28 things I've learned by 28 💖🥂
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Im from Jamaica living in Jamaica, and I've been watching for years even though im only 18. You're so right. I dont want to be average. The average Jamaican girl is working a low paying job with one or multiple kids and is taking care of men who want to be rappers or scammers. I believe im luck. I believe im blessed even though people around me are saying i MUST be realistic. I might not be the richest, and to some, im not even middle class, but i believe im privileged and lucky. Im not a victim. I have so much to be grateful for, and im happy to be alive. I know I'll live a life that im proud of and that i consider successful. LOVE YA SM KELLY!!!
This is exactly how I feel! I hate when people say to be realistic. Like obviously, I can’t become an Olympic gymnast tomorrow with arthritis and less flexibility like I used to have. But it’s not unrealistic to wish for a peaceful, quiet life with your dream family!! Everyone who tells you otherwise is just too defeated to do it themselves so they must drag you down. You’re a threat. It’s so easy to create your own reality if you’re already an attractive, young educated woman…It just might mean distancing yourself from those negative influences. These are the most important years. Getting pregnant by the wrong man can ruin your entire life. I don’t know why people act like it’s a joke. Better learn how to do some non sexual heavy petting if you can’t stay celibate. 😂
You absolutely can build the life you desire! (Re the last line, you absolutely are capable of celibacy. Just be mindful of the situations you put yourself into)
I can tell yourself, you can be and live the life you want if you plan your life being realistic but also optimistic. Being honest not only to others, but to yourself. Life is much more than we think and we are not here to make our own life more complicated. Be kind, be grateful, be honest, be you and hopefully with courage and clearly mind you will achieve everything you want. 😉
Yup yup I. C tax . Is luv
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"it's normal to not have a friend group" holy crap that hit me
The last time I had one was in high school! They never work out
It’s always somebody fighting with somebody. I get along with everybody. 😂
“I can’t be obese, unhappy, and unmarried!” I totally agree!!! 👍🏾 Stay in your feminine energy and continue to attract the happiness you deserve! 💍💍💍
Yes! Thank you!
And you too 😊😊
I moved to NY in my early twenties with only $200 and a smile. Manhattan to be exact. Black girl/ big city. Now I’m twice your age , Kelly Stamps, living my best life in Hawaii. Gotta take life by the balls!
Wow I love THAT!! We truly must Chase what we want. And I think you can create your own happiness!!
You found your way to where you are meant to be!!!! It's not about starting life with all the answers, it's about finding the answers along the way! Good on you for being brave when you were so young! It led you to where you are now
@@KellyStampsLike the famous quote "most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be"
Which is a FACT
I’m overweight, not married and miserable and i have to agree with you. This is a life to run away from. That’s why I watch you.
What I`ve learned by age 27 is to *Trust nobody*
Not even sweet grandmas, she the opps 👵 One tried to sweet talk me in line yesterday at Home Goods and turns out she was trying to cut the ENTIRE line. If it was one thing I would've let her tbh but she was rude.
@KellyStamps It's always the elderly trying to skip people in lines😂
@@KellyStampsI'm kind to the oldies,I would just give it up to her,the cnt stand for long😂
that’s the trauma talking 😮
@@KellyStamps ahahhahhaa 🤣🤣🤣🤣
From a young and awkward black girl, girl please transmit your high self esteem and self concept to me by osmosis 😭 I'm going to grad school in a few months, yet I really want to be happily married and rest in my femininity and you're making me rethink my whole life
👩🏾🔬♻ I just did! How do you feel now??
Edit: Stay in grad school and be an educated, married princess with more options! Go teach English in Asia after. Get scalp massages after work, eat sticky rice, meet cute man in the airport lounge and comment when you complete this task, grasshopper.
@@KellyStamps lmaoooo I’m crying how did you just expose my life plans like that 😭 also shout out to my fellow grab girlie you got this I am wishing you nothing but the best in your decisions 💗💗💗
I’m going to grad school too! Glad to see I’m not the only one in academia who is refusing to get bogged down into misery.
