Alex this video was extremely healing for me. My whole life because of lack of same sex affection i subscribed to living a gay lifestyle. 6 years ago I came out of that and in the process of healing God has put me in healthy male relationships where same sex affection is a huge part and its not perverted or weird and its become one of the most healing aspects of my journey. Thank you so much for talking about this from the bottom of my heart thank you.
i feel like there’s been such a loss of innocence in our society, that dampens/ distorts the beauty of relationships (being platonic or romantic) and it’s so sad. The purity and innocence that God created between humans is disintegrating and sadly, that’s the way our generation is going
Ah yes! It’s so heartbreaking😭 I’ve seen this so much, and everything is being distorted and broken. People don’t realise how much we are missing in relationships these days because people bring all this other stuff sadly into it
@@suchastrangegirl36 that ain't happening. When God's kingdom comes, then things will be better. Until then, it's only gonna get worse before it gets better.
i have always felt pressured to come out as homosexual due to the way i show affection and the way i present myself. this helped me realize that society was what was pressuring me this whole time. thank you so much.
I'm so grateful for your comment! I've often wondered if our present society is what pressures us to second guess our affections for someone of the same sex and question if it is also attraction.
@@UBU41God I agree, it's almost like homosexuality has become a trend and all the young kids want to get into it, when they see big influencers like that
Yo I'll say this. I've had a friend for 30 years we grew up together. We had sleep overs and would sleep in the same bed. I tell this man I love him Everytime we talk. I hug him and I've cried to this man. This is what you would call a best friend. I've never had any sexual attraction to him and he wasn't to me. People think we are gay. We are not. There is nothing wrong with having a bro. Playing games with a bro or going to a movie with a bro. God wanted us to have bros. Jesus had many bros. Amen
Yes. My husband has a friend he every now and then goes hang out with and invites him over. But it’s a brotherly love and they have said “I love you” to each other
I have a friend who I’ve been inseparable since like kindergarten. We did everything together. Even after I moved 5 hours away we still stayed in touch. And to this day we’re still friends. And I will never forget what my mom told me about what I said about him when I was younger, “I want him as my best man one day.” And I stand by that. God has blessed me with a brother in Christ and I thank him for it.
Wholesome friendship is a gift from God not a step in the wrong direction. Remember that young Christians, don't be fooled by the flesh because the world will only confuse from what is truth
Amen! The world is trying to distort and pervert the beauty of wholesome friendships that God really intends. Now everything is becoming sexual and romanticised. Society is losing the pure innocence and beauty of healthy relationships 😭
@@singaporechickenrice2484 Most people are straight and a super close opposite sex friendship is less common. it's easier to make that mistake. Accusing someone of being homosexual just because they're friends is a stretch.
@@christopherrodarte9822 lmao i have been "accused" of homosexuality and dating my best female friend and i didn't give a shit, if youre not gay or dating your friend just say so. no one cares THAT much about you or who your dating.
What’s so sad and disrespectful about spongebob is that they ask the original creator before he died if spongebob was gay, he said, “no he is a sponge, it’s a kids cartoon, he’s just friendly and is best friends with Patrick that’s it.” (Paraphrase) instead of the company honoring his words or wishes they write it off to make money of it saying he’s gay🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
@@arithelion5946 but his whole point of it he didn’t want him to be a part of anything, that wasn’t his goal for him. And it’s proving his point more, common sense a human being cannot be asexual by the original definition.
@@AmoSaxFrancis I'm asexual... I don't feel any sexual attraction. Ever. Asexuality is a real phenomenon that actually happens to human beings. It's not made up. Also, Spongebob is a sponge, and sponges reproduce asexually.
Can we stop sexualizing kids (even if they are cartoon kids). I’ve seen people online say Lucas and the other mermaid kid is going to F, and it’s pretty disturbing.
Yeah like a lot of LGBT stuff targets kids and I think that’s wrong. I don’t even agree when I see straight middle schoolers talk about dating on tv since kids their age is going to see that. At that age they should be learning about the world, and school, not dating and kiss, and if my eyeliner looks right for this party I’m sneaking into. 😒
@@Alibern7 definitely agree. A lot of these big companies like Disney and Nickelodeon play a big role because they catch little kids attention with celebrities like Miley Cyrus ( from Hannah Montana) and Ariana Grande (from Victorious/ Sam and Kat). Then, these celebrities switch from kids friendly to adult content in a blink of an eye, and the little kids who followed them mimic there adult behavior. I made a video on this, it was disgusting what I’ve seen over the years.
it's literally men not being able to be affectionate with other men and not being able to talk about their emotions that leads to suicide. This is why the suicide rate of men is so high. It's truly sad. Thank you for addressing it.
It seems that if people don't understand Jesus and His love, they won't be able to understand how Christians have affection and love towards each other. Simply as that. Sad, but it's true.
Then I guess that calls us Christians to be a light, not judge, and model of affectionate friendships. Otherwise, u're right, they will *not* understand the love of Christ. We need to first understand, like this video and where ppl are coming from, then be understood from the presence of Christ.
@@zy8753 That's exactly what we're called to do. We are supposed to be Ambassadors of Christ on earth. Others have to know the love of God through us, but it does not always come across because of 1. The Christian or 2. The unbeliever. It's definitely a process. But I genuinely think, if without the Holy Spirit, unbeliever cannot understand who God is and God's word, then how can they truly understand God's love, especially in a world like today?
@@hermionesings truth sister. Some revolutionary but simple advice I’ve learned was to be a friend like Christ to everyone, even strangers on the Internet. Cos you never know how the Holy Spirit work through you to help someone else or even ourselves if we’re lacking.
I feel like when your a “softer” guy people label you gay and it’s annoying!!! Like why do I have to be hyper Masculine to be straight and soft and label gay ???🧐. Shawn and Cory are great examples !!! ( that was a side note)
@Blueberrii I agree I know young adults who are more soft and their not gay and when I met them for the first time I was like “ wow there’s someone like me” i myself was shocked because I don’t come from the background I come from “ you gotta be tough”. “ you can’t cry “ and I’m like 🤔🧐
Yeah I always founded that funny, obviously not all men who are softer are gay, in fact I used to have a friend who was pretty much very masculine, everyone thought he was straight until we found out that he was gay. It just goes to show that sexuality doesn’t have a look
well when something smells like shit, looks like shit, my guess can be shit. even if I'm wrong. Well don't be masculine, but don't be surprised when u don't get girls. its how our minds were created. If you aren't masculine and act like a "man" per say, people are allowed to assume that because its things we do to generally and things of ou nature and such a coincidence that women are attracted to those men.
When you said culture that really clicked for me! Living in South Korea and Vietnam, I’ve seen how men do things that in America would be deemed as gay. I’ve seen guys hang on each other, hug,hold hands or arms, or be more affectionate towards each other. And honestly when I see it , I just see two guys or a group of guys just being friends. The only thing that makes you gay is desiring someone of the same sex not loving your brother or sister in Christ.
I’ve been getting this video in my recommended for a while today I said “Ok let me watch it” and here I’m crying cause I realize how people have corrupted something so pure. And how my own brother has fallen victim to this whole mentality.
To the pure, all things are pure, but to the defiled and unbelieving, nothing is pure; but both their minds and their consciences are defiled. Titus 1:15 ESV
im honestly just done with people making everything gay like cant i see two guys/ girls hug without someone assuming they're homosexual in the internet??
I know its annoying, I will watch a clip ore a movie and see a beautiful friendship and not see anything strange about it Then people have to ship them
Is annoying when it comes from both sides, one side they call it all gay intentionally cause is two bros and on the other hand calling it gay just to be homophobic, like bro can we just not assume???
@Tha Night science even says genetic factors can only explain 25% of homosexuality. 75% is based on other things such as desires, feelings, behavior , etc. ...so you put the puzzle pieces together
Maybe everyone should stop trying to find a “sexual” relationship with everything. Like honestly unless you’re a part of the relationship it shouldn’t matter what people’s status is. We really don’t NEED to know if someone’s straight or gay or anything else, unless we are trying to have a sexual relationship with said person.
