About Finnish women not saying "I love you" too often because they don't want to repeat things that feel obvious to both - it's true. I'm a Finnish female myself and I tend to express my affections more with body language. Especially hugging. Unless my guy needs saying it often verbally, that's when I'm willing to adapt to that exception.
I am quite unusual traveling, artistic musician and foreigner. I love everything about Finland and culture and understand it much better than most I think, due to my mixed family roots. I really love values and intelligence and loyalty. I want to have a family with good Finish woman that wants the same but likes minimalist type kind of artistic musician types. What would you recommend and is there any way i can meet anyone over the line to talk and get to know better, maybe video chat ? And do i have any chances or are the certain types preferred? thanks
I love this! I married a Finnish guy after an extended social media courtship. Just be honest with Finns and punctual and you'll never find anyone sweeter or more kind. My husband is a bit weird, though, because he tells me that he loves me every day. Kiitos!
My Australian husband at first didn't understand my annoyance at his lack of punctuality lol. Now he knows to be early by 5 min. Also I LOVE my alone- time and quiet, and he says it creeps him out but he's getting better at understanding it. I miss sauna.... 😞
I have been with a Finnish boy for one and a half years now. This video actually helps me to learn about Finnish girl’s position in a relationship, and I would say this is helpful to understand my bf’s behaviors better and meanwhile offers me a way to sometimes be like a Finnish girl to make things go more smoothly between us. Thank you for the video:)
I am looking for a woman as partner and family and hope to meet over the line. Any recommendations and suggestions? i am very affectionate and show my love that way. my culture background does not say i love you so much. But there is a lot of love through little kindness through the day or life. busy minds require space and attention or family :)
This sounds like common sense to me, people should behave like this in any society, not only when around Finnish girls. You have such an amazing culture guys!
I really want to visit Finland someday. The culture, the language, the beauty of the country itself - it's all so fascinating! The people are beautiful too
My mother moved us away from Finland when I was in my early teens to Australia and it took a few years but I didn't realise what I was losing. The older I get, the more I appreciate Finland and how wonderful it is. Australia isn't awful by any means but it just doesn't compare. I've been back to visit twice, but travel from Australia is SOO expensive and far away. 😫
The culture sucks. The language sucks. The countryside is kinda beautiful. Lapland is nice and fascinating during Winter. Sweden has the beautiful people.
I'm an American Finn, I don't lie or brag, I don't see the point and feel like if I have to repeat it just means someone wasn't listening, I'm actually dismayed. When I hang out with friends it revolves around an activity not talking unless it's the bar, the bar is where I tell my stories and listen to new stories, in relationships I value my time alone as much as my time with my gal. I do not need to be cared for or have to care for another all the time, I find it very beautiful if a girl is independent, honest, chill, and open minded like me, one who doesn't need to be the center of the world or need to speak every thought
I have been dating Finnish girl who is very introverted. Actually she is so kind and focused when we are together but doesnt open up herself. We have spent more than 10 hours and i still could not learn what she does in her spare times, hobbies and the music she likes
The old world thing: when I was moved to Australia, when my mother introduced me to an older neighbour, I curtsied the way I used to with my Mummi. He was charmed and delighted. I didn't know it wasn't a thing here in Australia. Some habits die hard lol
"hello" is very good way to start conversation. You never know what person is on the other side so you never should open yourself at first contact. If someone is interests in value conversation will answer.
I dated a Finnish girl who was not Finnish at all. (She was 45 years old, born in Finland, but lived in Germany for 18 years). -She bragged about Finland and talked incessantly about how horrible the USA was compared to Finland - 15 times a day. (And in earshot of Americans whilst we were dining out). -She never offered to share paying for anything - ever. -Always wanted to do activities she wanted to do. -Demanded for 4 months to know how much I made a year - and refused to say her salary. (I had to show her my tax returns to shut her up - she wore me down). 😂 -Lied to me about dating someone else while we were dating - and ended up with that person in the end. (All while making sure I stayed single. And even kicked me out of the hotel room when she wanted to talk privately with them). -She demanded the truth from me, but NEVER told me the truth or gave a complete answer on anything … ever. She lied about things, but demanded the truth from me. (All whilst insisting that Finns prize honesty). -She bragged all the time about all of her accomplishments and boasted how stupid everyone else was. All of my Finnish friends were in awe of how unFinnish she was. I have NEVER met such a Finnish person in my life. She made the WORST of Americans look like angels. 😂
Where was this guide 20 years ago when I met my Finnish wife? Very accurate, I’ve been Finn-whipped into a different man! For Star Trek fans, think “Vulcan logic” 🤣
Infact Finnish look like Vulcans ! Vulcans in Start trek are inspired from Asperger Syndrome. And Asperger people are the result of biological evolution of human beings! Infact Neanderthal and home sapiens have created a hybrid home sapien. Normal people have many Neanderthal genes not activated but Asperger have activated! And so think really in a form completely different from normal. Finnish people maybe have more Asperger people and so look more similar at them !
It really is true. Men who feel they need to brag about things they own or women who are impressed by that for me is just ugh. (Insert eye-roll here). I see this all the time here in Australia (living here now) and I'm embarrassed for the women who make this a condition of dating someone. 😳 Who cares what kind of car you drive??
@@julianaFinn Moika, Amazing so Finland stay the normal values and around the world so many countries and peoples changing a bad way...the world turned upside down....quite hard to believe.. but I love Finnish peoples I trust you:) Kiitos
So dating a Finnish girl is like dating a Swedish, Norwegian, Danish, Icelandic or Faroese girl? No wonder. We all are family and share great cultures. Greetings from Denmark.
