I just realised I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. The smear campaigns, the gas lighting and the distorting reality all happened to me. I have been blaming myself for everything. I thought I was going insane.
I really liked this email, coach. I really liked the length of it and how much into detail you went. You also are right about watching every video, regardless of the title. For instance, this video really helped me REALIZE that I have not been able to forget this woman that is married and was having an affair with me, because of similar traits her and my parents share!! After two months of watching your videos EVERY SINGLE DAY, I finally realized why it has been so hard to let go of her! Btw, I been in no contact for all that time, thanks to your videos. Ever since she asked for space two months ago, I gave it to her and she then delivered the next via a stupid text. She was moving on and can't see me like before. I am still hurting and I know, I should not have gotten with a married woman. The thing is, when we first started, I was not in love with her. 10 months into the affair, I started having feelings for her and during the 11th and 12th month, she started fading away and finally put a stop to it. Now, I realize why it has been so difficult to let her go! Thank you!
Ha 3 months... i had a guy want to take me on a date, we have never met... live in different states (4 hrs apart) and he told me we were perfect for each other and he had the feeling we would work out great.... anxious attachment style or crazy coming on strong avoidant... my thought... "you dont even know me? How can you say we are perfect for each other... your projecting you wants and desires on me" ... i told him we wouldnt work out (he gives my avoidance sooo much anxiety). 😱 My normal avoidant self would have ghosted this guy typically... im happy to say i have improved 100 fold these past few years. Regardless of how people make me feel they still deserve respect and honest feedback.
Craig says,"you care about her until you know she cares about you and then you don't care about her anymore." Isn't that the same as when you tell a guy not to show interest in a woman so she thinks you are not interested and then her anxiety goes up along with her interest? Which is what the guy wants. Whatever happened to truth? Why do we have to play these stupid games?
no one is making you play games. If people don't like this method, they can always look for other methods which in result pushing their ex away OR they can think about if the person is worth all this effort. It's not games either, it happens whether people follow Greg's advice or not. Most people (depending on the relationship) will miss good memories you cannot recreate once the ex is out of the picture. "No one cared for me as much as this person." "No one put up with me as much as this person." So on so forth.
Even if he was flirting and texting other girls it was wrong for her to get violent. She doesn't need to be in a relationship with anyone right now. She needs therapy ASAP
Omg you are right my ex gril have all these symptoms reason why father and mum were separate she was her dad was never with her until she become 13 And that’s exactly how she was reacting acting oh my God I can’t believe it he just described my ex and also im on the no contact Process by the way
this sounds like my ex..he loved that push and pull of controlling someone's emotions. He wanted his cake and eat it too and very manipulative. No I never punched him in the face but I should have..lol He was gaslighting me and emotionally abusive to me. I wish I knew this info and I made the mistake of getting g back together with him again and it was worse. Really think hes a narcissist and I'm doing the work on myself to regain my life.
Fantastic informative and enlightening Craig. Thank you. Could you please explain how to resolve/ heal unresolved childhood attachment traumas...you mentioned therapy... any other solutions.CheersGeorgina
I've been seeing someone with trauma for the past 2 months but I never really saw it till this past weekend. Gave her a hug goodnight and she flipped out on me and hasn't contacted me in 3 days. She told me about it, but I never saw it. I forget she has it because she's fine when we've gotten together. She told me she was going through things the past couope weeks. I just feel so bad. I texted her to see what was going on but it seems she doesn't want to talk to me. She is seeing a therapist however.
“They moved in together after a month, what could go wrong” 😂
Exactly!
What you said about women that were abused was beautiful.
Thanks :)
You touched my cold dead heart with those comments about survivors of sexual abuse, thank you.
Kirsty S how is your heart feeling now? 💖🙂
Cold dead heart my ex used these words and I don’t get these terms?
I just realised I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. The smear campaigns, the gas lighting and the distorting reality all happened to me.
I have been blaming myself for everything. I thought I was going insane.
"Baby I love you so much I'm going to just kick my own ass"
dying of laughter
How does this not have that many likes? I just ran into this video and it's is super informative!