Wow……Young and awkward black girl, you’ve accomplished so much so far on your own, I doubt you need any help achieving your dreams. You’ve made all the right choices that got you to grad school, I believe you’ll make the right choices in men that will stay by your side and be successful, happy and married 👍🏾 Trust in God, your family, and your self 🙏🏾 You have pretty privilege, date black excellence like your self.
@@KellyStampsYou mean meet cute black men of excellence 😉 Let’s build that generation.
At 29 I've learned to avoid onsided interactions. And best of all to never feel ashamed of any advantages I have. 🙏🙏🙏
In the words of Tokyo Toni. "I'm sorry you had a f*cked up life. B*tch I DIDN'T" LOL
@@KellyStamps Same way mama stamps. *Snaps fingers and strikes a dramatic pose*
Something I learned at 20, not every one deserves a reaction. I defended myself when necessary but overall people who I can tell are looking for a response or are used to ppl falling into their antics, I don’t engage at all and let them sit with their actions. I’m young and thriving and personally, don’t want to give my energy to throwaways like that .💕💕
Me too,I don't engage, I don't react ,I let them sit with their actions, u keep ur power😅
ugh this!!!
This is also something I learnt
Not me tearing up for you when you spoke about how much he told u he loved you and wanted to take care of you.I wish you all the best and staying private is the way to go.Go for your heart,and everyone take Kelly as an example that God can give u what u want if you ask him,work for it and remain patient.❤❤
Number 19 cracked me up!
“The food in the United States is killing us!”
* Hides Pretzel 🥨 🤣😂
TLDL: Be quiet and listen more, we get one good week to not be in pain so look cute and go out, get a *soft* pretzel and a *soft* life.
Second spicy rant: There are alternatives to college debt and a 9 to 5 before becoming a mother. Learn a trade or get a job and learn to live below your means. You will have time to take care of yourself and be kinder to your body, subsequently becoming the best version of yourself sooner. That is my experience.
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I want this life. I am visually impaired. What trade or job can I do while single?
@@kaylajames3098do you have any hobbies?
church. ty mother stamps
"Dont let losers second guess you" and "shut up" are KEY to happiness. Best bday wishes 🎈✨
The car dealership one is such a crucial one! 😅
I was a Daddy's girl all the way lol, but now I'm assertive and I talked my way out of paying a silly medical bill today. A huge win for the former people-pleasers!!
@@KellyStamps omg same, but I wanted to wear my big girl pants and be Ms. Independent and go to the dealership on my own!! I got conned into buying a 2008 beetle that smelled like a grandpas armpit for $5500 and paying $500 a month for the note. And it broke down almost every week for various reasons. One hot summer in GA with no AC was the last straw 😭 needless to say I learned my lesson and sold it.
The 'jealousy is okay to have. turn it to inspiration' is so true! I'm also 28 and I had friends younger than me and I couldn't understand how they still had a certain type of view of the world. We were just 2 years apart but they were much more childish and I ended up cutting them off from my life.
Going to miss your videos when you start doing less but reallyyyyy happy for you that you’ve found someone who knows how to allow you to be the classy and valuable woman you are ❤❤❤ continue to enjoy life. Thanks for the laughs and inspiration.
Thank you so much!!
Doctor Professor Stamps!!! Your skin is glowing!! Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.
You are so welcome!!
@@KellyStamps :))
It was the “Focus on yourself and pray for everyone” for me. That’s been the hardest thing for me to do In life when you have no choice but to just watch all the bad choices your loved ones made/make. I’ve always been an empath and I’m really starting to resent that about myself. Living in the same environment together makes it even harder. It’s difficult to try to create a life in which you can be happy living with all these things going on around you right in front of you and there’s nothing you can do. Taking your advice, I’m determined to continue trying to make life easier and enjoyable for myself and pray for the others who are staying stagnant. I can’t help them if I don’t have an overflow to give. That’s really the mentality you need these days.
