous " it irritated my soul. We have to get out of the mindset, that older people should be respected to the utmost degree or they deserve it just because they are the parent. She disrespected Tamika in front of her own child. I've had that happen to me and baby I gave my grandmother the smoke. My mother didn't want to disrespect her mother because she is from the old school, honor thy mother and thy father.....but baby I'm giving it to whoever goes at my Mom, period point blank. It really is a tough situation to navigate.
Love you ladies, thank you for the years of extraordinary music hats off to you legendary ladies to both groups. I am in 😭 hearing this I am praying 🙏 for you all, and with you all, God is more than able to bring you all through this all 💕.
I adore everything about you ... how you ensure your children remain respectful to family, how you communicate respectfully at all times, there's so much about you that I love and respect....I NEED MORE!!!!!!!
I am so happy Tamika’s second daughter is her rider fr. She has clearly seen her aunt and her granny seriously mistreat her mom and mentally abuse her like the daughter said. I’m glad Tamika is loved properly by someone other than mom.
This newer generation recognizes all forms of abuse. I love how your daughters don’t play about their momma. Grandma or Auntie…they can point out the dysfunction. That’s a testament to how well you and your husband have raised them💜
Watching that scene hurt my feelings so bad. For your mother to side with your sister is unbelievable to me. As a mother I would try to fix it between my children, not choose a side. I pray it works out for all of you.
Even now with “coming clean,” Tamika is still protecting her sister. Notice how she isn’t saying most of the things her sister said and did to her. A real class act.
I completely understand what you are saying and what you are going through.. I went through the same thing.. distance makes the heart grow fonder.. if they really loved you and they want to be apart of your life.. they will show up .. praying for you...all Dallas loves you and thank you for creating beautiful music for history
To be honest Xscape would be a great trio! Sometimes you just have to let people go and do what they want....and when they do, be sure you close the door so they can't come back! Let her go and stay solo. Tameka its unfortunate you didn't get more lead parts cuz in my opinion, you have better vocal ability than your sibling. Stay blessed Queen!
🙏🏽Thank you for sharing additional insight with us as fans of Xscape. ♥️🙏🏽 After watching this, my heart went out to you and your family💕🙏🏽 The world should Never see and know this much about personal family matters. Communication is Healing🙏🏽 Everyone has to hold themselves Accountable for some part of the confusion. This is why Jesus said to Forgive 77x7(it’s a metaphor)! It’s ok to say “I was wrong, I hurt you with my words, my actions, Please forgive me🙏🏽and turn away and do better going forward! Love Always Always Wins❣️❣️ See, everybody has an opinion, we have to learn to Work hard a Pleasing God, Not People❣️ Tosha experienced the world judging her body negatively 🙏🏽 That hurt runs long and deep♥️🙏🏽 I’m praying for Healing over her because she was and is still beautiful. It’s a Mean O World Out here🙏🏽 All these years and still unresolved is simply allowing the enemy to bounce y’all up against every wall he can. Time to beat the enemy at his foolishness! Seriously, we All got something!!! Nobody is truly right and we are All wrong!! Forgiveness, Hugs and Love… everyone make your favorite dish, come together and start with.. I was wrong starting with…. And please find it in your heart to Forgive Me?♥️🙏🏽♥️ In front of the kids and all! No one will be Perfect! Just try to be honest with each other and Love on Each Other🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽 Cut the Embarrassment- Be real to each other. Be the example we need to bring Peace to our youth and how to Rise Above🙏🏽 And it’s enough money for Everyone! Do your Solo and help each other!! And do Xscape💕 Come on Now, Step into it ♥️ All of you have beautiful voices, Sang and Show up for Your Children and Grandchildren 🙌💕♥️🙏🏽I Love Y’all
I agree with your daughter that it was mental abuse...and emotional abuse when you really think about it. The way your mom whispered "She's just jealous" to your sister behind your back not validates what felt but also exhibits mental and emotional abuse. Prayers to you and your family 🙏🏾
I’m so proud of you Tamika for raising two beautiful daughters and speaking your truth but you didn’t deserve to be done wrong at all and God got you and your daughters no matter what y’all keep shining 🌟🌟⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🌟🌟🌟🌟⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🌟
I grew up with a similar upbringing of jealous sisters. I just realized this after my mother passed. We have similar hearts as far as always loving our sisters no matter what. Praying for your sister and family❤
I love how well spoken Niya is and she made a good point when Tamika was saying that in spite of the favoritism that her mom was still a good mom. “Isn’t that still mental abuse?” It doesn’t have to be physical to leave scars.
Gurl everything you have done has been out of Love....God knew you would never remove yourself from the toxicity so he allowed their heart to become obstinate (like he did Pharoah) and she removed herself from you. You see it hard to get the respect from the older siblings because you followed them blindly all your like and now that you are older with children you expect respect but instead of giving you the respect you have earned they try manipulation and intimidation. Anything bit owned where they are wrong. Continue to stay prayed up but respect your boundaries you have established As long as you know you come from place of love that includes mutual respect..let go and let God....this is a marathon not a sprint. Try to always pray before speaking and remember God said vengeance was his and he shall repay. Don't allow them to gaslight you. God will settle all of this baby girl...keep loving them and praying for them but you don't have to lay down and get walked over....You are so kind and compassionate. I felt your pain and I know this happened to you.
