Please pray for my 15 year old daughter. She's been dealing with mental health issues and it's been pretty rough couple years for her. To say the least, thank you who read this and take the time to KEEP her in your prayers..
I would LOVE to be a safe ear for her! I've struggled, too & I had no one reach out. I'm almost 30, so I am not too "old," But old enough that I feel I could be a healthy influence! Let me know & I'll see how we could connect!
Father God, I lift this 15 year old, you know her name. You know her coming and going, you knew her before the foundation of the world, you know the internal warfare that's going on in her mind, Father I pray that she would encounter you in a special way, I pray Father that your truth about her would destroy the lies of the enemy in her mind. that she would be filled with your love and convince in her heart that you love her, you're with her. Fill her with your Shalom, your goodness, and surround her with your presence in Jesus' name 🙏
Definitely 🙏🏾 Hold on. It won't be like this forever. She is so young still and her future us bright. She will not only overcome and be a light to others, but a light to you and your family, too.
Bro!😢 This touched a raw nerve. I've been so broken for DECADES.(42yo) I forgot what it means to feel anything except spiritual and emotional numbness. (1:30.00-1:31.30)... depression so deep, like a darkness that can be felt. This is a candle 🕯️ light in the middle of, if nothing else, my world. TY Mark for sharing. I don't know how to express in words how I feel, but what God offers is better than anything. It's time for me to go heal now.
In ref to what you said about the church declaring as desires as idolatry : THANK YOU THIS IS WHAT IVE BEEN THINKING FOR YEARS!!! SO many times I’ve approached members of the church for council in my life long battle of loneliness and desire for marriage, and I’ve been told I’m simply idealising relationships and need to find my total satisfaction in God… meanwhile they are enjoying a happy family life at home with abundant relationships. Makes me so mad!!
@@GameOnShannythere is always hope for you :) I doubted it so much and I felt completely unworthy of getting married. In August I will Marry:) Gods love for you is greater than our doubts and unworthiness. I hope this encourages you. You are precious and your desires are important!
Hi @@GameOnShanny. I’ve been single for the last 10 years so I can definitely empathize with how you might be feeling. Recently however I’ve been trying to rest in the promises that God has made in this area and that has really been helping me while I wait/search for the one I’ll marry. Just know and remember that regardless if you are with someone or not, that doesn’t change that fact that you are loved and out of the whole world God chose you to be his. He made you with such love and thoughtful intent that leaving you as an idea in His head was an impossibility for him. He loved you so much He wanted to create you just to have a relationship with you. I encourage you to look up Gods promises and pray about them. Ask for his help with living a life from that place of love and I believe you will find freedom from this pain. Father, I pray for @GameOnShanny and ask you to shower him/her in your love and that you’d help him/her with their struggle with finding a partner. I ask that you’d help GameOnShanny see from your perspective, that he/she would rest in the fact that you are good and that there is hope no matter how grim the circumstances look.
Mark the lord speaks through you , your work is slowly helping me , please carry on ,you are covering things that christian leaders in the uk ignore , i know the lord is blessing your ministry and im very pleased to call you a brother in christ
Bro thank you for this. Seriously. After struggling most of my life (over 15 years) with a serious porn addiction and desperate for some Christian resource to give me answers you came along. God has been healing me over the past few years and setting me free, but to hear the steps that brought me here has moved me deeply. Thank you
Mark, I listened to and will relisten to this wonderful video. Your heart for people is so real. Ty for stepping into something humbling after being a senior pastor. That is Love ❤️☝🏼
This is a really long (and great) video when pausing and rewinding to take notes, lol. Thank you for this. I'm up to 52 minutes so far and taking a break. Lots of great stuff here.
