I have been to the lowest of lows, lip to the ground and no energy to get up many times and would tell myself “this is the last time, you can’t survive this anymore if something doesn’t change.” I stumbled upon this channel in my search for help just this past spring, and I can see more clearly than ever before where the path out is. It continues to be hard, but I have more strength and hope that I carry with me today than then. Thank you Andrew and Community for shining the light of awareness and acceptance.
You can do this... If I didn't thinking he was the love of my life you can do it... I have been with Andrew for two and a half years plus a few months and I have done it but I can tell you the only way you'll ever do it is no contact with them and any people that are involved with him or her no contact is the only way give your time to get back to yourself which takes a lot of time. It took me from October 2021 until May 2024. I know it seems a long time but that's the way my journey took me. Getting back to myself but now I'm a new self never to be the same again and that's a good thing.❤
@@sabianstringer2112 : Although very hard, it is NECESSARY to break the trauma bond for your own healing. ⛓You will NOT heal UNTIL you break the trauma bond. 🙏⛓
We Have to Be Independent Thinkers and Risk Takers by Being Strong Enough to Leave the Narc's Trauma Bond and Go Out On Our Own So We Can Begin To Heal.
The *Grand Finalé* happens when the narcissist realises that (to their utter disbelief) you *won't* be coming back! *Ever* Then they indulge their rage -it's often *vandalism* (but it can really be anything that helps them regulate their emotions (having the emotional control of a six to nine-year-old must be difficult...). All of their calculations are predicated on the idea that you are "too stupid, and too cowardly" to face the truth about them -let alone be able to exit. They're like a spider who imagines they have the butterfly exactly where they want it. *Any attempt to escape will only end in exhaustion* After all -haven't they spent *Years* isolating you? Tying you down? They have convinced themselves that they can devour you at their leisure. But "one day" finally comes, you find the red flags online and the correct combination unlocks your understanding. Suddenly, you *are* free to be you, just as I am free to be me. I can't tell you how grateful I am for this support, Andrew! #Awesome
This is true. I went no-contact when it was clear they were proud of having hurt me. It was baffling that six months later, they attempted to hoover me as if nothing had ever happened....... Now it's so easy to see just how socially CLUELESS they are. They seriously thought I'd want to interact with them ever again. Simply delusional. Scary people. Narcs.
@@mvbigmagic4048 They only see hierarchies, based on traits you have - looks, intelligence, being successful etc. They minimize the value of those they see are better in you: "Looks don't really matter! I can get anyone that's as good looking as you and you're not that beautiful to begin with!" (thinking it or directly telling it to you or in subtler ways) and focus on what is their strength: "I'm so much smarter than you! You do nothing right! You are not a good provider! You are not a real man! You are dumb, because you're a woman!". This keeps them feeling safe. If you accept this role, of being their emotional punching bag, everything is fine. If they leave you, it's because they won, they found someone better, you were ruining their lives, by wanting to be near them, being so inferior, they've proven they can get anyone, it's on to the next "challenge." When YOU leave THEM, their whole "chart system" becomes out of whack and they feel inferior as hell. Their fantasy, in which your "score", based on these superficial values, was lower, becomes huge, in their mind. It's improvised anyway, and it's improvised by them, so anything can trigger a total reversal, especially when you leave them. They need time to recover, to think of anything that would set your "score" lower than theirs again. You left them, because you're mentally ill, because you believe you were too good looking then they are... well... they just got a raise at work... so, you're back to being dumb again, you are too emotional, you're childish etc. You don't really know what's what and they do. If you meet them again, and they've "recovered", it's as if nothing happened. They've forgiven YOU for seeing them as inferior. They don't care about how they treated you, because they can't see that. There is no such thing as good or bad behavior. They can't see others, they can't see themselves, they can't allow themselves to experience love or just "being", because that is useless. Being useless means death. This is what they were taught as children, when their parents were validating them only based on their usefulness. That "chart" of traits, and "score" they assign you, based on those observed traits, and scoring higher than you is all that matters.
I am getting stronger and stronger everyday. Not looking back. Thank God we had no accounts together. I want a divorce and I can continue on my healing journey.💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
"I Will Survive" by Gloria Gaynor 🎵🎶🎼💪💪💪💪💪 At first I was afraid, I was petrified Thinking I could live without you by my side And after spending nights Thinking how you did me wrong I grew strong And I learned how to get along Now you're back From outer space And I find you here With that sad look upon your face I should've changed that stupid lock Or made you leave your key If I'd've known for a second You'd be back to bother me Go on, go, walk out the door Turn around now You're not welcome anymore You're the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye Think I'd crumble? You think I'd lay down and die? No, not I, I will survive Long as I know how to love, I know I'll stay alive I've got my life to live And all my love to give and I will survive I, I, I will survive It took all my strength not to fall apart Trying with all my might to mend my broken heart I spent so many nights feeling sorry for myself How I cried But now I hold my head up high And you see me, somebody new I'm not that lonely little person Still in love with you Now you come droppin' in Expectin' me to be free Now I'm saving my lovin' For someone who's loving me Go on and go, walk out the door Turn around now You're not welcome anymore You're the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye Thinkin' I'd crumble Did you think I'd lay down and die? No, not I, I will survive Long as I know how to love, I know I'll stay alive I've got my life to live, and all my love to give And I will survive I, I will survive Go on, go, walk out the door Turn around now You're not welcome anymore You're the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye Think I'd crumble? You think I'd lay down and die? No, not I, I will survive Long as I know how to love I know I'll stay alive I've got my life to live And all my love to give and I will survive I, I, I will survive 💪💪💪💪💪
I learned about the two types of discard. The emotional discard is super confusing. When I had enough and started packing, in comes the rage and violence. Wow! We escaped.
My X , he is now a “No Name Brand..”. Told me many times he loved me when I left, finally after 7 times of my leaving I told No Name Brand , “ I don’t love you “ then No Name Brand ..went crazy , you will not get a penny from me… you are nothing , the neighbours hate you , on and on . Well after 58 years of toxicity plus 2 years dating, I am 81 and free since 2021 in December. Yes you too can be free , you are strong enough to get on with your life . Thank you Andrew , yes I am a Beautiful Bright shining Light 😊
Gratitude 🙏 Andrew… they are evil… they will destroy everything… Isolate and move in silence in the shadows… They cannot see the gray… only black and white… Stay alert! Stay alive!
I studied abnormal psych when l was 17 and a Freshman in college. We have a narcissist here. She says she is a perfectionist. She is not. She is a paranoid narcissist who has to control everything. She views me as an enemy because she knows l know who and what she is, and she tries to put me down. I am not perfect, and l know it. I also deal with her carefully and mostly indifference. She has said she hates me, to which l shrugged my shoulders and said that l must then be doing something right. She has called ME a narcissist. I guess we all have narcissistic tendencies, but l know l am not perfect nor do l with to be!!!! What a horrible thing to have to be!!!!! She is hyper-religious and says l am going to hell. She is preparing me for it!!!!!
