An issue I have noticed with a lot of friendship fall outs is the quickness to cut off. There is no communication or attempt to ammend. There is little effort. However, when it comes to romantic relationships, there are many chances and opportunities to explain and communicate. As women, we need to work on this if we truly desire a sisterhood.
Hey friend that is so true. I used to be like that. Before I our friendship end I did reach out apologize, and try to make amends. However we’ve outgrown each other and that’s okay. But There’s so many women who would forgive men a million times over their friends and that’s not cool I’m truly seeking sister hood that’s why I’m asking God to soften my heart and allow me to be the sister I want
I didn’t have bridesmaids. My “friends” were just close to me in proximity. I was the backup friend. Now, I realize that I deserve better. I’ll wait for my tribe. Friendship should be mutual, not one way. I will belong, not just tolerated.
Hey friend ❤️ you could’ve said this any more perfect. As someone who was also the back up friend, I’m glad I caught it early in life. So now I know how to move, analyze and communicate properly. Friendships should definitely not be one sided and no one should feel how we felt. Period
I am so proud of the toxic relationships I outgrew. Becoming my own best friend was worth it. Plus I got u guys. My internet besties who can always relate. ❤❤ new sub
@ You’re welcome and when you are married it’s really hard to deal with single women who often think that you think that you are better than them 😩 or they don’t respect your marriage and want you to go out and do disrespectful things. May God bless your union, and keep staying to yourself! Hopefully you will find someone who understands your needs and will treat you like a good friend as well!
@ hey boo! I’m so happy that I’m not alone in this I definitely want to work on falling in love more with myself and I also want to learn to be accepting of the new friendships that comes my way Take some time to self reflect. Try solo dates and girlalala things 🤣💕💅🏽
@@KeysLouise98i’m turning 29 and i’m falling in love with that too. too many of my female friends have been jealous or can’t control their mouth or emotions
your points are valid !!! i’ve had about 8 hard betrayals from women and i no longer trust women but i would have liked to have a sisterhood and some bridesmaids
Hey friend ❤️ I’m sorry you went though that. I understand how you feel about a friendship betrayal, it honestly sucks… on the bright side we have more than enough time to build sisterhood with genuine women
Great video. Overall, remember that what we see on social media is often fake. For example, my former friend had a picture perfect wedding and I was a bridesmaid. But behind the scenes things were toxic. I became a bridesmaid because my friend had a falling out with her bestie after she found out that her fiancé was video chatting with her (and bestie was naked). Now most of the bridesmaids are no longer friends with the bride because we got tired of putting up with her man who tries to cheat on her with any woman who walks (including us)
Wow! That was definitely eye opening. I don’t wish that type of relationship & friendship on anyone. Comparison is a thief of joy, but I strongly believe there’s some good people out there I haven’t met yet
You're still so young and will have opportunities to make friends. I think it's great that you're focused on your romantic relationship and your career. You'll hopefully meet genuine people throughout life and ones who don't have loose lips
Hey friend ❤ I needed to see this. Thank you for your kinds words. I feel I am at that age where that should be my top priorities and everything else would fall into place. And I’m hoping I don’t run into anyone with loose lips 😂
you don't have to outgrow people. It sounds like you lack the ability to set boundaries. HEALTHY people have long-term relationships. You can't just expect people to treat you the way that you want them to treat you. You have to tell them. If someone is doing something you don't like, sit down and tell them that they are hurting your feelings and that you don't like when they treat you that way. Everyone goes through these things in all relationships. Healthy people know how to communicate their needs in a healthy and respectful way. This is something that you need to learn. You need to go to therapy. Relationships and friends are very important. You also are not old, 25 is very young. There's no reasons for you to feel like you need to be in the house early unless you genuinely don't like going out. People don't read minds. Everybody on the planet has. bad days and can be disrespectful. You should learn to have grace and set boundaries when you feel disrespected. If and when someone doesn't respect your boundaries, that is when you end the relationship love.
@@KajDiarra I've been through similar things. Feeling old, when I was really young, and losing long-term friendships because I lacked communication skills, didn't know how to set boundaries, and lacked the ability to give grace to people. I'm just slightly older than you, but I've been in therapy for years and learned all of this through a great therapist. Hope this was helpful. It's never too late to try to go back and make things right if that's still an option for you. I wish you well.
An issue I have noticed with a lot of friendship fall outs is the quickness to cut off. There is no communication or attempt to ammend. There is little effort. However, when it comes to romantic relationships, there are many chances and opportunities to explain and communicate. As women, we need to work on this if we truly desire a sisterhood.
