Put Some Respect On This Marriage: Jorge Sequera v Jianelle Sequera
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 ต.ค. 2024
- Jorge says his wife, Jianelle, has anger issues and is emotionally unavailable. He says he’s tired of being unappreciated in his marriage.
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He needs to get a job outside of the home. He has stressed this woman out 😢
He is controlling...
I so agree, he needs to get up and move about the cabin. He needs to to to...!!!
But it is the lady who wants him to be in the house n take care of the house. The lady even said “he is good at doing the housework”.
No, they have stressed each other out. He's missing out too, let's not forget. He can''t hang with his friends because he's doing HOME. He can't take off and hand over the baby to get in a walk. Men don't do this role well, and when they do, they aren't appreciated for what they do. He's married, but sex is now a problem. I'm pretty sure that she liked sex as much as he did once upon a time. Now, he's the one frustrated, because she's always working, taking up extra shifts. If you turned that scenario around, women would be telling him to focus on her when he got home. She should be saying to him, that she missed him all day, and make him feel like a man.
She is the controlling one. She henpecked him, making him stay at home, which goes against his manhood and nature.
How comes a pregnant woman works crazy hours while a fit man stays at home? So unhealthy. Terrible role reversal.
If he was "raised by the streets," he wouldn't be calling himself a "housewife."
Like wtf house wife 😂
😂😂😂😂
Yeah lol until now I never heard a presumably straight man refer to himself as a housewife 😂
That part 😂😂😂😂
he was raised by the cul-de-sacs
Did he say he comes from a traditional family background? So his dad was the housewife? Man, get up out of here. See, Pookies come in a variety of flavors.
And do!🤣🤣🤣
Pookie Headass 😂😅😂😅😂😅
Damn sure do he isn’t Pookie he is Paco😂
Lmaoo not you calling him a Pookie
They love using that word traditional.
Narcissistic behavior. He has low self esteem that’s why he’s controlling her.
Wait are you a therapist to make a clinical diagnosis like that?
I agree
A Classic Narcissist
Everyone’s a narc lol why can’t he just be an asshole or terrible partner
Trying to make her cater to his every insecurity...gas light as it's finest...
He was raised traditionally but has her working while he’s at home doing nothing (like men say we do all day) ?? No way an unemployed BOY is gonna control me.
An employed man is not going to control me!
Alot of words.. He said he isn't currently working.. He has had a job before
And got her pregnant. Again.
Reminds of me in my 20 yr marriage. The smug, know it all, immature guy with a low emotional IQ. I eventually got tired of talking, arguing, explaining, crying. It was miserable. It's so sad that some men can have everything, but control is their ultimate prize. Crazy.
So, did you leave eventually?
Men can't have everything. That's why they were there. In a traditional, old fashioned home, where he was the breadwinner, and she stayed at home, if he didn't acknowledge her immediately when he got home, make her feel wanted, take over for her, and be the sounding board for her, he would be called a heartless dog. It's on these shows all of the time. "He doesn't support me". "He comes home and doesn't hug me". "He's around pretty women all day, and I'm stuck her with our child". No, Star only saw her pain. What are guys support to do wait to anticipate her whims, then take action? I thought marriage was a 50/50 thing. Or someone used to say that marriage was a 100/100 % thing.
@@sunnyhoney7665 Yes, I divorced him 12 yrs ago after 20 yrs of marriage.
@rhunt0210 I hear you, but relationships are just not like that. In a traditional marriage, yes, the man provides, and I really appreciate that part but the additional skills of building relationships and communication have to be cultivated by both the husband and wife. If she doesn't grow and understand she's responsible for her own happiness and becomes co dependent on him for everything, it is a huge pressure for the husband. But it is his responsibility to effectively help her to understand that point with gentleness, maybe counseling and understanding that she needs help, perhaps more than he can give. But a lot of times he loses his cool, is inpatient, can be cruel and wants her to grow up and stop the behavior, though she doesn't even know what is happening to her emotionally. It's frustrating for both sides. Once you're in marriage and out of the oxytocin stage (lust) now the real work begins and it's a lot of thought and critical thinking involved. She's not a doll and he's not her Dad, you need to build. That's why we have to be careful in picking a partner for life. Factors like childhood experiences, education, and maturity all play a factor. Beauty and a handsome face fades. What are we after that? Patriarchal ways of thinking suck and women wanting a soft life all the time won't work. It's ok sometimes, like a man being man and leading and woman be feminine and alluring and domesticated, that alright sometimes. But emotional maturity is what takes the relationship higher. This author once said, married or single, neither a perfect state. P.s. Star had a bad marriage, so she knows the pain of it. She does seem kind of partial to women but she knows a lot times women end up murdered trying to be in relationships that aren't going to work and don't recognize when it's time to let it go.