To see the Scott sisters fighting is hard to watch, but to hear what Tamika has had to endure from her mom and sister all this time is absolutely heartbreaking, and I believe her 100%. She has such a big, bright personality that you just assume she's always happy. Good for her for finally standing up for herself. Loving and respecting your family does not mean subjecting yourself to abuse or painful interactions, sometimes you have to love them from afar to protect your peace. Nobody gets this many passes just because they're family. Love is a verb.
I’m just sitting here in tears because I go through the same thing with my mom. I’ll be 41, and I have tried to fix whatever. But, nothing I do…u know what, I luv u for this
Yes they seem mature, level headed, and conduct themselves like normal healthy minded young women. There’s no jealous or envious or narcissistic energy from Tamika family. Her sister family with their mother are shady twisted people trying to put up a front it shows.
I just watched a video of you singing the song written for Yolanda Adams and it made my heart happy. The way that you stood with and for your sister all those years. And in my opinion dimmed your light just a little is selfless and the epitome of love. But you are shining now! I love it! And you may not have your sister and Mom’s support at the moment (love conquers all) you have a world full of woman rooting for you. We love you
I saw Xscape 3 a few years ago and Tamika was having a full blown conversation with a random fan who was on the front row. Tiny had to come get her, so when she said that she don't think she's better then anybody I believe her. She's definitely down to earth and cool....
Her & Tiny stood in the parking lot with my roommate & I for AT LEAST 30 minutes after a show laughing, joking & having a good time, so I second this comment.
Tamika you have to love your mother and sister from a distance, let them have each other. I know they've hurt you but you have your husband, children and grandchildren to get you thru it. We love you and hang in there. The sun doesn't shine everyday, nor does it rain everyday. Let go of anything that doesn't serve you.
I agree but now they are locked down by BUSINESS... I wished before she entered into the deal, she would have made it clear NO discussing she and her sister's issues on the show... I know it's GREAT for ratings but this is a serious matter that requires serious attention...
Sometimes your sibling relationship can be toxic AF! And I'm proud of you for speaking & sharing your truth Tamika!! And I'm grateful you have support around you that is genuine!!!
I "especially" loved how you recognized the expression on your daughter's face who has the glasses on and allowed her to speak, express herself and be heard without interrupting. That right there, speaks "volumes" about you as a Mother. That part gave me chills and brought tears all at the same time. But all in a good way. May Blessing continue to follow you and your girls and your entire family. May we all be loved and blessed 🙌 I love you all 💛
I understand what you're saying but just keep in mind that Tamika is a brand and she still has to have the main control over the comments and it's direction. As a professional she knows what she wants released and not released. Her daughters are not fully in the business so they may run on with info that's not due to be released yet. Just giving an insight on this, coming from someone in the business who has to curve things in interviews all the time.
I'm praying for the healing of all families . I'm so proud of you you are handling this chaos so well and I know it hurts I'm going through similar things. The way you set that boundary. I wish you were my sister. We will master this and there's something greater got us when we do. You are worthy remember that. One day they may realize they're wrong and vibe back around but you can't hold your breath keep moving sis. They will see when everybody they mistreated you for mistreats them and they long for you. Continue being the graceful beautiful soul you are, keep doing the self work. We have to focus on those that do right by us. I wish y'all could bring a therapist in and have family sessions. It looks like you're the only one doing the work. I'm praying for y'all. I love you stay strong Queen ❤❤❤
When her mo said "I'm the fifth member of Xscape" I KNEW SHE WAS THE DRAMA... and everything she showed us afterwards let me know that she is more problematic than even I realized.
The saddest scene I've witnessed in a long time was her with her Mother and Sister. I don't care how hard she worked to provide financially, the emotional support is not there and it's toxic.
@Chawday 39 so heartbreaking. Sending love your way. No child deserves that. Lord knows my childhood was messed up. Seeing your parent is capable of being there for you but chooses to not be is a pain I wouldn't wish on anyone. 💔❤️💯
This was beautiful sis, it's good to see ALL of your daughters in one spot, the show made me sad, seeing everything go down like that, I pray that everything eventually works out between you and your sister, no one wins when the family feuds! i'm glad you let your daughters speak and express themselves as well. ❤☕
We gotta start calling out family for mental/emotional abuse just like your daughter said. Parents need to be held accountable for that. Sometimes we get to a point where its best to love them from a distance. Whatever you do, start protecting your peace. Show your daughters how they can protect their peace.
Tameka, I just want to say KUDOS to you for being such an amazing mom and an inspirational role model to your precious daughters. I have two grown daughters too and always encourage them to do the same thing you’re teaching your daughters to do which is to separate themselves from family drama between me and my sisters and always love and respect them no matter what. As Roman 8:28 says, “All things work together for the good for those who love the Lord.” I pray that everything work out for you and your family. Love you sis 🤗🙏🏽🙏🏽💕
Your daughter is on point…emotional/mental abuse should not be tolerated and or excused/downplayed…we wouldn’t want to set that example for our children to think it’s okay to be treated this way. Sometimes it’s best to walk away.
Tamika! I believe in YOU!! You are Loved and Supported! Period!! The way your Daughters are there to support you shows how beautiful of a job you and your husband did raising them! Your heart shines! We see it!! Prayers for reconciliations, apologies, ownership, moving forward, and healing! Love you!!