I just screenshotted this and send it to my friend because she was just saying the same thing. I think it’s extra hard as women because we are naturally just hardwired to try to nurture everybody else. We have to set boundaries!!
“Struggling isn’t a flex.” Amen
Yes men can be providers but a woman should have a solid foundation and should be able to be independent. She should be able to take care of herself in the event that something happens to their spouse and can no longer Provide for her. Plus you should never solely rely on one person, should always have a backup.
Agreed. The solid foundation can be built living at home while working part time and saving her money. She should travel while not tied down. I don’t think it must mean jumping into an average stressful 45 hour a week career with college debt. Many of my Latin American friends live at home and work and study! My friend is literally not allowed to move out and waste money because it doesn’t make any sense. If I got along with my mother, I would’ve stayed there. It’s too expensive to get a one bedroom apartment nowadays.
That's wise advice. Working together works best. Financially yeah, but also if a health issue arises or some other unforeseen event arises.
This is my third comment under anything on youtube or any social media, but I just had to because you're telling THE truth! I'm a Polish girl with 2 BA's, MA and in the first year of my PhD program. None of these achievements gave me the sense of fulfillment or being good enough. In fact, it's the opposite. I've realized recently that I'm happiest not writing another article or sweating over my dissertation or preparing a conference speech (my current pain), but being in the kitchen, in the garden, in the fresh air, and being rested! I've invested too much time and effort in my "career", but as soon as I get that degree I intend to find a light teaching job, let go of large-scale research and live my feminine energy life too! I've never identified with the various Western cultural nonsense that has unfortunately found fertile ground in my country as well, but I myself have fallen into the mindset of your career equals your worth, which equals your chance of creating a family with someone of values and normal! Wishing you all the best:)! Miami looks good on you:) Maybe someday I'll be able to see the American coast myself, for now I'm left with the Baltic Sea (it may be colder but it's beautiful too!) ;)
Wow! I’m sorry our toxicity has made it over to Poland 😂 But I’m so happy that you recognize that education and career can’t bring you as much joy as just being kind to yourself!! ❤ you are not your job
those that get it, get it!! i have always had people around me who are jealous.. and some have gotten cut off but im looking around like… i need to find new people who can be happy for me
Honestly, very very few people can actually be happy for you 😭 I knew it would be a small amount, but I didn’t realize this till recently. Their confidence needs to exceed the average!!
" Somebody didn't get a birthday today " Oh! 😭
I could've at least taken a sad pause lol
@@KellyStampsLOL 😂
Nahh when I heard you say that you might start posting once a month or even less, I was kinda sad ngl. I've been here for a looonggg time, since you did choreography for different k-pop songs and wig reviews and I've watched how you've come to this moment. It's just amazing. As a black girl who loves anime, drawing, computers, and being soft and feminine the Godly way, it's been so comforting watching your videos.
However, the peace and rest you've been telling us about is God-given. Who are we to determine how He shapes your life and that might include, like you've said stepping back or posting less etc.
Just wanted to say that lol. You're super awesome Kelly
I love how unapologetically yourself you are!!!
Thank you, it’s a super power nowadays! In a works full of lies lol
Kelly continues to inspire me😭💕 please never change for the sake of the future stampede university students
I WON'T
Kelly Stamps, one of the only GIRLS WHO GET IT. I feel very understood by this video
it's really refreshing to hear what is essentially the dialogue going through my head at all times from you. i don't want an average life - i don't want to slave away at a job that i don't connect with, i want the best body i can have, i want a deep control over my emotions and i seek awareness (in the spiritual sense) at all times, i want to live adventurously and to have my love story with life as a whole. i don't often meet people who feel the same, so i just wanted to say thank you for sharing this with the world, and for being brave enough to do what you think is right despite what our environment tells us we can do.
