Trans Author and Activist Raquel Willis Gets Transparent with Memoir "The Risk It Takes to Bloom"
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- Raquel Willis is a major trans activist and the author of a powerful memoir called "The Risk It Takes To Bloom." We dive deep into what it means to be trans from her coming out to her politics to her dating life. Amazing conversation. @raquel_willis
00:00:00 Top of Show
00:02:18 Being Openly Trans
00:09:12 My Trans Journey
00:25:05 Expressing Femininity
00:32:54 Any Trans Role Models?
00:44:08 on Dating
01:05:02 Using the Ladies' Restroom
01:08:08 Do You Hate Dave Chappelle?
01:15:25 Sports
01:21:15 on Black Cis Women
01:23:05 What is a Woman?
Toure Show Episode 415
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How and why is it a burdening to tell someone you are Trans? I thought you was living in your truth Raquel Willis 🤔 YOU SHOULD TELL A INDIVIDUAL YOU ARE TRANS AT THE MOMENT YOU MEET THEM. HOW ARE YOU DEMANDING ANYTHING WHEN YOU ARE HIDING YOUR TRUE SELF. STAND ON IT
I love this conversation!! I now feel like these conversations surrounding trans women should be had amongst intellectuals capable of handling the sensitivity topics like these require. Otherwise it tends to turn into a circus act further perpetuating stereotypes and ignorance.. Thanks Raquel and Toure!!
If I was those trans person , I wouldn’t waste anyone’s time & or energy with them taking me out on a date before I informed them of what I was born as. You can’t compare this to someone not informing you that they have children. It’s totally different. Sounds like this trans person is trying to low-key trick men into liking her
Great interview. I love different perspectives and outlooks shared. God bless then both fir this candidate conversation.
The blasphemy of putting Gods name towards this abomination
Great interview. Very insightful
That’s crazy , you don’t wanna tell a man but yaw are the same people that cry when yaw get hurt
Thank you for being a voice for us Raquel ❤
❤🏳️⚧️💪🏽🔥
@@8213apice Hating on people will never make you feel better. Try something else.
Amazing and enlightning interview. Thank you to you both.
🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
No need to tell men they’re trans but it’s necessary to disclose in the work place 🤷🏻♀️ make it make sense please
Lol
The strides trans folks have made cannot be reduced to one interview. The Risk It Takes To Bloom Memoir is a must-read. Every trans person is their own experience.
So is every other human on the planet.
@rena9722 The difference is we're outlawed, unequal, or killed off. The rest just look the other way or is a joke to them. If the roles reversed I'm sure you'd rethink your comment and thought process.
Are you joking? The first thing in dating is: "male" or "female?" Sexuality is basic.
Do not refer to women as "cis!" I do not "identify" as a "type of woman," I am a woman.
Tour'e when she said "Gilda", I thought the same thing..so , don't feel bad.😂😂😂😂😂
If you look at a picture of Gilda you’ll KNOW that’s exactly what they mean by wig she’s too young so she ain’t know
You are supposed to tell a heterosexual man upfront, period!
the conversation about disclosure is very thought provoking. I assumed safety was the focus, but the idea of anyone discussing any private information at the initial meeting... spot on. people don't do that and it stands to reason that our collective (some, not all) expectation around that is skewed. Loved this conversation! Found it on Spotify too
Either way you slice it. No disclosure is deception. And you wonder why these ppl end getting hurt. Keep thinking with feelings instead of logic
@@BeyondmyselfIsrael it's kind of obvious you didnt listen to the conversation.
@@jusletursoulglobaby you believe in a fallacy and the conversation is just what I said clear deception. And anyone who subscribe to the delusion that this is acceptable and this isn’t deception is indoctrinated beyond repair and you are one of them.
Damn shame
@@BeyondmyselfIsrael _Your_ comment, is entirely emotional, when gender dysphoria occurs as a result of a variation in the brain. Please look into the science if you're interested in this topic. I have a playlist on my channel that you're more than welcome to check out if you wish to inform yourself on a deeper level.
