Mama Doctor Jones my baby was delivered face up, and I’m so thankful that none of my nurses or drs acted like this. They were so calm and made it seem like it was normal. Until this video I had no idea it’s was a big deal. So thankful they kept Me going and made it seem normal
When I was told I had a miscarriage the doctor told me to stop crying and that I was hysterical for no reason. The nurse told me I was unreasonable and rude and needed to get it together as I had a panic attack. I learned I had been pregnant and lost my first child in the same breathe and was shamed for having emotion about it. To this day I have never gone back to that particular office and I never will. I wish I’d had a doctor like you who would’ve shown at least a shred of kindness and decency.
This ENRAGES me to read. I am so very sorry you had shitty and unprofessional medical staff. That warrants a major complaint to the hospital PR/management team, I hope you did. First of all, hospitals deal with people having panic attacks, people come in thinking they have a heart attack and it’s a legitimate clinical experience, so you had a panic attack after a totally unknown miscarriage (more than reasonable) and they weren’t capable of supporting you through it!? Man it makes me so angry!
When I had a missed miscarriage I decided to have a D/C, the day of my D/C my OBGYN walked in and said "I know this is a really hard day for you, know I'm here to take care of you." Up until that point I had felt fine honestly because I finally knew I was miscarrying (I had been in limbo for about a week not knowing because of waiting on blood work and an appointment) but after she said that I just started sobbing. She held me for the longest time and I can't tell you enough how thankful I am for that and to find and OBGYN who cares so much.
Hearing mom shouting "somebody tell me what's happening" repeatedly with no answer really brought back some feelings for me, in a different way. When I was being prepped for my RCS, my blood pressure shot way up and then dropped to the floor, and it caused the most excruciating pain in my head that I've ever experienced. I get crying and screaming "it hurts, why does it hurt, what's happening" and they refused to answer me at all. I was screaming and felt ignored. That, I cannot reconcile. It caused me even more distress, and at least someone gently telling me that it was my blood pressure and they were giving me something to help would have calmed me.
@@MamaDoctorJones It's pretty good though I feel it was ruined when they made her "lose it" to that random guy and not Michael or the baby daddy (sorry forgot his name lol) XD
I wish you had been there for the birth of my son (born to gain his wings at 21 weeks gestation). The doctor was appallingly cold and cruel from start to finish and I still have nightmares about it 21 years later.....because my memories of his birth are so horrendous it has completely taken my joy from my daughter's birth, she was a 32 weeker and arrived healthy, just a little small, 23 years ago.....some things we just cant forget and Max's birth will haunt me forever. Thank you for being such a kind and compassionate human being and doctor, those traits are not as common as they should be in doctors.
Chicago Med season 4, episode 10 is called “All the Lonely People” and it involves an emergency C-section that I think your commentary and education would be incredibly useful!
Side note: I'm really glad you mentioned breaking down in the back room as being okay. I'm a cna and whenever my patients die and I'm doing post-mortem care, I usually shed at least a few tears in the back room after the fact. If it's one of my long term patients sometimes their families will cry with you as you share stories.
Empathy is a wonderful trait and it just feels so good to know the people taking care of you or your loved ones have genuine human emotions and care. Even when it hurts and sucks and you feel bad for them too. I'm going into the funeral and death care industry as a funeral celebrant and memorial slideshow editor. I've shown my family a memorial slideshow for a stranger and made my family member cry, and I'm new to this career and it will probably keep happening. Crying is normal and human even for strangers. It's just part of how we all process death and being able to connect with other humans and all of it.
When I had a miscarriage, I was really glad the doctor told me like it's not that big of a deal. He is always a funny guy anyway, but in that moment he was like, "yeah, sorry, like we suspected from our last appointment there's nothing in there anymore... But that's super common, it happens here all the time and is really nothing to worry or feel guilty about. It's honestly as common as acne on your butt" and I laughed! I was relieved that he wasn't overly sensitive, it would have made me cry then and there like crazy. It gave me a surprising feeling of normality and not a tragedy. Yes it is tragic to experience a miscarriage, but it is a common part of pregnancy and should be viewed as that. This helps to reduce the shock of such news. He treated us with much care through the whole process of letting the miscarriage go naturally and gave us always good advice! I got pregnant successfully 3 months later again and felt in good hands the whole time.
My first OBGYN said I miscarried and he would give me pills to get rid of *it* then said it happened because my eggs are old. I was in my early 30s. I immediately said I wanted a second opinion and walked out. My second OBGYN was horrified at what he had said and was 1000x more compassionate.
@@celticphoenix2579 when I was 29, without any tests, a GP told me I was old now and going through menopause because 29 is old. Well, I'm 49 now and still menstruating regularly, so she got that wrong!
“I’m just going to sit here and hold your hand. It’s okay. You don’t have to know.” That’s a sign of a good doctor. That almost made me cry. I wish I knew how to find such a caring obgyn. ❤️
When I had my daughter, there was meconium in my water and she had aspirated fluid and wouldn’t cry. It took 15 minutes to get her to cry and they poked her foot with a needle. I was also bleeding out (ended up with 3 blood transfusions) and asking over and over if my baby was okay. They never answered me and I ended up giving up and thinking I was already dead. I will never forget that. Then when I was pregnant with my son I was seriously depressed and anxious. I was convinced I was going to die. I wish other doctors felt the same way about responding to patients as you do.
I relate to this on a visceral level. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I almost died having my baby and the last thing I remembered saying is please don't let my baby die. And the doctor said absolutely nothing, just put anesthesia mask over my face. Shame. But looks like all 4 of us made it out 💜
2shayZEE I’m so sorry you had that happen too! No one should have to deal with that. I remember waking up about an hour later and I still hadn’t seen her. I was alone in a room and wondering what was going on. I’m so grateful they saved our lives but I wish they would have handled it better. I’m so glad you and your baby made it out alive and well. ❤️
My mom had a similar experience with an unresponsive team during my brothers birth. After she had him she committed herself to becoming a Labor and Delivery nurse, even with two young kids so she could make sure no mother ever had a negative experience during their delivery under her care. She's been a labor and delivery nurse ever since and has delivered hundreds of babies, its crazy how much an experience like that can change you life.
Eve that’s so crazy because I’m in school to become a labor and delivery nurse and I have two kids. The bad experience is what made me want to. She sounds like an amazing woman and I’m so glad she turned it into something great. ❤️
Compassion and care *should* be a requirement for any medical professional, it should be as important and non negotiable as a passing MCAT score. Sounds unreasonable and dramatic to compare the two, but care and compassion are sometimes what a patient needs more than a perfect diagnosis or medical information. If you can’t provide care (that sole purpose of being a doctor/nurse) you shouldn’t be one.
When my mom’s gynecologist told her she had endometrial cancer, she was super kind about it. My mom immediately started crying and her doctor got down on her level and reassured her that the polyp was small and that a hysterectomy would take care of it. She’s such a nice and calm doctor, which is why I see her too
I wish there were nicer doctors like that to be honest, glad you and your mother have someone great like that and I hope that your mother is doing well, my apologies if she isn’t or something happened. When I had to get blood drawn recently (teenager, I always feel awful and almost pass out for some reason, some people thought I was diabetic because of it once) the woman was yelling at me to calm down while I cried and cried about being afraid to pass out, she didn’t care at all. I’m surprised people who probably went into a field to help others can be so apathetic to patient emotions sometimes. (Sorry for the long reply to your 2 month old comment by the way, lol).
When I was in AmeriCorps we used to work with an organization that had “life doulas” for teen moms. The doulas were there for the moms from pregnancy through the child’s second birthday. They did some amazing work helping young moms learn how be parents and teaching them things they needed to know about pregnancy and caring for children. The moms and kids all had great outcomes, and some of the moms went on to become doulas themselves in the organization.
Chicago Med is actually, usually, extremely medically accurate. Moreso than any other medical show out there, I think. However, the medical consults they have on the show are a burn/trauma surgeon and a registered nurse. They both are probably not the most experienced when it comes to this field of medicine, so this isolated scene was probably more for drama than the medical realism.
I just want to say that I'm an L&D nurse and when they went to "turn the baby" ECV style it was very satisfying when we both exclaimed "what??" at the same time hahaha.
Mama Doctor Jones it may be because I’m not a medical person but from all the pictures I’ve ever seen, I always see babies being born face up. So is that not accurate?
@@flightsnotfeelings5867 face down is the most desirable and safe position for a baby to be delivered in because it's easily for them to fit through the birth canal in this position.
Don’t worry. I never really understood Punnett Squares. But at least your not like my ex (sons bio father not involved). He insisted if my son didn’t have dark straight hair and darker skin and brown eyes among other things it wasn’t his. Funny thing is I have curly strawberry blonde hair and very light skin and blue eyes. My son ended up having bright blonde hair as a baby and up till just recently now it’s a dirty blonde/light brown curly curly hair (he’s 4 and his hair is right below his shoulder blades when pulled straight but when it isn’t it’s all the way up by his ears) and has just a few tones darker than me like half way between me and him. It’s even funnier because his grandmother had dark curly hair and was Hispanic (or mixed I didn’t really ask just from looks) so my son was almost guaranteed to have at least curly hair. Punnett Squares didn’t make sense but genetics 🧬 and what can be passed down from mother and father totally did but neither made any sense.
On the topic of breaking bad news to patients, when I had my miscarriage my doctor was FANTASTIC for this. She was so kind and supportive and compassionate. She clearly stated that I had suffered a miscarriage and then informed me that it was a full, natural miscarriage (I don't remember all the terms she used, as I was only half registering what she was saying to me, but basically she told me that I wouldn't need any procedures done), and then she reassured me that this was natural and common, and there was nothing I did wrong and that there was nothing I could have done to prevent it. Then she asked if I or my husband had any questions, and then she told me that I could stay in the room for as long as I needed and she would stick around until I left (she was actually on her day off when it happened, and just happened to be at the clinic when I came in so she jumped in to see me immediately). It was quite literally the worst day of my life, but I can't thank her enough for making it all a little easier on me. It was especially helpful that she let me stay in the room for a while to collect myself, especially since there were other patients waiting to get seen. Knowing that my doctor genuinely cares really strengthens my trust and appreciation for her. But I definitely agree that pretending to know what a patient is going through is not at all helpful. That can be said for anyone, really. Personally, when I was grieving I found it far more comforting when people asked me what I needed or just offered to sit with me. Even if we didn't speak. It was helpful to know that I had someone willing to grab me a glass of water or give me a hug or watch tv with me. It wasn't helpful when people made it about them. I know often people try to relate to someone grieving by sharing their own experience with grief, but it's really not the appropriate time.
Oh man, this brings back a lot of memories for me. I had a miscarriage that ended up needing medical intervention, and all of the doctors and nurses who treated me (and there were quite a few) were so compassionate and kind. It's such a scary, awful thing, but I'm grateful for the staff who helped me, even if all they could do was hold my hand and say that they were sorry.
@@Kiki-cs8xv I'm so sorry you had to go through that, but I'm glad you had a solid support network of medical professionals. It really makes all the difference, doesn't it?
I lost my first baby at 18 weeks and my doctor was AWFUL. I knew for WEEKS that something was not right, and my doctor just wouldn’t listen. She actually belittled me for daring to do my own research on the Internet. By the time she started taking me seriously, my baby was dead. That whole experience was horribly traumatic.
