I've seen that too! I don't care what their nails look like! Maybe they feel pressure though? Perhaps there have been comments or they want their nails to look good for product shots? I've actually heard the last one quite a bit. Even if either of those are the case I don't want yohtubers to feel like and apology is necessary.
Even apologizing for messy hair/makeup or wearing no makeup? Self-deprecation is SO toxic and yet so common, especially in young women. We don't have to live up to anybody's aesthetic standard, even if we're into beauty as a job
Because there judgmental ppl that comment that make it worst but I think they could keep there nails clean and neat even a clear coat or buff shine I figure during the lock down ppl would start doing there own nails I was disappointed when everyone in the government were still doing there nails and hair I wanted to see some skunk heads and flat hair
I have seen people on people's channels, even ones that deal with topics other than beauty, commenting on how having your nails done makes you seem more credible. And I'm sure there are many more that just don't say anything. Women are held to a higher standard of grooming, and it sucks. And I garden, cook, play piano, and have a job that involves a lot of typing, and I cannot keep polish on my nails, so I guess I just come across as "unprofessional."
@@jessicaharrison4719 now that I come to think of it, I have just realized that for me it's just the other way around, I tend to presume that extremely well manicured women are not as practical and professional, probably because putting much effort in the looks seems to imply less effort is put in other stuff. My bad, that's a prejudice as well
I completely lost control with “treating myself”. I use to treat myself in special occasions. Now, I do any time I feel discomfort and the “treats” have lost meaning and have become a mid form of shop addiction. 😐
8:50-8:51 "buying for my fantasy self" that's a perfect way to describe how I used to purchase beauty products. The only makeup I wear is lipstick, and this still ended up being a problem a few years ago when I decided to purge my collection and had over 150 lipsticks, half of them being the exact same color over and over again. I was definitely buying with my "fantasy self" in mind, someone who was able to have a lot of expensive, luxurious brands and tons of products. It was also definitely a fear of missing out, like I couldn't go without all these lipsticks popular creators were hyping up as if they were completely life changing. But, realistically, that was costing a fortune, and the vast majority of those lipsticks I'd completely forgotten about, usually sticking to a handful of favorites anyway. I'm really glad I got out of that mentality. Now I have maybe 20, and all of them are inexpensive and different colors, so I can still enjoy having variety without having to destroy my wallet or letting perfectly good lipsticks expire in a drawer.
I am so happy to finally have found someone who’s talking about this. The whole Sephora VIB sale hype is really getting on my nerves. Especially when people are using it to justify extremely expensive items they don’t need....
Thanks Lilian! I'm glad you enjoyed the video. I also can get a bit tired of the VIB sale content. Elle S made a video about that recently which you should check out if you haven't and I made a video about the sale too back in April. It can be a lot.
@@shawnaripari Hannah Louise Poston also has a number of videos on the topic that are really great (as is her content in general). Highly recommend checking her out!
I own a relatively small amount of makeup compared to a lot of beauty enthusiasts and I can’t even finish things before their expiration date which is wild
I worry about the same thing! For me, owning more than 2 lipsticks (what i can use in 2 years) means that anything more than that is going to go bad at some point. I hate knowing that because I want just a little variety but variety means waste. It is wild!
I kept most of my makeup past. The expiration date, most of the time the expiration date is meaningless. Unless it smell bad or start irritating your skin. Just keep it.
@@shawnaripari I feel like a big issue is the sizing of products too it would be a great help if products came in smaller sizes too so you can have some variety but actually have a chance to finish products. I'm very much into Korean and Asian make up for many years now and I really like how much smaller and more compact eye shadow pallettes or face palettes are. Cushion foundations also have much less products so you can actually empty them and you can kinda build your own cushion too if you want. Blushes and highlighters also come in smaller sizes as well. It's still a lot of make up of course but comparable: it's much easier to use the same number of products in K make up than Western brands and they take up less space. I wish there was an option for smaller sized items across the board but especially powder items and lipsticks maybe even in a refill model to save packaging.
100% agree with everything. Another thing that has personally made me spend a lot unnecessarily was DUPES! Dupes are hyped said to be even better than the original and typically are assigned to expensive or luxury products. I wanted expensive lipsticks from Dior and YSL and Naked pallete but i didnt feel like spending $50 so i went and bought cheaper dupes from make up revolution, elf etc. but they’re still not quite it so i go buy more “dupes” because they’re cheaper. Guess what, I dont use them and i caved in and bought the original expensive products anyway after wasting although small but unnecessary money trying to dupe the products. Now i have bunch of clutter. So my rule now is- just get the original products instead of collecting almosts. Better to have 1 good quality product u know u will feel good abt using rather than bunch of similar stuff.
Yep this. I have never spent full retail on makeup but definitely feel I wasted money on dupes. Not to say dupes are bad, but for me 1 dupe ended up meaning more dupes. Also I find even though there could be a color match, try using the dupe years later. When I use my MUR eyeshadow dupes, the quality is shit. Overall in my experience eyeshadow palette dupes typically end up being short term. The biggest waste of money eyeshadows for me are the SuperShock from Colourpop. These shit dry up. I bought Inkglot to revive them but had I known they would have dried up so quickly, I wouldn't have purchased them at all. I found Inkglot can only do so much as well.
I do love the panning community. I would projectpan because I had so much makeup and followed youtube trends. Panning made me realize one eyeshadow can take MONTHS to use. Or a lipstick takes a year or two. Now I pan it makes me rethink my purchases
🌼I threw away make-up I disliked then replaced it with brands I love, with better quality make-up. After doing a project pan for one year, I learnt so much about my attitude towards make-up. It also made me look at other areas of my life where I was buying loads of things.🌼
I feel so validated by this. I’ve worked in cosmetics for like 6 years and always felt like I had to try everything and buy the new and exciting palettes to keep up with the trends. I’d buy way more than I could really afford. Now I have a hoard of expired products that I don’t want to throw away but also won’t use cause it’s old. I’m finally banning myself from buying until I use something up.
Thank you for sharing 😊 I also have that dilemma all the time and it often leaves me standing still. Don't want to throw it away or use it. Sounds like you have a plan together though 😊
I agree on everything! One thing that really used to give me FOMO was limited editions, it's an absolutely toxic way of pushing people to buy something before even having enough time to think about it, or having the chance to procrastinate that decision (for example after the end of a no-buy period). It's usually done with pretty regular products that you could get anywhere else whenever you want (like a very normal pink blush or champaign highlighter), but you only want it because it's limited edition and you feel like you might regret not buying it in the future.
While this particular time in our lives has been horrible on many levels, it has provided an opportunity for many of us to pause and to think about our choices and our behaviors. Your video was excellent and on point we all need to take a look in the mirror or take a look inside and examine our consumer behavior .
One more thing to add about the beauty community. I enjoy watching videos overall from people who make videos on TH-cam (like yourself) as a hobby and not as a career. The opinions and advice is night and day from the ones who actually support themselves off being Influencers. I'll often search for here for products I'm interested in trying but come up flat with finding anything about them on TH-cam simply because they were never given as PR to people with thousands or millions of subscribers. I searched for certain products for instance from Touch in Sol and Wet N Wild but got nothing on here because they were never gifted to well known vloggers.
I have been binge-watching your videos while I am currently on my first-ever no-buy. Started the 1st of January. It helps remind me of my WHY and strengthens my decision.
You hit the nail on the head! I think it`s human nature to always want the best and try to accumulate stuff so we feel accomplished and secured. What really helped me break this cycle of buying and researching products was to just force myself to use only what I already own and have a single item of the stuff I need.
Thats sounds like a great idea. I know the moment I start thinking about limiting my collection down to 1 item per category thats when I start to feel overwhelmed with choice!
I have been bothered by the "Makeup collection" for as long as I have been watching Beauty TH-cam... I like the term "Kit"... kind of a tool kit, where everything has a function; kits can be large or small depending on your needs, but will serve a fuction.
My favorite term is hoard, because a) feeling like a dragon makes me feel kinda badass, but also a little silly, and b) it seems to accurately describe the way I have amassed makeup, and I need a reminder to stop that behavior. It's not a collection, that's like calling groceries a collection of food!
I've noticed that I haven't fallen into the trap of buying makeup because I'm straight up broke constantly and when I do buy makeup I leave it on a wish list for a few months to see if its something I really want and will use regularly. But even so I still have too much makeup for someone who won't make money from buying makeup or using makeup.
OKAY after watching your declutter, i scrolled thru my home screen and this one popped up. LIKE the makeup madness needed me too see this. I have a obscene amount of makeup to the point, i don't film or wear makeup. I'm so riddled with anxiety and being overwhelmed. And yes being a completionist, or actually using. I can't even use, much less finish anything. I bought into to fomo, to the "must have" or "life changing" i am really at a crossroad of being a collector or hoarder. And it isn't healthy either way. My numbers would floor most. It's time to reevaluate the reason i started loving makeup, and started TH-cam. Thank you for this video💚
@@shawnaripari I'm truly not stalking you, but you'll probably see my name a bunch😂 i love a point of view being shared, without trying to push a belief or agenda. And even in only two videos i can totally sense that..