I was raised by a narc, my ex was not my first recovery. I know now that what I fell for was nothing more than familiar ground, once I realized that I knew I had to get out for my own sanity, mission accomplished.
Yes omg Andrew on Point! They repeat your own words back to you and it's so frustrating. I told my ex he was a "Chaos Creator" and now he loves to say that about me when those were MY words I said to him because I learned them through research and channels like Andrews. . These people are the worst you cannot ever talk to them about what they are doing to you or they get educated from you and then pretend they had this knowledge and start saying it about you. UGH so annoying.
If you watch Prof. Sam Vaknin, he's the one who coined narcissistic people into the vernacular actually and speaks often about mother hate by the narcissistic men. They have never separated from Mother but they must, so you are the sub mom and he must separate. That's somewhat the explanation.
@@pammychicaThank you for this clarity When I do/did something nurturing , a lot of times I heard : " Thanks Ma. " He was fond of saying : " When a man gets married , he gets a new Mommy. " I told him henceforth any time he called me "Ma ," I would tell him you're welcome "Hubs ." ( He didn't know what that meant : so I explained : " hubby " or "husband." 😅😅😅 ) We aren't married and he is vehemently opposed to the idea , so haven't heard again. 😉😏
Thanks, Andrew. As the older narcissist ages the things they do and the way they think becomes increasingly odd. Their conscience becomes less and goes to nothing. There is a horrible mess to clean up when the relationship is finished once and for all.
You are so right. I lived with him for 41 years, as he aged he got less careful and more self medicating. So proud to be single and learning to love myself again. ❤
When older narcessist are alcoholic too , and they are in the famely, they destroie the whole famely with their realey demonic behaviour. They become nasty and destructive. My expierience is that they become worse about 40 and imposseble at 50 mean and accid 60 .victem and complening 70 .better you run away in time. ❤
Took great counseling for 1 1/2 years!! He was shocked when I filed for divorce! No wonder he hated me going to nursing school and mocked my first part time job! He made sure he hid his money etc for 17 years. I never knew I was his third wife!
One year ago today I was out with my best friend and vowed to leave the narc in 90 days. I was going to make my exit plan. Tomorrow is my birthday and he realized immediately I was pulling away. He threw everything at me for my birthday buying me all these gift, taking me out on a cruise, dinner, flowers. Everything. I thanked him but was already out of the relationship. By August 3rd he called me out and by August 8th he was gone. He tried everything to squeeze me into having to come back to him. Left me with no money, didn’t see the children, smeared me at church, my family, my friends, left me with all the bills and debt and no support systems. By August 30,2024 I knew who my true family and friends were and my circle had become tiny but mighty. He didn’t destroy me, I was set free. I’m so blessed to be laying here on vacation with my two children about to ring in the best birthday ever 40 and free. 🎉 God is good, Andrew something you said that always resonates with me….. the most galvanized version of yourself. I love that and that’s me now! I love it. Thank you for your words of wisdom this past year.
Nothing short of a Narc flip out, break down, panic, etc. Too late. They plod along and objectify you and as mentioned, "Over play their hand." Glad you were set free! 👍
I have never found anyone who can explain what it means so well. everything I thought and couldn't express is explained here. I felt misunderstood so often. How grateful I am that I ended up on this TH-cam channel. Good job Andrew 🎉🙏
I needed this 🥹 After almost six months of suffering, studying, healing and searching, I got my keys to freedom yesterday. I found a new home and will be safe this weekend ❤ I thought I wouldn't survive out here. Thank you for guiding me through all of this. I don't think I would have made it without your videos. Greetings from Germany. Namaste 🙏🏼
today is a strange day i actually miss the narccisist although i thought i had broken the trauma bond just been thinking about the great times we had although i know none of it was real she wore a mask . everythink andrew said today is true i figured her out and walked away after 5 years of constant drama trouble and most of it was over nothink .keep strong people someday we will wake up and the narccisist will be a distant memory
That Trauma Bond thing is so powerful and confusing. The Metaphors helped me understand it, i.e., YoYo, breadcrumbs, etc. It's such a twisted illusion. You think you've found a plateau of peace and genuine connection and the Narc would be incredibly"giving" at times and that's what pulled you in. When the rug is pulled from under you and the their Mask is removed ...it's now the climb back. Not easy. Most won't know what you've been through. You too-stay strong and get even stronger than before you met the Narc! In a way, you are already.
@@jhavajoe3792 it was the silent treatment i hated more than anythink usually when i did swimming running or went the gym whenever i asked what the issue was all i got was am fine its in your own head the stalking on social media wanting to know who who is on facebook who am talking to were am going with friends wanting me to show my location finacial abuse demanding 200 pound a month just for staying over a few nights a week the constant digs making me feel bad saying am to sensitive the list goes on literally walking on egg shells whenever i was around her i felt relieved when we had good days and there was no drama somethink you should never be thankful for it should be like that most days . am strong and pulling through just somtimes you think of the good times instead of the bad its what happend to me yesterday be strong everyone our hearts might be hurting but each day without the narciccist is a gift and a life of no drama and peace
This video resonates with me because of your expressions of what we have faced exiting the narc abuse cycle and what we have overcome and are overcoming. The more we overcome, the stronger we get. We are all unified on this channel. No matter where we are on the path, we are all connected in some way. Thank you for these daily reminders of how important, blessed, and beautiful we are! ❤
16:18 I just left my Narc Boyfriend of 5 yrs yesterday. I stunbled upon this video tonight. I am petrified he will pull me back. Im going to watch every single video you have posted. Thank you
Welcome 🙏 Andrew is a big part of my recovery from this unholy experience. Every word out of these dark creatures is a lie. Block, don’t go back/the Hoover. Stay strong and keep on running for the hill 🙏🏃🏻♀➡
Spot on Andrew. I can relate to what you have said. The narcissist is a dark evil energy entity and it can sense our energy. We can combat it with our peace, love, honesty, kindness, authenticity, integrity, generosity, joy, happiness and all of the good things and qualities we have been given by God as His children ❤❤❤😊😊😊 thank you 🙏 God bless you ❤
In the case of our casino friend,she says she's strong when in fact she isn't. The obvious reason for this is this girl will go through any length to have and maintain friends
Thanks for all your help and insight, Andrew. It’s good to know that we’re not alone. Keep doing what you’re doing. There’s a never ending “supply” of people who need the benefit of your wisdom. ❤
I think Andrew is right - we did pass the test. We are all here after all. I tried swallowing a bottle of aspirin when I was 15, 38 years ago, but the contents must have been replaced with Vitamin C as there were no discernable effects. It is the narcissist who exemplifies weakness, dishonesty and cowardice.