As someone who's lost an immediate family member, THANK YOU for all you said about "understanding" what someone's going through. Totally agree with EVERYTHING you said.
Mary Boberry more than one of my 7 babies were (can’t remember how many - too long ago!) were. I remember manor being especially painful ( “back” labor) as this was before the days of epidurals. But they were born without incident
My first was posterior. Ouch - back labor!!! And it took 3 hours to push him out. As an On/Gyn medical professional, I see fewer docs and nurses aware of posterior babies or willing to take the time to turn them. I hope this can increase awareness. No sense in having a cesarean if it’s unnecessary.
I have mild low back scoliosis. Not an issue until I had my kids. Both labors were back labor exclusively, and both came out face up. Apparently according to my midwife my daughter spun spectacularly as she was coming out and still came out face up.
Around 5:02 , her "Birthing coach" is her friend and also a "charge nurse." She's the boss of the ER and tells people where to go when the paramedics bring people in. We learn later in the series that she also used to a paramedic.
Perrin Grayford when I had the 20 week Ultrasound they saw a bright spot on the heart (EIF) The OB came to the room and just said “so we saw something in the heart...” and stayed silent for a minute while I’m asking what it was, is it an issue, etc etc and he just said “it’s usually seen with babies with Down syndrome” still not telling us what it is or anything... I was not happy with how he handled that.. I switched to a midwife after that..
Zhang Zhishan Honestly don’t know. The midwife told us that it’s a pretty common thing and that it usually goes away. Had a lot of ultrasounds (because baby was stubborn and could never get a full anatomy ultrasound done) and by 30 weeks it was gone. 🤷🏻♀️ Baby girl was born at 36+4 and doesn’t have Down syndrome or any heart problems.
Susi Kuczka I am sure you have done everything you could, I'm sorry that the doctor was unprofessional about it, and hope that you could have a healthy baby in the future.
My first baby was born in Jan 2019 and at 5 weeks old was diagnosed with SMA, a severe muscle wasting condition. He was going to die very soon. It was heartbreaking but I was so grateful to the doctor for just telling me straight. I was on my own with him when he was diagnosed and the doctor was so supportive
I occasionally work at my local hospital as a ‘simulated patient’ for the medical students so they can practice breaking bad news/dealing with difficult situations!
Kiwi No worries!! And I think it depends on the hospital and also if you’re in an actors union 🤷🏻♀️ But it’s a great time and really helpful for the students 😊
4:13 “I think my water just broke...” “Oh my god it did” Is it just me or is the acting in the “I Didn’t Know I Was Pregnant” re-enactments better than this 😂
Dude I didn't know if my water broke at first because my daughter moved in the way and plugged it up as soon as there was a gush and she didn't move for like 10 minutes to let the water out so I was confused 😂😂😂
I smiled when you used Buzz as a model for the baby’s position, then got into it again when you put him away and explained things, and I forgot about him. Then you put him in your lap and I laughed. Buzz Lightyear to the rescue!
She didn't; there was a huge cut in the middle of the scene where she ordered the test and the scene where the resident brought the results back. It's pretty obvious if you watch it again, where the cut happens.
When the baby finally cried and snuggled in their moms arms the smile on your face showed how much you truly love what you do. Your patients are blessed to have you looking after them and their families.
This was actually unexpectedly hard to watch! When my six year old was born, he had the cord tight around his neck and my obgyn had to cut the cord. He struggled to breathe because he had aspirated fluid and had to be admitted to the NICU. He recovered quickly and has since been a healthy little boy, but when she was screaming for them to tell her what was happening and they said he wasn't breathing I started crying. I wasn't screaming at them, but I do remember nobody was telling me what was going on while it was happening except that he wasn't breathing ok. I was 16 at the time, and I had a panic attack and they had to put me on oxygen. I think not knowing is the scariest thing a new mom can deal with, so I agree, if medical staff had calmly explained what was happening (or at least as much as they knew at the time) I may not have gone into panic mode!
I am sorry you had that experience. My 2nd was born with the cord around her neck, and I probably would have panicked, but the Dr. Was so calm and matter of fact that he had already unwrapped the cord by the time it really sunk in.
Thank you, it definitely was scary! I remember quietly asking my husband (not married yet at the time but the father of both my children) over and over what's happening but he had no idea either. They told us he wasn't breathing okay and they wheeled him away to the NICU, and I think that's when it really set in for me. I didn't get to hold him until he was 12 hours old. Nothing was really explained well to me at the time, but I'm thankful that he recovered quickly. Still a scary thing for any new mom to go through though, especially at 16. And a lot of moms with babies in the NICU wait much longer than I did to finally hold their babies.
I mentioned before, my 1st daughter was a week overdue. She inhaled meconium. It was scary that she didnt cry when she came out. I was the same way, screaming "why isnt she crying?" Especially scary knowing how hard we tried for her. She was a Clomid baby. But they were pretty good about explaining g what happened. It only took about maybe a minute or 2 to get her her crying, I dont remember as it was 22 years ago. But it felt like forever. She wa as also sunny side up. Which explained all the excruciating back labor. She was in the NICU for 6 days. Now she is happy, healthy, she graduated as Valedictorian and she is a college student. She is just perfect in every way. To me anyway.
The bad news thing... Last year I had a missed miscarriage. And the obgyn said 'ce n'est pas grave madam'... Meaning its not the end of the world. Out of everything that line haunts me. I just gave birth on the 5th and I was anxious that she would be the obgyn on duty. Luckily she wasn't. I seen a different obgyn to confirm the miscarriage and he was too the point. Yet he was compassionate with it. The difference was outstanding.
I am so sorry. I had something similar happen to me. The doctor told me I was having a miscarriage and apologized. I said it was okay and she said it wasn't but she had to make sure to take care of me. She let me know I needed to have a D&C. The nurse came in the room and was so horrible. She told me I had to go somewhere else the the D&C because they didn't perform abortions at that hospital. She spat the word "abortion" at me and made me feel even worse, like I even had a choice.
@@lindseystraley9596 OMG that's absolutely awful. There is no need for that kind of response to something that is heart breaking enough in itself. 😔 I'm sorry for your loss.
miss tatty yup my 1st pregnancy ended in miscarriage and they were so dismissive, assuming it was an accidental pregnancy and my DH and I didn’t care. It was awful. I also found my great OB/gyn (who did the miscarriage confirmation in a much better way). He has been my doctor for my three other pregnancies/births. Congrats on your new baby!
@@sydcash1626 there is just no need. My own general practitioner said its your first it can happen, but here's 2 weeks off work atleast. I tried, like you, to go back to the informative and nice one but his practice was full. For my next I'll be definetly trying him again, a little kindness goes a long way. Thank you ❤️
I had a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks and the guy I saw was so unkind. His words: "You have miscarried, I will give you pills to get rid if *it* " Like my precious child was a snotty tissue instead of a devastating loss.
I loved this video and it definitely hit deep. My son was diagnosed with Sanfilippo Syndrome last summer and our doctor and her team were very direct but also amazing and compassionate. Thank you for all your videos ❤️
There’s a movie - What to expect when you’re expecting. They follow 5 pairs, one already has kids, one are infertile and are adopting and 3 pairs have 3 different pregnancy stories. Movie is great, I recommend it if anyone loves family movies and wants to have a laugh but I’m sure you can comment those 3 pairs and their stories.
The “sunny side up” killed me 😂 I’m here thinking please don’t say that when I’m in labor. I must say that it’s pretty comforting watching all your videos and getting all the info you provide. I got 4 weeks to go.
I totally agree and I actually have had those exact words said to me and it did end in an emergency c Bc my daughters heart rate and mine went too low it was so scary best of luck to you
If they say your baby is sunny side up, tell 'em that he/she is not an egg😂 The best thing you can do is not stress about it mama! Positive thinking goes a long way, and stress does nothing but hurt you. You'll have a short and perfect labor! You got this, and so does baby!
I know its a year later, she did a video about that and i just have to say, i have never watched friends, and that video she made about it is good as her videos usually but it was so SO painful to watch bc of the fake laughing/clapping on the series.. is it really like that the whole series? Thats horrifying how could anyone enjoy that terrible acting and 2nd hand emberrassment, that clip/clips she showed us just were more than enough of friends for me, if thats what nowadays kids/teens watch i no wonder why they are like they are if thats something to take "role models" from🤣 not hating anyone just telling my opinion
Private Practice season 3 episode 1: “A Death in the Family”. It picks up from last season’s finale where one of the main characters (pregnant) is attacked by a psych patient and she cuts her baby out of her, leaving her (Violet) bleeding to death.
Thank you for this episode Dr Jones! As a doula, thank you for explaining and representing our profession well. 🙂 There are a few midwives in our area (both state licensed CPMs and CNMs) that do not have hospital privileges at our local hospitals, so a lot of the time they will offer parallel care for clients and then go to the hospital with them and offer doula support. Thank you, again, for doing this video! I share your videos on my business page all the time. 💜
Another historical one: Victoria season 1 episode 8. It’s about Queen Victoria of England. She’s had 9 kids, so there’s quite a few with her giving birth. With this they focus more on the dangers of having a baby in the early 19th century.
Hey there Mama Dr. Jones! I just wanted to say thank you so much for all that you are doing right now during this pandemic. You and your fellow frontline workers are true hero’s (you were before but now it’s even more evident) please stay safe and healthy right now. I hope you, your family, and all your fellow healthcare workers and there family are all staying safe and healthy right now. Thank you again for all you are doing! I love your channel even though I have no children or plan to have children. The comment you replied to last year was so freaking amazing. You were so kind and non judgmental and it meant so much to me. Thank you again for all you are doing. My late firefighter/paramedic mother, late EMT father, former EMT sister, and former EMT myself all thank you for all that you are doing for us right now. Thank you so so so so much!!!
So when you turn a baby, was this accurate in seeing the head & face so clearly through the mother's stomach? That seemed a bit too theatrical. And, I love that MDJ still reacts to a baby being born (even one on a tv show) with tenderness and joy. That''s why you're one of the best o/g's.
oh my goddddd your channel and Chicago med are the two reasons I want to be a doctor, an obstetrician specifically HOW DID I NOT REALIZE THERE WAS A CROSSOVER TILL NOW aaaa
I was watching the “full story of finding out I was pregnant” on Colleen Vlogs and she brought up an interesting topic about how she got pregnant while she was on her period and I think that would be a good video to review and talk about...
A sunny side up baby is not that big of a deal. My oldest sibling was both my mom’s largest baby and born sunny side up. She went on to have five more. Also, remember this is tv, it’s supposed to be dramatic.
@@sparkybish Well yes, the doctor should answer any and all fears, questions etc. if they can. I didn't mean that in particular, just that portraying pregnancy as something where nothing could ever go wrong for any reason doesn't seem like it helps, to me at least. Because then mothers would believe they did something wrong, for example, when that may not be the case.
it’s literally years later, but in case anyone was curious, Maggie, the “birth coach” is a trained nurse with midwife experience, but she’s not on duty, she’s there because Natalie, the mother, is her best friend. So in this case she is both a support person and a trained professional.