Thank you nowadays at my school if you even talk to a guy hug a guy or talk about anything besides sports and girls people would call you sus and be judged as a homosexual
Appreciate this being expressed.. I think it's an extremely timely topic with how things are these days. I'm a guy who "feels" deeply, and always has, and have been blessed with deep relationships from an early age and I noticed after college or so people would find those close relationships out of the ordinary, and that was weird to me. Watching this made a lot of what I felt clear. Honestly I don't think people have many deep relationships at all these days, let alone with same sex relationships. With a sex-first, talk later approach to relationships, having any kind of depth to a relationship, as we've seen, you get people trying to make it out to be something suspicious. It's sad because there is so much to be had in a deep friendship. I'd like to see that made normal again.
👏 amen. We need to normalize friendship. The greek term is "philio". Love is not about just love. There are different forms of love (philia-friendship, eros-romantic, agape-unconditional/sacrificial, and storge-empathy).
the entire movie is literally a gay metaphor u have to be quite ignorant not to see it. it's even listed in the pride section. all the subtle hints and speeches to the two closeted grandmas to the call me by your name references even the sea monster part is a metaphor
@@singaporechickenrice2484 It's seen that way because there are many things that when looked at through modern day lenses fit into that but the director himself said it wasnt meant to be that way. I feel like the whole point is that the first thing people see makes it harder for same sex affection to be what it is in hetero relationships and not something it isnt
So true. Our culture and the LGBT has pushed the grounds on so many levels that now any type of affection towards anyone of the same sex is considered a same sex relationship, or their homophobic . . God is working wonders to restore this broken nation and show us what TRUE love is through His word and by speaking through people such as YOU . . to help others understand
Truth. We need so much God restoration in our society with this. What God created friendships and relationships to be was wholesome and pure and healthy. But society is romanticising and sexualising everything now, it’s heartbreaking😭 But God can move in this and bring the restoration 100% 🙌🏼
are u for real? this entire movie is literally a gay af and was even listed in the pride section. u have to be quite ignorant not to get all the metaphors from the speeches to the two closeted grandmas to the call me by your name references HELOOOO
@@naomilasela4677 I think we need much more restoration from God with corruption both political and economical, guns usage, wars, exploitation of weak people... How does what the guy is talking in the video affect you more than being an annoyance? Do you really need God to get read of what annoys you?
@@singaporechickenrice2484 which call me by your name reference? I missed that. Still, just because a film is a metaphor for homosexuality doesn't mean the characters are necessarily gay.
@@Ignasimp go search for it on youtube they were talking about it on the news,interviews,reaction channels fucking even honest trailer made a spoof joking about it copying the call me by your name.
At 6:58 you said exactly what the Bible states. People will become lovers of self! 2 Timothy 3:2 2 For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
My best friend and I are always mistaken for being gay. We don’t usually care, but now we get bombarded with questions about our sexuality by people I know. It’s frustrating.
20 years ago my best friend and I of now 47 years was gonna get T shirts that said "we're not gay we're just best friends" because people started to think that we were a couple. Yet we were sisters in Christ! ❤✝️❤
@@scootingscoot4807 "people started to think that we were a couple. Yet we were sisters in christ" She may have not intended it that way but she is writting as they not being a couple as a concequence of them being sisters in christ. As if being gay and being Christian were incompatible things.
Yeah but also not really, a person should know how to tell the difference between affection and attraction. Is just a matter for the person to ask yourself “do I want to be with this person romantically?” “Do I see them like a sister/brother?” Questions that help you distinguish ya know
Affectionate friendships are not things that need to be justified. I’ve hugged my male friends, kissed them on their cheeks, walked side by side with my arm wrapped around them, and I don’t owe anyone outside of that interaction an explanation. If this person is someone that I love, and we have a relationship that allows us to express that with more than verbal affection, we don’t need permission to do that.
THIS. This has put into words all of my frustrations, and people not being able to look normally on friendships anymore. THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO.
As a gay guy, I want to thank you for this video. I agree with your message. It’s heart felt and on point. True friendship is rooted is mutual affection and love.
It's absolutely true! I'm 22 now, but when I was younger, especially when Glee aired, seeing same-sex attraction gave me a weird feeling. I wasn't homophobic--as that bothered me ppl would really have such intense hate--but I knew even as a kid w/o ever being told by anyone that same sex attraction wasn't right. Over the years, I subscribed to the culture and even thought I was gay or anything but straight, ashamed to think I was straight. It was the most confusing and regressive point of my life, cos I felt I didn't have an identity cos I couldn't choose my "flavor" of sexuality. And this is huge on social media, like Pinterest. I like to look at fandom art among other cool pins, but almost every fandom post has someone either "simp-ing" or "I'm so gay for her" or even their usernames being telling. Our culture is literally warping this generation's minds on sexual orientation and attraction at a very young age. This was a very good, and most needed video and I'm so glad I've found your channel. You inspire me to take living this life more seriously and w/ a sound biblical mind that can discern this stuff! Thanks
Am younger and I kinda have the same issues about choosing my 'sexualty "although am straight I still struggle with this around one of my closet friends and it hurts that when I wanna avoid her coz of my confusion she is still there😔
I've always hugged everyone my whole life. I'm 27. I will say "hi" to most people. I have literally never been treated like I'm weird for that. I've been called a lot, but never gay. It's insecurity that causes all of this mess. Toxic masculinity to me is just toxic femininity in men. It's insecurity.
I like cuddling other guys, its just my way of being affectionate, but I don't really have sexual desires for them. This video helps me reassure myself that I am not weird.
It was just a rumor, everyone thought Disney was just trynna profit and stuff until it was confirm that the movie wasn’t gonna me gay after all, In fact the story is based on one of Pixar’s directors childhood
I saw it as gay because of how they had to blend in with everyone else and not reveal their true identity because everyone around them hated people of their identity. And Albertos jealousy came off as “romantic” to me.
Alot of people are interpreting the movie as gay because it does show parallels to the queer experience, for instance Luca parents trying to send Luca far away (convertion therapy), the need for Luca to hide who he is in the town, and the ending when the Grandma said " not many will accept him, but he knows how to find those that do"
One sweet story about female friendship is Anne Shirley and Diana Berry on “Anne of green gables” although the modern adaptation “Anne with an E” adds homosexuality between two other characters who’s “friendship” parallels the main characters.
Be friends with the same sex: Oh my gosh! I didn’t know you were gay! Be friends with the opposite sex: You definitely are in love! You must love them so much! So what is it??!
The idea of friendships are altering. That’s why I’m relying on God & how friendships are portrayed in the Bible. Because when u let society paint what a thing is, it changes
@@saigie3908 That's the point though. Things change and nothing remains the same. As someone that studies language and culture we accept what's changed as true right now. It's easier to have a standard in terms of comprehension but I think a more full understanding comes from understanding what's changed instead of denying its existence with an eternal standard.
@@humourlessjester3584 I’m not denying it, in the Bible there are multiple friendships that I just like to look up to rather than what the world puts out there. It’s more reliable to depend on something that hasn’t changed cause feelings change too. Especially, if that thing that never change exists outside of time and space
Great video, as a military member you develop lifelong friendships that includes affection and love, because you have to be willing to give you life for your friends and sacrifice everything for them. It has nothing to do with same sex attraction just deep friendship/brotherhood. Society corrupts viewpoints, John 15:13 is how we should have friendships
God is using you Alex to proclaim the truth on this topic! Thank you for being faithful to say what needs to happen! Sadly I am dealing with friendships that do not go any further and my prayer is that I can have more friendships that are affectionate in a healthy godly way. Believing for that in Jesus name!
Growing up I felt a lot of pain from the idea of being gay When I was small I was raped by a women and assumed after that I either had to enjoy that company (which hurt because I never actually felt that way despite feeling I HAD to) and after that I found it very hard to get close to my female friends because I assumed (and still am dealing with the effects of) everything came down to sex I will say some characters mentioned where actually written gay but you have a point that people want to force it more due to it being popular and under represented. It does genuinely hurt relationships that we believe if we act too affectionate that that means we are interested- even with my male friend I had to stop saying I love him (which I do he is amazing) because people were assuming we were dating and I didn’t want that We aren’t allowed to show affection and have deep relationships without the whole world needing to say “hey look they are dating” and it breaks my heart- I spent so long keeping people at an arms length due to fear of them assuming I’m gay that I missed out on so much even know I fear writing this comment because someone could easily say I’m just in the closest and it’s horrible So anyway just thanks for saying something and I’m surprised that only 48% of people said that affection and attraction are different things (at least when I took the quiz) Continue to be radical like Jesus
Jesus said, we would know the truth and the truth would set us free. I pray you feel the freedom to love your dearest friends as God had intended for you!