There is something different about the Finnish culture. Their language is not a Germanic one. It's not even an Indo-European one. I personaly notice a different energy with them.
kiitos molemmille! I think i have some chances to do it the right way then :)! I'm not a person who shows lot of my money :D! Brutal honesty does not impress me, i'm autist and i tend to be much honest! I do not open myself quickly, in fact with Nordic people, i'll express my true self, as i'm closer to Scandinavian people( as my roots are also German). I love you all the time like American says it, is boooring, when i say i love you, i reall mean it, i rarely go back on my words( my emotions comes out from myself with music and poems that i write :)). Great video! Hyvää yötä ystävä Suomalainen! Näkemiin.
I know many friends living in Finland. Some stuff is actually quite different. People just "date" around quite a lot!! Specially using dating apps. Also some men said the girl is actually "bossy". That's different from being independant. Though maybe it depends whether you live in large or small cities
I might have already commented this, but can't find. Being punctual, I was supposed to meet with this girl that I had met at Mustikkamaa (we walked in backwards, slowly), Juhannus at Suomenlinna LauttaSatama and I got a call about a good car to buy and I did and they had siphoned the gas out, so I had to push it to a gas station. So I was hours late. She was still there. "no big deal many of my friends have gone by" Spent the summer with her and introduced her to my parents, who rejected her. Introduced her to my Stockholm friends and 26 years later Googled her. She had studied in Stockholm and was now a Doctor for Doctors Without Borders. We dated for a few years here in Los Angeles and Nairobi, Mombasa and Stockholm. So, you can be late with a Finnish girl. I still love her, but she kept bending my little finger the wrong way to get her way.
This is almost all true for me...with the exception of #7 and #10. I tend to spill my heart out to those I think I can trust. I also say "I love you" at least once a day to my Finnish Boyfriend, which is hopefully reinforced by the things I do for him. Its probably why we clicked so well, haha.
It´s just like on one funny pic where old finish woman was asking her husband does he still love her becouse he never say that to her? Old man answered that he ain´t going to yank about it all the time. He said it once 60 years ago and if it changes he will let her know for sure!
Oh gosh! I just arrived here from another video and I can't be more agree with her. I'm a Spanish woman with a Finns soul haaaahahaha I guess that the northern Spanish culture has something to do with it. Keep it up Aleksi, you're videos are great.
Hola Irene López, I'm from Mexico city. ¿ Cómo estás? I'm interested in meeting someone from overseas. ¿ Podríamos ser amigos? Currently I'm working as a lawyer in Mexico city, de hecho soy Mexicano. Greetings from Mexico city. I write and speak Spanish and English. By the way my name is David.
I met Finnish woman once who looked like Brock Lesnar, very strong grip. She invited me for sauna and when I saw she had a "makkara" I ran into the woods and jumped in an ice lake.
So, my observation was right about Fins in general. People don't show off their stuff, they aren't materialistic, they don't buy expensive things to show off like cars, phones, etc.. Which I really like because so many countries including mine are the opposite and I hate it.
As a Finn living in Australia and married to an Australian-Italian man, this video helped him immensely lol. He now understands my need to be alone, quiet and my bluntness. He used to take that in a negative way, as a criticism of him or us but now understands that is just how I am. My boss also now gets why I'm so blunt lol
Mutta ei kaikki suomalaiset naiset ovat sellaisena. Se on persoonasi. Mutta tämä ei tarkoitaa että sinä olet huono nainen. Mietän että sinun australialainen miehesi tosi rakastaa sinua. Sinä olet onnekas
I believe it is because you might be a little masculine.. If person wants to be isolated from their lover that this is simply cold 🥶 and if you enjoy your lover less around you than this not not healthy my lady… If you prefer you man quite and not speaking out of turn or to loud this simply means this is your threshold. How ever it is a problem for your threshold to be so restrictive for your lover.. One should hear each other speak to acknowledge each other and to exchange thoughts, decompress and to pair bond… My lady this is very damaging to your lover and strips away at his man hood. My lady you must give your selfs to each other… Anything else is a crime against each other…
@@julianaFinn A little much I know.. All I’m trying to say to boss each other around and let your man be a man.. So many women treat their men like garden tools. Put them back in the shed when your done with them.. That’s not nice and it’s a terrible way to treat your man..
Thanks Aleksi...next winter i will visit Helsinki to see a finnish friend of mine, and i am going to stay for a month!!! So i will try dating and see what happens....your videos are very helpfull!!! Have a nice day!!!
Great video. Thanks for the advice. For some time I've been wanting to meet a nice finnish woman. I'll keep your advice in mind. I might be traveling to Finland some time in June. Who knows I might meet my future sweet heart over there.
Haha! My boyfriend is finnish and he also says he says i love you every evening before sleep , and its really nice 🤔🤭 but funny ! Haha! But i must say : guys in finland they are very very very stable people :)
"They want to get to know you. They don't care how mucht you make or what kind of car you drive..."... I was dating in the wrong country when I was in my early 20s. I should have dated there.