I’ll admit as a male who wears makeup I always see the top male muas with nails and it definitely makes me feel like I have to get my nails done in order to “fit in” but thankfully I have yet to even get them. I don’t mind my bare nails ☺️🙌🏼
Subscribed! Very intelligent presentation. Glad you are talking about these topics, especially regarding thinking about the lifespan of a product BEFORE we buy.
I’m a new subscriber and I love your channel! I’m starting a no/very low buy and I feel such shame with all the money I’ve spent over the years on makeup/ beauty 😳. I do get my nails done which I admit is kind of extravagant but I’m a nail biter so it helps me . Yes I could be rationalizing !! I also stopped dyeing my hair and I only get it trimmed about twice a year so I’ve cut back on that . Oh the struggle lol
Welcome to the channel! I hope your no buy goes well and wish you all the success! If getting your nails done is something you enjoy and fits in your budget (if this is something you desire) no shame there!
I think even those of us who don't have a platform should monitor what we do and why, because we are also influencing the people in our own lives. Especially younger people. ♥️
I can totally relate to constantly want to find something BETTER, even when I know I’ve found something I absolutely love. And it just never stops! Thank you so much for the amazing wake up call💖
I rarely comment (partly because I spend little time on TH-cam) but I have to say I'm glad you articulated this well. I was looking for dicussions on consumerism and this video came up. We are such an overindulgent society hyperfocused on accumulation that we neglect our impact on other animals and the environment.
I personally buy a lot of makeup, but I also use all of it on a regular basis. I buy enough to where I have some colour variety, then pause for a long period of time to use all of it up. I set strict quantity boundaries for myself so I don't go overboard and I constantly remind myself of what I already have in my "collection". It's okay to get new things, as long as you appreciate them. Only buy that nice lip stain if you know you're going to use all of it. And if you convince yourself that you really need it but then end up using it only once, give it to a friend or a family member (unless you have lip infections, ofc; only do that if it's safe).
All things I've always known down deep, but that's so useful to hear listed out so openly and clearly. Thank you! (And yes, I feel guilty of most) Limited editions don't help, either. It's alarming how dysfunctional purchase behaviours have been normalized and legitimated to the point that we almost do not realize this is not sustainable in do many ways
I'm glad this video was helpful! Limited edition can be a trigger too! Sometimes I've wondered: do I want this because I like this or because its limited edition?
Great video - you’ve made excellent points! I would add a couple of points - Keep of an attitude of sticking with what works for me. (Influencers - it’s their job to keep trying something new - but, that’s not my job! 😀). And, from Target, I bought a pretty organizer which I’ve set out on my bathroom counter. It shows me what I already own. If it’s full, I don’t need to buy another lipstick or palette, etc. (When I had my makeup in drawers, I didn’t really know everything I already owned.). Thanks for a great video!
Thanks so much, and you're right! I also like your take. So often I hear if the space is full declutter. But, I agree with you. If the space is full its a sign you need to stop and finish what you have!
My problem is completionism. I have to buy the whole line of something, even if I won’t ever use it or I don’t feel complete. I’m getting better but that’s my biggest issue.
I can definitely understand that! It's great you also see this mentality as something that influences your purchasing decisions. For me, sometimes just knowing is helpful.
Ghaha then you would not love my eyeshadow palette then xp I went to MAC and wanted to make a custom palette with 4 colors. Ended up liking 3 colors, left with 1 empty hole in the pallete xp
I feel like a lot of the "trying to try" mentality for youtubers comes from the expectation that every individual beauty channel has to be an encyclopedia of makeup knowledge, and I've definitely noticed that in myself and I have to remind myself regularly that even if I don't know x thing, someone else will. Thinking of the community and collective experience as the encyclopedia instead of my own knowledge has helped.
Yes! This is such a lovely point. I've felt a lot of pressure to know a lot and have a recommendation and a favourite for every kind of category of makeup. I love your outlook so much- to see the community as a resource instead of just yourself!
Guurrl, I don't know why it took me so long to find your channel!! I agree with everything you are saying in this video! Thanks so much for making content like this!!
I had to go back and listen three or four times to be sure I heard this right... who is spending $1,200. a month on nails? What do $1,200. nails look like? What kind of salon is this?
Very good thoughts! My problem is definitely wanting to try. Watching Beauty TH-cam got my into this trap of accumulating so much stuff and every time there is something I want to try. Even if I have already way too much.
I feel the same way Patricia! It feels hard to strike a balance. Even though we're both still figuring it out I think that the trying to figure it out is important. You mighg not get it right all the time but that's part of the process (at least I think).
@@shawnaripari Thank you Shawna! I love watching your content and similar videos. I think this will help me shifting my mindset and stop buying unnecessary stuff. 🤞
Thank you for making this video, it was a good reminder for me that I do not need the stuff that I want to buy and that I can't afford to anyway at the moment. The problem is a lot of new make up art, new concepts, ideas, looks and tips seem to revolve so much around new makeup product reviews or placements that inevitable one gets influenced to buy nore stuff by all these soft ads even though we are just clicking on the video to see how a look is done or make up is applied.
Im glad you enjoyed the video! You are so right too about new makeup as central to the content. So even if you're not on trendmood or looking for something new or a review you're still seeing it. That's hard.
Great video! I’m trying to become more a conscious consumer and the thing I’m struggling with most is sales and marketing surrounding them, especially as we’re getting closer to Black Friday. I’m actually really good about saving money and not spending more than I can afford so I know I have extra spending money, and it’s so difficult when something I’m interested in is a really good deal. It feels like if i don’t get it now, I’ll miss out on saving money later. Also, I used to put on a full face of makeup every day for work, but I’ve rarely even changed out of my pajamas since March while I’m working from home during the pandemic. I’ve mostly only bought eyeshadow since then, because you can still wear that easily with a mask, but even then, I hardly leave my apartment and I’ve put on makeup even less.
It's excellent to hear that you already have some of these important skills! The sales and black friday can be tough...I feel you! I struggle with this too still. One of the lessons I learned this year is that for most things, even if they're on sale, they will be here later. There have been moments when I have a big basket all ready to go and I have to tell myself- these will be here later. I've found that helps most of the time. I also feel you on the pandemic attire! I've done that a lot too. It's a weird time that's changed a lot of habits. I know if I'm not actively trying to go outside I can blink and I haven't been outside in 5 or 6 days. If you miss the makeup or the ritual of it I hope you take some time on your next work day to do it!
I definitely hear what you’re saying. On the nails part - growing up I always thought of getting your nails done as a luxury and it was relatively recently that I realized some people just constantly get them done which I found pretty surprising. I also saw someone saw it is kind of a class indicator because as a woman if you have your nails all the time it shows that you don’t have a manual labor job / job where you are working w things constantly. I’m someone that loves beauty / makeup but work in a manufacturing environment so I can’t ever really have my nails done. And definitely agree on the other points too I feel like with what we’ve seen we don’t value each individual product enough. If you think about it there is so much product even in one bronzer for example that would last a decent amount of time if you only had to rely on that one product but with the way we often speak about these items it’s as if they are something more dispensable
Always happy to see a fellow canadian talking about these things. I'm always getting recommendations and advice from americans that just doesn't translate to people in other countries. Even "simple" or "inexpensive" products, routines, etc look different from country to country. For a skincare example everyone seems to have jumped on the CeraVe train because american influencers are talking about how "cheap" and good it is....when the cleansers and serums are easily $25+ each in my local stores. Certainly not expensive but hardly what I'd call cheap either.
Glad to have you here! And yes, me too! Pricing and accessibility is different in Canada. It's funny you mentioned cerava because I was looking into them recently and was shocked that most of their cleansers retailed for $20-30. Even dermae. I've heard American influencers talk about it as an affordable clean skincare brand only to find that many of the moisturizers retail for $40-50! One of the first videos on my channel is a comparison between American and Canadian makeup and I might just bring that back in 20201!
@@shawnaripari I will absolutely go find that video but I would love to see an updated one! The differences can be crazy (and disappointing) sometimes.
This is so helpful. I have a collection that is out of control, but I still have continued purchasing makeup a few times a year just because I miss “trying” new things. And I’ve never heard anyone discussing how the “try mentality” is damaging (and have never even thought about how that language is admitting a short term relationship with the product before it even enters my life!) Thank you for sharing. I got comfortable with my bad habits, thinking I was doing well because I never shop during the VIB sale or fall for holiday promos. But buying is still buying, no matter when you do it. And continuing to buy is evidence that I am not getting true satisfaction from what I already own. And how will it help to add more of the same?