The most realistic thing to me was the mom saying, "I'm so tired." That was me giving birth to my son. I was so tired, it hurt so much(epidural didn't work), and I just felt like I physically couldn't do it anymore. He also came out with the umbilical cord around his neck and was blue and unresponsive at first. They didn't tell me anything either, just like in the show. I wasn't screaming but I was wondering why I didn't hear him crying like they usually show in movies(lol) while the rest of the team was working on me. They did try to shield him from me I think so I couldn't see the cord around his neck or the fact that he was blue, especially when they took him to the little bed thing they put newborns in. I saw his little cone-shaped head and that he was a little weird-colored. I kept asking "is he ok?" Though, to be honest, I don't know if I'd remember them answering me even if they had. I was relieved he was out but then everything felt like it was in slow motion. No baby cry, I couldn't really hear anything, and then...I heard him. Once they did what they needed to do with him they brought him over to me, put him on my chest, and I sang "you are my sunshine" to him. I know newborns can't see squat after they're born but after I started singing, he looked up at me(or in my general direction lol). I had sang that to him almost everyday before I went to sleep when I was pregnant and it felt amazing to think that he might have recognized it. I didn't understand til later why everyone kept saying "you're your baby's hero!" They didn't tell me why they kept insisting that I continue pushing without much of a break in between. They knew the umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck and they wanted to try to get him out fast. So they were being VERY supportive when telling me to keep going(even got these red dot things all over my face and skin from pushing). I didn't know that if I hadn't pushed hard enough to get him out, they would have had to do a c-section. No idea til the day after(he was born at 11:30pm, started getting contractions at 5am). He is about to be 13 now.
So nice to see a show where the delivery complication is something other than pre-eclampsia/eclampsia!! It seems like that is always the one they fall back on. Thanks for the bonus video MDJ!!! ❤️
My 4th was sunny side up. The awesome nurse noticed when i was saying all the labor was in my back and was omg!! She rotated me to my hands and knees and little miss turned over and we had a smooth delivery 😊
I love that you decided to watch Chicago Med, it's one of my favourite shows. Even if you didn't do another reaction, I personally think it's a show (+franchise) worth watching. Some other episodes I would recommend are these: 2x14 - multi-vehicle pile-up + emergency c-section; 2x16 - assaulted comatose patient; 3x2 - malnourished and underdeveloped baby (not born); 3x12 - homeless patient refusess to deliver at the hospital
As an L&D RN it sucks how other units think “L&D is a cake walk” or “all they do is hold babies”. Like can you as an RN handle a shoulder dystocia, cord prolapse, prolong decelerations, etc. Whenever people say “it must be so happy” I flashback to the patients that’ve had demises 😔 Sorry to get in my feelings. Anyways love you Dr. Jones and wish you were a provider at my hospital 🤣🙌🏼💕
I never could understand how people thought L&D was sunshine and rainbows. A lot of the girls in my class back in high school wanted to go into the field because, in their minds, it was just taking care of babies and keeping them and mommy happy (mind you, I’m from a very small town. All the girls aspired to be nurses, while all the boys wanted to get scholarships to be sports stars. Just a general niche haha). They shrugged me off when I would tell them that it was more serious than that - but then again, both of my little cousins almost didn’t live because of birthing complications, and my mom was very transparent about explaining it, so I suppose I already had a fair understanding of it. Go figure, they all were still planning on doing so after high school, but seven years later I think out of all of them only two continued their medical degrees that I’m aware of 😅 one’s a rad tech and the other is a geriatric nurse. It’s just all kind of amusing, thinking back on it
it's interesting. I'm a hospital midwife and I can't remember anybody from the medical field ever saying "oh that's a cake walk". People who don't work in healthcare and have never had a baby? Sure. "Oh I wanted to become a midwife aswell, babies are sooo cute!". I see the babies for about 2-3hrs. I work with the women for hours during their labour. You know the great work you're doing. You know how stressful it is and how you have to always be alert and ready to act while doing nothing. And you know how usually the couples are very appreciative of your work. I'd say working L&D can be compared to working in an ER, just in a specialised field.
Don't forget that all of this is being done while a mom is in the most pain she has ever experienced in her life and isn't thinking straight from exhaustion and pain and you're having to try and explain things, answer questions, help the fear so she can relax and let her body do its job, and get her to a place where she can give informed consent on things! These shows make it look like the Dr's just yell, say what they are going to do and women have zero say. IMO all these episodes do is freak parents out about having a horrible experience. I am not a nurse or even in the health care field but I have delivered babies both high risk and not and I have miscarried. The nurses work their butts off and are often being yelled at the whole time by someone who is in pain! Y'all rock!!!
Just based on my experience in the maternity ward during my clinical rotations, I have a tremendous amount of respect for L&D and postpartum nurses. Every case is slightly different, and there is so much that can go wrong. I remember a mom who started having seizures...it's some intense stuff.
When I had my son it was my nurse's first day on L&D, she transferred from the psych ward because L&D was "a little more relaxing" 😂 WHAT!?!? But my mom and sister were nursesat a psychiatric facility and I have heard the horror stories. Anyways, the nurse I had was the most patient and caring individual I've ever encountered in a medical facility. She went above and beyond to make sure my delivery was as bearable as possible. Plus I had an emergency induction upon going to the hospital, I was so scared and paranoid about if the baby was ok but she was so calming and graceful. And after delivery when it came time for my "massage" (the uterus kneading of death!), she was so empathetic and apologized for hurting me but also let me know she'd be there to save my life! She was witty, compassionate, intelligent and effective. It was an experience and I hope she realizes how special she is. L&D nurses are appreciated and loved 💚
mamadoctorjones, i would LOVE to see a video on different careers in ob/gyn/midwifing/doula; ie schooling requirements, qualifications, different duties in a hospital/private practice, etc. as someone who's thinking of going into the field it would be super helpful! xo
It’s a good reminder when you’re at any doctor, but especially an obgyn to be patient when it’s taking longer then you’d like. Once, I went in for my appt to my gynecologist for a hysterectomy and while I was in no hurry and enjoying the break from my kids, the nurse came in to apologize for how long it was taking, explaining the doctor was still with a patient who was miscarrying. I reassured her that it was just fine, there was no hurry. Please keep this in your mind when you’re seeing a doctor - good doctors are the ones that you sometimes need to wait a while before they come in, because they aren’t rushing their patients.
I was in labor for 36 hours. I was fully dilated. I pushed for an hour and my baby wasn't moving so I had a c-section. He was sunny side up and was just fine. He will be 4 next month. He's growing so fast!
PLEASE do Private Practice!!! I can’t even think of a specific episode because the main character is an ObGyn so there’s that in every episode but there are definitely some wacky ones
I’ve never been pregnant but if I was giving birth and my team was acting like that, there would be hell to pay. I got stressed out just watching it, I couldn’t imagine actually experiencing it
A reaction to the Friends episode in which Rachel gives birth could be interesting. This birth takes around a day and we would like to see your take on why this could happen. I dont recall what episode this was.
I found Rachel's birth to look very mild. I gave birth without any pain medication and believe me, those last contractions make you lose all control over your behavior, but they made Rachel visibly in pain but still very mildly compared to the real deal. Also, the fact that she was made to stay in a shared room until the very end of her labouring was very weird. I had to share a room for some part of my birth experience, but only up until active labour, so at 4 cm I got my own room. However, Rachel's birth story was still more realistic than Phoebe's with the triplets, haha.
Rapunzelrapunzel I’m a midwife and in some hospitals here in England the woman would be kept on the antenatal ward (shared) until around 8cm. Then she’ll be moved to delivery suite. I really didn’t like it like this. It was so unfair to the woman in labour and all the others trying to rest
I remember my dad watching this episode of Chicago Med, he really likes this show but I never could get into it. I really like it when doctors break down these episodes
7:50 As someone who was given bad news about my baby’s outcome. (Spina Bifida diagnosis at 18 weeks) I agree with what you said, “I am here for you. Would you like me to stay?” But would like to add that it is also a gut punch when others say “I don’t know how you feel.” Or the like. My son is 7 and wheelchair bound and it is something that runs through my mind daily if not thousands of times a day early on. That others don’t know what we are going through because they have not been in our situation before. On another note, the specialist that gave the diagnosis was straight with us yet upbeat. “I’m sorry to tell you your son ha Spina Bifida and there’s a 75% chance he won’t walk. He may be in a wheelchair but the kids I know with SB are some of the happiest I know! Please send pictures and bring him back here to visit!” Getting choked up remembering how well he broke bad news! 😢☺️
My son was diagnosed with myleomeningocele at L4, 24 weeks only a month ago, and I was blessed to have my ultrasound reviewed that day by a maternal fetal medicine obgyn who had done her residency in a hospital where open fetal surgery is preformed for Spina Bifida, and she was so compassionate and had a good outlook while giving me the news, and helped me coordinate with the hospital where my son had his lesion closed at 25 weeks, a little over a week later. I'm 28 weeks today and we're still baking this baby, and he is doing so well, but I feel like crap and I'm trying to stay encouraged that I've done the best I can for him. Goal is to keep from going into labor until 37 weeks, and have a cesarian. I've read a lot of moms are pressured to terminate based on worst case scenarios but I was lucky not to have that experience. The MFM ob who diagnosed him has helped with fetal surgery in her residency and will be delivering my son here at my local hospital, and with his lesion level and the fetal surgery, I'm told he probably won't need a wheelchair but may need a VP shunt and possibly leg braces, and might have some loss of sensation on the backs of his legs. I know we got very lucky to be seen by the wonderful ob we were seen by, and right now my strong little boy is doing amazing, strong movement, and he's passing urine from what they can see through weekly ultrasounds. I'm glad you were seen by optimistic physicians too, because a good and compassionate doctor can really help with the confidence in such a confusing and worrisome diagnosis. 💞
Im a Doula from South Africa and this episode of Chicago med was soo funny... Loved your beautiful explanation of what is a Doula. I love love love your channel. Thx for all the accuracy and comments... Keep on going!!
14:54 the way the baby smiled when she kissed him! These always make me cry. I feel like I'm so far behind. I'm 30, not married, no kids. I want like..7 kids.
LAY-DEE! Can totally relate. My moms youngest of 13 kids (i'm 1 of 5). I always wanted a minimum of 6. Of course life didn't go as planned. I'm now 35 still ttc as a single mom by choice, struggling with infertility. At this point i'll feel beyond blessed to have 1. 💕 I absolutely love all my niece and nephews, not going to lie though, It's so tough watching others around you get pregnant with multiple children and you're still praying to have 1 live baby. 😢 If I could go back i'd have started trying about 25y/o instead of waiting until 30.
I'm 16 and nearly 14 weeks pregnant now, I'm scared out of my mind and have no idea on information or what to do, been watching so many of these videos to see what labour will be like.
Davan Thompson I’m 23 and due in 7 days and scared too. You can do it good luck! For me I was terrified at first but now that I’m so far along I’ve accepted it
Honey the best thing you can do for you and your baby is breathe. When you feel tense take a few deep breaths. When you feel scared take a few deep breaths. Giving birth is just the first scary thing. Being a parent will bring you two lifetimes worth of scary moments, but you are strong enough to get through them if you just remember to breathe. Start building your support network now. Know that when the time comes your medical team will be there to do the very best they can to help you and your baby get through it with the least trauma. Just don't go reading horror birth stories as they will just make you unnecessarily scared.