Thank you for these videos Pastor Mark, spiritually developmental and you hit the nail with the word "equipping". I dont have kids yet but i want to be a parent that talks to my kids about everything and help them place those desires into Jesus instead of worldly!! 🙏✝️💙🔥
Appreciate your work Mark it is very helpful and reminds of the elephant of the room having such a hyperfocus and ocd when it comes to thoughts and thank you for there talk of lust not many say it the way its described its helping to organize life. Jesus broke me out of a 17 year porn and video game addiction. Had a relapse for a year but came out again understanding more of wounds. Been struggling breaking out of masturbation and letting the shame n guilt get to me at times wondering why can’t I stop then looking at the law wow actually need more grace not sin focus, pushing forward gaining experience when facing temptations. The 5 year healing process in the brain sure is a journey, Peace be with you
35:34 - 35:37 - Lol I am definitely this form of a hugger. Overly cautious, especially with men due to the messages I received from well-meaning, but misguided purity culture . Mark is right in that sex is made to seem like such an untouchable subject that we as people struggle to view it properly.
Our sex drive is highly effected by how we learn to love. Coulda said that one sentance and closed it all out honestly. Am in the process of learning how to recieve his love atm and hes gonna have to defrag my heart of all the "programs" of and on love for me here. May post again lolol so profound bud!
My sex drive is high because I love sex. Simple as. Sex is amazing and I see no reason why not to enjoy it as often as possible in the context of marriage.
A big thank you to you Mark. I am very blessed every time I listen to you on you tube and podcasts . I would highly recommend you to listen to Mark’s videos especially if you’re a new Christian on a learning journey, can be very rough particularly at the beginning of your walk with Christ ... God bless 😊
thank you for having the talk that my parents were , and i quote " too embarrassed to talk about". massive healing going on, thank you man. May G-d continue to use you mightily
Can you do a video on how married couples can relate to each other better? Like actually relate? To where you're talking in a way that you're actually excited to talk to each other?
I appreciate the vulnerability and the opportunity for grace to be expressed with compassion, if this issue was tackled with more grace and understanding, I am sure there would be more longevity in our lives as Christians!
thank you so much mark, I never read what jezebel actually did, I had been wanting a polygamous relationship and wanted to know why it was wrong so I could beat the desire, now I will run from the desire as far and fast as God lets me, by learning real love. I have a beautiful fiance who does not deserve a man with wandering eyes, and an ungodly view on marriage. Thank you so much, Mark!
This video is good for those battling with HOCD.. who think every same sex emotion is “gay” or mean they just turned gay.. take a deep breath evrything will be okay..
It’s not you at all. I struggled with the same thing and isolate myself from my same sex friend. The thing that helped was coming forward and sharing my feelings despite potential jidgement( she didn’t 😅), grounding myself and knowing that the devil likes to warp reality and make you think a way that isn’t true. Also now looking back it was OCD and obsession. The last thing I would say is that I had to do a bit of research to find other ppl with this same struggle. I’d use caution with this cause I hope you don’t spin into obsession and ruminating over things you read
I can’t for the life and faith of me take it any longer the guilt and shame from the lordship/religious voices. I won’t act out in porn or lust but I do need to move forward in faith. I can. I know I’m just in the way at this point!
We actually do have references for proper male-male love and friendship. Orestes and Pylades, from Greek mythology is one reference. There are others, but they are ignored by the culture that is obsessed with sex. We tend not to call friendships love because we have a limited idea of love in our insane culture.
I agree it’s important to talk to kids about sex and warn them about being touched inappropriately. They learn at such a young age sometimes. They need to know they are safe telling their parents if someone did something to them. I was SAed at the age of 8. I didn’t know what it was but something felt wrong and I was too scared to tell anyone because I didn’t want to get punished. My perpetrator was only 5. Somehow they already knew what oral was. It’s so sad but they need to know their privates shouldn’t be touched and that they can and should tell their parents or a trusted adult if it does happen
I think my head is still too big. My jaw does need surgery and I personally have had an underbite for as long as I can remember for the last 30 years. I feel ya.