God bless this family ❤🙏🏽 Tamika, you an excellent Mother! Your daughters are so beautiful and loving. I just wish you would love your mom and sister from a distance. It's hard for me to see them treat you the way they do, I cannot imagine how much it hurts your beautiful girls. Cling to the ones that love you most.
When I watched this episode Tamika, I knew you were telling the truth and didn’t question it for one second. I could feel it. You have done nothing wrong. Please continue to be who you are… (Your voice, charisma, and energy are always wonderful when you come on screen and it resonates through the tv). I don’t know anyone who watched this and thought you were wrong. I’m glad to see you were surrounded by family that loves you and it’s a testament to how good of a person you are
Sometimes, you have to let family go. Would you allow a stranger mistreat you? No one has the right because they are blood to treat you like trash. You are extremely talented. Use your beautiful voice to do other work without the group or your sister: duos, commercials, voiceovers, etc. Peace of mind is everything. I hope you get it. Your girls and you deserve it.
I appreciate you talking about this situation. Did things for my sisters and my mom support them more than I. Thank you we are the black sheep of the family and we are the most loving forgiving and thoughtful people in the universe. God does have our backs unconditionally!!
You don't look crazy at all. You appear genuine, hurt and truthful on and off the show. We rising with you. We love originality!!! Period!!! #TeamTamika
I'm soooooo loving this show! Love this family vibe...Loving it all. Wishing you and you sister the best. I come from a to child household so I definitely no the dynamics.❤
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It was painful to watch their mom mouth to LaTocha that Tamika is jealous of her. It broke my heart 🥺
So wrong!!
My mom is tht same way .she push the issue of sibling rivalry .no mom should av a preference
Reminds me of my grandmother and how she is with my aunts compared to my mom
I agree.
That hurt me and proved tamika was right bout latacha and Mrs Gloria
The fact that, despite everything, you tell your daughters to remain respectful to their aunty & grandma says alot about your character, loyalty, & integrity 👏🏾
Definitely
I would cut my mom AND my sister off FOREVER! Them girls know them two birds ain’t right. That’s why Tocha solo career never went anywhere…ole basic hussy
I believe every word you said . About your sister . You are a beautiful Lady i hate you felt out with Kandi. But life goes on .
Definitely!! I love that🙌🏾💯
💯 I love that and that's how it should be ♥️
I love how insightful her daughters are. They’re able to recognize that mental abuse is still abuse.
My heart really breaks for Tamika, and she is still sticking up for them. “My mama was a great mama..” baby no she was not and still currently isn’t.
So true she said that as the little girl still wanting love and acceptance.
And knowing Deaconness Wig she would’ve thrown that 2 jobs etc in her face as being a “good” mom.
Side note: I can’t get over how absolutely BEAUTIFUL Tamika & her daughters are! Wow 😍💖
They’re stunning! Esp the youngest!!!
Yesssss she has some stunning girls!! 😍
Seriously 😍
@@ZonDAmour1 nah the other is just as beautiful you only said that because she lighter and have the colored eyes and that social media look. Both are equally beautiful
@@doneeshacunningham2949 it has nothing to do with shin complexion. The younger one is obviously prettier
We are with you Tamika. We believe you
Love Me Some Tamika... Definitely believe her.
We’re all on her team. The only people that aren’t are the ones just like Tocha and their mom
@@CleverAOYM Exactly..
ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!!
I truly believe you, just keep praying about the situation.🥰🤗🙏🏽
I love how you’ve taught your girls, in spite of all that’s going on, to still respect your mom and sister. Those girls LOVE you and don’t want ANYONE mistreating their mom.. ❤️
That's a hard thing for a child to watch their mom or dad be attack. Especially their Mother, natural instincts is to fight young or older.💯
Tamika needs her own show. Beautiful family. God Bless you and your family 🙌🏽🙌🏽❤️
Tamekia need to be on RHOA! I love her personality
I like her on the current show & they should build up on all of the women's lives ...without Tocha
I hope they add her so her bag can grow even bigger
Ain’t she the one that lied on Kandi back in the day?
Too classy
I really appreciate Tameka for sharing this. Parents always have a golden child that they enable to do bad things to their siblings and other family members. In some families it’s the oldest others it’s the youngest. It just depends. Latocha is at it with all the members and the group is sick of her ish. She needs to humble herself no one likes a narcissist. As an older sibling I’m not leaving first when there is danger. I need to protect my younger siblings.
I love how she set boundaries for her daughters but allowed them to express themselves. I can feel the love they have for their mother.
This is real parenting. When they feel as if they can express themselves but not too far to cross a line.
That one in the front ready to cut up lol
I don’t like the way your mom or your sister treats you. You’re amazing and you have a beautiful soul!
This made me cry, I believe you, you were very sincere!!
Yes I loved it as well.
I have so much respect for you, Tamika! Tears fell from my eyes because my heart ached for you. I’m happy you found your voice. God will truly prosper you.
I've known Tamika since I was a child, and she's not a mean person, and I'm shocked. I pray that all this comes together for them. I'm so sorry for all of this that they're going through.
Nedrea (Bee) Scott; Washington D.C.
