Identity Discovery: Letting Go of the False Self
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ก.ค. 2024
- When we learn to become stronger in who we are, we have to confront the false self, the many ways we relate to the world that is not the real us. To embrace who we are, we have to let go of who we are NOT.
The false self is a who we are NOT, but it's what we use to feel safe when we have not been validated in our true identity. It’s how we gain attention, validation, acceptance, belonging and approval.
So many live with a false self for so long they do not know who the real person is. We rely on these masks, but they train us to live as posers, disconnected to the beauty of who we really are.
The false self keeps us from authentically connecting with God.
So even when we attempt to connect with God, we have certain false things we put on to try to make that connection happen.
in this video, I will share the types of false self we often carry, why we carry them and what we can do to embrace healing and discovering who we really are.
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I find the "I'm good" to be more of a "I don't have the energy to tell you everything I am struggling with just for you to give me a blank stare and have no answers." After searching for answers for years you get tired of repeating yourself in hopes of getting help only to get nothing. You start to settle in and just accept there is no help so you adopt the "I'm good" to avoid another hope crushing experience.
I feel this so much.
Yes, perfect explanation. I'm trying to tell myself, I owe it to myself to speak the truth even if the person doesn't understand or care. I'm also reminding myself not to expect them to
Mark I am speechless again over this teaching. I really thank God for your heart and him using you to explain His love for those of us who have been ravished by false teachings of feeling we are nothing to God. This teaching is one I truly treasure, saved and downloaded to my phone. Blessings 🙂
This is confirming so much. Number 4 was me for a very long time. The last few years I have had to let go. I have felt a bit lost without helping everyone, the feeling good about helping others was my way to have worth and avoiding my own hurt. I am facing that I need help in some areas now, it is scary and vulnerable. The busy has been and is still a cycle that needs to be broken more fully. So easy to do. It is a socially acceptable way of avoiding what hurts but time is passing quickly and I want to be whole. Thank you Mark for explaining so well 😊
knowing our true identity in Christ and trusting Him is also very helpful to let go .. I know I helped others (mostly) only because it was what I needed to feel good .. why didn't I feel good in the first place? not trusting God, being angry with Him, but I go to Him now when I doubt.
@@NarrowGateFriends yes so true. Learning to be a child of God first. That takes time and honesty in the areas of brokenness. For me a life time journey but more at ease with that now. Not in such a hurry 😊
Wow I have been all of these at one point in my 23 years of living 😢 but by the grace of God, my eyes were opened earlier this month and I'm ready for a journey of healing
Was born into and abused to near death by a pure ego false self for 39 years, just waking up at 40. 90% of the illusions (car etc.) fell away shortly after I was discarded. When you're that wounded all you want to do is fill that void with stuff thinking that's the fix. Healing yourself is the only way.
This video has made me feel like I've never been a Christian a day in my life.😪🤦🏼♂️
Im gonna need a miracle els I wont live through all of this "fixing" process. 👋🏻😪😪😪🤦🏼♂️😖
The decades of damage has dried out my spirit and drained me to complete exhaustion. 😭😭
That’s just a mind story you’ve always been perfect and every way you just here to experience and play
Same
You are exactly where I'm at. You are a true treasure my friend! God has exposed me to your teachings and for that, I'm truly grateful. So grateful.
I have been gettin many visions of myself as a child. It’s a tender child. Thanks Mark.
When I discovered when I unmasked the fall self that I am the way I am the truth father and I are one the mother and the father and I are one. I am the life force energy that creates worlds. I am having a live experience as a human as consciousness💗
I don’t understand why you don’t have a million subscribers and views! This is amazing
Thank you so much for this so real broadcast! It is setting me free from years of personal and bloodline negativities. Glad to be me!!
That excites my heart to know that. So good!
