They tried to break us for decades before we eventually woke up and walked away. What makes me smile is either we were incredibly stupid or incredibly smart. The fact we didn't break must sting for them and will haunt them the rest of their days 😊
🎯 Pushed untill you cant take anymore . He watched me disappear like a asprin in a glass of water. The narc is a destructive evil human ( or are they human ?) tear you down not lift you up . Its all a crappy game to them . ✌💚
I honestly do not think they are human. They are critically so different from anyone else I have seen before. I wasn't able to figure out what it was but finally accepting that they are so hugely different from 'regular humans'.
I've dealt with a narcissist father, narcissistic covert boss, a narcissistic sister, and I can truly say each one has a game they play, depending their needs and their position in your life. Knowledge is power for your healing and strength, to show them you are strong and you don't need them!
So true....they want to break you....they want to see you break down and then they have full control. They get so much pleasure out of it all too. Vile behaviour that they are very very proud of.
Passing through to wish all those recovering a blessed weekend of peace and healing. Get out and enjoy nature, like Andrew. Draw from natural energy to recharge youe own. ❤💪
The more of these videos that I watch, the more lightbulb moments I have. It's all starting to make sense. I can't believe that I put up with this insidious treatment for so long.
I did the same thing, went thru years of this. I watch Andrews videos because what he says helps me to know my life with a Narc Husband was not something I created, nor was it me that brought his new supply into our marriage & home. He had it all during his lifetime: what he wanted, when he wanted…..and he was never happy nor grateful for a thing. I am a survivor & am healing thanks Andrew for your videos.
The best thing is to stay true to yourself above all else, nobody else should ever tell you what to do or dim the light and deep desires of your beautiful heart ❤
This is so profound and so true - "they want to see you pay the price for being you." He always punished me in some way for trying and wanting to be myself.
Thanks for this video Andrew. This quote i have in my journal for this year, " we're not accepting verbal apologies only changed behaviour" have a great evening Andrew 🤗💜🙏
narcissists have no problem self-sabotaging anything good, sincere and organic, because of their jealousy, greed and insecurity. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Thank you Andrew❤ and YES.. I totally agree, they push the buttons so often that eventually something has to give!! Then act the 'victim' when you dare to speak up for yourself!! NO MORE....I'M gladly out and GONE!!😊
I think because as empaths our frequency resonates on a higher level , we tend to PRESUME all others do too ! It is so easy when we are with the narcissist to excuse their bad behaviour as quirky eccentricity or theatrical affectations meant to either impress, entertain or mildly intimate. This is a TOTAL miscalculation on our part , they are much darker in reality than we can EVER imagine . The scary bit is their ability to hardwire into our very souls , to the point where they are almost telepathically tuned into us . Although I haven't seen or heard from my narc in over two years since I went no contact , and there has been ZERO communication in that time , two nights ago I had some sudden dreams about them , it was SO VIVID , it felt like a dark cold cloud of evil was looming over me , to the point where I woke and turned the light on just to check they were not there ! Up until this point I have been giving them little to NO thought , so I can only put it down to them either talking or thinking about me . Either way the feeling was so INTENSE and so DARK , it creeped me out for the next two days ! As empaths we should always understand that the condition of NPD should always be handled with equal measures of caution and respect !! We should never underestimate how very REAL it truly is , especially if we are going to protect ourselves in the future ! 🙏😎❤️
I still get those from time to time and when dreaming sometimes it feels as if it is really happening. What a relief it is to wake up and find out it isn’t real! ☀️❤️
The last leap of acceptance in learning about Narcissism, was what you just wrote. Spiritually, they are dark, malicious and can be extremely harmful. "There are more things in Heaven and Earth ..."
I can relate. I used to ban him from my electronics, or anything with buttons to push. He would purposely push them too hard, and break them. I bought a home theater system and because it was mine, and because I love music so much, he broke the power button on the receiver. Well, he was just destructive always, and all ways.
I've known narcs that burned people out because they always had to be center of attention, monopolizing conversations & believed it was their job to tell everyone how they should live their lives.They have no problem trampling over others as they toot their own horns & then wonder why people are leaving!🌈🎀😘
If the minions thought for themselves instead of believing the lies spread by narcissist. They would understand the damage they are causing to multiple innocent people. Sad 😢
It never ceases to amaze me how on point and accurate you are to describing what I’ve been through and experienced. Thank you for this channel and your content. I Truly appreciate. Love the Church bells btw. Nice touch and so beautiful! 🥰🔔🎶🙏🏻⛪️❤️
Wow!!! My wife's brother didn't attend our wedding and when I tried to find out why, he just said he didn't want to come and apparently her sister was threatening not to want to come either!!! Holy crappp!!!! Had I know about narcissism at that time, I would have not even went forth with the wedding because my gut was even telling me that these people are psychos!!!! If time went back there, Lord knows that wedding wouldn't have happened for damn sure!!!
True! 1000%! 💯💯💯 They push until everything breaks… EVERYTHING. I’ve seen _some_ narcs push until everything breaks, and then, inexplicably, they hung around and pretended _nothing_ happened and _nothing_ was wrong and everyone loves them. 😳🤭🤦♀️ EXCELLENT video, Andrew, thank you! I feel like… you’re a narc translator ONLY in the sense that you were married to one for 6 years and you know what they REALLY mean when they say things 🙏🙏🙏😁 Thank you for that! 🙌💯🩷💜☝️ ❤❤❤ Have an AMAZING Friday evening… don’t do anything I wouldn’t do 🤭😆 Love y’all, my friends, have a GREAT rest of your day! ❤❤❤
14:21 precisely situation I'm in right now... Going no contact on an older narc brother as well as my narc mother... Done being the silenced scapegoat... I will break the trauma bond and speak my truth, shine my light.
