Your rantings and pain are psychologically valid, Miss Valerie. But it's beautiful that you have this healthy mindset and behavioural response to such bad experience. Turning negative thoughts into positive creation like paintings and videography. In Psychology, as a psychology student myself, I think what you did there is called a Freudian's Defense Mechanism: Sublimation. It's a defense mechanism where you channel your negative energy to a form of behaviour that results a positive or at least harmless action. It's the healthiest form of defense mechanism. This mechanism measures how matured a person's mentality is, and it's just so inspiring to see a person like you bravely share this testimonies to the world (at least in TH-cam community). High respect to you. God bless you, Miss!
Sublimation in its classic form is a rather unconscious act. In her case she allows all her emotions to flow, she reflects upon everything that has happened and is happening in her mind body and soul and she very consciously decides to paint this as a process to work this out. This would not be seen as sublimation anymore but as a healthy form to work with a wound. It is a mature and brutally bold and brave act of conscious healing. While a defence machansim can be healthy or unhealthy and yes the sublimation is most of the time a rather healthy one it would take away the truth of what's happening in Valeries case: using the paining as a source of healing beside the mentioned needed aspects that "disqualifies" her behaviour from a defence mechanism (conscious process, flow and acceptance of her emotions that arise, reflection, insights and integration). Yet really only she knows.. as this is just a snipped of her very nuanced life.
No Brasil dizemos de um bom comentário "faço de suas palavras as minhas". Se expor corajosamente é admirável e também sinto um alívio por que num mundo virtual onde tudo parece perfeito, vidas reais, sentimentos reais, somos humanos com nossos altos e baixos. Valerie você é adorável!! Gratidão seus vídeos!
Valerie, I am 68 years old and am uniquely qualified to make the statement that you save someone every time you share this HUGE stuff. Although I love myself now, it took a LONG time to get here. Being born in 1956, I come from a generation that considered it shameful to talk about the feelings and thoughts that people like us experience. If we were easily understood we would be envied because we live Life at one of deepest levels possible. Your art is a gift to all, but the sharing of your humanity is the gift of validation to people like us who live through the hell of sometimes feeling way too much. It’s so beautiful when all is said and done, and we both know we wouldn’t change a thing about it. Namaste.
This was beautiful to. Thank you for sharing this. I'm praying I truly love myself. I'm trying to get there and I am grateful, so grateful for this video. ❤ ppl say I'm very artistic and talented but I hold back a lot sometimes bc I would worry ppl say sometimes but my art is very healing for me.
Don’t jump into getting an animal until you feel better. Regardless of people saying cats or whatever animal are low maintenance, they do actually require a lot of care, time, and energy and it seems like you need to focus on healing and resting yourself right now. Thank you for sharing your journey with us and I hope you feel better
@Honeydoyou You are so caring, and bring new points of view regarding humans' care and attention given to pets...you are very right. I also sense your sincerity...I liked "I hope you feel better"...Me, too,💖
Self care is SO important, sweet girl. When I was going through my divorce, there were days where I had complete breakdowns, panic attacks and I gained a lot of weight. I couldn’t sleep. I was scared for my future, and I felt so betrayed. My health suffered tremendously for a while. But I went to the doctor, began seeing a new therapist and also began working out five days a week. I also began painting after work every day, making a practice of at least 15 minutes but it usually turned into hours. Day by day, I began to get better. I checked in regularly with my doctor and continued weekly therapy. I made friends at the gym. I made a point of not letting the sadness and things going on outside my control dictate things that bring me joy. Day by day, things got better. Remember, these moments in your life are temporary. You will look back someday and see the tremendous growth during this time. Keep going. You’ve got this
I really enjoy how genuine this video felt. You allowed a bunch of strangers see you cry and struggle and still paint. I admire that about you. Plus being on your period on-top of all of that is a lot - I’ve been there. Keep making videos please!
I cried when I saw you crying, and felt a need to comfort you somehow, but at the same time I truly understand the need to feel all the feelings and how all of this helps us grow and evolve. I can only appreciate your raw honesty and wish your soul the recovery it needs. Sending you much love, Valerie 🖤
I lost my mum a few month ago to cancer. I'm 30 she was 55. I see myself so much in you, you give me courage and inspiration. I hope the pain will go and make you stronger. I love your paintings, you are a shooting star. PS. I allow myself to cry when I clean, i find it so therapeutic.
Sorry for your loss. My mother died suddenly last year. I still feel the loss today and try to occupy my mind so I don’t get stuck in the grief. Hope we both grow from our pain and inspire others.
Thanks Valerie for this REAL video, I think all of us can relate. Six months ago I got myself a little kitten en this has changed my life. A cat requires so little and has such a calming effect on me. Lots of love from Namibia, Africa!
We don't need to have or be anything at this moment. Finding answers to life is like painting a picture, it starts out with a plan, then a sketch, all the materials and then you just start and implement and adapt as you move along, sometimes you want to give up when the white spaces are too big, and you know mentally, that you would inevitably need to fill those gaps, but then you start seeing it come together, it happens suddenly and you feel like yes, I am more confident now, your strokes will be stronger and fluid and you will push through, till you know its done, in your gut. Then you just need to sign your name on it, cause it was an image that didn't exist before but now it does from you and your effort. You are happy and exhausted that it's over, you rest until inspiration hits you again. Life mirrors art sometimes or so i'd like to believe. 💛
maybe an idea for a pet is just go to the animal shelter, and ask what cat has been there the longest (and maybe get that one if the kitty likes you). these balls of happiness deserve it :D
I’m watching this while crying so I know this is going to be good for me 💕 thank you Valerie, let’s evolve together 🤍 And most importantly. When we are aware how we see ourselves, we can hold that up to the light of God’s truth and ask for His view. He can bring healing to trauma and truth to falsehoods.
Oh Valerie. Be your North. I hear the strain in your voice but I also see the determination in your body to push through and become MORE. Thanks for sharing. Love you.
Continue to be this crazy, Valerie. Not only are you healing yourself, you are giving us the encouragement to do so as well. 💖 Sending healing vibes your way, Valerie, all the way from India. 💖
The best suggestion I have for a studio pet is a shoal of fish!! You can get a big tank and put plants in it like a garden, and the fish will be curious and sweet but they have no smell and will not disturb your painting supplies or make your house dirty! (Thank you also for the honesty of this video, if it helps you feel any better you and I have very similar coping mechanisms for the same types of situations).
I can tell from myself - a pet will motivate you! I was at my lowest for some time in life when I first moved out. My crying stopped in the moment when I took a cat from local foundation. I think we just helped each other in life.
