Y’all chill out lol I never said it was okay for step mom to rip up the sketchbook, I genuinely just forgot it was mentioned lol Y’all literally insulting me and jumping down my throat over it are why the beginning reminders are always there 😅
OK honestly that's valid; I hope my own comment didn't seem too hostile (and I'm sorry if it did). I was just trying to give my own thoughts on that story.
Story #3 - The step-mom wasn't only bringing up their smell, she ripped up their sketchbook, wouldn't let them close the door, and locked them in their bedroom. I'm pretty sure that has nothing to do with OP's scent, but either way, good apple
Story #3 - The stepmother is a Karen. If the OP smells bad and doesn't realize it, that's no reason to be rude and make her feel embarrassed about it. And yes, the dad should stand up for his child. I also think that if OP is deciding to completely cut dad out of life, that means there was probably not a great history with the dad even before this.
Story 3: What does tearing her sketchbook up, refusing to let her close her door and have privacy, and locking her in her room for a whole weekend have to do with smell? Yeah, no, i'm seeing wicked step mother and deadbeat father over here.
@@ReidTheNintendoPainterwe didn't, Rebecca did 😬 I also commented on those things because I don't understand why she only talks about the stepmom saying she smells when it was a lot more than that...
Ignoring BO aside for story 3, there was also the stepmom tearing up the sketchbook, removing privacy from OP's room, or even locking OP in their room entirely. Even if the BO is not being mentioned by OP's actual mom and mom notices the BO as much as stepmom, other lines were crossed to make OP feel not safe in her father's house anymore.
@@Rebecca.Rogers No worries! Sorry if this sounded like I was jumping on the bandwagon for the easy comment against the TH-camr. Was not intended to sound like that at all, just wanted to add support to your good apple decision since my partner grew up with divorced parents and her father's new living situation was abusive. I will never fully understand what she went through, but from what I heard there were many similarities to this story, and the only reason she never cut ties with her father was to protect her little brother from the same experiences. Again, apologies if my comment sounded trollish, the story just hit a little close to home and I wanted it to provide extra support to the good apple resolution.
OKay, hear me out. The OP is not wearing a bra in her own home. She has a shirt on, right? so her boobs aren't hanging out there. She is decent. I think the idea that someone can police your underwear is ridiculous. She is not popping out her chest on the fly, she is covered. SO Good apple, all the way.
I agree not having a bra on is not in decent especially on the weekend when you’re just trying to relax it’s not like her breast hanging out. She just doesn’t have a problem on the OP is a good apple.
Yeah i feel the same way. But would make me personally feel uncomfortable with the fact, yhe reason yhe question was being asked was because he was looking at my chest .
If she is gone from her home MOST OF THE DAY ALL WEEK no I can see wanting to chill in the living room or cook in the kitchen without having to put a bra on . Personally I had shingles when I was nineteen on my back and my skin on my back has been sensitive and has burn sensation since so I also every so often just like to roam free. So good apple. Her home as well.
About number 3, she also said the stepmom tore up her sketchbook, won't let her close the door for privacy and locked her in her room an entire weekend, so... The stepmom is a bad apple. The dad is at least a crab apple for allowing that
Her judgement was way too based on the smell I feel. While I think op should at least do something about smell weather they smell or not, if it kept going ask someone else. BUT, there was so much more that was just ignored. Step mom is 100%bad apple
Hallelujah! Nude and braless are completely different! She’s allowed to be comfortable in her home. If she’s that insecure/he’s a crappy boyfriend… they can break up, or go to his place!
I can see my nipples through my shirt. I would be uncomfortable as a woman if I came over to another person's house they weren't wearing a bra. I don't want to see some else nipples. The boyfriend may not be interested but that doesn't mean he's not uncomfortable. Yes, it's op place too, but it would be nice if she wore a bra. The other roommate shouldn't bring boyfriend over when op is home if this is going to be an issue. I'm saying crab apple.
Story 3: you do have enough to go on, you’re hyper focused on the most minor thing mentioned (body odor) and ignoring the actual red flags (critical of appearance, destroying property, locking OP in their room for whole weekends) that show the step mom isn’t noticing something the mom isn’t, she’s being abusive to OP.
Story #4 - Bad apple. It sounds like OP is a controlling mom and, even though both the son and her husband are telling her they were fine with compromising to celebrate the daughter's birthday, she overruled all of them. She took what should have been the daughter's birthday dinner and turned it into a dinner that accommodated the whole family because it sounds like that's what she really wanted to do from the start.
So let me get this straight- planning a family celebration, paying for the whole thing and having to ask a 17 year old not to kill her brother at said event, is controlling? I don't know what world you grew up in but when I was a kid if my parents paid for something it was their rules and potentially killing family was not allowed... ever... under any circumstance!! And I didn't have to be told that at 7 much less 17... Must be nice in that ivory tower where potentially killing someone because it is your desire is not unthinkable.
@@arianalaiche-oriez9733 Did you miss the whole part of the story where the brother said he was perfectly fine with not attending the dinner, and the dad supported this? The daughter did NOT want to endanger her brother nor force him to attend to cause him harm. But the mom invited her to choose a restaurant for her birthday and she gave an honest answer.
@@arianalaiche-oriez9733The mom in the story specifically said that there was only a few things on the menu that the son would eat and he wouldn't really enjoy it. This implies that the allergy was not bad enough that the boy would be killed even if he went to the restaurant. In addition, he was perfectly happy to stay home with pizza. And the dad was also fine with it. The point is after being told she could pick anywhere she wanted for her birthday, the daughter was forced to accommodate someone who didn't even need accommodation and didn't get what she actually wanted for her birthday. I would say she is okay to feel a bit annoyed. The mom is not saying she is throwing a tantrum and destroying the house either. She said she is a little salty. Under the circumstances, so would anyone I think.
The fact that Apple #4 still doesn't think she's in the wrong after everyone she asked telling her that she is tells me all I need to know about what kind of person this woman is.
I am confused... since when did rules about not killing family become a non thing... As A kid and teen I was offered several things all the time but there were limits... No illegal drugs or alchole while under age, no smoking underage, no skinning animals, no killing family... you know basic (apparently not so) common sense stuff. There is a free pass and there is social norms and planning a family event where one member could die was an exemption to "whatever you want"... what amazes me is the "gentle parents" who actually think that the mom saying "this was a family thing and not to kill your brother" was the one in the wrong here. I mean if Red Lobster is that important why does the 17 year old not have a job where she can get together with some friends from school and all go dutch on a second birthday dinner that specifically does not include the family member who COUL DIE form being there?
@arianalaiche-oriez9733 agreed (aside from the gentle parent thing? idk where that was mentioned lol) But the mom IS in the wrong when there was a perfect compromise right in front of her. The son said "I can stay home, buy me some pizza with the money you would have spent on my dish" and that way everyone's happy! Son gets to stay home away from a restaurant that could kill him, daughter gets to eat at the restaurant she chose, and nobody would be hurt! The mom is in the wrong for forcing the daughter to choose a different restaurant to go to on HER birthday when, as I said, there was already a suggested solution.
Story #3 the smell issue isn't the deciding point here. Regardless of the presence of lack of a hygiene issue, kid is a good apple. The step mom destroyed the kid's property, and likely their art, which is irreplaceable, and violated their privacy, and deprived them of a private space which is inexcusable. It's never wrong to leave abusive situations and this is 100% what is going on there. Good apple. Honestly, if the kid smells, it's probably stress sweat, which is powerful enough to override any flawless hygiene routine.
For story 3 It wasn’t just the odore but step mum also complained about what she wore and ripped her sketch books and avoided her space Which Is why I think step mum was bad apple the dad crab apple due to not having enough information and good apple for OP just with what was said
Story #3: regardless of the details on the body odor thing, under what circumstance would a mother who would *lock their child in their room for an entire weekend* be in the right for such behavior, among the other things that were offhandedly listed? I think OP had good reason to cut her and their dad off for more than just the scent thing. Especially if their dad is *okay* with them being treated like that.