You can tell, even with the shows editing that Tamika is telling 100% true 💯
Facts
Yes, her Mom is a textbook toxic narcissist parent. One child is the golden child and the other is the ScapeGoat. Sometimes going NO CONTACT with toxic family members is the only way, sad when it be your own people.
Stevie Wonder could see that Tamika was telling the truth!!!
I just really have developed such a loyal admiration and love for Tamika. She is my favorite member now. I don’t have any brothers or sisters I wish Tamika was my sister. She is so cool.
#TeamTamika
Tamika did an amazing job singing LaTocha's parts at their concert! Although it was only three of them, their show did not miss a beat! Keep growing and glowing!!!
(I saw Xscape in November 2022 on the Monica and Friends tour)
So the concert was done without her sister?
Great because I plan on catching them when they return to Los Angeles.
They went on tour when Kandi left the group because she didn’t want to be in the group anymore.
When did you go to the show?!
Yes they have been doin shows without her. They took her off the promo pic
Hats off to Tamika...her daughters are well loved and it shows through their maturity and respect and love for their mom.
It's beautiful to see a mother being a parent a role model and guiding your children...
We support and believe you Tamika. You are validated and loved!!!
❤️
I ALWAYS believed her years ago, even when they tried to make her look “crazy” or said she had a mental illness. LaTocha has always had a complex.
Mom was probably jealous an just a plain mean jealous person that will never own up to what she did. Now you know never trust her again😊
U BETTA KNOW IT!!!! WE HAVE UR BACK TAMIKA!!!! When yall coming to Detroit???
Yep. And I one hundred percent believe her.
Your daughter is an intelligent young queen. She is absolutely correct.
Parental favoritism can be a form of psychological abuse if the parent subjects the child to behavior that can result in mental trauma such as depression, anxiety or self-esteem issues.
I AGREE🙂
I agree
It's narcissistic abuse, any way you slice it. It's clear as day.
I agree also 😊
Absolutely
You are setting a wonderful example for your daughters. Sometimes you can't help everyone, even siblings. So proud of you and your girls.
As the only girl in a household of three brothers I know what it’s like when your mother has favorites.
Everytime the boys spoke she fawned and listened but whenever it came time I spoke my mind she’d throw a fit and always say “here she go”
When I have my own kids I’m gunna do what you did and not show favoritism because it was definitely discouraging.
Funny thing is when my mom gets too old to look after herself it’ll 9/10 be myself that will look after her, for many reasons
Parents have favorites, lol. You might love them the same but you're going to like/connect with another moreso than the other, lol.
The daughter wearing glasses is very perceptive and smart. She framed the family dynamic perfectly. Impressive for such a young lady.
Right!!!
She got just like her mom
Yes I like her she’s actually very smart and realizes her mom is being abused
She called it right, it’s emotional abuse.
@@mermaid30019 she actually said mental abuse. But it’s both. Mental and emotional. I feel so bad for Tomeka
We are on your side Tamika. I could tell by your sisters body language that she was lying and same with your mother. I could see the guilt all over their faces. It’s very unfortunate and sad how your sister is behaving. Your sister is going to need you before you need her.
Well said 🤎
Exactly, unfortunately this type of thing happens all the time
In that order.💯🙏🏽
You could definitely tell Tocha was LYING, lol.
@@MessyyMissyy yes, that's so sad that they team up on her like that. They should be ashamed of themselves.
WE BELIEVE YOU, TAMIKA! I hope you find peace, and even if you never get an apology, just know: WHAT’S DONE IN THE DARK, WILL ALWAYS COME TO THE LIGHT! ❤ Protect your mental well-being!
Tamika this is how generational curses are broken!!! You are amazing!!! Your girls are right there in the thick of this situation with you!!! Keep shining for them. I hated the way they made you look like the bad guy. Anybody with common sense could see there were so many layers to this thing. My heart goes out to you all! May God step in and completely turn this whole thing around❤️🙏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽❤️ #TouchAndAgreeWithMe
Honestly, unhealthy family dynamics need to be exposed. Blood is no reason to have to accept mistreatment. I love the fact that your daughter was honest. I don’t care how much we love ppl doesn’t mean their behavior is always ok and I teach my daughter that you can respectfully let even elders know when they are wrong.
Yes it should be but NOT IN FRONT OF THE CAMERA. IT MAKES IT WORST
I appreciate what you posted I wish more parents would teach this.
In therapy, not to the general public who only wants to tear your family with their opinions. How is this a path to healing?
Speak on it speak on it I agree
Your mom and sister thought that they can treat you any type of way all these years because you're not going to say anything you're not going to air out their business you've been protecting their business for this long so they feel like they can be shiesty and do whatever the f*** they want because they feel like you're not going to say anything but I am so glad that you stood up to them and said something I'm going through the same thing with my family not my sisters but other people in my family
It was so hard to watch your mom whisper "She's jealous" to your sister when you were trying to explain your feelings and for them to minimize your feelings by saying you were just acting. You deserve support. Glad you have your daughters.
That really pissed me off and confirmed a lot for me
God knew she needed her daughters
God will handle it. He always have a way of bringing ppl back to you who has wronged you.
Yeah that was really horrible. I’ve only heard of this with some of our men, but wow I would’ve never thought. Now we see why Tocha act the way she does. She’s like a big kid! It’s sad.