1:50:30 I didn’t get on the Twilight and Harry Potter kick but I did get into the Percy Jackson series. One that has been my biggest battle ground is in two apps called Obey Me! Shall We Date and Obey Me! Nightbringer. They are extremely occult (you romantically pursue demons, humans, and angels and you make pacts with demons in the games and use ouija board to summon), but it seems digestible because they make the characters with human characteristics and behaviors and you grow emotional bonds to the characters. There’s even a character that is portrayed like a 10yr old child but is actually an angel. Many players of the game grow a motherly/fatherly/sibling attachment to this character. I STILL struggle with the emotional connection to the characters. Those apps are dangerous. Not because it’s occult, but it gives a false sense of being loved and having a sense of family. I started this game at the beginning of 2020, and it helped me cope with the loneliness during lockdown. I wasn’t a Christian at this point and even got into actual occult like tarot and mediums. I lost my dad at the end of 2020 and prayed that God would help me and He showed me a sign that He was there. I have been in a battle between pursuing God for a time period and then falling back to playing this game. It’s a dangerous trap that I’m still trying to get free from 4yrs later. Please if any parents see this app on their child’s phone, please discuss it lovingly with them. It has very sexual themes and it’s very suggestive. It’s so addictive because the interactions make you feel loved, needed, and admired and the characters have flaws, but they actually grow as characters (unlike actual demons). It makes you root for them and want them to grow. Don’t play it please save yourself from the heart ache
I bind one to have a healthy, godly view of love, intimacy and sex in marriage in my life, the lives of my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquitances, opponents and the body of Christ while binding to hell every lack of having a healthy, godly view of love, intimacy and sex in marriage, binding to hell every unequal yoke and common share with anyone lacking to have a healthy, godly view of love, intimacy and sex in marriage, in accordance with this word and 1 corinthians 13:4-8, hebrews 13:4, romans 12:1-2, 1 corinthians 6:18, song of solomon 4:1, ephesians 5:22-33, 1 corinthians 7, 1 john 2:16, 1 thessalonians 2:17, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah, glory to God ❤!
I hope Mark does a video on that. I heard about the king games only thing. I like the king James Bible but sometimes I need a translation that speaks at a lower reading comprehension level.
There’s clear differences in KVJ vs modern versions while I don’t think KJV is the only way. I don’t mind only reading KJV. It’s not that hard to understand, or way before reading God will show you truth
I am addicted to porn and masturbation. I experience, massive guilt and shame each and every time. I hate feeling these things, and they don’t do me any good. I’m afraid if I don’t feel these things, then how will I change? I feel hopeless about it.
Jesus said to love the Lord with all your might and all your soul. He also said to love your neighbor as yourself. There are no greater commandments than these. Your want for a relationship isn't anywhere near bad. It's what God designed us for. We all just got to remember to love our future spouses like God loves us. With grace, mercy and compassion. Of course, we also have to put God first, and that means honoring his laws regarding pre-marital sex as well as how we conduct ourselves as husbands and wives. "Loving God more than your spouse" may seem confusing, but when you look at the Bible and see what he asks of both husbands and wives, you'll see that the amount of love we're supposed to give to our spouse is greater than it could possibly be than if you tried without God in your life. You're never too screwed up for that sort of thing. For with God, all things are possible.
Please pray for my 15 year old daughter. She's been dealing with mental health issues and it's been pretty rough couple years for her. To say the least, thank you who read this and take the time to KEEP her in your prayers..
I would LOVE to be a safe ear for her! I've struggled, too & I had no one reach out. I'm almost 30, so I am not too "old," But old enough that I feel I could be a healthy influence! Let me know & I'll see how we could connect!
Father God, I lift this 15 year old, you know her name. You know her coming and going, you knew her before the foundation of the world, you know the internal warfare that's going on in her mind, Father I pray that she would encounter you in a special way, I pray Father that your truth about her would destroy the lies of the enemy in her mind. that she would be filled with your love and convince in her heart that you love her, you're with her. Fill her with your Shalom, your goodness, and surround her with your presence in Jesus' name 🙏
🙏❤️
Definitely 🙏🏾 Hold on. It won't be like this forever. She is so young still and her future us bright. She will not only overcome and be a light to others, but a light to you and your family, too.
@nikkibailey6583 ty so much, yes, that sounds like an amazing plan... 🥹❤️🫂
Bro!😢 This touched a raw nerve. I've been so broken for DECADES.(42yo) I forgot what it means to feel anything except spiritual and emotional numbness. (1:30.00-1:31.30)... depression so deep, like a darkness that can be felt. This is a candle 🕯️ light in the middle of, if nothing else, my world. TY Mark for sharing. I don't know how to express in words how I feel, but what God offers is better than anything. It's time for me to go heal now.