Honey, as someone who adopted a cat while going through depression, I can say it was the best decision of my life. However, it's crucial to recognize that you're healing and doing good with your life before making such a decision. Don't rush into it... take care of yourself first. Having a pet is a huge responsibility, even with cats. They have their own personalities, and not all of them are "easy to take care of and independent." They save you, but they need you too. I adopted my cat when I was healing, not when I was in the dark side of the force. Thank you so much for this video. I do something similar on my channel, sharing my personal process, and I know how difficult it is to open up this much to strangers. But I also know how comforting it is to realize you're not alone. Take care!
Dogs are angels on earth, they bring you joy and positive feelings and their company is so confortable. I hope you feel better soon, it is a question of time.
Feelings have to be felt. Just let the emotions come and accept them as they are. You don't have to be calm if you don't feel calm. It gives you more peace in the long run. Suppressed feelings never die. I wish you all the best and I love your painting!
Go for a cat! A cat is a great studio companion; no need to walk it, it's quiet (overall), can do it's own thing for hours on end or be an amazing cuddling companion when you need it. Cat's are quite good at reading your mood as well and their curious nature might lead them to watch you as you paint. Best emotional support pet if you ask me with their calming nature and the purring is just soothing. thanks for sharing your vulnerable and strong sides in this video, kinda needed that today. I love the girlpower vibe you've got going on and the 'i don't care what anybody says about me' attitude.
Hi, Valerie :) In response to the pet discussion, one of the things I really enjoy about watching your videos is seeing your enjoyment of living by yourself, and how the space, time and choices you make are yours, alone. If you feel that the time is right to have another companion in your household (but, don't forget, your new palm and your beautiful plants and flowers- and even the furnishings you put care and maintenence into- also count!), of course do what feels right. But, there's something really special about having the time and space to care for yourself like you are, so you're also welcome to just enjoy that as it is. As you remind us, growth comes along in all things. Thanks for what you put out into the world 💖
P.S. If you haven't covered your crystal ball already, they can catch the sunlight and cause fires. I've learned they're supposed to be stored covered when not in use.
You look so pretty with your natural hair 😍 Be strong! You deserve people who loves you like you love them. And you know that we all love you on the distance. Im from Argentina, so look how your influence traspase the world. You are not alone!❤
You are so honest, and so powerful, speaking your truth and showing your truth in this video. That's truly inspiring and generous to the viewers. Thank you, Valerie.
You don't always have to be organized just time time for you. You work hard and are going through alot. It is hard when someone you care about most hurts you. You can get through this. Everyone loves and cares about you so much in your community you made. ❤
without darkness light has no meaning. This was a beautiful and raw video, thank you for sharing and touching our hearts! You are an inspiration to me and my own videos 💕
Before you even mentioned a pet I was thinking you would love a cat. Very easy, low maintenance and independent, but also healing, comforting, magical little creatures 👼 I hope you feel better soon 🤍
I subscribed to your channel last year but stopped getting on TH-cam after months of heartbreak. I just experienced major heartbreak a few weeks ago and today I decided to start healing because I’m the only one who can do that for myself. I’ve been painting and listening to TH-cam videos from my favorite TH-cam artists and this video came up. Thank you so much for being so real, so vulnerable, and appreciating the beauty in pain and sharing it with everyone! I feel like we are healing together and it makes me feel less alone in this new journey.
Sending you big hugs from Canada. Thank you for sharing your honest journey. It's horrible when those we trust with our vulnerability deliver such pain. It's part of the process of creating that beautiful butterfly. You've been transforming so quickly since you moved to your lovely "new" space that your growth may have challenged those who hurt you. You have the determination to survive this and you'll do more than that -you'll thrive. Enjoy your life. As for a pet, I believe you'd mentioned some allergies previously but birds, fish, animals all have their own life journeys to be on. You'll know when you encounter your "pet" who will be your best friend and greatest comfort. For now that beautiful plant will have to provide that for you. Hang in there, sweet girl. And know you have a community that thinks the world of you!
I’m so sorry for whatever pain you’re going through 💕you’ll love the company of an orange cat lol. Love you babes.. thank you for endlessly inspiring us
Thank you for everything Valérie, for everything you do. You are so inspiring. Each of your videos is a true gift. 😘💐 You are an incredible person who deserves to be happy. Don't let others smear and destroy you. Take good care of yourself, you're the best. ⭐❤
Valerie it's incredible to see you using your pain in this way and so inspiring to see a journey so real. This whole vlog was so real I just really related to a lot of what you were saying. I hope you are feeling better and stay strong
This Video is so inspiring and beautiful Valerie ❤ You know I can so much relate to feeling pain you are on the verge of giving up. In fact i gave up once and made a suicide attempt, but thankfully called the Police who helped drive me to a nearby Hospital. They saved my life. I regret doing this looking back and it wasn‘t planned or anything, it was because I was experiencing so much pain that I couldn‘t handle anymore. Ever since that experience I started to draw again and use it as an Output to grow and Show emotions. I‘m nowhere as good as you are but it‘s fun to use colors to express yourself. I also don‘t drink, take drugs or party. Please know that you are loved and cherished, when you feel like giving up remember you are not alone! I love following you along your Journey. I hope one day I can support you as you deserve it more than anyone❤
Thank you so much for your honesty, strength and courage!!! We need more people like you. This will help many people during dark times. You are a powerful alchemist with your paintings and your spirit - we all must find our unique tools to transmute pain in to power. Thanks for sharing.
In 2022, when there were difficult times in my life, this place right here used to be my safe space. I would watch your videos and feel safe and seen. Now everything is different but in the same time its completely the same; hard times come and go and now they are here again. And I return to your channel and I find this -- a metamorphosis. Maybe it's time for me to do it as well. "Everything must change in order for it to remain the same." Thank you Valerie, for all that you give everyday. You make the world a more hopefull place.
Oh my goodness what a beautiful soul you are!! I absolutely feel inspired and touched by your vulnerability that you share with the world. Just remember anytime you need to step away from youtubing and take care of yourself do it! If people who watch your channel truly care about you, they will also support you and your well being. I can tell alot of work goes into your videos. They are beautifully shot and edited. Blessings to you and your journey. Ps your hair is gorgeous when is wavy and natural. Your skin is also stunning. embrace your melanin. YOU ARE AWESOME
I am going through and healing from one of the worst losses I have experienced to date and as weird as it probably sounds the small clip of you crying really helped me take a step back and realize that I am in the process of becoming someone new and that this is not going to be a forever pain. My professor has encouraged me to use my hurt and emotions as a way to expand as an artist and it sucks and I hate it but I'm right here beside you
As always Valerie, thank you! So many of your videos have touched my soul and allowed me to feel the comfort I'd experience talking to a wise friend. You are truly an incredible soul, with such inspiring paintings, and you deserve the care and empathy that you provide to others! I hope the world is kinder to you this week!