Is the second apple talking about being expected to wear a bra under her shirt or at least a bra as opposed to topless? I don't think not wearing a bra under your shirt is anything less than company appropriate. If he's paying that much attention, he's the problem. If she's just wandering around completely exposed above the waste, yeah cover up for company. Come on.
Ops roommate wants to wear a bra when companies over . Op isn’t running around braless and shirtless but just no bra and a shirt! That’s decent for company in your home on your day off . Bras are uncomfortable for most of us idk about you but I wouldn’t expect me visiting someone home and expect anyone wearing a bra ?! This is there space ? Dress to be comfortable . They don’t like op room mate can go to the bfs apartment .
_fairy that's how I took it too. It just talks about him not exposing his privates or something along those lines so I got confused. If he's noticing that she's not wearing a bra under her shirt, he's the problem. Stop paying so much attention
Not any company. Only roommate's boyfriend. If girlfriend had a visit that wasn't him, she wouldn't have an issue with OP's bra. It's not like she is topless. It's underwear. What if she wouldn't have pantys, why the bf is so atentive on what OP is wearing? Sounds like controlling to me.
Story #1 - Good apple. I can understand that when you're grieving, you sometimes become possessive of your friends as a way to compensate for loneliness (I've been there). But snapping at the OP for wanting to celebrate her own birthday with her husband is crossing a line. Also, even though Jenna is gay, it sounds like she has some feelings for the OP's husband; at least that's the vibe I got.
She’s definitely very possessive. Also, a woman having a wife does not make her gay, it makes her not straight. Having attraction to women does not inherently mean you’re not attracted to men. Idk if it’s a romantic possession or just grief (I’ve had severe panic attacks from just thinking about my partner dying… I cannot imagine if they actually passed) but either way she’s being extremely possessive of OPs husband in a way that’s no longer appropriate. I can kinda understand if you’ve been connected to one person so closely for so long trying to hold onto that closeness with the next closest person but there are limits. She needs to go to grief counseling and not act like Velcro to someone else’s partner.
She doesn't have to be gay you know, she can be bi or another sexuality that includes both women and men which would make sense if she has feelings for OP's husband
@@greenginger6668this about Jenna potentially having romantic / sexual feelings for OP’s husband. But also even without attracting to men it could be that she sees him as a kind of platonic partner or just generally the one person who (has to be) always be there for her. In any case it is not appropriate whether there are attraction feelings or not. Even just being at their house ALL THE TIME. I know she is grieving but that doesn’t excuse overstepping your welcome especially when someone is married and you are completely not taking their spouse into account.
For my kids birthdays, they always get to go out to eat and do an activity with mom and dad alone. And it’s their choice. It’s their birthday. Bad apple.
For story 2, I agree with what you said about being "company appropriate" in shared spaces. That's why I see no problem with her simply not wearing a bra. It said nothing about her shirt, so I'm assuming she still had a shirt on, just no bra underneath. I consider that completely "company appropriate." If the boyfriend isn't interested in her and she isn't interested in the boyfriend, then it's just the roommate being insecure that's making her demand she wear a bra
@@imperfect13 A lot of people, especially cis-women, equate being braless under clothing as being virtually naked, so I'm sure the comparison made perfect sense to the roommate. However, it is a ridiculous way to think IMO.
The birthday dinner: the dinner wasn’t about mom getting to spend time with the family in the way she wanted, it was about THE DAUGHTER being celebrated. The son was perfectly happy to stay home (frankly both he and your daughter were giddy at the idea: he’d get a night to goof off alone and she’d get a night to be the center of her parents attention) but noooiooo. Inflexible parents are the most annoying.
Story 2 is a good apple, nothing wrong with not wearing a bra. She’s not topless or barely covered up or something. And connecting not wearing a bra to not “company appropriate” attire is kinda wild.
It's an outdated, misogynistic way of thinking. Unfortunately it's engrained in a lot of people. In my opinion, this is part of what feminism is! 100% good apple, it's no one else's business if you're wearing underwear when you're fully clothed.
If she is paying rent for the apt then she should be comfortable in all the apt not just her bedroom and what if the boyfriend is there almost every nite does she have to stay in her room all the time just so she can be comfortable.the roommate and boyfriend can either go in the bedroom or go to the boyfriends place and there won't be a problem.
It is a bra she has a shirt on and pants, a lot of women DO NOT wear bras period. Like they do not wear them. It is like asking someone to wear underwear someone do not wear them. I agree good apple yes Rebecca you are being a people pleasure.
Well company attire is a thing both have the right to the equal enjoyment of a shared living space and it's good to know both icks, problem is how covered up are we. Like if I'm the boyfriend I'm not walking around with basketball shorts on and underwear with a hard on underneath the shared living space
Story 3: that stepmom is horrible and that dad should be standing up for his child and locking the child up a type of child abuse. For me, just let the child know what she is smelling like but don’t force anything.
Story 3: Respectfully, I feel like you're focusing on nil issues. She asked if she was in the wrong for losing contact with her dad & step mom since he isn't taking up for her. With all the context that she shared, no amount of BO is strong enough to justify step mom's actions. Staying away from an unpleasant environment is always a good decision. 💯 Good Apple!!!! Poor OP.
Story 3: why are we only focusing on the hygiene and not the part where she tore up her sketchbook and locked her in her room for a whole weekend? That's a horrible way to handle a situation. Good apple.
Story 3: mom said nothing and dad doesn't say anything except for when step mom says something. Then step mom is bringing a big extreme breaking stuff and giving no privacy isn't okay at all. So good apple
Story #2 is undoubtedly a good apple! I rarely wear a bra anymore! Ever since the pandemic I've been staying at home a lot more than usual and I often forget to put on a bra before running a quick errand. I am still wearing a shirt and completely covered. I can go out in public without a bra and am still allowed in all venues, so being required to wear one in your own home is ridiculous! In my opinion, wearing a bra is optional. If you want to wear one because you find it comfortable or like how it makes you look, go for it. But if you don't want to wear a bra ever, that's good too. There is no male equivalent to a bra, but a bra is considered "underwear" so let's call it underwear and try the sentence again. You have to wear underwear at home, while fully clothed, because it makes my boyfriend uncomfortable... It's no one's business but your own if you choose not to wear underwear! I'm sure plenty of people don't wear panties/boxers/briefs! My best guess is that when OP is braless you can distinguish nipples under the top they're wearing. Well, not all bras are padded, so bra or no bra you can have the same results! The roommate's argument is asinine and the real issue here is the boyfriend. If he thinks OP isn't wearing a bra, that's an INSIDE thought. As in, keep it inside your head!
Yes i entirely agree! Also, why is the boyfriend paying so much attention to OP to notice? That is so creepy and weird! He is definitely the problem here.
Story 2: GOOD APPLE!!! He can pluck his eyes/mind his business… or y’all can go to HIS PLACE!!!!! Get over it!!!! She has every right to be comfortable in her own home!!! It’s not a towel!!!! She isn’t nude!!! Stop being insecure/get a better boyfriend!!!! Mind your business!!! That’s not your business!!!
Story 3: In my opinion, it doesn't matter if she smells like a garbage truck. That isn't an excuse for her stepmom to tear up her sketchbook and lock her in her room for a whole weekend. Property damage and imprisoning someone in their own home are not appropriate responses to bad hygiene.
Yup. Especially the property damage!!! One thing to explain (if this really was the case, which it doesn’t seem to be here) that until you shower and put on some deodorant you can’t go out, but never appropriate to tear up something like someone’s artwork, which is very special. That’s the act of a jealous 5 year old sibling, not an adult parental figure…
With story 3, they are asking if they're bad for cutting out dad, and my answer is that they are probably doing themselves a favor if they do cut out Dad, at least until he learns to stand up for his child AT ALL. More than the smell thing, because who knows with that, but step mom is destroying their stuff, taking away privacy, LOCKING THEM UP FOR MULTIPLE DAYS!!!!! And dad not only doesn't stand up for his kid when it comes to basic human rights, but then thinks he's doing a good job as a parent? No. Defend your kid. Your kid should come first. That's screwed up. OP is a good apple all the way, and I wish them luck in their future endeavors
For story 4, I'm not sure it's favoritism, at least not entirely. I have read plenty of stories where a child's first choice birthday restaurant is shot down because siblings can't/ don't want to eat there, but this feels different. Only mom insists on a change of restaurant to include brother, so I think it comes back to her last argument: she wants the whole family together. She's putting her narcissistic need for a perfect little family unit ahead of her daughter's birthday and autonomy.