Yes omg I was hoping that was for drama ratings purposes n not her acting like that towards her daughter in real life 😢that’s sickening
I feel the hurt and burden that you have been carrying for the love and loyalty that you’ve shown to your family and to witness the favoritism,(not because you told us, we saw it) is heartbreaking. I just pray that your mother can rewatch this and see herself and correct her behavior towards you. Sometimes parents don’t like what they see in their children because it reminds them of themselves. I know that you’re hurting and you still want to do right by them but also understand that this is your breakthrough and victory is the result. Introducing the full fledged Tamika Scott that we have always loved and was waiting on! Do your thing Sis!❤❤❤
I felt everything in those scenes with your mom. These scenarios are real. In many families. Your mom has two daughters and they should be treated and respected equally. It’s that simple
Listening to Tameka has made me gain a whole new level of respect for her. Kudos to these young queens that love their mom unconditionally as well.
Hats off to Tamika for raising such smart young, respectful women ❤
You know she has a whole husband rightb
They are truly raising some beautiful babies ❤😊
@@MarauderM00gi we talking about Tamika rn though, stay on topic bookie😘
@@squiliamfancyson3702 shut your goofy ass up
I just did not want to believe all of the things that even the public had been saying about your sister, but now it's very easy to believe it all. I'm so sorry you all have to be subjected to loved ones that are literal blood and treat you this way. My heart truly goes out to you. I pray for you, your children, your mom, and even your sister to get through this test and see the error of their ways and come to change 🙏🏼 Much love from Newark, NJ
It’s just a sad situation. There’s 3 sides to every story, but I truly believe you. I pray that you all are able to get through this, but I understand that sometimes you gotta leave people where they are.
I have a new respect for Tamika. She is not speaking with any malice in her heart. Also, though she is speaking and standing strong this has to be hurtful.
This sometimes happens when you find your voice and start making decisions for yourself and your family needs (children, husband). Sometimes family can’t stand to see you grow!!!
Stay strong Tamika!!!
Yup!
Baby listen💞
Exactly!
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Shid I needed ths word.
It's really dope to see you model how you are processing this for your daughter's, although this is something you are still dealing with emotionally your still ensuring you are teaching them as young women the importance of processing with respect I hope they also know or learn that there are safe ways to do that and sometimes it means you have to love folks from a distance depending on how toxic the relationship is because they lived through a lot of these moments with you and it hurts them to see you hurt in the past and present. This looks like it was therapeutic for your family, wish you the best
You are so strong Tamika. I love that you are speaking out and standing up for yourself. Mental abuse is never okay. It's worse than physical abuse because those wounds take much longer to heal. I relate to you a lot. Just remember sometimes it's best to cut the toxic people out of your life and love them from afar. Your daughters are so beautiful and intelligent. You are being the mom you deserved to have. 🖤
I'm glad she is speaking up for herself. It was painful to see her mother act that way.
Agreed!!! That hurt MYYY feelings to see her act like that towards Tamika. Like WTF was that?!!😟 But as soon as I heard her mama on the phone say, you need to hear Tosha side of it, I was like WOWWW ohhhkkk...🙄not yall need to sit down and hear each other or tell me what happened from your side so I can hear both counts of what happened.... It's really sad! They really need an Iyanla sit down for real!!! I pray that they heal from all this lifelong family dynamic trauma.
When she whispered to Tomika, "she's jealous " it irritated my soul. We have to get out of the mindset, that older people should be respected to the utmost degree or they deserve it just because they are the parent. She disrespected Tamika in front of her own child. I've had that happen to me and baby I gave my grandmother the smoke. My mother didn't want to disrespect her mother because she is from the old school, honor thy mother and thy father.....but baby I'm giving it to whoever goes at my Mom, period point blank. It really is a tough situation to navigate.
Yeah her momma got issues!
Tamika is a beautiful forgiving woman who's dealing with people who won't take accountability !!!! Hope she finds peace 💞🙏
Hats off to you and your daughters. What a beautiful relationship you have with them and they are clearly wise beyond their years. ❤
Love you ladies, thank you for the years of extraordinary music hats off to you legendary ladies to both groups. I am in 😭 hearing this I am praying 🙏 for you all, and with you all, God is more than able to bring you all through this all 💕.
Tamika & her girls needs their own reality show.... Look how beautiful and poised her daughters are! That show would be a good time!
I agree
Your youngest daughter is smart and explained how she feels very eloquently in a respectful way. Everyone is hurt in the process
I love how her children support her. Hopefully now her story will come out. It's tough being in a one sided relationship with your family....
I adore everything about you ... how you ensure your children remain respectful to family, how you communicate respectfully at all times, there's so much about you that I love and respect....I NEED MORE!!!!!!!
I am so happy Tamika’s second daughter is her rider fr. She has clearly seen her aunt and her granny seriously mistreat her mom and mentally abuse her like the daughter said. I’m glad Tamika is loved properly by someone other than mom.
This newer generation recognizes all forms of abuse. I love how your daughters don’t play about their momma. Grandma or Auntie…they can point out the dysfunction. That’s a testament to how well you and your husband have raised them💜
Yesssss so true
This newer generation does not bite their tongue rightfully so
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Watching that scene hurt my feelings so bad. For your mother to side with your sister is unbelievable to me. As a mother I would try to fix it between my children, not choose a side. I pray it works out for all of you.
