The 3 root causes of your unhappiness [Gifted/Asperger/ASD and other neurodivergents]
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In this video: most of us are unhappy or depressed to some degree, and all the more so if we're neurodivergent (non-neurotypical). In this video a voyage to the 3 fundamental root causes of our unhappiness, and what we can do about them.
Bio:
At forty years of age, I discovered that I was and am intellectually gifted. Suddenly my eternal “otherness” is no longer a flaw. It is being called an asset, a plus, a gift …
Let's discover how we, the neurodivergent - intellectually gifted, Asperger, autism spectrum (ASD), ... can live a full, authentic and realized life in a world predominantly (by definition) populated by neurotypicals.
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1. getting up
2.going to work
3.existing
I struggle with this. I’m convinced that I am unbearable, annoying, and intense. I have a group of friends, but sometimes I feel like an outsider. They all have tons of pictures with each other, and seem closer with each other than me. That being said, whenever I do get an invite anywhere or happen to run into people they seem genuinely excited to see me and always ask about my life. It’s created a lot of mixed emotions in my mental processing. I have no idea what to do about it.
I’m part of the club too
I cannot express how useful this video has been for me when I first watched it. I related a lot to what you've said, especially the stages which I've been going endlessly through since the start of my 2nd year of highschool here in my home country, Slovenia. You managed to make a video that explained all these notions and capture them into a singularity from which I gained such an unbelivable understanding for most of the dreadful issues I face in my daily life. I think it's safe to say that you saved my life, because I wasn't sure if I wanted to go on like this anymore, but now that you've given me one thing that I lacked which is hope, I really can't thank you enough.
You're very welcome, and thanks for your kind comment. I'd be really interested in whether you would be rather high, low or regular prenatal testosterone profile! See my video for all the information you need on that: th-cam.com/video/OmbEaBfzKFk/w-d-xo.html.
@@Abel.Abelson Hi, I'm sorry for not responding in time. I measured my prenatal testosterone using that method and the ratio fell under 1.057 or 1.05 for short. It would explain a lot about my nature and why I as a boy tend to be oriented far more in subjects that are typically interesting to girls as well as many other things.
@@byleexs1991 Hi, no problem. Very interesting! So how do you identify with adjectives like mentally flexible, preoccupied, risk averse, tendency to extrapolate, trying to prevent problems, tendency to serve and adapt, ...? How was/is school for you? Romantic relations?
Absolutely agree. Here we see the importance of the narrative, which is necessary to build up Complex Societies, and gets corrupted as these societies decay (fossil-fuel based economy, consumerism, mass-conformism etc.). We all start our lives immerged in this narrative, and this is why neurodivergent people spend a good deal of their early lifetime investigating about how they don't fit the narrative.
Eventually they learn that the narrative is simplistic and actually doesn't include them and all their peculiarities. (IMHO the narrative is made for the "Mid-Wit" segment of society). During this journey of discovery, they had to learn about themselves in order to make sense of the narrative - or not.
Exactly.
Wow that was so well explained.
Again this is fantastic.
Thanks Richard!
@@Abel.Abelson ,i think i'm stuck at stage-4 :(
I can realte to these. I've never really felt I was gifted or anything like this. I've always felt that If I can do that anyone else can too. So I'm just an average guy. And everyone can be pretty much like me.
This is one of the best videos I have watched about Neurodivergents.
Thank you!
Your systematic explanation makes so much sense. That was also what I have been going through.
The best method to deconstruct and reconstruct that hyper mistaken models because you are extremely different is to study depthly about Jungian Analytical Psychology. Once you come to know that there are 16 different personality types and not just everyone sees the world and take decisions same as you do your falsy perceptions, perceptual boxes you set for different people start to get broken and you'll start to see the world in a different way that you haven't seen before. This is common for every type of people in Jungian communities not only for neurodivergents.
But for Autistics learning about Psychology will be extremely important than neurotypicals because we have a hyper systemizing minds and low empathizing abilities. So what happens is things that are related with empathy, social, people related things are also analysed through systemizing way and there are lots of falsy believes, conclusions are made about people and situations. When those falsy perceptions are accumulated throughout the life since the childhood, Autistics might think that if I can't even do things correctly what other people can easily do, I don't have ability to do complex tasks like Mathematics, Science systemizing related things while we have the highest abilities for those things.
Learning Psychology and learning how to type people will also give you a systematic model to have relationships with neurotypicals easily. Our systemizing minds can figure out things easily using that system.
