The True Hardest Part Of Parenting
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ต.ค. 2023
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Seeing Ottie's character develop is absolutely adorable. What I appreciate about you and Zoe as parents is that you just talk to her normally. I feel like a proud Aunt watching her grow!
Maybe i’m just hormonal but alfie saying “well you don’t have to worry about that, daddy’s here!” made me start crying
It’s really heartwarming but also bittersweet watching Alfie love being a father so much when you didn’t have a good father figure growing up. Him saying the most challenging part of parenting is not having enough time with his child made me cry. It’s just really healing to see how it should be.
The amount ottie talks now is so sweet ❤😢 her little sentences are so funny 😂
as a daughter who doesn’t have much of a relationship with their dad and had a turbulent family growing up , watching you and zoe and your parents fill otties life with so much joy and love heals my inner child, thank you
The ending bit has really got me thinking. It is wild to think that your kids will be able to watch you and hear how you spoke, and your mannerisms at 30. We can look back to photos of our parents and just assume what they were like because of the stories we hear but Ottie probably will watch these one day. It is wild to think that she will get to experience, to some level, you and zoe being young parents and what each day looked like, how you two spoke and acted, and so much more. That is crazy, truly crazy to think about.
I really think you were born to be a father. There are so many aspects of fatherhood that just seem so innate to you, like it all comes easy even though there can be challenging times. Ottie and your new little one are so fortunate to have you.
The part at the end where Alfie tells Ottie to “If you’re watching this when you’re older pop me a WhatsApp” made me tear up 🥹
We usually see such a polished and perfected Alfie, I almost forgot that these vulnerable moments (like him tearing up at the end of the video) exist. It took me right back to watching young Alfie and he's right, time has absolutely FLOWN.
My Daughter is 17 and learning to drive, seeing Ottie on her scooter makes me glance back and reminisce about 2 year old Leah. You are so right Alfie..it goes so quick! Hold on tight to each day ❤xx
Long term watcher.. i never comment. Its great to see FAIR and shared parenting responsibilities…this is how it should be. Its lovely to see
I love it how she likes spending time with her daddy. She definitely has a growing mind and great ideas of what she wants to do. Speech is so good. Love it.
I love how much you love being a dad to Ottie. Your little days/mornings out are so wholesome. She’s such a little love chatting away
When you’re talking about time going so fast and making the most of everything - this becomes even more intense with your second child, particularly if she’s going to be your last child! We have two girls too (amazing) but this second time around I’ve felt like that even more. Soak it all up because it goes even faster second time!!! It’s insane x
‘Some times you’ve got to sit in the traffic to get what you want’ …. Really hit different ❤
Riding the scooter is quite a lot of coordination for a two year old! Love to hear her talk!😊
Ottie is expressing herself so well. I love her little voice. I really appreciate seeing what a lovely father you are. You are truly present.
You talking about parenting in such a sweet and philosophical way makes me emotional. You're a great dad, Alfie. Your girls, all 3 of them, are lucky to have you.🥰
I'm a speech therapist and should be used to it by now, but I'm still so fascinated every time how fast children learn language! ...like Ottie makes such big jumps from video to video 😍
Total full circle watching Zoe and Alfie being parents now. Alfie’s goal of being a cool dad has been unlocked.
Question for you both, what main channel videos / vlogs are you most excited to show Ottie when she’s old enough to understand them?
I hope you and Zoe know that Ottie’s speech is so amazing because you two have always spoken to her a lot, but also in your normal voices. A lot of times people speak to babies and young kids in a “baby voice” and it truly has a major impact on a child’s ability to learn how to pronounce words.
As a millennial female who has chosen not to have kids I was seriously rethinking watching Alfie be such a great dad!! 😂 Also thank you for saying “solo parenting” and NOT babysitting!!! 🤌🏻 Being a girl-dad suits you, Alfie! ❤
Being a parent is like having the purest love and joy seeing them grow up but then simultaneously, it’s also the biggest heartbreak watching them grow too… toughest job in the world!
Alfie saying call me or pop over to the house to future ottie just shows how close their bond is going to be forever, what a brilliant father🥹🤍
Love how authentic and evolved these videos are. I love that I’m growing with you both ❤ It’s surreal 😊
just in time! perfect for this Cozy Sunday in bed with my coffee🥹 Happy sunday guys!🫶🏼
Alf, this was definitely one of my fave vlog ever. It was so peaceful, personal, real and clever in details about life. Thank you so much for this gift and all these reflection points you summed for us. It's always a joy to be here around, even for these 10 years
The way Alfie talked to future Ottie 😊. Just know that you are a good dad.
