An Introvert Tries Learning from an Extrovert
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- About a third of all people are introverts, which means they spend more energy being around other people than they get, and often prefer introspective alone time to being the life of the party around other people.
In this video we discuss what extroverts can learn from introverts, and what extrovert methods they can apply in situations where being more extroverted may come in handy.
We'll be doing a follow up on this discussing what extroverts can learn from introverts soon!
Hope you enjoyed it!
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Hey all - thought we'd see what introverts can potentially learn from extroverts - please feel free to share your own experiences and advice! We'll be doing "what an extrovert can learn from an introvert" next ;)
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💕 from India nd I'm introvert 😔
Love you girls!! 💖💖😘
Hey, here is a tip for starting a conversation with someone from a fellow extrovert. Ask them for recomendations of things they could be passionate about.
For example a employee at a record store will most likely love to chat about their favorite artist/genre. A person you met at a rave could give you names of other parties/ clubs and why they liked / disliked them.
In general people like to help and share their interest:)
So true - Great tip! Thanks for sharing! 😊
@@AlexisLilian Yeah of course ^^ Thank you for making great content :)
I'm an introvert and comfortable in my skin. Introverts are called loners for a reason. For me, I have no problem being alone because I never feel lonely. I definitely do not need people for energy. Great video! Loved it.
I’m Brazilian and an introvert and that’s quite a struggle 😂 my culture is made for the extroverts to thrive. When I went to Europe I felt at peace because I could just be silent and never speak, and no one would point that out 😅 maybe Alexis would like it here, I know for a fact that Brazilians would LOVE her energy.
This is exactly what I want!! I wish there was community of extroverts who teach us introvert how they would react to different situations that we introvert find awkward
As an introvert, I think the example Lilian brought to the table (the writing session) relatable. I'm currently finishing my degree, and one of my professors suggest I should join a research group. So I could get more familiar with some people going through the same process I am in right now. I know that's a brilliant idea and I will be benefited from something like that, but I'm overthinking this. What if they ask me something? What if I say something silly? What if I don't know enough to be there? And more questions that are making this hard. I just hope I end up showing up. And then see how everything goes, but I'm scared. 🥺
Lillian, you express so well exactly how I feel, as a fellow introvert😊
I think I also inadvertently give off "don't approach me" vibes even though I want you to approach me haha.
"See this is how I am" lolol. I agree, I want to talk to strangers more but I overthink it!
As an introvert who is also sometimes shy, I look for someone in a social situation that is also an introvert, it is easier to start a discussion that way.
Every time I watch your videos I wonder where my adorable wife is, and wonder if that it's ever a possibility happens in this universe to me .
Wish you guys the best ♥️
Cherish each other adorable people 🧿
As a fellow introvert, I would say the biggest challenge in applying extrovert methods is to care enough to do so 😅 - it's not shyness or hesitation, very often we simply don't give a damn about the people around us to waste the energy on complimenting their outfit or coming up to chat ;)
that's not introversion, you're just arrogant.
Not only that, I run into people that blurt out random things ALL. THE. TIME. and it is SOOOO annoying, I can't even.
As an ambivert (mix of both extrovert and introvert) I related to both of you guys and loved this video! I definitely think I’m more of an introvert though bc I tend to think more before I speak and am a bit reserved.
My son is an ambivert (rs4680 GA) on the COMP gene that regulates dopamine. He's absolutely charming. I'm an introvert (rs4680 AA)--INTJ like Lillian, but if I had a choice, I'd be an ambivert for sure!
I'm an extrovert but feel highly uncomfortable in situations where I "have" to talk to people. Lillian's example of the mingle time at the workshop resonated with me because having to chat with people when it's not spontaneous is very difficult for me.
Your good news of the day: after 5+ years international long distance, my partner and I finally closed the distance a few months ago. Thank you for giving representation of a queer couple who got through it, I have so much love for you both! Also, would 1000% read a book by you, Lilian. :)
My partner is the extrovert and I’m the introvert, and we always seem to find ourselves drawn to the opposite. Do you two do the same, or are you more attracted to similar energy?
same as Lilian, my brain has gone through 20 different scenarios of how the conversation could go, most of them negative, and I talk myself right out of talking. i've genuinely been considering picking up some books to help me learn how to get around this because once you're into your 30s it really isn't fun anymore :( introversion is great because we're very self sufficient and fine on our own for the most part but I think we all have a bit of extrovert envy.