he has to beat her down like a pimp because she has income and if she realized she could just leave, he'd be out on the street.
Simply put.He needs a job.I had one of those.Couldn’t never keep a job but he wanted to control everything.Even the money.Please.I sent him packing with that brown suitcase he showed up with.
😂😂😂😂😂
She is SOOOO unhappy. He wants to control EVERYTHING SMH
He thought because he retired from being a what!!!!😂😂😂😂 Can’t nobody sum it up better than Robert.
I’m watching Robert’s face and he’s like…. Dude really?
I just got to the 8 minute mark where he's complaining that she didn't plan well enough about the party. And I'm trying to wrap my mind around the fact that he is this petty, instead of saying, 'Okay, hon, see you when you get home.' And people need to stop with this, "this is how I was brought up" nonsense. When you get married, there's a lot of compromise.
You missed the part about her NOT calling home to say that she's going to be out for another 2 hours. He's been home all day, probably cook and did laundry, while taking care of their child, and she didn't have the courtesy NOT to call home to say that her ride wasn't leaving yet. What if he had plans? Or is he allowed to have anything? The man not even getting sexual affection from his wife. She wouldn't have to worry about rollin. Because I would have long started the dissolution process.
@@rhunt0210the husband literally said she only goes out once in a year and she barely goes out. He’s POINT BLANK PERIOD CONTROLLING. she looks depressing and exhausted as fck
I'll never understand why a young woman with her whole life ahead of her would WILLINGLY marry a young ,able bodied man who she has to financially provide for.He's only doing what SHE allows. WHY does she allow this?
You're so right, and I don't understand it neither.
She doesn't "allow" anything. THEY made this arrangement. Listen, not all housewives work 100% of the time, especially if they have children. Nobody should provide for anyone, is what you're saying, right? So if the man works, and brings in money, then the wife should be getting off of her butt and going to works for just as many hours. Is that what you're saying. I hope that men are really getting that point.
She said, “it works for them” because she typically makes more money than he does!!!! lol!!! That’s messed up!
How about the man get up off of his but and provide for his family? How about that??? That always works. Or , she could leave and slap him on child support? That works too!!!!
She is attracted to him
So many husband's come on here talking about how they were raised with traditional values for the wife but they don't uphold these same traditions 🤔
He’s not understanding at all. All he cares about is himself. It’s not going to work out.
That part!
He doesn’t really love her
Lmbo I had to play this back like 3xs I thought he said I’m currently the house Wife 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
He did LOL
I screamed. HE DID
Lol he did 🤣😂
He's Narcissistic Her Feelings Mean Absolutely Nothing to this Guy!!! I Hope She Finds Herself and Leaves him!!!
This man has no business being in an adult relationship he is not mature enough its clear as day girl runnnnnn
He's showing no emotions, when his wife started to cry 😔
Oh gosh. This dude be just b..itching. So sick of him. Run girl, run.
She needed this more than him. She needed to jave her feelings validated to hopefully build herself and he needed to hear he's not so smart and maybe needs to get an outside job to understand her struggles and become less controlling. Fingers crossed they work on themselves
There’s no intimacy because no one is attracted to their dad and that’s the role he’s trying to play. And has the nerve to be unemployed at that…did this fool just say he was “raised by the streets”???!!!😂😂😂😂
Robert what !!!😂😂😂😂😂 u wrapped this case up in one sentence😅. The plantiff retired from being a h😂, now feels he got the PhD to tell his wife what she can and cannot do. He lacks maturity and humility .
Her: Here's how I feel. XYZ.
Him: No, she doesn’t feel like that. She's just saying that but here's how she REALLY feels...