In ref to what you said about the church declaring as desires as idolatry : THANK YOU THIS IS WHAT IVE BEEN THINKING FOR YEARS!!! SO many times I’ve approached members of the church for council in my life long battle of loneliness and desire for marriage, and I’ve been told I’m simply idealising relationships and need to find my total satisfaction in God… meanwhile they are enjoying a happy family life at home with abundant relationships. Makes me so mad!!
Exactly
I feel the same. I've given up the hopes that I would ever find anyone.
@@GameOnShannythere is always hope for you :) I doubted it so much and I felt completely unworthy of getting married. In August I will Marry:) Gods love for you is greater than our doubts and unworthiness. I hope this encourages you. You are precious and your desires are important!
Hi @@GameOnShanny. I’ve been single for the last 10 years so I can definitely empathize with how you might be feeling. Recently however I’ve been trying to rest in the promises that God has made in this area and that has really been helping me while I wait/search for the one I’ll marry. Just know and remember that regardless if you are with someone or not, that doesn’t change that fact that you are loved and out of the whole world God chose you to be his. He made you with such love and thoughtful intent that leaving you as an idea in His head was an impossibility for him. He loved you so much He wanted to create you just to have a relationship with you.
I encourage you to look up Gods promises and pray about them. Ask for his help with living a life from that place of love and I believe you will find freedom from this pain.
Father, I pray for @GameOnShanny and ask you to shower him/her in your love and that you’d help him/her with their struggle with finding a partner. I ask that you’d help GameOnShanny see from your perspective, that he/she would rest in the fact that you are good and that there is hope no matter how grim the circumstances look.
@@nicobody7797 congratulations. ☺️I pray i am not that far behind. Enjoy!
Mark the lord speaks through you , your work is slowly helping me , please carry on ,you are covering things that christian leaders in the uk ignore , i know the lord is blessing your ministry and im very pleased to call you a brother in christ
Bro thank you for this. Seriously. After struggling most of my life (over 15 years) with a serious porn addiction and desperate for some Christian resource to give me answers you came along. God has been healing me over the past few years and setting me free, but to hear the steps that brought me here has moved me deeply. Thank you
Ouch I've been dreading approaching this subject! There's almost not another struggle that is as sensitive as this.
Mark is the dad we never had 🥺
I second you 👏
Mark I like the 80’s synth intro. Has some Karate Kid/Beverly Hills Cop vibes 😂 keep it up
Mark, I listened to and will relisten to this wonderful video.
Your heart for people is so real. Ty for stepping into something humbling after being a senior pastor. That is Love ❤️☝🏼
Wow, you handled this heavy topic with so much grace and truth, Mark. Thank you for not shying away from these important issues - much appreciated!
Thank you Mark! Had to rewatch this💯🙏✨
Thank you for this video Mark. God bless you more in your ministry. 🙏🙏🙏
This is a really long (and great) video when pausing and rewinding to take notes, lol. Thank you for this. I'm up to 52 minutes so far and taking a break. Lots of great stuff here.
Wow! Mark you started this year with guns blazing! These topics have been ON👏🏽POİNT👏🏽
Thank you for these videos Pastor Mark, spiritually developmental and you hit the nail with the word "equipping". I dont have kids yet but i want to be a parent that talks to my kids about everything and help them place those desires into Jesus instead of worldly!! 🙏✝️💙🔥
Appreciate your work Mark it is very helpful and reminds of the elephant of the room having such a hyperfocus and ocd when it comes to thoughts and thank you for there talk of lust not many say it the way its described its helping to organize life. Jesus broke me out of a 17 year porn and video game addiction. Had a relapse for a year but came out again understanding more of wounds. Been struggling breaking out of masturbation and letting the shame n guilt get to me at times wondering why can’t I stop then looking at the law wow actually need more grace not sin focus, pushing forward gaining experience when facing temptations. The 5 year healing process in the brain sure is a journey, Peace be with you
God bless this ministry 🙏
35:34 - 35:37 - Lol I am definitely this form of a hugger. Overly cautious, especially with men due to the messages I received from well-meaning, but misguided purity culture . Mark is right in that sex is made to seem like such an untouchable subject that we as people struggle to view it properly.
