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The biggest thing I realized is that - all your wedding guests won’t do what you expect. If you expect every single one of your guests to eat, dance, drink, play games, take photos and stay the whole night… it won’t happen.
I'm a senior widow without a man and yet, I watch and enjoy all your videos. I don't plan on marrying again so, the only reason I watch these is because I really like you. You keep me entertained. Just imagine what it would be like if you were selling Medicare. I think, even you could make that fun and I could actually hire and buy from you. Lol I think you could sell wedding packages to a lawnmower. You are that good! Ty
Totally agree! Very informative and entertaining! Great combination!! I’m tuned in bingeing like a Netflix fiend . Lol
One thing that I saw as a wedding guest was the guest book being passed around during cocktail hour and speeches. When everyone sat down, the brides father grabbed the book and gave it to one person to pass along and the momentum just kept going. People were a lot more likely to sign it when they were sitting down with nothing else to do or eat
This is genius!
For the sparkler photos, I really wanted to do them but my photographer wasn’t staying to the end of the event. So during the dancing segment, we grabbed only the wedding party and went outside to light them and do some photos. It worked out really well! Then we went back in and kept dancing
LOVE THIS!!! 💜💜💜
I just wanted to thank you for the details about invitations. I felt so much pressure to have these big extravagant invites, but your video gave me the confidence to just make them myself. I ended up bringing the design to a university print shop to get printed for a much cheaper rate, and they were so excited to print them that they ended up giving us all our invites FOR FREE! Such a major cost we don't have to worry about. Thank you so much ❤❤
That’s so cool! I love that you made them yourself and that the shop was excited. That’s awesome
Okay the bouquet toss made me laugh 😂 I have a very funny picture of my girls running away from my bouquet. They obviously didn't care for getting married next 😂
As someone who often goes to events stressing about where to sit, it's sometimes nice when there's a well done seating chart as long as it is clear, not confusing, and not just random.
100% agree with you. And with seating chart, I think it's more organize
My sister in law had a really clean and easy to read chart, it was great
As a guest, open seating sucks!! Went to a wedding where the majority of my friends were in the wedding party but I wasn’t. So trying to find a table to sit at was super awkward.
100% hate it!
We love doing fake exits around 7-8pm to allow the older folks to go home get the pictures and change the atmosphere when they reenter
My fiancee is a professional ballroom dance instructor. EVERYONE is asking me about our first dance. I've straight up said, from the beginning, "HELL no." HE'S a dancer. I am not. We're going to have world class champions at our wedding. There is no way I'm going to even TRY. They're all very disappointed and I DON"T CARE.
This makes me feel very sad...Your husband's passion & job plus the intimacy & pleasure of a well choreographed dance isn't for others, it's for you!!! I was on a Ballroom Team in College & Grad school! I don't expect my husband to have a professional competition routine but I'm certainly not going to accept a two step or swaying in a circle! It would take all the pleasure from me of one of my favorite activities! I feel you are cheating yourself from not learning how to dance for pleasure not competition! It sounds like you're focusing on your insecurities of others instead of what you both could have in that moment! I think you might really regret not even trying...❤
Haha love this!!
@@jennifermcdaniel3910she never mentioned how slow or how fast her dance is going to be, or her husband’s opinion. He may be relieved lol!
We don’t know their relationship dynamic to dancing.
I wanted to put this out about what to do during your first dance because we are doing this and my parents did it at their wedding. The first verse of our first dance is going to be just the two of us. For the rest of the dance, the band is going to invite all couple onto the dance floor to dance with us. For my introverted fiancé, it makes him feel less like all eyes are on him for a long period of time. It is also a legend / tradition that the number of couples that do your first dance with you will be the number of years of happy prosperous marriage the newlyweds will have, so a little good energy and good luck.
We will do 1st verse alone, then go around room to invite couples by how long they've been married. Oh, this "wedding" is our 50th anniversary celebration ❤🎉🎉🎉
Using a globe as a “guest book” was the best move we made! Our wedding was travel themed. Enough people signed it to fill it up and it’s a great keepsake for our home.
