I must have signed a bunch of contracts. What was I thinking???? I feel like I went into a narcissist ice cream parlor and decided to taste every flavor.
I was literally having these thoughts just before I came onto youtube and this video popped up. In order for us to experience what we came to experience someone had to be the bad guy, and sometimes we're even the bad guy in someone else's life...We have to forgive them.
I've been obsessively watching videos for the past year, and every so often a video will come along at a certain point in my healing, and it's like I've graduated to the next level of healing. I found this video at the exact right moment. It resonates with me so much. Thank you, I'd say I'm at the downhill part of my healing (in a good way... like hardest part is over). I love your perspective on narcissism and how so much of it is in a positive healing perspective and not just bashing the narcissist constantly. Definitely keep it up, love your vibes!!!
I get it what you say, it's like I've graduated to the next level. I sometime ask myself, why didn't I get this when I first started learning about narcissism. The answer I get is it wasn't the right time to get it, it's like being in kidder garden, you have to learn to count first and then you learn to add. Love it and thank you Narc I have become closer to God.
I really like your take on the subject. It makes sense. I feel that is why it is so hard to detach from a narcissist. The soul connection. Thank you for shedding light on this topic.
This resonates with me hugely. I have been in a marriage for 30+years and its like a continuous tornado and when the tornado stops for a week or two, off it goes again. Of course i have made many bad calls and judgements and spent thousands of hours trying to figure it out and no real outcome and about 6 years ago I thought ' Did i make an agreement with God to come to this life situation ?' and this ties in with the Soul contract that you have mentioned. I do now think this world and our lifetime here is similar to going to school, a learning experience be it good or bad or whatever. Forgiveness is the most important in this world and within. I have this reasoning that each of our lives are intertwined in many ways and i see each of our lives as a book that has no end or beginning, our true lives story (A 360 degree book, its a circular book if you will) and all our lives books are in a library (Heaven, the universe). We come to this earth/life (A chapter in our book), the episodes of our lives (a paragraph), a day in our lives (A sentence). Now our life's book , happens to be opened where we decided and our story plays out before us (A chapter)and that chapter may be sad, joy, terror, peace, turmoil , calm, etc, etc. this is the learning or experience. We leave this world and the next chapter begins but it could be any chapter in our book. but the story goes on with no end. The title of our life's book is LOVE. Good lord i think i have pushed my tiny mind to its limits here. LOL. I hope you understand what i have tried to put in words. God bless to everyone past , present or future on their interesting journeys. Keep safe, keep well and have a laugh when you can. I need a cup of tea asap.
Ugh... I saw the typo as soon as I uploaded this. Sorry, folks!! But if you can get past that this video is one that I think is important for anyone following a spiritual path who has also been affected by an emotionally abusive person. Let me know what you think!
Divine timing on my hearing this video. I entered “soul contracts” in search because I have a twin flame/soul that has brought me so much torment. This is the first time I am admitting that he is a narcissist and I know I am to learn from him. But! Through us working together, he could make a free will choice to “change” his patterns in order to grow spiritually, yes?
I absolutely love your videos no doubt I mean they’re very insightful and I do take notes and then go back to put my thoughts together. They are very helpful no doubt. I have been in situations where I have tried to get the narcissist to seek therapy for things that happened in their childhood. But it’s like a coming up against a brick wall, they honestly do not see where their childhood is impacting who they are, how they think, their actions and relationships with people in their life. I see the drama, I see their sadness, I see their loneliness, my heart goes out to them it really does. At the same time I know I must distance myself from them. This saddens me it does because I also see the good person inside trying their best to get out.😢
I had a spiritual awakening after 10 years of narcissist abuse. I recently met someone else after being single for 8 months, another narcissist, but I spotted it very early, within a few days. Was the second one sent to turn the volume up and test me? I believe so. I believe that was definitely a soul contract.
They will always be attracted to you and you will always sense the je ne se cua in return--in both cases--each will avoid the other if the game cannot be played--no exchange of energy can occur.
You can break that soul contract if you want to. It is a lie that you NEED TO FEEL HORRIBLE to grow. There is a way. You break that vow thru energetical replacement. Your soul needs some kind of contract, you just need to replace the bad one with the good one. I can help with that. I promise no BS.
I am five years without a relationship ever since I left the narcissist, almost everyone available I met is a narcissist, I went through the same problem then decided to give up and focus on my spiritual well-being.
It seems like EVERY relationship I've ever had has been with a narcissist! Lovers, friends and family. The last narcissist in my life was hiding as a covert and had been in my life for 26 years as a friend! This one broke me, I finally ended the insanity and started to deal with MY issues. I am not sure I'm on board with this theory, because I NEVER would have chosen this path knowingly. That being said I will be forever grateful to this covert narc for making it ABUNDANTLY clear that I needed to change.
jcsrst Yes. Like you, I’ve had my share of toxic people in my life who showed narcissistic behaviors. The last one, with whom I related for a total of almost 30 years, was the one who “broke” me, helped me to break through my denial, and move me toward my healing. He was “covert/vulnerable”, so there were wonderful moments interspersed with increasingly demeaning behaviors that caused me great emotional pain. That pain drove me toward a trauma therapist who used EMDR and CBT therapies. The first healed my brain and created new neural pathways. The second helped to retrain my thought patterns, which helped me to see things CLEARLY. Two years and almost 9 months of no contact and I have been able to change numerous “bad” habits and become more social. Before I left the relationship, I thanked him for his behaviors. He seemed confused. What he didn’t know was how his behaviors (distancing, raging/silent treatment, no affection, accusations, etc.) assisted me to seek help to change me and to deal with childhood and relationship abuse. I see him as a valuable individual who has likely assisted many people to come into their higher self-knowledge. I don’t like his behaviors or the behaviors of other, similar individuals. However, I see them as individuals who awaken the ones who are “asleep” to their higher selves. Blessings!❤️
You say you would never "knowingly" choose the path you are on, but at the same time are "abundantly grateful" all the same...a double edged sword indeed. 😉
I always had a feeling that my relationship with narcissist are temporary... we was teaching each other a lessons... he was pushing my buttons and I was showing him the true meaning of Loyalty and depth of Love... he admitted he never met anyone like me before... 5 years of lessons lol
A narcissist never learns or likes to be taught or acknowledges any learning coming from others. Regardless, the good part is that you could learn what you had to.👍
Thank you so much for being completely authentic and sharing this. And I honestly agree. I think that there is an opportunity to grow on both sides. The reason why narcissist rage happens is because we reflect what the narcissist needs to work on. And they resist taking the responsibility. But we do this too. But in a different way. We resist the help. It’s their choice weather they want to accept that help or not and it isn’t in our control or even our conscious understanding. And they are also reflecting what we need to work on. And it is our choice to accept that help or not. And some people never do. Just like sometimes the narcissist never does. And maybe if we accept that help, we can move on in the next life. And if we don’t, we may end up back on earth again until we get on our correct path.
It does resonate and is very much in alignment with my spiritual views. It's the highest and most healing perspective to take on the situation. Much respect!!
You always look so cute, young, and perky! And you make this dark topic feel sparkly. It’s like you’re from the future of the people these videos need to reach. A happier time, filled with fun, hope, and glory. Thank you!
I agree. my ex boyfriend was the greatest teacher I have ever had...now healing from the trauma and sending him love and light everytime he crosses my mind. ❤🙏🏻
My gosh! I have chills now. I’m an atheist, but now I question my views a lot. After my “no contact” regime implementation I had a lot of weird and powerful dreams about my narcissist. In one of them I saw very crystal clear that I was trying to message him and his, but, you know, mature and tender voice, like I knew that it was his REAL voice said. He used the same pauses between words, same expirations and sighs: “Darling, can you see that there is nobody here? (sigh) Don’t do it. Forgive me. We’ll meet again. I promise. I love you”. I don’t remember my dreams frequently but this dream I remember very clearly. Maybe it wasn’t just my experience? I feel fully relieved after this dream. I know that I just should move on. Thank you for your video, great no know that I’m not the only one with such thoughts.
This resonates big time !!! My husband died 11 years ago and I am being strongly divinely guided to finish my end of the contract . And thank you because now I know what I must do. Huge relief to know now! Thank you
Your empathy is shining through in this video. I can feel you holding back tears. This is such a lovely way to look at the abuse endured. It is making me feel better! So thank you.
Your videos are giving me the oxygen I need right now to try and. get out of a 30 year relationship. I am so thankful to have found your channel. It's helping to keep me on the path on the weaker days and giving me so much understanding and clarity. Over the past 30 years I. have so many instances of divine intervention and I never paid heed. Now I pray everyday to be taken to the right place, no matter how hard it gets. Thank you. for sharing so honestly.