I really needed to hear number 10 about friends cause I’ve never really found that group and I’ve always felt that made me inferior. Especially since everything else in my life is pretty good but I’ve realised now that 1) it’s honestly hard out here to find good, reliable friends as an adult, 2) All I really need is God, my family and future partner. Plus there’s so much jealousy and backstabbing in friend groups nowadays that perhaps I should accept it as divine protection lol. I see some stories on TikTok and Twitter and I know I’d be traumatised by some of these stories of supposed friends plotting on one another.
YEEEEEEEEEEP: All I really need is God, my family and future partner. My married friends I mentioned were just a unit with their husbands, faith and pets and I didn't understand why at first. Friends are great but honestly as we get older the Bible makes more and more sense. I don't take offense anymore like I used to. At the end of the day Jesus loves you. Friends come and go and they're too busy plotting against you half the time. Your family is forever. I only really tell EVERYTHING to my long time friend from college who lives in nyc and another TH-camr Annemarie Chase who travels even more than myself. They're the two matured women I've met in YEARS who don't try to compete. I've met a couple new influencers from TikTok who are also super confident and fun. They add to my life and I'm ok with not living in the same city.
If you don’t like your life, change it 👏
Posting for engagement! Kelly you are really killing this ! Everything you mentioned about being average is true! I want to follow and not be average as well and I’m glad you are starting to want to be more private! Hopefully if you get some pets you show us them someday!
I can catch a lizard LOL
The hard part about being average is that no one wants to be average, working their whole lives. Being middle/upper class allows you opportunities to improve your life or give yourself a life of excitement. I don’t want to be average but it seems like the only way to break out of this working 9-5 cycle (or looking for a job in the meantime) is to start a side hustle on TH-cam or do anything online. It seems like many people are doing this now. I watch people who opens brand new tech products, go travel to cool places, live in beautiful homes by themselves, I want to be like them one day so it’s like I live through these videos.
There are people who came from the gutters who are celebrities now or doctors , if you keep yourself in a simple mindset life will not be simple for you 🤷♀️ for example , Daniel ceaser was homeless before he became a singer , cardi b was a stripper in a abusive relationship before she became a rapper , Beyonce just didn't become Beyonce , she puts in the world she had the drive and the passion and she wasn't an average women , she wanted to be big but thought bigger , BTS a giant kpop group dominant charts was 7 broke ass boys in a one bed room apartment with mattresses on the floors before they became what they became , all it takes is drive and passion , because if you want it enough than you ain't getting fed my guy
@@aRIE_vcr These are all people who were lucky and in a time where they were doing something that was still new. The entertainer market is saturated, more and more people are looking for perfection and you can't just sit around while trying to 'achieve your dreams'. You're gonna have to get a job at your local target for the next who knows years and if you dare look old/depressed/tired it's all over.
@@Quon it's not like their career chose them , I done things that I got to experience and I'm not famous , I got to perform background for several famous gospel musicians , and even got to be in a video , how do you expect to achieve your dreams when you don't do anything to achieve it? What all famous people have in common is that they put themselves out there , if they would've stayed with the mindset that you have where do you expect to go ? Like I said all these people came from the gutters and are now celebrities, if they can do it , then anyone can do it
@@aRIE_vcr Yes you should always try to achieve your dream, ANYONE can do it but not EVERYONE can
Im 20, and Ive literally cut off all of my toxic friends and have been living in solitude for literally months
Its so exhausting but also so rewarding
I told my TikTok, Instagram and FB that I’ll be returning April 1 and now it’s May 17 and I haven’t posted an update. Honestly I don’t wanna. I had so much peace being off social media. I’ve been more present for my family and I can watch movies without missing a scene. It’s been awesome.
The way I needed you to basically yell this in my face. Ty Stamps 💖
You are so relatable to me and I've been following you for years, I think it´s because I also never wanted to be average. Completely agree with the job vs. career part, as a twenty yo I choose to focus on getting a job so I can be financially independent from my parents first, then IF needed I will get a professional certification (probably short and online) so I can earn more and upgrade my lifestyle.