Dude jungian cognitive functions saved my social life. Finding out I’m NeTi/TiNe dom really explained y others don’t see and act the way I would
Your videos have therapeutic values and I say thank you. As someone living with Anosmia I already reside in my own universe of perception and reflected about such things since childhood. After graduating in biology I did never stop studying, observing and questioning. Most people don't realize that I am handicapped but I don't feel so depressed. Evolutionary Biology sees a certain degree of depression as a driving factor of evolution and struggle. One of my strategies now is beeing quite introverted and investigating my knowledge into gardening and grounding (minivideo in my channel).
You're welcome :) And thank you for letting me know! Be happy and be yourself! :)
I really like your way of describing the world. Although I already, somehow, have thought about many of the things you talk about in your videos it still is valuable since it makes me feel less "alone" (even though I know there are a lot of people out there who also "see stuff in a different way"). Some stuff you have said has also given me a slightly new, and in my opinion "more functional", angle of viewing something I "thought I have already thought about". Feel like it add value in my life seeing "an ordinary man" talk freely about subjects, that interests me, in the way you do - it makes me happier :) Wish you would continue uploading youtube videos, as many others here seem to want as well. Maybe it's hard to find more "good enough subjects", that fits a youtube channel? Or do you feel like there are other, more effective, ways to "affect the world in a positive way"? It certainly feels like you have uploaded these videos just to "help" others btw. Thank you. I hope you are doing well.
I hate how much this applies to me, anyone else?
Thanks Abel, just found your videos. You could be my long lost younger brother;) Positive disintegration is absolutely necessary for growth and understanding (and sanity). Depressive reorganization assimilates acquired data while shedding obsolete modalities. Caterpillar to chrysalis to butterfly. There's no way that I would still be alive today without letting this process play out. I'm 60, and this rebirth is ongoing. As a teenager, the first time was quite disturbing. I'm certain that recurring depressions are nothing more than growing pains, in intellectually gifted individuals.
Exactly. Have you seen my video on prenatal testosterone and digit ratio th-cam.com/video/OmbEaBfzKFk/w-d-xo.html Check it out, I'd be really interested in your digit ratio if you'd like to share, it's a personal research of mine at the moment...
Yes, I did watch it. Very interesting. Like you, my fingers are nearly identical in length. I also have matching clubbed thumbs. I know that my mom was also taking something for morning sickness (possibly thalidomide). I have also developed dupuytren's contracture (right hand pinky) in the past few years. I have northwestern European lineage. I tested in the top 98% as a teenager and again last year. For what it's worth, I also tested as an INFJ. It would be nice to have a community of introverted, eternally curious, highly intuitive individuals with which to share ideas. I'll buy your book today. Plenty of corona reading time.
@@billkress2606 OK, hope you like it :)
I have done some investigations concerning a community of "feminine brain" people. It is possible, but we all carry shitloads of bad luggage that quickly come into play. The only person with whom I succeeded in creating/sharing such a community is my wife. We spent many years confronting ourselves with our own and each other's ancestral, supragenerational and personal knots and bruises and deformities. As if we were the battlefield upon which all this shit had to mutually annihilate itself. All the while we loved and respected each other, so it was not a bad experience, but it was rough and heavy and painful and difficult at times. What I'm trying to say is: only among people willing to do this, can there be such a community. The others quickly say goodbye, too much difficult and painful stuff to do and not enough reason to do it after all (the possible promise of a possible "community" but no-one knows if and when). If there's not a deep affection (maybe even coupled with romantic/sexual attraction) to begin with, and a sincere willingness to get real no matter what (like after hitting rock bottom), it doesn't last or even start. In my experience.
@@billkress2606 By the way you're quite the exception, the majority of people commenting here (in one way or another drawn to or identifying with high IQ) are high prenatal testosterone profiles. Men and women alike.
My desire for a likeminded community is merely an idealistic dream, but I like to dream:) My wife and I divorced a few years back. She's a psychologist/behavior analyst who studies autism. I think she grew tired of studying/fixing me, ha,ha. I'm a high school dropout (drugs and first depression) who has always studied everything, informally. I used my intuition and knowledge of human learning preferences to teach tennis for the past 40 years. I just retired, yeah! Now I have all the time in the world to finish my first novel, and chase rabbits down holes.