I feel and understand your pain but also know I see how radiant and relaxed you are now in your own space. I also resonated so much with your words in this vid. Xoxo
I very very rarely comment on TH-cam videos but I feel like when I watch your videos, Valerie, I sense such a kindred soul in you with my own. The way you speak, think and feel about life is so similar to myself and this topic of metamorphosis is so interesting to me. I also sense a new sort of confidence in you as you talked and processed through your feelings/pain which is so important to do! Love your content so much ❤
So comforting to see you being so real. It makes me feel not alone. Pain and struggle - I am beginning to understand that we can grow from pain into something beautiful. Be kind to yourself 🙏
You are Radiant Valerie! Some people including loved ones are threatened by your happiness and accomplishments. Keep growing and shining- you are worth it.
Valerie you've touched my soul with this video. I'm cleaning my house after two weeks today, I was always drawing as a child and the more self aware I became and the more aware I became of the pain around me I stopped, I didn't see the point of art anymore and because of you I plan on getting out my art supplies this afternoon and just draw ❤
Valerie, I love, respect and value your contributions to the world so much. Your art, your videos and your perspectives. I feel sad that you are in pain, please be gentle and kind to yourself. Thank you for sharing your process of healing. I know it will be validating to many people xo
As an artist who had to take time away from the easel due to trauma and PTSD I can relate to the transformation and rising out of the ashes, you are so much stronger than you can imagine and I thankyou for sharing your journey and being so transparent about the healing process. ❤
You’re so so lovely. It was healing to watch this and see how strong you are. Stronger than you even realise. And every time you smiled my heart praised you for it. Thank you for sharing these moments with us. Keep painting through it❤
Thank you angel 🧚♀️ for gifting ⚘️us a new perspective . By the way your evolution to an angel was very difficult for you ,at that time we are not with you(feeling sad for that😢) but now a days your evolution is making a great revolution for us , we are slowly evolving with your revolution. ✨️⭐️Very very much great full to you 💫our angel 😊❤
okay, i'm too emocional right now. i live in brazil, i'm 20 and also an artist (but not in the productive way) and i felt so connected to this video because i live in a house that its not a home, a fell months ago people i have trusted in my hole life hurted me so bad that i couldnt breathe well until now. i cry a lot when i remember the things that happened, the things i heard and all the feelings come back when im about to heal about it. your video was the inspierest thing that i've ever seen in all of this time im passing trought. the way you opened up about yourself, showing the truth behind the process of making art and also of being a human was so beautiful and wonderful. since your begining in youtube i've been watching silently to your progress but now i felt the urge to share here how inspired i feel by your content. thank you so much to share all of this with us, i feel like i can finally get up and keep living because i am capable to survive all the bad feelings, bad days and bad moments, cause its not a bad life at all.
Thank you for being so honest with us Valerie, i am sure this will help so many people including me, keep going, give your self time, feel things through, dont force yourself into anything and know that you are definitely not alone, i feel you and understand you, but just like you said and already know, magical things cannot happen without the hard times, and we are probably meant to learn something through these hard times to become stronger and better versions of ourselves, so that we can make better decisions most importantly the ones that make us truly happy. So we can get to know ourselves on a deeper level, feel ourselves, love and nurture ourselves for who we are, and just give ourselves what we need and do what we love, without thinking or expecting much by putting pressure on ourselves. Times like this can be great for reflection. And lastly happiness is a choice that we get to make, thank you for showing us that. Take care. Sending you so much love.❤
Your emotions are so valid and I respect you for sharing them this way. Watching what you’re going through and how you process your feelings makes me realize what very talented artists go through. You’re so healthy 💐💐💐💐💐
Valerie you’re so wise beyond your years. I love the way you express yourself and how you use your pain and suffering and transform it into something beautiful. We all go thru things in life that we can’t avoid, but it’s how we choose to deal with it that makes all the difference in our life. Thank you for opening up to us and sharing your struggles and how it makes you stronger. Please keep making videos. I love learning from you. And please never stop painting. You have a gift for painting and creating beautiful things. Sending you virtual hugs 🥰
Thank you so much Valerie. This is the video I never knew I needed, it really helped me and I had to sit in my room and think deeply. I've gone through pain alot lately by people hurting me, nightmares haunting me, problems with friends and family members and I keep having those bad thoughts, but you Valerie have inspired me so much. All of your videos are inspiring, beautiful, helping. Thank you so much for this content💗
I am an incredibly emotional artist, Ive honestly never known peace and safety and have gone through a lot. You really spoke to me in this, seeing you feel your pain and and release those emotions and create it into something beautiful is my purpose too. Thank you for sharing this.
You've GOT THIS, girl! The true test of strength is the ability to be vulnerable in public. The journey is a challenge, but as you said, that's what we are here for! There are many others who need to see this part of you because they are going through the same. Your life and your experience - and sharing it - makes a big difference. And your painting is fabulous!
Valerie get a jungle cat (Bengal) and fill your space with big plants!! Also keep wearing your hair wild and untamed, it's strong and beautiful and new like you ✨️💖💛. Much love =)
Am so sorry for what you went through but am also so grateful to see how you went through it, i feel comforted in my time of struggle. Thank you valerie
It's a pleasure to watch and listen to you ❤ Lately it's hard to me move on, I'm losing people that I've loved from the bottom of my heart. I wish you much more success, because surely what you do brings you difficulties, if only sometimes. You inspire confidence and faith not only in yourself through these words but also in all of us. I wish you happiness 🐈 Thank you and take care of yourself 🌸
I found your channel a while back by accident and now I can't imagine not watching you paint and talk. You're such an inspiration to me and thanks to you I got back to making art after stopping bc of how bad I felt after graduating art school. Videos like this, that are so true and raw and that show exactly what it is to be a human (especially a creative human) are so important. I hope you feel better soon and I can't wait for the next video!!!