I love the concept of this video and plan to watch all 4 of your videos with this title has I need to hear it for myself as you address so many interesting points. One item I politely disagree with is nails. Nails and makeup go together aesthetically, you do one you also do the other for femininity. When you apply makeup on camera your nails are on close up display so they have to look nice. If I’m doing my own makeup I see my nails in the mirror so I can’t imagine my nails not looking as good as my makeup. I have painted my own nails every Sunday since middle school, I’m an adult now. I figure TH-cam creators have a larger income and can have a nail salon budget. Just like a news anchor has a wardrobe budget, because you have to look polished on camera.
I’ve been buying everything and all things for several years because I could afford it, but I rarely used what I bought. I got sucked into the influencers. Recently,I’ve noticed it’s way out of control, especially colourpop, I’ve deculttered and am in the process of declutterimg. I only need/want 3 or 4 blushes different brands and colors, a couple of bronzers, 1-2 foundations a couple of powders. I’m struggling with palettes, but I’ve gotten rid of soooo many and have only kept ones I love. Financially, I’m not in the same place I was so I’ve really had to rethink. I’m glad this happened because I really was way out there, like I was an influencer and I’m just a normal consumer.
Totally agreed with your points is refreshing be remind about been more conscious consumer and try not to follow trends that don't last. Great content :)
(I'm going back and watching your older videos, so excuse this random late comment, LOL.) Re: the Sephora sale, I used to avidly watch all of the videos about the sale and recommendations and would consistently wind up buying things I did not need and justified with the "well, it's on sale" mindset. In fact, my Sephora purchasing was utterly out of control as a direct result of beauty youtubers and their haul videos for a good two-three years. In 2019 I put myself on a no buy and it was the best thing I've ever done as it completely rebalanced my spending habits/budgeting methods. I do sometimes still take part in the sale, but it's usually only to purchase something I'm actually running low on and I would've repurchased anyway, or a new product that I've thought long and hard about. I am not a fan of backups and am working this year to get through the remainder of my horde of products, so truly don't think I'll ever go nuts over a sale of any kind ever again. The idea of "buying backups" just makes zero sense to me at this point, and it feels REALLY good to be able to say that.
I can relate to this so much. I've experienced the exact same thing and my spending was totally out of control too. I'm so glad you went on that no buy and have a mindset/ spending habit that works for you. I love hearing that!!
Another thing I've caught myself doing, is frantically overusing some of my products just to get them out of the way. I can feel so consumed by the clutter and I just want to get things out of the way to make room for something else or reduce the size of my collection, that I'll use way too much lotion, body wash, burn a candle long after it's made the room fragrant etc. And the problem isn't that these products last too long, it's that I've accumulated too much stuff. And I'll also overuse a product to justify buying a new one. If I want a new face lotion, I'll slather myself in lotion just to justify buying the new product that sounds better than the one I have. And the constant advertisements that are cultivated to my past searches is so hard not to give into at some point. I can't just use social media or read an article without being reminded 10x about the leggings I was just looking at. It's hard to escape this passive consumption mindset when nearly everything we engage with is polluted with nudges to get us to cave to our impulse.
Yes! This is a great point and I've done it too. Panning and overusing can on the surface be applauded in this space but doing it to justify buying more isn't really changing mindsets or habits. This is a great reminder to me at least to think about it too!
I convinced myself to try a Natasha Denona palette because I kept hearing this, and I wanted that one luxe feeling nice thing. I ended up hating it and feeling so guilty sending it back to Sephora. I have started only listening to influencers who are always reminding us we don’t need everything and to be careful with our money
@@GenElizell Right on. I found ND, Pat McGraf, and Charlotte T were overrated. I don't mind spending extra money are higher end products, but I didn't think they were that much better.
With the VIB sale and also Ulta's 21 days of beauty, I've gotten to the point where if it wasn't on my wish list before the sale, I don't get to add it just because of the "sale". If an item's been on my mind for a while, and then happens to go on sale, then I'm content with the purchase and don't have regrets later on.
I understand and agree with the majority of this. Also on another side of the discontinue a product (aka Glossier bubble wrap r.i.p 🥺) then I feel it’s more than okay to try and something that I will hopefully like as much. I do struggle with being satisfied with what I have sometimes as well. And to say that I only look for alternatives when a item is discontinued is just lying to myself also. I guess it’s realizing which is going to be actually helpful (I mean replacing the discontinued product) should be my highest priority. And have fallen into the trap of the collection mentality (makeup is not Pokémon Veronica- (My name Veronica 🤣 And I want to get away from that. I am going to put the focus on using what I have. I just started my no/low buy and I have followed a lot of your advice. I appreciate you sharing your experience and what had worked for you and that it may work for me. I have my list of what I’m not buying and also a list of what I can buy (either to replace what has been used up) or to purchase experiences rather than stuff. I am allowing concert tickets. And a friend and I are getting matching tattoos. I am a huge crafter and craft supplies (within reason are allowed too) but I am also going to save for these and a lot easier I might add now that I’m buying less to just buy and am making myself become more mindful. I must admit I’m kinda nervous about how I’m going to do. Mostly emotionally. I have figured out why I shop and it makes me sad to think I feel that way. People are unpredictable and I guess things are not. I’m not sure it makes sense. It’s just part of my thought process. I appreciate that there are people such as you on TH-cam that are bringing attention to more mindful spending. And it had inspired me to rethink my spending habits. That is huge. Thank you so much!!
Thanks so much! I'm glad you're enjoying the content to see what works for you (you know what they say take what you need and leave the rest). I'm wishing you the best of luck on your journey!
I wish I had seen this before the VIB Sale. I’ve spent a ridiculous amount of money on make-up this year...out of boredom, depression and yes, being influenced. This video made me uncomfortable in a way that I needed. Thank you.
@@shawnaripari I watched the May video you recommended, and have decided to watch them all. I’m not sure how you came into my feed, but I’m glad you did. I really need to make some hard decisions about how, and why, I’m spending my money. Thanks again.
I decided last year that I want to use my collection not only collect stuff. Thanks to your channel I decided to make no-buy year and focus on stuff that I have. Just to use them because I like them a lot and use them because I spent my money on it. Like you said in different video. No-buy year shows you issue you don't want to face and sometimes buying new stuff is only covering them. I am buying mainly because I am excited about sth new, but there will be always sth new to buy and if I don't want to be a collector I need to choose more wisely what I want.
Yes! I'm so happy you decided to go on a nobuy and it feels like the right decision for you. The nobuy year has been quite revealing and I wish you the best of luck on yours!
Good video. I'm on a low buy. I didn't think I overconsumed until I started watching TJ Maxx haul videos lol. I have way too much product now. Granted they are all things I use but it's like I mini hoard stuff. I was a sucker for buying stuff with cute packaging like Disney stuff from Colourpop. Chances are good you have the same colors or similar stuff already but it doesn't have a princess on it. Unless you have the space for a collection or plan on selling it, don't do this. It does bother me that most of my products I have never used up (I don't go by expiration dates unless I see or smell that an item shouldn't be used). I'm in my late 30s and until I was maybe in my early 20s, I don't think eyeshadow palettes were the norm. It seemed like building your own palette with a la carte eyeshadows was what people did.
@@shawnaripari Definitely. I fell off the bandwagon in July big time, and it's taken me a while to get back on it. Not sure what it was about July that got everyone, but i know i'm not the only one that spent way over their budget.
You're right! I did a bit too in July. Maybe its because it was just over half the year and newer habits were waning or harder to maintain at that point? I know for me it was revering to old coping habits. But, I think that even these experiences are lessons. 2020 is such a dumpster fire and has been really challenging for a lot of people (myself included)! I hope you're having some grace with yourself because I'm sure you're doing what you can!
Shawna Ripari 2020 has been a shit show. Yeah, what’s done is done. I’m on a complete no buy for a few months, mostly to give myself some time to use all the things I’ve bought, because if I don’t I know I’m not going to use them. They’re just going to sit around until I finally want to use them, which tends to be 12 months down the track because they’re no longer “new”. 🙄
Influencers are literally advertisements. They work off ad revenue and they have contracts to advertise sponsors and advertise their own equipment. Of course there's gonna be a social standard that you're "in" by following the status quo of a community, that's like how people support streamers, but more indirectly.
Yes... I had this big thing where I wanted all the naked palettes, all the Charlotte tilbury palettes (large ones), all the colourpop, all all all. I realized I was never using half of them because I didn’t like the color story. Even morphe. I did buy one quad of pat mcgrath, I have one large Huda palette, one Charlotte palette. It’s hard because I want to buy all of them and I’ve got no Natasha denonas idk if I will. I now only have 3 naked palettes that I adore and use.