You are loved sister. As a man that also struggles and lives in fear of what others think of me and how I act around other guys, I get it. I live with that fear every day and trust me it'll get better. Continue to have hope. Christ loves you and so does your fellow brothers and sisters.
That was great and we'll spoken. I'm called "ole school" by younger boys and men because they see exactly where I stand with the very something you've mentioned. I don't know how we can turn that around because I feel crime and self hate would disappear if everyone could be truly honest and share their feelings and love each other as brothers and or neigjbors, but unfortunately there's a spirit that has lied and deceived the majority of the youth today that yoiu can't hug, you can't say I love you, can't express when we're hurting and need help from another male. Black male which I am has loss this affection due to corrupted learn behavior that was installed into them and now it's where the only expression that they think is natural is to attack, kill and destroy each other. We should all know who has possessed those motives from the beginning of time Everyone please pray daily for our race to get back on track and understand who we really are in the eyes of GOD. Amen 🙏
So true!! I completely agree!! You can totally have same sex friendships that ARE intimate and loving without there being a same sex attraction. You are so on point!
This is such a great word! 🔥 Affectionate same sex friendships are essential to our spiritual growth. I’ve had 2 guys I share everything with since college and I would not be the man I am today without them. Thanks for this heartfelt message; you can tell you put a lot into it. 🤙🏻
People. Commenting things on the internet is forcing you your religion? In fact most people that ship all male friendships are actually straight girls. Don't blame us gays for what your fellow staight girls do.
I've watched Falcon and the Winter soldier and didn't get those vibes what so ever. I also just watched Luca today fully knowing what people where saying about it and after I watched it I thought to myself these are just two boys that have a very strong friendship that they care about one another very much, I just had to watch it with an open view and not just jump to conclusions. Very well said.
Alot of people are interpreting the movie as gay because it does show parallels to the queer experience, for instance Luca parents trying to send Luca far away (convertion therapy), the need for Luca to hide who he is in the town, and the ending when the Grandma said " not many will accept him, but he knows how to find those that do"
For anyone reading this who wants to read more about how this strange attitude has permeated our culture, I really really recommend an article called WHAT IF FRIENDSHIP, NOT MARRIAGE, WAS AT THE CENTER OF LIFE? - it's from the Atlantic and historicizes the process of friendship being eroticized. Such an eye-opening article.
I love this! Because I always found it strange that everytime I had a female best friend and we would spend all our time together and hug that it would be seen by others as gay. They would say we were lesbians or assume we were together in a relationship and I was always confused because I'm like this is just my friend! I may or may not have had a boyfriend at the time but I feel like without that, why can't I just be close to my best friend? What is wrong with our society to where it normal to question if every relationship is gay...
I remember I was on the playground in 4th grade and I had linked arms with my 2 besties and skipped around with them arm in arm. Later that day I found out that there were some other girls trying to spread a rumor that we were gay. I wasnt very affectionate with to begin with but from that point on I was even more conscious about how I showed affection toward my friends. Though it turns out that the girl that started the rumor had "come out" later in high school.
Man, you have no idea how much this video spoke to my heart. I've been thinking about this for so long, but never managed to put it into words. Thank you for having the courage to bring up topics like this!! May God bless you abundantly!
It is so encouraging to hear you say this. This topic is something that I have thought about a lot. And I am sad that the close same sex friendship seems to be a dyeing thing. Thanks for calling me back to aspiring to having close friendships, not seeming attraction everywhere I see affection, and walking confidently in Christ.
Alot of people are interpreting the movie as gay because it does show parallels to the queer experience, for instance Luca parents trying to send Luca far away (convertion therapy), the need for Luca to hide who he is in the town, and the ending when the Grandma said " not many will accept him, but he knows how to find those that do"
This message is needed. I wish there was message like this for Young boys telling them it's okay to have Young make friends and not be homosexual. Young boys don't understand that they can desire close male bonds and not be homosexual. It's confusing even for them. I have had a young boy tell me he didn't have sexual desire or feelings for boys but he really enjoyed talking with boys more than girls ( normal for his age) so he felt that he must want a boyfriend instead of a girlfriend.
Once again, you took on a sensitive topic and kept it open and honest! Praise God for your courage and helping to show us that relationships are more than sex!
Very very well put, especially when you described how it's affecting relationships today, where friendships are essential to life, not just significant others and while single people wait to meet their spouse they need friends a long with friends but it seems like friends usually push away for the assumption of sexuality when you really just need someone to connect to
The Greeks even had a word for friendship love, they called it Philia. We now think that romantic love is the only love there is. “Greater love has no man than to lay down his life for his brother (friend) - the wise words from Jesus that all of us could use in our friendships.
I don’t listen to kpop as much anymore but when I used to people would sexualize the members and push the lgbtq on the members like if the members had a close friendship some fans would make a fake relationship out of them and i felt like the members felt uncomfortable with how the members were being sexualized and forced lgbtq on them when the members would be straight
Thank you so much for this video!! My parents are sus about the nature of my friendships. Your video has cleared a lot of things up, not just for them but for me as well.
Im saying this as a homosexual dude, I think the reason people want David and Jonathan to be gay is to confirm that they won’t go to hell like others say for being gay. If that makes any sense.
@Convert have you read Matthew 25? It says we will go into an everlasting fire that was made for satan and the fallen angels. There will be weeping and gnashing of teeth. It’s not that the devil will torture us but that the fire will.
@Convert God absolutely created Hell, and the fire is absolutely literal, not metaphorical or abstract. I recommend looking at ReformedWiki's videos on the subject.
So true. I (a female) have mostly female friends that i'm SOO close with without any romantic or sexual aspects whatsoever and still we're being labeled as lesbian by guys. Like what? I just have people so talk to about anything, people i hug and love spending time with.
My girl cousin and I are very close, and always have been. Growing up people always assumed we were gay, just because we were really close and would hug a lot and be physically affectionate.
Just because two dudes are bros doesn't mean they are gay and attracted to eachother alot of people seem to have forgotten that platonic friendships between the same sex exist
I only have two close friends. Both of them are my bros. We have been by each other for atleast 5 years. I know both of them have supported me, and I have supported them. Sometimes it is nice to have someone to have your back, especially when their close, especially when your parents would give you hell for being eho you are. For context, I am ssa, I try to grow my relationship with God every day, because I neglected it and was mislead by the devil. I use to be filled with so much hate, lust, and the worst part was, I did it in Gods name. God saw this and humbled me, I became what I hated the most, gay. I spent a great deal of time studying the bible, especially with my new found attrictions. I am trying to live a life of chastity from here on out. Live a life that puts God first. One day I hope I can find myself a man that can help me continue a life of holiness. I could use your prays while I struggle in the reins of lust. Anyways, God bless all of you, and please stay safe. ❤🙏🏳️🌈
Thank you SO much for this video. This needed to be said badly for a long time. This confusion with affection and attraction has really been bothering me for years and I never knew how to explain it. It really sucks that being compassionate same sex friends is always labeled as being gay. So everyone thinks and makes everything gay when it actually isn’t. They are teaching children that (like you said) we can’t show affection towards the same sex without being gay. Which is very toxic. Just because everyone accepts gay people now, that doesn’t mean everyone wants to BE gay. Whenever two male protagonists ever appear in screen, people immediately start shipping them. Like being bros is not even a possibility anymore. People view male friendships as “boring” now so they automatically want to make them gay for it to be “more interesting.” People do this with straight people too and it’s very sad. Why is no one allowed to be friends anymore? Why does everything have to lead to sex? And the part about how society is so selfish that they need to have something out of a relationship like sex is exactly right. That’s where this “friends with benefits” came to be. Selfish people. Being just friends or having a real relationship with the person wasn’t good enough for them so they needed sex out of it. Smh. And yes, society is most definitely pressuring people to be gay. Confusing them into thinking their affection for their best friend means sexual attraction. I bet at least 40-50% of people who come out as gay now were pressured into it and confused affection for attraction. So many people are coming out as gay now, it doesn’t even seem like accurate numbers. I also blame porn being heavily shoved in people’s faces everywhere you look for a reason people turn “gay”. It’s pretty much forced and pressured on them to be gay now because it’s “cool” or “trendy” and so incredibly accepted. If they’re actually truly gay, fine, but most of the people I see appear to be faked, forced. and blinded. And then they continue to be blinded because everyone starts encouraging them and saying what they’re feeling is true without even knowing the person’s relationship. Smh I really am disappointed with society nowadays. Makes me anxious to even make other female friends because they could confuse friendship for attraction…
Thank you for saying what so many people are afraid to say or don't know how to say. God is doing amazing things through you and you are such an inspiration. Thank you for sharing this message. God Bless❤️
Wow this is such an important conversation. I’ve never really meditated on this much but it’s a crucial topic to unpack. And though both women and men are affected, men, especially,are really damaged by this. It completely wrecks their ability to have affectionate, deep relationships with other males. Not just peers, but with their male children or other male children, lest someone call them a paedophile. But that affection and connection between young boys and fathers, or father figures, is so important. And then as those boys get older they often pull away and detach as they become more conscious and aware of this cultural perception as well. Us women don’t really have that issue. And in my experience our close friendships aren’t as suspect or questioned. I need more of this conversation!! And solutions!! Thanks for bringing this up!! Bless you
You’re very well spoken, but you come from a gentle and humble place and I love your channel! Some good points were brought up. I think Luca could be taken either way, it depends on what background you come from, and what lens you’re looking at Luca from. I thought it was pretty gay, but then I also come from a culture that isn’t open with affection. Meanwhile, my Hispanic friends, I’ve noticed the men will openly hug, kiss each other on the cheek, and say “hey I love you” to each other often.