At my sisters wedding she had one of those little Polaroid cameras.. I made sure I took everyone’s photo, decorated each page, and had them sign it or if they didn’t sign it, I wrote their names in there 😂
Edit to add: I got a lot of backlash from people when planning my wedding about my cake choice and not getting the traditional flavor as at least one tier. We did one tier banana pudding flavor, one red velvet, and the grooms cake was chocolate… and you are right, no one cared. Actually I was told by everyone how they loved the non-traditional flavors.
That video was the first one I ever watched of yours and it made me a fan of yours immediately! That was three years ago, I’m married now, and I still follow this channel and your personal channel for all the content you put out! ❤
Something that didn't go over too well in the last couple of weddings I attended was when they stopped the dancing to have games and events that were based on your relationship. That's great for married or engaged couples, sure, but they also wanted boyfriends/girlfriends to participate. For the last wedding I went to, I was only with my now fiancé for 3 months, and it was his family members getting married, so I knew maybe two people. The DJ and couple were really insistent on getting people to play, and I just wanted to hide in the corner to be left alone eating the taco buffet (great idea for wedding food, btw!)
My wedding was a few weeks ago, but I still love Jamie's content and I'm so thankful to her for being my online wedding planner, educating me about the industry and being the first person to tell me that I didn't have to spend $$$ on my wedding in order for it be special. We had a beautiful celebration and we did it without draining our savings. I have Jamie to thank for that!
We have had so much fun doing dance lessons! My fiance was so against it to start, but now he loves our dance and feels so much more confident! Plus it is a built in date night in our week :)
I think this all holds up tbh... However, the important thing about these videos is not to restrict yourself to "what you're supposed to do". Instead do what you WANT to do because you want to do it!
Man, we are keeping things so simple. We are having 50-65 guests. We aren't doing party favors, or seating charts.
We are just letting people sit wherever they want. We also aren't doing games. Just music, dancing, and that's it.
A lot of the things that Jamie is saying are costly, and just end up in the trash as she said.
We are doing a small cake for us, and then cupcakes for the guests.
To us, our guests are there to see us get married and to be there for us.
None of the other stuff matters.
Idea for exit photo: have an exit photo at, say, 7pm, and then have a re-entry photo at 7:05pm as a "Nah, we're not leaving yet!".
If you want to be a bit crude about it, you could say you're "off to start the honeymoon early", and then either come back 3 mins later and give everyone a chuckle, or just go for a nap and come back at 8:30pm. 🤷♂️
On my wedding day we had a small cake to cut cupcakes and chocolate covered strawberries. We had a small wedding every one got the colors for the dress colors and a summer time then the family made everything for us
Our guest book is gonna be as follows:
Blank heart-shaped tokens placed at each table with sharpies.
Big picture frame with a slit to insert signed tokens.
MC walks around gathering all signed tokens.
We do a draw once all signed tokens are collected for silly little gifts (e.g., "I attended the Gareau wedding and all I got was this lousy t-shirt" t-shirt)
Ta-da, we have everyone's signature/name.
Still did a guestbook knowing it wouldn't be 100% full, but the unused pages were used as a scrapbook type thing full of keepsakes & momentos from the wedding and honeymoon so we have it all in one space.
We did favours that were super popular with our guests. We also had a small pillowbox with fun size chocs & mints on the tables, it doubled as an escort card.
I watched your original video when I was planning my wedding and ended up not doing the garter/bouquet toss and I didn’t do favors. Not one person was upset by either of those choices. I honestly don’t think anyone even noticed that those things weren’t apart of the day.
Now the cake haha I did do a cake, but after seeing my bestie have to throw away a 5 tier cake, with only two slices cut out of it, on her wedding day, I made sure that my venue knew how important it was for me to make sure it got cut up and served to me guests. Luckily that did happen and we only ended up with about half of the bottom tier left over. Which was nice because we were able to freeze and save some for our 1 year anniversary. The following Monday after the wedding (we didn’t go on our honeymoon right away) all of our parents and siblings got together for my husband and I to open presents and ate what was left of the cake. My husband and I got to have our cake fight then as well haha definitely a memory I’m glad I get to have and cherish.
I love how everyone says wedding favors are a waste of time, but I'm spending more time on them than anything else 😆. I'm crocheting cloth frisbees as my favors. Wedding is outdoor wedding with lawn games, really casual. I definitely think wedding favors are usually a waste of money, but here we are 😆
Address book instead of guest book is what we are doing!
Oh that’s so smart! Might steal that idea!
Can you explain your idea further?