The context was given for the hygiene story, the op mentioned they clean their clothes and themselves before coming over (probably due to their reactions) and the actions and comments still continued. If we're going the least assumption route then op is a good apple.
She was locked in her bedroom for a whole weekend. I think this is appalling and not acceptable. FYI- I get cross contamination is a thing but I still think ruining your daughter's birthday stinks; especially when the brother offered to have pizza. Almost every restaurant would serve at least one shellfish item and could have cross contaminati.on. Bad Apple.
I have a connection to story 3! When I was 13 or 14 my step mom similarly brought up my BO as well. It wasn’t that I didn’t wear deodorant or sower etc, it’s that the deodorant scent I was using was mixing well with my bodies natural decent or whatever lol. I was embarrassed about it but let her help me pick out deodorants that work better for me. Edit to add, my mom didn’t notice because I was more active at my dad’s. He had a farm and a restaurant and he’d do some construction projects as well so I was working up way more of a sweat. Plus when we’d go to horse shows there was a more formal etiquette than what I’d normally go to as well.
That's a great idea. If OP's step-mother was offered that opportunity and didn't run with it, we'd no for 100% that she's the bad apple. I still think she is because of the sketch-book.
The last story is similar to the story about the 16 year old that just didn't go to her birthday party because her parents booked a restraunt that was safe for her disabled siblings after they said no i want to go here.
Story 3: you kinda fumbled the ball there a little, Miss Rogers, ma’am. Story 4: That mom is going to lose her daughter with the favoritism she shows her son. As for my unicorn? The one from Legend.
Story 3, good apple. Stepmom isn’t just talking g about hygiene here. She locked her in her room and tore up her sketch book! Nothing to do with hygiene. Those parents sound awful
Story 2: being someone who shares a space with conservative in-laws... the roommates request makes sense to me. Everyone deserves to feel comfortable in their own home. That's the bottom line for me. If it's making the roommate uncomfortable, then that should be reason enough. End of story. I agree that, in personal spaces, that rule doesn't make sense, but in shared spaces, yeah, it makes sense. She's a crab apple to me, because that's not a wrong desire, but she's not on a situation to just do whatever she wants; she has a roommate that shares the space, too. Also, unicorn color? Hmmmm... I personally like speckled horses, so my unicorn would be white with pink and purple dots and a rainbow mane. And then a holographic horn. ❤ love you so much! Hope you have a fantastically amazing week!
Fun fact, if you include the live videos of this series that Miss Rogers did when she was sick, this is episode 102 am I the bad Apple I counted all the videos in the playlist and all the live videos. Thought I would say this before starting this episode I’ve been a long time supporter, but I’ve never commented before. Keep up the great work, Rebecca.
The last story reminds me of my family. My parents and siblings and I go out to eat together on each of our birthdays despite the fact that my brothers and I are adults and have moved out. Usually my grandma joins us since she lives nearby. But she doesn't like the food at the restaurant I choose every year so she doesn't come. My parents never make me choose a different place, we just accept that she won't come to my birthday dinners.
Story 3: pretty sure stepmom is just a jerk…you kind of just glossed over ALL of the other details in the story, like the stepmom tearing pages out of OP’s sketchbook, not allowing them to close the door, and locking them in their room for a weekend, which has NOTHING to do with the way OP smells. So I agree OP is a good apple, not only for the reasons you stated, but also because of all of the other things stepmom has done
Good apple for number 3. It doesn’t sound like the step mom is trying to help, if she were, she might do things like buy soap or explain how she wants the kid to wash. Also, Tearing out pages of someone’s sketchbook is never done out of kindness or helpfulness. I’m not
Story 2: No way! It's her home NOT the roommate's BF's place. Shared spaces or not. How ridiculous would it be to put a bra on JUST to pop into the kitchen for a drink of water, go back to your room to take it off then go "Oh yea, gotta go to the bathroom" put it back on then go back out. She's not naked or anything so I really don't see how you could be between good and crap apple on that one. Also with story 3: OP is asking is she the bad apple for cutting her father off, No she's not. He's not sticking up for her and thats that. Please Rebecca try to stick with the question asked. She wants to cut him off for not sticking up for her. Last story I agree but OP did say he's deathly allergic but yea it was her daughter's birthday and she should have done what her daughter wanted. So 3 good 1 bad.
Story 2. Crab Apple. More for OPs reaction and mocking. Maybe the roommate should have led with "my boyfriend is kind of uncomfortable with you going braless when he's here." OP doesn't say what she is wearing. I was in a similar situation. My husband and I rented out a room to a girl going through a divorce. (We only charged her $50/Week so she could save.) This girl started wearing crop tops and boy cut panties/short shorts to walk around the house. Literal underwear. She'd try to lounge in our bedroom. My husband and I were uncomfortable. It was our house. I asked her if she could, at the very least, wear some pajama pants or sleep shorts. (Something where we couldn't see her 🐪.) She became defensive and angry. "I'm paying to stay here." She moved out while we were asleep.
Happy AP Day!! 🍎 Thank GOODNESS i needed a new episode! I've been BINGING this series at work every day and I'm already a year back and I have a feeling I'll be running out soon 😢😬 Love you Rebecca ☺️
Story 4: when I heard that my sister isn’t going to be at my competition yea I was sad but she gets to do soccer so that’s something to do. What I’m saying is you don’t always have to have the whole family there. It is your DAUGHTERS BIRTHDAY! Not ur sons you can make a sacrifice
Story 4: I have an older sister with special needs and a younger sister and when I heard this story at first I chose crab apple mainly because Im used to making compromises in situations due to unpredictable issues or even predictable issues. But, hearing another perspective kind of showed me that everyone is deserving of attention when it's their turn to have it. My parents always made me feel loved and would always try to give me my own moments to shine despite harder circumstances. And, I feel like in this story the mother took away her daughters moment just for selfish reasons, not really for shellfish reasons 😏
As someone with a food allergy, even the smell of the food I'm allergic to sometimes makes me feel queasy along with the fear of cross contamination. Do I eat at places that serve the food I'm allergic to? Yes... but I am so nervous often about cross contamination and depending on the type of restaurant depends on how strong the smell is. It also is difficult because, you truly don't know if they are safe for the person to eat and when there aren't a lot of allergen free options for said allergy. I think in regards to this story, seafood has a very strong scent and perhaps that's why her son doesn't like it. Maybe also the place isn't fully trained to cater to his allergy being that most of the menu is shellfish, his severe allergen. I completely get that the daughter should have a choice but I also see the mothers worry and want to have her son and entire family there.
So i personally lived a Cinderella almost family - my would’ve been step mom was straight from hell - story threes mom I can see that same energy-she’s taking out anger on a step daughter for little reason - like really why lock the daughter in her room for a weekend? Like the teen phase and parents wanting the door open I get that , but tearing up personal property inside that room - that’s unacceptable
So for story #3, you're just going to focus on the hygiene issue and just completely ignore the stepmom tearing up the sketchbook and locking her in her room?