For those interested in getting an I.Q.test in U.S. it is often done in elementary school by a School Psychologist.The school might not test everybody. As a 4th grader I was given a test and then called back in for several more tests.They told me I had to go to college. And told my parents my IQ. When my daughter was in grade school she got an F in something .I had a to strongly request testing for her and her father did too. You have to be very assertive .It costs money they don't want to pay. For adults call up a masters level psychologist and ask if they would test you. Masters level means they have a Masters degree it is not as high as a PHD. Also there are cultural differences as to how friendly people are. Tennessee is vastly different than Mass. and Ohio is different than either.
Thank you so much for your videos. I have not watched most but it's still interesting
The model you presented here is scarily accurate. As an example, in your own wording, my model of myself was mistaken, because I didn't know I had autism. There was this unknown factor I couldn't define that seemed to always put a hurdle in front of me, something my paraplegia alone wouldn't explain. Then two years ago someone told me I check a lot of the marks for Aspergers. That was a life changing revelation.
I'm amidst of an official diagnostic process, but coping strategies and methods to mitigate miscommunication between neurodivergent and neurotypical people already helped. I'm not sure how long it will take to go through this process, but the way you presented it makes perfect sense.
Thank you very much for this video. Subscribed.
Glad you liked it! And thanks for commenting!
Thank you a lot your videos are very helpful
Very good information
Wow.. thank you👍👍
Thank you for this excellent explanation.
You're very welcome, glad it made sense to you!
@@Abel.Abelson It sure did.
Thanks for the video. It sounds to me like your describing identity and cognitive distortions associated with personality disorder.
This is helping a lot.
Great!
Happy Holidays!
Thank you :) ! The same to you :)
Thank you
Excellent video, once again. I find divergent thinkers suffer high anxiety and poor mental modelling because of the immediacy exercising pressure without affording a deep thinker time to assess and react appropriately. Also, we seem to share the same sense of our lack of sense of reality.
Yes, terrible. This time pressure doesn't even allow us to expose 5% of our true intelligence. It doesn't make us any less intelligent, but it does boost the already overly boosted confidence of the "straight line" thinkers and extreme systemizers, and inversely tends to gnaw at our self-confidence.
Abel Abelson EN I would say over-confidence also stems from plenty of social-mirroring and Dunning-Kruger and, while we're generalizing here, to be able to manage the main thrust of the video, not everyone displays this type of behaviour, just as there are more than a few elitists amongst our ranks though that shouldn't paint us all as arrogant or dissonant.
@@TroyMira Yes, of course. Although I'd ascribe both Dunning-Kruger and over-confidence to the same, more "radical" (root) cause, to be found in neurobiology and the influence of prenatal and postnatal hormones like testosterone, cortisol etc.
Thank you so much
Hi there Kenny, thank you! :)
Thank you, seriously
You're welcome! Thank you :)
Wow nice
Hi. I wonder if you also speak Dutch, being from Belgium. I saw you on your other channel today(Bart Anderson).And loved your approach on the subjects: refreshing, brave, inspiring. And commented that I hoped you would make new video's (because your last post was 4 years ago) . Then I recognised your face while searching more about 'gifted adults' and clicked on this channel:great! There you were again :-) ,with more interesting material! I look forward to watch them. Keep up the good work! And greetings, from Holland, to all you idealistic/realistic people out there!
Yes, I speak Dutch but I prefer to have the comments in the same language as the video so everyone can understand, if they want :)
Thank you for your kind words :)
Hey Liske, just wanted to let you know that I started a Dutch channel here th-cam.com/channels/n4_XhJm1wfujKyi3-nAPnQ.html. Still no content but that's coming soon (hopefully this weekend), so you could already subscribe and give me the honor of you being my first subscriber :) In case you're interested of course :) I started it because I just published a new and much improved version of my book on bol.com (bit.ly/abelnl1) and Amazon (amzn.to/2VXHCvX). Thanks for watching and have a great day!
Speaking towrds Abel's point about projection:
I would recommend the book "Feeling Good" by David Burns
He makes a point about "mind reading" - that much of unhappiness can come from imagining how another person thinks/feels
I would also recommend the book "Radical Honesty"
Awesome dude. Over the past few days, because I have had a lot of time with myself due to covid confinement, I was coming up to the same conclusion as your first point, the first cause of unhapiness, specifically for neuro-divergent people. You know, in the past, I did a lot of meditation, deep introspection, but it was guided, in a given method, courses I took. That helped on some things, and i discovered many things, even the concept of "i" disappeared, i could relate to people for years in meditation, at awe at the beauty of everything, including violence or an "ugly" wall of concrete, because it is, but left me unhappy somewhere, maybe because I had felt pushed somehow to stop overthink. Because the root cause is to know yourself, and only you can explore yourself, at your own pace, with your own way of doing it (in my case, there is no way, I just do it, without realizing it, while doing something else, and also watching videos about intellectually gifted people. So no one is helping me in a course, I just do it). Being true to oneself is not easy. No one can push for it. It comes on time. Awesome video. Thanks
Exactly! Thanks again for another kind comment ;) !