Valerie, I truly love you ! I am sorry for the pain you experienced , but I am amazed by the way you handled it and converted to experience! You know in my country Bulgaria we said “ Every bad thing that it’s happening to you is for good “. You are so beautiful! I love your hair when it’s curly, main it’s also like that after shower 😅 I will be truly happy to be your friend someday! I wish you all the best ! ❤️🌷
Thank you for sharing this video!! I am going through a metamorphosis of my own and I felt so deeply connected to all the words you shared. I couldn’t help but cry with you 🥺 I’ve been practicing allowing myself to both cry and transmute my pain into power too but I loved how you made the point to create opportunities for accomplishments during this time to help move you forward and to think big! Thank you so much for existing! Thank you for everything you do and share with us here on the internet. Sending you lots of love 💕
I think a bunny would be perfect for you! As somone who has had quite a few i can say they are not not adorable but can become so close to you, and honeslty just make your days better ❤
Hi Valerie ! I wanted to say that over time we can see how much you've grown so confident in who you are and you art and yourself are an inspiration to me 🌸
I love your videos Valerie and I understand the pain with emotional and mental health it’s hard I know that because sometimes you feel like you are suffocating or can’t breathe. But what helps me is definitely getting fresh air and listening to calming music and ofc art.🖼️ and also i believe that we all can heal and help each other through our emotional moments in life so thank you for sharing this. ❤️🩹
I very much appreciate you showing the hard parts of life in this video, I’ve been having a bad time myself recently and it seems impossible to get back on my feet, but this gives me hope and advice that I’ve not gotten in my own surroundings. I hope you feel better soon, and I’m sure that all your efforts and achievements will be rewarding. ❤
Girl! You always comes up when I need the most. Thanks for your videos. This helps me a lot since I broke up with my bf last year. Also, thanks to my close friends who helped me a lot in this self-care development of my life. This is the true turn of my life. I will be soon 18years old. Wish me luck in the adult world.
I'm really sorry for the pain and hurt you're experiencing. I love that you are brave enough to be vulnerable enough to show this. Seems like you're doing all the right things, taking care of yourself, feeling the emotions, but pushing yourself not to get stuck there. I hope you feel better soon. ❤
its seldom that someone shares the pain of the process. How other things happening in our life disorients and demotivates us. I'm glad you added both tears and laughter in this video...i am myself healing from things i don't talk about. But i can't cry....even if i feel like i want to...its a different kind of frustration.
Valerie, espero que te encuentres bien o por lo menos mejorando te envío un súper abrazo desde Colombia 🙏 y mis oraciones porque todo se resuelva de la mejor manera para ti. Te extrañamos 🌹💐🥰
What an uplifting video Valerie. ❤ absolutely vulnerable, painful, inspiring things to see in someone like you. So beyond grateful you shared this. The glow up is real while going thru pain!
The shift in your personality is easy to see - and it is great! I went through the same thing about a year ago and I can't even tell you all ways in which my life has changed since then. And it's still changing. I'm happy for you, for all your small and big wins, for your changes in your personality and in your studio - btw that plant is gorgeous!
It's so sad to see you cry because as you said sometimes I think you're in peace everytime. Maybe it's because of your arts' and your vibe; like spring, flowers, shiny things (happiness). You always come at the right time and i'm so happy for this. I didn't had any problem with people but with my own exhausting personality. So you really showed me the right direction with this video. And finally I think you should use curly hair more! I wish you lots of happiness sis💫
This is so wholesome. How you alchemized those feelings into it's peak and final stage where you begin to live and simply be. You little by little unravel those layers spontaneously out of that state of being whatever it is even without realizing it, into what it could be. which would bring like minded people who wants change and work through taking an action towards moving forward just like you. This is the one idea out of all the ideas that you have shared in this video for me.
I feel exactly what u feel. I live alone in Uk and everyday is struggling learning new things. And surprisingly I’m also taking driving lessons. U r right whenever someone hurts me push me down Í motivate myself and do something which i was afraid to do or Í wanted to fix for long but couldn’t. I’m so happy to see u . I can se myself in u . And u explaining things beautifully which Í can’t but when i watch u I learned myself
Valerie , I am sending so much love and hugs your way!! The way you choose to handle your pain in such a healthy self love sober type of way is commendable especially from someone who has seen so many in my family , friends and sadly myself choose to use substances to cope with trauma. Praying and healing for us all. Wishing you the best!❤
Hi Valerie. You are my hero🙏🏻The person you are inside, shines so brightly and you are just the right amount of crazy…you are perfect and I love listening to your stories and love who you are. You inspire me so much and your stories help and encourage me through hardships on my own journey as a creator. Thank you! I’m sending you wishes of light and healing and tight hugs from California. Love Diesel and Tharwa 🐶🙋🏻♀️🌺
You are right. We get hurt. And we have a choice. We can get stuck and slowly deteriorate in our emotional, physical and spirtual wellbeing. Or we push through, lift ourselves up by talking good care of ourselves, our environment, our communities and by creating dreams and focus for ourselves. About the pets - I have two cats and a dog. Yes, it is a huge responsibility, also financialy. BUT. My animals saved me more then once. They were there when my world felt apart. With their kind, warm presence, purring, asking for a walk. Talking good care of them have always helped me in so many ways.
The amount of courage it takes to show your hurt and your vulnerable side is commendable. It almost makes one feel guilt for seeing in a way. I'm glad you value yourself to fight through that sort of pain. Congrats on the fruits of your hard work. Your studio, your paintings, your newly acquired plant. The laugh of joy you had when you bought your plant, it was so raw and so intimate, I felt a feeling of happiness. You mentioned getting a pet and mentioned a bird, I think a bird would be perfect. Perhaps a love bird?
It is worth mentioning that you showed us your process of painting a beautiful picture to let us know that how you get there ❤ I really Appreciate you are so confident and strong You Go Valerie❤❤
I can really relate to this because I recently had a very painful experience but refusing to drown in the sorrow is the best course of action. Its ok to acknowledge your feelings but even though its a dark night of the soul, the rays of the sun will eventually shine through ❤
Your rantings and pain are psychologically valid, Miss Valerie. But it's beautiful that you have this healthy mindset and behavioural response to such bad experience. Turning negative thoughts into positive creation like paintings and videography. In Psychology, as a psychology student myself, I think what you did there is called a Freudian's Defense Mechanism: Sublimation. It's a defense mechanism where you channel your negative energy to a form of behaviour that results a positive or at least harmless action. It's the healthiest form of defense mechanism. This mechanism measures how matured a person's mentality is, and it's just so inspiring to see a person like you bravely share this testimonies to the world (at least in TH-cam community). High respect to you. God bless you, Miss!
Sublimation in its classic form is a rather unconscious act. In her case she allows all her emotions to flow, she reflects upon everything that has happened and is happening in her mind body and soul and she very consciously decides to paint this as a process to work this out. This would not be seen as sublimation anymore but as a healthy form to work with a wound. It is a mature and brutally bold and brave act of conscious healing. While a defence machansim can be healthy or unhealthy and yes the sublimation is most of the time a rather healthy one it would take away the truth of what's happening in Valeries case: using the paining as a source of healing beside the mentioned needed aspects that "disqualifies" her behaviour from a defence mechanism (conscious process, flow and acceptance of her emotions that arise, reflection, insights and integration). Yet really only she knows.. as this is just a snipped of her very nuanced life.