There's a TH-camr named Lexie Thiery who is a new, first-time mother. Her channel shares many episodes covering her journey from peeing on a stick to him now being 4 months old. She doesn't avoid tough question or embarrassing topics, and she talks in plain English. Best of all she is upbeat and inspirational! You can check out some of her vlogs at th-cam.com/channels/Ii52PO4nez88ufm8Z1ryYw.html
Look up breathing technics on TH-cam as well as your Lamaze classes. I did Lamaze my first child at 17 and TH-cam with my second at 26. I felt that TH-cam was better but that's just me and no replacement for a proper education in what to expect. Hang in there sweetie 😊
I had an amazing doctor delivering my daughter, my girl wasn’t crying when she came out, she was laid on my chest and was just starting at me and following my movements but wasn’t crying so doc got worried and told “momma you did great but baby isn’t crying and we need to make her cry so we have to take her from your for a couple of minutes” she was so sweet and understanding and finally my baby cries and was laid back on me❤️ Shout out to great doctors like you and my doctor 👏🏻👏🏻
Suggestions for videos to react to: 1. The episode of Scrubs where Carla gives birth to her daughter ("My Best Friend's Baby and My Baby's Baby.) 2. The pregnancy episode of Adam Ruins Everything ("Adam Ruins Having a Baby.") I've heard there are some inaccuracies in it. 3. Any of the episodes of How I Met Your Mother that cover Lily being pregnant/having her son.
Jeez that scene where she's rotating the baby is so gross looking, its like how a xenomorph bulges the skin right before it tears its way out your ribcage...then again as a child free tokophobic woman it makes sense I'd make that comparison.
My son was sunny side up and the nurse only figured it out when I was pushing. I pushed for around 2 hours and he came out without any forceps, or c-section, just an episiotomy. I could tell that she was really scared mid-way as I was completely exhausted. I don't know what happened, but I managed to get him out and I'm really proud of that as a FTM. The nurses were really impressed as well. They told me this type of birth hurts more than normal, so I'm ready for a "normal" delivery now lol
I would still love to see you react to Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman. There's three episodes in particular that come to mind, Dead or Alive Part 1, When a Child is Born Part 2, and finally In The Comfort of Friends. The second one I mentioned is the top of my recommendation list of the three, as it has the most involvement with an OB/GYN thing relating to Dr. Quinn herself. It should be noted that the show is set in the late 1860s through the early 1870s with season 4 which the first two episodes I mentioned, being set I believe in 1870, and the third episode I mentioned, which was in season 6, being set in 1871 or 1872, somewhere around there. I might have my dates slightly off, but you get the idea. It might be a nice change of pace to go to another historically set medical drama, and since you're a mother and a doctor yourself, I particularly thought of this show in regards to you.
One of my sister’s friends had a miscarriage (actually I don’t know if that’s the right term) in her 8th month. It was a couple of years ago and she just welcomed a healthy baby, which is wonderful. I can’t imagine trying to carry a pregnancy again after experiencing such an outcome.
the face of the orange triceraptops thing scared me idk why but its surprising that insomia is so common not SUPER surprising, but i wonder what the actual rate of it is in different times / demographics / why it even really happens
It’s because the mother is so uncomfortable by that point. Is it really that surprising? I feel like every woman I’ve talked to who has at least one kid talks about not being able to sleep during the end of pregnancy.
I just wanted to thank you for what you said about empathy when breaking bad news! We have become so used to giving bad advice to grieving people. I had a pastor who also worked full time in hospice and was a widower. He talked about it. He said straight out once that after he lost his wife he had to apologize to people he'd told "it'll get better" as we have become used to. Truth is until you've been through that you don't know!
Yeah but I love how they conveniently make her the “midwife” though after this episode, you never see her act as a midwife again. Midwives are specially educated in midwifery they are just “nurse friends” who can birth their friends babies.
I used to work for an Oncology office. I had one patient I would always deliver medications to and his wife would always sign for them. Well he came in to the office and I met him and very kind man and even apologized when I went to deliver, but no one answered because it was his bday celebration. A few weeks later our pharmacist told me he passed away. I was holding my tears back because he had been so kind and understanding. I couldn't bare it anymore so when I got to the phone room for our calls I lost it a bit. My coworker asked what happen and I let them know he passed away. They got tears in their eyes because they knew him too and loved him as well. Us as Healthcare workers will always have a spot for patients that connect with us and when we hear news like this it can affect the whole team.
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My son wasn't breathing when he was first born, but was very alert and looking around the room. He was completely tangled in his cord with it wrapped around his neck, chest, belly, and legs. The OB/Gyn was awesome and explained everything that was going on. She left the cord intact while trying to stimulate him to get him to breathe (after untangling him). When that wasn't working and blood flow to the cord stopped, she cut the cord and handed him to the nurse who gave him some oxygen. He started breathing right away with some positive airflow. I have anxiety so it was really reassuring the way she talked me through everything.
On the note of breaking bad news... I will never forget when I went in for my second ultrasound (anatomy scan) I was so happy my baby was healthy and learned that baby was a little girl. However, I could hear a lady in a room nearby just sobbing, my heart just ached for her. You could just tell that she had gotten some bad news, they were definitely not tears of joy :(
@@thatgirlsam5258 That doesn't have to be done by her though. She gets depressed at the end of sad episodes and commented once that she didn't understand why people wanted her to watch it, clearly that's not the type of content she wants to create.
Man, 48hrs and another video that hits so close to home. When my son passed from SIDS, I had a nurse tell me "I understand"....i can't tell you why or how I knew she didn't, but I knew, and my instinct was to respond with "no.....you don't". In her defense, she immediately corrected her statement. Thank you for acknowledging that you should never lie, but just be there.
I agree with you that if you haven’t had that experience, then don’t pretend you know how they feel. Asking what they need and just being there is SO helpful. When I was told that one of my 24 weeker twins was dying, I asked the nurse if she’s hold my hand - which she did so quickly and lovingly. I will never forget that act of kindness and compassion.
Can you please react to Chicago Med season 5 episode 19: “Just a River in Egypt”? There’s a really interesting case with a pregnant woman that has a lot of factors that makes the situation complicated. Also a few hard decisions had to be made throughout the case. Would love to hear your commentary on it.
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is it just me or what happened was after a successful turning the baby came out face up?
Ahahahahaha! How did I not notice that?!? It most certainly did!!
@@MamaDoctorJones hi doctor mike sent me over here he says that you and him made a video together and i watched that whole video
hahaha i noticed that too
I was watching that as I looked down and saw your comment.
Mama Doctor Jones my baby was delivered face up, and I’m so thankful that none of my nurses or drs acted like this. They were so calm and made it seem like it was normal. Until this video I had no idea it’s was a big deal. So thankful they kept Me going and made it seem normal
When I was told I had a miscarriage the doctor told me to stop crying and that I was hysterical for no reason. The nurse told me I was unreasonable and rude and needed to get it together as I had a panic attack. I learned I had been pregnant and lost my first child in the same breathe and was shamed for having emotion about it. To this day I have never gone back to that particular office and I never will. I wish I’d had a doctor like you who would’ve shown at least a shred of kindness and decency.
Im so sorry. That doctor should be investigated by the board
That was horrible of them!! No compassion whatsoever!
I'm so sorry you had such a horrible experience you should report that Dr that's terrible
Wow Im so sorry
This ENRAGES me to read. I am so very sorry you had shitty and unprofessional medical staff. That warrants a major complaint to the hospital PR/management team, I hope you did. First of all, hospitals deal with people having panic attacks, people come in thinking they have a heart attack and it’s a legitimate clinical experience, so you had a panic attack after a totally unknown miscarriage (more than reasonable) and they weren’t capable of supporting you through it!? Man it makes me so angry!
When I had a missed miscarriage I decided to have a D/C, the day of my D/C my OBGYN walked in and said "I know this is a really hard day for you, know I'm here to take care of you." Up until that point I had felt fine honestly because I finally knew I was miscarrying (I had been in limbo for about a week not knowing because of waiting on blood work and an appointment) but after she said that I just started sobbing. She held me for the longest time and I can't tell you enough how thankful I am for that and to find and OBGYN who cares so much.
“No one in that room is acting right” Definitely not lol
Best reaction EVER
the only person acting right was the mom in labor
Horrible the way they talked to each other and to the patient.
You dont even need to be a doctor to figure that out
@@mellie4174 Absolutely.....no reasonably sane doctor would say "Are you gonna listen to them or me?"
Hearing mom shouting "somebody tell me what's happening" repeatedly with no answer really brought back some feelings for me, in a different way. When I was being prepped for my RCS, my blood pressure shot way up and then dropped to the floor, and it caused the most excruciating pain in my head that I've ever experienced. I get crying and screaming "it hurts, why does it hurt, what's happening" and they refused to answer me at all. I was screaming and felt ignored. That, I cannot reconcile. It caused me even more distress, and at least someone gently telling me that it was my blood pressure and they were giving me something to help would have calmed me.
Honestly, I'm dying for you to react to the pilot episode of Jane the Virgin!!!
I watched that entire series while on Maternity Leave with Milo!! :)
I'm dying for dr jones to review the episode of e.r the series finale
@@MamaDoctorJones It's pretty good though I feel it was ruined when they made her "lose it" to that random guy and not Michael or the baby daddy (sorry forgot his name lol) XD
Beastbombshell corky? Did you mean quirky? 😂 not trying to be mean lol
Omg yes
I wish you had been there for the birth of my son (born to gain his wings at 21 weeks gestation). The doctor was appallingly cold and cruel from start to finish and I still have nightmares about it 21 years later.....because my memories of his birth are so horrendous it has completely taken my joy from my daughter's birth, she was a 32 weeker and arrived healthy, just a little small, 23 years ago.....some things we just cant forget and Max's birth will haunt me forever. Thank you for being such a kind and compassionate human being and doctor, those traits are not as common as they should be in doctors.
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. That’s so horrible! I wish you well in healing from that experience.
Chicago Med season 4, episode 10 is called “All the Lonely People” and it involves an emergency C-section that I think your commentary and education would be incredibly useful!
I second that lol
I recommended this one
Carolanne I feel like that episode specifically needs to be reviewed because I think the information in that episode is dangerously incorrect
Yes!!! She need too
Yes
Side note: I'm really glad you mentioned breaking down in the back room as being okay. I'm a cna and whenever my patients die and I'm doing post-mortem care, I usually shed at least a few tears in the back room after the fact. If it's one of my long term patients sometimes their families will cry with you as you share stories.
Empathy is a wonderful trait and it just feels so good to know the people taking care of you or your loved ones have genuine human emotions and care. Even when it hurts and sucks and you feel bad for them too. I'm going into the funeral and death care industry as a funeral celebrant and memorial slideshow editor. I've shown my family a memorial slideshow for a stranger and made my family member cry, and I'm new to this career and it will probably keep happening. Crying is normal and human even for strangers. It's just part of how we all process death and being able to connect with other humans and all of it.
When I had a miscarriage, I was really glad the doctor told me like it's not that big of a deal. He is always a funny guy anyway, but in that moment he was like, "yeah, sorry, like we suspected from our last appointment there's nothing in there anymore... But that's super common, it happens here all the time and is really nothing to worry or feel guilty about. It's honestly as common as acne on your butt" and I laughed! I was relieved that he wasn't overly sensitive, it would have made me cry then and there like crazy. It gave me a surprising feeling of normality and not a tragedy. Yes it is tragic to experience a miscarriage, but it is a common part of pregnancy and should be viewed as that. This helps to reduce the shock of such news. He treated us with much care through the whole process of letting the miscarriage go naturally and gave us always good advice! I got pregnant successfully 3 months later again and felt in good hands the whole time.