I was with a narcissist for 13 yrs and I thank God every day for giving me the strength and the means to get out and stay out. He turned a lot of my friends and family against me with his smear campaign. Little did I know my best friend was his biggest Flying Monkey. Thank you so much Andrew, you’ve helped me so much. On my 60th birthday he abused me and left me in Houston, which is about 90 miles from my home. While I was trying to get home he went to my house (he lived with me) ripped out my security cameras and took everything he wanted. I filed for a divorce and he lied and lied and lied….eventually I gave in and didn’t fight for anything…..I’m just glad I got out with my life.
5 weeks no contact. Left my marriage just over a year ago. Got hoovered back in 9 months ago. Left 6 weeks ago, for the second time. The hardest thing I ever had to do . She broke me into pieces & took everything that I had. This channel has helped me beyond measure, to be part of a community, I am getting better at trusting myself and not thinking I am crazy. Thank you. Namaste.
Yes! It’s a trying time. We have that spiritual bond, they live in our head but not our heart. Keep watching Andrew videos. He spoke from experience and the heart. Keep running for the hill my friend 🏃🏾♂they get worse not better. These creatures are like vampires, they bleed us dry and discard us like yesterday garbage. We get better with time 🫶🏼
@@cc1k435 I concur. Though every human being is different, we are not talking about human beings. They have human form, but are missing a soul. They only get worse as time goes by. Simply because the same tricks they use when young don’t work as they age. Age is not something they accept. When they see wrinkles on their face it bothers them. Gray hairs even worse. When I didn’t understand what a NRC or borderline was I felt sorry for them. I wondered how everyday could convince them they are more so a victim. Now I know that being a victim to them is a type of power. It’s bizarre-o world for sure. What is up is down and what is black is white. Just as Andrew says. Thank you Andrew for being brave and teaching us wisdom.
Great video Andrew. Thank you. You've given me much to think about. However, I am going to take a much needed break because I am tired and need to rest now. I hope everyone has a great weekend. ✌️❤️😊
Some relationships with two narcissists can endure. If one is overt and one is covert. They can realise they are running out of people to con and that they understand each other. They can complement each other and hunt supply as a pack, circling the waggons and targeting victims outside of the relationship and enjoying slagging off those around them behind their backs (being each other's bitching partner). They can also recount each other's victories to one another (or at least the covert can do it for the overt). The covert can receive glory vicariously thru the overt and may secretly be the one pulling the strings and in control of the couple. Think power couples running their private fiefdom. The relationship will be transactional but they may both be content with it and choose to stay together forever. I really wanted to believe that narc relationships always fail, but I think there are cases where they do not. What we can say is that it will be a relationship that a normal person could never be happy in.
Good morning Andrew, your video I just finished watching and ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING IS WHAT IS GOING ON HERE!! I AM GOING THROUGH RIGHT NOW WORD FOR WORD, It's a living horrible nightmare, he left , gone for a couple weeks now, never have I lived in this type relationship , it is sick, hard to comprehend that there are such psychotic people like him out there. Thank you for every thing you are doing to help so many around the world! Have a wonderful and blessed day!!🙂🌹
So true ..smeared by siblings and spouse behind my back…they make up ridiculous stories and sometimes the gossip gets back to you..I was astonished by it but now I see what they really are…pathetic jealous troublemakers with no moral code or filters..🧛👹
Hey everyone, I just wanted to take a moment to share some thoughts with you all after watching this incredible video. It's been a real eye-opener for me, and I hope it can be for you too. Going through, or even coming out of, a relationship with a narcissist is incredibly tough. But here's the thing - it's also a powerful journey towards something beautiful: personal growth and a deeper understanding of who we truly are. The first step, recognizing those signs of narcissistic behavior and manipulation, is hard but so crucial. And yes, cutting contact can feel almost impossible. But it's often the most important step we can take to protect ourselves, to start healing, and to take back control of our lives. If you're walking this path right now, I want you to know that you're not walking it alone. The strength it takes to face these challenges? It's nothing short of heroic. It shows a remarkable courage, resilience, and an incredible depth of character. As we move forward, let's focus on rebuilding our sense of self. Let's invest time in relationships that uplift us, and let's not forget the importance of setting healthy boundaries. Healing is so much more than just moving past pain. It's about rediscovering our worth, embracing the light within us, and understanding that nobody can dim that light unless we let them. Stay strong, keep connected with those who support you, and always remember: you have the power to shape the next chapter of your life. A chapter filled with hope, peace, and true happiness. You are an amazing, radiant being - never let anyone's darkness overshadow your shine. Sending you all much love and support on your journey.
My dog died then broke my foot & he out drinking & blaming me I am going no contact & bloked him I will heal bye myself I am so grateful for the education here 🎉
I was married to a narcissist for 44 years until one day I said to myself enough is enough. He destroyed my relationship with my children,grandchildren and great-grandchildren I will never see or know me.
Wow... This is exactly what happened to me... I wish I knew she was a narcissist during and at the end of the relationship. Luckly for me, I discarded her only 5 months after moving into her house. We were together for 20 months, the first 15 being fantastic. one year and a half no contact. The thing I'm beating myself up over is she was able to get a civil restraining order against me for a bullshit stalking charge when trying to get closure at her house 2x and job 1x because like you said, she had initiated a smear campaign, pushed me to the brink with her foot always on the gas pedal and I just couldn't take anymore of her lies. I would have not gone to her house if I knew she was a narc because I would have been able to tell her off on specifics a lot more than I did. Now, I'm in a financial bind looking for another job now because I worked for a client of the government, passed that background check because all companies besides military and government only check for criminal charges. So, the government checked deeper, saw that I had an RO even though I had told them on the form. The courts never take the side of a person whose experienced NPD abuse.