@@AleksiHimself It is so true though. Gen-X and the earlier half of millennial women in my country seemed to care GREATLY about what you have, especially 10 years ago. If you have little, the conversation is over before it begins. You could be a caring person. You could be of sound character, a non-drinker / nonsmoker, a churchgoer, etc. You could be a medical resident who will be well off in a year or two. The conversation is over and that's that. Also, if they are interested and you have nothing, their father would certainly be the next gate you wont make it through. With the latter half of the millennial generation and gen-z young adults, it appears to a degree that this is starting to change finally. Add to that the fact that divorce rates here supposedly around 50%. I think in urban / suburban areas, they are actually much higher. Nearly all of them here are initiated by women and usually for quite petty reasons, "insufficient standard of living" being the most frequently claimed, many American men are looking abroad for marriage.
As a karelian finnish, we're very social people. We getting depressed if we don't have an dialog with someone. And yes, we karelian are known to tease someone. Even family. Insults was very common in my big karelian family. At least my family. I'm surprised many finns are shy to having small talk. To be curiosities is frown down here in Sweden.
Well, up to tip 9 or 10, those tips apply to women from anywhere, really. But number 10 was very interesting to know. I always thought people here need to say and hear "I love you" way too often... it sounds insecure eventually.
So can't date multiple women unless they are first dates. The funny thing about Finlad is that most of the time you first sleep with a person before start dating. So, the whole rule comes down that you are allowed to sleep with multiple women but only once while you are getting to know with the one who is going to be your definite girlfriend.
Many jobs, especially in the IT business, game industry etc do not require any Finnish skill. Getting a job visa may be difficult (time consuming), but that's probably the only real difficulty you'll face. And you can always study Finnish after starting a job to improve your position and to widen your options. Happy hunting!
uuuuh amazing tips!!! 😱😱😍 this videos is pure gold 💛 Alexsi, kiitos paljon !! #5 : uuuuh, defnitely take into consideration that! #10 wow!!! in case I'll remember that and I won't panic xD I'm meeting a finnish girl, after months she's starting to open herself up! ✌😁 wish me luck!
@@AleksiHimself Asking about work is also to find out what kind of interest you have. If the question is "what do you do", you can tell about anyting you spend your time with.
You two communicate well together I enjoy viewing some Finnish videos. I am am of Finnish heritage although I don't speak Finnish laguage. Some people locally do. Well wishes🎼.
That would be a big mistake. For many reasons. Gentlemen, avoid getting engaged/married with a Finnish woman. Let alone having kids with them (big big mistake)
@@AleksiHimself in the best case scenario you marry, have children, divorce and get stuck forever in a country with no friends and no particularly culture friendly with foreigners. In the worst case scenario you marry Riikka Purra.
Thank you for giving me some tips, I really appreciated your video and I can't wait to visit your country and participate in a sauna in true Finnish style. Kippis
I guess point 2 applies to anyone, point 4 to any European. I never dated any Finnish lady, a friend o' mine did, he claimed girls from Finland love to control your relations with another people and are really jealous. I never matched with any girl in Finnish Tinder, but I did in Russian, Belarussian, Ukrainian, Brazilian and in Polish Tinder. Honestly, I find Finnish girls pretty, but when I check their social networks I have such an impression that the only thing they care about is gymn and travels, nothing else.
No it's not. It tells about your interests and that you probably are open-minded about different cultures and lifestyles. Many Finns like travelling as well. But if you say it like "I can afford to travel as much as I like" or "I spend this much money on travelling" then it sounds a bit like bragging 😉
Strong and confident women are the sexiest ones. A good relationship must be based on the respect and the knowledge of what the other person likes or dislikes, as well as being yourself is the correct.
Just so as long as you are not emasculated by them.. Women in general should not be like sand paper, stones and rocks. A healthy balance of supportive femininity is is required for a good relationship…
Great video! But I sort of disagree on #4 no bragging!! Haha. Any woman would like to know that a potential mate is being successful in his work life- because that is stability and a way to start a family. If they are not interested in money at all, I wonder if she want to start a family ?? Maybe not.
What does it mean when a fnnish guy says "how's my girl". We already met and intimate. We are already on our 3rd month(i dont know yet the label) of consistently talking and video calls(LDR). I didnt open up to him yet as i dont want to be pushy. i was just confused whenbhe asked how's my girl.
Depending how old he is, he might just want to sound more "worldly" by using phrases like that. But then again, if he's really interested in everything you do, say and remembers your conversations, that might be his way to show affection towards you. (Many Finnish guys are bit shy expressing their feelings while getting to know the girl they like). Next time when he says that, you can just reply by saying to him "how's my boy" and see how he reacts to that. (Or something similar along those lines). His reaction will tell you what you need to know. If he treats it like a joke then his not being serious. But if he becomes bit shy and/or blushes (even if he might laugh a little), then more than likely he's happy you are reciprocating to his advances. Hope this helps.
@@initbutnotofit1467 thanks! We're both 34.and it seems like the way we treat each other is like we are already a coupl. And last week we just agreed that we are not allowed to flirt to others. So i woul assume that we are already exclusive. But like i said we didnt confirm yet if we are bf-gf already. Thanks agaian!
@@georginabrigs1891 No problem. You could sum up your courage and ask in your own way if you can call him your boyfriend. Most Finnish guys like straight forward women who can also take the lead. Sounds like you're in a great start. Good luck to both of you.
I don't quite know what to mean by this, as my experience was quite different with a Finnish woman. we met on Tinder, a week later after strong sexual interests we wrote via WhatsApp, I flew directly to Helsinki and we had sex with each other throughout the weekend. So I think that this opinion does not apply to everyone. We are still in contact and have already made us even vacation together.