Alfie you made me cry so hard with your thoughts on parenting. I am 25 and for the last few years my dad always asks on my birthday how old i am turning. I thought it was because he genuinly forgets but then he told me “i just can’t believe it. I still see you as my little girl.” Love seeing such loving parents.
Oh perfect now I have a good background noise while my toddlers destroy the house 😂❤ also its insane, Zoe and I were pregnant at the same time when you had Otti and I had my daughter (she was born on the first of September) and now we are pregnant at the same time again and pretty much to the same day nearly! I'm due December 9th! But we are being surprised about the gender this time 😊
I remember from a very old vlog, that you both had just started dating and Zoe used to live near a beach, in the middle of the night Zoe wanted to go to the beach and you both went out despite it being freezing cold but you both were still so excited! And now seeing the same excitement that Ottie has to go to the beach is incredibly heartwarming. Love seeing how you both have grown up so beautifully in the past decade!!
Ottie's level of comprehension and expression is truly amazing. And those curls! Such a cutie.
This was exactly what I needed. After having a shocking 12 hour shit at the hospital and then smashing my favourite bowl with dinner, I was ready to cry. Thank you for the mental break, felt like catching up with a friend xx
There are so many wonderful stages and moments yet to come. Enjoy every one. Ottie is blessed to have you as her dad.
10 seconds into the video and I am melting... how sweet is Otti and omg her little talkings 🫠🫠🫠
It’s 3 am in America and I’m awake because I don’t feel great, your videos always bring comfort, so just what I needed ❤️
As a mom of a six year old and three year old I completely agree. Time is the hardest part. You truly want to cherish every moment with them. It’s so bittersweet watching them grow up. Also wanted to say you all are doing an amazing job with Ottie.
The opening bit just melts my heart..Dear precious baby
Hello! silent follower here 😅 just wanted to pop and and share how grateful i am of this space, and how beautiful it has been to witness you and your family growing and evolving ❤ thank you for that pause, time does fly and if we are trap in the illusion that we will have time, we will miss the most important things in life, thanks why those moments of taking a pause are so importante 🙏🏻 a present
Thank you!! best wishes for you all
Silent watcher here … when I was pregnant everyone with children were telling me how difficult parenting is… having the little one myself , yes it is so challenging but also the best period of my life.❤ So I have advice for soon to be parents ( I also said this to my friends how are about to become parents ) soak up every moment and enjoy parenthood, lack of sleep or trying to navigate child through their emotions cannot compare with love and happiness that you receive❤
I have spent 52years and my to do list gets added to everyday but it also me I grow personally everyday because there’s something new. The most challenging part of me being a parent of 5 wonderful children has been being time going so fast and them needing me in different ways to when they were small. Xx
Currently on a business trip in Sri Lanka watching this. Off to India on Tuesday for the next part.
I can really resonate with Zoe and her anxiety travelling on planes. I had to do this from London alone for the first time flying that far and first time ever alone. So will say Zoe you inspired me to do this from your recent vlogs and the way you support her Alfie is couple goals.
"Life is a never ending to-do list"...this truth hit so hard🙌
Your chat at the end was so real and raw it made me tear up. You're a good man Alfie and everyone in your life is so lucky to have you.
What I find the most amazing is how much you and Zoe have grown. 💜
I remember watching you guys when you had just met and now all these years later, you are getting married, you have a beautiful daughter and another on the way.
I remember when You were the young guy who snuck in a trampoline park to sleep. All of your crazy adventures that we’ve been able to join you on and now here you are with your family starting a whole new book of adventures.
Thank you for letting us be a part of it all. 🥰
The feeling you were describing is something I often think of as feeling nostalgic for a time that hasn’t actually passed yet ❤ just a very heightened awareness that the moment you’re in will be one you look back on and treasure! Heartbreaking and heartwarming at the same time ❤
So lovely seeing what a little lady Ottie’s becoming !! Have a wonderful rest of the weekend xx
Alfie! The way you spoke about Ottie and being a Dad at the end there was just truly beautiful. Aww your face when you spoke, the love and pride was written all over it. ❤❤
I absolutely love Ottie’s personality, she’s adorable! I also love how this is almost like a time capsule for her to watch back, when she’s older. 💛
Otties age is at such a great age. 1-7 are my favorite ages. Their brains are growing so fast and their personality really starts to shine. Enjoy the little moments Alfie! ❤ I love this idea. 😊
As a long time watcher, vlogs like these make it even more special. It is amazing to see all you’ve achieved and your gorgeous family. You all deserve all the happiness. You’re awesome Alfie, thanks for bringing so much light to my life through your content! You’re doing an amazing job 💜
Every time I have a bad day, I come on here and watch Alfie’s vlog and I instantly feel so much better. All the life lessons he talks about, I relate to so much. Thanks so much Alfie, for being so upfront, real and inspiring.