Spending time alone can be difficult but necessary to examine all the traits of the Narcissist. One trait is when the Narcissist is kind to you, their voice is unemotional and without authenticity. They compliment you in the manner of a person who would move a chess piece. Niceness is a strategic maneuver.
I believe the narc pushes the relationship until it breaks so they can be the victim, poor me, hiding the fact they blew up another relationship, getting sympathy while saving face at the same time… and, as always, it’s all your fault. I believe this narc maneuver is called the reverse discard. The narc has gotten deeper involved with other supply and may still need you around to clean up their discard mess in regards to you. It’s been my experience that the narc ruins everything…vacations, birthdays, special events, certain objects you like or enjoy…you name it…ruining things is kind of the narcs calling card. A few days ago I had another narc nightmare. I was living in one of my favorite houses I lived in my life. I turned around and the narc was there, tearing various pieces of house off rapidly while I was trying to get him to stop. Was I relieved when I woke up and found it was a bad dream, which is how I look at it now, a bad dream of my past life…onto the good and better days ahead. Narcs are a train wreck guaranteed to happen. Stay away!
It was confusing at first, the reverse discard, being punished for staying with them until you just cannot take it any longer and leave, then it’s your fault because you left. Oh, and if you try and talk with them DARVO method!
I had to block my older sister I had done everything to try help her for years Bec her mom & husband died two weeks apart She was down on her luck 😢 One day ( let me clear ) Out of nowhere ???? I'm at work .... . She raged on me over text but it's pure hate spilling out She confessed She basically was jealous and hated me 😞😞😞 I was Stunned 😳 Flat out knowing I gave her rides, took her to get groceries, I worked a split shift one day so I could bring her cab money at the hospital I immediately thought my God she's a narc 🤔🤔🤔🤔 Maybe toxic ? Idk I blocked her and I remember Andrews channel Protect myself As always thank you Andrew
He turned my friends ( some) against me. Even sending letters to my acquaintances ( not even friends) telling them that I need medication as he could no longer stay with me as i was "mentally unstable"... Well, i actually threw him out when he got find out having an affair with his client... Still hurts!
Im the black sheep and my siblings, son and grandkids have been turned on me. They have all attacked me and called me a liar, etc... I'm very glad the mother is happy about it. She won. Not sure what she won, but hope they are all happy!!!!!!!!!! Im done with em all! Praise God!! Im free, finally.
After 51 years I'm broken after everything I've been through I don't want to be here anymore but I have a family just when you think I doesn't hurt it does
Hi Bev... Keep listening to the messages & keep reading the community comments or reach out to the community. Most all of us have been through it & are healing & getting stronger. We understand & you don't have to go through this alone. The community is here. Blessings 👍 🌈 🎀😘
you just described my life to a tee. yes Narc Husband suddenly “joined” a bowling league across town but he wouldn’t let our kids go with him. Well, I called the bowling location and no one knew of him. It was clear he was with “the other”every week, same time. He had me is right. If I didn’t conform he would accuse me of cheating, retaliate & break something or something in the house would conveniently “disappear” etc. It was shear manipulation by him. It was a vicious cycle. That was not love.
You are awesome your videos are so right on point over about what i went thur and still am only two months from the discard i am healing Thank you now i really what a narcissistic person is
So true. When I look back 🔙 I recall , he would take up Swimming yet he can't even fly or float a kite,take gymn classes when the new supply joined in the picture. .it's sad how much they never look at how much their disrespect is hurting us but they keep thibming its tjeir roght to keep overstelling the boundaries and disrespect.
On target as usual. Two weeks before our wedding she had pushed me too far and I snapped. Then things started to move fast. She slept through the wedding night and set the best man's wife(with an alcohol problem) up to get dead drunk and thus created a scene which I had to take care of while she slept. Six months after the wedding I found out about her trying to cheat(and drug use) and that's when I had enough and kicked her out. They're master manipulators but can be challenged and made to lose.
You may have mentioned it in other terms ( both clear )- " The Narcissist eventually overplays their hand." I've been through exactly what you described. So accurate!👍 This understanding of Narcissists has amplified my appreciation of friends and others who don't play these juvenile games, feeding off people one way or another.
I've long speculated many times with many of them for many years, they want to be so horrible beyond belief, to get you to say 'aw you poor baby, I still love you! you're so awesome, it's not your fault, I could never leave you, I can't live without you' Etc 😕 And they'll keep upping the ante not only to feel the power, but to continue pushing the line of unconditional love when there's no love able to survive all of that. I always see them in my mind like babies bouncing and throwing a fit at the side of their crib with one hand on the crib railing, angrily carelessly throwing toys out, bouncing up and down with dirty diapers, screaming, tantruming.
Thank you for your daily inspiration Andrew. For me, it is yet another one of your exemplary video clips that brings to light and unmasks the Narcissists sinister capabilities and extremes. For the unsuspecting, the unaware, it can be daunting task and even sound outrageous to believe what you say and describe of the Narcissists and their sinister ways. Unfortunately, because of a lack of education, lack of interest, lack of considering it to be true and denial, we indirectly become the Narcissists enablers. As I was watching the clip, I could not help and wonder what you describe in detail mirrors, dead-on my life. The Narcissists are real and out there. They are dangerous to your psyche and health. I am grateful for your daily video clips, your are my friend and I am not alone!
In a respectful way of course, ive got love for you my friend. What you are doing here with these videos is SAVING LIVES. There is no better way to put it. To anyone dealing with a situation like this, you got this and you know it. Dont let up!!!