I was praying and doing my dishes and receive a word of God to pray for my son, in expecific way, he is 14. After that I open you tube and your video was there. I just do play, I didn't know who you was but immediately I kyou that you was a Christian. Your massage was the massage that my spirit was looking for for approach this topic to my son. The way that the Lord guide you to explain such a social topic is just epic! God touch my heart big time. I am a teacher and I would take this massage and do good use of it! My son would be bless and many other! Praise God for your ministry. New follower here AMEN ( I am Spanish speaker sorry if I miss spell something ) I would also share and translate this others Spanish speakers.
5:12 For clarification, the person who made Gravity Falls was very clear later on about wanting to have many LGBT themes in the show, and many of his wishes were denied by Disney XD because they were afraid of backlash from China.
Back in 6th grade I met a so called bestie and she would always hug me and our friendship was deep ( our relationship now is not as deep as before). People would ask me privately if I was bu or so and I would say no and question a lot. Also I was very close with girls rather than guys because guys didn’t like me. I also got that a lot from people :( but now it’s a norm and I’m still learning. Thank you Mr. Alex for making this. :) ❤️ much love to your family and you.
Same. All the time people would assume from that because most of my friends were girls that I was automatically gay. But now, as I am older and not in school, it doesn’t even matter.
I worked so hard for about 20 years to help my brother recognize that what I have for him is an affection that our father had for us, both our passed away worldly father and our father in heaven. I never gave up no matter how many times. He never ran away from me either. I’m blessed for that. And now we can talk about anything together. He shares things with me he wouldn’t share with anyone. Cause he knows that when he talks with me he’s talking with me and the Father in heaven. And the same grace and forgiveness our Savior Jesus Christ has allowed for God to gift to me, I pass onward to my brother.
Thank you brother, I love everything you have shared and continue to share. I am a single male not married and with out any children. You fill my heart with love because when I see your videos I tell myself that would have been me, if I had made different decisions. But I would have not been me.. Thank you.
So so so much wisdom in this. Definitely inspired me to be more affectionate towards my friends (male or female), and step out of that weird mindset that I've allowed myself to step into living in the ways of this world!
Yea for me I’m in high school and my entire time being in school (elementary to now) dudes have to talk about things that “guys are suppose to talk about” like sports girls video games etc, and when we have those deep conversations it feels good and nobody feels sus or gay, so I agree guys and girls need to be able to do what the other gender is comfortable talking about with the same sex without it being gay. (Sorry if this makes no sense)
Thank you for this. I really admire the understanding behind this topic. As a believer, we already know that same-sex attraction is against the fathers will but to breakdown why it happens because of culture is eye opening.
“It has actually become very necessary in our time to rebut the theory that every firm and serious friendship is really homosexual.” - C.S. Lewis Also, you can blame Freud on this one. He made human psychology completely centered around sexually.
Thank God most psychologists learn about Freud and his theories, but also learn that he came to his conclusions based solely on his own experiences and the observations of his kids, so it wasn’t very scientific. Other much more scientifically sound theories are in play and relied on. Nonetheless, his theory definitely helped shape everything from a sexual point of view.
Young boys need to know they can have close friendships. That’s healthy.
Same with girls
Agree
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So true. Breaks my heart that there are kids out there that are unable to be close because of this.
And girls, too. Hmm. 😔
Alex this video was extremely healing for me. My whole life because of lack of same sex affection i subscribed to living a gay lifestyle. 6 years ago I came out of that and in the process of healing God has put me in healthy male relationships where same sex affection is a huge part and its not perverted or weird and its become one of the most healing aspects of my journey. Thank you so much for talking about this from the bottom of my heart thank you.
love your story josh. keep going. thank you for sharing. youre so welcome🖤🤙🏾
@@amenalex God Bless
Same experience 😭😭😭
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@kwm2000 💛🙏🏽
i feel like there’s been such a loss of innocence in our society, that dampens/ distorts the beauty of relationships (being platonic or romantic) and it’s so sad. The purity and innocence that God created between humans is disintegrating and sadly, that’s the way our generation is going
This is very true and it sucks. Beautiful relationships don't have to have anything to do with sex.
Ah yes! It’s so heartbreaking😭 I’ve seen this so much, and everything is being distorted and broken. People don’t realise how much we are missing in relationships these days because people bring all this other stuff sadly into it
Unless we pray that society can pick itself back up
@@suchastrangegirl36 that ain't happening. When God's kingdom comes, then things will be better. Until then, it's only gonna get worse before it gets better.
It’s because they keep wanting to label everything as gay
i have always felt pressured to come out as homosexual due to the way i show affection and the way i present myself. this helped me realize that society was what was pressuring me this whole time. thank you so much.
I'm so grateful for your comment! I've often wondered if our present society is what pressures us to second guess our affections for someone of the same sex and question if it is also attraction.
@@UBU41God Yes! Especially when this stuff is pushed in kid shows/movies.
Amen buddy!
@@UBU41God I agree, it's almost like homosexuality has become a trend and all the young kids want to get into it, when they see big influencers like that
@@shamzy460, that may also be part of the influence for sure!
Yo I'll say this. I've had a friend for 30 years we grew up together. We had sleep overs and would sleep in the same bed. I tell this man I love him Everytime we talk. I hug him and I've cried to this man. This is what you would call a best friend. I've never had any sexual attraction to him and he wasn't to me. People think we are gay. We are not. There is nothing wrong with having a bro. Playing games with a bro or going to a movie with a bro. God wanted us to have bros. Jesus had many bros. Amen
Amen Donny!!
Yes. My husband has a friend he every now and then goes hang out with and invites him over. But it’s a brotherly love and they have said “I love you” to each other
That’s amazing! Deep down everyone yearns for a close same sex friendship like that I’m sure.
Homosexual attraction is not always sexual attraction.
This made me smile so much.
I have a friend who I’ve been inseparable since like kindergarten. We did everything together. Even after I moved 5 hours away we still stayed in touch. And to this day we’re still friends. And I will never forget what my mom told me about what I said about him when I was younger, “I want him as my best man one day.” And I stand by that. God has blessed me with a brother in Christ and I thank him for it.
Amen 🙏🏽 lovely story!
Amen! ❤️🙏🏻🙌🏻
Wholesome friendship is a gift from God not a step in the wrong direction. Remember that young Christians, don't be fooled by the flesh because the world will only confuse from what is truth
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Amen! The world is trying to distort and pervert the beauty of wholesome friendships that God really intends. Now everything is becoming sexual and romanticised. Society is losing the pure innocence and beauty of healthy relationships 😭
Amen
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Jesus had close friendships with His disciples....I don't understand how people view close same sex friendship as gay...makes no sense.
people view close opposite sex relationship as romance all the time so its only fair
@@singaporechickenrice2484 Nah. Accusing people of being a homosexual is a totally different thing.