No Brasil dizemos de um bom comentário "faço de suas palavras as minhas". Se expor corajosamente é admirável e também sinto um alívio por que num mundo virtual onde tudo parece perfeito, vidas reais, sentimentos reais, somos humanos com nossos altos e baixos. Valerie você é adorável!! Gratidão seus vídeos!
Valerie, I am 68 years old and am uniquely qualified to make the statement that you save someone every time you share this HUGE stuff. Although I love myself now, it took a LONG time to get here. Being born in 1956, I come from a generation that considered it shameful to talk about the feelings and thoughts that people like us experience. If we were easily understood we would be envied because we live Life at one of deepest levels possible. Your art is a gift to all, but the sharing of your humanity is the gift of validation to people like us who live through the hell of sometimes feeling way too much. It’s so beautiful when all is said and done, and we both know we wouldn’t change a thing about it. Namaste.
i couldn't have said it better.
This was beautiful to. Thank you for sharing this. I'm praying I truly love myself. I'm trying to get there and I am grateful, so grateful for this video. ❤ ppl say I'm very artistic and talented but I hold back a lot sometimes bc I would worry ppl say sometimes but my art is very healing for me.
Don’t jump into getting an animal until you feel better. Regardless of people saying cats or whatever animal are low maintenance, they do actually require a lot of care, time, and energy and it seems like you need to focus on healing and resting yourself right now. Thank you for sharing your journey with us and I hope you feel better
@Honeydoyou You are so caring, and bring new points of view regarding humans' care and attention given to pets...you are very right. I also sense your sincerity...I liked "I hope you feel better"...Me, too,💖
I agree having an animal takes a lot of time, attention, care.
Self care is SO important, sweet girl. When I was going through my divorce, there were days where I had complete breakdowns, panic attacks and I gained a lot of weight. I couldn’t sleep. I was scared for my future, and I felt so betrayed. My health suffered tremendously for a while. But I went to the doctor, began seeing a new therapist and also began working out five days a week. I also began painting after work every day, making a practice of at least 15 minutes but it usually turned into hours. Day by day, I began to get better. I checked in regularly with my doctor and continued weekly therapy. I made friends at the gym. I made a point of not letting the sadness and things going on outside my control dictate things that bring me joy. Day by day, things got better. Remember, these moments in your life are temporary. You will look back someday and see the tremendous growth during this time. Keep going. You’ve got this
So very well explained. Good on you 🕊
I ❤this painter
I really enjoy how genuine this video felt. You allowed a bunch of strangers see you cry and struggle and still paint. I admire that about you. Plus being on your period on-top of all of that is a lot - I’ve been there. Keep making videos please!
I cried when I saw you crying, and felt a need to comfort you somehow, but at the same time I truly understand the need to feel all the feelings and how all of this helps us grow and evolve. I can only appreciate your raw honesty and wish your soul the recovery it needs. Sending you much love, Valerie 🖤
Awww! That curly hair you have at the end of the video! Sooo prettyyyyy! ❤
oh i love this new version of Valerie... your confidence is radiating. you’re ✨glowing✨🤍
I lost my mum a few month ago to cancer. I'm 30 she was 55. I see myself so much in you, you give me courage and inspiration. I hope the pain will go and make you stronger. I love your paintings, you are a shooting star. PS. I allow myself to cry when I clean, i find it so therapeutic.
Sorry for your loss. My mother died suddenly last year. I still feel the loss today and try to occupy my mind so I don’t get stuck in the grief. Hope we both grow from our pain and inspire others.
@@greenhomestead6305 Thank you and i'm sorry for you too. 🤍
I’m so sorry 😢😢😢😢😢
Thank you both for sharing and I’m sorry for your loss 💔🩹
Thanks Valerie for this REAL video, I think all of us can relate. Six months ago I got myself a little kitten en this has changed my life. A cat requires so little and has such a calming effect on me. Lots of love from Namibia, Africa!
We don't need to have or be anything at this moment. Finding answers to life is like painting a picture, it starts out with a plan, then a sketch, all the materials and then you just start and implement and adapt as you move along, sometimes you want to give up when the white spaces are too big, and you know mentally, that you would inevitably need to fill those gaps, but then you start seeing it come together, it happens suddenly and you feel like yes, I am more confident now, your strokes will be stronger and fluid and you will push through, till you know its done, in your gut. Then you just need to sign your name on it, cause it was an image that didn't exist before but now it does from you and your effort. You are happy and exhausted that it's over, you rest until inspiration hits you again. Life mirrors art sometimes or so i'd like to believe. 💛
Just waw
maybe an idea for a pet is just go to the animal shelter, and ask what cat has been there the longest (and maybe get that one if the kitty likes you). these balls of happiness deserve it :D
Awesome idea 💡 👏 👌 🐈 😻 🐈⬛️ 😺 🐱❤
Get a cat !!! They're low maintenance or fish??
I’m watching this while crying so I know this is going to be good for me 💕 thank you Valerie, let’s evolve together 🤍
And most importantly. When we are aware how we see ourselves, we can hold that up to the light of God’s truth and ask for His view. He can bring healing to trauma and truth to falsehoods.
Oh Valerie. Be your North. I hear the strain in your voice but I also see the determination in your body to push through and become MORE. Thanks for sharing. Love you.
Continue to be this crazy, Valerie. Not only are you healing yourself, you are giving us the encouragement to do so as well. 💖 Sending healing vibes your way, Valerie, all the way from India. 💖
Valerie, your hair looks absolutely GORGEOUS wild and curly !!!
that lavender dress looks stunning on you 🤩
The best suggestion I have for a studio pet is a shoal of fish!! You can get a big tank and put plants in it like a garden, and the fish will be curious and sweet but they have no smell and will not disturb your painting supplies or make your house dirty! (Thank you also for the honesty of this video, if it helps you feel any better you and I have very similar coping mechanisms for the same types of situations).
I can tell from myself - a pet will motivate you! I was at my lowest for some time in life when I first moved out. My crying stopped in the moment when I took a cat from local foundation. I think we just helped each other in life.
Honey, as someone who adopted a cat while going through depression, I can say it was the best decision of my life. However, it's crucial to recognize that you're healing and doing good with your life before making such a decision. Don't rush into it... take care of yourself first. Having a pet is a huge responsibility, even with cats. They have their own personalities, and not all of them are "easy to take care of and independent." They save you, but they need you too.
I adopted my cat when I was healing, not when I was in the dark side of the force.
Thank you so much for this video. I do something similar on my channel, sharing my personal process, and I know how difficult it is to open up this much to strangers. But I also know how comforting it is to realize you're not alone.