I love me some Tamika and her positive energy despite what she's going through with family. She beautiful and has a beautiful soul.
That was psychological abuse. I'm so glad you have a platform to share your story. I love you, my sister.
Even now with “coming clean,” Tamika is still protecting her sister. Notice how she isn’t saying most of the things her sister said and did to her. A real class act.
She is sitting up talking about her sister and it's not cool because you don't have to be like others
Her daughters need to stay in a child's place
She is smfh and I wanna buy some of her seasonings ...She gone win though Tamika gone win regardless.
We don’t need to know everything that was done or said to her. Maybe a reconciliation will happen soon.
I'm so happy you decided to do ur review too. Luv u girl!!!💕
I completely understand what you are saying and what you are going through.. I went through the same thing.. distance makes the heart grow fonder.. if they really loved you and they want to be apart of your life.. they will show up .. praying for you...all Dallas loves you and thank you for creating beautiful music for history
To be honest Xscape would be a great trio! Sometimes you just have to let people go and do what they want....and when they do, be sure you close the door so they can't come back! Let her go and stay solo. Tameka its unfortunate you didn't get more lead parts cuz in my opinion, you have better vocal ability than your sibling. Stay blessed Queen!
Yep! Close the door for good! She wants to go--then let her Goooo! GIT!
Yup the door needs to be closed to Tocha in the group
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Family is always the start mess, so stay strong. She will come around soon. Money comes and goes, family is forever. She should know that.
🙏🏽Thank you for sharing additional insight with us as fans of Xscape. ♥️🙏🏽 After watching this, my heart went out to you and your family💕🙏🏽 The world should Never see and know this much about personal family matters. Communication is Healing🙏🏽 Everyone has to hold themselves Accountable for some part of the confusion. This is why Jesus said to Forgive 77x7(it’s a metaphor)! It’s ok to say “I was wrong, I hurt you with my words, my actions, Please forgive me🙏🏽and turn away and do better going forward! Love Always Always Wins❣️❣️ See, everybody has an opinion, we have to learn to Work hard a Pleasing God, Not People❣️ Tosha experienced the world judging her body negatively 🙏🏽 That hurt runs long and deep♥️🙏🏽 I’m praying for Healing over her because she was and is still beautiful. It’s a Mean O World Out here🙏🏽 All these years and still unresolved is simply allowing the enemy to bounce y’all up against every wall he can. Time to beat the enemy at his foolishness! Seriously, we All got something!!! Nobody is truly right and we are All wrong!! Forgiveness, Hugs and Love… everyone make your favorite dish, come together and start with.. I was wrong starting with…. And please find it in your heart to Forgive Me?♥️🙏🏽♥️ In front of the kids and all! No one will be Perfect! Just try to be honest with each other and Love on Each Other🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽 Cut the Embarrassment- Be real to each other. Be the example we need to bring Peace to our youth and how to Rise Above🙏🏽 And it’s enough money for Everyone! Do your Solo and help each other!! And do Xscape💕 Come on Now, Step into it ♥️ All of you have beautiful voices, Sang and Show up for Your Children and Grandchildren 🙌💕♥️🙏🏽I Love Y’all
I agree with your daughter that it was mental abuse...and emotional abuse when you really think about it. The way your mom whispered "She's just jealous" to your sister behind your back not validates what felt but also exhibits mental and emotional abuse. Prayers to you and your family 🙏🏾
I’m so proud of you Tamika for raising two beautiful daughters and speaking your truth but you didn’t deserve to be done wrong at all and God got you and your daughters no matter what y’all keep shining 🌟🌟⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🌟🌟🌟🌟⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🌟
I grew up with a similar upbringing of jealous sisters. I just realized this after my mother passed. We have similar hearts as far as always loving our sisters no matter what. Praying for your sister and family❤
I love how well spoken Niya is and she made a good point when Tamika was saying that in spite of the favoritism that her mom was still a good mom. “Isn’t that still mental abuse?” It doesn’t have to be physical to leave scars.
Gurl everything you have done has been out of Love....God knew you would never remove yourself from the toxicity so he allowed their heart to become obstinate (like he did Pharoah) and she removed herself from you. You see it hard to get the respect from the older siblings because you followed them blindly all your like and now that you are older with children you expect respect but instead of giving you the respect you have earned they try manipulation and intimidation. Anything bit owned where they are wrong. Continue to stay prayed up but respect your boundaries you have established
As long as you know you come from place of love that includes mutual respect..let go and let God....this is a marathon not a sprint. Try to always pray before speaking and remember God said vengeance was his and he shall repay. Don't allow them to gaslight you. God will settle all of this baby girl...keep loving them and praying for them but you don't have to lay down and get walked over....You are so kind and compassionate. I felt your pain and I know this happened to you.
It is indeed mental and emotional abuse.
And if she was at that sit down I feel she would turnt up in grandma and auntie.
Yes favorites is mental abuse it revokes negative feelings
Kids will just say it when we won't.
To see the Scott sisters fighting is hard to watch, but to hear what Tamika has had to endure from her mom and sister all this time is absolutely heartbreaking, and I believe her 100%. She has such a big, bright personality that you just assume she's always happy. Good for her for finally standing up for herself. Loving and respecting your family does not mean subjecting yourself to abuse or painful interactions, sometimes you have to love them from afar to protect your peace. Nobody gets this many passes just because they're family. Love is a verb.