@@WeirdBarbiesBoyfriend you must have missed my last sentence to think I’m emotional
@50:30 She’s playing a dangerous game! 😮You gotta give men the option to decide to continue talking/dating you. That’s a huge part of someone’s dating life. Some men will not respond to that very well
This interview was beautiful and i can’t wait to read Raquel’s book. I’ve been seeing her here and there on social media and loved her points and her work so it was so dope to learn more about her perspective and her background.
as for the dense weirdos in the comments plz go touch grass. Y’all r mad lame, repressed and close minded. I can’t even feel bad for u cause it’s literally a waste of time. The world and society is just gonna keep evolving and y’all just gonna get left behind and all you’ll have to keep u warm at night is ur pure hateration!!
Wow! I think a lot of us are seeking Black love, for the same reason
figuring out when to disclose something like that is really hard. I have herpes (which ~10% of people do) and I usually tell people on the first date. my family and therapist tell me I should wait longer so people can "see who I really am" first but I have found that people feel misled and will get angry if I do that. but it's also really awkward telling them too early because it seems presumptuous and like it comes out of nowhere. one time I was on a date and I felt like it was too soon to tell him during dinner but then he tried to have sex with me in his car and I told him and he was upset that I wasted his time.
I'm really sorry that you had that experience, love.
It is 1000% important for a Trans person to inform a man they are Trans before going on a date.
Biologically a trans person can never offer certain things that a biological woman can offer. A man should be provided the choice up front to determine the route they want to take. They should not be tricked by a trans person.
(Yes many women have fertility issues however a Man could NEVER birth a child. So a trans person could never be considered a WOMAN. It’s okay to think and feel you’re a woman, but biologically you are not a woman.
It’s SELFISH to not share your transition upfront with someone who may seek an imitate relationship with you.
A man does not have a womb so you can not be a woman.
It’s your business who you are attracted to but a person should not have to get in the bed with you before knowing you are not a biological woman.
This trans person playing with death talking about you not sharing your trans. There’s no nonsense dudes that’ll kill you because of that. Be careful who you playing with
This made my head hurt
This is why you don't ask complete strangers out, sir.
I think there’s space for all stories and experiences in life. Just like cis women won’t ever fully understand a trans woman’s experience, the inverse is true. There’s space for everyone but authenticity should be first and foremost.
She's definitely acting like a woman she lacks accountability.
No, that is the male in her
Dude trying to get illed fast pulling that on wrong person talkin bout i dont feel obligated
The Thebe Magugu top brought me here
Toure has the mad scientist look lol
And I love it 😂
I'd have a difficult time trying not to ask the more personal and sex-related questions that I do not have the right to know.
Stop using cis
Saying surgery isn't happening to young people is an unfair statement. And placing the sports issues just on Republicans or political issue is also unfair. The WPATH standard of care supports medical affirmation of kids, including mastectomies as early as 16. There are private providers doing it. And these surgeries don't require as many prerequisites such as multiple letters of medical necessity. Letters have been reduced to 1. Her generation of trans people had a much more intricate standards of care. And there are Democrats and people with no political affiliations that have valid concerns about sports issues. It would be nice to see her acknowledge that these issues aren't myths.
This issues are myths :)
I love this interview. Raquel is very smart ❤❤
He's a trickster
No he’s not
Notice she never brought up the mans choice.
So what about the man’s choice. Does that even matter.
Never.
This is all you got out of an almost two hour video? You didn’t even watch it.
Respect to her on her Journey.
Him
Yea...him
I am confused by the editing choices with the dramatic music in the background and the beginning clip. It just feels like its throwing gasoline to flames, instead of coming from a good place. I found this podcast originally when Ali Siddiq was interviewed, and it made me feel that the intension of podcast was to have a feel good conversation with somebody even if the topic was difficult (aka Ali's time in prison). Maybe i'll give this a shot later at 2x speed and no sound. Even if the podcast crew doesnt agree on the topic (comparing this intervoew with Ali's), I am still expecting them to do a fair edit...