At 4:36, THAT'S THE POINT. EVEN IF YOU GET THE KNOWLEDGE TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP "WORK", YOU'LL SOON LEARN THAT IT'S BORING AND MEANINGLESS. GREAT VIDEO SIR. NEW SUBSCRIBER HERE.
Narcs beat me up physically and emotionally until I was broken down into a shell. Sibling, parent and an ex. Somehow I am still here. God is good. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Andrew speaks life into us. May God bless him.💖💖💖 🙏🏽 Namaste
Good Morning Andrew💯🇫🇷🙏🫡My Narc/sister,,, did not think I could BE SO STRONG🙏🫡💯🤣HOLDING out for 2yrs+,,, not giving in to see my Mother ,, or get a neighbor to bring a card ,, I could send ,, or flowers!! She has my Mother in her WEB OF CONTROL & taking the whole House,,, for herself!! Thinking she DESERVES IT!! SHE does Not!! But ,, I rise above all of this!! Prayers & Truth will always PREVAIL!! HAVE a great day!!😊🌟🙏💯
Ja Andrew jeg ser verden fra en hel anden side, narcissisme det har jeg lært takket være dig og dit super program 👍👍,jeg ignorere dem og jeg har også tænkt mig at gå frem af og ikke tilbage igen Nej tak. God dag Andrew 🙂👍
2:38 That is EXACTLY what she told me. Completely out of the blue, we weren't even arguing, she might have been thinking this for weeks or months before she said it. Her: You'll never find another Me: And you'll never find another
I not only had to deal with my ex ,but had to deal with his whole family. Im talking about his parents ,brother & sisters & grand children of theirs .i got beat up by all at same time .they made me feel i was the crazy one .i just now found out that twofamily members took advantage of my 13 yr old daughter .i told her its not her fault.its them i feel like hell not knowing that happened & youhave no idea what i ve been thinking to do to get back .but i know im better than that now .but it still hurts thank God me & daughter can talk about it niw & just love each other & talk about what we went through
I’m getting stronger and wiser. I can spot toxic people by their reactions: Do they have to be right at all times? Do they talk without thinking first? (Impulse, inflated ego) I keep them at arm length if I can’t completely avoid them. I’m keeping the focus on me, still healing and running for the hill 🏃🏻♀➡
@hongtruong4576 I am listening to Andrew's videos every day to learn as much as I can. Oh boy, what an innocent upbringing I had, thinking everyone had good in them, 25 years married to a narc
You give hope ❤ I left three times but didn’t understand what was happening. I came back when he hovered and breadcrumbed. Now I am 66, financially dependent on him and he sat across the table from me and told me that I couldn’t make it without him. I hate him.
Now that I'm healed (6 years divorced), there is no way that I would ever go back to the abuse. It was the hardest thing that I've ever been through in my life. Thank God for delivering me from that evil creature.
I'm just starting my journey away from my boyfriend that's a narcissist I put up with his crazy axx for 15 years now I'm looking for a place and moving on. suck of him treating me like I'm nothing an flirting around with younger girls in front of my face and looking for girls online and him cutting me down make me feel insecure because of my high cheekbones cause being 40% Cherokee saying I look like a man when I don't and I'm 135 lb and I'm fat to him .I'm so done with it all I gave him too many chances no more time to heal
@@lonelyheart9022 I'm glad to hear that you are done with all of his BS... I stayed for 32 years. That was way too long! I don't know how I put up with all of his BS for that long. I waited until the kids were grown and on their own. Then, I left him, and I never went back. It was the best decision I ever made. I woke up one morning and decided right then that I was done. I decided that minute out of nowhere that I was leaving. Within two hours, I had my car loaded with my personal stuff, and I left. And, I never went back.
It gives instant relief and soothing to know you all managed to escape for the good. May God guide you for the coming time. How did you all manage to get out of the trap? And what did you all face during that time?
keep watching Andrews videos. Andrew has been through it and what he says is all the important info. needed. Watching his videos helps me to heal from a 50+ Marriage to a NarcHusband who passed away last week. Stay Strong!
Thank you, Andrew, for sharing all your wisdom, 6 months therapy in my Country constantly asking what the hell was wrong with my spouse, wondering if I did something wrong, I was even accused of spoiling him by family members, all bad behaviour listed repetatively to the therapist and yet narcasist was never offered as a possible issue, a few videos in I got the answers from you, various situations and arguments, shunning within his family made no sense to me at the time but now I have the answers, your words are always 100% correct and the huge amount of work you put in to educate people is remarkable forever in your debt Sir unless a therapist has the experience they are no help to a victim
I had to set boundaries with my Daughters mom about making changes to my 50/50 schedule without notice, she’s constantly signing her up for things which is awesome but waits til last minute to tell me & I have to change my schedule or my girls schedule on my weeks, also my daughter has been struggling In school & is showing early signs of Dyslexia. She just turned 8 couple days ago & she’s done Gymnastics, Cheer, Soccer, Baile, Good news club, Cheer again, & Girl Scouts It was tough & I spoke to my daughter afterwards about taking a break from these events til we get better with school & she cried, she’s not a cryer at all, it hurt me but she understood. I’m persistent in getting her to understand our situation & have nightly conversation before bed. I just want what’s best for her & to be on decent terms with her mother but she won’t give & I’ve taken her to every one of these programs without question but enough is enough
Very tough situation. "Dyslexia" for kids "can be" a hurdle for your child's self esteem as she makes her way through academia. Too many don't understand. Steer her towards those who have succeeded in spite of the condition ( thousands of giants- Einstein, Steve Jobs, Picasso, etc. ). This triggers me. Raised a daughter with the condition and back then, it wasn't widespread public knowledge. And of course, Narc mom was brutal and impatient.
@@jhavajoe3792 It def has taken a hit to her self esteem, I remember her coming home & saying “Chloe Mave & Jesus(school mates) can read & I can’t”. I held back tears hearing that She has an IEP basically a person that sits with her in class & she’s still struggling. During mediation they forced us to go to therapy & I’ve gone for 4 months & completed it, her mother still hasn’t. I say that to say myself & girl have both attended therapy & my daughter sees it & has asked me a number of times that she would like to attend too & technically she should have already been. She wants to express herself but can’t find the words & I think her emotions get in the mix with her learning because whenever we try to teach & she can’t figure it out she always feels like she’s in trouble My daughter should be in therapy within 2 weeks & hopefully can find a tutor for the school year. My question to you, does the relationship with the co parent ever get better? I went almost 2 years no contact with the help of my girl They would do the exchanges & communicating but she filed a contempt a few months ago which forced me to be in direct contact with her
@@TheHumleMe I don't have the answer to your question ( on your co-parenting improving ). Re: The tutor. The "right tutor" can mean the world of a difference. My niece went from "Math Confused" as a teen to CPA ( as of now ) with the help of a tutor. Note: I was discarded in my daughter's pre- teen years and she went through hell. I was helpless to truly influence her in a positive direction by that time, as the "wedge" with the kids were already put in place before the relationship ended. Years of guilt and self-blame ( you cannot help anyone as an exhausted shell ). Positive note: Daughter with Dyslexia grew up and managed to end up married in a stable, happy and healthy family. All the Best for You ( and strength).