Ihme? Vuonna 1986 koulu tuli Helsingistä Kreikkaan, Halkidikiin, Chaniotiin. Maailman kauneimmat tytöt. Olin nuori ja yritän löytää joitain noista upeista tytöistä, meillä oli hauskaa kitarani ja rock-musiikkini parissa...Jos joku muistaa, kirjoita minulle...en koskaan unohtanut kuinka kunnollisia ja ihania tyttöjä he ovat olivat...Kostas .
I agree with the dating part, but I believe even if it is the first date that it should be exclusive to that one person. It is less distracting than doing two people and to me it would be somewhat disrespectful to date two people. I really like the Finn's way of thinking!
Well, I believe that some Finns, including myself, think that you are not exclusive after the first date as mentioned in the video. This can be seen as clingy and controlling. However, some people do it the way you described. Depends on the person!
Wow I watch both of these channels and clicked on the video because I recognize both of you. Now after watching I get vibes like you two are a couple. Is Varpu and Aleksi married? 😊
Since I read some articles about Finns shuns the first name to be polite, even if they call someone with the first name, it must be a close relationship, is it true?
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My Finnish ex-girlfriend got so independent she got independent of me. xD
Perkele :D
Just a bit more of finnish personal space
Mine too, she did not even know we are in a relationship.
Oh you...what youre sayng is she broke up with you...strange finnish people you
Ha ha ha 😂
I’ve heard that Finnish men will most likely tell their women they love them twice. Once when they marry and once before they die.
True :D
😂😂
Hahahahaha
About Finnish women not saying "I love you" too often because they don't want to repeat things that feel obvious to both - it's true. I'm a Finnish female myself and I tend to express my affections more with body language. Especially hugging. Unless my guy needs saying it often verbally, that's when I'm willing to adapt to that exception.
That's great that you find this true. :)
Tell me something about Finnish girl
Finnish her
Sinä olet todella kiva nainen. Sinun miehesi on onnekas
I am quite unusual traveling, artistic musician and foreigner. I love everything about Finland and culture and understand it much better than most I think, due to my mixed family roots. I really love values and intelligence and loyalty. I want to have a family with good Finish woman that wants the same but likes minimalist type kind of artistic musician types. What would you recommend and is there any way i can meet anyone over the line to talk and get to know better, maybe video chat ? And do i have any chances or are the certain types preferred? thanks
I love this! I married a Finnish guy after an extended social media courtship. Just be honest with Finns and punctual and you'll never find anyone sweeter or more kind. My husband is a bit weird, though, because he tells me that he loves me every day. Kiitos!
Good stuff!
My Australian husband at first didn't understand my annoyance at his lack of punctuality lol. Now he knows to be early by 5 min. Also I LOVE my alone- time and quiet, and he says it creeps him out but he's getting better at understanding it. I miss sauna.... 😞
I have been with a Finnish boy for one and a half years now. This video actually helps me to learn about Finnish girl’s position in a relationship, and I would say this is helpful to understand my bf’s behaviors better and meanwhile offers me a way to sometimes be like a Finnish girl to make things go more smoothly between us. Thank you for the video:)
Which city are you from?
Great...I have never even met a Finnish woman and now I want to date one.🤣 They sound amazing.
They indeed are. :D
We really are
Yes, yes we are.
I am looking for a woman as partner and family and hope to meet over the line. Any recommendations and suggestions? i am very affectionate and show my love that way. my culture background does not say i love you so much. But there is a lot of love through little kindness through the day or life. busy minds require space and attention or family :)
@@ashleyerickson2060 I will be very glad to a Finnish lady, can you link me up with one
This sounds like common sense to me, people should behave like this in any society, not only when around Finnish girls.
You have such an amazing culture guys!
Thanks for the comment Annie!
I really want to visit Finland someday. The culture, the language, the beauty of the country itself - it's all so fascinating! The people are beautiful too
waje107 I’ve been back home from Helsinki for about two weeks and I miss it so much.… can’t wait to go back.
So naive
You should go! I’ve been 10 times now, I love Finland!
My mother moved us away from Finland when I was in my early teens to Australia and it took a few years but I didn't realise what I was losing. The older I get, the more I appreciate Finland and how wonderful it is. Australia isn't awful by any means but it just doesn't compare. I've been back to visit twice, but travel from Australia is SOO expensive and far away. 😫
The culture sucks. The language sucks. The countryside is kinda beautiful. Lapland is nice and fascinating during Winter. Sweden has the beautiful people.
You two are both very conversational. It's good to hear you talk. Kiitos!
Thanks!
I'm an American Finn, I don't lie or brag, I don't see the point and feel like if I have to repeat it just means someone wasn't listening, I'm actually dismayed. When I hang out with friends it revolves around an activity not talking unless it's the bar, the bar is where I tell my stories and listen to new stories, in relationships I value my time alone as much as my time with my gal. I do not need to be cared for or have to care for another all the time, I find it very beautiful if a girl is independent, honest, chill, and open minded like me, one who doesn't need to be the center of the world or need to speak every thought
every human being needs things repeated. it doesn't mean they weren't listening, that's too judgemental.
Thank you! I enjoyed this very much. It looks like you and Varpu had a great time making this video too.
Thanks for the comment Dave Henderson! We indeed had!
This is a cool collab, I love Varpu!
I have dated and married a Finnish Woman has been 10 years now and this was spot on.....lol....