Yes!!!
Latoucha must me putting alot of coins n her Mama's pocket. Mama ain't gonna bit the hand the feeds her needs & wants. Sorry Tamika .
THIS‼️💯
@@tammywilliams1569 It definitely shows !!
And sometimes you just have to let go of family too, all the way. Sorry, not sorry, it gets that bad sometimes!
I’m just sitting here in tears because I go through the same thing with my mom. I’ll be 41, and I have tried to fix whatever. But, nothing I do…u know what, I luv u for this
I absolutely love and respect everything yall just said. Peace and Blessings to you and your family
i’m here for the daughters, love their support of their mother
Hats off to you Tamika for raising very mature and insightful young ladies...
Yes...
Yes they seem mature, level headed, and conduct themselves like normal healthy minded young women. There’s no jealous or envious or narcissistic energy from Tamika family. Her sister family with their mother are shady twisted people trying to put up a front it shows.
I just watched a video of you singing the song written for Yolanda Adams and it made my heart happy. The way that you stood with and for your sister all those years. And in my opinion dimmed your light just a little is selfless and the epitome of love. But you are shining now! I love it! And you may not have your sister and Mom’s support at the moment (love conquers all) you have a world full of woman rooting for you. We love you
I love your spirit ❤ that episode brought back so many memories for me with my mom n bros 🤦🏽♀️. Keep pushing luv. God will always be on your side
I saw Xscape 3 a few years ago and Tamika was having a full blown conversation with a random fan who was on the front row. Tiny had to come get her, so when she said that she don't think she's better then anybody I believe her. She's definitely down to earth and cool....
Tamika Scott is Very Down To Earth And Really Cool🌹🌹🌹💯💯💯♥️♥️♥️A Sweetheart
@@pookkie1040 she was smiling and talking, just really engaged in the conversation. She seemed very genuine while having the conversation.
@@anetragoolsby2436 She is Fun Loving Woman...I Love Her Personality And She Always Give Me Good Advice
That was hard to watch. It’s clear that your mom has a favorite. My feelings were hurt for you. I believe everything that you said
Her & Tiny stood in the parking lot with my roommate & I for AT LEAST 30 minutes after a show laughing, joking & having a good time, so I second this comment.
Tamika you have to love your mother and sister from a distance, let them have each other. I know they've hurt you but you have your husband, children and grandchildren to get you thru it. We love you and hang in there. The sun doesn't shine everyday, nor does it rain everyday. Let go of anything that doesn't serve you.
I agree but now they are locked down by BUSINESS...
I wished before she entered into the deal, she would have made it clear NO discussing she and her sister's issues on the show...
I know it's GREAT for ratings but this is a serious matter that requires serious attention...
Very well said, Angela!👌🏽
That's the best way
Amen😊💛
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Praying for your family. I can’t imagine not communicating with my siblings. Her mother shouldn’t be in the middle, taking sides. This is so sad!
I respect you even more for this. I feel you. God bless you my girl. We love you even more for your transparency ❤
Sometimes your sibling relationship can be toxic AF! And I'm proud of you for speaking & sharing your truth Tamika!! And I'm grateful you have support around you that is genuine!!!
Facts I barely talk to mines because of the same reason...my sister can never do any wrong in my parents eyes and now she grown and spoil.
@@keishabrown1776 I feel you. Going through the same with my sister. Sometimes I feel like I’m the black sheep of the family.
@@tracyshakur4053 I say the same thing all the time
I "especially" loved how you recognized the expression on your daughter's face who has the glasses on and allowed her to speak, express herself and be heard without interrupting. That right there, speaks "volumes" about you as a Mother. That part gave me chills and brought tears all at the same time. But all in a good way. May Blessing continue to follow you and your girls and your entire family. May we all be loved and blessed 🙌 I love you all 💛
Chills & Tears🤔…..ok
I understand what you're saying but just keep in mind that Tamika is a brand and she still has to have the main control over the comments and it's direction. As a professional she knows what she wants released and not released. Her daughters are not fully in the business so they may run on with info that's not due to be released yet. Just giving an insight on this, coming from someone in the business who has to curve things in interviews all the time.
That’s what you do!!!!! “ tell me what you’re feeling” and she did it in a respectful way.
I had tears also
I'm praying for the healing of all families . I'm so proud of you you are handling this chaos so well and I know it hurts I'm going through similar things. The way you set that boundary. I wish you were my sister. We will master this and there's something greater got us when we do. You are worthy remember that. One day they may realize they're wrong and vibe back around but you can't hold your breath keep moving sis. They will see when everybody they mistreated you for mistreats them and they long for you. Continue being the graceful beautiful soul you are, keep doing the self work. We have to focus on those that do right by us. I wish y'all could bring a therapist in and have family sessions. It looks like you're the only one doing the work. I'm praying for y'all. I love you stay strong Queen ❤❤❤
When her mo said "I'm the fifth member of Xscape" I KNEW SHE WAS THE DRAMA... and everything she showed us afterwards let me know that she is more problematic than even I realized.
The saddest scene I've witnessed in a long time was her with her Mother and Sister. I don't care how hard she worked to provide financially, the emotional support is not there and it's toxic.
This is happening in a lot of families today. It’s not right but I’m in the same shoes as Tamika just minus the moolah.