Story 2: imo, good apple all the way. While it’s a shared space, it’s also OP’s body. A roommate trying to dictate how you dress or what hairstyle you have, whether or not you want to paint your nails or something would obviously be ridiculous. The roommate trying to decide what OP chooses to wear is overstepping, ESPECIALLY because it doesn’t even make the roommate uncomfortable when they’re alone and it only becomes an issue when the boyfriend comes over. If the boyfriend is really that bothered or distracted by a girl (who is still fully dressed by the way) not wearing a bra, then maybe he shouldn’t be coming over.
hey rebecca! i was just going through your reddit and noticed a lot of interesting friend related posts asking for advice! i tried to answer to must but i have to say that some were too interesting and odd that i couldn’t decide 😂 Would love to see some of those stories next ! i love your videos btw ❤
*_Which do you mean by that?;_* _1) If you had a unicorn friend/animal spirit/toy, what would it look like?_ *2) If you were a unicorn what would you look like?*
op is insane for the last apple like both son and dad CAME TO A UNDERSTANDING (son said he was fine with staying home with pizza home alone, dad said he would be fine) the only one who had the issues WAS OP😭 the suburban boy mom really jumped out
in story 4 all the points you said, aswell as the fact that the son is a teenage boy, he probably would’ve rather had been at home with pizza and video games no matter where they went. OP is the bad apple
That last story makes me mad. It's favoritism, pure and simple. Plus, birthdays are supposed to be about the person. Mom easily could've turned into an occassion for the daughter to spend quality time with her parents on a special day & done the same for the son on his birthday. Instead she chose the route of favoritism & made her daughter's birthday about the son & his preferences.
Story 2: On student exchange I made a friend from Europe. We were complaining about how we have ro wear bras while sleeping in host country. Apparently, in some parts of Europe, wearing a bra isn't even common. Like, women can just walk around comfortably without a bra. Even more, they were shocked we didn't do this in the US. She asked me "Not even in California?" Man, I think I'm ready ro move to Europe. Why is not wearing a bra so taboo anyways? Men can walk around without a shirt but we cant without two layers of clothes?
Story#1(Unwanted Pest!#1 - Pest Control!, 1:31). _Rebecca Rating: Good Apple._ *My Rating: Great Apple.* Story#2(Unwanted Pest!#2 - Inside Job!, 6:47): As a person living witj his family, I can confirm. When around other people in communal living space, you need to keep your clothes on. Do whatever you want in the comfort behind your locked door. But not in the communal space where other people are. _Rebecca Rating: Crab Apple._ *My Rating: Bad Apple.* Story#3(Terrible, Horrible, Disgusting Father & Stepmother Who Deserves To Get Punched I'm The Face So Hard They Leave This Universe, Enter The SpongeBob Unverse, Become SpongeBob Background Characters, Then Be Subjected To 1 Of SpongeBob & Patricks Wacky Shenanigans That Puts Them In The Hospital With SpongeBob & Patrick Visiting Them Everyday Until They Get Better!, 10:51). _Rebecca Rating: Good Apple._ *My Rating: Same.* Story#4(Obviously Terrible Mother Deserves To Get Launched In A Catapult So Hard She Leaves This Universe, Enter The SpongeBob Unverse, Becomes SpongeBob Background Character, Then Be Subjected To 1 Of SpongeBob & Patricks Wacky Shenanigans That Puts Her In The Hospital With SpongeBob & Patrick Visiting Her Everyday Until She Get Better!, 17:30). _Rebecca Rating: Bad Apple._ *My Rating: Same.*
"there would only he a few things he could eat there" as a vegetarian that's usually the case for me, abd and I have NEVER complained about it, ESPECIALLY if i was going out for someone else's birthday, that's wild
I definitely sympathize with the kid that was being told that they stink, I smelled so bad when I was a teenager because I would stress sweat. I would shower and use soap and deodorant consistently every day (I was an athlete, needing to wash and clean well was not new), and nothing worked. Nothing would keep me smelling good for more than a few hours. I definitely sympathize with struggling with that. I’m not saying that that’s what happened, but teens smelling bad doesn’t necessarily mean that they aren’t showering well. For me, it was a phase I grew out of, but I was really self conscious about it at that age. I tried so hard, and I understand her frustration that her parents would keep bringing it up to her. Maybe they should have recommended clinical strength deodorant or a doctor if it was that concerning to them 🤷♀️
8:02 this is literally so annoying, not wearing a bra under your shirt and fully showing someone your parts are two COMPLETELY different things Edit: I totally see your point on this but I personally don’t think it’s at all inappropriate to not wear a bra in front of guests, regardless of who they are, which is why I’m going with good apple Story 3: I’m going good apple simply for the fact that OP’s stepmom RIPPED UP HER SKETCHBOOK, and from what I remember, the dad did nothing about it, this is a horrifically cruel thing to do, and it also does nothing to help OP learn about hygeine
Gotta say story 2 I agree is a crab apple. There is a certain courteousy towards guests that should be aknowledged in order to make them comfortable. People don't walk around in their underwear in front of guests for a reason. Is it her space too? Yes, but it's a weird hill to die on especially if he isn't over constantly.
Oh my gosh! Another story where the parent isn't listening to their kid on THEIR birthday! The son said he was fine to just stay home and eat pizza! Just let your daughter have the birthday she wants! BAD APPLE!
Store #4 So I have six kids on a fairly tight budget. So taking everybody out for their birthday is not possible. But what I do do is anytime is somebody's birthday in this entire house I make whatever they want for their birthday dinner. It's been a simple as ordering pizza to as complicated as an actual Thanksgiving dinner in March (i honestly think they just wanted to see if i would do that). And yes sometimes what one person chooses somebody else can't stand but it's not their birthday. And when it's their birthday take it to choose. I can't stand people that celebrate other people when somebody else's birthday. And this is coming from having two kids at very different ages days apart. My 15 year old daughter and my 10-year-old son have birthdays 5 days apart and yet they have very distinctive birthdays.
Just wanted to add with #4. Agree wholeheartedly bad apple. For me, where it crossed the line was the forcing her to pick a different place. I think it would have been totally okay if she said 'hey, your brother can't really eat here. Is there another place you might enjoy as much? If not, dad and I will gladly take you out just the 3 of us and have a nice dinner and brother can stay home. But if you'd like for this to be a whole family thing, we maybe need a different place. Just let me know by xyz time so I can make sure the arrangements are all made.' Maybe the girl would have thought about it and wanted her brother there. Not a totally crazy idea. And if not, then you get to celebrate your daughter and maybe have some cake at home together after.
Y’all chill out lol I never said it was okay for step mom to rip up the sketchbook, I genuinely just forgot it was mentioned lol
Y’all literally insulting me and jumping down my throat over it are why the beginning reminders are always there 😅
Big ADHD energy!
OK honestly that's valid; I hope my own comment didn't seem too hostile (and I'm sorry if it did). I was just trying to give my own thoughts on that story.
@@TheDarwinProject1Forreal
It's something simple. You say nicely every video and they don't listen
@@stevengrvpI think it's because Rebecca sounds pretty rude sometimes
Story #3 - The step-mom wasn't only bringing up their smell, she ripped up their sketchbook, wouldn't let them close the door, and locked them in their bedroom. I'm pretty sure that has nothing to do with OP's scent, but either way, good apple
She also said bad things about her appearance.
Agreed
Genuinely just forgot the sketchbook thing happened
@@Rebecca.Rogers LOL it was kind of glossed over in the story 😅
@@Rebecca.Rogers Don't worry. It happens to the best of us
Story #3 - The stepmother is a Karen. If the OP smells bad and doesn't realize it, that's no reason to be rude and make her feel embarrassed about it. And yes, the dad should stand up for his child. I also think that if OP is deciding to completely cut dad out of life, that means there was probably not a great history with the dad even before this.
Also she said the stepmom tore up her sketchbook, doesn't allow her to have her door closed for privacy and locked her in her room
Story 3: What does tearing her sketchbook up, refusing to let her close her door and have privacy, and locking her in her room for a whole weekend have to do with smell? Yeah, no, i'm seeing wicked step mother and deadbeat father over here.
Exactly! I feel like we glossed over a few things here!
Plus the unnecessary comments about her appearance
When you miss the main point and somehow still get the right answer! 😆
Locking her in her room is illegal. it's false confinement. and I agree what does her sketchbook have to do with BO?
@@ReidTheNintendoPainterwe didn't, Rebecca did 😬 I also commented on those things because I don't understand why she only talks about the stepmom saying she smells when it was a lot more than that...
Ignoring BO aside for story 3, there was also the stepmom tearing up the sketchbook, removing privacy from OP's room, or even locking OP in their room entirely. Even if the BO is not being mentioned by OP's actual mom and mom notices the BO as much as stepmom, other lines were crossed to make OP feel not safe in her father's house anymore.