@@FarmBoy92AsYouWish we are having guests write their address and phone number in an address book with a little note if they want. That way we have everyone's addresses for Xmas cards, birthday invitations etc and it's also a keepsake from our special day
@@mariamorrero2029 go right ahead! I've never seen it done before! Hoping I can start a trend haha😂
I agree with everything you've said. Been married a year and wish I had listened to your advice more when planning mine. We had the unfortunate problem of COVID spiking again a few weeks before our wedding as well as a slight dusting of snow that morning that caused our 100 RSVP count come to a mer 30.. 10 being the wedding party, on our day. Honestly very few people care about how you're wedding looks as long as it's put together well and doesn't look sloppy. Firm believer in doing what you truly want for your wedding. Your guests just want to be entertained and fed. If anyone complains about something missing then maybe they should shell out the money for it. Do what makes you happy and you'll look back on your wedding with no regrets. I will say that the tosses seem very outdated and quite embarrassing. My husband and the single ladies were so appreciative that we did neither. We did an "anniversary" dance or a married couples dance, and those who were married the longest got a bouquet. It was very sweet, but don't feel like that is necessary either.
Our wedding “guestbook” was an acrylic cutout in the shape of our state with wooden hearts for people to sign and drop into the acrylic sandwich. I had our wedding date and names laser engraved in the middle too. It’s on our wall and I love it. I’m thinking of getting some pictures from our wedding printed and mounted on some of the leftover hearts to mix in with the names to make it even more meaningful and fill in some of the empty space.
I agree with every point on here…. I do want to do a sparkler picture but I’m thinking of doing it with just our immediate family and parties right before we enter the venue…. Idk if timing would be great for this 🤷♀️
We're going to use a jenga set as a guest book and have guests sign the blocks - saw the idea and loved it. We already have a jenga set that we play once or twice a year, so we'll use that.
Ooo… for cake vs dessert idea: on the online or invitation form add an option of what the guest wants for dessert.
I agree with almost all of these… except invitations 😅 I feel like most of the invites I receive these days look like they could be for a birthday party. I hold on to the really beautiful ones but the tacky ones go into the trash 🥴
I do super recommend taking dance lessons! Not to look good on your wedding day. Rather, it’s such a fun date night that takes me and my husband away from thinking about work or the wedding.
Ballroom dancing is not waltzing. It’s rumba, it’s meringue, it’s spicy and fun!
I’ve been watching your for the past months and finally gave into subscribing to the master plan! So excited to have this as a resource. We are touring our first venue today :). So glad I’m not sitting back waiting for things to happen for me and finally taking action in planning. Here goes nothing LOL
Not planning my own wedding yet, but still listen to all these, Jamie, and appreciate ALL the help!!
Honestly I hope to hire you directly when my big day comes up. 😎
Such hot takes, so here for it!! Also you always have the best outfits on! Great style
I got married in 2015 and I did not do a program---we had a power point instead. Worked so much better. I had one poster for the seating chart. We printed the guest list on labels and tacked them onto cheap card stock, folded them in half and moved on. We had a photograph everyone signed instead of a guest book. At the time, people thought we were cheap for not having these things---and now in 2023 it's the norm!
Everyone signed our book and even our venders took pics and signed, I highly suggest a photobooth guestbook
We did this at our daughter’s wedding and it was well received. Even our coordinator was surprised at how well the older crowd received it. The guests got photo magnet strips to slide their photos in so it doubled as their favor too. There were none left behind. Money well spent.
Invitations - we had a family friend design them. I actually didn't care much about them but they turned out amazing (I've sent you a copy don't worry :) )
Programs - We've got a Scottish tradition so there's a brief explainer of what a Quaich ceremony is but that's it
Escort cards - we have a seating chart and then place cards at the tables (it's a UK thing to have guests assigned specific seats)
Guestbook - we have a photo book of Scottish distilleries (on theme for the wedding) and are having guests sign the margins)
Linens - we're just using the basic white ones that come with the venue
First dance - I'm awkward so we took a class. It's the song that my fiance proposed to so we're actually really looking forward to it as a moment for the two of us (even if everyone will be staring at us)
Slideshows - hard pass. THOUGH we're doing a stateside reception after our destination wedding and we'll have a slideshow from the weekend at that event
Open seating - I HATE this. Also it's a UK wedding so people are assigned specific seats. I was very deliberate with the seating.