@Chawday 39 so heartbreaking. Sending love your way. No child deserves that. Lord knows my childhood was messed up. Seeing your parent is capable of being there for you but chooses to not be is a pain I wouldn't wish on anyone. 💔❤️💯
This was beautiful sis, it's good to see ALL of your daughters in one spot,
the show made me sad, seeing everything go down like that, I pray that everything eventually works out
between you and your sister, no one wins when the family feuds!
i'm glad you let your daughters speak and express themselves as well.
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Exactly ti ♥️
Y’all look alike. Both beautiful!
They should express themselves but the one daughter's expression was not what she wanted. She should probably not be in on the conversations.
Ti, you really look like you related to Tamika. Both of you are beautiful 😍. I hope you do a show in this.
Ya'll are really twin sisters in spirit world Lovely T.
Sending love and prayers ❤❤❤ this touched me deeply, you are describing my life 🙏 favouritism is painful on children no matter the age.
The ways things look, its best to love and respect such family members from a great distance to protect your own sanity!
Baby girl spoke truth about Abuse💕
Set boundaries & don’t allow NO ONE to break them🙏🏾💕
U
Smart girl
We gotta start calling out family for mental/emotional abuse just like your daughter said. Parents need to be held accountable for that. Sometimes we get to a point where its best to love them from a distance. Whatever you do, start protecting your peace. Show your daughters how they can protect their peace.
We do, we can’t support family to any means. Sometimes “family” don’t mean right by you
Tameka, I just want to say KUDOS to you for being such an amazing mom and an inspirational role model to your precious daughters. I have two grown daughters too and always encourage them to do the same thing you’re teaching your daughters to do which is to separate themselves from family drama between me and my sisters and always love and respect them no matter what. As Roman 8:28 says, “All things work together for the good for those who love the Lord.” I pray that everything work out for you and your family. Love you sis 🤗🙏🏽🙏🏽💕
Tamika your family is beautiful. Keep it y'all closeness together always. Always be real and supportive with each other. 😊
I believe everything Tamika said - I would take a break from my sister and my mom - sometimes family will hurt you more than your enemies
So true.
I am so here for Tamika! She’s getting her SHINE! Mama has personality AND one hell of a voice! It’s your season Tamika!
She got that from the bottom of ur soul singing
Stay strong and always speak your truth! Continue to love yourself! You are an amazing singer and so talented!
My heart broke and eyes swelled up with tears listening to you about all this !!! Praying for you and your family love 💚🫶🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Your daughter is on point…emotional/mental abuse should not be tolerated and or excused/downplayed…we wouldn’t want to set that example for our children to think it’s okay to be treated this way. Sometimes it’s best to walk away.
Tamika! I believe in YOU!! You are Loved and Supported! Period!! The way your Daughters are there to support you shows how beautiful of a job you and your husband did raising them! Your heart shines! We see it!! Prayers for reconciliations, apologies, ownership, moving forward, and healing! Love you!!
God bless this family ❤🙏🏽 Tamika, you an excellent Mother! Your daughters are so beautiful and loving.
I just wish you would love your mom and sister from a distance. It's hard for me to see them treat you the way they do, I cannot imagine how much it hurts your beautiful girls. Cling to the ones that love you most.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this Tamika, I do believe you n your beautiful daughter’s, praying for ur sister n mom 🙏🏽
Stay strong💪🏽 much love 💕
When I watched this episode Tamika, I knew you were telling the truth and didn’t question it for one second. I could feel it. You have done nothing wrong. Please continue to be who you are… (Your voice, charisma, and energy are always wonderful when you come on screen and it resonates through the tv). I don’t know anyone who watched this and thought you were wrong. I’m glad to see you were surrounded by family that loves you and it’s a testament to how good of a person you are
Sometimes, you have to let family go. Would you allow a stranger mistreat you? No one has the right because they are blood to treat you like trash. You are extremely talented. Use your beautiful voice to do other work without the group or your sister: duos, commercials, voiceovers, etc. Peace of mind is everything. I hope you get it. Your girls and you deserve it.
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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 it hurt but sucess is the best revenge
@@awwyeahme2 True!
Amen!
That part
I appreciate you talking about this situation. Did things for my sisters and my mom support them more than I. Thank you we are the black sheep of the family and we are the most loving forgiving and thoughtful people in the universe. God does have our backs unconditionally!!
The respect you have even after all this went down says a lot about you and shows a wonderful example you are showing to your girls ❤
We love you Tamika I hope we continue to see you on tv more ❤
We do,her whole vibe is cool and her personality and disposition are on point.
I'm loving the energy of Tameka's daughters; her daughters definitely got her back. ❤️
I go through the same thing with my family sadly it never gets better you learn to deal with it praying for you guys you’ll be sisters again ❤
Well glad you are discussing this because a lot of families are dealing with the same situation
You don't look crazy at all. You appear genuine, hurt and truthful on and off the show. We rising with you. We love originality!!! Period!!! #TeamTamika
Her girls are drop dead gorgeous!!! We love you Tamika!!!! Keep being you!!!
I'm soooooo loving this show! Love this family vibe...Loving it all. Wishing you and you sister the best. I come from a to child household so I definitely no the dynamics.❤
Oh my you look so young to have a grandbaby stay strong love you Escape keep pushing forward❤🎉😊