@@SRT_DREshe doesn’t have any legal right on the home so in order to free her from this mess he is causing by not paying his mortgage and affecting her credit, he needs to refinance it and remove it from the mortgage. If he can’t afford it, then he needs to sell the home. At the end of the day, the lady doesn’t have any legal right to his house.
@@andreacamille3918 I hope he does right by her and take the necessary steps to remove her from the mortgage loan or even sell it to her. But, the relationship between them seems over for sure.
Wow, they said a mouth full at the end! “If the parents wasn’t even willing to co-sign for him then why did she think it was a good idea?” I didn’t even think about that. 🤦🏽♀️
Agreed. My husband doesn't handle money like I do. We've been married for 3 decades. If my husband passes away, I'm moving. I refuse to pay on a THIRD mortgage with you when OUR MONEY paid for the house in cash the first time. Zero mortgage. Great man. Not so great with money. ALL of our finances have been separate for at least 12 years now. Works out well for us.
@@onewapani Wow, you let him to do that ? Can consolidate those 3 mortgages ? I live alone and doing just fine with house, almost pay off in 15 years.Wish you all the best.
Alexandra is so intelligent for such a young woman, I was really impressed with her during this episode, I hope she can make peace with her parents after, ending things with that guy, anyone is capable of making a mistake , wishing her well going forward ❤ 💯
They walked out TOGETHER. She doesn’t have the legal right to tell that man to get out, that’s his house with his name only on the deed. She fell for the o key doke!😂😂😂😂
Yep... He knows it too. That's why he was grinning as she made that statement. She has no standing!She has to get off the mortgage. I pray they'll let her off. They know she was the one with the good credit and will keep her in that mess, especially since it's not in good standing. She messed up, but God is able. 🙏🏾
He is dragging her down, financially and emotionally. His immature, selfish ways are such a downer she should run in the opposite direction. She's a great organizer with a lot of self-discipline and work ethics: she deserves much much better.
He’s disgusting and about himself… that semi smirk that he has when he talks is annoying! He knows exactly what he is doing! He used you!! Girl run!!! He done messed up your credit …. GO!
I was upset with my parents when they wouldn't co sign on a home for me- then I co signed on a car with my now ex-husband who made no payments and now have that on my credit. I apologized to my parents and learned a valuable lesson I'll pass down to my kids.
I agree but I also disagree. I agree because you have some children that are irresponsible with their finances BUT I disagree because you do have children that are responsible with their finances. I'm the one that's responsible because I paid my car off in 5 years and my dad cosigned for me.
If he had the money to get the down payment, why not take that money to fix your credit. Then get your house in your name where you don’t need a co signer, that’s nuts
That's right, lil lady. She knows what she wants & needs and so young . Has her head on right. Life comes with it's (L's) lessons . I know she learned. We all had/have to
Whatever happened to ppl just dating? Then if u decide to get serious, mayb get married then buy a house. Not but a house and stay coupled up. If he couldn't buy a house then he has to wait till he can. Not ask his girlfriend to co-sign. Many ppl keep making this same mistake due to loving someone. Makes no sense.
Ma’am, people are convinced that there is no order to it. Do you boo, do it in any order you want, it’s your life. This is why they become ruined before they start. They think all older people don’t know what we’re talking about. So we shut up and let them find out the hard way.
She’s not ahead. Her financial future is in his hands. If he stops paying for the house, she’s done. She co-signed so that debt will be mostly hers. She better stick with him and butter him up.
She had dreams of a family life, he was using her to make is dreams reality. Never put your name on a big financial commitment with someone you are not married to. If she had took her time, she would have found out about his financial issues
That evil smirk on his face showed her how little respect he has for her, which is none at all. And she proved that you can be smart in one area but totally vacant in another. She turned him down ten times before she went out with him. She needs to go back and reexamine her reasons for refusing him so many times. Therein lies her salvation.
Yup! Sometimes U just need to know "when to fold up your tent & move on." I walked out if a 10yr relation- ship for the same reason & glad I did, Im retired now & my house is Paid in Full & sitten pretty😊
He trying set himself up off of her back.. dude putting only his name on things and she doing 50/50 with her credit & money he’s f.ckin disgusting and she shouldve listened to her damn parents 🤦🏾♀️
That young lady is about her finances and I believe she gonna take the judge advice and get her name off that mortgage. When she does, he gonna lose that house.