Cake - the only reason we're doing a cake cutting is we get to use a sword to cut the cake. We got a small cake just for the cutting (serves maybe 30). Dessert is included in dinner
Bouquet Toss - Nope
Favors - we've got mini whisky bottles guests can use for toasts (it's a Scottish wedding so there's a lot of whisky). Instead of table numbers we're using distillery names and so the mini bottles are filled with our favorite whisky from that distillery. Worst comes to worse we get to drink some of our favorite whisky after the wedding 🙂
Grand exit - we've got confetti for the recessional to get the fun shot. We're staying at the venue so we don't have any sort of an exit planned. Should we?
We assume our guests will care about 1) Having enough food, 2) Having enough booze, 3) Dancing their faces off
The rest of the stuff is for us.
A SWORD? i wanna cut my wedding cake with a sword that sounds awesome
So, month later, was it fun? It sounds great ❤
Jamie, that video was one of about 3-4 from you that were the backbone of organising our not 1, not 2, but 3 weddings pre-COVID :) (same two people getting hitched, big families) so I almost felt betrayed when you said you’re not proud of it. You should very much be, it was a spectacularly to the point video and honestly, your viewers DGAFF about audio quality when the content is awesome 😅massive good luck ahead dear lady and much love, hope you continue to help couples from all around the world get the wedding of their dreams!
I love your recaps. Can't wait to see more😊
I’ve taken a lot of your advice throughout wedding planning, especially from that video, so I really appreciate the revisit of these details. You’ve been a hugely positive resource in my wedding planning. Thank you ❤
I don’t mind bouquet toss just for fun, but garter toss gives me and my FH the ick 🙈
Ohhh we also do jordan almonds as favours in Italy!! traditionally individually wrapped for each guest in a "bomboniera", in odd number, with a little note with the names of the newlyweds and date of the wedding. I personally did a jordan almond bar (we call it "confettata" in Italian and it is quite a common option too) where we had glass containers with different flavoured ones and then empty boxes to put them in. It was a hit, there was not a single one left, should have probably bought more!!
My friend's wedding, that I was in the bridal party for, had the photographer take photos of the dancing and one of the photos he got was of me and my now fiance. It is one of my favorite candid photos of us
I feel choreographed dances and speeches with slideshows is such an american thing :s i've never been to a wedding where they show a slideshow
My cousin and her husband met in France, and he moved to the USA with her. At their wedding, he had a slideshow/video from his friends back home! While it was more like an "inside joke" thing, it was still nice to watch! It was even nicer to watch him watch it!
@@lauriemane oh yes, very similar in Italy, it's usually the friends of the groom that put together something funny! but not a slideshow of the history of the couple, more on the note of something slightly embarrassing to make people laugh. We don't do speeches traditionally (at least not the formal ones like in the US/UK) and this kind of takes their place.
@@lemondrizzlecake7766 I love how different everywhere is 💓
Slide show, at funerals , much more meaningful.
I really appreciate how self-aware you are (as a professional in this industry and a sentimental person 😅) and how culturally aware you are. Thanks for making this video!
Im all for the consumable wedding favour, we'd like to do a bride and groom truffle, with your place setting on tag - helps you find your spot, its a treat if you like it, it's easy to share if chocolate isn't your thing.
We did a globe that was white and gold which is very us. We used it instead of a guest book and I find myself looking at it all the time🥰 because of Jamie we didn’t do garter or bouquet toss and we didn’t do cake and instead an icecream sundae bar. Also a bbq truck and pretty much no decor minus the arch we got married in because the barn was pretty enough. The things we changed were our favourite parts of the day! My family talks about our wedding all the time
I used Punchbowl and Zola for my invitations and RSVPs - I throw cards away so I wasn’t spending money on it lol - Now the program, I will be buying just for decor in pictures. It’s more for me than the guests lol
Would you recommend instead of a "grand exit," if my fiancé and I take the opportunity to leave and go off for some last sunset pictures with our photographer? It might be easier instead of trying to round up drunken guests to get outside and wave a ribbon around (or something like that, no sparklers allowed at the Naval Academy campus), especially since we do not have a coordinator. Thank you for the fantastic tips!