Genuinely just forgot the sketchbook thing happened
@@Rebecca.Rogers No worries! Sorry if this sounded like I was jumping on the bandwagon for the easy comment against the TH-camr. Was not intended to sound like that at all, just wanted to add support to your good apple decision since my partner grew up with divorced parents and her father's new living situation was abusive. I will never fully understand what she went through, but from what I heard there were many similarities to this story, and the only reason she never cut ties with her father was to protect her little brother from the same experiences.
Again, apologies if my comment sounded trollish, the story just hit a little close to home and I wanted it to provide extra support to the good apple resolution.
OKay, hear me out. The OP is not wearing a bra in her own home. She has a shirt on, right? so her boobs aren't hanging out there. She is decent. I think the idea that someone can police your underwear is ridiculous. She is not popping out her chest on the fly, she is covered. SO Good apple, all the way.
Good point
I agree not having a bra on is not in decent especially on the weekend when you’re just trying to relax it’s not like her breast hanging out. She just doesn’t have a problem on the OP is a good apple.
yup
Yeah i feel the same way. But would make me personally feel uncomfortable with the fact, yhe reason yhe question was being asked was because he was looking at my chest .
If she is gone from her home MOST OF THE DAY ALL WEEK no I can see wanting to chill in the living room or cook in the kitchen without having to put a bra on . Personally I had shingles when I was nineteen on my back and my skin on my back has been sensitive and has burn sensation since so I also every so often just like to roam free. So good apple. Her home as well.
About number 3, she also said the stepmom tore up her sketchbook, won't let her close the door for privacy and locked her in her room an entire weekend, so... The stepmom is a bad apple. The dad is at least a crab apple for allowing that
Her judgement was way too based on the smell I feel. While I think op should at least do something about smell weather they smell or not, if it kept going ask someone else. BUT, there was so much more that was just ignored. Step mom is 100%bad apple
She’s saying braless not shirtless. It’s not like boyfriend being naked. Roommate can visit boyfriend’s house if it’s an issue.
Hallelujah! Nude and braless are completely different! She’s allowed to be comfortable in her home. If she’s that insecure/he’s a crappy boyfriend… they can break up, or go to his place!
Yeah i thought i missed something.. does OP mean she has no top at all? Or just not wearing a bra.. not wearing a bra isn’t that big a deal
I can see my nipples through my shirt. I would be uncomfortable as a woman if I came over to another person's house they weren't wearing a bra. I don't want to see some else nipples. The boyfriend may not be interested but that doesn't mean he's not uncomfortable. Yes, it's op place too, but it would be nice if she wore a bra. The other roommate shouldn't bring boyfriend over when op is home if this is going to be an issue. I'm saying crab apple.
@@kimihirowatanuki3888 nipples are normal. Stop sexualizing female breast
@@kimihirowatanuki3888your insecurities are no ones problem but your own. N!ppl3$ are normal!!! Stop s3xual!z!ng female parts!!!
Story 3: you do have enough to go on, you’re hyper focused on the most minor thing mentioned (body odor) and ignoring the actual red flags (critical of appearance, destroying property, locking OP in their room for whole weekends) that show the step mom isn’t noticing something the mom isn’t, she’s being abusive to OP.
Story #4 - Bad apple. It sounds like OP is a controlling mom and, even though both the son and her husband are telling her they were fine with compromising to celebrate the daughter's birthday, she overruled all of them. She took what should have been the daughter's birthday dinner and turned it into a dinner that accommodated the whole family because it sounds like that's what she really wanted to do from the start.
Absolutely!!! 🍎😡
Ding, Ding, Ding. I had a narcissistic mother as well.
So let me get this straight- planning a family celebration, paying for the whole thing and having to ask a 17 year old not to kill her brother at said event, is controlling? I don't know what world you grew up in but when I was a kid if my parents paid for something it was their rules and potentially killing family was not allowed... ever... under any circumstance!! And I didn't have to be told that at 7 much less 17... Must be nice in that ivory tower where potentially killing someone because it is your desire is not unthinkable.
@@arianalaiche-oriez9733 Did you miss the whole part of the story where the brother said he was perfectly fine with not attending the dinner, and the dad supported this? The daughter did NOT want to endanger her brother nor force him to attend to cause him harm. But the mom invited her to choose a restaurant for her birthday and she gave an honest answer.
@@arianalaiche-oriez9733The mom in the story specifically said that there was only a few things on the menu that the son would eat and he wouldn't really enjoy it. This implies that the allergy was not bad enough that the boy would be killed even if he went to the restaurant. In addition, he was perfectly happy to stay home with pizza. And the dad was also fine with it. The point is after being told she could pick anywhere she wanted for her birthday, the daughter was forced to accommodate someone who didn't even need accommodation and didn't get what she actually wanted for her birthday. I would say she is okay to feel a bit annoyed. The mom is not saying she is throwing a tantrum and destroying the house either. She said she is a little salty. Under the circumstances, so would anyone I think.
The fact that Apple #4 still doesn't think she's in the wrong after everyone she asked telling her that she is tells me all I need to know about what kind of person this woman is.
Story 4: DON'T ASK HER WHERE SHE WANTS TO GO IF YOU ARENT GOING TO TAKE HER! Good grief parents that do that gets me heated.
My parents do the same thing 🙄
I am confused... since when did rules about not killing family become a non thing... As A kid and teen I was offered several things all the time but there were limits... No illegal drugs or alchole while under age, no smoking underage, no skinning animals, no killing family... you know basic (apparently not so) common sense stuff. There is a free pass and there is social norms and planning a family event where one member could die was an exemption to "whatever you want"... what amazes me is the "gentle parents" who actually think that the mom saying "this was a family thing and not to kill your brother" was the one in the wrong here. I mean if Red Lobster is that important why does the 17 year old not have a job where she can get together with some friends from school and all go dutch on a second birthday dinner that specifically does not include the family member who COUL DIE form being there?
@arianalaiche-oriez9733
agreed (aside from the gentle parent thing? idk where that was mentioned lol)
But the mom IS in the wrong when there was a perfect compromise right in front of her. The son said "I can stay home, buy me some pizza with the money you would have spent on my dish" and that way everyone's happy! Son gets to stay home away from a restaurant that could kill him, daughter gets to eat at the restaurant she chose, and nobody would be hurt!
The mom is in the wrong for forcing the daughter to choose a different restaurant to go to on HER birthday when, as I said, there was already a suggested solution.
Story #3 the smell issue isn't the deciding point here. Regardless of the presence of lack of a hygiene issue, kid is a good apple. The step mom destroyed the kid's property, and likely their art, which is irreplaceable, and violated their privacy, and deprived them of a private space which is inexcusable. It's never wrong to leave abusive situations and this is 100% what is going on there. Good apple.
Honestly, if the kid smells, it's probably stress sweat, which is powerful enough to override any flawless hygiene routine.
For story 3
It wasn’t just the odore but step mum also complained about what she wore and ripped her sketch books and avoided her space
Which Is why I think step mum was bad apple the dad crab apple due to not having enough information and good apple for OP just with what was said
Story #3: regardless of the details on the body odor thing, under what circumstance would a mother who would *lock their child in their room for an entire weekend* be in the right for such behavior, among the other things that were offhandedly listed?
I think OP had good reason to cut her and their dad off for more than just the scent thing. Especially if their dad is *okay* with them being treated like that.
Is the second apple talking about being expected to wear a bra under her shirt or at least a bra as opposed to topless? I don't think not wearing a bra under your shirt is anything less than company appropriate. If he's paying that much attention, he's the problem. If she's just wandering around completely exposed above the waste, yeah cover up for company. Come on.
Ops roommate wants to wear a bra when companies over . Op isn’t running around braless and shirtless but just no bra and a shirt! That’s decent for company in your home on your day off . Bras are uncomfortable for most of us idk about you but I wouldn’t expect me visiting someone home and expect anyone wearing a bra ?! This is there space ? Dress to be comfortable . They don’t like op room mate can go to the bfs apartment .