@@christopherrodarte9822 nope its the same thing
@@singaporechickenrice2484 Most people are straight and a super close opposite sex friendship is less common. it's easier to make that mistake. Accusing someone of being homosexual just because they're friends is a stretch.
@@christopherrodarte9822 lmao i have been "accused" of homosexuality and dating my best female friend and i didn't give a shit, if youre not gay or dating your friend just say so. no one cares THAT much about you or who your dating.
What’s so sad and disrespectful about spongebob is that they ask the original creator before he died if spongebob was gay, he said, “no he is a sponge, it’s a kids cartoon, he’s just friendly and is best friends with Patrick that’s it.” (Paraphrase) instead of the company honoring his words or wishes they write it off to make money of it saying he’s gay🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
The devil really has his ways of perverting things😔
The company didn't say Spongebob was gay; they implied he was LGBTQ+. Spongebob is asexual. Asexuality is comsidered a part of the LGBTQ+ community.
I still agree with your point, Nickelodeon had pretty much disrespected the creator after he’s death
@@arithelion5946 but his whole point of it he didn’t want him to be a part of anything, that wasn’t his goal for him. And it’s proving his point more, common sense a human being cannot be asexual by the original definition.
@@AmoSaxFrancis I'm asexual... I don't feel any sexual attraction. Ever. Asexuality is a real phenomenon that actually happens to human beings. It's not made up.
Also, Spongebob is a sponge, and sponges reproduce asexually.
Can we stop sexualizing kids (even if they are cartoon kids). I’ve seen people online say Lucas and the other mermaid kid is going to F, and it’s pretty disturbing.
Yeah like a lot of LGBT stuff targets kids and I think that’s wrong. I don’t even agree when I see straight middle schoolers talk about dating on tv since kids their age is going to see that. At that age they should be learning about the world, and school, not dating and kiss, and if my eyeliner looks right for this party I’m sneaking into. 😒
@@Alibern7 definitely agree. A lot of these big companies like Disney and Nickelodeon play a big role because they catch little kids attention with celebrities like Miley Cyrus ( from Hannah Montana) and Ariana Grande (from Victorious/ Sam and Kat). Then, these celebrities switch from kids friendly to adult content in a blink of an eye, and the little kids who followed them mimic there adult behavior. I made a video on this, it was disgusting what I’ve seen over the years.
I have no problem with shipping but for fuck sake have boundaries for yourself people these are literally prepubescent children
Pixar intentionally did that.. look at the movie carefully it’s hinted they’re gay unfortunatley
@@kylxlxnxdwxrds1856 shipping is also bad when it’s kids but yh
You know society is deteriorating if something so basic like this is new to most
Exactly. Society needs to pick itself back up before it’s too late.
it's literally men not being able to be affectionate with other men and not being able to talk about their emotions that leads to suicide. This is why the suicide rate of men is so high. It's truly sad. Thank you for addressing it.
It seems that if people don't understand Jesus and His love, they won't be able to understand how Christians have affection and love towards each other. Simply as that. Sad, but it's true.
Then I guess that calls us Christians to be a light, not judge, and model of affectionate friendships. Otherwise, u're right, they will *not* understand the love of Christ. We need to first understand, like this video and where ppl are coming from, then be understood from the presence of Christ.
@@zy8753 That's exactly what we're called to do. We are supposed to be Ambassadors of Christ on earth. Others have to know the love of God through us, but it does not always come across because of 1. The Christian or 2. The unbeliever. It's definitely a process. But I genuinely think, if without the Holy Spirit, unbeliever cannot understand who God is and God's word, then how can they truly understand God's love, especially in a world like today?
@@hermionesings truth sister. Some revolutionary but simple advice I’ve learned was to be a friend like Christ to everyone, even strangers on the Internet. Cos you never know how the Holy Spirit work through you to help someone else or even ourselves if we’re lacking.
I feel like when your a “softer” guy people label you gay and it’s annoying!!! Like why do I have to be hyper Masculine to be straight and soft and label gay ???🧐. Shawn and Cory are great examples !!! ( that was a side note)
@Blueberrii I agree I know young adults who are more soft and their not gay and when I met them for the first time I was like “ wow there’s someone like me” i myself was shocked because I don’t come from the background I come from “ you gotta be tough”. “ you can’t cry “ and I’m like 🤔🧐
Unfortunately society portrays toxic masculinity in movies as manly and what women find attractive.
Yeah I always founded that funny, obviously not all men who are softer are gay, in fact I used to have a friend who was pretty much very masculine, everyone thought he was straight until we found out that he was gay. It just goes to show that sexuality doesn’t have a look
Yes! I loved boy meets world! Shawn and Cory are the best.
well when something smells like shit, looks like shit, my guess can be shit. even if I'm wrong. Well don't be masculine, but don't be surprised when u don't get girls. its how our minds were created. If you aren't masculine and act like a "man" per say, people are allowed to assume that because its things we do to generally and things of ou nature and such a coincidence that women are attracted to those men.
When you said culture that really clicked for me! Living in South Korea and Vietnam, I’ve seen how men do things that in America would be deemed as gay. I’ve seen guys hang on each other, hug,hold hands or arms, or be more affectionate towards each other. And honestly when I see it , I just see two guys or a group of guys just being friends. The only thing that makes you gay is desiring someone of the same sex not loving your brother or sister in Christ.
I’ve been getting this video in my recommended for a while today I said “Ok let me watch it” and here I’m crying cause I realize how people have corrupted something so pure. And how my own brother has fallen victim to this whole mentality.
I'll give you a prayer or 2.
To the pure, all things are pure, but to the defiled and unbelieving, nothing is pure; but both their minds and their consciences are defiled. Titus 1:15 ESV
Perfect scripture.
What's Titus?
@@Amy_jo_ it's one of the books in the Bible (the 17th book in the New Testament)
im honestly just done with people making everything gay like cant i see two guys/ girls hug without someone assuming they're homosexual in the internet??
I know its annoying, I will watch a clip ore a movie and see a beautiful friendship and not see anything strange about it
Then people have to ship them
Yup I’ve been seeing people actually intentionally push it because they want it to be that way
Is annoying when it comes from both sides, one side they call it all gay intentionally cause is two bros and on the other hand calling it gay just to be homophobic, like bro can we just not assume???
@Tha Night science even says genetic factors can only explain 25% of homosexuality. 75% is based on other things such as desires, feelings, behavior , etc. ...so you put the puzzle pieces together
Yes omg
Maybe everyone should stop trying to find a “sexual” relationship with everything. Like honestly unless you’re a part of the relationship it shouldn’t matter what people’s status is. We really don’t NEED to know if someone’s straight or gay or anything else, unless we are trying to have a sexual relationship with said person.
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Could not agree more....it's like, if you aren't trying to date me, what difference does it make to you???!!!!
Sexual or romantic. It shouldn't matter unless we want a reletionship with such said person that can be sexual or romantic.
Thank you nowadays at my school if you even talk to a guy hug a guy or talk about anything besides sports and girls people would call you sus and be judged as a homosexual
Same literally
Just for not wanting a girlfriend kids are like, "so you're..." a smart person who has a future lmao
@@malacornelius exactly
Me and my friends all act gay but we all know we straight 😂
@@malacornelius lol i feel you.
Appreciate this being expressed.. I think it's an extremely timely topic with how things are these days. I'm a guy who "feels" deeply, and always has, and have been blessed with deep relationships from an early age and I noticed after college or so people would find those close relationships out of the ordinary, and that was weird to me. Watching this made a lot of what I felt clear. Honestly I don't think people have many deep relationships at all these days, let alone with same sex relationships. With a sex-first, talk later approach to relationships, having any kind of depth to a relationship, as we've seen, you get people trying to make it out to be something suspicious.
It's sad because there is so much to be had in a deep friendship. I'd like to see that made normal again.
👏 amen. We need to normalize friendship. The greek term is "philio". Love is not about just love. There are different forms of love (philia-friendship, eros-romantic, agape-unconditional/sacrificial, and storge-empathy).
Honestly, I watched the movie and it wasn’t anything but two male friends!!!
Exactly!!!!!!
reading themselves into situations.