Another idea for the guest book (no idea if it would work):
Put single pages & pens on each table to give people the opportunity to write something on them while waiting for food,… and put them together in the end
Oh no, no
I LOVED that video! It was such a RELIEF to be able to relax and save money on things that are “tradition”
Lol-Gurl I love your personality!!! You take the tension away about planning our tropical bohemian wedding! Thank you. and I signed up for master class- when are you on live?
For the record, “DGAFF” makes me legit laugh out loud. That will now be a regular part of my vocabulary. Thank you 🙏🏻
I went to a destination wedding and the father took photos all night at the next day's brunch, he had a slide show of last night's photo. It was great and fun to see what happened after I went to bed.
I love the cake item, some people thought I was crazy when I first said we're getting a Sam's club cake 😅. But hey they're decorated cute, they do up to 3 tiers and it's DELICIOUS, also like $60 sooo I'll be perfectly happy with my cheapo cake 😂
I saw a garter toss where the bride took it from the groom and tossed it, and I really like that
Guest book/pen, cake cutter/server, personalized glasses, cake topper all went missing at our wedding. No one noticed (including me) until the wedding coordinators told me at the end.
Not even a disagreement exactly (I 100% agree with the general theme), but for our multicultural wedding it was extremely important to have a Carribbean black cake at the wedding. In order to get things right, we ended up hiring a baker in a different city to bake the tiers, had a family member drive the cakes to our venue, and she, my best man, and I assembled the cake in the venue kitchen. And the cake was delicious - we had an entire dessert table of different options for people who didn't want a fruitcake, but there were almost no leftovers (maybe 4 slices not counting the wedding topper). The whole thing was an absolute highlight for us.
What is a Caribbean black cake?
Thank you for keeping it real! I needed some validation for ditching many "traditions" that my family might have a stroke over being missing, such as not particularly caring about the guest book (doing a nautical chart since we both sail instead for people to sign and stick back up in our office chart frame), no garter toss, no bouquet toss, no favors, no sideshows, and only a small cake for cutting with the Naval officers sword woth a ton of cupcakes for guests to choose from. Thank you!!
we also only had a small cake for cutting and then a ton of cupcakes, great idea and so much more flexible (we asked the baker to make one batch vegan and we did different flavours to plan around everyone's allergies). It was actually our baker who suggested it and I loved the idea. Went down really well, we didn't have any leftovers!!
I have to admit, when my cousin didn’t have speeches or a first dance at her wedding it was REALLY noticeable. I’m having to really think that through for my wedding…
I'm going to do a quilt for a guest book! You can get pictures printed on fabric so you can fill in any gaps with your wedding pictures
Ooooh, the cake... My husband's family was for some reason obssessed with gifting cakes :D We've specifically asked them not to bring any (if they really want, bring some smaller sweets) as the guest number was low, the dinner was plenty, and we had many guests who travelled from far away, meaning they could not take home cakes and such, maybe a few non-creamy cookies, but definitely not a cake.
Well, needless to say, we received about 8 cakes, 7 of which were not even touched during the wedding and we had to go all persuasive teleshop host like the next morning to ask everyone to take home some of it (in some cases it meant people leaving with half a cake for a 3 hour ride :O )
So yeah, please go minimal on the cakes! :D
Is this a cultural thing or was it a situation where you / the family prepared all the food? I have never heard of people bringing cake as a gift to a wedding.
I love the relief of pressure to know I don't have to do the things i don't want to do xD
I really like digital invites, those can be as pretty as you want put also won't get drown away immediately like paper invitations. And you save the mailing fee too.
My opinion is that you can have the perfect wedding and there will still be many people complaining about something. People love to complain about weddings.
We are doing mini live succulents as our escort card and favor! So if they don't take them home, I'm fine with keeping them all! Then we are doing an early staged sparkler exit so we can get photos and then our photographers don't have to stay all night! And our guestbook will just be copies of the photobooth pics and they can sign/write something if they want!
I was also thinking of doing succulents or other easy to take care of plants as table decoration and name cards and then telling people they should take them home. If they do not, I am happy to keep them!