_fairy that's how I took it too. It just talks about him not exposing his privates or something along those lines so I got confused. If he's noticing that she's not wearing a bra under her shirt, he's the problem. Stop paying so much attention
Not any company. Only roommate's boyfriend. If girlfriend had a visit that wasn't him, she wouldn't have an issue with OP's bra. It's not like she is topless. It's underwear. What if she wouldn't have pantys, why the bf is so atentive on what OP is wearing? Sounds like controlling to me.
Even if she is fully exposed that's her home. Guys can do it (but shouldn't) why can't we
Story #1 - Good apple. I can understand that when you're grieving, you sometimes become possessive of your friends as a way to compensate for loneliness (I've been there). But snapping at the OP for wanting to celebrate her own birthday with her husband is crossing a line. Also, even though Jenna is gay, it sounds like she has some feelings for the OP's husband; at least that's the vibe I got.
Bisexual people exist
Same. The possessiveness and passive aggressive comments really feels like she's latched on to him like a spouse.
She’s definitely very possessive. Also, a woman having a wife does not make her gay, it makes her not straight. Having attraction to women does not inherently mean you’re not attracted to men. Idk if it’s a romantic possession or just grief (I’ve had severe panic attacks from just thinking about my partner dying… I cannot imagine if they actually passed) but either way she’s being extremely possessive of OPs husband in a way that’s no longer appropriate. I can kinda understand if you’ve been connected to one person so closely for so long trying to hold onto that closeness with the next closest person but there are limits. She needs to go to grief counseling and not act like Velcro to someone else’s partner.
She doesn't have to be gay you know, she can be bi or another sexuality that includes both women and men which would make sense if she has feelings for OP's husband
@@greenginger6668this about Jenna potentially having romantic / sexual feelings for OP’s husband. But also even without attracting to men it could be that she sees him as a kind of platonic partner or just generally the one person who (has to be) always be there for her.
In any case it is not appropriate whether there are attraction feelings or not. Even just being at their house ALL THE TIME. I know she is grieving but that doesn’t excuse overstepping your welcome especially when someone is married and you are completely not taking their spouse into account.
For my kids birthdays, they always get to go out to eat and do an activity with mom and dad alone. And it’s their choice. It’s their birthday. Bad apple.
For story 2, I agree with what you said about being "company appropriate" in shared spaces. That's why I see no problem with her simply not wearing a bra. It said nothing about her shirt, so I'm assuming she still had a shirt on, just no bra underneath. I consider that completely "company appropriate." If the boyfriend isn't interested in her and she isn't interested in the boyfriend, then it's just the roommate being insecure that's making her demand she wear a bra
It sounded like she was possibly shirtless because the roommate told her would you like it if my boyfriend showed his parts.
@@imperfect13 A lot of people, especially cis-women, equate being braless under clothing as being virtually naked, so I'm sure the comparison made perfect sense to the roommate. However, it is a ridiculous way to think IMO.
The birthday dinner: the dinner wasn’t about mom getting to spend time with the family in the way she wanted, it was about THE DAUGHTER being celebrated. The son was perfectly happy to stay home (frankly both he and your daughter were giddy at the idea: he’d get a night to goof off alone and she’d get a night to be the center of her parents attention) but noooiooo. Inflexible parents are the most annoying.
Story 2 is a good apple, nothing wrong with not wearing a bra. She’s not topless or barely covered up or something. And connecting not wearing a bra to not “company appropriate” attire is kinda wild.
It's an outdated, misogynistic way of thinking. Unfortunately it's engrained in a lot of people. In my opinion, this is part of what feminism is! 100% good apple, it's no one else's business if you're wearing underwear when you're fully clothed.
If she is paying rent for the apt then she should be comfortable in all the apt not just her bedroom and what if the boyfriend is there almost every nite does she have to stay in her room all the time just so she can be comfortable.the roommate and boyfriend can either go in the bedroom or go to the boyfriends place and there won't be a problem.
It is a bra she has a shirt on and pants, a lot of women DO NOT wear bras period. Like they do not wear them. It is like asking someone to wear underwear someone do not wear them. I agree good apple yes Rebecca you are being a people pleasure.
Well company attire is a thing both have the right to the equal enjoyment of a shared living space and it's good to know both icks, problem is how covered up are we. Like if I'm the boyfriend I'm not walking around with basketball shorts on and underwear with a hard on underneath the shared living space
I wonder what she will do when parents are visiting
Story 3: that stepmom is horrible and that dad should be standing up for his child and locking the child up a type of child abuse. For me, just let the child know what she is smelling like but don’t force anything.
Story 3: Respectfully, I feel like you're focusing on nil issues. She asked if she was in the wrong for losing contact with her dad & step mom since he isn't taking up for her. With all the context that she shared, no amount of BO is strong enough to justify step mom's actions. Staying away from an unpleasant environment is always a good decision. 💯 Good Apple!!!! Poor OP.
Story 3: why are we only focusing on the hygiene and not the part where she tore up her sketchbook and locked her in her room for a whole weekend? That's a horrible way to handle a situation. Good apple.
i recently lost my spouse of 32 years and I feel Jenna was 100% out of line and op had the right to response as she did
Even if there is a BO issue, tearing up her sketchbook is unacceptable. The OP here is a good apple no matter what.
Father and stepmom are her a united thing now playing them against each other isn't going to fly
Story 3: mom said nothing and dad doesn't say anything except for when step mom says something. Then step mom is bringing a big extreme breaking stuff and giving no privacy isn't okay at all. So good apple
Story #2 is undoubtedly a good apple!
I rarely wear a bra anymore! Ever since the pandemic I've been staying at home a lot more than usual and I often forget to put on a bra before running a quick errand. I am still wearing a shirt and completely covered. I can go out in public without a bra and am still allowed in all venues, so being required to wear one in your own home is ridiculous!
In my opinion, wearing a bra is optional. If you want to wear one because you find it comfortable or like how it makes you look, go for it. But if you don't want to wear a bra ever, that's good too.
There is no male equivalent to a bra, but a bra is considered "underwear" so let's call it underwear and try the sentence again. You have to wear underwear at home, while fully clothed, because it makes my boyfriend uncomfortable...
It's no one's business but your own if you choose not to wear underwear! I'm sure plenty of people don't wear panties/boxers/briefs! My best guess is that when OP is braless you can distinguish nipples under the top they're wearing. Well, not all bras are padded, so bra or no bra you can have the same results! The roommate's argument is asinine and the real issue here is the boyfriend. If he thinks OP isn't wearing a bra, that's an INSIDE thought. As in, keep it inside your head!
Yes i entirely agree! Also, why is the boyfriend paying so much attention to OP to notice? That is so creepy and weird! He is definitely the problem here.
1000% this.
The muti sex equivalent to a bra male or female is a tank top lol 😆 😊😅😂 XD😂
Story 2: GOOD APPLE!!! He can pluck his eyes/mind his business… or y’all can go to HIS PLACE!!!!! Get over it!!!! She has every right to be comfortable in her own home!!! It’s not a towel!!!! She isn’t nude!!! Stop being insecure/get a better boyfriend!!!! Mind your business!!! That’s not your business!!!
There is nothing inappropriate about not wearing a bra. Roommate sounds super insecure.
Story 3: In my opinion, it doesn't matter if she smells like a garbage truck. That isn't an excuse for her stepmom to tear up her sketchbook and lock her in her room for a whole weekend. Property damage and imprisoning someone in their own home are not appropriate responses to bad hygiene.
Yup. Especially the property damage!!! One thing to explain (if this really was the case, which it doesn’t seem to be here) that until you shower and put on some deodorant you can’t go out, but never appropriate to tear up something like someone’s artwork, which is very special. That’s the act of a jealous 5 year old sibling, not an adult parental figure…
With story 3, they are asking if they're bad for cutting out dad, and my answer is that they are probably doing themselves a favor if they do cut out Dad, at least until he learns to stand up for his child AT ALL. More than the smell thing, because who knows with that, but step mom is destroying their stuff, taking away privacy, LOCKING THEM UP FOR MULTIPLE DAYS!!!!! And dad not only doesn't stand up for his kid when it comes to basic human rights, but then thinks he's doing a good job as a parent? No. Defend your kid. Your kid should come first. That's screwed up. OP is a good apple all the way, and I wish them luck in their future endeavors
For story 4, I'm not sure it's favoritism, at least not entirely. I have read plenty of stories where a child's first choice birthday restaurant is shot down because siblings can't/ don't want to eat there, but this feels different. Only mom insists on a change of restaurant to include brother, so I think it comes back to her last argument: she wants the whole family together. She's putting her narcissistic need for a perfect little family unit ahead of her daughter's birthday and autonomy.