My first OBGYN said I miscarried and he would give me pills to get rid of *it* then said it happened because my eggs are old. I was in my early 30s. I immediately said I wanted a second opinion and walked out. My second OBGYN was horrified at what he had said and was 1000x more compassionate.
@@celticphoenix2579 when I was 29, without any tests, a GP told me I was old now and going through menopause because 29 is old. Well, I'm 49 now and still menstruating regularly, so she got that wrong!
Personally I would want compassion, but I happy that worked for you. :)
@@outsidersongs2682 what kind of doctor diagnoses a 29 year old for menopause without doing any test?-_______- that's weird
Well I guess it depends on the person. Some people want a doctor who normalises pregnancy while others want one who understands their pain.
“I’m just going to sit here and hold your hand. It’s okay. You don’t have to know.” That’s a sign of a good doctor. That almost made me cry. I wish I knew how to find such a caring obgyn. ❤️
When I had my daughter, there was meconium in my water and she had aspirated fluid and wouldn’t cry. It took 15 minutes to get her to cry and they poked her foot with a needle. I was also bleeding out (ended up with 3 blood transfusions) and asking over and over if my baby was okay. They never answered me and I ended up giving up and thinking I was already dead. I will never forget that. Then when I was pregnant with my son I was seriously depressed and anxious. I was convinced I was going to die. I wish other doctors felt the same way about responding to patients as you do.
I relate to this on a visceral level. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I almost died having my baby and the last thing I remembered saying is please don't let my baby die. And the doctor said absolutely nothing, just put anesthesia mask over my face. Shame. But looks like all 4 of us made it out 💜
2shayZEE I’m so sorry you had that happen too! No one should have to deal with that. I remember waking up about an hour later and I still hadn’t seen her. I was alone in a room and wondering what was going on. I’m so grateful they saved our lives but I wish they would have handled it better. I’m so glad you and your baby made it out alive and well. ❤️
My mom had a similar experience with an unresponsive team during my brothers birth. After she had him she committed herself to becoming a Labor and Delivery nurse, even with two young kids so she could make sure no mother ever had a negative experience during their delivery under her care. She's been a labor and delivery nurse ever since and has delivered hundreds of babies, its crazy how much an experience like that can change you life.
Eve that’s so crazy because I’m in school to become a labor and delivery nurse and I have two kids. The bad experience is what made me want to. She sounds like an amazing woman and I’m so glad she turned it into something great. ❤️
Compassion and care *should* be a requirement for any medical professional, it should be as important and non negotiable as a passing MCAT score. Sounds unreasonable and dramatic to compare the two, but care and compassion are sometimes what a patient needs more than a perfect diagnosis or medical information. If you can’t provide care (that sole purpose of being a doctor/nurse) you shouldn’t be one.
When my mom’s gynecologist told her she had endometrial cancer, she was super kind about it. My mom immediately started crying and her doctor got down on her level and reassured her that the polyp was small and that a hysterectomy would take care of it. She’s such a nice and calm doctor, which is why I see her too
I wish there were nicer doctors like that to be honest, glad you and your mother have someone great like that and I hope that your mother is doing well, my apologies if she isn’t or something happened. When I had to get blood drawn recently (teenager, I always feel awful and almost pass out for some reason, some people thought I was diabetic because of it once) the woman was yelling at me to calm down while I cried and cried about being afraid to pass out, she didn’t care at all. I’m surprised people who probably went into a field to help others can be so apathetic to patient emotions sometimes. (Sorry for the long reply to your 2 month old comment by the way, lol).
When I was in AmeriCorps we used to work with an organization that had “life doulas” for teen moms. The doulas were there for the moms from pregnancy through the child’s second birthday. They did some amazing work helping young moms learn how be parents and teaching them things they needed to know about pregnancy and caring for children. The moms and kids all had great outcomes, and some of the moms went on to become doulas themselves in the organization.
I love this concept!
it might be NFP (nurse family partnership!) a great non-profit
Kennis Dees the organization’s in Spartanburg, SC and is called Birth Matters.
That is so great to hear.
Claire Woerner now if we could just prevent teen pregnancy the first place.
Them “turning the baby” was so disturbing looking. Their effects were awful. AND THEN THE BABY JUST FLEW OUT?! OMG on this show 🙅♀️🤦♀️
No I watched it it must be lagging + I thing the baby was upside down
Chicago Med is actually, usually, extremely medically accurate. Moreso than any other medical show out there, I think.
However, the medical consults they have on the show are a burn/trauma surgeon and a registered nurse. They both are probably not the most experienced when it comes to this field of medicine, so this isolated scene was probably more for drama than the medical realism.
@@atolee704 I watched a video of a doctor ranking 15 medical shows and I’m pretty sure Chicago Med was down at number 9 where 1 is most accurate
@@harmony8623 my mom is an ER nurse and says Chicago med is the most accurate
@@erin6614 has she watched the Good doctor? If so what’s your opinion? I personally think that show is really accurate I love that show
I just want to say that I'm an L&D nurse and when they went to "turn the baby" ECV style it was very satisfying when we both exclaimed "what??" at the same time hahaha.
Also, why are there never nurses in these TV deliveries??
I know right? 🤣 and also the baby still came out OP
Mama Doctor Jones it may be because I’m not a medical person but from all the pictures I’ve ever seen, I always see babies being born face up. So is that not accurate?
@@flightsnotfeelings5867 face down is the most desirable and safe position for a baby to be delivered in because it's easily for them to fit through the birth canal in this position.
SB W yes I understand that but how come every picture I see is always the baby face up.
“If you remember back to your genetics classes.”
Me: I’m still trying to run that Punnett Square from 8th grade. 😂😂
Don’t worry. I never really understood Punnett Squares. But at least your not like my ex (sons bio father not involved). He insisted if my son didn’t have dark straight hair and darker skin and brown eyes among other things it wasn’t his. Funny thing is I have curly strawberry blonde hair and very light skin and blue eyes. My son ended up having bright blonde hair as a baby and up till just recently now it’s a dirty blonde/light brown curly curly hair (he’s 4 and his hair is right below his shoulder blades when pulled straight but when it isn’t it’s all the way up by his ears) and has just a few tones darker than me like half way between me and him. It’s even funnier because his grandmother had dark curly hair and was Hispanic (or mixed I didn’t really ask just from looks) so my son was almost guaranteed to have at least curly hair.
Punnett Squares didn’t make sense but genetics 🧬 and what can be passed down from mother and father totally did but neither made any sense.
On the topic of breaking bad news to patients, when I had my miscarriage my doctor was FANTASTIC for this. She was so kind and supportive and compassionate. She clearly stated that I had suffered a miscarriage and then informed me that it was a full, natural miscarriage (I don't remember all the terms she used, as I was only half registering what she was saying to me, but basically she told me that I wouldn't need any procedures done), and then she reassured me that this was natural and common, and there was nothing I did wrong and that there was nothing I could have done to prevent it. Then she asked if I or my husband had any questions, and then she told me that I could stay in the room for as long as I needed and she would stick around until I left (she was actually on her day off when it happened, and just happened to be at the clinic when I came in so she jumped in to see me immediately). It was quite literally the worst day of my life, but I can't thank her enough for making it all a little easier on me. It was especially helpful that she let me stay in the room for a while to collect myself, especially since there were other patients waiting to get seen. Knowing that my doctor genuinely cares really strengthens my trust and appreciation for her.
But I definitely agree that pretending to know what a patient is going through is not at all helpful. That can be said for anyone, really. Personally, when I was grieving I found it far more comforting when people asked me what I needed or just offered to sit with me. Even if we didn't speak. It was helpful to know that I had someone willing to grab me a glass of water or give me a hug or watch tv with me. It wasn't helpful when people made it about them. I know often people try to relate to someone grieving by sharing their own experience with grief, but it's really not the appropriate time.
I really love kind, caring, compassionate doctors ♥ The world needs more of them!!!
Oh man, this brings back a lot of memories for me. I had a miscarriage that ended up needing medical intervention, and all of the doctors and nurses who treated me (and there were quite a few) were so compassionate and kind. It's such a scary, awful thing, but I'm grateful for the staff who helped me, even if all they could do was hold my hand and say that they were sorry.
@@Kiki-cs8xv I'm so sorry you had to go through that, but I'm glad you had a solid support network of medical professionals. It really makes all the difference, doesn't it?
I lost my first baby at 18 weeks and my doctor was AWFUL. I knew for WEEKS that something was not right, and my doctor just wouldn’t listen. She actually belittled me for daring to do my own research on the Internet. By the time she started taking me seriously, my baby was dead. That whole experience was horribly traumatic.
@@MyGenXLife that's horrible I'm so sorry that happened
As someone who's lost an immediate family member, THANK YOU for all you said about "understanding" what someone's going through. Totally agree with EVERYTHING you said.
Haha my first baby was “sunny side up”. The ob turned him down and he flipped back. 😂 The ob just delivered him face up. 🤷🏻♀️
Mary Boberry more than one of my 7 babies were (can’t remember how many - too long ago!) were. I remember manor being especially painful ( “back” labor) as this was before the days of epidurals. But they were born without incident
Mary Boberry he was like “nah, I’m comin out this way!” Lol
Lori Alma YES! I had a ton of back labor with him. That’s interesting.
My first was posterior. Ouch - back labor!!! And it took 3 hours to push him out. As an On/Gyn medical professional, I see fewer docs and nurses aware of posterior babies or willing to take the time to turn them. I hope this can increase awareness. No sense in having a cesarean if it’s unnecessary.
I have mild low back scoliosis. Not an issue until I had my kids. Both labors were back labor exclusively, and both came out face up. Apparently according to my midwife my daughter spun spectacularly as she was coming out and still came out face up.
Around 5:02 , her "Birthing coach" is her friend and also a "charge nurse." She's the boss of the ER and tells people where to go when the paramedics bring people in. We learn later in the series that she also used to a paramedic.
My Doctor had to Pass on bad news about my baby’s heart & she did it in such a that was so reassuring & comforting.
Perrin Grayford when I had the 20 week Ultrasound they saw a bright spot on the heart (EIF) The OB came to the room and just said “so we saw something in the heart...” and stayed silent for a minute while I’m asking what it was, is it an issue, etc etc and he just said “it’s usually seen with babies with Down syndrome” still not telling us what it is or anything... I was not happy with how he handled that.. I switched to a midwife after that..
Susi Kuczka I’m so sorry you had that experience & were able to find a provider better suited to your family.
Susi Kuczka you don't have to tell, but what was going on with your baby?
Zhang Zhishan Honestly don’t know. The midwife told us that it’s a pretty common thing and that it usually goes away. Had a lot of ultrasounds (because baby was stubborn and could never get a full anatomy ultrasound done) and by 30 weeks it was gone. 🤷🏻♀️ Baby girl was born at 36+4 and doesn’t have Down syndrome or any heart problems.
Susi Kuczka I am sure you have done everything you could, I'm sorry that the doctor was unprofessional about it, and hope that you could have a healthy baby in the future.