I really liked this email, coach. I really liked the length of it and how much into detail you went. You also are right about watching every video, regardless of the title. For instance, this video really helped me REALIZE that I have not been able to forget this woman that is married and was having an affair with me, because of similar traits her and my parents share!! After two months of watching your videos EVERY SINGLE DAY, I finally realized why it has been so hard to let go of her! Btw, I been in no contact for all that time, thanks to your videos. Ever since she asked for space two months ago, I gave it to her and she then delivered the next via a stupid text. She was moving on and can't see me like before. I am still hurting and I know, I should not have gotten with a married woman. The thing is, when we first started, I was not in love with her. 10 months into the affair, I started having feelings for her and during the 11th and 12th month, she started fading away and finally put a stop to it. Now, I realize why it has been so difficult to let her go! Thank you!
each video of yours Craig are amazing, i am learning a lot about myself and about my ex as well. thank u so so much. You are very very helpful.
Ha 3 months... i had a guy want to take me on a date, we have never met... live in different states (4 hrs apart) and he told me we were perfect for each other and he had the feeling we would work out great.... anxious attachment style or crazy coming on strong avoidant... my thought... "you dont even know me? How can you say we are perfect for each other... your projecting you wants and desires on me" ... i told him we wouldnt work out (he gives my avoidance sooo much anxiety). 😱
My normal avoidant self would have ghosted this guy typically... im happy to say i have improved 100 fold these past few years. Regardless of how people make me feel they still deserve respect and honest feedback.
Craig says,"you care about her until you know she cares about you and then you don't care about her anymore." Isn't that the same as when you tell a guy not to show interest in a woman so she thinks you are not interested and then her anxiety goes up along with her interest? Which is what the guy wants. Whatever happened to truth? Why do we have to play these stupid games?
no one is making you play games. If people don't like this method, they can always look for other methods which in result pushing their ex away OR they can think about if the person is worth all this effort. It's not games either, it happens whether people follow Greg's advice or not. Most people (depending on the relationship) will miss good memories you cannot recreate once the ex is out of the picture. "No one cared for me as much as this person." "No one put up with me as much as this person." So on so forth.
Forgiveness is strength of character, if there is no forgiveness I believe their is poor character .
hopefully this girl is doing better and realized she doesn't need to put up with this guy.
Even if he was flirting and texting other girls it was wrong for her to get violent. She doesn't need to be in a relationship with anyone right now. She needs therapy ASAP
I would take this girl on in a heartbeat, I would look after her.
That shows anxious attachment. You don’t know her from a hole in the wall.
So for the Avoidant Guy, he must reach out to the girl to fix it? And he must show that he is now serious?
He's NPD. His behavior sounds similar to a chiropractor I dated once who is a total NPD. Except I don't drink and I didn't punch, lol
Excellent analysis, Craig! You stand out from all other therapies! I'm looking for the follow up video of that you mentioned. Which one is it?
Omg you are right my ex gril have all these symptoms reason why father and mum were separate she was her dad was never with her until she become 13 And that’s exactly how she was reacting acting oh my God I can’t believe it he just described my ex and also im on the no contact Process by the way
Yes yes yes I love your long videos and I loved the contents of this email, it was truly helpful
this sounds like my ex..he loved that push and pull of controlling someone's emotions. He wanted his cake and eat it too and very manipulative.
No I never punched him in the face but I should have..lol
He was gaslighting me and emotionally abusive to me.
I wish I knew this info and I made the mistake of getting g back together with him again and it was worse. Really think hes a narcissist and I'm doing the work on myself to regain my life.
Fantastic informative and enlightening Craig. Thank you. Could you please explain how to resolve/ heal unresolved childhood attachment traumas...you mentioned therapy... any other solutions.CheersGeorgina
I've been seeing someone with trauma for the past 2 months but I never really saw it till this past weekend. Gave her a hug goodnight and she flipped out on me and hasn't contacted me in 3 days. She told me about it, but I never saw it. I forget she has it because she's fine when we've gotten together. She told me she was going through things the past couope weeks. I just feel so bad. I texted her to see what was going on but it seems she doesn't want to talk to me. She is seeing a therapist however.
Absolutely brilliant video, helped me a lot, thank you
This one has helped me so much!
i was diagnosed with ptsd, before my divorce... now i refuse to get married again.
me too💔
absolutely outstanding Craig
This video was so insightful . watched twice
Craig is amazing
How do I fix it. I have tried for 4 yrs. But I messed up an 8 yr relationship with the perfect woman. I can't fix my issues
Fantastic job
What's the difference between behavior's and traits?
I punched myself in the face lol
15:31
Omgg lol wow this was so intense but so good and super enlightening
This one should be in the Playlist for Women
I think the guy freaked out because this lady might commit suicide, that's the reason. It's not a separation anxiety.
she took on beating herself up literally.. don't beat yourselves up
Although I don't condone it, my gut tells me: reactive abuse
awesome😎
Narcissist and empath?