The context was given for the hygiene story, the op mentioned they clean their clothes and themselves before coming over (probably due to their reactions) and the actions and comments still continued. If we're going the least assumption route then op is a good apple.
She was locked in her bedroom for a whole weekend. I think this is appalling and not acceptable.
FYI- I get cross contamination is a thing but I still think ruining your daughter's birthday stinks; especially when the brother offered to have pizza. Almost every restaurant would serve at least one shellfish item and could have cross contaminati.on. Bad Apple.
I have a connection to story 3! When I was 13 or 14 my step mom similarly brought up my BO as well. It wasn’t that I didn’t wear deodorant or sower etc, it’s that the deodorant scent I was using was mixing well with my bodies natural decent or whatever lol. I was embarrassed about it but let her help me pick out deodorants that work better for me.
Edit to add, my mom didn’t notice because I was more active at my dad’s. He had a farm and a restaurant and he’d do some construction projects as well so I was working up way more of a sweat. Plus when we’d go to horse shows there was a more formal etiquette than what I’d normally go to as well.
That's a great idea. If OP's step-mother was offered that opportunity and didn't run with it, we'd no for 100% that she's the bad apple. I still think she is because of the sketch-book.
Story 4 the mum is being very shelfish (sorry couldn't resist) 😂
The last story is similar to the story about the 16 year old that just didn't go to her birthday party because her parents booked a restraunt that was safe for her disabled siblings after they said no i want to go here.
Did Rebecca cover that one?
@@Allie-zd8ixyeah
@@Allie-zd8ix Yes she did in a previous episode
Apple #3 is reporting abuse.
Story 3: you kinda fumbled the ball there a little, Miss Rogers, ma’am.
Story 4: That mom is going to lose her daughter with the favoritism she shows her son.
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4th story bad apple. It was the daughter's birthday.
100%
2nd good apple. How often is boyfriend over? And for how long? Does roommate expect everyone everywhere to not “make your boyfriend uncomfortable”?
I think your reading too much into it idk what exhibit a is
Story 3, good apple. Stepmom isn’t just talking g about hygiene here.
She locked her in her room and tore up her sketch book! Nothing to do with hygiene. Those parents sound awful
Story 2: being someone who shares a space with conservative in-laws... the roommates request makes sense to me. Everyone deserves to feel comfortable in their own home. That's the bottom line for me. If it's making the roommate uncomfortable, then that should be reason enough. End of story. I agree that, in personal spaces, that rule doesn't make sense, but in shared spaces, yeah, it makes sense. She's a crab apple to me, because that's not a wrong desire, but she's not on a situation to just do whatever she wants; she has a roommate that shares the space, too.
Also, unicorn color? Hmmmm... I personally like speckled horses, so my unicorn would be white with pink and purple dots and a rainbow mane. And then a holographic horn. ❤ love you so much! Hope you have a fantastically amazing week!
Fun fact, if you include the live videos of this series that Miss Rogers did when she was sick, this is episode 102 am I the bad Apple I counted all the videos in the playlist and all the live videos. Thought I would say this before starting this episode I’ve been a long time supporter, but I’ve never commented before. Keep up the great work, Rebecca.
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The last story reminds me of my family. My parents and siblings and I go out to eat together on each of our birthdays despite the fact that my brothers and I are adults and have moved out. Usually my grandma joins us since she lives nearby. But she doesn't like the food at the restaurant I choose every year so she doesn't come. My parents never make me choose a different place, we just accept that she won't come to my birthday dinners.
Story 4 sounds like the parents' perspective of another story you've read before.
I also agree, the parents are the bad apple.
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Story 3: pretty sure stepmom is just a jerk…you kind of just glossed over ALL of the other details in the story, like the stepmom tearing pages out of OP’s sketchbook, not allowing them to close the door, and locking them in their room for a weekend, which has NOTHING to do with the way OP smells. So I agree OP is a good apple, not only for the reasons you stated, but also because of all of the other things stepmom has done
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THANK YOU FOR SAYING FAVORITISM ABOUT THE LAST STORY! Most people act like that is not a thing etc. That I am crazy etc. Ugh.
Good apple for number 3. It doesn’t sound like the step mom is trying to help, if she were, she might do things like buy soap or explain how she wants the kid to wash. Also, Tearing out pages of someone’s sketchbook is never done out of kindness or helpfulness. I’m not
Story 2: No way! It's her home NOT the roommate's BF's place. Shared spaces or not. How ridiculous would it be to put a bra on JUST to pop into the kitchen for a drink of water, go back to your room to take it off then go "Oh yea, gotta go to the bathroom" put it back on then go back out. She's not naked or anything so I really don't see how you could be between good and crap apple on that one. Also with story 3: OP is asking is she the bad apple for cutting her father off, No she's not. He's not sticking up for her and thats that. Please Rebecca try to stick with the question asked. She wants to cut him off for not sticking up for her. Last story I agree but OP did say he's deathly allergic but yea it was her daughter's birthday and she should have done what her daughter wanted. So 3 good 1 bad.
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Story 2. Crab Apple. More for OPs reaction and mocking. Maybe the roommate should have led with "my boyfriend is kind of uncomfortable with you going braless when he's here." OP doesn't say what she is wearing.
I was in a similar situation. My husband and I rented out a room to a girl going through a divorce. (We only charged her $50/Week so she could save.) This girl started wearing crop tops and boy cut panties/short shorts to walk around the house. Literal underwear. She'd try to lounge in our bedroom. My husband and I were uncomfortable. It was our house. I asked her if she could, at the very least, wear some pajama pants or sleep shorts. (Something where we couldn't see her 🐪.) She became defensive and angry. "I'm paying to stay here."
She moved out while we were asleep.
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My unicorn would be a big, magestic D&D-esque silver armored unicorn. Okay, I should make a paladin unicorn now that just sounds awesome.
YES!!! A Paladin unicorn 🦄
Story 4: when I heard that my sister isn’t going to be at my competition yea I was sad but she gets to do soccer so that’s something to do. What I’m saying is you don’t always have to have the whole family there. It is your DAUGHTERS BIRTHDAY! Not ur sons you can make a sacrifice
Story 3 your leaving out the abuse she locked op in his room .
Won't let him close his door, and tares up his scech book.
Good apple
Story 4: I have an older sister with special needs and a younger sister and when I heard this story at first I chose crab apple mainly because Im used to making compromises in situations due to unpredictable issues or even predictable issues. But, hearing another perspective kind of showed me that everyone is deserving of attention when it's their turn to have it. My parents always made me feel loved and would always try to give me my own moments to shine despite harder circumstances. And, I feel like in this story the mother took away her daughters moment just for selfish reasons, not really for shellfish reasons 😏
My unicorn would be lavender with A pearly horn and a dark purple mane that has curls at the end💜💜💜
15:54 I think she’s a good Apple and maybe step mom isn’t used to curtain smells
Story 3: op is good apple. It’s her choice who she wants in her life.
As someone with a food allergy, even the smell of the food I'm allergic to sometimes makes me feel queasy along with the fear of cross contamination. Do I eat at places that serve the food I'm allergic to? Yes... but I am so nervous often about cross contamination and depending on the type of restaurant depends on how strong the smell is. It also is difficult because, you truly don't know if they are safe for the person to eat and when there aren't a lot of allergen free options for said allergy. I think in regards to this story, seafood has a very strong scent and perhaps that's why her son doesn't like it. Maybe also the place isn't fully trained to cater to his allergy being that most of the menu is shellfish, his severe allergen. I completely get that the daughter should have a choice but I also see the mothers worry and want to have her son and entire family there.