I hate the fact that ppl do this tho. It just ruins the idea of friendships that will become so rare eventually.
the entire movie is literally a gay metaphor u have to be quite ignorant not to see it. it's even listed in the pride section. all the subtle hints and speeches to the two closeted grandmas to the call me by your name references even the sea monster part is a metaphor
@@singaporechickenrice2484 It's seen that way because there are many things that when looked at through modern day lenses fit into that but the director himself said it wasnt meant to be that way. I feel like the whole point is that the first thing people see makes it harder for same sex affection to be what it is in hetero relationships and not something it isnt
Love is one of the most misused words in the English language
So true. Our culture and the LGBT has pushed the grounds on so many levels that now any type of affection towards anyone of the same sex is considered a same sex relationship, or their homophobic . . God is working wonders to restore this broken nation and show us what TRUE love is through His word and by speaking through people such as YOU . . to help others understand
Truth. We need so much God restoration in our society with this. What God created friendships and relationships to be was wholesome and pure and healthy. But society is romanticising and sexualising everything now, it’s heartbreaking😭 But God can move in this and bring the restoration 100% 🙌🏼
are u for real? this entire movie is literally a gay af and was even listed in the pride section. u have to be quite ignorant not to get all the metaphors from the speeches to the two closeted grandmas to the call me by your name references HELOOOO
@@naomilasela4677 I think we need much more restoration from God with corruption both political and economical, guns usage, wars, exploitation of weak people... How does what the guy is talking in the video affect you more than being an annoyance? Do you really need God to get read of what annoys you?
@@singaporechickenrice2484 which call me by your name reference? I missed that.
Still, just because a film is a metaphor for homosexuality doesn't mean the characters are necessarily gay.
@@Ignasimp go search for it on youtube they were talking about it on the news,interviews,reaction channels fucking even honest trailer made a spoof joking about it copying the call me by your name.
At 6:58 you said exactly what the Bible states. People will become lovers of self! 2 Timothy 3:2 2 For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
My best friend and I are always mistaken for being gay. We don’t usually care, but now we get bombarded with questions about our sexuality by people I know. It’s frustrating.
20 years ago my best friend and I of now 47 years was gonna get T shirts that said "we're not gay we're just best friends" because people started to think that we were a couple. Yet we were sisters in Christ!
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You can be Christian and gay at the same time though.
@@Ignasimp duh. She wasn’t though. She never said you can’t be
@@scootingscoot4807 "people started to think that we were a couple. Yet we were sisters in christ"
She may have not intended it that way but she is writting as they not being a couple as a concequence of them being sisters in christ. As if being gay and being Christian were incompatible things.
@@Ignasimp I agree with this. People can misunderstand what she was implying and myself was confused
@@pecan9367 thanks!
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@@amenalex amen
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@@TUF68 he did :)
@@amenalex He truly is!!! 😁😁😁😁
This is probably why so many ppl think they’re gay even when they never gave their heterosexuality a second thought until they get influenced by them
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Yeah but also not really, a person should know how to tell the difference between affection and attraction. Is just a matter for the person to ask yourself “do I want to be with this person romantically?” “Do I see them like a sister/brother?” Questions that help you distinguish ya know
i'm convinced it's a bit more complex than this but yeah i imagine this feeds into many ppl's struggle with same sex attractions
that's a good point......
That’s my problem rn I can’t even tell the difference anymore and it makes everything confusing
Affectionate friendships are not things that need to be justified. I’ve hugged my male friends, kissed them on their cheeks, walked side by side with my arm wrapped around them, and I don’t owe anyone outside of that interaction an explanation. If this person is someone that I love, and we have a relationship that allows us to express that with more than verbal affection, we don’t need permission to do that.
THIS. This has put into words all of my frustrations, and people not being able to look normally on friendships anymore. THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO.
As a gay guy, I want to thank you for this video. I agree with your message. It’s heart felt and on point. True friendship is rooted is mutual affection and love.
Come to Jesus and let Him change your ways
It's absolutely true! I'm 22 now, but when I was younger, especially when Glee aired, seeing same-sex attraction gave me a weird feeling. I wasn't homophobic--as that bothered me ppl would really have such intense hate--but I knew even as a kid w/o ever being told by anyone that same sex attraction wasn't right. Over the years, I subscribed to the culture and even thought I was gay or anything but straight, ashamed to think I was straight. It was the most confusing and regressive point of my life, cos I felt I didn't have an identity cos I couldn't choose my "flavor" of sexuality. And this is huge on social media, like Pinterest. I like to look at fandom art among other cool pins, but almost every fandom post has someone either "simp-ing" or "I'm so gay for her" or even their usernames being telling. Our culture is literally warping this generation's minds on sexual orientation and attraction at a very young age. This was a very good, and most needed video and I'm so glad I've found your channel. You inspire me to take living this life more seriously and w/ a sound biblical mind that can discern this stuff! Thanks
Am younger and I kinda have the same issues about choosing my 'sexualty "although am straight I still struggle with this around one of my closet friends and it hurts that when I wanna avoid her coz of my confusion she is still there😔
Quick question tho is it bad to lyrics read Bl stories orr.... coz it's been bugging me
I love seeing true Christians speak… so much love resonating from someone made of dirt… remember, in Gods eyes we’re “very Good” God bless
I've always hugged everyone my whole life. I'm 27. I will say "hi" to most people. I have literally never been treated like I'm weird for that. I've been called a lot, but never gay. It's insecurity that causes all of this mess. Toxic masculinity to me is just toxic femininity in men. It's insecurity.
Same with me. The first time I meet someone I shake hands but I warn them the next time we meet I will hug them. My Friends tell them its true!
I like cuddling other guys, its just my way of being affectionate, but I don't really have sexual desires for them. This video helps me reassure myself that I am not weird.
Honestly I didn’t even know people thought Luca was gay- I thought they were just like really good friends in deep connection.
Right, my first impression was that they were best friends.
It was just a rumor, everyone thought Disney was just trynna profit and stuff until it was confirm that the movie wasn’t gonna me gay after all, In fact the story is based on one of Pixar’s directors childhood
Same some people are so perverted
I saw it as gay because of how they had to blend in with everyone else and not reveal their true identity because everyone around them hated people of their identity. And Albertos jealousy came off as “romantic” to me.
Alot of people are interpreting the movie as gay because it does show parallels to the queer experience, for instance Luca parents trying to send Luca far away (convertion therapy), the need for Luca to hide who he is in the town, and the ending when the Grandma said " not many will accept him, but he knows how to find those that do"
One sweet story about female friendship is Anne Shirley and Diana Berry on “Anne of green gables” although the modern adaptation “Anne with an E” adds homosexuality between two other characters who’s “friendship” parallels the main characters.
Thanks bro me and my friends were literally just talking about this yesterday God bless ✌🏽🦋🌎✝️
*GOD :)
@@servantofgod9679 my bad, you right
Be friends with the same sex: Oh my gosh! I didn’t know you were gay!
Be friends with the opposite sex: You definitely are in love! You must love them so much!
So what is it??!
right just can’t have friends like what the-
The idea of friendships are altering. That’s why I’m relying on God & how friendships are portrayed in the Bible. Because when u let society paint what a thing is, it changes
Me been Ace that is so true, like bro not everyone trynna be in a relationship with your own friend :/
@@saigie3908 That's the point though. Things change and nothing remains the same. As someone that studies language and culture we accept what's changed as true right now. It's easier to have a standard in terms of comprehension but I think a more full understanding comes from understanding what's changed instead of denying its existence with an eternal standard.
@@humourlessjester3584 I’m not denying it, in the Bible there are multiple friendships that I just like to look up to rather than what the world puts out there. It’s more reliable to depend on something that hasn’t changed cause feelings change too. Especially, if that thing that never change exists outside of time and space
Great video, as a military member you develop lifelong friendships that includes affection and love, because you have to be willing to give you life for your friends and sacrifice everything for them. It has nothing to do with same sex attraction just deep friendship/brotherhood. Society corrupts viewpoints, John 15:13 is how we should have friendships
God is using you Alex to proclaim the truth on this topic! Thank you for being faithful to say what needs to happen! Sadly I am dealing with friendships that do not go any further and my prayer is that I can have more friendships that are affectionate in a healthy godly way. Believing for that in Jesus name!