Yes it resonates and it helps to be grateful for the experience and the transformation to finally find inner validation and self love. It helps to let go of the hatred that is like drinking a cup of poison yourself hoping the narc will die of it. Thank your for your high quality content en positive vibe. You are truly light and love.
I just found you recently and I am in total agreement with you on this. I was raised by a narcissistic mother and alcoholic father. Married a physically abusive narcissists for 25 yrs before I just walked away...the pull to walk was so strong...its been 6 yrs and I can honestly say that even though it was horrible and I don't wish that on anyone I have found myself. It hasn't been easy and still learning but your videos help me understand the why.
I don't see it as a "soul contract". I see my highly abusive relationship as a series of very bad decisions I made based on my ignorance and unconscious programming to fit a "role" and my partners programming to fit his "role". Through the grace of source and the unbearable pain, I woke up and was able to shed that programming and get myself to a higher vibration. I've been able to elevate my narc partner ever so slightly, with much compassion and forgiveness and a willingness on his part in brief and fleeting moments to attempt to understand what happened to his once willing partner in our dysfunctional dance. But for the most part, I've been long gone and on to the next part of my journey, while he seeks a new unconscious dance partner to continue the abuse with. That's his journey, not mine. He makes his own choices.
@@theself5738 while I understand what you are saying from the context of the new thought paradigm, to me its just the same old "victim-blaming, blame shifting game" in a shiny new mystical wrapper. I prefer to stay grounded and own my stuff and stop letting people put their responsibility for abuse onto me. No one deserves abuse, no matter what they supposedly do in this lifetime or any other. If there's anything I need to learn, that's the lesson. I have heard this "soul contract" idea presented a number of different ways on many new thought channels and the logic never holds up. It's a particularly heinous thing to tell someone who has been abused and gaslighted that the abuse is their fault, because if they haven't healed, like I have, they may actually believe that baloney.
What you say in this video definitely resonates with me. I actually just thought thoughts of that kind, and then opened the Internet to distract myself and found your video ( been watching you for awhile now and I gotta say you been very helpful and do what you do in a great way. So thank you for that!)
I really love your philosophy! Thank you so much for making this video and having your perspective and feeling comfortable enough and confident to share!!❤️
I've been reading up on soul contracts and even purchased a book on the subject. I am subscribed to other channels on TH-cam on narcissism. I typed soul contract in the TH-cam search bar and can across your videos. You just confirmed what I was thinking after reading up on soul contracts and also provided information that I did not think of. I subscribed to your channel. I have never seen any other youtuber talk about narcissist and soul contracts. Thank you and I also love your positive energy by the way.
I believe empaths may agree to come help another wounded person, but I don't believe its a pact between two souls, but a pact between one angel and God to help a struggling soul. Not every one comes here as an angel on a mission, those who do have a memory of the contract. Forgiveness works in this situation as well.
I married an overt narcissist and was with him for 13 years. I had a dream of a guy whom I later met and we had a 7 year on/ off relationship. He introduced me to the term NPD bc his parents were malignant narcissists and it all made sense. Then being in quarantine with him I realized he is a covert narcissist. Always healing and learning self love is my lesson. I believe I was divinely guided too. Just sucks I gave him so much of my time & energy but that’s part of the lesson. Thanks for your videos. 💙💜💚♥️
Thank you. This is really powerful. I have a covert narcissist in my life that is triggering my past wounds. Thank you for letting me see the underlying souls contract that brought this person onto my life. Now I need to heal my wounds and let go of this person so the soul contact can be completed.
I watched this video three years and it changed my life forever. After this video, I went through a wild spiritual awakening and synchronized moments that I couldn’t explain. I just wanted to thank you for your content and getting me out of that terrible relationship. I’ve been no contact for a year now and can’t believe how great my life is without him.
I am so happy to have found you. I was widowed after 27 years with a wonderful loving man. I just left an 8 year relationship with an altruistic narcissist. I've been so confused about the difference between these two men. I was so drawn to the narcissist. I was newly back into the dating world and met him and was compelled to be with him even though a few other great guys were there. He caught me when I was very raw from my husband's death. He found all of my weaknesses. Then the gifts and helping all at a price. Anyway, after many fights with him making me feel like everything was always my fault, I quit. I am also a very spiritual person. I read Michael Newton. I feel like we had a contract. There is no other way to explain my desire to be with him. Thank you for confirming what I have been trying to figure out. Got out in July but have been still in touch. Realizing it's time to cut the cord. Actually, I visualize cutting the cord often, but free will lets it attach again. Working on forgiveness and letting go and thanking him for helping my growth. Thank you.
I cannot CANNOT get enough of these videos that deeply discuss the spiritual aspect/connection of the phenomenon known as th trauma bond. It is SO ENLIGTHENING, GROUNDING, AND HEALING. because all matters in life NO MATTER WHAT THEY ARE is a road pointing directly to spiritual awakening; this being MOST true when the matter is traumatic and/or painful. Also, throughout my experience I've often questioned, are these signs and synchronicities that are so UNCANNY all in my head? Or is this real, the universe is truly giving me the message that I think that it is giving? Hearing you talk about your spiritual awakening helps me feel less alone, more sane, AND it helps me remember that all these signs and messages are just part of the passing through, part of the human journey, that happens to us all.
Absolutely spot on! One of my major breakthrough on my healing journey is that at one moment I bursted out in tear and agony, “but I didn’t sign up for!” It was almost like a spell. I didn’t even know what it meant, but I felt a strong sense of relief, breaking free from something. Even though later my spiritual teacher/trauma therapist told me, oh remember your soul chose it. I knew that yes, my soul chose him and others to show my shadows to me to work on. However, I can also choose to end it, annul it cuz I’m done with it.
Absolutely. I'm veering between compassion and anger over the destruction. This is an essential video for anyone in the narcissist's world. Thank you kindly. *Like, Share, Subscribe*
Soul contracts are real. This will sound unbelievable...but the day I laid eyes on HIM walking out of the student union, I heard a voice in my head clearly say, "there goes your future mate". It stunned me because I had never heard that voice, or at least I had never paid attention to it. After the moment passed, I never gave him a second thought. I completely forgot about him until the next time I ran into him again more than a year later after he had returned to university from a study abroad. When I saw him that day, I was walking across campus, and I noticed him walking towards me. I recognized him immediately (even though the first encounter lasted only minutes, was from a distance, and we never made eye contact). At this next sighting, my heart immediately started POUNDING in my chest. I was so overwhelmed by this sensation that I quickly diverted to avoid walking past him and stepped behind a column to steady myself. I was absolutely bewildered by my reaction to this complete stranger. Later that very same evening, I was to meet my friend to see our favorite local band at a bar we patronized regularly. I arrived late so I had to make my way thru the crowd to find my friend jumping in the mosh pit and enjoying the show. After greeting her, I turned back to see the crowd, and HE was standing directly behind me, leaning on the bar and watching the band too! I couldn't believe my eyes! I started to think we were destined to meet, and by the end of the evening, we did... That night marked the beginning of our 25 years of entanglement. After too many betrayals and far too much heartache, I finally hit my limit with what I could endure so I began the painful (and expensive) process of extracting myself from the entanglement and our marriage. We've been divorce nearly a year now, and although I regret how much time, money, and energy I have lost during this saga, I have come to the conclusion that it was my destiny. At this point in time, everything that we had built together, has been destroyed: our family, our businesses, our investments, our security, and our future, and he despises me for finally breaking free (even though he's already moved on and moved in with his next target before the divorce was finalized). Looking back on all of it now, I do think I must have been a complete asshole in my previous life to have endured so much loss, abuse, and misfortune in this one. So yes, I do believe these soul contracts exist, however I have made it my mission to heal myself this time, and to never enter into any more agreements with this one!