I am watching this at work an laughed out loud at your conversation at 4:40. "Oh this hot dogs' soo goooood!".. "Beautifulll Dayyy!"
LOL "any takers??" you two made the best faces, so cute
Hahaha, so cute! I laughed a lot at Lilian's scenarios of applying extrovert advice - so relatable!
NYC sounds like so much fun! I'd like to think I'm an introvert with extrovert qualities lol
I am 50/50 introvert/extrovert and I'm oK with both. Age helps ;-) Lillian I've noticed you do most of the talking on the videos, so are you SURE you're a full on introvert? Maybe it's situational?
you are like two parts of me) So nice to see you get along well!
The necklines of your tops match your personalities.
🤣🤣🤣 such a fun vlog. You guys look so happy and relaxed in nyc.
Looking forward to seeing these tested out.
I think I'm introvert but push myself to be extrovert in certain situations. I enjoy what I can learn from others. I often think people have a gift and when you talk to them for a reason this is revealed In conversation. Ie a lesson or hint to follow and same for them....
I adore you both😭
I am an introvert, like Lilian; but I am drawn to extroverts, like Alexis.
Gotta have that balance 😉 opposites attract!
Thank you for the information on the subject of introvert and extrovert.
That was a great chat!! I am also on the introvert side so I get it.
There's an excellent book about phenomen of introverts. It's called Quiet by Susan Cain. It explains why people different and makes you appreciate your introversion.
Welcome to Brooklyn!!
Lilian, can you please make a video of how you style your hair? Thanks!
You are both lovely! I hope you enjoy your time in the US 💛
Thanks for the video! 😉
Sometimes those two (an introvert and an extrovert) live inside you at the same time. You can become more extroverted over the time, that's what happened to me🙃 It's difficult for the new people to believe that I was completely another kind of person a while back🙈 However, it depends much on your today's mood, sometimes you just need to have your 'cave-time' even if you enjoy being around people :)
P.s. but still I can relate to Lilian, overthinking is a part of me🤪
P.s.2 found out in the comments there are also ambiverts! (Mix of 2)
So check out the info about it if you have both inside you😁
Love both of your energies. I really dig your style/ vibe Alexis! - if it's not too awkward, may I ask where did you get your earrings? I hope you both enjoy Brooklyn & your U.S travels! Have fun & be safe. :)
Saludos desde Mexico.....lindas personas....
Remind me of julaintina 😍
Have fun in America! Little sad you're skipping Minnesota though :(
I’m mostly an introvert, but when I do go into public settings, I become extroverted for that time. I think if I told people I was more shy and introverted, they would not believe me. Btw Lillian, you always make me laugh, so yeah, you are funny and do have a good sense of humour. Lol
Germans, I have learnt, do not like smalltalk. Perhaps in the case of Lilian this aspect of her personality is more cultural than personal.
Hey! Im curious about the type of event for writers you are commenting on. What was it about and how did you find out about it?
Lilian reminds me a lot of myself
Congratulations to RRR for winning oscar these days the Indian cinema has evolved
1) Recently I saw the film Gulmohar (2023) and it was 150% of Banshees of Inisherin (2022). Gulmohar had a lesbian couple.
2) Then I saw Telugu film Awe (2018) it was 80% of Everything Everywhere All at Once (2022). In Awe (2018) There was a lesbian couple in the imagination of Kaajal Agarwal.
3) Then I saw a webseries called Little Things, it reminded me of 1970s Woody Allen films. The writing, humor and acting of Dhruv Sehgal was just like Woody Allen.
I'm an introverted empath and my ex girlfriend is an extroverted narcissist. She tried to kill me 3 times and I have to get restraining orders
We've been broken up for 6 years and every 3 years she attempts to get me back even after I blocked her on everything. I told her No I don't want to be friends, No we can't hang out and No I don't want to get back together
I have ptsd because my ex girlfriend abused me. She hires other people like her introverted narcissist grandpa Gary (he told me that he was friends with Charles Manson) to help her stalk me and to continue abusing me because I won't talk to her
Hello!! Welcome to New York!!! Again, where is Milo??? When are you going to see Milo??? ❤❤
i relate to lilian so much! what are your MBTI types?