Our sex drive is highly effected by how we learn to love. Coulda said that one sentance and closed it all out honestly. Am in the process of learning how to recieve his love atm and hes gonna have to defrag my heart of all the "programs" of and on love for me here. May post again lolol so profound bud!
My sex drive is high because I love sex. Simple as. Sex is amazing and I see no reason why not to enjoy it as often as possible in the context of marriage.
A big thank you to you Mark.
I am very blessed every time I listen to you on you tube and podcasts . I would highly recommend you to listen to Mark’s videos especially if you’re a new Christian on a learning journey, can be very rough particularly at the beginning of your walk with Christ ... God bless 😊
I feel the same ❤ GOD puts diferent people in our way for diferente reasons 🫂🙏🏾 god bless you all, thanks brother Mark and company ❤
thank you for having the talk that my parents were , and i quote " too embarrassed to talk about". massive healing going on, thank you man. May G-d continue to use you mightily
Can you do a video on how married couples can relate to each other better? Like actually relate? To where you're talking in a way that you're actually excited to talk to each other?
Thank you so much for this honest, refreshing view on this topic. So helpful!❤
I appreciate the vulnerability and the opportunity for grace to be expressed with compassion, if this issue was tackled with more grace and understanding, I am sure there would be more longevity in our lives as Christians!
You should make a video of a 10 hour loop of your joy dance break.
thank you so much mark, I never read what jezebel actually did, I had been wanting a polygamous relationship and wanted to know why it was wrong so I could beat the desire, now I will run from the desire as far and fast as God lets me, by learning real love. I have a beautiful fiance who does not deserve a man with wandering eyes, and an ungodly view on marriage. Thank you so much, Mark!
Mark, you are doing the LORD's work. Thank you.
This video is good for those battling with HOCD.. who think every same sex emotion is “gay” or mean they just turned gay..
take a deep breath evrything will be okay..
It’s not you at all. I struggled with the same thing and isolate myself from my same sex friend. The thing that helped was coming forward and sharing my feelings despite potential jidgement( she didn’t 😅), grounding myself and knowing that the devil likes to warp reality and make you think a way that isn’t true. Also now looking back it was OCD and obsession. The last thing I would say is that I had to do a bit of research to find other ppl with this same struggle. I’d use caution with this cause I hope you don’t spin into obsession and ruminating over things you read
Just found out you're also on Rumble- That's great! Adios TH-cam....
I can’t for the life and faith of me take it any longer the guilt and shame from the lordship/religious voices. I won’t act out in porn or lust but I do need to move forward in faith. I can. I know I’m just in the way at this point!
We actually do have references for proper male-male love and friendship. Orestes and Pylades, from Greek mythology is one reference. There are others, but they are ignored by the culture that is obsessed with sex. We tend not to call friendships love because we have a limited idea of love in our insane culture.
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I agree it’s important to talk to kids about sex and warn them about being touched inappropriately. They learn at such a young age sometimes. They need to know they are safe telling their parents if someone did something to them. I was SAed at the age of 8. I didn’t know what it was but something felt wrong and I was too scared to tell anyone because I didn’t want to get punished. My perpetrator was only 5. Somehow they already knew what oral was. It’s so sad but they need to know their privates shouldn’t be touched and that they can and should tell their parents or a trusted adult if it does happen
Also the Charmed TV series
I think my head is still too big. My jaw does need surgery and I personally have had an underbite for as long as I can remember for the last 30 years. I feel ya.