By the way, have you seen my video on prenatal testosterone? I would love to know if you have a high or low digit ratio, it's kind of my special personal research of the moment. The vid is here, check it out, it'll probably interest you too, might tell you something about your brain characteristics: th-cam.com/video/OmbEaBfzKFk/w-d-xo.html
@@Abel.Abelson A high one. Seems to work well :)
@@JeanValjeanLelouch I kind of thought so from the style of your comments :)
@@Abel.Abelson Sure, I knew: :-) You may check this one: www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/give-and-take/201305/who-s-smarter-the-selfish-or-the-generous
Hello Mr. Abel, I am interested in the thought process of gifted people. For example, if I ask you a certain question, how would you think and create thoughts in order to answer it. I wonder if we can have a live chat sometime.
OMG. So I constantly write in Quora, then you were recommended to be in TH-cam. I am at the depression stage, and yes, I feel that it's because of belief systems are crumbling and are construction, which I am grateful for. I agree...
Greetings,
How are you doing now - after five months since posting this
Your fantastic! The video is so good and helpful , i hope you do more videos! One question , what do you think about these people on taking exams of whatever topic, like for example some people may know alot but can be hard because the way it present itself like everybody has their ways of thinking and perspective when taking exams what tip can you give haha for high scores... I heard one of your videos you said you did a IQ test and answered like it if you were like everyone else , but like not thinking your way or something like that idk ...:p it would be helpful if you answered
Thanks! For the exams, what I learned was that you have to put yourself in their shoes and like try to imagien what the answer is they would want to hear. Out of the many possible answers and pathways, which is the most straightforward, common (and a bit stupid sometimes) one...
Incredible video. I just bought your book. I hope you can share more of your thoughts on the world, society, relationships, etc. They are so insightful. What is your mbti? INTP perhaps?
Thanks! I think it was INFJ, but I don't really remember, I checked it a long time ago and didn't put too much weight on it. Apparently, the only psychological profiling that's widely academically accepted these days is Big Five... And even that is a bit crude, after all...
@@Abel.Abelson Thanks Abel. I bought all of your books and read I, the Fly yesterday. It was by far the most profound short book i've ever read. Perhaps it's because i've discovered the same perspective on life and continuity of consciousness and it rang true, but, wow, it was really excellent. Looking forward to reading the others this week. Thanks again for opening up and telling life through your perspective with confidence.
@@onetwoone418 Hey Adam, wow, that's fabulous! Thanks for letting me know! It would be tremendous if you could leave a review on Amazon for the Fly, just copy-paste your comment above if you don't have time for more! Books live or die thanks to comments and readers like you!
@@Abel.Abelson Hi Abel, will do today. I'm enjoying the second book (dealing with neurotypicals) a lot!
@@onetwoone418 Tremendous, thank you!!
Hi Abel. Thank you for your interesting videos! New sub.
Out of topic, have you ever came across the Enneagrams?
I didn't until now. For what I've come across, Big Five is about the only widely accepted model these days in psychology...
@@Abel.Abelson I don't know anything about Big Five, but the Enneagrams seems to go deeper than the other personality traits system like Myers-Briggs for instance. They talk about one's inner motif, about levels of healthy-ness and subtypes for each group, and what direction to take to improve yourself. It's very interesting...
also to discover how and when this system was invented..
We are so similar I wish we could meet to talk about our thoughts in depths deeper than any different person can comprehend.
Thanks for your kind comment. Being introverted that's why I wrote my book actually. It was the best kind of encounter I could imagine and realize. A book can be a protected space where as a writer you can really, honestly and profoundly get into things, and as a reader you can let that sink in at your own rhythm and timing. Maybe you should have a look, it might do something for you... You can find it here, among other places: amzn.to/1TXD8OK
Can I join
@@GrowingPains808 You just have :)
I think that we with high iq also often have different sort of empathy then common people, so they often make us hurt by their reckless reactions, which we can not explain, coz we overthink everything, despite that random reaction is just a product of their emotional response, with no brain behind it.