Thank you so much for this. I recently started watching your content and it's been eye-opening. When you were talking about the knowledge overloader I immediately knew that you were talking about me. Ever since I got saved I have been consuming a lot of content but I don't think I've really taken the time to to soak it in. I've been watching video after video and I write down notes but I still feel like there's a missing piece. I also must add that I'm an intellectual. For the longest time, I have validated my worth based on how "intelligent" I look/seem. I feel that without my so-called "intelligence" I'm nothing. I also have OCD, I tend to question things. A LOT. I found your content on OCD extremely useful and eye-opening as well. All this to say, I have a long way to go in learning how to just receive love from God without wondering if I'm doing it right, if there's a method i can use to determine how exactly I'm supposed to do it (yes, I spend a lot of time in my mind). But thank you so much once again, your content is helping me become aware of some of these patterns I'm stuck in.
I looked at the list and was like i know im not"good" and then when you spoke on it God reminded me of a very hard day where instead of leaning on him i kept telling myself "im fine, its fine, everythings fine." Until i stopped crying. Im only 3 minutes in.
This was awesome 👏🏾 👏🏾👏🏾
Let go of the false self and walk into grace! Wowwwwww 👏🏾👏🏾❤️❤️
In agreement with this whole message and 2 corinthians 5:17, 2 corinthians 6:14-15, matthew 6:24, 1 John 3:10 I loosen myself, my family, my friends, my colleagues, my neighbours, my acquaintances, my opponents and the body of Christ of every false self, while binding every unequal yoke and common share with those carrying a false self, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
Anyone else watching this with an open mind, He talks about knowledge and realising how many of Marks videos you have seen the last three weeks? Busted! Made me laugh thou. Oh well, my journey has just begun. God bless you, Mark
Thank you. 🙏🏻💖
I realised how much I am behaviour focused.😢 I even become medical student. Oh my goodness.
Behaviour←Identity←Father God's Love
Just now watching this & I can see me all over the place when you talk about fixing yourself, getting your act together etc. This is really really helpful!! Thank you yet again Mark for making these videos! Such a gift!! 🙂🙏
Glad it was helpful!
This is precious! Amen!
I love how you explain it so that someone can understand. people that are prideful and judgemental experience a few/all these symptoms. You can't open up to everyone some people gossip, are nosy, judgmental, or use it against you. I'm learning to trust God it is not easy for me because I'm thinking he is just like people. I'm learning about his love for me, his character, spend time with him in prayer and Word. I learn how can I get to know him if I don't talk to him or open the book it is just like how you get to know someone else. We need to know our identity in Christ. We can't let other opinions dictate our values. Some people don't like themselves, deal with insecurities project their insecurities onto you.
Thanks!
Mark I have a little bit of all those catagories in my life.pray for me brother.im tired of wearing masks.i want to be a mask off christian not hiding things I struggle w I want authentic relationship w Jesus christ.i appreciate your prayers
Also, I’d like to add that the false self is created from a negative emotional blueprint, which is all the thoughts, ideas, emotions, feelings, and experiences that are trying to tell you who you are not… they all come from the mind from the subconscious that is who you are not you are the consciousness that sees that
One can't help thinking that the rise in identity politics that started in Marxist academic circles and has now spread throughout our institutions has gained so much ground because of the internet generation's loss of connection with their innermost soul 😕
I don't know if I can get over the past pain as it has always lingered.
I've been at most of these I married way too young I remember crying when I was in my 20's when I was talking to some girl friends because I said I wish I could just be myself they asked me why I can't be myself I said because he wouldn't like me I didn't even know who I was I felt insecure and constantly invalidated and never enough
I felt that so deep
How are you doing now ?