Sorry to hear that.😁
Good stuff!
I have been dating Finnish girl who is very introverted. Actually she is so kind and focused when we are together but doesnt open up herself. We have spent more than 10 hours and i still could not learn what she does in her spare times, hobbies and the music she likes
So cute! Totally agree with all the points! Love the Finnish Cupids, Aleksi ja Varpu! 👏🏻❤️❤️
Thanks for the comment bebina!
From what I saw in the video, I like the culture, to the point and being truthful.
And not maintaining fake nuances and bravado.
Thanks for the comment Rizwan Tahir!
Turns out I'm secretly Finnish hahaha. All of the things you guys pointed out, I deeply agree with
She is so stunning! :)
Thanks for the comment Gia!
I think these are really healthy and mature cultural norms. Makes me want to date a Finish girl ;-) Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for the comment westonp80!
My wife is Finnish here in Texas, very interesting culture, very old world.
Thanks for the comment jlozano2014!
The old world thing: when I was moved to Australia, when my mother introduced me to an older neighbour, I curtsied the way I used to with my Mummi. He was charmed and delighted. I didn't know it wasn't a thing here in Australia. Some habits die hard lol
I love your culture ! I met many Finnish people and I feel a connection with your culture. I'm from Québec. ;-)
So cool!
The landscapes of Quebec and Finland do at times bear an uncanny resemblance
"hello" is very good way to start conversation. You never know what person is on the other side so you never should open yourself at first contact. If someone is interests in value conversation will answer.
Exactly!
I dated a Finnish girl who was not Finnish at all. (She was 45 years old, born in Finland, but lived in Germany for 18 years).
-She bragged about Finland and talked incessantly about how horrible the USA was compared to Finland - 15 times a day. (And in earshot of Americans whilst we were dining out).
-She never offered to share paying for anything - ever.
-Always wanted to do activities she wanted to do.
-Demanded for 4 months to know how much I made a year - and refused to say her salary. (I had to show her my tax returns to shut her up - she wore me down). 😂
-Lied to me about dating someone else while we were dating - and ended up with that person in the end. (All while making sure I stayed single. And even kicked me out of the hotel room when she wanted to talk privately with them).
-She demanded the truth from me, but NEVER told me the truth or gave a complete answer on anything … ever. She lied about things, but demanded the truth from me. (All whilst insisting that Finns prize honesty).
-She bragged all the time about all of her accomplishments and boasted how stupid everyone else was.
All of my Finnish friends were in awe of how unFinnish she was. I have NEVER met such a Finnish person in my life. She made the WORST of Americans look like angels. 😂
I hope you were the one that left her lol.
There are quite many f*cked up women in Finland, be careful. And usually the flavour is either ultra-nationalism or just classic mental disorder
She sounds like my narcissistic X. I guess Finns have them too.
She was definitely german 😂
Where was this guide 20 years ago when I met my Finnish wife? Very accurate, I’ve been Finn-whipped into a different man!
For Star Trek fans, think “Vulcan logic” 🤣
Infact Finnish look like Vulcans !
Vulcans in Start trek are inspired from Asperger Syndrome.
And Asperger people are the result of biological evolution of human beings!
Infact Neanderthal and home sapiens have created a hybrid home sapien.
Normal people have many Neanderthal genes not activated but Asperger have activated!
And so think really in a form completely different from normal.
Finnish people maybe have more Asperger people and so look more similar at them !
Well maybe your future kids have more resources when they need them. :)
Hey Great video Aleksi - probably the most honest one so far! Very informative.
Thanks for the comment Andrew Dennett!
OMG! girls intrested in your personality, your mood and REAL VALUES WHAT METTERS! * - * this was my last needed reason to move to Finnland!
So true!
It really is true. Men who feel they need to brag about things they own or women who are impressed by that for me is just ugh. (Insert eye-roll here). I see this all the time here in Australia (living here now) and I'm embarrassed for the women who make this a condition of dating someone. 😳 Who cares what kind of car you drive??
@@julianaFinn Moika, Amazing so Finland stay the normal values and around the world so many countries and peoples changing a bad way...the world turned upside down....quite hard to believe.. but I love Finnish peoples I trust you:) Kiitos
So dating a Finnish girl is like dating a Swedish, Norwegian, Danish, Icelandic or Faroese girl?
No wonder. We all are family and share great cultures.
Greetings from Denmark.
There is something different about the Finnish culture. Their language is not a Germanic one. It's not even an Indo-European one. I personaly notice a different energy with them.
@@JRPRAGUE29 Its Finno-Ugric along with the closest mutually intelligible language being estonian. the women of both countries are so beautiful tho :)
@@JRPRAGUE29 The language is different, but all The other things do not differ so much.
@@JRPRAGUE29 not just the language. We Finnish women are different. Bad or good, I don’t know and I don’t care 😉.
I'm an American girl and all these would apply for me as well! Hello from the Finger Lakes in Upstate New York!
kiitos molemmille!
I think i have some chances to do it the right way then :)! I'm not a person who shows lot of my money :D! Brutal honesty does not impress me, i'm autist and i tend to be much honest! I do not open myself quickly, in fact with Nordic people, i'll express my true self, as i'm closer to Scandinavian people( as my roots are also German). I love you all the time like American says it, is boooring, when i say i love you, i reall mean it, i rarely go back on my words( my emotions comes out from myself with music and poems that i write :)). Great video! Hyvää yötä ystävä Suomalainen! Näkemiin.