HUH??? And he had the nerve to say he prides himself on being a very understanding person. She openly sated her feelings, and he went out of his way to bulldoze them in front of everyone. He is too small of a man to have so much arrogance smdh
OR, she used her tears as manipulation, and I saw the parts where she, the wife, tore him down. He wasn't going to be understood in that situation at all. Not by Star or the women in the audience. I saw a man who was defeated as she acted. His face was "I can't do anything right," and "I can't get what I want out of this relationship". It's only about her needs, she's the breadwinner, she needs to be taking extra shifts when he wants to spend time with him and the child. If the shoe was on the other shoe, and she was the depressed stay at home mother while he worked and brought home the money, but he spent time adding shifts when asked by anyone, who would have been at fault?
@@rhunt0210the way you purposely made up a situation just to be on the guys side is hilarious and just as delusional as the man that thinks telling someone how they feel is the truth verses what that person states
@@rhunt0210
She did not tear him down. She gave him credit for being the better person at running the house hold. She also said he has great qualities, but he is controling.
Like the judge said, he is in his own way.
She has no voice in this marriage. She is losing herself to his control.So sad. She needs to leave and get her strength back to think for herself. I feel so sorry for her. 😢
He has low self esteem, dusty, can't take accountability and he needs a job outside of the home so he can get something else to do. He's stressing out and she's pregnant omg😢she's only 24. There's no way I'll work my behind off while my husband stays at home. Yes I may make more than him but we'll both be working
If I found out a partner of one of my sisters, spoke to them and treated them that way it’s game over for them.
Thank you for saying this. There is always ONE in a million.
See… many women don’t seem to understand how men that are responsible, accountable, emotionally intelligent, and intellectual can see right through this garbage this man is talking about. At the end, when she was crying, he couldn’t understand why… but, brother, she’s coming to pick him over you EVERY TIME… So, unfortunately, you have to let them come to that conclusion on their on (as long as that takes and unfortunately, for some, it takes them decades)…
Why? It's their dynamic. We don't know how she spoke to him, do we? She's gone all day, and sometimes on days when she's off. She doesn't want to be around her husband, because if she did, she wouldn't take on extra shifts. Guys, don't ever take on the role of the one who stays home. If you have to get two jobs to hire a baby sitter or pay for daycare, do it. Women won't respect a man who stays home.
@@bryanbeeman5256 I 100% agree with your assessment. He was trying his best to reach her, but she put on the "hurt wife" role, and ALL of the work that he's been doing is tossed aside because "SHE'S" not happy. Did nobody look at the guy in case? NO! Star saw a crying woman who no longer loves her husband. If she told me that I had to change in order to make her happy, I would have walked right out. Their relationship has to change, not him. It was frustrating watching this unfold. If anyone seemed defeated, it was the guy. His face was deadpan. He's doing his best, without a manual. Here's the problem that most people, especially women can't see is that when a guy is hurt, he's not going to break down and cry. He's going to get tensed and stay that way.
He's as cold as ice.
You can’t change a housewife to a real man 😂😂
You can’t change a person you get what you get and decide if that is the person for you
"He is a cold-hearted person."
And so is she.
He exhibits a lack of self security. He's lacking something and has demonstrated this type of "me first" mentality. "Raised by the streets" ...a lack of confidence seems more like it. Just saying...
This young mother and wife is depressed. You can see it on her face. I worried if he hits her. I hope she takes the help of Judge Star for herself. This is a case where I could see her leaving home and never returning. It broke my heart. He reminded me of a Drill Sgt.
But what about him. Did you not see the depression, resolution in his face? People like that are organized because they are multitasking. Remember, he's working being a house-husband. He's organized and she's like a flag in the wind at works and socially. Has anyone thought of looking at things through his eyes? Didn't he look resigned too? She's not affectionate to him when she gets home. He's trying to initiate something with her, and she's not into it.
Judge Star said, “she bout to roll out.” Lol!!!!!😂
If I was that guy, I would have been thinking, "let her go". He deserves to be happy too.
& another kid is going to help out how? 🙄
The relationship is not going well, there will be more financial pressure, you're already losing yourself but sure, let's have another kid because that'll make it all better. Smh. 🙄
I totally agree with every single thing star jones said, she get that self esteem back baby Gone Gone!