I can agree 100% that’s what I feel is going on. I’m very grateful to To run into this video because I have been trying to get myself to keep in mind that everything is for reason and everything is meant to put me more in line with my purpose. When I saw this I knew that it was a sign for me to have more patience and understand that everything in this reality is to push me to become better. I am now taking time to look at the situation as a whole and just think” what lessons can I learn from dealing with this person?” “ what can I improve for the future?” Sometimes there’s really nothing you can do other than take yourself from away from certain situations and people💯🔥 thanks again! I’m subscribing ‼️
I love this! After seven years I finally figured out he wasn’t my twin flame but was a narcissist instead. It all makes sense! Since we’re both married to others, most of the contact was email. He awakened me to God and in every way it was like a twin spiritual connection except that he never loved me , never supported me , but was like a vampire and I kept giving, so certain he was the love of my life. Ha! I do agree that it was a powerful soul contract to awaken me and put me on to my life’s work. And this shift just took place and I feel free. I also know there is deep soul love between our souls but his ego and ways could never allow him to feel it. I also talked with a psychic friend who looked deeper into it energetically and confirmed with her and my guides that he isn’t my twin, but the man I’m married to is from my twin soul family, and that my true twin lives in the US . I am thrilled to be healing my marriage and if god brings my true twin in I’ll deal with it but I am in no hurry to go there. Thank you for the video. I know these connections are soul contracts that are divinely guided.
Yes, I found topic very interesting. I believe the relationship is divinely guided, but only for the empaths humility, and learning process towards spirituality, but not in the narcissistic benefiting. He helps us become who we were meant to be, but he/she is still doing wrong, and I don’t believe anyone benefits from acting in such a manner
Yes I do see it as a soul contract and I’m still on my healing journey with rapid spiritual growth from within the relationship (if you can call it that). I remain for now as I do believe the narcissist made the contract not just for your expansion but for their own perhaps. They too could have made the contract with you for their growth out of ego. I know that it is rare but as I keep growing, setting boundaries, and spiritually advancing, with the strength of Spirit, God, Divinity I am challenging them too in their growth. We will see what they choose, but I remain growing even if it is growth by fire.
I am so glad I found this video and the one about spiritual awaking. It describes exactly what I have been experiencing the last couple of months. It starts all making sense to me now. I now know how to continue my journey here on earth, without remorse. Thank you Common Ego.
You the only person I relate to. Everything that you say makes so much sense to me. Thank you for these videos. It is through these that I am able to be in control of myself
Very insightful! Everything I've felt on an intuitive level perfectly articulated! This validation is a beautiful way to start my day and current path of healing 🙏 Thank you for sharing this invaluable wisdom!!
This perspective of a Empath/Narc entanglement is a far better definition of this type of relationship than the negative victim hood. Changes your paradigm and saves us from falling into the pit holes of the egos traps. We are all on earth to evolve and that entails painful lessons!
Part of the empaths growth is to learn to set boundaries for themselves because if not they’ll keep getting walked over and only if the narcissist is proactively willing to change may the empath help them love themselves and reduce their ego and likewise if not they’ll continue being a self defeating narcissist. It always takes two to grow together in a relationship
I loved "If you wanna honor this contract heal yourself".... I already had thought about it... its too much painfull... but is forcing me to examine why is it so painfull? Thank you very much.
This was absolutely something I needed to hear today. I know I am in this kind of relationship, on and off. What is so confusing is that I feel like in this other person has two different souls or has two different past lives with me mixed up with this one where we are in now. It has been couple of times he has said to me some things that he has no clue at all. He can't renember those moments and I think he is scared of any type of situations like that. And I've felt that there is more than one past life attached and is coming through some how. But anyway I am sure that soul contracts has something to do with our unexplainable relationship.
Wow I’m in my 3rd relationship and for the first time I’ve asked God what His will is in this trial and I’m meant to stay in this one for the time being until hubby realizes he has is own free will to want better or move forward with out me. So glad for this video and confirmation God has given me with the way you’ve articulated into verbal words that I felt
We were both 'spiritual'. He took the role of 'spiritial teacher' - but it was funny when Id meditate etc through his instructions for example, and listen to my inner self, voice, it was telling me to leave him, hes not good for me, but I didnt want to because I loved him and he was like my everthing at the time... should of trusted myself and not the 'teacher' that was putting me down 😔❤... I feel broken.
It's sad. Have you heard about the spiritual narcissist? I've been through this with my ex, and he used to blame me whenever I'd stand for myself using self knowledge phrases, when he was actually abusing me and not taking responsability for what he was doing...
I believe it because I feel it deep in my soul no pun intended, I was with my Narcissist for 21 years then went back with him for 8 months then understood that I am unable to make him see that what he has done to me is wrong so this time around I am understanding more about Karmic soul contracts and he is definitely one, big time! When I met him I knew I had known him from before and this was when I was still a sleep per say. Now that I understand more I really don’t ask “why God, why me?” Because I now know that I’m here to go through a journey that I’m meant to go through and I have accepted wherever happens in my life. Of course doing the best and being the best I can be with everyone in my life and the entire world. I also do think that this is my last Karmic soul contract, I know this because something inside of me tells me (guides me) I am living my best life and loving every moment.
This is good, and spot on. I have had several good teachers put into my life, but for whatever reason, this last one was the best. I have had this awakening of which you speak, and while surely painful, it is equally gratifying..... and much needed. Thank you for creating and putting forth such solid content. Yer an compelling orator and a powerful voice in a noisy landscape. Keep up the good work. Andrew
The whole time I was with him I kept thinking he was sent from God to heal me. His mother felt like the mom I always wanted and he had familiar characteristics like my brother, mother and father. I was convinced that if I could get him to accept me that all my childhood wounds would be filled in and made good. I continuously thought this the whole 3 years we were together. If I could get to that point all this pain from being with him would be worth it. That acceptance was always just out of reach the same way it was with my parents. I lost myself. I can’t even say that bc I’ve never had myself. When he finally discarded me for the last time it felt like my heart was ripped open. There was no one there to tell me who I was anymore. No mom, dad, brother daughter. No one to tell me I was good or bad. Their voices were still in my head with the lies of what I bad person I was. What you are saying in your video makes so much sense to me because I witnessed what you are talking about first hand. He was a duplicate of my family in the way he treated me. He would do the same things they did. The way he held his hand sometimes was like my brother and the way he clicked his gum and made his jaw move sideways, the way he was an alcoholic and a narc at the same time. So many more things that I just observed and kept to myself. He drew all of my senses in as if he were planted here to lure me into the final test, aka my bottom. He came to heal me all right but not the way I had dreamed of. I was thinking more of he accepts me and loves me like I love him and we live happily ever after. But no, he was sent here to show me that I cannot rely on anyone to tell me who I am. No one’s approval or love will complete me. I’m on the path to healing now and I’m so grateful for all of the narcs in my life because and I can see so clear now. Thank you for your video. ♥️
Michael Newton's books (Journey of Souls, Destiny of Souls) elaborates on the soul contract concept. Narcissists provide learning opportunities that aren't available any other way. Struggle with approval and wise giving? They will play you until you upskill. They're a gym of sorts.
Thank-you. I have suspected the very same theory for some time now. It was so good to hear you explain it. Thank-you again and Bless You with Love and Light
I totally agree with you re soul contract. When shit started happening I wasn't sure what to do cause I thought "well, I know where it is coming from". I am so spiritual ... haha!!! I can do it ... I can stay and save his lost soul...well, i was loosing myself staying in that relationship .So it took a good year and a half to make the decision to leave. I guess we have to do what we have to do while we are here on earth in our meat suits. That is our job not to be afraid to stay whole and happy... It's all a play, a movie anyway... Nothing serious is going on here... Thank you for the upload Really needed this one today You are a blessing
I was coming out of a relationship with a guy that I wouldn't describe as a narcissist but he was selfish with his time and got a bit abusive after a couple of drinks to a guy who has narcissistic traits and was pretty much abusive all the time. We're in the flying monkeys stage now 😬 I think you may be on point here. Most major events in my life, I've experienced familiarity with the main people concerned. I had surgery back in 2012 and it might sound strange but I felt like I'd met the surgeon that operated on me before but not in this lifetime. There was a total familiarity about his energy and the way he looked. The relationship I just got out of was horrid but I feel that my souls progress has been completely flung forward
I think me being in a 30 year marriage with a covert narcissist I feel there is a reason why this happened to me. Things just don't happen on there own in this world theres always reason for it and why it happened and who it happened too
My mom passed away when I was 4, and my dad who is a narcissist himself, remarried another narcissist who was twice as awful as he was. This woman hated my guts from the moment she laid eyes on me (I was 7 when she came into my life) she never passed up an opportunity to make my life miserable in some way, or make me feel worthless. Not a single day went by that she didn't physically, or emotionally abuse me. Since I learned my karmic debt number is 16/7 ...I just figured she might be someone I wronged in a previous life and she was just put in my life to get her revenge, that helped me to start healing. I hadn't even thought about the idea of a soul contract.... but it makes so much sense. 🤯
Absolutely agree with everything you said in this video. Had to listen to it several times. Didn't know about the soul contract from previous life though. Fascinating.