No, no, not good enough. The whole world also has to tell the narcissist how wonderful and special they are, and seek out their sage wisdom about proper lightbulb installation technique.:
I was married for 22 years. We have 3 children. I never understood why he was so unhappy. We had everything. I always thought that as he aged he would see the BIG blessing he had by having his own family. Our oldest son became an adult and was tired of the constant control and everything being runned his way with everyone else being afraid and walking on eggshells. Once he lost control because of our son, he left. Just like that he left me and on top accused me of cheating and being a bad woman. That was his excuse to leave. I’m devastated but I have peace. My heart goes out to all who are living through this hell.
It was never your fault. This is the narc man-child running away from another big adult mess they made and not taking responsibility for it. It hurts terribly but you probably are better off without him. ❤️
My life became a living hell, Marriage slowly destroyed, Daughter alienated, at the pleasure of a cruel, serial Adulterous Wife. It is important that Men in My shoes hear about Women like You Who have experienced similar awfully destructive relationshits, as this somehow proves that there are some affectionate, accountable Women out there. I am sorry for Your suffering, I would not care to see this sort of pain applied to anybody. I wonder generally, if You recognise, or ever emphasise the knock on effect, or mirroring, that results often, in affecting Women in general, as a result of many Ladies condoning, ignoring, or even covering up or encouraging other Women's inappropriate promiscuous adulterous actions within serious trusting relationships. How this has resulted in Men's distrust of all Women. Many generally good Women only realise this when they personally find their Man has lost faith in them, or when Grandchildren are alive, but not at all accessible. Humanity is in crisis, feminism created and enabled this disgrace, and now only Women have the privilege of repairing this probable path to extinction. Men have been pushed into a dark corner and branded too vulnerable,and incompetent, to even dare complain about anything regarding the trajectory of Society.
@@rodger7588 I’m so sorry about your situation. I’m sorry to know that so many people go through this and that our “mistake” was to be trusting and vulnerable. There are good people out there. I know because I’m one of them. I will not let this rob me from my essence, because that’s a gift that I’m going to cherish. We just need to be smarter about it. The damage he caused in my and our kids’ lives is irreparable. However, these vampires will die in miserable lives - while we have a chance to recover, be smarter, and use our goodness on people who really deserve it. Let’s stay strong.
These demon seeds always play victims when their self serving demands not being met. Don’t you know who I am? I’m smarter, better then you attitude . Change all the locks. Don’t let him back in! We don’t have to live like that . I learned so much by watching Andrew videos. We get stronger everyday. We all deserve to live in peace. Sending your son a hug for protecting his mom and siblings. Great job 👏
When I entered my marriage, I only wanted one thing, a "normal marriage". The kind of normal marriage that many couples take for granted. But my marriage with my narcissist was the farthest thing from "normal". I felt I was trapped in some kind of social experiment. Pushing the limits of mental strain. It's a wonder that any one of us survivors managed to come out alive.
Its so hard to accept this is true. But this is the experience; you just described it. Can’t deny it. My poor grandchildren are being gaslit badly. They are so confused. Am being denied access to them. They are being alienated after years of having their Nana. Torture.
They be mad when you find out they ain’t bout shi!! and they can’t get no more feed off you tho ,then act like they forget they created it all and keep moving the same old tired ass way saw the weirdo pass by me in traffic in his company tow truck clearly real quick 🤣💡Nuttts he still dose not got his own
They tried to break us for decades before we eventually woke up and walked away. What makes me smile is either we were incredibly stupid or incredibly smart. The fact we didn't break must sting for them and will haunt them the rest of their days 😊
"If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging." ~Will Rogers
🎯 Pushed untill you cant take anymore . He watched me disappear like a asprin in a glass of water. The narc is a destructive evil human ( or are they human ?) tear you down not lift you up . Its all a crappy game to them . ✌💚
I honestly do not think they are human. They are critically so different from anyone else I have seen before. I wasn't able to figure out what it was but finally accepting that they are so hugely different from 'regular humans'.
I've dealt with a narcissist father, narcissistic covert boss, a narcissistic sister, and I can truly say each one has a game they play, depending their needs and their position in your life. Knowledge is power for your healing and strength, to show them you are strong and you don't need them!
So true....they want to break you....they want to see you break down and then they have full control. They get so much pleasure out of it all too. Vile behaviour that they are very very proud of.
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The Narcissist is flat out MEAN 🙈
Passing through to wish all those recovering a blessed weekend of peace and healing. Get out and enjoy nature, like Andrew. Draw from natural energy to recharge youe own. ❤💪
Thank you 👍💐
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The more of these videos that I watch, the more lightbulb moments I have. It's all starting to make sense. I can't believe that I put up with this insidious treatment for so long.
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I did the same thing, went thru years of this. I watch Andrews videos because what he says helps me to know my life with a Narc Husband was not something I created, nor was it me that brought his new supply into our marriage & home. He had it all during his lifetime: what he wanted, when he wanted…..and he was never happy nor grateful for a thing. I am a survivor & am healing thanks Andrew for your videos.
The best thing is to stay true to yourself above all else, nobody else should ever tell you what to do or dim the light and deep desires of your beautiful heart ❤
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You got that right Deanna 👍
Blessings
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This is so profound and so true - "they want to see you pay the price for being you." He always punished me in some way for trying and wanting to be myself.
Wanting to be you 😮
Hi I'm from the UK 😊
Thanks for this video Andrew. This quote i have in my journal for this year, " we're not accepting verbal apologies only changed behaviour" have a great evening Andrew 🤗💜🙏
Oh, that's good! ❤
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@@marieeakin8534 Hi Marie 🤗💞
Welcome..🙏💯😌
My new mantra for life is “I’m going to have boundaries.”