My first baby was born in Jan 2019 and at 5 weeks old was diagnosed with SMA, a severe muscle wasting condition. He was going to die very soon. It was heartbreaking but I was so grateful to the doctor for just telling me straight. I was on my own with him when he was diagnosed and the doctor was so supportive
So sorry for your loss❤️
I occasionally work at my local hospital as a ‘simulated patient’ for the medical students so they can practice breaking bad news/dealing with difficult situations!
That's really cool! I didn't know you could do that, but it probably helps the med students a lot. Thank you for volunteering!
Kiwi It’s super important - also I’m an actress so it’s not volunteering it’s actually paid work which is really cool!
@@TotosTales Ah. I didn't think that was something you could volunteer for. Thanks for clearing it up.
Kiwi No worries!!
And I think it depends on the hospital and also if you’re in an actors union 🤷🏻♀️
But it’s a great time and really helpful for the students 😊
You seen like an incredibly kind, compassionate person. Your patients are lucky to have you.
4:13
“I think my water just broke...”
“Oh my god it did”
Is it just me or is the acting in the “I Didn’t Know I Was Pregnant” re-enactments better than this 😂
The acting is indeed very cringey.
I know it's literally so bad! She says it so emotionless 😂
@@salientspoon surprisingly not panicking and unsure if it did or not. 😂
UMICL I just had the exact same thought 😂 I’ve never seen this show, and now I never plan to!
Dude I didn't know if my water broke at first because my daughter moved in the way and plugged it up as soon as there was a gush and she didn't move for like 10 minutes to let the water out so I was confused 😂😂😂
I smiled when you used Buzz as a model for the baby’s position, then got into it again when you put him away and explained things, and I forgot about him. Then you put him in your lap and I laughed. Buzz Lightyear to the rescue!
I love how she got Parker's test results back in like three seconds.
Gianna Horning Happens all the time in tv shows, I work in a laboratory and always laugh
This + doctors accompanying patients to EVERYTHING (x-rays, ultrasounds, CTs, MRIs, etc) always makes me laugh out loud. So unrealistic haha
Navraj parker is the little boy
Navraj I don’t know much about this disease but I would assume the diagnosis would be made by histopathology, which takes at least a few days
She didn't; there was a huge cut in the middle of the scene where she ordered the test and the scene where the resident brought the results back. It's pretty obvious if you watch it again, where the cut happens.
When the baby finally cried and snuggled in their moms arms the smile on your face showed how much you truly love what you do. Your patients are blessed to have you looking after them and their families.
This was actually unexpectedly hard to watch! When my six year old was born, he had the cord tight around his neck and my obgyn had to cut the cord. He struggled to breathe because he had aspirated fluid and had to be admitted to the NICU. He recovered quickly and has since been a healthy little boy, but when she was screaming for them to tell her what was happening and they said he wasn't breathing I started crying. I wasn't screaming at them, but I do remember nobody was telling me what was going on while it was happening except that he wasn't breathing ok. I was 16 at the time, and I had a panic attack and they had to put me on oxygen. I think not knowing is the scariest thing a new mom can deal with, so I agree, if medical staff had calmly explained what was happening (or at least as much as they knew at the time) I may not have gone into panic mode!
I'm so sorry you went through that. It sounds super scary.
I am sorry you had that experience. My 2nd was born with the cord around her neck, and I probably would have panicked, but the Dr. Was so calm and matter of fact that he had already unwrapped the cord by the time it really sunk in.
Thank you, it definitely was scary! I remember quietly asking my husband (not married yet at the time but the father of both my children) over and over what's happening but he had no idea either. They told us he wasn't breathing okay and they wheeled him away to the NICU, and I think that's when it really set in for me. I didn't get to hold him until he was 12 hours old. Nothing was really explained well to me at the time, but I'm thankful that he recovered quickly. Still a scary thing for any new mom to go through though, especially at 16. And a lot of moms with babies in the NICU wait much longer than I did to finally hold their babies.
I mentioned before, my 1st daughter was a week overdue. She inhaled meconium. It was scary that she didnt cry when she came out. I was the same way, screaming "why isnt she crying?" Especially scary knowing how hard we tried for her. She was a Clomid baby. But they were pretty good about explaining g what happened. It only took about maybe a minute or 2 to get her her crying, I dont remember as it was 22 years ago. But it felt like forever. She wa as also sunny side up. Which explained all the excruciating back labor. She was in the NICU for 6 days. Now she is happy, healthy, she graduated as Valedictorian and she is a college student. She is just perfect in every way. To me anyway.
I love how no matter how many videos of MDJ I watch, she always looks so happy and relieved when babe is born (Even if it's from a show ) so sweet! ❤️
The bad news thing...
Last year I had a missed miscarriage. And the obgyn said 'ce n'est pas grave madam'... Meaning its not the end of the world. Out of everything that line haunts me. I just gave birth on the 5th and I was anxious that she would be the obgyn on duty. Luckily she wasn't.
I seen a different obgyn to confirm the miscarriage and he was too the point. Yet he was compassionate with it. The difference was outstanding.
I am so sorry. I had something similar happen to me. The doctor told me I was having a miscarriage and apologized. I said it was okay and she said it wasn't but she had to make sure to take care of me. She let me know I needed to have a D&C. The nurse came in the room and was so horrible. She told me I had to go somewhere else the the D&C because they didn't perform abortions at that hospital. She spat the word "abortion" at me and made me feel even worse, like I even had a choice.
@@lindseystraley9596 OMG that's absolutely awful. There is no need for that kind of response to something that is heart breaking enough in itself. 😔 I'm sorry for your loss.
miss tatty yup my 1st pregnancy ended in miscarriage and they were so dismissive, assuming it was an accidental pregnancy and my DH and I didn’t care. It was awful. I also found my great OB/gyn (who did the miscarriage confirmation in a much better way). He has been my doctor for my three other pregnancies/births. Congrats on your new baby!
@@sydcash1626 there is just no need. My own general practitioner said its your first it can happen, but here's 2 weeks off work atleast. I tried, like you, to go back to the informative and nice one but his practice was full. For my next I'll be definetly trying him again, a little kindness goes a long way. Thank you ❤️
I had a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks and the guy I saw was so unkind. His words: "You have miscarried, I will give you pills to get rid if *it* " Like my precious child was a snotty tissue instead of a devastating loss.
I loved this video and it definitely hit deep. My son was diagnosed with Sanfilippo Syndrome last summer and our doctor and her team were very direct but also amazing and compassionate. Thank you for all your videos ❤️
It clear your bedside manner and compassion for patients is impeccable! I would be lucky to have you as my doctor. Thank you for all that you do.
You should react to Private Practice. It’s pretty much all OB/GYN
Naomi G omg yes!!!
Naomi G agreed!
YESSSSS
Yes! I want her to do the episode where Violet’s patient takes her baby.
Madisyn Kundert it was 2x22 and i believe it continues into 3x01 :)
There’s a movie - What to expect when you’re expecting. They follow 5 pairs, one already has kids, one are infertile and are adopting and 3 pairs have 3 different pregnancy stories. Movie is great, I recommend it if anyone loves family movies and wants to have a laugh but I’m sure you can comment those 3 pairs and their stories.
The “sunny side up” killed me 😂 I’m here thinking please don’t say that when I’m in labor. I must say that it’s pretty comforting watching all your videos and getting all the info you provide. I got 4 weeks to go.
Good luck!
Me too!
I totally agree and I actually have had those exact words said to me and it did end in an emergency c Bc my daughters heart rate and mine went too low it was so scary best of luck to you
If they say your baby is sunny side up, tell 'em that he/she is not an egg😂
The best thing you can do is not stress about it mama! Positive thinking goes a long way, and stress does nothing but hurt you. You'll have a short and perfect labor! You got this, and so does baby!
Haha I've got 24 weeks to go
Please react to Friends Season 8 finale, "The One Where Rachel Has A Baby,"
"You know that feeling when you're trying to blow a Saint Bernard out your ass?"
Search doctor Mike he reacted to that
Lol this is so great
I know its a year later, she did a video about that and i just have to say, i have never watched friends, and that video she made about it is good as her videos usually but it was so SO painful to watch bc of the fake laughing/clapping on the series.. is it really like that the whole series? Thats horrifying how could anyone enjoy that terrible acting and 2nd hand emberrassment, that clip/clips she showed us just were more than enough of friends for me, if thats what nowadays kids/teens watch i no wonder why they are like they are if thats something to take "role models" from🤣 not hating anyone just telling my opinion
@@iinaaana it’s not actually fake laughing though. Friends was always filmed in front of a live studio so the laughs are real
Private Practice season 3 episode 1: “A Death in the Family”. It picks up from last season’s finale where one of the main characters (pregnant) is attacked by a psych patient and she cuts her baby out of her, leaving her (Violet) bleeding to death.
Yes that one would be good i hope she watches the episode before as well to see how it started.
👀👀👀👀 I don't want Private Practice but now I wanna go watch that
That episode was so intense
Based on a real story, it seems - or was it several cases? I remember one case (lethal) and vaguely something similar in a crime documentary.
That sounds horrifying
Thank you for this episode Dr Jones! As a doula, thank you for explaining and representing our profession well. 🙂
There are a few midwives in our area (both state licensed CPMs and CNMs) that do not have hospital privileges at our local hospitals, so a lot of the time they will offer parallel care for clients and then go to the hospital with them and offer doula support.
Thank you, again, for doing this video! I share your videos on my business page all the time. 💜
Another historical one: Victoria season 1 episode 8. It’s about Queen Victoria of England. She’s had 9 kids, so there’s quite a few with her giving birth. With this they focus more on the dangers of having a baby in the early 19th century.
It turned into childbirth torture porn and I stopped watching.
Hey there Mama Dr. Jones! I just wanted to say thank you so much for all that you are doing right now during this pandemic. You and your fellow frontline workers are true hero’s (you were before but now it’s even more evident) please stay safe and healthy right now. I hope you, your family, and all your fellow healthcare workers and there family are all staying safe and healthy right now. Thank you again for all you are doing! I love your channel even though I have no children or plan to have children. The comment you replied to last year was so freaking amazing. You were so kind and non judgmental and it meant so much to me. Thank you again for all you are doing. My late firefighter/paramedic mother, late EMT father, former EMT sister, and former EMT myself all thank you for all that you are doing for us right now. Thank you so so so so much!!!
You should watch more Call the Midwife! Literally my favorite show
Right its amazing
megan harper she has two videos reacting to the show!
i’m so glad you’re going to be covering PCOS. i was just diagnosed in august’19 after years of having symptoms.
Me too I have it
So when you turn a baby, was this accurate in seeing the head & face so clearly through the mother's stomach? That seemed a bit too theatrical.
And, I love that MDJ still reacts to a baby being born (even one on a tv show) with tenderness and joy. That''s why you're one of the best o/g's.
Right? I was surprised no one has commented this before
Yeah, it looked like something out of a horror movie. Like a chestburster from Alien or something. So gross...
I'm also curious about this. I'm surprised she didn't say anything about it. Leaving a comment in case someone follows up.
I've seen them be done on actual birth shows. You wouldn't normally see so much.
Tell us Doctor Jones!
oh my goddddd your channel and Chicago med are the two reasons I want to be a doctor, an obstetrician specifically HOW DID I NOT REALIZE THERE WAS A CROSSOVER TILL NOW aaaa
"this birth coach dula person" 🤣😂 that's how I feel when I watch these shows and have no idea what the exact role of the person is
Yeah lol i was kind if cringing at that. Im like shes a nurse in the hospital too not just a random "birth person " haha.