Take care!
You will get through this and you are not alone. Heartbreak changes you because you loved deeply and that is a beautiful thing.
Dogs are angels on earth, they bring you joy and positive feelings and their company is so confortable. I hope you feel better soon, it is a question of time.
Feelings have to be felt. Just let the emotions come and accept them as they are. You don't have to be calm if you don't feel calm. It gives you more peace in the long run. Suppressed feelings never die. I wish you all the best and I love your painting!
Go for a cat! A cat is a great studio companion; no need to walk it, it's quiet (overall), can do it's own thing for hours on end or be an amazing cuddling companion when you need it. Cat's are quite good at reading your mood as well and their curious nature might lead them to watch you as you paint. Best emotional support pet if you ask me with their calming nature and the purring is just soothing.
thanks for sharing your vulnerable and strong sides in this video, kinda needed that today. I love the girlpower vibe you've got going on and the 'i don't care what anybody says about me' attitude.
Hi, Valerie :)
In response to the pet discussion, one of the things I really enjoy about watching your videos is seeing your enjoyment of living by yourself, and how the space, time and choices you make are yours, alone. If you feel that the time is right to have another companion in your household (but, don't forget, your new palm and your beautiful plants and flowers- and even the furnishings you put care and maintenence into- also count!), of course do what feels right. But, there's something really special about having the time and space to care for yourself like you are, so you're also welcome to just enjoy that as it is. As you remind us, growth comes along in all things.
Thanks for what you put out into the world 💖
P.S. If you haven't covered your crystal ball already, they can catch the sunlight and cause fires. I've learned they're supposed to be stored covered when not in use.
You look so pretty with your natural hair 😍
Be strong! You deserve people who loves you like you love them. And you know that we all love you on the distance. Im from Argentina, so look how your influence traspase the world.
You are not alone!❤
You are so honest, and so powerful, speaking your truth and showing your truth in this video. That's truly inspiring and generous to the viewers. Thank you, Valerie.
You don't always have to be organized just time time for you. You work hard and are going through alot. It is hard when someone you care about most hurts you. You can get through this. Everyone loves and cares about you so much in your community you made. ❤
without darkness light has no meaning. This was a beautiful and raw video, thank you for sharing and touching our hearts! You are an inspiration to me and my own videos 💕
Before you even mentioned a pet I was thinking you would love a cat. Very easy, low maintenance and independent, but also healing, comforting, magical little creatures 👼 I hope you feel better soon 🤍
I totally agree!
I subscribed to your channel last year but stopped getting on TH-cam after months of heartbreak. I just experienced major heartbreak a few weeks ago and today I decided to start healing because I’m the only one who can do that for myself. I’ve been painting and listening to TH-cam videos from my favorite TH-cam artists and this video came up. Thank you so much for being so real, so vulnerable, and appreciating the beauty in pain and sharing it with everyone! I feel like we are healing together and it makes me feel less alone in this new journey.
Sending you big hugs from Canada. Thank you for sharing your honest journey. It's horrible when those we trust with our vulnerability deliver such pain. It's part of the process of creating that beautiful butterfly. You've been transforming so quickly since you moved to your lovely "new" space that your growth may have challenged those who hurt you. You have the determination to survive this and you'll do more than that -you'll thrive. Enjoy your life. As for a pet, I believe you'd mentioned some allergies previously but birds, fish, animals all have their own life journeys to be on. You'll know when you encounter your "pet" who will be your best friend and greatest comfort. For now that beautiful plant will have to provide that for you. Hang in there, sweet girl. And know you have a community that thinks the world of you!
I’m so sorry for whatever pain you’re going through 💕you’ll love the company of an orange cat lol. Love you babes.. thank you for endlessly inspiring us
Watching this in my vacation made my mood even better! , thank you valerie for posting great content and making our hearts flutter 🫂🦋🙈
Thank you for everything Valérie, for everything you do. You are so inspiring.
Each of your videos is a true gift. 😘💐
You are an incredible person who deserves to be happy. Don't let others smear and destroy you. Take good care of yourself, you're the best. ⭐❤
Valerie it's incredible to see you using your pain in this way and so inspiring to see a journey so real. This whole vlog was so real I just really related to a lot of what you were saying. I hope you are feeling better and stay strong
This Video is so inspiring and beautiful Valerie ❤
You know I can so much relate to feeling pain you are on the verge of giving up. In fact i gave up once and made a suicide attempt, but thankfully called the Police who helped drive me to a nearby Hospital. They saved my life. I regret doing this looking back and it wasn‘t planned or anything, it was because I was experiencing so much pain that I couldn‘t handle anymore. Ever since that experience I started to draw again and use it as an Output to grow and Show emotions. I‘m nowhere as good as you are but it‘s fun to use colors to express yourself. I also don‘t drink, take drugs or party. Please know that you are loved and cherished, when you feel like giving up remember you are not alone! I love following you along your Journey. I hope one day I can support you as you deserve it more than anyone❤
Thank you so much for your honesty, strength and courage!!! We need more people like you. This will help many people during dark times. You are a powerful alchemist with your paintings and your spirit - we all must find our unique tools to transmute pain in to power. Thanks for sharing.
In 2022, when there were difficult times in my life, this place right here used to be my safe space. I would watch your videos and feel safe and seen. Now everything is different but in the same time its completely the same; hard times come and go and now they are here again. And I return to your channel and I find this -- a metamorphosis. Maybe it's time for me to do it as well. "Everything must change in order for it to remain the same." Thank you Valerie, for all that you give everyday. You make the world a more hopefull place.
Oh my goodness what a beautiful soul you are!! I absolutely feel inspired and touched by your vulnerability that you share with the world. Just remember anytime you need to step away from youtubing and take care of yourself do it! If people who watch your channel truly care about you, they will also support you and your well being. I can tell alot of work goes into your videos. They are beautifully shot and edited. Blessings to you and your journey. Ps your hair is gorgeous when is wavy and natural. Your skin is also stunning. embrace your melanin. YOU ARE AWESOME
I am going through and healing from one of the worst losses I have experienced to date and as weird as it probably sounds the small clip of you crying really helped me take a step back and realize that I am in the process of becoming someone new and that this is not going to be a forever pain. My professor has encouraged me to use my hurt and emotions as a way to expand as an artist and it sucks and I hate it but I'm right here beside you
I feel this, I don’t want to create and I don’t want to get out of the dark spot and I can’t figure out why.
As always Valerie, thank you! So many of your videos have touched my soul and allowed me to feel the comfort I'd experience talking to a wise friend. You are truly an incredible soul, with such inspiring paintings, and you deserve the care and empathy that you provide to others! I hope the world is kinder to you this week!