Her son offered to stay home and have pizza. I think that was the best solution, but OP didn't like the idea.
So i personally lived a Cinderella almost family - my would’ve been step mom was straight from hell - story threes mom I can see that same energy-she’s taking out anger on a step daughter for little reason - like really why lock the daughter in her room for a weekend? Like the teen phase and parents wanting the door open I get that , but tearing up personal property inside that room - that’s unacceptable
So for story #3, you're just going to focus on the hygiene issue and just completely ignore the stepmom tearing up the sketchbook and locking her in her room?
I just forgot about it? Lol you don’t have to be so aggressive about it, just genuinely forgot it was mentioned
Story 2: imo, good apple all the way. While it’s a shared space, it’s also OP’s body. A roommate trying to dictate how you dress or what hairstyle you have, whether or not you want to paint your nails or something would obviously be ridiculous. The roommate trying to decide what OP chooses to wear is overstepping, ESPECIALLY because it doesn’t even make the roommate uncomfortable when they’re alone and it only becomes an issue when the boyfriend comes over. If the boyfriend is really that bothered or distracted by a girl (who is still fully dressed by the way) not wearing a bra, then maybe he shouldn’t be coming over.
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hey rebecca! i was just going through your reddit and noticed a lot of interesting friend related posts asking for advice! i tried to answer to must but i have to say that some were too interesting and odd that i couldn’t decide 😂 Would love to see some of those stories next ! i love your videos btw ❤
Yay, it’s Apple Picking Day!!!
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_1) If you had a unicorn friend/animal spirit/toy, what would it look like?_
*2) If you were a unicorn what would you look like?*
Omg!! One of my favourite youtubers posted a video of my favourite series on my birthday!!! Love ur vids 😂
A white unicorn with ombré pink-lavender horn/hooves. Sparkling in the sun✨
Story 1- good apple story 2- crab apple story 3- good apple story 4- bad apple
op is insane for the last apple like both son and dad CAME TO A UNDERSTANDING (son said he was fine with staying home with pizza home alone, dad said he would be fine) the only one who had the issues WAS OP😭 the suburban boy mom really jumped out
in story 4 all the points you said, aswell as the fact that the son is a teenage boy, he probably would’ve rather had been at home with pizza and video games no matter where they went. OP is the bad apple
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My unicorn would be iridescent white and sparkly! Maybe a rainbow tail and horn, also sparkly, of course! 😂
That last story makes me mad. It's favoritism, pure and simple. Plus, birthdays are supposed to be about the person. Mom easily could've turned into an occassion for the daughter to spend quality time with her parents on a special day & done the same for the son on his birthday. Instead she chose the route of favoritism & made her daughter's birthday about the son & his preferences.
Story 2: On student exchange I made a friend from Europe. We were complaining about how we have ro wear bras while sleeping in host country.
Apparently, in some parts of Europe, wearing a bra isn't even common. Like, women can just walk around comfortably without a bra. Even more, they were shocked we didn't do this in the US. She asked me "Not even in California?"
Man, I think I'm ready ro move to Europe. Why is not wearing a bra so taboo anyways? Men can walk around without a shirt but we cant without two layers of clothes?
Story#1(Unwanted Pest!#1 - Pest Control!, 1:31).
_Rebecca Rating: Good Apple._
*My Rating: Great Apple.*
Story#2(Unwanted Pest!#2 - Inside Job!, 6:47): As a person living witj his family, I can confirm. When around other people in communal living space, you need to keep your clothes on. Do whatever you want in the comfort behind your locked door. But not in the communal space where other people are.
_Rebecca Rating: Crab Apple._
*My Rating: Bad Apple.*
Story#3(Terrible, Horrible, Disgusting Father & Stepmother Who Deserves To Get Punched I'm The Face So Hard They Leave This Universe, Enter The SpongeBob Unverse, Become SpongeBob Background Characters, Then Be Subjected To 1 Of SpongeBob & Patricks Wacky Shenanigans That Puts Them In The Hospital With SpongeBob & Patrick Visiting Them Everyday Until They Get Better!, 10:51).
_Rebecca Rating: Good Apple._
*My Rating: Same.*
Story#4(Obviously Terrible Mother Deserves To Get Launched In A Catapult So Hard She Leaves This Universe, Enter The SpongeBob Unverse, Becomes SpongeBob Background Character, Then Be Subjected To 1 Of SpongeBob & Patricks Wacky Shenanigans That Puts Her In The Hospital With SpongeBob & Patrick Visiting Her Everyday Until She Get Better!, 17:30).
_Rebecca Rating: Bad Apple._
*My Rating: Same.*
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No apple picking day👌✨
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18:26 the son is amazing, let the kid have pizza 😂 this is a non issue
Can you please keep doing the 5 min history ? I loved them.
"there would only he a few things he could eat there" as a vegetarian that's usually the case for me, abd and I have NEVER complained about it, ESPECIALLY if i was going out for someone else's birthday, that's wild
I definitely sympathize with the kid that was being told that they stink, I smelled so bad when I was a teenager because I would stress sweat. I would shower and use soap and deodorant consistently
every day (I was an athlete, needing to wash and clean well was not new), and nothing worked. Nothing would keep me smelling good for more than a few hours. I definitely sympathize with struggling with that. I’m not saying that that’s what happened, but teens smelling bad doesn’t necessarily mean that they aren’t showering well. For me, it was a phase I grew out of, but I was really self conscious about it at that age. I tried so hard, and I understand her frustration that her parents would keep bringing it up to her. Maybe they should have recommended clinical strength deodorant or a doctor if it was that concerning to them 🤷♀️
8:02 this is literally so annoying, not wearing a bra under your shirt and fully showing someone your parts are two COMPLETELY different things
Edit: I totally see your point on this but I personally don’t think it’s at all inappropriate to not wear a bra in front of guests, regardless of who they are, which is why I’m going with good apple
Story 3: I’m going good apple simply for the fact that OP’s stepmom RIPPED UP HER SKETCHBOOK, and from what I remember, the dad did nothing about it, this is a horrifically cruel thing to do, and it also does nothing to help OP learn about hygeine
Gotta say story 2 I agree is a crab apple. There is a certain courteousy towards guests that should be aknowledged in order to make them comfortable. People don't walk around in their underwear in front of guests for a reason. Is it her space too? Yes, but it's a weird hill to die on especially if he isn't over constantly.
Oh my gosh! Another story where the parent isn't listening to their kid on THEIR birthday! The son said he was fine to just stay home and eat pizza! Just let your daughter have the birthday she wants! BAD APPLE!
Store #4
So I have six kids on a fairly tight budget. So taking everybody out for their birthday is not possible. But what I do do is anytime is somebody's birthday in this entire house I make whatever they want for their birthday dinner. It's been a simple as ordering pizza to as complicated as an actual Thanksgiving dinner in March (i honestly think they just wanted to see if i would do that). And yes sometimes what one person chooses somebody else can't stand but it's not their birthday. And when it's their birthday take it to choose. I can't stand people that celebrate other people when somebody else's birthday. And this is coming from having two kids at very different ages days apart. My 15 year old daughter and my 10-year-old son have birthdays 5 days apart and yet they have very distinctive birthdays.
Just wanted to add with #4. Agree wholeheartedly bad apple. For me, where it crossed the line was the forcing her to pick a different place. I think it would have been totally okay if she said 'hey, your brother can't really eat here. Is there another place you might enjoy as much? If not, dad and I will gladly take you out just the 3 of us and have a nice dinner and brother can stay home. But if you'd like for this to be a whole family thing, we maybe need a different place. Just let me know by xyz time so I can make sure the arrangements are all made.' Maybe the girl would have thought about it and wanted her brother there. Not a totally crazy idea. And if not, then you get to celebrate your daughter and maybe have some cake at home together after.
My unicorn would be aqua with a teal mane and a shimmery pastel rainbow horn. Unicorns and rainbows just go together in my mind.
I agree on the first one and the second if they both share the apartment if the roommate only owns their bedroom
That last one was extremely shelfish
Story#3 good apple she said she showers and washes clothes before she goes to fathers house so in my opinion its the stepmother and fathers issue