I was watching the “full story of finding out I was pregnant” on Colleen Vlogs and she brought up an interesting topic about how she got pregnant while she was on her period and I think that would be a good video to review and talk about...
I also got pregnant on mine as well i believe
I love watching colleen ballinger too
Isn't that because sperm can live in you for like 14 days or something?
Stuff like this makes me freaked out about getting pregnant 😬
Abby Bush dont be! Pregancy wasn’t great for me- but I wouldn’t trade it for the world
A sunny side up baby is not that big of a deal. My oldest sibling was both my mom’s largest baby and born sunny side up. She went on to have five more. Also, remember this is tv, it’s supposed to be dramatic.
@@sparkybish True but at the same time, it can happen even if it's rare. Don't tell people not to have at least some worries.
glaciemdraco I figure I will let their OB/gyn handle their pregnancy. Sorry for saying being sunny side up isn’t the biggest of deals. My bad.
@@sparkybish Well yes, the doctor should answer any and all fears, questions etc. if they can. I didn't mean that in particular, just that portraying pregnancy as something where nothing could ever go wrong for any reason doesn't seem like it helps, to me at least. Because then mothers would believe they did something wrong, for example, when that may not be the case.
it’s literally years later, but in case anyone was curious, Maggie, the “birth coach” is a trained nurse with midwife experience, but she’s not on duty, she’s there because Natalie, the mother, is her best friend. So in this case she is both a support person and a trained professional.
Your reactions to medical shows is my fav thing on TH-cam right now
The most realistic thing to me was the mom saying, "I'm so tired." That was me giving birth to my son. I was so tired, it hurt so much(epidural didn't work), and I just felt like I physically couldn't do it anymore. He also came out with the umbilical cord around his neck and was blue and unresponsive at first. They didn't tell me anything either, just like in the show. I wasn't screaming but I was wondering why I didn't hear him crying like they usually show in movies(lol) while the rest of the team was working on me. They did try to shield him from me I think so I couldn't see the cord around his neck or the fact that he was blue, especially when they took him to the little bed thing they put newborns in. I saw his little cone-shaped head and that he was a little weird-colored. I kept asking "is he ok?" Though, to be honest, I don't know if I'd remember them answering me even if they had. I was relieved he was out but then everything felt like it was in slow motion. No baby cry, I couldn't really hear anything, and then...I heard him. Once they did what they needed to do with him they brought him over to me, put him on my chest, and I sang "you are my sunshine" to him. I know newborns can't see squat after they're born but after I started singing, he looked up at me(or in my general direction lol). I had sang that to him almost everyday before I went to sleep when I was pregnant and it felt amazing to think that he might have recognized it.
I didn't understand til later why everyone kept saying "you're your baby's hero!" They didn't tell me why they kept insisting that I continue pushing without much of a break in between. They knew the umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck and they wanted to try to get him out fast. So they were being VERY supportive when telling me to keep going(even got these red dot things all over my face and skin from pushing). I didn't know that if I hadn't pushed hard enough to get him out, they would have had to do a c-section. No idea til the day after(he was born at 11:30pm, started getting contractions at 5am). He is about to be 13 now.
So nice to see a show where the delivery complication is something other than pre-eclampsia/eclampsia!! It seems like that is always the one they fall back on. Thanks for the bonus video MDJ!!! ❤️
My 4th was sunny side up. The awesome nurse noticed when i was saying all the labor was in my back and was omg!! She rotated me to my hands and knees and little miss turned over and we had a smooth delivery 😊
No matter the topic, MDJ always makes me excited for a new video
aw thank you :)
Omg, I laughed so hard at your immediate reaction of them turning the baby 😂😂😂
I love that you decided to watch Chicago Med, it's one of my favourite shows. Even if you didn't do another reaction, I personally think it's a show (+franchise) worth watching.
Some other episodes I would recommend are these:
2x14 - multi-vehicle pile-up + emergency c-section;
2x16 - assaulted comatose patient;
3x2 - malnourished and underdeveloped baby (not born);
3x12 - homeless patient refusess to deliver at the hospital
I am 57 and have no children and zero idea why I am fascinated by this channel. I LOVE Mama Doctor Jones and her fabulous way of teaching.
As an L&D RN it sucks how other units think “L&D is a cake walk” or “all they do is hold babies”. Like can you as an RN handle a shoulder dystocia, cord prolapse, prolong decelerations, etc. Whenever people say “it must be so happy” I flashback to the patients that’ve had demises 😔 Sorry to get in my feelings. Anyways love you Dr. Jones and wish you were a provider at my hospital 🤣🙌🏼💕
I never could understand how people thought L&D was sunshine and rainbows. A lot of the girls in my class back in high school wanted to go into the field because, in their minds, it was just taking care of babies and keeping them and mommy happy (mind you, I’m from a very small town. All the girls aspired to be nurses, while all the boys wanted to get scholarships to be sports stars. Just a general niche haha). They shrugged me off when I would tell them that it was more serious than that - but then again, both of my little cousins almost didn’t live because of birthing complications, and my mom was very transparent about explaining it, so I suppose I already had a fair understanding of it.
Go figure, they all were still planning on doing so after high school, but seven years later I think out of all of them only two continued their medical degrees that I’m aware of 😅 one’s a rad tech and the other is a geriatric nurse. It’s just all kind of amusing, thinking back on it
it's interesting. I'm a hospital midwife and I can't remember anybody from the medical field ever saying "oh that's a cake walk". People who don't work in healthcare and have never had a baby? Sure. "Oh I wanted to become a midwife aswell, babies are sooo cute!". I see the babies for about 2-3hrs. I work with the women for hours during their labour.
You know the great work you're doing. You know how stressful it is and how you have to always be alert and ready to act while doing nothing. And you know how usually the couples are very appreciative of your work.
I'd say working L&D can be compared to working in an ER, just in a specialised field.
Don't forget that all of this is being done while a mom is in the most pain she has ever experienced in her life and isn't thinking straight from exhaustion and pain and you're having to try and explain things, answer questions, help the fear so she can relax and let her body do its job, and get her to a place where she can give informed consent on things! These shows make it look like the Dr's just yell, say what they are going to do and women have zero say. IMO all these episodes do is freak parents out about having a horrible experience. I am not a nurse or even in the health care field but I have delivered babies both high risk and not and I have miscarried. The nurses work their butts off and are often being yelled at the whole time by someone who is in pain! Y'all rock!!!
Just based on my experience in the maternity ward during my clinical rotations, I have a tremendous amount of respect for L&D and postpartum nurses. Every case is slightly different, and there is so much that can go wrong. I remember a mom who started having seizures...it's some intense stuff.
When I had my son it was my nurse's first day on L&D, she transferred from the psych ward because L&D was "a little more relaxing" 😂 WHAT!?!? But my mom and sister were nursesat a psychiatric facility and I have heard the horror stories. Anyways, the nurse I had was the most patient and caring individual I've ever encountered in a medical facility. She went above and beyond to make sure my delivery was as bearable as possible. Plus I had an emergency induction upon going to the hospital, I was so scared and paranoid about if the baby was ok but she was so calming and graceful. And after delivery when it came time for my "massage" (the uterus kneading of death!), she was so empathetic and apologized for hurting me but also let me know she'd be there to save my life! She was witty, compassionate, intelligent and effective.
It was an experience and I hope she realizes how special she is. L&D nurses are appreciated and loved 💚
lol, the "midwife" is just a nurse that is a close friend of the mom.
mamadoctorjones, i would LOVE to see a video on different careers in ob/gyn/midwifing/doula; ie schooling requirements, qualifications, different duties in a hospital/private practice, etc. as someone who's thinking of going into the field it would be super helpful! xo
It’s a good reminder when you’re at any doctor, but especially an obgyn to be patient when it’s taking longer then you’d like. Once, I went in for my appt to my gynecologist for a hysterectomy and while I was in no hurry and enjoying the break from my kids, the nurse came in to apologize for how long it was taking, explaining the doctor was still with a patient who was miscarrying. I reassured her that it was just fine, there was no hurry. Please keep this in your mind when you’re seeing a doctor - good doctors are the ones that you sometimes need to wait a while before they come in, because they aren’t rushing their patients.
So excited your doing a PCOS video! I can't wait especially as someone who has it I can't wait to hear another OBGYNs opinion and everything with it!
I was in labor for 36 hours. I was fully dilated. I pushed for an hour and my baby wasn't moving so I had a c-section. He was sunny side up and was just fine. He will be 4 next month. He's growing so fast!
PLEASE do Private Practice!!! I can’t even think of a specific episode because the main character is an ObGyn so there’s that in every episode but there are definitely some wacky ones
5x22
Natahlia Gazia I have been mentioning the one where Violet’s patient steals her baby for awhile now
Heather Lindsey same I would really like to see a react to that one
When he started crying I got goosebumps and started tearing up, I’m not a mum but it gets you in the feels ❤️
Could you do a reaction video to June giving birth by herself in Handmaid's tale Season 2 Episode 11?
That was awful and scary to watch having had a postpartum hemorrhage myself 😩
@@joannasaadati8810 It was hard to watch for me too. I thought it was a look into what birth's would be like outside of hospitals and midwives.
It was such a very emotional scene. This is a great idea.
I read that as "giving birth *to herself* " and was like... excuse me, what??
I’ve never been pregnant but if I was giving birth and my team was acting like that, there would be hell to pay. I got stressed out just watching it, I couldn’t imagine actually experiencing it
A reaction to the Friends episode in which Rachel gives birth could be interesting. This birth takes around a day and we would like to see your take on why this could happen. I dont recall what episode this was.
Season 8, Episodes 23 and 24
The birth part is Episode 23
Most 1st babies can take upwards of 36 hrs
I found Rachel's birth to look very mild. I gave birth without any pain medication and believe me, those last contractions make you lose all control over your behavior, but they made Rachel visibly in pain but still very mildly compared to the real deal. Also, the fact that she was made to stay in a shared room until the very end of her labouring was very weird. I had to share a room for some part of my birth experience, but only up until active labour, so at 4 cm I got my own room. However, Rachel's birth story was still more realistic than Phoebe's with the triplets, haha.
Rapunzelrapunzel I’m a midwife and in some hospitals here in England the woman would be kept on the antenatal ward (shared) until around 8cm. Then she’ll be moved to delivery suite. I really didn’t like it like this. It was so unfair to the woman in labour and all the others trying to rest
Oh, Doctor Reese, how I miss her. Such a fantastic actress. Loved her character.
I remember my dad watching this episode of Chicago Med, he really likes this show but I never could get into it.
I really like it when doctors break down these episodes
This is the first one I've seen, but I actually thought it was pretty good!
When Mama Dr Jones said that it was okay to breakdown or feel emotional and its normal. She is a great mentor!
7:50 As someone who was given bad news about my baby’s outcome. (Spina Bifida diagnosis at 18 weeks) I agree with what you said, “I am here for you. Would you like me to stay?” But would like to add that it is also a gut punch when others say “I don’t know how you feel.” Or the like. My son is 7 and wheelchair bound and it is something that runs through my mind daily if not thousands of times a day early on. That others don’t know what we are going through because they have not been in our situation before.