Hey friend that is so true. I used to be like that. Before I our friendship end I did reach out apologize, and try to make amends. However we’ve outgrown each other and that’s okay.
But
There’s so many women who would forgive men a million times over their friends and that’s not cool
I’m truly seeking sister hood that’s why I’m asking God to soften my heart and allow me to be the sister I want
I didn’t have bridesmaids. My “friends” were just close to me in proximity. I was the backup friend. Now, I realize that I deserve better. I’ll wait for my tribe. Friendship should be mutual, not one way. I will belong, not just tolerated.
Hey friend ❤️ you could’ve said this any more perfect. As someone who was also the back up friend, I’m glad I caught it early in life. So now I know how to move, analyze and communicate properly. Friendships should definitely not be one sided and no one should feel how we felt. Period
I am so proud of the toxic relationships I outgrew. Becoming my own best friend was worth it. Plus I got u guys. My internet besties who can always relate. ❤❤ new sub
Out growing people means you have GROWN🌱🌱🌱🌱🌱💚💚💚💚💚
Hey friend❤ thank you for this! This is the realist quote ever. I definitely have grown so much
@ You’re welcome and when you are married it’s really hard to deal with single women who often think that you think that you are better than them 😩 or they don’t respect your marriage and want you to go out and do disrespectful things. May God bless your union, and keep staying to yourself! Hopefully you will find someone who understands your needs and will treat you like a good friend as well!
Hi Queen as a New Subscriber I am happy to learn that you take responsibility for the lack of friends you have …
Hi friends, if you have no friends in 2025 let’s gather here 👇 we got each other ❤
26 in the same boat and I’ve been falling in love with being by myself 💕
@ hey boo! I’m so happy that I’m not alone in this I definitely want to work on falling in love more with myself and I also want to learn to be accepting of the new friendships that comes my way
Take some time to self reflect. Try solo dates and girlalala things 🤣💕💅🏽
Me ❤
@@KeysLouise98i’m turning 29 and i’m falling in love with that too. too many of my female friends have been jealous or can’t control their mouth or emotions
your points are valid !!! i’ve had about 8 hard betrayals from women and i no longer trust women but i would have liked to have a sisterhood and some bridesmaids
Hey friend ❤️ I’m sorry you went though that. I understand how you feel about a friendship betrayal, it honestly sucks… on the bright side we have more than enough time to build sisterhood with genuine women
How did you feel about not having bridesmaids? Did it bother you on your big day or were you at peace with it
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Great video. Overall, remember that what we see on social media is often fake. For example, my former friend had a picture perfect wedding and I was a bridesmaid. But behind the scenes things were toxic. I became a bridesmaid because my friend had a falling out with her bestie after she found out that her fiancé was video chatting with her (and bestie was naked). Now most of the bridesmaids are no longer friends with the bride because we got tired of putting up with her man who tries to cheat on her with any woman who walks (including us)
Wow! That was definitely eye opening. I don’t wish that type of relationship & friendship on anyone. Comparison is a thief of joy, but I strongly believe there’s some good people out there I haven’t met yet
You're still so young and will have opportunities to make friends. I think it's great that you're focused on your romantic relationship and your career. You'll hopefully meet genuine people throughout life and ones who don't have loose lips
Hey friend ❤ I needed to see this. Thank you for your kinds words. I feel I am at that age where that should be my top priorities and everything else would fall into place.
And I’m hoping I don’t run into anyone with loose lips 😂
you don't have to outgrow people. It sounds like you lack the ability to set boundaries. HEALTHY people have long-term relationships. You can't just expect people to treat you the way that you want them to treat you. You have to tell them. If someone is doing something you don't like, sit down and tell them that they are hurting your feelings and that you don't like when they treat you that way. Everyone goes through these things in all relationships. Healthy people know how to communicate their needs in a healthy and respectful way. This is something that you need to learn. You need to go to therapy. Relationships and friends are very important. You also are not old, 25 is very young. There's no reasons for you to feel like you need to be in the house early unless you genuinely don't like going out.
People don't read minds. Everybody on the planet has. bad days and can be disrespectful. You should learn to have grace and set boundaries when you feel disrespected. If and when someone doesn't respect your boundaries, that is when you end the relationship love.
Thank you for your opinion ❤️
@@KajDiarra I've been through similar things. Feeling old, when I was really young, and losing long-term friendships because I lacked communication skills, didn't know how to set boundaries, and lacked the ability to give grace to people. I'm just slightly older than you, but I've been in therapy for years and learned all of this through a great therapist. Hope this was helpful. It's never too late to try to go back and make things right if that's still an option for you. I wish you well.
@ thank you so much for sharing this wisdom with me, much appreciated