This message is very much truth as each video that has come from you has been growing in strength and as you shine the strength toward us, we also are strengthening. I’m not fully living my “best life” of where I hope to be, but I’m very grateful for how far I’ve come and I know I’m on my way. You have been leading me for a long time Andrew and this community was a saving grace in my life. May we all continue to rise in ways we’re called to. 💖🙏🦋 💪 ❤️
Hey Drew Now Doing Mental Homework Everyday as I Strengthen My Boundaries and Prepare Mentally for Separation.....Also Closer to God Now....God Bless, Sabian....Hi Everyone....God Bless Everybody (Even the Crappy Narcs)
The narc operates on the emotional intelligence level of a 5 year old petulant child…a mischievous child who enjoys tormenting beautiful animals…they enjoy bringing someone who is more than them down to a level less than them. What narcs don’t understand is that we are constantly evolving to the good, that is something they can never do. They are stuck in a low vibrational level. We are able to recover and evolve and recover past any setbacks. Our internal will to survive and remove ourselves from the torment and chaos helps us to thrive God’s grace and mercy helps us press on. We got away narc, deal with it, take your sorry narc self someplace else
Yeah he didn't he thought he was punishing me by giving me the silent treatment. However the silent treatment gave me time to get myself together and see things much clearer. So I thank him for that and I've gotten stronger everyday.
Yea they take advantage and the longer I stayed the more I realised it is draining 😢 thank God I was discarded. Still hurt but it’s better than staying.
My ex Narc didn’t know crazy until I show what craziness looks like. They will back off when they feel threatened. These are cowards that feed on vulnerable people and abuse you more and more by working on your weaknesses.
@@thecarpenter2599 This person wasn’t expecting what was coming. A person can endure but when you reach your limit is game over. I understand my methods are not precisely recommended but to me it solved te problem. No Hovering, No stalking , blocked. However, it has taken me extraordinary efforts to deal with the aftermath of such abuse. I have a range of days from the worse where I question my existence to days where I feel slightly better.
I have been to the lowest of lows, lip to the ground and no energy to get up many times and would tell myself “this is the last time, you can’t survive this anymore if something doesn’t change.” I stumbled upon this channel in my search for help just this past spring, and I can see more clearly than ever before where the path out is. It continues to be hard, but I have more strength and hope that I carry with me today than then. Thank you Andrew and Community for shining the light of awareness and acceptance.
Welcome..😌💜🙏🙌⛰️
You can do this... If I didn't thinking he was the love of my life you can do it... I have been with Andrew for two and a half years plus a few months and I have done it but I can tell you the only way you'll ever do it is no contact with them and any people that are involved with him or her no contact is the only way give your time to get back to yourself which takes a lot of time. It took me from October 2021 until May 2024. I know it seems a long time but that's the way my journey took me. Getting back to myself but now I'm a new self never to be the same again and that's a good thing.❤
Sending you Blessings and Much Love🩷
Proverbs 24:16
[16]For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: but the wicked shall fall into mischief.
Bless u
"It doesn’t take a lot of strength to hang on. It takes a lot of strength to let go.” - J. C. Watts 😊
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@@sabianstringer2112 : Although very hard, it is NECESSARY to break the trauma bond for your own healing. ⛓You will NOT heal UNTIL you break the trauma bond. 🙏⛓
Amen 🙏🏾
We Have to Be Independent Thinkers and Risk Takers by Being Strong Enough to Leave the Narc's Trauma Bond and Go Out On Our Own So We Can Begin To Heal.
'One thing the narcissist usually does is over play their hand.'
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Ain’t that the TRUTH!
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He totallyyyy did
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I felt like I won the lottery when I found out it had a name 😂
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Me too !
True you find back the powerful you.
Cockroaches run whenever the light comes on!
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The scriptures say what has been taken from you will be returned. So far. This has come true!😊
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And Amen 🙏 and our Blessings are always Blocked when they are around.
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Good for you ! I need the same ! Amen !
@@susancampbell7335there are decades ....that is no joke !
Yet we proved them wrong 💪
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Yes, despite it almost destroying us ! But they failed...and will be stopped !
I Strongly Agree.....DON'T accept 'the hoover'....it Only sets you back.on your process of healing.
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The *Grand Finalé* happens when the narcissist realises that (to their utter disbelief) you *won't* be coming back! *Ever* Then they indulge their rage -it's often *vandalism* (but it can really be anything that helps them regulate their emotions (having the emotional control of a six to nine-year-old must be difficult...). All of their calculations are predicated on the idea that you are "too stupid, and too cowardly" to face the truth about them -let alone be able to exit. They're like a spider who imagines they have the butterfly exactly where they want it. *Any attempt to escape will only end in exhaustion* After all -haven't they spent *Years* isolating you? Tying you down? They have convinced themselves that they can devour you at their leisure. But "one day" finally comes, you find the red flags online and the correct combination unlocks your understanding. Suddenly, you *are* free to be you, just as I am free to be me. I can't tell you how grateful I am for this support, Andrew! #Awesome
I am strong now and pursuing my goals in Jesus Christ he saved me from Narcis. ❤
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He had/has no idea how strong I am!!!😊
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Thanks Andrew ☺️🙏
Amen
The narcissist is truly shocked that you no longer want them ... when you go no contact and no longer chase for any kind of resolution.
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This is true. I went no-contact when it was clear they were proud of having hurt me. It was baffling that six months later, they attempted to hoover me as if nothing had ever happened....... Now it's so easy to see just how socially CLUELESS they are. They seriously thought I'd want to interact with them ever again. Simply delusional. Scary people. Narcs.
@@mvbigmagic4048 They only see hierarchies, based on traits you have - looks, intelligence, being successful etc. They minimize the value of those they see are better in you: "Looks don't really matter! I can get anyone that's as good looking as you and you're not that beautiful to begin with!" (thinking it or directly telling it to you or in subtler ways) and focus on what is their strength: "I'm so much smarter than you! You do nothing right! You are not a good provider! You are not a real man! You are dumb, because you're a woman!". This keeps them feeling safe.