This Young Lady Better Run 🏃🏃He Just Needed Her As A Cosigner And Hes Showing her that Clearly!!!! He Also knows that whatever Mess He Creates Mommy And Daddy Are Going to Bail Him Out😮
It was the thrill of chasing her, then he got her, so the thrill was over, he's just not into you no more, girl get rid of him, you are very smart 🤓, and absolutely beautiful ❤️
Why are women so gullible? She walked right into this with her eyes wide open. NEVER cosign for anyone. Come on women. Do better. Think before you entangle yourself with someone you are not married to, expecting that he will marry you. It NEVER works
That doesn’t make sense to me, if she thought they would be together forever, she knew she would be contributing to the home, then why not put both names on the deed? Crazy.
@@lcct635 No she said since he was the one that paid the down payment she thought it was only right that he put just his name on it. Which doesn’t make sense, because he used her credit to get the house for the both of them to move in as a couple and contribute to it.
it's so hard to feel bad for people sometimes because you literally put yourself in this situation and you didn't have to, why would you ever allow yourself not to be on the deed when you're paying half the bills and maintenance? he's a user and he's gross and she has GOT to wisen up. doesn't matter how much you "trust" someone, you HAVE to look out for you because if not, this is the situation you end up in
This is scary! The bank will probably tell her "thats not our problem" and he probably cant refinance to take her name off. She has a 30 yr responsibility with a stranger, a man she doesnt want or like. 😒
That’s your fault ma’am, could’ve would’ve, should’ve. You sat there and LET the man use you for your good credit and didn’t demand to be placed on the deed of the house. You have no stake in the property, you’re sitting there, cooking, washing his clothes and giving him all the sex he wants, while watching him gamble the money away!!!! What are you going to do?? You see this man for who he is and WHAT??? WHAT???? See what you’re seeing and move on.🤨
Young people keep buying into the hype that there’s no set way of doing things; however, there is a way of doing things that minimizes risks and maximizes results. For instance: - STOP MOVING IN WITH PEOPLE WITHOUT BEING MARRIED FIRST - Vet a person and their family for AT LEAST A YEAR - STOP HAVING S3X with people you are not married to - Don’t sell yourself short - Judge a person by what they say, and do, but mainly by what they do
I call guys like this CHAD… This man is the a pitta me of a CHAD. He’s Pookie in a different skin. All of that intuition women have and she didn’t use ANY of it. But she’s young and just like Judge Starr said, this will be a VERY BIG EXPENSIVE LESSON you will learn.
He put the downpayment but his salary was not good. She applied for a job for him an he does not want to work 🚩🚩🚩. He gambling his money an his parents paid for the mortgage He using her
He sounds irresponsible and he doesn’t sound like he cares, but at the same time, you can’t expect him to be concerned about how the money is being spent, if he’s not the one really working hard making the money. It’s basically her money or his parents save their man child. She needs to leave him, because he’s definitely using her and he will never grow up as long as someone is taking care of his responsibilities. This will be her life, why should he change. Ladies stop overworking yourselves, you can’t be that desperate!!!! Get a man that’s already a man, don’t wait another 18 years for him to possibly change to a man!!!!
Never understood buying a house with a boyfriend!!! What in the hell is wrong with these people! And on top of that you didn’t have him put your name on the deed on the home! Dumb! Dumb dumb! Stop talking about trust! You need to first think about yourself.
That how we met story was painful to hear. Fellas when a woman says no to your advances believe her the first time, it never works out when the attraction isn't mutual
As soon as she said she want to keep the house I can tell that's all she cares about it's the benefits and she said she wanna keep the house ,she's clearly a gold digger
Andrew sounds like a very immature person who depends on his parents, but he is cunning and used Alexandra. Start over, Alex andra. You will do well on your own. Keep your money apart and learn a hard lesson. He is a user and has no shame and no real love for you.
Absolutely NEVER CO-SIGN with anyone even family members. Definitely not being married purchasing anything is a RED FLAG. When in ❤️ do not become desperate because it can turn you into a complete IDOIT!