GREAT VIDEO & EDUCATION. I LEARNED SO MUCH. I AGREE WITH YOU ON EVERYTHING. EXCEPT FOR THE SOUL TIES. BUT THERE IS A DEEPER CONNECTION BETWEEN THE NARC & EMPATH. I AM STILL ON MY EDUCATION JOURNEY AS WELL. THANKS FOR SHARING!!!!
Wow, that raised some interesting questions for me. I kind of knew quite early on there was something really badly "off" in my relationship and i also at some point, also quite early on, had an insight that this relationship would be the one to push me in the direction i needed to go in to heal my emotional wounds and set me on the path i needed to walk. As you said, the emotional issues were in my face and i felt so strongly at times he was such a mirror for me. But as the relationship went on i lost that clarity to a certain extent before a final discard (just before my birthday) and i was able to re-evaluate what had been happening and this set me on my path to healing.I feel very lucky to be able to be the one to heal this time around. I really hope i have learned the lessons this time because in a lot of ways it could have been a lot worse.
I have just awaken and realized im a heyoka empath and i worked out i was with a narcissist for 8 years I didn't even know what that was to find out there are people who cant love feel or use people till they kill themselves blows my world my heart is so big with so much empathy is the best gift you could receive and in PROUD TO SAY IM A HEYOKA EMPATH CHILD OF GOD i forgive him cause it helped me find my life purpose I actually feel bad for him to never be able to feel love which is the best feeling and hardest to ever find is sad he thinks he hurt me but i know i mirrored him that good that i hope he dont hurt anymore people cause it is sad people not as strong as me take there life and these narcissist dont even care and just move on to the next SUPPLY im hoping with my awakening i attract as much narcissist as i can and give them a wake up call I know im strong enough to take on the narcissist i believe your right i think the life before i was the narcissist and this time ive came back as a heyoka empath to try to change the world cause what narcissist are aint human this is our year EMPATHS AND WE COME TOGETHER TO CHANGE THE FUTURE WE ARE AWAKENING
I realized about my psychic abilities and soo many other things about myself. It does feel like divinely guided coz whenever I tried to move on from him I would see him from nowhere. We were not in relationship but I was entangled with him mysteriously. 😊
In my situation my Narc and I have karmic ties and most likely a soul Contract. After being with him for 15 years something told me to do a compatability report. It showed that we have soul mate/ Karmic tie aspects . What came back in the report was that We have been married in a past life. It was a time when men owned their wives and that I was his property. Here is where it gets really interesting. We have a consensual bdsm relationship. I'm his slave, he owns me. Also it is this part of the relationship I'm addicted to. I love that he owns me and can't imagine having this type of relationship with any one else. I want to do a past life regression to gain more insight. I'm grateful for having this knowledge it has helped me heal and forgive myself for not being able to break free completely.
Wow I started seeing the number 222 just prior to meeting my Narcassist. And still see it randomly since being in are relationship which has been so devaluing to my self-esteem I am now being seen for depression. But there is so much more to this story. Like my intuition becoming so spot on that it was more like I was physic.
I was born with a narcissist parent, and then encountered another narcissist who was a spiritual teacher, and separated myself from both of those people. It was highly abusive and I became physically ill. Now, I’m in another relationship, however, this person is willing to work together through it. And I feel as if I am ready to continue healing, and seeing the areas I need to empower. And yes, it seems like a soul contract, and I also wonder if I’m crazy for doing this, lol.
I just recently found your channel and started watching. This by far is the one video that has me most fascinated. I have a Narcissist Father and sister. However, these primary damaging relationships have set me up for numerous narcissistic relationships throughout my life in all areas-work, school, friends and former boyfriends. Many years ago I heard about soul contracts, but I had not encountered the term or thought about the concept in such a long time that I had forgotten about it. Will you be speaking more about this in the future?
I have several narcisists in key roles in my life. They do push me to awakening (all going either no contact or gray rock as I type). Now if you consider the twin flame theory, I do believe my twin flame, who is a narcisist, is an incarnation of my own soul that happened to meet another incarnation of that same soul ("me"). It is awakening as intense as it gets. I used to feel present and aware whenever I met him. We kinda went no contact on good terms, he knows he harms me but can't help it. I am focused on myself fully now because of what i went through during this toxic relationship. It does have a soul purpose. Thank you for your videos.
I understand now. My narc had so many Devine signs that we were meant to meet. One thing was our DL. I had on my issue date 11/05/19 and he had 09/28 on his as an issue date. It was crazy. So many spiritual connections. Thank you. I appreciate him more now and understand that he is here and helped me learn about my spiritual purpose and things I need to work on. I love him and release him.
Fascinating idea, my narcissist didn't destroy me but he taught me a lot about myself and my life up to now. I love him but I'm happy that I don't live with him every day
Magnetic. Moth to a flame. Traumatised children attract other traumatised children instinctually and when they are on opposite ends of the spectrum (Narc-Empath) it naturally creates a balance. This is a magnet for the perfect dysfunctional dance partners, in the dance of the macabre. Been there, done that, awake and aware now and done with that lunacy!
I would love to know this was a soul contract. I find this so healing and enlightening. How would the narcissist take this info if it were to be shared? Would they be offended? Would they continue the narrative that I’m just BATSHITT CRAZY!! LOL
Thank you for the video and your perspective! I do think that relationships with narcissists bring issues/dynamics more to the surface. I also think that relationships with people who are not narcissists does that, though perhaps more subtly. My experience is that many empaths have already looked deeply at their issues and have a lot of self-awareness going into relationships with narcissists. Many for example, have really good boundaries and maturity. I wonder if aside from the contract on a one-to-one level, there is a larger meta soul/societal level contract for balance and integration between these people of such varying capacities and ability to connect. Though most narcissists don't change in the long-term, I wonder if there is a very long-term impact on a neurological and evolutionary level. All this to say my own sense is that what is happening between individual empaths and narcissists seems bigger than just the interpersonal or individual evolution. Thanks again!
Yes!! I also believe it's much bigger than the individual level, but everything we experience is a reflection of our internal world, so it's also about the individual. I have some thoughts on the overall perspective, and there's so much I want to cover on this channel, but I'm trying to ease into it. 😅 Thank you for sharing your perspective 🙏❤
She said before we met for real " im not afraid of your energy and light" when we met for real she destroyed my soul in 3 days. 10 years of healing finding answers. Im now a behaviorist "Bachelor of science major psychology, K B T and M I, working as a supporter, helper, therapist with people with mental illness etc. That`s a vacation comparing to deal with the deep soulcontract with the narcissist. For the record: i also had similiar experiences with other women but not so extreme deeply painful as that experience.
Absolutely divinely guided! After 17 years of blindfoldedness, I woke up to the mind games and manipulation. Just like that, one phrase, one event! Have been so many others way more obvious! After that I've been thru numerous steps of awakening. Unable to literally leave the situation but totally checked out emotionally. Q: Combining forgiveness with non-enabling could buy me some time to get my financial independence back or even waking him up to emotional healing?tks
The Narcissist taught me a lot about myself, and certainly opened up my awareness that I shouldn't be so trusting.
I must have signed a bunch of contracts. What was I thinking???? I feel like I went into a narcissist ice cream parlor and decided to taste every flavor.
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I was literally having these thoughts just before I came onto youtube and this video popped up. In order for us to experience what we came to experience someone had to be the bad guy, and sometimes we're even the bad guy in someone else's life...We have to forgive them.
I've been obsessively watching videos for the past year, and every so often a video will come along at a certain point in my healing, and it's like I've graduated to the next level of healing. I found this video at the exact right moment. It resonates with me so much. Thank you, I'd say I'm at the downhill part of my healing (in a good way... like hardest part is over). I love your perspective on narcissism and how so much of it is in a positive healing perspective and not just bashing the narcissist constantly. Definitely keep it up, love your vibes!!!
I get it what you say, it's like I've graduated to the next level. I sometime ask myself, why didn't I get this when I first started learning about narcissism. The answer I get is it wasn't the right time to get it, it's like being in kidder garden, you have to learn to count first and then you learn to add. Love it and thank you Narc
I have become closer to God.
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I really like your take on the subject. It makes sense. I feel that is why it is so hard to detach from a narcissist. The soul connection. Thank you for shedding light on this topic.