I'm not going to lie I was every one of those 10 before I Fell From Grace so this explains to me why I Fell From Grace, I think I finally have something to pinpoint. I became that way because if they caught you in sin they would shame you and persecute you. I tried to share a sin with someone in the church one time, she was my friend for a long time but she freaked out and never talked to me again ): as far as; why the false self? All 5 of them, the church did to people. And these people were the busiest people I had ever met, they were at church all the time so I somehow got so mixed up in it that I out did them all. I did everything they did but I went even farther, I almost lived at the church and put more hours in than anyone, maybe not as much as the pastor because he got calls day and night. I even became the best Bible scholar and had not gone to their college's. Now I can barely remember a single word ): if I would have had you as a teacher before, maybe I wouldn't have made that mistake because there was many things I new that was wrong that they did, that I did not participate in but when it came to studying and keeping very busy, I topped them all ): if you belong to a church like this and you are involved deeply it's to hard to let it all go because of the shame you would experience, I had to leave my church to be able to let go. I was involved with everything me stopping would have been a big deal to people and I would have been shunned if I would have gone thru what I have been going thru for 3 years now in the church. I would not be able to be free if I didn't but I miss being involved still and I know I'm not able to find a new church until I feel mentally able to handle it because most church's would have no clue how to help me. But this video dose help me because you pinpointed my problem and I felt you talking about God's love all the time was a bit sappy because I wasn't a 100% sure that God wanted that for people that He wants people to see they are sinners but than I feel condemned all over because I would battle with grace and law all over again. This is an eye opener for me and I hope I fix more of my mind with this information.
Hang in there!
He's got you!
Omg this is soooooo meaty. Definitely have to listen multiple times. THANK YOU MARK!
Thank you for making this video, God is definitely working in and through you. I am being so blessed by your videos. God bless you and your family.
Thank you SO much for this!! I just feel so blessed and thank God to have found your videos-you speak the language of so many and are really paving the way for healing, understanding and Christian relational counseling for future generations 🙏🏻
I just started reading your book The Heart Healing Journey! So good👍 👏 Another great video!
This is SO good!! Thank you!!
Thank you for making/sharing this.
Started the recommended "Experiencing" audiobook. The section on adoption seems particularly useful; the checklist starting chapter five made things clear - there is absence-of (sometimes called neglect), then there is inversion-of (often called abuse). In a moment of prayer I was directed to music, and an implied signal words & the brain need to be subordinated to . . . experience-in, at least in . . . this-stage for this-personailty profile.
Thanks again for the lighthouse endeavors, always on, always marking the shoreline & nearby harbor. 🌱
Omg ,you hit right in center with this informations ❤
Amazing! I love it! God is so good 😌
Thank you! That is so liberating.
So important 🙏I thank our lord for your ministry. Thank you, Jesus, fo your grace and your love ❤ Your love has changed my life.. Blessings
Wonderful teaching and just at the right time for me and my care group. Thank you.
Wow. This is amazing. Me to the T.
Thanks so much Mark.
That achiever makes a ton of sense. I as an achiever to think that if i dont have these things " im not succeeding" or i can have fullfillment which these things are false. I dont need to go after everything all the time that my partner is having or doing in his life, thats his own path
So awesome!
Thank you so much, Mark.
Awesome truths
I appreciate this video is really good I might watch it again . Is really good.
Unreal video thanks for sharing 🙏
Wow this is Good Thank U i need this
Yep Number 4 is me too. Co-dependent for most of my life and hard to break out of this identity. Being aware is the only way and trying to sit back and not do it all for everyone. It is a very lonely way to be because no one seems to look out for you as they think that you are perfect and don't need anyone else.
Thanks Mark, I am feeling relieved already...not in a sinful way but I am OK in The Lord..I think I could relate to seven or eight of yr Nine topics..LOL... yep.. A ways to go but one step begins the journey...thank you and blessings to u and yr family...
Thank you
Thank you Mark, This is confirmation for me in my journey. You are so anointed. God bless you.
So when it gets overwhelming and I fee likel iam loosing it simply lean into it.. yep got it. Because in reality Our Father has our backs and fronts and sides and all the little bits in between.. hallelujah
Damnn this video is eye opening
Wow
🩵 Thank Y😇u Mark Again for letting Father Speak Through You🌅That lS Just The PERFECT timing As A l w a y s Comming through From The Fathers Everpresent💜Divine🪷L🤍v e🙏
I don’t know what to do, I saw in the spiritual realm where my sister had a marine spirit and put a dark spirit on me of herself (her false self). Ever since then everything was stolen from me and I died and spiritually became her. I no longer know who I am. I was abused by my whole family, including my sister!