On another note, the specialist that gave the diagnosis was straight with us yet upbeat. “I’m sorry to tell you your son ha Spina Bifida and there’s a 75% chance he won’t walk. He may be in a wheelchair but the kids I know with SB are some of the happiest I know! Please send pictures and bring him back here to visit!” Getting choked up remembering how well he broke bad news! 😢☺️
My son was diagnosed with myleomeningocele at L4, 24 weeks only a month ago, and I was blessed to have my ultrasound reviewed that day by a maternal fetal medicine obgyn who had done her residency in a hospital where open fetal surgery is preformed for Spina Bifida, and she was so compassionate and had a good outlook while giving me the news, and helped me coordinate with the hospital where my son had his lesion closed at 25 weeks, a little over a week later. I'm 28 weeks today and we're still baking this baby, and he is doing so well, but I feel like crap and I'm trying to stay encouraged that I've done the best I can for him. Goal is to keep from going into labor until 37 weeks, and have a cesarian. I've read a lot of moms are pressured to terminate based on worst case scenarios but I was lucky not to have that experience. The MFM ob who diagnosed him has helped with fetal surgery in her residency and will be delivering my son here at my local hospital, and with his lesion level and the fetal surgery, I'm told he probably won't need a wheelchair but may need a VP shunt and possibly leg braces, and might have some loss of sensation on the backs of his legs. I know we got very lucky to be seen by the wonderful ob we were seen by, and right now my strong little boy is doing amazing, strong movement, and he's passing urine from what they can see through weekly ultrasounds. I'm glad you were seen by optimistic physicians too, because a good and compassionate doctor can really help with the confidence in such a confusing and worrisome diagnosis. 💞
Im a Doula from South Africa and this episode of Chicago med was soo funny... Loved your beautiful explanation of what is a Doula. I love love love your channel. Thx for all the accuracy and comments... Keep on going!!
14:54 the way the baby smiled when she kissed him!
These always make me cry. I feel like I'm so far behind. I'm 30, not married, no kids. I want like..7 kids.
LAY-DEE! Can totally relate. My moms youngest of 13 kids (i'm 1 of 5). I always wanted a minimum of 6. Of course life didn't go as planned. I'm now 35 still ttc as a single mom by choice, struggling with infertility. At this point i'll feel beyond blessed to have 1. 💕
I absolutely love all my niece and nephews, not going to lie though, It's so tough watching others around you get pregnant with multiple children and you're still praying to have 1 live baby. 😢 If I could go back i'd have started trying about 25y/o instead of waiting until 30.
LAY-DEE! Can you be best friends with me?! I am the exact same way. I told everyone I’m going to wait til 35 to have my babies and I will have 6 kids.
I'm 16 and nearly 14 weeks pregnant now, I'm scared out of my mind and have no idea on information or what to do, been watching so many of these videos to see what labour will be like.
Davan Thompson I’m 23 and due in 7 days and scared too. You can do it good luck! For me I was terrified at first but now that I’m so far along I’ve accepted it
i’m 16 and i’m 17 weeks now!! good luck
Honey the best thing you can do for you and your baby is breathe. When you feel tense take a few deep breaths. When you feel scared take a few deep breaths. Giving birth is just the first scary thing. Being a parent will bring you two lifetimes worth of scary moments, but you are strong enough to get through them if you just remember to breathe. Start building your support network now. Know that when the time comes your medical team will be there to do the very best they can to help you and your baby get through it with the least trauma. Just don't go reading horror birth stories as they will just make you unnecessarily scared.
There's a TH-camr named Lexie Thiery who is a new, first-time mother. Her channel shares many episodes covering her journey from peeing on a stick to him now being 4 months old. She doesn't avoid tough question or embarrassing topics, and she talks in plain English. Best of all she is upbeat and inspirational! You can check out some of her vlogs at th-cam.com/channels/Ii52PO4nez88ufm8Z1ryYw.html
Look up breathing technics on TH-cam as well as your Lamaze classes. I did Lamaze my first child at 17 and TH-cam with my second at 26. I felt that TH-cam was better but that's just me and no replacement for a proper education in what to expect. Hang in there sweetie 😊
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I had an amazing doctor delivering my daughter, my girl wasn’t crying when she came out, she was laid on my chest and was just starting at me and following my movements but wasn’t crying so doc got worried and told “momma you did great but baby isn’t crying and we need to make her cry so we have to take her from your for a couple of minutes” she was so sweet and understanding and finally my baby cries and was laid back on me❤️
Shout out to great doctors like you and my doctor 👏🏻👏🏻
Suggestions for videos to react to: 1. The episode of Scrubs where Carla gives birth to her daughter ("My Best Friend's Baby and My Baby's Baby.) 2. The pregnancy episode of Adam Ruins Everything ("Adam Ruins Having a Baby.") I've heard there are some inaccuracies in it. 3. Any of the episodes of How I Met Your Mother that cover Lily being pregnant/having her son.
Definitely #2!
Jeez that scene where she's rotating the baby is so gross looking, its like how a xenomorph bulges the skin right before it tears its way out your ribcage...then again as a child free tokophobic woman it makes sense I'd make that comparison.
Is that the Easter egg or is it when the orange plushie is changed to a pink sloth?
Heey tokophobia gang lol
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That is a perfect reference I think. I have 2 and I always thought that
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This is the first time I watched Mama Doctor Jones
My son was sunny side up and the nurse only figured it out when I was pushing. I pushed for around 2 hours and he came out without any forceps, or c-section, just an episiotomy.
I could tell that she was really scared mid-way as I was completely exhausted.
I don't know what happened, but I managed to get him out and I'm really proud of that as a FTM. The nurses were really impressed as well. They told me this type of birth hurts more than normal, so I'm ready for a "normal" delivery now lol
The whole time she was asking if her baby was okay and what was happening, I was sitting there practically yelling "why isn't anyone answering her??"
I would still love to see you react to Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman. There's three episodes in particular that come to mind, Dead or Alive Part 1, When a Child is Born Part 2, and finally In The Comfort of Friends. The second one I mentioned is the top of my recommendation list of the three, as it has the most involvement with an OB/GYN thing relating to Dr. Quinn herself. It should be noted that the show is set in the late 1860s through the early 1870s with season 4 which the first two episodes I mentioned, being set I believe in 1870, and the third episode I mentioned, which was in season 6, being set in 1871 or 1872, somewhere around there. I might have my dates slightly off, but you get the idea. It might be a nice change of pace to go to another historically set medical drama, and since you're a mother and a doctor yourself, I particularly thought of this show in regards to you.
I just want to appreciate the sort of content self dis “I’m going to be ruining it (the show) with educational commentary” 😂😂😂
In my opinion the shows suck and she makes them so much better.
One of my sister’s friends had a miscarriage (actually I don’t know if that’s the right term) in her 8th month. It was a couple of years ago and she just welcomed a healthy baby, which is wonderful.
I can’t imagine trying to carry a pregnancy again after experiencing such an outcome.
the face of the orange triceraptops thing scared me idk why
but its surprising that insomia is so common
not SUPER surprising, but i wonder what the actual rate of it is in different times / demographics / why it even really happens
I didn't notice to orange dinosaur till I read this comment lol
It’s because the mother is so uncomfortable by that point. Is it really that surprising? I feel like every woman I’ve talked to who has at least one kid talks about not being able to sleep during the end of pregnancy.
I shall assume you have never Been Pregnant
I just wanted to thank you for what you said about empathy when breaking bad news! We have become so used to giving bad advice to grieving people. I had a pastor who also worked full time in hospice and was a widower. He talked about it. He said straight out once that after he lost his wife he had to apologize to people he'd told "it'll get better" as we have become used to. Truth is until you've been through that you don't know!
Also this particular person (birth coach in the show) is Maggie. She’s a nurse. They work together and they’re besties. Just some premise for this.
Yeah but I love how they conveniently make her the “midwife” though after this episode, you never see her act as a midwife again. Midwives are specially educated in midwifery they are just “nurse friends” who can birth their friends babies.
I used to work for an Oncology office. I had one patient I would always deliver medications to and his wife would always sign for them. Well he came in to the office and I met him and very kind man and even apologized when I went to deliver, but no one answered because it was his bday celebration. A few weeks later our pharmacist told me he passed away. I was holding my tears back because he had been so kind and understanding. I couldn't bare it anymore so when I got to the phone room for our calls I lost it a bit. My coworker asked what happen and I let them know he passed away. They got tears in their eyes because they knew him too and loved him as well. Us as Healthcare workers will always have a spot for patients that connect with us and when we hear news like this it can affect the whole team.
Who was at the IG live and can spot the all-grown-up baby carrot? 😂 If y'all missed the IG live make sure notifications are on so you don't miss next time! instagram.com/mamadoctorjones)
The carrot is in the plantpot😂
@Mariné du Plessis yep lol
That is a giant carrot!
In the potted plant!
My son wasn't breathing when he was first born, but was very alert and looking around the room. He was completely tangled in his cord with it wrapped around his neck, chest, belly, and legs. The OB/Gyn was awesome and explained everything that was going on. She left the cord intact while trying to stimulate him to get him to breathe (after untangling him). When that wasn't working and blood flow to the cord stopped, she cut the cord and handed him to the nurse who gave him some oxygen. He started breathing right away with some positive airflow. I have anxiety so it was really reassuring the way she talked me through everything.
Her: UPLOADS ABOUT CHICAGO MED
Me: YESSSSSS!!!!FINALLY!!!!
Love you Mama Dr. Jones❤❤
On the note of breaking bad news... I will never forget when I went in for my second ultrasound (anatomy scan) I was so happy my baby was healthy and learned that baby was a little girl.
However, I could hear a lady in a room nearby just sobbing, my heart just ached for her. You could just tell that she had gotten some bad news, they were definitely not tears of joy :(
You should react to 'The Resident' S2E20 "If Not Now, When?". It's based on a true story about maternal death in the U.S and is very sad
That Girl Sam I was thinking of that episode too-very sad
I came to suggest the same thing. That episode is hard to watch but so important.
That Girl Sam She doesn't seem to like watching really sad episodes
@@nowandaround312 I know, but the material in the episode is really important and relevant and needs to be discussed
@@thatgirlsam5258 That doesn't have to be done by her though. She gets depressed at the end of sad episodes and commented once that she didn't understand why people wanted her to watch it, clearly that's not the type of content she wants to create.
Man, 48hrs and another video that hits so close to home. When my son passed from SIDS, I had a nurse tell me "I understand"....i can't tell you why or how I knew she didn't, but I knew, and my instinct was to respond with "no.....you don't". In her defense, she immediately corrected her statement. Thank you for acknowledging that you should never lie, but just be there.
The worst thing in pregnancy was all the people saying "sleep now while you still can" I couldn't sleep anyways.
I agree with you that if you haven’t had that experience, then don’t pretend you know how they feel. Asking what they need and just being there is SO helpful. When I was told that one of my 24 weeker twins was dying, I asked the nurse if she’s hold my hand - which she did so quickly and lovingly. I will never forget that act of kindness and compassion.
Can you please react to Chicago Med season 5 episode 19: “Just a River in Egypt”? There’s a really interesting case with a pregnant woman that has a lot of factors that makes the situation complicated. Also a few hard decisions had to be made throughout the case. Would love to hear your commentary on it.
And well one of the doctors on that case was a former drug addict.