This resonates with me hugely. I have been in a marriage for 30+years and its like a continuous tornado and when the tornado stops for a week or two, off it goes again. Of course i have made many bad calls and judgements and spent thousands of hours trying to figure it out and no real outcome and about 6 years ago I thought ' Did i make an agreement with God to come to this life situation ?' and this ties in with the Soul contract that you have mentioned. I do now think this world and our lifetime here is similar to going to school, a learning experience be it good or bad or whatever. Forgiveness is the most important in this world and within. I have this reasoning that each of our lives are intertwined in many ways and i see each of our lives as a book that has no end or beginning, our true lives story (A 360 degree book, its a circular book if you will) and all our lives books are in a library (Heaven, the universe). We come to this earth/life (A chapter in our book), the episodes of our lives (a paragraph), a day in our lives (A sentence). Now our life's book , happens to be opened where we decided and our story plays out before us (A chapter)and that chapter may be sad, joy, terror, peace, turmoil , calm, etc, etc. this is the learning or experience. We leave this world and the next chapter begins but it could be any chapter in our book. but the story goes on with no end. The title of our life's book is LOVE. Good lord i think i have pushed my tiny mind to its limits here. LOL. I hope you understand what i have tried to put in words. God bless to everyone past , present or future on their interesting journeys. Keep safe, keep well and have a laugh when you can. I need a cup of tea asap.
Ugh... I saw the typo as soon as I uploaded this. Sorry, folks!! But if you can get past that this video is one that I think is important for anyone following a spiritual path who has also been affected by an emotionally abusive person. Let me know what you think!
I think you're saying what I was feeling and thinking... amazingly your channel came up to my attention... it really helps... thank you.. xx
Divine timing on my hearing this video. I entered “soul contracts” in search because I have a twin flame/soul that has brought me so much torment. This is the first time I am admitting that he is a narcissist and I know I am to learn from him. But! Through us working together, he could make a free will choice to “change” his patterns in order to grow spiritually, yes?
I completely agree. Very grateful I found your channel. ❤️
I absolutely love your videos no doubt I mean they’re very insightful and I do take notes and then go back to put my thoughts together. They are very helpful no doubt. I have been in situations where I have tried to get the narcissist to seek therapy for things that happened in their childhood. But it’s like a coming up against a brick wall, they honestly do not see where their childhood is impacting who they are, how they think, their actions and relationships with people in their life. I see the drama, I see their sadness, I see their loneliness, my heart goes out to them it really does. At the same time I know I must distance myself from them. This saddens me it does because I also see the good person inside trying their best to get out.😢
I had a spiritual awakening after 10 years of narcissist abuse. I recently met someone else after being single for 8 months, another narcissist, but I spotted it very early, within a few days.
Was the second one sent to turn the volume up and test me? I believe so. I believe that was definitely a soul contract.
They will always be attracted to you and you will always sense the je ne se cua in return--in both cases--each will avoid the other if the game cannot be played--no exchange of energy can occur.
You can break that soul contract if you want to. It is a lie that you NEED TO FEEL HORRIBLE to grow. There is a way. You break that vow thru energetical replacement. Your soul needs some kind of contract, you just need to replace the bad one with the good one. I can help with that. I promise no BS.
I am five years without a relationship ever since I left the narcissist, almost everyone available I met is a narcissist, I went through the same problem then decided to give up and focus on my spiritual well-being.
I’m married to a narcissist and I am so anxious to break out of the mental abuse. There’s only so much more I can take
Definitely.
It seems like EVERY relationship I've ever had has been with a narcissist! Lovers, friends and family. The last narcissist in my life was hiding as a covert and had been in my life for 26 years as a friend! This one broke me, I finally ended the insanity and started to deal with MY issues. I am not sure I'm on board with this theory, because I NEVER would have chosen this path knowingly. That being said I will be forever grateful to this covert narc for making it ABUNDANTLY clear that I needed to change.
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Yes. Like you, I’ve had my share of toxic people in my life who showed narcissistic behaviors.
The last one, with whom I related for a total of almost 30 years, was the one who “broke” me, helped me to break through my denial, and move me toward my healing.
He was “covert/vulnerable”, so there were wonderful moments interspersed with increasingly demeaning behaviors that caused me great emotional pain. That pain drove me toward a trauma therapist who used EMDR and CBT therapies. The first healed my brain and created new neural pathways. The second helped to retrain my thought patterns, which helped me to see things CLEARLY.
Two years and almost 9 months of no contact and I have been able to change numerous “bad” habits and become more social.
Before I left the relationship, I thanked him for his behaviors. He seemed confused. What he didn’t know was how his behaviors (distancing, raging/silent treatment, no affection, accusations, etc.) assisted me to seek help to change me and to deal with childhood and relationship abuse.
I see him as a valuable individual who has likely assisted many people to come into their higher self-knowledge. I don’t like his behaviors or the behaviors of other, similar individuals. However, I see them as individuals who awaken the ones who are “asleep” to their higher selves.
Blessings!❤️
jcsrst same here. Maybe you’re an empath like me. We draw them to us because we have a lot of love and we are able to actually love.
You say you would never "knowingly" choose the path you are on, but at the same time are "abundantly grateful" all the same...a double edged sword indeed. 😉
I love him and wish we were together but he’s a narc and doesn’t understand the pain he caused me
I always had a feeling that my relationship with narcissist are temporary... we was teaching each other a lessons... he was pushing my buttons and I was showing him the true meaning of Loyalty and depth of Love... he admitted he never met anyone like me before... 5 years of lessons lol
5 years of lessons here too 🙏❤
A narcissist never learns or likes to be taught or acknowledges any learning coming from others. Regardless, the good part is that you could learn what you had to.👍
Same here 5 yrs 🙏
Thank you so much for being completely authentic and sharing this. And I honestly agree. I think that there is an opportunity to grow on both sides. The reason why narcissist rage happens is because we reflect what the narcissist needs to work on. And they resist taking the responsibility. But we do this too. But in a different way. We resist the help. It’s their choice weather they want to accept that help or not and it isn’t in our control or even our conscious understanding. And they are also reflecting what we need to work on. And it is our choice to accept that help or not. And some people never do. Just like sometimes the narcissist never does. And maybe if we accept that help, we can move on in the next life. And if we don’t, we may end up back on earth again until we get on our correct path.
It does resonate and is very much in alignment with my spiritual views. It's the highest and most healing perspective to take on the situation. Much respect!!
Thank you 🙏❤
You always look so cute, young, and perky! And you make this dark topic feel sparkly. It’s like you’re from the future of the people these videos need to reach. A happier time, filled with fun, hope, and glory. Thank you!
I agree. my ex boyfriend was the greatest teacher I have ever had...now healing from the trauma and sending him love and light everytime he crosses my mind. ❤🙏🏻
My gosh! I have chills now. I’m an atheist, but now I question my views a lot. After my “no contact” regime implementation I had a lot of weird and powerful dreams about my narcissist. In one of them I saw very crystal clear that I was trying to message him and his, but, you know, mature and tender voice, like I knew that it was his REAL voice said. He used the same pauses between words, same expirations and sighs: “Darling, can you see that there is nobody here? (sigh) Don’t do it. Forgive me. We’ll meet again. I promise. I love you”. I don’t remember my dreams frequently but this dream I remember very clearly. Maybe it wasn’t just my experience? I feel fully relieved after this dream. I know that I just should move on. Thank you for your video, great no know that I’m not the only one with such thoughts.
Your videos are saving my life right now. Thank you.
Me too. I just went no contact with entire family of origin. Stay 💪 strong
This resonates big time !!! My husband died 11 years ago and I am being strongly divinely guided to finish my end of the contract . And thank you because now I know what I must do. Huge relief to know now! Thank you
Your empathy is shining through in this video. I can feel you holding back tears. This is such a lovely way to look at the abuse endured. It is making me feel better! So thank you.
Your videos are giving me the oxygen I need right now to try and. get out of a 30 year relationship. I am so thankful to have found your channel. It's helping to keep me on the path on the weaker days and giving me so much understanding and clarity. Over the past 30 years I. have so many instances of divine intervention and I never paid heed. Now I pray everyday to be taken to the right place, no matter how hard it gets. Thank you. for sharing so honestly.
Yes it resonates and it helps to be grateful for the experience and the transformation to finally find inner validation and self love. It helps to let go of the hatred that is like drinking a cup of poison yourself hoping the narc will die of it. Thank your for your high quality content en positive vibe. You are truly light and love.
I just found you recently and I am in total agreement with you on this. I was raised by a narcissistic mother and alcoholic father. Married a physically abusive narcissists for 25 yrs before I just walked away...the pull to walk was so strong...its been 6 yrs and I can honestly say that even though it was horrible and I don't wish that on anyone I have found myself. It hasn't been easy and still learning but your videos help me understand the why.