If you accept this role, of being their emotional punching bag, everything is fine. If they leave you, it's because they won, they found someone better, you were ruining their lives, by wanting to be near them, being so inferior, they've proven they can get anyone, it's on to the next "challenge."
When YOU leave THEM, their whole "chart system" becomes out of whack and they feel inferior as hell. Their fantasy, in which your "score", based on these superficial values, was lower, becomes huge, in their mind. It's improvised anyway, and it's improvised by them, so anything can trigger a total reversal, especially when you leave them.
They need time to recover, to think of anything that would set your "score" lower than theirs again. You left them, because you're mentally ill, because you believe you were too good looking then they are... well... they just got a raise at work... so, you're back to being dumb again, you are too emotional, you're childish etc. You don't really know what's what and they do.
If you meet them again, and they've "recovered", it's as if nothing happened. They've forgiven YOU for seeing them as inferior. They don't care about how they treated you, because they can't see that. There is no such thing as good or bad behavior. They can't see others, they can't see themselves, they can't allow themselves to experience love or just "being", because that is useless. Being useless means death. This is what they were taught as children, when their parents were validating them only based on their usefulness. That "chart" of traits, and "score" they assign you, based on those observed traits, and scoring higher than you is all that matters.
I agree....they absolutely know why but they play lame....'why don't you want me ??' It's all a sisemic act of pretence 🤷
I relize now they are pond life .
Feel so much better as time goes by .
Thank you. The narcissist is lost and empty
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I am getting stronger and stronger everyday. Not looking back. Thank God we had no accounts together. I want a divorce and I can continue on my healing journey.💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
You got this! Good luck.
I used to cook all the time for him. No more!!!
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They definitely have that 6 th sense, for sure. They analyze their surroundings all time
He put me down phisicly abused me Manipulated me but I’m free now
"I Will Survive" by Gloria Gaynor 🎵🎶🎼💪💪💪💪💪
At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Thinking I could live without you by my side
And after spending nights
Thinking how you did me wrong
I grew strong
And I learned how to get along
Now you're back
From outer space
And I find you here
With that sad look upon your face
I should've changed that stupid lock
Or made you leave your key
If I'd've known for a second
You'd be back to bother me
Go on, go, walk out the door
Turn around now
You're not welcome anymore
You're the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
Think I'd crumble?
You think I'd lay down and die?
No, not I, I will survive
Long as I know how to love, I know I'll stay alive
I've got my life to live
And all my love to give and
I will survive
I, I, I will survive
It took all my strength not to fall apart
Trying with all my might to mend my broken heart
I spent so many nights feeling sorry for myself
How I cried
But now I hold my head up high
And you see me, somebody new
I'm not that lonely little person
Still in love with you
Now you come droppin' in
Expectin' me to be free
Now I'm saving my lovin'
For someone who's loving me
Go on and go, walk out the door
Turn around now
You're not welcome anymore
You're the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
Thinkin' I'd crumble
Did you think I'd lay down and die?
No, not I, I will survive
Long as I know how to love, I know I'll stay alive
I've got my life to live, and all my love to give
And I will survive
I, I will survive
Go on, go, walk out the door
Turn around now
You're not welcome anymore
You're the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
Think I'd crumble?
You think I'd lay down and die?
No, not I, I will survive
Long as I know how to love
I know I'll stay alive
I've got my life to live
And all my love to give and
I will survive
I, I, I will survive
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This is a nod to Gloria Gaynor but this is my new mantra. Enjoy. th-cam.com/video/Rn7YL9EknME/w-d-xo.html
❤💪 Wow..how fitting a song! Yesssssd. We survived and we thrive!
Listen to the Who..Eminence
I certainly found out who he actually was, when i started calling out his lies . Projection, Rage fits, followed by a cruel discard.
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I learned about the two types of discard. The emotional discard is super confusing. When I had enough and started packing, in comes the rage and violence. Wow! We escaped.
I'm trying to get out of here without letting her know because the nasty, cruel devalueing will start. 😢
My X , he is now a “No Name Brand..”. Told me many times he loved me when I left, finally after 7 times of my leaving I told No Name Brand , “ I don’t love you “ then No Name Brand ..went crazy , you will not get a penny from me… you are nothing , the neighbours hate you , on and on . Well after 58 years of toxicity plus 2 years dating, I am 81 and free since 2021 in December. Yes you too can be free , you are strong enough to get on with your life . Thank you Andrew , yes I am a Beautiful Bright shining Light 😊
You give me hope that I can get though this.
Gratitude 🙏 Andrew…
they are evil…
they will destroy everything…
Isolate and move in silence in the shadows…
They cannot see the gray… only black and white…
Stay alert! Stay alive!
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Thank you Andrew❤I had to move, change my name and phone number. I got my son back, a better job and peace🎉All glory to God❤
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You got your son back!! I don’t know who you are, but these words made me so joyful for you and your son. 🥹🙌🏾🙌🏾
@@franco2b145 yes praise God!
@@franco2b145 Yes forever thankful 🥹!
I stonewalled a narcissist, and he seemed astounded, totally shocked and staring at my face continuously trying get some kind of tell off my face.
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Once you see through the narcissist when you are educated it is easy to see that they are kind of primitive in their manipulations. Same ol' same ol'.
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I studied abnormal psych when l was 17 and a Freshman in college. We have a narcissist here. She says she is a perfectionist. She is not. She is a paranoid narcissist who has to control everything. She views me as an enemy because she knows l know who and what she is, and she tries to put me down. I am not perfect, and l know it. I also deal with her carefully and mostly indifference. She has said she hates me, to which l shrugged my shoulders and said that l must then be doing something right. She has called ME a narcissist. I guess we all have narcissistic tendencies, but l know l am not perfect nor do l with to be!!!! What a horrible thing to have to be!!!!! She is hyper-religious and says l am going to hell. She is preparing me for it!!!!!
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I was raised by a narc, my ex was not my first recovery.
I know now that what I fell for was nothing more than familiar ground, once I realized that I knew I had to get out for my own sanity, mission accomplished.
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Yes omg Andrew on Point! They repeat your own words back to you and it's so frustrating. I told my ex he was a "Chaos Creator" and now he loves to say that about me when those were MY words I said to him because I learned them through research and channels like Andrews. . These people are the worst you cannot ever talk to them about what they are doing to you or they get educated from you and then pretend they had this knowledge and start saying it about you. UGH so annoying.
He knew,, 💪🏼 It’s what caused him to fall in love with me and then caused him to hate me 🙋🏻♀️
If you watch Prof. Sam Vaknin, he's the one who coined narcissistic people into the vernacular actually and speaks often about mother hate by the narcissistic men. They have never separated from Mother but they must, so you are the sub mom and he must separate. That's somewhat the explanation.