On the other hand they can label us as cold or weird, just because they can not understand us. That is also all party explained in the video, I just tried to gave random example, from everyday life.
Yes, exactly.
I am planning on buying your book, but I’m curious about something: Should I get the free kindle version or the paperback that costs $10? Of course I ask which version to get in order to make sure that you are compensated for your work. Do you receive payment if people get the free version, or only from physical copies sold?
I actually prefer people to buy Kindle books instead of paperback because there's less paper waste, transportation etc. :) Compensation for me is about the same, the Kindle version is sometimes free when Amazon does publicity stunts, but it doesn't affect my payments. Best payment is a positive review on Amazon though :) Thanks for asking!
People, people and people.
How can we lear our true self. How to bypass that learned desires for ourselves?
Observe.
Happy New Year. :) i have question. Is there anything you can teach to us how to improve working memory? Do you have good working memory? If yes how you think when solving problems?
I ask those question because i read that iq and working memory are related to each other.
I honestly don't think there's anything you can do to significantly improve your intelligence, nor should you. We're all fine just as we are :) The thing is not to expect what's not there, or realistic, or natural. Happy new year to you too! :)
I belong to Mensa, Intertel, and the Triple Nine Society. I guess I’m supposed to be miserable, but I’m actually not, miserable. Or maybe I’m just in denial.
where can I do a reliable IQ test?
I was wondering what you thought of the international high iq societies iq test, I’ve just recently taken a test their and scored an iq of 132. I am well aware that it is a online test, but all of the talks I’ve been showering myself in for the past week or two on iq has led me to taking an online test out of sheer desperation for confirmation and an answer to the square root of problems in my life. Although I am quite young (14 years old in fact) I’ve noticed that I much prefer keeping to myself doing things such as designing neural networks , studying physics or trying my hand at engineering instead of speaking with friends, eventually I noticed the that the things I was doing weren’t the norm so I tried taking the test. Which in return had lead me to this comment section right here.(please excuse my odd grammar I have ocd and it often leads to me requiring myself to wright in ways that I would rather not)
Hi! Check out my video on prenatal testosterone and let me know your digit ratio (on both hands): th-cam.com/video/OmbEaBfzKFk/w-d-xo.html. Your description of yourself sounds like an extreme masculine brain, maybe Asperger, knowing your digit ratio and the link with your type of brain will be very helpful.
Take advice from authentic people like this man from the autistic community, he's old enough to understand reality and happiness and old enough to know what he's talking about.
Who says he's autistic? Why do you project? He's gifted.
Great video, but I have a question. How do I know if I'm gifted or not if I didn't take any test? I think it's an interesting topic to approach in a video, thanks
You can't. The definition of "gifted" is having an IQ within a certain percentile of the general population (eg. highest 2%), and the IQ is mesured by tests. As far as I'm concerned IQ doesn't reflect what I perceive as truly intelligent (very flexible and making lots of links), but that's another story (see also my other videos and my book).
@@Abel.Abelson But there must be certain personal traits that could be indicate you're Gifted, beyond IQ tests. Personally I don't think we should rely on just IQ tests, to know if someone is Gifted or not, I think those test are powerful tools, but depending just on them it's something that I'm not agree with. But it leads me to an interesting question, could you know if someone Gifted or not just observing his behavior and talking/knowing this person? (I mean, literally you) 🤔🤔
Thanks for the answer anyway.
@@MyJoseHD I do recognize fairly quickly if someone has a brain that's comparable to mine, but there are types of high IQ that I don't personally perceive as intelligent, but that score high on IQ tests and I probably won't recognize them since I don't value their type of "intelligence". (The typical rule-based and memory kind of intelligence).
@@MyJoseHD Check this also if you haven't already: th-cam.com/video/OmbEaBfzKFk/w-d-xo.html
@@Abel.Abelson A video about this would be interesting, I have this theory, Gifted people have what I call Radar, or the ability to "detect" if someone is Gifted or not, just talking to him or/and seeing this person's reasonings
Are you interested in the Myers Briggs personality system? You seem like an INFJ. INFJ is also consistent with your 2d:4d ratio.
I checked it once but forgot the result, it's long ago. Definitely IN-something. I read an article recently that stated that the only personality test/profile/... that is academically taken seriously nowadays is Big Five. I did an online test for that and it was kind of interesting. There are a few problems nevertheless with this kind of stuff, it's fun, but one problem is that you answer yourself so it probably coincides at least partly with your image of yourself instead of how you really function; the other is that it's psychology and as far as I'm concerned psychology is the superficial and very confused layer of what really is neurobiology. So I'm interested in all these personality types and in psychology up to a certain degree, it's fun and it can be the start of an investigation, but as such it doesn't go all that far...