Oh she looks so unhappy
The ending remarks….. 🎯💯
He's, not even a prize. The mustache alone 😂
He is a very insecure man and he needs to get a job. He shouldn’t get any loving at all. He’s her punishment officer NOT a husband 😮
10:11 he doing too much. Once a year and can’t come home late
She needs to run!!
He is so defiant and rigid. Being married to him has to be exhausting. He doesn’t allow room for anyone’s ideas or thoughts but his. An emotionally bankrupt person is almost unable to work with. I hope she finds herself.
Dude's hair is years past tense. He is way too co-dependent and controlling... Buh bye!
Nothing wrong with his hair😒SMH
He has a beautiful afro...I don't see nothing negative there
I can’t stand this guy already
She needs to leave him. He is controlling and emotionally immature. She needs to leave him
He is a house wife raised in the streets 😅 make it Make sense 😭
He's trying to control the one thing he can because he feels less than a man. I was(?) a know-it-all in my twenties, and now, when I hear from people that young, it's grating because I know what's coming for them if they're lucky.
What would you tell him? Remember, the wife is outwardly depressed. She's not affectionate with him. She's making the money, and he's not. There's a spot in him that feels less than a man because he's not financially holding it down like men have done since the dawn of time. I'm not a counselor, but I'm sure that the counselor will remind her that it's not about her. She needs to see how she fulfills HIS needs too. HELL, marriage is work. Sometimes, it's a lot of work. Men have to be stoic at all times, or she will think of him as weak. But marriage is making the other person feel special. It's a 24/7 job. If they are unhappy with each other, and that's what it looks like, they better find a way back to where the started, or design a joint parenting guide for one another.
@@rhunt0210 I hear you. Not sure I would tell them anything because neither seems to be in a place where they'd listen. I would just remind them that the peace they seek can only be found in themselves and not in another person. Yes, marriage is not just about one person, but we are each responsible for our own happiness. I do think it's normal to try to control the one thing you think you can. The key here is to "think you can" because, ultimately, all that effort should be in trying to control yourself. There's that saying, "You can't control other people. Just your reaction to them." And sometimes, that reaction is to exit.
He called himself "housewife"?!?😂
😂😂😂😂
Needs an education. I also think he resents being home.
I'd watch a show with Robert as a judge, he always has good insight and wise things to say 😂
“ I was raised by the streets “ sir what streets Sesame Street please smh let that lady breathe! Ma’am run quickly 🏃🏾♀️
He has way too much time on his hands. If he had a job, he would be busy with his job and housecleaning. He would not have the time to be preoccupied with where his wife is all the time.
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I love his hair, and naturally curly locks. He exposed himself, he's a monster and torments her daily. Her depression was so heavy, my lord, I experienced that. I was so depressed I would walk with my head down but when we were near the house, he's say lift your head up stop looking sad. So he knew but didn't care.
Him: I am the housewife
😂😂 I think he needs to lear the word homemaker.
He needs to learn the phrases: Get several jobs…. And Be a responsible, accountable adult…
When she finds herself...whew baby it's over for him! Then he will be the one crying.
He has a problem with being a "housewife" so he's taking it out on her. Boy, go get a job and pay a babysitter.
I feel the wife's pain. 😢 But when she wakes up....
This is what happens when you marry too young.
Oh hes the problem. He is not gonna change.
Counseling for the two of them? He’s not happy even though he says yes.
He’s such a controlling, dusty. Put on your track shoes Miss Girl and run out of there.
Guy is using the housewife label to be lazy! 24, not working, or getting an education is a terrible start to being an adult! They were too young to be married and have a kid
she looks so dead inside because of him, it looks like he's just draining the life out of her 😵💫
I don’t think any young person needs to be married before living a little. When one is controlling it’s time to get out! Hope she understands that her peace is more important than the misery of staying in a controlling relationship .
An update: He began working, she's now a happy housewife in a new bigger apartment with their new baby and little girl. They still attend therapy and they seem to be thriving. They are both great people but people that needed a nudge in the right direction. Proud of them
Great. Glad to hear it
Why stay in a relationship or marriage and you are not happy???