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@@pammychica Thank You ☺️
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@@pammychicaThank you for this clarity
When I do/did something nurturing , a lot of times I heard :
" Thanks Ma. "
He was fond of saying :
" When a man gets married , he gets a new Mommy. "
I told him henceforth any time he called me "Ma ," I would tell him you're welcome "Hubs ." ( He didn't know what that meant : so I explained : " hubby " or "husband." 😅😅😅 )
We aren't married and he is vehemently opposed to the idea , so haven't heard again. 😉😏
Thanks, Andrew. As the older narcissist ages the things they do and the way they think becomes increasingly odd. Their conscience becomes less and goes to nothing. There is a horrible mess to clean up when the relationship is finished once and for all.
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You are so right. I lived with him for 41 years, as he aged he got less careful and more self medicating. So proud to be single and learning to love myself again. ❤
So so so true
When older narcessist are alcoholic too , and they are in the famely, they destroie the whole famely with their realey demonic behaviour. They become nasty and destructive. My expierience is that they become worse about 40 and imposseble at 50 mean and accid 60 .victem and complening 70 .better you run away in time. ❤
Took great counseling for 1 1/2 years!! He was shocked when I filed for divorce! No wonder he hated me going to nursing school and mocked my first part time job! He made sure he hid his money etc for 17 years. I never knew I was his third wife!
I moved into a new neighborhood...Within 6 mounts...I already know who to avoid! Thank You for all
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The Narcissist: "Listening to music is dumb!"
Me: Slowly placing my headphones on.
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One year ago today I was out with my best friend and vowed to leave the narc in 90 days. I was going to make my exit plan. Tomorrow is my birthday and he realized immediately I was pulling away. He threw everything at me for my birthday buying me all these gift, taking me out on a cruise, dinner, flowers. Everything. I thanked him but was already out of the relationship. By August 3rd he called me out and by August 8th he was gone. He tried everything to squeeze me into having to come back to him. Left me with no money, didn’t see the children, smeared me at church, my family, my friends, left me with all the bills and debt and no support systems. By August 30,2024 I knew who my true family and friends were and my circle had become tiny but mighty. He didn’t destroy me, I was set free. I’m so blessed to be laying here on vacation with my two children about to ring in the best birthday ever 40 and free. 🎉 God is good, Andrew something you said that always resonates with me….. the most galvanized version of yourself. I love that and that’s me now! I love it. Thank you for your words of wisdom this past year.
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Nothing short of a Narc flip out, break down, panic, etc. Too late. They plod along and
objectify you and as mentioned, "Over play their hand." Glad you were set free! 👍
Self worth is the key to the cage.
Nice.
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Facts and Thanks 🙏🏾
No weapon should prosper against me . 🙏🏾
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NON!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I got a new kitten and she is my world now. Vet visits, and keeping kitten healthy. Toys, food. I focus totally on the fur baby. Everyone loves her!!!
What's her name?
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@stupensardi2783 Sophia.
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I still have my 2 fur babies and they are the only things that give me the strength to get up in the morning.
..."if you only knew..." Thank you so much for telling my truth. God speed.
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I have never found anyone who can explain what it means so well. everything I thought and couldn't express is explained here. I felt misunderstood so often. How grateful I am that I ended up on this TH-cam channel.
Good job Andrew 🎉🙏
I needed this 🥹 After almost six months of suffering, studying, healing and searching, I got my keys to freedom yesterday. I found a new home and will be safe this weekend ❤ I thought I wouldn't survive out here. Thank you for guiding me through all of this. I don't think I would have made it without your videos. Greetings from Germany. Namaste 🙏🏼
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today is a strange day i actually miss the narccisist although i thought i had broken the trauma bond just been thinking about the great times we had although i know none of it was real she wore a mask . everythink andrew said today is true i figured her out and walked away after 5 years of constant drama trouble and most of it was over nothink .keep strong people someday we will wake up and the narccisist will be a distant memory
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That Trauma Bond thing is so powerful and confusing. The Metaphors helped me understand it, i.e., YoYo, breadcrumbs, etc. It's such a twisted illusion. You think you've found a plateau of peace and genuine connection and the Narc would be incredibly"giving" at times and that's what pulled you in. When the rug is pulled from under you and the their Mask is removed ...it's now the climb back. Not easy. Most won't know what you've been through. You too-stay strong and get even stronger than before you met the Narc! In a way, you are already.
@@jhavajoe3792 it was the silent treatment i hated more than anythink usually when i did swimming running or went the gym whenever i asked what the issue was all i got was am fine its in your own head the stalking on social media wanting to know who who is on facebook who am talking to were am going with friends wanting me to show my location finacial abuse demanding 200 pound a month just for staying over a few nights a week the constant digs making me feel bad saying am to sensitive the list goes on literally walking on egg shells whenever i was around her i felt relieved when we had good days and there was no drama somethink you should never be thankful for it should be like that most days . am strong and pulling through just somtimes you think of the good times instead of the bad its what happend to me yesterday be strong everyone our hearts might be hurting but each day without the narciccist is a gift and a life of no drama and peace
This video resonates with me because of your expressions of what we have faced exiting the narc abuse cycle and what we have overcome and are overcoming. The more we overcome, the stronger we get. We are all unified on this channel. No matter where we are on the path, we are all connected in some way. Thank you for these daily reminders of how important, blessed, and beautiful we are! ❤
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16:18 I just left my Narc Boyfriend of 5 yrs yesterday. I stunbled upon this video tonight. I am petrified he will pull me back. Im going to watch every single video you have posted. Thank you
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Thank you
Welcome 🙏 Andrew is a big part of my recovery from this unholy experience. Every word out of these dark creatures is a lie. Block, don’t go back/the Hoover. Stay strong and keep on running for the hill 🙏🏃🏻♀➡
@@hongtruong4576 Thank you
DON’T GO BACK
We appreciate you Andrew. Thank you.
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Spot on Andrew. I can relate to what you have said. The narcissist is a dark evil energy entity and it can sense our energy. We can combat it with our peace, love, honesty, kindness, authenticity, integrity, generosity, joy, happiness and all of the good things and qualities we have been given by God as His children ❤❤❤😊😊😊 thank you 🙏 God bless you ❤
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You're saving My life,if not for you, I wouldn't be healing, thanks 💪
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In the case of our casino friend,she says she's strong when in fact she isn't. The obvious reason for this is this girl will go through any length to have and maintain friends
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Thanks for all your help and insight, Andrew. It’s good to know that we’re not alone. Keep doing what you’re doing. There’s a never ending “supply” of people who need the benefit of your wisdom. ❤
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I think Andrew is right - we did pass the test. We are all here after all. I tried swallowing a bottle of aspirin when I was 15, 38 years ago, but the contents must have been replaced with Vitamin C as there were no discernable effects.