I'm really glad youtube recommend me this video. I'm slowly getting away from consumerism so I agree with almost everything you said. I have a little disagreement with the #1, but maybe it's something cultural. Making your own nail is really common here in brazil. My mail kit cost me less than 50 bucks and a good nail polish is less than 5 bucks. Also those really crazy designs youtubers use are considered tacky herw
I have small makeup channel and I feel like its so normalized on youtube to have a huge makeup collection as youtuber that there is this pressure to have big collection it seems expected if that makes sense and I find it hard to find certain things like there is alot of project pan videos and tips but not much how to keep track of the products and hauls/anti hauls seem popular along with declutters which sometimes I wonder if they actually decluttered it or just said that and kept it anyway...
So many TH-cam videos are starting to feel like one long ad preceded or interrupted by more ads. I also dislike the language surrounding makeup, like “I’m obsessed with ______,” “You NEED this,” “I went a little overboard hehehe I have a problem,” “You need to stop me from buying, here’s my haul.” Overconsumption is a huge environmental, monetary, psychological, and ethical issue that shouldn’t be romanticized with 500+ palette “declutters” in which people don’t recycle palettes properly, or with “don’t walk, run to get this!” marketing rhetoric.
Those were some excellent but a little uncomfortable to hear points. Part way through watching this I paused to unsubscribe from all the channels that make me feel like I need to buy something! I'm usually quite good with minimalism and using up things, but this year things have really gone off the rails!
I'm glad you liked it! I sometimes have to do the same too. Sometimes the VIB sale content is what gets me! It also sounds like your consumption habits are important to you and getting them to a place you're comfortable with again. It has been a tough year so i hope you're being kind to yourself in the process!
I always use the VIB sale to replace my stuff because it takes at least 6 mos to get through almost everything and maybe multiples of those that run out quickly. My aim for the past two years, however is to lose my Rouge status which is FINALLY happening! :) So proud of myself for saving $$.
Yes 👏👏👏 you should be proud! And, as you pointed out the sale isn't completely useless but can quickly become a time of overconsuming just like the ulta 21 days of beauty sales or black Friday in general! There's been so much black Friday sales content on the platform and thats true every year
Getting my nails done didn’t come from beauty gurus. I’m a biter & learned to keep a full set whenever I’m a student. From there it evolved into an interest, and I fully enjoy the art of it.
Nails are one of my favorite aspects of beauty. It’s a love affair that started in my teens. I know some folks can’t leave the house without a face of makeup, but for me as long as my nails are tidy and polished, and I have on some complimentary lipstick, I can take on the day.
I am not able to access the VIB sale (thank god) but I find it really jarring to see channels whose content often revolves around no-buys, anti-hauls etc. recommending what to buy in the sale. I get the excitement and that it probably generates views but, I just hate seeing that.
@@shawnaripari It sucks because it makes me want to unfollow people whose content I generally really like. I'm trying to restrain myself from buying anything (October was wild) and seeing all those things gives me really bad FOMO. Even when it's just the little promo screen.
I can totally understand that! It would be nice if there wasn't this cycle of VIB content every year. Maybe if it's affecting you unsubscribe for a while? You ultimately know what's best for yourself!
One thing I’ve noticed is TH-camrs love to call people who follow them their “family” to make people feel like they are a bigger part than they actually are.some people feel like they have a true belonging by owning the same things the TH-camr does; like they have a more personal connection then what they actually do.
It's so interesting to talk about nails!!! I've found this so confusing over time like....why is everyone having these expensive and time extensive nail routines some very counter productive to make up application (˘･_･˘) as if it's standard and the basic thing to do. I feel it definitely can create some pressure and expectations on the audience. And I'm really into indie nailpolish 😅😅 so I actually watch nail polish channels all the time. But like our little indie polish community seems more low maintenance about nails somehow than beauty influencers 🤔
Thats certainly true and a good point! Your comment and others have demonstrated that the nail trend isn't all that recent and can differ culturally. Perhaps, the nail trend is just a shift, at most, from pre-existing expectations for beauty. Internalized pressures we put on ourselves? My larger point beyond the cost was additions to beauty regimes. Additions of expectations ( of beauty, gender expression, and values) and time and communicating these ideas via the platform that encourages others to value these things too and buy the necessary items involved. Its also ok if you disagree with that point too!
And then there are the project pans, which are cool, but me as a regular person uses less than half the amount of eyeshadow an infulencer would use. So reaching a pan takes me forever. There is no way I'll be reaching multiple pans a month. But I feel like sometimes certain influencers buy stuff just to pan, rather than use up older product.
I'm assuming by getting your nails done, you specifically mean enhancements, like acrylic or gel extensions. It is totally possible to have beautifully manicured nails at home without enhancements or even polish. Cuticle oil, good files, cuticle remover, and a basic manicure regimen are cheap and can really make a "polished" groomed look even with no additional products. Even if one wants the look of enhancements, it is possible to learn to do them yourself for the fraction of the cost of salons, and perhaps better hygiene, quality, and control on your own. I am someone who finds hairstyling pretty much impossible with thin, slick hair, but even home gel manicures are more accessible than what many people consider the absolute minimum of home hairstyling.
I know I'm very late to the party, but I still wanted to compliment you on this video. Great point, I'm afraid it's a bit too recognizable to me. Two years after you making this video, I would like to add: I hear the term 'investing' a lot. Rubs me the wrong way. As if you don't just buy a Tom Ford palette, no no, see it as an investment! That just feels so wrong to me. Thanks for making me a bit more mindful again.
Do people not ever do their own nails anymore? I just assume that that's what most people do, which is what I've always done. No doubt a good number of youtubers have the money, but who's got the time?
I feel into the manicure thing. I love love love how they look BUT I HATE how they feel.As someone who likes the freedom to cook, play an instrument and use my fingers freely nails just felt like too much of a hassle. I tried them once, broke a nail and never looked back. If i wear fake nails its probably my wedding haha
I am with you on the feel! They feel limiting and make it difficult to type or text. I like them occasionally and can give me a pick me up if I need it but nothing on the regular! It's great you know what you like!
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What really bothers me is when youtubers _apologize_ for not having had their nails done, like how f-ed up is that?!
I've seen that too! I don't care what their nails look like! Maybe they feel pressure though? Perhaps there have been comments or they want their nails to look good for product shots? I've actually heard the last one quite a bit. Even if either of those are the case I don't want yohtubers to feel like and apology is necessary.
Even apologizing for messy hair/makeup or wearing no makeup? Self-deprecation is SO toxic and yet so common, especially in young women. We don't have to live up to anybody's aesthetic standard, even if we're into beauty as a job
Because there judgmental ppl that comment that make it worst but I think they could keep there nails clean and neat even a clear coat or buff shine I figure during the lock down ppl would start doing there own nails I was disappointed when everyone in the government were still doing there nails and hair I wanted to see some skunk heads and flat hair
I have seen people on people's channels, even ones that deal with topics other than beauty, commenting on how having your nails done makes you seem more credible. And I'm sure there are many more that just don't say anything. Women are held to a higher standard of grooming, and it sucks. And I garden, cook, play piano, and have a job that involves a lot of typing, and I cannot keep polish on my nails, so I guess I just come across as "unprofessional."
@@jessicaharrison4719 now that I come to think of it, I have just realized that for me it's just the other way around, I tend to presume that extremely well manicured women are not as practical and professional, probably because putting much effort in the looks seems to imply less effort is put in other stuff. My bad, that's a prejudice as well
I completely lost control with “treating myself”. I use to treat myself in special occasions. Now, I do any time I feel discomfort and the “treats” have lost meaning and have become a mid form of shop addiction. 😐
8:50-8:51 "buying for my fantasy self" that's a perfect way to describe how I used to purchase beauty products. The only makeup I wear is lipstick, and this still ended up being a problem a few years ago when I decided to purge my collection and had over 150 lipsticks, half of them being the exact same color over and over again. I was definitely buying with my "fantasy self" in mind, someone who was able to have a lot of expensive, luxurious brands and tons of products. It was also definitely a fear of missing out, like I couldn't go without all these lipsticks popular creators were hyping up as if they were completely life changing. But, realistically, that was costing a fortune, and the vast majority of those lipsticks I'd completely forgotten about, usually sticking to a handful of favorites anyway. I'm really glad I got out of that mentality. Now I have maybe 20, and all of them are inexpensive and different colors, so I can still enjoy having variety without having to destroy my wallet or letting perfectly good lipsticks expire in a drawer.
I am so happy to finally have found someone who’s talking about this. The whole Sephora VIB sale hype is really getting on my nerves. Especially when people are using it to justify extremely expensive items they don’t need....
Thanks Lilian! I'm glad you enjoyed the video. I also can get a bit tired of the VIB sale content. Elle S made a video about that recently which you should check out if you haven't and I made a video about the sale too back in April. It can be a lot.
I just avoid them. Makes me ike..
Right! 10-20% is not real savings for the consumer.
@@shawnaripari Hannah Louise Poston also has a number of videos on the topic that are really great (as is her content in general). Highly recommend checking her out!