Wow. Every time I see you in a new video, you are growing! And glowing too. It makes me so glad and proud of you.
I feel and understand your pain but also know I see how radiant and relaxed you are now in your own space. I also resonated so much with your words in this vid. Xoxo
I very very rarely comment on TH-cam videos but I feel like when I watch your videos, Valerie, I sense such a kindred soul in you with my own. The way you speak, think and feel about life is so similar to myself and this topic of metamorphosis is so interesting to me. I also sense a new sort of confidence in you as you talked and processed through your feelings/pain which is so important to do! Love your content so much ❤
Thank you for sharing this with us. We need more of authentic, realistic people like you in social media. ❤️
So comforting to see you being so real. It makes me feel not alone. Pain and struggle - I am beginning to understand that we can grow from pain into something beautiful. Be kind to yourself 🙏
You are Radiant Valerie! Some people including loved ones are threatened by your happiness and accomplishments. Keep growing and shining- you are worth it.
Watching this while going through a depressive episode! Loved it!
Learning and unlearning is part of growth
Valerie you've touched my soul with this video. I'm cleaning my house after two weeks today, I was always drawing as a child and the more self aware I became and the more aware I became of the pain around me I stopped, I didn't see the point of art anymore and because of you I plan on getting out my art supplies this afternoon and just draw ❤
Valerie, I love, respect and value your contributions to the world so much. Your art, your videos and your perspectives. I feel sad that you are in pain, please be gentle and kind to yourself. Thank you for sharing your process of healing. I know it will be validating to many people xo
As an artist who had to take time away from the easel due to trauma and PTSD I can relate to the transformation and rising out of the ashes, you are so much stronger than you can imagine and I thankyou for sharing your journey and being so transparent about the healing process. ❤
You’re so so lovely. It was healing to watch this and see how strong you are. Stronger than you even realise. And every time you smiled my heart praised you for it. Thank you for sharing these moments with us. Keep painting through it❤
Thank you angel 🧚♀️ for gifting ⚘️us a new perspective . By the way your evolution to an angel was very difficult for you ,at that time we are not with you(feeling sad for that😢) but now a days your evolution is making a great revolution for us , we are slowly evolving with your revolution. ✨️⭐️Very very much great full to you 💫our angel 😊❤
I'm going to reframe your "I'm crazy" to "I'm adventurous!" I was crying with you in understanding. Thank you for sharing your process.
I hope you are doing well after a month of this Video Val. I love your personality, channel and of course your creativity 🩷🩷🩷
okay, i'm too emocional right now. i live in brazil, i'm 20 and also an artist (but not in the productive way) and i felt so connected to this video because i live in a house that its not a home, a fell months ago people i have trusted in my hole life hurted me so bad that i couldnt breathe well until now. i cry a lot when i remember the things that happened, the things i heard and all the feelings come back when im about to heal about it. your video was the inspierest thing that i've ever seen in all of this time im passing trought. the way you opened up about yourself, showing the truth behind the process of making art and also of being a human was so beautiful and wonderful. since your begining in youtube i've been watching silently to your progress but now i felt the urge to share here how inspired i feel by your content. thank you so much to share all of this with us, i feel like i can finally get up and keep living because i am capable to survive all the bad feelings, bad days and bad moments, cause its not a bad life at all.
Thank you for being so honest with us Valerie, i am sure this will help so many people including me, keep going, give your self time, feel things through, dont force yourself into anything and know that you are definitely not alone, i feel you and understand you, but just like you said and already know, magical things cannot happen without the hard times, and we are probably meant to learn something through these hard times to become stronger and better versions of ourselves, so that we can make better decisions most importantly the ones that make us truly happy. So we can get to know ourselves on a deeper level, feel ourselves, love and nurture ourselves for who we are, and just give ourselves what we need and do what we love, without thinking or expecting much by putting pressure on ourselves. Times like this can be great for reflection. And lastly happiness is a choice that we get to make, thank you for showing us that. Take care. Sending you so much love.❤
Valerie, thank you for your documentation of this. You make me feel less alone in these feelings we share.
Your emotions are so valid and I respect you for sharing them this way. Watching what you’re going through and how you process your feelings makes me realize what very talented artists go through. You’re so healthy 💐💐💐💐💐
Valerie you’re so wise beyond your years. I love the way you express yourself and how you use your pain and suffering and transform it into something beautiful. We all go thru things in life that we can’t avoid, but it’s how we choose to deal with it that makes all the difference in our life. Thank you for opening up to us and sharing your struggles and how it makes you stronger. Please keep making videos. I love learning from you. And please never stop painting. You have a gift for painting and creating beautiful things. Sending you virtual hugs 🥰
Thank you so much Valerie.
This is the video I never knew I needed, it really helped me and I had to sit in my room and think deeply. I've gone through pain alot lately by people hurting me, nightmares haunting me, problems with friends and family members and I keep having those bad thoughts, but you Valerie have inspired me so much. All of your videos are inspiring, beautiful, helping. Thank you so much for this content💗
I am an incredibly emotional artist, Ive honestly never known peace and safety and have gone through a lot. You really spoke to me in this, seeing you feel your pain and and release those emotions and create it into something beautiful is my purpose too. Thank you for sharing this.
A kitty would be lovely, especially a siamese. They make wonderful companions! 😻
You've GOT THIS, girl! The true test of strength is the ability to be vulnerable in public. The journey is a challenge, but as you said, that's what we are here for! There are many others who need to see this part of you because they are going through the same. Your life and your experience - and sharing it - makes a big difference. And your painting is fabulous!
The curly hair suits you so much 🤍
Valerie get a jungle cat (Bengal) and fill your space with big plants!! Also keep wearing your hair wild and untamed, it's strong and beautiful and new like you ✨️💖💛. Much love =)
Am so sorry for what you went through but am also so grateful to see how you went through it, i feel comforted in my time of struggle. Thank you valerie
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this pain, and thank you for sharing your pain, and your process; for being so real.
Valerie you are incredible even in your darkest moments. Thank you.
It's a pleasure to watch and listen to you ❤ Lately it's hard to me move on, I'm losing people that I've loved from the bottom of my heart. I wish you much more success, because surely what you do brings you difficulties, if only sometimes. You inspire confidence and faith not only in yourself through these words but also in all of us. I wish you happiness 🐈 Thank you and take care of yourself 🌸
I found your channel a while back by accident and now I can't imagine not watching you paint and talk. You're such an inspiration to me and thanks to you I got back to making art after stopping bc of how bad I felt after graduating art school. Videos like this, that are so true and raw and that show exactly what it is to be a human (especially a creative human) are so important. I hope you feel better soon and I can't wait for the next video!!!