Toure is weird. He did nothing but proved the Republicans right with this interview.
51:09
Jesus I hate this planet
Because of this? Not because of the war, world hunger, etc? Y’all sound air headed asf
Definitely before there is ANY physicality.
Take risks? Selfish.
What accent is that ?
Annoying southern thing Black women do. (I hate it)
@@classynoginilr7891she reminds you of your absent or dog addicted mother?
@@classynoginilr7891 you really hate yourself
I do appreciate this brother showing a trans persons point of view but honestly for me This is really scary to watch because it's so many trans people. I'm sure walking around with the same point of view of they feel like they shouldn't have to tell someone up front and it's a lot of heterosexual men out here who are coming in contact with these people and develop a rapport and then later find out which that probably could cause psychological issues. I feel like it would be more safe on all parties involved for that to be the base of the first conversation to prevent potential problems . But at the end of the day I just don't understand our black race right now. we seem to be at the fore front for all of these type of issues and leading the charge .and I must say I do not like when black people of the lgbtq+community compare their struggle or experience to the black struggle I totally disagree cause it's not the same
I really tried to watch this interview...I REALLY tried Toure. As a black woman I refuse to cosign ANY of this, because I AM a biological black woman in America who is STILL bearing the weight of...America's BS. Par for the course.
I'm SO over ALL of this.
This is troubling. Nothing about her journey takes away from our womanhood.
I said I am not cosigning. It is a slippery slope. You want me to see the value this person's "womanhood"? Nah I can't, I don't know about you, but my womanhood looks different. It involves everything that they biologically AREN'T, don't have or can't do. Logically, they'll never arrive at the destination...it's comparing apples to bananas (there is NO comparison).
All that being said, black female voices are being co-opted by black males voices, in trans. When's the last time you heard or seen ANY of these people advocating for LEGITIMATE female issues? Exactly, you DON'T.
@@rena9722 no you should see the value in their humanity & just so you know queer people being on the the front lines fighting for your rights like forever.
@@miracleseverywhere6907 uhhm...do YOU see the value in MY HUMANITY? If so then you could ALSO SEE my position. But you don't, so you can't... which makes it possible for you to make comments like the aforementioned. Move along. 😐 👉🏾🚪
@classynoginilr7891 Logic will tell you that humans, given exposure, stimuli, etc. will have varied lived experiences. However our "womanhood" is a culmination of experiences that BIOLOGICAL females have over the course of their lifetime. MY "womanhood" included(s) being a tomboy, menstruating, live birth, breastfeeding my children, being a mother/daughter/sister/aunt, an educator, a veteran, and a troll of the interwebs in my spare time. Trans people identifying as women can't make such claims about SEVERAL things listed above.
In addition, MY womanhood DOES NOT include:
denying what is physically ON/IN MY BODY
or
denying that there have been traumatic events that could have affected how I perceived myself for a time
or
requiring others to bend so that I can be accepted and comfortable with MY choices
or...Or...OR!!!
So no, I'm gonna say "our womanhood" IS NOT the same ma'am. 🤷🏾♀️
This person is so confused. Lord help him to see he was made in your perfect image
😂
Being transgender is not new. IDK why people are acting like this is a new phenomenon.
@3rdeyemang Disrespecting this woman, who is so obviously authentically herself, only reflects how little joy and satisfaction you might be experiencing in your life.
*SHE* 👏🏼 IS 👏🏼 FINE 👏🏼🔥🔥🔥
@3rdeyemang Not legally, not medically, not physically. She is a 'he' only in your mind. Now, go have a great time with the fantasy you're so anxious to get back to. We don't need to hear the details, but I sincerely hope you have a magical time ✨️✨️✨️.