I love her channel! I've been watching for a few years. Great rec 👍
I own a relatively small amount of makeup compared to a lot of beauty enthusiasts and I can’t even finish things before their expiration date which is wild
I worry about the same thing! For me, owning more than 2 lipsticks (what i can use in 2 years) means that anything more than that is going to go bad at some point. I hate knowing that because I want just a little variety but variety means waste. It is wild!
I kept most of my makeup past. The expiration date, most of the time the expiration date is meaningless. Unless it smell bad or start irritating your skin. Just keep it.
@@Blackroseofplue totally agree 👍
I agree!!!
@@shawnaripari I feel like a big issue is the sizing of products too it would be a great help if products came in smaller sizes too so you can have some variety but actually have a chance to finish products. I'm very much into Korean and Asian make up for many years now and I really like how much smaller and more compact eye shadow pallettes or face palettes are. Cushion foundations also have much less products so you can actually empty them and you can kinda build your own cushion too if you want. Blushes and highlighters also come in smaller sizes as well. It's still a lot of make up of course but comparable: it's much easier to use the same number of products in K make up than Western brands and they take up less space. I wish there was an option for smaller sized items across the board but especially powder items and lipsticks maybe even in a refill model to save packaging.
It's true, lack of contentment is the core issue with consumerism.
Underrated comment.
I know that I have reached some form of enlighten when huge amounts of make up makes me anxious instead of excited.
100% agree with everything. Another thing that has personally made me spend a lot unnecessarily was DUPES! Dupes are hyped said to be even better than the original and typically are assigned to expensive or luxury products. I wanted expensive lipsticks from Dior and YSL and Naked pallete but i didnt feel like spending $50 so i went and bought cheaper dupes from make up revolution, elf etc. but they’re still not quite it so i go buy more “dupes” because they’re cheaper. Guess what, I dont use them and i caved in and bought the original expensive products anyway after wasting although small but unnecessary money trying to dupe the products. Now i have bunch of clutter. So my rule now is- just get the original products instead of collecting almosts. Better to have 1 good quality product u know u will feel good abt using rather than bunch of similar stuff.
Wow this is an excellent point!
I fell for that too and spent more than if I had just bought the one more expensive quality item.
Yes - I’ve been through this, and now accept it’s better to buy the product you really want and thoroughly enjoy it.
I’m going through this right now. Ended up buying 4 drug store products to do the job of one high end product
Yep this. I have never spent full retail on makeup but definitely feel I wasted money on dupes. Not to say dupes are bad, but for me 1 dupe ended up meaning more dupes. Also I find even though there could be a color match, try using the dupe years later. When I use my MUR eyeshadow dupes, the quality is shit. Overall in my experience eyeshadow palette dupes typically end up being short term. The biggest waste of money eyeshadows for me are the SuperShock from Colourpop. These shit dry up. I bought Inkglot to revive them but had I known they would have dried up so quickly, I wouldn't have purchased them at all. I found Inkglot can only do so much as well.
Yes! Self care is financial stability, not racking up credit card debt!
I do love the panning community. I would projectpan because I had so much makeup and followed youtube trends. Panning made me realize one eyeshadow can take MONTHS to use. Or a lipstick takes a year or two. Now I pan it makes me rethink my purchases
This has been my experience too! Its taken me 1.5 years of regular use to finish a lipstick! The panning community is awesome 😊
Months? I can hit pan on an eye shadow in 3-4 weeks. But I pack the color on so that might be it…
the type of voice we need on the internet
Wow, this is such an incredibly kind comment. Thank you!
🌼I threw away make-up I disliked then replaced it with brands I love, with better quality make-up. After doing a project pan for one year, I learnt so much about my attitude towards make-up. It also made me look at other areas of my life where I was buying loads of things.🌼
Wow, so glad you learned a lot from that experience!
I feel so validated by this. I’ve worked in cosmetics for like 6 years and always felt like I had to try everything and buy the new and exciting palettes to keep up with the trends. I’d buy way more than I could really afford. Now I have a hoard of expired products that I don’t want to throw away but also won’t use cause it’s old. I’m finally banning myself from buying until I use something up.
Thank you for sharing 😊 I also have that dilemma all the time and it often leaves me standing still. Don't want to throw it away or use it. Sounds like you have a plan together though 😊
I agree - I think it doesn’t occur to some people that products EXPIRE!
Ive been "WANTING TO TRY EM COSMETICS" 😁 . I have too much makeup to buy something just to try. Thankx 🙏
I'm glad this video was helpful! I know sometimes I get sucked in too with new releases and brands.
It's also kinda expensive 😔
You’ve made such great points! I’ve been a victim of finding the “perfect nude” lip product and it’s so stupid and wasteful
So many behaviors I recognize in myself here. I started deleting stuff in my Sephora cart as you were talking. Great points made.
I'm glad this was helpful!
I agree on everything! One thing that really used to give me FOMO was limited editions, it's an absolutely toxic way of pushing people to buy something before even having enough time to think about it, or having the chance to procrastinate that decision (for example after the end of a no-buy period). It's usually done with pretty regular products that you could get anywhere else whenever you want (like a very normal pink blush or champaign highlighter), but you only want it because it's limited edition and you feel like you might regret not buying it in the future.
While this particular time in our lives has been horrible on many levels, it has provided an opportunity for many of us to pause and to think about our choices and our behaviors. Your video was excellent and on point we all need to take a look in the mirror or take a look inside and examine our consumer behavior .
One more thing to add about the beauty community. I enjoy watching videos overall from people who make videos on TH-cam (like yourself) as a hobby and not as a career. The opinions and advice is night and day from the ones who actually support themselves off being Influencers. I'll often search for here for products I'm interested in trying but come up flat with finding anything about them on TH-cam simply because they were never given as PR to people with thousands or millions of subscribers. I searched for certain products for instance from Touch in Sol and Wet N Wild but got nothing on here because they were never gifted to well known vloggers.
I have been binge-watching your videos while I am currently on my first-ever no-buy. Started the 1st of January. It helps remind me of my WHY and strengthens my decision.
Wishing you all the best!!
You hit the nail on the head! I think it`s human nature to always want the best and try to accumulate stuff so we feel accomplished and secured. What really helped me break this cycle of buying and researching products was to just force myself to use only what I already own and have a single item of the stuff I need.
Thats sounds like a great idea. I know the moment I start thinking about limiting my collection down to 1 item per category thats when I start to feel overwhelmed with choice!
I have been bothered by the "Makeup collection" for as long as I have been watching Beauty TH-cam... I like the term "Kit"... kind of a tool kit, where everything has a function; kits can be large or small depending on your needs, but will serve a fuction.
That's a great way to think about it
My favorite term is hoard, because a) feeling like a dragon makes me feel kinda badass, but also a little silly, and b) it seems to accurately describe the way I have amassed makeup, and I need a reminder to stop that behavior. It's not a collection, that's like calling groceries a collection of food!
I've noticed that I haven't fallen into the trap of buying makeup because I'm straight up broke constantly and when I do buy makeup I leave it on a wish list for a few months to see if its something I really want and will use regularly. But even so I still have too much makeup for someone who won't make money from buying makeup or using makeup.
Thanks for sharing! And it sounds like you're often quite smart about how you think about and make purchases. A list is so helpful (and waiting too).
OKAY after watching your declutter, i scrolled thru my home screen and this one popped up. LIKE the makeup madness needed me too see this. I have a obscene amount of makeup to the point, i don't film or wear makeup. I'm so riddled with anxiety and being overwhelmed. And yes being a completionist, or actually using. I can't even use, much less finish anything. I bought into to fomo, to the "must have" or "life changing" i am really at a crossroad of being a collector or hoarder. And it isn't healthy either way. My numbers would floor most. It's time to reevaluate the reason i started loving makeup, and started TH-cam. Thank you for this video💚
Wow! Such a lovely comment. I'm glad this video was helpful 💕
@@shawnaripari I'm truly not stalking you, but you'll probably see my name a bunch😂 i love a point of view being shared, without trying to push a belief or agenda. And even in only two videos i can totally sense that..
Love that you’re touching on this. I’m going on a no-buy in 2022 and I’m so happy I found your channel! 😊
Happy to hear!
I invest in makeup tbh. I'll get a pallete I'm going to use for YEARS. And use it till it's totally destroyed lol.
Thats awesome! It sounds like you know your preferences well too.
Invest in makeup? Like beanie babies?
I’ll admit as a male who wears makeup I always see the top male muas with nails and it definitely makes me feel like I have to get my nails done in order to “fit in” but thankfully I have yet to even get them. I don’t mind my bare nails ☺️🙌🏼
I've felt like that too! Almost like it sets an expectation? Its great you dig your natural nails too 😊 and probably saves some 💸💸💸
Shawna Ripari fr fr it definitely saves me money lol
Subscribed! Very intelligent presentation. Glad you are talking about these topics, especially regarding thinking about the lifespan of a product BEFORE we buy.