I do pottery so I was thinking of doing some pots for them and glazing them in our wedding colours, but I don’t know if I want to do 70 little plant pots 🤣😅
Would love to see a list with new things
Ok but the Tia thing…. Girl!!! For real!!!! It’s a thing!!! Lol also have to do the wedding cookies at the table hahaha 😂
On the second point: I have an ‘order of events’ tab on our wedding website. Will anyone look at it? Probably not, but if I was a guest I’d like to know what’s happening and when. So I won’t print out paper that will end up in a landfill, but just use you website to communicate
My mom & sisters was surprised about the amount of cake & desserts I was planning for my micro wedding, less than 25. My husband loves cake like LOVES a store bought white cake with a cake buttercream. His family will demolish a sheet cake for 5 x the people in less than a day and I was to vomit thinking of those cakes. I love a little bite size desserts. I also have had the same baker since I was teenager. She is French trained and goes every year to retrain and my husband isn’t wild about her cake. I am thinking doing cakes on a tiered structure to give the illusion of big wedding cake & alternate my cake & his flavour cakes. I will also being doing a bite size dessert as well. There will be a lot of dessert but his family has a big sweet tooth. I am also planning on having togo boxes for any guest or staff to take what they want home for food or dessert.
Why are people THROWING OUT cake?!??! I will eat cake until I’m sick before I let it get wasted hahaha
Full tier, uncut cake can be donated to soup kitchen or woman's shelter. It's a treat
I CAN'T STAND bouquet toss!!! My sister did it both times she got married (the first time, she specifically was aiming for me and I flat out dodged it and the second time, I was trying to hide and she specifically called me out) and one of my college friends did it. As a single lady who HAD TO participate in all of them, I find them incredibly demeaning.
I once went to a wedding where they had assigned seating and people just shuffled evrything hahaah it really never worked in my culture
Between my fiancé and I we both have a lot of family members, so I’m thinking that after taking photos at the church and going to the reception venue, I want to have our families do a bubble exit from the church with us
lol I spent like 15 hours handwriting every single one of my sisters escort cards- they were super beautiful though
Wedding cakes are so important to me. I went to a wedding that didn't have one, and it made me sad. I dont understand how people who dont have a health issue would not want a piece! I guess if I have a wedding, I'd let the cake lovers have the extra slices if others turn them down.
My brother just went to a wedding with his girlfriend and he said everything was amazing but at dinner the portions were tiny! So it got a bit messy with people getting drunk as there wasn't a lot of food in their stomachs
Feeding people is Important! We are planning our wedding at the moment and when I look at the planned menu I think omg so much food, but I would prefer there to be too much food between cocktail hour snacks, BBQ dinner and late night snack, than people being hungry at any moment.
Ok... I might need some validation here 😅 I had NO IDEA that bouquet tosses had been tossed (lol, pun). I remember being SO excited about them when going to older cousins' weddings, and then I was the first one of my friends to get married so I was excited to toss my bouquet.... Did I make my guests super bored and uncomfortable?!? Ahhhhhhhh I am now overthinking 😢
Definitely not!!! I think people are just not as surprised when a bouquet toss doesn't happen. It is never bad to have one. It sounds like you had a really sweet one so good for you!!
I forced my cousin into the bouquet toss, because I added a Sephora gift card to the bouquet as a gift, and wanted her to have a chance! She didn't catch the bouquet, and the lady who did, gave me the Sephora card back! My cousin was no where to be found, so I handed the Sephora card to a teenager who was standing near 😂
Absolutely not!! I personally didn't do it at my wedding as I didn't like all the attention on me (on my wedding day, I know, a bit of a problem!) But I have never minded it at weddings where it's a thing, and I also remember getting excited about it when I was younger. I think it's one of those things where it's just becoming less prescriptive, so you can feel free to toss the tradition if you don't personally want to include it, without anyone being offended for it!
We prefer the DGAFF ! Love it 👏👏👏 Not sure why business people especially are so free with their language. What happened to professional speech and children might be listening? While Flying Farts might not be professional exactly, it’s funny and cute. Lol
I'll be getting married in a little over a year. I actually want a grand exit but not a choreographed one...like I was thinking everyone walk out and stand on the side of the main walkway and my spouse and I walk out to a song I really like and get in our car. But I'm still not sure if that's a great idea, I just really want some way to incorporate this specific song.
Do you think you can do some videos on Vow Renewals?