🫂"MY yolk is easy, burden light" We come as we are! Corinthians 15:1-4 is the Gospel, NOTHING added than the finish work of Jesus 💗
1:50:30 I didn’t get on the Twilight and Harry Potter kick but I did get into the Percy Jackson series. One that has been my biggest battle ground is in two apps called Obey Me! Shall We Date and Obey Me! Nightbringer. They are extremely occult (you romantically pursue demons, humans, and angels and you make pacts with demons in the games and use ouija board to summon), but it seems digestible because they make the characters with human characteristics and behaviors and you grow emotional bonds to the characters. There’s even a character that is portrayed like a 10yr old child but is actually an angel. Many players of the game grow a motherly/fatherly/sibling attachment to this character. I STILL struggle with the emotional connection to the characters. Those apps are dangerous. Not because it’s occult, but it gives a false sense of being loved and having a sense of family. I started this game at the beginning of 2020, and it helped me cope with the loneliness during lockdown. I wasn’t a Christian at this point and even got into actual occult like tarot and mediums. I lost my dad at the end of 2020 and prayed that God would help me and He showed me a sign that He was there. I have been in a battle between pursuing God for a time period and then falling back to playing this game. It’s a dangerous trap that I’m still trying to get free from 4yrs later. Please if any parents see this app on their child’s phone, please discuss it lovingly with them. It has very sexual themes and it’s very suggestive. It’s so addictive because the interactions make you feel loved, needed, and admired and the characters have flaws, but they actually grow as characters (unlike actual demons). It makes you root for them and want them to grow. Don’t play it please save yourself from the heart ache
27:55 “ohhh snap!!” 😂😂
My daughter adopted it at least they still let me talk with her
I'm 66 soon and still struggling
I used to live my life pleasing every one
I bind one to have a healthy, godly view of love, intimacy and sex in marriage in my life, the lives of my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquitances, opponents and the body of Christ while binding to hell every lack of having a healthy, godly view of love, intimacy and sex in marriage, binding to hell every unequal yoke and common share with anyone lacking to have a healthy, godly view of love, intimacy and sex in marriage, in accordance with this word and 1 corinthians 13:4-8, hebrews 13:4, romans 12:1-2, 1 corinthians 6:18, song of solomon 4:1, ephesians 5:22-33, 1 corinthians 7, 1 john 2:16, 1 thessalonians 2:17, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah, glory to God ❤!
I used to get so hijacked a little bit
I am trying to look at both sides and be open minded to them both. What are the flaws in the King James Only position
I hope Mark does a video on that. I heard about the king games only thing. I like the king James Bible but sometimes I need a translation that speaks at a lower reading comprehension level.
There’s clear differences in KVJ vs modern versions while I don’t think KJV is the only way. I don’t mind only reading KJV. It’s not that hard to understand, or way before reading God will show you truth
What about the things that someone might think are degrading to a woman during sex, but she actually enjoys it in your marriage bedroom?
I never should have been cheating but l did when l was young
I'm in my single season l do get way too lonely
Lust is one of those bad "quick fixes."
My biological daughter is engaged to get married
I am addicted to porn and masturbation. I experience, massive guilt and shame each and every time. I hate feeling these things, and they don’t do me any good. I’m afraid if I don’t feel these things, then how will I change? I feel hopeless about it.
How are you these days?
I really want to have a meaningful relationship it doesn't always have to sexually
Maybe im too screwed up to experience to love and sex. Idk. I want to have a healthy view of love and sex. Is it bad that i want a relationship?
Jesus said to love the Lord with all your might and all your soul. He also said to love your neighbor as yourself. There are no greater commandments than these.
Your want for a relationship isn't anywhere near bad. It's what God designed us for. We all just got to remember to love our future spouses like God loves us. With grace, mercy and compassion. Of course, we also have to put God first, and that means honoring his laws regarding pre-marital sex as well as how we conduct ourselves as husbands and wives.
"Loving God more than your spouse" may seem confusing, but when you look at the Bible and see what he asks of both husbands and wives, you'll see that the amount of love we're supposed to give to our spouse is greater than it could possibly be than if you tried without God in your life.
You're never too screwed up for that sort of thing. For with God, all things are possible.
Any suggestions for those in a sexless marriage where, despite scripture, withholds sexual contact permanently?
You gotta write a film script brother.
There are all kinds of branches
Idols always carry false Burdens
And l put idols into things
my sexuality was not born into brokedness 104 minutes dont assume everyone had the same guilt and shame experience
Am ,47 l don't look 47
9:00
Like l said l should have kept my legs closed a long time ago
I should have kept my legs closed a long time ago
Sadly the climate is collapsing from the stuff we have done carelessly since the industrial revolution on this planet
I had a baby out of wedlock
I mean If it goes to fornication.
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