I don't see it as a "soul contract". I see my highly abusive relationship as a series of very bad decisions I made based on my ignorance and unconscious programming to fit a "role" and my partners programming to fit his "role". Through the grace of source and the unbearable pain, I woke up and was able to shed that programming and get myself to a higher vibration. I've been able to elevate my narc partner ever so slightly, with much compassion and forgiveness and a willingness on his part in brief and fleeting moments to attempt to understand what happened to his once willing partner in our dysfunctional dance. But for the most part, I've been long gone and on to the next part of my journey, while he seeks a new unconscious dance partner to continue the abuse with. That's his journey, not mine. He makes his own choices.
I agree with this
@@theself5738 while I understand what you are saying from the context of the new thought paradigm, to me its just the same old "victim-blaming, blame shifting game" in a shiny new mystical wrapper. I prefer to stay grounded and own my stuff and stop letting people put their responsibility for abuse onto me. No one deserves abuse, no matter what they supposedly do in this lifetime or any other. If there's anything I need to learn, that's the lesson. I have heard this "soul contract" idea presented a number of different ways on many new thought channels and the logic never holds up. It's a particularly heinous thing to tell someone who has been abused and gaslighted that the abuse is their fault, because if they haven't healed, like I have, they may actually believe that baloney.
What you say in this video definitely resonates with me. I actually just thought thoughts of that kind, and then opened the Internet to distract myself and found your video ( been watching you for awhile now and I gotta say you been very helpful and do what you do in a great way. So thank you for that!)
Looking from the right angle is everything,this raised my frequency sky high.
I knew there was a deeper meaning in my relationship.
Now I am..🙏🏽💟
I really love your philosophy! Thank you so much for making this video and having your perspective and feeling comfortable enough and confident to share!!❤️
I've been reading up on soul contracts and even purchased a book on the subject. I am subscribed to other channels on TH-cam on narcissism. I typed soul contract in the TH-cam search bar and can across your videos. You just confirmed what I was thinking after reading up on soul contracts and also provided information that I did not think of. I subscribed to your channel. I have never seen any other youtuber talk about narcissist and soul contracts. Thank you and I also love your positive energy by the way.
Exactly
Never looked at it this way, definitely resonates with me…yes a soul contract for sure.
Thank you Christina
I believe empaths may agree to come help another wounded person, but I don't believe its a pact between two souls, but a pact between one angel and God to help a struggling soul. Not every one comes here as an angel on a mission, those who do have a memory of the contract. Forgiveness works in this situation as well.
I married an overt narcissist and was with him for 13 years. I had a dream of a guy whom I later met and we had a 7 year on/ off relationship. He introduced me to the term NPD bc his parents were malignant narcissists and it all made sense. Then being in quarantine with him I realized he is a covert narcissist. Always healing and learning self love is my lesson. I believe I was divinely guided too. Just sucks I gave him so much of my time & energy but that’s part of the lesson. Thanks for your videos. 💙💜💚♥️
Thank you. This is really powerful. I have a covert narcissist in my life that is triggering my past wounds. Thank you for letting me see the underlying souls contract that brought this person onto my life. Now I need to heal my wounds and let go of this person so the soul contact can be completed.
I watched this video three years and it changed my life forever. After this video, I went through a wild spiritual awakening and synchronized moments that I couldn’t explain. I just wanted to thank you for your content and getting me out of that terrible relationship. I’ve been no contact for a year now and can’t believe how great my life is without him.
I am so happy to have found you. I was widowed after 27 years with a wonderful loving man. I just left an 8 year relationship with an altruistic narcissist. I've been so confused about the difference between these two men. I was so drawn to the narcissist. I was newly back into the dating world and met him and was compelled to be with him even though a few other great guys were there. He caught me when I was very raw from my husband's death. He found all of my weaknesses. Then the gifts and helping all at a price. Anyway, after many fights with him making me feel like everything was always my fault, I quit. I am also a very spiritual person. I read Michael Newton. I feel like we had a contract. There is no other way to explain my desire to be with him. Thank you for confirming what I have been trying to figure out. Got out in July but have been still in touch. Realizing it's time to cut the cord. Actually, I visualize cutting the cord often, but free will lets it attach again. Working on forgiveness and letting go and thanking him for helping my growth. Thank you.
I cannot CANNOT get enough of these videos that deeply discuss the spiritual aspect/connection of the phenomenon known as th trauma bond. It is SO ENLIGTHENING, GROUNDING, AND HEALING. because all matters in life NO MATTER WHAT THEY ARE is a road pointing directly to spiritual awakening; this being MOST true when the matter is traumatic and/or painful. Also, throughout my experience I've often questioned, are these signs and synchronicities that are so UNCANNY all in my head? Or is this real, the universe is truly giving me the message that I think that it is giving? Hearing you talk about your spiritual awakening helps me feel less alone, more sane, AND it helps me remember that all these signs and messages are just part of the passing through, part of the human journey, that happens to us all.
This is extremely comforting. Thank you
So glad to hear that! Thank you for your comment! ❤🙏
Absolutely spot on! One of my major breakthrough on my healing journey is that at one moment I bursted out in tear and agony, “but I didn’t sign up for!” It was almost like a spell. I didn’t even know what it meant, but I felt a strong sense of relief, breaking free from something. Even though later my spiritual teacher/trauma therapist told me, oh remember your soul chose it. I knew that yes, my soul chose him and others to show my shadows to me to work on. However, I can also choose to end it, annul it cuz I’m done with it.
Absolutely.
I'm veering between compassion and anger over the destruction.
This is an essential video for anyone in the narcissist's world.
Thank you kindly.
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How is compassion for the malevolent possible? Perhaps there is a better response as the N often interprets it as approval of their behaviour.
Soul contracts are real. This will sound unbelievable...but the day I laid eyes on HIM walking out of the student union, I heard a voice in my head clearly say, "there goes your future mate". It stunned me because I had never heard that voice, or at least I had never paid attention to it. After the moment passed, I never gave him a second thought. I completely forgot about him until the next time I ran into him again more than a year later after he had returned to university from a study abroad. When I saw him that day, I was walking across campus, and I noticed him walking towards me. I recognized him immediately (even though the first encounter lasted only minutes, was from a distance, and we never made eye contact). At this next sighting, my heart immediately started POUNDING in my chest. I was so overwhelmed by this sensation that I quickly diverted to avoid walking past him and stepped behind a column to steady myself. I was absolutely bewildered by my reaction to this complete stranger. Later that very same evening, I was to meet my friend to see our favorite local band at a bar we patronized regularly. I arrived late so I had to make my way thru the crowd to find my friend jumping in the mosh pit and enjoying the show. After greeting her, I turned back to see the crowd, and HE was standing directly behind me, leaning on the bar and watching the band too! I couldn't believe my eyes! I started to think we were destined to meet, and by the end of the evening, we did... That night marked the beginning of our 25 years of entanglement. After too many betrayals and far too much heartache, I finally hit my limit with what I could endure so I began the painful (and expensive) process of extracting myself from the entanglement and our marriage. We've been divorce nearly a year now, and although I regret how much time, money, and energy I have lost during this saga, I have come to the conclusion that it was my destiny. At this point in time, everything that we had built together, has been destroyed: our family, our businesses, our investments, our security, and our future, and he despises me for finally breaking free (even though he's already moved on and moved in with his next target before the divorce was finalized). Looking back on all of it now, I do think I must have been a complete asshole in my previous life to have endured so much loss, abuse, and misfortune in this one. So yes, I do believe these soul contracts exist, however I have made it my mission to heal myself this time, and to never enter into any more agreements with this one!
So what do I have to do to get out of this!!!
This actually helped me open my eyes spiritually! Thanks
That's awesome... thanks for your comment!
I can agree 100% that’s what I feel is going on. I’m very grateful to To run into this video because I have been trying to get myself to keep in mind that everything is for reason and everything is meant to put me more in line with my purpose. When I saw this I knew that it was a sign for me to have more patience and understand that everything in this reality is to push me to become better. I am now taking time to look at the situation as a whole and just think” what lessons can I learn from dealing with this person?” “ what can I improve for the future?” Sometimes there’s really nothing you can do other than take yourself from away from certain situations and people💯🔥 thanks again! I’m subscribing ‼️
I love this! After seven years I finally figured out he wasn’t my twin flame but was a narcissist instead. It all makes sense! Since we’re both married to others, most of the contact was email. He awakened me to God and in every way it was like a twin spiritual connection except that he never loved me , never supported me , but was like a vampire and I kept giving, so certain he was the love of my life. Ha! I do agree that it was a powerful soul contract to awaken me and put me on to my life’s work. And this shift just took place and I feel free. I also know there is deep soul love between our souls but his ego and ways could never allow him to feel it. I also talked with a psychic friend who looked deeper into it energetically and confirmed with her and my guides that he isn’t my twin, but the man I’m married to is from my twin soul family, and that my true twin lives in the US . I am thrilled to be healing my marriage and if god brings my true twin in I’ll deal with it but I am in no hurry to go there. Thank you for the video. I know these connections are soul contracts that are divinely guided.