@@rockstarofredondo that is very good. I like it a lot 💯🙌💪🙏
I am rooting for each and every one on this channel. Best wishes pursuing your own healing. God bless you.❣️
Blessings Roslyn 💐❤👍
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Blessings back Marie. Be well.❣️
narcissists have no problem self-sabotaging anything good, sincere and organic,
because of their jealousy, greed and insecurity.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
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Thank you Andrew❤ and YES.. I totally agree, they push the buttons so often that eventually something has to give!! Then act the 'victim' when you dare to speak up for yourself!! NO MORE....I'M gladly out and GONE!!😊
Welcome..💯😌🙏
They do. OMG, so true, Andrew.
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My threshold has just about come to an end!😢😢
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They are an “orgy of destruction”.
They ALL make me sick 🤢
😳🤭 I’m sorry for laughing, but do you know what “orgy” means?
No pls educate my simple mind 🤣
@@Megan-z7pwasn’t trying to be rude. For all I know you don’t live in the USA 🤷♀️🤷♀️
That may very well be, but they are above all, pathetic crybullies. Fragile as wet toilet paper, and unstable as a one legged chair.
Thank you Andrew. Be well, and tribe, stay strong.❣️
Welcome..💯💯🙏
I think because as empaths our frequency resonates on a higher level , we tend to PRESUME all others do too ! It is so easy when we are with the narcissist to excuse their bad behaviour as quirky eccentricity or theatrical affectations meant to either impress, entertain or mildly intimate. This is a TOTAL miscalculation on our part , they are much darker in reality than we can EVER imagine . The scary bit is their ability to hardwire into our very souls , to the point where they are almost telepathically tuned into us .
Although I haven't seen or heard from my narc in over two years since I went no contact , and there has been ZERO communication in that time , two nights ago I had some sudden dreams about them , it was SO VIVID , it felt like a dark cold cloud of evil was looming over me , to the point where I woke and turned the light on just to check they were not there ! Up until this point I have been giving them little to NO thought , so I can only put it down to them either talking or thinking about me . Either way the feeling was so INTENSE and so DARK , it creeped me out for the next two days ! As empaths we should always understand that the condition of NPD should always be handled with equal measures of caution and respect !! We should never underestimate how very REAL it truly is , especially if we are going to protect ourselves in the future ! 🙏😎❤️
Very scary! Thank you for sharing!❤
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Completely understand! Thank you for sharing exactly what I am going through 💖
I still get those from time to time and when dreaming sometimes it feels as if it is really happening. What a relief it is to wake up and find out it isn’t real! ☀️❤️
The last leap of acceptance in learning about Narcissism, was what you just wrote. Spiritually, they are dark, malicious and can be extremely
harmful. "There are more things in Heaven and Earth ..."
I can relate. I used to ban him from my electronics, or anything with buttons to push. He would purposely push them too hard, and break them. I bought a home theater system and because it was mine, and because I love music so much, he broke the power button on the receiver.
Well, he was just destructive always, and all ways.
I've known narcs that burned people out because they always had to be center of attention, monopolizing conversations & believed it was their job to tell everyone how they should live their lives.They have no problem trampling over others as they toot their own horns & then wonder why people are leaving!🌈🎀😘
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Center of attention 😜😂😂
@marieeakin8534 well said.
-cheers, steven
Yes! A legend in their owe minds 🤪@@marieeakin8534
If the minions thought for themselves instead of believing the lies spread by narcissist. They would understand the damage they are causing to multiple innocent people. Sad 😢
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It never ceases to amaze me how on point and accurate you are to describing what I’ve been through and experienced. Thank you for this channel and your content. I Truly appreciate. Love the Church bells btw. Nice touch and so beautiful! 🥰🔔🎶🙏🏻⛪️❤️
Welcome..🙏💯😌😊
None of my wife's siblings attended our wedding 20 years ago. They give each other the silent treatment for years at a time.
Wow!!! My wife's brother didn't attend our wedding and when I tried to find out why, he just said he didn't want to come and apparently her sister was threatening not to want to come either!!! Holy crappp!!!! Had I know about narcissism at that time, I would have not even went forth with the wedding because my gut was even telling me that these people are psychos!!!! If time went back there, Lord knows that wedding wouldn't have happened for damn sure!!!
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keep on preaching andrew never stop yes the narcissist will push us to our breaking point 😨🫣
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The next identifying sign ... actions vs words
All that you are saying is true! Evil evil and evil 👌🤦♀️🕊🐑
True! 1000%! 💯💯💯 They push until everything breaks… EVERYTHING. I’ve seen _some_ narcs push until everything breaks, and then, inexplicably, they hung around and pretended _nothing_ happened and _nothing_ was wrong and everyone loves them. 😳🤭🤦♀️ EXCELLENT video, Andrew, thank you! I feel like… you’re a narc translator ONLY in the sense that you were married to one for 6 years and you know what they REALLY mean when they say things 🙏🙏🙏😁 Thank you for that! 🙌💯🩷💜☝️ ❤❤❤ Have an AMAZING Friday evening… don’t do anything I wouldn’t do 🤭😆
Love y’all, my friends, have a GREAT rest of your day! ❤❤❤
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14:21 precisely situation I'm in right now... Going no contact on an older narc brother as well as my narc mother... Done being the silenced scapegoat... I will break the trauma bond and speak my truth, shine my light.
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Mara, stay strong and safe.❣️
Truth.
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I was with a narcissist for 13 yrs and I thank God every day for giving me the strength and the means to get out and stay out. He turned a lot of my friends and family against me with his smear campaign. Little did I know my best friend was his biggest Flying Monkey. Thank you so much Andrew, you’ve helped me so much. On my 60th birthday he abused me and left me in Houston, which is about 90 miles from my home. While I was trying to get home he went to my house (he lived with me) ripped out my security cameras and took everything he wanted. I filed for a divorce and he lied and lied and lied….eventually I gave in and didn’t fight for anything…..I’m just glad I got out with my life.