It is the narcissist who exemplifies weakness, dishonesty and cowardice.
So thankful the aspirin didn't take you out. God bless!
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@@eloisem3214 ,thank you!🙂
“The peace I feel without your presence in my life is worth being the villain in your story.”
Worth it a thousand times over.🙏🏾
Love this quote.
Almost anyone and everyone is the villain in their story at one point in time. 🙄😖
This ❤❤❤❤
@@suesanders1169 Truth 💜
At 4:36, THAT'S THE POINT.
EVEN IF YOU GET THE KNOWLEDGE TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP "WORK", YOU'LL SOON LEARN THAT IT'S BORING AND MEANINGLESS.
GREAT VIDEO SIR.
NEW SUBSCRIBER HERE.
I've become stronger than steel, they have no chance against me, they already know...
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You're right, and when I walked away he was shocked.
Narcs beat me up physically and emotionally until I was broken down into a shell. Sibling, parent and an ex. Somehow I am still here. God is good. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Andrew speaks life into us. May God bless him.💖💖💖
🙏🏽 Namaste
We didn't think that we were that strong either! Look at us now ❤
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Thank you Andrew! 🙏🏻💕💕
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Divorced from narc after 17 years. Never remarried again. I am drawn to them every time. Best to not trust again.
This is really the truth man
Good Morning Andrew💯🇫🇷🙏🫡My Narc/sister,,, did not think I could BE SO STRONG🙏🫡💯🤣HOLDING out for 2yrs+,,, not giving in to see my Mother ,, or get a neighbor to bring a card ,, I could send ,, or flowers!! She has my Mother in her WEB OF CONTROL & taking the whole House,,, for herself!! Thinking she DESERVES IT!! SHE does Not!! But ,, I rise above all of this!! Prayers & Truth will always PREVAIL!! HAVE a great day!!😊🌟🙏💯
she did say to me "you will never find anyone like me" - spot on.
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She told me nobody will ever make me happier
Same here + you won’t make it alone. Then I said: Oh watch me
I hope your response was : " I pray to God I never do. "
Hilarious way to phrase it! We certainly hope not to find anyone like them again.
Thank you🎉
The Narc never did not like when I expressed how I felt.
Thankyou for the daily empowerment. It helps in the healing process that only WE can do by ourselves. 🙏🌸
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Ja Andrew jeg ser verden fra en hel anden side, narcissisme det har jeg lært takket være dig og dit super program 👍👍,jeg ignorere dem og jeg har også tænkt mig at gå frem af og ikke tilbage igen Nej tak. God dag Andrew 🙂👍
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2:38 That is EXACTLY what she told me. Completely out of the blue, we weren't even arguing, she might have been thinking this for weeks or months before she said it.
Her: You'll never find another
Me: And you'll never find another
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I not only had to deal with my ex ,but had to deal with his whole family. Im talking about his parents ,brother & sisters & grand children of theirs .i got beat up by all at same time .they made me feel i was the crazy one .i just now found out that twofamily members took advantage of my 13 yr old daughter .i told her its not her fault.its them i feel like hell not knowing that happened & youhave no idea what i ve been thinking to do to get back .but i know im better than that now .but it still hurts thank God me & daughter can talk about it niw & just love each other & talk about what we went through
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Hope I get stronger but not hard of heart ❤
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I’m getting stronger and wiser. I can spot toxic people by their reactions: Do they have to be right at all times? Do they talk without thinking first? (Impulse, inflated ego) I keep them at arm length if I can’t completely avoid them. I’m keeping the focus on me, still healing and running for the hill 🏃🏻♀➡
@hongtruong4576 I am listening to Andrew's videos every day to learn as much as I can. Oh boy, what an innocent upbringing I had, thinking everyone had good in them, 25 years married to a narc
I AM inclined to believe , you already questioning your heart becoming hardened , is proof it won't. 🙂
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You give hope ❤ I left three times but didn’t understand what was happening. I came back when he hovered and breadcrumbed. Now I am 66, financially dependent on him and he sat across the table from me and told me that I couldn’t make it without him. I hate him.
There's a way. At minimum, Grey rock, be unbothered. Bored with him. Genuine disinterest. He's going to be bored, bored, bored. He will leave.
If you live in or near a city, Women in Crisis Centers usually offer phone counseling and guidance. 🌹❤
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You see the truth. Stay in the truth. The hate will fade.
Now that I'm healed (6 years divorced), there is no way that I would ever go back to the abuse. It was the hardest thing that I've ever been through in my life. Thank God for delivering me from that evil creature.
Same for me! Out 6 years too!🎉
@@rosecampion4337 Doesn't it feel great to be Narc Free? 🎉🥳🎉🥳🎉
I'm just starting my journey away from my boyfriend that's a narcissist I put up with his crazy axx for 15 years now I'm looking for a place and moving on. suck of him treating me like I'm nothing an flirting around with younger girls in front of my face and looking for girls online and him cutting me down make me feel insecure because of my high cheekbones cause being 40% Cherokee saying I look like a man when I don't and I'm 135 lb and I'm fat to him .I'm so done with it all I gave him too many chances no more time to heal
@@lonelyheart9022 I'm glad to hear that you are done with all of his BS... I stayed for 32 years. That was way too long! I don't know how I put up with all of his BS for that long. I waited until the kids were grown and on their own. Then, I left him, and I never went back. It was the best decision I ever made. I woke up one morning and decided right then that I was done. I decided that minute out of nowhere that I was leaving. Within two hours, I had my car loaded with my personal stuff, and I left. And, I never went back.
It gives instant relief and soothing to know you all managed to escape for the good. May God guide you for the coming time. How did you all manage to get out of the trap? And what did you all face during that time?
Thankyou Andrew you are a blessing 🙌 ❤
Every time I get involved with a jerk it takes me less time to get out of it. Thank you for all your wisdom!
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That's the tiny upside of getting over the major Narc devastation by an expert manipulator. All incoming Narcs to follow, seem like amateurs.
You are absolutely great🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I can feel the experience in your eyes 👀.
I understand your wisdom in your words 🫡.
I Appreciate You. 💙
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😢you're always on time.
I can't afford a therapist and i have no one to vent or ask questions how to heal so these videos are helpful
We are so lucky to live in this video age.
keep watching Andrews videos. Andrew has been through it and what he says is all the important info. needed. Watching his videos helps me to heal from a 50+ Marriage to a NarcHusband who passed away last week. Stay Strong!