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I give myself permission to take the journey.
I am 4,5,6,7, and 9
I want to let go!!!
I kept trying to show love to my mother, she can't receive that love.
IS all this included in the book?
4 and 5
Is this valid for the False Self of narcissistic people?
Is it bad that I’ve had almost all of them 😅
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When we and not dealing well with all these issues and what is effecting our accepting receiving activating given and giving...
And letting go issues when it has more like a hold on you not you holding it 🥺...
Help us all true loving God source Spirit Creator and Christ winning and within and with us all...
And my issues with trying and not trying not caring and not actually really trying to do anything to make better changes etc... or what also seems like lazyness addiction and a heart of love issues...
and also using the excuses to be bad and act badly too 🤔? In our true self when fallen 🥺💚❤️🩹
And ist painful or really hard to let go when it's a big part of you (no wonder it's more like we all need to be reborn and cleansed not just not be cut off and let go...)
and trying to be somebody?(what if your not trying to be somebody too?) And other belief issues do want the pressure to be off of you and all in the hand of God and Christ that is in and within us all... Not what we do but what Christ has done and does through us all...
And what is that really to be yourself? But in Christ and who the true loving God source Spirit Creator in us and with with us God created us to be...
And wish none of us were failing any test and being made good improve towards the positive characteristics energies in Christ and the love we need and should be receiving accepting receiving given giving activiated spirit energies in this love...
my false/self true self issues Where I have "made" my self so bad or messed up in my beliefs and growths with myself and other that God has placed in my life to live and I still the one who's gone bad crazy and made with issues and beliefs in Christ/the true loving God source Spirit Creator and in how others wanted me to be in following the same religion/beliefs issues or in my duities roles that is what I should be doing with and with Christ and Holy spirit charateristic energies within me and us all be winning within us all. And our true self in Christ higher mind 🧠❤️🩹💚🔯🌕🌅🪔🕊️
And can you only give real love if you have accepted and recieved it and to activate the spirit within us... So wish none of us were failing or having issues blocking the flow of receiving accepting and believing given giving in love of Christ and the true loving God source Spirit Creator and not falling away negatively and not giving up issues and to continue forwards and towards well together with the true loving God source Spirit Creator in and with us all.
Thanks for your explaination. Thebinlybthing: why you only talk aboutvthe "son" And "farher" This is polarising. I am a dauther not a son and o got a MOTHER.
A month or so ago I mentioned in a live stream that I was using the keep busy tactic to avoid a toxic person that I had met at church. In a subsequent video you mentioned that avoidance isn't healthy and stressed creating healthy boundaries. The little local church had a membership class. I went and it was her, an old lady, the preacher, the layman and myself. This woman was all about how I was going to come to her house and basically be her hero. I said to her, I don't know what you have going on in your house but through prayer I was told that I am NOT to come to your house unless I bring someone with me to maintain an air of purity. She said she didn't want any strangers in her house. I said that works for me because I don't really know anyone cuz I'm new to being back in the canyon and I didn't want to be involved in whatever she had going on. I didn't know that the church had already done a Biblical reproof on her. She was at church one more time after that and I haven't seen or heard from her in at least three weeks. I suspect they reproofed her again for wearing skirts that were so short her undergarments were showing. With that issue I asked the preacher if I could reproof her on the spot if she did it again and throw a lap blanket on her, they said yes.
Thank you for all that you do. Love from Montana.
PS the population where I'm at is under 550 according to google.
Can I really get rid of my false self?
As😊
I have trouble receiving love.
I'm 5
i am at 4
Do you recommend meditation to empty the mind of false self?
Why aren't churches teaching this?
I ask myself this often.
To keep a job you must be a false self, dedicated false self at that or you will be shunned and terminated.
I didn't realize you were into psychology.
christian after reading hindu religion : - adapt improvise overcome ....
Yes fixer ,server
Can't believe how many nails on the head you're hitting.
this guy is so scary
This video is triggering lol
With all due respect, supplanting one delusion for another is lazy and just wrong. If you are a scientist, it becomes sinister, you should know better.