I’m a new subscriber and I love your channel! I’m starting a no/very low buy and I feel such shame with all the money I’ve spent over the years on makeup/ beauty 😳. I do get my nails done which I admit is kind of extravagant but I’m a nail biter so it helps me . Yes I could be rationalizing !! I also stopped dyeing my hair and I only get it trimmed about twice a year so I’ve cut back on that . Oh the struggle lol
Welcome to the channel! I hope your no buy goes well and wish you all the success! If getting your nails done is something you enjoy and fits in your budget (if this is something you desire) no shame there!
I think even those of us who don't have a platform should monitor what we do and why, because we are also influencing the people in our own lives. Especially younger people. ♥️
I can totally relate to constantly want to find something BETTER, even when I know I’ve found something I absolutely love. And it just never stops! Thank you so much for the amazing wake up call💖
Yes Habiba!
I rarely comment (partly because I spend little time on TH-cam) but I have to say I'm glad you articulated this well. I was looking for dicussions on consumerism and this video came up. We are such an overindulgent society hyperfocused on accumulation that we neglect our impact on other animals and the environment.
Totally number 7 for me. Pushing myself to finish what I already have.
I personally buy a lot of makeup, but I also use all of it on a regular basis.
I buy enough to where I have some colour variety, then pause for a long period of time to use all of it up. I set strict quantity boundaries for myself so I don't go overboard and I constantly remind myself of what I already have in my "collection".
It's okay to get new things, as long as you appreciate them. Only buy that nice lip stain if you know you're going to use all of it.
And if you convince yourself that you really need it but then end up using it only once, give it to a friend or a family member (unless you have lip infections, ofc; only do that if it's safe).
Wow this is insightful! I’m prepping for my 2022 no buy by watching all of your videos
All things I've always known down deep, but that's so useful to hear listed out so openly and clearly. Thank you! (And yes, I feel guilty of most)
Limited editions don't help, either.
It's alarming how dysfunctional purchase behaviours have been normalized and legitimated to the point that we almost do not realize this is not sustainable in do many ways
*so many
I'm glad this video was helpful! Limited edition can be a trigger too! Sometimes I've wondered: do I want this because I like this or because its limited edition?
Great video - you’ve made excellent points! I would add a couple of points - Keep of an attitude of sticking with what works for me. (Influencers - it’s their job to keep trying something new - but, that’s not my job! 😀). And, from Target, I bought a pretty organizer which I’ve set out on my bathroom counter. It shows me what I already own. If it’s full, I don’t need to buy another lipstick or palette, etc. (When I had my makeup in drawers, I didn’t really know everything I already owned.). Thanks for a great video!
Thanks so much, and you're right! I also like your take. So often I hear if the space is full declutter. But, I agree with you. If the space is full its a sign you need to stop and finish what you have!
My problem is completionism. I have to buy the whole line of something, even if I won’t ever use it or I don’t feel complete. I’m getting better but that’s my biggest issue.
I can definitely understand that! It's great you also see this mentality as something that influences your purchasing decisions. For me, sometimes just knowing is helpful.
Ghaha then you would not love my eyeshadow palette then xp I went to MAC and wanted to make a custom palette with 4 colors. Ended up liking 3 colors, left with 1 empty hole in the pallete xp
I feel like a lot of the "trying to try" mentality for youtubers comes from the expectation that every individual beauty channel has to be an encyclopedia of makeup knowledge, and I've definitely noticed that in myself and I have to remind myself regularly that even if I don't know x thing, someone else will. Thinking of the community and collective experience as the encyclopedia instead of my own knowledge has helped.
Yes! This is such a lovely point. I've felt a lot of pressure to know a lot and have a recommendation and a favourite for every kind of category of makeup. I love your outlook so much- to see the community as a resource instead of just yourself!
I'm so glad I stumbled upon your videos...I'm starting a " Low buy year". These kind of videos will be helpful. Thank you so much!
Yay! I'm glad I could help
Guurrl, I don't know why it took me so long to find your channel!! I agree with everything you are saying in this video! Thanks so much for making content like this!!
I had to go back and listen three or four times to be sure I heard this right... who is spending $1,200. a month on nails? What do $1,200. nails look like? What kind of salon is this?
It sounds like I misspoke. I meant $1200 a year! would also like to know what $1200 a month nails look like!
Very good thoughts! My problem is definitely wanting to try. Watching Beauty TH-cam got my into this trap of accumulating so much stuff and every time there is something I want to try. Even if I have already way too much.
I feel the same way Patricia! It feels hard to strike a balance. Even though we're both still figuring it out I think that the trying to figure it out is important. You mighg not get it right all the time but that's part of the process (at least I think).
@@shawnaripari Thank you Shawna! I love watching your content and similar videos. I think this will help me shifting my mindset and stop buying unnecessary stuff. 🤞
Thank you for making this video, it was a good reminder for me that I do not need the stuff that I want to buy and that I can't afford to anyway at the moment. The problem is a lot of new make up art, new concepts, ideas, looks and tips seem to revolve so much around new makeup product reviews or placements that inevitable one gets influenced to buy nore stuff by all these soft ads even though we are just clicking on the video to see how a look is done or make up is applied.
Im glad you enjoyed the video! You are so right too about new makeup as central to the content. So even if you're not on trendmood or looking for something new or a review you're still seeing it. That's hard.
Great video! I’m trying to become more a conscious consumer and the thing I’m struggling with most is sales and marketing surrounding them, especially as we’re getting closer to Black Friday. I’m actually really good about saving money and not spending more than I can afford so I know I have extra spending money, and it’s so difficult when something I’m interested in is a really good deal. It feels like if i don’t get it now, I’ll miss out on saving money later.
Also, I used to put on a full face of makeup every day for work, but I’ve rarely even changed out of my pajamas since March while I’m working from home during the pandemic. I’ve mostly only bought eyeshadow since then, because you can still wear that easily with a mask, but even then, I hardly leave my apartment and I’ve put on makeup even less.
It's excellent to hear that you already have some of these important skills! The sales and black friday can be tough...I feel you! I struggle with this too still. One of the lessons I learned this year is that for most things, even if they're on sale, they will be here later. There have been moments when I have a big basket all ready to go and I have to tell myself- these will be here later. I've found that helps most of the time.
I also feel you on the pandemic attire! I've done that a lot too. It's a weird time that's changed a lot of habits. I know if I'm not actively trying to go outside I can blink and I haven't been outside in 5 or 6 days. If you miss the makeup or the ritual of it I hope you take some time on your next work day to do it!
I definitely hear what you’re saying. On the nails part - growing up I always thought of getting your nails done as a luxury and it was relatively recently that I realized some people just constantly get them done which I found pretty surprising. I also saw someone saw it is kind of a class indicator because as a woman if you have your nails all the time it shows that you don’t have a manual labor job / job where you are working w things constantly. I’m someone that loves beauty / makeup but work in a manufacturing environment so I can’t ever really have my nails done.
And definitely agree on the other points too I feel like with what we’ve seen we don’t value each individual product enough. If you think about it there is so much product even in one bronzer for example that would last a decent amount of time if you only had to rely on that one product but with the way we often speak about these items it’s as if they are something more dispensable
Wow, excellent point on the nails. That was well said!
Always happy to see a fellow canadian talking about these things. I'm always getting recommendations and advice from americans that just doesn't translate to people in other countries. Even "simple" or "inexpensive" products, routines, etc look different from country to country. For a skincare example everyone seems to have jumped on the CeraVe train because american influencers are talking about how "cheap" and good it is....when the cleansers and serums are easily $25+ each in my local stores. Certainly not expensive but hardly what I'd call cheap either.
Glad to have you here! And yes, me too! Pricing and accessibility is different in Canada. It's funny you mentioned cerava because I was looking into them recently and was shocked that most of their cleansers retailed for $20-30. Even dermae. I've heard American influencers talk about it as an affordable clean skincare brand only to find that many of the moisturizers retail for $40-50! One of the first videos on my channel is a comparison between American and Canadian makeup and I might just bring that back in 20201!
@@shawnaripari I will absolutely go find that video but I would love to see an updated one! The differences can be crazy (and disappointing) sometimes.
Kind of like the "cheap" perfumes that are $50-$100. That's not cheap in my book.
Another great example here!
This is so helpful. I have a collection that is out of control, but I still have continued purchasing makeup a few times a year just because I miss “trying” new things. And I’ve never heard anyone discussing how the “try mentality” is damaging (and have never even thought about how that language is admitting a short term relationship with the product before it even enters my life!) Thank you for sharing. I got comfortable with my bad habits, thinking I was doing well because I never shop during the VIB sale or fall for holiday promos. But buying is still buying, no matter when you do it. And continuing to buy is evidence that I am not getting true satisfaction from what I already own. And how will it help to add more of the same?
Wow such wonderful insights !