Cannot put into words how warm your videos make me feel. You are a very bright corner of this world Alfie
I just adore how much you love your child and baby No2
My Dad never seemed to enjoy or want to be involved in our lives too much. He much preferred being at work and working away (he volunteered) then at weekends he was always playing sport. So I never really had a relationship with him.
So seeing you with Ottie and listening to you talk about her fills my heart. May you never change ❤
It's so emotional to see the way you talk about Ottie.. I can't help but tear up every time.
Seeing how your life is turning out gives me hope for my future, having good children is one of my ultimate goals and seeing how adorable Ottie is turning out is so heartwarming🤍 You’re amazing parents and a video on parenting advice would be so helpful!
I know this exact feeling so well with my little girl too.. It’s like you wanna soak up each stage of their growth as they change all the time but it is still them growing up & they’ll be in your life forever ❤ it gets me emotional too sometimes
after 10 years I still feel the same excitement and comfort every time I watch one of yours or Zoe’s videos. I even did a few months Au pairing in Brighton over this summer (coming from New Zealand!) and loved it so much exploring a place I had only ever seen on TH-cam! I’m now so keen to come back next year!
ps. If ottie ever needs an Au pair hehe 🤍
starting my day off by watching this video. I have so much love for your wonderful family. You are an amazing example 💛
‘Every bit is the best bit 😊’. Being the mum of two girls now all grown up, I would say, ‘every bit is the best bit…even when they are all grown up’…treasured times Alfie! You are fabulous parents, and someone who had grown up kids once said to me..when my youngest was Otties age, that ‘every bits the best bit…’ and it truly is! Wonderful video, one of my favourites!
Love the vlogs Alfie! Have been a fan for over 7 years. It’s my birthday today! Congrats on all you have achieved ❤
Wow I haven’t seen a video of yours in years and years & it feels so soothing to get back into it! I didn’t expect to see such a grown little girl waddling around, it’s so lovely 🥹
Wow, I’m 42 with 2 teenage boys, and you put the joy & heartache of parenting into words SO well! It’s my first time commenting on your videos and I’ve watched you since you & Zoe first started dating, and I’m just so incredibly proud of you and happy for you 💗
I love hearing ottie talk, our daughter is a bit older born april 2021 and talks about 10% of what ottie does. I hope she talks more soon because its so fun to talk to them
Lovely Daddy and daughter moments ❤
Ye it’s so heartwarming ❤🥰
When Ottie watches this one day 😭🥹 wow this is just the most pure love ever! Truly heartwarming. You are a lovely girl Dad 💗
I honestly can't thank you and your family enough. I'm 20 and I live in Brighton and expecting my baby in February. Seeing your videos really lets me look forward to meeting them and treasuring each moment. I wish you all nothing but happiness 💙
Here from your inner circle ❤️ sending you, ottie & Zoe lots and lots of love ♥️
🙌🏻 Big love for being in my Inner Circle
At the end of the vlog, you saying “I think I’m soaking it all up…I think so” you ARE 1000%, coming from a family with an absent father, you are incredible. Ottie and baby number 2 are so lucky to have you and Zoe ❤
I think I feel the same as you, Alfie. It’s like you’re grieving the present moment, as you’re living it. It’s exciting seeing your baby grow up but each day they’re different, so there’s a feeling of grief of losing that version of your child.
She’s so chatty 😍♥️ I love your little fam so much
I’ve been watching your videos for 11 years and I’m loving them more than ever lately. Happy you guys are so happy!
Alfie you are honestly the best dad, the way you interact and talk with your daughter is beautiful. I think they way you are with her now, she will feel she can talk to you about anything in the future and these are the moment she will remember!
Your family blogs kinda heal my inner child
"the only constant is change" - we can't change that, but we can work on our perspective on it :) thanks for being so open!
Two years olds are just the best. My girls are 20/23 now and I’ve loved all of it, but there is just something special about being 2. So fun to watch, thanks for sharing.
Aww that ending brought a little tear to my eye, so sweet ❤
You are by far my favourite TH-camr! Your videos are so comforting & motivating. I genuinely think you help me be a better version of myself and remind me to make the most of life. You’re like a ray of sunshine, you bring so much positivity and I get so inspired to live to the fullest.
I love the Sunday uploads so much and Ottilie is so adorable 🥰
Totally get the time thing… it’s hard! And the more you try to live in every moment, you still try and just trap a moment but no matter what it will always pass and that’s beautiful when you see that all of what Ottie will be able to do one day, it’s because of you and Zoe!
I look forward to these videos so much. They just get lovelier and lovelier, Alfie.