Yes, I found topic very interesting. I believe the relationship is divinely guided, but only for the empaths humility, and learning process towards spirituality, but not in the narcissistic benefiting. He helps us become who we were meant to be, but he/she is still doing wrong, and I don’t believe anyone benefits from acting in such a manner
Yes I do see it as a soul contract and I’m still on my healing journey with rapid spiritual growth from within the relationship (if you can call it that). I remain for now as I do believe the narcissist made the contract not just for your expansion but for their own perhaps. They too could have made the contract with you for their growth out of ego. I know that it is rare but as I keep growing, setting boundaries, and spiritually advancing, with the strength of Spirit, God, Divinity I am challenging them too in their growth. We will see what they choose, but I remain growing even if it is growth by fire.
I am so glad I found this video and the one about spiritual awaking. It describes exactly what I have been experiencing the last couple of months. It starts all making sense to me now. I now know how to continue my journey here on earth, without remorse. Thank you Common Ego.
You the only person I relate to. Everything that you say makes so much sense to me. Thank you for these videos. It is through these that I am able to be in control of myself
Very insightful! Everything I've felt on an intuitive level perfectly articulated! This validation is a beautiful way to start my day and current path of healing 🙏
Thank you for sharing this invaluable wisdom!!
This perspective of a Empath/Narc entanglement is a far better definition of this type of relationship than the negative victim hood. Changes your paradigm and saves us from falling into the pit holes of the egos traps. We are all on earth to evolve and that entails painful lessons!
This explains everything that's been going on with my situation. What an epiphany.
Part of the empaths growth is to learn to set boundaries for themselves because if not they’ll keep getting walked over and only if the narcissist is proactively willing to change may the empath help them love themselves and reduce their ego and likewise if not they’ll continue being a self defeating narcissist. It always takes two to grow together in a relationship
Nice sweet way of explaning. This helps a bit to forgive the narcissist.
I'm not sure wether this comforting or just makes my trauma bond stronger
Exactly! If i feel compassion or even forgiveness i may find much harder to leave this relationship :(
Couldn't agree more. Thank you for putting into words what I've been feeling.
I loved "If you wanna honor this contract heal yourself".... I already had thought about it... its too much painfull... but is forcing me to examine why is it so painfull? Thank you very much.
This was absolutely something I needed to hear today. I know I am in this kind of relationship, on and off. What is so confusing is that I feel like in this other person has two different souls or has two different past lives with me mixed up with this one where we are in now.
It has been couple of times he has said to me some things that he has no clue at all. He can't renember those moments and I think he is scared of any type of situations like that. And I've felt that there is more than one past life attached and is coming through some how.
But anyway I am sure that soul contracts has something to do with our unexplainable relationship.
Is that why I used to feel like I knew him from another life when we first met?
I had this question too. Thank you for asking it (and for your answer, Christina)
Wow I’m in my 3rd relationship and for the first time I’ve asked God what His will is in this trial and I’m meant to stay in this one for the time being until hubby realizes he has is own free will to want better or move forward with out me. So glad for this video and confirmation God has given me with the way you’ve articulated into verbal words that I felt
We were both 'spiritual'. He took the role of 'spiritial teacher' - but it was funny when Id meditate etc through his instructions for example, and listen to my inner self, voice, it was telling me to leave him, hes not good for me, but I didnt want to because I loved him and he was like my everthing at the time... should of trusted myself and not the 'teacher' that was putting me down 😔❤... I feel broken.
It's sad. Have you heard about the spiritual narcissist? I've been through this with my ex, and he used to blame me whenever I'd stand for myself using self knowledge phrases, when he was actually abusing me and not taking responsability for what he was doing...
I just wondered if there is some kind of soul contract and boom! I saw this video! So good explanation!
This makes me think of an article I read called 'The role of love in an abusive relationship'. Very interesting concept.
I believe it because I feel it deep in my soul no pun intended, I was with my Narcissist for 21 years then went back with him for 8 months then understood that I am unable to make him see that what he has done to me is wrong so this time around I am understanding more about Karmic soul contracts and he is definitely one, big time! When I met him I knew I had known him from before and this was when I was still a sleep per say. Now that I understand more I really don’t ask “why God, why me?” Because I now know that I’m here to go through a journey that I’m meant to go through and I have accepted wherever happens in my life. Of course doing the best and being the best I can be with everyone in my life and the entire world. I also do think that this is my last Karmic soul contract, I know this because something inside of me tells me (guides me) I am living my best life and loving every moment.
💯💯💯 divinely guided! Thank you so so sooo much for sharing - absolutely beautiful! I liked, Subscribed and clicked the notification bell 😂😂😂
This is good, and spot on. I have had several good teachers put into my life, but for whatever reason, this last one was the best. I have had this awakening of which you speak, and while surely painful, it is equally gratifying..... and much needed. Thank you for creating and putting forth such solid content. Yer an compelling orator and a powerful voice in a noisy landscape. Keep up the good work. Andrew
Thank you, Andrew ❤🙏
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This really resonated with me. Thank you for this.
The whole time I was with him I kept thinking he was sent from God to heal me. His mother felt like the mom I always wanted and he had familiar characteristics like my brother, mother and father. I was convinced that if I could get him to accept me that all my childhood wounds would be filled in and made good. I continuously thought this the whole 3 years we were together. If I could get to that point all this pain from being with him would be worth it. That acceptance was always just out of reach the same way it was with my parents.
I lost myself. I can’t even say that bc I’ve never had myself.
When he finally discarded me for the last time it felt like my heart was ripped open. There was no one there to tell me who I was anymore. No mom, dad, brother daughter. No one to tell me I was good or bad. Their voices were still in my head with the lies of what I bad person I was.
What you are saying in your video makes so much sense to me because I witnessed what you are talking about first hand. He was a duplicate of my family in the way he treated me. He would do the same things they did. The way he held his hand sometimes was like my brother and the way he clicked his gum and made his jaw move sideways, the way he was an alcoholic and a narc at the same time. So many more things that I just observed and kept to myself. He drew all of my senses in as if he were planted here to lure me into the final test, aka my bottom.
He came to heal me all right but not the way I had dreamed of. I was thinking more of he accepts me and loves me like I love him and we live happily ever after. But no, he was sent here to show me that I cannot rely on anyone to tell me who I am. No one’s approval or love will complete me. I’m on the path to healing now and I’m so grateful for all of the narcs in my life because and I can see so clear now.
Thank you for your video. ♥️
I came to this realization on my own, and you just confirmed it. Thanks 🙏🏽
You literally said everything I felt for at least the past 6 months. I thought I was crazy my whole life 🤣
Michael Newton's books (Journey of Souls, Destiny of Souls) elaborates on the soul contract concept. Narcissists provide learning opportunities that aren't available any other way. Struggle with approval and wise giving? They will play you until you upskill. They're a gym of sorts.
Thank-you. I have suspected the very same theory for some time now. It was so good to hear you explain it. Thank-you again and Bless You with Love and Light
I totally agree with you re soul contract. When shit started happening I wasn't sure what to do cause I thought "well, I know where it is coming from". I am so spiritual ... haha!!! I can do it ... I can stay and save his lost soul...well, i was loosing myself staying in that relationship .So it took a good year and a half to make the decision to leave.
I guess we have to do what we have to do while we are here on earth in our meat suits. That is our job not to be afraid to stay whole and happy...
It's all a play, a movie anyway...
Nothing serious is going on here...
Thank you for the upload
Really needed this one today
You are a blessing
I was coming out of a relationship with a guy that I wouldn't describe as a narcissist but he was selfish with his time and got a bit abusive after a couple of drinks to a guy who has narcissistic traits and was pretty much abusive all the time. We're in the flying monkeys stage now 😬 I think you may be on point here. Most major events in my life, I've experienced familiarity with the main people concerned. I had surgery back in 2012 and it might sound strange but I felt like I'd met the surgeon that operated on me before but not in this lifetime. There was a total familiarity about his energy and the way he looked.