I know many friends living in Finland. Some stuff is actually quite different. People just "date" around quite a lot!! Specially using dating apps. Also some men said the girl is actually "bossy". That's different from being independant. Though maybe it depends whether you live in large or small cities
It's amazing, I didn't know you two knew each other
Welp, I think I'm a Finn in the inside 🤣
Thanks for the comment Rininta!
I want to date a Finnish girl
I want to date a Finnish girl
Hi i know sir tolf that hi or hello is not enough for starting conversation but im a Indian and it's my first time with s Finnish girl 😅
So could you please reply me 😅
Great video, We need more of this topic😁✨greetings from brasil🇧🇷
Thank you for the guide, I don't want to offend Finnish a women and we are actually moving to finland this October.
Thanks for the comment Migs Tan!
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I might have already commented this, but can't find. Being punctual, I was supposed to meet with this girl that I had met at Mustikkamaa (we walked in backwards, slowly), Juhannus at Suomenlinna LauttaSatama and I got a call about a good car to buy and I did and they had siphoned the gas out, so I had to push it to a gas station. So I was hours late. She was still there. "no big deal many of my friends have gone by" Spent the summer with her and introduced her to my parents, who rejected her. Introduced her to my Stockholm friends and 26 years later Googled her. She had studied in Stockholm and was now a Doctor for Doctors Without Borders. We dated for a few years here in Los Angeles and Nairobi, Mombasa and Stockholm. So, you can be late with a Finnish girl. I still love her, but she kept bending my little finger the wrong way to get her way.
This is almost all true for me...with the exception of #7 and #10. I tend to spill my heart out to those I think I can trust. I also say "I love you" at least once a day to my Finnish Boyfriend, which is hopefully reinforced by the things I do for him. Its probably why we clicked so well, haha.
Good stuff!
Yeah, I'm very open with the pple I care about. But I am WAY too blunt and it can turn pple off 😁😁
It´s just like on one funny pic where old finish woman was asking her husband does he still love her becouse he never say that to her? Old man answered that he ain´t going to yank about it all the time. He said it once 60 years ago and if it changes he will let her know for sure!
Haha exactly!
3:50 - Varpu is talking about committed relationships I would say where your expected to be with one person, rather than in the initial stages
Indeed!
Oh gosh! I just arrived here from another video and I can't be more agree with her.
I'm a Spanish woman with a Finns soul haaaahahaha I guess that the northern Spanish culture has something to do with it.
Keep it up Aleksi, you're videos are great.
Hola Irene López, I'm from Mexico city. ¿ Cómo estás? I'm interested in meeting someone from overseas. ¿ Podríamos ser amigos? Currently I'm working as a lawyer in Mexico city, de hecho soy Mexicano. Greetings from Mexico city. I write and speak Spanish and English. By the way my name is David.
I met Finnish woman once who looked like Brock Lesnar, very strong grip. She invited me for sauna and when I saw she had a "makkara" I ran into the woods and jumped in an ice lake.
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Are you sure she wasnt Brock Lesnar in the first place?
I am a finnish girl and these are so true
So, my observation was right about Fins in general. People don't show off their stuff, they aren't materialistic, they don't buy expensive things to show off like cars, phones, etc.. Which I really like because so many countries including mine are the opposite and I hate it.
As a Finn living in Australia and married to an Australian-Italian man, this video helped him immensely lol. He now understands my need to be alone, quiet and my bluntness. He used to take that in a negative way, as a criticism of him or us but now understands that is just how I am. My boss also now gets why I'm so blunt lol
Mutta ei kaikki suomalaiset naiset ovat sellaisena. Se on persoonasi. Mutta tämä ei tarkoitaa että sinä olet huono nainen. Mietän että sinun australialainen miehesi tosi rakastaa sinua. Sinä olet onnekas
I believe it is because you might be a little masculine.. If person wants to be isolated from their lover that this is simply cold 🥶 and if you enjoy your lover less around you than this not not healthy my lady… If you prefer you man quite and not speaking out of turn or to loud this simply means this is your threshold. How ever it is a problem for your threshold to be so restrictive for your lover.. One should hear each other speak to acknowledge each other and to exchange thoughts, decompress and to pair bond… My lady this is very damaging to your lover and strips away at his man hood. My lady you must give your selfs to each other… Anything else is a crime against each other…
@@Beniamin6665 🤣🤣😂😂😂😂 ok
@@julianaFinn A little much I know.. All I’m trying to say to boss each other around and let your man be a man.. So many women treat their men like garden tools. Put them back in the shed when your done with them.. That’s not nice and it’s a terrible way to treat your man..
I've met two Finnish girls on my travels and found out how much fun people they are.
Good stuff!
Sure, world travelling people usually have lively and funny personality, regardless nationality
Thanks Aleksi...next winter i will visit Helsinki to see a finnish friend of mine, and i am going to stay for a month!!! So i will try dating and see what happens....your videos are very helpfull!!! Have a nice day!!!
Great video. Thanks for the advice. For some time I've been wanting to meet a nice finnish woman. I'll keep your advice in mind. I might be traveling to Finland some time in June. Who knows I might meet my future sweet heart over there.
Great advice Aleksi! 👍
Good stuff! 😃🙌
@@AleksiHimself kiitos
These tips apply to dating women from any country really
Not necessarily in every country but for the most part yes.
A tip for dating any Finnish person: don't show off and learn humility (goes especially to the French).
Good tip!