These people move at the speed of light in these relationships. Ent no way im cosigning for anything with a man I've only known a couple of months. He is a joke she saw foul shit and thought it was egg.
Obviously he is using her...not even he's family would co-sign..with the family business...🤔she learned a hard lesson...don't trust anyone with ur credit.
He used her to get the house.He is working his family and they are not paying him upfront but helping him when he wanted to buy a home.Making her pay half on the mortgage. Rent payment..Narcisstist it's what they do.
It’s different from something like an auto loan. She co-signed for the financial obligation (which is not the ownership aka deed). She could’ve been initially on the deed had she known to have her name listed. He likely knew she didn’t know so applied just his name … she can still be added to the deed but he would have to initiate that
He needs to refinance the mortgage and remove her as a cosigner. She needs to end it with this man. He is financially irresponsible.
Why would he do that if he’s financially irresponsible? If he’s going to go into a 6 figure debt, he’s taking her with him.
The relationship would be over once my name isn't on the deed 🎯
@@andreacamille3918 so 30 years later?
@@SRT_DREshe doesn’t have any legal right on the home so in order to free her from this mess he is causing by not paying his mortgage and affecting her credit, he needs to refinance it and remove it from the mortgage. If he can’t afford it, then he needs to sell the home. At the end of the day, the lady doesn’t have any legal right to his house.
@@andreacamille3918 I hope he does right by her and take the necessary steps to remove her from the mortgage loan or even sell it to her. But, the relationship between them seems over for sure.
Wow, they said a mouth full at the end! “If the parents wasn’t even willing to co-sign for him then why did she think it was a good idea?” I didn’t even think about that. 🤦🏽♀️
Me either.
Robert hit the nail on the head. This is why you need to get to know the parents of the intendant. I’m sure they will have plenty to tell you.
This girl must've been desperate ☹
She really let this man play in her face. She needs to get off that mortgage ASAP. She has allowed a boyfriend to jack up her credit.
How do you buy a house with someone before marriage let alone not put your name anywhere on it???? Please teach y’all children
She probably assumed since her name was on the mortgage, she owned the home too yikes
Agreed. My husband doesn't handle money like I do. We've been married for 3 decades. If my husband passes away, I'm moving. I refuse to pay on a THIRD mortgage with you when OUR MONEY paid for the house in cash the first time. Zero mortgage. Great man. Not so great with money. ALL of our finances have been separate for at least 12 years now. Works out well for us.
He needs to man up and sign over the house to her!!! And I think she's learned a HARD lesson!
Unbelievable how naive she is.
@@onewapani Wow, you let him to do that ? Can consolidate those 3 mortgages ? I live alone and doing just fine with house, almost pay off in 15 years.Wish you all the best.
Tip: 9/10, someone needing a co-sign tells you everything you need to know. 😵💫 Do NOT co-sign for anyone.
That’s Bible Truth!!!😂
That's not true I needed a co-signer and I did right by that person.
@@syndib7377 that's why i said 9/10 😅 nine times out of ten.
So true! I got lucky in the past but never again
Judge is brutally honest and the best❤
Always.
he’s going to gamble away the family business!!! bye!!!✌🏾
oh snap! Truth !!!
Totally agree!
Alexandra is so intelligent for such a young woman, I was really impressed with her during this episode, I hope she can make peace with her parents after, ending things with that guy, anyone is capable of making a mistake , wishing her well going forward ❤ 💯
They walked out TOGETHER. She doesn’t have the legal right to tell that man to get out, that’s his house with his name only on the deed. She fell for the o key doke!😂😂😂😂
Yep... He knows it too. That's why he was grinning as she made that statement. She has no standing!She has to get off the mortgage. I pray they'll let her off. They know she was the one with the good credit and will keep her in that mess, especially since it's not in good standing. She messed up, but God is able. 🙏🏾
I am so glad she realized what this man was before beginning to have kids with him, WOW LET HIM APPLY FOR HIS OWN JOB, SMH 😠
He is dragging her down, financially and emotionally. His immature, selfish ways are such a downer she should run in the opposite direction.
She's a great organizer with a lot of self-discipline and work ethics: she deserves much much better.