I love the concept of this video and plan to watch all 4 of your videos with this title has I need to hear it for myself as you address so many interesting points.
One item I politely disagree with is nails. Nails and makeup go together aesthetically, you do one you also do the other for femininity. When you apply makeup on camera your nails are on close up display so they have to look nice. If I’m doing my own makeup I see my nails in the mirror so I can’t imagine my nails not looking as good as my makeup. I have painted my own nails every Sunday since middle school, I’m an adult now. I figure TH-cam creators have a larger income and can have a nail salon budget. Just like a news anchor has a wardrobe budget, because you have to look polished on camera.
curious this video popped up in suggestions when i made the conscious decision to use up items before buying anything new. thank you
I'm glad you came across the channel! It also sounds like serendipitous timing 😊
I’ve been buying everything and all things for several years because I could afford it, but I rarely used what I bought. I got sucked into the influencers. Recently,I’ve noticed it’s way out of control, especially colourpop, I’ve deculttered and am in the process of declutterimg. I only need/want 3 or 4 blushes different brands and colors, a couple of bronzers, 1-2 foundations a couple of powders. I’m struggling with palettes, but I’ve gotten rid of soooo many and have only kept ones I love. Financially, I’m not in the same place I was so I’ve really had to rethink. I’m glad this happened because I really was way out there, like I was an influencer and I’m just a normal consumer.
Totally agreed with your points is refreshing be remind about been more conscious consumer and try not to follow trends that don't last. Great content :)
Thanks! I've found resisting trends hard this year. I'm glad you found this video helpful 💕
(I'm going back and watching your older videos, so excuse this random late comment, LOL.) Re: the Sephora sale, I used to avidly watch all of the videos about the sale and recommendations and would consistently wind up buying things I did not need and justified with the "well, it's on sale" mindset. In fact, my Sephora purchasing was utterly out of control as a direct result of beauty youtubers and their haul videos for a good two-three years. In 2019 I put myself on a no buy and it was the best thing I've ever done as it completely rebalanced my spending habits/budgeting methods. I do sometimes still take part in the sale, but it's usually only to purchase something I'm actually running low on and I would've repurchased anyway, or a new product that I've thought long and hard about. I am not a fan of backups and am working this year to get through the remainder of my horde of products, so truly don't think I'll ever go nuts over a sale of any kind ever again. The idea of "buying backups" just makes zero sense to me at this point, and it feels REALLY good to be able to say that.
I can relate to this so much. I've experienced the exact same thing and my spending was totally out of control too. I'm so glad you went on that no buy and have a mindset/ spending habit that works for you. I love hearing that!!
I love the look of “naked” nails. They seem so naturally beautiful 🤩
Another thing I've caught myself doing, is frantically overusing some of my products just to get them out of the way. I can feel so consumed by the clutter and I just want to get things out of the way to make room for something else or reduce the size of my collection, that I'll use way too much lotion, body wash, burn a candle long after it's made the room fragrant etc. And the problem isn't that these products last too long, it's that I've accumulated too much stuff. And I'll also overuse a product to justify buying a new one. If I want a new face lotion, I'll slather myself in lotion just to justify buying the new product that sounds better than the one I have. And the constant advertisements that are cultivated to my past searches is so hard not to give into at some point. I can't just use social media or read an article without being reminded 10x about the leggings I was just looking at. It's hard to escape this passive consumption mindset when nearly everything we engage with is polluted with nudges to get us to cave to our impulse.
Yes! This is a great point and I've done it too. Panning and overusing can on the surface be applauded in this space but doing it to justify buying more isn't really changing mindsets or habits. This is a great reminder to me at least to think about it too!
The beauty influencers always use the term "must have","game changing" to influence viewers.
great point!
I convinced myself to try a Natasha Denona palette because I kept hearing this, and I wanted that one luxe feeling nice thing. I ended up hating it and feeling so guilty sending it back to Sephora. I have started only listening to influencers who are always reminding us we don’t need everything and to be careful with our money
Yes! They're basically selling you stuff just like an Avon lady would or any other salesmen ...only they don't need to physically come into your home
@@GenElizell Right on. I found ND, Pat McGraf, and Charlotte T were overrated. I don't mind spending extra money are higher end products, but I didn't think they were that much better.
With the VIB sale and also Ulta's 21 days of beauty, I've gotten to the point where if it wasn't on my wish list before the sale, I don't get to add it just because of the "sale". If an item's been on my mind for a while, and then happens to go on sale, then I'm content with the purchase and don't have regrets later on.
That sounds like a great system! I really like that! It's so easy to get sucked into those sales
I understand and agree with the majority of this. Also on another side of the discontinue a product (aka Glossier bubble wrap r.i.p 🥺) then I feel it’s more than okay to try and something that I will hopefully like as much. I do struggle with being satisfied with what I have sometimes as well. And to say that I only look for alternatives when a item is discontinued is just lying to myself also. I guess it’s realizing which is going to be actually helpful (I mean replacing the discontinued product) should be my highest priority. And have fallen into the trap of the collection mentality (makeup is not Pokémon Veronica- (My name Veronica 🤣 And I want to get away from that. I am going to put the focus on using what I have. I just started my no/low buy and I have followed a lot of your advice. I appreciate you sharing your experience and what had worked for you and that it may work for me. I have my list of what I’m not buying and also a list of what I can buy (either to replace what has been used up) or to purchase experiences rather than stuff. I am allowing concert tickets. And a friend and I are getting matching tattoos. I am a huge crafter and craft supplies (within reason are allowed too) but I am also going to save for these and a lot easier I might add now that I’m buying less to just buy and am making myself become more mindful. I must admit I’m kinda nervous about how I’m going to do. Mostly emotionally. I have figured out why I shop and it makes me sad to think I feel that way. People are unpredictable and I guess things are not. I’m not sure it makes sense. It’s just part of my thought process. I appreciate that there are people such as you on TH-cam that are bringing attention to more mindful spending. And it had inspired me to rethink my spending habits. That is huge. Thank you so much!!
Thanks so much! I'm glad you're enjoying the content to see what works for you (you know what they say take what you need and leave the rest). I'm wishing you the best of luck on your journey!
👏🏻 very well said! After each point i was like, so true😳 i have felt that too 🥴
I wish I had seen this before the VIB Sale. I’ve spent a ridiculous amount of money on make-up this year...out of boredom, depression and yes, being influenced. This video made me uncomfortable in a way that I needed. Thank you.
I'm so glad this video was helpful 💕
@@shawnaripari I watched the May video you recommended, and have decided to watch them all. I’m not sure how you came into my feed, but I’m glad you did. I really need to make some hard decisions about how, and why, I’m spending my money. Thanks again.
I decided last year that I want to use my collection not only collect stuff. Thanks to your channel I decided to make no-buy year and focus on stuff that I have. Just to use them because I like them a lot and use them because I spent my money on it. Like you said in different video. No-buy year shows you issue you don't want to face and sometimes buying new stuff is only covering them. I am buying mainly because I am excited about sth new, but there will be always sth new to buy and if I don't want to be a collector I need to choose more wisely what I want.
Yes! I'm so happy you decided to go on a nobuy and it feels like the right decision for you. The nobuy year has been quite revealing and I wish you the best of luck on yours!
@@shawnaripari thank you :) I really enjoy your channel and topics you are talking about, best greetings :)
In 2020, i spent more than 800 canadian dollar on new makeups (most are blushes). I just wanted to try...I won't do that in 2021.
Good video. I'm on a low buy. I didn't think I overconsumed until I started watching TJ Maxx haul videos lol. I have way too much product now. Granted they are all things I use but it's like I mini hoard stuff. I was a sucker for buying stuff with cute packaging like Disney stuff from Colourpop. Chances are good you have the same colors or similar stuff already but it doesn't have a princess on it. Unless you have the space for a collection or plan on selling it, don't do this. It does bother me that most of my products I have never used up (I don't go by expiration dates unless I see or smell that an item shouldn't be used). I'm in my late 30s and until I was maybe in my early 20s, I don't think eyeshadow palettes were the norm. It seemed like building your own palette with a la carte eyeshadows was what people did.
You've got some good points. I've definitely fallen into quite a few of those traps you mentioned, especially the "wanting to try..." category.
Hi Erin! I'm glad to have you here and that the video was helpful 😊 sometimes its so hard to resist wanting all the things 😬
@@shawnaripari Definitely. I fell off the bandwagon in July big time, and it's taken me a while to get back on it. Not sure what it was about July that got everyone, but i know i'm not the only one that spent way over their budget.
You're right! I did a bit too in July. Maybe its because it was just over half the year and newer habits were waning or harder to maintain at that point? I know for me it was revering to old coping habits. But, I think that even these experiences are lessons. 2020 is such a dumpster fire and has been really challenging for a lot of people (myself included)! I hope you're having some grace with yourself because I'm sure you're doing what you can!