Hello, I Am 13 and I have the following question:
I helped my half aunt with her college architect project at 8 or 9 that she couldn't figure out. And I started learning about electricity and static electricity when I was 12. My question is: Am I gifted?
If you answer this question, thank you.
Also I don't think I Am gifted because I didn't have very great grades at school.
Well, grades don't tell a lot.
Most gifted people are a bit nerdy (or a lot), so that's one indication. You could also do some free IQ tests on the internet, it can also give an indication. Check out my video on prenatal testosterone too and let me know your digit ratio (it's all explained in the vid), it can tell you something about what kind of brain you have: th-cam.com/video/OmbEaBfzKFk/w-d-xo.html
Abel what do you think about the statement of jordan peterson that iq is directly correlated to succes in life? Im asking cuz you always say that iq is overrated
Well, it depends how you define "success". I've seen correlations between IQ and career, financial status, less divorces etc... But personally I'm interested in happiness, in the sense that nothing means anything if it doesn't ultimately translate to increased happiness. So looking into success is, to my taste, too superficial, because success is not a profound human experience, it's a circumstance (which for a good part is not in your own hands even). In that respect, I don't think IQ and happiness are correlated.
@@Abel.Abelson yeah I indeed meant the mainstream definition of succes. I would say that ive seen people who arent that bright, achieving great things by having immense willpower and discipline for reaching certain goals compared to depressed/lazy geniusses who lack all this. What do you think
@@asfaltweg Definitely. At the same time, I think some lazy geniuses are a lot happier than some hard-working ones. It's one of the options a "genius" has, you can just be lazy and still have your needs met...
Greetings! What kind of subjects do you find fascinating? Do you consider yourself a polymath, or maybe you prefer to dabble deeper in a single area of expertise? :)
Neither. I don't consider myself a polymath, especially not in the Merriam-Webster definition "a person of encyclopedic learning". I'm not someone to endlessly dig into one single subject either and amass loads of knowledge about that. I'm not into knowledge, I'm into understanding, which, for me, equals to links between things more than things themselves. Knowledge as such is dead data, understanding is fitting it all together. So I'm interested in everything, but nothing in particular. I sniff something out until I more or less get how it fits into the bigger picture, than move on to something else, etc. Mostly various subjects at the same time, from many different fields (which I don't see as different fields, but one field viewed from different angles). Practically speaking, I'm actually into the science of happiness :) In a kind of deep sense, not just "I eat a candy and I'm happy" sense :) or "I read a quote on my fridge and I'm happy". Which entails about everything from health to environmental issues, politics, sociology, neurobiology, the mind, etc etc.
@@Abel.Abelson Very interesting indeed :) My curiosity towards highly gifted people was sparked after I met a guy who belongs to the 2% percentile in terms of IQ. Even at that point, I couldn't help but point out that for people like him, it must be somewhat annoying and exhausting to interact with "normies". There has to be some trade off, once you realize that you possess such cognitive prowless.
@@gotinogaden Personally I simply feel "normal", and find "neurotypical" people sometimes annoyingly shortsighted, overconfident, etc. So I don't feel like they are "normal" and I would be "super" or "possessing" some kind of incredible capacity, at all. But at the end it all depends what you expect from someone, if you just expect what's really there and natural, there's no problem, and you can have relative peace with the world.
Where are you from mate?
He is from Belgium, according to a page whence his books are available.
I think there is an incorrectness to the idea that without a model u go crazy. That needs much more exploration to be accepted
Have you studied non duality?
I wouldn't answer neither yes or no to such a question, of course 😉.
@@Abel.Abelson 😁
One word: Misophonia
You sound like a data sciencist! Big data, machine learning, models. 👏
What? No
I'm enjoying your videos. I was wondering earlier if you were Buddhist, this video confirms you've studied a bit of dharma.
Things are as they are is very Zen. I've been practicing Zen over a decade, recently realizing I'm high functioning autism all my life. And Zen is in my view, permission to be Authentically Autistic. Or Lessons in Autistic wisdom for NT.
A suggestion for videos... Your too close to your camera, with a wide angle lens, so your face is distorted. Massive chin and nose, well beyond your natural rugged face.
I like the way you teach abstract truths, but I think your interpretation is already biased, typical of the type of INTJ personality.