The relationship I just got out of was horrid but I feel that my souls progress has been completely flung forward
WOW. JUST WOW. 💯
Yes, yes definitely soul contracts. We are all going to make it ❤️🙏🏾✨
I think me being in a 30 year marriage with a covert narcissist I feel there is a reason why this happened to me. Things just don't happen on there own in this world theres always reason for it and why it happened and who it happened too
My mom passed away when I was 4, and my dad who is a narcissist himself, remarried another narcissist who was twice as awful as he was. This woman hated my guts from the moment she laid eyes on me (I was 7 when she came into my life) she never passed up an opportunity to make my life miserable in some way, or make me feel worthless. Not a single day went by that she didn't physically, or emotionally abuse me. Since I learned my karmic debt number is 16/7 ...I just figured she might be someone I wronged in a previous life and she was just put in my life to get her revenge, that helped me to start healing. I hadn't even thought about the idea of a soul contract.... but it makes so much sense. 🤯
Absolutely agree with everything you said in this video. Had to listen to it several times. Didn't know about the soul contract from previous life though. Fascinating.
GREAT VIDEO & EDUCATION. I LEARNED SO MUCH. I AGREE WITH YOU ON EVERYTHING. EXCEPT FOR THE SOUL TIES. BUT THERE IS A DEEPER CONNECTION BETWEEN THE NARC & EMPATH. I AM STILL ON MY EDUCATION JOURNEY AS WELL. THANKS FOR SHARING!!!!
Wow, that raised some interesting questions for me. I kind of knew quite early on there was something really badly "off" in my relationship and i also at some point, also quite early on, had an insight that this relationship would be the one to push me in the direction i needed to go in to heal my emotional wounds and set me on the path i needed to walk. As you said, the emotional issues were in my face and i felt so strongly at times he was such a mirror for me. But as the relationship went on i lost that clarity to a certain extent before a final discard (just before my birthday) and i was able to re-evaluate what had been happening and this set me on my path to healing.I feel very lucky to be able to be the one to heal this time around. I really hope i have learned the lessons this time because in a lot of ways it could have been a lot worse.
I have just awaken and realized im a heyoka empath and i worked out i was with a narcissist for 8 years I didn't even know what that was to find out there are people who cant love feel or use people till they kill themselves blows my world my heart is so big with so much empathy is the best gift you could receive and in PROUD TO SAY IM A HEYOKA EMPATH CHILD OF GOD i forgive him cause it helped me find my life purpose I actually feel bad for him to never be able to feel love which is the best feeling and hardest to ever find is sad he thinks he hurt me but i know i mirrored him that good that i hope he dont hurt anymore people cause it is sad people not as strong as me take there life and these narcissist dont even care and just move on to the next SUPPLY im hoping with my awakening i attract as much narcissist as i can and give them a wake up call I know im strong enough to take on the narcissist i believe your right i think the life before i was the narcissist and this time ive came back as a heyoka empath to try to change the world cause what narcissist are aint human this is our year EMPATHS AND WE COME TOGETHER TO CHANGE THE FUTURE WE ARE AWAKENING
Thank you. It's very much how I experience it.
Absolutely agree with you Need more videos like this
I realized about my psychic abilities and soo many other things about myself. It does feel like divinely guided coz whenever I tried to move on from him I would see him from nowhere. We were not in relationship but I was entangled with him mysteriously. 😊
In my situation my Narc and I have karmic ties and most likely a soul Contract. After being with him for 15 years something told me to do a compatability report. It showed that we have soul mate/ Karmic tie aspects . What came back in the report was that We have been married in a past life. It was a time when men owned their wives and that I was his property. Here is where it gets really interesting. We have a consensual bdsm relationship. I'm his slave, he owns me. Also it is this part of the relationship I'm addicted to. I love that he owns me and can't imagine having this type of relationship with any one else. I want to do a past life regression to gain more insight. I'm grateful for having this knowledge it has helped me heal and forgive myself for not being able to break free completely.
This is so accuare, thank you so much. I really loved your content
Wow I started seeing the number 222 just prior to meeting my Narcassist. And still see it randomly since being in are relationship which has been so devaluing to my self-esteem I am now being seen for depression. But there is so much more to this story. Like my intuition becoming so spot on that it was more like I was physic.
I was born with a narcissist parent, and then encountered another narcissist who was a spiritual teacher, and separated myself from both of those people. It was highly abusive and I became physically ill. Now, I’m in another relationship, however, this person is willing to work together through it. And I feel as if I am ready to continue healing, and seeing the areas I need to empower. And yes, it seems like a soul contract, and I also wonder if I’m crazy for doing this, lol.
I just recently found your channel and started watching. This by far is the one video that has me most fascinated. I have a Narcissist Father and sister. However, these primary damaging relationships have set me up for numerous narcissistic relationships throughout my life in all areas-work, school, friends and former boyfriends. Many years ago I heard about soul contracts, but I had not encountered the term or thought about the concept in such a long time that I had forgotten about it. Will you be speaking more about this in the future?
I have several narcisists in key roles in my life. They do push me to awakening (all going either no contact or gray rock as I type). Now if you consider the twin flame theory, I do believe my twin flame, who is a narcisist, is an incarnation of my own soul that happened to meet another incarnation of that same soul ("me").
It is awakening as intense as it gets. I used to feel present and aware whenever I met him. We kinda went no contact on good terms, he knows he harms me but can't help it. I am focused on myself fully now because of what i went through during this toxic relationship. It does have a soul purpose. Thank you for your videos.
I understand now. My narc had so many Devine signs that we were meant to meet. One thing was our DL. I had on my issue date 11/05/19 and he had 09/28 on his as an issue date. It was crazy. So many spiritual connections. Thank you. I appreciate him more now and understand that he is here and helped me learn about my spiritual purpose and things I need to work on. I love him and release him.
My birthday and his birthday... etc etc etc. Plus many other things that we shared were spiritually identical.
Fascinating idea, my narcissist didn't destroy me but he taught me a lot about myself and my life up to now. I love him but I'm happy that I don't live with him every day
Magnetic. Moth to a flame. Traumatised children attract other traumatised children instinctually and when they are on opposite ends of the spectrum (Narc-Empath) it naturally creates a balance. This is a magnet for the perfect dysfunctional dance partners, in the dance of the macabre. Been there, done that, awake and aware now and done with that lunacy!
I would love to know this was a soul contract. I find this so healing and enlightening. How would the narcissist take this info if it were to be shared? Would they be offended? Would they continue the narrative that I’m just BATSHITT CRAZY!! LOL
I also had devine guidance by my guides and ancestors to get out.
Great information, thank you🙏❤️
Thank you for the video and your perspective! I do think that relationships with narcissists bring issues/dynamics more to the surface. I also think that relationships with people who are not narcissists does that, though perhaps more subtly. My experience is that many empaths have already looked deeply at their issues and have a lot of self-awareness going into relationships with narcissists. Many for example, have really good boundaries and maturity. I wonder if aside from the contract on a one-to-one level, there is a larger meta soul/societal level contract for balance and integration between these people of such varying capacities and ability to connect. Though most narcissists don't change in the long-term, I wonder if there is a very long-term impact on a neurological and evolutionary level. All this to say my own sense is that what is happening between individual empaths and narcissists seems bigger than just the interpersonal or individual evolution. Thanks again!
Yes!! I also believe it's much bigger than the individual level, but everything we experience is a reflection of our internal world, so it's also about the individual. I have some thoughts on the overall perspective, and there's so much I want to cover on this channel, but I'm trying to ease into it. 😅 Thank you for sharing your perspective 🙏❤
@@CommonEgo can you make the video on this now pls? 🙏
She said before we met for real " im not afraid of your energy and light" when we met for real she destroyed my soul in 3 days. 10 years of healing finding answers. Im now a behaviorist "Bachelor of science major psychology, K B T and M I, working as a supporter, helper, therapist with people with mental illness etc. That`s a vacation comparing to deal with the deep soulcontract with the narcissist. For the record: i also had similiar experiences with other women but not so extreme deeply painful as that experience.
Wonderful explanation thanks so much✨💜
Absolutely divinely guided! After 17 years of blindfoldedness, I woke up to the mind games and manipulation. Just like that, one phrase, one event! Have been so many others way more obvious! After that I've been thru numerous steps of awakening. Unable to literally leave the situation but totally checked out emotionally. Q: Combining forgiveness with non-enabling could buy me some time to get my financial independence back or even waking him up to emotional healing?tks
This sincerely helped. Thank you 🙏
I understand this thoroughly!
This explains alot of things, yes, we are all connected, you have a beautiful soul, thanks for sharing this
Facts, chills at the end