He’s disgusting and about himself… that semi smirk that he has when he talks is annoying! He knows exactly what he is doing! He used you!! Girl run!!! He done messed up your credit …. GO!
Sis....RUN!!!!!! He is CLUELESS and IMMATURE!!!
nope. not clueless. totally clued. that's how he got her money and credit
He is a liar. He said the tickets she found were winners. You have to turn in your ticket to collect your money.
NEVER CO-SIGN FOR ANYONE INCLUDING YOUR CHILDREN
I learned the hard way with my husband and children
Amen!!! Never asked my mom to co-sign a thing! And refuse to for anyone. People play way too much!
I was upset with my parents when they wouldn't co sign on a home for me- then I co signed on a car with my now ex-husband who made no payments and now have that on my credit. I apologized to my parents and learned a valuable lesson I'll pass down to my kids.
I agree but I also disagree. I agree because you have some children that are irresponsible with their finances BUT I disagree because you do have children that are responsible with their finances. I'm the one that's responsible because I paid my car off in 5 years and my dad cosigned for me.
You are so right. I definitely learned my lesson, with the children that is. I cosigned something for my son, and he ruined my credit.
If he had the money to get the down payment, why not take that money to fix your credit. Then get your house in your name where you don’t need a co signer, that’s nuts
Run..run ..Run.
She already messed up by investing into a house that isn’t hers.
He using her
And…. She’s letting him.
Yes he is.
Yep… and yep…
That's right, lil lady. She knows what she wants & needs and so young . Has her head on right. Life comes with it's (L's) lessons . I know she learned. We all had/have to
She’s smart, hardworking and beautiful ❤ she can do better
Whatever happened to ppl just dating? Then if u decide to get serious, mayb get married then buy a house. Not but a house and stay coupled up. If he couldn't buy a house then he has to wait till he can. Not ask his girlfriend to co-sign. Many ppl keep making this same mistake due to loving someone. Makes no sense.
Ma’am, people are convinced that there is no order to it. Do you boo, do it in any order you want, it’s your life. This is why they become ruined before they start. They think all older people don’t know what we’re talking about. So we shut up and let them find out the hard way.
He sure didn't like the words that were coming out of the Judge's mouth.
He didn’t care about the words coming out of the judge’s mouth. He was like, WELP, plan B…
Yes... cause the judge was telling all his trickery. She should have followed her first mind and never dated him.
Get rid of him now, while you are ahead.
She’s not ahead. Her financial future is in his hands. If he stops paying for the house, she’s done. She co-signed so that debt will be mostly hers. She better stick with him and butter him up.
If I hear one more woman say how a man ruined her credit. Smh
I had to put my paychecks into a separate account with only my name on it in order to be able to budget and save money.
When you co-sign for a home, you are financially responsible as well because if he defaults, they are coming for you! At least in Florida!
Right! My name better not be on that deed!
This guy is gonna lose what looks to be a good woman
Chads don’t care. There’s another one waiting in the wings.
He used you .Baby .You got got.
Robert is so smart.
I'm not risking my credit for anyone. Damn, my son is better at managing his credit then him and my son is way younger.
She had dreams of a family life, he was using her to make is dreams reality. Never put your name on a big financial commitment with someone you are not married to. If she had took her time, she would have found out about his financial issues
Gambling ruined lives, young man please stop.
He is a selfish child who needs to grow up. He will use her as long as he can get away with it. She can do better on her own!!
That evil smirk on his face showed her how little respect he has for her, which is none at all. And she proved that you can be smart in one area but totally vacant in another. She turned him down ten times before she went out with him. She needs to go back and reexamine her reasons for refusing him so many times. Therein lies her salvation.
He seems clueless about life and the relationship. Guess Mom/Dad is always there
Yup! Sometimes U just need to know "when to fold up your tent & move on." I walked out if a 10yr relation-
ship for the same reason & glad I did, Im retired now & my house is Paid in Full & sitten pretty😊
He trying set himself up off of her back.. dude putting only his name on things and she doing 50/50 with her credit & money he’s f.ckin disgusting and she shouldve listened to her damn parents 🤦🏾♀️
I'd bet he's a spoiled mama's boy
That young lady is about her finances and I believe she gonna take the judge advice and get her name off that mortgage. When she does, he gonna lose that house.