Shawna Ripari 2020 has been a shit show. Yeah, what’s done is done. I’m on a complete no buy for a few months, mostly to give myself some time to use all the things I’ve bought, because if I don’t I know I’m not going to use them. They’re just going to sit around until I finally want to use them, which tends to be 12 months down the track because they’re no longer “new”. 🙄
I know that feeling so well! I hope your nobuy goes well and that this channel can be a support for you through these next few months😊
Instant subscriber now. ✌️
Your video really opened my eyes, thank you 💖✨
I'm glad this video was helpful!
What an amazing video please keep making this kind of video
Everything you said is so spot on..!
Influencers are literally advertisements. They work off ad revenue and they have contracts to advertise sponsors and advertise their own equipment. Of course there's gonna be a social standard that you're "in" by following the status quo of a community, that's like how people support streamers, but more indirectly.
Thank you very much for this🤩
You have a really great message and discussion. Keep going with what you're doing.
Thanks so much 💕
SO MUCH of this video is linked to sociology or can be discussed at great lengths when in a discussion surrounding sociology!!!
Oh i never had those feelings you describe. But it is interesting to know
Yes... I had this big thing where I wanted all the naked palettes, all the Charlotte tilbury palettes (large ones), all the colourpop, all all all. I realized I was never using half of them because I didn’t like the color story. Even morphe. I did buy one quad of pat mcgrath, I have one large Huda palette, one Charlotte palette. It’s hard because I want to buy all of them and I’ve got no Natasha denonas idk if I will. I now only have 3 naked palettes that I adore and use.
I'm really glad youtube recommend me this video. I'm slowly getting away from consumerism so I agree with almost everything you said. I have a little disagreement with the #1, but maybe it's something cultural. Making your own nail is really common here in brazil. My mail kit cost me less than 50 bucks and a good nail polish is less than 5 bucks. Also those really crazy designs youtubers use are considered tacky herw
I'm glad this video was useful!
There does seem to be some differences over designs and doing it yourself or going to the salon.
I have small makeup channel and I feel like its so normalized on youtube to have a huge makeup collection as youtuber that there is this pressure to have big collection it seems expected if that makes sense and I find it hard to find certain things like there is alot of project pan videos and tips but not much how to keep track of the products and hauls/anti hauls seem popular along with declutters which sometimes I wonder if they actually decluttered it or just said that and kept it anyway...
So many TH-cam videos are starting to feel like one long ad preceded or interrupted by more ads. I also dislike the language surrounding makeup, like “I’m obsessed with ______,” “You NEED this,” “I went a little overboard hehehe I have a problem,” “You need to stop me from buying, here’s my haul.” Overconsumption is a huge environmental, monetary, psychological, and ethical issue that shouldn’t be romanticized with 500+ palette “declutters” in which people don’t recycle palettes properly, or with “don’t walk, run to get this!” marketing rhetoric.
Those were some excellent but a little uncomfortable to hear points. Part way through watching this I paused to unsubscribe from all the channels that make me feel like I need to buy something! I'm usually quite good with minimalism and using up things, but this year things have really gone off the rails!
I'm glad you liked it! I sometimes have to do the same too. Sometimes the VIB sale content is what gets me! It also sounds like your consumption habits are important to you and getting them to a place you're comfortable with again. It has been a tough year so i hope you're being kind to yourself in the process!
I always use the VIB sale to replace my stuff because it takes at least 6 mos to get through almost everything and maybe multiples of those that run out quickly. My aim for the past two years, however is to lose my Rouge status which is FINALLY happening! :) So proud of myself for saving $$.
Yes 👏👏👏 you should be proud! And, as you pointed out the sale isn't completely useless but can quickly become a time of overconsuming just like the ulta 21 days of beauty sales or black Friday in general! There's been so much black Friday sales content on the platform and thats true every year
Getting my nails done didn’t come from beauty gurus. I’m a biter & learned to keep a full set whenever I’m a student. From there it evolved into an interest, and I fully enjoy the art of it.
Nails are one of my favorite aspects of beauty. It’s a love affair that started in my teens. I know some folks can’t leave the house without a face of makeup, but for me as long as my nails are tidy and polished, and I have on some complimentary lipstick, I can take on the day.
I am very picky so I don’t get to buy as much makeup as I can lol I do makeup as a hobby and I am hoping to be a makeup artist in the future
Not buying as much as you want is a great thing! Good luck on your journey to becoming a makeup artist 💕
Very thoughtful and honest video. I subscribed.
So happy to have you here! More content like this coming in the new year 😊
Wow.. loved it 😍👍
This video is so so so so on point!!!
I am not able to access the VIB sale (thank god) but I find it really jarring to see channels whose content often revolves around no-buys, anti-hauls etc. recommending what to buy in the sale. I get the excitement and that it probably generates views but, I just hate seeing that.
I can see what you mean about that disconnect. I've noticed that myself too on some channels.
@@shawnaripari It sucks because it makes me want to unfollow people whose content I generally really like. I'm trying to restrain myself from buying anything (October was wild) and seeing all those things gives me really bad FOMO. Even when it's just the little promo screen.
I can totally understand that! It would be nice if there wasn't this cycle of VIB content every year. Maybe if it's affecting you unsubscribe for a while? You ultimately know what's best for yourself!
One thing I’ve noticed is TH-camrs love to call people who follow them their “family” to make people feel like they are a bigger part than they actually are.some people feel like they have a true belonging by owning the same things the TH-camr does; like they have a more personal connection then what they actually do.
It's so interesting to talk about nails!!! I've found this so confusing over time like....why is everyone having these expensive and time extensive nail routines some very counter productive to make up application (˘･_･˘) as if it's standard and the basic thing to do. I feel it definitely can create some pressure and expectations on the audience. And I'm really into indie nailpolish 😅😅 so I actually watch nail polish channels all the time. But like our little indie polish community seems more low maintenance about nails somehow than beauty influencers 🤔
I absolutely support ur every points..
Ironically, I'm getting Ulta commercials,... it's about the hunt...a lot of people hunt for clothes instead...
How funny 😆
Press on nails are popular and only $6-8 and they look better than acrylic nails from a salon. And they dont damage your nails
Thats certainly true and a good point! Your comment and others have demonstrated that the nail trend isn't all that recent and can differ culturally. Perhaps, the nail trend is just a shift, at most, from pre-existing expectations for beauty. Internalized pressures we put on ourselves? My larger point beyond the cost was additions to beauty regimes. Additions of expectations ( of beauty, gender expression, and values) and time and communicating these ideas via the platform that encourages others to value these things too and buy the necessary items involved. Its also ok if you disagree with that point too!
Amen girl. You hit the nail on the head. 💋💕
Thank you! I'm glad you liked the video 💕
And then there are the project pans, which are cool, but me as a regular person uses less than half the amount of eyeshadow an infulencer would use. So reaching a pan takes me forever. There is no way I'll be reaching multiple pans a month. But I feel like sometimes certain influencers buy stuff just to pan, rather than use up older product.
Oh my god I have a big problem! 😬😬
Great points 📝
I'm assuming by getting your nails done, you specifically mean enhancements, like acrylic or gel extensions. It is totally possible to have beautifully manicured nails at home without enhancements or even polish. Cuticle oil, good files, cuticle remover, and a basic manicure regimen are cheap and can really make a "polished" groomed look even with no additional products. Even if one wants the look of enhancements, it is possible to learn to do them yourself for the fraction of the cost of salons, and perhaps better hygiene, quality, and control on your own. I am someone who finds hairstyling pretty much impossible with thin, slick hair, but even home gel manicures are more accessible than what many people consider the absolute minimum of home hairstyling.
Excellent point!
I know I'm very late to the party, but I still wanted to compliment you on this video. Great point, I'm afraid it's a bit too recognizable to me. Two years after you making this video, I would like to add: I hear the term 'investing' a lot. Rubs me the wrong way. As if you don't just buy a Tom Ford palette, no no, see it as an investment! That just feels so wrong to me.
Thanks for making me a bit more mindful again.
When you’re broke, no amount of influence can push you to buy when you need to eat. Hehe lol
Do people not ever do their own nails anymore? I just assume that that's what most people do, which is what I've always done. No doubt a good number of youtubers have the money, but who's got the time?
Very good insights! ❤️
Thank you, glad you think so!
Another unnecessary purchase is the beauty subscription box!!
Yes! You're definitely right. I mentioned this in my 8 ways to save money video. It's very poignant right now with a lot of sponsored unboxings.
I feel into the manicure thing. I love love love how they look BUT I HATE how they feel.As someone who likes the freedom to cook, play an instrument and use my fingers freely nails just felt like too much of a hassle. I tried them once, broke a nail and never looked back. If i wear fake nails its probably my wedding haha
I am with you on the feel! They feel limiting and make it difficult to type or text. I like them occasionally and can give me a pick me up if I need it but nothing on the regular! It's great you know what you like!