Valerie, I truly love you ! I am sorry for the pain you experienced , but I am amazed by the way you handled it and converted to experience! You know in my country Bulgaria we said “ Every bad thing that it’s happening to you is for good “. You are so beautiful! I love your hair when it’s curly, main it’s also like that after shower 😅 I will be truly happy to be your friend someday! I wish you all the best ! ❤️🌷
Thank you for sharing this video!! I am going through a metamorphosis of my own and I felt so deeply connected to all the words you shared. I couldn’t help but cry with you 🥺 I’ve been practicing allowing myself to both cry and transmute my pain into power too but I loved how you made the point to create opportunities for accomplishments during this time to help move you forward and to think big! Thank you so much for existing! Thank you for everything you do and share with us here on the internet. Sending you lots of love 💕
I think a bunny would be perfect for you! As somone who has had quite a few i can say they are not not adorable but can become so close to you, and honeslty just make your days better ❤
Hi Valerie ! I wanted to say that over time we can see how much you've grown so confident in who you are and you art and yourself are an inspiration to me 🌸
I love your videos Valerie and I understand the pain with emotional and mental health it’s hard I know that because sometimes you feel like you are suffocating or can’t breathe. But what helps me is definitely getting fresh air and listening to calming music and ofc art.🖼️ and also i believe that we all can heal and help each other through our emotional moments in life so thank you for sharing this. ❤️🩹
i could never do this. open myself to a bunch of people I don't know. Thank you, Valerie. By being strong, you made me strong.
I very much appreciate you showing the hard parts of life in this video, I’ve been having a bad time myself recently and it seems impossible to get back on my feet, but this gives me hope and advice that I’ve not gotten in my own surroundings. I hope you feel better soon, and I’m sure that all your efforts and achievements will be rewarding. ❤
Glad to know you're back on the go. Remember, it's not how hard you fall, but how high you bounce back.
Girl! You always comes up when I need the most. Thanks for your videos. This helps me a lot since I broke up with my bf last year. Also, thanks to my close friends who helped me a lot in this self-care development of my life. This is the true turn of my life. I will be soon 18years old. Wish me luck in the adult world.
I'm really sorry for the pain and hurt you're experiencing. I love that you are brave enough to be vulnerable enough to show this. Seems like you're doing all the right things, taking care of yourself, feeling the emotions, but pushing yourself not to get stuck there. I hope you feel better soon. ❤
its seldom that someone shares the pain of the process. How other things happening in our life disorients and demotivates us. I'm glad you added both tears and laughter in this video...i am myself healing from things i don't talk about. But i can't cry....even if i feel like i want to...its a different kind of frustration.
Valerie, espero que te encuentres bien o por lo menos mejorando te envío un súper abrazo desde Colombia 🙏 y mis oraciones porque todo se resuelva de la mejor manera para ti. Te extrañamos 🌹💐🥰
What an uplifting video Valerie. ❤ absolutely vulnerable, painful, inspiring things to see in someone like you. So beyond grateful you shared this. The glow up is real while going thru pain!
The shift in your personality is easy to see - and it is great! I went through the same thing about a year ago and I can't even tell you all ways in which my life has changed since then. And it's still changing. I'm happy for you, for all your small and big wins, for your changes in your personality and in your studio - btw that plant is gorgeous!
Please never abandon us. You can't imagine how much you helped me during particularly difficult times. Thanks for all that.
It's so sad to see you cry because as you said sometimes I think you're in peace everytime. Maybe it's because of your arts' and your vibe; like spring, flowers, shiny things (happiness). You always come at the right time and i'm so happy for this. I didn't had any problem with people but with my own exhausting personality. So you really showed me the right direction with this video. And finally I think you should use curly hair more! I wish you lots of happiness sis💫
This is so wholesome. How you alchemized those feelings into it's peak and final stage where you begin to live and simply be. You little by little unravel those layers spontaneously out of that state of being whatever it is even without realizing it, into what it could be. which would bring like minded people who wants change and work through taking an action towards moving forward just like you. This is the one idea out of all the ideas that you have shared in this video for me.
I feel exactly what u feel. I live alone in Uk and everyday is struggling learning new things. And surprisingly I’m also taking driving lessons. U r right whenever someone hurts me push me down Í motivate myself and do something which i was afraid to do or Í wanted to fix for long but couldn’t. I’m so happy to see u . I can se myself in u . And u explaining things beautifully which Í can’t but when i watch u I learned myself
Valerie , I am sending so much love and hugs your way!! The way you choose to handle your pain in such a healthy self love sober type of way is commendable especially from someone who has seen so many in my family , friends and sadly myself choose to use substances to cope with trauma. Praying and healing for us all. Wishing you the best!❤
Hi Valerie. You are my hero🙏🏻The person you are inside, shines so brightly and you are just the right amount of crazy…you are perfect and I love listening to your stories and love who you are. You inspire me so much and your stories help and encourage me through hardships on my own journey as a creator.
Thank you!
I’m sending you wishes of light and healing and tight hugs from California. Love Diesel and Tharwa 🐶🙋🏻♀️🌺
You are right. We get hurt. And we have a choice. We can get stuck and slowly deteriorate in our emotional, physical and spirtual wellbeing. Or we push through, lift ourselves up by talking good care of ourselves, our environment, our communities and by creating dreams and focus for ourselves. About the pets - I have two cats and a dog. Yes, it is a huge responsibility, also financialy. BUT. My animals saved me more then once. They were there when my world felt apart. With their kind, warm presence, purring, asking for a walk. Talking good care of them have always helped me in so many ways.
"I'm here because of pain" i haven't heard anything as powerful or empowering as this in a very long while.
The amount of courage it takes to show your hurt and your vulnerable side is commendable. It almost makes one feel guilt for seeing in a way. I'm glad you value yourself to fight through that sort of pain. Congrats on the fruits of your hard work. Your studio, your paintings, your newly acquired plant. The laugh of joy you had when you bought your plant, it was so raw and so intimate, I felt a feeling of happiness. You mentioned getting a pet and mentioned a bird, I think a bird would be perfect. Perhaps a love bird?
It is worth mentioning that you showed us your process of painting a beautiful picture to let us know that how you get there ❤ I really Appreciate you are so confident and strong You Go Valerie❤❤
Every artist felt this up and down cycle more differently and deeply from others.❤ Yes! Valerie
Those curly hair suits you ❤ you look more beautiful. ❤❤ May Allah give you courage to overcome your pain. ❤❤❤
I can really relate to this because I recently had a very painful experience but refusing to drown in the sorrow is the best course of action. Its ok to acknowledge your feelings but even though its a dark night of the soul, the rays of the sun will eventually shine through ❤