People don’t change, so stop thinking you can change them
It's true his own parents weren't doing it. That should of told her something.
It's important to make sure you have the whole armor of God because you don't know when you can be manipulated or tempted by the devil.👿
Amen.
PREACH !!!
Amen
Absolutely I'm 65, it just happened to me. Get out now✅✅✅
Amen 💯
19:28 he laughs when she says “ get your stuff and get out” because he knows it’s not her house
Judge you are spot on man / child !!!!!
Run don’t walk! He just wants her wallet and he won’t stop until he’s locked up for fraud and lost everything!
Facts !!!
judge in her final statements
He’s gunna get the house & then lose it for nonpayments. Sad
Bye Family business . His dream is your money.
Hold on wait, you cosigned for the loan but your name isn’t on the deed! And paying! Fix it Jesus
😂
😂😂😂😂 I’m 😮😮😮
She’s gorgeous without makeup..But good thing she wised up before popping out kids for this irresponsible user.
Hope she doesn't get home and discover she's pregnant ...
Everybody on the show wears makeup
@@bonitathompson1640 no I’m not talking about how she looks on the show. I’m talking about the pictures she brought for the judge of her and her bf.
This Young Lady Better Run 🏃🏃He Just Needed Her As A Cosigner And Hes Showing her that Clearly!!!! He Also knows that whatever Mess He Creates Mommy And Daddy Are Going to Bail Him Out😮
It was the thrill of chasing her, then he got her, so the thrill was over, he's just not into you no more, girl get rid of him, you are very smart 🤓, and absolutely beautiful ❤️
Why are women so gullible? She walked right into this with her eyes wide open. NEVER cosign for anyone. Come on women. Do better. Think before you entangle yourself with someone you are not married to, expecting that he will marry you. It NEVER works
That doesn’t make sense to me, if she thought they would be together forever, she knew she would be contributing to the home, then why not put both names on the deed? Crazy.
He probably put married on the table at The time.
And she buy it.
@@lcct635 No she said since he was the one that paid the down payment she thought it was only right that he put just his name on it. Which doesn’t make sense, because he used her credit to get the house for the both of them to move in as a couple and contribute to it.
Lady it's time too let gooooo say byeeeeee 😎😎
it's so hard to feel bad for people sometimes because you literally put yourself in this situation and you didn't have to, why would you ever allow yourself not to be on the deed when you're paying half the bills and maintenance? he's a user and he's gross and she has GOT to wisen up. doesn't matter how much you "trust" someone, you HAVE to look out for you because if not, this is the situation you end up in
This is scary! The bank will probably tell her "thats not our problem" and he probably cant refinance to take her name off. She has a 30 yr responsibility with a stranger, a man she doesnt want or like. 😒
She should get out. !!
Did you not watch the show? SHE CANT. THE HOME LOAN IS IN HER NAME.
Only smiled when he spoke of the thrill 🤦🏾♀️
That’s your fault ma’am, could’ve would’ve, should’ve. You sat there and LET the man use you for your good credit and didn’t demand to be placed on the deed of the house. You have no stake in the property, you’re sitting there, cooking, washing his clothes and giving him all the sex he wants, while watching him gamble the money away!!!! What are you going to do?? You see this man for who he is and WHAT??? WHAT???? See what you’re seeing and move on.🤨
I think she got the lesson! 🤞
She’s young, but she learned a very EXPENSIVE LESSON…
Young people keep buying into the hype that there’s no set way of doing things; however, there is a way of doing things that minimizes risks and maximizes results. For instance:
- STOP MOVING IN WITH PEOPLE WITHOUT BEING MARRIED FIRST
- Vet a person and their family for AT LEAST A YEAR
- STOP HAVING S3X with people you are not married to
- Don’t sell yourself short
- Judge a person by what they say, and do, but mainly by what they do
True
I think she came on here for the purposes of arbitration for the mortgage...She's smart.
I call guys like this CHAD… This man is the a pitta me of a CHAD. He’s Pookie in a different skin. All of that intuition women have and she didn’t use ANY of it. But she’s young and just like Judge Starr said, this will be a VERY BIG EXPENSIVE LESSON you will learn.