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5 weeks no contact. Left my marriage just over a year ago. Got hoovered back in 9 months ago. Left 6 weeks ago, for the second time. The hardest thing I ever had to do . She broke me into pieces & took everything that I had. This channel has helped me beyond measure, to be part of a community, I am getting better at trusting myself and not thinking I am crazy. Thank you. Namaste.
Healing blessings & I agree that this community understands & is a blessing.
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No contact + education on NRC abuse and you’re on your way. I’m glad you are alive and healing.
Yes! It’s a trying time. We have that spiritual bond, they live in our head but not our heart. Keep watching Andrew videos. He spoke from experience and the heart. Keep running for the hill my friend 🏃🏾♂they get worse not better. These creatures are like vampires, they bleed us dry and discard us like yesterday garbage. We get better with time 🫶🏼
They do get worse over time. Now you see it, and it's hard to not see it ever again. ❤
@@cc1k435 I concur. Though every human being is different, we are not talking about human beings. They have human form, but are missing a soul. They only get worse as time goes by. Simply because the same tricks they use when young don’t work as they age. Age is not something they accept. When they see wrinkles on their face it bothers them. Gray hairs even worse. When I didn’t understand what a NRC or borderline was I felt sorry for them. I wondered how everyday could convince them they are more so a victim. Now I know that being a victim to them is a type of power. It’s bizarre-o world for sure. What is up is down and what is black is white. Just as Andrew says. Thank you Andrew for being brave and teaching us wisdom.
Great video Andrew. Thank you. You've given me much to think about. However, I am going to take a much needed break because I am tired and need to rest now. I hope everyone has a great weekend. ✌️❤️😊
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Some relationships with two narcissists can endure. If one is overt and one is covert. They can realise they are running out of people to con and that they understand each other. They can complement each other and hunt supply as a pack, circling the waggons and targeting victims outside of the relationship and enjoying slagging off those around them behind their backs (being each other's bitching partner). They can also recount each other's victories to one another (or at least the covert can do it for the overt). The covert can receive glory vicariously thru the overt and may secretly be the one pulling the strings and in control of the couple. Think power couples running their private fiefdom. The relationship will be transactional but they may both be content with it and choose to stay together forever. I really wanted to believe that narc relationships always fail, but I think there are cases where they do not. What we can say is that it will be a relationship that a normal person could never be happy in.
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Hope you are doing well, Andrew. Thank you for everything you do.
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Good morning Andrew, your video I just finished watching and ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING IS WHAT IS GOING ON HERE!! I AM GOING THROUGH RIGHT NOW WORD FOR WORD, It's a living horrible nightmare, he left , gone for a couple weeks now, never have I lived in this type relationship , it is sick, hard to comprehend that there are such psychotic people like him out there. Thank you for every thing you are doing to help so many around the world! Have a wonderful and blessed day!!🙂🌹
Goodmorning from Australia..thanku for your support while i was navigating through the madness..lots of love and blessings🇦🇺💚🐨🌻
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They'll always resent you because your are on to them by keeping a safe distance and you know they will never change.
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You are telling the whole story, right here. Masterpiece video! NAMASTE
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So true ..smeared by siblings and spouse behind my back…they make up ridiculous stories and sometimes the gossip gets back to you..I was astonished by it but now I see what they really are…pathetic jealous troublemakers with no moral code or filters..🧛👹
Let's hope that noone was a Narc from that marriage hearing those bells in the background 😊
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Hey everyone,
I just wanted to take a moment to share some thoughts with you all after watching this incredible video. It's been a real eye-opener for me, and I hope it can be for you too. Going through, or even coming out of, a relationship with a narcissist is incredibly tough. But here's the thing - it's also a powerful journey towards something beautiful: personal growth and a deeper understanding of who we truly are.
The first step, recognizing those signs of narcissistic behavior and manipulation, is hard but so crucial. And yes, cutting contact can feel almost impossible. But it's often the most important step we can take to protect ourselves, to start healing, and to take back control of our lives.
If you're walking this path right now, I want you to know that you're not walking it alone. The strength it takes to face these challenges? It's nothing short of heroic. It shows a remarkable courage, resilience, and an incredible depth of character.
As we move forward, let's focus on rebuilding our sense of self. Let's invest time in relationships that uplift us, and let's not forget the importance of setting healthy boundaries. Healing is so much more than just moving past pain. It's about rediscovering our worth, embracing the light within us, and understanding that nobody can dim that light unless we let them.
Stay strong, keep connected with those who support you, and always remember: you have the power to shape the next chapter of your life. A chapter filled with hope, peace, and true happiness. You are an amazing, radiant being - never let anyone's darkness overshadow your shine.
Sending you all much love and support on your journey.
They stay in the good times ,and when things are tough like now ,They leave 💔
My dog died then broke my foot & he out drinking & blaming me I am going no contact & bloked him I will heal bye myself I am so grateful for the education here 🎉
Narcs made me hate addicts and most other people too.
Excellent description of the psyche and actions of the narcissist.
I was married to a narcissist for 44 years until one day I said to myself enough is enough. He destroyed my relationship with my children,grandchildren and great-grandchildren I will never see or know me.