I have never really commented on ANY videos I've ever watched, not just this channel. Nor do I thumbs up. But what you said at the end is the extreme truth and had me crying. My son just turned 12 and my daughter 9. We were both told at young ages we wouldn't be able to have children or it would be extremely challenging and had to have them young to avoid complications. Then add in all of the variables through life, I had brain surgery, and time becomes so much more precious because you have no idea when that part will end or what will happen tomorrow. So to any parent, or future parent, time is so finite and everything is so psychological as well. It's so hard but so incredible to see something you've created, live outside of you and love them in a way that can NEVER be described. Absorb it. The good and the bad. It's all worth it. Ugh, I'm still crying. It's also why I wrote my book, it's my "vlog" of sorts. All my lessons and trials and also about them. My reasons for continuing my days on this earth and making scary choices that don't just effect me anymore. It's a love like no other. Fierce love. A love you'd do anything for. ❤
Timing couldn't be more perfect. Just sat down on the couch with a hot coffee and then saw this! ❤❤
*silent watcher here*
this was the purest thing I have ever watched. As a girl who grew up without a father this video me so happy, and restored my faith in parenthood.
Couldn’t agree more, that how fast time goes is the hardest, for me, I’m stuck in a very strange place mentally with this subject, my daughter was born with (and still has) only half a heart, she was given a 14 years of age life expectancy, she is now 13&1/2 years old, and my god, did it fly by, it kind of feels like you’re mourning each stage of your childs life, knowing you’ll never see that version of them again, I’m so incredibly blessed that I have got more years then I ever thought possible with my daughter when she was just a 6 day old baby lying asleep in a hospital post her first of four open heart surgeries, but also, there’s this intense fear, like you’re watching a sand timer start to run out, her childhood is coming to an end faster and faster, and she is changing and growing so quickly now… I’m thankful for every version of this little lady I have been lucky enough to know
The way you spoke about the “To-Do list” really hit home for me. Having my first baby, who is currently 4 months old, my life feels like a never ending to do list that I cannot get done.. but the way you spoke about it, made me realise that will always be the case and that’s just life. So instead of fretting about what else I have to get done today, I’m strapping my little one into his stroller and heading out for a walk in the October sunshine instead… the list will still be there tomorrow 🥰
This chapter of yours and Zoe’s life is my favourite yet. You are wonderful parents & the chat at the end about time, shows that in abundance.
That you are so devoted to your daughter and the wonder of her growth every day as her own person is inspiring. She and you are so blessed to have each other.
After just packing a lunch for the last of my six children on his last day of school, this week (In grade 12 in Australia) …I feel Alphie’s comment to my core. So many uniforms, lunches, hats… I will miss every single time.
Children are truly the most treasured gift you will ever be given. ❤️
Ottie is such a sweet little girl. Raising kids is hard but so so rewarding at the same time. You & Zoe are doing such a great job with her. Having a second one will be so easy and still rewarding;. Thanks for sharing with us.
I’m the same age as zoe and somehow my daughter is 13 years old! Everyone around our age is having kids now and it really reminds how little she used to be. Now she’s outgrown me and it makes me proud at how grown up she is, and sad at how quickly it went.
Been watching you for 8 years now and I just love your family so much❤
Honestly loved this ❤
As a mom of a 19 and 20 year old I completely agree with you time is the hardest it speeds up with each child because you are not 1-1 anymore. I love all ages. Each have the most amazing parts and the most challenging just savor each moment with each child and be fully present. You two are fantastic parents and you will see that in her as she continues to grow. ❤
Really loved this vlog! The ending made me feel all the emotions. It’s such a privalige watching your vlogs over the years and see you and your family grow❤
38 weeks yesterday, c-section booked for Thursday 26th, so excited but still got so much to do, I was sanding her bedroom floor yesterday 😂
Ok, that was emotional. I have just recently turned 18 and now moved to another island away from my family to go to uni, and I’ve never felt like time has gone so fast before. I do tend to overthink the future, but because I wasn’t an adult yet I used to say to myself that I didn’t need to worry about it, but now that time has come. I’m just waffling on now, but yes, time does fly, and much quicker than it seems at the time.
Love all of your content, it’s really inspiring.
Thank you for always helping others with your content!
Much love Xx
I get SO emotional when you talk about Ottie growing up and I always imagine what it’s like being in that position. The time is going so quick, it doesn’t even feel that long ago you guys announced you were having a baby, and now she’s walking and talking and is just such a mix of you and Zoe with a sweet personality. you guys are doing great and you’ll be great with the second bub too. I loved this blog; the beach clips were special ❤
Years and years ago on a vlog you spoke about how you workout for your body but we should workout for our minds too. I always remember it ❤
Have an espresso shot everytime Alfie says 'to-do list'
Ottie absolutely has you wrapped around her finger! As she should 😂 so cute 🥰