Girl! You are throwing away your life
He is using her. That's the street part. A bum living off his wife,sir you are the head of the house, step into your rightful place
He's going to lose his wife.
He needs to give him a full-time job out of the house maybe 50 hours a week keep him busy🤷🏽♀️
She doesn't want him anymore
Not like this.
I get that they’re both 24, HOWEVER, I’m going to need you to get some jobs sir… a career sir… get you’re traditional family to watch the kids (pay them) and get out of that house and find jobs… jobs… JOBS…
He needs to go find a job. She's.woeking the money and he wants to control her. These mean are sick and don't know what they want. Kmdt.
I could tell he didn't have a job, she's cheating on him and he can't do anything about it.
No clue why it took 4/5ths of the episode for the epiphany to arise that he needs a job.. It’s always funny to me how the stay-at-home spouse always has so much to harp and jeer about when they’re not assisting financially.. As they say idle hands are what?
he tickled me when he said "raised by the streets" 😂😂😂 what street ? rodeo dr ?
Love Judge Star’s jacket!!!!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I don’t know why, I get sideshow bob vibes👀🤔🤔😂🤣
Me too, even before he open his mouth.
If someone has to micromanage you when you've legitimately done nothing to incur suspicion, it's time to go. Life is too short for that immature/irrational/insecure behavior. They're never going to change and its never your job to "fix" the other person. I hope she finds some peace.
He gaslight her
His insecurities are making him controlling. He’s the house husband and he feels inadequate so he has to assert his dominance by trying to control her. She needs to let him go so he can grow up!
Judge Star always talks about love languages and this isn’t that! He needs to get a job so that he can get off her back!
This can be fixed. Mister needs to contribute more so Mrs doesn't have to work so hard. What's going to happen when that other baby comes?! He's going to have to $tep up!! He's not carrying his weight. Counseling was definitely the right solution. I would love to see an update on this couple. I hope it works out for them and especially for those babies.
SHE IS MORE MATURE THAN HIM, BUT SHE IS HOLDING HER EMOTIONS IN.what happens when they go home.
He needs to get a job.
I dare say.she is hiding bruises. She never pulls her sweater over her shirt strap. i feel he only is affectionate after he has demeaned he.
Did Judge say he has a PhD or was she being facetious?
He needs to go and take that map off his head and start mapping is men duty and start providing for his family.
Did he refer to himself as a "housewife"?! He's insufferable. He needs to get a life.
When rhe hydge mentioned "order" in hus life, I laughed he can't even keep his hair in control.
Most men are not the stay at home type. He feels inadequate so he has to assert control in other ways. He need to go out and work and they probably need to just get a babysitter or housekeeper. They both need to go out and work.
She is over it. Her facial expression says she is tired and has thrown in the towel. Girl, if yours unhappy and can't bear it, fo what is best for you. Staying will only bring resentment. If you still love him and want to salvage your marriage, then you guys should work it out.
She is a beautiful woman he has mentally drained this woman out she is letting it all out he need to cut that hair off and find him a JOB he has tooo much time on his hands and stressing this woman out he is a little boy that is not a MAN he is playing the blame game not a good look very insensitive he is pissing me off
She needs to leave this little boy alone
His hair is a defense against work Unless he's in Show Business no one's ever going to hire him he knows that. He is spoiled and he wants to do his thing.
There isn’t anything wrong with his hair.
@@gailsmith836 Would the president of the United States ,a neurosurgeon, Diplomat r any high-ranking official have hair like that? I think not.
This young man needs to find his purpose and be more ambitious. She has to find her feminine energy because this ain’t it!
The Housewife 😅
What kind of relationship ppl get themselves into.....stress will kill all yuh.
He’s taking her kindness for weakness & smothering her 🫣😫
That’s what the little boys wanna do stay home and play the games all day
saying "idk what to say" she's probably already traumatized from the recurring ignoring and invalidating reaction he gives. you can only say something for so long before you eventually just give up ):
He disgusts me. Whew 🤦🏿♀️
SIS PLEASE LEAVE
She needs to leave him
Hes annoying af ain't no body trying to tolerate you dude 😂😂😂
He called himself "the housewife" 🤦🏾♂️
He needs to pride himself on working... how about That!!!!
Yes girl 🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️