Thank you! French girls are somewhat the opposite and strangely, a lot of them consider bragging as a strength...
Do they like guys shorter than them?
Every Finnish girl that came as a student here at my school is 200+ centimeters tall
Nice video and interesting informations about Finnish Woman. Greetings from Poland.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Haha! My boyfriend is finnish and he also says he says i love you every evening before sleep , and its really nice 🤔🤭 but funny ! Haha! But i must say : guys in finland they are very very very stable people :)
Good stuff! :)
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Not Finnish yet I agree with these points!
Good stuff!
"They want to get to know you. They don't care how mucht you make or what kind of car you drive..."... I was dating in the wrong country when I was in my early 20s. I should have dated there.
Thanks for the comment immcguyver07!
@@AleksiHimself It is so true though. Gen-X and the earlier half of millennial women in my country seemed to care GREATLY about what you have, especially 10 years ago. If you have little, the conversation is over before it begins. You could be a caring person. You could be of sound character, a non-drinker / nonsmoker, a churchgoer, etc. You could be a medical resident who will be well off in a year or two. The conversation is over and that's that. Also, if they are interested and you have nothing, their father would certainly be the next gate you wont make it through. With the latter half of the millennial generation and gen-z young adults, it appears to a degree that this is starting to change finally. Add to that the fact that divorce rates here supposedly around 50%. I think in urban / suburban areas, they are actually much higher. Nearly all of them here are initiated by women and usually for quite petty reasons, "insufficient standard of living" being the most frequently claimed, many American men are looking abroad for marriage.
@@immcguyver07 "Insufficient standard of living", then kicks you out of the house and gets a government mandated allowance from you.
Feel like 95% finnish now, after this video, since a lot of these things actually apply to me to, even tho i'm probebly 0% Finnish ;)
Good stuff!
I will go to Finland on August, so all this is very helpful.
Good stuff! 😃🙌
lol I'm headed to Finland in August too. Maybe I'll see you there!
As a karelian finnish, we're very social people. We getting depressed if we don't have an dialog with someone. And yes, we karelian are known to tease someone. Even family. Insults was very common in my big karelian family. At least my family. I'm surprised many finns are shy to having small talk. To be curiosities is frown down here in Sweden.
Great stuff! I was hoping we'd hear from the female perspective.
Thanks for the comment Agriking!
Well, up to tip 9 or 10, those tips apply to women from anywhere, really. But number 10 was very interesting to know. I always thought people here need to say and hear "I love you" way too often... it sounds insecure eventually.
So can't date multiple women unless they are first dates. The funny thing about Finlad is that most of the time you first sleep with a person before start dating. So, the whole rule comes down that you are allowed to sleep with multiple women but only once while you are getting to know with the one who is going to be your definite girlfriend.
Depends what you mean by dating. People tend to have sex before becoming exclusive as it's important to find out the sexual compatibility too.
It's super difficult to date a finnish girl! I feel like they are all Elizabeth Bennet (Pride and Prejudice)
Don't give up!
Se riippuu naisen lajista. Se ei ole tosi vaikea
Nice information , I loved it ....
Is it necessary that we should know Finnish language inorder to get a job there ?
Some jobs don't require Finnish.
Many jobs, especially in the IT business, game industry etc do not require any Finnish skill. Getting a job visa may be difficult (time consuming), but that's probably the only real difficulty you'll face. And you can always study Finnish after starting a job to improve your position and to widen your options. Happy hunting!
11- do not avoid her beautiful smile 😍
uuuuh amazing tips!!! 😱😱😍
this videos is pure gold 💛
Alexsi, kiitos paljon !!
#5 : uuuuh, defnitely take into consideration that!
#10 wow!!! in case I'll remember that and I won't panic xD
I'm meeting a finnish girl, after months she's starting to open herself up! ✌😁
wish me luck!
It is okay to let her know you are making enough money, so you are financially independent. That most probably will make her relax.
Thanks for the comment Manu Bee!
They will ask: "What do you do for work?" to figure that out instead of asking how much money you make.
@@AleksiHimself
Asking about work is also to find out what kind of interest you have. If the question is "what do you do", you can tell about anyting you spend your time with.
Wonderful video
Thank you! Cheers!
You two communicate well together I enjoy viewing some Finnish videos. I am am of Finnish heritage although I don't speak Finnish laguage. Some people locally do. Well wishes🎼.
Thanks!
En kyllä tiedä miten helvetissä tää päätyi suositeltuihin, vihjaakohan youtube jotakin?
Ehkä! :p
Thanks for the info, I really appreciate your videos, greetings!
Thanks for the comment themns4u!
I'm a Latina and I agree with her....🤔
Thanks for the comment Unknown Unknown!
That would be a big mistake. For many reasons. Gentlemen, avoid getting engaged/married with a Finnish woman. Let alone having kids with them (big big mistake)
Why do you think so?
@@AleksiHimself in the best case scenario you marry, have children, divorce and get stuck forever in a country with no friends and no particularly culture friendly with foreigners. In the worst case scenario you marry Riikka Purra.
I married a Finnish guy, and this all checks out. Also, best decision I've ever made.
Thank you for giving me some tips, I really appreciated your video and I can't wait to visit your country and participate in a sauna in true Finnish style. Kippis
Have fun!
Thanks mam thanks sir 🙂 i learn many things from this video and every tip's are useful🙂
Glad to hear that!