Wow... This is exactly what happened to me... I wish I knew she was a narcissist during and at the end of the relationship. Luckly for me, I discarded her only 5 months after moving into her house. We were together for 20 months, the first 15 being fantastic. one year and a half no contact. The thing I'm beating myself up over is she was able to get a civil restraining order against me for a bullshit stalking charge when trying to get closure at her house 2x and job 1x because like you said, she had initiated a smear campaign, pushed me to the brink with her foot always on the gas pedal and I just couldn't take anymore of her lies. I would have not gone to her house if I knew she was a narc because I would have been able to tell her off on specifics a lot more than I did. Now, I'm in a financial bind looking for another job now because I worked for a client of the government, passed that background check because all companies besides military and government only check for criminal charges. So, the government checked deeper, saw that I had an RO even though I had told them on the form. The courts never take the side of a person whose experienced NPD abuse.
Spending time alone can be difficult but necessary to examine all the traits of the Narcissist. One trait is when the Narcissist is kind to you, their voice is unemotional and without authenticity. They compliment you in the manner of a person who would move a chess piece. Niceness is a strategic maneuver.
So right! When they know they have you! Show them differently! ❤
Another excellent video!
Especially the narcissistic family part.
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I believe the narc pushes the relationship until it breaks so they can be the victim, poor me, hiding the fact they blew up another relationship, getting sympathy while saving face at the same time… and, as always, it’s all your fault. I believe this narc maneuver is called the reverse discard. The narc has gotten deeper involved with other supply and may still need you around to clean up their discard mess in regards to you. It’s been my experience that the narc ruins everything…vacations, birthdays, special events, certain objects you like or enjoy…you name it…ruining things is kind of the narcs calling card. A few days ago I had another narc nightmare. I was living in one of my favorite houses I lived in my life. I turned around and the narc was there, tearing various pieces of house off rapidly while I was trying to get him to stop. Was I relieved when I woke up and found it was a bad dream, which is how I look at it now, a bad dream of my past life…onto the good and better days ahead. Narcs are a train wreck guaranteed to happen. Stay away!
It was confusing at first, the reverse discard, being punished for staying with them until you just cannot take it any longer and leave, then it’s your fault because you left. Oh, and if you try and talk with them DARVO method!
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Excellent video Andrew! Thank you!! God bless you 🕊️🙌✝️
I had to block my older sister
I had done everything to try help her for years
Bec her mom & husband died two weeks apart
She was down on her luck 😢
One day ( let me clear )
Out of nowhere ????
I'm at work .... .
She raged on me over text but it's pure hate spilling out
She confessed
She basically was jealous and hated me 😞😞😞
I was Stunned 😳
Flat out knowing I gave her rides, took her to get groceries,
I worked a split shift one day so I could bring her cab money at the hospital
I immediately thought my God she's a narc 🤔🤔🤔🤔
Maybe toxic ? Idk
I blocked her and I remember Andrews channel
Protect myself
As always thank you Andrew
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He turned my friends ( some) against me. Even sending letters to my acquaintances ( not even friends) telling them that I need medication as he could no longer stay with me as i was "mentally unstable"... Well, i actually threw him out when he got find out having an affair with his client... Still hurts!
Im the black sheep and my siblings, son and grandkids have been turned on me. They have all attacked me and called me a liar, etc... I'm very glad the mother is happy about it. She won. Not sure what she won, but hope they are all happy!!!!!!!!!! Im done with em all! Praise God!! Im free, finally.
His “own” life imploded! Mine too, but I’m in a much better spot than he is.
After 51 years I'm broken after everything I've been through I don't want to be here anymore but I have a family just when you think I doesn't hurt it does
Yes! It does. Time heals all wounds. We get stronger and wiser because of this. You are not alone 🙏💐
Hi Bev... Keep listening to the messages & keep reading the community comments or reach out to the community. Most all of us have been through it & are healing & getting stronger.
We understand & you don't have to go through this alone. The community is here.
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One more comment,😂 you’re sure right actions speak louder than words and their actions, never match their mouth and words lol
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you just described my life to a tee. yes Narc Husband suddenly “joined” a bowling league across town but he wouldn’t let our kids go with him. Well, I called the bowling location and no one knew of him. It was clear he was with “the other”every week, same time. He had me is right. If I didn’t conform he would accuse me of cheating, retaliate & break something or something in the house would conveniently “disappear” etc. It was shear manipulation by him. It was a vicious cycle. That was not love.
You are awesome your videos are so right on point over about what i went thur and still am only two months from the discard i am healing Thank you now i really what a narcissistic person is
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I don't know how many times my older jealous sister has brought up something that hurt me deeply as a teen. Pure evil!
I thoroughly enjoyed this video!❤
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So true. When I look back 🔙 I recall , he would take up Swimming yet he can't even fly or float a kite,take gymn classes when the new supply joined in the picture. .it's sad how much they never look at how much their disrespect is hurting us but they keep thibming its tjeir roght to keep overstelling the boundaries and disrespect.
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On target as usual. Two weeks before our wedding she had pushed me too far and I snapped. Then things started to move fast. She slept through the wedding night and set the best man's wife(with an alcohol problem) up to get dead drunk and thus created a scene which I had to take care of while she slept. Six months after the wedding I found out about her trying to cheat(and drug use) and that's when I had enough and kicked her out.
They're master manipulators but can be challenged and made to lose.
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You may have mentioned it in other terms ( both clear )- " The Narcissist eventually overplays their hand." I've been through exactly what
you described. So accurate!👍 This understanding of Narcissists has amplified my appreciation of friends and others who don't play these
juvenile games, feeding off people one way or another.
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Yes, & it can depend on of the type of narcissist you are dealing with.
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This is one the best explanations, understandable and thorough. Thanks for this video!!!
Our words can also cast a spell. Someones words cast a spell over us. Many many times. Thoughts, words and deeds. Thats what i think.
Spot on good brother..!