@WeirdBarbiesBoyfriend Well, legally Or not, if HE doesn't disclose he is trans it's no different from S.A.
@3rdeyemang May the universe help you find your way. Later, gator.
@@WeirdBarbiesBoyfriend You might as well have said nothing.
I may not know “HE’S” on probation, HE’S hit a woman, but what I can ascertain is that HE’S a male…I would be turned off if a trans man kissed me and did not give me that choice to make for myself to kiss, not a man, but a trans man.
Please do not equate revealing birth gender, with other character flaws
She believes to take a person values, cause she feels like God took hers and never gave her what she desire. So she rather hurt and distrust other men . Either looks or lies 😢
If you didn’t learn something or get an introspection from this interview then you’re the problem
No hun, that's NOT what it means. It means that free thinking people have made their OWN minds up. It's great to listen to a perspective, however that perspective and any objection to it CAN exist in same reality.
Yall didn’t even hear nothing they said… Trans people aren’t tricking anybody. “Cis” Ppl love to pick certain parts of what a trans person says and use it to justify their own personal narrative. Ya’ll love and live to say that a trans woman or person still and always looks like their birth sex, so how are so many people being “tricked”?? People are always told when it’s safe to do so is what she said.
I think YOU need to go back & watch the full interview! She said she wouldn’t tell them she was Trans for the first 2 dates or even BEFORE kissing straight men! That’s is the very definition of tricking someone, especially if that person is under the impression that she’s born a woman. The man didn’t have a choice in the matter until “She” felt comfortable telling the man!
A straight man is straight because he likes women and is specifically ONLY interested in pursing someone with an innate vagina. Therefore, not telling a man you’re trans is tricking them. Also, biological women are not cis women they are simply women. Biological women don’t refer to themselves as cis they know and understand they are female, and have the ability to give birth, but transgender women need to explain they’re trans to men.
@@KnowWhat bye, just cause you go on a date with someone doesn’t account for tricking. Women get taken on dates that end up not going well regardless. A date is to get to know someone more which is why you take someone out to figure out who they are as a person.
@@KnowWhat the kissing thing i don’t agree with. I watched the full interview and you just trying to use a play on her words
@@tianaamourr I didn’t play on any words! I repeated verbatim what he said! You can deny the facts all you want BUT go ask straight men if they’d want to be seen kissing a trans man in public without their knowledge! Play with your life if you want but stats show why trans community receive so much violence from
straight men! 🤷🏽♀️
Im not your "CIS."
Gilda had a great head of hair.
Okay cis
Don't gaslight us, the issue with chess has to do with representation in the game. It is NOT about brain Power. Males have representation. Stop the lies.
You are insulting women non-stop.
People take a lot for granted….. EVERYBODY TAKES RISK when meeting and starting relationships with people!!!!! Trans Cis Het Gay it don’t matter. What’s your HIV status.. people don’t ask that on first dates even if they sleep together… what’s your credit score…. Did you graduate high school. She’s right. Meeting strangers and building a relationship or engaging with the sexually is A RISK period
They should tell you of the have HIV
Dude what are you on about? If you have a STI it's expected you reveal before sex. Dating is going to lead to sex eventually so you need to disclose that stuff soon.
BE FRFR- this is why ppl crash out on ppl! You cannot play with A MAN who is Heterosexual and and portray yourself as a BIOLOGICAL WOMAN based off appearance but in fact you’re TRANS. Let’s be foreal! Say this sh!t UPFRONT- stop playing with your life and his-
You know it's a crime to not reveal having STI's before engaging in sex, right? Also, why would anyone go on a date with someone and try to build a relationship when they aren't sure that person even accepts who they are?
Soooo if the man told you on the first, second date or the initial phone call setting up the date that he wanted kids………would you be honest then
That is not fair! Do not kiss, touch, fondle a heterosexual sexual man without telling him first! Let him choose! Otherwise, the consequences can be severe!
Notice she never brought up the mans choice.