I guess point 2 applies to anyone, point 4 to any European. I never dated any Finnish lady, a friend o' mine did, he claimed girls from Finland love to control your relations with another people and are really jealous. I never matched with any girl in Finnish Tinder, but I did in Russian, Belarussian, Ukrainian, Brazilian and in Polish Tinder. Honestly, I find Finnish girls pretty, but when I check their social networks I have such an impression that the only thing they care about is gymn and travels, nothing else.
Interesting insights. I guess it really depends who you meet. Some are great, non-controlling, and some aren't.
Love these videos
Am I the only one who finds cute Finnish accent (in English)?
how can i come at Finland
Is there a senior version of this for we older Finnish guys?
This applies for older people too.
It's very informative 🙏🔥🔥
Thank you 🙌
Are these independent women also independent when the restaurant bill arrives?
Yes. Splitting the bill is common.
Is it bragging if I say that I travelled over 20 countries if its true?
No it's not. It tells about your interests and that you probably are open-minded about different cultures and lifestyles. Many Finns like travelling as well. But if you say it like "I can afford to travel as much as I like" or "I spend this much money on travelling" then it sounds a bit like bragging 😉
Strong and confident women are the sexiest ones. A good relationship must be based on the respect and the knowledge of what the other person likes or dislikes, as well as being yourself is the correct.
Just so as long as you are not emasculated by them.. Women in general should not be like sand paper, stones and rocks. A healthy balance of supportive femininity is is required for a good relationship…
Great video! But I sort of disagree on #4 no bragging!! Haha. Any woman would like to know that a potential mate is being successful in his work life- because that is stability and a way to start a family. If they are not interested in money at all, I wonder if she want to start a family ?? Maybe not.
there's nothing wrong with telling her what you work as, but don't emphasise that you make more than average
Showing someone you live them is better than saying overall.
Thanks for the comment @bigt38402!
What does it mean when a fnnish guy says "how's my girl". We already met and intimate. We are already on our 3rd month(i dont know yet the label) of consistently talking and video calls(LDR). I didnt open up to him yet as i dont want to be pushy. i was just confused whenbhe asked how's my girl.
Depending how old he is, he might just want to sound more "worldly" by using phrases like that. But then again, if he's really interested in everything you do, say and remembers your conversations, that might be his way to show affection towards you. (Many Finnish guys are bit shy expressing their feelings while getting to know the girl they like). Next time when he says that, you can just reply by saying to him "how's my boy" and see how he reacts to that. (Or something similar along those lines). His reaction will tell you what you need to know. If he treats it like a joke then his not being serious. But if he becomes bit shy and/or blushes (even if he might laugh a little), then more than likely he's happy you are reciprocating to his advances. Hope this helps.
@@initbutnotofit1467 thanks! We're both 34.and it seems like the way we treat each other is like we are already a coupl. And last week we just agreed that we are not allowed to flirt to others. So i woul assume that we are already exclusive. But like i said we didnt confirm yet if we are bf-gf already. Thanks agaian!
@@georginabrigs1891 No problem. You could sum up your courage and ask in your own way if you can call him your boyfriend. Most Finnish guys like straight forward women who can also take the lead. Sounds like you're in a great start. Good luck to both of you.
I don't quite know what to mean by this, as my experience was quite different with a Finnish woman.
we met on Tinder, a week later after strong sexual interests we wrote via WhatsApp, I flew directly to Helsinki and we had sex with each other throughout the weekend. So I think that this opinion does not apply to everyone. We are still in contact and have already made us even vacation together.
Thanks for sharing. I think that sounds quite common Finnish stuff. I believe sex happens early if there is chemistry and both are up for it.
Ι Love number 5 is nice to meet a girl to see your kindnesss and your character and not your money and your car this is really important
Good stuff!
I think that if you’re going to date a Finnish girl you should do up both buttons on your shirt collar. First impressions are very important!
All buttoned up comes across too uptight and formal. I prefer more relaxed and casual and this has never caused problems.
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Nice content! Just curious to know. Would be OK if I name a blog "his Finland"? :). Just asking
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I agree with the dating part, but I believe even if it is the first date that it should be exclusive to that one person. It is less distracting than doing two people and to me it would be somewhat disrespectful to date two people. I really like the Finn's way of thinking!
Well, I believe that some Finns, including myself, think that you are not exclusive after the first date as mentioned in the video. This can be seen as clingy and controlling. However, some people do it the way you described. Depends on the person!
Wow I watch both of these channels and clicked on the video because I recognize both of you. Now after watching I get vibes like you two are a couple. Is Varpu and Aleksi married? 😊
Haha, we are not a couple. :)
Very good insight from both sides, Varpu is great!
Thanks for the comment vampiresca!
That coconut metaphor sounded so dirty. :D Good job.
I love independent women especially ones who are interested in me for me. Lots of English women just see me as a man and expect me to buy the drinks.
My wife must be Finnish (she's not) but she fits the mold perfectly...
She's an introvert but sounds like Finnish n introverts are the same
In my country you need to be either handsome or rich to get a girlfriend. Kinda sad. But i guess each person got their own standart.
Since I read some articles about Finns shuns the first name to be polite, even if they call someone with the first name, it must be a close relationship, is it true?
Not true. In Finland, everyone always use first names regardless of the situation.
@@AleksiHimself Thank you for clarification! :D
@@denisesilver 😎👌
Funnily enough, my mother called my father by his last name most of the marriage, but I think that was her quirk and not a thing.
フィンランド人はみんな、素敵ですね。
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