If you too think it would be a fun thing to do, I would love a video like 4:54 haha
Lillian,
Be free where you be.
Red Woods National Park for 48 hours.... nearest to Lake Tahoe.... WHiskey: CHivas Regal blended scotch or Couvoirsseir and ZigZag Orange..... and Gyros with Cafe' Bustello Expresso or equivalent Chia Prolly huh Lily and Miso!..... PS. Miso gets a Pepperoni and Mushroom Pizzq! yay
And write a song for me to record and sing for you and your channel ?
😍
Thanks eh!
😎😃😊😜😍😘💖
I feel so seen😺
Interesting to listen to your points of view.
I tend to make public remarks but then think why did u do that? I haven't the confidence to back up my outburst 🫣
My favorite video so far (granted, I've not seen all your videos)! The topic was interesting. The portrayal of Lillian's introvert self at the meet-up was hilarious (my introvert self totally related). I liked the educational brain study slide--look at all that dopamine the extroverts get! I hope you have a great time on your adventure here!
Great vid! Would love to see a vid where you try to put into practice 🤩 from a fellow introvert
Hola chicas!! Sumamente interesante el video del cual me siento identificada con los q somos introvertidos, tal cual lo describe, lo resumo a años de terapia, y además Altamente Sensibles; con estos rasgos vivir en este mundo es extremadamente difícil, pero se puede seguir intentando.
Me encanta su canal, Felicitaciones x la boda, bellísimo!!
Con mi pareja nos pasa lo mismo, ella extrovertida, con un gran potencial en lo profesional y lo deportivo, y yo introvertida, todo me cuesta el doble, pero siempre unidas. Las saludamos y les mandamos muchos cariños desde Argentina 🙋😘💯
I'm from Eastern Europe (Latvia) everyone is introverted here, and even extroverts do not talk, smile, etc. that much:))))) But I have experienced that there is some discrimination against introverts - introverts always are "made/encouraged" to overcome their comfort zone, but extroverts never - by sometimes not bothering people and maybe not talking to people at all. Extroverts often do not feel necessary to "read the room", they just are filling it up with themselves! But I guess it depends on the culture, in the west it is better to be extroverted, but in the east, it might be seen as rude and impolite!
Can you, please, show some NY LGBTQ things? What is your book about? Thanks!
Very Nice Video , So Beautiful 👌👌👌👌👍👍👍👍
I keep thinking of how came across you guys, I have noo idea. But all I know is I Love You Guys.❤️❤️
I’m your biggest fan all the way from South Africa.🏳️🌈🇿🇦❤️
I'm not sure whether I'm an extrovert or introvert, probably ambivert. But it's terribly awkward in London where addressing a stranger or even looking at people is akin to criminal offence XD.
Haha given my complete lack of social life I must be the most introverted person ever... and that's weird because I have no problem chatting people up, when given the chance. Perhaps then I am an extrovert exiled in London.
The unloving belong only to themselves, But the loving belong to others to their very bones.
-Thirukural.
Where are you now?
thanks for the video
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I always thought I was an introvert but I think I had the definition wrong 🤣
You both are complimentary to each.
as an introvert i can so relate!
also you both are just so freaking perfect! 💖🌸
Introverts cannot learn anything useful from extroverts though... 👅
lovely sharing... I love you guys so much. Your videos always help me and make me happy seeing you two together. may god bless.
Every extrovert person thing that introverts can't initiate talk or feel shy in public it is just we don't want our energy wasted 🤣
Funniest couple! Cool pants!!! Love you ladies❤
welcome to the states!! I promise it gets warmer eventually. Also, you guys really crack me up 😂😂
Lilian hair looks great!
You are American???
European
@@yesiamabnormal which European??
@@yesiamabnormal ???
Which European countries mam??
@@divya9951Lilian is from Germany and Alexis is from canada