THIS
THIS CONVERSATION IS BADLY NEEDED. Thank you so much Kelly! ily
honestly probably the best "things I've learned " vid I've watched like I'm re-thinking everything in the best way!!!!!
Love this vid.. I moved from Los Angeles to Austin, TX a year ago and I could go on and on about the differences in my lifestyle between the two places, but one big thing has been connecting with more women who want marriage and a family or at least admit they want that. In LA it felt like we were all just drifting around with the wind… wanting things but never getting them.
That is so true. I once said (at 19) I wanted to be childfree and just vibing and those friends will never let me forget that. They are very much man-haters, and they just talk about how disgusted they are by children and married women or girls in relationships. So now that I have clearly changed my mind to neutral, why would I want them around mine?? It’s really important to shift towards friends who want the same things or already have it. Somebody else on my other channel said friends come and go, but your family you choose is forever.
😂😂😂 #24 ... Yes, we are on a floating rock. I thought that I was the only one. So glad that someone else is on my frequency. Love ya !!!
Kelly, happy birthday (internet says may 30😱). Thank you for staying & being Authentic, living freely and softly. You inspire me & a whole lot others to do same. I pray this new season ushers in more grace to become all that God designed you to be IJN AMEN. Muah🙏🏽💋
AMEN. And thank you! My birthday is May 30th and I hope I can spread my positivity through the screen to the Stampede today lol. Aging can be fun if we are kind to ourselves.
A colleague recently asked me "why are you so elegant today" and I just replied "not just today, always!"
Just wear whatever makes you feel on top of your game (you can be comfy AND slaying at the same time!)
i’ve been here since your people pleasing days and i’m just LOVING this new era of speaking nothing but hard truths / facts and defending yourself.!! so refreshing, thank you for being you.!
Ms. Stamps never fails to give us her unhinged advice!!! I love it! Ofc you can’t do exactly what she does, you need to take what she says and make it your own by adding your own personality. You also got to know yourself absolutely facts! ❤👏🏾😊
Great class! Thank you for sharing this insightful wisdom!!
Girl you are glowing! Thank you for your words of wisdom❤
Beautifully said 💖🙏🏾🤗🤩💯
Im gonna save this video and show it to my kids once they’re teens or young adults. Sums up what I wish I knew at 16-25 years old. Thanks ❤
Great vlog Kelly! I love that you are telling people average should not be their aspiration. We limit ourselves by our imaginations. If we can see it, and believe it we can achieve it. You are a blessing! Keep up the work you were put here to do.
Kelly i love ya! Your videos always get my mind going!!! Sometimes i have to pause just to write something to express a lil thought im riffing off your topics of discussion. But im shutting up! And listening ❤
This video is very much needed, thank you kelly! Im working hard on changing the things about my life that I can no longer accept. In five years when im 28 my life will look and feel completely different because of the work im putting in now.
I love you and love this. Thank you for these facts!!
I talk about this on my recent podcasts; being mediocre and basic is not wrong but a choice! I do not want to live a mediocre life because we are more than what we've been taught or directed by society's expectations! happy I discovered your videos, I feel on track and relatable in my current transition in life! ly!
I'm very glad I clicked on this video. Life has been tough and I really needed this today. Thank you, Kelly ❤
I’m so proud of your Growth spiritually and wholeheartedly.
I’m a 36 year old happily married Afro male Artist who’s never been in agreement with being average. Thanks for sharing and being always funny , encouraging, entertaining and inspiring
I'm not where you are yet but i can feel it i have been telling myself all the thing you are saying and now i aligned with your channel (spirit angel) I am happy rich and living my best life! I know its coming i can taste it!
you are such a genuine breath of positivity
I’m so happy you have found love. Enjoy every step of your journey!
yes to creating dream lives ✨ love your insight Kelly, thank you ☺️
I went to NYC for first time and i got a eataly tiramisu bc of you! Glad you still create videos!
I’m in my 2nd trimester of being pregnant for the second time and didn’t get sickness ONCE because I don’t eat processed food bs they sell!!