Thank you, Andrew, for sharing all your wisdom, 6 months therapy in my Country constantly asking what the hell was wrong with my spouse, wondering if I did something wrong, I was even accused of spoiling him by family members, all bad behaviour listed repetatively to the therapist and yet narcasist was never offered as a possible issue, a few videos in I got the answers from you, various situations and arguments, shunning within his family made no sense to me at the time but now I have the answers, your words are always 100% correct and the huge amount of work you put in to educate people is remarkable forever in your debt Sir unless a therapist has the experience they are no help to a victim
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I had to set boundaries with my Daughters mom about making changes to my 50/50 schedule without notice, she’s constantly signing her up for things which is awesome but waits til last minute to tell me & I have to change my schedule or my girls schedule on my weeks, also my daughter has been struggling In school & is showing early signs of Dyslexia. She just turned 8 couple days ago & she’s done Gymnastics, Cheer, Soccer, Baile, Good news club, Cheer again, & Girl Scouts
It was tough & I spoke to my daughter afterwards about taking a break from these events til we get better with school & she cried, she’s not a cryer at all, it hurt me but she understood. I’m persistent in getting her to understand our situation & have nightly conversation before bed. I just want what’s best for her & to be on decent terms with her mother but she won’t give & I’ve taken her to every one of these programs without question but enough is enough
Very tough situation. "Dyslexia" for kids "can be" a hurdle for your child's self esteem
as she makes her way through academia. Too many don't understand. Steer her towards those who have succeeded in spite of the condition ( thousands of giants- Einstein, Steve Jobs, Picasso, etc. ). This triggers me. Raised a daughter with the condition and back then, it wasn't widespread public knowledge. And of course, Narc mom was brutal and impatient.
@@jhavajoe3792 It def has taken a hit to her self esteem, I remember her coming home & saying “Chloe Mave & Jesus(school mates) can read & I can’t”. I held back tears hearing that
She has an IEP basically a person that sits with her in class & she’s still struggling. During mediation they forced us to go to therapy & I’ve gone for 4 months & completed it, her mother still hasn’t. I say that to say myself & girl have both attended therapy & my daughter sees it & has asked me a number of times that she would like to attend too & technically she should have already been. She wants to express herself but can’t find the words & I think her emotions get in the mix with her learning because whenever we try to teach & she can’t figure it out she always feels like she’s in trouble
My daughter should be in therapy within 2 weeks & hopefully can find a tutor for the school year. My question to you, does the relationship with the co parent ever get better? I went almost 2 years no contact with the help of my girl They would do the exchanges & communicating but she filed a contempt a few months ago which forced me to be in direct contact with her
@@TheHumleMe I don't have the answer to your question ( on your co-parenting improving ). Re: The tutor. The "right tutor" can mean the world of a difference. My niece went from "Math Confused" as a teen to CPA ( as of now ) with the help of a tutor. Note: I was discarded in my daughter's pre- teen years and she went through hell. I was helpless to truly influence her in a positive direction by that time, as the "wedge" with the kids were already put in place before the relationship ended. Years of guilt and self-blame ( you cannot help anyone as an exhausted shell ). Positive note: Daughter with Dyslexia grew up and managed to end up married in a stable, happy and healthy family. All the Best for You ( and strength).
@@jhavajoe3792 THANK YOU🙏🏽
Thank you Andrew for another lesson.
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This message is very much truth as each video that has come from you has been growing in strength and as you shine the strength toward us, we also are strengthening. I’m not fully living my “best life” of where I hope to be, but I’m very grateful for how far I’ve come and I know I’m on my way. You have been leading me for a long time Andrew and this community was a saving grace in my life. May we all continue to rise in ways we’re called to. 💖🙏🦋 💪 ❤️
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@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hi there❤️🙏
The experience backed up by education and Knowledge has given me power and Protection,,t.y. Andrew,,my tool box is Full,🔥❤️❤️❤️❤️💫
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Funny,I was moving some plant seeds to another bag,,when he mentioned seeds, its called synchronicity..😊
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you really helped me out thx , keep it up.
Sir you are the man. Cheers 🍻 to Andrew thank you brother.
You are so right. I didn't trust my instinct. Well I do now 💪❣️🙏
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You come to find out just how right your gut was
Never doubt it again
You are awesome Andrew!!!! Thank you for all of your knowledge and insight! So accurate!!! 💪⭐️
Thank you again for helping me to continue to heal. ❤
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Refreshing to hear your message :-)
Hey Drew Now Doing Mental Homework Everyday as I Strengthen My Boundaries and Prepare Mentally for Separation.....Also Closer to God Now....God Bless, Sabian....Hi Everyone....God Bless Everybody (Even the Crappy Narcs)
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100% on point!
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Truer words were never spoken! Love your videos. Thank you
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I always chuckle when you mention the multiple smart phones😂. So correct.
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The narc operates on the emotional intelligence level of a 5 year old petulant child…a mischievous child who enjoys tormenting beautiful animals…they enjoy bringing someone who is more than them down to a level less than them. What narcs don’t understand is that we are constantly evolving to the good, that is something they can never do. They are stuck in a low vibrational level. We are able to recover and evolve and recover past any setbacks. Our internal will to survive and remove ourselves from the torment and chaos helps us to thrive God’s grace and mercy helps us press on.
We got away narc, deal with it, take your sorry narc self someplace else
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EXCELLENT!!!
Love the direct flood of truth Andrew unfolds like a lightening storm. Ug. so good.
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Clear and concise information...thank you!
No narc you thought wrong.....enough was enough, BYE!
Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
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👍 And they'll remain thinking "wrong" till the end. 👍☕
When enough was enough and you walked away you proved to yourself how strong you are.
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@@jhavajoe3792that's for sure. 💯 they cant see past their own eyelids.
Yeah he didn't he thought he was punishing me by giving me the silent treatment. However the silent treatment gave me time to get myself together and see things much clearer. So I thank him for that and I've gotten stronger everyday.
Yea they take advantage and the longer I stayed the more I realised it is draining 😢 thank God I was discarded. Still hurt but it’s better than staying.
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You are so right Andrew! Hope you are doing well.
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Love this!! Thank you Andrew from Texas ❤
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My ex Narc didn’t know crazy until I show what craziness looks like. They will back off when they feel threatened. These are cowards that feed on vulnerable people and abuse you more and more by working on your weaknesses.
@@thecarpenter2599 This person wasn’t expecting what was coming. A person can endure but when you reach your limit is game over. I understand my methods are not precisely recommended but to me it solved te problem. No Hovering, No stalking , blocked. However, it has taken me extraordinary efforts to deal with the aftermath of such abuse. I have a range of days from the worse where I question my existence to days where I feel slightly better.
Amen on that 😂
I didn't think I was that strong until I was challenged, I never say I can't
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