Growing up I felt a lot of pain from the idea of being gay
When I was small I was raped by a women and assumed after that I either had to enjoy that company (which hurt because I never actually felt that way despite feeling I HAD to) and after that I found it very hard to get close to my female friends because I assumed (and still am dealing with the effects of) everything came down to sex
I will say some characters mentioned where actually written gay but you have a point that people want to force it more due to it being popular and under represented. It does genuinely hurt relationships that we believe if we act too affectionate that that means we are interested- even with my male friend I had to stop saying I love him (which I do he is amazing) because people were assuming we were dating and I didn’t want that
We aren’t allowed to show affection and have deep relationships without the whole world needing to say “hey look they are dating” and it breaks my heart- I spent so long keeping people at an arms length due to fear of them assuming I’m gay that I missed out on so much even know I fear writing this comment because someone could easily say I’m just in the closest and it’s horrible
So anyway just thanks for saying something and I’m surprised that only 48% of people said that affection and attraction are different things (at least when I took the quiz)
Continue to be radical like Jesus
Jesus said, we would know the truth and the truth would set us free. I pray you feel the freedom to love your dearest friends as God had intended for you!
You are loved sister. As a man that also struggles and lives in fear of what others think of me and how I act around other guys, I get it. I live with that fear every day and trust me it'll get better. Continue to have hope. Christ loves you and so does your fellow brothers and sisters.
that’s awful. i’m so sorry ❤️❤️
That was great and we'll spoken. I'm called "ole school" by younger boys and men because they see exactly where I stand with the very something you've mentioned.
I don't know how we can turn that around because I feel crime and self hate would disappear if everyone could be truly honest and share their feelings and love each other as brothers and or neigjbors, but unfortunately there's a spirit that has lied and deceived the majority of the youth today that yoiu can't hug, you can't say I love you, can't express when we're hurting and need help from another male.
Black male which I am has loss this affection due to corrupted learn behavior that was installed into them and now it's where the only expression that they think is natural is to attack, kill and destroy each other.
We should all know who has possessed those motives from the beginning of time
Everyone please pray daily for our race to get back on track and understand who we really are in the eyes of GOD. Amen
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So true!! I completely agree!! You can totally have same sex friendships that ARE intimate and loving without there being a same sex attraction. You are so on point!
This is such a great word! 🔥 Affectionate same sex friendships are essential to our spiritual growth. I’ve had 2 guys I share everything with since college and I would not be the man I am today without them. Thanks for this heartfelt message; you can tell you put a lot into it. 🤙🏻
LGBTQ: STOP FORCING YOUR RELIGION ON US!
Meanwhile this is happening.🤦🏽♂️
People. Commenting things on the internet is forcing you your religion? In fact most people that ship all male friendships are actually straight girls. Don't blame us gays for what your fellow staight girls do.
@@Ignasimp it’s not just females. Please..
@@TheDaintyGirlXO it's most of them though. There are far more girs in the world than gay guys.
@@IgnasimpDon't demonize women, there's no characteristic of being a woman that makes them ship two literal children in a movie.
LGBT is not a religion. Also these are just fan theories. That's not forcing anything on anyone. Do better.
God bless you, exactly what I needed to hear in the very moment
even though i'm gay myself. This always annoyed. I love my friends doesn't mean I like them in a sexual way because that's just weird
I've watched Falcon and the Winter soldier and didn't get those vibes what so ever. I also just watched Luca today fully knowing what people where saying about it and after I watched it I thought to myself these are just two boys that have a very strong friendship that they care about one another very much, I just had to watch it with an open view and not just jump to conclusions. Very well said.
Alot of people are interpreting the movie as gay because it does show parallels to the queer experience, for instance Luca parents trying to send Luca far away (convertion therapy), the need for Luca to hide who he is in the town, and the ending when the Grandma said " not many will accept him, but he knows how to find those that do"
Thanks for spreading the word you’ve really helped me with your videos
it’s totally ok to have a deep love for a friend like a family member it’s not wrong! Thank you so much for talking about this!
For anyone reading this who wants to read more about how this strange attitude has permeated our culture, I really really recommend an article called WHAT IF FRIENDSHIP, NOT MARRIAGE, WAS AT THE CENTER OF LIFE? - it's from the Atlantic and historicizes the process of friendship being eroticized. Such an eye-opening article.
This was a very healing conversation for me. I am very blessed by your content! Amen!
I love this! Because I always found it strange that everytime I had a female best friend and we would spend all our time together and hug that it would be seen by others as gay. They would say we were lesbians or assume we were together in a relationship and I was always confused because I'm like this is just my friend! I may or may not have had a boyfriend at the time but I feel like without that, why can't I just be close to my best friend? What is wrong with our society to where it normal to question if every relationship is gay...
Men comfortable in their Masculinity will be comfortable Showing Unconditional Love to his Brother as Jesus shows for Us.
I remember I was on the playground in 4th grade and I had linked arms with my 2 besties and skipped around with them arm in arm. Later that day I found out that there were some other girls trying to spread a rumor that we were gay. I wasnt very affectionate with to begin with but from that point on I was even more conscious about how I showed affection toward my friends. Though it turns out that the girl that started the rumor had "come out" later in high school.
Wow! This speaks volumes
This is honestly the kind of content I need to be watching on TH-cam
Man, you have no idea how much this video spoke to my heart. I've been thinking about this for so long, but never managed to put it into words. Thank you for having the courage to bring up topics like this!! May God bless you abundantly!
It is so encouraging to hear you say this. This topic is something that I have thought about a lot. And I am sad that the close same sex friendship seems to be a dyeing thing. Thanks for calling me back to aspiring to having close friendships, not seeming attraction everywhere I see affection, and walking confidently in Christ.
I just saw Luca and "same sex attraction" never crossed my mind while watching it. Great video!
Alot of people are interpreting the movie as gay because it does show parallels to the queer experience, for instance Luca parents trying to send Luca far away (convertion therapy), the need for Luca to hide who he is in the town, and the ending when the Grandma said " not many will accept him, but he knows how to find those that do"
This message is needed. I wish there was message like this for Young boys telling them it's okay to have Young make friends and not be homosexual. Young boys don't understand that they can desire close male bonds and not be homosexual. It's confusing even for them. I have had a young boy tell me he didn't have sexual desire or feelings for boys but he really enjoyed talking with boys more than girls ( normal for his age) so he felt that he must want a boyfriend instead of a girlfriend.
Amen brother Alex!!! Thank you for exploring this topic!! Every blessing!!!!
Once again, you took on a sensitive topic and kept it open and honest! Praise God for your courage and helping to show us that relationships are more than sex!
Very very well put, especially when you described how it's affecting relationships today, where friendships are essential to life, not just significant others and while single people wait to meet their spouse they need friends a long with friends but it seems like friends usually push away for the assumption of sexuality when you really just need someone to connect to
The Greeks even had a word for friendship love, they called it Philia. We now think that romantic love is the only love there is. “Greater love has no man than to lay down his life for his brother (friend) - the wise words from Jesus that all of us could use in our friendships.
I don’t listen to kpop as much anymore but when I used to people would sexualize the members and push the lgbtq on the members like if the members had a close friendship some fans would make a fake relationship out of them and i felt like the members felt uncomfortable with how the members were being sexualized and forced lgbtq on them when the members would be straight
Thank you so much for this video!! My parents are sus about the nature of my friendships. Your video has cleared a lot of things up, not just for them but for me as well.
My experience in several non-American cultures is that same-sex friendships can be very close, including physically, and still just be a friendship.
Alex, thank you for touching on this very poignant topic. Love and blessings from South Africa 🇿🇦
@ 7:10 "People are becoming so selfish that they can't be in a relationship unless they're getting something sexual out of it."
Im saying this as a homosexual dude, I think the reason people want David and Jonathan to be gay is to confirm that they won’t go to hell like others say for being gay. If that makes any sense.
that’s a good perspective. God bless
@@dwizzzle thank you, and god bless you too
Yes, that does make sense. Thank you!
@Convert have you read Matthew 25? It says we will go into an everlasting fire that was made for satan and the fallen angels. There will be weeping and gnashing of teeth. It’s not that the devil will torture us but that the fire will.
@Convert God absolutely created Hell, and the fire is absolutely literal, not metaphorical or abstract. I recommend looking at ReformedWiki's videos on the subject.
Thank you for this Alex! Thank you for your strength to share. Stay strong in God brother!