He persue her so hard that she believe he's a good Guy.
She's young, she can get out.
I luv luv luv her summary of "how we met" nice short and to the point
He is financially irresponsible and definitely has a gambling problem! Run!!
He IS using You! ❤🙏🏻☝🏼🙌
You ruin your credit yourself, Run your name not on the contract, girl Wise Up😮
You dodged a bullet mam.
But you don't get the whole house..
Sell and divide..
Sell and divide? It’s his house. His name is on the house, not hers.
He put the downpayment but his salary was not good.
She applied for a job for him an he does not want to work 🚩🚩🚩.
He gambling his money an his parents paid for the mortgage
He using her
She needs to run and don't look back.
You messed up your own credit!
I don't know why people that not married come to divorce court. Just leave!
Do not depend totally on a man
Judge Star is right about that
He sounds irresponsible and he doesn’t sound like he cares, but at the same time, you can’t expect him to be concerned about how the money is being spent, if he’s not the one really working hard making the money. It’s basically her money or his parents save their man child. She needs to leave him, because he’s definitely using her and he will never grow up as long as someone is taking care of his responsibilities. This will be her life, why should he change. Ladies stop overworking yourselves, you can’t be that desperate!!!! Get a man that’s already a man, don’t wait another 18 years for him to possibly change to a man!!!!
People need to learn, stop doing married people shyt💯‼️
the plaintiff has beautiful blue eyes you can swim in
glad she opened them to see this "relationship" for what is is/was !!!
The first time he took money she should have removed her money and got another bank 🏦 account.
Judge Star tells it like it IS !
19:32 Robert spoke the truth! That was a red flag!!!!
Very inconsiderate guy. He's not cute either.
Never understood buying a house with a boyfriend!!! What in the hell is wrong with these people! And on top of that you didn’t have him put your name on the deed on the home! Dumb! Dumb dumb! Stop talking about trust! You need to first think about yourself.
That how we met story was painful to hear. Fellas when a woman says no to your advances believe her the first time, it never works out when the attraction isn't mutual
Fornication is exploitation.✝
Amen!!!
@@anonymousreview1049 Hallelujah.
As soon as she said she want to keep the house I can tell that's all she cares about it's the benefits and she said she wanna keep the house ,she's clearly a gold digger
He doesn’t have any gold though 😂😂😂
That guy is a full and he even looks like one lol 😂
Hopeless!
Wow, never do that without marriage. Not her name on the house, no house deed, what was she thinking, he just used her.
Andrew sounds like a very immature person who depends on his parents, but he is cunning and used Alexandra. Start over, Alex andra. You will do well on your own. Keep your money apart and learn a hard lesson. He is a user and has no shame and no real love for you.
Just left it go in to foreclosure because the bank is not going to let you out of the loan. You’ll bounce back
Absolutely NEVER CO-SIGN with anyone even family members. Definitely not being married purchasing anything is a RED FLAG. When in ❤️ do not become desperate because it can turn you into a complete IDOIT!
That’s the worse advice I’ve ever seen any DC JUDGE give. Why would that man give up his house?
Because he have no one to cosing whit him, that's why.
These people move at the speed of light in these relationships. Ent no way im cosigning for anything with a man I've only known a couple of months. He is a joke she saw foul shit and thought it was egg.
He is not dependent on her... He makes his own money.. He messed up once.. and was successful other times...
That's wild
I love this young lady. She bought a tough lesson but thankfully they didn't have any children and she can move on.
Star jones looks beautiful omg she is killing it
Obviously he is using her...not even he's family would co-sign..with the family business...🤔she learned a hard lesson...don't trust anyone with ur credit.
He looks alot older than 28
He used her to get the house.He is working his family and they are not paying him upfront but helping him when he wanted to buy a home.Making her pay half on the mortgage. Rent payment..Narcisstist it's what they do.
If she Co-sign it’s part her house also because she’s on the mortgage 🤷🏾♀️
It’s different from something like an auto loan. She co-signed for the financial obligation (which is not the ownership aka deed). She could’ve been initially on the deed had she known to have her name listed. He likely knew she didn’t know so applied just his name … she can still be added to the deed but he would have to initiate that