Lol Jamie!!! You're original video wasn't even that spicy! 🌶️ Lacking nuance? Perhaps, but you're fine 😂 Glad you're learning and growing all the same ❤️❤️❤️
*sighh* so no matter what you include don’t include or what brilliant unique ideas you come up with some of your guests won’t be pleased. They come to eat, judge, drink and critique. Wheww I’m getting closer to eloping everyday! 😅
Very true, someone will be judgy about something.
I am undecided on the seating chart because I have no idea how many guests will actually RSVP. I really don’t *want* to do one but our current guest list is actually a tiny bit over the capacity of our venue. If the number of confirmed RSVPs ends up not leaving enough empty seats, I am afraid I’ll have no choice but to do a seating chart to avoid groups not being able to sit together 😅
Of course you should wait to do the seating chart until after the RSVPs come in!
Girl, number 8 really tickled your fancy lol.
what's a good rule of thumb for how much cake to get?
Love the video more detailed than the first. Your hat is a bit distracting tho lol
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Hi Jamie. I love your videosss!!
I feel like my boyfriend is gonna propose. Since my parents live in Korea,it’s kinda difficult for him to ask them if he can propose me. And I felt so so bad for him because I didn’t even know that he has to ask permission from my patents! I came to the states in 2018. For me, engagement and proposal and wedding are very new. Do you have a quick video for how things gonna go from dating to marry?? Like a quick overview? I just wanna be a cooperative girlfriend. Thanks!!!
This is a review of the video that got me into your channel. I noticed because there were two things that every vendor seem to compelled to do and not even tell us about that word diametrically opposed to the vision.
Part one that vendors keep trying to undermine is anything in the colors that can be done to darken and cool the tones is a benifate. Contrary wise anything that warms the tone ( Or add pastel's and or tints) is a major disaster.
The second part of the wedding vision that keeps being undermined is a stately pace. People keep trying to either clip the pace or add more stuff to get rid of the stately pace.
We keep not booking vendors cause they seem to compulsively erase this even after we stated explicitly So one of the things I'm doing here is how in the bloody hell do we get the vendors to stop doing this?
Also I'm a traditionalist as far as things to throw at grand exit. It should be rice and only rice.. Rice being biodegradable this is not a problem like trashy things are.
@@orionspero560 a lot of places don't allow you to throw rice anymore though, so check with the venue beforehand! we did dry lavender at mine instead :)
Love bouquet tosses, but who the heck came up with the garter toss to begin with...
Charger plates and silverware
I did not want to do a bouquet toss. Grandma insisted. Hated it only 1 single under 50 :(. Wish I hadn't listened.
Invites are a waaaaaassssteeee
My fiancé outright refuses to dance. I have no idea how to convince him. I would really like a "first dance"
listening to this... while staring at my Guest-signed record and matte board. All framed up, still not hanging over a year later. and man did I waste energy on this
Oh, I hate bouquet toss! The last times it happened at weddings, I just didn't go anymore. It was fun as a teenager/young adult, but as a long-time single over 30, I was only annoyed. At my wedding last year, I skipped it and don't think anyone missed it.
The cake thing is so strange for me! I'm German and here, nearly everyone loves cake. But then, my country has a long and thriving coffee-and-cake history, cake is usually not served as a dessert and our cakes often are a bit more interesting and tasty than boring buttercream ...
About the slideshow: My mother made a little photowall for my wedding. Best of both worlds - everyone who wanted could have a look and those who didn't care were not bothered :)
Grand exits are really a mystery for me - completely unheard of in Germany. Here, weddings go on until late at night (mine ended around 4 in the morning) and the guests just dripple away. I loved that, I'm an introvert and though I'm a morning person, for me the best part of a party is when only a handful people are remaining :)
Most of my friends prefer to stay so a bouquet toss would be pointless 😅 garter toss is very cringey……….. definitely NOT doing either.
What is this American cake that isn't good? I'm from Northern Europe and yes, some people don't care for traditional style cake with whipped cream, but modern weddings will usually have a cheeese cake or similar. And it will be as tasty as in a nice cafe. Is it different in the US?
But- WATCH OUT.
We decided digital-only invitations outside immediate family, we decided against programs, I’m only doing a maid of honor and not bridesmaids, we’re not doing cake, we’re doing a dessert table.
Ohhh LORDY my in-laws are acting like I chopped off their arms.
This is all solid advice. People should prepare for the “traditionalists” to stomp their feet.