This is such an important topic. And the way you spoke about it was key. The way you took your time to carefully stay on topic !!
So true. I (a female) have mostly female friends that i'm SOO close with without any romantic or sexual aspects whatsoever and still we're being labeled as lesbian by guys. Like what? I just have people so talk to about anything, people i hug and love spending time with.
My girl cousin and I are very close, and always have been. Growing up people always assumed we were gay, just because we were really close and would hug a lot and be physically affectionate.
Just because two dudes are bros doesn't mean they are gay and attracted to eachother alot of people seem to have forgotten that platonic friendships between the same sex exist
I only have two close friends. Both of them are my bros. We have been by each other for atleast 5 years. I know both of them have supported me, and I have supported them. Sometimes it is nice to have someone to have your back, especially when their close, especially when your parents would give you hell for being eho you are. For context, I am ssa, I try to grow my relationship with God every day, because I neglected it and was mislead by the devil. I use to be filled with so much hate, lust, and the worst part was, I did it in Gods name.
God saw this and humbled me, I became what I hated the most, gay. I spent a great deal of time studying the bible, especially with my new found attrictions. I am trying to live a life of chastity from here on out. Live a life that puts God first. One day I hope I can find myself a man that can help me continue a life of holiness. I could use your prays while I struggle in the reins of lust. Anyways, God bless all of you, and please stay safe. ❤🙏🏳️🌈
I spent 8 years “openly gay” i can tell the difference super easy because of that. God is still healing me from that.
Thank you SO much for this video. This needed to be said badly for a long time. This confusion with affection and attraction has really been bothering me for years and I never knew how to explain it. It really sucks that being compassionate same sex friends is always labeled as being gay. So everyone thinks and makes everything gay when it actually isn’t. They are teaching children that (like you said) we can’t show affection towards the same sex without being gay. Which is very toxic. Just because everyone accepts gay people now, that doesn’t mean everyone wants to BE gay. Whenever two male protagonists ever appear in screen, people immediately start shipping them. Like being bros is not even a possibility anymore. People view male friendships as “boring” now so they automatically want to make them gay for it to be “more interesting.” People do this with straight people too and it’s very sad. Why is no one allowed to be friends anymore? Why does everything have to lead to sex?
And the part about how society is so selfish that they need to have something out of a relationship like sex is exactly right. That’s where this “friends with benefits” came to be. Selfish people. Being just friends or having a real relationship with the person wasn’t good enough for them so they needed sex out of it. Smh. And yes, society is most definitely pressuring people to be gay. Confusing them into thinking their affection for their best friend means sexual attraction. I bet at least 40-50% of people who come out as gay now were pressured into it and confused affection for attraction. So many people are coming out as gay now, it doesn’t even seem like accurate numbers. I also blame porn being heavily shoved in people’s faces everywhere you look for a reason people turn “gay”. It’s pretty much forced and pressured on them to be gay now because it’s “cool” or “trendy” and so incredibly accepted. If they’re actually truly gay, fine, but most of the people I see appear to be faked, forced. and blinded. And then they continue to be blinded because everyone starts encouraging them and saying what they’re feeling is true without even knowing the person’s relationship. Smh I really am disappointed with society nowadays. Makes me anxious to even make other female friends because they could confuse friendship for attraction…
Thank you for saying what so many people are afraid to say or don't know how to say. God is doing amazing things through you and you are such an inspiration. Thank you for sharing this message. God Bless❤️
Wow this is such an important conversation. I’ve never really meditated on this much but it’s a crucial topic to unpack. And though both women and men are affected, men, especially,are really damaged by this. It completely wrecks their ability to have affectionate, deep relationships with other males. Not just peers, but with their male children or other male children, lest someone call them a paedophile. But that affection and connection between young boys and fathers, or father figures, is so important. And then as those boys get older they often pull away and detach as they become more conscious and aware of this cultural perception as well. Us women don’t really have that issue. And in my experience our close friendships aren’t as suspect or questioned. I need more of this conversation!! And solutions!! Thanks for bringing this up!! Bless you
So good Alex! Thanks for the awesome breakdown as usual. So grateful for your content! 👏🏾🙏🏾
This was soooo good! Such an important topic to talk about!
You’re very well spoken, but you come from a gentle and humble place and I love your channel! Some good points were brought up. I think Luca could be taken either way, it depends on what background you come from, and what lens you’re looking at Luca from. I thought it was pretty gay, but then I also come from a culture that isn’t open with affection. Meanwhile, my Hispanic friends, I’ve noticed the men will openly hug, kiss each other on the cheek, and say “hey I love you” to each other often.
I was praying and doing my dishes and receive a word of God to pray for my son, in expecific way, he is 14. After that I open you tube and your video was there. I just do play, I didn't know who you was but immediately I kyou that you was a Christian. Your massage was the massage that my spirit was looking for for approach this topic to my son. The way that the Lord guide you to explain such a social topic is just epic! God touch my heart big time. I am a teacher and I would take this massage and do good use of it! My son would be bless and many other! Praise God for your ministry. New follower here AMEN ( I am Spanish speaker sorry if I miss spell something ) I would also share and translate this others Spanish speakers.
5:12 For clarification, the person who made Gravity Falls was very clear later on about wanting to have many LGBT themes in the show, and many of his wishes were denied by Disney XD because they were afraid of backlash from China.
Ugh!!! Thank you so so much for sharing this! So thought-provoking! Going to sit and pray on this (and really excited to do so)
Back in 6th grade I met a so called bestie and she would always hug me and our friendship was deep ( our relationship now is not as deep as before). People would ask me privately if I was bu or so and I would say no and question a lot. Also I was very close with girls rather than guys because guys didn’t like me. I also got that a lot from people :( but now it’s a norm and I’m still learning. Thank you Mr. Alex for making this. :) ❤️ much love to your family and you.
Same. All the time people would assume from that because most of my friends were girls that I was automatically gay. But now, as I am older and not in school, it doesn’t even matter.
@@milesj2658 I’m currently going into the 11th grade and now I don’t really have friends, good to know I wasn’t alone. Let’s be bestie :)
@@xsmileyx4037 Yh we should
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I worked so hard for about 20 years to help my brother recognize that what I have for him is an affection that our father had for us, both our passed away worldly father and our father in heaven.
I never gave up no matter how many times. He never ran away from me either. I’m blessed for that. And now we can talk about anything together. He shares things with me he wouldn’t share with anyone. Cause he knows that when he talks with me he’s talking with me and the Father in heaven. And the same grace and forgiveness our Savior Jesus Christ has allowed for God to gift to me, I pass onward to my brother.
This was so good. Let us fight for brotherly affection
Thank you brother, I love everything you have shared and continue to share. I am a single male not married and with out any children. You fill my heart with love because when I see your videos I tell myself that would have been me, if I had made different decisions. But I would have not been me.. Thank you.
So so so much wisdom in this. Definitely inspired me to be more affectionate towards my friends (male or female), and step out of that weird mindset that I've allowed myself to step into living in the ways of this world!
This video / explanation was well done. Thank you for making this!
Yea for me I’m in high school and my entire time being in school (elementary to now) dudes have to talk about things that “guys are suppose to talk about” like sports girls video games etc, and when we have those deep conversations it feels good and nobody feels sus or gay, so I agree guys and girls need to be able to do what the other gender is comfortable talking about with the same sex without it being gay. (Sorry if this makes no sense)
You completely made sense!
THANK YOU! I talk about this to people all the time. I don't know how I ran into this video, but I am so glad I did. Happy Sunday!
Thank you for this. I really admire the understanding behind this topic. As a believer, we already know that same-sex attraction is against the fathers will but to breakdown why it happens because of culture is eye opening.
There's nothing wrong with being gay
I love your gentleness in this conversation. Well done. I love the Amen Alex channel!
“It has actually become very necessary in our time to rebut the theory that every firm and serious friendship is really homosexual.” - C.S. Lewis
Also, you can blame Freud on this one. He made human psychology completely centered around sexually.
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Maybe also John Money. That dude was a super freak of nature.
Thank God most psychologists learn about Freud and his theories, but also learn that he came to his conclusions based solely on his own experiences and the observations of his kids, so it wasn’t very scientific. Other much more scientifically sound theories are in play and relied on. Nonetheless, his theory definitely helped shape everything from a sexual point of view.