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Thank you again NARCDAILY 🙏
Thanks Andrew, and have a good Day 🙂👍👍
Good one Andrew - have a happy day💫💫💫
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Amen 🔥 🙏 You are 100% correct 👏
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I've long speculated many times with many of them for many years, they want to be so horrible beyond belief, to get you to say 'aw you poor baby, I still love you! you're so awesome, it's not your fault, I could never leave you, I can't live without you' Etc 😕
And they'll keep upping the ante not only to feel the power, but to continue pushing the line of unconditional love when there's no love able to survive all of that.
I always see them in my mind like babies bouncing and throwing a fit at the side of their crib with one hand on the crib railing, angrily carelessly throwing toys out, bouncing up and down with dirty diapers, screaming, tantruming.
Thank you for your daily inspiration Andrew. For me, it is yet another one of your exemplary video clips that brings to light and unmasks the Narcissists sinister capabilities and extremes. For the unsuspecting, the unaware, it can be daunting task and even sound outrageous to believe what you say and describe of the Narcissists and their sinister ways. Unfortunately, because of a lack of education, lack of interest, lack of considering it to be true and denial, we indirectly become the Narcissists enablers. As I was watching the clip, I could not help and wonder what you describe in detail mirrors, dead-on my life. The Narcissists are real and out there. They are dangerous to your psyche and health.
I am grateful for your daily video clips, your are my friend and I am not alone!
Great video and filled with the truth ❤️🙏😊
In a respectful way of course, ive got love for you my friend. What you are doing here with these videos is SAVING LIVES. There is no better way to put it. To anyone dealing with a situation like this, you got this and you know it. Dont let up!!!
Pretty accurate but the narc always wants you to feel inferior.
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How many narcissist's does it take to screw in a lightbulb? Just one, but the whole world has to be watching
No, no, not good enough. The whole world also has to tell the narcissist how wonderful and special they are, and seek out their sage wisdom about proper lightbulb installation technique.:
Thank you, Andrew! Wishing you a relaxing Saturday. 🤗😘🙏🏼🌿
Thank you ❤
Have a nice Day!
I was married for 22 years. We have 3 children. I never understood why he was so unhappy. We had everything. I always thought that as he aged he would see the BIG blessing he had by having his own family. Our oldest son became an adult and was tired of the constant control and everything being runned his way with everyone else being afraid and walking on eggshells. Once he lost control because of our son, he left. Just like that he left me and on top accused me of cheating and being a bad woman. That was his excuse to leave. I’m devastated but I have peace. My heart goes out to all who are living through this hell.
It was never your fault. This is the narc man-child running away from another big adult mess they made and not taking responsibility for it. It hurts terribly but you probably are better off without him. ❤️
Thank you! This is what my oldest son tells me as well. Blessings!
My life became a living hell, Marriage slowly destroyed, Daughter alienated, at the pleasure of a cruel, serial Adulterous Wife.
It is important that Men in My shoes hear about Women like You Who have experienced similar awfully destructive relationshits, as this somehow proves that there are some affectionate, accountable Women out there.
I am sorry for Your suffering, I would not care to see this sort of pain applied to anybody.
I wonder generally, if You recognise, or ever emphasise the knock on effect, or mirroring, that results often, in affecting Women in general, as a result of many Ladies condoning, ignoring, or even covering up or encouraging other Women's inappropriate promiscuous adulterous actions within serious trusting relationships. How this has resulted in Men's distrust of all Women.
Many generally good Women only realise this when they personally find their Man has lost faith in them, or when Grandchildren are alive, but not at all accessible.
Humanity is in crisis, feminism created and enabled this disgrace, and now only Women have the privilege of repairing this probable path to extinction. Men have been pushed into a dark corner and branded too vulnerable,and incompetent, to even dare complain about anything regarding the trajectory of Society.
@@rodger7588 I’m so sorry about your situation. I’m sorry to know that so many people go through this and that our “mistake” was to be trusting and vulnerable. There are good people out there. I know because I’m one of them. I will not let this rob me from my essence, because that’s a gift that I’m going to cherish. We just need to be smarter about it. The damage he caused in my and our kids’ lives is irreparable. However, these vampires will die in miserable lives - while we have a chance to recover, be smarter, and use our goodness on people who really deserve it. Let’s stay strong.
These demon seeds always play victims when their self serving demands not being met. Don’t you know who I am? I’m smarter, better then you attitude . Change all the locks. Don’t let him back in! We don’t have to live like that . I learned so much by watching Andrew videos. We get stronger everyday. We all deserve to live in peace. Sending your son a hug for protecting his mom and siblings. Great job 👏
He was CEO . I left everything and I survived.. much better now .
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Thanks for sharing that. I need a bit of reassurance today from those who have been there. ❤
Thank you for this message, Andrew. Very helpful. 🙏👍🌟
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Thank you for your great insights.
You have help me and probably many more. ❤
I wish you great success and happiness.
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Greetings!
When I entered my marriage, I only wanted one thing, a "normal marriage".
The kind of normal marriage that many couples take for granted. But my marriage with my narcissist was the farthest thing from "normal". I felt I was trapped in some kind of social experiment. Pushing the limits of mental strain. It's a wonder that any one of us survivors managed to come out alive.
Well expressed George! 👍
Although we may not feel it at times...we will heal & become stronger.
Blessings to you!
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Its so hard to accept this is true. But this is the experience; you just described it. Can’t deny it. My poor grandchildren are being gaslit badly. They are so confused. Am being denied access to them. They are being alienated after years of having their Nana. Torture.
They be mad when you find out they ain’t bout shi!! and they can’t get no more feed off you tho ,then act like they forget they created it all and keep moving the same old tired ass way saw the weirdo pass by me in traffic in his company tow truck clearly real quick 🤣💡Nuttts he still dose not got his own
He put the gas pedal down but I threw on the brakes. I have exiled him from my life, my home, and the state of North Carolina as of April 9th 2024.