I’m so glad I get to see your videos, and apply your advice to my life as someone who just turned 18! Thank you 💛
Say less is good practice. Recover and revent yourself is a necessaries with realistic objectives... Have the courage to find a new state and or new neighborhood.. Gosh, I'll be extra busy work on my new life before I know it. Thank you, Miss. Kelly 💫⚘️✌🏼
love you Kelly! glad god is guiding you !
LOVE U TOO PUNCTUAL STAMPEDE STUDENT
i love all of this, well said!!
Love this!!!❤❤❤
Kelly, I simply adore your authenticity and even more, your humor. 🫶🏾
You are glowing Kelly. 🥺🩷
Wise words Kelly. I'm with you on this ❤❤
Stay tuned for next year’s!
Love your videos Kelly! :)
Started watching you again and maaaaan from 2020 to now. I still love your content.
Omg it’s so nice to hear someone who has their own opinion💓 keep it up
Hello Kelly! I’m so happy that you are taking so time for yourself. I feel fulfilled hearing that. You are so relateable and you are so very loveable ❤ Whenever I listen to you, I think wow! It is thanks to relateable people like you I feel okay during challenging times. You spoke into my life when I was down, and you continue to breath and most importantly live good advice. So thank you so much! I am so overjoyed that they are women just like you in this world. Have the best month of your life.
-Gabby 🎉
The best of birthday wishes love! 💕🫶🏾💕
Girl i needed this
great video- BTW your skin is looking FABULOUS!
Thank you Kelly ❤❤❤
Hi Kelly, I never comment on youtube videos but thank you for sharing your stories and your messages 🙏🏽
Love watching your videos, will miss you if you post less but you gotta do what's right for you. Also, so glad you are happy with your man 😊. Be well.
i missed you queen, been a long time without seen ur vids
I love you Kelly!
Thanks for your knowledge Queen! 💗
Omg it's Pikachu!
@@KellyStamps hahaha!! Pika pika! ⚡️⚡️
I totally resonate with this so bad- I agree ! not everyone will but I totally get it👌 if someone doesn’t get it, that’s okay- I hope they find joy and peace in their lives too
I’ve loved ur channel for a long time thanks for making videos. Oiling my hair while listening lol
I love you Kelly! I like ur video
That was beautifully said!
Happy birthday Kelly 💚🤍
I appreciate you so much Kelly and your content! May the Lord bless you always 🫶🏼
Honestly this was spot on.
While I agree that if your goals are stay-at-home-wife a career isn't 100% necessary, women should keep in mind that your "provider man"'s provision will always depend on his love for you. Everyone thinks its forever, but %50 of marriages end in divorce, after which the stay-at-home-wife will have no career, a large gap in her resume, and a home to pay rent at on her own. Hope for the best, but have a plan!
also I just wanna say Kelly you've helped me sooooo much in my life, im glad im learning along side of you with your life and TH-cam journey. im forever blessed to know that you love god and Jesus Is leading you! your also being yourself and I fuckin love that. keep going Kelly show up for you love.
Thanks for sharing!
prof.stamps happy b-day when its gets here,still no.1 as usual, keep inspiring us.../peace..love..happiness
Much needed video. I believe a better life awaits me. Being from Trinidad and Tobago, the mentality and thinking of most citizens are very low-thinking. They think working a 9-5 is the be all end all. They think that graduates can't get hired because we're lazy or not trying hard enough when literally there's an unemployment crises and the government raising the pension age definitely doesn't help the situation. I hope to one day migrate to the US as there's endless opportunities especially with social media and entrepreneurship. It's taken more seriously and supported more abroad.
The hair is givingggggggg Kelly
okay so Your brows are perfect !
THANK U I got them laminated!!
Girl, yes to all of this.
what i learned at 22 - you should value yourself the same way you value others, never let that balance be disrupted or you’ll be left neglected by your own self!
GOOOO KELLY !!!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You’re so right! We content creators need to stand up for ourselves.